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Opener 1. Choose one word that describes: Your week. Your relationship with God. 2. What is a word or phrase that you used to – or still do – mispronounce? Discussion Questions 1. Read Proverbs 12:18. The sermon described words as being like “swords” that can deeply wound others. Why do you think words can impact us so powerfully? Have you experienced words that hurt—or healed—you for a long time afterward? 2. Read Luke 6:43-45 Jesus says, “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” What do you think Jesus means by that? What is the difference between behavior modification and transformation when it comes to our words? 3. What unhealthy heart issues tend to show up through people's words (anger, insecurity, pride, fear, bitterness, etc.)? Which do you most commonly notice in yourself? 4. The sermon also described words as “seeds.” Think about a person whose words helped shape your life in a positive way. What did they say that made such an impact? 5. Jesus consistently noticed and spoke to people one at a time. Who in your life right now may need intentional encouragement, affirmation, or life-giving words from you? What will you do about it? Going Deeper 1. What keeps you from speaking more encouraging words to others? Does the perspective of words as seeds change your motivation? 2. What is the difference between flattering words and truly life-giving words rooted in love and truth? 3. In what kinds of environments do words most easily become “swords” for you (home, parenting, marriage, church, online interactions, work, stress, exhaustion, etc.)? What would it look like to invite Jesus into that space? Live It Out 1. Spiritual Practice: Before conversations, pray: “God, guide my words and help me listen.” 2. Practicing Presence Tip: Listen more than you speak—aim for 70% listening, 30% talking. 3. Holy Inconvenience: Think of someone who drains you a bit… and invite them to coffee or a conversation. Prayer Prompt Have each person share one relationship or conversation where they need wisdom and grace with their words. Pray that God would transform our hearts so that our words become seeds of life, hope, and significance for others.
Opener: What's one gathering or celebration from your life that you still remember fondly? What made it meaningful? Who is someone that naturally brings joy, warmth, or encouragement into a room? What makes their presence impactful? Discussion Questions: 1. In Luke 5:27–32, what stands out to you about Levi's response to following Jesus? Why do you think his first instinct was to throw a party and invite his friends? 2. What was your initial response the first time you started following Jesus? Was it similar or different from Levi's? 3. Read Luke 7:34-50. What does the title “a friend of sinners” reveal about Jesus? Why do you think Jesus’ actions offended the religious leaders? What kind of parallels can you see in our world today? 4. In the sermon, we talked about how Jesus genuinely enjoyed being around people. Would you say that's true about you? What is the difference between tolerating and enjoying someone? 5. In what ways as a church community (both when we gather and individually) are we good at celebrating others and in what ways might we need to grow? Go Deeper 1. Jesus consistently moved toward people others avoided. Who are the kinds of people our culture tends to overlook, avoid, dismiss, or keep at a distance today? What makes moving toward them difficult? 2. The sermon mentioned the loneliness and isolation many people experience today. How have you seen loneliness affect people in your life, workplace, neighborhood, or family? How do you think your presence might make a difference? Live It Out Take time to discuss with your group how you will live it out this week, using the following elements: 1. Spiritual Practice: Write down 3–5 people you're grateful for and thank God for them by name each day this week. Consider sending a text or mailing a card to each one throughout the week. 2. Practicing Presence Tip: Look for moments to enjoy people—not just help, fix, or serve them. 3. Holy Inconvenience: Bring a little joy into an ordinary space this week—a break room, neighborhood gathering, workplace, classroom, or hangout spot. Bring a treat, linger longer than normal, start a conversation, or create a small moment of celebration. Prayer Prompt Invite each person to quietly think of one person they want to move toward relationally this week, and how they could do that. Pray together: “Jesus, thank You for moving toward us with grace, joy, and love. Help us become people whose presence reflects Your kindness and welcome. Give us eyes to see those around us, courage to make space for others, and hearts that genuinely delight in people the way You do. Amen.”
One at a Time In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus gives us guidance on how to treat people who mistreat us. In short, his teaching is to go the extra mile and meet people with radical generosity. Today, we can love one at a time by going above and beyond for the person in front of us. For The One Vision: Empowered by the Holy Spirit, we walk with each one in our communities so that together we experience life as Jesus meant it to be. Opener: 1. What was the game your family played the most growing up? 2. In what ways are you most tempted to “keep score” in your relationships? Discussion Questions: 1. According to Tim Mackie, in Matthew 5 Jesus is “exposing injustice through shocking generosity.” What is your reaction to how Jesus advises his listeners (read Matthew 5:38-43 if you need a refresher)? What might going the extra mile look like in today's context, or specifically in your life? 2. In Matthew 5:43-48, what is Jesus teaching about how we are to treat one another? How does this passage encourage or challenge you? 3. Read Luke 10:25-37. Where do you see overlap between this teaching and Jesus' teaching from Matthew 5? What is Jesus' posture around the Law from these two passages? 4. Discuss the ways in which Jesus goes the extra mile. How does he embody what it means to love others beyond what they deserve? What has he done for you? 5. Is feeling love a necessary part of acting out of love? Go Deeper: 1. Is there a difference between those who were considered enemies in Jesus' day and who we consider to be our enemies today? What makes someone “an enemy”? 2. Are there challenges to going the extra mile today that are different from in Jesus' time? What obstacles get in the way of going the extra mile? Explain. Live it Out Section: Take some time in group to discuss how you will live it out this week Spiritual Practice: Pray each day for someone you find difficult to love. Practicing Presence Tip: When someone frustrates you, choose curiosity instead of reaction. Ask: What might be going on in their world? Holy Inconvenience: Do something this week that isn't your responsibility—at work, at home, or for a neighbor. Prayer Prompt: Have each member share a name (if possible) and specifically pray for someone they feel called to love this week. Pray that God will help each of us go the extra mile.
Jesus regularly changed lives, not in crowds but in proximity—one person at a time. In this first week of our One at a Time series, we explore how following Jesus means noticing who is already right in front of us. For the One vision: Empowered by the Holy Spirit, we will walk with each one in our communities so that together we experience life as Jesus meant it to be. If we want to live out this vision it has to start small. It starts near. It starts now. It starts with one person. Opener: 1. If you could instantly master one “people skill” (remembering names, listening well, small talk, etc.), what would it be and why? 2. Think of a time you were around someone—maybe a coworker, neighbor, or even someone in your family—and later realized you barely connected with them. What are your feelings around that experience? Discussion Questions: 1. Read Luke 8:40–42, 49–56. What stands out to you about Jesus being interrupted on the way to Jairus' house? What might your reactions be in this situation? 2. Read Mark 5:25–34. Why does Jesus allow himself to be interrupted by the bleeding woman when He is already on an urgent mission? How might God be working in what feels like interruptions in your life right now? 3. In the sermon, we talked about the great power of availability. Do you agree with this notion? How could this challenge the way our culture defines importance or significance? 4. Share about a time when someone made themselves available to you in a meaningful way. What lessons can you take from that experience? 5. The sermon emphasized “proximity” as a key part of following Jesus. Who are 1–2 people that God has already placed in your “proximity” this season? Go Deeper: 1. If “loving your neighbor” is less about finding the right person and more about responding to your current proximity, how does that change how you view your everyday schedule? 2. What might be keeping you from fully engaging with the people God has already placed near you (distraction, busyness, discomfort, assumptions, etc.)? When do you find it hardest to engage with people in your daily life? Live It Out: 1.Spiritual Practice: Set a daily silent alarm. When it goes off, pause and pray for whoever is closest to you at that moment. 2. Practicing Presence Tip: When you feel rushed or distracted, slow down and notice who's in front of you. 3. Holy Inconvenience: Skip the drive-thru or self-checkout once this week. Take time to go inside and have a real interaction with someone. Reflection: Take this short survey to help you reflect on your relationship with the Holy Spirit and help us better support and equip you. Thank you! Note: This may look familiar from last fall. If so, take this survey again to reflect on your growth and understanding of the Holy Spirit as we progress through our For the One vision. Your email will only be used to send you a copy of your response. Prayer Prompt: Invite each person in the group to quietly identify one person by first name. Pray this prayer together: Lord, open my eyes to see (this person) the way You see them. Give me awareness of their needs, courage to move toward them, and love that reflects Jesus in my proximity. Amen.
Opening: Share a story about the coolest place you've ever been. Share about a time someone has helped you when you've been in need. What was that experience like? Scripture: Read Matthew 13:31-45. What attributes are these parables trying to communicate about the Kingdom of God? When we say the Kingdom of God/heaven what do we mean? Where have you seen the Kingdom? Read Ephesians 1:15-23. What is Paul saying about Jesus in this passage? How does he connect it to the church (us)? What are the implications of the church being Christ's body through which he speaks and acts (Ephesians 1:23, MSG version)? Does that change how you view “being the church at all?” Live it Out: Is there a way in which God is calling you to move from surviving to thriving? If you are Christ’s body, what is a way that Christ is calling you to represent him in the world this week? How can you bring a seed of the Kingdom? Close in prayer
Icebreaker 1. What is the hardest thing you've ever done physically? 2. What stuck out to you from the Chosen service this week? Scripture: 1. Read Matthew 25:34-40. What role do these words play in your faith? 2. What does verse 40 mean by the “least of these?” 3. Read James 2:14-26 Why do you think James wrote these words to his original audience? What has changed for us today? 4. How do we balance these words of doing good works and being saved by grace? Live it Out: 1. What does it mean to be grace forward? 2. In what ways has God reminded you that you're not alone? 3. Identify and share one way you can love like Jesus loves and serve like Jesus serves this week. Close in prayer
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Icebreaker What is a moment in your life when you felt small in a good way—like you were standing before something bigger than you? When you think about Lent, what emotions or expectations come up for you personally? Reflecting on our Need for God Where do you notice “wilderness spaces” in your life right now—places that feel uncertain, dry, or unresolved? Our world is full of noise and hurry. What do you think makes it difficult today for people to experience awe or stillness? When life feels overwhelming or insufficient, what are the things we tend to reach for first to feel grounded or secure? Scripture In Exodus 3:1–6, Moses encounters the burning bush during an ordinary day in the wilderness. What stands out to you about the way God chooses to meet Moses, and what might that suggest about how God meets us today? In Exodus 3:13–15, God reveals His name as “I AM WHO I AM.” What do you think it means that God introduces Himself with a name of presence rather than a simple description? How do you experience this posture from God in your own life? In John 8:54–58, Jesus says, “Before Abraham was, I AM.” Why do you think this statement at the end of chapter 8 felt so shocking to the people listening, and what does it reveal about who Jesus is? What is Jesus trying to get them, and us, to understand about himself? In John 18:3–6, when Jesus says “I AM,” the soldiers draw back and fall to the ground. What does this moment show you about Jesus' authority and willingness as He goes toward the cross? Live It Out This week, brainstorm a list of people you regularly interact with (neighbors, coworkers, classmates, friends). Pray through that list and ask God for one name—one person you could intentionally walk with this Lent. Close in Prayer Prayer prompt for us as individuals Lord, help us to recognize Your presence this Lent. Teach us to stand on holy ground, to listen, and to trust that You are near. Outward prayer prompt for the world around us Jesus, the great I AM, draw near to those in wilderness places—those who feel alone, afraid, distracted, or hurting. Let Your light and life meet them through Your people.
What is one of your favorite stories to tell? (Ex. a family story that comes up often) Scripture Psalm 139:1–3 “You have searched me, Lord, and you know me… you are familiar with all my ways.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Observation How would you describe God's actions in this passage? Based on these verses, how does God relate to our lives? These Scriptures speak to God knowing both ordinary moments (“sit” and “rise”) and unseen ones (“thoughts from afar”). Do you believe that God is with you in the unseen and the ordinary moments? In 2 Corinthians 5:17, what does Paul mean by “new creation.” How should our lives look different if we are new creations? What do these two passages together suggest about God's relationship to our past, present, and future? Application How might God want to use our whole story? If we are new creations, why do things from the past still matter? Have you had a moment where your reaction didn't match what was happening around you? What would it look like for you to notice, name, and make sense of something that keeps showing up for you? What is one step you could take this week to consider your own story and how God might want to work in that story? What makes you hesitant or excited about that process? Prayer God, you know me completely — my past, my patterns, and my present. Thank you that in Christ you are not erasing my story, but restoring it. Help me trust you with the parts I don't yet understand, and lead me forward into the new life you are forming in me. Amen.
What is a memorable dining experience you've had? Are you a person that tends to look inward? Why or why not? Read Proverbs 4:23. What might it mean to guard our heart? What does the heart represent in this passage? How might we attend to what is going on in our hearts when it comes to our faith? How good are you at doing this with God? How do you respond to this phrase: Not everyone needs to know everything, but someone needs to know everything. Do you agree with this? Who is this person/people for you? In what ways can you practice spiritual direction: checking in on yourself and your relationship with God alongside someone else formally or informally? Read John 15:5-6, in ways do you try to do things “outside of God”? How can you remain in Him? Close in prayer. (consider the communal prayer practice below) Live it Out: Click here for communal prayer. Going Deeper: 1. Reach out to a spiritual director in our congregation – Vonda edandvonda@gmail.com, Jerry jjones7777@aol.com, or Nancy nancy@campfairview.com. 2. Read Seeking God Together by Alice Freeling 3. Engage with God in a new way through Arukah House (led by Shepherd member Jane Grant-Abban).
Psalm 88:1–9 1. What emotions stand out to you most in this psalm? Which verses feel the heaviest? 2. What does this passage teach us about bringing our pain to God? Lamentations 3:19-25 1. How can remembering God's faithfulness change how we face current trials? 2. How do hope and lament co-exist in this passage? Romans 12:9-21 1. Which of these do you find easiest to live out? Which feel the hardest? 2. How do verses 14–16 challenge the way we respond to people who hurt, annoy, or misunderstand us? 3. What does it mean to “live at peace with everyone” while still maintaining healthy boundaries? Sermon on the Mount 1. Which teaching from the Sermon on the Mount challenges you the most right now? 2. What does it look like to live out Jesus' teaching in a world that is broken? 3. If someone asked you what following Jesus looks like based on this sermon, what would you say? 1. Which passage do you personally connect with the most right now and why? 2. In what ways does Jesus' call us to love our enemies? 3. How might God be inviting us to respond to pain, conflict, or injustice after reading all these together: Psalm 88:1-9, Lamentations 3:19-25, Romans 12:9-21, and Sermon on the Mount?
Warm Up (Pick 1 or 2) When you were a kid, what was something that helped you feel safe or calm? Who is someone (past or present) you feel relaxed being yourself around—and why? Are you more of a “figure it out myself” person or a “talk it out with someone” person? Scripture (Read Together) Psalm 131:1–3, John 15:4-9, Col 3:12-17, Rom 8:15–16 Questions What words or images stand out to you from these passages? What feels comforting about this picture of God? What feels challenging or unfamiliar? Observation How does these passages describe the posture of God towards us? What do you notice about Jesus? What do these passages imply our posture toward God and others should be? How is this image different from how we often think about mental health and faith? Application With God Do you tend to relate to God more through striving or resting? What helps you feel close to God when you're overwhelmed? What might it look like for you to “abide” (John 15) this week? With Others How does feeling secure with God change how we show up for others? What does “carrying one another's burdens” (Galatians 6:2) look like in everyday life? When someone is hurting, what does presence look like instead of fixing? Prayer Invite the group into a short, guided prayer: God, help us receive your love—not try and earn it. Calm our anxious hearts. Heal what has been wounded. Teach us to be people of presence for one another. Amen. Optional Prayer Practice Sit quietly for 30–60 seconds. Invite participants to picture themselves resting safely with God. Close with the Lord's Prayer or Romans 8:15 spoken together. Going Deeper (If Time Allows) What messages about independence or strength shaped you growing up? How might those messages influence your faith today? What would it look like for the church to be a place of secure attachment? At-Home Practice (Optional) Spend 5 minutes this week in quiet prayer using Psalm 131. Practice being fully present with one person—no fixing, no rushing. Notice when you are tempted to withdraw or strive, and gently return to God.
When was a time you didn't take someone's good advice? How did the situation turn out? Scripture: Read Judges 1:1 and Judges 21:25 NLT Observation: What stands out to you when you hear how Judges begins versus how it ends? What do you think contributed to the shift? How do you think God felt during this time in the life of the nation of Israel? Application: What do you think it means practically to “do what seems right in your own eyes”? Where do you most feel the pull toward “You do you” thinking in your own life? Decisions? Relationships? Time? Faith practices? Mark 2:18-22 describes Jesus, who came to bring about something NEW. As you consider the year ahead, what might God want to do NEW in your life? Prayer: Ask God to reveal one area where you've been doing what seems right in your own eyes Ask Jesus, our King, to give you insight into the New He wants to invite you into this year.
Warm-Up Share a time when a light has brought you comfort. Scripture Read together: Matt 5:14–16 Eph 5:8–14 As you read, listen for words that describe identity, purpose, and love. What words or phrases stand out to you? Observation: In Matthew 5:14, Jesus says, “You are the light of the world.” Why do you think Jesus begins with a declaration rather than a command? Jesus describes a lamp hidden under a bowl as absurd. What does this image tell us about the purpose of light—and the purpose of our faith? In Eph 5:8, Paul says we were once darkness, not just “in darkness. How does that deepen your understanding of what grace really does in a person's life? According to Eph5:9–14, what does walking in the light produce? Which of those feels most needed in your life right now: goodness, righteousness, or truth? Application: Where do you sometimes feel pressure to “manufacture” light instead of simply reflecting Jesus? What are some subtle ways we might hide God's light—fear, comfort, busyness, self-protection?What would “faithful presence” look like instead of performative faith? Matthew 5:16 connects light with good deeds motivated by love. Who in your life right now might need the tangible love of Christ, not advice or correction, just presence? The sermon reminded us that even a single lumen pushes back darkness. What is one small, faithful act of love God may be inviting you into this week? “What is one way this series has reshaped how you think about light, love, or your role in the world?” Prayer Invite the group to pray silently for a moment, reflecting on where God's light has changed them this Advent. Then close with a prayer like this: Jesus, Light of the World, thank You for shining into our darkness and changing who we are. Thank You that we do not have to create light, earn light, or shine perfectly— only to reflect what we have received from You. As Advent closes and Christmas comes, help us walk as children of light— loving faithfully, showing up consistently, and bringing Your grace into places that feel heavy or dim. Make our lives point beyond us to You, so that others may see Your love and give glory to our Father in heaven. Amen.
Warm-Up Share a time when a light revealed something you didn't notice before—maybe physically, emotionally, or spiritually. How did it change your perspective or bring joy? Scripture Read Together: John 1:4–5, 9-13, John 8:12, John 3:16–21, John 9:1–7, John 12:35–36, John 12:44–46, 1 John 1:5-10 As you read, underline or note any phrases about light, truth, or joy that stand out to you. Observation: In John 8:12, Jesus declares, “I am the light of the world.” What does it mean that Jesus identifies Himself as light, not just a source of moral teaching or knowledge? How does this relate to joy, according to the sermon? In John 9, Jesus heals the man born blind. How does this story illustrate the way Jesus' light exposes truth and restores life? Who were the truly blind in this story, and what does that tell us about spiritual blindness in our lives today? 1 John 1:5 says, “God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.” How does knowing this encourage you to walk in Jesus' light? In John 12:44–46, Jesus invites us to see and follow His light. How do love and action reflect that light to others? John 12:35–36 and John 1:9–13 describe becoming children of light. What does it mean to live as a child of light in your day-to-day life? Where do you see joy naturally arising as a result of walking in His light? Application: Where in your life do you most need Jesus' light to bring joy this Advent season? Are there areas where you've been trying to create your own light instead of relying on Him? How could you invite Jesus into those areas? How can you reflect Jesus' light through love, encouragement, or service in tangible ways this week? Prayer Jesus, Light of the World, thank You for shining into our darkness and restoring our sight. Thank You for bringing life, truth, love, and joy. Help us walk fully in Your light this week, reflecting Your joy and grace to everyone we meet. Show us where we are blind, and let Your light guide us. Amen.
Icebreaker What's the earliest you've ever woken up to see a sunrise and was it worth it? Why or why not? Scripture Read together: Isaiah 9:2–7; Micah 5:2–4; Isaiah 60:19–20; Isaiah 49:6 Which of these Scriptures stood out to you most today, and why? Where do you see the theme of light entering darkness in these passages? What phrases or promises from these verses connect most clearly to Jesus? Observation In Isaiah 9, what kind of “darkness” do you think Israel was experiencing? How does that compare to the darkness people experience today? Micah describes the Messiah coming from “little” Bethlehem. What does this show you about how God works? Isaiah 60 describes an everlasting light. How is this different from the temporary lights we depend on in daily life? Isaiah 49:6 calls the Messiah a “light to the nations.” What does that reveal about God's heart? How can we be participating with Him? Application Light Promised: Where in your life are you waiting for God's light to break through? Light in Unexpected Places: Have you seen God work through an unexpected person, moment, or “small place”? How did that shape your faith? Light That Never Fades: When your circumstances “grow dim,” what helps you remember God's presence doesn't fade? Light for Every Person & Place: Who in your life right now especially needs the warmth of Christ's light through you? Waiting & Participating: The sermon described two kinds of waiting — passive and active. Where do you sense God inviting you to participate in His work rather than simply wait? Prayer Close your time by praying through these prompts: Thank God for shining His light into your darkest places. Ask Him to make you attentive to His work in small or unexpected moments this week. Pray for strength to trust His everlasting light when your circumstances feel dim. Ask the Spirit to show you someone who needs God's warmth — and the courage to act.
Icebreaker As the days grow darker this time of year, what's one thing you do to cope with the early sunsets? Scripture Read together: John 1:1–5; Genesis 1:1–5; John 1:14; Psalm 119:105 What words or phrases stand out to you in these passages? What do these scriptures teach us about God's Light – its nature, its power, and its purpose? Observation In Genesis 1, God's first spoken words were, “Let there be light.” What does this reveal about God's character and priorities? The sermon mentioned that darkness isn't a thing in itself. It's the absence of light. Where do you see this play out in your life? How does John 1 deepen your understanding of Genesis 1? What does it mean that Jesus is the Light that has always existed? John 1:14 says the Light became flesh and “dwelt among us.” What difference does it make that God didn't just send light but became Light in human form Psalm 119:105 reminds us God's Word is “a lamp for our feet. Why do you think God gives us “one step of light” instead of the whole path? Application Where in your life right now does darkness seem overwhelming or confusing? Pastor Jeremey asked: “Where are you trying to create your own light?” What would it look like to invite Jesus into that exact place this week? The Advent devotional this week (at sov.church/christmas) notes that a human spirit surrendered to God becomes a lamp (Prov 20:27). How might you reflect God's light to someone else this Advent season? Prayer Close by inviting group members to pray about the areas where they need God's light as discussed above. Then pray something like: Jesus, Light of the World, we thank You that Your light has always been – before creation, before our stories, before our darkness. Shine into every shadowed place in our lives. Give us courage to trust the light You give, even when it's only the next small step. Fill us with your Spirit, to reflect Your hope, Your truth, and Your love to those around us this Advent. Make us people who carry Your light into a dark world. Amen.
Download Discussion Questions Getting Started • What was something you saved up to buy as a kid? • What is one way you like to be generous? • Are you a saver or a spender? How does that shape how you view money? Scripture • Read Matthew 6 specifically – 1-13 and 19-34. Observation • Why do you think Jesus is concerned with how we choose to give? • Look over the Lord's prayer, what does each line communicate about God? • What sorts of things might represent “treasures on earth” and “treasures in heaven?” • After reading the passage about worry, what point is Jesus making in verse 33-34? Application • Do you tend to live from a scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset? Can you identify anything in your history that shaped your view in that direction? • How does the idea “everything belongs to God,” sit with you? In what ways do you accept and resist that statement? If it's true, how might it change our view on what we have? • Can you think of some creative ways to be generous? Prayer Lord, help us to see you as the provider of all that we need. Remove any fear or worry we have about not having enough, help us see you as our Father that delights in giving us good things and believe You when You say it's more blessed to give than to receive. Help us live with grateful and generous hearts. Generosity Stories God and Money https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RN3wYVRkmno What Money Says About Your Values https://youtu.be/3ti5mXYGLJ8?si=O2v-_QNF01uwUD8_ Uncompromising Resistance to Materialism https://youtu.be/cO8JPblu1dA?si=k78f6-L_j1vrmGZR
Download Discussion Questions Ice Breaker Pick one. What was your favorite job you've ever had? What do you enjoy spending money on? What was money like for you growing up? How did it shape the way you view money now? Scripture Read Luke 16:1–15; 1 Timothy 6:9–10 Observation In the parable of the shrewd manager, what does Jesus seem to admire, and what does He not admire? According to verse 10–13, how does Jesus connect money and trust? Why do you think the Pharisees “sneered” at Jesus' teaching about money? Why do you think Jesus gave this teaching to his disciples as well? How does Paul's image of “the root of all kinds of evil” help us understand the deeper problem beneath greed? Application Paul warns that the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. What signs might indicate someone loves money? What safeguards can we keep in our life to make sure that we don't love money? How does the illustration Pastor Sam used about removing buckthorn from the root apply to our finances and generosity? What's the hardest part about giving consistently? Prayer Lord, help us believe You when You say it's more blessed to give than to receive. Pull up the roots of greed, fear, and self-reliance in our lives. Teach us to trust You with everything we have.
Warm up: When you hear the phrase “life gets messy,” what's a situation (funny or serious) that comes to mind? Scripture and Truth Read Matthew 18:15–20. What stands out to you about the way Jesus tells us to handle conflict? Why do you think the"Kingdom Flow” of forgiveness is so central to Jesus' teaching in Matthew 18:21–35? Forgiveness The sermon defined what forgiveness is not (ignoring, condoning, excusing, etc.). Which of those do you think people confuse most often with true forgiveness? How does understanding forgiveness as “releasing the debt to God” change how you view relationships? Life Application Think about a time when conflict made you want to “fight for yourself.” How could humility and dependence on God have shifted that situation? What's one practical step you could take this week to bring humility into a tough conversation or relationship? How we live out the Vision! John 16:7 tells us the Spirit is a gift and our source of power. What helps you personally recognize the Spirit's leading? What might be a barrier that keeps you from depending on the Spirit in conflict or daily life? Walking with Each One Who might be “the one” God is nudging you to walk with right now (neighbor, coworker, family member)? How can you walk alongside them with presence, listening, and compassion — without making them a “project”? Experiencing Life as Jesus Meant It Jesus promises abundant life (John 10:10). What do you think abundant life looks like in everyday, ordinary moments? Read Gal 5:22-23 - How have you seen the Spirit's fruit (love, joy, peace, patience, etc.) grow in your own life or in your community? Walk it Out This week, prayerfully ask God to show you one person in your life who you can be for! Ask God to show you them as one of the “little ones,” a child in need of love and care.
Share a time when you felt seen in a crowd—what did it mean to you? If you were a shepherd, what kind of sheep would be the most frustrating for you? The Parable of the Lost Sheep - Read Matthew 18:12–14 What surprises you about the shepherd's actions in this story? How does this parable reveal something about God's heart? Jesus Sees the One - Read Luke 8:43–48, John 5:1–9, and Luke 19:1–10 What do these encounters teach us about the way Jesus noticed people? Which story do you relate to most, and why? We Were the One - Read Romans 5:6–8 In what ways have you personally experienced God “coming after you”? Jeremey spoke about his friend Kent who was “for him.” Who are some of the “Kents” (people God used) in your life to draw you closer to Him? Vision: For The One - Read Together “Empowered by the Holy Spirit, we walk with each one in our communities so together we experience life as Jesus meant it to be.” What does it mean to be “empowered by the Holy Spirit” in everyday relationships? If God is calling us to walk with one person in our community, what might that practically look like? From the Perspective of the 99 - Read Luke 15:1–7 Why do you think Jesus told this parable to the Pharisees? What's the danger of being content as one of the 99? How can we, as “the 99,” celebrate when God goes after someone else? Walk it Out This week, prayerfully ask God to show you one person in your life who was “for you” as a tangible example of God's grace. Take time to thank that person for the impact they have had on your life.
What is one hobby you loved doing as a kid? Based on the initial launch of “For the One,” when you think of the phrase “For the One” what comes to mind? Where do you see this concept in our world being true: You can do the right thing in the wrong order and come to the wrong conclusion. How would you define greatness? How would Jesus define greatness? Where are the two definitions in tension with one another? How would you describe humility? Can you think of some opportunities you have to practice humility? In what ways do you embrace or resist being “a little one” like Jesus describes in Matthew 18:1-10. How does Jesus show he values the “little ones” throughout the passage? When asked if God loves you, can you confidently say he does? What makes that possible or holds you back from answering that way?
In Genesis 2:15, God placed Adam in the garden to “work it and take care of it.” How does this challenge the idea that work is a burden or just a way to survive? What's the difference between bringing “order” to creation and creating “beauty” from it? Can you think of biblical examples of both? Where in your life do you most tend to separate work and worship — treating one as “spiritual” and the other as “secular”? How could you intentionally bring order into an area of your daily life (workplace, home, relationships) this week? What's one way you could add beauty — not just function — to something you do regularly? Which of the three truths (“My work matters to God. My life is used to serve God. God can bring meaning into every moment.”) do you most need to believe and live out right now?
What is your favorite Disney movie? Read these Scriptures about the heart (Proverbs 27:19, Psalm 20:4, Matthew 6:21, Proverbs 10:8): how would you summarize Scripture's view of the heart? How might we align our heart to God's heart? What are some ways we can do that? What is an area in your life where you see your heart aligned with God's heart? How might that reveal something about your purpose? Read Psalm 37:4. What is your reaction to this verse? How do you understand this to be true in our lives? (especially when we know we don't always get the desires of our hearts) Why do you think God cares that we live from a motivation of love rather than obligation? How do we know if we are actually doing that?
What's one small or overlooked thing in your life (a tool, a part, a feature) that makes a big difference when it works — but everything stops when it doesn't? S – Scripture Exodus 4:1–5 Romans 12:3–8 O – Observation In Exodus 4, why do you think God focused His conversation with Moses' calling by asking, “What is that in your hand?” How does the ordinary staff in Moses' hand become significant in God's plan? In Romans 12, why does Paul begin the discussion of spiritual gifts with a warning about pride and comparison? How does Paul's description of the body of Christ help us value both visible and hidden roles? What connection do you see between Moses' staff and the spiritual gifts Paul describes in Romans 12? A – Application Which of the S.T.A.F.F. elements (Spiritual gifts, Temperament, Abilities, Focus, Formation) do you clearly see in your life right now? What spiritual gifts have you identified in yourself so far? How did you discover them? How have you seen God use your spiritual gifts to impact others in big or small ways? What's one way you can “fan into flame” (2 Timothy 1:6) the gift God has given you this week? P – Prayer Thank God for the unique gifts He has placed in you. Ask Him to open your eyes to see the gifts he has placed in your hands.. Pray for the courage and faith to step into situations where your gifts can bless others.
What's one “average” or quirky label you've carried at some point in life? (Example: “Average at sports” or “World's slowest texter.”) How did that label shape you? Read Genesis 1:26; Ephesians 2:8-10 In Genesis 1:26, what does being made in God's image reveal about our identity and purpose? In Ephesians 2:8–9, what truth do we learn about how salvation is received — and how is this different from how the world often measures worth? In Ephesians 2:10, what does it mean to be God's poiēma (handiwork), and how might that shape how you see yourself? If God creates humans by speaking, what does it mean for us to “receive our purpose by listening”? What makes it difficult for you to slow down and listen for God's voice in your daily life? How might you shift from living “outside in” toward living “from the inside out” based on God's design, Spirit, and people around you? Prayer Thank God for His design and handiwork in you. Ask Him to help you hear His gentle whisper above all the noise. Pray for courage to live from His truth about you rather than human comparisons.
“Can you think of a time you knew what the right thing to do was—but didn't want to do it?” (Keep it light or serious—could be anything from eating veggies to making a hard relational decision.) S.O.A.P Scripture. Observation. Application. Prayer Mark 14:32–36 Romans 12:2 Colossians 3:23 1 Corinthians 15:58 Obeservation: What emotions or actions do you notice in Jesus as He enters the garden? How do the disciples respond to Jesus' instruction to “stay here and keep watch”? What do you notice about how Jesus prays—his posture, his honesty, and his surrender? What repeated words or phrases in verse 36 reveal the intensity of Jesus' decision? How would you describe the contrast between what Jesus wanted and what He chose? Application: Where in your life do you feel “pressed” between your will and God's will? What helps you move toward obedience when God's will feels difficult or unclear? How can you begin to practice a posture of “not my will, but Yours” this week? What would it look like to "always give yourself fully to the work of the Lord" in your daily life? Prayer: “Father, not my will, but Yours be done. In the places where I feel pressure, give me clarity and courage. Help me obey—not just in the big moments, but in the daily ones. I want to walk in Your will, in Your way, always. Amen.”
Who was your first friend? Dave mentioned how many Christians live the inverse: “To live is gain and to die is Christ.” Have you ever felt that way? Why do you think it's tempting to flip the verse? Read Philippians 1:20–24. How do you see Paul wrestling between his desire for heaven and his calling on earth? How have you seen God working through your church or your life to spread the gospel? How can you reframe your week with the mindset that “To live is Christ”? What might change in your priorities?
What is a “that's so unfair” story you have from childhood? When you think of the term justice what comes to mind? How would you define it? How do you see Jesus living out a posture of justice? What is his approach? What does it mean that all people were “created in the image of God?” How do we know when we're being tempted to see someone as less than? Matthew 14:13-14 Why do you think Scripture includes the detail that Jesus was moved with compassion? Why are justice and compassion linked together for Jesus? Where in your world are you being invited to adopt Jesus' posture of justice?
How would you describe the pace of your life right now? Read Mark 1:21-32 What is Mark showing us about the demands of Jesus' ministry? Do you have a tendency to think Jesus' life was less busy or complicated than ours today? What happens when that belief is challenged? Are you in a practice of “getting away to pray.” If yes, what does that experience do for you? Do you find that time gives you clarity around your purpose? If not, what prevents you from doing so? In what areas of your life do you need to “turn down the noise?” Read 1 Kings 19:11-12. What does this passage tell us about God's voice? Do you find any tension in the story when considering how God might speak to you? Has this been true in your life?
Icebreaker: - What's the most memorable interruption you've experienced lately—funny, frustrating, or meaningful? - Were you ever surprised by something good coming out of an interruption? S – Scripture Read Mark 6:30–34 and Mark 5:21–34 aloud together. O – Observation - Where do you see evidence of compassion or attentiveness in these passages? - Almost half of Jesus' miracles were interruptions—why do you think that is? -How is availability a part of Jesus' posture and rhythm of life? - How did Jesus see “the one” in the crowd? What does that teach us about focus and presence? A – Application - Who in your life might be an “interruption” that's really an invitation? -What gets in the way of your availability to others or to God? - How could you practice starting your day with “Here I am, Lord”—and what might that look like in practice? P – Prayer - Invite each person to pray one sentence: “God, help me be available to…” - Pray for the courage to see needs instead of just interruptions.
Jesus starts this section by saying we cannot serve both God and money (v. 24). - Why do you think He begins a conversation about worry and provision with that strong statement? - What does it reveal about our hearts? Jesus points to birds and flowers as examples of God's provision. - Why might He have used these natural images to teach about trust and value? In verse 33, Jesus gives an alternative to worry: "Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness." - Based on the sermon and the text, what does it practically look like to seek the Kingdom first? Jenn asked, "What do you need to trust God to provide for today?" - How would you answer that personally? Be specific. - What tends to make trusting God hard in that area? Reflect on this line from the message: "Provision follows purpose." - Do you find that hopeful or challenging? Why? - Where have you seen this to be true (or not) in your own life? Pray together. Silent Reflection, then Group Prayer Invite a minute of quiet for everyone to identify where they most need to trust God's provision. Then pray aloud, with a few men volunteering to pray over those areas.
What's one thing you usually say when someone asks how you're doing? Read John 5:5–9 together. What does this passage reveal about Jesus' character and authority? Is there an area in your life where Jesus is inviting you to “get up” but you're still sitting by the pool? Which of these areas—Sick, Anxious, Lonely, Addicted, Distracted—resonates most with you right now? Read Luke 5:17–26 together. What's one step you can take this week to trust God more deeply—or to help carry someone else toward healing?
Share about a time when you insisted on doing something “your way.” What happened? What do you remember about the outcome? Read Mark 4:35–41, John 14:12, and John 20:21–23 - In Mark 4, what does Jesus' calming of the storm reveal about the scope of His authority? In John 20:21-23, Jesus says he is sending us with the same authority He was given by His Heavenly Father. - What strikes you about the fact that Jesus delegates His authority to you? - How do these passages shift your understanding of what it means to follow Jesus? The sermon highlighted a common mindset: “I want God's blessing in my life, just not His authority over how I live it.” - What area of your life are you tempted to keep under your own control? The umbrella illustration showed that blessing comes when we choose to stand under God's authority. - What does standing under His authority look like practically in your life right now? - Pray for a willingness to surrender the areas of your life where you're “near the umbrella” but not under it. - Ask God to help you trust that His authority brings freedom, not restriction. - Invite God to empower you by His Spirit to carry His presence and peace into the places He's sending you this week.
What did you want to be when you grew up? How might that have represented what you were looking for out of life? How do you respond to the question: Is Jesus a good teacher? Where have you heard this phrase before and do you think it is a valid question? Would you say that you are more likely to trust God in the extraordinary, than the ordinary? What everyday things do you struggle with trusting God in? How might following Jesus' teachings lead us to purpose? At the end of the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus' most famous teaching section, he finishes with a story from Matthew 7:24-27. How might this story clarify or add meaning to what Jesus has taught before? Does it reveal anything about our purpose through it?
Icebreaker Share about a time when you got lost (literally or figuratively). How did you respond? Did you try to find your way on your own, or did someone help? 2. Scripture Engagement Read Luke 5:1–11 and Philippians 3:7–9 In Luke 5, what progression do you see in Simon Peter's relationship with Jesus (Teacher → Master → Lord)? Why do you think Peter responded so strongly in verse 8 (“Go away from me, Lord; I am a sinful man!”)? How does Paul's statement in Philippians 3 reflect a similar transformation in purpose and identity? 3. Reflection & Application The sermon started with a story about a woman searching for herself. In what ways do you find yourself “searching for yourself” in this season of life? “Your purpose is NOT something lost, purposely hidden, a single event, or ever final.” - Which of these false ideas have you believed about your purpose? “My work matters to God. My whole life is used to serve God. God brings meaning to every moment.” — which one resonates with you the most? — which one are you most challenged by? 4. Prayer Focus Pray for clarity of purpose in this current season. Ask God to help you trust His character, adopt His posture, and embrace His design for your life.
Where in your life have you experienced disappointment recently? Describe a time when something that initially felt like a setback turned out to be a gift? S - Scripture Read aloud: John 20:11–18 Optional: Read Psalm 13; Psalm 34:18 and Isaiah 43:1 as well. O - Observation What do you notice about Mary's posture and emotions in this story? What stands out to you in how Jesus approaches her? Why do you think she didn't recognize Jesus right away? Jesus calls her by name. What significance does that hold — for Mary, and for you personally? A – Application In what ways do you identify with Mary's disappointment or grief in this season of your life? Where do you need to be reminded that Jesus is near, even if you can't see Him clearly? How have you seen God show up quietly — maybe in ways you didn't first recognize? How might God be “doing a new thing” (Isaiah 43:19) in your life right now? What does it look like for you to live as someone who has encountered the risen Jesus — even in seasons of discouragement? P – Prayer Invite group members to silently reflect on this question: “Jesus, where do I need resurrection in my life right now?” Then: Pray for one another — especially for places of disappointment or grief.
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