We're Home Girls Unite; a support group for eldest immigrant daughters and this is our podcast. Every week we come together to discuss a topic that is unique to our struggles as eldest daughters who were forced to grow up before our time and mother those around us.
Yasin and Kiran are back after a well-deserved hiatus! In this episode, they dive into the world of Desperate Housewives, unpacking the dynamic between Lynette and Tom and how it reflects the struggles of eldest daughters everywhere. From managing responsibilities to navigating relationships, they explore why eldest daughters often carry the emotional and mental load—both on screen and in real life.They also discuss the importance of taking a break and indulging in the things you love—whether it's binge-watching your favourite show or just reclaiming some guilt-free downtime. Because eldest daughters deserve rest too!Tune in for a fun, insightful conversation filled with pop culture, personal reflections, and a reminder that you're allowed to just enjoy.Book a RANT session here.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions hereFind us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTokEmail us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we're joined by Ayushi to explore the highs and lows of moving back home after experiencing the freedom of university life. We delve into the challenges of navigating life under your parents' roof again and share insights on maintaining healthy friendships, especially when the responsibilities of being an eldest daughter come into play. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
In this episode, Yasin and Yasmin discuss resentment and how it manifests in different relationships—whether with siblings, friends, or even in the workplace. The discussion centres around how unresolved tensions, unspoken frustrations, and unfairness can build up over time, often leading to a deep-seated resentment. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
CONTENT WARNING: TALK OF SUICIDE This week, Zoha joined us to share her PhD journey, the challenges she faced, and the key realizations along the way. We also delved into family dynamics, including her brother's struggles with disability, mental health, and a suicide attempt. Lastly, we explored her experience of supporting her mum through therapy and being there for her sisters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
We're sorry we've been away. This week, Yasin and Kiran discuss Yasin's new role as a married eldest daughter. The girls also discuss how family can dismiss your needs and often fail to support you when needed. Finally, we discuss how our upbringing has impacted our emotions as eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Yasin and Kiran speak about their different life events and what this means for Home Girls in the future. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Yasin is joined by her Co-director, Sahra. They delve into their experiences running Home Girls. The discussion shifts to the delicate act of balancing work and personal life. Looking at the unique pressures on eldest daughters in the workplace. They offer practical tips and personal anecdotes on managing responsibilities at home and in the workplace. They also discuss a confession of an eldest daughter. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Yasin is joined by Kafayat. They discuss how moving out has become a gateway to gaining respect from family members and helping them realize how much you do for them. They also delve into the importance of standing your ground and embracing a rebellious spirit. Finally, they talk about her parents moving back to Nigeria and how that might impact her role as the eldest daughter. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Xenia and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Isha, the latest PhD grad in town. We speak about her 12-year journey to getting her PhD and how she balanced it with being an eldest daughter and a mother of 2. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Yasin and Xenia discuss fathers day, the importance of therapy and having grace for our freinds who are on the journey of mohterhood. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Lydia, who talks about how her eldest daughter's life has been 2 years after she first came on the podcast. We speak about the loss of her mum and how that has changed her sibling dynamic. We also discuss her journey to rediscovering herself. You can listen to Lydia's new podcast, The Reforming Pessimist, here Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
We are now accepting applications for our 2024 TuWezeshe Akina Dada young women's leadership programme! We have Sumayyah, who is a fellow from the latest cohort, to tell us about her experince. If you're interested in applying or would like to learn more, head over here for more details. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Yasin and Xenia discuss decision-making and how it impacts the eldest daughters. They also discuss how they might have thought strict parenting was their parents protecting them from outside harm. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we talk about how sisterhood and community have been a safe space for eldest daughters. We speak about third spaces, the importance of creating safe communities and how different generations value different types of communities. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are delighted to welcome Zita as our guest. In this episode, Zita delves into the less-explored aspects of the eldest daughter role, specifically addressing the challenges of mistreating siblings—an experience many of us share but seldom discuss openly. She candidly shares her journey of acknowledging the difficulties in her sibling relationships, taking accountability, and actively working towards improving them. Additionally, Zita reflects on her decision to change her educational path and provides insights into her current career position. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
We are so excited to launch our media club for eldest daughters officially. We want to use this opportunity to talk about the things we enjoy the most: books, films, theatre, TV shows and more.We will be running a book club and a monthly bonus podcast episode speaking about our favourite hot topics that relate to our eldest daughter life. Be it our favourite childhood film, Matilda, or the Kim vs Kourtney drama, we will talk about it all! Join Sumayyah and Ilhan on this fun and exciting journey. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, the girls discussed rule-breaking and how being the eldest daughter doesn't often give you the luxury of breaking the rules like your younger siblings may be free to do. They also talked about how being pressured to follow the rules can lead to consequences of substance abuse after we gain some freedom. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we have a conversation with MoChunks. MoChunks is a Media Mogulette in the making. We speak about her eldest daughter role and how she juggles many other roles in her life. We discuss careers, education, burnouts and breakthroughs. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Xenia and Yasin look at a confession sent in by an eldest daughter. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Xenia and Yasin speak about some of the stresses that come with being an eldest daughter during the holiday, especially when you are spending time with family emembrs that trigger you. They also give some tips on how to manage these streses, how to prepare yourself to be around family members, self-care tips and creating your own traditions. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Xenia and Yasin look at a confession sent in by an eldest daughter. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, Xenia and Yasin talk about all things friendships. Looking at how the eldest daughter role impacted their friendships and how we overcame it. They also discuss friendship break-ups, how to not take on most of the responsibilities in your friendships and finally, the effects of parents not encouraging friendships from a young age. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
Join us today as we get to know one of our second co-hosts, Xenia. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we look at two daughter confessions and come up with possible solutions Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we discuss how eldest daughters are often referred to as party poopers. We delve into why many of us struggle with relaxing and having fun at parties. We also discuss how eldest daughters may feel on their wedding day. Will everyone let them have the day of their dreams, or will eldest daughters continue being planners and making sure everyone is fine? To apply for the girl dreamer role, head over here. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we look at two daughter confessions and come up with possible solutions. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we talk about the guilt that comes with accepting things from your parents (gifts, money, etc.) and how we can overcome this. We also speak about why eldest daughters communicate differently from their younger siblings. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we look at an daughter confession. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
When did you first realise that your eldest daughter role dominated your life? This week, we speak about how the eldest daughter role dominates our lives. We discuss the guilt that comes with deciding to put yourself first and how to work around that guilt. We also look into the types of roles eldest daughters go into and how to manage a good work/life balance. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
WE ARE BACK!! With two new co-hosts. Join us today as we get to know one of our new co-hosts, Kiran. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Holly. Holly talks us through a step-by-step process of being estranged from her family. We speak about estrangement from both parents and some siblings, the rationale behind her choices and how it has helped her currently. We also discuss aspects of her life when she experienced abuse and financial mistreatment. Finally, we talk about all things self-care and how to prioritise ourselves. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, I look at how loneliness impacts the lives of eldest daughter and how they can work to overcome it. If you need to speak with someone, please book a rant session with us. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Praise. We speak about gendered parenting and how she moved away without feeling guilty. We also speak about careers and how her eldest daughter role helped her in this role. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we speak about two eldest daughter confessions. TW: talk of child abuse. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week Nicole joins us. We discuss dating and moving in with a boy without your parents' approval. We also discuss the work that goes into ending people-pleasing tendencies. Finally, we discuss her career, how she ran for CONGRESS, and her parent's disapproval of this decision. Book a RANT session here. Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we joined Usna, the eldest daughter of six. We discuss how her eldest daughter role has infiltrated many parts of her life, including her relationship with her siblings and how she has never felt like a sister, but a parent, dating life, the guilt of eldest daughter life and more, even after moving out. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, I am joined by Cellia. We discuss being in a long-distance relationship with her family after moving abroad. We also discuss the resentment that comes with the eldest daughter role, the differences in treatment between her and her siblings, career choices and going into the creative sector. Finally, we speak about conversing with your parents about your eldest daughter experiences and trying to understand their point. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Zoha. We discuss life in an abusive household and how education helped her escape. We also discuss how she supported her mother with English classes and eventually helped her secure a job. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week we are joined by Naomi. We speak about how she had to pause her life to look after her younger siblings. How difficult friendships and dating is and also how her eldest daughter role has affected her education. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Ridwan. We speak about all things moving out, friendships, and supporting your family. We also discuss how her eldest daughter role changed after her sister was diagnosed with Leukaemia, caring for her and making sure she also prioritised her own needs. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
After some well-needed break, we are backkkk!! This week, we are on Twitter spaces having some good conversations about missing out on things and how to deal with them. We also discuss how patriarchy plays such a huge part in how our mothers raised us and let their sons be free. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com
This week, we are joined by Yvan, creator of BudgetingBred. An online platform about Yvan's personal finance journey. We discuss how eldest daughters can save, spend money without feeling guilty, and work through the idea of being their parent's retirement plans. Book a RANT session here Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions here Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok
This week we are joined by Jo. We discuss eldest daughter life from a generational perspective. Both she and her mother rejected the role and chose to put their education first. We also discuss life dealing with a high-functioning alcoholic father and how all this affected her education. Finally, speak about having to be there for her siblings when her parents both passed away. Book a RANT session here Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok
This week, I am joined by Sevil, we spoke about her eldest daughter journey and how what it is like to be the outspoken one in the family. How her mother has been supportive of her outspokenness and why it is important to do it for her sister. To read Sevil's blog, here's the link. Extras Book a RANT session here Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok
This week, I am joined by Ridwan. Eldest daughter and Operations Manager at You Press. We speak about You Press, her role within the organisation and what eldest daughter life is like for her. You Press is an award-winning social enterprise based in London. Our projects empower young people (between 16-30 years old) and underrepresented communities to find their voice and be heard. This involves challenging stereotypes and stigmas about young people and communities through the creative arts, media, training and writing. We are committed to working with young people & communities from varied social and cultural backgrounds. Extras Book a RANT session here Email us: hello@homegirlsunite.com Find us on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok
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