Common Collective

In this episode, we'll explore the difficult decision of letting go of relationships that no longer serve us. Whether it's a romantic partner, friend, family member, or colleague, we all experience relationships that evolve over time, and sometimes they become toxic or draining. There's a special metaphor we will cover, once you hear it... it's hard to think about self-growth and relationships any other way.

The parent-child relationship is one of the most important and complex bonds in our lives. It can have a profound impact on our emotional well-being, behavior, and even our future relationships. In this episode, we explore the power of connection in nurturing healthy parent-child relationships with Dr.Shefali. Dr.Shefali is a New York Times best-selling author and clinical psychologist who specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy. You may have seen her on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday talking about conscious parenting or how to discover your inner truths to awaken your conscious self. If you have never heard of Dr.Shefali, you are in for a treat as we discuss the release of her new book, The Parenting Map, and how we can apply these teachings into all our relationships. I'm not a parent, but her teachings have taught me so much about myself, my family, and my relationships. I hope they do the same for you. 

Have you ever experienced disappointment? Perhaps you didn't get that promotion you were hoping for, or your relationship didn't work out as planned. Disappointment is a natural part of life, but it can also be challenging to navigate. In this episode, I'll share some personal experiences with disappointment and how I move past it using mindfulness. 

 Life is busy and sometimes we overlook the people who are closest to us. We take the longevity of the relationship or their consistent presence for granted. This can unconsciously create some invisible separation in the relationship. That is why today I want to talk about something called, “Love Mapping.” 

This week's episode we will talk about how we can be resistant to change in ourselves and others. Why do we keep putting ourselves in boxes we will inevitably grow out of? How can we leave more room for change? We will discuss the fears and resistance that often hold us back from embracing change, and why it is important to embrace transformation in our lives. 

In this episode, we dive into the concept of the drama triangle and how it can manifest in our relationships. The drama triangle creates a cycle of blame, guilt, and co-dependency that can be emotionally draining and damaging to our relationships.We will talk about the importance of self-awareness, assertive communication, and empathy in ending the drama triangle. We will also explore how the drama triangle can prevent us from developing healthy relationships and communication skills. This episode is for anyone who wants to understand the drama triangle and how to create healthier, more positive relationships in their life. 

In this episode, we will explore our feelings about death and how it may influence our levels of happiness. In addition, we explore Ric Elias's experience on the US Airways flight, known as the Miracle on the Hudson, where an emergency landing was conducted on the Hudson River in New York City.  At the very end, I have an unusual invitation for you to practice mindfulness, I hope you try it.Links Mentioned in the Episode:WeCroack App - https://www.wecroak.com/TED Talk | Ric Elias -3 Things I Learned While My Plane Crashed 

Often we get excited about the New Year because it feels like a fresh start. So why do we fall off our resolutions before the first quarter of the year is done? In this week's episode, we will cover the main reasons goals fail and how you can be more mindful in your goal setting.Levels of Life Workbook - https://www.mindlesstomindful.com/pl/2147649778This workbook will help you assess where you currently are and create a blueprint for where you want to mindfully go.

In America, we say things like “time is money” or “don't waste my time.” These common phrases reveal how we feel about time - it is scarce, it is valuable, and not to be wasted. But what is so incredibly fascinating and somewhat sad is reality of how we actually spend our time. Data from The American Time Use Survey and Our World in Data reveals the truth about time with family and friends. After this episode, you make make some changes to how you allocate your time. Link to Charts/Data referenced in episode: https://ourworldindata.org/time-with-others-lifetime

 Relationships can be incredible rewarding and incredibly challenging at the same time. As human beings we have needs and they often vary from moment to moment. We often find ourselves in situations where the person we are in a relationship with has a need that is different than our own.  In this episode, we discuss how to navigate these tensions in relationships without destroying the relationship it self. 

While many people use these words interchangeably, they are not the same. In this episode, we go over the differences between these words and why it's important to accurately represent your experiences. Perhaps you thought you were feeling overwhelmed, when really you are feeling burned out. We will also discuss symptoms of burnout and which on disproportionately affects women. Lastly, we will end on some action items for you to process your stress instead of numbing and escaping it.

We have countless of interactions with people throughout our week, not all of them may be pleasant. Today we cover a little bit about how we evaluate other people's behavior and how that affects our perception of them. You'll learn how often we practice harsh judgment and how it negatively impacts our self-talk. Perception checking is a framework that requires self-awareness and empathy, let's practice together shall we?

We all have days that are unpredictable, ironic, and a little weird. In this episode, I share a story about a interesting day I had and how it was another lesson in mindfulness. You will never be a master of mindfulness, you will merely improve. Some days you'll be extraordinary and others you will act mindless, I am no exception. I hope this simple, but hopeful story will make you smile and lead you to do the same for others. 

Many of us don't realize how our words are creating mental barriers and adding to our emotional stress. In this episode, we uncover little things you are saying every day that are working against you completing your goals.  Now, why do these little words matter? Well, there was a study done in the Journal of Consumer Research that investigated the influence of self-talk on resisting temptation and motivating goal-directed behavior (Patrick & Hagtvedt, 2012).  Join me as we uncover ways to empower your language and get you moving closer to your goals.

Listening is one of the most important ingredients in relationships, yet many of us struggle with how to listen. In this episode, we discuss the characteristics of different listening styles. Understanding your default listening styles can help you identify when and where it's most appropriate to use. 

Perhaps you've heard of mindfulness, but have you heard of mindful communication? In this first episode we explore the definition of mindfulness and why mindful communication is essential for both our professional and personal lives. More importantly, we talk about how you can began to identify unconscious patterns by taking a closer look at something you do every day. 

Mindful listening requires more than just the desire to listen. Often we use the words hearing and listening interchangeably, yet they have completely different meanings. In this episode you will learn about the different styles of listening and how to identify your listening style. In addition, we will discuss common barriers to listening and poor listening habits we engage in unconsciously. 

Self-Care is term we have been hearing a lot recently, but what does it actually look like? In truth, it looks different for all of us. However, I started noticing that my usual self-care routines were not providing the results I was used to receiving: energized, joyful, and grounded. Join me for this conversation as I sit down with my good friend, Paul, to talk about mental health challenges during a global pandemic, adapting to an everchanging reality, and being honest about where we are in our journey.Books/Articles Referenced:Your Surge Capacity it Depleted by Tara Haelle The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path To Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron

To say the least, 2020 hasn't panned out like most of us expected.With a pandemic turning our daily lives upside down and a social justice movement igniting across the nation, making sense of it all and understanding our place in it can be overwhelming. So I did what any sane person would do, I called up two of my smart and sassy girlfriends to catch up, check-in, and talk about the two things that are changing the world forever: COVID-19 and the Black Lives Matter Movement. We talk about the challenges educators and parents are facing, racism in our families, and how you can find your place amid the chaos.Resources Mentioned:Racism Without Racists by Eduardo Bonilla-SilvaUnpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntoshInstagram Accounts Mentioned: @ochentapodcast, @avillagescholar, @hownottotravellikeabasicbitch, @aclu, @blackorganizingproject, @docmellymel, @blmlosangeles, asian.activist, @aapiwomenleadLet's Connect:Follow us on Instagram @thecommon_collective and our host @melaniewhitney_Like us on FacebookFind out more about us at our website