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Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you.  Today on the show I talk to Daniel, who is asking how he should know when it's time to consider depression medication. As Christians, we believe in prayer, we believe that God can heal us, and we believe that He is able to heal…so when do we make the choice to take medication to help us with our mental health struggles? What are the signs and symptoms to know it's time to consider the help of medicine? This is SUCH AN IMPORTANT conversation for the church at large…and for anyone who is battling depression and anxiety. Tune into this episode on when to take medication for depression and anxiety. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the show, Alison talks to me about the fact that she finds herself saying “YES” to the needs and requests of others, when she really should be saying no, because she doesn't have the bandwidth or capacity to do it, and she finds herself bitter, burnout, and resentful. Why does she have this pattern and where does it come from? Today on Talk To Me, we dig deep and find out where this pattern started and the answer will surprise you as much it surprised her because it goes way back, farther than she ever expected.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode I have an on-air counseling session with Annie F. Downs who talks to me about a difficult season she faced after facing a breakup followed by the devastating loss of her nephew followed by physical health struggles all in the same time-period, dealing with grief upon grief upon grief. We talk about all the difficult feelings that come up during hard seasons when we're feeling overwhelmed, and what on earth we're supposed to do with all the hard feelings…especially for people who have a tendency to run from the hard feelings, or to numb the hard feelings. If you're walking through any sort of heartbreak or grief or pain right now, this episode is for you. We will get through this together.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you seem drawn to the same type of person, but that “type” is someone who is emotionally unavailable? Why are certain people drawn to these types of unhealthy cycles of relationships, and how do you break the cycle? Today I talk to Erica, who is tired of emotionally unavailable men, and wanting to understand her role in attracting these types of relationships. Listen into this powerful conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to get attached to a relationship you made up in your mind? Today Denise calls in to talk to me, because she's struggling to let go of a relationship that she has been imagining in her mind, and wanting to embrace reality. After many years of casually interacting with someone that she has feelings for, she's ready to let it go and move forward into a realistic perspective of their relationship. But she needs help…so listen along to this interesting conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Katie comes to talk to me today about a breakup that she's second guessing. We processed why she broke up with him, and then talk through some of her regrets. What happens when you look back and realize you might have made a mistake in breaking up? Where do you go from there? How do you know whether or not it was the right decision? This episode is powerful for anyone who can relate to second-guessing yourself after a breakup.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm joined by entrepreneur Anthony O'Neal, for this on-air counseling session where we process his feelings and desires as a successful, single, bachelor. He's building his life, his business, and his world…but he has no one to share it with, which takes a toll on him emotionally. We talk about what to do with the desires, how he's handling singleness, and so much more. It's a powerful conversation so make sure to tune in! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Couples Therapy I talk with Brooke and Wiley, who are struggling with his over-reactive triggers to simple questions. Wiley is tired of her questions, but Brooke feels like she can't ask anything without it turning into a fight, and she's not sure how to deal with it. We turn the tables on Wiley and help him identify why this might be the case, and how to begin identifying the root cause of his triggers. It's a powerful conversation of learning to go back and heal the past, in order to heal the present. If you get triggered by the same thing again and again, this conversation is one you don't want to miss.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 – A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Couples Therapy, I sit down with my friends and pastors Irene and Jimmy Rollins who are in a seriously stressful season of life right now, which is starting to impact their marriage. The build-up of stress has caused new tensions, and without the old unhealthy coping skills of addiction to default to — they're having to pave a new path this time around. We talk through the stress they're facing, and how they can actually help one another — by learning what it truly means to help themselves. It's an eye-opening conversation for married couples about the possibility of developing codependency in marriage, and an important reminder about how continuing to focus on individual healing will always overflow into marriage. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 – A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered, “Why do we keep having the same fight?” Today on Talk To Me, I have an on-air Couples Therapy session with Jeff and Michelle who don't understand why, after all of their years in marriage ministry and helping other couples, they can't seem to help themselves. They keep having the same fight over and over again (and you'll be surprised when you find out what it's about). I help them get to the roots of the reason why, and give them a plan to move forward. It's a really important session to listen to if you're struggling with the same cycle of conflict over and over again. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Couples Therapy is BACK!!! And I am so excited about the couples we have joining us for the month of February for the Couples Therapy Series.  So what's the newlywed stage really like for Instagram Relationship influencers Kait and JJ Tomlin? Today in this on-air session, I dig deep with Kait and JJ and talk through some of the newlywed struggles and hardships that have come in these early years of marriage and getting used to one another. We talk about the bad habits, conflict, and situations they've struggled with, and how it's been harder than they expected. But then we offer some strategies and steps to moving forward into creating the marriage they want to have. It's an important episode for those of you in the early years of marriage or who one day hope to be! And for those of you who are feeling stuck and need a little encouragement. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we talk to Susie who has struggled with body shame for many years, and is trying to break free. Body shame can impact people of all ages and stages of life, and for Susie, it's been holding her back in many areas. She's looking for a RESET in how she views herself and freedom from self-critique and self-hatred. I help her unpack where her body shame began, and give her steps to take in order to move toward freedom in this area of her life. If you've ever struggled with body shame, this episode will help you and challenge you to do things differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk to Me I am joined by Kelsey who is struggling with scrolling. She doesn't know why she defaults to scrolling on her phone when she wants to, and often needs to, do something different. We go deeper and unpack the WHY underneath her behaviors, and find that her screen time is actually a signal of something else going on underneath the surface. If you've ever struggled with too much screen time, this episode will help give you perspective and challenge you to do it differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you handle rejection? Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust? How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity? This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection. I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It's a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life — versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen – considering some people think it's wrong for a woman to take an initiative. We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn't mean… And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!! It's an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to serve God and stay filled all at the same time? We know for a fact Jesus did it. But why is it that so many struggle to keep the “balance?” What does avoiding burnout look like for everyday pastors and leaders who are juggling family and ministry and life obligations? How do you even make time to fill up? Today I have a conversation with Pastor Tim Timberlake, who so graciously wrote the foreword for Soul Care, and we discuss what avoiding burnout looks like practically in his life today as a husband, father, and senior pastor of Celebration Church. We talk about how he prioritizes resting his body as well as his time with Jesus. You're not going to want to miss this FINAL episode of the Soul Care series.  Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I am joined by Lindsi who called in to discuss her tendency to ignore or repress her emotions — until they suddenly and forcefully come up to the surface of her life. She feels like her emotions take over at that point, and she doesn't know how to control them. She gets set off by the smallest things, ends up engaging in conflict — and she is desperately trying to figure out how to navigate this unwanted cycle. We talk about the rhythm of TUNE IN and how important it is to understand and practice in order for us to engage in SOUL CARE. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So much of how we feel and what we do, is influenced by what's going on underneath the surface of our lives. This is why we have to take the time to “tune in”. We're tackling the rhythm of TUNE IN and today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find that it's hard to be present? Why do so many of us get stuck on the fears of the future, discontent in the here and now, or regrets from the past? Or what about the devices that we have living in our pockets, tempting us to scroll, and click, and watch — wasting our everyday moments? Today, I have an on-air session with Chris where we talk about his personal struggle to stay present, battle discontent, and enjoy the life he's been given today.  Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you are on the line of burnout on a regular basis? Today's caller, Liz from California, feels like she's constantly straddling the line of burnout. She has a really hard time with boundaries, especially with ministry. She feels like she's taught to “trust the Lord” and push through, but not actually replenish herself. She's watching people in ministry burn out left and right, and no one is teaching her a better way to do it. She's even seen her own leaders filled with stress and fatigue — but it doesn't look or feel healthy, and she doesn't believe that is “trusting the Lord”. So where do you go when you're bad at boundaries and no one has taught you any better? How do you even set boundaries in ministry when there is so much to do? We talk through all of this in today's conversation.  Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries? We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish — and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment's notice. But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships? Today, we continue this Soul Care series with an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling. Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life…and followed her into adulthood. It's probably my favorite conversation on the Soul Care series so far, and I know it will challenge and change you!! If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way. Find out how! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many friends do we actually need? And does the desire to connect change through different seasons of life, or is it a sign that something is wrong? Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have Cindy from South Africa joining me on the hotline to talk about her recent journey with friendships, and her decreasing desire to connect with people. We process whether or not this is healthy, where it might be coming from, and how she should respond to these feelings. It's a really good conversation if you've ever wondered what friendship in adulthood should actually look and feel like. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's book launch day for my new book Soul Care!! And I couldn't be more excited to share this message with you. It's a message about avoiding burnout, and staying filled. It looks at the 6 essential rhythms that Jesus practiced to care for his soul, and how we can do the same. I have no doubt it's a message that will change your life like it changed mine. I have been anticipating this day for so long, and it's finally here!! So, today on Talk To Me, I not only share my heart about Soul Care with you, but I also read you the first chapter myself with some fun extra side-notes as I read! I can't wait for you to get your hands on this book, and tell me what you think!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there such a thing as going TOO FAR with caring for our body? Though the church culture can be silent about caring for our body, the world seems to make too much of it. How do you know when you've taken it too far and then what do you do about it? Today on the podcast I have an on-air session with Emily who feels like she tends to go TOO FAR when it comes to fitness and exercise, and wants to know how to find the right balance of Soul Care as it relates to nourishing her body. I help her find the source of the “lack of balance” (it's pretty interesting!) and figure out what to do next today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our Soul Care Series today starting with the rhythm of NOURISH. The functioning of our bodies impacts every other part of who we are, but it's one of the most neglected messages in the church. Today I have an on-air counseling session with fitness influencer Jasmine Mays, as we dig into her own story of learning to nourish her body after growing up in a world where she actually abused her body, without realizing it, by the way she was treating it. We talk about the impact of trauma on how we care for ourselves (or neglect ourselves) and it gets deep fast. But this conversation is so healing and life changing, and an essential part to Soul Care. Nourishing our body leads us to nourishing our souls. Give it a listen today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls?  Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book!  My first conversation is with Cyndi from New York who is struggling with burnout…and doesn't know why she keeps repeating patterns that she knows aren't healthy. She goes, goes, goes at work until she feels totally drained — and feels like her family gets her leftovers. The most important question is WHY….before we can practice healthy rhythms to care for our soul we have to get to the root of why we don't to begin with. I help her unpack this in this really important conversation today on Talk To Me.  Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us… but what about the positive ones? What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world… And then we have to lay it all down? Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the crown of Miss universe… and realizing how much her identity was found in unreliable things. We trace this “self sufficiency” back to her childhood, and unpack some of the patterns that led her to that difficult place … and the lessons she has learned and continues to learn in placing her identity in Christ alone. There is no label bad enough or great enough worth holding onto … except what Jesus says. This conversation was so good, and I know you are going to love it as well. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Making friends can feel hard, and finding community can feel even harder…. Today on the podcast, I talk to Stephanie who recently moved to a new place and is looking for ways to connect with others and form community. We often talk about the benefits of community, but we don't always discuss how to practically create that type of environment. If this is something you have been wanting to do, take a listen to this on-air session because it will challenge you and help you take some next steps in community. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We don't often consider the toll that full time ministry takes on pastors and leaders in the church. The role of leading people spiritually also comes at a cost — and often times that cost can be great! Today on the podcast I process this with Pastor Matt Brown, and specifically what to do when Ministry life is really hard. In our on-air counseling session, we talk about what it feels like to have your life and family under a microscope, to feel judged by bystanders, and to be rejected by people you love… as well as how to respond in healthy ways to these really hard life moments. If you or someone you know is in ministry this conversation is so important! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heartbreak after heartbreak… you might know what it feels like to have your heart broken into a million pieces. You might know what it feels like to have your heart broken by someone you thought you would be with forever. How do you come out the other side of heartbreak? How do you believe that God has good things in store for your life and for your relationships when all you feel is pain, rejection, and insecurity? What can you do to get through heartbreak and come out the other side hoping and believing for love? Today, I have an on-air counseling session with Jeanine Ampola Ward… as we process her painful story and unpack some of the deep hurts of heartbreak… and what her life looks like today. If you've ever struggled with heartbreak, don't miss this episode! It will challenge you and encourage you! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life? Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships. She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel… and is there a difference between those two things? Is it anxiety, or is it God? Is it infatuation, or the Holy Spirit? We process through all of this and dig a little deeper today on the Podcast!! if you are making decisions in your dating life, don't miss this episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when you feel like you don't fit in? What do you do when you don't even feel like you belong in your own family? How can you take that feeling that you don't belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful? This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason. We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present. Let me just tell you, this man is a character… And it was a joy to chat with him and process some of these things out loud. Let me know what you think of this conversation!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years. Their relationship didn't start healthy, in fact — it was rather dysfunctional— and they really had to learn the hard way. You are going to love this open, honest conversation with them about their marriage… and where they are today. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren't. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She's seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it's become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY — so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She's wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships! Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses…. And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal! When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up — but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today's episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life — versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen – considering some people think it's wrong for a woman to take an initiative. We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn't mean… And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!! It's an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!! — Connect with Faith on Instagram: @ugafaith09 Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of my good friend – Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness. Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human.  If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, love and relationships are a hot topic of conversation. Therefore, today we wanted to re-air a conversation with an expert in our space to hopefully help you identify some healthy habits we can begin implementing within our daily lives to cultivate the love we so desperately seek. Joining us again today is a Licensed Professional Counselor and nationally acclaimed speaker who specializes in relationship and marital issues as well as mental and emotional health, Debra Fileta. Debra is also the author of six books and host of the Love + Relationships Podcast where she is passionate about spreading the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. The truth is, we all have the innate longing or craving to be loved, to be accepted, or to feel like we belong, but unfortunately too many of us get into relationships for all the wrong reasons. However, as Debra reminds us today, we can't come to the table “half-full”, expecting someone or something else to fill, fix, or complete us. We need to be the one's taking our burdens, pasts, and toxic patterns to the Lord as well as implementing the steps necessary to cultivate healthy habits which generate healthy relationships. No matter what your relationship status says, this episode will remind, challenge, and push you to keep looking upward and inward before looking outward. Debra's Website: https://debrafileta.com/ 

Every year, people make new year's resolutions. It's August, and by this time, most of us have probably forgotten what they were! There is a reason most people don't change their lives and their habits. Our guest for this episode, Debra Fileta, is an expert in this arena. In today's conversation we are going to get under the hood and talk about how to actually change your habits with a reset.    As a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in relationship issues and mental health, Debra Fileta knows that to achieve effective, long-lasting change, you have to know and understand what is happening on the inside. In her book, Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life, Fileta walks readers through 31 powerful and sustainable practices that will reset the way things have been done in the past in order to dive beneath the surface and bring insight to their thoughts and feelings, ultimately changing their life.    Debra is the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season!, Are You Really Ok?, Married Sex and RESET. She's also the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships.   As mentioned in this podcast, if you are a woman in the greater Portland, Oregon, area and you want a headstart on your “reset”, join us for a contemplative prayer day at the Living Wholehearted Lodge & Retreat on September 22.  Learn more and register at www.livingwholehearted.com/prayer-retreat. Limited spots available.   To connect with Debra Fileta, visit:   ONLINE  debrafileta.com truelovedates.com   SOCIAL  Facebook - facebook.com/debra.fileta Instagram - instagram.com/DebraFileta   NEW BOOK   Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life (Harvest House Publishers, March 14, 2023)   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons        https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Life Coach BFF Show! Join us as we delve into the world of healthy relationships and personal growth with the esteemed expert relationship counselor, Debra Fileta. In this captivating discussion, Debra shares her invaluable insights and wisdom, empowering us to nurture thriving relationships while fostering personal development. As a licensed professional counselor and the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, Debra Fileta brings a wealth of experience and expertise to the table. Through her popular platform, TrueLoveDates.com, she has impacted millions of readers with her unique blend of psychology and faith, making her a trusted source in the realm of relationship advice. Discover the keys to empowering healthy relationships and unlocking your personal growth potential as Deborah equips us with practical tools to break patterns, find healing, and flourish within ourselves and our connections. We'll also discuss Debra Fileta's new book, Reset. Don't miss this opportunity to gain expert guidance from Debra Fileta and embrace a life of authentic love and genuine self-improvement. Tune in now to the Life Coach BFF Show for a transformational journey with a renowned relationship counselor Plus, don't forget to tap the plus sign in the top right corner of your screen to follow this podcast and stay updated with future empowering episodes. Stay tuned for more life-changing conversations on the Life Coach BFF Show!   Connect with Debra: https://debrafileta.com https://truelovedates.com https://www.instagram.com/DebraFileta https://www.facebook.com/debra.fileta   Contact Host, Heather Pettey: Heather@HeatherPettey.com Website: www.HeatherPettey.com Purchase Keep It Simple Sarah   Heather's Bio: Heather is a perfectly imperfect wife of 28 years to David, mom to 4 amazing humans ages 11 to 26, and lover of Jesus. She's a closet peanut M&M and Goldfish cracker consumer. Heather is passionate about encouraging women to find joy and remain sane while parenting teens. The laughter and support happens weekly on her podcast, Life Coach BFF Show. When not podcasting or curating for CLUB BFF Mastermind (a membership for Christian moms of teens), she's coaching moms to live confidently, set clear boundaries, and learn to build their fire in the rain. Heather is also the author of Keep It Simple, Sarah: Powerful Words and Encouragement for Christian Teen Girls. Heather has made appearances on CNN Headline News and other media. She believes life is a long line of lessons, and in her opinion, it's all about faith and good ol' common sense. She happily resides with her family in Memphis, TN. *Quick Disclaimer- I'm a coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.              

Debra Fileta is a passionate woman of faith, dedicated to Jesus. As a licensed professional counselor, speaker, and author, she specializes in dating, marriage, and relationship issues. Debra has written several books, including True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season!, Are You Really Ok?, Married Sex, and RESET. She hosts the Love + Relationships Podcast, offering relationship advice to callers. Her influential blog, TrueLoveDates.com, promotes healthy relationships and reaches millions annually. Debra is also the founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, offering online counseling sessions. LINKS: WEBSITE: DebraFileta.com INSTAGRAM: @DebraFileta

This week, my good friend, a professional counselor, Debra Fileta, joins us to talk about why we are not self-healers. We're also going to explore our trigger-avoidant culture, the need to reject passivity, and what it really takes to reset our emotional health. Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in dating, marriage, and relationship issues, along with a spectrum of mental health disorders. She's also the author of several books and the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, a hotline-style show where people call in to get their relationship questions answered! Her popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships! Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with Debra, I'm sure you'll also enjoy the following: 279: Dismantling “Project Self” and How to Transform a Generation (feat. Jon Tyson) 276: Victim Consciousness, Heartache, and How Coping Mechanisms Create a False Sense of Health (feat. Dr. Dan Allender) ++++++ Episode Links: Debra's Website | Instagram | Facebook | Buy Debra's latest book on Amazon! Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Get the "Win the Week" email newsletter here. ************************** This week's show partners: Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************

EP.130 - Debra Fileta returns to Revival Town to unpack her newest book, Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life. Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor and national speaker specializing in relationship and marital issues as well as mental and emotional health. She is the author of six books and host of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Debra has been featured in multiple magazines and TV outlets and is a prolific writer, with well over 500+ articles and interviews about love, marriage, dating, sex, and relationships. Our conversation with Debra is going to be like drinking from a firehose, so grab some paper and a pen and get ready to take notes that will help you reset!

Stephen is joined by Debra Fileta for a conversation about what it takes to change from the inside out. As a licensed professional counselor, Debra has committed her life to helping people find freedom and healing. In this episode we talk about common misconceptions about emotional and mental health, owning your junk, dealing with internal and external noise, and stopping in order to start. Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life, True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season, as well as Are You Really OK? She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Purchase Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your LifeCheck out Debra at debrafileta.com or on social media:Instagram | @debrafiletaFacebook | /Debra.FiletaCheck out Debra's Podcast: Love and Relationships with Debra FiletaCheck out Debra's popular blog, TrueLoveDates.comFollow us on InstagramAsk a Question or Suggest a Guest | goingsomewherepod.com/contactSubscribe to us on YoutubePodcast Music: Electric Ten by Broke in SummerGoing Somewhere is a resource of Northview ChurchStephen's Instagram & Blog

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, love and relationships are a hot topic of conversation. Therefore, throughout this month, we wanted to sit down with some of the best relationship experts in order to identify some healthy habits we can begin implementing within our daily lives to cultivate the love we so desperately seek. That being said, joining us today is a Licensed Professional Counselor and nationally acclaimed speaker who specializes in relationship and marital issues as well as mental and emotional health, Debra Fileta. Debra is also the author of six books and host of the Love + Relationships Podcast where she is passionate about spreading the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. The truth is, we all have the innate longing or craving to be loved, to be accepted, or to feel like we belong, but unfortunately too many of us get into relationships for all the wrong reasons. However, as Debra reminds us today, we can't come to the table “half-full”, expecting someone or something else to fill, fix, or complete us. We need to be the one's taking our burdens, pasts, and toxic patterns to the Lord as well as implementing the steps necessary to cultivate healthy habits which generate healthy relationships. No matter what your relationship status says, this episode will remind, challenge, and push you to keep looking upward and inward before looking outward. Lastly, be sure to check out Debra's new book, “Reset: Powerful Habits to Own Your Thoughts, Understand Your Feelings, and Change Your Life.” This book will help you find the freedom and breakthrough  you may be looking for. It officially launches March 14th but you can Pre-Order the book at this link: https://amzn.to/3I0QCsh

Disclaimer: This episode contains sensitive content that is not appropriate for young listeners, as hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy talk with guest Debra Fileta about sex in marriage. We often don't learn enough about sex before we get married, or we think purity will equal perfection in our sex lives after we get married. On this episode of “God Hears Her,” Debra shares why purity is important before and after marriage, why our sex lives may not look the way we want them to, and how to improve our married sex lives.   About Our Guest: Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of five books: “Choosing Marriage”, “True Love Dates”, “Love In Every Season”, “Are You Really OK?”, and “Married Sex.” She's also the host of the hotline style “Love + Relationships” Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.   Notes and Quotes:  “Sex is a symptom of our need for connection and intimacy.” — Debra Fileta “If we want healthy relationships, we need to start with being healthy standing alone.” — Debra Fileta “When sex doesn't measure up to our expectations, we get confused.” — Debra Fileta “Sometimes you have to go backward before you can move forward because it helps with healing.” — Debra Fileta “What happens above the sheets, fuels underneath the sheets.” — Debra Fileta   Verses:  Ephesians 4:22–24 Hebrews 13:4   Links:  Debra's blog: https://truelovedates.com/  Get your copy of Debra's book “Married Sex” on Amazon   God Hears Her website God Hears Her newsletter sign-up: https://www.godhearsher.org/signup Subscribe on Apple Podcasts !  Elisa's Instagram: elisa morgan author Eryn's Instagram: eryneddy     Listener Advisory: Conversation about sex in marriage

Disclaimer: This episode contains sensitive content that is not appropriate for young listeners, as hosts Elisa Morgan and Eryn Eddy talk with guest Debra Fileta about sex in marriage. We often don't learn enough about sex before we get married, or we think purity will equal perfection in our sex lives after we get married. On this episode of “God Hears Her,” Debra shares why purity is important before and after marriage, why our sex lives may not look the way we want them to, and how to improve our married sex lives.   About Our Guest: Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of five books: “Choosing Marriage”, “True Love Dates”, “Love In Every Season”, “Are You Really OK?”, and “Married Sex.” She's also the host of the hotline style “Love + Relationships” Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.   Notes and Quotes:  “Sex is a symptom of our need for connection and intimacy.” — Debra Fileta “If we want healthy relationships, we need to start with being healthy standing alone.” — Debra Fileta “When sex doesn't measure up to our expectations, we get confused.” — Debra Fileta “Sometimes you have to go backward before you can move forward because it helps with healing.” — Debra Fileta “What happens above the sheets, fuels underneath the sheets.” — Debra Fileta   Verses:  Ephesians 4:22–24 Hebrews 13:4   Links:  Debra's blog: https://truelovedates.com/  Get your copy of Debra's book “Married Sex” on Amazon   God Hears Her website God Hears Her newsletter sign-up: https://www.godhearsher.org/signup Subscribe on Apple Podcasts !  Elisa's Instagram: elisa morgan author Eryn's Instagram: eryneddy     Listener Advisory: Conversation about sex in marriage

(00:00-9:00): How do the mistakes of spiritual leaders impact the entire Church? Brian and Aubrey talked about this and commented on EJ Montini's Arizona Republic opinion article, “Would God really give a darn if a priest messed up a few words in a baptismal ceremony?” (9:00-19:34): Debra Fileta, Licensed Professional Counselor, Host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, and Author of True Love Dates & Love In Every Season, joined Brian and Aubrey to talk about her new book, “Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You're Doing, and Why It Matters.” Learn more about Debra's books and her podcast at truelovedates.com and connect with her on Twitter at @DebFileta (19:34-28:31): Brian and Aubrey reacted to an encouraging speech from L.A. Rams' Andrew Whitman after he was named the Walter Payton Man of the Year. (28:31-38:38): How can we encourage children to pursue their dreams? Brian and Aubrey discussed this and shared their thoughts on the NPR interview, “This 8-year-old's book is a hit at his library. He offers advice for aspiring authors.” (38:38-47:19): “Can We Really Turn the Corner on Mental Health?” Brian and Aubrey talked about Ryan Waller's Relevant Magazine article, and they reacted to the tragic news about Drayke Hardman, “Parents speak out against bullying after 12-year-old son dies by suicide” (47:19-56:19): Brian and Aubrey shared their thoughts on Courtney Ellis' guest post at Elisa Morgan's blog, “Do Something Useless.”  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pursuing Health in Four Key Areas with Debra Fileta   Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 (NIV)   Questions We Discuss: What are ways to pursue health holistically, including physically in our bodies, mentally in our thought life, emotionally in our feelings, and spiritually in our souls? What are a few of your tips to enhance our closest relationships?  How would you describe the "why" for pursuing health in all these areas?   Debra K. Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in Relationship, Sex, Dating, and Marriage issues. She is a passionate author and national speaker who travels across the country spreading the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Her work has been featured by numerous media outlets from national television to church ministries such as Saddleback Church, FreshLife Church, Focus on the Family, ChristianMingle.com, The 700 Club, NGEN Radio, KLOVE, and many more. She, her husband, and three children live in Lancaster, PA.   Debra is a regular contributor to publications such as Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com, with well over 250 articles across the web about love, marriage, dating, sex, and relationships. Her articles have also been featured in magazines and websites such as Today's Christian Woman, Verily Magazine, Anne Voskamp blog, Proverbs 31 Woman, IAmSecond.com, ChurchLeaders.com, Converge Magazine, Charisma Magazine, Christianity Today, and many others.   She's also the creator of the popular relationship advice blog, www.TrueLoveDates.com as well as the Love + Relationships Podcast reaching millions of people each year with topics of love, sex, marriage, relationships and emotional and mental health. Connect with her on Facebook or Instagram to get your dating questions answered and to learn more!   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.    Are You Really OK?   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Sam Leman Eureka   Other Savvy Sauce Episode Mentioned: Brain Science and Spiritual Abundance with Ken Baugh   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and goodies!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“  

The Mattsons invited Debra Fileta and Gary Thomas to talk about their new book, Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reclaiming Your Love Life.   For far too long, the church has remained silent on the topic of married sex. That's why we are doing a very short, but important series on sex in marriage. The importance of saving sex for marriage is  famously preached, but what about savoring sex after marriage? What happens when people who have been taught that their sexual desires are bad get married and want to instantly awaken their sex life? What happens when the church fails to promote the enjoyment of God's greatest physical gift to humanity? At best: mediocre sex. At worst: no sex. What happens when our expectations meet reality and we have to work at a our sex life.   Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season, as well as Are You Really OK? She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships.   Gary Thomas is a writer in residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, Texas, and an adjunct faculty member teaching on spiritual formation at Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, and Houston Theological Seminary in Houston, Texas. He is the author of 20 books, including When to Walk Away, Sacred Pathways, Cherish, and Sacred Marriage (over one million copies sold). He has a master's degree from Regent College and was awarded an honorary doctorate in divinity from Western Seminary. Gary has spoken in 49 states and 10 different countries.     Find Debra online: Facebook or Instagram @DebraFileta   Find Gary online: Garythomas.com Facebook @AuthorGaryThomas Twitter @garyLthomas Instagram @garythomasbooks   We love our listeners and our audience continues to grow. Welcome to our community! Join our monthly newsletters or subscribe to our weekly podcasts at livingwholehearted.com where you can learn more about how we are helping leaders like you, live and lead with integrity in the home, work and community. You can also follow us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson on Instagram or jeffterramattson and wearelivingwholehearted on Facebook.

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season, as well as Are You Really OK? She's also the host of the hotline-style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook or InstagramGary Thomas is a writer in residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, Texas, and an adjunct faculty member teaching on spiritual formation at Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, and Houston Theological Seminary in Houston, Texas. He is the author of 20 books, including When to Walk Away, Sacred Pathways, Cherish, and Sacred Marriage (over one million copies sold). He has a master's degree from Regent College and was awarded an honorary doctorate in divinity from Western Seminary. Gary has spoken in 49 states and 10 different countries.Married Sex Book Buy it Here: Follow The Story Box on Social Media► INSTAGRAM ► TWITTER ► FACEBOOK ► WEBSITE SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE! ► Apple Podcast ► Spotify WATCH HERE:► YouTube If you enjoyed this episode please subscribe to YouTube & Apple Podcasts, and leave a 5-star positive rating and review over on Apple Podcasts. Share it around with your friends and family.Support The Show Here:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/thestorybox. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week we are hearing from Debra Fileta, Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Here are three things to listen up for in today's episode: emotional black and blue buttons, burnout and Sunday night check ins. This episode reminds us to check in with ourselves and ask ourselves and those around us “Are you really okay?” and what to do when the answers no. Let's dive in.  Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.Order the Love or Work Book!Website: www.loveorwork.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/loveorworkLove or Work is a project of Plywood People.Plywood is a non-profit in Atlanta leading a community of start-ups doing good. www.plywoodpeople.com

Are you okay? As in, really okay? Or, do you go about your everyday responsibilities putting on a brave face for yourself and those around you, just pretending to be okay? If you can relate to the weight of wearing this mask, when deep down you are struggling, then this episode is for you! Today, Mary is joined by licensed professional counselor, speaker and author - Debra Fileta. Debra is also the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, and the writer behind the popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com. And today, Mary and Debra dig into Debra's new book, “Are You Really Okay? Getting Real About Who You Are, How You're Doing, and Why It Matters”. In this book, Debra challenges readers to get real with how you're doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing. On today's episode, Debra shares her firsthand knowledge that being a person of faith doesn't automatically mean you're healthy. Mary and Debra talk about what it looks like to be living in the social media times that says how you look through the filter on the outside is more important than what's going on in the inside; dig deep about things like trauma, anxiety, depression; and discuss how to deal with the negative things in life head on with the truth about who God says we are. After listening, you will be equipped to get to the root of what you believe about yourself, others, and God; recognize the influences of past traumas and replace them with God's truth; and, be ready to understand and express your emotions in healthy and helpful ways. If you are ready to get intentional about pursuing health in every part of your life, using a combination of science, psychology, and faith, you will not want to miss today's incredible episode! Snag Debra's book here! https://truelovedates.com/order/

Welcome to The Decoding Success Podcast for EP 185 featuring our friend, Debra Fileta.  SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE Debra K. Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in Relationship, Sex, Dating, and Marriage issues. She is a passionate author and national speaker who travels across the country spreading the message that healthy people make healthy relationships. Her work has been featured by numerous media outlets from national television to church ministries such as Saddleback Church, FreshLife Church, Focus on the Family, ChristianMingle.com, The 700 Club, NGEN Radio, KLOVE, and many more.  She is the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage:Why it Has To Start With We > Me and Love in Every Season.  She’s also the creator of the popular relationship advice bog, www.TrueLoveDates.com as well as the Love + Relationships Podcast reaching millions of people each year with topics of love, sex, marriage, relationships, and emotional and mental health.  To connect with Debra, find her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and her website.  To connect with Matt, find him on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, and his website.  Rate, Subscribe and Share!

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor, speaker and author. She also reaches millions of people and helps them attain healthy relationships through her blog, "True Love Dates", and her podcast, The Love + Relationships Podcast. Her brand new book "Are You Really Ok?" is out everywhere, which we discuss during this episode. Our conversation today includes:  - What is emotional health? - The danger in neglecting our emotions - How to assess our emotional health - How do emotions act as signals? - Identifying and healing toxic patterns - Why we choose “familiar” over “healthy” - How our our childhood impacts patterns of behavior - How to get healthy standing alone  Make sure you check out Debra's new book, and subscribe to this channel for more weekly content like this!

Debra Fileta shares an excerpt from her book, "Are You Really OK?" Episode 973: An Excerpt From "Are You Really OK?" by Debra Fileta on How Your Patterns Affect Your Relationships Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in dating, marriage and relationship issues, along with a spectrum of mental health disorders and issues. In addition to Are You Really OK?, she’s also the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, and Love in Every Season! Plus, she hosts the Love + Relationships Podcast, a hotline style show where people call in to get their relationship questions answered! Her popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships, and she is a regular contributor at Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com, with over 200 articles around the web about love, marriage, dating, and relationships. Excerpted with permission from Are You Really OK? by Debra Fileta published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Oregon, 97408. Copyright 2021, Debra Fileta. www.harvesthousepublishers.com More about the book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Are-You-Really-OK-Getting/dp/0736982515/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Are+You+Really+OK%3F&qid=1620312905&sr=8-2 Calm is offering a special limited time promotion of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at CALM.COM/ORD Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting

Debra Fileta shares an excerpt from her book, "Are You Really OK?" Episode 973: An Excerpt From "Are You Really OK?" by Debra Fileta on How Your Patterns Affect Your Relationships Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in dating, marriage and relationship issues, along with a spectrum of mental health disorders and issues. In addition to Are You Really OK?, she's also the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, and Love in Every Season! Plus, she hosts the Love + Relationships Podcast, a hotline style show where people call in to get their relationship questions answered! Her popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships, and she is a regular contributor at Relevant Magazine and Crosswalk.com, with over 200 articles around the web about love, marriage, dating, and relationships. Excerpted with permission from Are You Really OK? by Debra Fileta published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Oregon, 97408. Copyright 2021, Debra Fileta. www.harvesthousepublishers.com More about the book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Are-You-Really-OK-Getting/dp/0736982515/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=Are+You+Really+OK%3F&qid=1620312905&sr=8-2  Calm is offering a special limited time promotion of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at CALM.COM/ORD Please Rate & Review the Show!  Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group  Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts and join our online community: OLDPodcast.com/group   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalRelationshipsDailyMarriageParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep.6 - Andy King and Chuck Tate have a conversation with Debra Fileta — nationally know speaker, podcaster (Love + Relationships Podcast), blogger (truelovedates.com) and best selling author (True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love In Every Season). Debra is a licensed professional counselor who shares some timely relational insight and wisdom. The fun continues after this special interview with more zaniness from 'Tate and his Mate'.

In this episode Dr. Kim has long time friend of the podcast, Debra Fileta, back on the show talking about Love In Every Season.    Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships.    Dr. Kim and Debra discuss her latest book: Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship. Just as nature cycles through seasons, relationships rotate through stages that can either make or break your love life. Each season plays an important role in taking a relationship to the next level, and depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow or slowly die.    So many of you loyal listeners are in a season of transition right now or adjusting to your new season. This is a great conversation and Debra gives us some interesting things to think about and practical advice on how to love well in each season.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox!    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Just as nature cycles through seasons so do relationships.” - Debra Fileta “Relationships are like plants; if you give too little your relationships will die, but if you give too much your relationships will also die.” - Debra Fileta “A lot of people mistake selflessness for passivity.” - Debra Fileta “Conflict is the invitation to deeper connection.” - Debra Fileta “Compatibility is about our ability to come together in the ways we are different.” - Debra Fileta “Persevering through the hard times in marriage is part of God's plan for us and He walks with us through it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Seasons weren't meant to be stayed in. They are meant to be passed through.” - Debra Fileta “Whether or not we feel love we can plant the seeds of love in our marriage which will eventually bear fruit.” - Debra Fileta “If I'm only responsible for me and I can't change my spouse, what can I allow God to do in my heart?” - Debra Fileta “When we start getting healthy on our own it automatically moves our relationship in a healthy direction.” - Debra Fileta “If you feel stuck in a winter season of your marriage, I invited you to make an appointment with a licensed counselor who can help walk with you through that season and help you find the unhealthy roots that need to be snipped so new growth can happen in your life.” - Debra Fileta “Sometimes we get so used to the familiar that we don't realize the familiar isn't healthy.” - Debra Fileta “What you see in dating you will see in marriage.” - Debra Fileta “Healthy singles makes healthy dating which makes healthy marriages.” - Debra Fileta “You need to have people that love you and that love Jesus who are able to speak into your dating relationship and point out things they see in it that might not be healthy.” - Debra Fileta “There's no shame in struggling in marriage, it's just about how we allow God to use the struggle for His glory and for our health.” - Debra Fileta “How we love God really impacts how we love each other.” - Debra Fileta SPONSORS   Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code “awesomemarriage” for 15% off your order!    RESOURCES Buy Love In Every Season here now!  Check out Debra's older episodes: Parent's Responsibility In Dating Foundations of Healthy Dating & The Church's Role Choosing Marriage  Check out more great insights by Debra on her podcast.  Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Just as nature cycles through seasons, so do our relationships. No matter what relationship you are in, there are four stages that it will cycle through that spiritually and psychologically mimic the four seasons we see in nature.  In This #GritandGraceLife podcast episode, hosts Darlene and Julie chat with Debra Fileta who dives into the four stages every relationship cycles through. She explains how each stage is vital for building a deeper relationship, how we can find hope in knowing we will never get stuck in one stage, or “season”, and how to successfully navigate through each one.  Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in dating, marriage and relationship issues, along with a spectrum of mental health disorders and issues. Whether you are single, married, or single again, you will leave with actionable advice you can apply to any relationship in your grit and grace life.  Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Debra K. Fileta's work has been featured by numerous media outlets from national television to church ministries such as Saddleback Church, Focus on the Family, ChristianMingle.com, The 700 Club, NGEN Radio, KLOVE, and many more. She, her husband, and three children live in Lancaster, PA. She is the author of True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage:Why it Has To Start With We > Me and Love in Every Season. She’s also the creator of the popular relationship advice bog, www.TrueLoveDates.com as well as the Love + Relationships Podcast reaching millions of people each year with topics of love, sex, marriage, and relationships. Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter to get your dating questions answered and to learn more!   Quote of the episode: "Relationships are like plants, give them too little and they'll die, but give them too much and they'll also die." -Debra Fileta Follow us on Instagram! Check out these episodes we mentioned: What Today’s Dating Scene is Really Like – 094 and Want to Be a Strong Woman? Set Healthy Boundaries – 103 Don't miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – My Fiancé Ignored My Feelings—Should I Stay?, and Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Break Free From Codependency? Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife