Podcast appearances and mentions of debra fileta

I'm having an on-air counseling session with Jinger Duggar, a member of the reality TV show family, the Duggars, whose show chronicled the everyday life of this conservative family of 19 children. She talks about growing up in a strict religious upbringing, how it impacted her life, her faith in God, and her people-pleasing tendencies. We talk about the extent of people pleasing she struggled with, and the combination of nature/nurture that shaped her life…and what it has looked like to begin to “undo” that process in this season of her life. It's a powerful conversation and one you don't want to miss. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Justin called in to Talk To Me, because he's struggling with his self-worth and inner critic. The negative voices are loud, and seem to be controlling his life. He has a hard time tuning them out, and wants to know where they are coming from and what he can do about it. I help him get to the roots of where this strong negative self-worth might be coming from, and how to deal with his inner critic. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is it that some people have a harder time saying no, and setting boundaries than others? Today on the podcast, Ashley calls in to talk to me about her struggle with saying no. She has a really hard time, feels guilty, and ends up feeling drained and depleted. I help her dig into the reasons why she struggles to say no, and what to do about it. If you struggle with boundaries, and saying no — this episode is for you.  You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I'm talking with Haven who has struggled in her life to feel and believe the false narrative that it's all on her. She has to do it all. She has to save everyone, help everyone, do everything — be all things to all people. It's all on her. This mindset has caused her to struggle over the years…and she's having to unlearn some of these unhealthy narratives and get to the root of where they came from to begin with. She has to learn that it's NOT all on her. And today, I help her unpack some of these belief systems and begin to change the narrative. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by Chris (and his puppy!) who is on a journey to becoming emotionally healthy but needs some direction and help. He wants to take ownership and have insight on his emotional health and he's looking for some practical next steps on what that actually means. How do you define emotional health and how do you begin the journey? I help him unpack this concept and give him some practical steps to becoming emotionally healthy!! If you've ever wondered how to become emotionally healthy, this episode is for you! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Russel, a businessman who doesn't know how to rest. He's starting to feel the symptoms and effects of burnout in his life, but doesn't understand why the act of resting seems so difficult for him. What do you do when you don't know how to rest? I help him get to the bottom of his struggle with rest, and offer him practical next steps to help him get to a healthier place. You can also ⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At Cherry Hills Community Church on Mother's Day Weekend, Debra Fileta shared a powerful and encouraging message based on her new book Soul Care. She talked about how taking care of your soul—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—is just as important as taking care of your body. Debra encouraged everyone to be honest about what's really going on inside and to let God into those deeper places. She reminded us that healing doesn't happen by accident—it takes intention, courage, and faith. Her talk was full of hope, honesty, and practical advice for anyone ready to start their own soul care journey.

Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you. Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by my friend Davey Blackburn. Davey's story made national headlines when his wife was brutally murdered, and he was left to pick up the pieces of his broken life. Where was God in all of this? How do you navigate this level of suffering? And what does it mean to forgive the unforgivable. This raw, honest conversation with Davey on suffering and forgiveness will help you as you navigate your own suffering and pain. You can also ⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠, ⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This might be our most power-packed episode yet! Licensed therapist and best-selling author Debra Fileta (Soul Care, Reset) joins Alisa to explore why emotional triggers might be your invitation to deeper healing. With her faith-forward approach to counseling, Debra shares how triggers are clues to unresolved pain—often rooted in the past—and how to invite God into your healing journey.   Connect with Debra and her team of licensed counselors at debrafileta.com. You can also listen to her on her podcast. Spots still available! We know that dealing with ongoing health struggles and frustration with your body can be exhausting. It's time to shift your perspective and stop viewing your body as a problem to solve. Discover your path to healthy living through Christ at the Revelation Wellness Health Summit! Get connected: revelationwellness.org | Instagram | YouTube Please consider following this show (and sharing it with a friend), leaving a review, and telling us what you think with a voice message! If you leave us a voice message, be sure to include the episode number. Follow | Leave a Review | Send a Voice Message

This might be our most power-packed episode yet! Licensed therapist and best-selling author Debra Fileta (Soul Care, Reset) joins Alisa to explore why emotional triggers might be your invitation to deeper healing. With her faith-forward approach to counseling, Debra shares how triggers are clues to unresolved pain—often rooted in the past—and how to invite God into your healing journey.   Connect with Debra and her team of licensed counselors at debrafileta.com. You can also listen to her on her podcast. Spots still available! We know that dealing with ongoing health struggles and frustration with your body can be exhausting. It's time to shift your perspective and stop viewing your body as a problem to solve. Discover your path to healthy living through Christ at the Revelation Wellness Health Summit! Get connected: revelationwellness.org | Instagram | YouTube Please consider following this show (and sharing it with a friend), leaving a review, and telling us what you think with a voice message! If you leave us a voice message, be sure to include the episode number. Follow | Leave a Review | Send a Voice Message

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Junior who is struggling with his Anger issues...he finds himself quickly getting angry as his default emotional reaction, and he wants to get to the roots of his anger issues, so he can solve this problem once and for all. If you've struggled with anger outbursts or unexpected rage, and you're hoping to try and get some control of it, this episode is for you. We talk about how to deal with anger issues, what anger really represents, and what to do about it. For anyone who struggles with anger issues, you don't want to miss this conversation on Talk To Me. You can also ⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠Choosing Marriage⁠, ⁠Are You Really OK?⁠, ⁠RESET⁠, and ⁠Soul Care⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠Talk To Me⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠Instagram⁠ or at ⁠DebraFileta.com⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Jess is joined by licensed counselor, author, and speaker Debra Fileta to explore the transformative message behind her newest book, Soul Care. Together, they dive into what it truly means to live full instead of empty in a world that often glorifies hustle and burnout.Jess and Debra have a heartfelt conversation about burnout, boundaries, and the importance of creating intentional rhythms of rest and renewal, especially for leaders, caretakers, and those pouring into others.Whether you're in ministry, leadership, or simply navigating a full life, this conversation will encourage and equip you to pursue health that lasts from the inside out. Let's Go.Don't Miss:Become a part of the Fully Awake Women's Club! Calling all women who have ever felt weary, defeated, heavy, or tired. We're starting a club, and you're invited. ⁠Join Here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leaders are Learners!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join Jess's book club ⁠here⁠, where you'll read transformative books together. We are currently reading ‘⁠Soul Care⁠' by Debra Fileta. Interested in having Jess come to speak at your event? ⁠Book Jess today!⁠Connect further with Jess:⁠https://jessconnolly.com⁠ | ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠hello@jessconnolly.com⁠

Today on the show I talk to Stephanie May Wilson, who after having twins, and moving to another country, is processing the fact that life has been harder than she expected it to be…and she's struggling. What do you do when life feels harder than you expected, and you start to question yourself? Is it supposed to be this hard? And is it this hard for others? What do you do when your personal inadequacies start to creep in, and how do you overcome them? This powerful conversation is for anyone who feels like life is hard. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into: The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships. Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve' undermines connection. Understanding the anatomy of an affair and how to safeguard your marriage. The concept of marrying your emotional equivalent and its impact on relational dynamics.   In a culture that often glamorizes the idea of effortless romance, Gabe and Rebekah present a refreshing narrative—one that champions resilience, mutual growth, and the beauty of navigating challenges together. Whether you're single, engaged, or have been married for years, this conversation offers invaluable perspectives to cultivate a relationship that not only endures but flourishes. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you.  Today on the show I talk to Daniel, who is asking how he should know when it's time to consider depression medication. As Christians, we believe in prayer, we believe that God can heal us, and we believe that He is able to heal…so when do we make the choice to take medication to help us with our mental health struggles? What are the signs and symptoms to know it's time to consider the help of medicine? This is SUCH AN IMPORTANT conversation for the church at large…and for anyone who is battling depression and anxiety. Tune into this episode on when to take medication for depression and anxiety. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the show, Alison talks to me about the fact that she finds herself saying “YES” to the needs and requests of others, when she really should be saying no, because she doesn't have the bandwidth or capacity to do it, and she finds herself bitter, burnout, and resentful. Why does she have this pattern and where does it come from? Today on Talk To Me, we dig deep and find out where this pattern started and the answer will surprise you as much it surprised her because it goes way back, farther than she ever expected.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've talked about the fact that many women struggle to ‘flip the switch' and enjoy married sex, and we've talked about what might contribute to that. But we haven't talked about what husbands can do to help their wives enjoy sex. Juli shares a conversation from Gary Thomas' Podcast where she was a panelist alongside Debra Fileta and Belah Rose.   Host: Gary Thomas   Featured Speakers: Dr. Juli Slattery, Debra Fileta, MA, LPC and Belah Rose   Gary's Website: garythomas.com Gary's Newsletter: garythomasbooks.substack.com   Book: Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, MA, LPC Book: Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery   Juli's Website: authenticintimacy.com Debra's Website: debrafileta.com Belah's Website: delightyourmarriage.com   Please support Joy and Zack Skarka on GoFundMe   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

On this episode I have an on-air counseling session with Annie F. Downs who talks to me about a difficult season she faced after facing a breakup followed by the devastating loss of her nephew followed by physical health struggles all in the same time-period, dealing with grief upon grief upon grief. We talk about all the difficult feelings that come up during hard seasons when we're feeling overwhelmed, and what on earth we're supposed to do with all the hard feelings…especially for people who have a tendency to run from the hard feelings, or to numb the hard feelings. If you're walking through any sort of heartbreak or grief or pain right now, this episode is for you. We will get through this together.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you seem drawn to the same type of person, but that “type” is someone who is emotionally unavailable? Why are certain people drawn to these types of unhealthy cycles of relationships, and how do you break the cycle? Today I talk to Erica, who is tired of emotionally unavailable men, and wanting to understand her role in attracting these types of relationships. Listen into this powerful conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to get attached to a relationship you made up in your mind? Today Denise calls in to talk to me, because she's struggling to let go of a relationship that she has been imagining in her mind, and wanting to embrace reality. After many years of casually interacting with someone that she has feelings for, she's ready to let it go and move forward into a realistic perspective of their relationship. But she needs help…so listen along to this interesting conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather Zieger of the Center for Bioethics & Human Dignity talks about a man who consistently donated blood, to save many lives and the significance of the upcoming blood moon. Counselor and psychologist Debra Fileta, host of Talk to Me, shares about where we find our hope and how to reach people who don't truly believe that God loves them. Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

Katie comes to talk to me today about a breakup that she's second guessing. We processed why she broke up with him, and then talk through some of her regrets. What happens when you look back and realize you might have made a mistake in breaking up? Where do you go from there? How do you know whether or not it was the right decision? This episode is powerful for anyone who can relate to second-guessing yourself after a breakup.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm joined by entrepreneur Anthony O'Neal, for this on-air counseling session where we process his feelings and desires as a successful, single, bachelor. He's building his life, his business, and his world…but he has no one to share it with, which takes a toll on him emotionally. We talk about what to do with the desires, how he's handling singleness, and so much more. It's a powerful conversation so make sure to tune in! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Couples Therapy I talk with Brooke and Wiley, who are struggling with his over-reactive triggers to simple questions. Wiley is tired of her questions, but Brooke feels like she can't ask anything without it turning into a fight, and she's not sure how to deal with it. We turn the tables on Wiley and help him identify why this might be the case, and how to begin identifying the root cause of his triggers. It's a powerful conversation of learning to go back and heal the past, in order to heal the present. If you get triggered by the same thing again and again, this conversation is one you don't want to miss.  You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 – A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Couples Therapy, I sit down with my friends and pastors Irene and Jimmy Rollins who are in a seriously stressful season of life right now, which is starting to impact their marriage. The build-up of stress has caused new tensions, and without the old unhealthy coping skills of addiction to default to — they're having to pave a new path this time around. We talk through the stress they're facing, and how they can actually help one another — by learning what it truly means to help themselves. It's an eye-opening conversation for married couples about the possibility of developing codependency in marriage, and an important reminder about how continuing to focus on individual healing will always overflow into marriage. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 – A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you're living on empty, it's tempting to reach for things that don't satisfy. Licensed counsellor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. She'll walk you through the life and rhythms of Jesus so you can experience renewed energy and purpose to serve others like never before!

When you're living on empty, it's tempting to reach for things that don't satisfy. Licensed counsellor Debra Fileta highlights ways to “fill up” physically, emotionally, and spiritually. She'll walk you through the life and rhythms of Jesus so you can experience renewed energy and purpose to serve others like never before!

I recently had the incredible opportunity to be a guest on Gary Thomas' podcast. If you've been around Delight Your Marriage for a while, you know what a dear friend Gary has been to this ministry. Not only is he a best-selling author and speaker, but he's also been so generous in inviting us to share on his platform in the past. And this time? I got to be part of a panel alongside two truly amazing women: Juli Slattery—President and Co-Founder of Authentic Intimacy and author of several life-changing books, including God, Sex, & Your Marriage and Rethinking Sexuality. Debra Fileta—Creator of the #1 faith-based relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life and Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love (among many others). We came together for a powerful discussion about helping wives awaken to intimate pleasure—such an essential and often overlooked topic. The wisdom and insights from these women were just incredible, and I cannot wait for you to hear this conversation. Here were some key takeaways from our panel discussion: The Challenge of Awakening Sexual Fulfillment For so many women, the journey toward enjoying sex in marriage isn't a simple switch—it's a process. If you've spent years saying "no"—whether because of purity culture, past wounds, or just never learning that sex is a gift—it makes sense that "yes" doesn't come easily. And you are not alone in this! How Husbands Can Help Their Wives Awaken to Pleasure Men, you've likely never been discipled in how to help your wife step into her own sexual enjoyment. Many husbands enter marriage assuming their wife will naturally embrace sex, but the reality is, she may feel lost, hesitant, or even afraid. This is where your role as her safe place matters deeply. Here are some questions that Debra suggested as conversation starters on sex: What's something you're looking forward to in our sex life? What's something that makes you nervous or unsure? What beliefs about sex do you want to hold onto, and what do you want to let go of? Overcoming the Weight of Purity Culture Many women who "did everything right" and waited for marriage still find themselves struggling. Why? Because purity culture often framed sex as something to avoid, not as a gift to embrace. As Juli Slattery puts it, "Just because I waited, doesn't mean I know how to start." That's the truth. And if this is you, grace upon grace, my friend. Sexual wholeness isn't about following a list of dos and don'ts. It's about stepping into the fullness of what God has given and allowing Him to reframe any distorted views we carry. The Power of Emotional & Spiritual Connection Debra Fileta says, "What you do above the sheets paves the way for what happens under the sheets." I could not agree more. Emotional and spiritual safety fuels physical intimacy. Husbands, if your wife doesn't feel safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished, her body won't naturally respond to you with desire. So, before you think about sex, think about: Playfulness in everyday life (it builds intimacy!) How you affirm and admire her body How well she feels known and cherished by you It's Not About You, It's About Her A massive shift for many husbands is realizing that sex in marriage isn't just about "getting my needs met." If your wife doesn't feel safe, it's no wonder intimacy feels like a duty rather than a desire. You have an opportunity to disciple your heart in a new way. Instead of seeing your wife as the "acceptable outlet" for your sexual needs, ask: "How can I be the safest place for her to enjoy intimacy?" When she feels safe, she will want to engage. Not out of obligation, but because she feels free to. How to Move Toward More Desire in Marriage Wives, rather than wondering and praying, "Why am I broken?" for not wanting intimacy, instead ask, "How can I cultivate a desire for intimacy?" Some ideas: Non-sexual sensual touch with no pressure Playfulness in your daily life (This is huge!) Embracing a "turning a dial" rather than "flipping a switch" approach to intimacy    Addressing Past Trauma & Emotional Wounds Even in strong marriages, past sexual trauma or unhealthy conditioning can affect intimacy. And let's be real: just having a great marriage doesn't mean sex will be effortless. For some, the body's response to past wounds will still show up. That's okay. It's part of the journey. Healing takes time, patience, and sometimes outside help. If this is part of your story, give yourself permission to process what's needed. The Role of Faith & Hope in Sexual Fulfillment God is a God of hope. If your marriage has felt disconnected, there is hope. If you've never truly enjoyed sexual pleasure, there is hope. Your story isn't over. Pursue wholeness—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—and trust that intimacy can be more fulfilling than you ever imagined. Final Thoughts Husbands: Emotional and spiritual intimacy first, pleasure follows. Wives: You are not broken. Your pleasure matters. Both: Intimacy is a journey, not a destination. Keep taking steps, and trust that God is working in it all. Friend, you are not alone. Your marriage can grow, your desire can awaken, and your intimacy can thrive. Keep leaning in, keep growing, and keep trusting that God has more for you than you even realize. Be blessed! Love,   Belah & Team  

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates (our last “Quickie”), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what's next—what do you do with all that's been shared in these 12 days of Quickie episodes. We also share some recommended resources to help you take the next step in your marriage and sexual intimacy. Questions to Discuss:Which episode of the 12 days of Quickies was most helpful to you?What's something you learned in this series that you want to apply in your marriage?Are there some concepts discussed in these episodes that would be good to discuss with community to help encourage and challenge each other? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaWebsite – Authentic IntimacyPodcast – Christian Sexuality – Java with JuliPodcasts – The Naked Marriage Podcast with Dave & Ashley Willis and Marriage on the Line with Dave & AshleyBook – A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds, by Douglas RosenauBook - Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference, by Shaunti Feldhahn and Michael Sytsma

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some frequently asked questions about sex, including questions about cussing in the bedroom, sexual abuse, can I say “No,” sex during menstruation, and more. Scriptures:1 Corinthians 7:1-5Hebrews 13:4Ephesians 4:29  Questions to Discuss:How do you handle it in your marriage when one of you is in the mood for sex and the other isn't?Is there any part of your past/your story that would be helpful to discuss a counselor or doctor to get some help and guidance?What questions do you still have about sex and marriage? Email them in to marriage@harriscreek.org for future episodes. Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaWebsite – Authentic IntimacyMinistry for those who have experienced sexual abuse – Courageous Hope at Harris CreekBook – Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault, by Justin & Lindsey Holcomb

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question about orgasms—for him, for her, and the elusive unicorn of mutual orgasm. We also discuss some common differences between the male and female orgasm.  Questions to Discuss:Have you and your spouse discussed your expectations about how to please each other?How can you take one step to help your spouse reach orgasm?How do you do in giving feedback to each other in the bedroom? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaPodcast – The Naked Marriage Podcast – Should We Orgasm Together?Website – Authentic Intimacy

Elyse Fitzpatrick, author of "Unloved," offers hope for those who feel unloved by looking at various people in the Bible who were unloved, but whom God showed great love toward. Counselor and psychologist Debra Fileta, host of Talk to Me, talks about ways to make Valentines more meaningful, either as a married or a single person.   Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here  

Have you ever wondered, “Why do we keep having the same fight?” Today on Talk To Me, I have an on-air Couples Therapy session with Jeff and Michelle who don't understand why, after all of their years in marriage ministry and helping other couples, they can't seem to help themselves. They keep having the same fight over and over again (and you'll be surprised when you find out what it's about). I help them get to the roots of the reason why, and give them a plan to move forward. It's a really important session to listen to if you're struggling with the same cycle of conflict over and over again. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question— how followers of Christ should think about and make decisions about birth control. What does the Bible say and how Christians should think about birth control. Scriptures:Psalm 127:3Romans 12:21 Cor 6:19-20 Questions to Discuss:Have you and your spouse discussed your views about birth control?Take some time to pray about what God would have you do regarding birth control. Do some research about birth control and discuss with your doctor and your community as needed. Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaPodcast – More Than Roommates Episode 42 – When's the Right Time to Grow Your Family?Website – Authentic Intimacy

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common myths and stereotypes about sex drive, desire, and frequency and some potential differences between men and women.  Questions to Discuss:What's the biggest challenge you face in your marriage related to sex drive, desire, and frequency?Have a conversation with your spouse about the topics raised in this episode. Make sure you listen well and seek to understand. Resources:Book – Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference, by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael SytsmaBook – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaPodcast – Married with Benefits (FamilyLife Network)Website – Authentic Intimacy

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss common challenges couples face with sexual intimacy. These challenges (such as past abuse and trauma, physical pain, guilt and shame) are more common than we might realize, and if you're struggling, you are not alone! Scriptures:Romans 8:1Genesis 32 Cor 5:17 Questions to Discuss:What's been the biggest challenge the two of you have faced in sexual intimacy?Who can you connect with to discuss any issues/challenges you face/could face when it comes to sexual intimacy? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaWebsite – Authentic Intimacy

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how sex changes in different seasons of marriage – newlyweds, with a newborn, with kids in the house, empty nest, and everything in between. Scriptures:1 Peter 3:7Genesis 2:25Song of Solomon Questions to Discuss:How can you best serve each other in marriage and sexual intimacy in your current season of marriage?What's one challenge you anticipate in the season ahead and how can you proactively address some of the potential challenges? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss whether or not it's within bounds to “have a quickie.” We discuss different ways to think about sex depending on your schedule and margin, and how to have a healthy rhythm of intimacy.  Questions to Discuss:1. Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to quickies?2. How can you make space for more extended time for intimacy together? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaThe Naked Marriage Podcast

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss specific questions of what's in and out of bounds in the bedroom. What does the Bible say about specific questions such as pornography, masturbation, positions, oral sex, and so much more.  Scriptures:Hebrews 13:41 Cor 6:18Ephesians 5:3MT 5:27-281 Cor 10:31 Questions to Discuss:1. What are some ways you can honor your spouse and serve them in the bedroom? Discuss with one another.2. Take a few moments to pray and ask God to help you honor God and your spouse when it comes to what's in bounds and out of bounds. Pray for grace, patience, and tenderness with one another. Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some general principles of what's in bounds and out of bounds in the bedroom. Sex cannot involve others besides your spouse (Matthew 5:27-28), cannot involve willingly hurting your spouse against their will (Philippians 2:3-4), and cannot violate your or your spouse's conscience (Romans 14). Come back tomorrow as we get even more specific. Scriptures:MT 5:27-28Phil 2:3-4Rom 14 Questions to Discuss:1. Have you and your spouse ever discussed what's in bounds and out of bounds in your bedroom?2. Take a few moments to pray and ask God to help you honor God and your spouse when it comes to what's in bounds and out of bounds. Pray for grace, patience, and tenderness with one another. Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta

Couples Therapy is BACK!!! And I am so excited about the couples we have joining us for the month of February for the Couples Therapy Series.  So what's the newlywed stage really like for Instagram Relationship influencers Kait and JJ Tomlin? Today in this on-air session, I dig deep with Kait and JJ and talk through some of the newlywed struggles and hardships that have come in these early years of marriage and getting used to one another. We talk about the bad habits, conflict, and situations they've struggled with, and how it's been harder than they expected. But then we offer some strategies and steps to moving forward into creating the marriage they want to have. It's an important episode for those of you in the early years of marriage or who one day hope to be! And for those of you who are feeling stuck and need a little encouragement. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about Sex! In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of talking about sexual intimacy in marriage and why couples often struggle to discuss sex. Part of the reason why so many couples struggle in their sex life is because they don't talk about it. Scriptures:Genesis 2:25Ephesians 4:29 Questions to Discuss:How do you and your spouse do at talking about sexual intimacy? Why is it sometimes challenging for you and your spouse to discuss sexual intimacy?How can you and your spouse create a marriage where you are fully known and fully loved?One of the best ways to help you communicate more effectively about sex is to read a book about sex together. We highly recommend the book Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta.Write down 2-3 adjectives about how you feel about sex and marriage. Share your responses with your spouse. There's no wrong answer! Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta

In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott kick-off a series of “quickies” about sex and the most frequently asked questions about marital sex and intimacy. In this first episode we discuss a Christian, biblical theology of sex—we want to help you think rightly about the gift of sex. Scriptures:Song of Solomon 1:2, 5:11 Corinthians 10:31Phil 2:3-4Genesis 2:24-25 Questions to Discuss:Why do you think that sex is so significant in marriage/to married couples?Do you believe God delights in you as a married couple when you're sexually intimate together? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta

Today we talk to Susie who has struggled with body shame for many years, and is trying to break free. Body shame can impact people of all ages and stages of life, and for Susie, it's been holding her back in many areas. She's looking for a RESET in how she views herself and freedom from self-critique and self-hatred. I help her unpack where her body shame began, and give her steps to take in order to move toward freedom in this area of her life. If you've ever struggled with body shame, this episode will help you and challenge you to do things differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do after you crash & burn from burnout?  I was talking with a girlfriend the other morning over coffee and we realized it's not “have you experienced burnout” it's “what did it look like?” When I look back at the time I've run into that issue I can point back to being either hurt, depleted of energy, giving more than I really had to give OR I'm giving something my all and things don't seem to be successful and I become apathetic, jaded, exhausted... So it's not only a question of "how did I get here?" It's also a question of "how do I get out of it? And how can I avoid this again in the future?" My guest for this episode was the author of a book that spurred on these questions for me as I read it alongside my mom book club recently. Debra Fileta wrote “Soul Care” and it's about finding life-giving rhythms, live restored, avoiding burnout and discovering unspeakable joy.  Some of my favorite quotes from the book... “Burnout is the body's way of crying out for us to pay attention. It's the SOS signal from our nervous system telling us to stop and care for ourselves. But rather than see the signs of burnout as a signal to stop and fill up, so many people do the exact opposite - they try to push through” “Whether we're self-absorbed or self-neglecting, we will end up becoming the center of our own worlds.” “When you're drained, empty and depleted what do you run to? Most often our method is the thing we do as quickly as possible with whatever is available around us...But let me assure you that is the exact opposite of soul care, because soul care is intentional and thought out”  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk to Me I am joined by Kelsey who is struggling with scrolling. She doesn't know why she defaults to scrolling on her phone when she wants to, and often needs to, do something different. We go deeper and unpack the WHY underneath her behaviors, and find that her screen time is actually a signal of something else going on underneath the surface. If you've ever struggled with too much screen time, this episode will help give you perspective and challenge you to do it differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back! Today, I'm thrilled to have Debra Fileta joining us. You might remember her from Smart Girl Summer last year, and I couldn't think of a better way to kick off the new year because she's written an excellent book on soul care.   In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of soul care. We'll cover everything you need to know: what to focus on, what pitfalls to avoid, and actionable steps to nurture your soul.  Timestamps: (01:35) - Why We Christian Women Struggle With Self-Care (It's Not Just You!) (05:24) - Reading Scripture Through the Lens of Our Trauma And the Traps We Fall Into (11:55) - Self-Care vs. Soul Care: What's the Difference?  (19:29)  - Honoring Our Capacity With Jesus as Our Example (26:25) - Debra's Top Recommendations    Debra's Recommendations:  The song that Debra is loving right now is On Time God by Women Evolve Worship. It's really good and is exactly what I need right now.   Her fun TV recommendations are The Great British Baking Show and Junior Bake Off. It is so relaxing and the pace is great.    Books that Debra has told someone they need to read are Imagine Heaven by John Burke and Heaven is Real by Todd Burpo and Lynn Vincent. It's a really good conversational piece to talk through the beliefs our kids have.   Watch on YouTube   Links to great things we discussed :    Debra Fileta On Time God - Women Evolve Worship The Great British Baking Show Junior Bake Off Imagine Heaven Heaven is Real Pineapple Cutter Remaining You While Raising Them   I hope you loved this episode!

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kirk Cameron is joined by Tara Leigh Cobble to discuss the significance of the ultimate Christmas gift as she shows us how the story of Jesus' birth is woven through Scripture. Don't miss this insightful interview on Takeaways with Kirk Cameron on TBN! Missed the last episode? Listen in as Debra Fileta shares how to prioritize soul care during life's busiest seasons! WATCH Takeaways with Kirk Cameron episodes for free on TBN+! Each episode of Takeaways with Kirk Cameron features knowledgeable guests having a respectful and thoughtful conversation surrounding topics that are impacting our society every day. Kirk's hope is that you will walk away from this show with practical steps on how to better your family, your community, and your nation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, “How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?” After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed… And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different… But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices