Podcast appearances and mentions of debra fileta

Today we're closing out our Singles Series with Brittany from deep east Texas! One of my favorite parts of getting to know Brittany was learning about her heart for God's word and memorizing scripture, ever since she was young. We talk about the power that God's word has had on her life and how it's informed so much of who she is and how she chooses to live, and how growing up in a large family shaped the way she sees life, her leadership abilities, and her communication skills. It's a conversation about faith, family, spiritual leadership, unexpected heartbreak – and personal growth – and I know you'll be inspired by Brittany, and want to get to know her! Single guys, reach out to Brittany and say hello on Instagram or via email. **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion. Click here to WATCH the full episode. Podcast Extras: Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now! Relationships don't fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflic in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of nine books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances...

Today I'm chatting with Paaton from South Dakota, who's in a season where she's taking a personal challenge of saying YES to as many things as she can – to unexpected dates, to new friendships, to pickleball and burn bootcamp, to new friends, to adventure, to trying new things, and everything in between. She's in a season of transition, but she's leaning into the lessons of this season and trying to steward it well. You'll love this conversation and getting to know Paaton Karel, so follow up with her and connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paaton **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

On In The Market with Janet Parshall this week, licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta explained the 4 seasons of relationships and how to get the most out of each season. After sharing his harrowing first-hand account of the assassination of Charlie Kirk, Frank Turek explained what led our society to it current distorted view of reality. He explained the connection between reality and truth and how to fight this war with grounded biblical truth. Chuck Bentley opened our eyes to God’s hand at work creating, sustaining and driving the economy. Dr. Karl Payne was back offering his experience and biblical insight to answer some of your most challenging spiritual warfare questions. It’s time to dig deeper into some of the biggest headlines of the week.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today I'm chatting with Rob, a single man from Las Vegas, who is here to let you know that the Vegas stereotype is not always what you expect. He's an entrepreneur that moved to Vegas a few years ago, and has stayed there to pursue his career and invest in his community there. He's passionate about health and wholeness - spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and he really believes that real love does exist. He wants to keep growing in every area of his life. His dating journey has been discouraging thus far, but he believes that he will find love and have a family someday. Ladies, take a minute to start a conversation with Rob by connecting with him on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/itsrobanderson **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta uses the predictable patterns every relationship moves through­―what she calls the four seasons―as the roadmap for building a healthier, stronger connection. Just like the seasons shift, every relationship moves through different stages, each one bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth. How you show up in those seasons will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Join us for great conversation.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Guest host Rebekah Haynie talks with Heather Zeiger of the Center for Bioethics and Human Dignity the case of Baby Gabriel, a child who was brought to be through a surrogacy. But since he has a heart defect, the couple who would receive the baby requested him to be aborted before he was born.  The carrying mother refused and fled.  From a Christian viewpoint, what are the moral and ethical issues.  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, author of "People Skills," helps us work on our listening skills.  You can learn to listen better! The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

Today on the podcast I'm introducing you to Leah from Arizona, an amazing single woman whose life has taken an unexpected turn as a health and wellness influencer over the past few years. Leah went on a health journey of losing over 200lbs naturally and started sharing about her health journey on social media – which quickly gained attention. She's in a season of stepping into all the things God has for her - and hopes and prays that this journey will include a husband one day as well. We also spent some time talking through her “not my husband list” – the list of things that she considers a major turn off in the world of online dating…she wants to know if her list is reasonable, or unreasonable! It's important for us to know our NEEDS vs our PREFERENCES when it comes to dating, and this conversation will challenge you to take a second look at your list as well. You're going to love this conversation as well as Leah Mancuso, so reach out to her and make a connection! Email: leahhopehealth@gmail.com **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

In the busyness of life, marriage, and parenting, it's easy to neglect your emotional health. Licensed counsellor and mom, Debra Fileta, rewrites the script for navigating trauma and emotional triggers. Sharing examples from her own life, you'll discover practical ways to nourish the mental health of your entire family!

In the busyness of life, marriage, and parenting, it's easy to neglect your emotional health. Licensed counsellor and mom, Debra Fileta, rewrites the script for navigating trauma and emotional triggers. Sharing examples from her own life, you'll discover practical ways to nourish the mental health of your entire family!

The Singles Series continues with Malachi from Texas, who processes the journey of carrying past pain into relationships, and how it just bleeds into the next relationship, and the next one –  if you don't take the time to heal. In trying to run from his pain, he prolonged it and caused more pain along the way that led him down a path of addiction. But the past few years have ushered him into a season of intentional healing, facing the past, and healing from his past trauma as well as his past mistakes. He's desiring to do relationships in a way that honors God, and he's committed to staying faithful to the calling God has on his life for ministry. Not only that, but now he leads a freedom ministry, helping others get set free as well. He's moved from heartbreak into healing, and he's praying for a woman who can walk with him along that journey. Ladies, give Malachi a shout out and introduce yourself by contacting him at: Email: Malachi.av.burden@gmail.com or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/malachiburden_ **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Every relationship faces rupture — but the skill of repair is getting lost. Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins Dave and Ashley to talk about her new book People Skills and why loving difficult people well is one of the most important things we can do. She unpacks the rise of "cut-off culture," why we're too quick to label people narcissists, how to set boundaries that actually invite health, and the four levels of conversation that determine whether you feel truly connected in your marriage. Whether it's a spouse, a family member, or a coworker, this episode will help you love the difficult people in your life the way God loves us. Listener question: I feel like a roommate with my wife! Married 20 years with a 16, 14 and 9 year old and feeling emotionally, spiritually and physically disconnected. I've been patient since having kids spending years alone in the bedroom while she nursed, hoping our relationship would strengthen as the kids got older but it hasn't. We've talked a few times and I've shared books, podcasts, date night lists but can't get her to prioritize us. I'm slowly giving up and finding peace in solitude but am worried we're headed to a place where we can't come back from, and shared that worry. Any ideas on next steps? Get Debra's new book, People Skills: https://a.co/d/04U7eXjq Learn more about Debra Fileta: https://debrafileta.com Listen to Debra Fileta's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talk-to-me-the-debra-fileta-podcast/id1417804351 Learn more about Marriage Intensives: https://xomarriage.com We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Singles Series continues with Lauren from Indiana, who is learning to make the most of singleness, while she trusts God with her hopes for marriage. She just finished her degree to become a counselor, and she has a deep love and compassion for people. Not only that, but she's in a season of really enjoying her people – a strong community of friends that she's built around herself to do life with. We talk about how she's built community, and the importance role community, friendship, and intentional relationships has in her life. Then I process with her why a lack of community as a single person would actually be a red flag, as she's looking for someone to date and match her life and values. This is a really inspiring conversation if you're single, to encourage you to make sure you're really making the most of life. Gentleman, reach out and connect with Lauren Creek by starting a conversation with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/llcreek or Email: laurenc0629@gmail.com **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

People skills are essential for building meaningful relationships. Debra Fileta explores the different levels of communication that determine how we care for others, even through hard times. By looking at how we show up in conversation, Debra encourages us to walk in our relationships with greater humility and awareness, no matter the social temperature.Receive a copy of People Skills and an audio download of "Transform Your Relationships Through Better Communication" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.Get more episode resourcesDo you have a story or comment on how Focus on the Family impacted you or your family? Leave a message for Jim Daly! If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

We talk about healing as though it's inevitable. As though proximity to Scripture, therapy language, or Christian community automatically produces transformation. But God does not force anyone into wholeness. He invites. He confronts. He calls. And too many believers confuse awareness with growth. This week on Win Today, Debra Fileta joins me for a sober conversation about emotional health and spiritual maturity. We examine why so many Christians remain emotionally immature while sounding spiritually fluent, how "trauma-informed" has in some circles become trauma-defined identity, and why you cannot become spiritually mature if your mental and emotional life is neglected. Healing is not passive. It is participatory. If your faith is sincere but your reactions are volatile… if you know the right language but keep repeating the same patterns… or if you've mistaken self-protection for self-awareness, this episode will clarify what real growth actually requires. Guest Bio Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in relationship, marital, mental, and emotional health. She is the author of five books, host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, and founder of TrueLoveDates.com, a widely read relationship advice platform reaching millions worldwide. Known for her candid yet compassionate voice, Debra integrates clinical insight with Christian faith to help individuals and couples pursue emotional health and stronger relationships. Her work has been featured in outlets including Christianity Today, Focus on the Family, Relevant Magazine, Crosswalk.com, Charisma Magazine, and more. Show Partner SafeSleeve designs a phone case that blocks up to 99% of harmful EMF radiation—so I'm not carrying that kind of exposure next to my body all day. It's sleek, durable, and most importantly, lab-tested by third parties. The results aren't hidden—they're published right on their site. And that matters because many so-called EMF blockers on the market either don't work or can't prove they do. We protect our hearts and minds—why wouldn't we protect our bodies too? Head to safesleevecases.com and use the code WINTODAY10 for 10% off your order. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

People skills are essential for building meaningful relationships. Debra Fileta explores the different levels of communication that determine how we care for others, even through hard times. By looking at how we show up in conversation, Debra encourages us to walk in our relationships with greater humility and awareness, no matter the social temperature.Receive a copy of People Skills and an audio download of "Transform Your Relationships Through Better Communication" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive.Get more episode resourcesDo you have a story or comment on how Focus on the Family impacted you or your family? Leave a message for Jim Daly! If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

The Singles Series continues with Devon from Florida, who has learned the value of leaning into the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. Devon is pastor, coach, and single dad who has intentionally embarked on his personal healing journey, increasing in his emotional awareness, his conflict and communication, and his desire for authenticity. His past relationship history showed him his tendency to hide from hard conversations, and with the help of God and good counseling, he's taking the opposite approach in this season of life, which is to embrace the hard conversations with the people he cares about. We talk about how conflict can lead to deeper intimacy, why it's important to master relationship skills in dating, and what he's looking for in a woman. Single ladies, if you love Jesus, dimples, and hoop earrings (you'll have to listen to get that joke), send Devon Daniel a message and start a conversation:   Instagram:Instagram.com/Devon_Daniel Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devon.d.daniel/ Email: devon.daniel8282@gmail.com **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

The Summer Lovin' Singles Series continues today with Amanda from Florida! Amanda is in a season of “learning herself”. Her relationship with Jesus has been the solid rock of her life, and now she's learning to discover the intricacies of her personality and who God made her to be. Growing up in a family with eight siblings, she's embracing the beauty of discovering her true identity in Christ as an independent adult. She's balancing ministry, creativity, fitness, and fun in this beautiful season of life that she's working hard to savor, until God brings the right man into her life. You will love getting to know Amanda as much as I did, and you'll be inspired to discover yourself through our conversation. Single Christian guys, drop her a line and start a conversation with Amanda Gonzalez on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandapsalmist **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should  not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Grammy-nominated worship leader Stephen McWhirter wrote the hit song "Come Jesus Come" in the years following a radical encounter with the Lord. He left behind drug addiction and childhood trauma, dedicated his talents to leading others to Christ, and is sharing the story of how coming to faith changed every aspect of his life. Don't miss this powerful testimony on Takeaways with Kirk Cameron on TBN! Missed the last episode? Listen in as ⁠professional counselor Debra Fileta examines the impact of developing Christ-like connection. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH Takeaways with Kirk Cameron episodes for free on TBN+⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Each episode of Takeaways with Kirk Cameron features knowledgeable guests having a respectful and thoughtful conversation surrounding topics that are impacting our society every day. Kirk's hope is that you will walk away from this show with practical steps on how to better your family, your community, and your nation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Heather Zeiger of Center for Bioethics and Human Dignity talks about the "spud" cell created by scientist at the University of Minnesota that can divide and reproduce itself, well kinda.  Is it really "alive?" Also, she delves into the science behind soccer, plus what happened in Venezuela that caused the earthquakes.  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta of the Talk to Me, author of "People Skills," talks about how empathy is important in understanding others, even those who may have hurt you.  While certain behaviors should not be excused, they can at least be understood where they came from.  The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, on Karl and Crew, we continued our weekly theme, "Living Free," focusing on being free from people-pleasing. Debra Fileta, a faith-based professional counselor, joined us to talk about people-pleasing, why it often comes from fear and unmet needs, and how believers can learn to seek God’s approval above everyone else’s. Additionally, we had the President of the Pacific Garden Mission, Phil Kwiatkowski, join us to talk about the mission, the legacy of Unshackled, and how stories of changed lives continue to point people to the hope of Christ. The Founder and President of Iran Alive Ministries, Dr. Hormoz Shariat, joined us with an update on Iran following last night’s strikes, sharing insights into the regime, the pressure facing the Iranian people, and how the gospel continues to spread. We then opened the phone lines to hear from our listeners. We wanted to know who our longest listener was and asked them to call in. We then had Laurie Davies joined us to explain how emotional hoarding can keep us stuck, and how God helps us let go of the hurt, regret, and bitterness we’ve been holding on to. Laurie is the author of “Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck.” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Call Segments [ 00:49 ]Phil Kwiatkowski [ 12:25 ]Debra Fileta [ 20:26 ]Dr. Hormoz Shariat [ 34:12 ]Laurie Davies [ 46:13 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time for Summer Lovin'! I'm so excited for the conversations we'll be having over the next few months with both singles and married couples about the realities of navigating relationships well. Today begins our Singles Series where I'll be introducing you to a few Christian singles! Today I am talking to Pedro from Colorado, who is trying to navigate dating in a way that honors Christ. In this episode, Pedro shares his journey of faith, healing, and discovering healthy relationships rooted in God's love. We explore how different faith backgrounds influence our walk with God, the importance of boundaries, and the seasons of relationship growth. Give this conversation a listen, and ladies, connect with Pedro Lopez at:  Email: plopez5711@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lopez_805970 **A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Licensed Professional Counselor Debra Fileta joins Kirk Cameron to share how to cultivate strong relationships built on trust, humility and sincere communication. She also examines the impact of developing Christ-like connection with others. Don't miss this insightful interview on Takeaways with Kirk Cameron on TBN! Missed the last episode? Listen in as Tim Barton examines the strong Christian faith of many of America's founding fathers. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WATCH Takeaways with Kirk Cameron episodes for free on TBN+⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Each episode of Takeaways with Kirk Cameron features knowledgeable guests having a respectful and thoughtful conversation surrounding topics that are impacting our society every day. Kirk's hope is that you will walk away from this show with practical steps on how to better your family, your community, and your nation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exhaustion. Fatigue. Lack of Motivation. Apathy. Overwhelm. How do you know if you're burnt out – or if you're just dealing with hormones? Because we know that sometimes the two can feel like the same thing! Today I'm joined by Gina, who is calling in to process whether she's burnt out from a demanding career in full time ministry over many years without a break, or because she's in the middle of menopause? Which one is it, and how do you know the difference? And then – what do you do about it? We process how to differentiate between the two, as well as some of the overlaps between the two – and then we end with some practical advice, suggestions, and next steps for her as she commits to getting her body back to baseline and learning to care for her soul. Listen to this entire episode, and share with someone you know who might be in the thick of it right now! And then pick up a copy of the life-changing message of Soul Care and learn what it means to bring your body back to baseline and care for your soul! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Networkk and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

What do you do when you're in a relationship with parents – who don't seem to be interested in a relationship with you? What do you do if they seem avoidant, distant, or uninterested? Do you continue to engage and interact, or do you back away? Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by Debra from Canada who is wondering how to best navigate a relationship with parents that comes with pain, hurt, disappointment, and frustration. This conversation is a meaningful one for anyone who seems to have a complicated or complex relationship with their parents or their in-laws – how do you “honor” your parents when they make it very difficult? Listen to the entire episode today, and then go deeper with how to interact and engage with people by learning 31 skills that will make all your relationships stronger, by grabbing a copy of People Skills – because your relationships are only as strong as your skills! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

In this enlightening episode, Jonathan Pitts welcomes esteemed guest, Debra Fileta – a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author of bestsellers like Are You Really Okay?  Debra shares insights from her counseling practice, emphasizing the importance of maintaining balance in our personal and professional lives. Drawing from her own experiences, she discusses the power of boundaries, the significance of honoring one's humanity, and how to manage burnout effectively by using six rhythms.  Whether you're a leader, a parent, or someone seeking a more fulfilled life, this episode offers valuable takeaways for anyone who wants to live with intention and joy. Don't miss this candid discussion about growth, healing, and how small steps can lead to profound transformations.

What do you do when you're in the middle of a season of transition – but you have no idea what's coming up next? When you feel like you're in the middle of point A and point B, in the middle of the waiting, the unknown? What are some tangible things we can put into place in a season of transition, to keep ourselves from doubting and from fear? Today on the show, Ross calls in to Talk To Me about this time of transition, where he feels called to move forward from his current role in ministry – while not knowing for sure what's next. If you are waiting right now – whether it's waiting on a job, waiting on a spouse, waiting for healing, or waiting for next steps – this episode will encourage you and equip you with the mindset you need as you wait. Here's what you need to know while you wait. Tune in to this entire conversation and then go deeper during your season of waiting by grabbing a copy of Soul Care, and learn what it means to care for your soul while you wait.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

In this week's episode, Pastor Julie continues her conversation with counselor, author, and people skills expert Debra Fileta for a practical yet powerful conversation about what it really takes to build healthy relationships in today's disconnected world.Together, they unpack why this has become the loneliest generation and how isolation and “no-contact” culture are shaping the way we relate to one another. This conversation also gets personal and practical as they talk about triggers, emotional patterns, body language, and the hidden wounds that often show up in our reactions. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of how to recognize unhealthy patterns, how to keep your heart tender without losing healthy boundaries, and how God uses relationships—not isolation—to bring healing and growth.Deb's Latest Book: People Skills (https://a.co/d/00Ls5AyB)Subscribe to Shownotes Plus (https://rock.gocf.org/page/2849)Learn More About Sisterhood (https://www.christfellowship.church/sisterhood)Keep Up with Pastor Julie (https://www.instagram.com/juliedmullins/)© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

In our fast-paced culture plagued with burnout, stress, and chronic fatigue, we often find that we're functioning out of emptiness. Counselor Debra Fileta shares from her book "Soul Care: Find Life-Giving Rhythms-Live Restored-Avoid Burnout *Discover Unspeakable Joy." Get soul care resources here Originally aired August 26, 2025 Check out Susie's podcast God Impressions on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here

Cynthia Scott, author of "Celebrating God, Our Founder," helps us reflect on the people of faith and the Biblically-infused understanding of liberty that were essential to the founding of the United States.  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, author of "People Skills," reminds us of all God's says over us: His affirmations of us. From there, we can graciously engage others around us.  The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

Where is God in the middle of our pain and brokenness? Where is God in our trauma and tragedy? That's a real question that Jermaine Wilson had to face as a young man in his 20s – facing years in prison, and months in complete isolation. Jermaine's avoidance of his pain, led him down a life of more pain – facing prison at the age of 15. He spent over seven years in prison, much of that in complete isolation – where he was FORCED to face his pain in a way many will never have to. Where is God in the middle of our pain? Where is God when we cry out to him in our lowest moments? Does He even hear us? Does He even care? Jermaine's story of pain and wrestling with God will challenge you, and it will bring you to tears to see the hand of God in the middle of some serious and heart-wrenching pain. You will see God show up in ways you couldn't have imagined – and it will give you hope in your own pain. Jermaine's story is a reminder of the pain and brokenness that's happening every day behind closed doors – and a powerful look at the church INSIDE and what God is doing even in the most darkest places.  Friends, this on-air counseling session is especially meaningful to my heart – because my family and I are spending the weekend serving with Prison Fellowship at their Angel Tree Sports Camp, and getting a front row seat into what God is doing in some of the most difficult pain people are enduring. Consider learning more about Prison Fellowship and supporting their incredible, life-changing ministry HERE.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Are you living life on empty? Licensed counselor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In a 6-part process that Debra calls “Soul Care,” she goes through the life and rhythms of Jesus to discover how we can care for our souls. Instead of living unsatisfied, we can experience renewed energy, purpose, and strength to serve others like never before! Soul Care Counseling Consultation and Referrals 40 Self-Care Ideas for Achieving True Rest What to Do When You're Not Okay (Part 1 of 2) If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family Weekend, please give us your feedback.

Today on the show I'm joined by Angie, who's greiving the fact that her adult daughter went “no contact” recently, withdrawing from family activities and isolating her daughter from seeing her grandma. Angie is grieving both the loss of her relationship with her daughter as well as her granddaughter, and wondering if there is anything she can do to move toward reconciliation and connection. I talk her through the building blocks of a safe relationship,what she can and what she can't do, and what it means for her to work on creating a space of safety and security for her adult daughter and their relationship with one another, even through their differences. According to Angie, their differing political views have kept her daughter away, so we spend some time talking about navigating the difficult territory when there is a stark contrast of views and perspectives between two people, whether politically, theologically, or otherwise. This episode is more important in this generation and culture than it ever has been before, so take the time to listen, process, and learn alongside Angie. To go deeper in your relationships with others, grab a copy of People Skills and learn the skills you need to strengthen your relationships.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

In this week's episode, Pastor Julie sits down with counselor, author, and friend of the podcast, Deb Fileta, for a conversation that has the power to transform every relationship in your life. Together, they unpack why healthy relationships don't happen by accident, and why the strength of our relationships is often tied to skills we were never taught.From understanding your communication style to learning how to express your needs with confidence and grace, Deb shares practical wisdom that will help you move from people-pleasing, passivity, and resentment toward healthier, more honest connections. Whether you're navigating marriage, friendships, family dynamics, or leadership, this conversation will equip you to show up differently and build stronger relationships.Deb's Latest Book: People Skills (https://a.co/d/00Ls5AyB)Subscribe to Shownotes Plus (https://rock.gocf.org/page/2849)Learn More About Sisterhood (https://www.christfellowship.church/sisterhood)Keep Up with Pastor Julie (https://www.instagram.com/juliedmullins/)© 2022 Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Jord A Lil Music (BMI) / Doejones20 (BMI) (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

Today on the show I'm joined by Melissa who is calling in to get help dealing with her anger issues. She's noticing that her anger outbursts are getting less controlled, and has noticed losing her temper in the car as well as in public – at the bank, for example. She's not sure where these patterns of anger have come from, and she feels like she's tried everything to try and break free from her anger with no success. We process what her anger means, what emotions it represents, and then we look for trigger patterns to trace what may be the underlying root of her anger issues. We make some serious progress in this session, as I help her track the underlying issue that's been holding her back. If you struggle with anger, listen to this episode and start putting the pieces together in your own life so that you can respond to the signal of anger instead of simply reacting to it. Listen to this episode, and then go deeper on your own journey of healing by connecting with one of our faith-forward counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Licensed counselor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In a 6-part process that Debra calls “Soul Care,” she goes through the life and rhythms of Jesus to discover how we can care for our souls. Instead of living unsatisfied, we can experience renewed energy, purpose, and strength to serve others like never before! Receive the book Soul Care plus a free audio download of the program "Godly Rhythms to Help You Live Life to the Full" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Licensed counselor and author Debra Fileta is back for her third appearance, and this one hits different — she's here to talk about the skill we're all convinced we already have. Levi and Jennie dig into Debra's new book People Skills, unpacking why our tech-saturated world is quietly eroding our ability to connect, why most of us privately think this book is for someone else (spoiler: it isn't), and how communication styles — passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive — show up in something as simple as a wrong order at a restaurant. Plus: Debra shares the moment God changed her perspective on public speaking anxiety, Jennie confesses she's a chameleon in social situations, and Levi admits cocktail parties are somehow scarier than 10,000-person crowds. Connect with us on social! Debra: @debrafileta Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Get Debra's book People Skills: https://bit.ly/4fco6Vl Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:07:46 – Introducing People Skills — and Jennie's very tabbed-up copy 00:08:26 – Why we're losing the art of real human interaction 00:18:44 – The room full of strangers exercise: how do YOU show up? 00:25:45 – Stop focusing on what they give you, focus on what you can give 00:49:10 – Passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive

Licensed counselor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In a 6-part process that Debra calls “Soul Care,” she goes through the life and rhythms of Jesus to discover how we can care for our souls. Instead of living unsatisfied, we can experience renewed energy, purpose, and strength to serve others like never before! Receive the book Soul Care plus a free audio download of the program "Godly Rhythms to Help You Live Life to the Full" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Sensitive Content Disclaimer: The following conversation includes sensitive information, covering themes of abuse. Today on the show I am joined by my friend Tim Ross for an on-air counseling session as we process the concept of vulnerability in relationships. What does it mean to be vulnerable? I guide him through the analogy of seeing vulnerability like a pool – equipped with both a shallow end and a deep end. Vulnerability means to go first, to take that first jump, and to invite people to the deep end of your life, and share authentically. He opens up about the moment that changed everything for him, where he decided that he will never keep a secret again, and his journey toward being open and honest in every part of his life. We process through both the benefits and the risks of vulnerability, how to find friends who are willing to go there, and why being open and honest is not a gender thing – it's an invitation to all. This episode is filled with lessons to learn and things to process about your own life, and what holds you back from sharing authentically. Don't miss this on-air session, and then go deeper with your relationships by grabbing a copy of People Skills.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

My friend Debra Fileta sat down with me to share her perspective on people skills, and it totally shifted how I show up in my relationships. Not only is Debra a wife, mother, and professional counselor, but she's also the author of nine books, including her latest book, People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills. You'll love hearing her expert advice for navigating relationships with intentionality and vulnerability. Highlights from Today's Episode Receiving the right feedback Tracking patterns of tension Easing into vulnerability Related Resources Connect with Debra Fileta on Instagram or Facebook. Grab a copy of Debra's latest book, People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills. Visit Debra's website to learn about her books, podcasts, and counseling offerings. Check out this previous episode with Debra, reminding us that It's Time to Heal. CLICK HERE FOR FULL SHOW NOTES The post #574 – Do You Have People Skills? with Debra Fileta first appeared on Chrystal Evans Hurst.

Devices and social media have "connected" us to each in amazing ways, but many struggle with real life relationships—or face to face communication. On this Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, counselor and author, Debra Fileta wants to help you reclaim the art of connection. How do we build stronger relationships and less social anxiety? Hear the encouragement on Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman. Featured resource: People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your SkillsDonate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/buildingrelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on the show I am joined by Kirby Kelly for an on-air counseling session, as we process her past trauma of growing up with alcoholic parents. In this emotional conversation, Kirby opens up specifically about her complex relationship with her mother, who continued to relapse into addiction to alcohol until she passed away unexpectedly in 2023. Kirby is now expecting her first baby girl, and a new layer of trauma and mother wounds has made its way to the surface of her life. She is dealing with a layer of new emotions as she grieves for the mother she never had, and also grieves the fact that her mom will not be here with her during this vulnerable season of her life as she herself becomes a new mom. We process the concept of God showing up to her as a good father, but what it means to ask him to fill in the gaps of our mother wounds as well. This episode is SO powerful, vulnerable, and emotional – and is so necessary for anyone who can relate to experiencing the trauma of mother wounds. Go deeper in healing from the trauma of your past, with my book Are You Really OK?  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

“We talk all the time, but I still feel alone in my marriage.” If that sentence has ever crossed your mind on a Tuesday night, mid-load of dishes, with your partner three feet away, you are not imagining it. And you are not the only one. In this episode, I sit down with Debra Fileta, the licensed therapist who has spent more than twenty years in clinical practice helping couples figure out exactly this. Debra is the author of nine books and the host of the nationally syndicated podcast Talk To Me, and her newest book, People Skills, is built around an idea that I think is going to be a relief for a lot of you. Most relationship pain is not a love problem. It is a skill problem. And skills can be built. In This Episode The three levels of communication, and why almost every couple stalls at level two without realizing it Why “we talk all the time” is not the same thing as feeling close, even after twenty years of marriage The thirty-minute weekly ritual Debra and her husband John have used for fifteen years to keep their marriage from drifting Why being “nice” is not the same as having strong people skills, and the people-pleasing trap that masquerades as kindness How to tell the difference between a one-time conflict and a relationship pattern that is pointing at something deeper The volume-dial reframe for couples where one partner feels everything at a 7 and the other at a 3 The empathy practice that takes thirty seconds and changes the way you see almost everyone in your life Why “I keep attracting the wrong people” is the wrong question, and the better one Debra asks instead Why This Matters This episode is for anyone who has caught themselves thinking, something has shifted between us and I cannot put my finger on what. For the partner who feels like they are always the one initiating real conversation. For the couple who used to talk for hours and now mostly talks about logistics. For anyone who has wondered if needing more depth in their marriage is asking too much. It is not. And the way back is more learnable than you might think. Episode Breakdown 02:30 It is Not a Lack of Love, It is a Lack of Skill 06:30 Patterns vs. Pain Points (How to Tell If You Are the Common Denominator) 10:30 Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (And How to Change Your “Magnet”) 14:00 The Three Levels of Communication: Why Most Couples Never Get Past Level Two 17:30 Duck Floaty or Scuba Diver? The Sunday Night Check-In That Saved a Marriage 23:00 When One of You Feels Everything at a 7 and the Other at a 3 29:30 The Yalom Story: How to Actually Look Out Your Partner's Window 33:00 Trauma Does Not Excuse Us, But It Does Explain Us Resources Free Communication Training (two-part video plus workbook) Work with a couples counselor or relationship coach on my team If something in this conversation lands somewhere specific for you, that is the signal to do something with it. Start with the free communication training at growingself.com/communication. It is two short videos and a workbook, and you can do it this weekend. And if you want to go a little deeper, we do free first conversations at growingself.com. No pressure, no commitment, just a real conversation about what is actually going on in your relationship and whether what we do here might be a fit. I will see you back on the podcast soon. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.

Today I have an on-air session with Christian Bevere, as we processed some of the mistakes she made during her dating days, including dating from places of insecurity, as well as the unrealistic expectations she placed on what dating was “supposed to” look like or feel like in that season of life. We then talk through how unrealistic expectations continue to play out, if we're not careful, even in marriage. We unpack how family dynamics and Christian culture can influence our perspectives on dating and relationships for both the good and bad, and how there can almost be a “desperation” for relationships, that lead us to looking for love in the wrong places. If this episode resonates with you, check out True Love Dates to learn more about becoming healthy standing alone, and attracting and engaging in healthy relationships.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Most couples go through a season where you're not connecting like you want. Erin Smalley addresses how spiritual connection matters, and that a lot of couples are struggling in this area. Plus, Jim Daly and Debra Fileta give some thoughts for getting on the same page spiritually again. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Love in Every Season for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage Counseling Consultation and Referrals Conversation Starters for Date Nights Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.