Livin' and Lovin' in NYC

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which Otterpup joins us as we get uncharacteristically serious and imbue or sex podcast with political meaning. We do a post-inauguration debrief and talk about how the Victator got the wind knocked out of her, Gayle got frenzied, and Otterpup decided he's not a centrist after all, while his parents stepped up guns-a-blazing to take a stand for gay rights, Gayle's pessimism, if the Trump presidency is validating bigotry and shaking some people out of their comfortable belief in prograss, Also: Gayle and Otterpup come out as an immigrants, an unexpected uptick in Hong Kong listeners, and why we want to keep talking about butt-plug sizes and the finer points of gender identity despite it all.

Recorded on a porch in the Lowcountry, in which NuBritt and the Victator come together again to discuss their vaginas, how femme is not equal to sub, why the size of your pussy and labia have nothing to do with how much sex you’ve had, NuBritt’s hermit ways and how she once broke a bed, moving in together on the first date, edging, that time the Victator got the orgasm yips, and most importantly: they both finally learn where pussy lubrication comes from.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in a more innocent time, before the election — in which Dusty and Max join as we talk about male bisexuality, if it’s more ok for ladies to be bi, if dicks rule everything, if men lose more privilege than women by coming out, Prince, Bowie, Marilyn Manson, and why hair metal was actually macho, how the AIDS epidemic put an end to speedos, man-boy love, ancient Greece, Berlin in the ‘30s, passing and not passing, if everything is RuPaul’s fault, and why dating apps are the place to be open about wanting to be shit on. Plus: Don’t forget to like us on Facebook.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which Rina from Indulgence Boutique joins us as we discuss sex toys, the Victator's conversation with Dr. Chris Donahue, penis oriented sex-toy company TENGA's study “The United States of Masturbation,” notions of masculinity as a barrier to cis-male use of toys, Ms. Mayness' trunk full of toys, the lack of friendly sex toy stores outside of major cities, how timing is everything when introducing toys to partners, checking that ego, Kegel detectors, orgasm noises (or lack thereof), ease of orgasms as baller status, and a blow-job hack for the deep-throat-averse. PLUS: a very special appearance from the KPISS landlord.

Recorded not-so-live in Gale's living room, in which Vintage Britt joins us as we discuss if there is a cultural disconnect when it comes to lesbians and the eggplant emoji, the Victator’s and Vintage Britt's "D reset button”, chasing the ick, times we don't want to have sex, why guy-on-guy porn is how Gale knows she'll never be 100 percent lez, which is better for your sex life: freelancing or office work, which came first: the chicken or the D, what lady doesn't like gangbang porn, Vintage Britt and her same sex lover's epic celebrity fan fiction pursuits, and remember: don't fuck Donald Trump!

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which Lucy joins us as we discuss sex in long-term relationships, “givin' out the fake cellphone and name,” defining “relationships” outside of exclusivity, when sex plummets off the cliff of priorities, sex frequency, how Gale needs sex ALL THE TIME, how emotional distance can get you stuck in the lust zone, and how sex is sometimes (shocker!) better in LTRs, the Victator gets sappy in her PMS, stress as a lady-boner killer vs. sex as stress relief, the Octopussy, masturbation and cohabitation, cumming standing up, saving your orgasms, and what the hell "multiple orgasms" really means.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which we're joined by Lia, the founder of a nearly 1800 person strong online queer cruising group and Greta Narbo, sex party enthusiast and data wonk, as in the wake of the Pulse shooting in Orlando we discuss safer spaces and how — if at all — they can be maintained, what “queer” means when the number of groups under the umbrella seems to be forever growing (is the umbrella contextual?), how picking fights on social media is a great way to blow off steam, sex fantasies on the elliptical, solidarity vs. butthurt and how we all f*ck up, plus Lia cruises our listeners. Remember: Don’t be the same kind of a**hole twice!

NEW EPISODES COMING SOON. In celebration of our one year anniversary, we've put together our favorite moments so far. Part two: from our last six episodes, in which the Victator and Isaac discuss vulnerability in dating, transitioning, and life, Jax reveals the true meaning of Jaxism, Robbyn and Isaac talk about sex after body changes, the Victator and Jax consider how farting may equal intimacy, we explore getting pregnant from porta potties, and we touch on “totally okay” incest situations.

NEW EPISODES COMING SOON. In celebration of our one year anniversary, we've put together our favorite moments so far. Part one: from our first six episodes, in which we introduce ourselves and tell you not to take our advice, the Victator discusses her homoflexible love for George Costanza, we discuss the SCOTUS ruling for marriage equality, our kpiss.fm station head tells the tale of tinderBNB, we describe a new way of thinking about cunnilingus, NuBritt recounts her sexy Italian adventure, Isaac describes his transition and no longer accepting what's "fine," and the Victator shamelessly hits on a guest. Part two will be up next week.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which we introduce new permanent cohost, Gale Mayness, whom some of you may remember from our episode on cunnilingus, the Victator reveals that Justin Trudeau plays a very special role in her relationship with her lady friend, friend to Ms. Mayness and fellow group sex enthusiast joins us as we discuss the ins and outs (heh) of threesomes, unicorn etiquette, when to lay your cards on the table, "totally okay" incest situations, and a new and innovative way to use a hotel room bible.

Recorded live via Kpiss.fm, in which Chip, Sugar Tits, and Boomer join the Victator as we all touch NuBritt's breastesies and discuss boobs, nipple play, masturbating in porta potties, idiots on the internet, Backstreet Boys vs. 'Nsync, boobie parties, nipple clamps, boob induced orgasms, sexual post-game recaps, those who like nip play and those who do not, squirting, whether straight dudes can be attracted to the Victator, Chip's break up, vampires and bisexuals on Law & Order SVU, how Queens is hella gay, and the awful attack against a transgender woman at Stonewall. Check out Chip's blog, Boobs of Bushwick and go to A Night of a Thousand Genders, a gala benefit for the Ackerman Institute’s Gender & Family Project.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which Jax pinch hits as Cohost (Isaac's taking a leave) and we discuss scissoring (there's no crying in scissoring), the Victator's comments in Cosmo, LLiNYC's listing as one of the best sex podcasts, intimacy and what that means, farting in front of your partners, dutch ovens, picking your lover's acne, being a timid tinkler (pee!), financial differences in relationships and how to handle them, and knowing what you want in life and how hard it is to talk about when you don't. NuBritt follows up from Nantahala River, NC and gets intimate with our listeners as she discusses big changes in her personal life, how she's sapiosexual, how someone being sexy does not equal sexual or emotional compatibility, that being with honest with others requires being honest with yourself, how she's happiest in pjs with a book, the intimacy of dive bars, lesbians in Savannah GA, and emotional consent.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which the Victator and Isaac and special guest Robbyn discuss the Victator’s post on Dan Savage’s Love Letter of the Day, reusing sex toys with new partners, dating and f*cking after divorce, lesbian bed death – a thing?, when your vagina is a BIG GAPING WOUND, how your sexual interests and desires change depending on who you are with and as you get older, asking for what you want and how that is sometimes easy and sometimes difficult, sex toy briefcases!, height preferences in partners, strap-on dangers, sex after hysterectomies, DOUBLE FISTING IRL WHAT, having sex with your clothes on, public sex, and Young Cecilia’s amazing piece on the Flux Weekly. NuBritt follows up at Large in Barranquilla, Colombia and talking about her marriage and divorce, how love is not enough, slutting it up in NYC, asking new questions, coming out as bisexual, bisexual invisibility, tossing that salad, knowing what you want, accidentally ending up in a relationship cause the sex is good, the minefields of sex talk, the smorgasbord or “plat du jour” of sexual experiences, the greatness of prioritizing your own pleasure, how ass play between heterosexual people is still stigmatized, ggg fundamentals, sexy PSA, and be kind out there.

Recorded not at all live and out of studio (apologies for sound quality), in which Jax Richter and Catherine join us as we discuss mixed orientation relationships, Jax's weird date that won't be repeated, transportation optimisation on first dates, how to ask those things you're not supposed to ask, the butch box, Flippers (The Victator is *Not* a dolphin), Jaxism, and sneaky queers. Bonus content: NuBritt at Large goes deep in Appalachia with her new segment featuring bi-guy John Brown and Nubritt's boyfriend, Sexy Not Swarthy. What do they discuss? Everything, of course! Oh and follow Jax on Instagram @jaxrichter!

Recorded live via kpiss.fm, in which Isaac makes his cohosting debut and Young Cecilia and Lesbian Grandma/B-Movie Maven Lola RocknRolla join us as we discuss vulnerability in recording, transitioning, as well as dating, titties at Motor City, Isaac's neck beard, meeting one's mate via online role play (not even the sexy kind), finger banging at Port Authority (never happened!), generational differences in discovering queerness, sexy lesbian vampire films, drywalling as a new sexual term, U-Hauling (have the young'uns really never heard of it?) queer identification vs. bisexual identification, how bisexuals perpetually get a bad rap, and the importance of queerness in pop culture (GLEE!). Also go to FluxWeekly.com for Isaac's news and culture blog, check out Lola's campy films at lolarocknrolla.com, and Cecilia's sentimental poetry at myriadsofdreams.wordpress.com. Also, the Victator doesn't really hate lesbians (I mean, she is one).

Recorded not quite live from NuBritt's bed, in which the Victator and NuBritt's butts become one, NuBritt signs off (temporarily!), the Victator threatens anyone who keeps NuBritt away, we introduce our new segment NuBritt-At-Large, NuBritt packs, and Victator poops.

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which we discuss orgasms with burlesque performer and drag king Foxy Squire and playwright and slutty man Fred, Victator's flirtatious musical chairs, cis dude orgasms vs. cis lady orgasms, cumming vs. orgasms (is there a difference? the answer may surprise you), refractory periods of men and women, consent between doms and subs, difficulty in making consent talks sexy, how consensual sex does not necessarily equal good sex, Fred's pre-recording hookup, blowjobs, how vibrators and cock rings can be problematic, dogs barking in Piss Alley, full body orgasms vs little orgasms, asexuals and demisexuals, and how you make NuBritt and Victator cum AT YOUR OWN RISK. Also, check out Fred's new play at astronautloveshow.com and Foxy's events and everything at foxysquire.com.

Recorded live via kpiss.fm, in which sexy people Jax and Isaac join us as we yell a lot and discuss butches and transmen and the lesbian milieu, Jax saving the Victator from bullies, Isaac being a good looking dude, all of our articles on Flux Weekly, how "Roey Thorpe is the man," claims that butches are disappearing, hostility from some old guard lesbians about transitioning, how definitions of butchness are context dependent, litmus tests for masc/femme, having sex with people you aren't attracted to, how Jax is the reason Victator is gay, making Barbies and Kens gay-make-out, the multiplicity of identifications, the experience of coming out as trans, the differences in learning about queerness while growing up in Chelsea vs. Upstate vs. the South, college experimentation, realizing that trans is an option--that life can be better than fine, generational and cultural shifts, identifying as fluid, the self-challenge of "if I were coming out now, what would be different?", being a little girl who wanted to be a boy but who liked being a girl but who wanted to do all the things the boys did, the different factions in the LGBTQIA communities, how the LGB have benefited more from the support of the Ts than the Ts have benefited from LGBs, emphasizing difference to emphasize sameness, how comfortable or not comfortable our families are with us, middle aged dyke or American mom or German lady?, how gaydar doesn't translate to other nations, butch bisexuals, how contextual definitions of masculinity and femininity change over time, how the Victator feels inside, being rigid about one's identity or not so much, the shorthand convenience of identifying as a top or bottom, FLUXWEEKLY.COM, did we say that? Go to FLUXWEEKLY.COM.

Recorded live via kpiss.fm, in which friend and sexy queer lady Gale Mayness joins us as we discuss eating the furry tuna taco, that time Key and Peele taught teenagers how to eat pussy, morning wood in film, Michael Fassbender's dick, cumming in one's sleep, sex ed in the South vs. NYC, how damn intimate it is to receive cunnilingus, ethical non-monogamy, how NuBritt and Gale have, um, GONE THERE, anxiety and orgasms and ego, the Victator victating on her dates' faces, feedback during sex, Margaret Cho and manuals on eating pussy, the importance of the warm-up, playing the anatomical double-bass string, preferences for nipple stimulation as evidence of being related, the well-placed nose, oral sex algorithms and the importance of primes, pussy hair preferences, NuBritt's Mediterranean beach tryst, pussy hair dreads, flying uterine lining, enemas: yes or no?, anal sex, santorum and NO SNEAKING IT IN. 

Recorded live via kpiss.fm, in which token-straight-dude Lil' J joins us as we discuss our listeners in Ghana and the Midwest, sex with an ex, double dipping, keeping your numbers of down, Tyler Perry, relationship hos, our future exes at Mikey's Hookup, Victator as philosopher king, using Tinder for a place to crash, more OkCupid etiquette, and the Chlamydia Collapse of 2009.

In which we discuss the SCOTUS ruling for marriage equality, PRIDE, middle America, Ruby Rose, more bi-shit, skinny white bitches, Caitlyn Jenner, etiquette for online dating, IRL dating, threesomes, pooping with Tinder, NuBritt's inability to get a date with a woman, and Victator's worst-date-ever (hint: Hitler). Disclaimer: there is a technical glitch at the 46 minute mark. Just a little music. Winky smile.

In which we discuss Victator’s recent letter to Dan Savage and go on serious tangents about how to be a good ally, trans and cis preferences, the gender binary, being homoflexible, george castanza, bisexuality, garlic knots, the Kardashians, STDs, tops and bottoms, NuBritt’s recent article in Vice, and hoga.