SaKarra, Why?

I'm back…AGAIN! On this episode I share a breakthrough, a sermon, a prayer, and of course what wisdom I've been able to gather through my own life experiences. Love you for listening and I wish you all the scary success in the world

Happy New Year (standby for 10seconds of singing) then we get into what 2024 feels like to me. What this year means to me and what I've learned from last year. Let's get back to connecting in real life, let's hug someone and love on eachother again. Happy New Year y'all - I love y'all so much for listening cheers to 3 years (I think it's 3

This one is a word! You every feel like you're being used? Under appreciated? Manipulated…whatever?!?! Then you definitely need to listen to this episode. Cause this is going to change your entire experience. Love you for listening

Seriously tho…the amount of men who are married or in serious relationships that have the AUDACITY to slide into my inbox, is out of control lately. Why me? Don't bring that drama over here. And where is your wife? Are you sitting next to her while you DM me “how was your day gorgeous” or did she step out to start dinner and tend to your bad ass kids. Lawd! It's a mess out here, let's talk about it cause I know some of y'all relate. Love you for listening

Howdy Folks! On this “I'm on leave from work” check in, I talk about VALUE! How do you prioritize what is the most important and impactful thing you can do in a day. I reference a practice I learned in the bestselling book “Eat That Frog” and reflect on how my measure of value has shifted now that I have more free time during the day. Love you for listening.

Hanif, our resident elder discusses his ability to find satisfaction and intimacy without sex, now that he is 40. We talk about how sex drive evolves differently for men and women. We talk kink, fetish,libido, foreplay and of course RAISINS

My therapist is a black woman who looks like me, oddly enough. But when I was seeking therapy I wanted a white man. Hanif (a black man) also goes to therapy - his therapist is a woman and he says he is not interested in having a male therapist, EVER! We talk about past therapy experiences, does the race and gender of your therapist matter, can you be friends with your therapist and of course we trail off into side conversations about the holidays, money, and me becoming a nail tech. HA! Enjoy and I love you for listening.

I was nervous about this one but I'm going to share. People sometimes ask me about parenting, being a single mom, and my relationship with my son's father. So here it is, all out in the open. I summarized my experiences over the last decade into 8 minutes. Tell me what you think! Love you for listening.

Life comes at you fast! And as you want more out of life and are responsible for more - it comes even faster. On this episode I detail why I've decided (starting Dec 1 2023) to put everything on pause and how I was able to do that by negotiating my terms. I told my job Im not quitting but I'm also not coming in for a few months. (yes, another sabbatical haha). I told the man I thought I've loved for nearly a decade, I can't yo-yo with my emotions and him another day. I even told my landlord I'm not signing another year lease but I don't intend to move. They all said “no” but I stood firm and guess what - they all agreed. Now I'm on a journey of selfish discovery. What do I like? What do I want? Who am I without interruptions? Idk. Let's see! Love you for listening.

SaKarra, Why? Season 15 Episode 1…They say no one rises to low expectations, but as life continues to “life” and prove you “wrong” - how do you keep expectations high? Cohost and friend to the show Hanif weighs in and shares his personal experience on how his outlook on marriage shifted after a broken engagement. We discuss - how your expectation of marriage changes when it does not happen when you thought it would - how our past choices have changed the trajectory of our lives -what makes a man want to propose and so much more on this deep conversation. This episode is definitely one not to miss or skip a minute.

Heller!!! On this incredible episode of SaKarra, Why (recorded in 2021) we discuss the age limit for pursuing your passion without any capital gain…or if that limit exists. DJ Dana J and I also chat about what new opportunities are available instead of a traditional 9-5 . -the formula for making popular music and how it has been manipulated -why violence and sex are still popular themes in black music -is artistry still appreciated? And do you have to become a big name doing “regular” music before you can promote a more responsible message. At the time of this recording Dana had just released his album Commercials. It's awesome, timeless, and I encourage you to check it out. LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING

This episode is a wonderful discussion of the black educational experience and what unique needs children of color have. At the time of the recording (2021) Dr. Deja L. Jones was “Ms. Jones” and in hopes of opening her own Montessori school and our host, SaKarra was homeschooling her son a year following virtual learning due to the pandemic. Since then Honeypot Montessori is open and operational in Newark, NJ. During the episode we discuss -what is Montessori? - the hidden truth about charter schools…- what happened to black nationalist institutions? -our thoughts on children wearing uniforms? - the state of education in predominantly black communities! And much more! LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING!!!

On the season finale of the body season I am joined by guest, Hannah. We discuss an excerpt from best selling book, “The Body Keeps the Score” and learn how to realize emotional pains and symptoms just like we would heal and treat physical ailments. We also talk about what attracts us to different people and how we keep our own personal standards of attractiveness. Hannah shared weight-loss tips and her personal health philosophy & how she manages to stay snatched even with Hypothyroidism. There are a lot of laughs and great conversation on this one!!! Love you for listening ((PLEASE SUBSCRIBE - it's only 4.99))

Oh hey y'all! This SaKarra,Why episode is a new segment I'm adding to the podcast SaKarra, Why Share? - where I will share a piece of writing (poem, blog, skit, short story, journal entry, etc) that I have written. I have hundreds of filled notebooks and notes on my phone and I'm finally ready to slowly show and share with the world.

On this quick episode of SaKarra, Why we continue our conversation of THE BODY but time it's about Body Part Associations. Is it possible to tell if a man has a “small dick situation” before seeing him naked just based on his personality? What's the deal with tiny titties and fat ass? Let's talk all about it on this ridiculous episode of SaKarra, Why? LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING!!! Please subscribe.

On this episode I definitely open up a lot more than I like to. I'll have a better description for you later. Listen & enjoy.

Hey! On this first episode of the BODY season I kick things off with my “well shit just let me touch it, damn” list. A list of my body parts that people seem to be the most intrigued by and interested in. Overtime this list has really either made me feel super insecure are very confident, depending on the experience - but ultimately I've learned to lean into the compliments and embrace the parts of myself I like most and others like too. Love you for listening

This conversations is gooooooood!!! Inspired by the book and now series “Kindred” Hanif questions if slavery is the reason black Americans struggle to form healthier relationships. He and I share our experiences and observations and try to figure out WTF is the problem really because relationships are suffering. In true SaKarra, Why fashion there is a great deal of nonsense and foolery along the way and I'm happy you're joining us. Love you for listening and please remember to subscribe.

This episode REALLY hit home for me! My guest, a child of adoption, discusses her inability to fall in love with a partner. When she finally does open up and embrace the feelings - you have to listen to the episode to find out what happens but it's NOT what you expect! I talk often on the podcast about my relationship with my father. As I've gotten older I realize how that relationship has impacted my romantic relationships and my friendships. I build a wall! I call it “my turtle shell”. To be hurt after coming from behind that wall really makes me question if being open is worth it. We talk all about these feelings and find time to also talk about poly, Tupac, Pokémon, and threesomes! All in one incredible episode

The relationship season has officially begun! Sometimes relationships aint shit and other times they are remarkable and magical - the journey to and through both is one hell of a ride. For the first episode of what is bound to be a thrilling season, I kick things off with a new segment "Things I heard and Saw Online". How messy has it been on social media and with regular folk and celebrities? What lessons can be learned from these mistakes and what are my hot takes on each? What do you think about what I think? Well only one way to find out and that's by PRESSING PLAY! DID YOU KNOW??? there are episodes of my podcast you cant hear because you didn't subscribe. SMH subscribe today only $4.99/month its very easy and worth it. Visit sakarrawhy.com for more info on everything. Love you for listening.

Sorry to leave y'all hanging…BUT IM BACK!!! Sort of

Hey all! We knew this day was coming. Subscribers now get access to exclusive content. For $4.99/mo you too can join the cool kids table. Your support is what has allowed this podcast to grow and I want to continue that trend of bigger & better. Thank you

October is domestic violence awareness month and I wanted to take the time to acknowledge the physical and emotional manipulation and abuse we often endure in our romantic and other relationships. Also to acknowledge how hard it is to talk to a person who is being abused but we have to try and be there when we can. No video today because this topic makes me too emotional! I told y'all this season was going to be an uphill battle for me. (Sorry) Love you for listening. MORE SaKarra, Why at sakarrafite.com

Hey season 10! The key to this season is communication. There are so many things that are hard to say, hard to hear, and hard to admit - but if we run from these truths we stunt our growth. In this season we dive deep into a bucket full of awkward and discomfort to find the courage and style to make our best attempt at coping with and facing tough conversations head on. Love you for listening.

Can you guess what sign is the true freak of the zodiac? Or what is the astrological sign of most billionaires? Which signs are most likely to be serial killers and other statistics and antics for our zodiac sign finale!!!

On this episode we ask ourselves the important questions like… why is it called Aries (Air) if it's a fire sign? And why is it called Aquarius (Aqua)if it's an air sign? But more importantly why couldn't I keep dating that guy after I found out our life path numbers weren't compatible. Then we end the episode with NAME THAT SIGN! I give a list of attributes and my guest Dexter “Champ So Smooth” tries to figure out the zodiac sign associated with it!!! Love you for listening.

On this episode we dive deep into the 5 personality types and how they are affected by the 12 astrological signs. Who are the extroverts and what signs are more neurotic? What does it mean when trying to start a new job or relationship? The more you know about yourself the better you can navigate the world and find success. Love you for listening!!!

Welcome to season 9! This episode is super fun. We start off questioning if a person's zodiac sign determines who and how they are? Then we play a game of WHAT ZODIAC SIGN WILL GET YOU HOME IF YOU'RE STRANDED ON AN ISLAND??? Hope you enjoy. Love you for listening.

Is this the right podcast for you? Before we transition into season 9 here is a quick checklist to see if you will enjoy listening to this content.

SEASON FINALE! I've loved this dream season and I hope that each of you have found something that has inspired you to go after your dreams. On this episode we talk about the power of staying consistent and how detrimental inconsistency can be to having your dreams realized. Love you for listening - See y'all in season 9 !!!

Hey y'all!!! Today we talk about the top 6 people to have in your entourage that can help all of your dreams come true and we talk about those who are NON FACTORS and why we need to stop giving them our precious energy . Love you for listening

Another mid week shortie! On this episode we GOAL MAP together. A step by step guide to creating a plan and strategy so you can have your wildest dreams. Also a good ole pep talk for you to keep dreaming bigger - want and have more in your life.

Today we are joined by comedian (and my boo) Georges to talk about how and if it is possible to truly conquer self doubt. How do you get pass other peoples opinions and your own inner voice and follow your dreams? Love you for listening!

Hey y'all! Welcome to the DREAM SEASON we kick things off with a candid conversation about why it's not so easy to follow your dreams. What if you don't have a dream? What if you have one but you don't know how to get started? Maybe you started, and it didn't go the way you wanted it to… let's talk about it! Love you for listening

How many times have you been called crazy because of how you reacted to some CRAZY S#!+

This episode I detail my experiences with cheating. I question if it Is it ever ok to cheat…and why I chose to stay after it happened to me. I also talk about the time I “cheated” or was unfaithful and how I felt afterwards. Love you for listening

Are you trying to move on but still haunted by thoughts and maybe even texts from you ex? We can not run from our pasts! On this episode I talk about my ex boyfriends and how they impact my current relationship.

I feel I'm just scratching the surtax's on this conversation cause this is loaded. Should you post your spouse? How often? Is it a deal breaker if one person wants to put everything online and the other person doesn't? How soon into it can y'all start tagging each other? If relationships weren't already enough of a hassle to navigate

This is a short episode… A PSA!!! A reminder to preheat the oven, warm up the car, let the oil start to pop before you put the chicken in the grease, DAMN! A “shortie” episode and at the end I tell you what the TRUE best part of intercourse is…and it's not sex.

What button did y'all press when the ball dropped this year - Cause gahhhhh damn! Just when we thought the worst of it had passed all the things left undone and unsaid are now spilling over in everything we do…I'm going tf back inside - I'm self quarantining and will see y'all next year. LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING!

Whew chile! Y'all ready for this return? You better be cause we jumping right into some $#!+ … do opposites attract like magnets? Should you go date someone your own size? What's tea? Idk but let's find out together. Love you for listening.

If you or someone you know is battling addiction please encourage them to seek help, just not my help! WE ARE BACK!!! But really back this time. Welcome to the ADDICTION SEASON and what better way to kick things off than to talk about the "D", not D-rugs, the other "D". Highly addictive and dangerous and must be taken OFF THE STREETS. I dive deep into my own dickmatization and my road to recovery. I try my best to offer tips on how you too can "Ween from the Peen". For the fellas...I know about being P***y whipped but is there really an equivalent to being completely hypnotized by a sexual encounter for men? Love you for listening. Please SHARE and REVIEW!!!

In my most vulnerable episode yet, I'm back yall!!! Welcome to the new era of SaKarra, Why. ((((Full disclosure I had secret tears running down my face the entirety of this recording (cringe)))) LOVE YOU FOR LISTENING!!!

On the season finale of the Friendship Season…it's a solo episode! I talk all things friendship, a quick recap of this season, and some teasers into changes coming to the SaKarra, Why podcast. Love you for listening

On this episode of SaKarra, Why we are joined by my sister-friend-cousin Nicole. For those of you who know me in real life -- you definitely know her. She is not only the friend I was born with but also the family I chose (if that makes sense). On the episode we talk abut what makes us so close, why we stunt on you hoes with our friendship, and of course the elephant in the room, the beef we had that lasted YEARS and led us to not speak for a crazy long time. This is such a fun listen and really a beautiful episode, Enjoy! Love you for listening.

Quick recap of yesterday's episode Followed by the real reasons so many grown ass people struggle to make and keep good friends! Love you for listening

My ex bf (who I dated for 4 years) comes on this episode to talk about why friends with benefits isn't possible, how we have become friends after healing, and how his friends should have CUT ME OFF!!! This episode is goooood yall. (Take a shot every time he says “weird”). Haha love y'all for listening.

Isn't that what friends are for? Telling you how to live your life, calling you out on your BS, using their personal opinion to dictate what's appropriate for you to do, say, and feel? Jackie joins us again to understand communicating with friends, accepting your friends, and creating boundaries. Love you for listening!

Let's talk about it!!! You wanna go from the friend zone to the end zone??? Well first of all HOW DID YOU END UP THERE? Secondly, if I let you out you better act right, cause if this goes bad it can go REALLY BAD!!!

Whew child! On this episode I sit down with fellow podcaster and my friend Kadi C. We discuss our opposite perspectives on friendship. Kadi says : the more she has grown it has caused her to lose friendships because she is determined to live on her own terms. I say : living on my own terms has allowed me to accept more people into my life, but with clear boundaries. Join us as we explore both methods and figure out why friendship only gets harder to define as we get older.

Saturday Solo Episode!!! Do you let your friends borrow money? Do you expect it back? What about going into business? Has money matters ruined any of your friendships? Let's talk about it, don't be shy lol Love you for listening.