All The Things ADHD

We're back for Season Five! How did our Summer of Self-Acceptance go? Both really well and HORRIBLY. We have regrets. But at least we can laugh about it. And remember, it's not catastrophizing if it's actually a catastrophe! Transcript where we swear less than usual. Shockingly.

Or taking a vacation from being so hard on yourself. It's Friday the 13th (which we didn't plan) and we're releasing our 71st episode, which is an odd number to note, and also it's our Season 4 finale! HOORAY! In this episode, Aimée declares that this should be a Summer of Self-Acceptance, so we talk… Read more S4 E27: The Summer Of Self-Acceptance

So, I'm going to put a big, ol' content warning on the top of this one. We talk about how the medical system and the individuals acting in it are ableist and ageist and sexist AF (among other things) and we share how we suffer the consequences. Aimée bravely shares her recent experience, and we… Read more S4 E26: YOU NEED TO DO A LOT F'ING BETTER, MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS

Elon Musk bought Twitter. This is where Aimée and I have all of our friends. We talk about why Twitter is such a great place for us to make and sustain friendships, and why we are perceived as being terrible friends when we're not on Twitter. Come to commiserate, share with your friends and loved… Read more S4 E25: Friendship is Magic when you have Assistive Devices like Twitter

In this episode, Aimée and I discuss what it's like to be bored when you're neurodivergent. And, spoiler alert, it happens A LOT and when it does, we have a physical reaction that can end up making us look like assholes. Not just look like, but actually we are being a bit of an asshole.… Read more S4 E24: Boredom, or We Can Be Such A-Holes Sometimes

In the throws of insomnia, Aimée posses the question: what is the worst advice you've every heard which would make perfect sense if you were neurotypical, but as someone who is neurodivergent, the advice is complete nonsense? Kinda like that sentence, AMIRIGHT? We share ALL THE THINGS that didn't work for us, reactions to sharing… Read more S4 E23: Crazy Advice for Neurotypical People

Hi, so, in this episode, Aimée drops a massive truth-bomb on me (and thus you, also) about self-care. Warning: you will feel really uncomfortable and possibly cry a little, but you NEED TO HEAR THIS. We're talking about self-care. It's not all uncomfortable truths and necessary realizations and reframings. We still end up laughing, a… Read more S4 E24: I AM WORTH IT DAMN IT AND SO ARE YOU

Today we're talking about the loaded and landmine-filled topic, receiving feedback as people who are neurodiverse. One of our listeners suggested the topic, and we both know how difficult it is to get critiqued when all you hear is harsh criticism. We talk about our worst moments of receiving feedback, all the ways we try… Read more S4 E21: The Sh*t Sandwich

Hi. Today Aimée and I talk about perfectionism. As you can probably tell by the quality of this website and podcast recording/editing quality, I am team Good Enough, while Aimée is on Team Perfectionism. Which are both problematic in their own ways, and we talk about it. A lot. I hope whichever team you fall… Read more S4 E20: Y U ALWAYS TRY 2 B PERFECT?

We sprang forward with the time (although this was recorded two weeks before that happened), it's about to be the equinox, days are getting longer, and Aimée and I are getting MANIC AF. We talk about managing our energy, learning from the cycle of the seasons, and the importance of rituals. MANIA! ADHD is fucking… Read more S4 E19: SPRING FEVER, ADHD STYLE

Or, I Better Have Remembered To Attach The Damn MP3 File To This Post Or Alanis Morissette Is Going To Write A Whole Fucking Verse About This For A New Recording Of Her Hit Song Ironic. Which was too long for the full title, but I had to get it out. We're still talking about… Read more S4 E18: Wait, What Were We Talking About?

I think I'm getting better at the titles to these episodes, but they pretty much make this blurb harder to write because I've already clearly let you know what the episode is about. But seriously, Aimée forgot to press start to her washing machine, and we go on and on and on about memory, specifically… Read more S4 E17: Wait, What Was I Doing? Or, Our Working Memory SUCKS

Aimée shares a realization she made about herself and her behavior, which leads us down a road to talking about internalized ableism, gender roles, and how we've been being mean and hurtful to ourselves our wholes lives, so why not use that as an unhealthy protection mechanism to avoid being hurt by others. But I… Read more S4 E16: Internalized Ableism or, Why It's Easier to Hurt Ourselves Than Risk Being Hurt By Others

My son had to make a big decision. It didn't go well. So Aimée and I talk about the challenges of making decisions when you are not neurotypical. It involves everyone's favorite show, The Good Place, and also the aforementioned Time Knife, but also laughter and compassion and hopefully some good advice. Transcript.

Still in NOLA. I *could* have waited until I got home to post this week's episode since it's publishing next week and not tomorrow, but then I would have inevitably forgotten, and would be scrambling, just at home (or maybe at the pool) instead of a hotel room, dreaming of Jambalaya. This week is Part… Read more S4 E14: Spaces and Places and People and Being Ourselves

Ok, so Time-Blindness and ADHD Wait Mode got the best of me and I forgot to edit the next two episodes and upload them, etc, before leaving for NOLA. So now I'm writing all of this, which is the only thing standing in the way of me and Cajun food. That doesn't help you to… Read more S4 E13: What if, wait for it, we didn't have to fundamentally change who we are to be successful?

Hey everyone! We're back and literally we are worse for wear. I got COVID and Aimée had major facial trauma. And we talk about it, our experience, and our insights into what happened to us both on the outside and on the inside, as well as what this says about ableism and our attitudes towards… Read more S4 E12: Hope Your Holiday Was Better Than Ours

This one is short and sweet. Aimée has been felled by the holidays and the end of the semester, so I just recorded a short holiday wish for y'all, and thank you for listening and coming on this journey with us. We'll be taking a short holiday/getting started with the semester break, and be back… Read more S4 E11: A Holiday Wish For You

…One of these things is kinda the same. Aimée and I decided to dig into what makes our podcast different from other ADHD podcasts hosted by women (no shade!). And while that makes us unique, it also makes us more than a little transgressive but WDGAF. Seriously, this was a fun one. Penultimate episode before… Read more S4 E10: One Of These Things Is Not Like The Other…

Aimée and I talk about not being able to finish things. All things. Many important things. Things where we are 98% there but just. can't. get. over. the. finish. line. If you've ever struggled to get things done-done, and been made to feel bad about it, this is the episode for you. If you love… Read more S4 E9: Can I Finish? CAN I FINISH?

Aimée and I talk more about surviving the holidays, and we share more of our own holiday stories. This was recorded the week before American Thanksgiving, so we hope that if you are in the States, you had a good celebration in whatever way you celebrate. My own silly season has just started, between theater… Read more S4 E8: The One Where I Am Someone Else's Holiday Memory

So…it's mid-November (AAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!) which means the holiday season is upon us, whether we're ready or not. And most of us, admittedly, aren't. And those of us with ADHD, well… Aimée and I talk about how we set up boundaries, negotiate compromises, and generally try to make the holidays merry instead of…whatever they turn out to… Read more S4 E7: Surviving the Holidays

Well. Shit happens, and when shit happens (or, rather, we make the shit that is happening), as I say in the episode, “There ain't no spiral like an ADHD spiral.” Or something like that. We're getting into the hard stuff, because of RSD and the ADHD brain and societal pressure and, and, and, and…when we… Read more S4 E6: When We (Inevitably) Fall

Hey everyone, you're actually going to get show notes today! My piece in CHE that caused the “hangover.” Better Son/Daughter by Rilo Kiley (I was freaking close!) Anyway, today's episode is about a kind of hangover that those of us who are neurodivergent can feel after a “big thing” (read: thing that causes a spike… Read more S4 E5: The Neurodivergent Hangover

Look, I'm running out of clever titles for these. I'm on a deadline. And it's early. And I've run out of coffee. We're picking up where we left off (or at least where Aimée forgot we left off) and talking about how to have productive conversations about neurodivergence and difference. It actually shares a lot… Read more S4 E4: Two Educators Walked Into A Productive Discussion…

Aimee and I are talking about ways in which people try to be allies but fall short, and how to have productive conversations, nay disagreements with neurodivergents. We actually did this episode in one sitting and it isn't 3hrs long, so celebrate our ability to manage our time and topic! We haz transcript.

Some things about the Fall 2021 semester aren't all bad. And so we celebrate our triumphs, not only our challenges. Like, did you know Aimée is an AMAZING teacher? What does it mean to get back to doing the things that you love and are AMAZING at? Also, how great is it that we're back?… Read more S4 E2: Back in the Saddle

We're back, and we're talking about how we're coping with re-entry into a world that is desperately trying to convince itself that the pandemic is over when…NOPE. Between kids going back to school and activities, the aftermath of a summer move, and physically returning to the office and the classroom… It's a lot. But, there's… Read more S4 E1: The (Not) Post-Pandemic, Back To The (Not) Real World Episode

I didn't mean to take a screenshot while Aimée had her eyes closed, but here we are in totally unfamiliar surroundings. I moved and then had a breakdown and talk about it. This is our last episode of Season 3, as we both are, well, at our limits and going to take some much-needed vacations.… Read more S3 E18: The One Where Lee Has a Breakdown

Part two of our conversation about being in a relationship with someone who has ADHD/is otherwise neurodivergent. Aimée and I have been in this podcasting relationship for almost three year! THREE YEARS! Three years where, seriously, just about ALL THE THINGS happened. I don't know where I am going with this. We made it work?… Read more S3 E17: Making Relationships Work

In this episode, Aimée and I give relationship advice, prompted by a listener question sent to us via email. I am not as good as she is at giving the advice. But I do read and answer the emails. So, there's that! And, I managed to get this up and ready to go on time… Read more S3 E16: Loving Someone with ADHD

Three time's a charm? This is the last part of our conversation, and our most honest and vulnerable. The message has always been that we should be the size and shape and much-ness that everyone else expects, but then when we aren't, and we are too much, well, it feels awful. Love to you if… Read more S3 E15: What To Do About ALL THE THINGS? Pt. 3

Somehow there wasn't a moment on total incoherence on my part, so I had to use my actual best judgement on when to cut these episodes. Although, I do still fill air with nonsense words while my brain spins and tries to find something to hold on to and make words. Whew. More too-muchness in… Read more S3 E14: What To Do About ALL THE THINGS? Pt. 2

It's been (counts on fingers), 40 episodes of our show, and we haven't even talked about the one ADHD trait that inspired our show's title: that we are, well, A LOT. We have too many ideas, too many words, too much information, and no way to really filter, access, or limit those overabundance of things.… Read more S3 E13: What To Do About ALL THE THINGS? Pt. 1

HA! YOU ARE WELCOME FOR THAT PARTICULAR EARWORM! Early 1990s dance was was the BEST, come at me. Anyway, Aimée and I continue our conversation about movement and exercise and sports and everything like that. Get your transcript right here!

So this is a really REALLY specific Canadian reference. There was an interstitial show called “BodyBreak” in the late 80s/early 90s that encouraged exercise and movement for healthy living. My God, I just fell down this YouTube wormhole. They have a whole freaking channel. I had no idea they were still making these. Anyway, today… Read more S3 E11: BODYBREAK!

CW: Food, diet culture. This is Part II of our conversation about good and eating and ADHD. But there are multiple asides first, about picking and feeling feelings about this podcast and all of you. I promised show notes in the episode, so here you go: The tweet that led to my first public admission… Read more S3 E10: Vulnerable

CW: food, diet culture, weight. This is an episode topic that I’ve wanted to do for a while. We do out best to have a hard conversation about food, eating, medication, stigma, and shame in way that is open, honest, and kind. But as Aimée says at the beginning of the episode, if this isn’t… Read more S3 E9: You Aren’t What You Eat

This is the second part of our conversation on transitions, and sometimes we just feel stuck. And it sucks. So we laugh at ourselves, including building in forgetting to eat so that we remember to end the podcast recording, or else we would get (pleasantly) stuck talking and talking and talking and talking… Sorry if… Read more S3 E8: Stuck

Transitions. Why are the so freaking *hard* for those of us with ADHD? From being chronically late to unable to start projects to just not showering (guilty!), we all struggle moving from one thing to the next. Aimée and I spend the next two episodes talking about our own struggles with transitions and what we… Read more S3 E7: From One Thing To The Next

Part deux of our conversation about rest. Stick around to the very end when we get really, really silly. And how TF is it the last day of April already? Transcript.

Yeah, I put REST in all-caps because it’s the thing that many of us, but especially those of us with ADHD are bad at. Maybe this image that crossed my social media view after we had recorded this episode sounds familiar, but it is also literally what Aimée describes early in the episode. The image… Read more S4 E5: REST

In part two our our discussions about inclusivity in the workplace, Aimée and I talk about how to have the hard conversations around accommodations, inclusivity, and building trust. Spoiler alert: we don’t have an easy answer, but if we don’t trust one another, then nothing else will really matter. Still no idea where my template… Read more S3 E4: Hard Conversations About Inclusive Practices

In this episode, in honor of us recording it on April 2, which was Autism Awareness Day, we discuss this year’s theme which was inclusivity (which my spell-check doesn’t even recognize as a word, so that should tell you something). We talk about what inclusivity could look like moving forward, post-pandemic, when we return to… Read more S3 E3: What Does Inclusivity Look Like?

Ok, the title of this episode is a bit of a misnomer because we only really talk about that fact (THAT OUR LITTLE PODCAST HAS BEEN DOWLOADED OVER TWENTY THOUSAND TIMES!) at the end. The majority of the podcast is about the hobbies we picked up, or started up again, during the pandemic. But seriously.… Read more S3 E2: Can You Believe It? 20K Downloads!

That’s right, folks, we’re back! COVID couldn’t keep the two of us down forever! In this episode we talk about how we (and our families) have been coping during the pandemic. We talk over each other a lot. It shows in the transcript. Aimée and I (Lee) are so happy to be together again, talking… Read more S3 E1: WE’RE BAAAAAAACK!!!!!!

This episode is for all of our white neurodivergent listeners. We should have opened the podcast with that, but I’ll say it here. Aimée and I have an awkward, imperfect, incomplete, but important conversation around race and racism. With that here are a lot of links for you to read and sit with, uncomfortably. Find… Read more S2 E9: Getting It Imperfect, Doing It Anyway

*Note: We recorded this episode and scheduled to publish it before the world was set aflame. We encourage you to read anti-racist reading lists, as well as to donate to anti-racist causes locally (in Canada and in the USA). We are thinking of our own response, in terms of how to participate in the protests… Read more S2 E8: Socially-Distant Weddings, Wrestling, and Writing (OH MY!)

You ever hate something that everyone else raves about, like loud parties or, IDK, Las Vegas? You’ve come to right place, where quiet fun is celebrated, and we can admit, in a safe space, that we’re not the problem if we think something isn’t as awesome as everyone else does. I am, however, on team… Read more S2 E7: Viva Las Vegas…NOT!!!

I basically got this shirt immediately after recording these episodes (thanks FB algorithm for listening in and suggesting this shirt to buy!). Kelly is back again, and we keep talking about how we’re, well, weird. But that’s ok. We’re reclaiming the word for ourselves, and celebrating our neurodiversity. TRANSCRIPTS!

LOOK WE HAVE A GUEST! That’s Kelly J. Baker (aka @kelly_j_baker on Twitter). She also has colorful hair and glasses, like us, and is also an Opinionated Lady on the Internet, like us, too! I laughed a lot during our two hours of recording. Here’s part one of three of our conversation. Come laugh with… Read more S2 E5: Opinionated Ladies on the Internet