But First Coffee ... WAKE UP CALL

There's an addiction in our society to false urgency, over productivity and hustlin' in life. This one mini-series of questions can help you decrease your stress levels, increase your sense of fulfillment in life and allow you to connect more deeply to the ones you love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

When we don't get what we've prayed for, asked for or set intentions for it can put us in a cycle of feeling frustrated, disappointed, bitter and angry. We quickly go from it's not working to I'm not worthy. We can feel like we're being ghosted or “left on read”, like we never get our prayers or manifestations answered. The truth is there is ALWAYS an answer but your answer bias may be in the way of you receiving it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

You can do hard things but know which hard things are worth it to you or not is what will lead you to happiness & fulfillment or stressed & unhappy. It's always your choice. Your awareness & ability to ask better questions about what you're doing will make all the difference in your health, relationships & life experiences. So, is it hard or is it a challenge? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Getting stuck in old habits and expectations is how the majority live. They keep expecting it to be this way so that's the way it is. But where did these expectations come from and how do we change them? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It's easy for us to get stuck in the symptoms and surface level of what we are experiencing in our life. The triggers and things that we are experiencing are often just that and we need the right questions to help us dive down to the cause so that we can create real change, and make some real progress. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I love questions that pierce through my mental anxiety and pop me out of the bubble of stress and overthinking that I often get stuck in. Today's question is another one of those, but it has a little bit of a bigger theme to it and it's applicable in all scenarios that our life can bring us. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

As a continuation of the last episode, we're going to add more into understanding how your body communicates with you so that you can listen to it better. We are also going to dive into your primary health system so that you can start discovering how to have better mental and physical health. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

When you're all up in your head how to you come down out of it? Today's question is going to be the best tool in your toolkit from here on out. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We love to focus on progress, achievements & accomplishments but what if that focus is actually what's keeping you stressed & stuck? Let's talk about the difference between progress, progressive and progression & find out which focus can support you the most. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

When you are in survival mode and in a state of deprivation, you have been taught to be very afraid of binging or over indulging, and that fear is what actually keeps you in survival mode. The binge after deprivation is normal and it is actually a very important step and creating a new normal and a new experience for yourself at a new level. *I want to be clear that this episode is about money, love, time and other concepts like this, not about eating disorders.* --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We always are looking for solutions and answers, trying to get the problem to change but what experience and age has taught me is that the problem actually never changes. It's easy to feel like we are stuck in a problem that will not go away or to feel like we can't find solutions or answers that we need to change the circumstances we are in. Understanding today's topic allows me to move through problems, circumstances, and situations easier, and to feel like answers and solutions are always at my fingertips. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We've been taught a lot of things about goalsetting and manifestation. One of those things is the importance of detachment but as a fellow control freak, I like to feel like I am in control, and I tend to get very attached to achieving that specific goal. So let's talk about how I've learned to detach and understand why that is so important. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Part of me thinks this episode is a little controversial just because of the title. I encourage you to listen to the whole episode so you can understand what it is. I'm talking about. Our need to try and live a life that is “all good” keeps us stuck, uncomfortable, and quite frankly, miserable when that is not what we're meant for. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It seems like the decisions about letting go of things, knowing what to let go of and when to let go of them is one of the hardest things for people to feel OK about doing. The times that I see the most personal gaslighting is around the decision to leave or let go. So let's get specific to know what to let go of and when to do it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It's really easy for us to get caught up in the busyness of life; all the errands, appointments, work, & to do lists. But being caught up in the busyness makes it hard to be aware of what our body & intuition is telling us we need & when they're telling us we need it. Which then makes us live in a tank that isn't full. So what do we change so we can live with a full tank? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We love to earn that badge of honor for working hard and making lots of sacrifices. Let's dive into what hard work and sacrifice truly mean and how they get to support you in creating the life you want for yourself. These are the two things that support you manifesting and creating what you want, but they are often distorted and misinterpreted. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

The transition from fantasy to anticipation (see previous episode on co-creation) actually involves 3 parts and today I want to break ‘em down and figure out which piece you need to do some work on so that you can start living with faith-full prayers and create the life you've been dreaming of. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

THAT happened. No matter what “that” was, something IS next. What happens when we get sucked into reliving the past or worrying about the future & why being present is the only place you can actually make changes & move forward from. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Being able to love others starts by first learning to love yourself. But how do you do that? What does that even mean? Hint: it involves “going far away”. People often underestimate the importance of “going far away” when making big changes, to be able to find your truth, find yourself and especially when we're seeking the ability to love ourselves. Whether you're making small changes to a few habits or big life changes and going in the completely different direction, the far away part is critical. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Externalizing some thoughts that got stirred up in a recent conversation with a friend about being allowed to react verses being in reaction to something. The subtle difference is actually very powerful & may be the game changer you're looking for in your self expression & alignment in life right now. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Co-creating aka manifesting is a hot topic and no matter what approach you take or steps you follow there's one part that is THE hardest for us to understand & implement. It's very easy to get sucked into the fantasy/dream/visualization and then get frustrated when they don't happen. Let's talk about why that's detrimental to your ability to co-create and how to shift into something more empowering. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

When everything around us feels like it's changing or moving too quickly. It's often and indicator that we are in a transition of some kind. We are in a hallway, in a time in between where we were and where we want to go. How do we navigate this without losing our sanity? How do we move forward? What are we meant to do and what can we do? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

It's really easy to make ourselves feel bad for making mistakes and getting things wrong. And today's episode I want to talk about why mistakes are actually helping you move faster towards the life that you want. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

The words we use trigger all kinds of beliefs and responses within our neural pathways. When we want to make changes in our lives and create different experiences a simple starting place is the words we use when we speak and think. Thai one in particular is powerful. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We're stuck in a loop of needing to be busy and more productive but wanting more free time to enjoy our lives. There are things that need to be done but can we ever just be done? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We can't completely eliminate our doubts, worries and fears, but I feel like today's questions help us make a powerful pivot in our ability to believe in ourselves, and move through life with more confidence. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I wish I still had… that body, that hair, that money, that relationship, that job. It's easy to get stuck in that wishing and dreaming. It's even easier to sit in the wishing we had never made certain mistakes or gone through that hard time in our lives. Getting stuck there takes you out of the game and today I want to ask you the question that can get you back in the game and moving forward again. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I know there's a lot of talk about how we are redefining success as a society, but I want to dive deeper into the perspective that says completing something is what makes it a success. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

This episode is for all the independent women (and men) that have been praised for being self sufficient and for having a great work ethic their entire lives. The swing from Boss B*tch to Slow Living is in full effect and it can be quite intense. Let's talk about the detox period everybody likes to avoid and the difficult choice of allowing yourself to receive more support. (I could also call this episode something like “Shifting from masculine to feminine: how to soften so you receive more of your desires) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Are they deep seated or deep seeded? Let's talk about the difference and how to figure out what your purpose and desires are so you can help them grow and flourish instead of the fears that have been getting in the way. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We've talked previously about the formula, your routines and how sometimes the need to be consistent and do them step-by-step to get it right and get the results that you want can actually be the problem. Today let's talk about the importance of being willing to add something to the formula and how to know what to add that could make all the difference. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Today's episode is about facing the times when it seems like it's just not working or your prayers aren't being answered. What's the perspective shift you need to get you back on track and moving forward? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Whether you are reaching for a big goal or achievement, or you are going through something very challenging and hard, you're looking for the breakthrough into something new. There is a piece in this process that gets you to the breakthrough that the majority of people try to skip over, so let's stop skipping it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Do you have a routine that you follow every single day? When your routine gets messed up do you feel like it's ruined your whole day? Have you ever followed a process step-by-step and it didn't work out the way that you wanted it to? Sometimes it's the formula that's the problem. Sometimes it's our focus on being consistent every single day that causes the problem. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I've used the terms God, angels, Universe & energy interchangeably over the last decade to try to resonate with whatever your beliefs may be. Speaking different “languages” and uses different analogies to get a topic to land with different people has become a skill I'm quite good at but in the process it has altered my own internal dialogue. Today I wanna share how Human Design (along with everything else I've studied, taught & spoken about) has brought me back to God and deeper into my faith. I love the way Human Design connects to my spirituality and belief in God without having to try to alter the system in anyway. Maybe today's question is, “How is what you're studying & speaking impacting your beliefs & faith?” (No matter what faith, religion or belief system you follow) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

If I understand WHY I tend to have a better attitude about doing difficult or uncomfortable things. So let's talk about the hardest thing you'll ever do: the inner work. Why does it ALWAYS start there? Why does it matter? Hint: you could be pursuing the wrong goals & purpose. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Sometime it feels like other people or the systems and structures in our lives have all the power and they just keep getting in the way. “If it wasn't for X, I'd have what I want or I'd be able to do what I want.” It can leave us feeling powerless. The path to reclaiming your power isn't an easy one but today's question is a good starting point. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

There comes a time when you have to start questioning who's path your walking. Whose prayers are you praying? Whose wishes, desires, wants, and needs are you asking for. Are you sure they're yours? Or are they what everything else is saying you should have? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

What boundaries have you been crossing and how is it impacting what you're receiving in your life? Why do boundaries even matter? Let's get into it today! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

There's times in life when we hit bottom and wish for something to change or it all feels like it's just too much and we'd really love if it could be different. These three questions move you from what you don't want towards what you do want. Beware: once you know these answers you can't unknow them. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Let's talk about why it matters who you share celebrations and failures with, who you spend time with and who you're listening to. I also talk about how much of our anxiety can be caused by being too vulnerable with too many people and the wrong people. Self confidence, self trust and a strong sense of self are all impacted by the WHOs in our lives. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

So often we get stuck, spin our wheels, plateau and repeat the same thing again and again and again… and again. So let's ask a few better questions that can be the lifeline you need to pull yourself up and out of the funk. I also dive into a little more about why I get sucked into Human Design and astrology as my own lifeline through life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I was once told that we didn't need to experience struggle in order to appreciate ease. It sounds decent on the surface but my subconscious filled in lots of gaps and added to the story and actually created something that made me feel more shame, guilt and bitterness towards my life. Life wasn't always good and easy, I was experiencing challenging, painful, frustrating things so I was always asking, “what am I doing wrong? What in me is still not good enough or broken?” Recently I started asking some different questions about it and I've found where my internal story took a wrong turn and I've written something new that feels so much better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

We're in the middle of a major transition in humanity. We're evolving into the next version and it can feel chaotic, painful, ugly, messy, and stressful. I think this one question and awareness is pretty much THE game changer in working through these changes and stepping into what's next with less struggle. What do you think? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Diving into what questions are better to ask after the initial upheaval of self reflection/self healing/inner work where all you're looking for is what's wrong and not working. Once you've done some of that what questions are better to ask so we get some better answers? There's a good chunk on why I hate when people tell you to “just do what feels good” or “follow what feels good to you” and how that often keeps you stuck and repeating cycles instead of moving forward into the life you want to be living. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

A brief intro to what this podcast is about. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

If you feel like you're a procrastinator, inconsistent, or lazy this episode is for you. Mid-cleaning vibes I stopped dead bc I had nothing left to give and my room was still a giant mess. I started contemplating how often I was told I wasn't good enough bc I was a procrastinator or I didn't finish things before moving on to something else. Not to mention a didn't giant fear of being called lazy. So I started asking myself some better questions about todays messy, incomplete project. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Universalized vs differentiated teaching: What question to be asking yourself as you are learning from someone else so you get the most and the best out of what you're giving your time and energy to.If you're a Projector I cannot recommend this episode enough. I share a major realization that I've recently had that is a game changer for getting out of your bitterness and into your success.I talk about my experience with Amanda Frances' Money Mentality Makeover* as I go through it again and how being told by another mentor, “you're not so special that it works for everyone except you” has been a ball of shame, failure and “you're not good enough” stuck deep inside me for 7 years. *love it, btw. I'm not a hater and I'll never be the type to call people out or criticize others anyway. Just get this clear right up front. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

But First Coffee... WAKE UP CALL is officially transitioning into something new. I don't drink coffee much anymore so that's part of the reason but also because there's been SO many changes and shifts over the last few years, a change was needed in this space. We're gonna call this season 10 since '10' is about beginning again and starting anew. Let's get to it! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I got my closure and I've moved on to what's next. “The Questionable Podcast” with @Rebel.Rose.Life is going to be asking better questions so we can finally get better answers for our lives and the world around us. It seems crazy to close this podcast with the analytic numbers I see when I log in but I needed to close this container and close this chapter so I could move forward onto a fresh foundation. I'm moving into what's next for me, what's next for you? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Thank you so much for being a listener of the But First Coffee… WAKE UP CALL. it's been almost 10 years of content from periscope to Facebook to podcast and it's time to bring it to a close. You can now find me on Instagram @Rebel.Rose.Life if you have questions, want support or are looking for what's next. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support