Podcasts about obligations

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon discusses Susan Forward and Donna Frazier's book Emotional Blackmail and explains how manipulation can be used to control your choices, relationships, and behaviour. Brandon breaks down fear, obligation, and guilt, also known as FOG, and how these feelings can leave someone feeling helpless, powerless, and afraid to resist. He also explores the six stages of emotional blackmail: demand, resistance, pressure, threats, compliance, and repetition. The episode also examines the four styles of emotional blackmailers: the Punisher, the Self-Punisher, the Sufferer, and the Tantalizer. Through examples of threats, guilt, conditional love, silent treatment, and future promises, Brandon explains how emotional blackmail slowly wears down boundaries and teaches victims that giving in is the safest way to restore peace. This episode is designed to help survivors recognize emotional blackmail, understand why these tactics are so effective, and begin making sense of the manipulation they may have experienced. To purchase a copy of 'Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You' by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier, please click here. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to the Alt Goes Mainstream podcast.We were live from Berlin, which becomes the “capital of private capital” in June as the private equity's industry leaders make the annual pilgrimage to the city for one of the marquee private equity conferences, SuperReturn Berlin.Much of the SuperReturn conference is centered on fundraising. GPs take up every available space — from hotel rooms to Tiny Space cabins that line the parking spots on Budapester Strasse outside of the InterContinental conference venue — to conduct meetings with LPs.With Prosek Partners and former Bloomberg TV journalist Deirdre Bolton as my producer, along with her team, we took over a Tiny Space cabin to hold big conversations with some of the industry's leading alternative asset managers.Our first conversation was with Apax Co-CEOs Andrew Sillitoe and Mitch Truwit.Apax is one of the pioneers in the private equity industry. The firm's rich history dates back to the 1970s, when its founders, Alan Patricof (US), Sir Ronald Cohen (UK), and Maurice Tchénio (France), came together to establish the first US-UK partnership firm in private equity. During that time period, the firm backed Steve Jobs and the first iteration of Apple. The UK and US firms merged in 1981, laying the foundation for Apax.Today, Apax stands at over $80B in aggregate funds raised. The firm underwent its second leadership transition in 2014, when Andrew and Mitch were elected as Co-CEOs, succeeding Martin Halusa, who became Chairman.Apax sits in a unique position. They are a scaled platform that focuses on the middle market. They operate across three sectors, Tech, Services, and Digital / Consumer, infusing a digital DNA and value creation team into everything they do. Their platform spans “a mile wide and a mile deep,” which is what much of the conversation between Andrew, Mitch, and me unpacked.We had a fascinating discussion about the current state of private equity and the middle market, why Apax focuses on “density-driven business models,” why the firm focuses on carveouts in the middle market, what's underappreciated about the middle market, why it's important to “buy in the right neighborhood and fix it up,” and how the firm's core values of “having impact through insight and tenacity” drive every decision they make.BiosAndrew Sillitoe has been Co-CEO of Apax since 2014. He is Chairman of the Apax Global Investment Committee and the Digital Investment Committee, amongst others. He is also a member of the Apax Executive Committee. He has been based in London since joining the Firm in 1998, focusing on Tech & Telco investments.Andrew has been involved in a number of investments including Inmarsat, Intelsat, King, Orange Switzerland, TIVIT, TDC and Unilabs.Prior to joining Apax, Andrew was a consultant at LEK. Andrew holds an MA in Politics, Philosophy and Economics from the University of Oxford and an MBA from INSEAD.BoardsAndrew has previously served on the boards of Inmarsat, King, Intelsat, Orange Switzerland and TDC.Mitch Truwit is Co-CEO of Apax, based in New York.Prior to joining Apax in 2006, Mitch was the President and CEO of Orbitz Worldwide between 2005 and 2006 and was the Executive Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of priceline.com between 2001 and 2005.Mitch is a graduate of Vassar College where he received a BA in Political Science. He also holds an MBA from the Harvard Business School.BoardsMitch serves as a Board member of Openlane and Trade Me. Prior boards include Advantage Sales & Marketing, Assured Partners, Dealer.com, Bankrate, Garda World, Hub International, Trader Canada, Boats Group and Quality Distribution Inc.Mitch serves on the charitable boards of the Apax Foundation, the John McEnroe Tennis Project, Posse and StreetSquash.Thanks, Andrew and Mitch, for a fascinating conversation and for sharing your expertise, wisdom, and passion at the intersection of investing and operating in private equity.Show Notes00:00 Meet Apax co-CEOs, Andrew Sillitoe and Mitch Truwit00:26 Andrew's Origins at Apax00:47 Private Equity Then vs Now01:25 Apax Growth and Values01:45 Curiosity as a Differentiator02:04 Mitch's Operator Background02:56 Why Mitch Joined Apax03:40 Defining the Middle Market04:14 Why Sub-Billion EV Works04:59 Middle Market Talent Gap05:20 Carve Outs as a Strategy05:29 TRADER Corporation - Canada App Turnaround06:12 Scaled Platform Advantage07:14 Digital DNA and AI Wave07:50 Top Line Growth Lever08:36 Add-ons and TAM Expansion09:33 ECI Case Study Roll Up10:07 Integration Over Collection10:28 Exit Options in a Bigger PE World10:59 Building for Multiple Buyers11:45 Fund Size Discipline12:34 Choosing Returns Over AUM13:16 Understanding Firm DNA14:01 Global Micro Investing14:49 Making Global Pods Work15:50 Scale Specialization Flexibility17:08 Where to Invest Now19:23 Buying Complexity for Value20:15 Moats and Investment Committee22:13 Why Middle Market Excites Them23:19 Future of PE and AI at Scale24:50 Impact Insight Tenacity Culture25:54 Obligation to Dissent Story26:55 Aspirational Brand Analogy27:48 Wrap Up and Thanks

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The Financial Sector Conduct Authority says employers who fail to meet their pension fund obligations has more than tripled increasing from 23 funds and 5 430 employers in April 2023 to 75 funds and 16 556 employers as of February 2026. Current data suggests that the severity of arrears is increasing, with late payment interest increasing by 21.5%, compared with a 9% increase in the capital portion of arrears. This indicates that outstanding contributions are remaining unpaid for longer periods and continuing to accumulate interest. Bongiwe Zwane caught up with Manager in the Retirement Funds within the Financial Sector Conduct Authority Takalani Lukhaimane

Original Post Date: July 19, 2024 === Gospel Matthew 12:1-8 Jesus was going through a field of grain on the sabbath. His disciples were hungry and began to pick the heads of grain and eat them. When the Pharisees saw this, they said to him, "See, your disciples are doing what is unlawful to do on the sabbath." He said to the them, "Have you not read what David did when he and his companions were hungry, how he went into the house of God and ate the bread of offering, which neither he nor his companions but only the priests could lawfully eat? Or have you not read in the law that on the sabbath the priests serving in the temple violate the sabbath and are innocent? I say to you, something greater than the temple is here. If you knew what this meant, I desire mercy, not sacrifice, you would not have condemned these innocent men. For the Son of Man is Lord of the sabbath.” Reflection The hypocrisy of the Pharisees was well known, and it's clear that the weakness of the system that was working there was all about rules and regulations. Obligations one must do something or be punished or excluded. And Jesus comes along with such a different message. He's not focused on law, but on love. And it's not then an obligation, but an invitation to freely give to others what they need. And through that giving, receive the most abundant feeling of well being. The temple didn't work. Jesus' message works every time. Closing Prayer Father, we can easily create a relationship based on rules and regulations. And we don't have to have a temple to tell us how to do that. But we do have also is the ability to not have so many do's and don'ts in a relationship, but just have something more flexible, fluid and life giving, understanding, compassion, empathy. And we ask this in Jesus' name, Amen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg discusses our obligation to help the poor, then he talks to a caller about the fate of saved people who get dementia later in life and answers questions about our conscience vs. the Holy Spirit, the government as an analogy for the Trinity, and the inclusivism of the Catholic Church.   Topics: Commentary: We have an obligation to help the poor. (00:00) What happens with saved people who get dementia and then forget everything? (21:00) What is the difference between our conscience and the Holy Spirit, and how can we tell which is which? (31:00) What are your thoughts on using our government as an analogy for the Trinity? (44:00) How does the inclusivism of the Catholic Church differ from how people in the Old Testament were saved before Jesus' cross and resurrection? (50:00) Mentioned on the Show:  The Legend of the Social Justice Jesus by Greg Koukl Orange County Rescue Mission One Way or Any Way? Part 1 and Part 2 by Greg Koukl Submit a question on the Open Mic Line Related Links: Losing Your Salvation in Ephesians 1:14–3 by Amy Hall The Trinity: A Solution, Not a Problem Part 1 and Part 2 by Greg Koukl

Study the daily lesson of Sefer HaMitzvos for day 163 with Rabbi Mendel Kaplan, where he teaches the mitzvah in-depth with added insight and detail.

Study the daily lesson of Sefer HaMitzvos for day 163 with Rabbi Mendel Kaplan, where he teaches the mitzvah in-depth with added insight and detail.

Why does the mishna in Masechet Taanit tell us the five reasons for each of Shiva Asar bTammuz and Tisha Bav ? The halakhic lesson of Rav YD Soloveitchik, and how learning about this time period fulfills Takanat Moshe. Dvar Halakha 29 Tamuz 5786

Links Mentioned in This Episode: Apply for Deep Dive 1-on-1 Identity Coaching/Mentoring. (Work directly with Coach Matt to dismantle performance striving and ground your mind in your true spiritual DNA)Reach out directly at: coachmattgalbraith@gmail.com. Put "Coaching" in the subject line. Limited spots available.2. ⁠⁠Secure the Performance vs. Grace Exchange Field Guide here⁠: ⁠Print version available here on Amazon3. ⁠⁠For more resources on your freedom in Christ⁠⁠Support the Podcast (Buy Coach Matt a Coffee):☕ ⁠⁠Buy me a Coffee⁠⁠(If this small cup of freedom blessed your spirit today, you can support our independent ministry here)Episode description: If your spiritual life has turned into a checklist of heavy "shoulds" and "musts," you aren't walking in grace—you are trapped in religious duty. In this episode, we break down the life-altering shift from operating like a stressed-out contractor trying to keep his job with God, to resting like a secure child enjoying an inheritance. It's time to trade cold obligation for effortless delight.Links Mentioned in This Episode:Read the Full Breakdown & Reply Early: Head over to my Substack to read this entry, join our community, and simply reply with the word "COACHING" to get early access to one of our 4 upcoming premium 1-on-1 slots: ⁠https://freedom4ucoaching.substack.com/⁠Grab the Field Guide: If you want a practical, interactive freedom tool to start exchanging your performance for grace today, grab a digital copy of the workbook: Click here for the digital copy (best for tablets/phones printing at home)Click here for the print copy (best for writing and taking notes w/ a pen)

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The Gemara in Masechet Kiddushin (31a) tells that Rav Huna son of Rav Yehoshua made a point of always keeping his head covered, and he explained that since the Shechina hovered over his head at all times, it is appropriate to cover one's head as a sign of respect. This same Rav Huna is cited elsewhere (Shabbat 118b) as saying that he was worthy of reward for ensuring never to walk four Amot (cubits) with his hair uncovered. In a different context (Shabbat 156b), the Gemara teaches that wearing a hair-covering helps engender Yir'at Shamayim (fear of Heaven) and thus prevent us from sin. It tells that a woman was warned by astrologers that her infant son would be a thief as an adult. She understood this to mean that the boy was born with a natural inclination toward theft. In an effort to avoid this outcome, she saw to it that the child's head would always remain covered, so he would be cognizant of Hashem's presence at all times and thus stay away from sin. In addition, she fervently prayed to G-d that he would be righteous. Once, the Gemara says, when this boy was still a child, he was sitting beneath somebody's palm tree learning Torah, and his head covering blew off. He looked up and saw a cluster of luscious dates. Enticed, he ate the dates, which were somebody's private property – showing how a head covering helps protect a person from the Yeser Ha'ra (evil inclination). (Thanks to his mother's efforts, though, this boy grew to become Rav Nahman Bar Yishak, one of the great Sages of the Talmud.) Similarly, the Zohar (Balak 187a) teaches that one must avoid walking more than four Amot with his head uncovered, because the Shechina hovers over his head. The Zohar adds that this concept is alluded to in the verse in Kohelet (9:8), "Ve'shemen Al Roshecha al Yehsar" – "Oil shall not be lacking upon your head." The Shechina (divine presence) is compared to fire, and Misvot are the "oil," the fuel that sustains its presence in our lives. Covering our heads brings us Yir'at Shamayim so that we remain loyal to G-d's commands. The Zohar reiterates this point later (Pinhas 245b), citing the verse, "Melo Kol Ha'aretz Kebodo" (Yeshayahu 6:3) – G-d's glory fills the entire earth. We acknowledge and give honor to His presence by wearing a head covering. The Rambam, too, in his Guide for the Perplexed (3:52), emphasizes that the great Sages always ensured to cover their heads out of respect for the divine presence. However, as we know, there are many otherwise observant Jews (especially in our community) who do not wear a Kippa all the time. They make a point of wearing a Kippa when they enter the synagogue, but not throughout the day when they go about their ordinary affairs. Is this acceptable, or are these individuals failing to fulfill a Halachic obligation? This question depends on whether we regard head-covering as a strict Halachic requirement, or as a Middat Hasidut – a recommended measure of piety. The Maharam of Rothenberg (Germany, c. 1215-1293), cited by the Orhot Haim and Kolbo, maintained that Halacha does not forbid going about bareheaded, and the Sages who ensured to have their heads covered did so as a Middat Hasidut. This is also the clear implication of the Rambam, in the passage cited earlier, where he mentions that great Rabbis made a point of covering their heads – indicating that this is a recommended measure of piety, and not a binding Halachic obligation. The Maharshal (Rav Shlomo Luria, Poland, 1510-1573) drew proof to this view from a passage in the Midrash which emphasizes how Hashem deals with us far more kindly than mortal kings deal with their subjects. Normally, the Midrash comments, when a king's messenger reads to the masses a written royal decree, everyone is expected to stand, remove their hats, and listen with fear and trepidation. But when we read the Shema in fulfillment of G-d's decree, we are not required to stand and remove our head coverings. The Midrash here clearly implies that there would be nothing wrong with baring our heads – even for the recitation of Shema. The Shebut Yaakov (Rav Yaakov Reischer, 1661-1733) refutes this proof, noting that the Midrash later observes that Hashem does not demand that we hunt wild animals to bring them as sacrifices, but rather commands that we offer as sacrifices domesticated animals, which do not need to be hunted. Clearly, this does not mean that it would be acceptable to offer wild animals as sacrifices. By the same token, we cannot necessarily deduce from the Midrash that it is acceptable to recite Shema with our heads uncovered. Maran (Rav Yosef Caro, author of the Shulhan Aruch), in Bet Yosef (91), brings the aforementioned opinion of the Maharam of Rothenberg, that covering one's head is not strictly required, indicating that he concurred with this view. Elsewhere in Bet Yosef (46), however, Maran appears to imply otherwise. In discussing the blessing recited each morning, "Oter Yisrael Be'tif'ara" ("He who crowns Israel with splendor"), Maran explains that we are "crowned" in the sense that we, unlike other nations, are required to cover our heads. Maran adds that even those who maintain that this is not strictly required, agree that it is recommended as an act of piety. Here Maran clearly sides with the opinion that head-covering constitutes an outright Halachic obligation. Regardless, the Hida (Rav Haim Yosef David Azulai, 1724-1806) noted that in the Shulhan Aruch, Maran takes the position that covering one's head is recommended but not strictly required. In Siman 2, the Shulhan Aruch writes that "it is forbidden" to walk about "Be'koma Zekufa" – completely upright, appearing proud and overly confident. In the same sentence, the Shulhan Aruch writes that "one should not walk four Amot with his head bare." When it comes to "Koma Zekufa," the Shulhan Aruch uses the word "Assur" ("It is forbidden"), whereas regarding walking bareheaded, he writes simply that this should not be done. It would thus appear that although it is proper to wear a head-covering, this is not strictly required. However, the Taz (Rav David Ha'levi Segal, 1586-1667) writes that even assuming that head-covering was practiced in ancient times only as a Middat Hasidut, in modern times this has become a strict Halachic obligation. The Taz explains that since the Christians are accustomed to walk about bareheaded, doing so violates the prohibition of "Hukot Ha'akum" – following gentile practices. Hence, in the view of the Taz, one is required to wear a Kippa nowadays in order to avoid transgressing the Biblical prohibition of "Hukot Ha'akum." Hacham Ovadia Yosef disputes this claim. Based on the comments of the Mahari Kolon (Rav Yosef Kolon, d. 1480), Hacham Ovadia writes that one transgresses the prohibition of "Hukot Ha'akum" only if he does something with the specific intention of imitating gentile practices and resembling a non-Jew. If a person decides to leave his head uncovered in the interest of comfort, this does not violate the prohibition. Nevertheless, in a famous responsum in Yehaveh Da'at, Hacham Ovadia writes that nowadays, one is required to wear a Kippa, for a different reason – because this has become the "badge" or symbol of an observant Jewish man. By wearing a Kippa, one identifies himself as a member of the population of G-d-fearing Jews. Conversely, one who chooses not to wear a Kippa presents himself as being non-observant, thereby inviting suspicion, and for this reason, wearing a Kippa has today become an obligation. It seems, however, that this applies only in Israel, where the decision of whether or not to cover one's head is the clear marker of one's self-identification as religious or secular. Here in the United States, however, at least in some communities, this is not the case, and it is known that not all observant Jews ensure to keep their heads covered at all times. Therefore, while it is certainly preferred and advisable to wear a Kippa – and where a person fears antisemitism, he can wear a cap instead of, or over, his Kippa – one who wishes to leave his head uncovered has a basis on which to rely. (Indeed, in the school where I work, I advise the members of the basketball team to leave their Kippot off during games, because the Kippa would interfere with their playing; since the Kippa is not required as a strict obligation, it may certainly be removed for this purpose.) Nevertheless, wearing a Kippa when eating, praying, reciting Berachot and learning Torah is strictly required. Of course, one must wear a Kippa in the synagogue. In the presence of a Rabbi, it is proper to wear a Kippa in the interest of Derech Eretz (common courtesy). When a person wishes to fulfill the requirement of a Beracha by listening to its recitation by somebody else, he must wear a Kippa even though he remains silent, because he is considered as actually reciting the Beracha by listening to his fellow.

Moving from Obligation to Compassion

How do celebrations differ in their rituals, level of fun & meaning?In Episode #525 of 'Meanderings', Juan & I discuss: where celebration can start to feel more like obligation, a run of weddings for close friends, the difference between meaningful commemoration and going through the motions, what makes effort feel worthwhile and the idea that the most memorable celebrations tend to be less complex and more intense.Stan Link: https://stan.store/meremortalsTimeline:(00:00:00) Intro(00:01:54) Wedding rituals, obligation and finding meaning(00:04:42) Marathon medals and commemorating effort(00:09:03) How much do you really celebrate achievements(00:11:28) Three weddings compared: fun versus obligation(00:19:14) Half marathon, marathon and the Kokoda challenge(00:28:28) Joy, choice and having a strong why(00:35:31) What makes events memorable: intensity or complexity(00:46:46) How to design better celebrations and future plans Connect with Mere Mortals:Website: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/Discord: https://discord.gg/K99e8fysBnTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/meremortalspodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meremortalspodcasts/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meremortalspodcastsValue 4 Value Support:V4V: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/supportPaypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/meremortalspodcast

On today's show, I'm talking about the psychological difference between responsibility and obligation, and why they aren't always the same thing. We'll explore how people gradually lose their sense of choice, why so many remain in situations they've outgrown, and how understanding the reasons behind our decisions can change the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the lives we're building.This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you're looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it.Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | SubstackI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.#Psychology #Duty #Obligation

The key to John 13 is verse 3 - Jesus washed feet "knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands." He served from total security. Not from obligation, desperation, or guilt. From abundance. That's the engine. Freedom from God's full acceptance produces service. Obligation produces resentment. Galatians 5:13-15 (ESV) For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another.John 13:1-17 (ESV)Now before the Feast of the Passover, when Jesus knew that his hour had come to depart out of this world to the Father, having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end. During supper, when the devil had already put it into the heart of Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, to betray him, Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going back to God, rose from supper. He laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples' feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, do you wash my feet?” Jesus answered him, “What I am doing you do not understand now, but afterward you will understand.” Peter said to him, “You shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “If I do not wash you, you have no share with me.” Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, not my feet only but also my hands and my head!” Jesus said to him, “The one who has bathed does not need to wash, except for his feet, but is completely clean. And you are clean, but not every one of you.” For he knew who was to betray him; that was why he said, “Not all of you are clean.”When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you? You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another's feet. For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you. Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.

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Every civilization teaches people how to speak. Far fewer teach people how to refuse. Yet a single word may determine the quality of every intimate relationship a person will ever have. No. The absence of that word rarely creates immediate catastrophe. It creates something far more deceptive. It quietly transfers authority from conscious choice to unconscious adaptation. Every time a boundary goes unsaid, something else begins making decisions. Fear. Guilt. Obligation. Loneliness. Abandonment. The desperate need to be chosen. The terror of being misunderstood. What appears to be kindness may actually be survival negotiating another extension on an old contract. This investigation asks an unsettling question. When you say “yes,” who accepted the invitation? Your values? Or the wound that learned long ago that belonging required self-erasure? Perhaps relationships rarely collapse because people refuse each other. Perhaps they collapse because someone spent years refusing themselves. A boundary delayed does not disappear. It accumulates interest. It returns as resentment, emotional exhaustion, contempt, anxiety, emotional withdrawal, or a life quietly organized around avoiding one difficult conversation. Healthy love and wounded attachment may respond to the same word in radically different ways. Genuine love may experience “no” as information. An unhealed wound may experience the identical word as betrayal, abandonment, disrespect, or war. The difference may reveal less about the boundary than about the architecture receiving it. This moves the conversation beyond communication skills. It becomes an investigation into authorship. Who has been speaking through your mouth? Who has been volunteering your time, your body, your peace, your future, and your emotional labor without your informed consent? If every “yes” nourishes something, what has your life been feeding? Tonight, we examine whether the greatest expression of love is not unlimited access but conscious limitation. Whether the strongest relationships require two people who possess the courage to disappoint each other's wounds without abandoning each other's humanity. And whether the most transformative “no” you will ever speak was never meant for your partner at all. Perhaps it has been waiting for the oldest survival strategy still pretending to be your voice.

Le ministre rwandais des Affaires étrangères, Olivier Nduhungirehe, est l'invité de la rédaction. La semaine dernière, Kigali et Kinshasa ont tenu à Londres la sixième réunion de leur Comité conjoint de suivi de l'accord de paix. Les deux pays s'y sont engagés à désamorcer les tensions, notamment autour de Minembwe, et à élargir le mandat du mécanisme de vérification du cessez-le-feu. Mais cet engagement intervient alors que Washington multiplie les sanctions contre des responsables et des entreprises rwandaises, accusés de complicité dans le trafic de l'or et du coltan issus des zones contrôlées par l'AFC/M23. Devant le Conseil de sécurité, l'émissaire américain Massad Boulos a lui-même mis en cause le respect des engagements de Kigali. Le Rwanda maintient-il sa version des faits face à ces accusations convergentes ? Olivier Nduhungirehe répond aux questions de Patient Ligodi. RFI : On a suivi, notamment au cours de la dernière réunion du Conseil de sécurité des Nations Unies, Massad Boulos, qui a déclaré que la RDC n'avait pas neutralisé les FDLR et que le Rwanda n'avait pas retiré ses forces de défense ni cessé son soutien au M23. Que répondez-vous justement au médiateur ? Olivier Nduhungirehe : Il faut prendre ces déclarations en combinaison avec la déclaration du secrétaire d'État Marco Rubio, le 5 juin, lors de l'audition à la Chambre des représentants. Il avait dit que le Rwanda est en train de mettre en œuvre ses engagements, même si ce n'est pas suffisant, c'est ce qu'il avait dit. Mais il n'avait rien dit sur la RDC. Mais le problème, c'est que les engagements de la RDC font aussi partie intégrante des accords de Washington. Et jusqu'à présent, il n'y a pas le moindre commencement d'exécution de ces engagements. En ce qui concerne Massad Boulos, le problème qui est présent, c'est que l'accord de paix est un accord qui a été signé par deux parties avec des obligations, des engagements sécuritaires. Même les Américains disent que le gouvernement congolais ne s'est jamais engagé dans la mise en œuvre de son obligation sécuritaire principale. À lire aussiRDC et Rwanda «ont convenu de mesures concrètes» sur l'application de l'accord de paix, selon Washington L'accusation contre le Congo est là. Le Congo n'a pas neutralisé les FDLR. Les FDLR sont localisées sur le territoire congolais. Les FDLR, on les retrouve notamment à Walikale. Les FDLR ont dit qu'ils ne vont pas désarmer. Ça, c'est factuel. Pourquoi vous ne quittez pas les territoires congolais comme le dit Massad Boulos ? Est-ce que vous pensez que l'accord de Washington est un accord unilatéral qui ne regarde que le seul Rwanda ? Pourquoi, dans un accord de paix, tout en reconnaissant que l'une des parties n'a pas mis en œuvre ces accords, continue de soutenir les FDLR, continue d'utiliser les drones pour tuer des populations civiles ? Mais dans le même temps, on dit que l'autre partie doit mettre en œuvre ses obligations, comme si c'était un accord qui ne concernait que le seul Rwanda. Donc il faut quand même, à un certain moment, être cohérent. Toutes les deux parties, comme l'exigent les accords de Washington, doivent mettre en œuvre ces obligations. Ce n'est pas le seul Rwanda qui doit le faire. À lire aussiEst de la RDC: Kigali affirme que toutes les parties doivent respecter leurs engagements Les États-Unis ont sanctionné Gasabo Gold et plusieurs autres entreprises rwandaises qu'ils accusent d'avoir participé au trafic provenant des zones contrôlées par la M23 dans l'est de la RDC. Quelle est votre réponse par rapport à ça ? Les États-Unis admettent que la partie congolaise n'a pas mis en œuvre ses obligations de neutralisation des FDLR. Les États-Unis admettent même qu'il y a eu une intensification des attaques de drones. Vous avez vu la dernière déclaration du groupe international de contact qui parle de ces attaques de drones. Mais lorsqu'il s'agit de sanctions, il n'y a que le Rwanda qui est sanctionné. Donc, il y a un problème. Ça nous ramène à une autre opinion sur la médiation. Nous sommes déçus par la partialité de cette médiation. La partialité de plus en plus flagrante, de plus en plus criante, où, malgré les preuves sur le terrain, malgré les éléments que nous avons fournis aux Américains depuis l'année passée, quasiment chaque jour sur les violations quotidiennes de Kinshasa dans l'application de l'accord de paix. Mais à la fin, il n'y a que le Rwanda qui est sanctionné. C'est un problème. Qu'est-ce qui explique cela ? Il faut demander à ceux qui prennent les sanctions. Ce n'est pas nous. Et ce n'est pas la première fois puisque là, on a eu l'armée rwandaise qui a été sanctionnée. On a eu des officiers rwandais qui ont été sanctionnés. Gasabo Gold a été sanctionné par l'Union européenne, on se rappelle l'année dernière, et là maintenant par les États-Unis, ça fait quand même beaucoup. Oui, justement, c'est ça la question qu'il faut poser à ceux qui prennent des sanctions. Si les Américains ou les Européens disaient que la RDC mettait en œuvre ses obligations, je comprendrais qu'ils ne prennent pas de sanctions contre la RDC. Mais le problème, c'est qu'ils admettent eux-mêmes que la RDC n'a rien fait dans la neutralisation des FDLR. Et d'ailleurs, au lieu de s'acheminer vers cette solution, la RDC prend le chemin inverse. Par exemple, à la mi-mars, lors de la première réunion entre les trois parties, donc la RDC, le Rwanda et le Burundi après la prise d'Uvira, l'armée congolaise, les commandants des FARD, ont déclaré le 29 mars à Kisangani qu'ils allaient engager des actions contre les FDLR. Mais qu'est-ce qui s'est passé ? C'est que deux jours après le 31 mars, ils ont plutôt envoyé des hélicoptères à Walikale pour donner des armes, des munitions, de l'argent aux mêmes FDLR. Nous avons donné cette information aux Américains. Donc, il y a un problème dans cette médiation qui fait que la partialité de la médiation américaine ne présage rien de bon dans une mise en œuvre effective des accords de Washington, et aussi ne présage rien de bon pour une paix durable à l'est de la RDC et dans les Grands Lacs africains. À lire aussiRwanda-RDC: un an après, l'accord de paix de Washington peine à se concrétiser sur le terrain, selon un rapport

This lecture discusses key ideas from the 20th century philosopher Peter Singer's book, The Life You Can Save, chapter 1. Specifically it examines his argument for why each of us who are not in extreme poverty ought to devote a portion of our resources in order to prevent the death of at least one child living in extreme poverty. It looks at how he constructs the argument, beginning with a hypothetical case of a drowning child, which practically everyone would say they would save, a real child in China who was left to die by passerbys, and then the plight of children dying of preventable causes in extreme poverty To support my ongoing work, go to my Patreon site - www.patreon.com/sadler If you'd like to make a direct contribution, you can do so here - www.paypal.me/ReasonIO - or at BuyMeACoffee - www.buymeacoffee.com/A4quYdWoM You can find over 4500 philosophy videos in my main YouTube channel - www.youtube.com/user/gbisadler Purchase Peter Singer, The Life You Can Save - https://amzn.to/4a4L11E

This episode is brought to you by MamaSocial, who connect mums across the Netherlands so you actually have a community to lean on. Brunches, mingles, networking, whatever you need — MamaSocial will be hosting something near you. Check out their website and Instagram to find your nearest one now.Have you ever had sex because saying no felt harder than just getting it over with? In episode 3 of DAMSex, Eva sits down again with sex and intimacy counsellor Debby Poort to talk about obligation — or "duty" — sex, and what it quietly does to you, your partner, and your relationship over time.They unpack what's really happening when one partner is having sex out of guilt rather than desire, and what it does to the partner on the receiving end of that obligation — most of whom don't actually want it that way. Debby introduces responsive desire, a concept that explains why "wanting" doesn't always come before "willing," and why that's a completely normal, healthy starting point — especially for parents whose spontaneous desire has quietly disappeared since having kids.They also get into the orgasm gap, what a healthy "no" actually sounds like, how to respond to one without it becoming a wound, and how to keep this conversation going with your partner without it turning into an accusation.This episode is part of the monthly DAM Sex series — sex, intimacy, and connection for international parents in the Netherlands, and honestly, everywhere else too. Brought to you this month with thanks to MamaSocial, supporting our community of mums across the Netherlands.Find Debby Poort: yellowwood.nlGot a question for Debby? Send it via Instagram DM or email damparentingpodcast @ gmail.com

It's vacation season! Tell us where you're headed, and we'll decide based solely on the tone of your voice: is this a dream getaway you've been counting down to, or an obligation you'd rather skip in favor of literally anything else?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode of The Declaration at 250 discussion spotlights a striking—and often overlooked—line in the Declaration of Independence: when despotism becomes systematic, “it is their right, it is their duty” to throw off such government. Martha Minow probes why the text escalates from permission to obligation, arguing that the “duty” language radically reframes political resistance as a moral demand, not merely a justified option. The episode asks what that duty requires, who must act, and what it means for citizens facing injustice today. Minow traces possible roots of this obligation in natural law and the “law of nations,” social contract ideas, and religious traditions that shaped the founders' moral vocabulary—where obedience to rulers was often understood as conditional on legitimacy and higher law. She also raises the thorny question of who counted as “the people” at the founding (noting exclusions such as enslaved people and many Native persons), and how later movements—from abolition to global self-determination struggles—have invoked the Declaration's language to justify resistance. Jenny Martinez extends the inquiry by emphasizing the Declaration's closing mutual pledge—“our lives, our fortunes, and our sacred honor”—as a concrete act that binds a community and helps explain how the document generates enduring civic obligations, not only to oppose tyranny but to carry forward the promise of equality across generations. Connect: Episode Transcripts >>> Stanford Legal Podcast Website Stanford Legal Podcast >>> LinkedIn Page Stanford Constitutional Law Center >> Website Stanford Law School >>> Twitter/X Stanford Lawyer Magazine >>> Twitter/X Chapters:  [00:00:26] Chapter 1 — The Declaration's “duty” to resist tyranny (Series setup) Michael McConnell frames the episode around the Declaration's claim of a duty—not just a right—to throw off despotism. [00:03:31] Chapter 2 — Minow's close read: why “duty” changes everything Martha Minow zeroes in on the fourth sentence and explains why duty is not synonymous with right. [00:05:43] Chapter 3 — Where the duty might come from: Locke, social contract, religion Minow traces intellectual and religious sources, including Locke and Samuel Langdon's 1775 sermon after Lexington and Concord. [00:08:56] Chapter 4 — Who is “the people,” and who is duty owed to? Minow questions who was included/excluded, then connects duty to universal law, human rights, and global self-determination movements. [00:26:41] Chapter 5 — Martinez: duties, limits on revolution, and the “mutual pledge” Jenny Martinez contrasts civic duty traditions and argues the Declaration's lasting obligation is the mutual pledge to uphold its promises over time. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

For decades, a contractual retirement age of 65 was a standard feature of employment in Ireland. However, from 29 June 2026, that position has fundamentally changed. New legislation now gives many employees the right to request to remain in employment beyond their contractual retirement age and continue working until they reach the State Pension age of 66. In this episode of The HR Room Podcast, Dave and Mary are joined by Joanne Hyde, Partner at Lewis Silkin Ireland and employment law expert, to unpack the new legislation, explain what has changed, and discuss what employers need to do now to remain compliant. The conversation explores the practical implications of the new law, including the process employees must follow when requesting to remain in employment, the obligations placed on employers, and the significant legal risks of failing to respond appropriately. Joanne explains why refusing a request will now require objective justification based on the individual employee rather than relying solely on organisational policy. Guest Joanne Hyde — Partner, Lewis Silkin Ireland & Employment Law Specialist Topics include: What has changed under Ireland's new retirement legislation from 29 June 2026 Which employees are covered by the new right to work until State Pension age The process employees must follow when requesting to remain in employment Employer obligations and statutory response timeframes Updating contracts of employment, handbooks and retirement policies Preparing managers to handle retirement conversations confidently and sensitively Common mistakes employers make when managing retirement Key Takeaways for HR Leaders Employees with a contractual retirement age below 66 can now request to remain in employment until State Pension age. Employers must respond to requests within the statutory timeframe and provide clear written reasons where a request is refused. Refusing a request requires objective justification based on the individual employee rather than relying solely on organisational policy. Retirement policies, contracts of employment and employee handbooks should be reviewed and updated immediately. Managers should receive training on handling retirement conversations professionally, consistently and compassionately. Resources Joe Redmond's article on Ireland's new retirement legislation Employment (Contractual Retirement Ages) Act 2025 Lewis Silkin's article on retirement age changes in Ireland Get in Touch If you're not already following us on LinkedIn, we'd love to connect with you. If you have suggestions for future podcast episodes, or would like to appear as a guest on The HR Room, contact Dave Corkery at dcorkery@insighthr.ie or connect with him on LinkedIn. About The HR Room Podcast The HR Room Podcast is brought to you by Insight HR, where we speak with HR leaders, legal experts and workplace specialists from across Ireland about the issues shaping the future of work. If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, leave us a review, and share it with colleagues or friends. We're always keen to hear your feedback and suggestions for future episodes. For immediate HR support, contact Insight HR on 056 770 1060 or email info@insighthr.ie.  

Hosts Vanessa Moss, Allan Lengel and Jim Nardone talk about rats and cockroaches and landlords who fail to keep rental properties up to standards.The panel's advice for renters with issues like rats: Notify the landlord in writing immediately, document evidence, and report the violation to BSEED (Buildings, Safety Engineering and Environmental Department) to initiate a formal, free property inspection. Renters can call the city's Property Maintenance at (313) 224-2733 or (313) 628-2451. Or submit a residential rental complaint through the City of Detroit BSEED Rental Property Page.

It is incumbent upon observant Jews to always appear well-kempt and dignified. Nowadays, this applies to all observant Jews. As representatives of the Torah, we all bear the obligation to look respectable in order to reflect positively on the Torah. An observant Jew must not walk about with stained clothing, scuffed shoes, or a foul odor. People who encounter a religious Jew who appears this way lose respect for the Torah, and reach the conclusion that the Torah does not encourage self-dignity. In fact, the Sages teach (Shabbat 114a) that if a Torah scholar has "Rabab" – dirt – on his garment, then he is deserving of death, because he misrepresents the Torah. I had the privilege of knowing Rav Chaim Kreiswirth (1918-2001), the Chief Rabbi of Antwerp who frequently visited Israel. He was a towering spiritual giant, who mastered the entire Talmud. I saw him once take out a pocket mirror and comb before getting out of a car, to groom himself. He explained that the windows were open during the trip, and his hair and beard became disheveled. He therefore made sure to groom himself so he looked presentable before getting out of the car. Another example that I personally witnessed was the time when I went with a group of students to the home of Rav Chaim Brim (1922-2002) in Jerusalem, for a Torah class, after which we wanted to take a group picture with him. He did not allow the picture to be taken until he first straightened up the room and made sure he looked presentable. He wanted to ensure that people who looked at this picture would not see him unkempt or his home untidy. Hacham Ovadia Yosef, in Yehaveh Da'at, addressed the question of whether or not it is acceptable for a man to use a mirror. The Gemara teaches that a man should not use a mirror, as this is something that women do, and is considered vanity for men. Nevertheless, Hacham Ovadia ruled that nowadays it is specifically a Misva for men to use a mirror to ensure that they look presentable and thereby make a Kiddush Hashem (glorification of G-d's Name). Rav Yissachar Frand (contemporary) shared that when he traveled with his Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Yaakov Ruderman (1900-1987), to fundraise, and they would pass through the train station, Rav Ruderman would have his shoes shined in order that he would look presentable when meeting with the donors. Just as an observant Jew must dress in a dignified manner, he must conduct himself in a dignified manner. This includes eating neatly and patiently. Needless to say, this applies to both men and women. Women must dress not only modestly, but also respectably so they appear dignified. Earlier, we noted the Gemara's teaching that a Torah scholar with a "Rabab" – stain – on his clothing is deserving of death. An alternate reading of this teaching has been suggested, based on the Gematria of the word "Rebab" (204), which is the same Gematria as the word "Sadik." The Gemara thus perhaps refers to a scholar who "wears" piety on his clothing, who shows himself to be more righteous than he really is. Just as it is wrong to appear unkempt and undignified, so it is wrong to appear greater and holier than one actually is. One who projects a false impression of piety is also deserving of death, as he deceives people in an effort to earn their respect and admiration. Finally, a Torah scholar should wear neither very expensive clothing, nor very cheap clothing. He must appear respectable, but should not appear as though he wastes large amounts of money on costly attire.

Aujourd'hui, Abel Boyi, éducateur, Jean-Philippe Cartier, chef d'entreprise et investisseur, et Barbara Lefebvre, professeur d'histoire-géographie, débattent de l'actualité autour d'Alain Marschall et Olivier Truchot.

In this episode, Hannah talks about the 3 forces behind why sex becomes an obligation, the 3 stages of obligation sex in a relationship and the path out of it. Learn more about working with us: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator?=podcast

Coach Ted talks a bit more about the institutional knowledge of the training space and how we honor it by supporting others and being our best today. (Originally aired 02-27-2024)

Coach Ted talks about the proper reverence of the training space and the mindset to succeed every day. (Originally aired 02-26-2024)

Women's Obligation in Birkat Ha-Mazon by Rabbi Avi Harari

In today's episode, you'll meet Dorothy, a powerful woman navigating a challenge that many of us face but rarely talk about openly: How do you know when it's time to stop living from obligation and start living from truth? What begins as a conversation about a specific life decision quickly reveals deeper questions around guilt, self-trust, responsibility, and the courage to choose a path that feels aligned—even when others may not understand it. If you've ever felt torn between what you want and what you think you should do, this conversation is for you. Let's begin. If you'd like to explore what coaching with me could do for your life, please visit the link below to learn more: https://jamilsayegh.com Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not provide professional advice. The views expressed are those of the host and participants alone.

Women's Obligation in Tefilah by Rabbi Avi Harari

Aujourd'hui, Emmanuel de Villiers, entrepreneur, Barbara Lefebvre, prof d'histoire-géo, et Sam Zirah, créateur de contenu, débattent de l'actualité autour d'Alain Marschall et Olivier Truchot.

Can someone have a mass said for a non-Catholic relative who has passed? Does a Catholic have an obligation to baptize a child? A caller shares why they aren't Catholic, and it's Polycarp. This and more on today's Called to Communion with Dr. David Anders

It has been a bit more than six years since then Commandant of the Marine Corps, General David Berger, USMC, initiated what became known as Force Design 2030 (now just known as Force Design). What followed was a controversial change to the structure of the United States Marine Corps intended to address the challenge posed by the People's Republic of China in the western Pacific.Now more than halfway to the original 2030 target, and informed by events from Ukraine and Southwest Asia since 2020, both long-standing critics of the design and other voices are readdressing the changes—and the critique—to see if it remains the right path.Joining the Midrats Podcast is General Anthony Zinni, USMC (Ret.).SummaryIn this episode, retired General Anthony Zinny discusses the evolution of Marine Corps force design, its strategic implications, and the importance of a flexible, well-analyzed approach to military modernization.Show LinksGeneral Anthony Zinni, USMC (Ret.) full bioForce Design 2030Marine leaders drop ‘2030' from name of ambitious overhaul planUSMC Force Design Update from 2023The Marines Must Think Bigger Than Small Units, Real Clear Defense, December 09, 2025, Anthony Zinni & Jerry McAbee , Timothy WellsMore funding for the wrong programs won't fix the Marine Corps, Washington Times, July 10, 2025, by Gen. Charles Krulak and Gen. Anthony ZinniOn the Future of the Marine Corps: Assessing Force Design 2030, CSIS, May 16, 2022What is the role of the Marine Corps in today's global security environment?, Task & Purpose, Apr 19, 2022, Anthony ZinniGeneral Anthony Zinni (ret.) on Wargaming Iraq, Millennium Challenge, and Competition, CIMSEC, October 18, 2021, by Mie Augier and Major Sean F. X. BarrettUSNA lecture: The Obligation to tell the truthChapters00:00: Introduction to Force Design 203003:28: General Zinni's Perspective on Force Design17:33: Critique of Current Military Strategy24:08: Cultural Dynamics within the Marine Corps32:25: Logistics and Equipment Considerations35:40: Strategic Military Logistics38:01: Challenges in the Strait of Hormuz40:37: Marine Corps Littoral Regiments43:21: Logistics and Mobility in Modern Warfare46:49: Lessons from Military History: The 70s and 90s49:11: Innovation in Military Strategy52:32: The Importance of a Structured Development Process56:14: Future Threats and Military PreparednessGeneral Zinni's record of 35 years of service in uniform covers the breadth of service from the Vietnam War to his tour as Commander of U.S. Central Command (CENTCOM) from 1997 to 2000. Following his retirement from active duty, General Zinni continued to serve in senior diplomatic roles, including as the U.S. Special Envoy to Israel and the Palestinian Authority (2001–2003) and later as Special Envoy to Qatar (2017–2019). He is the author of several books, including the New York Times bestsellers Battle Ready (with Tom Clancy) and The Battle for Peace, as well as Leading the Charge and Before the First Shots Are Fired. Additionally, he continues working in academic positions and as a speaker on geopolitics, ethical leadership, and America's role in the world.

This week, Pastor Jonathan continues our series through the book of Romans with a message from chapter 13. While obligation often carries a negative connotation, Paul presents it as something beautiful: an ongoing debt of love toward one another. The more we understand who we are in Christ, the more we learn that loving others is not a burden, but a gift.

Join us this morning for a message from God's Word.

Alyssa Farah Griffin sits down with executive producer Brian Teta to react to Graham Platner's win in the Maine Senate primary, explaining why she believes you don't have to sacrifice your values when casting your vote. She also weighs in on ongoing claims of election fraud in places like California—and why so many Republicans continue to believe the 2020 election was rigged. Alyssa shares why she never thought Spencer Pratt stood a real chance in the Los Angeles mayoral race, saying you don't replace “incompetence with incompetence.” She also breaks down what she believes is driving President Trump's attacks on female journalists. The conversation wraps with a turn to pop culture, as Alyssa reacts to the 'Summer House' reunion, explaining why the Amanda and West drama has eclipsed Scandoval—and why she proudly bows down to Bravo superfan Jennifer Lawrence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you ever find yourself saying yes to something you don't actually want to do, simply because you feel like you should? That invitation, request, or expectation can quickly feel like a requirement, leaving you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from what you actually want. Why does this happen, and how can we navigate it without guilt taking over?   In this episode, I explore the difference between invitations, expectations, and obligations, and why so many high-achieving women blur these lines. I share how obligation quietly creeps in, turning optional things into mandatory tasks, and how that affects your time, energy, and peace of mind. This isn't about saying no to everything. It's about making intentional choices that align with your values, rather than defaulting to what you think you should do.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://carriehollandmd.com/207   Follow me on Facebook and Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/carriehollandmd https://www.instagram.com/carriehollandmd/

The Weight You're Carrying — When the Exhaustion Isn't About the WorkThere's a kind of tired that sleep doesn't touch. You take the day off, sleep well, run a clean service — and still drive home feeling heavy. This episode is for the chef who keeps waiting for that weight to lift with one more vacation, one more good hire, one more season that doesn't crush them — and is starting to suspect it never will.Register for the free monthly Culinary Leadership Lab: a live working space for chefs ready to lead without losing themselves "This didn't start as obligation. It started as love."The Tired Sleep Doesn't TouchYou know the feeling. Solid service, food went out, team was locked in, guests were happy. You did everything right and you still feel heavy. Not frantic. Not chaotic. Just weighed down, and you can't quite name it.Here's the reframe that runs through the whole episode: what if that exhaustion isn't a sign you're weak or burned out or not cut out for this? What if it's information? Because the weight you're carrying usually isn't coming from the work. It's coming from something older than that.Emotional Labor Without AuthorshipThe chefs who show up most depleted almost never identify the right source of the weight. It's the hours. It's the team that won't step up. It's a business that never stops taking. All true. But underneath it, almost every time, there's something else — emotional labor without authorship.Managing the energy in a room, holding the container, absorbing the tension, keeping people steady — that's real work, and it costs something. In a kitchen it falls on the leader invisibly, without acknowledgement and without end. What makes it unbearable isn't the labor. It's doing it without ever consciously choosing it. It just accumulates. And what started as care becomes exhaustion. What started as love becomes weight you didn't even remember picking up. The Chef in the Black ForestYears ago, on a balcony in the Black Forest in Germany, Adam watched a chef step out a side door between lunch and dinner prep. No rush. He grabbed a basket and walked into the trees for 40 minutes — foraging, unhurried, present, like the work and the rest were part of the same thing instead of opposites.That image came home to a high-volume kitchen of ticket stacking and noise, and a belief that slowing down had to be earned. Adam kept telling himself the next job would feel right. Better kitchen, better team, better ownership. The next job came, and the one after that, and the feeling didn't — because the problem was never the kitchen. It was what he carried into every kitchen. He'd confused the weight with the love.------------------Stop chasing stars and start building a career that actually works. Join the National Champions at A-B Tech in Asheville for hands-on training that respects the hustle without losing the soul. Real tools for real chefs .------------------- How We Got ConditionedWe came into this with open hearts. We fell in love with the craft, with the choreography of a kitchen firing on all cylinders. But the industry we walked into had a very specific set of ideas about what dedication looked like, and we absorbed them before we had language to question them. Dedication looked like staying the longest. Commitment looked like absorbing the most. Caring looked like never setting anything down.So we learned to conflate sacrifice with love — to treat the weight as proof of our investment. Nobody handed us a contract to hold other people's motivation as our personal responsibility. It happened through the culture, through the chefs who modeled it, through an industry that rewarded endurance over presence and called it excellence. That's not a character flaw. That's conditioning. What's Actually in the BagThe first step out is naming what's actually in there. You carry other people's moods — you read the room before you read the board. You carry other people's motivation, feeling responsible when someone won't perform. You carry unspoken expectations you never agreed to. And you carry the gap between the chef you imagined you'd be and the chef the business requires you to be. Most of us carry it all silently, as if it's just part of the deal. It doesn't have to be.The Authorship ResetWhen did you stop choosing this? Not when did it get hard — when did you move from *I choose this* to *I don't have a choice?* Because choosing nothing is still a choice, and choices can be revisited. The refrain to take from this episode: this didn't start as obligation. It started as love. Love without authorship turns into obligation. Obligation without boundaries turns into resentment. And resentment is just love that's lost its way.The reset is three steps — on paper, not in your head. One: name what you're carrying that isn't yours. Two: name what you're choosing today. Three: release one expectation you never agreed to. Pick one. Just one. The reset isn't a reinvention. It's a reclamation.-----------------------You wouldn't run a kitchen with broken equipment, so why are you redlining your own body? Carolina Health & Wellness** helps you find your peak with TRT and peptide therapy. Stop grinding through the fatigue. Visit here and get 1% better today.------------Chapters00:00 - Invisible Load 02:31 - Carrying What Isn't Yours 04:08 - The Black Forest Lesson 06:39 - Love and Conditioning 08:09 - Naming the Weight09:35 - Choosing Again 11:02 - The Authorship Reset 13:43 - What We Learned 14:52 - Closing Thanks -----------------Research LinksAB Tech Culinary Program Carolina Health & WellnessLike, Follow & Subscribe to Chef Life Radio Podcast Copyright Chef Life Media LLCStay Tall & Frosty. And Lead from the Heart. Adam.

Father Christopher Mahar earned a Bachelor of Science in Philosophy from Providence College in 2000 and subsequently completed his Bachelor's degree in Sacred Theology from the Pontifical Gregorian University in Rome in 2003. He was ordained a deacon in St. Peter's Basilica in Rome in 2003 and a priest in the Diocese of Providence in 2004. He currently serves as Pastor at St. Augustine Church in Providence, Rhode Island.  In Today's Show: If we don't receive the Eucharist, do we receive any graces/blessings from attending Mass?  How do we tell other Catholic parents not to do Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny? Why isn't Holy Thursday a Holy Day of Obligation? What is the difference between burnout and sloth? Does separation violate the marital vows of caring in sickness and in health? Does a priest need to have his stole on for a sacrament to be valid? What are the different occasions of sin? What is the most effective way to pray for holy souls in purgatory? Why are young children not able to receive the Eucharist despite their understanding of it? And more. Visit the show page at thestationofthecross.com/askapriest to listen live, check out the weekly lineup, listen to podcasts of past episodes, watch live video, find show resources, sign up for our mailing list of upcoming shows, and submit your question for Father!

It took Robin Emdon 10 years to finish a six-year degree. On the 20-minute drive home from celebrating with his brother, he started counting what procrastination had actually cost him: relationships, finances, career, health. By the time he pulled into his driveway, he was furious. He was a trained life coach. And he didn't have the cure. That moment sent him into 900 research studies on procrastination and what he found will completely change how you think about why you delay, avoid, and stall on the things that matter most. Procrastination isn't a character flaw or a discipline problem. It's hardwired into your brain and there's a science-backed way to work with it instead of against it. In this high-energy, deeply practical conversation, George sits down with Robin J. Emdon, accountability coach, creator of GetResultsology®, and host of the GoalBusters Podcast, to unpack the real psychology behind why entrepreneurs stay stuck and exactly what to do about it. This one is equal parts neuroscience and permission slip. You'll leave with a completely new framework for productivity and the clarity to finally stop mistaking busyness for progress. What You'll Learn In This Episode: Why procrastination and productivity are just vehicles and what you're actually driving toward The brain science behind why we're hardwired to procrastinate (and why it's not your fault) The three neurotransmitters that determine your productivity state and how to activate them Robin's Inner Productivity Team: the Conductor, the Scholar, and the Fun-Sized Warrior Why setting big goals can actually trigger procrastination and what to use instead How external accountability can raise goal achievement by up to 33% The Pomodoro technique and how to use it to break patterns and build momentum fast Why the most productive environment isn't always the tidiest one The four questions that cut through any form of self-deception around avoidance How to connect your daily micro-actions to your Personal Life Vision Key Takeaways: ✔️Procrastination is what stops you from living the life of your dreams. Productivity is what gets you there. ✔️We're hardwired to procrastinate. The brain's limbic system is designed for survival, not creativity.  ✔️To get into the groove of productivity, you need three neurotransmitters present: dopamine (the Conductor), acetylcholine (the Scholar), and noradrenaline (the Fun-Sized Warrior). When all three are active, you're in flow. ✔️Goals create obligation. Obligation creates anxiety. Anxiety triggers threat modality which shuts down your prefrontal cortex entirely. Use micro-deadlines and clear next steps instead ✔️External accountability is one of the most powerful productivity tools available.  ✔️One POM (25-minute focused block) is enough to start. You don't have to solve everything today. You just have to begin. ✔️The four questions that cut through any avoidance:  What are you pretending not to know?  What are you pretending not to see?  Where else does this show up in your life?  And what is it costing you? Timestamps & Highlights: [00:00] — Robin's origin story: 10 years for a six-year degree and the 20-minute drive that changed everything [01:09] — Welcome and intro: the Procrastination Slayer enters the building [04:23] — Room 100 and the most useless-but-entertaining fact you'll hear today [05:40] — Why Robin doesn't actually care about procrastination or productivity [08:13] — The Personal Life Vision: what you're really working towards [09:02] — 900 research studies, one cold coffee shop, and a furious life coach [13:20] — What procrastination actually costs: relationships, finances, career, and health [17:39] — Turning the science into plain English and why that's Robin's superpower [19:00] — Why goals can cause procrastination (and what to use instead) [22:12] — You're hardwired to procrastinate: the limbic system explained [26:29] — The prefrontal cortex: where rational thinking lives and why it shuts down under stress [30:34] — The three neurotransmitters you need to get in the groove [31:32] — Meet the Conductor: dopamine and the music of your life [33:29] — Meet the Scholar: acetylcholine and the lost superpower of childhood focus [35:58] — Meet the Fun-Sized Warrior: noradrenaline and productive pressure [38:31] — George's Marine brain, the Fun-Sized Warrior, and "put them away" [39:29] — Environmental design: why George's clean garage unlocks 10 hours of focus [41:39] — What to do when you're procrastinating: structure, next steps, and feedback loops [43:03] — Why we're herd animals and why AI accountability will never replace a human [44:30] — The procrastination disguised as preparation (and the printer Robin didn't need) [46:05] — Productivity meter: how to tell the difference between real work and rearranging deck chairs [54:44] — What to do today: just do something, even for five minutes [57:00] — The Pomodoro technique and Robin's POM system for daily momentum [58:46] — Why goals trigger threat modality and what the science actually recommends [1:00:14] — Victor Hugo, Les Misérables, and the extreme distraction-free environment that worked [1:01:37] — George's 10-minute POM pattern interrupt and how to build from there [1:04:53] — Robin shares free resources and how to connect [1:06:04] — George's challenge: set a 20-minute timer the moment the episode ends Connect with Robin Website: getresultsology.com  GoalBusters Podcast: getresultsology.com/podcast  Instagram: @robinjemdon — instagram.com/robinjemdon  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/robinjemdon Free video course: skyrocketyourproductivitychallenge.com  Free book: reallyusefultips.com Your Challenge This Week: Robin answers his messages. That's the point. If something from this episode landed send him a message and tell him what it was.  And if you have a burning question for Round 2 (because George is already planning it) send George a DM on Instagram. He's building an arsenal for the next conversation. The Alliance: George's community for entrepreneurs who are done with distraction and ready to build with intention. Real strategy, real people, real accountability. 1:1 Private Coaching: Limited availability. If you want George on the field with you, not coaching from the sideline, apply to work together directly. Live Retreats: Immersive in-person experiences for entrepreneurs ready to stop performing and start executing on what actually matters.

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Elbridge Colby argues that the U.S. must prioritize Asia as the primary theater, as China stands a plausible chance of regional hegemony unlike Russia. While maintaining NATO, the U.S. should shift conventional obligations to Europeans, as America cannot handle simultaneous major conflicts. Regarding nuclear proliferation, Colby warns that independent arsenals for allies like Australia or Japan are not a panacea for conventional weakness. Instead, a robust conventional defense is preferred to avoid the dilemma of "going nuclear first" or surrendering autonomy to Beijing'sdictate. (8/8)

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