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Send us Fan MailIn this episode we discuss a big situation. Sometimes the decisions we make are prompted by the decisions of our partners. Find out what happened in this episode Support the show
Send us Fan MailWhat's good RRP family…I'm gonna be real… I don't even know if I've actually healed or if I just got better at pretending.I got out of a 4-year relationship about a year ago. It ended BAD — lying, cheating, constant arguing… all of it. I was hurt, but I told myself I was done with that chapter and ready to move on.Since then, I've been working, hitting the gym, leveling up financially… doing everything that looks like healing.But here's the problem…I started talking to someone new recently, and I noticed something in me that I don't like.•I overthink EVERYTHING•I don't trust anything they say, even when they haven't given me a reason not to•I keep my guard up so high that I don't even know how to be soft anymore•And if I'm being honest… I still check my ex's page sometimesI tell people “I'm good”… but I don't know if I actually am.Part of me feels like I've grown.But another part of me feels like I just built better walls.Now I'm stuck wondering…
Send us Fan MailLove Behind Bars — What Incarceration Did to Our Relationship What happens to a relationship when one person is locked up… and the other is left to hold everything together? In this episode of Marriage Material, KD and Coach DTM open up about a chapter many couples don't talk about—incarceration and the impact it had on their relationship. This isn't just about time being served… it's about trust being tested, communication being strained, and loyalty being put under pressure. They get real about: • What incarceration did TO their relationship—the distance, the doubts, the emotional weight • What it did FOR their relationship—the growth, the reflection, and the lessons learned • The challenges of staying connected when life forces you apart • The truth about love, temptation, and commitment when everything isn't convenient Because sometimes… it's not the situation that breaks you—it's how you handle it. This episode is for anyone who's ever had to love through distance, struggle through uncertainty, or question whether their relationship could survive real-life pressure. Some relationships do time together… others fall apart doing it alone. The question is—what did it reveal about YOU? This is Marriage Material.”Support the show
Send us Fan Mail“What's good RRP family… I've been holding this in for 6 years and I feel like I'm about to lose everything.I've been married to my wife for 10 years. We built everything together — house, businesses, kids… what I thought was a solid life.About 2 months ago, my son needed some medical testing done and something came back that didn't make sense genetically. Long story short… I took a DNA test.That boy is NOT mine.But here's where it gets worse…I confronted my wife and she broke down crying and admitted that she had a ‘moment of weakness' years ago… with MY YOUNGER BROTHER.I almost blacked out.I pressed my brother and at first he denied it… then admitted they had sex MULTIPLE times behind my back when I was working double shifts trying to provide.So now I'm sitting here:•Raising a child that ain't mine•Betrayed by my wife•Betrayed by my own bloodMy son is 6… and I love him like he's mine. He calls me dad. I've been there for EVERYTHING.My wife is begging me not to leave, saying it was the biggest mistake of her life.My brother says he was ‘young and stupid' and wants to fix things.My family is telling me to ‘keep it together' for the sake of the child.But every time I look at my son now… I see betrayal.I'm torn between:1.Leaving and starting over2.Staying for the child I raised3.Cutting EVERYBODY off and disappearingAnd here's the real question…If I leave… am I wrong for walking away from a child that isn't mine biologically?And if I stay… am I a fool for accepting that level of disrespect?I need real answers… because I feel like I'm about to crash out.”If you're watching this… I need you to pick RIGHT NOW:A️⃣ Stay for the childB️⃣ Leave for self-respectC️⃣ Cut everybody off”Sometimes the hardest decision in life ain't about what's RIGHT…it's about what you can LIVE WITHSupport the show
Send us Fan Mail In Sickness and In Health Pt. 2 — Brought Back to Life “In sickness and in health” isn't just a vow… it's a reality check when life stops—and somehow starts again. In Part 2 of this unforgettable conversation, KD and Coach DTM open up about the moment their relationship was changed forever… when KD clinically died and had to be brought back by doctors using crash carts. This isn't just a story—it's a moment that shifted everything. Coach DTM shares what it felt like to face the unthinkable in real time… watching the love of his life slip away, with nothing left but fear, faith, and hope. KD speaks on what it's like to come back—to breathe again, to see life differently, and to realize how precious every moment truly is. They dive into: • The emotional impact of experiencing life-and-death in your relationship • How that moment redefined love, patience, and priorities • What changes when you realize tomorrow isn't promised • How surviving something like this can create a bond that's unbreakable Because after a moment like this… you don't argue the same. You don't love the same. You don't take each other for granted… ever again. This episode is raw. It's real. It's a testimony of love, survival, and purpose. “You said ‘in sickness and in health'… but what happens when life actually leaves—and comes back? That's when love stops being a promise… and becomes a purpose. This is Marriage Material.”Support the show
Send us Fan MailWhat's good RRP family…This might be one of the MOST SHOCKING stories we've ever covered.A man finds out the child he's been raising for 6 YEARS… is NOT biologically his. But the betrayal doesn't stop there…His wife confesses the truth—and the father of the child is HIS OWN BROTHER.Now he's stuck between love, loyalty, betrayal, and identity:
Send us Fan Mail“In sickness and in health”… it sounds beautiful in vows—but what does it really look like when life actually tests it? In this episode of Marriage Material, KD and Coach DTM take you behind the scenes of their relationship and open up about the first times sickness hit their household—and how it changed everything. From physical struggles to emotional pressure, they break down what it really takes to show up for your partner when they're not at 100%. This isn't just about being there when it's easy… It's about patience when you're frustrated, strength when you're tired, and love when it's inconvenient. They discuss: • What sickness revealed about their communication • The moments that tested their patience and commitment • How support can either strengthen a bond—or slowly break it • The difference between saying “I got you” and actually showing it Because truth be told… Anybody can love you when you're strong—but Marriage Material is revealed when you're weak. If you've ever had to care for your partner… or wished they showed up better for you… this episode is for you. ⸻
Send a textWhat do you do when the disrespect isn't whispered… it's public? In this fan-sent situation, a listener shares a moment that completely shifted how he views loyalty, trust, and self-respect. He threw his girlfriend a birthday celebration, invited everyone she asked for—including a coworker he didn't think twice about. That is, until her friends quietly pulled him aside and told him the truth: “It's not right how she's playing you.” At first, he didn't believe it. But then the details started adding up—daily lunches, work-husband energy, moving like a full-blown relationship on the clock. The breaking point came when the coworker, drunk and bold, crossed a line and claimed she really wanted to be with him. Now the girlfriend says everyone is lying. The listener is left questioning everything—love, denial, loyalty, and how far is too far when you feel played in front of everyone. This episode asks the hard questions: • How do you respond when disrespect shows up publicly? • When everyone around you sees the truth except you—what does that mean? • Is denial a red flag… or a defense mechanism? • At what point does self-respect require a clean exit, not revenge? • And how should a man handle betrayal without destroying his future? This isn't about crashing out—it's about choosing dignity over destruction. Because in 2026 and beyond, the real flex isn't reacting… it's refusing to be played again.Recorded 3/1/2026Support the show
Send a textIf you only hang with that friend when your partner is out of town… is that peacekeeping—or is that sneaking? In this episode of Relationship Reality, we tackle a situation that hits close to home for a lot of couples: What does it really mean when your partner avoids certain friendships around you—but reconnects the moment you're gone? Is it respect? Is it fear of conflict? Or is it quiet betrayal disguised as “I didn't want to upset you”? We dig into the deeper layers: • If I've clearly expressed discomfort with one of your friends, why are you only seeing them when I'm not around? • Is that protecting the relationship—or protecting a secret? • At what point does “keeping the peace” turn into violating trust? Then we take it further and ask the bigger question: What is grace—really? This episode challenges couples to define: • What giving grace actually looks like (not just saying the word) • When grace becomes permission • How grace should be balanced with boundaries, honesty, and accountability • And whether grace is something you give freely—or something that has to be earned and protected Because grace without clarity leads to confusion… and love without honesty leads to resentment. This is a real conversation about trust, transparency, and the difference between being understanding and being played.Recorded 3/1/2026Support the show
Send a textEverybody loves to say “I didn't see the red flags.”But sometimes the truth is… we saw them and chose to feed them.On this episode of Marriage Material Podcast, Coach DTM and Ya Girl KD get real about two situations from their own past that could've easily destroyed what they were building.
Send a textGrief doesn't run on a schedule — but people love to act like it should. In this episode of Relationship Reality Podcast, we confront a painful question most people are afraid to ask out loud: Can your best friend or partner tell you how long you're allowed to be down and out? Because at some point, support starts to sound like pressure. And “I'm just trying to help” starts to feel like control disguised as concern. We dig into the uncomfortable layers: • When does encouragement turn into emotional impatience? • Is your partner being comfortable while you're hurting a red flag? • Why does your pain become a problem once it disrupts their peace? • And why do so many of us find safety helping others heal… while avoiding our own grief? This episode explores the silent expectation to “bounce back,” the resentment that builds when healing is rushed, and the guilt people carry for not grieving “correctly.” Because real love doesn't rush recovery. And real friendship doesn't put a deadline on your pain. ⚠️ If you've ever been told to “get over it,” “be strong,” or “move on already” — this conversation is for you.Support the show
Send a textAt what point does “loving your spouse for who they are” turn into “settling for who they refuse to become”? Marriage isn't just about love — it's about growth, responsibility, and evolution. And this episode asks a question most married couples avoid because it hits too close to home. We've all heard it: “You knew who I was when you married me.” But what happens when: • effort stops • ambition fades • emotional growth stalls • accountability disappears • and “this is just how I am” becomes a shield against change? On this episode of Marriage Material, we challenge the tension between acceptance and expectation: • Are vows about unconditional acceptance… or mutual growth? • When does patience become enabling? • How long do you wait on “in progress” before admitting nothing is changing? • Is staying loyal to the marriage costing you loyalty to yourself? This isn't about quitting on your spouse. It's about confronting the difference between supporting growth and surviving stagnation. Because real marriage isn't loving someone despite who they are — it's walking with someone who's willing to become better with you. ⚠️ If this topic makes you uncomfortable, it may be exposing a conversation you've been avoiding.Support the show
Send a textWomen say they love the chase — but how long is a man supposed to pursue before it turns into pressure, performance, or emotional exhaustion? On this episode of Relationship Reality Podcast, we tackle a situation that exposes the uncomfortable gray areas men are rarely allowed to talk about. A listener writes in after a night of drinking with his girlfriend and her best friend took a disturbing turn. While his girlfriend was asleep, her friend made an unexpected sexual advance. Feeling uncomfortable and trying to remove himself from the situation, he left — only to end the night injured and ticketed. Now he's stuck with a heavier consequence: the truth he hasn't told. With life already throwing problem after problem, he stayed silent — thinking he was protecting his relationship. But time has passed… and the secret is getting heavier. This episode asks the hard questions: • How long should a man pursue before the chase costs him his dignity? • When someone crosses a boundary, is silence protection — or betrayal? • Is there ever a “right time” to tell the truth… or does waiting make it worse? • And why are men expected to carry discomfort quietly just to keep the peace? This isn't about temptation. It's about boundaries, accountability, and the emotional weight men are taught to swallow. ⚠️ If this episode makes you uncomfortable, it may be challenging the double standards you've normalized.Support the show
Send a text Is Unconditional Love Real… or Just a Romantic Myth? Show Theme: Challenging the idea of unconditional love in romantic relationships—and separating healthy love from harmful tolerance. Episode Objective: To unpack what unconditional love really means, where it does and does not apply, and how misunderstanding it keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationships.Support the show
Send a textFrom Appreciation to Expectation: When Love Stops Being Seen Show Theme: How relationships shift when gratitude fades and entitlement takes its place—and why that shift quietly kills connection. Episode Objective: To expose how unspoken expectations replace appreciation over time, how it affects both partners differently, and how couples can course-correct before resentment becomes permanent.Support the show
Send a textTime is one of the most valuable currencies in a relationship—and how you distribute it determines whether love feels secure or slowly starts to starve. In this episode of Marriage Material, we dig into what it really means to distribute time intentionally and equitably so both partners feel fulfilled—not just present, but prioritized. From work and parenting to friendships, self-care, and personal goals, we unpack how imbalance creates resentment, emotional distance, and silent frustration. We ask the real questions: • Is “being busy” an excuse or a blind spot? • Can time be equal if needs are different? • How do you fix a relationship where one person feels emotionally rich and the other feels time-poor? This conversation isn't about keeping score—it's about creating safety, connection, and sustainability in love. Because in healthy relationships, time isn't just spent… it's invested.Support the show
Send a textTopic: Pride vs. Prideful & When You're More Mad Than the Person Involved In this episode of Relationship Reality Podcast, we unpack two relationship dynamics that quietly destroy communication, connection, and peace if left unchecked: pride vs. pridefulness and misplaced anger. We break down the difference between having pride—which protects your values, boundaries, and self-respect—and being prideful, where ego takes over and blocks growth, accountability, and healing. Then we ask the uncomfortable but necessary question: Can you be more mad than the person actually involved? From relationships and marriages to friendships and family situations, we explore how carrying outrage that isn't yours can escalate conflict, distort reality, and turn support into sabotage. In this conversation, we challenge listeners to examine: • When pride becomes a wall instead of a backbone • How ego disguises itself as loyalty or protection • Why being overly angry might signal unresolved personal triggers • The difference between defending someone and projecting your own pain This episode is a mirror—not a lecture. Because sometimes the real issue isn't what happened… it's who we became while reacting to it.Support the show
Send a textWhat Do You Do When Your Partner Doesn't Support Your Vision? At what point does “self-care” turn into self-centeredness—and how do you navigate a marriage when your partner's priorities no longer align with the vision you're building? In this episode, we tackle the uncomfortable but necessary conversation around support, sacrifice, and shared direction in marriage. We explore what it really means when one partner puts themselves first—and how that choice impacts trust, leadership, and long-term unity. We discuss: • The difference between healthy self-care and harmful self-focus • What it feels like when your vision isn't supported by your spouse • How to communicate vision without control or resentment • When support looks like patience—and when it looks like confrontation • How couples realign when growth speeds are different This isn't about blaming women or excusing men. It's about understanding roles, expectations, and responsibility when two people are supposed to be building together.Support the show
Send a textIn this episode, we talk about why keeping access to your ex keeps you stuck—and how blocking isn't about bitterness, it's about boundaries. We break down: • Why staying connected to your ex delays healing • How “harmless conversations” reopen emotional wounds • The difference between maturity and unnecessary access • When blocking is self-respect, not immaturity • How clarity creates peace—and peace protects your future If you're serious about growth, healing, or your current relationship, some doors don't need closure—they need locks.Support the show
Send a textCoach DTM and KD are back to bring you materials needed for Marriage and to make you marriage material. In this episode we discuss must ask questions for first dates. Support the show
Send us a textCommunication, Compromise, And Non‑Negotiables
The team has a real must hear conversation. We would love your thoughts on this!
In this episode we get DEEP! We would love to hear your thoughts on this
In this episode we discuss if she is protecting her privacy or her secrets within the relationship. Is this necessary or dangerous. What do you guys think
Do you get rid of your friend to make your mate comfortable if sex was involved in the past?
Is stonewalling dangerous is a relationship? See what the squad said about this. Also someone was keeping a major secret from their partner. Listen to find out what it is.
We had some great dialogue about being stable, making a shift in our lives. Someone wanted to know if they were a partner or just convenience. Let us know what you think. Follow @CoachDTM ON TikTok so you can catch us live as we record. #coachdtm #relationshipreality #rrpkeke #yagirlkd #1podcast #relationshipgoals
Live on TikTok at @CoachDTM we discussed coasting in a relationship. What do y'all think about it?
If your kids asked you not to support them in sports or attend their wedding how would you react? Find out what we said on this topic. We also breakdown forgiveness and what it really means #RRP #Forgiveness #coachdtm #rrpkeke #yagirlkd
Poor business etiquette A grown man's playlist Trying to convince KD to get on the boat again! Insecurity vs jealousy
We travel to Chicago as a group and celebrate Coaches Birthday month
In this episode we discuss a girlfriend bringing her boyfriend to a girls night event. What are your thoughts on this.
In this episode we take on a new format and Ill say it's a must HEAR! Should family be cutoff sometimes? See what KD says. Keke brings some heat to the show and DTM speaks for the people.
You've been waiting and we delivered! Here is the second part of how to Elevate in YOUR relationship. We tap in on situations like: - [x] Is it selfish to expect your partner to meet emotional needs you haven't clearly communicated?” - [x] Why do some people feel more alone in a relationship than they did single? - [x] What role should your partner play in your healing from past trauma?” - [x] Can you truly forgive someone if a part of you still holds onto the hurt? - [x] At what point do you accept that you've outgrown someone you once believed was your forever? Let us know what you think in the comments. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!
I promise you this is a must hear episode. We break down how to elevate in a relationship from both sides!
When you hear the phrase “My Truth” what does that mean? Is it being used incorrectly? KD and DTM goes back and forth on this and needs your help on this. What do you think? #RelationshipReality #RRPKEKE #CoachDTM #YaGirlKD #RealityCheck
What does closure mean in relationships? Is it really necessary? What are your thoughts
Is closure a real thing? What does that even mean? Check out this episode where we get deep on closure! What do y'all think? What's your thoughts #RelationshipReality #CoachDTM #RRPkeke #yagirlKD #RealityCheck
If I found out you were sick and about to die, is it wrong if I don't want to tell KD? What do you guys think? #relationshipreality #coachdtm #rrpkeke #yagirlkd #RealityCheck
We discuss how feelings played a role in our childhood but we couldn't talk about it then. Sponsor: Upside This free app gets you cash back on gas! Use promo code CNABD to get an extra 15¢/gal bonus on your first purchase. https://upside.app.link/CNABD
DTM and KD has a major disagreement and works things out. They discuss how to keep a marriage strong and how they did it. It's a must hear. Shout out to our podcast making the top 100 list for relationships on FeedSpot https://www.feedspot.com/fs/tk/GEbRwGIh4%2Bgd4%2BpG18odyhRI%2BrmSTebvGxLjStjIGM8RGsa5ZCDqHBsUFhrczBrREQ7A9Y9S8PYc6eQe3McaxdtQ%2BfiiJvMeWSUhWN7EFQkeRvfhoV3hHEoWFVgUBFrHElEBr6BOHxdZGiBTF%2F1PCQ5SA%2BSRSiYqWODwSwn6SgITH8q3Xx%2Fl5xzXEFgW%2BCP%2F4EH65Y9dKChKFRBKEfZPBdsOCPmeTvD2SyAdURMMWwk%3D Sponsored by: Indulging in Pandora's Box! DTM's new book that drops 4/11/25 on AMAZON and Kindle Fire!
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In this episode we discuss a wife that convinced her husband to try something new, then talked about him when he did. What would you do in this case. Sponsor: Upside! Get money back off of money YOU'RE ALREADY spending. This free app gets you cash back on gas! Use promo code CNABD to get a $10 bonus on your first purchase. https://upside.app.link/CNABD
In this episode see who felt like a side friend. Has this Eve been your story? What did you do
How long do you wait to tell the person you're dating EVERYTHING about you? Who was wrong in this episode, the girlfriend or the cousin? Sponsor: Upside Check out this free app that gets you cash back on gas and other errands! Click this link or use promo code CNABD to get an extra 15¢/gal bonus the first time you make a purchase. https://upside.app.link/CNABD If you're not using Upside You're living life UPSIDE DOWN
In this episode we discuss how communication is broken between men and women. You'll understand what your dog needs or wants but never put in the time to see what your man needs or wants. Sponsor: Upside Check out this free app that gets you cash back on gas and other errands! Click this link or use promo code CNABD to get an extra 15¢/gal bonus the first time you make a purchase. https://upside.app.link/CNABD If you're not using Upside, you're living life upside down. Get upside NOW!
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In this episode our good friend and sister C-R a.k.a Carrie comes through and drop some gems! We bring her out of retirement in the rap game too. Check us out as we discuss raising kids in this day and age.
As we return with Season 3 in a new location: KD, KEKE and DTM Is back with new fun. In episode 1 we discuss a woman that leaves her dude in his time of need to go on a vacation trip that they planned together. What are your thoughts?
THIS IS THE SEASON FINALE AND WE WILL BE BACK IN A NEW LOCATION WITH MORE GUEST AND MORE SEGMENTS AND MORE FUN
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