Podcasts about sexual betrayal

It's easy to believe that infidelity leaves only one option: divorce. But through personal experience, we've seen that healing and restoration are possible when you invite God into the broken places of your marriage.   In this episode, we're joined by Kallista Sanchez, author of Forgiving What the World Says You Shouldn't: Releasing the Chains of Bitterness in Unequally Yoked Marriages.   This conversation won't offer a quick fix or a formula to erase the pain. Instead, it will encourage you to see how walking through trials—and choosing forgiveness—can become a powerful catalyst for growth, healing, and redemption through Jesus Christ.   Forgiving What the World Says You Shouldn't https://www.amazon.com/Forgiving-What-World-Says-Shouldnt/dp/B0F4NL6GP3     Follow on Instagram - @rejoicemarriageministries   Follow on Facebook - @rejoicemarriageministries   Every day, you can receive encouragement straight to your inbox through our Fight for Your Marriage Devotional and find free resources and prayers to pray over your marriage. To take advantage of these resources and others, visit https://rejoiceministries.org

The Bravery of Letting Go: A Deep Dive into Self-Forgiveness and Healing   In this vulnerable and thought-provoking episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most challenging aspects of the healing journey: self-forgiveness. Whether you've acted in ways you're not proud of or internalized blame after betrayal, the burden of shame can keep you tethered to past pain. Together, they unpack why so many individuals—both betrayed partners and those who have acted out—struggle to forgive themselves, even long after change begins. The conversation addresses the role of shame as a perceived protector, the internal dialogue that keeps us stuck, and how self-forgiveness isn't just an emotional release, but a physiological and relational turning point. Drawing from Internal Family Systems (IFS), systems theory, trauma research, and recovery work, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn examine how embracing self-forgiveness leads to renewed self-trust, authentic change, and deeper connection. Listeners are also introduced to somatic and spiritual tools for letting go of self-judgment and are encouraged to explore their capacity to receive love—not just give it. The message is clear: your healing matters, and you are worthy of moving forward. Resources Mentioned: - Internal Family Systems (IFS) – A therapeutic model exploring parts of the self, especially protective parts tied to shame and fear.   - Mark Wolynn – Author of It Didn't Start with You, discussing inherited family trauma and emotional tethering across generations.   - Dr. Joe Dispenza – Work referenced regarding emotional addiction and how familiar patterns of pain can become neurologically ingrained.   - Dr. Kristin Neff – [selfcompassion.org](https://selfcompassion.org), a resource hub for meditations and exercises on self-compassion and self-forgiveness.   - Dr. Carol Dweck – Growth vs. fixed mindset; how change is possible through effort and intentionality.   - Dr. Kevin Skinner –Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal, discussing concepts such as the locus of control and how misplaced self-blame limits healing.   - 12-Step Recovery Principles – Concepts of surrender, self-reflection, and spiritual healing in addiction recovery.   - Somatic Exercises for Releasing Shame – Bilateral stimulation, body scans, and metaphor-based visualization to help the body release emotional burdens.   - Visualization Practices – Inviting clients to connect with a Higher Power, or a loving internal figure like a grandparent, to find grace and compassion within.

In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs. Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion and pain she experienced, as well as her unwavering faith in their marriage's potential for healing. Together, they discuss their path to recovery, the importance of honesty, and their mission to help others through their podcast, "Beyond Broken Vows." Their story is a powerful testament to redemption and hope.If you are in a marriage that has experienced infidelity or other kinds of sexual betrayal, this episode will help you discover hope and insights for healing and restoration.For more information about Johnny and Emily and their ministry, visit BeyondBrokenVows.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of early exposure to pornography on personal development.The struggles and consequences of sex addiction within a marriage.The dynamics of anger and emotional turmoil in relationships.The process of deception and gaslighting in the context of addiction.The journey of healing and recovery from infidelity.The importance of open communication and honesty in rebuilding trust.The role of faith and spirituality in overcoming personal challenges.The significance of support networks and community in recovery.The decision to share personal stories to help others facing similar issues.The transformation of a relationship through vulnerability and shared experiences.More Resources:Beyond Broken Vows PodcastRecovery Coaching with Johnny and EmilyDisclosureHope.comRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalHow Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

Special Patreon Re-Release: Love and Loss with James Jetton   James 1:2-4 (NIV) "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."   **Transcription Below**   James Jetton's Bio: My name is James Jetton. I have and still do live a crazy beautiful, challenging, and blessed life. I am blessed to get to raise 4 beautiful children, and I have spent time getting to serve a fantastic community as a Recreation Minister, where I got to combine my love of Jesus, sports, and people. I served in this role for 13 years before my bride Kaetlin was diagnosed with Leukemia in 2020. Unfortunately, after an awe-inspiring journey with cancer, Kaetlin went to meet her Savior in January of 2022.   Clearly, this changed so much of my life trajectory. Currently, I'm working towards obtaining a Masters in Social Work to take the pain and experiences I have had to help others through their pain. Kaet and I were married in 2009 and built a beautiful life; we taught each other so much. So, I deeply desire to take everything we learned together and the lessons the Lord has taught me to help others.   I mentioned earlier that I have 4 exceptional children, Laken, 9, Isla Kaet, 7, Hattie, 6, and Ryder, 4. Laken is my go-getter; she is fearless, strong, and tough. Sweet Isla Kaet is a quiet thinker and planner and is often referred to as little Kaet. She cares deeply and is always looking for ways where she can help and take care of her family. Hattie is our child with special needs and has been diagnosed with GNB-1 Syndrome (a rare genetic disorder). Hattie will light up any room she is in; it's incredible that a child who only has a few words, uses a wheelchair, and is “limited” by our world's standards, can bring joy to people in a way that I never knew was possible. Ryder the caboose is a maniac, and his sisters affectionately call him “Wreck it Ryder” he has no fear and is a super extrovert; he keeps us all on our toes. He is what some would say, “all boy.”   This is a brief bio of me and our circus; through everything, we have found joy in all circumstances. Although there are exceptionally hard days as we have endured much grief, God has always provided, and I am thankful for the life God has given us.   Questions we discuss: Life took an unexpected twist in 2016. Will you catch us up on your discoveries that year? While many of us were in the midst of changing schedules and suddenly homeschooling children in May of 2020, your family was receiving even more news. Will you share that with us now? What is life like for your family these days, as grief likely comes at unexpected times?   Thank You to Our Sponsors: Chick-fil-A East Peoria and The Savvy Sauce Charities (and donate online here)   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Other Episodes from The Savvy Sauce of God's Faithfulness: 17 Being on Both Sides of Forgiveness with Adelle Dickie 18 Clinging to Jesus as I lived Through My Worst Nightmare with Angela Braker 19 Grief and Triumph and God's Pursuit Though it All with Julie Locke Moore 20 Joy in the Lord Even Through Tremendous Loss…Twice with Rachel Faulkner Brown 62 Unexpected Grief and What Helped Me Through It Can Help You Too with Singer and Blogger, Brittany Price Brooker 78 Parenting the Prodigal Child And God's Desire For Redemption With Mother-Daughter Duo, Claire Stanfill and Tindell Baldwin 79 Radical Business and Radical Parenting with Gary & Marla Ringger, Founders of Lifesong for Orphans 83 Miracles of God with Founder of Midwest Food Bank, David Kieser 120 Our Story for His Glory with Mercedes Cotchery 134 Fashion Meets Faith with Shari Braendel 141 Rescued from Poverty with Norah Birungi 143 Prodigal Story: Sexuality, Drugs, and Scripture with Dr. Christopher Yuan 160 Unleash This Generation with the Power of the Gospel with Greg Stier 161 God Redeems with Hettie Brittz 162 Healing from Spouse's Sexual Addiction with Jennifer Roush 174 Stories of God's Upside Down Economy with Kristen Welch 208 Tremendous Testimony and Adding Spark into Your Marriage with David & Teri Sumlin 223 Journey and Learnings as Former Second Lady of the United States with Karen Pence 229 Escape from Modern Day Sex Slavery with Rachel Timothy Special Patreon 28 Re-Release: What to Do When You Don't Like Your Story with Sharon Jaynes 231 Stories Series: Faith Building Miracles with Dave Pridemore 232 Stories Series: Testify to Glorify with Richard Gamble 233 Stories Series: Surprises from God with Tiffany Noel Special Patreon Re-Release: Patreon 30 Story of Perseverance with Jenny Boyett 234 Stories Series: Redemption From Sexual Sin in Marriage with Garrett and Brenna Naufel 235 Stories Series: Ever-Present Help in Trouble with Kent Heimer 236 Stories Series: God's Power and Light with Jaime Farrell 237 Stories Series: Prodigal and Redemption with Renee Endress Special Patreon Re-Release: Patreon 31 Unexpected Story of Trauma, Anxiety, Adoption, and Hope with Bettina Stevens 238 Stories Series: God Delights in His Children with Brad Habegger 239 Stories Series: Experiencing the Supernatural with Jackie Coleman 240 Stories Series: God's Rescue and Covering in Parenting with Brenda Dugger 241 Stories Series: From the Mission Field, Experiencing God in the Little and the Big with Patty Sommer 242 Stories Series: He Gives and Takes Away with Joyce Hodel 243 Stories Series: Angel Encounter and Hearing from God with Mary Beth Zimmerman 244 Stories Series: Medical Marvels with Carolyn Henricks 245 Stories Series: Miracles Big and Small with Dr. Rob Rienow 246 Stories Series: Experiencing God's Tangible Love with Jen Moore 247 Stories Series: Exciting Adventures Follow Radical Obedience with Susan Zobrist 248 Stories Series: Discipline of Celebration in the Midst of Unexpected Loss and Grief with Jonathan Pitts Special Patreon Re-Release: Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns 249 Stories Series Conclusion: Now What? Living as Global Christians with Todd Ahrend of The Traveling Team   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   **Transcription**   Music: (0:00 – 0:09)   Laura Dugger: (0:09 - 2:07) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here. I'm grateful for today's sponsor, Chick-fil-A East Peoria.   Check them out online to place your order for dining or catering, or to fill out an application to join their friendly team. Visit cfaeastpeoria.com. If you've been with us long, you know this podcast is only one piece of our nonprofit, which is The Savvy Sauce Charities.   Don't miss out on our other resources. We have questions and content to inspire you to have your own practical chats for intentional living. And I also hope you don't miss out on the opportunity to financially support us through your tax-deductible donations.   All this information can be found on our recently updated website, thesavvysauce.com. And now, I'm pleased to share this episode with you that used to only be available to paying patrons.    My guest for today is James Jetton.   Mark and I attended the same family camp as James in 2022. I observed a father who was very devoted to his children, and one of his precious daughters was in a wheelchair, which was always by his side. He was so tender with his children, and I just assumed his wife was resting while he was attending to the family.   I did not learn of his full story until after camp, and it was through a mutual friend, April Siervo. But then, after she shared a bit more of their story, I immediately reached out to James to request that he share his faith and testimony with us today. Here's our chat.   Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, James.   James Jetton: (2:07 - 2:15) I'm happy to be here. I'm looking forward to talking to you and just kind of sharing how God has moved in our lives the past few years.   Laura Dugger: (2:15 - 2:24) You have already lived through so much, but let's just start here. When did Jesus initially draw you to himself?   James Jetton: (2:26 - 3:25) Yeah, I think that's like, you know, it's a big question, right? But also, it shouldn't be. I think the first time I really just kind of came to know the Lord, I was in the eighth grade.   I had a retreat, and in that moment, for me, it was a situation of— it wasn't necessarily for me, but also just trying to do the right thing. I grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, so I was in the Bible Belt. I was like, this is what we're supposed to do.   We're supposed to give our lives to Jesus. But I would say probably going into my senior year of high school, I had some moments just kind of alone at a beach, actually. I was like, what am I doing with my life?   And I believe that that was kind of the first one real moment in my life where I decided, I think I'm going to actually follow the Lord now and not just do this, just to say I'm doing it. And so that was really the first time I really felt the Lord draw me to him. And then, of course, as time goes on, there's all these other little moments throughout where he's continually staying close and bringing me back to him when I feel like I'm drifting away and that sort of thing.   Laura Dugger: (3:27 - 3:39) Thank you for sharing that. And you've written before on your blog that, I'll quote, one of the best decisions I have ever made was when I persuaded Kaetlin to marry me, end quote.   James Jetton: (3:39 - 3:40) Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (3:40 - 3:43) James, how did the two of you meet and fall in love?   James Jetton: (3:44 - 5:30) Yeah, so we went to college together. We went to Troy University. I vividly remember a time where she was getting out of her car, and she didn't know me at this time.   But I remember seeing her. I think I met her maybe once or twice through some mutual friends. I remember seeing her get out of the car and literally, I'll never forget this moment.   I was like, man, if I could just have a girl like that. And it stuck with me. And I think the first time we met, I think I made some comments that she wasn't happy about, about some fraternity guys that were in a different fraternity than me that I didn't think too highly of.   But I didn't realize in that moment that she was actually the sweetheart of that fraternity. And so, we kind of got off to a little bad step there. But I remember she broke up with another boyfriend.   That was part of the reason I saw her. And I was like, I could never have a girl like that. All the girls like that are taken.   And so, she broke up with her boyfriend. I remember her best friend called me and was like, “Hey, can I bring her over to y'all's house? Because she just needs to laugh”.   I was like, “Well, we can do that. We can make sure she laughs”. And so, I think from there, we just kind of, I don't know, just we continued to talk.   And for some reason, she liked me a little bit and I liked her a whole lot. And we dated for about three years in college. And when we got out of college, we got married in May of 2009.   And so that was kind of where life began to speed up a lot at that point. But that was the first time I'll never forget those moments. And then there's other things throughout.   But I remember seeing her in the parking lot like that girl.   Laura Dugger: (5:31 - 5:43) So, I love that. And OK, so married in 2009 and then children came a little while later. So how many children did you add to your family?   James Jetton: (5:44 - 6:28) Yeah, we have four kids. Our first child was born in 2013. So, after we got married, we lived back here in Niceville for a little bit but then ended up moving.   She wanted to go to PA school, and I was working a job I didn't care too much for. So, I was like, how quickly can we go to school? And so, we moved to West Tennessee where she went to PA school.   And I ended up going to school there, too, because she studied all the time, and I was bored. And I was like, I guess I should do something productive as well. So that was 2009 and we had a lot of fun.   We love to travel, did a lot of fun things. And then in 2013, we had our first child, Laken.   Laura Dugger: (6:28 - 6:39) And then if you fast forward, life took an unexpected twist in 2016. So, will you catch us up on your discoveries that year?   James Jetton: (6:40 - 13:07) Yeah. So, we, you know, so we had Laken in 2013. Then, we had another part of our - we did have a miscarriage between Laken and Isla who was born in 2015. But then we had Hattie who was born in 2016.   And Hattie's our child with special needs. And she was born in - all of our pregnancies where we used to joke with people that could have babies and just bounce right back and have these beautiful, wonderful pregnancies. And they loved it.   That was not us. Every single one of our pregnancies brought some challenge within it. And so with Hattie, my wife started swelling a lot and kind of found out she had some clotting in her legs.   And so, we ended up having to induce labor for her with that happening. And, you know, when she my wife was also a PA in the ER. So, she understood medical things way better than I did.   I was kind of oblivious to a lot of things. So, she would probably say it was a little bit more scary than I realized it was when she was giving birth. But when Hattie came, like in some accounts, it just kind of seemed normal.   But she was having some trouble breathing. And so, she was in our hospital. In order to go to the NICU, you have to kind of get transferred out to a smaller hospital.   And so, they were keeping her under observation that night. And her breathing wasn't really getting a whole lot better. And they did x-rays and stuff like that, but couldn't really find much.   And then there was a morning where we were about ready to load up and send her to the NICU. And Kaetlin went and held her. And when she went and held her, she started breathing better.   And she calmed down. And it was kind of crazy. It was genuinely like the love of a mother.   Just like this connection seemed to just calm Hattie down. But we ended up finding out later, one of the nurses was amazing. And was like, I think that she has a broken collarbone.   They didn't see it on the x-ray at first because of the way her chin was turned. And so, when they went back and looked, they did another one. And sure enough, she did have a broken collarbone.   So, at the time, we kind of thought that was kind of the reason for her distressed breathing and that sort of thing. And she had trouble latching and sucking. And what we kind of came to find out later is she had what would be called hypotonia.   Which is basically where the best way to describe it in layman's terms is like a floppy baby. Like you hold her up and everything just kind of flops. And I remember Kaitlyn going to her four-month appointment.   And her being very concerned like, “Hey, Hattie's not meeting milestones. And I think that this isn't going to be a good appointment”. And sure enough, the doctor agreed.   We've always had amazing doctors around us. And so, he agreed. And so, we got referred to neurology.   And another just cool story about how God just provides. One of my best friends growing up, his dad was a neurologist in Birmingham. And so, I called him.   And he's like, all right, I got it. You're going to be here next Thursday. I'm like, oh, okay.   When we were kind of told like it's going to be like three or four months before we can even get you into a neurologist. And so, like God just kind of provided that. And we started that journey of trying to figure out what's going on.   And anyone who's ever had a special needs child, especially when you don't know what it is. Because there was nothing we could have done to foresee this happening. What Hattie had was called DeNovo, like just completely her.   Didn't come from me. Didn't come from Kaylin. And there's no other kids with special needs in our family.   It was just something we couldn't have expected or planned or could have even seen or anything like that. And so just kind of going through a lot of different doctors and tests and eventually getting referred to Johns Hopkins in Baltimore. Because at the time they thought it might be a neuromuscular thing.   And so, from there, they're like, oh, we don't think that's what it is. But then we ran a whole bunch of genetic panels. And like you're just going through all of that.   It definitely there's waves, right? Like it's like you want an answer, but at some level you're afraid of the answer. So, like each time we would do testing stuff before nothing would ever come back.   And so, it was like a relief. Okay, well, good. It's not that one.   Okay. Not that one. But then you're still like, well, what is it?   And so, after we went to Baltimore, they did much more extensive genetic testing. We found out she had this genetic disorder, or syndrome is what they're calling it now called GNV1. And it's crazy rare.   Like at the time, there were only 64 known cases. It was discovered in 2016. So, there's chances that there's other kids out there with it.   I think now there's a little over 100 that they know of. We're part of like a Facebook group where there's some of them in there. And so that's what we got the diagnosis for Hattie.   And so, what that means, I guess, probably no one knows what GNV1 is. Not even doctors. We go to doctors like, oh, can you tell us what this is?   We'll do our best. But it just starts out as hypotonia and global delay, which means every aspect of her is delayed from speech to gross and fine motor movements and all that kind of stuff. And also like with kids with special needs, it doesn't seem to affect any one of them the exact same way.   And so, but the thing about Hattie is like she has an infectious smile. She has this joy that is unreal. Like anybody that meets her just can't get enough of her.   And that is true in so many ways. Hattie uses a wheelchair to get around and Hattie's expressive language. So, her ways to communicate is behind.   But she understands everything. I mean, everything, which is pretty amazing, is my understanding. Not all the kids have that ability to receive and understand things as well as she does.   But she is an absolute joy. We used to always say and still do that Hattie's going to change the world. And we know the fact she's changed my world for sure.   And we know she's changed many others. But yeah, I could keep going on and on. But where we are today, like genuinely that she is a purpose and a reason why I've got to get up every single day.   Yeah. So, she's pretty amazing. Like I'm just yeah, I could go on and on about her.   Laura Dugger: (13:08 - 18:15) I think you described her so well with an infectious smile and joy is the word that comes to mind when you see her. Yeah. And now a brief message from our sponsors.   I want to say thank you to our longtime sponsor Chick-fil-A East Peoria. I hope that you've already downloaded the Chick-fil-A app. Because did you know that with the app you can skip the line and have food ready for you when you arrive?   This is one of my favorite options when I'm taking my four daughters to Chick-fil-A East Peoria. Download the Chick-fil-A app today and start earning points toward free rewards that are fully customized to your preferences and tastes. Chick-fil-A was named as one of Glassdoor's best places to work in the nation.   That's a huge honor. And one team member even wrote, no comparison. 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Another way to find it is simply type in donate to the search bar on our website and just click the first picture shown. We are all about sharing around here, sharing resources, sharing joy, and sharing the good news about Jesus Christ.   We ask that you also will share by sharing financially, sharing The Savvy Sauce podcast episodes, and sharing a five-star rating and review. You can also share any of our social media posts on Instagram or Facebook. We are grateful for all of it, and we just love partnering together with you. Now, back to the show.    In a different season, when many of us were in the midst of changing schedules and suddenly homeschooling our children in May of 2020, your family was receiving even more news. So, will you share that with us now as well?   James Jetton: (18:16 - 22:36) Yeah. We did have our fourth kid, Ryder. He was born in 2018, and he is a wild man.   My wife and I used to always say, or people would tell us, you'll know when you're done. But we had him, and we were like, okay, we're broke. We're done.   No more. But he's awesome. But yeah, the move forward to then, you know, that COVID stuff was really hard.   It was really hard. I was working for a church, and I do sports and rec ministry, and also I was doing student ministry at the time. And so, for me personally, like, things just kind of got shut down.   No one was doing sports leagues, and student ministry looked weirder than ever. And then my wife, she was working in the emergency room as a PA, and so she was facing everything head on. And so, I guess that kind of started in March.   It's funny, just to kind of back up a little bit. We felt prior to that, probably February or March of that 2020, when things were kind of like exploding, we just felt the Lord doing something in our lives. We felt like He was preparing us for something.   We felt like it was going to be something just amazing. But then as we moved forward to try to understand what God is doing, what He was telling us, in May, my 4-year-old, she had her preschool graduation. And I'll never forget this day.   My wife was a go-getter. She's tough. She's strong.   And we had a super weird COVID graduation for Isla, my 4-year-old. And it was weird because it was a drive-through graduation, so we had to get up there early and go do it. So, my wife also, she would do work night shifts so that she could be home with the kids when I couldn't be there.   And so, it wasn't uncommon for her to have to sleep in some. But this was like she hadn't worked the night before, and she hadn't worked. And so, we'd been off for two days, but she was just so exhausted.   She had this terrible headache that morning. And for her to say, like, I can't go to the graduation, that was like, there's something significant here. And I told her, like, she had gone to the doctor about a week before and got on some antibiotics, but it wasn't doing anything.   And I was just like, hey, I think it's time to go back to the doctor because you're not any better. And I've got to take these kids to this graduation. So, I loaded up all the kids.   We went to the drive-through graduation. While I was there, she called and said that her sister was going to take her to the emergency room. So that was a long day.   At that time, COVID was full on, so she couldn't have visitors. No one could come in with her. She had to be dropped off and go inside.   One huge plus in that for our specific situation is that she was taken to her own emergency room. So, she still had her friends and what she would call family there as well. And so, she dropped her off.   My sister-in-law dropped her off and just kind of waited in the parking lot until we figured out what was going on. So, it kind of went throughout that whole day. And I remember that night, the school was doing another virtual graduation where they showed pictures and that sort of thing.   And she texted me and said, I need to talk to you now. I was like, okay, like right now? Because I'm home alone with all four of the kids.   She's like, yeah, and I need you to get away from the kids. I was like, this doesn't sound good. What could this be?   And so, we FaceTimed, and that's where she told me they think I have leukemia. And so then as things started speeding up, we sent out a message to our church asking for prayers. From there, I put the kids to bed.   I drove to Pensacola. She got transferred to Pensacola, and we started treatment there for leukemia. So that was what happened.   That was the big moment in May. And then from there, there's a whole lot more. And so, I'll share as you wish.   Laura Dugger: (22:37 - 22:54) Wow. Thank you for catching us up to that point, James. I can't even imagine the initial devastation that comes.   And as your journey unfolds, I remember seeing a post about leaving your light on.   James Jetton: (22:54 - 24:24) Yeah. Like I said earlier, my wife always did the night shift. And so, I always left the light on for her when she was at work and then turned it off when she came home.   And so, yeah, so early on, I said that I'm not turning the light off until you come home. And so, during that time, the first treatment, it doesn't seem like a lot now because she was in the hospital so much. We didn't know how long she'd be in there.   But the first initial treatment, they're like, you're going to be in for three weeks. And so, I knew that she wouldn't be home for three weeks. And I guess this is me just kind of realizing that was a long time for the kids.   I remember talking to a friend of mine who was leading a small group of high school boys. And I remember him telling them, like, how hard do you think it would be if your mom was gone for three weeks? I was like, yeah, it's not easy.   But so. So, yeah, so that was that was the reason. Just like my wife, one, she was a light in the midst of all the darkness that she was having to face.   And I just wanted to make a point that like, hey, we're leaving this light on for you until you come home. And in a lot of respects, you know, she did go home. Long, long story.   But, yeah, that that was the reason for the light.   Laura Dugger: (24:25 - 24:34) So, well, and the way that you describe her, it sounds like our mutual friend April said her joy was just out of this world.   James Jetton: (24:34 - 24:36) Yeah, that's true.   Laura Dugger: (24:36 - 24:49) It sounds like maybe the both of you share that, but you were not entering into a joyful season. So, what did the next few months and year even look like?   James Jetton: (24:49 - 30:47) Yeah. So initially, when things went down, my wife and I agreed that we would not let our kids lose both their parents. And so, I tried to make it a point to be home at night.   So, when we were in Pensacola, like I would stay with her some nights, but I would also be home at night to put the kids to bed or I would put the kids to bed and I'd drive over that night and come back in the morning or be with her during the day. Like, you know, it was just crazy stuff. One, you know, it happened at the end of the school year.   So, we have all the kids at home. We didn't get to send them off to school. We were blessed to have an amazing college student.   It was one of Kaetlin's girls that she got to mentor when she was in high school. She was an amazing girl. She decided she would be like our nanny that summer.   And so, she was with our kids all day, every day. So, I could go and be with Kaetlin during the day and come home at night. And so, we went through that.   We were here and we did the treatment in Pensacola. It didn't work. And so, the next step at that point was like, well, what are we doing now?   And on a Thursday, the doctor was like, I think we need to go to MD Anderson. We'll see if there's a spot. And then on a Friday, they had a spot.   And then on Monday, we were in Houston at MD Anderson. I went to MD Anderson with her. You know, COVID protocol there still.   I could only be with her for 14 days and inpatient. And then I had to leave as an inpatient. So, I can only go with her for 14 days in that initial time.   And so, we went there. She started a treatment plan. We found an apartment.   And then I left. And then her dad came. And her dad was huge in a lot of this stuff and was able to allow us to do things like me and be with the kids.   And so, I think I stayed there for 10 days. And then he came over to stay with Kaetlin to take her back and forth to the hospital, just receiving treatment. And then I came home, and I came back to Niceville.   And that was during the summer. July, we were at home. We stayed in Niceville just kind of waiting to see, like, is Kaet going to be there longer?   Or is she going to be coming back here? And that was a wild summer. And this is what I think I would tell a lot of people that are going through hard things.   Like just because you're going through hard things doesn't mean there's other hard things. They're just a part of life. And, you know, when you have four kids, stuff happens.   You know, like we had one of my daughters, Isla, she had to have eye surgery that summer. While Kaet was in Houston. So that was an interesting thing.   My four-year-old son, he busted his head open on the back of a step going outside. So, he had to have some stitches in his head. He's the second that has had stitches in our family.   And he was the youngest. So, then the treatment, the goal was to get her to a place where she could do a bone marrow transplant. And so, we got, they got her to that point.   Her leukemia cell counts were low enough that we're ready to do a bone marrow transplant. And at that point, you know, we decided we're going to move to Houston. Everything was virtual at that time.   And I just couldn't see any reason why we couldn't all be together in Houston. And so, we found an apartment, we hunkered down. It's a two-bedroom apartment.   We built some makeshift bunk beds. And so, we moved there in August. And the community we have here was unreal.   The support that we have. Like I didn't, we didn't have to make a meal for, I felt like six months, I think. Like it was just crazy.   And people were allowing it and giving us money. So, we didn't have to worry about these kinds of things and what we're doing. And from moving packing boxes, like, I mean, I can't, it's just unfathomable.   All the different things that were put in place for us to do, to do what we did. And I don't think it would have happened without the community that came around us and our church here was great, but I've got to see The Big-C Church. And, and, and it was, it was amazing.   And so, we ended up, we all moved to Houston, and we lived in a two-bedroom apartment. Part of that story is like, you know, it's like, all right, we're doing this. And then talk about kids.   My four-year-old, the one that had also had the eye surgery, she had broken her ankle on a scooter. Like a week before we're going, it was like, are you kidding me? How is this happening right now?   But we had some great friends like, you know, when your wife is involved in the middle of the medical world, it makes access to doctors and stuff a lot easier when you're in a small town, like we are. So, they got it taken care of, got her in a cast. I was like, yeah, but we can't return with this hard cast.   We're going to Houston. He's like, all right, we'll get her in a hard cast. And we'll put her in a boot for the rest of the time.   So, we moved there. And you know, the dreams of like riding scooters around downtown Houston and doing all this kind of stuff kind of went away a little bit with the kid. And so, he, but there was a pool there.   So, we went swimming, she could swim. And so, we, we just made the best of what we had. Like we, we had a lot of good memories in that little apartment, even though it was, it was tough.   I remember, we, Halloween wasn't too long ago. We had our own little Halloween party in that apartment where we all dressed up, even Kaet. Cause she ended up getting her bone marrow transplant that time.   And another aspect of where dad was so important is when you get in the bone marrow transplant, you cannot leave, and you can have one guest. And so, her dad came and he stayed with her. It was about 30 days of bone marrow transplant.   And so, he was there with her so I could be with the kids, doing the best I can with that virtual school and, and managing Ryder and Hattie in the midst of trying to do school work with the kids. It's nothing I ever want to go back to.   Laura Dugger: (30:48 - 31:03) Well, and not to mention you appreciate The Big-C Church, but Houston was not your long-term community. So, being here in this new place and all of these transitions, what were the results of her bone marrow transplant?   James Jetton: (31:04 - 40:17) Yeah. So, the bone marrow transplant, it ended up working. She went into remission and so we get to come home Thanksgiving of 2020.   We came home and that was awesome. It was like a huge homecoming. Finally got back home.   She's, she's in remission. We felt like we'd beaten this. We, you know, we got that Christmas here and we were back home.   We even, our family always loves to go, has always gone to North Carolina for vacation every year. And we didn't get to do that. But so, it was like, now we're going.   And so, in January we're like, all right, we're going kids. It was just me and the kids and Kaet and we wanted to go see snow. So, we went up there and we found a place to stay.   It was an awesome trip. Loved it so much. We, when we had to check out of our place, we found another house so we could stay in for a few more days.   And so, you know, at that time though, when we were doing that, she was kind of having these red bumps kind of popping up over her. We didn't really know what it was. It could have been a reaction.   We couldn't figure it out. Saw some doctors here locally. No one could really figure out what it was.   And I think fast forward, what we found out probably, I think it was February. She came out of remission and that was kind of the beginning signs of her coming out of remission. And so that's where, life sped up.   Like, I mean, if it wasn't already fast, it was, it was just unreal. It was like a whirlwind like it was because she had to fly to Houston to go and see her doctors. And so, she was in Houston by herself when she found out that she had come out of remission, and they were going to start immediately.   So, she stays, and she flies over on Friday and on Monday they got her back doing her treatment. And so, and I was like, well, it looks like we're moving to Houston. And I was like, but this time we're not staying in a two-bedroom apartment.   It's like we're going to make this a little bit more manageable for us. So, we had some great family. Kaetlin actually had a cousin who lived in Houston.   We found a house inside their neighborhood that we could rent. And this was, you know, more, more provision that he just continued to show. We found this house in like a week and we had people from our community boxing up everything in our house.   He's gotten a truck, and we thought that we'd all get everything in one truck. But we didn't get everything in one truck. We'd even hired the movers to load up the truck.   They couldn't get it all in there. So, I was like, y'all told me that it would all fit on this truck, but now it's not. And it's Friday at like 5 p.m. when we were supposed to leave tonight. So, we're not leaving. But my brother came down. I had another one of my best friends come down and they were like, we got to go, we're going to make this happen.   So that next morning, I'm not kidding. When there was like 20 to 30 guys in my house, a brother had gotten the truck. I hadn't even, they left early to go with the truck.   I'd come. And I was at the house with the kids at a friend's house. And when me and the kids showed up, these 30 guys had already loaded up the truck and we were ready to go.   Guy came and dropped off a big spread of McDonald's for everybody. We prayed over us and we headed out that morning. And so, it was just, I mean, just crazy that, you know, in one week we packed up a four-bedroom house, loaded up two trucks and drove to Houston and we're now unloading at a new house in Houston.   And, and that's where we were for a while. That was where Kaetlin, then we went back into the treatment more aggressively trying to get her back to remission. And so that was, when we moved there in March of 2021.   And that was kind of our place for a while. We actually thought we'd be there for a real long time. Kids had started school there, trying our best to get connected community there, but it's difficult, especially when you've come from a place where you feel so connected and then you're moving somewhere new where you don't really know anybody.   And then you're moving there in a time where the whole town shut down. It was tough, but we got the kids back in school. We tried to start getting them back into normalcy of life.   And there's all these new trials when you're going through this stuff every day, it seems like there's a new trial. MD Anderson is amazing. They treat each patient. It's like an individual.   So, every plan they have is just specifically for that patient. And so, they were going to try to do this CAR T-cell treatment. So, we'd kind of gone through the whole summer, and then we get to the point where she's going to do her CAR T-cell treatment.   Now, you know, we, we were hunkered down with this COVID stuff. Like we didn't, we didn't do much. We got really good at DoorDash and grocery delivery.   And we, you know, we masked up everywhere we could because Kaetlin's system was so immuno-compromised and we had done what we had thought was a very good job of keeping her safe, keeping everyone safe. Well, and then she got to the point where she was ready to start this new trial with CAR T-cell treatment. And she gets admitted that night and every time they go in and they give her a COVID test, well, that night she had COVID.   And it was, it was like, what? And she didn't feel bad. Her dad had gotten it too.   Like we, and I, so I remember getting that, it was like one o'clock in the morning. I was asleep. I remember it like blowing up my phone.   And I was like, I didn't realize it until later. And I talked to her. And that was definitely a tough conversation because she had to like get moved, packed up and moved out and moved to a different place and then treatment for the COVID stuff.   But the crazy part was, and it was kind of, you know, I wanted to get frustrated about things I could, but like, she had zero symptoms and she had just tested positive. And so, the next morning we all had to go get tested. And it was just the weirdest thing.   I know that COVID has been so devastating to so many people. But in that moment for us, it was like, we don't like, I was like, I ran nine miles yesterday and now I'm positive for COVID. I don't.   And so, but what it did was it kicked her out of the trial that she was on. And so, then she had to come home. The next process was just kind of getting her ready for that same thing.   Basically, what her doctor did was like, I'm not taking out, you're going to get kicked off the trial, but I'm just going to make you my own individual patient. We're going to do it that way. And so, we had some, we had some pretty high hopes for this.   Doctor seemed pretty optimistic about this plan. And so, we had been renting our house in, in Niceville. And with this new plan, I would have had Kaetlin there for like three years.   And so, we were like, you know, do we really want to rent our house anymore? It's like, no, we don't. All right, well let's sell our house.   So, we sold our house, and it sold in like less than 24 hours. And it's like $25,000 over asking price. It was like, well, okay, God, I feel like that's what we're supposed to do.   And so, she went in to get that treatment. And, and, uh, unfortunately, uh, we found out that didn't work. Uh, it was like, well, she can't remember coming home and saying like, well, I'm ready.   I want to go back home. I was like, what? We just sold our house.   We don't have a home right now. But God always makes a way and you always provide always. Um, and so we, you know, I was like, all right, we want to go home.   We're going to go home. And at first I was being very logical. I was like, well, let's let the kids finish out the semester.   Cause this was like around Halloween is when she realized it didn't work and we're going to come home. So, we were able to come home. We had some amazingly generous friends who they got us a private flight to come home for that Halloween.   And I guess when we were there, um, that's where we really just decided we need to be back. And, and so she, when we went back to talk to her doctors about managing her leukemia remotely. And so that was what the plan was.   So we, we moved back that Thanksgiving, uh, with all of our stuff and we were looking for a place to stay. It was actually kind of a fun month. We were living on the beach for a couple months or really from Thanksgiving to right before Christmas.   We had some pretty awesome things come available. We were able to live in a house on the beach. And so that was, that was mine and my wife's always kind of like a special place.   And so, we love the water, and we love the beach. And so that was an awesome place for us to be. And so, uh, coming back, it was tough.   She was getting out of the hospital a lot just with fevers and stuff like that. And then we got to have Christmas here that December. And then January 9th of this past year, she, she, uh, eventually passed away.   We weren't expecting, I mean, we knew that there would be an end, but I don't think we could have expected it to, um, happen then. And I think we kind of thought we'd have a little bit more time, but we didn't, but we were thankful. I'm thankful for my wife.   It was like we got to get back now because we knew that when an issue did pass that we needed to be in our hometown and not in Houston, where our community was much smaller.   Laura Dugger: (40:18 - 40:27) So, yeah. And so, you're together, you're celebrating Christmas. And then things suddenly turned unexpectedly.   James Jetton: (40:28 - 40:28) Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (40:28 - 40:31) And that led to losing her on January 9th.   James Jetton: (40:32 - 44:59) Yeah. You know, nothing really happened like, you know, in that leukemia world. And you know, a lot of cancers that give you like, you know, a prognosis like, you have three months, you have four months full, but blood cancer is very different.   And it kind of exacts you and, and there's no way to really know for sure, like, is this going to work or how long do we have and that sort of thing. And she was just in and out of the hospital so much. When we came back home, when you have leukemia, anytime you have a fever above a hundred point four, it's like you're immediately going to the doctor.   And so that's kind of how, you know, when she went in, like, there's still kind of an expectation that she would come home. But then those last few days, like, I just, I vividly remember as we're trying to figure out what to do, we're going to, are we going to go to a new treatment plan or we're going to try something else? Or, or is this kind of the end?   And her doctor here, he said, there was a plan that we possibly could have done, but he was like, they're saying this got a success rate of like, whatever, nine of 10 people went into remission with it. He's like, but when you look closer, they were only in remission for four weeks. And he was like, is this what we want to do?   Cause chemo just, it wipes you out. And it's like, there's no way to continue to live like this. But she, Kaetlin, she was, she just had a way of bringing a peace over everybody.   She had a way of like knowing exactly what everyone needed, I guess, in some respects. Cause I remember leaving the day we decided we would not do the treatment plan. And I came home, like I said, I always try to be home to put my kids to bed.   She said that the night before it kind of, she went downhill fast. She got up and walked around the hospital with her dad and told her dad like, “Hey, I think I'm going to do, I think I'm going to do it. I'm going to do the treatment plan.”   You know, I've talked to him about this, but I feel like that was almost like the piece he needed to go home. You know, when she passed, it was like, it was beautiful. Like it was, it was such a blessing that she was in her home hospital and that the doors, it was like a revolving door.   I remember Kaetlin told me once, she said, “when I pass or when I'm in the last days, don't tell anyone that they can't come see me.” And so, we were trying to figure out how we're going to do this. And I was like, well, she said that anybody who wants to come see me, let them come see me.   And so, we put a word out and there was like a revolving door of people just coming in and out of the room all day. Like the doctors, the ER told the front desk people, like, you know, technically, I guess you're only supposed to have like two visitors or something because of the COVID things. And she was like, anybody that comes in and says they want to see Kaetlin Jetton, you say, “Go on up”.   So it was, it was pretty awesome seeing all these people come in and see her. And we had already gotten to see the impact that she had made on so many people's lives for the past couple of years, but it was cool to see them all there doing that. And I remember the night she passed, I leaned over, I was heading home and two of my best friends since the ninth grade had come down and they were at the house with the kids and I was coming home to put the kids to bed.   And I leaned over and gave her a kiss and I said, don't wait on me. It's like, it's okay. It's time to go home.   And sure enough, that's, I left that night and I got a phone call about 11 from her dad and she had passed and that, and I think that, you know, in some respects, it's like, should I have been there? I was like, but I think that also was like, no, Kaet wanted you to be with your two guys. And Kayla knew that her family would be there with her.   And she did exactly what she wanted to do. You know, she always had a plan even from her like celebration service. She had everything written out.   Who's going to speak, what songs are playing, when are we doing this? And so it was, it was, you know, it was pretty cool seeing how many people just came in and out and how she just kind of felt like she knew what she was doing, even up in the last days. So.   Laura Dugger: (45:00 - 45:55) Do you love The Savvy Sauce? Do you gain anything when you listen? Did you know that the two ways we earn money to keep this podcast live is through generous contributions from listeners and from our paying sponsors.   That means we can promote your business and you're still supporting The Savvy Sauce. It's a win-win. Please email us today at info@thesavvysauce.com to inquire about pricing for sponsoring each episode. Thank you for your consideration.    Well, James, your perspective is incredible. And yet I'm so sorry, such a deep loss for your whole family.   And what is life like now for all of your family these days? Cause it's still very recent. And I'm wondering if grief still comes up at unexpected times.   James Jetton: (45:56 - 50:49) Yeah. You know, it's, you know, it's a day-to-day thing, I believe. I don't, and grief is certainly something that sometimes you don't see it coming.   And I'll say, I love bragging on this community. I love bragging on this town so much. So, my kids, they're all in school, you know, and I'm bragging on my kids too.   After she passed, the kids got to stay home for a couple of weeks, but then it was time to go back to school. My two girls go to one school where actually Kaetlin went to school from kindergarten all through. So, I felt like that was a very special thing for her and the kids could go to the same school that their mom went to.   But then Hattie goes to a different school because of her special needs. And then Ryder goes to a different school. He's in preschool.   And so, after she passed, like, so it was complicated in the sense of, I've got to get Hattie to school at 7:30. I've got to get Lincoln out of school by like 8:45 and then Ryder can go in before 9:00 a.m. So, I would usually drop him off on the way. But I say, I'd say like, what does life look like?   Well, after she passed, I knew like, how am I going to make this work? And that semester, there was somebody in my house every morning at 7:00 a.m. to sit with the kids, help with breakfast, and help finish getting them ready while I could take Hattie to school at 7:30. And then I would come back home and after they finished getting ready, then I would take them to school. So, I had someone in my house every morning at 7:00 a.m. after she passed, which was, you know, they were doing it for the kids, but they were doing it for me too. I knew that I couldn't just lay in my bed and let people just come on in and take care of my kids. Like I had to get up, take a shower, look like I'm somewhat presentable and go on. And that's kind of how that last semester was, just community and people with meals and then through all that, trying to get them engaged, get them back into doing some things that they love to do.   And yeah, I like to brag on my kids in a lot of ways, this perspective kind of dawned on me in the past couple of weeks of like, I sent them back into a new school where they know very many people. Everybody knows them. Not everyone.   I don't know everybody. And they had to go and do that a few weeks after their mom passed. Here I am trying to stay away from people and not have a whole bunch of conversations, but yet the kids are stepping up and doing their thing.   And man, it's just, it's pretty inspiring when I think of it in that respect as well. Nowadays we are blessed that we get to have a nanny and it's, that's a whole cool story in itself. And that she worked with me in student ministry, and I'd actually left to go be a nanny for some other people in Nashville.   And I was texting her trying to figure out, “Hey, I need some help. You got any friends down here that want to be a nanny? Cause it's hard to find.”   And she's like, “Actually, I would love to come back and do it.” And that was just a huge blessing. Cause it was like, at the time of us having all these new things, I was able to be able to have somebody that the kids already knew come in and be there.   And so, she helps in so many ways and allows the kids to do their tennis and their soccer and gymnastics or whatever it may be. And it allows me to get to, coach them and be a part of that, those aspects of life, which I love doing so much. And so, she's really helped.   So, in our day to day now, like it, it's a lot of moving pieces. I mean, just last week, we got to go to a widower's retreat and there was never a worry, never worry about who's taking care of the kids, that they're getting to where they need to be. So, it's a genuine, like I get to see how a village truly takes care of the kids.   And yes, there are days and it's hard. And some days it just kind of sucks and it sucks for them. It sucks for me.   But I have gotten to see how God still shows out through the difficult moments and how he still provides no matter how far away I am or how close I am. He still continually provides. And I know that, and I know that he will not let us down.   It's one day at a time. And as we approach these new seasons, there's always new seasons. You talk about grief and things pop up.   I think that holidays will bring up stuff they already have in some respects and my wife, you know, she was a medical professional. So, when kids get sick, it's different now. We go to the doctor more often because mom's not here to take care of them and call in medicine.   But I think that we do sense a void in that when kids are sick and that sort of thing. But, today, like things are okay. We're doing all right.   Laura Dugger: (50:50 - 51:07) Well, and James, you were a journalism major and you're a very gifted writer. So where would you direct us to get to read more about your family and stay current and hopefully find ways that we can further support you?   James Jetton: (51:08 - 52:18) Well, my wife and I, we started a blog called Our Hands Go Up, and it's OurHandsGoUp.com. And that's formed out of, started with Hattie. That's where the blog started because Hattie, we talked about that joy that she has, but our hands will always go up.   Like her hands go up all the time and it just seems so appropriate. And the picture of hands going up, there's so many things that go to that with our praise to God, our vulnerability and our sides. And there's just a lot that comes through that anyway.   But yeah, Kaetlin started writing on that and I wrote some in that. She spearheaded it because she's way more organized and detailed than I am. So, it looks a lot prettier than what I would have done, but here recently, like I've felt a calling to bring it back and revitalize it.   So as of right now, like there's, my wife wrote a lot, and she still has writings that she never shared with anybody. So, I've started revitalizing it by sharing some of her writings, but I will be writing in there as well. So that would probably be a good place or even, and then my, just my social media, James Jetton, you can always see some crazy stories of my kids.   Laura Dugger: (52:21 - 52:34) Oh, wonderful. We will link to both of those in our show notes. And are there any practical needs that you do have at this time or any specific prayer requests you would like to share with us?   James Jetton: (52:35 - 53:26) You know, I think the specific prayer requests are just for me and for my kids. So, things are going to look different for them for sure. And I know there's going to be some hard moments.   So, I guess the prayer would just be, you know, provision as God's always provided. And, you know, when I say that, I don't just talk about it in like a material way, but like He seems to provide us with feelings, emotions, people, support, all of that. And so just provision for my kids and just encouragement and support for them as we've kind of walked through these, these new firsts for the kids and, and that it will just, they will still have, find the joy that we always talk about choosing and, and that my wife did so well that we will continue to find that joy through these more difficult days ahead for sure.   Laura Dugger: (53:26 - 53:58) Yes, Lord may it be so. Well, James, you clearly just have so much wisdom to share and I appreciate you walking through so much of your personal journey. And I know that you also do have a lighthearted personality and we're going to end on a lighter note because you may know that we're called The Savvy Sauce because Savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge.   And so, as my final question for you today, what is your Savvy Sauce?   James Jetton: (54:01 - 54:51) You know, my Savvy Sauce, it's just, it's one day at a time. I think that we get overwhelmed with, you know, I joke with people, like it's a stupid joke. But hey, if God wanted to give us more than one day at a time, He would. So, we only get one day, and He doesn't give us two days at one time.   You know, just taking things as they come one day at a time. We all have our goals. We all have our plans, our dreams and aspirations, but leaving space for the Holy Spirit and how God moves is critical.   And when you're walking through grief and you're walking through hard stuff, like thinking about too much out there in front of you can be debilitating. And so just focus on what your next step, just take one more step. We can always take one more step.   And so just kind of day at a time and just take one more step.   Laura Dugger: (54:52 - 55:08) James, thank you for your faithfulness to Kaet, your faithfulness to our Lord, your faithfulness to your children. And we will all be praying for each of you in this coming season and beyond. And just really grateful for you being my guest today.   James Jetton: (55:09 - 55:26) Well, I'm really grateful to be here. This is great. I'm thankful for the chance to just share her story and share our story.   I feel God has just moved and worked through us in so many amazing ways. And anytime I can get a chance to share how God has moved and worked, I'm thankful. So, thank you for having me.   Laura Dugger: (55:26 - 58:42) It's been an honor. One more thing before you go. Have you heard the term gospel before?   It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you. But it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there is absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior. But God loved us so much, he made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life we could never live and died in our place for our sin. This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus.   We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished if we choose to receive what He has done for us. Romans 10:9 says, “That if you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” So, would you pray with me now?   Heavenly Father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you. Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life?   We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.   If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me, so me for him. You get the opportunity to live your life for him. And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason.   We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you ready to get started? First, tell someone.   Say it out loud. Get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes & Noble and let me choose my own Bible.   I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it. You can start by reading the book of John. Also, get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ.   I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps, such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you. We wa

In this episode of the Addict to Athlete podcast, host Blu Robinson engages with Gary Katz, a professional in the field of sexual addictions. They explore the complexities of addiction, particularly sexual addiction, and its impact on individuals and relationships. Katz discusses the spectrum of addiction, the stigma surrounding sexual behaviors, and the deep emotional wounds caused by betrayal. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, understanding values, and navigating the healing process for both individuals struggling with addiction and their partners. In this conversation, Gary Katz and Blu Robinson delve into the complexities of healing from betrayal in relationships. They discuss the timeline for recovery, the importance of emotional literacy, and the challenges of reestablishing intimacy after infidelity. The dialogue emphasizes the need for couples to navigate trust issues, the dynamics of sexual desire, and the impact of conflict and resentment on intimacy. Katz highlights the significance of individual and couples therapy in fostering understanding and healing, while also addressing the societal pressures that complicate emotional expression, particularly for men. Takeaways Addiction is a form of self-abandonment. The stigma surrounding sexual addiction is profound. Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than other forms of addiction. Self-compassion is crucial in the recovery process. Understanding one's values is essential in addressing sexual behaviors. The partner's perspective is often overlooked in discussions of addiction. Shame plays a significant role in how individuals perceive their sexual behaviors. Healthy relationships require open communication about sexual needs. The brain often protects itself from painful truths, leading to denial. Navigating recovery involves addressing both individual and relational dynamics. It can take 18 to 24 months for healing. Healing is a personal journey; there's no race. Betrayed partners often seek knowledge to feel safe. Understanding betrayal trauma is crucial for recovery. Empathy is harder to learn than stopping harmful behaviors. Reestablishing intimacy requires patience and understanding. Couples need to prioritize their relationship amidst life demands. Conflict can be a sign of passion in relationships.   00:00- Introduction to the Addict to Athlete Podcast 01:00- Understanding Sexual Addictions and Their Impact 04:44- The Spectrum of Addiction: Self-Abandonment and Connection 08:26- The Deeper Cuts of Sexual Betrayal 11:20- The Stigma of Sexual Addiction 13:14- The Complexity of Shame in Sexual Behaviors 18:09- Navigating Values and Sexuality 21:12- The Partner's Perspective: Betrayal and Healing 27:59- Understanding the Healing Process 30:39- Navigating Betrayal and Trust 34:24- Reestablishing Intimacy After Betrayal 39:12- The Dynamics of Sexual Desire 45:13- Conflict, Resentment, and Intimacy 50:20- Emotional Literacy and Recovery   Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org Join the Team! Circle, our new social support event, along with the team and athlete communication platform, is designed to help us break free from doom scrolling and shadow banning and foster stronger connections among us. Follow the link, download the app, and start this new chapter of Team AIIA! Join Circle https://a2a.circle.so/join?invitation_token=16daaa0d9ecd7421d384dd05a461464ce149cc9e-63d4aa30-1a67-4120-ae12-124791dfb519     https://youtu.be/MV3IW2DwlGE   Gray- https://www.intimacyrecovery.com/

Finding the Right Support: How to Get Help After Betrayal and Addiction     In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the crucial topic of seeking help after experiencing sexual betrayal, addiction, or trauma. They explore the different types of support available—family, friends, support groups, sponsors, therapy, and coaching—highlighting the importance of finding the right kind of help for each individual's healing journey.   Dr. Skinner shares research on the effectiveness of various support systems, emphasizing that meaningful support significantly improves recovery outcomes. MaryAnn adds insights on the power of connection in healing and why structured support, such as therapy and specialized groups, can be more effective than informal conversations with friends and family. They also discuss the growing role of coaching and the key differences between coaching and therapy, cautioning listeners to seek professional support for trauma-related issues.   Additionally, they introduce the upcoming Human Intimacy Conference, featuring over 20 experts with a collective 400 years of experience in helping individuals and couples heal from betrayal and relationship challenges. The episode concludes with an invitation to explore available resources, including Dr. Skinner's online support groups, courses, and the Human Intimacy Conference.   Resources Mentioned:   1. Support Groups & Recovery Programs:      - 12-Step Groups (S-Anon, COSA, SA, SAA, SLAA, etc.)      - CPTT betrayal trauma through IITAP      - APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists)      - NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for general mental health support   2. Professional Help:      - Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSATs)      - Trauma-focused Therapists (EMDR, ART, Somatic Therapy)      - Finding a specialized therapist via humanintimacy.com   3. Educational Resources & Online Support:      - *Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal* by Dr. Kevin Skinner      - *Help Her Heal* by Carol Juergensen Sheets      - Dr. Skinner's online courses and support groups (humanintimacy.com/supportgroup)      - The 100-Day Course: *100 Days to Healing from Sexual Betrayal*      - The 100-Day Course for Partners Who Acted Out Sexually   4. The Human Intimacy Conference (March 2025):      - Pre- and post-conference expert interviews      - Live and recorded sessions from leading experts      - Free access to the 100-Day Healing Courses for registrants      - Registration at humanintimacy.com Last chance to get a discount, use this coupon code: Podcast50  This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of healing from betrayal or addiction. It provides valuable guidance on choosing the right support system and highlights the importance of surrounding oneself with trusted, informed voices.

Are you struggling with the pain of betrayal trauma? Do you feel lost and alone after discovering your partner's sexual acting out?In this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, Karen Potter and Heidi Cooper sit down with Dr. Sheri Keffer, renowned marriage and family therapist and author of "Intimate Deception," to discuss the devastating impact of betrayal trauma and offer a message of hope and healing.Dr. Keffer, a survivor herself, shares her personal journey and insights into the trauma experienced by betrayed partners. She explains what betrayal trauma is, how it manifests as PTSD, and why it's crucial to address the wounds of the betrayed spouse.  She also offers practical advice for churches and clergy on how to create safe spaces for healing and emphasizes the importance of truth and safety in the recovery process.Join us as Dr. Keffer shares her expertise, discusses her BraveOne community for women, and offers a special gift for Covenant Eyes listeners.  You'll discover a roadmap to healing, learn how to rebuild trust in yourself, and find hope for restoration.Don't miss this incredibly important conversation about healing from betrayal trauma and finding hope for the future!DR. SHERI KEFFER:https://drsherikeffer.com/BRAVE ONE WEBSITE:https://www.braveone.com/SPECIAL OFFER:  Dr. Sheri Keffer is offering Covenant Eyes listeners a FREE MONTH in her BraveOne community! Visit https://BraveOne.com/covenant to sign up and receive a free download, "Learning to Trust Yourself Again."_____________________CHECK OUT OUR FREE 'RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY' COURSES!https://cvnteyes.co/41YU8Od_____________________#covenanteyes #betrayal #infidelity #trauma CHAPTERS:00:00 Introduction to Dr. Sheri Keffer01:36 Dr. Keffer's Personal Story and Journey to Helping Others06:04 What is Betrayal Trauma?09:48 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD14:29 The Healing Process for Betrayed Spouses20:59 How the Church Can Help26:49 The BraveOne Community30:49 "Intimate Deception" Book Overview35:32 Message of Hope and ClosingTry Covenant Eyes for FREE today!Use Promo Code: FreePodcast © 2024 Covenant Eyes, All Rights Reserved

Dr. Kevin Skinner is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Throughout his 30 year career Dr. Skinner has worked to help individuals dealing with the pain associated with divorce. This course is a culmination of research and study on how to accelerate healing. In addition to therapy, Dr. Skinner has created online courses for Bloomforwomen.com and Noble.health. He has written professional assessments completed by thousands of people. He is the author of four books, Treating Sexual Addiction: A Compassionate Approach to Recovery, Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal, Treating Pornography Addiction, and Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal. He has also trained therapists throughout the world as a faculty member for IITAP. Together with his wife Katy they have 8 children and two grandchildrenFree Course: HEREHuman Intimacy Conference: HERECoupon Code: 50OffTherapy: HEREAshlynn is a resilient force of nature, balancing motherhood, entrepreneurship, and self-discovery. Walking through healing her own wounds while empowering others through podcasts and coaching, she's a beacon of hope for women navigating life's storms. With a heart full of compassion and a spirit of adventure, Ashlynn guides others to break free from their past and embrace a bold, boundary-rich future. Through her transformative programs and global retreats, she ignites the spark of possibility in women ready to rewrite their stories.Follow her on social media at https://www.instagram.com/this.isashlynn?igsh=d3l2b256d3E0ZWky&utm_source=qrMentor with her at HERE

Gaslighting, Lies, and Healing: The Path to Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal In this powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer, a nationally recognized expert on betrayal trauma and author of “Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal.” Together, they dive deep into the topic of gaslighting—what it is, how it impacts betrayed partners, and why it is often more devastating than the betrayal itself. They discuss the psychological and emotional toll of deception, blame-shifting, and minimization, and how these behaviors contribute to trauma.   Dr. Keffer shares personal experiences, research insights, and clinical expertise, highlighting how gaslighting leads to deeper levels of trauma and self-doubt. They explore the critical role of truth-telling in healing, the necessity of accountability, and how betrayed partners can begin to trust themselves again.   The episode also touches on the role of therapy, common mistakes made in the healing process, and the dangers of “social gaslighting”, where the betrayer manipulates others into doubting the betrayed partner's experience. Finally, Dr. Keffer shares details about her “Brave One Community”, an online support network for betrayed partners, and announces her upcoming presentation at the Human Intimacy Conference in March 2025.   Resources Discussed:   1. Dr. Sheri Keffer's Book – Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal      - Explores the impact of deception and betrayal on partners, offering tools for healing.   2. Dr. Kevin Skinner's Book – Rebuild Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal    - Features a chapter on Gaslighting No More, helping couples navigate truth and trust-building.   3. The Gaslighting Scale      - A research-based tool developed to measure the impact of gaslighting on betrayed partners.   4. The Brave One Community     - An online support group for women healing from sexual betrayal.      - Special offer: One-month free membership at (https://braveone.com/intimacy)   5. ERCEM Model (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model)    - A structured approach to helping couples rebuild emotional connection after betrayal.   6. Therapeutic Full Disclosure & Polygraph Process      - A structured process designed to establish truth and rebuild trust in relationships after betrayal.   7. The Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025)      - Featuring over 20 experts and 400+ years of combined clinical experience.      - Limited-time offer: 50% off registration with code 50OFF.   This episode is a must-listen for anyone recovering from betrayal or seeking to understand the deep psychological effects of gaslighting.

*DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults   252. Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner   Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   Questions and Topics We Cover: What are a couple of your most important tips for newlyweds? What are your favorite recommendations to share with couples who want to be proactive and enhance their sexual intimacy, even if things are currently going pretty well? Will you define what constitutes a sexless marriage and share  any trends you've seen over the years?   Thank You to Our Sponsor:  Sam Leman Eureka   Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner are best known for their pioneer work in encouraging people of all faiths to connect their sexuality with their belief system ─ helping them embrace sex as good and of God. Dr. Clifford is a licensed clinical psychologist and Joyce is a registered nurse and clinical nurse specialist. They are highly respected authors and speakers, in addition to being parents and grandparents.    Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner's Website   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.    Books By Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner: Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Sex FAQ We Didn't Have Time to Cover Today  Information on Pelvic Pain    Previous Savvy Sauce Episodes with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner    Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner   Additional Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 227 Resolving Conflict in Marriage with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo  Patreon 28 Re-Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery   Connect with The Savvy Sauce Our Website, Instagram or Facebook    Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we discuss the very important topic of relational safety with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. We Will be Discussing: Definition around relational safety A scenario to explain relational safety more in depth How to unpack an episode of disconnect/conflict Practical ideas to grow self-awareness Resources mentioned in this show: Building True Intimacy by Dan Drake, Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith Connect with Matthew and Joanna's Couples Work Here

Navigating Triggers in Public Spaces: Building Trust and Connection After Betrayal   In this the 50th episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the challenges couples face when navigating public spaces after betrayal. They explore how hypervigilance, triggers, and the history of betrayal influence interactions in environments like malls or restaurants. The discussion highlights practical strategies to help individuals and couples create "prepared plans" for these crucial moments, allowing them to build trust and connection instead of succumbing to defensiveness or disconnection. Key topics include:   - Recognizing triggers and fostering self-awareness.   - The importance of empathy and validation in rebuilding trust.   - Strategies for humanizing others and breaking free from objectification.   - Tools for accountability and recovery when old patterns resurface.   - The value of proper preparation to prevent conflict and foster connection.   This episode provides actionable insights for couples and individuals seeking to navigate the complexities of recovery and strengthen their relationships in the aftermath of betrayal. Resources Discussed  1. First Annual Human Intimacy Conference (March 14–15, 2025)      - Featuring experts like Dr. Sherri Keffer, Michelle Mays, and Dr. Dave Robinson.      - Sessions on betrayal recovery, trust rebuilding, and post-divorce healing.      - Discounted registration: $50 off for individuals and $100 off for couples.      - [Register here] Use Coupon codes: Individual Code: Podcast50 Couples Code: Podcast100 2. Books & Authors Mentioned:      - The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays      - Dr. Kevin Skinner's Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal   3. Recovery Tools:      - Mindfulness techniques for addressing triggers.      - Accountability practices for navigating public spaces.      - Strategies for emotional regulation and creating connection.

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000(We are currently at nearly 40% of the goal!)This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In today's episode, my guests are Mark and Jill Savage, a couple that understands struggle, betrayal, and restoration. They talk about their incredible journey, betrayal, and the journey to rebuild trust. Mark opens up about his midlife crisis and infidelity after 28 years of marriage, while Jill shares the deep pain and the process of healing. They emphasize the importance of personal growth, accountability, and transparent communication. Mark's transformation began with a personal "resurrection" moment one Easter Sunday, leading to consistent efforts to regain Jill's trust. Their story is a testament to the power of God's faithfulness and commitment in overcoming marital challenges, offering hope and practical insights for couples facing similar struggles.To learn more about Mark and Jill and their resources, visit JillSavage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:The journey of Mark and Jill Savage through marriage challenges, including infidelity.The impact of betrayal on family dynamics and emotional well-being.The process of rebuilding trust after infidelity and the time it requires.The importance of transparency and accountability in restoring trust.Individual growth as a crucial element in healing and relationship improvement.The role of effective communication and vulnerability in strengthening relationships.The nature of trust as a gradual process that cannot be forced.The significance of personal responsibility and self-improvement in overcoming marital issues.Offering hope and resources for couples facing similar challenges.The transformative power of faith and commitment in rebuilding a marriage.More Resources:RebuildingTrust.usNo More Perfect Marriages* by Mark & Jill SavageMarriage 2.0 IntensiveRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding Your Marriage After Betrayal Podcast PlaylistA Journey of Redemption and HealingHow Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal? *This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

*DISCLAIMER* This episode includes adult content and is not intended for young ears. Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Luke 8:17 (NIV) "For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open." Questions We Discuss: Will you share your journey with us? Will you teach us what we may not be aware of for people who struggle with pornography addiction? What are lies or myths women are tempted to believe when they have been sexually betrayed? Bonny Burns is an APSATS certified partner coach (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists, apsats.org.) She has been writing and researching God's design of sexual intimacy since 2012 on the blog OysterBed7.com and has been speaking about godly sexual intimacy on the popular podcast, forchristianwives.com. She can also be found at strongwives.com. Strong Wives Website Sex Chats for Christian Wives Podcast Bonny Burns' Website Bonny Burns on Facebook Book with Bonny as your Coach Thank You to Our Sponsors: Chick-fil-A East Peoria and The Savvy Sauce Charities (and donate online here)   Connect with The Savvy Sauce through Our Website Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

In this episode, I welcome Kim Hansen Petroni, an expert in betrayal trauma healing. We dive into the challenges many women face when dealing with emotionally lifeless marriages or divorce. Kim shares her personal journey and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of safety, grief, and reconnecting with God and self. We discuss the common lack of support from the church and the critical need for understanding and compassion. Kim offers practical tools for healing across physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding women that healing from betrayal and a stronger sense of self and community are within reach.To learn more about Kim and her resources, visit NotaCasseroleWidow.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Betrayal trauma healing, particularly for women in difficult marriages.Personal experiences and professional background of the guest in psychology and counseling.The impact of betrayal trauma on women's emotional and spiritual well-being.The three main stages of healing from betrayal trauma: 1) safety and stabilization, 2) grief and mourning, and 3) reconnecting with the outside world.Challenges faced by women during divorce, including identity loss and lack of community support.The role of the church in supporting women experiencing betrayal trauma.The importance of self-care and emotional support during the healing process.Practical tools for physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational healing.The significance of community and shared experiences among women dealing with betrayal trauma.Messages of hope and empowerment for women navigating their healing journeys.More Resources:Not a Casserole Widow* by Kim Hansen PetroniCoachingHope4U.comOnline Care Groups for WivesRelated Podcasts:Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?Life and Hope After Divorce: Reese and Sharon's StoryNew Course: 40 Days of Healing for Wives*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode of the Arukah Holistic Podcast, Mayim Vega sits down with Beth Brunk, a survivor of sexual betrayal trauma who has found healing through her faith and commitment to breaking generational strongholds. Beth shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming trauma from an abusive marriage and finding freedom through spiritual healing and daily practices rooted in the Bible. Tune in to hear Beth discuss her story, the steps she took to reclaim her health and peace of mind, and her invaluable insights for women facing similar challenges. Beth also shares her special offer, "My Top 3 Bible-Based Tips for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed by Their Husband," available on her website, bethbrunk.com. Connect with Beth through her social channels to explore her resources and coaching programs. Connect with Beth Brunk: Website: www.bethbrunk.com Facebook Page: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089464266376 Program Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/7444703568976377 Instagram: instagram.com/bethbrunkcoaching LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/beth-brunk-ba2b39264 Alignable: alignable.com/kittitas-wa/beth-brunk-coaching ✨Ready to Become a Confident & Effective Holistic Healer?✨ Become the Healer of Your Home & Your Community, WITHOUT the Need for Pharmaceutical Drugs with Harmful Side Effects, Hospitals, Doctors, or even Dentists. Learn Naturopathic Herbalism, Holistic Life Coaching, and Build a Profitable Online Coaching Business - https://www.arukah.com/certification

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are talking with Crystal Botero-Rand and her work supporting partners whose husbands are attending Boulder Recovery, 14-Day healing intensive. Crystal lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband Jon. She is a betrayal trauma coach, trained through the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). She group coaches the wives/partners of men undergoing intensives at Boulder Recovery, a Christ-Centered sex addiction treatment program. She also coaches women one on one in her private practice, Rooted and Established Coaching. Her passion for working with betrayed women began with her own healing journey and has grown as she has coached many women. She is honored to help her clients connect to their worth, make sense of their story, and set the healthy boundaries. She is deeply rooted in her Christian faith, and so are many of her clients, but not all. She helps them through crises of faith or breakdowns in their faith community, which are so common in this experience. Helping women understand their story and put one step in front of the other is her most worthwhile pursuit. We Will be Discussing: What is Boulder Recovery? What are the pros and cons of a husband doing an intensive? Does Boulder do any assess the betrayed partner? Do you prep her to understand to it might not have a positive outcome? What can a wife expect of herself while he is gone in the program and when he gets back? While he is gone is there any contact between husband and wife? What hope can we leave? Resources mentioned in this show: The Boulder Recovery 14-Day Christian Intensive TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction Partner's Healing 5-Day Intensive Scripture references: John 1:5

Are you curious about whether you're ready for a full therapeutic disclosure? Join Amie, Alana, and Luke as they discuss this critical question. They explore the importance of timing, mutual respect, and emotional readiness for both partners.  Whether you're the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate this challenging but potentially transformative process in your healing journey. Watch us on YouTube Referenced in this episode: Listen to Part 1 and Part 2 Learn more about Luke and book a consultation HERE Tune in to Luke's podcast Beyond the Facade Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal - book by Kevin B. Skinner Coming Up! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This four-day in-person intensive is designed specifically for women who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are ready to begin the journey toward reclaiming their lives. Over four transformative days, you'll gain the tools, skills, and support you need not just to survive, but to truly thrive. The intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on October 23-26, 2024. Learn more and register HERE. More From Choose Recovery Services ⁠⁠⁠Beyond the Facade Podcast⁠⁠⁠ - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values. ⁠⁠⁠Choose Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! ⁠⁠⁠Healing Hearts⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.  ⁠⁠⁠Help. Her. Heal⁠⁠⁠ - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowerment After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 90 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choose 180 for Men⁠⁠⁠ - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Renewal⁠⁠⁠ - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior, whether it's a recurring challenge or a one-time incident. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. ⁠⁠⁠Resilient Teens⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. ⁠⁠⁠Adult Children Uniting for Healing⁠⁠⁠ - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. ⁠⁠⁠Choosing to Stay Webinar⁠⁠⁠ - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within⁠⁠⁠ - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.  ⁠⁠⁠Should I Stay or Go?⁠⁠⁠ - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.  Connect with us on Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠Alana Gordon⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Amie Woolsey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Choose Recovery Services

What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful overview of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). You'll also learn the difference between forgiveness vs. reconciliation vs. trust and how to avoid "good boy syndrome" while working on rebuilding trust.Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and is now accepting speaking engagements for churches and professional organizations. Learn more and connect with Barb at drbarbarasteffens.comBuy Barb's book (this is a paid link):Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and HealLyschel Burket is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She is also a current APSATS Board Member and the committee lead for BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Lyschel has been working with women since 2008 by helping them navigate the road of betrayal by sexual infidelity. She knows all too well the isolation, shame, fear, and trauma that betrayal causes. More than anything, Lyschel wants women to know that they don't have to walk this road alone, so she provides a safe community where each one can find healing and hope.Learn more about Lyschel and Hope Redefined at hoperedefined.orgMore resources for women from Hope Redefined:private online communityonline support groupsintensive retreats1:1 coachingListen to the Hope For Wives podcast at hopeforwives.com!Get trained by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket through BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Learn more here.Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

Navigating the Early Stages of Sexual Betrayal Trauma: Understanding, Healing, and Support In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his colleague MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the emotional and psychological impacts that arise immediately after discovering a partner's sexual betrayal. The conversation centers on the shock and disorientation many betrayed partners experience, and the varied ways they respond—either by isolating themselves or sharing their pain publicly. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing betrayal trauma, providing validation for those suffering from overwhelming emotions such as confusion, anxiety, and shame. They share insights from personal experiences, research, and clinical practices, highlighting the significance of qualified therapeutic support and proper disclosure processes. Key strategies for coping include gathering information, orienting oneself to the new reality, setting boundaries, and seeking trauma-informed therapy and support groups. Dr. Skinner also introduces the 100 Days to Healing course, designed to provide education, validation, and practical steps toward recovery from betrayal trauma. Resources Mentioned: Books: Opening Up by Dr. James Pennebaker (on the effects of keeping trauma and stories hidden) What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Croshaw (on navigating the shame and isolation caused by sexual addiction and betrayal) The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes (on understanding and healing from betrayal trauma) Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner (on healing from the trauma caused by sexual betrayal) 2. Therapeutic Tools: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy)** (trauma-focused treatments for PTSD symptoms) Disclosure Process: Properly addressing the details of the betrayal with professional guidance to avoid staggered disclosures and foster healing. Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) and Certified Partner Trauma Therapists (CPTT): Recommended professionals for working through sexual betrayal trauma. 3. Courses and Support: 100 Days to Healing Course (available at humanintimacy.com): A video-based course offering education and strategies to cope with betrayal trauma. Support Groups: Highlighted as critical for connecting with others who have experienced betrayal, offering validation, resources, and a sense of community. 4. Podcast Contact:   Email: Questions@humanintimacy.com (for listener advice and sharing experiences).

Today's guest, Dr. Sheri Keffer, is the author of Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, a therapist, and betrayed partner herself.Dr. Keffer shares insights on betrayal trauma, healing, and recovery. This episode offers hope and guidance for those facing betrayal or compulsive sexual behaviors. The discussion covers the impact of sexual deception, the importance of truth-telling, and practical steps for partners to rebuild their lives. ResourcesFull Episode On YoutubeIntimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual BetrayalFREE MONTH Of Brave One CommunityBetrayal Recovery RoadmapBrave One Recommended ResourcesFREE Pure Desire Counseling Consultation GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter)

In this episode we welcome our guest, Jeni Brockbank, to discuss her book 'Healing in Christ's Light,' which merges principles of therapy with Christian faith to help readers navigate their recovery journey. Join us as we cover the importance of boundaries, self-discovery, and the integration of faith in the healing process. Jenny emphasizes that her approach is trauma-sensitive and advocates for a personalized path to recovery, with insights from both psychology and scripture. She also highlights the significance of maintaining a relationship with God during the healing journey and the supportive role of community and 12-step groups. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Jeni Brockbank: Jeni Brockbank lives in Northern Utah with her 6 children. She loves the color red because it reminds her that she is seen and known by God. As a believer in Jesus Christ, Jeni continues to learn how healing in Christ's light expedites healing. https://healinginchristslight.com https://www.instagram.com/healinginchristslight?igsh=MXQ1MXJvOHZmZDJ1bQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-in-christs-light/id1685778824 Episode on Healing In Christ's Light with Geoff Steurer https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-in-christs-light/id1685778824?i=1000611530546

What is sexual betrayal? Have you experienced it? Today, we address the sensitive topic of sexual betrayal with honesty and compassion, relying quite a bit on our in-house expert, Bonny Burns.  Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode. Visit sharethesoap.com for quality bath and skin care products! And for August, take advantage of their special just for our listeners. Buy a Neroli Hydrosol Sprayer and get a FREE Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll-On. Put both items in your cart and use coupon code FCWNEROLI. From the Bible "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28 “For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:16 (NASB) I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Jeremiah 3:8a John's disciples came and took his body and buried it. Then they went and told Jesus. When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Matthew 14:12-13a Resources Strong Wives - Bonny's ministry Hope for Wives podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Betrayal Trauma (healthline.com) The Sarah Society Hope Redefined A Partner's Dilemma (apsats.org) Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Episode 189: Myth-busting What You've Heard about Sex, with Gaye Christmus! - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature by Peter Scazzero The Search For Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes by Robert McGee Bonny's Heading to Australia & New Zealand! 9/6–9/7 - https://www.crossview.com.au/ 9/14, 9/19 - https://www.prbc.org.au/ 9/17 - https://www.newheartbaptist.com/ 9/20–9/21 - https://genesisgc.com.au/ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

The Burden of Betrayal When it comes to relationship challenges, infidelity and sexual betrayal are some of the most challenging issues to resolve. In this week's podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner discusses the Burden of Sexual Betrayal. He explores it from both partners' perspectives and highlights the painful process of rebuilding a relationship after betrayal. Resources Discussed Attachment Focused Family Therapy by Daniel Hughes Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner

God wired us for connection and belonging but who can you trust after the person you relied on the most has been deceiving and betraying you on the most intimate level? Who can understand your shattering pain and disorienting reality collapse? We can. Women in the Battle is more than just a betrayal trauma recovery community. We are women pursuing a Healing Path together.  Belonging, empowerment, validation, and clarity are unlocked  in our trauma informed group processes that create the highest potential for healing and thriving. Sign up for Operation Restoration, a free 5 day experience for women seeking hope after sexual betrayal from August 5-9.  Visit www.living-truth.org and click on “Women in the Battle” to get more info. The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. 

In this episode, I welcome back Dan Drake and introduce Janice Caudill, both experts in therapeutic disclosure for marriages affected by sexual betrayal. We dive into the importance of truth in healing relationships, discussing how disclosure helps rebuild trust. In our conversation, Dan and Jaunice walk us through the disclosure process, emphasizing the impact of betrayal, readiness for disclosure, tailored approaches, the “choreography” of disclosure, and the post-disclosure phase that highlights potential obstacles when rebuilding trust. To get access to Dan and Janice's resources, visit KintsugiRecoveryPartners.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Development of resources for disclosure in marriages affected by sexual betrayalAvailability of resources on Kintsugi Recovery Partners websiteImpact of sexual betrayal on relationshipsDefinition of disclosure and its importance in healingImportance of readiness for disclosureTailored approaches to disclosure based on each couple's unique situationProcess and key elements of disclosureChoreography of the disclosure processSignificance of disclosure in healing and rebuilding trustMore Resources:Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Betrayal*Full Disclosure: Seeking the Truth After Betrayal*Disclosure Guide TrainingRelated Podcasts:Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure in Marriage Affected by Sexual BetrayalConfession and Disclosure for CouplesHow to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

We are so grateful to welcome our guest, Bonny Burns to the show today to talk about the important topic of sexual reintegration. We talk about sexual wouding and its impact on individuals. We delve into the shame that often comes up for both spouses and its affects on self-esteem and intimacy. We highligh the importance of acknowledging and addressing shame as a crucial step towards healing and reintegration.  We give some examples of how to handle triggers and create safety for couples who are ready to attempt sexual reintegration. We hope you enjoy this episode! If you want to connect with Bonny, you can read more about her and find a link to web site below: About Bonny Burns Bonny's professional career began as a Christian sexuality educator, writing and speaking on the popular podcast, Sex Chat for Christian Wives (over 1.7 M downloads). The trajectory of her career morphed as her third discovery day came to light. Bonny has a BS in Christian counseling from Liberty University, is an ICF credentialed coach and is an APSATS certified partner coach. She is co-host of the podcast, Hope For Wives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal through a Christian Lens. She is on the Leadership Team of the Sarah Society, a free Christian peer-led support group for betrayed wives. Also, she is on the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader committee of the APSATS organization. Because of her background in healthy sexuality, Bonny leads a class twice a year called, "Sexual Clarity for Christian Women: Reclaiming your sexual identity after betrayal." If you want to learn more the courses and group she offers or to work with Bonny, you can check out her website: strongwives.com Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

Today, we have the pleasure of hearing from Jeni Brockbank, the inspiring author of Healing In Christ's Light From Patterns of Sexual Betrayal. In her book, she extends a hand of support and guidance, understanding the pain of those who have suffered from a loved one's actions. Jeni's journey is one of resilience and restoration, as she has found solace and healing through her unwavering faith in Christ and the power of studying the scriptures. You can help in supporting this podcast by sharing it with friends and family, clicking on the follow button, and giving it a star rating.   Send me an email to share your comments, request to be a guest, or recommend someone you feel would make a great guest. Please register at my website to receive updates and news on this podcast.   The music for this podcast is used with permission by the following musicians. You can find more about Angie Killian here, and Marvin Goldstein here. Be sure to also hear my interview with Jeni on the Everyday Saint podcast to catch the back story to her recent book. Check it out here. 02:27: Book 04:00: Early Years 05:01: On The Move 06:00: Leaving Home 09:02: Married Life 11:04: Back To The Book 12:19: Family 13:20: Divorce 16:36: Scriptures 25:01: How The Scriptures Help 27:35: Finding A Place To Study 29:49: Testimony The expressions and opinions shared on this podcast are those of the individuals speaking and do not reflect or necessarily coincide with those of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Sexual Betrayal is one of the most traumatizing experiences a woman can ever go through in life. The one you gave your heart to, the one who you put your complete trust in, the one who you love with all your heart has given himself to another. Had an affair, be it emotional, physical, or both. Or maybe it is pornography with sexual addiction. Either way, your world has been obliterated. Blown apart, shattered into a billion pieces - like ash in the wind. What has just happened?  What in the world are you feeling? Experiencing? My friend, it's call betrayal trauma and it's real. In today's episode, we dive into what betrayal trauma really is and what makes it distinct from fear based traumas. :: MORE RESOURSES: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website:  www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org  Work with Lisa:  Coaching Information   Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Grab your Free Ebook:   Broken Vows: Begin healing from the devastation of betrayal Email:   info@lisalimehouse.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE

[Warning: This episode may be triggering for some, be gentle with yourself and take breaks while listening, or pass on listening until you're ready. It is not meant for children's ears.)   Rhonda sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Sheri Keffer of the Brave One Community to discuss sexual deception and betrayal and how that intersects and affects your finances.    Here are some highlights of what they cover:   What is sexual acting out? What should you be doing if you feel your spouse is acting out? Money and sexual betrayal go hand in hand Educate yourself - know all you can know There is hope About today's guest:   Dr. Sheri is a regular co-host of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty-three years, she's worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California.    Through her own personal story of recovery Dr. Sheri understands the trauma symptoms often associated with sexual betrayal and posttraumatic stress. As a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), Certified Clinical. Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Couples Betrayal Recovery Therapist (CCBRT-candidate) Certified Clinical Empathy Specialist (CCES-candidate), and a Consultant in EMDR, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what's needed not only to heal but heal well. Dr. Sheri's a keynote speaker and recipient of 2019 IITAP Outstanding Publication Award for her book Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal.   Dr.Sheri is the Founder of BraveOne.com, the International BraveOne Community braveone.com/community, and Bravery After Betrayal: It Takes Fierce Strength retreat where she unpacks how betrayal affects the mind, body, spirit, and sexuality. Dr. Sheri also holds a degree in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary.   Connect with Dr. Sheri and the Brave One Community:   https://www.braveone.com/support   Dr. Sheri is offering one free month in her Brave One Community as a gift to our listeners! Be sure to mention you heard her on our podcast. Your host is Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center   Rhonda has dedicated her career to being an advocate for women and educating them on how financial strategies can impact their personal and professional success. Her work has shown women going through a divorce how to have a voice, be assertive, get results, be driven, and move forward with confidence.    For Rhonda and her company, the Women's Financial Wellness Center, helping women isn't just about running the numbers. It's about asking the right questions, demystifying myths and biases around finances, and helping women walk in their power. Rhonda is passionate about helping her clients navigate a broken system and level the playing field so they can achieve success—pre, during, and post-divorce.   

*DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults   224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn   Deuteronomy 29:29a (NKJV) "The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us"   Questions and Topics We Cover: Are there any specific questions you recommend we ask our spouse periodically? Will you elaborate on your finding that "men and women tend to have different insecurities that the process of sex can help heal or hurt"? You write "Having a comfortable way to signal (and receive) openness or interest will create connection and prevent much pain." So, how can couples begin to develop their own private language or signals to communicate effectively in a healthy manner?   Thank you to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author, and popular speaker.   Today, Shaunti applies her analytical skills to investigate eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, The Kindness Challenge, and Thriving in Love & Money, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages. Her books and studies are popular in homes, counseling centers, and corporations worldwide.   Shaunti (often with her husband, Jeff) has spoken around the world, sharing her findings with audiences ranging from churches to women's and marriage conferences to arena events to youth camps and cruises (yes, those are particularly painful…). Her research and commentary are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, The New York Times and MomLife Today. Shaunti, Jeff, and their two children live in Atlanta and enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.   Secrets of Sex and Marriage Website   Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen  Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner  Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen 63 Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna  Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma     Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery   Shaunti's Previous Episode on The Savvy Sauce: Understanding Men and Women Better with Shaunti Feldhahn   Shaunti's Co-Author's Most Recent Episode on The Savvy Sauce: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and goodies!   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Originally Aired on February 28, 2023View this episode on Youtube----------HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $103,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2024 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.----------Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages. In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more. To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.More Resources:Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/pure-sex-radio/donations

This episode (#208) is in response to a very vulnerable and heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. Here's her situation—"You may have already covered during previous episodes and I have just not been able to find it, but could you do a podcast on emotional cheating? This was a big part of my relationship and devastated me more than finding out about his pornography habits. This woman wasn't something he turned to occasionally, she was someone he contacted daily. All day. Even much earlier in the morning than I'd hear from him. While he was lying in bed next to me. As soon as he'd leave my side. He claims it was not an intimate connection, just his codependent need for validation, but I'm not sure I believe that. Regardless, she's now in every memory I had with him. Even the ones I thought were good, which brings me great pain. To make matters worse it was with his ex wife who he co parents with, so he was unable to cut ties with the person he was cheating with. I'd love to hear expert advice on how to heal from it. I'm already journaling and seeking support, taking care of myself and mental health, doing all the things one can to move past it. But I wake up everyday with a literal pain in my heart that's so heavy. I carry it around like a rock in my chest all day. I had not previously believed people when they said, emotional cheating can be worse, but I do now. Maybe you can also touch on how too much contact with someone who's not your partner can be damaging so that addicts understand what it is as well. I'm sure partners could benefit from that as well. Thank you."We SO appreciate this listener bringing this extremely difficult and painful situation to our attention. This is a topic for which Mark and Steve are extremely passionate and have a LOT to say! — What is "intimacy"? Is it more than just "sex"?— What is "Emotional Cheating"?— What is the responsibility of the partner who engaged in emotional cheating? What does "real" change and amends look like?— What is the healthiest approach for the partner who has been betrayed?— What is a couples best chance to move through and forward from emotional cheating?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve in 3 one-hour sessions every week—addicts, spouses and couples! And live support groups on weekends, facilitated by Mark and Steve! To try a free, 2-week trial, visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com   Today, we continue our discussion of how sobriety isn't enough to build a mutually connected relationship in marriage. We Discuss: What can a wife do to help him in his recovery? What are some practical tools a wife can implement if her husband is sober and still displaying dysfunctional ways of coping and relating to others? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Clarity and Peace through Boundaries with Pam Blizzard Help Us Help Others

-What does codependency look like in the betrayed partners of sex addicts? -How can the safety seeking behaviors of betrayed partners appear ‘codependent' but really be forms of healthy healing? -If you are a betrayed partner, what are the initial steps you can take to heal? Welcome to Episode 151! This week, I am joined by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, to talk all about codependency in the betrayed partners of sex addicts. Dan is here to set the record straight on how, despite some behaviors of betrayed partners may appear codependent, they are often necessary, healthy, and healing ways of coping. Dan educates us on the history of treating the betrayed partners of sex addicts and how they were seen as ‘sicker than their partners.' We discuss what treatment of betrayed partners looks like today and end with suggestions on how you can heal if you have been betrayed. It's a must-listen! Links for the show: Sign up for the newsletter to receive all things codependummy: https://keap.app/contact-us/2302598426037497  Journal! The Confiding Codependummy: 30 Days of Journaling Prompts for a Less-Codependent and More-Conscious YOU for just $1 a day. www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing  FREEBIE! The Self-Validation Challenge: Learn to validate your GD self: www.codependummy.com/challenge  Money! Funds! Help support the show via a one-time donation via secure Paypal link: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=RJ3PSNZ4AF7QC  Work with me! Email marissa@codependummy.com to inquire about psychotherapy, coaching, or coming on the show! More on this week's guest: Dan Drake is a licensed clinician, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor as well as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. He has co-authored several books, including Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth after Sexual Betrayal and Letters from a Sex Addict: My Life Exposed. Dan is the is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group in Los Angeles. Free Boundary Setting Resources: https://www.banyantherapy.com/resources/  https://www.banyantherapy.com/  https://www.instagram.com/banyantherapygroup/  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9XcxIVClbH3Qjio0AWBs4Q  https://twitter.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Fbanyantherapy  https://www.facebook.com/BanyanTherapyGroup  More deets on the episode:  We begin with Dan's definition of codependency: a way of managing one's own internal state through others. Dan reveals his reluctance to use the definition due to the controversy and misdiagnosis of the term in the treatment of the betrayed partners of sex addicts.  Dan reflects on codependency in his own life, including how he often deferred to others when it came to deciding everyday things like what to eat for dinner. He also shares how that pattern continues on sidewalks where he defers to others in his path which way he should move to avoid colliding. Can you relate? Dan provides a brief history on the treatment of betrayed partners of sex addicts. Since it is a “process” rather than “chemical” addiction, it is different than treating substances. However, initially, the wives of male sex addicts were seen as the enabling, “sicker,” and neurotic codependent partner. Thankfully, in the early 2000s, this perspective was radically changed as many betrayed partners are not even aware of their partners' addiction due to the inherent manipulation, secrecy, and ease with hiding the addiction.  Dan and I explore how and why the safety seeking behaviors of betrayed partners may look codependent–but they aren't! We grapple with behaviors like making excuses, secret-keeping, ‘snoopervising,' and staying in the relationship. We agree that, since sex addiction is a process addiction, the behavior of the betrayed is more nuanced, and thus, more difficult to label objectively as ‘codependent.'  Dan discusses ways a partner can discern whether they are being abused/gaslit as they work towards healing. We conclude by healing how Dan helps couples navigate the healing process from sex addiction and how he helps the betrayed partner focus on the integration of their whole self.  Thanks for coming on Dan! And thank you for being here, dear listener! PLEASE: Rate.  Review. Subscribe.  Share. We need more ratings on Spotify! TY! -The Self-Validation Challenge - free 30-day guide to providing yourself with all the validation you seek: www.codependummy.com/challenge -Get your copy of the Confiding Codependummy: 30 days of journaling prompts for a less-codependent and more-conscious you! www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing  -If you are wanting to dive into your codependency deeper one-on-one, please email marissa@codependumy.com to work with me! -Sign up for the newsletter: https://keap.app/contact-us/2302598426037497  -Support the show via a one-time secure donation: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=RJ3PSNZ4AF7QC  See you next week! 

Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our conversation around the church's response to betrayal trauma, sex addiction, and sexual issues in marriage. Last episode we shared stories of churches that have responded well and churches that responded poorly. We finish this topic by brainstorming solutions for the leadership of churches to consider in this vulnerable and tender area of sex and betrayal. We Discuss: What would you tell Pastors about the consequence problematic porn viewing has on the husband? What would you tell Pastors about couples who come to them with sexual issues in their marriage? What hope can we leave? Resources Brain, Heart, World is a Docuseries about the harmful effects of pornography Fight the New Drug is a non-profit, non-religious, non-political entity that stands against the harms of porn. Heart of Man is a movie that Pam mentioned regarding father wounds. Here is a link to watch it on Amazon for 1.99. Here is a journal article on the topic mentioned by Lyschel, Compulsive Internet Pornography Use and Mental Health. The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It. APSATS (association of partners of sex addicts trauma specialists) have a special training for religious leaders, BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader). Find out more about it here. The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire For Christian Wives podcast – a tasteful round table discussion about sexual experience and sexuality. Disclaimer: the audience is intended to be the general population of Christian wives (not necessarily betrayed partners), trauma informed. Help Us Help Others

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our discussion around the “work of recovery” for the wife overcoming the impact of sexual betrayal. Last episode we generally defined what it means to work out our recovery and what it looks like in the days immediately following discovery. In this episode, let's discuss what recovery work entails when we are further down the healing path?   “Grief is a luxury for the brain that knows it's safe,” Dr. Jake Porter. We Discuss: What is the work she encounters after she's found stability and is moving into grief and mourning? Does the “work of recovery” ever end? What hope can we leave our listeners? Verses Mentioned: James 1:2, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds..."   Romans 5:1-5, "Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us." Help Us Help Others  

Betrayed partners often have difficulty knowing where they're at in the healing process. After the chaos of discovery and early recovery, the rest can seem like a blur. My guest is Tammy Gustafson, therapist, coach, and writer, who helps break down four distinct phases of healing from betrayal trauma. In this episode, we cover:  The 4 phases of healing after betrayal Why they are important How knowing where you are impacts the healing process How to balance the individual journey with the patterns of healing What things a betrayed wife should focus on in each phase What happens when the husband and wife are in different phases The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Join our new Connection Plus Community Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Tammy Gustafson: She earned a Master's Degree in Counseling from Denver Seminary and her passion is helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, as well as helping wives heal from betrayal. Her focus is to help them get unstuck, discovering ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence so they are free to move forward and leave their past behind. Tammy is the founder and director of LiveFree Counseling in Colorado, a counseling center specializing in trauma recovery. Tammy has over a decade of experience. She is an EMDR Certified Therapist and a Consult in Training (CIT) through the EMDR International Association. She completed Bessel van der Kolk's Certificate Program in Traumatic Stress Studies and is a certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer. Tammy has shared with hundreds of people on the topics of healing from betrayal, understanding and managing the effects of trauma, setting healthy boundaries, and other mental health issues. She connects easily with audiences through her authenticity, humor, and compassion. Website: www.betrayalhealing.comQuiz: www.betrayalhealing.com/quizInstagram: www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson 

Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, master NLP life coach and master QTT practitioner, supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma in their physical, mental and emotional recovery after discovering their husband is a porn or sex addict. In this episode, Rachel and discuss: Porn addiction and sexual betrayal prevalence varies among individuals and relationships. Discovery of sexual betrayal can happen through behavior changes or direct confessions. Misconceptions and stigmas can hinder healing in these areas. Christian views on porn addiction differ. Open communication and seeking help are crucial first steps for healing as a couple. Counseling and support groups are valuable resources for those dealing with sexual betrayal trauma. NLP and QTT tools aid in recovery by addressing thought patterns and emotions. Long-term effects may include trust issues and emotional distress. Health effects can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Setting boundaries and open communication establish safety during healing. Nervous system work involves mindfulness and therapy. Rebuilding trust after betrayal requires vulnerability and active listening. Self-care is vital for healing; I guide clients in prioritizing their well-being. More from Kylene: Instagram: @kyleneterhune TikTok: @kyleneterhune Product and Affiliation: Fullscript - get 15% off of professional-grade supplements: https://us.fullscript.com/welcome/rsmith1610125615 Baloo - https://balooliving.xayxet.net/4eyWyL Reach out to Rachel here: Book Your Free Consult With Rachel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.coachmatixmail.com/widget/appointment/rachelsmith/healthconsultation⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREE 3 Day Nutrition & Detox Plan: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.naturalhealthrising.net/energy-reboot-plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Elimination Protocol Recipe Book: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.naturalhealthrising.net/recipe-book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Natural Health Rising Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://naturalhealthrising.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rachel-smith11/support

We are in the middle of a sexual wholeness series. Last week, I spoke with Dr. Ryan Hosley about sex addiction, what it is and how someone can find healing. Dr. Ryan spoke about the spouse in several situations and the necessity to bring them into the healing process. This is where I spent most of my role as a marriage and trauma therapist for close to twenty years, helping leaders who found themselves in a sexual betrayal marriage and wanting to find healing and restoration. I learned so much along the way, from the PTSD that spouses carry due to betrayal to the practical steps needed for all parties to heal. Whether you are in this situation, walking with someone here, or are leading those who are or may end up here, today's conversation is for you.    Our guest today, Stephanie Broersma, is a living example of how God brings beauty from ashes in the lives of His children. Married since 2002, she and her husband, Tim, have walked through the valley of marital betrayal and come out the other side stronger, more in love as they continue to pursue recovery, and fully devoted to Christ. She now heads Reclaimed Ministry, an organization that seeks to help other broken brides recover from the pain and devastation of marital infidelity. Stephanie and her husband have four children, and when she finds spare time, enjoys trail running, gardening and spending time with friends and family. She lives in the Northwest pocket of Washington state.    Reclaimed Small Groups are small, confidential, multi-church groups that meet to walk through the topics found in the Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal book. These intimate groups provide close accountability with other women in similar situations. The groups offer support, understanding, and encouragement as they work through the twelve-week course. Much like Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal, the focus is always on the vertical relationship with Jesus Christ. Visit www.reclaimedministry.com for more information and to purchase Reclaimed resources. Other resources include the Made New Conference coming September 2023.    You might also want to listen to Dr. Sheri Keffer, author of Intimate Deceptions, in episode #34. Jay Stringer also speaks in episode #33, but will be with us again next week in episode #179 as he helps us raise kids with a healthy sexuality. To connect with Stephanie, visit: ONLINE - www.reclaimedministry.com SOCIAL -    Follow Reclaimed on the socials:     Instagram: @reclaimedministry     Facebook: Reclaimed Ministry   Join the Facebook private community:     Reclaimed Ministry Community   BOOK -  Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal, by Stephanie Broersma   ========================   We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.   Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Why are boundaries necessary for marriage restoration after sexual betrayal? And how does a couple navigate establishing and enforcing such boundaries in a redemptive way? Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries interviews Karla Downing on Pure Sex Radio to answer these important questions. In this conversation, Karla defines what boundaries are, why they are necessary to rebuild a broken marriage, how they are enforced, various pitfalls to boundary-setting and boundary-keeping, and why the real “goal” is restoration. 

Kylene Terhune joins me once again for this episode. This time, she talks about sexual betrayal trauma. She shares the importance of processing emotions in trauma and explains how trauma impacts the nervous system and leads to symptoms and disease. She also gets into what the healing process for sex addiction and betrayal for couples looks like and the pitfalls to be avoided. The compilation of things that happen with pornography, technology, and addiction: The prevalence of pornography is increasing tremendously. Access to pornography is becoming easier. Technology has addictive qualities. Pornography gives people a dopamine hit.  Children get exposed to pornography before the pre-frontal cortex has developed fully, and trauma is typically involved. For those who had trauma in their childhood, early exposure to pornography is more likely to cause an addiction. About Kylene Terhune: Kylene Terhune is the CEO & Founder of the Phoenix Transformation Project, where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and NLP life coach supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.  She helps her clients with a unique, whole-body approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of the individual.  This work includes functional lab work, nutrition, lifestyle, emotional work, nervous system support, trauma processing work, and more to assist women in feeling more complete, grounded, safe, independent, and confident in their health and their bodies.  As a successful functional health coach for 6 years, Kylene has received additional education in trauma and its impact on the body through the Trauma Healing Accelerated courses: Biology of trauma, Energy, Overwhelm and Freeze, Biology of Trauma Brain Health, and the Biology of Trauma Immune system.  She also has certifications in NLP, NLP life coaching, QTT, and hypnosis.  In this episode: Why it's essential to see a therapist if you have been sexually betrayed and choose to stay in your relationship. (7:38) Some surprising statistics about sex addiction and betrayal trauma. (10:27) How betrayal trauma impacts 75% of the women who go through it. (12:50) How betrayal impacts our health and nervous system. (14:28) Why establishing safety is important. (15:35) What happens when you cannot get to safety? (15:55) How safety can be established. (17:39) Why setting boundaries is essential. (23:25) What the recovery process for a man looks like. (27:51) A breakdown of the EMDR and subconscious reprogramming trauma processing methods. (30:14) (32:15) How recovery is possible. (41:16) Links and resources: Kylene Terhune Media Links:: Instagram (@KyleneTerhune) TikTok (@KyleneTerhune)  Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/RecoverU  Relative Links for This Show: Free gift: https://mailchi.mp/2e8ade60994f/ebook Episode links: www.tarahopealliance.org  CSAT or APSAT therapy: https://iitap.com/page/csat www.puredesire.org  CONQUER program  Book a call with Kylene: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql What's next course: https://mybalancedbiome.life/whats-next Link to the Debi Silber's episode https://yourlongevityblueprint.com/dr-debi-silber-post-betrayal-syndrome-transformation/ Follow Your Longevity Blueprint  on Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn Get your copy of the Your Longevity Blueprint book and claim your bonuses here Find Dr. Stephanie Gray and Your Longevity Blueprint online   Follow Dr. Stephanie Gray on Facebook | Instagram | Youtube | Twitter | and LinkedIn Integrative Health and Hormone Clinic Podcast production by Team Podcast 

In the aftermath of a sexual betrayal discovery, the most common reaction is to freeze and not know how to proceed. Dealing with such an explosive disruption to life can feel paralyzing and confusing to every part of our emotional, mental, and physical senses. In today's episode we discuss the first crucial steps in beginning the journey to heal. https://sal12step.org/ If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

Losing a spouse is devastating. Losing a spouse to suicide is full of layers of pain and questions. How do you even begin to wrap your mind around such a traumatic event and how do you walk your children through their pain? What do you do when a new tragedy stirs up your past wounds and hurts from your childhood? Blake Williams has spent the last year navigating those questions and so many more after losing his wife, Hope, to suicide. Having wrestled with mental health issues and chronic pain, Hope took her life in the couple's home and Blake found himself in the middle of a story he had never imagined for himself or his five children. As he has started to heal and move forward, the pain was a reminder of some of the past lies that haunted him his whole life after being abandoned and rejected by his parents. Blake could have easily allowed the old scripts he so often felt in his life to become his reality, but instead, he decided to shift his perspective from that of a victim into a victor. In this transparent conversation, Davey and Blake talk about the importance of not allowing our past to dictate our future, the paradigm shift that is necessary to keep us from going under from our hurt, and the value in learning to speak truth to the lies we are believing. You'll be encouraged to look through a different lens when it comes to your history, no matter what you have experienced. Website: https://rblakewilliams.com Book: Giant Killers: Winning the Battles that Matter Most ​​https://www.amazon.com/dp/166530393X?ref=myi_title_dp Register now for our next masterclass Broken Vows: Experiencing Wholeness and Healing after Sexual Betrayal with NIW certified coach Karissa Sprinkle on Thursday, October 20th at 8pm EST: www.nothingiswasted.com/masterclass Are you ready to take back your health and learn about holistic living the way God intended? Join Kristi Blackburn as she takes you Back to the Garden in her live, 8 week online wellness course where you'll gain practical tools to help you on your journey towards wholeness and health. Learn more at: www.linenandroots.com/course

There are some stories with such unfathomable pain that it can seem impossible to ever see a glimpse of redemption throughout them. When the depth of heartbreak is so great, how can you ever see the light of goodness again? Jerry Sittser has walked a road of catastrophic loss that most of us cannot even imagine. In 1991, Jerry, his wife, mother, and children were hit head on by a drunk driver. In an instant, life as Jerry knew it was completely over as the wreck claimed the life of his wife, his young daughter, his mother and the wife and unborn child of the other driver. There in the complete wreckage of his life, Jerry slowly began to learn how the most excruciating of suffering can grow the soul in unimaginable ways. The lessons Jerry learned through his own grief have served as a healing balm to many through his groundbreaking book, A Grace Disguised How the Soul Grows Through Loss. Recently revised for a 25th Anniversary edition, Jerry vulnerably shared how grief has not only changed him, but grown him in ways that only suffering can. Through his story, he recognizes how all griefs, whether comparable or not to his own, invite us to step in to a grace that transforms us. In this episode, Davey talks with Jerry about how experience can and ultimately has to be the catalyst for our growth, the tensions that exist in pain and suffering, and how to step into the questions that inevitably come from our greatest heartbreak. With a hard won wisdom, a theological richness, and a profound outlook, Jerry's insight will help you process any grief you've experienced through a completely new lens. This conversation is one you'll want to listen to more than once as you glean from the deep well of Jerry's experience and wisdom. Website: www.jerrysittser.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/jerrysittser/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/jerrysittser Book: A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss https://www.amazon.com/Grace-Disguised-Revised-Expanded-through/dp/0310363594/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=a+grace+disguised+by+jerry+sittser&qid=1658971721&s=books&sprefix=a+gra%2Cstripbooks%2C134&sr=1-1 Are you ready to take back your health and learn about holistic living the way God intended? Join Kristi Blackburn as she takes you Back to the Garden in her live, 8 week online wellness course where you'll gain practical tools to help you on your journey towards wholeness and health. Learn more at: www.linenandroots.com/course Join us for our next masterclass Broken Vows: Experiencing Wholeness and Healing after Sexual Betrayal with NIW certified coach Karissa Sprinkle on Thursday, October 20th at 8pm EST: www.nothingiswasted.com/masterclass

Hey, y'all! Wow, it has been a hot minute since we have been able to record!Today we share what's happened and why we haven't recorded a podcast in four months. We update you on what we learned through losing our home and how God has used it for good in our lives.  Next Tuesday, we launch course 1 for a new self-led 8-week session with a pivot that makes it more affordable, accessible, and convenient. Check out the details in this episode, and then sign up through the link below. Thank you for all your continued prayers and support!Our Resources:https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/https://restored2more.com/https://restored2more.com/courses/

Marnie Ferree understands sex addiction from both sides: from personal experience, and from being a partner. In this episode, Marnie shares her story of grief and growth after discovering her own sexual betrayal trauma.Marnie Ferree is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Nashville, Tennessee, where she directs Bethesda Workshops, which provides Christian-based treatment for sex addicts, their partners, couples, and teens affected by sexual addiction. Learn more at bethesdaworkshops.org.Buy Marnie's books here (these are paid links):Out Of The Doghouse For Christian Men: A Redemptive Guide For Men Caught Cheating (co-authored with Dr. Rob Weiss)No Stones: Women Redeemed From Sexual Addiction

What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about it. She even guides you on how to share this episode with your wife or girlfriend without triggering her. If you're married, your wife will love hearing from Dr. Sheri!Dr. Sheri Keffer is the author of Intimate Deception (paid link) and a regular cohost of New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty years, she's worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California. Through her own personal story of recovery, Dr. Sheri understands the trauma symptoms often associated with sexual betrayal. As a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist Supervisor (CPTT-S), Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) and a Consultant in EMDR, she brings new tools and a fresh look at what's needed not only to heal but heal well. Dr. Sheri also holds a degree in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. You can follow her on social media on Instagram or Facebook @drsherikeffer.Have you been impacted by sexual betrayal?Take Dr. Sheri's quiz: braveone.com/takethequizBuy Dr. Sheri's award-winning book (this is a paid link):Intimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual Betrayal***For A Limited Time***Check out Dr. Sheri's BraveOne Community for women healing from intimate deception betrayal trauma.Join our private community at www.husbandmaterial.co

Have you been impacted by sexual betrayal? Take the FREE QUIZ HERE: www.braveone.com/freequiz Dr. Sherri Keffer knows - personally - the devastation of sexual betrayal.  In this episode Sherri tells her story and shares how denial and depression kept her from dealing with the truth of what was happening in her marriage.  Learn the TWO PILLARS every sexually betrayed partner needs.  Hear what you should do - and what you shouldn't do - when dealing with the sin of sexual betrayal. Find out what you CAN DO - even when you don't know whether sexual betrayal has happened.  And, answer the questions, once and for all ... is it YOUR fault this happened? Is there anything you could have done to have prevented it? Leslie and Sherri will also talk about how to talk to the kids when there's been sexual betrayal in the marriage.     

In this week's Four Phase Cycle Podcast episode, Megan is joined by Kylene Terhune. Kylene is the CEO and founder of the Phoenix transformation where she works as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner supporting women who have experienced sexual betrayal trauma.  In this episode, Kylene shares about her personal experience with sexual betrayal trauma, which when she discovered her husband of eight years had been hiding his sex addiction. Kylene also explains in this podcast about trickle disclosure. Listen to this podcast as Megan and Kylene talk about the healing journey through a unique approach that involves the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of individuals. Transcript: https://www.zestyginger.com/sexual-betrayal-trauma-with-kylene-terhune/ Important links: https://www.zestyginger.com/links/ Connect with us:     Follow us on IG: @zesty_ginger Find us on FB: www.facebook.com/TeamZestyGinger Visit us at www.zestyginger.com/ to learn more about the 4 Phase Cycle Approach.  Sign up for Coaches connect: https://www.zestyginger.com/coaches-connect/ Link to Our practitioner trainings: https://www.zestyginger.com/practitioner/ Kylene Terhune: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kyleneterhune TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kyleneterhune