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Season 1, Episode 35, Release Date: 6-23-2024 Leslie Petruk and Parenting Through the Eyes of a Child Leslie is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and Director at the Stone Center for Counseling & Leadership, as well as a Clinical Supervisor. Find out more about the Stone Center here: www. thestonecenternc.com Leslie has expertise working with children, individuals, couples and families. She is an author, IFS trainer, presenter and therapist. She has written two chapters of Jenna Riemersma's book, "Altogether Us." This is a special epsidoe, because Leslie was also my first IFS teacher, in my Level one training. I couldn't have asked for a better teacher :) We nerded out a little about poetry, and here are some of our favorite poets-- Rumi, Nikita Gill, N. Scott Momaday, Jeff Foster, David Whyte, John O'Donohue, and Matt Licata. Here is some of the transcript that I wanted to highlight: David. Leslie, how can we use sandtrays in our practice? Leslie. This is a way to help dive into unconscious realm with clients. I like to give clients choice, and allow them to pick objects. They create something, without relying on their "thinking brain." In a way, it is like their parts are being laid out in front of them. David. Some people might have diffculty when given too much choice and freedom. This might even feel threatening. How do you handle this situation? Leslie. I hold the space. I focus on creating a welcoming and trusting space, and I also hold onto the truth that clients know inside what to do. I might reflect what they are doing, and what is happening, as I create this safe container for them. Although it could be more challenging for children with trauma to get started with sandtrays, once they are able to be part of this process, they tend to get lost in the sandtrays. David. When you write about parenting skills, how do you differentiate between helping someone have good parenting skills, with overall good relationship and communication skills? Leslie. That is a good question, because healthy attachment applies to any relationship. I remember one time after I did an incredible piece of work with my IFS therapist. I found that I was so present to my children afterwards, and it was a very dramatic shift that had never happened in quite the same way before. I wanted to share this with every parent! David. We have so much power over our children's lives. In some ways, they are all they really know. Leslie. As my child left for college, I worried if I had given her enough to be successful. Launching children is so hard, in many different ways. But, it is also a beautiful process. Leslie. My hope with working with parents is to help them have clarity of their parts, and to understand their agendas. David. It seems important to put our children's needs first. Leslie. I think it is all about balance. If we are not there for ourselves, we can't be our best selves for our parents. We need to care for our needs-- so we can give our children guidance and a safe place. David. I feel like as parents we want to helop our children be self-led. Leslie. Yes, and at the same tie, children are naturally filled with joy and curiosity. David. Basically, life is a sandbox for children. Leslie. The biggest message I would want to give to others is to have self-compassion. There is always something you can feel guilty about as a parent. Guilt can be a motivator to make a repair. But, it is not helpful to use this guilt as a bat to beat ourselves up with. Being able to repair with ourselves as well as our children is so important. Leslie shared that when we are activated, it is a reminder for us to get curious!
Matt Licata, PhD, is an author and psychotherapist based in Boulder, Colorado who works with individuals, couples, and groups worldwide. His work focuses on the integration of Western developmental therapy with contemplative, mindfulness-oriented approaches to personal growth, emotional healing, and spiritual transformation. He is editor of A Healing Space blog, where he writes about the nature of a somatically-grounded path of intimacy, vulnerability, and healing in the modern world. Matt is author of The Path is Everywhere: Uncovering the Jewels Hidden Within You (Wandering Yogi Press, 2017) and the newly released A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times (Sounds True, 2020). This conversation centres around his new book A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times and explores the multi-faceted nature of our personal healing journey and all the ways it challenges us to find deeper and deeper realms of self-compassion, self-nature, and self love.
Matt Licata is a practicing psychotherapist, a co-facilitator of a monthly online membership community called Befriending Yourself, and the author of The Path Is Everywhere. With Sounds True, he has written a new book titled, A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon speaks with Matt about what it is to be a healing space, that is to hold space for ourselves and others, as well as how we can feel held by something greater than ourselves during challenging experiences. They also explore our inner wounds and self-abandonment, spiritual bypassing and the ways in which many practices allow us to gloss over the real healing needed, and how coming into an embodied state can open us to greater inner depths. Finally, Tami and Matt discuss becoming an alchemist of your own life, discovering the inner gold that each of us has within, and befriending all of ourselves.
“How much can I feel?” When we experience trauma, whether shock trauma (too much too fast) or developmental trauma (too little too long), it is common to disassociate. The healing process begins with reconnecting to the body and courageously experiencing all that we reject and hold inside. Tina Nance, a yin yoga and yoga therapy teacher in Bali, is a true master of the art of cultivating interoception (the internal felt sense of the body) and meeting her edge with mindfulness and compassion. Two years ago I trained as a yin yoga teacher with Tina at Yoga Barn in Ubud and it is an honor to share her wisdom with you today. Our wide-ranging conversation on healing trauma weaves through Tina’s journey and my own. We talk through attachment theory, PTSD, yin yoga, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, and above all radical compassion. Along the way we explore yin and yang, a mystical perspective on menstruation, and a menagerie of wisdom teachers. Finally we rest with how personal healing leads to service and how we can work with trauma during a time of global isolation. A student of Yin Yoga founder Sara Powers, Tina Nance has been teaching yoga and women's work globally since 2001. Tina’s current focus is embodied somatic trauma integration. She teaches in Ubud, Bali. They say you have to feel it to heal it, but with the right embodiment practices, the healing journey can be a sacred and joyful dance. LINKS Tina Nance: http://www.tinanance.com/ Yoga Barn: https://www.theyogabarn.com/ Yoga Barn classes online: https://www.facebook.com/pg/theyogabarn/videos/ Trauma and attachment theory: Somatic Experiencing (Peter Levine): https://traumahealing.org/ IFS : Internal Family Systems (Richard Schwartz): https://ifs-institute.com/ Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience (DARe) (Diane Poole Heller): https://dianepooleheller.com/ NARM - Neuo-Affective Relational Model (Laurence Heller): https://drlaurenceheller.com/ Kathy Kain: http://www.somaticpractice.net/ Stephen J Terrell: https://www.austinattach.com/ Aline Lapierre: http://cellularbalance.com/ Attached: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Wired for Love: https://www.amazon.com/Wired-Love-Understanding-Attachment-Relationship/dp/1608820580 What if the Virus is the Medicine?: https://www.kosmosjournal.org/kj_article/true-health-what-if-the-virus-is-the-medicine/ Menstrual Awareness: Alisa Vitti: https://www.floliving.com/ Alexander Pope: https://redschool.net/ Wisdom Teacher: Befriending Yourself (Jeff Foster & Matt Licata): https://www.befriendingyourself.com/ Radical Acceptance (Tara Brach): https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Acceptance-Embracing-Heart-Buddha/dp/0553380990 Non Linear Movement (Michaela Boehm): https://www.michaelaboehm.com/ TIMESTAMPS 9 From Shiatsu message to meeting the founders of yin yoga in Taiwan, Tina explores the mind body connection 17 Yin and Yang and how the pandemic creates a yin experience 24 The menstrual cycle dipping into the underworld 35 Attachment theory and Eamon’s attachment wound 40 Tina’s personal experience with trauma and the difference between PTSD and CPTSD 47 Using the Internal Family Systems model for healing 54 How to help our internal drill sergeant evolve through radical compassion 1:05 Big Ts, Little Ts and the twin wings of equanimity and compassion 1:10 Yin Yoga and somatic experiencing 1:17 Depression, anxiety and other aspects of mental health 1:21 When does the personal healing journey become self indulgent? 1:31 What practices can we use for dealing with trauma in the era of shelter-in-place?
Merry Christmas 2018! I love what happened this week. I was supposed to have an Episode ready to upload, but through reasons known to me, that Episode got thrown in the trash... And I trusted that all would be well...oh Magick...So grateful for you... Here are the Magick Makers who inspired this podcast. Matt Licata @mattlicataphd The Pixar Story on Netflix Donall Dempsey The Language of Water
Mary describes the hope she is allowing herself to feel now as she moves stuff out of the #1 position in her life. The book I reference at the end of our conversation is The Path is Everywhere, by Matt Licata.
On October 22, Apple held another big product-unveiling event, with new iPads as the main attraction, but also a lot of news about OS X, iWork, and other aspects of Apple’s arsenal. It raised myriad questions for me, not just about the cool new toys, but also what Apple’s choices mean for its long-term strategy and continuing place in the technology universe. I got so excited, I knew I had to hold yet another panel discussion episode to talk about it all. This also meant recruiting previous Obcast guests Chris Sawyer and Matt Licata to join me, and since I was on the West Coast, well past their bedtimes.I happened to be at an out-of-town conference for work at the time, so I had to record my end of the conversation from a hotel room with dubious WiFi (as well as recording the opening from the Newark airport), and you’ll notice the difference in sound quality from my other recordings. But it was a really fun discussion, and even if you’re not an Apple nut job like me, I think you’ll get a lot out of it. Duration: 96 minutesSubscribe to the Obcast in iTunes or through this link. Links from the show:Video of the Apple eventBloomberg Businessweek interview with Jony Ive and Craig FederighiJohn Gruber on the eventMike Elgan on Apple attacking MicrosoftMarco Arment's critique of the eventJohn Siracusa's OS X Mavericks reviewSteve Jobs: "Thoughts on Flash" Chris on Twitter Matt on Twitter and Future World
My little 8-year-old world was changed forever when I saw the behemoth mechanical beings that I loved so dearly, loudly and violently portrayed on the big screen in all their glory. Transformers: The Movie was released in the summer of 1986, and despite its many, many, many flaws, it has remained one of my favorites, a cultural milestone wedged deep into my psyche like a metal splinter short-circuiting an altruistic automaton's abdomen. For this special edition of the Obcast, I bring Matt Licata and Ryan Koronowski back to form a Devastator-Like gestalt podcast panel to dig deep into our enthusiasm for and questions about this remarkable movie. What are the film's theological allegories? What can we determine about the governmental and judicial systems of Cybertronian and other mechanical civilizations? Does Unicron pee? We tackle all of it with varying degrees of success in the course of these two hours.Duration: 121 minutesSubscribe to the Obcast in iTunes or through this link. Links from the show:Paul's post on the video for "The Touch" by Stan BushTransformers "Masterpiece" figures for Optimus Prime and Soundwave at AmazonMovie soundtrackRyan on Twitter and at Climate ProgressMatt on Twitter and Future WorldAnd as promised in the show, here is a picture of a very young Ryan Koronowski dressed as Sky Lynx.
For our zeroth episode, our beta-test edition, I'm joined by Matt Licata. We talk about glasses, web design, how stuff should work, and we preview an upcoming epic discussion of Transformers: The Movie.Duration: 97 minutesSubscribe to the Obcast in iTunes or through this link.Links from the show: Matt's website, Future World Matt's less important website, Nice Pictures of Nice Food Matt on Twitter: @miraimattMatt's work at CFI: CFI Summit, Women in Secularism, Leadership ConferencePaul on ditching the Nexus 7. The Great DiscontentEgg FrecklesThe Brooks ReviewMatt GemmellAeon Magazine The glasses that Matt bought