Single Over 30

I can't believe it's been so long! I am so grateful to be back doing the Single Over 30 podcast! Words can't express what has happened in journey, but I'm going to try and give you a little bit of what has happened to me over the last 15 months. It's a detour in my life that I didn't plan on taking and I am so grateful to be alive! On this episode, I'm also going to share what to do if the man you are seeing or getting to know has different physical boundaries than you. Is there a way to communicate where you stand and find out if things can work out between the two of you without losing yourself? 

In this special interview on the Single Over 30 podcast, I have a great conversation with one of my old roommates, Monica, who married in her thirties and met her husband in a way that will blow your mind! My conversation with Monica is a reminder that all things are possible. We also talk about dating anxiety, breaking up, self-sabotage, "putting yourself out there" even when you don't feel like it, and not seeing yourself as unwanted but valuable while you are single. I know you'll be delighted with this special interview with Monica! The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible!

Before I married, I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Sure‚” I typed. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife.In today's podcast, I share what I learned about this guy and I also share 23 questions you can ask yourself to identify if you are in an toxic relationship or if you meet a man how to tell if he could be abusive.

Hey there, Single Lady!First Date Dilemmas. They happen all the time. Maybe he asks you out after the first date but then you never hear from him again.He asks you out, you go out and have a good time, but then seems like he just wants to text you. He doesn't move the ball down the field and ask you out again. You want him to ask you out after the first date, but aren't sure how to let him know without coming across as chasing.Ooooh! This is going to be a great episode because I'm going to share 9 First Date Dilemmas like those that I just mentioned and share what to do about them.  You're going to love it! MENTIONS IN THIS EPISODESet up your free, 15-minute Discovery Session to find out if one of Shana's coaching programs is a good fit for you.  Episode #104: 6 Ways to Tell if a Man is Breadcrumbing YouEpisode #10: The Only Two Questions You Need to Answer About a First Date

Many women I coach struggle with deep grief that their love story hasn't worked out the way they desire when they enter their late thirties and early forties. Maybe you can relate.  (I certainly felt a lot of grief in my forties.)It's disappointing when you feel love should happen in your life in a certain way by a certain time and it doesn't happen that way at all. And not only can it be disappointing, but it can fill soul shattering. You thought things would go this way, then you wake up one morning and realize that the years have come and gone and your deepest dreams and desires for romance haven't been fulfilled—and you doubt they will be fulfilled now.You think, “Too much time has passed. My vision of my fairy tale life has flown away with the ticking of the clock.”The dream romance you thought you would have when you were young is replaced by the painful reality that finding him feels much more complicated than you could have ever imagined.If you can relate to any of what I just shared, I want to encourage you!In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I am going to share how grieving the loss of your ideal love life can help you find true love. It really can! I experienced this myself and I know it's possible.Be encouraged, awesome single lady! The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible! Learn more about my special, signature Finding Mr. Right  program.

When I was dating and I met a man I really liked, I often experienced a lot of fear. There was something in me that would get triggered and I would become very anxious.I was confident and happy in the rest of my life, but enter Mr. Charming and poof! My confidence vanished and I was replaced by a fearful woman I hardly recognized. Maybe you can relate. What do you do if you're afraid to date, afraid to love, or even if  when a guy just looks at you and smiles that you go into a spin of "What ifs"? Good news! I'm here to help you today with encouragement and practical advice on this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast.If you'd like to take the next step to get help with your dating and relationship life to help you attract that trustworthy, marriage-minded man, I'd love to help! When you sign up for my most affordable coaching membership, you'll get my "Finding Mr. Right" program that is worth $1200 for free--and you can cancel at any time! Check it out here! 

Around the time I turned 35, I started wondering, "Why am I still single?" I had no idea what would have possibly prevented me from meeting my Mister Right. What I didn't know was that I had some unhealthy dating patterns that were holding me back from engaging in healthy relationships. It was only after I married and started coaching single women that I realized how my dating choices kept me from healthy love. If you've ever wondered why you haven't met a special guy, you might be able to relate to some points in this episode. But before you listen, please hear me: this episode is not to blame you or make you beat yourself up. Every single thing that I talk about that keeps women single in this episode is something you can change. You are not irretrievably broken. There is nothing "wrong" with you so that you can't have a relationship. But just like it is with everything else in life, we can learn new skills. And, just like I met a great guy who loves and adores me, I am confident that you can meet a great man too! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana 

Hi there, Single Lady! This is a "must listen" episode because the majority of the women I have worked with or coached say that they have encountered Red Flag Men. In this episode, I help you recognize red flags. Have you ever ended a relationship, and then looked back over your shoulder and thought, "How did I miss those red flags?" If so, then this episode is for you, and if that hasn't happened to you and you want to avoid this unpleasant situation, then this episode is also for you. The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Hey there, Single Lady! This is a fun episode and I know you're going to love it. In this episode, my husband and I talk about: The difference between chasing and inviting a man to pursue youWhy it's okay to go up to a man and start a conversation with himDifferent levels of physical affectionWhy men need to pursue women and women need to be pursued and How to get a man to ask you out on a dateOoooh. . .this one's good! The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana P.S. To find out if one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, you can set up a 15-minute Discovery Session with me here. I'd love to talk about how I can help you find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man. 

Have you ever felt as if you were in love with a man but then it turned out not to be love at all, or maybe even a toxic relationship, a complete mismatch? But it felt so right at the beginning. This brings up the question: Was it love or was it limerance? What is limerance? That's what we're going to talk about on this episode. What it is, how to recognize it, how to keep from making poor relationship choices because of it, and how to tell the difference between limerance and love. If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one customized coaching, please visit singleover30.net, click the "coaching" link in the menu at the top of the page, then choose a time from my calendar for a free, 30-minute breakthrough session. I look forward to talking with you soon! 

I've been married for almost 9 years now. How time has flown! My husband and I have a good marriage and we're still going strong, for which I am thankful. Recently, though, there was a discussion in a singles group online about marriage and it got me thinking about the myths single women often believe about marriage—and how those myths can hold even the best woman back from getting a great relationship.So today, I'm going to share 8 of the most common myths about marriage--including sexual compatibility in marriage, soul mates, and how things in a good marriage should be easy and that marriage is really difficult. I know you'll be encouraged! Your Coach, Shana 

Hey there Single Lady! The women I coach want to date MEN, guys who have their lives together and have grown up, men who know what it means to care for, cherish, and protect a woman. If you can relate . . . if you want to find mature men to date but you feel like all you are attracting is men who haven't yet grown up, then this episode is for you. I hope you are encouraged! If you want to find out of if the Single Over 30 Relationship School is a good fit for you, just set up a 15-minute Discovery Call with me. I'd be delighted to talk with you and share more. 

In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I interview special guest, Frank Martin, co-author of The Right One: How to Successfully Date and Marry the Right Person. During this special interview, Frank gives some awesome info on how to tell if a man is really interested, how to invite a man to clarify how he feels about you and the relationship, if it's okay for a woman to ask the man how he feels about her, and how to continue the conversation during the dating process so you can intentionally move toward the wedding altar. He also shares a really fun--and juicy--story about how he "stole" his wife from a man she was engaged to. You're going to love this episode! Thanks for tuning in! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Rejection. It's something no one wants to experience but everybody does. Because we ALL experience it, we all need to know how to successfully handle it. Handling rejection successfully can mean the difference between moving forward to experience a loving, fulfilling relationship or not experiencing one due to developing unhealthy dating patterns after rejection. (I've been there!)This Single Over 30 episode is PACKED with great info that you will definitely be able to put into use in your life--either for yourself--or it can be used to encourage a friend.Take a listen. You'll be glad you did. The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!

There's all kinds of advice out there about how long you should wait to become exclusive or "make it official."Some people say you should date through the seasons. Some people say you should date for at least six months. Other people say that you shouldn't wait, that if it feels right, then you should just date exclusively right away. Because, if it feels right, then why not just go for it? In today's episode, I answer the question, how long you should actually wait until you "make it official" and only date one another. I know you're going to love it! To find out if one of my one-on-one coaching programs is a good fit for you, head on over to singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. https://www.singleover30.net/I'm rooting for you! The dream that you have--to love and be loved--is possible! 

He's nice and maybe he even treats you like a queen, but he doesn't check off everything that's on your list. What should you do? You don't want to lose a great guy but you don't want to settle either. In this episode, I'm sharing insights from an article that I authored that's all about "the list" and what to do about it. I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! 

Hi, Single Lady! First dates can feel awkward and uncomfortable. You can feel as if you're carrying the conversation. You can feel as if he is carrying the conversation. You can feel as if it's an interview. What are some things you can do to make first dates feel less awkward--and perhaps even enjoyable? That's what this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast is all about. And, when you listen, I share how you can get my free download, 25 Great Conversation Starters.I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach,Shana

Hey there, single lady! On the Single Over 30 podcast, I share about a variety of internal--and external--dating strategies to help you find--and attract--a trustworthy marriage-minded man. But there is ONE THING that you need to do before you do anything else if you're serious about tying the knot. I talk about that one thing on today's episode. It will help you set your direction and weed out the men who won't be good to you--or for you. Check it out! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Shana 

He seems super interested--and you love his attention! Who wouldn't? It's nice when a man treats you like a queen. Is it possible, however, that a man seems super interested and he seems like Mister Right but he's Mister Wrong? This is the question I answer in today's episode. If you have ever gotten involved with a man who turned out to be Mr. Wrong, this episode is for you! I hope you are encouraged! Your coach, Shana SchutteSingleOver30.net 

One question I hear from single women all the time is, "How do I meet more men?" They also ask, "Where are all the men?" In this episode, I share practical tips to help you meet more men and improve your opportunities to meet your special, trustworthy, marriage-minded guy. To register for my free, live class, "How to Meet More Men: The #1 Thing You Need to Know to Avoid Mr. Wrong and Attract Mr. Right" just click here. 

Hi there, Single Lady! On this podcast we're all about attracting trustworthy marriage minded men, but today I'm covering a topic that can be a part of dating. I certainly hope it's not part of your story, but if it does happen to you, I've got you covered.  I'm sharing how to break up with a man and how to do it so that you don't experience regret. There are right ways and wrong ways to break up. The wrong way will leave you with regret, wondering if you did the right thing--and maybe wondering if you treated the man the right way. The right way will help you know that you did everything that you could and that you conducted yourself in a way that was honorable. This right way leads to peace and learning healthy communication for future your future relationship. The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Check out my new, free training on how to find a quality man online who shares your values using my 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling.) 

Hey there, Single Lady!Whether you're typically an extroverted woman who loves the excitement of going out and meeting new people (and even a blind date and online dating doesn't scare you!) or an introvert who'd rather do a movie night at home alone than face the possibility of another date--it's common for single women to need to take a break from dating every now and then. But maybe you're not sure if you need to take a break. All you know is that you're not as interested in dating like you were before. Is it time to do a "dating detox" before you jump out there again?In this episode I share 5 ways to tell that it's time for you to take a break from trying to meet your Mister. I hope you are encouraged!Remember that the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!Your coach,ShanaP.S. To learn how you can meet a quality man who shares your values using my proven, 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling) visit https://www.singleover30.net/him

Hey there, Single Lady! Have you noticed how confusing it can be to tell if a man is marriage-minded so you don't waste your time?  Perhaps you have experienced what I did as I entered my thirties and forties as a never-married single woman . . . I discovered that age has nothing to do with marital readiness. Sure, men in their thirties and forties are often more established. They may have great careers, friends who are married with kids, and they may even be showing signs of aging. They seem like they should be ready to tie the knot.But a wise woman knows that in our culture of casual dating and hook ups, broken hearts and men who have been burned, you need to know more than that he wants you to date him exclusively. If you want to say "I do" and become a Mrs., you need to know that the men you date are marriage-minded.How can you discover this? In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share how to tell if he's thinking about his future, or just thinking about how he can get you to go out with him again on Friday without any consideration of what's ahead. I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana P.S. To learn how you can meet a quality, marriage-minded man who shares your values using my proven, 4-step online dating strategy (in 6 months or less without settling) visit singleover30.net/4-step

Hey there, Single Lady! When Lori started coaching with me, she hadn't ever married or even had much real-life dating experience. She was in her fifties and wanted to find a committed relationship that would lead to marriage. Through coaching she discovered the internal obstacles that were holding her back from finding love and she also implemented a dating strategy that helped her meet a wonderful man online--and then she happily tied the knot. She said she hasn't ever had the level of emotional intimacy before that she has with her new man. (Just love it!)In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, Lori shares about her journey from singleness to marriage to encourage you! Love is possible at any age! Your coach, Shana P.S. To apply for a free coaching Breakthrough Session with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" link at the top of the page. 

Hi there, Single Lady! In this episode, I've got something super special for you: We're doing another "Best of" episode for 2022! If you didn't hear this popular episode this year, awesome! I'm honored to be able to share with you for the first time. If you have already heard it, no worries! I invite you to take a list a second time. You never know what might speak to you this time around. I think you'll be super encouraged! Happy New Year! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your Coach, Shana SchutteSingleOver30.netP.S. To apply for a free, 15-minute Discovery Session to find out if the Single Over 30 Relationship School or one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, just click here to set up a time on my calendar that works best for you. (No obligation to sign up.) 

Hey there, Single Lady! I love it when a year wraps up and a new year is around the corner. I love it because it gives me an opportunity to look back and celebrate all the blessings I have received.  Some of the blessings I am celebrating as 2022 comes to a close are the top episodes of this year. I'm not celebrating them to toot my own horn, but I am celebrating them because the top episodes from this year show me which topics spoke to you most--and that helps me serve you better! In this episode, and in next week's episode, I'm sharing the top episodes of the year.  I think you're going to love this! (If you haven't ever heard it, awesome. And if you have, take a listen a second time! You never know what might speak to you this time around.) The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible!  Your coach, Shana SchutteSingleOver30.netP.S. To find out if you're a good candidate for the Single Over 30 Relationship School, which includes one-on-one coaching, click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session with me to learn more. 

Oh boy! This Single Over 30 episode is all about a topic that I have personally experienced myself--and that many women I coach experience. You meet a man and you like him but there is that ONE THING that you just can't see yourself compromising on. Still, you might be thinking, “If he would just change that ONE THING, then things would be great. We could have a great future together.” Or, he has that one thing and you're wondering if you should accept it or hope that he will change--or try to get him to change. Today in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, my husband, Clark, and I address those things that you shouldn't hold out for a man to change because in the long run you are just going to end up unhappy, and perhaps even in a toxic relationship. And we also talk about how to tell if he can--or will--change change something that just isn't working for you–and it won't work for the relationship. To find out if you're a good candidate for coaching, send me an email at help@singleover30.net. 

Many women I coach wonder why some men aren't interested in committing to marriage.  There can be a lot of reasons–and it's important to understand these reasons so you can identify that trustworthy marriage minded man. Some of the reasons a man won't commit are legitimate, and when you understand what these reasons are, it can help you identify if a man is ready to tie the knot and if he would be a good mate. So in this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share a bunch-o reasons why some men won't commit to marriage. I know you'll find it helpful. To find out if you're a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. You can schedule a free Breakthrough Session with me to learn more. 

Hey there, Single Lady! Welcome, welcome to another episode of the Single Over 30 podcast! When I was single, I had a pattern I repeated several times: I allowed men into my life who weren't emotionally safe.Why would I do such a thing? Well, there are lots of reasons, such as I didn't want to be judgmental, I didn't trust myself to make a good choice (because of a broken past relationship), and because I didn't know how to recognize a safe date. If I did know how, I would have been more equipped to date well and avoid unproductive dating that wasn't getting me anywhere close to the wedding altar. Plus that would have saved me tons of heartbreak.Maybe you can relate. Be encouraged! You don't have to shut down your heart out of self-protection or decide you'll never love again because you fear choosing the wrong mate. Instead, you can become equipped to choose well, and when you become equipped, you'll feel more empowered to make a good decision.And that's what we're going to talk about on today's episode when I give you 5 truths to help you recognize a safe date (and avoid Mr. Wrong). That's the guy who will just break your heart and won't be good to you or for you. To learn if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching, just click here to set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Session. I look forward to connecting soon! 

You've just met a guy, and you're on your first or second date and you think maybe he could be someone special. He seems like he has a lot of the qualities that you are looking for, but during your date he does something that turns you off—and maybe even makes you a little afraid . . . he mentions his ex. And maybe he doesn't just mention her, but he says some unpleasant things about her. Is this a red flag? I'm going to answer that question in this episode and give you some tips on what to do during your “he's talking about her” date.

This episode is an extension of Episode 105: 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available.In episode 105,  I talked about how to tell if a man is emotionally available because that's what many women want. And in this episode, we're going to talk about how to invite a man to become more emotionally available to you.  My husband joins me to give us a little guidance. What a sport to join us again, right? 

When I ask women, “What is the top trait that you want in a man?” many of them say they want a man who is emotionally available. Maybe, like me, you've wondered, “What does that even mean?” Great question!Emotional availability happens on a couple levels:It happens on the readiness level, meaning he is available and ready--to give his heart away and commit to a specific woman. That's one type of emotional availability. The second type of emotional availability happens on the communication level meaning that he has the ability to share his feelings and emotions with you.  Not that he would be like your best girlfriend, able to talk for hours about his feelings as MOST men are not wired this way, but that he can—when needed—connect with his feelings and when he feels safe, share his feelings with you.Desiring a man who is emotionally available on both the readiness and communication levels is a good thing—as it's important for the health of a long-term committed relationship.Two people who cannot connect emotionally is just a relationship between two strangers, and that  just isn't any fun. Being able to connect emotionally is what makes a relationship juicy and life-giving, as we were all created to be seen.So, good news! If you're like many of the women I coach who are looking for an emotionally available man, this episode brings a whole lot of clarity to the issue of a man being emotionally available by sharing 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available. 

There are many modern dating and relationship terms floating around out there: fleabagging, catch and release, cushioning, gaslighting, and benching, just to name a few. Today, we're going to focus on one that is a common dating behavior: breadcrumbing. If you wonder if you're being breadcrumbed, if you're curious if breadcrumbing has ever happened to you or if you wonder how to recognize it,  this is one of those empowering episodes that will help you learn how to attract a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and will help you weed out the men who are truly interested in you from the men who aren't. Today I'm going to share 6 signs that will help you tell when a man is breadcrumbing you. This episode is one of those empowering ones.

In the recent months, I have worked with women to help them spot an online dating scam—or what some people call a “romance scam.” According to the FTC, a romance scam, is “when a person gets tricked into believing they're in a romantic relationship with someone they met online.”In fact, their other half is a cybercriminal using a fake identity to gain enough of their victim's trust to ask — or blackmail — them for money.Sounds completely yucky, right? Who wants to put themselves in a position to even be scammed? The good news is that no one and I mean no one has to be scammed when they are informed, and they know what to look for. You can completely avoid these men online. The women I have coached who have met men online for serious relationships have done that very thing and no one has been duped. In today's episode, I'm going to tell you what to look  for so that you can feel empowered and confident so you don't have to be afraid of being scammed. 

You meet a man online and you connect. The next thing you know, the conversation dies and he disappears. Why does it always seem that you have a hard time keeping the conversation going? Why do men disappear and what can you do about it? I'm going to answer those questions in today's episode.. . .  If you'd like to learn more about my proven, 4-step strategy that  I have used to help my clients attract quality men online who share their values (in 6 months or less without settling), just send me an email at help@singleover30.net and let me know you'd like more info. I'll set up a free, 15-minute Discovery Call with you to see if we both feel this strategy is a good fit for you. Thanks for listening! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your Coach, Shana 

What do you do or say to a man when he says he just wants to hang out? Maybe you've been seeing one another exclusively, or you have been dating casually. Regardless, he says he's not interested, but he wants to be your bud. What should you say to him? I answer that question in today's episode. To find out if you are a good fit for one-on-one coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on the "coaching" link at the top of the page. I hope to talk to you soon! I'm rooting for you! Your coach, Shana 

The third date.  Ahhh. . .this is when you might start to feel nervous because you have gone out with him once, twice, and now you're starting to feel pressure. This is the third date! Maybe you feel as if you need to decide what “this is," where it's going and how you feel. In today's Single Over 30 episode, I share what you should know by the end of the third date (whether it's virtual or in-person) and I share what you don't need to concern yourself with by the end of the third date. Today's episode will definitely take the pressure off as you get to know a man, I promise.

In this special episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I invited my husband to join me. He knows most things about me, but there are some things that he doesn't know about me, such as how my single life was before I married him when I was 46. So in this episode, Clark and do "Fast 5" where he asks me 5 questions to help you learn how to attract a trustworthy marriage-minded man and avoid the mistakes I made when I was single that kept me stuck. I hope you are encouraged! Remember that the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible. To find out if you are a good candidate for my Single Over 30 Relationship School or for 1x1 coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on "coaching" on the top menu. 

If you sometimes feel as if men are difficult to understand, then this episode is definitely for you. Today, my husband, Clark, joins me to pull back the curtain about 9 myths about men. Here are some of the myths that Clark is ready to clear up for you on today's episode. Check it out!  1) Men don't have body image issues like women. 2) Men don't feel as deeply as women. Or, men aren't emotional.3) All men just care about sex.4)   Most men are commitment phobes.5)   Guys don't tell their friends everything.6)   Men don't like women to earn more than them.7)   Men are intimidated by women. 8)   Men are turned off by paying for a first date.9)   Men don't want to plan the first date.To get your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" link on the top of the page. 

Maybe you have said to yourself or to your friends, “I always overthink.” I hear this from women all the time and I have totally been there! And, without a doubt, overthinking can be difficult and emotionally painful.  The good news is that you really can do something about overthinking. You don't have to feel as if you are held captive by your thoughts. If you can relate, and if you find yourself going into a “mental spin” when it comes to dating and relationships, then today's Single Over 30 episode is definitely for you because I'm going to share 14 ways to stop overthinking. I know you'll be encouraged! 

Dating with children no matter their ages can be challenging, whether you have kids or a man you're interested in has them,  the decision to date after divorce or after the death of a spouse is definitely new and unfamiliar territory. If you're considering dating with kids, I want to address some common concerns and give you 13 practical tips that you can implement right away.  These tips which are based on my personal experience of dating—and marrying—a man with five (yes, 5!) kids, and also based on what I have learned from experts who know all about blended families. I hope you are encouraged! To find out how you can work with me one-on-one, visit singleover30.net and click on the coaching link at the top of the page. I look forward to talking with you. 

Maybe you're familiar with the old Neil Sedaka song from 1966 called “Breakin' Up is Hard to Do.” If you have ever gone through a breakup, you know Mr. Sedaka's words are true. Breaking up is anything but easy. It's not easy if you're the one who did the breaking up, or if you were broken up with. Even though breaking up isn't easy, it can work for good—and for betterment of your future relationship—when you take time to reflect on what happened. In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share 16 questions to ask yourself after a breakup so that it grows you and makes you better, rather than robs from your future relationships. 

Online dating can be frustrating at times. It can make you want to swear off online dating forever. Today, I want to give you some hope and encouragement by sharing 6 online dating mistakes that women make that prevent them from meeting a great guy online. You want to avoid these errors so you don't get discouraged and sabotage your online efforts.  I hope you're encouraged! 

You go out with a guy to dinner or for coffee. It comes time to pay and you're conflicted. Should he pay, or should you? And, what if you go out with him several times? Who pays then? In today's episode, my husband, Clark, joins me to demystify the question, “Who should pay for the first, second, or third date?” And, we'll talk about which one of us likes to eat kale. Exciting stuff! 8-) 

Picture this:  You've been connecting with a guy over text and things are going well and you're hoping he's going to move it to the next level by asking for a phone call, a date, or a video chat. But then. . . the whole thing just fizzles out. In this episode, I am going to give you an awesome strategy that you can put into practice so that your conversations don't just fall flat so you actually get the date. 

Ah dating! It can feel so discouraging at times, right? You want a relationship but it isn't happening the way you want or when you want and maybe there are even times it feels like it may never happen. This can lead to a whole lot of discouragement. And, I get it because I didn't marry until my late 40s even though I wanted to marry much sooner. Keeping the right attitude and mindset can help battle discouragement. So, on today's episode, I'm going to give you 4 Mindset Shifts (or perspectives) you can adopt to stay hopeful and positive while you're putting yourself out there. These are 4 Mindset Shifts to Overcome Dating Discouragement. And, since we're talking about staying hopeful, I've got something special for you to encourage you. I've created 7 printable affirmations for you—one a day for 7 days that you can download and print out in color if you like and place somewhere to encourage yourself to remind yourself how awesome you are. Because you are!  To get these printable affirmations, just head on over to singleover30.net/printable. 

I often talk with women who say they're interested in a relationship, but they are afraid. They're afraid that they don't have what it takes to make a relationship work. They're afraid they're not ready to date . . . and they wonder if they can have a happy, healthy relationship.If this describes you, you're in the right place, friend, because today I am going to share questions you can ask yourself to identify your readiness to date. I also have a freebie I want to share with you, it's the “Ready to Date Checklist” and it contains 30 questions to help you ask yourself if you're ready to date. And it will give you a lot of food for thought about your motivations for dating to identify what you want in your dating life going forward. To  get that freebie, head on over to singleover30.net/checklist. 

What do you do if you can't ever seem feel emotionally safe and confident in dating relationships or even when you are just getting to know men or a particular man? What do you do if you are often emotionally triggered and as a result you just shut down, quiet down, and pull away from men who might even be good guys? How can you feel more emotionally safe, confident—and even loved in a special relationship or while dating?  In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I answer these questions. Remember, the dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana 

I often speak with many wonderful single women who tell me they don't want to waste time in their dating life.If you can relate, I get it. After all, you're ready for a serious relationship that leads to commitment so you don't want to waste time with men and in relationships that aren't going to go anywhere. That totally makes sense. However, I have an important question for you. . .  Is it possible to waste time if you are adamant about not wasting time? In this episode, I share how this can absolutely happen--and it happens all the time with the women I coach, and how it happened to me too. This is a definite listen if you want to purposeful in your dating and relationship life and you want to improve your opportunities to find a trustworthy, marriage-minded man. I hope you are encouraged! The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana P.S. To set up your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me where I will help you overcome your biggest dating or relationship obstacle, please visit singleover30.net and click on "Coaching" on the top menu.  

In this episode, I share my story about my biggest romantic heartbreak, not to discourage you or make you feel sad, but to empower you and share why it's important to get over--and move past--the past.My story reveals that there is no doubt the past can have power over the present, but only if we let it. Moving past the past can help pave the way for a happy, healthy relationship but not healing can get you all kinds of stuck. I've been there.If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one coaching with me and also receive a free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session, just visit this page, fill out a short form and then set up a time on my calendar to talk with me.