Podcast appearances and mentions of kristin cary

Parenting with Someone Who Is Emotionally or Spiritually Unsafe How do you parent well when the other parent is manipulative, emotionally unsafe, spiritually abusive, addictive, or simply unwilling to grow? It's one of the most painful and exhausting realities many women face after separation, divorce, or even within a difficult marriage. In this powerful conversation, Leslie is joined by Michael and Kristin Cary of Living Truth Together to talk honestly about why “friendly co-parenting” is not always realistic—or safe—when the other parent continues destructive patterns. Together, they offer practical boundaries, faith-rooted wisdom, and compassionate guidance for moms who want to protect their children without badmouthing the other parent or getting pulled into more chaos. Key Takeaways Friendly Co-Parenting Isn't Always Possible—or Safe Many women are told that if they communicate clearly, stay kind, and “do their part,” co-parenting will become peaceful. But when someone was unsafe in the marriage, separation or divorce doesn't magically make them safe, reasonable, or cooperative. Michael reminds us that issues like sex, money, parenting, addiction, manipulation, and emotional abuse don't disappear just because a couple is no longer together. In many cases, trying to co-parent closely with an unsafe person only creates more opportunities for harm. Boundaries Protect Your Soul and Reduce Unnecessary Conflict Kristin shares from her own experience of parenting with a toxic ex-spouse and explains how she learned to put strong boundaries around communication. That meant not answering phone calls, avoiding one-on-one texting when possible, using another person in written communication, meeting in public places, and limiting conversations to only what was necessary. These boundaries are not punishment. They are protection. As Leslie points out, when someone has repeatedly shown that engaging with them only brings arrows and harm, wisdom means accepting reality and choosing a safer way forward. Loving Yourself Is Not Unchristian Many women feel an over-spiritualized obligation to keep sacrificing themselves—to answer every question, calm every outburst, defend every accusation, or rescue the unsafe person from his own consequences. But Jesus told us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Kristin names a powerful truth: you have agency now. You have authority over your time, energy, body, and emotional well-being. Sacrifice is beautiful when it leads to life and love, but it is not godly wisdom to continually sacrifice yourself to someone who uses your availability to harm you. You Can't Fully Protect Your Children, But You Can Equip Them One of the hardest truths for any mother is realizing she cannot completely shield her children from the other parent's toxicity. Kristin shares the deep surrender of recognizing that God loves her son even more than she does—and that while she can make wise choices, she cannot control everything he experiences. That doesn't mean doing nothing. It means helping your children recognize what is healthy and unhealthy, teaching them that they have choices, listening without using their pain as a weapon, and helping them build their own safety and discernment over time. Don't Put Your Children in the Middle When the other parent blames, lies, or spiritually shames you in front of the children, it can be tempting to defend yourself by telling the whole story. But children should not have to carry adult burdens. Kristin offers a wise, age-appropriate response: “Adult problems are really complex, and sometimes adults hurt each other in ways children shouldn't have to understand. This is not your fault. It is not your responsibility to fix it. I love you.” Leslie adds that if something untrue is said, you can calmly say, “That's not true. Dad is hurt and angry, and he's saying some things that aren't true,” without attacking his character. You Still Need Support, Rest, and Joy Parenting is hard. Parenting in a destructive or broken relationship is even harder. Kristin encourages women to get support, remove nonessentials where possible, and intentionally seek moments of real joy—not numbing or avoiding, but small places of delight and refuge with God. Michael reminds us that self-care does not always require large blocks of time. Sometimes it looks like five minutes in the sunshine, a cup of coffee in prayer, a worship song, or a quiet breath before the next hard thing. Personal Invitation If this episode stirred something in you and you're wondering, “Where do I even begin?” we want to help you take a clear next step. Download Leslie's Quickstart Guide to begin gaining clarity, courage, and practical direction for your situation. You don't have to figure everything out at once. Start with one wise step. Download the Quickstart Guide here: https://leslievernick.com/guide   Friend, your situation may feel impossible, especially when the other parent refuses to change, take responsibility, or become safe. But even if he never changes, you can. You can become the grounded, steady, emotionally healthy anchor your children need. You can stop dancing the old destructive dance. You can seek support, walk in truth, and learn to protect your heart without hardening it. You are not alone. God sees you, He loves your children, and He will give you wisdom for the next right step. Keep walking in truth—one step at a time.  

If the behavior has stopped… why does the relationship still feel disconnected, fragile, or stuck? In this episode of The Living Truth Podcast, Kristin Cary and Michael Cary explore the often-overlooked gap between sexual sobriety and emotional maturity—and why stopping the behavior is not the same as rebuilding trust, safety, and connection. You'll gain clarity on: Why sobriety alone doesn't restore trust or relational safety What emotional immaturity can look like in everyday interactions How unresolved wounds and “younger parts” continue to shape adult patterns The difference between defensiveness, shutdown, and true emotional growth Why betrayed partners need safety and stabilization first—not pressure to “move on” or “work on themselves” How couples can begin moving toward genuine intimacy, not just coexistence This conversation is especially relevant for: Women who feel confused or discouraged that things still don't feel “better” after sobriety Men who have stopped unwanted behaviors but sense there is still more growth needed Couples who long for deeper connection but find themselves repeating the same patterns Sobriety may remove destructive behaviors— but emotional maturity is what allows a relationship to be rebuilt. Growth in this area takes time, humility, and a willingness to stay present in the process. There is no shame in feeling stuck. There is an invitation into something deeper.   The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.   #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth #SurrenderedSexuality #JulieSlattery #AuthenticIntimacy #ChristianHealing #BetrayalTrauma #SexualIntegrity #CovenantLove #FaithAndSexuality #TraumaInformedFaith #IdentityInChrist #ChristianWomen #MenInRecovery

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Kristin Cary to explore the mind-body connection, especially how our bodies respond to trauma and betrayal. Kristin shares insights from her ministry, Living Truth, explaining how God designed our nervous systems to protect us through natural responses like fight, flight, or freeze. We discuss the importance of compassion over shame, practical grounding techniques (like the butterfly hug; even walking or jogging), and the vital role of community in healing. Kristin encourages us to honor our bodies as God's creation and to approach trauma recovery with patience, curiosity, and faith.To learn more about Kristin and her ministry, visit Living-Truth.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:The mind-body connection and its relevance to trauma.Physiological responses to trauma, including the activation of the vagus nerve and the release of stress hormones.The fight, flight, or freeze responses as natural protective mechanisms.The impact of betrayal trauma on individuals, particularly betrayed spouses.The importance of reframing bodily trauma responses as positive warning systems rather than signs of weakness.The experience of shame among Christians regarding trauma responses and faith.The significance of understanding the body's signals and their role in emotional and spiritual health.Grounding techniques and self-soothing methods to regulate the nervous system.The role of community and relational support in healing from trauma.The necessity of practicing regulation strategies in calm states to prepare for stressful situations.More Resources:Women in the BattleWives Care Online GroupsGoing Deeper for Betrayed Partners* by Eddie & Teri CapparucciRelated Podcasts:The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma HealingEmotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed WivesOnline Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal Trauma*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

When betrayal trauma shatters your world, it's natural to search desperately for answers. Podcasts, books, courses, social media—there is more information available today than ever before. But is there a point when searching for more information actually keeps us stuck? In this powerful and compassionate conversation, Kristin Cary welcomes Shelley Martinkus, co-founder of Redemptive Living, to explore the difference between knowing facts about betrayal and engaging the complex, embodied process of healing. Together, they reflect on the early days of their own recovery journeys—when resources were scarce—and contrast that with today's flood of information, which can unintentionally become a form of emotional anesthesia. What if healing doesn't come from finding the “right formula,” but from slowing down, tending to your nervous system, and doing deep relational work—especially within safe community? You'll hear honest reflections about: • The difference between “snorkeling” the surface and “scuba diving” into deeper healing • How dopamine, distraction, and over-research can numb pain instead of restoring it • Why betrayal recovery must include the body, heart, and nervous system—not just the mind • The surprising power of trauma-informed groups in restoring belonging, agency, and hope • Why Jesus—not a professional, program, or process—is the true source of lasting healing If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to “do healing right,” this episode offers a gentle invitation to slow down, breathe, and trust that God is still at work—within you and through safe community. Link to Podcast Episode: The Truth Shall Set You Free; How Full Disclosure Can Benefit Couples in Recovery with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill: https://LivingTruth61.podbean.com/e/the-truth-shall-set-you-free-how-full-disclosure-can-benefit-couples%c2%a0in-recovery-with-dan-drake-and-dr-janice-caudill-1718683847/  

Kristin Cary welcomes Dr. Barbara Steffens, founder and first president of the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) and one of the pioneering voices who reframed sexual betrayal as trauma rather than codependency.   Together, Kristin and Dr. Steffens explore how ministry leaders, counselors, and pastors can wisely and compassionately walk with betrayed women and struggling couples through the aftermath of sexual sin. They discuss best practices for trauma-informed care, the importance of safety and stabilization, and what it looks like to shepherd hearts with both truth and tenderness.   Gain insight into the multi-dimensional partner trauma model with practical strategies for responding to crisis moments, and a renewed vision for the Church's role in bringing hope and healing to those navigating the devastating fallout of betrayal.   Whether you're a pastor, ministry leader, counselor, or simply someone walking alongside a friend in pain, this conversation will equip and encourage you to become a safer and more effective presence of Christ's love.   The Truth Shall Set You Free; How Full Disclosure Can Benefit Couples in Recovery with Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill   Link to Barb & Lyschel's training here: https://hoperedefined.org/resources/shepherding-through-crisis-training/  

When your world falls apart after discovering sexual betrayal, how do you even begin to put the pieces back together?   In this powerful episode, Kristin Cary is joined by trauma-informed coach and Women in the Battle® facilitator Isabel Williams, who shares her deeply personal journey from devastation to post-traumatic growth. Izzy opens up about her initial resistance to group support, the chaos of early trauma, and the turning point that helped her begin to heal—creating structure.   Together, they explore: Why structure is essential in the aftermath of discovery How to identify safe people to confide in Why trauma-informed support (not generic marriage counseling) is critical The dangers of spiritually misinformed advice What real self-care looks like (hint: it's not bubble baths) How childhood trauma patterns resurface in crisis—and how to start rewriting them Izzy's story is a testament to what's possible when we receive the right kind of support and reconnect with our God-given voice and strength. Whether you're newly navigating betrayal or further down the road, this episode will offer practical insight, encouragement, and hope.   Enrollment for Women in the Battle® & Men in the Battle® opens August 11th! If you're ready to stop surviving and start healing, now's the time to take your next right step. Learn more at living-truth.org.  

In this episode, I sit down with Kristin Cary, founder of Living Truth, to discuss nervous system regulation after betrayal, the journey of healing, and the transformation that follows trauma. Kristin shares her personal story of betrayal, healing, and growth, offering invaluable insights into navigating betrayal trauma, understanding nervous system responses, and reclaiming personal power.  What You'll Learn in This Episode: 

The long term complex stress associated with recovering from sexual betrayal or unwanted sexual behavior makes it very difficult to stay present. When the war is on between our God given threat and attachment instincts, our body, mind and spirit are often in chaotic upheaval. The part of our brain responsible for impulse control and logic goes offline. We lose our truest selves and it can sometimes feel like we are losing our sanity as a tornado of intrusive thoughts invade our minds. This is TRAUMA. Join Kristin as she shares strategies to help you return to your body in the present moment. The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.

The long term complex stress associated with recovering from sexual betrayal or unwanted sexual behavior makes it very difficult to stay present. When the war is on between our God given threat and attachment instincts, our body, mind and spirit are often in chaotic upheaval. The part of our brain responsible for impulse control and logic goes offline. We lose our truest selves and it can sometimes feel like we are losing our sanity as a tornado of intrusive thoughts invade our minds. This is TRAUMA. Join Kristin as she shares strategies to help you return to your body in the present moment. The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal.

Our guest on today's program is Kristin Cary, co-founder of Living Truth, a ministry dedicated to helping those struggling with sexual brokenness to experience healing and transformation. In this episode, we focus on the Immanuel Approach and how it can be used to help individuals find deeper healing and a more intimate connection with Christ. This approach uses prayer to invite Jesus into our broken places to experience more joy and peace – and to “turn on” the relational circuits in the brain that have been shut down by trauma. To learn more about Kristin and her ministry, visit Living-Truth.org. Bonus Resources from Living Truth: Top 10 Tips to Rebuild Your Marriage After betrayal AND The Path to Freedom (ebooks)More Resources:ImmanuelApproach.comSexual Behavior Self-AssessmentMen in the BattleWomen in the BattleRelated Podcasts:Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 1)Immanuel Approach with Dr. Karl Lehman (Part 2)Healing Your Brain----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

Kristin Cary and her husband Michael help people find freedom from unwanted sexual behavior and provide hope and healing for women after sexual betrayal. Listen in to her story about how she's leaned into Jesus and continued to walk after betrayal. You can also download her free resources here:  https://l4jxclap.pages.infusionsoft.net

Whether or not you have a daughter, this is a ministry that you need to put on your radar. From her unique perspective as a betrayed wife and daughter, and a Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist, Kristin Cary of Living Truth shares a message of hope and help for those impacted by a parent's problematic sexual behavior. Plus you are not going to want to miss hearing about their unique and totally free support group for daughters between the ages of 15-30. For more information about Living Truth's Men in the Battle and Women in the Battle communities go to www.living-truth.org  Sign up for the next women's group just opened up! (as of 8/2/2021) To access Fight For Love resources click here  

Michael and Kristin get it. By God's grace, Kristin was able to heal and meet Michael and have a thriving relationship after her first marriage was a casualty to sexual addiction. Today they help men, women, and couples discover freedom through various tools and a tremendous amount of wisdom. Listen now to hear how they answer tough questions about safety, boundaries and how we find the restoration Jesus intends us to have. More Resources:https://living-truth.org/Other Resources:https://restored2more.com/https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/https://www.facebook.com/Restored-2-More-108863067511392/?modal=admin_todo_tour

Join me in this weeks' episode where my guest, Kristin Cary, shares her journey of finding out she was pregnant and then 6 months into her pregnancy, discovering that her then-husband was addicted to pornography and had cheated on her. I am so grateful that Kristin came on the show to share her story of betrayal, healing, growth and resilience. Kristin is a force but she had to go through and grow through so many different things to get to where she is today. If this is something you have been through or are going through, you can always reach out to Kristin as she now works with women who have been going through/have gone through sexual betrayals of their own. If you wish to connect with Kristin in regards to the episode or chat about these topics further, please feel free to reach out to her through her social media, website or listen to her podcast:Website: living-truth.orgEmail: kristinc@living-truth.org or michaelc@living-truth.orgFacebook: Living Truth 61Podcast: Living Truth PodcastAs always, please come join me in the Badass Moms Club Facebook group!

Exciting upgrades to our recovery programs for men and women are upon us!  Listen in as Michael & Kristin unveil how their years of experience in the trenches has led to the development of The Living Truth Together Community!  Men in the Battle® & Women in the Battle® are expanding in depth and impact with our creation of 6 months of custom curriculum, more options for recovery small groups, and more congruent messaging for couples working these programs at the same time!  Take your recovery to the next level with us! Sign ups begin January 2nd for existing members  and January 5th for new members. The Living Truth Podcast is conversations that shed light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal this causes. 

The two most important covenants Corri made, to marriage and to full-time ministry, were pulled out from under her in 2014 when she discovered ongoing addiction in her marriage, sought help from her leadership, and was fired. While Corri's heart and marriage have been resurrected, the journey of belonging again after spiritual trauma is ongoing. The marginalization she experienced at the hands of the body of Christ, due to common misunderstandings about sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, continue for others in ministry and church communities. Corri and Kristin unpack their personal and professional experiences with grace and truth regarding this pandemic affecting the church and they give tangible advice for how to love someone reeling from the devastation of betrayal. 

How do you help your daughters work through sex addiction when it ravages your family. Kristin Cary talks about a program that has helped daughters work through their trauma and band together recognizing that they are not alone. Daughters in the Battle has a unique program that gives daughters the support that they deserve.

How do you help your daughters work through sex addiction when it ravages your family. Kristin Cary talks about a program that has helped daughters work through their trauma and band together recognizing that they are not alone. Daughters in the Battle has a unique program that gives daughters the support that they deserve.

There is no doubt that Sexual Addiction affects everyone in the family and it can be particularly difficult to navigate how to involve the children in this family problem. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Kristin Cary who has helped families for over a decade tell us what can be helpful in maaging the problem while being sensitive to the children.

Talk given by Kristin Cary at the 2017 Porn Kills Conference at New Life Presbyterian Church

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Kristin Cary who is a CPSAS and is currently being trained by APSATS. She realizes that the church, therapists and family or friends can be well meaning but hurtful when it comes to partner trauma. She will talk about what churches can do to be safe places for women to talk about partner betrayal and she will talk about a program that she has developed in her church which has made a huge difference in her community.