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Have you seen videos of people experiencing a dramatic emotional release and wondered, "Do I need that to heal?" The conversation around trauma, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation has exploded in recent years. Many point to the bestselling book The Body Keeps the Score and the idea that trauma is stored in the body. Others argue that trauma isn't stored in the body at all, but rather in the brain's predictive patterns and responses. So what's true? In this episode, Alisa explores this important conversation through both science and Scripture, examining where biology and theology meet. Together we'll consider what trauma does to the brain and body, why healing requires more than information alone, and how God's design for our minds and bodies points us toward lasting freedom. You'll discover: What somatic release is The difference between trauma being "stored" in the body versus encoded in the brain How trauma can impact our ability to shift from fear, anxiety, and hypervigilance into peace and safety Why tending to the body can help us tend to the mind What Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10:5 teach us about renewing our minds Why healing happens in connection, not isolation How the compassion of Christ invites us into true restoration Alisa also unpacks Jesus' encounter with the man at the pool in John 5, asking a powerful question: Do we truly want to be healed, even when healing requires discomfort, surrender, and change? Practical Ways to Participate in Healing Get close to Jesus Spend time in God's Word until your heart is awakened to His truth and love. Stay connected to God's people Healing happens in relationships with people who embody the love and truth of Christ. Practice daily sacrifice Learn to become comfortable with healthy discomfort. These practices are more than spiritual disciplines—they are psycho-neuro-biological pathways that help align our minds, bodies, and spirits with God's design for wholeness. Scriptures Referenced Romans 12:2 2 Corinthians 10:5 John 5:1-15 Resources Mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Kotler S, Mannino M, Fox G and Friston K (2026) The body does not keep the score: trauma, predictive coding, and the restoration of metastability. Front. Syst. Neurosci. 20:1812957. doi: 10.3389/fnsys.2026.1812957 Connect With Us If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend and leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the freedom and wholeness found in Christ. We'd love to hear from you: What is one way God is inviting you to participate in your healing journey today? Ready to Go Deeper?

In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton talk about something every first responder feels in their body long before they have language for it — the cumulative physical cost of a career spent running toward danger, working through the night, absorbing trauma, and pushing past limits that the human body was never designed to sustain indefinitely. This is not about being out of shape. This is not about poor lifestyle choices. This is about what decades of shift work, chronic stress, sleep deprivation, adrenaline cycles, and occupational exposure actually do to the body — and why so many first responders find themselves dealing with serious health consequences that nobody connected back to the job until it was already significant.

Dr. Deb Muth 00:03What if your diagnosis isn’t actually your diagnosis? What if the fatigue, brain fog, anxiety, and inflammation you’ve been told are normal are actually signals your body is reacting to something in your environment? Something no one ever tested.What if the reason you’re not getting better is because no one is asking the right questions?Today, we’re exposing one of the most overlooked drivers of chronic illness, and why so many people are being dismissed, misdiagnosed, and left without answers.You guys can insert, one of our ads in here, that’d be great.Welcome back to Let’s Talk Wellness Now, the show where we uncover the root causes of chronic illness, explore cutting-edge regenerative medicine, and empower you with the tools to heal. I’m Dr. Deb, your medical detective. And today, we’re diving into the hidden drivers of chronic illness through the lens of functional and environmental medicine.If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with a chronic condition or is struggling with unexplained neurological symptoms, like fatigue, brain fog, numbness, or chronic pain. This episode is for you. So, grab your cup of coffee, tea, or whatever helps you unwind.Settle in, and let’s get started on your journey to deeper healing.Today, I’m joined by Dr. Kelly McCann. A board-certified physician in internal medicine and pediatrics, with advanced training in functional, integrative, and environmental medicine. She’s known for her work in mold illness, chronic infections, MCAS, and complex chronic conditions And for helping patients who have been told everything looks normal. She helps them finally get real answers. Dr. Kelly, welcome to the show. I’m so excited to have you here. Share a little bit about what you’re doing these days, and who you are, and who you’re serving with us. Kelly McCann 02:42Thank you. So, my favorite patient population is patients who deal with complex chronic illness, and I didn’t set out to deal with these kinds of patients, but I kept… needing to be able to solve the puzzles, right? So they would come in, and there would be so many things that just didn’t add up and didn’t make sense, and it started with,it started with just doing functional and integrative medicine, and GI issues, and hormone issues, and autoimmune issues, and then it was mold as a driver, and then it was Lyme disease and the other tick-borne infections, and then all of those patients, many of those patients developed mast cell activation syndrome.Which I’ve now gone on and become an expert in, because they all have it.And all the related conditions with MCAS, the Ehlers-Danlos, hypermobility syndrome, POTS, postural orthostatic tachycardic syndrome, and… The one thing that really stuck out to me over the years of treating these patients is the ones who were willing to take a deep look inside. And see how their… their belief patterns, how their thoughts how they perceived themselves, different traumas that they experienced. If they were able to reframe some of the ways that they were thinking about their illness, about themselves, their relationship to themselves, they were the ones who really healed.And not only did they heal physically, they healed emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I have some patients who started out disabled, and now are running their own companies. One who, again, same thing, terribly disabled, lots of emotional issues, lots of ups and downs, food sensitivities, oxalate issues, and now she’s a medical intuitive. And she’s just doing fabulously, and has blossomed, right? So, this is a missing piece that we’re not really talking about. Dr. Deb Muth 05:04Yeah, I so agree with you. I see the same thing in my practice, and I treat a lot of the same people you do, and you are so right. Like, if we can get down to a deeper level with them, and address the trauma that happened.And it may be a trauma they never even remembered, right? It could be something that’s just seated in their cells and they don’t remember it. And you don’t directly think it’s causing the illness, but it is getting in the way of them healing. If you can address those things, those are the people that tend to do so much better, I think, versus the people who are getting some mileage out of their illness. That there’s a reason they stay stuck, there’s a reason they stay sick, they’re getting something from it, even though they don’t realize it in the moment.So let’s talk a little bit, before we hopped on the recording, you and I were talking about body, emotion, spirit. A little different than what we’re used to hearing with mind, body, spirit. Talk about your philosophy on this. Kelly McCann 06:01So what I’ve really come to realize is that the mind is getting in the way. And we have this perception that our mind is who we are. Right? We really think that who I am are the thoughts that I have every day. That’s me. And when I’m not getting better, it’s because my body is not… Falling in line with what my mind and my will want to do. So we set up this adversarial relationship. And this has been the philosophy in Western culture since Descartes said, I think therefore I am. Where the mind is supreme, and it is the all-knowing, and the body is just a vehicle for the mind. And every… Therapeutic intervention, from trauma-informed therapy, from, you know, wonderful people who have committed a lot of help and given great information. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, Gabor Mate, you know, all of these folks who have done such great work in us understanding trauma I think… The next phase is really recognizing that the body is actually not against us. It is not our enemy. In fact, it is… The body that is speaking to us as the voice piece of our souls and our spirits, that is saying to us, hey. you’re not listening. The path that you are walking down and the way that you are being in the world is not really working for you. It’s not who you are. It’s not who you’re supposed to be on the planet. And we’re trying to get your attention, right? Dr. Deb Muth 07:59Yeah. Kelly McCann 07:59I mean… Dr. Deb Muth 08:00this thing, so I’m gonna talk louder. Kelly McCann 08:02Exactly, exactly! It’s like a little toddler who only can speak in so many words, right? There’s only so many ways that a younger version of ourselves, or our bodies, like, how do our bodies communicate to us? Symptoms and sensations. That’s it. Those are the ways that our bodies communicate. And if we don’t listen to sensations, well, it’s gotta turn it up, it’s gotta turn up the volume, and then we have more symptoms. And then if we’re still like, no, it’s gonna do it my way, it turns up the symptoms some more. And when… We are in this adversarial relationship, we can’t bridge that gap. Can’t bridge that gap, so… What… what happens is thatUnderneath the symptoms and the sensations are emotions. Emotions that have not been processed. Because we’ve been stuffing them down, we believe that they shouldn’t exist, we don’t want to face them, we’re afraid of them, they’re not acceptable, we’re ashamed of them, whatever the reason may be, and they’re stuck in the body. And so the way through is to actually just feel our feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 09:26That’s kind of scary for some people. Kelly McCann 09:28It’s… it’s scary for the… it’s scary for the whole planet! Dr. Deb Muth 09:32For all of this, right? Kelly McCann 09:33For all of us. When we start to feel our feelings, we don’t like it. We’ve been taught it’s not okay. Boys, it’s not okay to cry. Girls, don’t be loud, don’t be angry. You’re a B-I-T-C-H if you do that, right? So there’s so many taboos about feeling our feelings. I have patients who say, I can’t be mad at my father or my mother because I was taught to honor thy father and thy mother. Like, yes, but you’re angry, and guess what?] That ain’t going nowhere until you express it, so… you have a choice. Express it, or hold onto it, and then you just kind of stay here in this space where it’s never expressed. Dr. Deb Muth 10:19Yeah, except in your body, in your physical being, right? Kelly McCann 10:22Except in your physical being. And here’s the magic. Emotions are meant to move through us, right? Emotion. They don’t last for that long!60 to 90 seconds, really? Maybe a couple minutes? Yeah. You really, really feel them. Right? Dr. Deb Muth 10:44Yeah. Kelly McCann 10:46And we’re terrified of that 60 to 90 seconds. Dr. Deb Muth 10:50What might we do to ourselves or to someone in that 60 to 90 seconds, right? I may scream, I may cry, I may not be this person that everybody thinks I’m supposed to be. That person that holds it all together is there for everybody, holds everybody else’s space. So well put together, right? If you’re not that person, then who are you? Are you human? Kelly McCann 11:16Oh, you’re more than human. Yeah, I mean, the way that I would look at it is, I would say, well, you don’t have to put on a show, right? This is really for you. Close the door, lock the… close the windows, get out your pillow. Whatever you need to do. I mean, I have some patients who will write it out. There’s a way to just, like, freeform write, where you don’t actually read it, you just write it out, scribble it out, get it all out on paper, and then burn it, or shred it, or something like that. you can pound a pillow, you can, you know, scream, whatever it is, you can cry. I mean, I think crying is, at least for… for me. Crying is the easiest way to think about it. So, you start crying, you’ve got a few little tears, you know, it’s not too bad, and then it’s a full-on sob, and then at some point, you’re like, okay, I think I need a tissue, right? But it doesn’t last forever Dr. Deb Muth 12:22No, it really doesn’t. I had a physical therapy friend who, when I started my practice, and you know, you start your business, and everything’s just chaotic, because you don’t know what you’re doing, and you have all kinds of people that don’t know what they’re doing, and there’s always a problem. Computer, the phone, the this, the that, blah blah blah. And she brought me what was called a Dammit doll. And I had never seen one, I didn’t know what it was, and it was this really… sturdy doll that didn’t look like anything, that had two legs that you could grab onto, that you could just beat at the table whenever you needed to. And she’s like, this is how you do it. And I was like. oh my god, that’s amazing! And I would use it every couple of hours sometimes, sometimes every day, and I would just be like. And then it was over.Yeah, sure, but it was over, instead of me walking around all day long, carrying all this frustration and not having anybody to talk to about it, because you’re busy during the day. And then if you keep talking about it, it just gets worse. But I could do that, and then I’d be done, and I’d be like, okay, I got it out, let’s find the solution, now let’s move on. Kelly McCann 13:28Exactly! Dr. Deb Muth 13:29Coolest thing! Kelly McCann 13:31Exactly! That is exactly what I’m talking about, Deb. Exactly, that’s so cool. I love that. Yeah, I mean, anger is really taboo in our society. Very taboo. And, And, you know, I have a couple patients that struggle so much with expressing their anger, but it’s important. It’s important. We’ve all had so, so many instances. You know, and… of being disappointed. Dr. Deb Muth 14:08Yeah. Kelly McCann 14:08from our… from… All sorts of situations in our lives. And, you know, nobody gets out of life without any trauma. you know, little T traumas. Everybody’s got some. Even if you have the most wonderful, well-meaning parents, something’s gonna happen, and it might be the parents, it could be just life, but things happen that we misinterpret. And then we think.We make decisions about ourselves, or about our families, or about what’s okay and what’s not okay, and those things cause us to forget who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 14:53That’s okay. Kelly McCann 14:55Because when you look at a 1-year-old or an 18-month-old, they are joy and love incarnate, right? Dr. Deb Muth 15:03Yeah, they are. Kelly McCann 15:05That’s who we are. That’s who we really are. But we forget. We forget, because of all the rules, and all the expectations, and all the disappointment, and all the misinterpretations, we forget who we really are. And… I think… A life journey, especially a health journey, is a way back to who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 15:32It’s interesting, as we’re talking about this, because I think about people who have really traumatic life events, like life and death. They are so lucky that they’re alive. They were in an accident, or, you know, they had this horrible cancer that they survived, and they weren’t supposed to. And they come out very differently, oftentimes. Because they realize how precious life is, and it’s… they look at life now as a gift instead of whatever else we were looking at it before that time, right? But they do truly look at life differently. I… I’m curious always, like, how do they… how do they do that? But yet, if we have a chronic illness.It’s so much harder to do that same thing when there’s a chronic illness versus an acute thing, and you’ve got this second chance. Kelly McCann 16:20Right? I see it as, The chronic illness is this slow decline, right? And because it’s a slow decline, there’s never that. Wake-up call. Which people get in a car accident, in a cancer diagnosis, where all of a sudden, your life changes in front of you, and you have to really reflect. Where I think with chronic illness, it’s like, oh, this isn’t great, I don’t love this. Oh, this is a little worse. But we keep hoping… which is the part that’s connected to who we really are, right? We keep hoping it’s gonna get better. Keep hoping it’s gonna get better, but it’s getting worse, and it’s getting worse. And… And we… as a… again, as a culture, have an expectation that somebody is gonna throw us a bone or a line, and we’re… they’re gonna pull us back out. We’re gonna find the right protocol, we’re gonna find the right practitioner, we’re gonna get… have somebody else help us get out. And… As healthcare practitioners, we can help people get 50% better, 80% better, you know, sometimes 100% better, but not all the time, because it’s an inside job. Dr. Deb Muth 17:42Well, and I like to tell people, too, like, you’re never 100%, 100% of the time. there’s always going to be something that you’re not gonna like. You wake up, you’re a little more tired, you know, you slept wrong, you got a kink in your neck, whatever it is. But I think you’re really on to something here, too, because if you don’t deal with the emotional baggage, the trauma. the person who said something to you in high school. If you don’t deal with that, and you carry that around forever. you kind of keep inviting the same people into your lives to treat you the exact same way. So then you just kind of keep that same pattern going over and over and over again, and you just keep thinking, why am I the doormat? Why does everybody keep kicking me? And when we truly start to deal with what happened, you start to attract those people differently in your lives, and people aren’t walking all over you anymore. Kelly McCann 18:35Right. And… It’s very easy to get caught up in the whys. And that keeps us up here. Right, and what I’ve found with myself and, you know, many of my patients is that We have to stay in the body long enough with the sensations and the emotions to have it, you know, crescendo on the emotion, and then decrescendo. But when we pop out, and we start asking, well, why did this happen, and why am I a doormat, and why am I a victim, and why, why, why, or… or analyzing, or what have you, we… We stop the emotive process. Which halts the resolution, and we don’t actually get to where we want to be. So, you know, I was just talking to a patient today. She’s like, well, I’ve been feeling my feelings, and I’ve been feeling the fear. I’m like, yes, but did you actually stick with it the entire time, or did you start thinking about it? Because we do this, we pop into our thoughts, and we’re like… oh, yeah, I was emoting. You know, like, oh, that made me sad. And then come back up here, and then we realize, oh, we gotta, we gotta… we’re still stuck in it, we’re still stuck in it. And I’m like. Dr. Deb Muth 19:56Like, when we’re… annotate. Kelly McCann 19:59Exactly! Exactly! It’s kind of like that, yeah. And so we stay on this little, hamster wheel. Because we don’t recognize it. The solution is in the emotion. Dr. Deb Muth 20:15So how do people stay in the feeling instead of letting their mind escape to the grocery list, the kid’s to-do list, dot dot dot dot dot? How do we stay in that emotion long enough to kind of work through it? Kelly McCann 20:30It’s a good question. I think… Having the awareness that that’s what you need to do. is the first step, right? Is to really say, okay, I’m gonna, like, put my mind outside of the door, say I’ll be back in 20 minutes, and then really just give yourself the permission to stay with whatever emotion that’s coming up. And it’s practice. It is a lot of practice. This is not… it’s very, very simple. It is not easy for the vast majority of people, and especially if we’re really patterned. So, I actually started an online program to help people learn how to do this. Because it is… not easy. Dr. Deb Muth 21:16If it was easy, we wouldn’t have so many problems, right? We would just move on and keep going, but that’s where we got ourselves into a lot of trouble, is we just recognize, acknowledge, move on, and say, okay, I’m out of it, good, let’s go, next thing, next thing. Kelly McCann 21:32Yeah, which doesn’t work. Like, oh, I dealt with that. I, you know, talked to my parents before they passed, and we came to an understanding. Like, that’s not the same thing as feeling your feelings, because that 10-year-old, that 5-year-old who felt abandoned, or felt… Abused, or whatever it is that you’re feeling, they’re still in there. The adult you made this agreement with your parents that you’re gonna be okay, right? But that kid you still is upset. So…I think the first… the first thing is recognizing that emotions and thoughts are very different, and to learn the difference. So if I say, I feel like blah blah blah blah blah, that’s not a feeling, that’s a thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:26Hmm. Kelly McCann 22:27Right? I feel like, this. I’m in… I feel embarrassed. No, that’s the thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:34That’s not… Kelly McCann 22:35the actual feeling. Feelings are really often located in the emotions. They’re very simple. I’m afraid. I’m sad. I feel terror. I’m angry. I’m enraged. Those are feelings. I… I am mad that blah blah blah blah blah. You know, we don’t necessarily have to know why we feel the feelings. Eventually, we will understand where they’re coming from. But it’s actually just feeling the feelings, and then… oh, I love this one, too. It’s like, well, I’ve forgiven them. I’ve forgiven them for, you know, what they did to me. That’s here. Yeah. If you’ve really forgiven them. it comes from here, and it comes after the feelings. So, we still have to feel our feelings if we’re angry or upset about something, if we’re sad about something, we have to feel them first, and then the beauty is in what’s underneath the emotions. It’s quiet, it’s calm, it’s soft, it’s connected to who you really are. And at that point, then you have a much broader worldview and understanding of things, and you can have compassion for yourself. You can have compassion for other people and their choices. And when I… when it’s… when it’s held in that space, it’s… it’s such a different experience. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 24:18Do you think people can have compassion for others if they don’t deal with their own things? Kelly McCann 24:24It’s, again, it’s… it’s from the head, right? Dr. Deb Muth 24:28Not from the heart. Kelly McCann 24:29It’s not from the heart. It’s not from the heart. And it’s a good try, but it’s, like, a carbon copy of the real thing. It’s not really the thing. Dr. Deb Muth 24:39Hmm. What happens if people walk around thinking that they have all this, you know, great compassion and love for the world,but it is truly just coming from the head and not the heart? Kelly McCann 24:54Then, you know, they’re kind of circling and circling, and they’ll find that the thoughts and the beliefs and the things that cause them to be upset will still be there. Right? There’s a… I mean, I have to admit, I don’t really watch the news, because it is upsetting, right? Dr. Deb Muth 25:14I am. Kelly McCann 25:15And I have a number of patients who are very, very distraught about the state of the world.That’s… not seeing the bigger picture. It’s coming from here. Rather than here. And this is a really hard thing for people to grasp. But when we are triggered, By something outside of ourselves. That is because that upset exists inside of ourselves. So, for example, if I call you stupid, Deb, and there’s no part of you believes that you are stupid, it will bounce off you. You know, like you’re a rubber ball, right? Because it’s not true. It doesn’t resonate anywhere in you, so you can’t possibly be triggered by that.But if I say to you something that, you find hurtful, it’s not because of what I’ve said. It’s because that hurt, that upset, is still alive in you. And that… Opportunity, then, Is there for you to say, hmm… Clearly, there’s something inside of me that needs some attention about this.we’ve… we don’t really think about life that way. Right. We think… That person made me mad. Nobody makes you mad. It’s you. That inside of you. Right? I was talking on the phone last night with one of my colleagues whose daughter is in the hospital, and she’s been in the hospital in, like, the best Children’s Hospital, in Chicago for 2 months. Two months with gastrointestinal issues. And… They haven’t done a CT scan yet. Dr. Deb Muth 27:24What? Kelly McCann 27:25I know. I was talking with another, physician colleague of… colleague of mine last night, or this morning, at the time. How… that should have been done in the ER! Dr. Deb Muth 27:38Yeah! Kelly McCann 27:39At least… At least, or maybe the first day of the hospitalization, they didn’t do an endoscopy until Last week. 7 weeks in the hospital with an NJ tube. Dr. Deb Muth 27:53Oh my god. Kelly McCann 27:54Tube feeds. like, what is wrong with these people, right? So, I was so mad on her behalf. And of course, what I realized, too, is then, okay, well, there’s stuff inside of me, like, I have really… I have some stuff about… what is expected of other people in the world, what is expected of other physicians in the world. Like, these are the worst physicians on the planet. They clearly don’t care. They should all be fired. But there’s stuff in me that is really being triggered by this, that I have… I have work to do about. And I still think it’s wrong. Dr. Deb Muth 28:36I had that same experience last week. I had a pharmacist tell my patient they didn’t need a prescription that I had ordered, because she… didn’t fill it frequently enough because she was using it differently than what we wrote it, which so many of our patients do. It’s a hormone, it’s not a big deal, right? Kelly McCann 28:53Yeah, right. Dr. Deb Muth 28:54And… and he said to her, well, I don’t think you need this anymore. Yes. Kelly McCann 29:00choice. Dr. Deb Muth 29:01Right, and that’s what I said, I’m like… I said, who the F is he? To tell you that he thinks you need this or not? He doesn’t know you, he doesn’t know your labs, he hasn’t been taking care of you for 20 years. I have, and you’ve clearly been using it. And so I called the pharmacy, and the conversation went a little differently on his side, of course, than what the patient explained to me, but I had to sit back, too, and I looked at that, and I was like, why was I so angry that he said this to her? And I understand, it was, you know, he was undermining my authority, my knowledge base, and I knew that right away, but I was still so triggered by it, and… and she was just kind of like. Yeah, I was really surprised he said that, but I figured he knew more than me, and I’m like, so I was coming to see you, I would just tell you, and you would tell me if it was right or wrong, and I’m like. okay, that was a good way to take it, but boy, that instantly triggered for me. But again, I recognized exactly why I was triggered with that, and had to calm down a little bit and all of that, but… I think there’s a lot of that that happens. And, you know, when you work hard to know what you know, and I work hard, and we see other people doing not even the basics, it’s kind of like, what is wrong with the world? Kelly McCann 30:18Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, and there’s stuff there, right? So why is it that I worked so hard to become the best doctor that I could? Because I didn’t feel adequate. And so, when somebody else shows up as inadequate, or I perceive them to be inadequate, that triggers that… my own inadequacy, right? Especially since it was a man, so there’s a man under my your authority. Yeah, that would just really get to me. Yeah, so there’s something around that, so I know that, you know, for me, that might be where I explore it, but yeah, it’s, Life is a journey. Dr. Deb Muth 31:00Yeah, it really is. And I think, too, from a practitioner standpoint, like, we take so many of our patients home with us, like, it’s our job to be the medical detective, figure them out.Help them find the answers, make them feel better. And not that we do it from an eco perspective, because I think most practitioners don’t. They truly do it because they care and they want to make people better, and we have this knowledge and this expertise that other people don’t have. But, boy, it gets harder and harder and harder when you get more and more chronically ill people to help them find the answers and help them be well, especially if they don’t deal with their own house, right? We don’t… if they don’t deal with their house, it’s hard for us to come in and say, let me help you deal with your house. Right. So, how does that fit into some of this? Kelly McCann 31:51You know, that’s a really good question. I had to learn that over time to be able to use my own intuition to say, how much is this person willing to do? And really evaluate their… their willingness to change, their willingness to do the hard work. And… And I… and I had to hone my intuition in order to do that, and now I see… I will see there are people that… they’re happy. in their little merry-go-round, in their whack-a-mole game. And I will do my best, and I will kind of, you know, nudge where I think it’s appropriate, but when they push back, I gotta let that go. I gotta let that go, and recognize that it’s their journey, it’s their life, and I can’t be more attached to their healing than they are. Dr. Deb Muth 32:49That’s what I’ve done, too. That’s what I tell my practitioners, my young practitioners that come in by me, too. I say the same thing. Like, I have some that are really young, and we’re all green, right? And we want to just fix the world, and I’ve got so much I can give you, and so much you can do, and then when they don’t do it, you’re like. what did I do wrong that they’re not doing it? And I have to go back and tell them the same thing. This is their journey, not yours. You’re just here to give knowledge and hold space. And they get to pick and choose what they want to do, and if it’s not exactly what we want them to do, that’s okay, it’s their journey. And every time… and I laugh because I always see my younger self in them, too, but why don’t they want to do it? This is gonna make them so much better! We have this tool! And it’s like… they’re not ready yet. It’s okay for them not to be ready yet. We have to be okay with the fact that they’re not ready yet. And I think as a provider and a practitioner, that is one of the hardest things to do, is to sit back and go, okay, you’re just not ready yet. When you’re ready, we’ll be here to hold you and hold space. But right now, you’re not there, it’s okay. Kelly McCann 33:52Yeah, it is okay. Yeah, actually, one of the women that I mentioned earlier, earlier in the podcast, it took her 18 months to get to the point where I felt like she was ready, and it was one of those things, like. You’re ready! I got so excited, and that’s exactly what I said to her. I was like, okay, here, I want you to read this book. Dr. Deb Muth 34:14And he was. Kelly McCann 34:14finally ready, and I gave her the book called How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can by Amy B. Share, which is just so awesome. And she took that book, and she was like, I am going to do this. And she wrote out journals and journals and journals, and… did lists, and then she would clear them, and then she would clear them. She got so much better, and then it was, like. Biofield tuning, and she did, Gupta, and Amya Piggin’s work, and, you know, so many other things. And then she was doing really well, 80% better, eating all sorts of foods, and there was still this little, like. Mmm, something’s still missing. Something’s still missing. Not quite where I want to be. I still have some mood issues. And then she came and joined my Unforgetting Project program. And that was the missing piece for her. This… whole thing that we’re talking about, like, just feeling the feelings was really her missing piece, because she was clearing, you know, with using EFT, but it wasn’t working anymore, because she actually was bypassing feeling her feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 35:38Hmm. Kelly McCann 35:39So I, you know, these programs, the nervous system programs, the limbic system programs, they are fantastic, and they’re super, super helpful. And then there comes a point in time where we have to shift gears, and we have to go deeper. But it… all of those programs get people, if they’re willing to put in the time and effort, get people to the place where, like, okay, now I gotta go in. Even deeper. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 36:07And that can be scary for people. That can be really frightening. I did a 10-day women’s retreat in Spain, with a priestess program, and I had no clue what I was doing. I was going to my first women’s retreat in Spain, no clue, but I had to do. Kelly McCann 36:23It sounds fantastic. Dr. Deb Muth 36:25Fantastic, right? And and when I got there, it was a lot of shamanic work, deep work, and, as we’re all… there’s, like, 30 of us women going through, and all different ages, going through things. And reliving our past as a child, and reliving all these different pieces of us as women that we’ve left behind someplace else. We’ve lost. And, And just sitting in… I still remember it to this day, you know, the crying, the sobbing, the anger, the screaming, the stomping. the silence. Like, everybody had a different way of dealing with those emotions coming out, and we had to be silent from, 10 at night till 10 in the morning. You couldn’t say anything to anybody. And, and that was a little challenging for a lot of us. But it gave you that time that after you went through one of these processes. you could process. You could just sit with those feelings, sit with what came up for you, journal. And it was a really incredible time to watch a lot of women just blossom into a new version of themselves, you know? Their old version, but a new version. A healed version of themselves, in a lot of ways, yeah. Kelly McCann 37:45So what… in the languaging that I’ve come up with, it’s the, unforgetting, right? So it’s actually the remembered self, because we have let go of the things that caused us to forget. So we have unforgotten who we really are, because As you’re right, it’s… it is not new, it’s just remembered, or unforgotten. Dr. Deb Muth 38:12Yeah. Yeah. That’s really awesome. For somebody that’s listening to us have this conversation, and they’re kind of thinking, this all sounds great, but I have no clue where to start with something like this, what kind of recommendations would you give to them? Kelly McCann 38:29Well, I actually have an online program. And… it’s, it’s a 9-week online program, and…What you’re doing in community is learning how to Feel your feelings, and how to understand them, and different access points in to them, and doing it in a community, which is terrifying for some people when they start, but at the same time, it is the most loving container Because these people are also on their complex chronic illness healing journey. And they have chosen themselves, and chosen to show up, and chosen to show up for 9 weeks, which is a long time, but it’s also this beautiful, sacred time. And, half of the class is lecture, sharing, and then half of the class we spend in trios. Which means, my staff divvy up people into groups of three, and then there… each trio goes through a process. They all do the same process.And you do it 3 times, so you have a chance to be, a different role in each iteration that you go through. So one role is the explorer. Those are the people who are actually just feeling the feelings. And exploring what’s going on inside of them. One person is what we call the companion, they’re kind of like the… the, not really the guide or the therapist, but they’re just holding space with them, maybe giving some prompts to help them work through the process. And there’s a handout that works through the process, and then there’s the third person whom is the anchor. And the anchor is holding that loving battery. And it just sets up this…situation where you’re held in such an embrace that you’re able to express your feelings. And one of the things I learned early on was that vulnerability leads to intimacy. And so, when you’re vulnerable with somebody else, they feel… closer to you, and they feel more capable of being vulnerable with you, because you’ve trusted them, right? So, it builds this level of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in the community, and then each time you do your trio with somebody, with new people, often. Dr. Deb Muth 41:16time. Kelly McCann 41:17And it’s a really, really special program where you’re practicing this, and you’re doing homework, so you take the things that you learned from the class, and then you go home and you practice it with yourself. So that’s what I have come up with to help people start to really learn how to do this. And then it’s gonna grow from there. So I have a foundational class right now. We’re on… we just started our second cohort, And then eventually there will be a second-tier class, and workshops, and the other thing that I’m doing is one-on-one, trainings with… what one-on-one… I call them unforgetting journeys with people. So, you know how you go to a therapist, and you’re in the middle of a story, in the middle of sobbing, and they’re like, oh, well, that’s 50 minutes, it’s Here’s your tissue, we’ll see you next week. Dr. Deb Muth 42:12Yes. Kelly McCann 42:13Yeah, so painful. Dr. Deb Muth 42:16Oh, bad. Kelly McCann 42:16So painful, and I understand, like, we have the same thing, too, as physicians, like, oh, I’m so sorry, your time is up, I gotta go, I have more patients waiting. The unforgetting journey, I don’t have a clock. Dr. Deb Muth 42:29Mmm. Kelly McCann 42:30It’s… we go until you feel complete. And for most people, it’s two and a half, three hours. Dr. Deb Muth 42:37Wow. Kelly McCann 42:37To really process through the emotions that are coming up. Dr. Deb Muth 42:43to get… Kelly McCann 42:43To the point where you’re… they feel… Okay. I feel… I feel complete for today. Dr. Deb Muth 42:52For now. Kelly McCann 42:53For now. Dr. Deb Muth 42:54So the next layer, kind of. shows itself, right? Yeah. Kelly McCann 42:59Yeah, yeah. And for now, the Unforgetting Journeys are for people who have gone through the program, or are in the program, because you really need to… you have to have the skills. Dr. Deb Muth 43:11So, if somebody’s interested in your online program, how do they get in touch with you? Kelly McCann 43:17The website is unforgettingproject.com. And you can sign up right there. The next cohort will start May 20th. It’ll be a Wednesday evening. From 4.30 to 6.30 Pacific time, so I tried to make it so as many people on both sides of the continent could make it. I know it’s a little late for East Coast, but, yeah. And then, you know, every month or two, we’ll start a new cohort, so if you’re interested, and if those… that time doesn’t work for you. You know, I did Fridays initially, I’m doing Mondays, this iteration. We’ll try, other dates and times for people, and try and get a few more dates, on the calendar, so that people have some options. But yeah, that would be my suggestion. You can sign up for our email list, and we’ll be sure to let you know all the happenings at the Unforgetting Project. Dr. Deb Muth 44:17That’s awesome. And for those of you who might be driving or didn’t catch that, we will have it in the show notes as well, so that you can jot it down, check it out, if it sounds like it’s something that really resonates with you. Dr. Kelly, thank you so much for your time tonight. Is there any last words you want to leave with our listeners? Kelly McCann 44:35Of course, of course. There’s always hope. And that hope that burns inside you, that…There is a different life… a different life waiting for you. That is your spirit. That is your soul. Talking to you, and spurring you on. And my encouragement is to really listen to that. Because then you will find your way to people like Dr. Deb, and other practitioners who have heart, who have the tools and the capacity to help you on the physical world journey, and then… You know, my other encouragement would be, really listen to your body. Consider the possibility with curiosity that it is on your side. And if it’s on your side, and it’s talking to you and communicating to you, what might it be saying that it needs from you? Dr. Deb Muth 45:43I love that, that’s awesome. Thank you so much for your time today. Kelly McCann 45:47You’re welcome, my pleasure. I’m so happy to speak with you and to talk with your, audience. I think it’s wonderful. Dr. Deb Muth 45:54Thank you. Boom. Wow, what an episode we just had with Dr. Kelly McCann. This is incredible. It’s a completely different way for us to think about chronic illness, and think about what our body’s actually going through, and how we can repair it from a different aspect. So, thank you for joining me today on Let’s Talk Wellness Now. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who’s been searching for answers and hasn’t found them yet. And if you’re enjoying our episodes of Let’s Talk Wellness now, we would love to ask the biggest favor you could do for us, which is like and subscribe and share. It goes a long way for us getting our podcasts and our episodes out into the hands of so many people Who need to hear these messages. So, if you’re feeling inclined to do that, we would love that, that affirmation from you guys. So, remember, wellness isn’t just about feeling good, it’s about thriving in every area of your life. If you’re ready to explore the root cause medicine. We can help you. Visit serenityHealthCarecenter.com or Dr. Kelly McCann, and until next time, I’m Dr. Deb, reminding you to take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Be well, and we will see you on the next episode. The post Episode 270 – Chronic Symptoms Are a Hidden Message: How to Listen and Finally Heal | Dr. Kelly McCann first appeared on Let's Talk Wellness Now.

In Episode 334 of Everyday Injustice, host David Greenwald speaks with Massachusetts criminal defense attorney Ernie Stone about the growing importance of trauma-informed criminal defense and why understanding clients' life experiences is essential to effective representation. Drawing on nearly two decades of legal practice, Stone argues that what is often called “trauma-informed” lawyering should simply be considered good lawyering, emphasizing that attorneys must understand how trauma shapes communication, memory, decision-making, and trust. The conversation explores the prevalence of trauma among people involved in the criminal legal system and the challenges attorneys face when clients struggle to tell their stories in a linear fashion or respond predictably under stress. Stone explains that criminal charges themselves can be traumatic events, particularly for individuals already facing housing instability, mental health challenges, substance use disorders, or other forms of adversity. He discusses how lawyers can better serve clients by recognizing trauma symptoms and adjusting their communication strategies accordingly. Greenwald and Stone also examine the rise of holistic defense models that combine legal representation with social services, housing assistance, mental health support, and other interventions designed to address the root causes that often bring people into repeated contact with the justice system. While acknowledging resource limitations facing public defender offices across the country, Stone argues that investing in supportive services is both more humane and more cost-effective than relying on incarceration as a substitute for social policy. The episode concludes with a broader discussion about empathy, legal education, and professional responsibility. Stone contends that understanding trauma should be viewed as an ethical obligation for attorneys, much like technological competence has become a professional requirement. For listeners interested in learning more, he recommends The Body Keeps the Score as an accessible introduction to trauma research. Together, Greenwald and Stone make the case that a more trauma-informed approach can improve outcomes not only for defendants, but for the justice system as a whole.

Stacy talks with psychotherapist Esin Pinarli about how trauma, attachment wounds, and early life experiences continue to shape our relationships, reactions, and sense of self long after the original event has passed. They explore nervous system regulation, parenting, people-pleasing, emotional healing, and why understanding your past can help you create healthier patterns moving forward. If you've ever wondered why certain situations trigger you, why relationships can feel repetitive, or how to feel safer in your own body, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate guidance for healing. Find Esin: eternalwellnesscounseling.com instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw Find Stacy: realeverything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ instagram.com/realstacytoth⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠missionmakersart.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠missionalchemists.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Dr. Jo received news that her podcast reached the top 3% globally, her first instinct was to credit grit and optimization—but the real truth was much more profound. In this heartfelt finale to our 10-episode block, we explore how healthcare workers become so focused on improving themselves that they lose connection to their own humanity. Discover why reconnecting with yourself as a human being—not just a healthcare provider—might be the missing piece in your burnout recovery. Learn practical tools for self-connection using the four pillars of Sleep, Support, Mindset, and Movement, and give yourself permission to matter beyond what you do for others. Resources: Dr. Kristin Neff's Self-Compassion research: self-compassion.org "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Center for Mindful Self-Compassion: centerformsc.org Join Dr. Jo's newsletter for more burnout recovery insights https://drjobraid.com www.instagram.com/burnoutrecoverydr www.linkedin.com/in/drjobraidSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I would rather be alive than digestible.” Diese Folge gejt um die Angst anzuecken und wie wir dadurch Anderen dabei zuschauen, wie sie Dinge machen, die wir gerne tun würden . In dieser Solo-Folge spricht Lea über einen Satz, der sie diese Woche komplett gehitted hat und plötzlich irgendwie präziser war als alles, was Therapie, Bücher oder 47 offene Tabs sonst gerade so anbieten.Es geht um People Pleasing, das „falsche Selbst“, kreative Resistance, Dopamin, Sichtbarkeit, psychosomatische Zusammenhänge und die Frage, warum wir uns manchmal so sehr daran gewöhnen, verdaulich zu sein, dass wir irgendwann vergessen, wie sich echtes Lebendigsein eigentlich anfühlt.Oder warum Resistance sich am liebsten als Vorbereitung verkleidet. Warum wir noch einen Podcast hören, noch ein Buch lesen, noch eine Strategie bauen, anstatt einfach anzufangen.“Suppression always collects interest.”Anpassung ist immer auf Pump.Eine Folge über unbequeme Ehrlichkeit, die 2 % der Menschen, die die Treppe nehmen obwohl es einen Aufzug gibt, grüne Cowboyboots als Identitätsswitch, das Nervensystem, das immer noch denkt wir werden aus dem Stamm geworfen und warum die Dinge, die uns am meisten Angst machen, oft genau die sind, die uns wieder fühlen lassen.Oder kurz:eine Folge darüber, wieder ein bisschen unverdaulicher zu werden.Worüber Lea spricht:​Simone Sylvester und der Satz, der dieses Jahr für sie alles verändert hat​Die 2%-Regel von TikTok-Creatorin Lindsiann: Rolltreppe oder Treppe?​Winnicott und das „falsche Selbst“​Warum People Pleasing 200.000 Jahre Evolution sind und keine Charakterschwäche​Die Eisenberger-Studie: was im Gehirn passiert, wenn wir anecken​Pressfields „Resistance“: die Kraft, die sich am liebsten als Vorbereitung verkleidet​Anna Lembkes „Dopamine Nation“: warum nur Reibung uns wieder spüren lässt​Drei Fragen, die Lea sich gerade jeden Abend stellt

In today's conversation, we dive into the topic of intergenerational trauma with Mark Wolynn, the author of It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle. Mark is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, where he trains clinicians and works with individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorders, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness. Mark regularly leads workshops and trainings at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and educational centers across the globe. He has presented at institutions including the University of Pittsburgh, Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, Omega Institute, New York Open Center, and the California Institute of Integral Studies. This discussion outlines: What inherited family trauma really is. The connection between epigenetics and trauma transmission across generations. How trauma work can help identify and heal deeply rooted emotional patterns. What "unconscious loyalty" means, and why we often repeat painful family dynamics without realizing it. Practical ways to begin breaking generational cycles and creating emotional resilience. Even patterns that feel intensely personal may have roots that extend far beyond your own experiences. This conversation explores how inherited emotional wounds can quietly shape relationships, behaviors, fears, and identity — often without us realizing it… Learn more about Mark: Mark Wolynn Official Website Buy It Didn't Start with You on Amazon 

This is not a morning routine episode. This is a therapeutic system built from years of trial, error, and paying very close attention to a body with autoimmune disease.Brandi takes you through her full day, from 6:30 AM to lights out at 11, and Dr. Desiree breaks down the biology behind every single piece of it. Not because it looks good on paper, but because the research backs it and the Oura ring data confirms it.If you are living with an autoimmune condition, or you know something is off and you cannot name it yet, this episode is the one to send to every woman in your life who needs to hear it.What You'll Learn:Why the first five minutes after you wake up are the most neuroplastic window of your entire day and how to use that on purposeWhat Brandi puts in her morning mason jar and the specific reason each ingredient is in there (lemon, apple cider vinegar, mushroom extract and why order and timing matter)The three-legged stool model of autoimmunity and how every element of Brandi's day maps directly to one of those three legsWhy meditation is not a wellness extra for someone managing autoimmune disease, and what the epigenetics research actually says about itThe difference between morning coffee and matcha for your cortisol levels, your gut lining, and your immune regulationWhat "back pocket thoughts" are and how a 10-15 minute journaling practice is physically building new neural pathways in your prefrontal cortexWhy morning light in your eyes (without sunglasses, without a window) sets your circadian rhythm for the entire day and directly affects sleep quality 14-16 hours laterThe one thing that is independently associated with increased inflammation regardless of what else you are doing (and it is not your diet)Why Brandi takes Reishi and magnesium bisglycinate every single night and what her Oura ring data shows about sleep quality when she doesHow a hot shower before bed is triggering the same nervous system wind-down signal as your evening supplementsWhat the glymphatic system does while you sleep and why no supplement or practice can replace the repair work that only happens in those hoursThe single strongest predictor of microbiome diversity, and how to hit 30 plant foods a week without overhauling your entire kitchenResources Mentioned:Eversio Wellness 5 Mushroom Blend (Metabolic / Hormone Balancing): https://www.eversiowellness.com/Eversio Wellness Lion's Mane: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Eversio Wellness Reishi: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Soar Organics Matcha (Vancouver-based, USDA and Canada Organic certified): https://www.soarorganics.com/EWG Clean 15 and Dirty Dozen (annual pesticide guide for produce): https://www.ewg.org/foodnews/Oura Ring: https://ouraring.com/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk (referenced in context of trauma and autoimmune disease)Brandi's Book: https://www.eversiowellness.com/products/healing-your-body-mind-and-soulTake the Eversio Wellness Quiz: https://www.eversiowellness.com/pages/take-our-quizYour Next Steps:Take the Wellness Quiz to find the right mushroom for you: https://www.eversiowellness.com/pages/take-our-quizShop Eversio Wellness and save 15% with code PODCAST15: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eversiowellness/Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCSZdEq_Qk0SYCKCeAwuuiwListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0cNGNkTVcgpS2an1IFy1HJ?si=673791bd190e4c33

Emotional Safety After Betrayal: Understanding Emotions, Trauma, and Relationship Healing Podcast Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the connection between emotional safety, betrayal trauma, emotional regulation, and relationship healing after infidelity or sexual betrayal. Many individuals struggling with betrayal trauma, anxiety, emotional disconnection, or relationship conflict often suppress their true emotions by saying “I'm fine” while internally feeling overwhelmed, hurt, angry, anxious, or emotionally exhausted. In this conversation, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss why emotional honesty and emotional congruency are essential for rebuilding trust, emotional intimacy, and healthy communication in relationships. The episode examines how shame, emotional shutdown, avoidance, and trauma responses interfere with connection and healing. Listeners will also learn about emotional contagion, nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and the importance of creating emotionally safe relationships where both partners can openly express their feelings without fear of judgment, defensiveness, or rejection. Topics discussed include: Betrayal trauma recovery Healing after infidelity Emotional regulation in relationships Relationship communication skills Emotional safety and trust rebuilding PTSD symptoms after betrayal Emotional disconnection in marriage Co-regulation and nervous system healing Shame and emotional shutdown Understanding contradictory emotions after betrayal Emotional intelligence and self-awareness How unresolved emotions impact intimacy and connection Whether you are recovering from betrayal trauma, struggling with emotional intimacy, or trying to strengthen communication in your relationship, this episode provides practical insights into understanding emotions, rebuilding trust, and creating deeper human connection. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman A foundational book on emotional awareness, emotional regulation, empathy, and developing healthier relationship skills. The Choice by Edith Eger Discusses emotional healing, resilience, trauma recovery, and understanding core emotional experiences. The work of Brené Brown Especially her research on vulnerability, shame, emotional connection, and authentic relationships. Stephen Porges and Polyvagal Theory Understanding nervous system regulation, emotional safety, co-regulation, and trauma responses in relationships. Thich Nhat Hanh Referenced for his teachings on deep listening, mindfulness, emotional presence, and compassionate communication. Al Siebert Concepts on resiliency, emotional flexibility, and the “both/and” approach to emotional experiences. The Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) Course A structured framework designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma, rebuild emotional safety, improve communication, and strengthen intimacy. Human Intimacy Resources and Courses Human Intimacy Additional Resources for Betrayal Trauma & Relationship Healing Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Understanding attachment styles, emotional needs, and relationship dynamics. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk A leading resource on trauma, nervous system responses, emotional regulation, and healing. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson A guide to emotional bonding, attachment, and strengthening relationships after emotional injuries. Addo Therapy & Recovery Resources Therapy, betrayal trauma recovery support, couples counseling, anxiety treatment, mindfulness resources, and emotional healing support.

Before we can forgive anything, we have to be honest about what actually happened without minimizing, over-spiritualizing, or skipping to a resolution. This week we slow down to affirm this first step in the process: naming the hurt with precision. As it turns out, telling the truth about your wound is the first act of healing.   LINKS:  Current Conversations | Connect | YouTube |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: The Word We've Been Mishandling Forgiveness might be the most talked-about and least practiced idea in all of spiritual life. Not because some people are hypocrites (I mean aren't we all a little bit?) but because if we're honest, we've been given almost no real tools for it. Tension point: most of us are carrying something. And most of us have been told– by religion, culture, entertainment, even well-meaning people– to just... let it go. But letting go of something you haven't fully held yet isn't forgiveness. It's just suppression with fancy vocabulary. Brief series preview: over the next six weeks, we're going to do this differently. We're drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's book The Book of Forgiving– one of the most honest, rigorous, and compassionate treatments of this subject that I'm aware of. We'll talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, why it gets weaponized, and what it might mean to actually get free. The Tutus give us a four-step framework for genuine forgiveness. If you're curious about each one of the steps in more detail and want to take the time it takes to really wrestle with that, I'd love to invite you into the Tuesday night book club and Discord server… talk to me after the gathering if you're interested! There's an underlying premise that when hurt happens, there's a cycle of revenge we often get stuck in (marked by the hurt/harm/loss, experiencing pain, choosing to harm, rejecting shared humanity, getting revenge/retaliation/payback, that ultimately leads to some form of violence that creates new or additional harm. What they've provided for us– based on their own experiences of injustice and violence (apartheid, violent deaths, etc.) is what they call The Fourfold Path, that similarly starts with hurt/harm/loss, followed by an intentional choice to heal. And if healing is the choice, then the fourfold path can be traveled:  Telling the Story (today) Naming the Hurt Granting Forgiveness (Recognizing Shared Humanity) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. You don't have to be at every week to get something meaningful from this. But if you can, come back. This is worth doing slowly. The task we're in today– telling the story– is both simple and challenging: before we can forgive anything, we have to give ourselves space to be honest about what actually happened. Because there are a lot of real, identifiable reasons why we rush past pain and jump straight to resolution. Why We Skip the Hard Part Some of our work today, as we launch this series, is to be honest about why we skip the hard part, and end up missing out on actual forgiveness… For many: religious pressure |  "Jesus said forgive, so I should feel forgiving." The command becomes a performance. We say the words because we're supposed to, not because anything has actually shifted. (Note: forgiveness as a practice you choose vs. a feeling you perform — that distinction matters and we'll return to it.) Toxic positivity/"move on" culture |  American culture is deeply allergic to sitting with pain. We pathologize grief. We celebrate resilience in ways that quietly shame people for still hurting. "Good vibes only" is a spiritual bypass wearing a bumper sticker. Protecting ourselves from further abuse / Not wanting to further upset the person or system that hurt us |  This one deserves weight. Often the pressure to "just forgive" comes from the person or institution that caused harm. The church tells the abuse survivor to forgive the abuser. The family tells the wounded child not to make a scene. This is forgiveness weaponized — and we'll name that plainly throughout this series. The cultural myth of "forgive and forget" |  The Tutus address this directly. You cannot actually forget. And you shouldn't have to. Mpho Tutu writes that the idea of forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive — memory is part of how we protect ourselves and stay honest. What happens when we skip to the “end”?? We don't actually move past the hurt. We move it underground. Resentment. Shame. Something that sits in us and ferments. The Tutus describe this as the "fourfold path" — and the first step is not resolution. It's telling the story. You cannot skip to the end. Telling the Story: The First Act of Healing The Tutus write: "The first and most important step in the Fourfold Path is to tell your story." Notice: they didn't say to resolve it… but to tell it. Why does this matter psychologically? There's substantial research behind this. Narrative therapy and trauma-informed psychology both support the idea that giving language to an experience is not just cathartic — it's neurologically significant. When we name something, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can actually process it. (Reference: Bessel van der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score" — the body holds what the mind won't name.) But there's a crucial distinction the Tutus make — and it's worth sitting with: RUMINATING on a story and TELLING it are not the same thing. Rumination is the loop. It's replaying the scene, re-feeling the wound, rehearsing what you should have said. It keeps us stuck in a cycle that actually reinforces the pain rather than processing it. Ruminating is like the broken record “That's an old tape, time to take it out of the VCR” Telling the story is different. It has a shape. A beginning, middle, and at least a provisional end. It has a witness. It moves outward rather than circling inward. Research on expressive writing (James Pennebaker, University of Texas) shows that people who write about difficult experiences in a structured way— not just venting, but actually narrating— show measurable improvements in psychological and even physical health. The Tutus frame this in deeply human terms: "When we tell our stories, we reclaim our humanity." The act of speaking what was done to us — rather than simply absorbing it — is how we refuse to let the wound become our whole identity. What Kind of Story Are We Telling? As we think perhaps about our own experiences of hurt, harm, or loss, it's worth asking: what kind of story are we telling? There's a spectrum of harm that's worth naming honestly: Some of what we carry is hurt — disappointment, unmet expectations, misunderstanding, relational friction. Real, worth naming, but perhaps not requiring the full weight of the forgiveness process. Some of what we carry is a genuine wrong — a betrayal, an act of violence, a sustained pattern of harm, an abuse of power. This is different. And treating it the same as ordinary hurt can minimize something that deserves to be named for what it is. The Tutus do not minimize harm. Mpho Tutu lost her husband to violent crime. Desmond Tutu spent his life in proximity to atrocity. This framework was forged in the context of apartheid, genocide, and profound injustice. It is not a self-help framework for minor inconveniences. It takes the weight of real wrong seriously. Part of telling your story is being honest about what actually happened — not inflating it, not minimizing it. Precision in our storytelling is an ACT OF DIGNITY. The Role of a Witness Here's something important: the Tutus don't imagine this as a solo process. Telling the story almost always requires someone to tell it to. What makes a good witness? Not someone who fixes it. Not someone who jumps to advice, or silver linings, or "well, have you thought about their perspective?" A witness is someone who receives your story with enough steadiness that you feel safe to tell it fully. In men's group: THREE people. The witness to receive the story, and also somebody with permission to ask questions about what they noticed in body language, follow up with questions about what's happening in the story teller's body, etc.  This is actually one of the most underrated spiritual gifts a person can offer another: the ministry of staying in the room without flinching. There's a reason confession has existed across almost every spiritual tradition in human history— not as a transaction for the pardon of wrongs, but as the practice of being heard by someone who doesn't run from the truth of what you've lived. Community implication: this is part of why we do this together. Not because church is a place to perform having it together, but because church can be— when we let it— a community of witnesses. People who are trained and willing to hold each other's real stories. (CARE IQ) What Forgiveness is NOT Before we wrap for today, let's clear some ground. The Tutus are direct about this: Forgiveness is not condoning what happened. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. (You can forgive someone and never have a relationship with them again. These are separate acts.) Forgiveness is not necessarily something you do for the other person. And forgiveness is not something you have to feel before you can choose it. Forgiveness is a practice you choose. Not an internal feeling you perform outwardly. We'll build on all of this in the weeks ahead. But naming what it isn't is part of how we clear space for what it actually is. Invitation/PAW Guided prompts: I want to invite you into a few minutes of quiet with a series of prompts. Optional: write it, draw it, sit with it. Hold a stone to represent it…  Think of something you're carrying. You don't have to name it out loud. Just let it come to mind. What actually happened? Try to name it with some precision — not to relive it, but to see it clearly. What did it cost you? Not what it "taught you," not what good came from it — what did it actually cost? Is there a word for what was done? Betrayal. Abandonment. Injustice. Violence. Neglect. Name it if you can. When and if you're ready in the coming days or weeks, think about if you're ready to tell it… to invite a witness in. Today I'm not asking you to forgive anything. I'm just asking you to be honest about what you're carrying. That's it. That's enough for today. Wrapping it Up Desmond Tutu said, "There is no future without forgiveness”... and I tend to agree with him. But we're not there yet. That's where we're going. Today we're just naming the yuck of it all, and naming that telling our story is in itself a critical first step in healing. That takes good courage! Next week, we'll be at Venn Coffee and Brewing to spend some slow, social time in conversation as community…   

If your body resists rest, healing, slowing down, or even receiving support — this episode will help you understand why.In this episode of Up Your Total Glow, we explore the deeper reason the nervous system says “no” — not because you're broken or sabotaging yourself, but because your body learned that staying guarded felt safer than softening.We talk about:·       Why healing can feel uncomfortable·       Nervous system protection patterns·       Burnout, overgiving, and emotional shutdown·       How the body learns safety·       Gentle ways to begin shifting resistancePlus, a calming body connection practice, reflective coaching questions, and a powerful affirmation to help you reconnect with your body with compassion instead of force.✨ Take the free Vitality Imbalance Quiz: https://www.ithriveforhealth.com/ayurvedic-dosha-quiz/  ✨ Learn more about Vitality Reconnection Sessions:  https://tidycal.com/ithrive/vitality-reconnection-session 

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Two stories about what the body holds onto and what it eventually gives back. Ali Mac took a job in crypto after two years of Nazi death threats courtesy of Fox News. At the Miami Bitcoin Conference in 2022, she finds herself escorting her boss down a hallway and comes face to face with Tucker Carlson, broadcasting live, sitting very low, blissfully unaware of what is about to happen to him. (Content note: death of a partner) Gordon Blitz had been with his partner Scott since 1973, through an informal wedding, years of infidelity Gordon never told anyone about, and the terrifying early years of the AIDS crisis. "Bonded" follows Gordon through an HIV test, a week of waiting, and the long, complicated road of caring for the man who put him at risk. Leave your reactions and find episode details and music credits at risk-show.com/podcast/what-the-body-keeps Be Part of RISK!

سوگل فریدونی عصب‌شناس، لایف کوچ، و پژوهشگر / محقق است؛ کسی که با شور و اشتیاق به دنبال پیوند دادن علم با تحول انسانی است. زمینه‌ی علمی او شامل علوم اعصاب، زیست‌شناسی، برنامه‌ریزی عصبی-زبانی (NLP)، و هیپنوتراپی است.سوگل تحصیلات دبیرستانی خود را در ایران به پایان رساند و مدرک کارشناسی‌اش را در رشته زیست‌شناسی سلولی و مولکولی از دانشگاه آزاد ایران (دانشکده علوم دارویی) دریافت کرد. او سپس برای ادامه تحصیل در مقطع کارشناسی ارشد زیست‌شناسی پزشکی به اتریش رفت و در دانشگاه پاریس-لودرون زالتسبورگ مشغول به تحصیل شد. در این مسیر، علاقه‌ی عمیق خود به علوم اعصاب را کشف کرد و تحصیلاتش را در دانشگاه ملی و کاپودیستری آتن در یونان ادامه داد.پژوهش‌های اخیر او شامل یک مقاله‌ی مروری درباره «نوروپلاستیسیته القاشده توسط سیلوسایبین» است که در بخش مقالات OPEN Foundation منتشر شده و همچنین در کنفرانس انجمن علوم اعصاب مدیترانه‌ای در کرت ارائه گردید. او هم‌اکنون در حال انجام تحقیقاتی درباره خواص ضدسرطانی داروی سرترالین و بررسی پتانسیل‌های فارماکولوژیک آیبوگِین در درمان اختلالات مصرف دارو است.در این اپیزود، درباره‌ی تراما، سیستم عصبی، استرس مزمن، روان‌نماها، و همین‌طور ابزارها و رویکردهایی صحبت می‌کنیم که می‌تونن در زمان‌های بحران، جنگ، عدم‌قطعیت، و فرسودگی جمعی — به‌ویژه در بستر شرایط امروز ایران — به شکل مبتنی بر شواهد و آگاهانه حمایت‌کننده باشن.https://www.instagram.com/sogolcoachinghttps://www.instagram.com/ravannamacommunityhttps://www.instagram.com/mehran_somaSogolhttps://sogolcoaching.com/https://open-foundation.org/author/sogol-fereydouni/The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der KolkTrauma, embodiment, and the nervous systemhttps://www.besselvanderkolk.com/When the Body Says No — Gabor MatéChronic stress, trauma, illness, and the mind-body connectionhttps://drgabormate.com/MAPSMDMA-assisted therapy research and educationhttps://maps.org/mdma/RollSafePsychedelic and MDMA harm reductionhttps://rollsafe.org/OPEN FoundationPsychedelic science, conferences, therapist educationhttps://open-foundation.org/INTEGRATE EUEuropean psychedelic research networkhttps://integrate-dn.eu/PAREA / PATH EuropePsychedelic access and research alliancehttps://parea.eu/Grof FoundationHolotropic Breathwork and transpersonal psychologyhttps://www.holotropic.com/Somatic ExperiencingTrauma healing and nervous system regulationhttps://traumahealing.org/Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts workhttps://ifs-institute.com/InwardboundPsychedelic-assisted therapy and breathwork traininghttps://inwardbound.nl/services/psychedelic-therapy-training/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[Content Warning]: This episode contains graphic descriptions of intrafamilial abuse including: Domestic Violence, Substance Abuse, Physical abuse, Molestation and Attempted Rape of a Child. There is also a brief mention of suicidal ideation. Today, Jan is joined by Lee Cooper, who courageously discusses the sexual violence he experienced at the hands of his father, not revealing his secret until 20 years later during the Covid Pandemic.  Through his healing, Lee has created a photography collective called “Places Nowhere”, which expresses the dissociation one experiences during and after being sexually assaulted. Lee and Jan converse about Lee's passion for photography and how it became a form of escape and mindfulness during his healing process. Lee speaks openly about the bullying and sexual abuse he endured , the abusive relationship with his father, and the traumatic incidents he both witnessed and experienced.. He highlights the importance of safe spaces and the vital role his grandmother played by offering her love and support. Lee discloses his abuse to his ex-girlfriend and reflects on the impact of reading 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk which became a catalyst for his healing.  He shares the challenges he faced during the pandemic and the strain it put on his relationships. Lee also talks about reporting his father to the police and the personal consequences that followed. He reflects on the deep grief and pain he experienced and the impact it had on his relationship with his mother. Lee explores the process of reframing his relationship with his family and the desire for a better connection with his mother. . Lee shares his journey of self-awareness and the role of mindfulness in recognizing triggers and maintaining healthy habits. In closing they emphasize the need for peer-to-peer support and the power of sharing stories to raise awareness and support survivors.Check out Lee's photography and events:Instagram: @coopscwPlacesNowhere.comMentioned Resources:Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. GibsonThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der KolkSam Fender : Spit Of YouIf you or someone you know is experiencing emotional distress or suicidal ideation, please access the resources below:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988National Sexual Assault Hotline  (RAINN) : 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)National Alliance for Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264Subscribe / Support / Contact:

Grief is not just something you feel at a funeral. Grief is what happens whenever something ends without your permission — and midlife is full of those endings. Most of us were never taught how to grieve them. Unprocessed grief doesn't disappear — it goes into the body as chronic fatigue, weight that won't shift, and a low-grade depletion with no obvious cause. Drawing on insights from The Body Keeps the Score, Courtney explains how emotional losses encode in the body and offers a simple, powerful practice to begin releasing what you've been carrying. Get your free chapter of The Consistency Code at https://theconsistencycode.com/freechapter #GriefAndWomensHealth #HowGriefAffectsTheBody #EmotionalHealthMidlifeWomen #BodyKeepsTheScore #UnprocessedGriefSymptoms #MidlifeLossAndIdentity #EmotionalAgilityAfter40 #GriefAndChronicFatigue #NervousSystemAndGrief #WomenAndEmotionalProcessing #GriefInMidlife #SomaticHealingWomen  

How long can you carry something before it breaks you?And what do you do when God feels… silent?In this teaching on Psalm 13, John Ortberg walks us through one of the most honest prayers in Scripture: “How long, O Lord?”When pain lingers, when answers don't come, and when God feels distant, we face a choice. We can grumble—turning inward in bitterness and withdrawal—or we can groan—bringing our pain honestly before God.This Psalm shows us how to lament in a way that leads somewhere. Not by denying pain, but by bringing it fully into God's presence.If you're carrying something heavy right now—a relationship, anxiety, loss, or a long unanswered prayer—this teaching will help you turn that pain into prayer.

In this episode of The Observatory, Anna Dickson joins the show to discuss trauma healing. Anna is a Clinical Director,  Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, and Psychotherapist who specializes in trauma healing and recovery, anxiety, depression, substance use, mood and personality disorders, history of suicide attempts, ideation, and self-injuring tendencies. Hear about the different childhood and intergenerational traumas and how to heal from them, the power of being present in trauma healing, and the importance of your loved ones in your healing journey. You will also learn the different color shockers in healing.Timestamps[02:46] Anna Dickson's background information[06:35] Childhood and early attachment trauma[07:30] Intergenerational trauma and how to heal from it[12:36] Anna's journey into psychology [16:24] Anna's ideal clients[20:05] The book: The Body Keeps the Score[23:03] The power of being present in trauma healing [31:54] Identifying where we carry our energies[35:36] Anna's opinion on the different psychedelic medicines[42:26] How the different childhood experiences of siblings affect their lives and healing journeys[51:51] The importance of your loved ones on the healing journey [56:33] Anna's healing journey[01:05:45] The color shockers in healing [01:07:42] The uniqueness of traumas Notable quotes:“If we can resolve the past, we can help people live more unburdened, freer, and more authentic lives.” - Anna Dickson [05:30]“Trauma therapy helps you rewrite the narrative.” - Anna Dickson [10:23]“Being with our person allows us to heal spontaneously.” - Anna Dickson [51:11]“As long as your heart is still beating, you have a choice to change, to resolve, and a choice to become.” - Anna Dickson [01:02:43]“Trauma is so unique to each individual, and so it requires a level of uniqueness in reprocessing.” - Anna Dickson [01:07:42]Relevant links:Anna Dickson Website: https://www.ember-root.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ember.and.root/Subscribe to the podcast: Apple PodcastProduced by NC Productions. 

Many gay men already understand themselves surprisingly well. They've read the books, listened to the podcasts, explored their childhood patterns, and can explain their shame, anxiety, trauma, or relationship struggles in detail. So why do so many still feel stuck? In Part 1 of this two-part series, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores one of the biggest limitations of insight-based personal growth: understanding yourself does not automatically change your life. Drawing from more than 34 years of work with gay men, Ken explains why insight alone often turns into rumination instead of transformation — and why lasting change requires behavioral shifts, emotional regulation, structure, repetition, and real-world action. This episode explores: Why books like The Velvet Rage and The Body Keeps the Score are helpful — but incomplete on their own The repeating emotional-behavioral loops many gay men experience Why shame and trauma frameworks can unintentionally keep people stuck The difference between awareness and behavioral change How gay men can begin replacing compulsive or self-defeating patterns with healthier alternatives Why "partial wins" matter more than perfection How therapy and coaching can help translate insight into real-life change Ken also offers practical examples of replacement behaviors for: compulsive app use emotional numbing self-criticism isolation urgency and impulsivity all-or-nothing thinking If you've ever thought: "I understand why I do this… but I still keep doing it," this episode is for you. Part 2 will continue the conversation by exploring additional behavioral replacements and strategies for handling the everyday stressors many gay men face.

In this episode of Why Not Wellness, Cat gets real about the things we think and say to ourselves about our bodies… and how the body keeps score, even when we don't. If you've ever: Looked in the mirror and gone straight to what's “wrong” Compared yourself to younger, smaller, “more put together” versions of you Felt like your midlife body has betrayed you …this conversation is for you. Cat talks about: The quiet, constant self-talk we aim at our bodies How your nervous system “hears” every eye roll, every harsh thought, every skipped meal and overworked day Why the body keeps score in tension, fatigue, and numbness, even when you can't remember what you said Common “voices” we carry: the Comparison Voice, the Drill Sergeant, the Inner Critic, and the Ghoster What it looks like to interrupt that pattern with a simple apology to your body How to start giving your body new receipts to keep: moments of kindness, rest, pleasure, and honest gratitude You'll also walk through a short reflection you can do anywhere: Notice the part of your body you've been hardest on Hear the stories and expectations you've placed on it Begin talking to it like a partner instead of a problem This episode is an invitation to shift from body war to body home, one softer thought at a time.

“I found this perfect Porsche Cayenne diesel, white with red interior, low miles, great service history. I hit the lady up, we agreed on a price, everything was lining up… and then it all fell apart. She sold it to some random guy for a thousand dollars more. I was pissed. I was fighting it. But then this little Mercedes GLA shows up at work - cash, fixed it myself, gets way better gas mileage, and it's literally everything I wanted, just packaged differently. It doesn't always show up as you expect. I asked, you provided. God was like, ‘No dude, I got you, this is actually better.'” - TimTim Fraley - mechanic, musician, truth seeker, etcTim returns! We explore the tension between discipline and radical self-compassion, balancing masculine action with feminine receptivity, yoga and breathwork, perspectives on wisdom texts, Tim's eye-opening visit to a mosque, astrology as a cosmic roadmap - We celebrate synchronicities, ego death, the courage to pray, the power of gratitude, and the quiet leadership we should strive for. This one is funny, profound, and deeply human - a reminder that the path isn't about perfection: it's about staying open, staying gentle, and trusting the next step. It's my pleasure to welcome back to the podcast, unorthodox teacher: Tim Fraley.Notable quotes from the episode:“To really be whole, you need the feminine. A man needs the feminine… the action, the masculine, and then there's the giving and the receiving, the feminine.” - Tim"You're not a pu*sy if you don't meditate perfectly today… Today wasn't the day. Not every day you're going to have enlightenment.” - Tim“For me, meditation really started as moving my body and stretching… reconnecting with self.” - Tim“Pray for your future self… God, shape me into the person I'm down here to be.” - Timfor more Tim: @tangoteem87for more Jacob: @jacobfromtheinternet00:00 – Welcome Back & Reconnecting on the Spiritual Path02:30 – What Does “On the Path” Really Mean? Spirituality vs Self-Improvement06:45 – The Pendulum Swing: Discipline, Cravings & Self-Compassion for Men11:20 – Balancing Masculine Drive & Feminine Grace16:50 – Meditation, Yoga, Breathwork & Reconnecting With Your Body23:40 – Prayer Practice, Gratitude & Praying for Your Future Self29:15 – Yoga as Union, The Body Keeps the Score & Releasing Tension36:10 – Astrology, the Bible & Finding Your Own Spiritual Language44:50 – Visiting a Mosque, Religious Similarities & Open-Minded Faith52:30 – Synchronicities, Signs from the Universe & The Celestine Prophecy57:40 – The Porsche Story: Surrender, Divine Timing & Trusting the Redirect1:08:20 – Ego Death, Nature Loves Courage & New Timelines1:15:50 – Working on Cruise Ships, Reputation & Man Plans God Laughs1:25:30 – Mentoring Young Men, Leadership & Being the Example1:35:45 – How Tim Prays: Knees, Gratitude, Ancestors & Body Prayer1:48:00 – Closing Wisdom & Final Thoughts#JunkyardLovePodcast #SpiritualGrowth #MensWork #MasculineFeminine #MeditationForMen #SelfCompassion #EgoDeath #Synchronicity #PrayerPractice #YogaAndSpirituality #AstrologyWisdom #SpiritualAwakening #Brotherhood #Surrender #GentleWarrior #UnorthodoxTeachers #RamDass #DavidGoggins #TerenceMcKenna #PorscheStory

"I've been keeping track of the strange things that happen at the funeral home..." CREEPYPASTA► "I work at a funeral home, and a body keeps showing up in the wrong drawer." written by erinisnotfunny, narrated by ClancyPasta► https://www.reddit.com/r/nosleep/comments/1svyf6t/i_work_at_a_funeral_home_and_a_body_keeps_showing/https://www.reddit.com/user/erinisnotfunny/Here are ways to support the channel if you wish ~MERCH ► http://teespring.com/stores/clancypastastorePATREON ► https://patreon.com/clancypastaMEMBERSHIP ► https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnfg9w5hrnPT7oA1H3uRZEQ/joinHere's where you can find me, and also links to the audio version of the show ~X / TWITTER ► http://x.com/clancypastaINSTA ► https://instagram.com/clancypastaSPOTIFY ► https://open.spotify.com/show/51DHHPsFnEvDAGfRiZPMF7ANCHOR.FM ► https://anchor.fm/clancypastaMUSIC► Background music is original and done in house by my best friend and house audio designer SKEEVY WEEVIL#Creepypasta #scarystories #horrorstories

Content advisory: This episode explores deeply personal experiences of sexual trauma and assault. Please listen with care and give yourself grace.In this episode of Amiga Handle Your Shit, Jackie Tapia sits down with Evelyn Gutierrez, transformational breathwork and integration coach, and founder of Beyond A Breath. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and Evelyn is not just talking about it; she has lived it, healed through it, and come out the other side with something unexpected: admiration for the younger version of herself who survived it.But before we get to who Evelyn is today, we have to go back to where it all began; to a young girl who experienced something she did not have the words for, who told the truth when she finally could, and was told it never happened. That denial did not just hurt her. It dismantled her relationship with her own reality. After years of carrying the weight of sexual trauma, anxiety, and depression largely in silence, her body eventually began to break down. A toxic work environment and burnout became the unexpected turning point that led her to a retreat and to transformational breathwork, where everything began to shift.In that breathwork room, everything shifted. For the first time, she looked at her younger self not with shame, but with awe, and what had long felt like guilt began to transform into something unexpected: a fierce, tender admiration for the girl who had endured so much. Driven by that transformation, she made a bold decision and walked away from a career in Human Resources to go all in on her calling.Today, Evelyn guides women through their own healing using the very tool that freed her. She works with clients locally in the Whittier and La Habra area and virtually across the US and internationally.Tune in to episode 279 of Amiga Handle Your Shit for a conversation about surviving in silence, reclaiming your truth, and the unexpected power of learning to breathe again.Episode TakeawaysWhat happens to a child's sense of reality when her truth is denied by the adults she trusted (11:10)How being groomed by someone admired and respected made it impossible to speak up, and easy to blame herself (16:30)Why she carried her story in silence for 15 years, and what it cost her in relationships, in her body, and in her sense of self (25:00)The breathwork moment that shifted everything — from seeing herself as a victim to seeing herself as a survivor who did what she had to do (28:40)How she turned her own healing tools into a calling, and now holds space for others to do the same (36:20)Resources for support and to report sexual assault:RAINN - National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE. Text HOPE to 64673 - Confidential support 24/7Victim Connect Resource Center: 855-4-VICTIM. Phone or text for Confidential emotional support and referralsConnect with Evelyn Gutierrez:InstagramFacebookPhone: (909) 616-1217Email: evelyn@beyondabreath.comLet's Connect!WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedInJackie Tapia Arbonne websiteBook: The AMIGA Way: Release Cultural Limiting Beliefs to Transform Your Life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Im letzten Sommer hatte ich einen wahrscheinlich lange überfälligen Mental Breakdown. Damit war mein ganzes Leben erstmal auf Pause. Ein paar Monate lang ging dann gar nichts mehr voran, aber, nachdem ich mir endlich Hilfe gesucht habe, ist dann auf einmal ganz viel passiert. Aber das erzähle ich alles in dieser Folge meinem Freund, dem Designer Julian Zimmermann von Deutsche & Japaner.Wir sprachen auch darüber, wie es mit OHNE DEN HYPE weitergeht. Ab nächster Woche gibts wieder, wie die letzten fünf Jahre schon, Interviews mit Kreativen aus allen möglichen Bereichen. Ich hab tatsächlich schon ein paar sehr spannende Gespräche auf der Festplatte, die darauf warten, endlich rauszukommen.

Dave is joined by Dana Hargus, founder of Restore Ada and an expert in trauma-informed wellness. Together, they explore how the body "keeps the score" of stress and trauma, the physiological signs of a dysregulated nervous system, and practical modalities like biofeedback and neurofeedback to help busy individuals with ADHD regain their sense of self. Key Discussion Points The Reality of Burnout: Burnout is often more than just being "tired" It is a complex state of chronic stress that can be rooted in unresolved trauma. The ADHD Connection: High-performers with ADHD often operate in a state of constant mental racing, which can mask the subtle physical signs of systemic overload. The Body Keeps the Score: Even if a person does not have a verbal memory of a traumatic event, the body can retain the physiological impact, often manifesting as chronic pain, migraines, or digestive issues. Nervous System Dysregulation: Dana explains "fight, flight, or freeze" modes and how a dysregulated system perceives minor stressors as major threats. Practical Self-Regulation: * Morning Routine: Using the first five minutes of the day for gratitude and positive framing. The "Sleep is King" Rule: Establishing strict routines, avoiding screens, and aiming for rest by 11:00 PM. Grounding: The physical benefits of letting sunlight hit your face and placing bare feet on the earth to lower inflammation. Introduction to Biofeedback for ADHD: An overview of how neurofeedback uses electrodes to monitor brain waves and "exercise" the brain to improve focus, sleep, and stress management. **Do you want to work with Dave one-on-one? Go to www.overcomingdistractions.com and book an introductory Zoom chat. Or go directly to Dave's calendar; https://calendly.com/davidgreenwood1/15min  

Episode SummaryIn this episode of Million Dollar Flip Flops, Rodric sits down with Michele DeFilippo — owner of 1106 Design and a publishing expert who has helped more than 4,000 authors self-publish their books since 2001.Michele breaks down the confusion surrounding modern publishing, especially the traps authors fall into when they assume they need a “publisher” when what they really need is the right services. She explains the difference between true self-publishing and the growing wave of middleman publishing companies that charge authors upfront, then also take money from every sale on the back end.Rodric and Michele also talk about AI-generated book garbage flooding Amazon, the misuse of royalties in self-publishing deals, and how authors can protect both their work and their income. If you have a book in you — or one already in progress — this episode is a must-listen.In this episode, you'll hear:Michele's path to helping more than 4,000 authors self-publishThe difference between self-publishing and paying the wrong kind of publisherWhy authors often don't need a publisher — they need expert servicesHow some publishing companies charge authors twiceThe red flags every author should watch for before signing anythingMichele's take on AI-generated books and why they're harming publishingWhy “royalty” language can be a warning sign in self-publishing dealsThe common misconceptions authors have about book salesWhy a quality book still matters if you want to build a business with itThe simple questions authors should ask before hiring anyoneHighlights & Timestamps[00:00] The publishing industry's darker sideMichele opens with a warning about publishers who take authors' money and still fail to produce a quality book.[00:00] Meet Michele DeFilippoRodric introduces Michele, founder of 1106 Design, who has helped over 4,000 authors self-publish since 2001.[01:00] Rodric's own publishing lessonsRodric shares that after publishing two books, he learned a lot the hard way and wishes he'd had someone like Michele sooner.[01:00] AI-generated books and publishing garbageMichele explains her concerns about AI-created books flooding the market and why there is no substitute for an author's real voice.[02:00] Biggest misconceptions authors haveShe breaks down how authors often misunderstand what self-publishing really means.[02:00] What self-publishing originally meantMichele explains that self-publishing used to clearly mean the author was the publisher and kept control and profits.[03:00] The rise of middleman publishersShe explains how many companies now charge authors to publish their books and still take money from every sale.[04:00] Publisher vs. services: what authors actually needRodric asks Michele to clarify the difference between a publisher and simply hiring the right professionals to help.[04:00] How Michele's company helps authorsMichele explains how 1106 Design provides editing, design, distribution setup, and publishing support in the author's name.[06:00] The money authors leave on the tableShe explains how many authors are unknowingly earning far less per book because they signed bad publishing deals.[06:00] Rodric on unrealistic publishing expectationsRodric shares how people often misunderstand what success looks like when a book launches.[07:00] Michele on the “100 books sold” mythShe pushes back on the often-repeated statistic that most books sell under 100 copies and explains why that number can be misleading.[08:00] Why authors need protection from scamsMichele talks about the emotional investment authors make in their books and why scams in publishing are especially damaging.[09:00] Rodric's story about a poet friendRodric shares a story about a friend whose poetry book struggled to find support in traditional publishing.[10:00] Rodric's message about Million Dollar Flip FlopsRodric shares a quick message about his book and the foundation behind it.[10:00] Where to find MicheleMichele shares where authors can connect with her and download her free book, Publish Like the Pros.[11:00] Michele's question for the next guestShe asks a simple but powerful question: what is your why?[11:00] Michele's answer to the previous guest's questionShe shares the last physical book she read — The Body Keeps the Score — and what it taught her about hidden suffering and compassion.[13:00] Final advice for authorsMichele ends by sharing the specific warning signs and questions authors should use when evaluating publishing offers.Notable Quotes“Some of these publishers just take their money and don't put out a good book.” – Michele DeFilippo“Authors do not need a publisher. They need services.” – Michele DeFilippo“If they're offering you a free ISBN, that's a red flag.” – Michele DeFilippo“If they're offering to pay you in a royalty, that's a red flag.” – Michele DeFilippo“There's no substitute for an author writing down what's in their heart.” – Michele DeFilippo“When in doubt, be kind.” – Rodric LenhartConnect with Michele

Send us Fan MailYou didn't do anything wrong. Your brain just got there first.That's the thing about automatic negative thoughts: they don't wait for evidence. They don't ask permission. Something happens, and before you've had a single conscious thought about it, your brain has already decided: of course this went sideways. Nobody ever comes through. Something is wrong with me. And then you feel bad about feeling bad, which is its own whole thing.In this episode, Sami and Angela wrap up an accidental three-part series on how your brain actually works, following conversations on metacognition and cognitive distortions, by landing on the concept that ties it all together. We dig into:What an automatic negative thought actually is (and why it's not the same as pessimism)Where these thoughts come from and what seeds themWhy "just choose a better thought" is not as easy as it sounds (and what to do instead)How to recognize when your brain is jumping to a conclusion that isn't yoursWhat it actually looks like to interrupt the pattern without judging yourself for having itAngela breaks down how these thoughts grow from deeper core beliefs, the weed whacker vs. the root analogy is going to stick with you. Sami brings her factory metaphor to explain why the machine itself shapes the output, and why understanding that changes everything. They also talk about the spotlight effect, a story about a speaker who got a standing ovation and still thought she bombed, and the one thing that actually interrupts an automatic negative thought in someone else.You're going to walk away with language for something you've probably experienced a hundred times and never had a name for. That's half the work. Once you can call it out, you're already ahead of it.Press play. Your brain is not broken. It's just been running the same loop for a while, and this episode is a good place to start changing that.Mentioned in this episode:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk - besselvanderkolk.comAtlas of the Heart by Brene Brown - brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heartBe Freaking Awesome by Angela Belford - bfreakingawesome.comLoving What Is by Byron Katie (The Work / four questions) -- thework.comThe 3rd Annual Family Business Forum is May 19 in Springdale, AR. A day built for family-owned businesses who want to communicate better, lead stronger, and actually enjoy working together. Sessions on communication, AI, and high performance, plus a panel, awards, and networking. Early bird tickets are $75 through April 30, then the price goes up. Grab your spot before May 1 at familybusinessnow.com. Support the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at podcast@bfreakingawesome.com.

Honor In Life And Decision Making The Art of Honoring Yourself: Aligning Values with Decision-Making in Life and Business Honoring Yourself in Life & Business A guide to decision-making, alignment, and the integrity of self-respect. Core Philosophy "The body knows something that our mind doesn't know. When your body isn't fighting you and your heart is at peace, you're in alignment." Alignment - Congruence between mindset, speech, and action. Integrity - High moral standards and self-respect in transactions. The Tolerance Trap - Tolerance→Acceptance→Endorsement Red flag: Tolerating bad ideas eventually leads to advocating for them. Decision Checklist •Ask Questions: Clarify disconnects immediately; don't fear looking "unqualified." •Check Function: If a situation lacks function or purpose, it's a negative variable. •Gut Check: Revisit decisions if you feel physical tension or mental "games." •Step Away: When in doubt, disengage. Confusion only breeds more confusion. Key Tags #SelfAwareness#Boundaries#Intuition#NoPosturing#DueDiligence Reading: The Body Keeps the Score recommended. sashatalks.com • 2026-04-14 This presentation by Sasha of SashaTalks explores the multifaceted nature of "honor" as a foundational principle for personal and professional integrity. It provides a framework for recognizing misalignment through intuition and physical signals while offering actionable strategies to maintain self-respect in complex environments. The Foundation of Honor and Alignment Honor is defined through various lenses, ranging from public reputation and high moral standards to the personal act of self-respect and alignment. True alignment occurs when an individual's mindset, speech, and actions move in a singular direction. However, this alignment can be positive (progress) or negative (self-sabotage), making it essential to consciously evaluate the direction of one's life. When alignment is lacking, individuals often experience an "inner knowing" or physical discomfort. This dissonance serves as a signal to reconsider a matter at hand, whether it be a business deal, a partnership, or a daily consumer choice. Because people often "lower the bar" for screening choices due to optics or persuasive language, objective assessment and detachment are necessary to see circumstances for what they truly are. The Alignment Framework Integrity is achieved when these four pillars move in the same direction: Mindset Thoughts Speech Language Decisions Choices Actions Reality Navigating the "Tolerance Trap" A critical psychological progression exists between tolerating a situation and eventually endorsing it. While tolerance may be necessary in isolated contexts, prolonged tolerance often graduates into acceptance, and eventually, a subconscious endorsement of behaviors or ideas that contradict one's values. This "Tolerance Trap" is a red flag for the breakdown of common sense and personal standards. To avoid this, everything in life should be evaluated based on its "function." If a variable—whether a person, a habit, or a business process—does not serve a function for survival, prosperity, or healthy coexistence, it likely hinders self-development. Maintaining honor requires the courage to disengage from "mechanical motions" that lack substance or purpose segment13]. The Body as a Decision-Making Compass Intuition is often a physiological experience. The body frequently recognizes misalignment before the mind can rationalize it, manifesting as tension or a "gut feeling." Sasha references the concept that "The Body Keeps the Score," suggesting that physical reactions are reliable indicators of whether a decision aligns with one's core truth. A mistake only becomes a "decision" when it is repeated; otherwise, it is a lesson in course correction. Honoring oneself also involves managing resistance and boundaries. Resistance may be a byproduct of fear, but it can also be a protective mechanism. Cleansing one's life of variables that no longer have a "function" for the current season is vital for moving toward one's true destiny without forcing unsustainable outcomes. The Path from Tolerance to Endorsement Tolerance: Coexisting with a non-ideal situation (Temporary). Acceptance: Normalizing the situation over time. Endorsement: Advocating for or defending the misalignment. "Context matters: Be intentional about what you tolerate and why." Practical Steps to Honor Yourself The transition from being reactive to being intentional requires a commitment to self-honesty and the establishment of non-negotiables. This includes the willingness to think for oneself, even when challenged by peer pressure or professional expectations. Owning one's presence and space is not about aggression, but about the self-awareness of one's fears and ambitions. Key Data Client Demographics: Approximately 75% of individuals seeking guidance on these topics come from the business world. Definitions of Honor: There are at least 13 different formal definitions of honor, highlighting its complexity. To-Do / Next Steps Visit SashaTalks.com to review the latest literature and professional commentary. Read "The Body Keeps the Score" to better understand the physiological signals of stress and intuition segment 23. Perform a "Function Audit" on current commitments to see if they aid in survival, prosperity, or growth. Practice the "When in Doubt, Walk Away" rule to avoid attracting further confusion into decision-making processes. Identify your "Non-Negotiables" to strengthen your boundaries in personal and professional settings. Submit a testimony or topic suggestion via the contact page at SashaTalks.com segment 27. Conclusion Honoring yourself is an ongoing practice of alignment between your internal values and external reality. By listening to the body's signals, questioning lack of clarity, and being mindful of the "tolerance trap," you can make decisions that foster self-respect and long-term growth. As Sasha concludes, the goal is to respond to life with intention rather than merely reacting to its challenges.

Damian Karaula and Dimitri Antonopoulos sat down on a humid Melbourne morning. No agenda. No topic brief. Finally making time for a conversation.We started where a lot of conversations start right now: how do you stay sane in 2026? The noise, the news cycle, the algorithms designed to keep you anxious and activated. Damian talked about what that constant stimulation actually does to your nervous system, not as theory, but as something he notices in his own body. And we both landed on the same place: you don't solve it by consuming better content. You solve it by reclaiming your spaces.From there we went deep. Rituals. Posture. Breath. Journaling. The difference between safe spaces and brave spaces. Why complaining is usually grief wearing a mask. Why most leadership failures start with unresolved inner work, not a lack of strategy.Damian talked about the idea of threshold keepers. Ancient figures in cultures who held space for people to move through difficult passages. He's convinced we're missing them now, and that there's something profound in rebuilding that role for this moment, not through credentials or titles, but through the willingness to do your own work first.I shared what I've been reading about community and belonging, and what I keep coming back to: that every time we gather, we have the potential to model the future we want to create. Most people running meetings, workshops, conferences and boardrooms have never stopped to think about that.We also talked honestly about what excites us. Younger generations who aren't buying the old story. Community as a genuine form of leadership. A Moth-style storytelling event we're planning. Some panel conversations we're putting together. The possibility of something more substantial, a few days together, later in the year._Referenced in this episodeThe Moth — the American storytelling organisation and podcast that inspired the spoken-word event format Damian and I are developing. Worth listening to if you've never come across it. themoth.orgMentor Hub — Damian Karaula's organisation, where a lot of the resilience and leadership lab work he references is grounded.If this episode sparked something, here's further readingCommunity: The Structure of Belonging — Peter Block. This is the book I was reading when we recorded. On what it actually takes to build genuine community, and why most attempts fail before they start.The Art of Gathering — Priya Parker. How we gather shapes what's possible. One of the clearest books on why most meetings and events fail before they start.In Over Our Heads — Robert Kegan. On the gap between what modern life demands of us and what we're actually equipped to handle. Dense but worth it.Lost Connections — Johann Hari. A readable, well-researched case for why belonging and community aren't soft ideas, they're survival.The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk. Everything Damian was pointing to about the nervous system, activation, and what we carry in our bodies. The science behind the conversation. Get full access to March First at marchfirst.substack.com/subscribe

If you've ever felt stuck in patterns you can't explain, this episode will hit home. In this conversation, Lyndsay Soprano sits down with Matt Johnson to unpack how much of our lives are actually being run by the subconscious mind and how trauma quietly shapes the way we think, feel, and respond.Matt shares how tools like NLP and hypnosis can help uncover and release emotional baggage that's been sitting beneath the surface for years. They talk about the real reason willpower alone doesn't work, how the body holds onto past experiences, and what it takes to actually create lasting change.This isn't about surface-level mindset shifts. It's about understanding the root of your behaviors and learning how to work with your mind instead of against it. They also touch on the importance of self-care, especially for those who are constantly showing up for others, and how small shifts in awareness can start to change everything.If you're dealing with chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, or patterns that keep repeating, this episode offers a different way to look at healing—one that starts from the inside out.Tune in to this bonus episode if you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start understanding what's really driving your life.Episode Highlights:(00:00) Introduction to The Pain Game Podcast(08:25) Rethinking PTSD Beyond Just Soldiers(11:40) What NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Actually Is(15:53) How the Subconscious Influences Chronic Pain(21:02) 95% of Daily Behavior is Subconscious(26:39) Healing Unresolved Trauma at the Root(32:08) The Body Keeps the Score and Its Impact(34:10) Insights from a Berkeley Study on Mental Health(36:08) The Ongoing Work of Healing(37:09) Transformation is Possible When You Refuse to Give UpFind Matt Johnson Online Here:Website: mattjohnsonnlp.comInstagram: @mattjohnson7455Facebook: Matt JohnsonLinkedIn: Matt JohnsonYouTube: Rewire and Rise with NLPFind The Pain Game Podcast Online Here:Website: thepaingamepodcast.comInstagram: @thepaingamepodcastFacebook: The Pain Game PodcastLinkedIn: Lyndsay SopranoYouTube: The Pain Game PodcastSubscribe on YouTube | Merch Shop is OPEN!! | This Is More Than a PodcastUnfiltered convos. Dark humor. Real healing.This is where pain meets purpose — and you're not doing it alone.++Want to be a guest on The Pain Game Podcast with Lyndsay Soprano? Send her a message on PodMatch, here: Be a Guest on The Show

What if your past isn't just remembered—but physically carried with you every day?In Episode 285, Mike and Mark dive into The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, a transformative exploration of how trauma shapes the brain, body, and our perception of the world.This episode challenges the idea that trauma is “just a story” and instead reveals how deeply it influences our reactions, relationships, and sense of self. From understanding your personal “map of the world” to learning how to release stored stress through movement, imagination, and even body positioning—this conversation is both eye-opening and practical.If you've ever felt stuck in patterns you can't explain, or sensed that something from the past is still holding you back, this episode offers a powerful framework for awareness, healing, and forward momentum.Now more than ever, understanding how to process and release what we carry is essential—not just for growth, but for living fully.Key ThemesTrauma as perception, not just memoryThe “map of the world” shaped by past experiencesHow trauma physically alters the brain and bodyEmotional pain as a full-body experienceGetting “stuck” in patterns of thought and behaviorHealing through movement, imagination, and creativityThe power of body language and posture in emotional statesAwareness and choice as tools for transformationConcepts & BreakthroughsOne of the most profound ideas in this episode is that trauma is not simply an event—it is the way the brain adapts to that event. As Bessel explains, our minds construct a “map of the world” based on past experiences, and that map determines how we interpret everything that follows. Two people can experience the same situation and walk away with completely different realities.This becomes especially important when trauma is unresolved. It doesn't stay in the past—it shows up in present reactions, often disproportionate to the situation. As discussed in the episode, someone may react strongly not because of what's happening now, but because of what happened years ago.Another key breakthrough is the understanding that trauma lives in the body. Feelings like anxiety, dread, or stress are not abstract—they manifest physically: tight shoulders, shallow breathing, or a clenched gut. As highlighted in the transcript, “heartbreak” and “gut-wrenching” are not just metaphors—they are literal bodily experiences .Healing, therefore, cannot be purely intellectual. It must involve the body. Movement, breathwork, and physical awareness become essential tools for releasing stored trauma. Even posture plays a role—standing upright, opening the chest, and adopting a “position of joy” can directly influence emotional state.Perhaps the most liberating idea explored is the concept of breaking out of the “trauma trap.” Through imagination, creativity, and even theatrical expression, we can step into new roles and identities. This creates distance from old patterns and opens the door to new ways of being.Habits, Tools & Mental Models1. The “Map of the World” CheckRegularly question your interpretation of events. Ask: Is this reality, or my past shaping my perception?2. Trauma Detox PracticeJust like physical detox, emotional detox requires intentional effort—through journaling, movement, or conversation.3. Body Awareness ScansNotice where stress lives in your body. Shoulders, neck, and gut are common signals of unresolved tension.4. Intercept the Thought LoopWhen revisiting past pain, consciously interrupt the pattern. Redirect attention before it spirals.Become a Member of the Moonshots Podcast:https://www.patreon.com/Moonshots

In this episode, we're joined by Nicole Clifton, a coach specializing in faith deconstruction, purity culture trauma, and chronic illness support. Nicole shares her personal journey navigating chronic pain for nearly 20 years while growing up in evangelical Christianity. We explore the often-overlooked connection between purity culture and chronic health conditions, discussing how high-control religious environments create constant hypervigilance and stress that can manifest as long-term physical symptoms. Nicole explains how messages about ignoring bodily signals, maintaining perfectionism, and living in perpetual fear of making mistakes kept her disconnected from her body's wisdom for years.The conversation dives into practical healing approaches for those dealing with both religious trauma and chronic illness. Nicole emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, body neutrality (rather than toxic positivity), and learning to tune into bodily signals without judgment. We discuss how shame operates as both an emotional and physiological state, the value of acceptance-based approaches for chronic pain, and why rebuilding trust with your body is essential after years of being taught it's dangerous or sinful. Nicole offers hope through her own transformation—from viewing her body as "defective" and a "liability" to recognizing it as resilient and deserving of care and compassion.Website: CTRR BioSocial Media: @nicoleclifton_inyourcornerAnything else (e.g. book title and link) Resources discussed in this episode: What Doesn't Kill You by Tessa MillerThis podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram @andrew_kerbsFollow Andrew's post-SDA account @lifeafteradventismFollow Andrew's account on neurodivergence and high control religion @divergent.faith Join Andrew's Substack (Kerb Your Enthusiasm) www.andrewkerbs.substack.com To begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call hereFollow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Join Laura's Substack (Therapy in the Headlines) www.drlauraeanderson.substack.com To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so hereHosts: Laura Anderson and A

Understanding Your Pain: How Childhood Experiences Shape Your Life and Relationships Episode Summary In this deeply honest and meaningful conversation, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels explore one of the most important—and often avoided—topics in healing: personal pain. Whether that pain feels overwhelming and present, or buried and difficult to access, it plays a powerful role in shaping how we think, feel, and connect with others. In this episode, we examine how early life experiences—especially Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)—can influence emotional health, physical well-being, and relationship patterns later in life. Dr. Skinner shares both clinical insights and personal experiences to illustrate how unresolved pain can remain stored in the body for years, quietly influencing behavior and perception. Together, we discuss why some experiences are difficult to recall, how trauma impacts the brain and nervous system, and why having a safe, supportive environment is essential for healing. This episode also offers hope. Through the concept of Benevolent Childhood Experiences (BCEs), we explore how even one positive, supportive relationship can shift outcomes and foster resilience. Healing is possible—and it often begins with awareness, compassion, and a willingness to gently explore your story. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure why certain patterns keep repeating, this episode is an invitation to better understand yourself—and to take the next step toward healing.

What if trauma healing isn't just about talking about the past, but helping the body feel safe again?   In this episode of The Healing + Human Potential Podcast, I sit down with Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world's leading trauma experts, to explore 7 powerful ways to heal trauma without medication.   Bessel shares why trauma is not just a story from the past, but a pattern the body and nervous system keep replaying in the present. We talk about why true healing often requires more than talk therapy, and how approaches like EMDR, yoga, breathwork, neurofeedback, movement, community + psychedelics can help people process trauma in a deeper way.   If you've ever wondered why trauma can still live in the body, why certain patterns keep repeating, or what actually helps people heal, this episode offers a much more hopeful + expanded path forward.   ===   Guest Bio: Bessel van der Kolk MD is one of the world's leading trauma experts and author of The Body Keeps the Score. He has spent his career studying how trauma impacts the brain and body and developing treatments that help people heal from traumatic stress.     ====   Connect with Guest: Website:  https://www.besselvanderkolk.com   ===   Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free:  https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools   ===   Want one of the most Powerful Tools to Support you in Awakening & Manifesting Your Dream Life from the Inside Out (for Free)?   Learn how to live to your full potential without letting fear get in the way of your dreams.   ✨ Here's How to Get Your Gift: ✨   Step 1: Just head over to Apple Podcast or Spotify + leave a review now   Step 2: Take a screenshot before hitting submit   Step 3: Then go to alyssanobriga.com/podcast to upload it!   ===   Website: alyssanobriga.com Instagram: @alyssanobriga TikTok: @alyssanobriga Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6b5s2xbA2d3pETSvYBZ9YR Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-human-potential/id1705626495   === Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved

Science journalist Sadie Dingfelder is back with "Is That Bullshit?" — this time investigating the yoga-class truism that trauma lives in your hips, and the broader claim behind Bessel van der Kolk's massively influential book The Body Keeps the Score. Also: Kash Patel, Tulsi Gabbard, and John Ratcliffe testified before Congress on election security, and the numbers on non-citizen voting are in.  WIll it reach low double digits?  Stay tuned! Produced by Corey Wara Video and Social Media by Geoff Craig Do you have questions or comments, or just want to say hello? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠thegist@mikepesca.com For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/⁠ For ad-free content or to become a Pesca Plus subscriber, check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily takes on Substack, subscribe to The Gist List https://mikepesca.substack.com/ Follow us on Social Media:⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4_bh0wHgk2YfpKf4rg40_g⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pescagist/ X https://x.com/pescami TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@pescagist To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/TheGist

¿Sientes que por más que visualizas y afirmas, tu realidad no cambia? En el episodio de hoy, vamos a ir mucho más profundo en el proceso de manifestación consciente. No solo queremos manifestar cosas, queremos diseñar una vida a nuestra medida.   En este episodio aprenderás: La Paradoja de la Manifestación: Por qué necesitas sentirte en paz y abundancia antes de tener el dinero o la pareja, y por qué esto no es una injusticia, sino una liberación. El Cuerpo Lleva la Cuenta: Cómo el trauma infantil y las heridas del pasado actúan como "plomo" que te impide flotar hacia la superficie de tus sueños. Más allá del Psicoanálisis: Por qué entender tus problemas mentalmente no es suficiente y por qué el trabajo somático es la clave para liberar emociones atoradas en tu cuerpo. Tus Centros Energéticos: Un recorrido por tus chakras y cómo los bloqueos en lugares como el sacro o la garganta detienen tu flujo creativo y tu capacidad de decir tu verdad. Manifestación y Salud: La conexión entre tus emociones no expresadas y síntomas físicos como contracturas, insomnio o problemas de tiroides. Los libros que se mencionan son: The Body Keeps the Score (El cuerpo lleva la cuenta) de Bessel van der Kolk. Síndrome de un Corazón Roto de Esther Iturralde: https://www.amazon.com.mx/dp/6073807902  ¡Inscríbete a Self Masters! Si estás listo para convertirte en el maestro de tu propia realidad y aprender técnicas avanzadas de manifestación y sanación somática, únete a mi próximo programa.

Grieving the Unseen Loss: Understanding Grief After Betrayal Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis reflect on the powerful insights emerging from the 2026 Human Intimacy Conference, with a particular focus on grief following sexual betrayal. While much of the field has emphasized trauma and post-traumatic stress, this conversation highlights a critical gap: the profound and often unaddressed grief experienced by both betrayed and betraying partners. Drawing from early data on the Grief After Betrayal Impact Scale, MaryAnn shares a striking finding—the most significant loss reported is not just the relationship, but the loss of self, including identity, trust in oneself, and a coherent sense of reality. The discussion explores how betrayal creates a “collapsed self,” alters one's perception of a partner, and leads to ongoing grief that can persist for decades. The episode introduces emerging frameworks for understanding betrayal-related grief, including stages of emotional shock, internal conflict, withdrawal, rage, and eventual reclamation. Dr. Skinner and Marianne emphasize that grief is not a single event but a long-term process, often unfolding over years as individuals grieve not only what happened, but what could have been. A key theme is the importance of giving grief a voice in safe relationships. Healing is accelerated when individuals are witnessed, validated, and supported—whether by a partner, therapist, or trusted connection. Without this, grief often becomes prolonged and isolating. The conversation also raises important clinical and societal implications, including the need for better training, expanded research, and more effective support systems—particularly in faith communities, where many individuals report feeling misunderstood or unsupported. Ultimately, this episode reframes betrayal recovery by integrating grief as a central component of healing, calling for a more compassionate, relational, and research-informed approach to addressing the deep emotional losses that accompany betrayal. Click here to take the Grief After Betrayal Impact Scale References (Note: These are foundational and aligned with concepts discussed in the episode—ideal for podcast notes and future academic integration.) Jennifer J. Freyd (1996). Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse. Harvard University Press. Judith Herman (1992). Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books. Susan Anderson (2010). The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. Berkley Books. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & Kessler, D. (2005). On Grief and Grieving. Scribner. William Worden (2009). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy. Springer Publishing. Bessel van der Kolk (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Viking. Stephen W. Porges (2011). The Polyvagal Theory. Norton. John Bowlby (1980). Attachment and Loss: Vol. 3 – Loss. Basic Books. Pauline Boss (1999). Ambiguous Loss. Harvard University Press. Kenneth J. Doka (1989). Disenfranchised Grief. Lexington Books.  

Send a textSurviving Ish: Trauma Triggers, Toxic Positivity, and the Relief of Losing an Abusive Mother (with Jesse, author of Girl Hidden)Host David welcomes Jesse Gibbs (author of the memoir Girl Hidden) to Surviving Ish for a wide-ranging conversation on how scent and the body can trigger trauma responses, referencing The Body Keeps the Score and the difficulty of trusting intuition. They discuss “solving” feelings instead of feeling them, gentle self-parenting, and rejecting labels like “survivor,” “resilient,” or “hero” when they're used to shut down vulnerability. Jesse shares her current “ish” about shoppers abandoning meat in non-refrigerated aisles and how small kindnesses matter. The conversation turns to Jessie learning her abusive mother has died, prompting reflections on relief, grief, and closure, plus a brief overview of her childhood abuse, kidnapping, and estrangement. They critique forgiveness as “clean slate,” talk about autonomy, appearance, purity culture, and end with support, validation, and Jesse's thoughts on possibly writing another book. #books #author #podcast https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/59856769-girl-hiddenhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/surviving-ish-podcast/id1572182113?i=1000626284084Support the show

Theologian Bo Karen Lee joins Ryan McAnnally-Linz to explore how the multiple layers of trauma—pandemic grief, racialized violence, intergenerational wounding, vicarious suffering—can be met by the resources of Ignatian spirituality and contemplative prayer. Writing and teaching at the intersection of Christian formation and social justice, Lee brings both scholarly precision and uncommon personal candor to one of the most urgent conversations in theology today. "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing. So it has the very opposite effect of what is needed for it to be healed." In this conversation, Lee reflects on the spiritual journey from what one author calls "alarmed aloneness" toward becoming beloved—seen, held, and gazed upon with love. Together they discuss the overlapping layers of collective, personal, racialized, and intergenerational trauma shaping contemporary life; attachment theory and its parallels with spiritual formation; the Ignatian tradition of imaginative, contemplative prayer; the still face experiment and the theology of the loving gaze; and why the church has something singular to offer the trauma crisis of our time. Episode Highlights "We are quite sure we're alone in the world and no one really sees us, no one truly cares and no one can be trusted. You're alone, overwhelmed, and helpless." "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing. So it has the very opposite effect of what is needed for it to be healed." "I need to be held, but it's this illusory figure that holds me, because I have shut myself off to the very things that could help me, because no one is to be trusted." "I've seen too much hope, and too much beauty, and too much healing walking through the spiritual exercises that I can no longer despair that trauma has the final word." "Gazing upon the God who gazes upon me with love. That is contemplative prayer." About Bo Karen Lee Bo Karen Lee is Associate Professor of Spiritual Theology and Christian Formation at Princeton Theological Seminary, where she teaches contemplative theology, Ignatian spirituality, and the relationship between prayer and social justice. A leading voice in the integration of trauma studies and Christian formation, she brings the Ignatian tradition into conversation with psychology, attachment theory, and the lived experience of racialized communities. Her work draws on the Spiritual Exercises of Ignatius of Loyola to offer resources for healing that are both theologically grounded and pastorally immediate. She directs retreatants in the nineteenth annotation of the Spiritual Exercises and works regularly with spiritual directors trained in the Ignatian tradition. Helpful Links and Resources Bessel van der Kolk, Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society https://www.amazon.com/Traumatic-Stress-Overwhelming-Experience-Society/dp/1572300485 Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother's Hands https://www.resmaa.com/resources Kathy Weingarten, Common Shock: Witnessing Violence Every Day https://www.kathyweingarten.com David Fleming SJ, Draw Me Into Your Friendship https://www.amazon.com/Draw-Me-Into-Your-Friendship/dp/0912422904 Ignatius of Loyola, The Spiritual Exercises https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-spiritual-exercises/ Edward Tronick, Still Face Experiment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 Find a Spiritual Director https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/making-good-decisions/find-a-spiritual-director/ Show Notes Trauma defined: "terror triggered by an inescapably stressful event that overwhelms existing coping mechanisms" — Bessel van der Kolk Layers of trauma: collective pandemic grief, personal wounding, racialized violence, intergenerational encoding, vicarious/secondary trauma Global pandemic as collective trauma — threat of death, forced isolation, planetary-scale overwhelm Racialized trauma and AAPI hate incidents — one in five AAPI individuals reported a hate incident in the U.S. in a 15-month window (as of late 2021) My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem — racialized trauma encoded in bodies and communities https://www.resmaa.com/resources Cumulative microaggressions — daily small injuries can produce PTSD-level effects over time; growing body of clinical literature Secondary/vicarious trauma — hearing others' suffering reactivates unresolved wounds in caregivers and companions "Double jeopardy" — Kathy Weingarten's term for caregivers whose own past traumas are reactivated while supporting others Five professions at highest risk: clergy, health workers, teachers, police, journalists — context for the Great Resignation "Alarmed aloneness" — the net effect of trauma: certainty that no one sees you, no one cares, no one can be trusted "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing." The orphan image: a girl in a Middle Eastern orphanage draws a chalk mother around her fetal body — illusory comfort as portrait of traumatic isolation Intergenerational trauma — encoded in DNA; personal testimony about learning her own mother was nearly killed as an infant, its echo across generations Kintsugi as healing metaphor — the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold; grief before repair, not a race to be fixed Robert Stolorow's concept: finding a "relational home" for traumatic suffering — the necessity of being witnessed Ignatius of Loyola — 16th-century Spanish soldier wounded by cannonball; encountered the living Christ through Ludolph of Saxony's Vita Christi during convalescence The Spiritual Exercises: a four-week manual for imaginative prayer — beloved and broken, walking with Christ through ministry, suffering, resurrection https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-spiritual-exercises/ Ignatian contemplative prayer defined: "gazing upon the God who gazes upon me with love" — kataphatic, embodied, not requiring stillness or silence Still Face Experiment (Edward Tronick) — infant distress when a loving mother goes blank; evidence that the gaze of love is neurologically and psychologically foundational https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 Attachment theory and spiritual formation — earned secure attachment: what unhealthy early bonding cannot provide, sustained relationship with God can "I've seen too much hope, and too much beauty, and too much healing walking through the spiritual exercises that I can no longer despair that trauma has the final word." Personal testimony: AAPI hate crimes, night terrors, contemplative prayer with a spiritual director; a vision of Mary, the wailing women, and the crucified Christ "Bo, they killed me too" — Christ's words in a contemplative vision; solidarity as the beginning of bearable grief Sartre's "hell is other people" reframed — parasitic dependence on others' approval vs. the freedom of knowing how God gazes upon you Resources for beginning: David Fleming's Draw Me Into Your Friendship; finding a spiritual director trained in Ignatian spirituality; Jesuit retreat centers #TraumaHealing #IgnatianSpirituality #ContemplativePrayer #ChristianFormation #SpiritualTheology #MentalHealthAndFaith #RacializedTrauma #AttachmentTheory #ForTheLifeOfTheWorld #YaleDivinity Production Notes This podcast featured Bo Karen Lee Edited and Produced by Evan Rosa Hosted by Evan Rosa Production Assistance by Annie Trowbridge and Luke Stringer A Production of the Yale Center for Faith & Culture at Yale Divinity School https://faith.yale.edu/about Support For the Life of the World podcast by giving to the Yale Center for Faith & Culture: https://faith.yale.edu/give

En este episodio exploramos una pregunta muy importante: ¿por qué reaccionamos de la manera en que reaccionamos? Muchas veces nuestras respuestas emocionales parecen desproporcionadas, confusas o incluso fuera de nuestro control. Pero la realidad es que muchas de estas reacciones están profundamente conectadas con nuestra historia, nuestras experiencias pasadas y la manera en que nuestro sistema nervioso aprendió a protegernos. A lo largo de este episodio hablamos sobre cómo nuestras experiencias pueden moldear nuestras respuestas, cómo el cuerpo guarda memoria de lo que hemos vivido y por qué comprender esto puede ser el primer paso hacia la sanidad. También hacemos referencia al libro The Body Keeps the Score de Bessel van der Kolk, una obra muy reconocida que explora cómo el trauma y las experiencias difíciles pueden quedar registradas en el cuerpo y cómo es posible comenzar un proceso de sanidad desde un entendimiento más profundo. Porque la verdadera transformación no comienza con simplemente cambiar nuestro comportamiento, sino con entender lo que sucede dentro de nosotros. Si tienes preguntas o quieres compartir tu experiencia, puedes escribirnos en anatomyofchangeofficial.com o en Instagram @_stillwaters365. Esperamos que el Señor te hable a través de este mensaje. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the places where you feel the most emotionally reactive are actually invitations to grow? In today's workout, Alisa Keeton, founder and CEO of Revelation Wellness, invites you to move your body while engaging the Word of God—not just hearing it, but living it. Because Scripture calls us to be doers of the Word, not just hearers. So get your good body moving. However you choose to move today—walking, jogging, stretching, or simply breathing deeply—remember this: movement helps your body do what God designed it to do. Today's Scripture: Numbers 20:1–13 The Body and Our Emotions Our bodies are emotional places. Trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk famously wrote The Body Keeps the Score, reminding us that emotions live in our bodies. No emotion is off the table. At their core, emotions are childlike signals. Your brain is simply trying to keep you safe. But emotional reactivity can reveal something deeper. Our emotional instability can show us the places where we're still growing. The places where we're still immature. The places where we need God's presence most. Questions to Reflect On While You Move As you get the blood flowing and settle into your movement today, consider: What have you seen God do in your life? What miracles has He already performed? Where might you be trying to fix things in your own strength? Emotional maturity isn't achieved through willpower. The cure is His presence. So today, breathe deep. Relax your shoulders. Keep moving. Let God meet you in your body, your breath, and your emotions. Playlist: Thankful by Lukas Gross & Martna Valeikaitė Matter of Time by Vandelux You're Gonna Be OK by Rave Jesus & son Ordinary by Alex Warren holy bounce by Bonafyde Thank God I'm Free by Elevation Rhythm Mighty Name of Jesus by Hope Darst Don't Give Up On Me by Brandon Lake Ready to Go Deeper?

En este episodio de Leyendo con Vale exploramos una verdad profunda: cómo las experiencias difíciles y el trauma no solo quedan en la mente, sino también almacenados en el cuerpo. Conversamos sobre qué significa esto y cómo podemos empezar, paso a paso, un camino real hacia la sanidad emocional.Inspirado en el poderoso libro The Body Keeps the Score de Bessel van der Kolk, este episodio abre una conversación honesta sobre el dolor, la memoria del cuerpo y la esperanza de sanar. Porque aunque el cuerpo recuerde… también puede aprender a sanar.

You've tried the programs. Hired the coaches. Read the books. Set the goals. And something still won't move.The personal development industry has a very convenient explanation for that: you. Your mindset. Your discipline. Your willingness to do the work.They're wrong. And in this episode, Tim Eldred names the thing nobody in that industry wants to say out loud—because saying it blows up the business model.The reason most transformation efforts fail isn't bad ideas or weak willpower. It's that they're being applied to a body that isn't ready to receive them. A nervous system stuck in survival mode can't build new habits. Can't think creatively. Can't change. The biology won't allow it.Tim breaks down the science—without the jargon—and gives you four specific inputs that speak directly to your survival system. No purchase required.The Shift releases March 15. Pre-order on Amazon.SHOW NOTESWhy does lasting change feel impossible—even when you're doing everything right?In this episode, Tim Eldred goes after the real reason: not your character, not your discipline, not your willingness to do the work. The problem is biological. When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode—fight, flight, or freeze—the brain regions you need to build habits, regulate emotions, think clearly, and actually change are neurologically offline. Not impaired. Offline.Tim breaks down:Why the personal development industry is built on a loop that protects itself by blaming you The science behind why mindset-first approaches have a ceiling (and why nobody selling them will tell you) What polyvagal theory and The Body Keeps the Score actually mean for your daily life — in plain English Four nervous system inputs that bypass your thinking brain entirely: morning light, coherent breathing, cold exposure, and blood sugar regulationThis isn't wellness content. These are interventions that speak directly to the survival system no amount of mindset work has been able to reach.Try this tomorrow morning: → Get outside within the first hour of waking — 5 to 10 minutes of sunlight on your face → Eat 30g of protein before coffee → Three minutes of coherent breathing: 6 seconds in, 6 seconds outYour body will start to respond before your mind understands why.Researchers mentioned in this episode:Dr. Stephen Porges — Polyvagal TheoryDr. Bessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreDr. Andrew Huberman — Stanford, circadian and nervous system researchThe Shift — Tim's new book — releases March 15, 2026. Pre-order here.Want early access and behind-the-scenes content before launch? Join the launch team.Connect with Tim: Substack: Square Peg Round HoleSend us a text message. We'd love to hear from you!Thanks for listening. Please follow on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. You can learn more about Tim here.

In today's conversation, we connect with Dr. Adi Jaffe, a #1 best-selling author and nationally recognized expert on transformation and communication – especially in times of deep crisis. As the author of groundbreaking works like The Abstinence Myth and Unhooked: Free Yourself from Addiction Forever, Dr. Jaffe's mission is both simple and radical: to help people overcome addiction and life challenges without shame, judgment, or rigid rules… Dr. Jaffe's work spans mental health, addiction, relationships, and professional identity, supporting individuals navigating personal, career, and emotional crises. He spent nearly a decade as a lecturer in UCLA's Psychology Department and served as Executive Director and Co-Founder of one of the country's most progressive mental health treatment centers before founding IGNTD. Through IGNTD, Dr. Jaffe is reshaping how we understand and address mental health by helping people move beyond shame, reconnect with purpose and joy, and build lives rooted in fulfillment — for themselves and those around them. This discussion outlines: How anxiety and mental health challenges have evolved in recent years. The psychological impact of technology on modern life. How to navigate conflict in healthier, more constructive ways, and how substances can interfere with that process. The importance of reframing the conventional ideals of addiction. Want to follow along with Dr. Jaffe and his work? Click here now!

JJ welcomes back Michelle Reittinger, author and host of The Upside of Bipolar, for a bold, hope-filled conversation that challenges common cultural narratives around bipolar disorder. Together, they unpack "myths" that can keep people stuck in fear and identity-based labels—and invite listeners into curiosity, root-cause investigation, and a more empowering view of symptoms, healing, and personal responsibility. In This Episode, We Cover ·         Michelle's story: diagnosed in 1998, years of intensive psychiatric treatment, polypharmacy, and a breaking point that became a turning point ·         Why a diagnosis can feel like an "answer," but often doesn't explain why symptoms started ·         The difference between a "cluster of symptoms" and an identified disease mechanism ·         Why curiosity (vs. shame) changes everything—especially with intense symptoms like rage, anxiety, and dissociation ·         The "detective" approach: identifying triggers, patterns, and underlying contributors ·         The role of foundational health (nutrients, sleep, nervous system regulation) in emotional resilience and symptom reduction ·         Why suppressed emotions can show up as anxiety, depression, physical pain, or crisis states ·         How identity, victimhood, and relationship dynamics can unconsciously reinforce staying stuck ·         A grounded reminder: do not abruptly stop medications—tapering/changes should be done slowly and safely with qualified support Notable Takeaways ·         Labels can reduce curiosity—and curiosity is often the doorway to change. ·         "Symptoms" are information; the goal is to explore what they're pointing to. ·         The most empowering question isn't "What's wrong with me?" but "What happened—and what is my system asking for now?" ·         Healing can have a social cost: if your "sick role" has been rewarded with attention, protection, or lowered expectations, getting better can feel threatening (even subconsciously). Resources Mentioned ·         Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker ·         The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk ·         Healing Back Pain by Dr. John Sarno Connect with Michelle ·         Website: theupsideofbipolar.com ·         Free resource: Mood Cycle Survival Guide (available on her site) ·         Podcast + book links are also on her website.

Have you ever wondered why certain experiences stay with you long after the moment has passed, even when you try to move on?In this episode of A Life of Greatness, Sarah Grynberg sits down with Bessel van der Kolk, world-renowned psychiatrist, trauma researcher, and author of the groundbreaking book The Body Keeps the Score. A leading voice in understanding how trauma shapes the brain, body, and behaviour, Bessel shares decades of clinical insight into why trauma keeps people stuck and what it actually takes to heal.In this episode, you will learn:How trauma is defined and why it keeps people frozen in the pastWhy childhood trauma is far more common than most people realiseWhat repair really means in parenting and why predictability mattersHow therapies like EMDR and neurofeedback help rewire the brainThe role of the body, movement, and community in long-term healingWhy medication can help some people, but rarely creates true change on its ownThis episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible, that the body can learn safety again, and that with the right support, people can return to who they truly are.Purchase tickets to Bessel's Australian tour in April 26' here: https://collections.humanitix.com/dr-bessel-van-der-kolk-livePurchase Sarah's book: Living A Life Of Greatness here.To purchase Living A Life of Greatness outside Australia here or here.Watch A Life of Greatness Episodes On Youtube here.Sign up for Sarah's newsletter (Greatness Guide) here.Purchase Sarah's Meditations here.Instagram: @sarahgrynberg Website: https://sarahgrynberg.com/Facebook: facebook.com/sarahgrynbergTwitter: twitter.com/sarahgrynberg Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jeannie Mai, host, style icon, mother, and one of the most recognizable voices in daytime television, opens up about her early Bay Area life that shaped her long before the spotlight. From leaving home at 14 and surviving sexual abuse, to learning how to reinvent, and soften without losing her edge, Jeannie reflects on the cost of becoming who the world sees + the courage it took to become who she actually is. Now in a new chapter she calls 'becoming', Jeannie talks honestly about divorce from her former husband Jeezy, motherhood, co-parenting, faith, healing, and what it really means to rise from the ashes. In this episode, Jeannie shares: What she learned from navigating instability at a young age, and how it influenced her approach to love and healing The community of women that rallied around her during her toughest moment. How survival skills can quietly become limitations in adulthood The difference between intensity vs. intimacy (and how chaos can masquerade as love) How to recognize when you’re performing love instead of living it Why being single can be “the most prized piece of land you’ll ever inherit” Why divorce feels like “experiencing death alive” Why the end of love often marks the beginning of real self-work What “doing the work” actually looks like after divorce Why healing requires time alone, but not isolation The role of movement, strength, and progress in healingWhy not taking things personally is an emotional superpower Jeannie opens up about the labels people love to slap on women (“divorced,” “single,” “46,” “mom”) + why they’ll never tell the full story Why children don’t exist to heal us, but often reflect us The tearful moment her daughter mirrored back words Jeannie had only ever prayed silently How she loves to show up + surprise her friends How to redefine healthy love without closing yourself off How faith evolves when you stop asking and start listening Follow Jeannie on Instagram @thejeanniemai and on her YouTube. Book recommendation: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy New Year, binchies!! In case you're looking to shake up ya life in 2026, we're releasing this formerly Patreon-only episode onto the main feed! Join Julia and Nick as they unveil The Ten Commandments of Shaking Up Ya Life and counsel past and future shakestresses on their journeys. Digressions include Nick's updates from the dildo factory, society's declining birth rates, and living full time in Colonial Williamsburg. To support the podcast on Patreon and access 50+ bonus episodes, mediasodes, and more, visit patreon.com/binchtopia and become a patron today.