Breaking Silence

Sean Roberson, Jr. is certainly a strong person and has done well to protect himself from how people judge.  Being born with Cerebral Palsy, Sean has certainly experienced more then his fair share of emotional bullying.   I hope you Change Champs are able to take a page from his book and find some hope in overcoming adversity in your own life. If you would like to join in celebrating Sean’s art, links to his music on soundcloud are in the show notes. RESOURCES Sean’s Music: https://soundcloud.com/thisthatprototyp3 To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Rob Imperato is a motivational speaker, workshop creator and facilator – and most passionately – a certified professional life coach. Now he has authored his first book “The Digital Age”. He is the founder and CEO of Self-Empowerment Coaching. He created SEC-LLC with the vision and passion of helping people help themselves to create the positive change that they truly want, and experience that true sense of self-empowerment. Children who are bullied often suffer in silence, and they suffer alone. Since the digital age overtook our kids rooms 20 years ago – the depression rate in children under 13 years old has risen 25%. Not only is any depression rate in children unacceptable, but the fact that it has risen this much is a catastrophe on our futures. Join us on today’s episode as Rob shares what parents can do to help protect their kids… and how to help those who are currently suffering. RESOURCES: www.myselfempoweredlife.com Purchase Rob’s book on Amazon: The Digital Age: The Real Challenges and Effect on Children and Parents To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Barbara S. Hennessy owns and operates “The Joy Within LLC”, a private practice of emotional trauma recovery and chronic pain relief.  She is a Level One certified BrainSweep Intervention System coach and has completed the Level One Employee Family Support Program (EFSP) training for Employee Support Worker.  Most recently she has been appointed the Director of the Brainsweep Academy in the United States.  Barbara has over 20 years of experience assisting people with disabilities.  She has worked as a Vocational Rehabilitation Counselor with a specialty caseload of deaf/hard of hearing people for the State of Florida.  She then worked as a program manager for employment services at Abilities of Florida (now ServiceSource of Florida).  She supervised ten staff members in Central and South Florida that provided services for Vocational Rehabilitation clients.  RESOURCES: www.bswacademyusa.ocom visit to learn more about the 6 interventions YouTube Channel: Closing the Door to Suicide To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Cynthia Armstrong with the Pasco County Schools joins us today to share what resources school systems are putting in place for parents to protect their children from bullying.  Cynthia discusses the new approaches schools are taking to cyberbullying - in and outside of school.  The reaches of the school system are no longer limited by the school fence, parents have resources available 24 hours a day. If your child is being harassed at home, while tucked away in bed and surfing her mobile phone under the covers, you have resources and protections available.   RESOURCES: Pasco County Schools - Bullying Resources To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

October is my absolute favorite month of the year!  It has Halloween, which my favorite holiday!  No family involvement, just fun costumes, parties and a good time all month long.  That's why I got married in October.  So, today, on October 1st... you will always find me at my favorite coffee house having my first Pumpkin Spiced Latte of the year.  Yum.... October is also CyberSecurity Awareness Month... and we are kicking off the month with a dive into cyberbullying. Today we are sitting with Patrick Craven, Director of Center for Cyber Safety and Education.  We are discussing the real effects of cyberbullying and the real life tactics parents and trusted adults can use to protect the little ones in their lives.   Patrick explains that bullying has morphed since we were all kids... bullies don't have to be brave anymore and take you on eyeball to eyeball or toe to toe.  No... they now can hide behind the safety of their devices and attack with full force.  And they multiply quickly... hear how easy it is for kids to go from a few to hundreds or even thousands picking on your child... when you thought he was just in his room checking on homework after dinner. This is serious stuff.  Fortunately, Patrick has real advice to share with teachers and parents - not just on how to protect your kids - but what to do if and WHEN they actually get bullied or cyberstalked.   RESOURCES: https://www.iamcybersafe.org/ Teacher Resources Parent Resources To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

As I’ve been learning how to deal with my untreated PTSD, I've been learning alot about mindfulness meditation.  This has greatly helped me these past couple months set some of the anxiety aside and generally learn how to be ok with the new found peace in my life (much easier typed/said then done!). Mindfulness meditation practice couldn’t be simpler: take a good seat, pay attention to the breath, and when your attention wanders, return. By following these simple steps, you can get to know yourself up close and personal. I’d love to hear from you on how this works out for you.  Email the show at speak@savelori.org and let me know how you are doing.  Please reference Episode 008 in the subject line, so I know it's you sharing with me. RESOURCES Mindful Meditation: https://www.mindful.org/mindfulness-how-to-do-it/ To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233  

Robin Lavitch holds a Master’s degree in developmental psychology and a certification as a professional coach.  She is currently a doctorate student at Capella University for counseling psychology – human behavior.  Robin has been a university professor and a mental health counselor.  Her passion is helping teens overcome adversity. https://www.surpassyourgoals.com/ Today, Robin will discuss Boundaries & Conflict in the Workplace, setting healthy boundaries and two ways to identify the unhealthy people in your life. To request the list of boundaries discussed today, please visit Robin's website -  and Robin will email you her personal list.  Please reference this show so she knows it’s you. https://www.surpassyourgoals.com/contact/ RESOURCES: To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Robin Lavitch holds a Master’s degree in developmental psychology and a certification as a professional coach.  She is currently a doctorate student at Capella University for counseling psychology – human behavior.  Robin has been a university professor and a mental health counselor.  Her passion is helping teens overcome adversity. https://www.surpassyourgoals.com/ Today, Robin shares her childhood story of abuse, how they showed up in her daily adult life and her key to the healing process.  This is a two part series. RESOURCES: To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Interview with Kaylee Gray who suffered emotional, physical and sexual abuse since 15 years old. He perpetrators were so good at using isolation against her, that her fiancee kidnapped her at 19 and took her across the country.  Find out how she broke free and created a new life for herself. RESOURCES Link to Podcast: Psychopath In Your Life  http://psychopathinyourlife.com/the-podcast/ Episodes 12-16: Gaslighting Series To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Interview with Margaret Martin about the negative chatter in our minds caused by our abusers. Margaret Martin, author of The Chatter that Matters . . .  Your Words ARE Your Power and Your Chatter Matters – Journal of Gratitude, is dedicated to helping people “Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life.” She works with individuals and organizations to become more effective, efficient; and to achieve personal balance, fulfillment, and a more profitable future. She assists in their development utilizing her proficiency as a coach, workshop facilitator and speaker. Link to book: https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-That-Matters-Words-Power-ebook/dp/B0792X8JSQ/ Link to Journal: http://www.margaretmartin.com/buy/ Coaching: Priority “One” Coaching . . . Taking YOU to the TOP of Your List, Margaret works primarily with women who want to believe in themselves again one thought at a time. She helps them discover how to reframe and transform their negative self-talk into words they can believe and to put Self at the Top of the List so they can live an abundant life of peace, joy and fulfillment. Link to Power Series & Early Registration discount $50 off by 9pm Aug 31, 2018: http://www.margaretmartin.com/classes-offered/ 4 Week Virtual Course Begins Sept 18 @ 7:30pm ET Regular Price $149 Active in the community Margaret serves: on the Board of Directors of The Arc of Tampa Bay and is Secretary of the Executive Committee; The Haven of RCS Advisory Committee and volunteers weekly as co-facilitator of group sessions for survivors of Domestic Violence; as a Leadership Coach and Fast Start Facilitator for MBA students at the University of Tampa; member of Leadership Pinellas, President 2014 – 2015. Connect with Margaret: http://www.margaretmartin.com/ https://twitter.com/MargaretMartin https://www.facebook.com/MargaretMartin.SpeakerCoach RESOURCES: To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

CALEY VERSFELT RESOURCES Caley's website - tidesofkindness.com Girls Scouts - Highest Award - Gold Award Caley's Movie - when you are ready? DisablityFilmChallenge.com Get onto Caley's website and find out how you can get involved and make a difference. Just because something may be off about your appearance, your ability to speak or even a physical disability can become an ability. BREAKING SILENCE RESOURCES To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Earlier this year, when I was looking for answers… grasping at straws for something to explain what I was feeling, going through and experiencing, I came across a Ted Talk – by way of a dear friend.  The ted talk featured Dr. Nadine Harris – who talked about how childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime. Only because a friend sent me the link did I listen to this while driving.  Shortly into the Ted Talk, I had to pull over, this doctor was hitting way to close for drive time.  I ended up listening to this podcast two more times at home the same night, and immediately bought her book “The Deepest Well” and listened to it fervently on audible over the next two days.  The ACEs score is a metric on a scale of 1-10 (10 being worst) that tallies up the types of trauma you may have experienced as a child.  According to Dr. Harris, 64% of adults in America have an ACE Score of at least 1. The numbers get more chilling as the higher your ACE score gets.   Did you experience, before the age of 18 any of the following? Emotional Abuse, recurrent Physical Abuse, recurrent Sexual abuse, contact at least once Physical neglect Emotional neglect Substance abuse in the household Mental illness in the household Mother treated violently Divorce or parental separation Criminal behavior in the household I feel your pain and shock.  Any one of these would be a shame for any child to experience.  But multiple?  That’s where the ACES study and Dr. Nadine’s work really takes off. Dr. Nadine and her colleagues were able to draw a definitive scientific line between high ACE scores and bad health outcomes in adults.  What kind of bad health outcomes?  For starters, there’s obesity – check for me and hubby.  Anxiety – check check.  Asthma – check for my hubby.  CPD – not yet but we are concerned. So now what do you do with all this information?  For me, I started this podcast as I look for answers from guests on how to deal with my untreated PTSD and high ACE score of 9.  It’s still such a new science with very little outcomes yet, that there’s not a lot of literature.  Fortunately, we can take our cues from the military and how their returning warriors deal with their PTSD.  Many of them are working in the community sharing their healing tactics – because PTSD is not just for the military – it’s for all of us normal people who experienced abnormal traumas. RESOURCES Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime CDC ACE Study: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/ BOOK “The Deepest Well” https://centerforyouthwellness.org/the-deepest-well/ To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233

Today we’re talking about finding hope when there is no reason to have any.  I know this can be a daunting issue, but today we’re going to break down some vocabulary so it’s a lot less scary.  I will be sharing my story with you and my hope is that it becomes a beacon of hope for someone out there. There’s no better way to find hope and healing then right now where you are. In later episodes we’re going to interview other people affected by all forms of bullying and receive hope from their resiliency.  We’re going to hear from their champions, those who have been bullied and the various experts around the country providing hope and healing to the bullied, their champions, the bullies themselves and the silent witnesses who stood by and did nothing. This isn’t any run of the mill podcast.  You aren’t going to take pages of notes and fill out your to do list.  Rather, my hope is to touch your heart and make an impact on how you approach your future life and those that you love. In order to do that, first, I’m going to share with you why I started this podcast and my story.  Then I’ll show you where to find local resources in your community and get you on the path for healing. My hope, my prayer, is that if you are a parent, a sister, brother, best friend, husband or wife that you will stay tuned into this message.  The modern world we live in is changing faster then we humans can adapt.  This doesn’t make us any safer.  We humans need to equip ourselves to champion the ones we love, especially in the very moment they can’t protect themselves, even if we don’t know how.   o o o I wish I was sitting at the table right across from you so I can see the look in your eye.  Is there recognition to my story?  Fear?  Bewilderment?  Or did I just hit too close to home?  The one thing that stinks about podcasts is I can’t see your beautiful eyes and know how you are. Please don’t leave me wondering, reach out to me and send me an email at speakup at savelori dot org that’s lori l-o-r-i Once again that email address is speak up at save lori dot org Put Episode Zero in your subject line so I know it’s you! I’m going to confess, this episode was really hard for me to share.  But it’s in no comparison to the pain you may be in if you are in trauma right now. One of the first books I read on the Socipoathic disorder is called “The Sociopath Next Door” by Martha Stout.  I got it on Amazon and the link to it is in the show notes.  That book was actually referenced in the first book I read called “Sociopath and psychopath: The Worst of Both Worlds” by Ken Fisher.  Also available on Amazon and linked in the show notes. Before you judge and snub your nose at the mere mention of the word sociopath, I want to clarify something for you.  This is going to be hard for you to swallow because you are an American, as it was for me when I first learned about it. First 3% of all NORMAL American adults are sociopaths.  That’s TWICE the world average. They are everywhere and can be anyone.  The bad news is that we Americans love them!  More about why on our website with a link to Psychology Today. Second, sociopaths fall on the mental health spectrum between narcissists and psychopaths.  Sociopaths and psychopaths both biologically lack what the rest of us humans have – a conscience. I know it’s extremely hard to believe life without that little Jiminy Cricket on our shoulder telling us what’s right and wrong.  But there it is!! They just don’t have it!  They really don’t know the difference between right and wrong and a lie and a truth.  For that reason alone they can pass a lie detector test and get away with theft, murder and other bad things.  And have. REFERENCES Sociopath and Psycopath by Ken Fisher The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, ph.d. To learn more about our past podcasts, please visit us at savelori.org Visit our contact us page to send us a private prayer or request.  There’s even a speak option if you want to speak your prayer to the show team. BE A CHAMP.  GET HELP NOW: https://www.facebook.com/savinglori/ Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 Report child abuse or neglect in your state, visit childwelfare.gov National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233