Fight For Love

If you need a shot in the arm of positivity and encouragement, this is the episode for you. Jennifer Hand is the equivalent of a storm chaser. Where others might pick up the phone and text in a donation, Jenn will pick up the phone and literally book a flight. In the aftermath of terrible tragedies Jenn can be found ministering on the ground, and equipping others to do the same. Wonderfully relatable, delightfully uncoordinated, and infectiously joyful, Jenn inspires and equips us to face the challenges of the season that we find ourselves in by reminding us of just who our God is.  My Yes Is On the Table - Buy the Book! https://comingaliveministries.com/ https://www.instagram.com/comingalivejenn/ To find further resources and join the free Fight For Love support group head on over to Fight For Love Ministries web page Fight For Love - Buy Rosie's Book!  

Empathy by the recovering addict for their betrayed partner is essential component of reconnecting and healing, but learning how to become empathetic takes work and practice. Joining me today to talk about her powerful Early Recovery Couples work is the wise and wonderful Carol Juergensen Sheets. With it's focus on developing those all important empathy skills, Carol's workbook Help Her Heal not only helps addicts understand what their betrayed partner is feeling but also lays out a roadmap for rebuilding lost trust and intimacy. Grab a cuppa, and get comfy for this hope filled conversation!  www.blogtalkradio.com/ betrayalrecoveryradio www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach

We are know there is no silver bullet when it comes to preventing our loved ones from accessing porn, however today we introduce you to man whose company's mission is to get as close as possible. Using technology developed in Israel to scan for nudity in real time, Canopy offers a level of protection and range of features not yet seen in the US market.  Sean Clifford, CEO of Canopy invites Fight For Love listeners to be part of the next generation of this software, using our feedback to help thousands of other couples world wide!  BREAKING OFFER: To sign up use the promo code FIGHTFORLOVE at www.canopy.us for a free month and 20% off subscription (This is hot off the press so if the code doesn't work yet try again in a few days and it will be working.) Also make sure you are signed up at our newsletter at www.fightforloveministries.org so we can contact you with details of how to give feedback to Sean. Lastly, this is the last in the current season of Fight For Love. We are all taking a little break for a couple of months, but do not panic we have not gone anywhere and will be back with season 4 shortly. Use this time to get caught up on past episodes! 

Today we come alongside those of you who are feeling tempted to seek, or have already sought, comfort outside of your marriage to cope with the pain of being neglected and/or betrayed by your spouse . Christy Neal is an advocate for women who feel tainted and cast out after adultery. As the author of Don't Ever Tell and the post host of Everyone Has a Voice she is the catalyst for hope and healing she desperately needed but never found a decade ago after her own affair. 

If you feel crushed and broken by your partner's persistent emotional distance and neglect, this is the episode for you. Today we are so blessed to have Karen Rellos, Certified APSAT coach, Certified AASAT Intimacy Anorexia Coach and founder of Restored Hope Coaching &  Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry, with us to share her incredible story of finding her voice and restoring her marriage after years of soul-crushing emotional neglect and abuse. Grab a fluffy blanket, a cup of tea, a box of tissues and join us for this validating, honest and inspiring conversation. 

If you have ever felt invalidated, confused and manipulated,  found yourself second guessing your instincts, or had trouble making decisions, this episode is for you. Living with someone who is intentionally, or even unintentionally gaslighting, is a confusing, painful and lonely prison. Eroding your ability to connect with your authentic self, gaslighting steadily robs you of your self-worth and true power. Sarah Morales, relationship coach, host of Deconstructing Gaslighting™ podcast and speaker, joins me today to help you understand and identify gaslighting in your life and relationships.      

We keep talking about "Recovery" for partners and how important it is, but what does that actually mean? What will you actually be working on when you enter recovery, and why is it so important to find an experienced guide? Joining me today to give us a candid closeup of three stages of the healing process is Lisa Taylor, an APSAT trained Christian counselor specializing in sex addiction and betrayal trauma.  The Three Stages of Betrayal -Trauma Recovery: Stage 1 - Establishing Safety Stage 2 - Remembering & Mourning Stage 3 - Reconnecting To connect with Lisa, follow her research, and access her incredible blog www.beyondbetrayal.community Naked Truth Project To access Fight For Love resources, join the Fight For Love support group, download a free devotional for partners,  or purchase our Biblical Battleplan go to Fight For Love Website

A heartfelt message from me to you, my dear exhausted sister. A short exhortation to encourage and equip you to stand firm when the enemy tries to convince you that you are not strong enough for this fight.    Music credits Lucid by The Seraphim Project https://www.worshipstart.com/royalty-free-music/p/bg-horizon-by-hoyle-96wha-6krzg-yyxy6-ge9hl-44nr3-ax5j7-wggmy-25zrf-lf3d3-rfx3z-lzhaz-p9znc-3rs4w-hbrfw-yr8y4  Loop 4 by Soundology & Co https://www.worshipstart.com/royalty-free-music/p/bg-horizon-by-hoyle-96wha-6krzg-yyxy6-ge9hl-44nr3-ax5j7-wggmy-25zrf-lf3d3-rfx3z-lzhaz-p9znc-xbwl6-rhmza-3hcm9-d3b8l-p5l3p-8wdh5-cjptz-m5dgy-tpxdf-j75lh-3dp79-f66hr-l4mn9-r4rcj-2ws2d  Ancient Ones by Katie Overbeek https://www.worshipstart.com/royalty-free-music/p/bg-horizon-by-hoyle-96wha-6krzg-yyxy6-ge9hl-44nr3-ax5j7-wggmy-25zrf-lf3d3-rfx3z-lzhaz-p9znc-xbwl6-rhmza-3hcm9-d3b8l-p5l3p This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.

Whether or not you have a daughter, this is a ministry that you need to put on your radar. From her unique perspective as a betrayed wife and daughter, and a Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist, Kristin Cary of Living Truth shares a message of hope and help for those impacted by a parent's problematic sexual behavior. Plus you are not going to want to miss hearing about their unique and totally free support group for daughters between the ages of 15-30. For more information about Living Truth's Men in the Battle and Women in the Battle communities go to www.living-truth.org  Sign up for the next women's group just opened up! (as of 8/2/2021) To access Fight For Love resources click here  

If you are passionate about the topic of Human Trafficking, but the sheer scale of the problem leaves you feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed, this is a conversation that will hopefully turn things around for you.  In this episode Raleigh Sadler, Author, Founder & Executive Director of Let My People Go shares with Rosie how acknowledging our own vulnerability is key to being able to identify and come alongside the most vulnerable people in our community, those who are often hidden in plain sight behind our false assumptions about human trafficking.  Click here to buy Raleigh's book Vulnerability : Rethinking Human Trafficking Click here to be taken to the Fight For Love Website  

Whether you are newly divorced and thinking about dating again, or wanting to relaunch yourself in your marriage, Jenni Rochelle brings an inspiring message of hope and healing. With her contagious vibrancy, Jenni unpacks the daunting process of learning to trust again, and makes it seem possible for every women to embrace her own big sexy comeback. Don't forget to check out Jenni's podcast - Beauty after Betrayal and her 8-week Big Sexy Comeback Mentorship Group. Special offer for Fight For Love listeners : Use the code Worthy100 for a $100 discount!   Check out our resources at the Fight For Love website Come hang out with us at the Fight For Love Support Group

If you or your partner are currently in, or are thinking about signing up, for a Pure Desire group this is an episode you don't want to miss. Ashley Jameson, Author, Speaker and International Women's Group Coordinator, joins me today to chat through many of the questions and concerns that I have received from wives over the years about Pure Desire groups. Remember your job is not to fix your husband, but to help get him to a professional or a group who can. However, in order to do that, you need to know what to look out for in a good group. How can you tell if your husband is actually doing the work versus simply attending? What guidelines should his group be following? What tools should you, as his wife, be hearing about? 

Calling all of you who are feeling weary and hopeless, come, sit and be comforted and inspired by Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith as they take you through their practical and profound step-by-step approach to creating a beautiful biblical level of intimacy out of the ashes of betrayal and addiction.  With their unique and irresistible style, Matthew and Joanna take us on a journey through the stages of honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability and intimacy. This is one to listen to with your partner. This is why we FIGHT FOR LOVE! 

If you are curious about what really happens at a residential trauma intensive, take a listen to my conversation with Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery as he takes us behind the scenes at his 14-Day Intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues. The program uses the TINSA® treatment model (Trauma Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy. Boulder Recovery is also the only Christian intensive in North America that includes support for partners impacted by the trauma of betrayal through online psychoeducation, care and interaction during the men's intensive with a betrayal trauma specialist.  In this episode you will learn: How an intensive experience differs from weekly individual therapy What different healing modalities are used to treat trauma What actually happens during the different stages of the intensive What support for partners is available What is the best time to attend an intensive    Fight For Love Website Fight For Love Book Fight For Love Private Online Support Group

Dr Jake Porter, Licensed Professional Counselor, and founder and president of Daring Ventures, joins me today for a rich and deep dive into the brain of a betrayed partner. Drawing on his vast expertise in relational neurobiology and attachment theory, Jake compellingly explains the following: How betrayal trauma affects the brain Why triggers can feel overwhelming How you can begin to rebuild trust when your entire history feels like a lie. Why healing happens in relationships Why a full disclosure is essential What is couple-centered recovery How you and your partner can learn to co-regulate each other   Daring Ventures Website Sign up for the FREE 40 Day Connection Challenge Download the FREE Making Saves Tool   Fight For Love Website Fight For Love Fellowship - Private Facebook Group for Betrayed Partners     .      

If you are struggling with feeling like you will never measure up in your husband's eyes, this is the episode for you. In this exploration of this dreadfully painful subject we shoot you straight with both the reality of the problem and the solution. Although some parts of our conversation may be hard to hear, dragging everything into the light is the only way forward. The biblical truths that Heather Creekmore, (author, speaker, and host of Compared To Who podcast ), shares today hold life and power to set you free from this debilitating and life-sucking issue.  Connect with Heather at www.comparedtowho.me Fight For Love Website

If you have ever felt that small but insistent internal nudging to start your own group this is a conversation you don't want to miss. Donna Meredith Dixon from A Door Of Hope shares with us so many precious insights and wisdom about facilitating groups for betrayed partners, and introduces us to her unique 12 week peer facilitator training program. Topics we talk about include: What makes a good peer facilitator? Is it a natural or a learned skill, an art or a discipline? How do you hold in tension the needs of a group and the needs of the individual as the same time?  What roles does a facilitator undertake at different stages of the groups development? How do  you become more comfortable with uncomfortable situations?  What do you need to be thinking about before you start your group, and as you end? Is compassion fatigue a real thing?   Find out more about A Door of Hope Facilitator Training at www.lifeisahead.com To join the Fight For Love Facebook group click here. To see the Fight For Love website/resources click here. To buy the book Fight For Love click here.

Learning how to emotionally regulate yourself when you get triggered is a really useful skill in recovery. Today, partner coach Shawna Meek teaches us how to listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us, and shares techniques to help us bring our brains back on line and settle ourselves.  From her own experience of being married to an intimacy avoidant spouse, Shawna also shares the best way to help someone who is acting in instead of acting out. 

The cry of every betrayed wife's heart is to be truly heard, seen and validated by their husband, but is it really possible?  Stacey Sadler, MA LPC CCPS, joins me today to share that yes, it really is! With her memorable step-by-step Victory through Validation program, anyone can develop or improve those all important empathy skills.

If pornography has hijacked your sex life and left you feeling traumatized, this episode is for you. With compassion and clarity, Dr Carol, (OB-Gyn physician, Doctor of Ministry, author, speaker, and personal coach,) jumps right into these murky waters to validate your experience, and to bring you the hope that things can be different, whether or not your husband is willing to get into recovery. 

If the impact of betrayal trauma has rocked the very foundation of your faith this is an episode you don't want to miss. Cat Etherington from Naked Truth Project and Lyschel Burket from Hope Redefined join me to discuss the deeply lonely and painful spiritual struggles that women commonly experience as the betrayed partner of a porn/sex addict. 

Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, Sheila Wray Gregoire's The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples. As a long overdue corrective to church culture, not to mention the typical advice given to wives in porn affected marriages, this book is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience the kind of intimacy and wholeness God intended.

In this episode we celebrate the healing power of story with writer Jody who shares with us how she is now inspiring others to come out the shadows and embrace the restoration life that God has for them.

In this episode, SarahJean shares the devastation of discovering her husband's addiction to porn at the same time as becoming a first-time Mom. If you are wondering whether it is worth the pain of ripping off that Band-Aid, facing the porn in your relationship, and jumping into recovery, this is the episode you need to hear. After only six months of Fighting For Love SarahJean describes the remarkable changes that have occurred in her marriage.

Kicking off the New Year with a incredible reminder of the spiritual dimension of our Fight For Love. In this incredible testimony, Stacey describes how her spiritual oppression physically manifested and how miraculous healing and divine appointments enabled her to face the porn use in her marriage.

In this episode we give you the inside scoop on what it's really like to be part of a wives recovery group. As daunting and scary as it was walking into our first group, all of us agree that the fellowship that we gained through recovery was absolutely life-changing. Recovery groups are real, and precious, not to mention avenues of healing - they will ruin you for other groups!

Essential listening for any couple walking through this path, this refreshingly honest couple describe the heartbreak, healing and transformation they have experienced in their own journey. They are the founders of Restored2More Ministry with coaching and workshops for couples, and the hosts of the weekly podcast Restored2More.

In today's 'In the Trenches' episode we hear Marzena's hope filled story as she describes how she and her husband have discovered a level of intimacy they never had before.

Listen in on this candid and laughter-filled conversation between two couples who have dedicated their lives to helping others walk this path. If you've ever wondered whether recovery is even possible when addicted spouses are critical, resentful and resistant to recovery, this is a must-listen.

Today's installment of our 'In the Trenches' series is Tami's story of learning how to love herself in order to be able to love others. Despite the heart ache of being currently separated, Tami is pursuing her own recovery vigorously, and has much hope and learned wisdom to share. And if you are unsure about joining a recovery group for yourself, this episode is a must-listen!

In this third installment of our 'In the Trenches' series we bring you Leeah's story of Fighting For Love, overcoming both bad advice and an unsupportive church environment. She also shares the practical steps taken by her and husband, plus the stories in the Bible that sustained and inspired her.

Today we bring you the second of our 'In the Trenches' series with Tanya's inspirational walk of faith through the pain and rejection of a porn affected marriage.

To encourage others to come out of the shadows and walk in the light about porn addiction in their marriage, our little band of brave women is stepping up like never before, boldly sharing why and how they are currently Fighting For Love in their marriages. Today we bring you the first of our 'In the Trenches' series with Jen's incredibly story of courage and faith straight from the frontline.

Fantasy in films and books is promoted and sold as a socially acceptable coping mechanism, and yet for those of us in difficult and painful situations it can develop into a self-destructive crutch. Joining us today to unpack the topic of fantasy addiction is Lacy Bentley, an award winning author, women's mentor and coach, and founder of Women United Recovery Coalition. In her warm, engaging, and compassionate way, Lacy takes us by the hand and leads us through this tender topic, and gives us a practical roadmap out of the shadows and into the light. If you are feeling a little apprehensive about this topic, fear not, there is no blaming or guilting in this episode just an inspiring call to step up, face the truth, heal your wounds, learn to love yourself, and move forward.

In this hope filled and inspiring conversation with Dr Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, we delve deep into the mystery and majesty of the purpose of sexuality as per God's design. Her most recent book Rethinking Sexuality is a resource like no other, brilliantly fleshing out exactly what we are fighting for when we Fight For Love in our relationships. Also don't forget to check out her podcast Java with Juli.

If you are seeking affordable, easily-accessible community and support for betrayal trauma here's another terrific option for you! Melissa Ruff is the director for Live Free Wives, a long-time group leader for betrayed women, and is studying to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. She lives with her husband of 13 years and their three wonderful children. Melissa has walked the long road of healing from betrayal and knows the difficulties that betrayed spouses face. When she was in the thick of it, there was no community for her to join, and no one that felt safe enough to walk this journey with. That is why Melissa is incredibly passionate about Live Free Wives and cannot wait for you to join the Live Free Wives community!

This is the second part of my highly informative conversation with Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast. In this episode we tackle: How to build up digital trust with our kids What to do if they have been exposed to pornography Signs that they might be addicted to pornography What to do if you suspect that they are addicted How to manage playdates and those awkward conversations with other parents

Joining us to talk about strategies and tools to help us protect our kids from pornography are passionate pioneers Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast. In the first of this two part conversation we are introduced to the wealth of resources freely available to help us tackle this difficult challenge and calm our fears. Topics covered today include: Dealing with distance learning Anime Why we need to talk about healthy sexuality How to start conversation about porn when your kids are different ages, Where to start with technological solutions

Continuation of frank discussion with Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about going through 90 days of celibacy, relapses in recovery, action steps to rebuild trust , sharing triggers, temptation to lust at the beach, helping a wife's triggers, and how their life and their view of their spouse has changed in recovery.

Here to answer the questions that you really wanted answering are three of our husbands, Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about: what prompted them to get into recovery: how they felt about doing a full disclosure and joining a group; and what helped them learn how to be intimate and empathetic with us.

If consistent emotional abuse, manipulation and gaslighting are components of your relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for. Anne Blythe, producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, helps us begin the journey to unpack what is really going on, and face the lies, porn use, infidelity, sexual coercion and emotional abuse with confidence.

Why is having a partner addicted to porn so traumatic? How does trauma affect the body? Why is getting to the truth so important? Is your behavior controlling or are you just seeking safety? What can you do if your partner won't tell you the whole truth, or if they refuse to get into recovery? What can you do if you get triggered when you are with your partner? And why is it so important to deal with present betrayal trauma first before diving into past trauma work.

Sometimes the truth is easier to hear from somebody else. Someone who's been there, and isn't there any more. If you have a spouse who doesn't see why they should get into recovery, or even why you see it as such a problem here's an episode for you to share with them.

If you need to hear a message of hope today, this is the episode for you. So good we are running it again for those of you who have joined us recently.

In this episode Rosie reads the introduction and Chapter 1 to give you a taste of the information you will find in our Biblical Battleplan Fight For Love.

Be encouraged and blessed by the honesty of our very own Jené, as she describes her and her husband's recovery journey.

Grab your partner and listen together to this great conversation with author, podcaster, and founder of www.husbandmaterial.com, Drew Boa. After God saved his marriage before it started, Drew was given a passion to help other Christian men experience healing. Now he has an amazing platform and ministry helping other guys find freedom from porn.

Porn proofing our kids doesn't have to be scary and overwhelming. Today we're bringing you this uplifting and practical conversation from Daniel and Christina Im on the IMBetween Podcast and our very own Rosie Makinney. 4 steps to help porn-proof your children Signs to look for to know if your child is watching porn How you can support your child if they are struggling with a porn addiction Incredible age-appropriate resources to help you continue this important conversation with your kids and teens

Listen in to Gigi Hopkins, Wives Care Coordinator at Be Broken Ministries, describe her gentle introductory 6 week course for wives of porn addicts. If you have fears and apprehensions about taking the next step into recovery, this may be just what you are looking for.

Watching movies and shows today in recovery is extra challenging when sex and nudity have pretty much become the norm. Here are some of our favorite websites and services that take all the hard work out of finding something safe to watch, which enables you to actually relax and enjoy your time together.

Listen in on this great conversation between Dr Juli Slattery, president and founder of Authentic Intimacy, and our very own Rosie Makinney. Here they talk about equipping women with the appropriate steps to fight for their marriages, how to help their husbands, and find support for their own healing. Where do you draw boundaries? How do you know if he’s in a healthy support group? Is it okay to take time off from sex? They address all of those questions and more in this episode of Juli's own podcast Java with Juli. Grab your java and join us!