Optimal Relationships Daily

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2659: Shana Olmstead offers a thoughtful lens on how evolving spiritually often means reevaluating our relationships through a process she calls “friendventory.” By tuning into the energy we feel around others and embracing necessary changes, we make space for higher-vibe connections that support our growth and authenticity. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://shanaolmstead.com/2018/07/24/friendventory-our-vibe-attracts-our-tribe/ Quotes to ponder: "A true soul pod member gives you energy instead of depleting you, is positive and uplifting, like your inner supportive cheerleader, and has your back." "As we increase our consciousness it becomes more and more uncomfortable, until it is impossible, to maintain these relationships." "It is really ok to have awareness of what needs to change for a while before you are actually ready to make a move." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2658: Crystal Karges shares ten deeply personal lessons from her decade-long marriage, revealing how love evolves through adversity, forgiveness, and quiet perseverance. Her reflections offer a heartfelt reminder that love is not just a feeling but a deliberate, ongoing act of grace, patience, and mutual growth, especially in life's most unglamorous moments. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.crystalkarges.com/blog/10-lessons-i-have-learned-about-love-in-a-decade-of-marriage Quotes to ponder: "Love may not always be a romantic gesture of flowers and chocolate. Love acts selflessly, even when the feelings are not there, and shows kindness by doing things that are hard, uncomfortable, and unglamorous at times." "Love is a choice, a decision to give without expectation of reciprocity to another flawed person; but choosing to love is always the best decision." "Like a seed that deepens its roots in the hidden darkness of the soil, so is love that grows steadily in the quiet places." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2657: Keith Wilson explores how restorative justice, typically used in the criminal justice system, can bring meaningful healing and accountability to personal relationships after a betrayal. By focusing on responsibility, clear amends, and mutual participation, this approach offers a path to true reconciliation rather than shallow forgiveness or destructive retaliation. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://medium.com/hello-love/restorative-justice-in-your-relationship-c9f0112d9c10 Quotes to ponder: "Restorative justice is only possible if your wife is ready to take responsibility for the affair." "The best amends are measurable, attainable, and concrete." "If she follows through with her promises, then you let it go. That's your promise." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2656: Ross Enamait delivers a powerful reminder that we each hold the ability to choose how we respond to life's challenges, regardless of circumstance. Highlighting discipline, accountability, and personal responsibility, he argues that lasting change begins with refusing to make excuses and owning every choice. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://rosstraining.com/blog/2008/07/19/the-power-of-choice/ Quotes to ponder: "I do not care who you are, where you are from, or what kind of past you have endured. You still have the power to choose." "Hard work is a choice. Making excuses is a choice. Blaming others is a choice." "If you want to do something, do it. If not, don't. Just don't waste your time coming up with excuses." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2655: Dr. Diana Kirschner offers empowering dating advice for women feeling drained by modern dating apps and bad dates, showing how a shift in mindset can reignite your hope and success in love. With practical tips like lowering expectations, staying playful, and embracing support, she reveals that the path to lasting love starts with joy, commitment, and openness to the unexpected. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovein90days.com/dating-advice-taking-a-break/ Quotes to ponder: "Don't go into every date hoping this man is your potential husband. So just relax and enjoy the process." "Dating is truly a numbers game, where you want to meet lots of guys to get to the prince." "You can't solve a problem with the same kind of thinking you used to create it." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2654: Adina Soclof emphasizes that self-control is a foundational skill for children's long-term success, both academically and socially. Through real-life strategies and age-appropriate dialogue, she explains how parents can nurture this essential trait in their kids by turning everyday moments into powerful teaching opportunities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://parentingsimply.com/child-needs-to-succeed/ Quotes to ponder: "Self control is one of the most important character traits that your child needs to succeed." "In essence, managing the waiting in pleasurable ways is the secret to learning self-control." "You can give your child what he needs to succeed by engaging in some constructive dialogue." Episode references: The Marshmallow Test by Walter Mischel: https://www.amazon.com/Marshmallow-Test-Mastering-Self-Control/dp/0316230871 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2653: When parenting feels like balancing on the edge, Alyssa of Your Unbusy Life.com reveals how setting clear boundaries, not relying on willpower, can help you stop yelling and create a calmer home. Learn how to recognize your limits, communicate them to your kids, and prioritize your well-being so everyone benefits from a more peaceful, connected family life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://yourunbusylife.com/stop-yelling-at-your-kids/ Quotes to ponder: "I cannot handle their playlist on repeat for 40 minutes at full volume. I can handle it for 40 minutes at low volume, or I can take it at high volume for 10 minutes." "If you say, 'I am about to lose patience with you,' watch how fast they start to reform." "You need to know that, and then build that into your days." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2652: When partners grow distant, it's easy to feel lost and unsure how to reconnect. Melissa Josue offers compassionate, practical advice on navigating emotional withdrawal, emphasizing healthy communication, respecting boundaries, and recognizing where responsibility truly lies in a relationship. Discover how to foster openness without falling into the trap of trying to rescue or fix your partner. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://melissathelovecoach.com/my-boyfriend-doesnt-talk-to-me-like-he-used-to/ Quotes to ponder: "He's responsible for reaching out and getting help with those things if and when he wants it." "Your openness invites his openness." "We can't be responsible for our lover's emotional journey. Or for his healing. Or for his choices." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2651: Mindful dating, as explored by Ira Israel, invites us to move beyond superficial swipes and scripted encounters to build genuine, compassionate connections. By recognizing our own attachment patterns, projections, and facades, we can approach relationships with greater authenticity, integrity, and patience. Listeners will gain insights into how to cultivate intimacy in today's fast-paced, tech-driven dating culture. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://iraisrael.com/mindful-dating/ Quotes to ponder: “Some people feel as if technology is helping them connect but it can also be argued that Facebook and Twitter delude people into believing they are interacting when they actually are not receiving the tactile affection they crave.” “The problem is as follows: the most propitious tools for making relationships succeed - authenticity and authentic communications, may not be the most alluring traits when dating.” Episode references: The Newsroom (Season 1): https://www.hbo.com/the-newsroom We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love: https://www.amazon.com/We-Understanding-Psychology-Romantic-Love/dp/0062504363 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2650: Understanding jealousy through April Eldemire's insights helps transform it from a destructive force into a path for deeper connection. By identifying personal vulnerabilities, communicating openly, and setting healthy boundaries, partners can build greater trust and intimacy. Listening offers valuable guidance on turning difficult emotions into opportunities for growth and resilience in relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/why-do-we-get-jealous-in-relationships/ Quotes to ponder: "I believe that every person has areas of enduring vulnerability. For a marriage to succeed, these vulnerabilities need to be understood and honored." "Feelings aren't facts. Are you imagining things that aren't really there?" "Show one another how much you value each other by putting your relationship before your work, your coworkers, and your friends." Episode references: The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran (for the “spaces in your togetherness” quote): https://www.amazon.com/Prophet-Kahlil-Gibran/dp/0394404289 Daring Greatly: https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2649: Many of us have a highly sensitive person in our lives, and Cat Rose offers a compassionate guide to better understanding their needs. From creating peaceful spaces to allowing freedom of choice and avoiding harmful phrases, these insights help foster deeper connection and respect rather than just cautious accommodation. Listeners will gain practical tools to support HSPs while building more authentic, balanced relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/things-every-sensitive-person-needs-from-loved-ones/ Quotes to ponder: "Simply by giving an HSP a little more time to get back to you, or letting us know you aren't in a rush can be a huge relief for us." "Peaceful and quiet environments are where HSPs thrive." "Being a highly sensitive person isn't a choice or something that a person can change." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2648: Many of us judge actions by their results, but Greg Audino invites us to reflect on the power of supporting good intentions, even when outcomes disappoint. Drawing inspiration from Jurassic Park's Dr. Alan Grant, Audino explores how validation of sincere efforts helps build resilience, encourage growth, and foster stronger connections. Learn how reframing your response to intentions, yours and others', can be a transformative practice in relationships and personal development. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://medium.com/@gregglesaudino/jurassic-park-and-when-good-intentions-go-south-c8cd6587424c Quotes to ponder: "Some of the worst things imaginable have been done with the best intentions." "Behavior goes where reinforcement flows." "Supporting good intentions not only goes a long way in encouraging others to continue leading with them, but also propels people to explore how they can achieve better results." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2647: Dr. Kelly Flanagan reveals how recognizing the four distinct types of anger, defensive, frustrated, scared, and righteous, can transform the way we respond to life's challenges. By shifting from impulsive reactions to thoughtful examination, we can break destructive cycles and cultivate greater peace, authenticity, and compassion in ourselves and our communities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/the-four-kinds-of-anger-and-how-to-handle-them-better/ Quotes to ponder: "Anger is just an emotion. It's immaterial. It's ephemeral. It's a ghost." "Your Defensive Anger will keep you focused on the problems in everyone else." "Most Scared Anger, when handled well, makes the world a more vulnerable and authentic place." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2646: Cara Harvey highlights the power of teamwork and consistency in creating a bedtime routine that not only helps kids sleep better but also nurtures independence, life skills, and deeper family bonds. By involving both parents when possible, fostering connection through reading, prayer, and song, and sticking to predictable patterns, families can enjoy more peaceful evenings and meaningful moments with their children. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://apurposedrivenmom.com/bedtime-routine-kids/ Quotes to ponder: "When Dad is around he can join in without a hitch." "Each night you go through your routine with your child is another night of teaching them how to take care of themselves." "Never having bedtime battles is awesome, but what is even better is the peace and time you get out of it as a parent." Episode references: 1000 Books Before Kindergarten: https://1000booksbeforekindergarten.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2645: Discover how Cara Harvey shares practical strategies to create a smooth, stress-free bedtime routine for kids. Learn simple steps to reduce chaos, foster connection, and help your children wind down with ease - so evenings become a time of calm rather than conflict. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://apurposedrivenmom.com/bedtime-routine-kids/ Quotes to ponder: “Our kids thrive on the fact that they know what is coming next. Routines give them a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline.” “If there is one thing that I cannot stress enough is how consistency with a bedtime routine has made such a huge impact.” “Each night you go through your routine with your child is another night of teaching them how to take care of themselves.” Episode references: 1000 Books Before Kindergarten: https://1000booksbeforekindergarten.org Baby Sleep Made Simple Program: https://www.babysleepmadesimple.com/programs-2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2644: Dr. Timothy Loving sheds light on why some newlyweds feel unexpectedly down after their big day, revealing how mindset and expectations around weddings can shape early marital satisfaction. By comparing the perspectives of "blue" brides to those of happier ones, this piece offers clear, actionable insights to help couples better prepare for a fulfilling life together beyond the aisle. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.luvze.com/something-old-something-new-something-borrowed-something-blu/ Quotes to ponder: "Blue brides were more uncertain about what life and marriage has in store for them after the wedding compared to happy brides." "Blue brides view the end of their weddings as a loss rather than a gain, which is not a particularly promising way to start a marriage." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2643: Evan Marc Katz helps a self-aware woman navigate the conflict between love and ambition in her long-term relationship. Through compassionate questioning, he invites her to weigh the irreplaceable value of emotional safety against her desire for intellectual and professional stimulation, reminding us that no partner can fulfill every need, and that acceptance might be the most underrated form of love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/chemistry/my-boyfriend-is-wonderful-but-not-ambitious-or-successful Quotes to ponder: "You're not shallow for craving conversation that doesn't revolve around pop culture." "It's a failing proposition to expect one man to be all things to you." "The ability to quote Proust pales in comparison with the person who will drive you to your chemo treatments in thirty years." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2642: Eddie Corbano breaks down ten critical red flags that signal a relationship may be deteriorating, urging readers to recognize subtle shifts before it's too late. His insights help listeners build awareness, foster honest communication, and make empowered choices when love starts to fade. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovesagame.com/10-big-red-flags-your-relationship-is-going-downhill/ Quotes to ponder: "Trust is not only the foundation of a healthy relationship, it is also the glue that holds everything together." "Distance can be physical or emotional, and both are dangerous." "When two people don't talk anymore, their connection dies a slow and silent death." Episode references: Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2641: Dr. Margaret Rutherford shines a compassionate light on the hidden roots of common couple conflicts, revealing how everyday arguments often mask deeper needs like trust, gratitude, and vulnerability. Learn five destructive patterns of bickering and five transformative strategies to replace them with understanding, empathy, and emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/5-common-ways-couples-bicker-and-fuss-and-five-strategies-to-stop/ Quotes to ponder: "Contempt is the number one communication quality that kills a relationship." "Blame is easy. The second is much, much more vulnerable and thus, more difficult." "People who are truly secure in and of themselves don't have to be right." Episode references: Pia Mellody's Work - Facing Codependence: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Codependence-What-Really-Recovery/dp/0062505890 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2640: Elle Martinez reveals a powerful yet often overlooked financial strategy for couples: living on one income while saving the other. Backed by real-life success stories, she explains how this approach can dramatically accelerate financial independence, reduce stress, and create stronger teamwork in your relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com/the-easiest-way-to-build-wealth-as-a-couple Quotes to ponder: "One of the best things you can do is learn to budget and live on one income." "The key factor to retiring early is the percentage of your income compared to your expenses." "You two are an awesome team that can achieve some great things when you work together!" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2639: Kathy Robinson reflects on the powerful emotional and wellness benefits of reconnecting with family, especially across generations. Her story highlights how simple gatherings rooted in shared heritage can rekindle deep bonds, honor our ancestors, and strengthen the legacy we pass on. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://athenawellness.com/blog/2022/10/1/the-importance-of-gathering Quotes to ponder: "We shared collective memories of the neighborhood, the church, the smell of my grandmother's cooking, family celebrations, how we played in the apartment hallway and ate at the kid's table in the kitchen." "There was also a sense of rejuvenation that lasted long into the week emanating from genuine connection and belonging that comes from being in the community of our extended village." "It doesn't have to be fancy. Our recent gathering was a picnic with a 3' hero and a cooler of beer." Episode references: Ellis Island: https://www.statueofliberty.org/ellis-island Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2638: Shawna Scafe shares how planning solo retreats can empower moms to reclaim time for work, rest, and personal fulfillment. By intentionally stepping away from daily demands, moms can prioritize overdue tasks, enjoy true relaxation, and return home feeling recharged, with a renewed sense of ownership over their schedules. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://simpleonpurpose.ca/mom-retreat-ideas/ Quotes to ponder: "Because nobody is going to just hand you this time, you need to make it for yourself." "No matter what tasks have piled up on the back burner for you, it can be tough to MAKE THE TIME." "Having time blocked off for you allows you to show up and have fun with whatever is happening in your day because you know that time is coming for you to do what YOU need to do." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2637: Adina Soclof offers insight into the temperament trait of sensitivity, helping parents understand and support children who experience the world more intensely. By teaching kids to name and manage overwhelming sensations and emotions, parents can replace frustration with empathy, laying the foundation for emotional intelligence and self-awareness. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://parentingsimply.com/the-sensitive-child-helping-him-reach-his-potential/ Quotes to ponder: "Sensitive kids need to possess in their vocabularies the words that help them communicate their profound emotions and sensations they experience." “You reminded Shane of the prizes she could get if she finishes her work to help cheer her up, that is called being kind.” “Someone called me a complainer. I was really hurt, but I said to myself, ‘that is not true, I usually don't complain, I am going to try not to let what she said bother me.'” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2636: Alysha Jeney explores how feelings of rejection can trigger unconscious behaviors that sabotage connection, especially in close relationships. By encouraging self-reflection and mindful communication, she shows how to turn emotional sensitivity from a source of pain into a pathway to empowerment and deeper understanding. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.modernlovecounseling.com/things-dont-realize-youre-feeling-rejected-criticized/ Quotes to ponder: "Victimization and empowerment are on the same coin. It can be difficult to flip over, but it's not impossible." "I needed to desperately feel validated and accepted, but because of my unprocessed sensitivities and premature reactions, I wasn't ready to take accountability for what I could control to make it better." "You cannot speed and drive recklessly, while expecting everyone else to abide by the rules." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2635: Melissa Josue offers a powerful reminder that lasting connection thrives on clarity and collaboration. By getting clear on your individual dreams and then intentionally building a shared vision with your partner, you create a meaningful path forward, one that supports both fulfillment and emotional intimacy. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://melissathelovecoach.com/how-to-keep-from-growing-apart/ Quotes to ponder: "Your success and fulfillment comes from fully expressing and living your Vision." "Creating a shared vision is so important because it's about creating a path where you have shared dreams and goals and so you're working toward something together, instead of growing farther apart." "Discontent and frustration are powerful teachers, and with the right tools, can guide us to the deeply fulfilling life and relationship that we really want." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2634: Melissa Josue shares a deeply personal moment of disconnection in her marriage and the powerful realization that helped her shift from self-pity to shared purpose. By embracing the concept of a shared vision, she reminds us that growing together rather than apart begins with taking responsibility for our choices and intentionally co-creating a life with our partner. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://melissathelovecoach.com/how-to-keep-from-growing-apart/ Quotes to ponder: "I needed to recognize that it's a shared journey. Not just my journey, but his journey, his kids' journey, even his exes' journey, too." "If you're not sharing a path or on parallel paths, then you're on diverging paths." "Happiness is an inside job." Episode references: Conscious Dating by David Steele: https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Dating-Finding-Right-Without/dp/0975500570 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2633: Kyle Benson unpacks how shifting from criticism to expressing vulnerable wishes can dramatically improve conflict resolution in relationships. By identifying the underlying needs beneath frustration, couples foster deeper emotional connection and transform arguments into moments of intimacy and understanding. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/transforming-criticism-into-wishes-a-recipe-for-successful-conflict/ Quotes to ponder: "You are such a baby. You interrupt me and then walk out of the room, which makes me feel like the bad guy. No wonder I don't want to have a baby!" "I want to be able to speak with you about how I feel about having a baby right now without you leaving the room or getting upset with me before I'm done talking." "I want us to discuss issues calmly without either of us raising our voices. That's what I need to stay in the room and truly listen to you." Episode references: Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) by Stan Tatkin: https://thepactinstitute.com/what-is-pact/ Daring Greatly by Brené Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2632: Elly McGuinness explores how self-sabotage in relationships can mirror patterns in our nutritional choices, revealing how unresolved emotional blocks often drive unhealthy habits. By unpacking the subconscious roots of both relationship and food-related behaviors, she offers a path to greater self-awareness and emotional balance. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://ellymcguinness.com/blog/sabotaging-relationships-nutrition/ Quotes to ponder: "Many people don't realize that some of the same patterns that lead to self-sabotage in relationships can also show up in their relationship with food." "We often know what to do to nourish ourselves better, but we don't always do it." "Until we resolve these underlying issues, we will likely continue to attract or stay in relationships that are not truly supportive, and we may also continue to sabotage our own health goals." Episode references: Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT): https://www.thetappingsolution.com/ Dr. Nicole LePera - The Holistic Psychologist: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2631: Keith Wilson shares a powerful metaphor for emotional healing through a story of helping a hoarder clean his home only to realize that letting go is more than just tidying up. By introducing a physical tool for emotional release, Wilson invites us to consider what grudges, regrets, or emotional baggage we've kept around simply because we haven't emptied our “inner garbage cans.” Read along with the original article(s) here: https://keithrwilson.medium.com/take-out-the-garbage-f761df97f876 Quotes to ponder: "You can't just, one day, say you're going to let go of all your grudges, and be done with them. You can say that, but they come back." "The last thing you'll let go will be the impulse to convince her she's wrong." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2630: Julie Morgenstern explores the hidden cost of hyper-independence, revealing how trying to "do it all alone" often leads to burnout and disconnection. By shifting from self-reliance to strategic collaboration, listeners can unlock greater productivity, deeper relationships, and sustainable success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.juliemorgenstern.com/tips-tools-blog/2020/1/10/dont-do-it-all-alone Quotes to ponder: "Trying to be everything to everyone, all by yourself, is not a badge of honor, it's a recipe for exhaustion." "Inviting support into your life is not a weakness; it's a strength." "The truth is, none of us is meant to go it alone." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2629: Stephanie Wiggins explores the raw emotional terrain of parenthood, unraveling the often-unspoken reality that parenting rarely matches our expectations. With unflinching honesty, she sheds light on the grief, identity shifts, and deep personal growth that emerge when we embrace the gap between idealized visions and lived experience. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://corelivingessentials.com/parenting-is-not-what-i-expected-what-happened/ Quotes to ponder: "Parenting, for me, was not what I expected - and no one really warned me." "There was grief. Deep grief. And anger, too." "I had to go back and rescue myself from the pressure of perfection." Episode references: The Conscious Parent: https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Parent-Transforming-Ourselves-Empowering/dp/1897238452 Hold On to Your Kids: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375760288 Raising Good Humans: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Good-Humans-Conflict-Reducing/dp/1684033888 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2628: Shelby Forsythia shares a deeply practical and compassionate approach to managing anticipatory grief by creating a personal escape plan for when devastating news arrives. This strategy helps transform unpredictable emotional overwhelm into a sequence of intentional, self-loving actions that offer safety, stability, and support during life's hardest moments. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://medium.com/@shelbyforsythia/crafting-an-escape-plan-for-your-grief-5e3e2d48ffe7 Quotes to ponder: "A grief escape plan is a premeditated plan of exactly what you want to take place after you get the call." "A grief escape plan is a form of self-love that goes beyond the bubble bath." "This is an exercise in creating a loving safety net for yourself." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2627: Renee Benes shares how truly connecting with others starts by shifting from self-focused narratives to deep, intentional listening. Through relatable stories and grounded spiritual insights, she invites us to embrace our shared humanity, release judgment, and begin with compassion, for others and ourselves. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.thefunsizedlife.com/talk-to-anyone/ Quotes to ponder: "If you remember, that's ok. If you forget, that's OK." "When one tree falls, the rest don't gradually shift their roots away from their fallen brother." "Embrace the dark parts of you and allow them to intermingle with the light parts." Episode references: The Power of Now: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2626: Renee Benes dismantles common myths about social anxiety and connection, revealing how real conversation starts by letting go of ego and self-focus. By challenging internal narratives and cultural conditioning, she offers grounded, uncomfortable truths that empower you to connect more deeply with others, starting with a genuine desire to know them, not impress them. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.thefunsizedlife.com/talk-to-anyone/ Quotes to ponder: "Other people's movement tends to make us hyper-aware of our stagnation, and in an attempt to justify our lack of action, we simply talk poorly about others." "Whenever I found myself lost in a thought spiral, I am instantly transported out of the moment, and my consciousness is so lost in my mind, concerned with whatever new thing I have found to concern myself with." "No one in the history of the world actually knew what they were doing, they just made up everything as they went along and then handed down that made up stuff to their ancestors, AKA you." Episode references: Bob Proctor on paradigms: https://www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com/22787/what-is-a-paradigm Presence by Amy Cuddy: https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Bringing-Boldest-Biggest-Challenges/dp/0316256579 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2625: Evan Marc Katz explores the painful but liberating truth about romantic expectations and the importance of mutual desire in relationships. Through a candid coaching conversation, he highlights how fixating on unavailable partners can sabotage love, urging us instead to focus on those who are truly open to loving us back. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/do-you-want-to-date-people-who-dont-want-to-date-you Quotes to ponder: "It doesn't matter what she wanted, there's no relationship to discuss." "You can only be the best person that you can be, and hope to attract the person that wants YOU, flaws and all." "Focus on the men who want you, and you'll find a man you want as well." Episode references: BeachBound: https://www.beachbound.com Match.com: https://www.match.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2624: Luis Congdon explores what it means to be a highly sensitive person (HSP), highlighting key traits like emotional absorption, sensory sensitivity, and overstimulation. With practical strategies for self-care and insight into how sensitivity can be a strength rather than a weakness, this reflection helps listeners better understand themselves or the sensitive people in their lives. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/signs-highly-sensitive-how-to-keep-it-from-holding-you-back/ Quotes to ponder: "I used to feel guilty about asking my friends to turn off their fluorescent lights. Now I know that it's essential that I make this small request to feel good in my skin." "Crying more often than the average person is a perfectly natural result of feeling everything more intensely." "The most essential thing for an HSP is to honor your needs whenever they arise." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2623: Amanda Kruse shares 25 years of lessons learned managing money within her marriage, emphasizing how consistent communication, shared financial goals, and evolving strategies built long-term trust and success. Her story highlights the power of transparency and teamwork over perfection, offering practical tools couples can adapt to align their values with their spending. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://womenwhomoney.com/how-we-manage-our-finances-couple/ Quotes to ponder: "Combining finances seemed like the best option for us. So after getting married, we viewed it as 'our' money, and that's how it's been ever since." "Even when we both earn money, we pretend like we only have one income." "Through it all, we discussed money with honesty and transparency. And after many conversations about our future, we set shared financial goals." Episode references: Equifax Credit Reports: https://www.equifax.com/personal/credit-report-services/ Tiller Money: https://www.tillerhq.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2622: Jay and Heather Harrington make a compelling case for prioritizing outdoor experiences with kids, emphasizing how nature and novelty foster deeper happiness and family connection than material things ever could. Backed by research, their perspective shows how simple planning and shared creativity can transform family life and strengthen emotional well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.lifeandwhim.com/first-moments-blog/2018/outside-kids-new-experiences Quotes to ponder: "You can really like your material stuff. You can even think that part of your identity is connected to those things, but nonetheless they remain separate from you." "Memories born out of experiences form emotional 'anchors' that give kids comfort during tough times, they promote brain development, and they help forge close bonds between family members." "Creating something doesn't require a table saw, ladder, and carpentry skills, it just means working with your kids on something simple outside that your kids care about and, consequently, will care for." Episode references: The Science of Giving Experiences, Not Things - Cindy Chan: https://www.rotman.utoronto.ca/FacultyAndResearch/Faculty/FacultyBios/Chan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2621: Crystal Karges compassionately unpacks how pregnancy and postpartum can reactivate eating disorder behaviors, even after recovery. By shedding light on physical, emotional, and social triggers often left unspoken, she reminds women that needing extra support during this time is not weakness, but a vital part of healing. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.crystalkarges.com/blog/why-pregnancy-and-postpartum-can-trigger-eating-disorder-relapse Quotes to ponder: "Awareness helps you understand that you aren't alone, nor are you failing in your recovery." "Pregnancy and birth are transformative: physical, emotionally, and mentally, though the physical changes are what may feel most apparent." "Even with all the triggers you might be experiencing, it is possible to have a healthy pregnancy and baby while remaining in eating disorder recovery." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2620: Mr. Money Mustache challenges the culture of extravagant spending on weddings by spotlighting the financial consequences of prioritizing appearances over substance. He offers a refreshing, rational perspective on how celebrating love can be joyful, meaningful, and debt-free - ultimately freeing couples to focus on what truly matters. Read along with the original article(s) here: http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2011/08/17/royal-wedding-shloyal-fledding/ Quotes to ponder: "A wedding is just a party, and a party does not have to cost tens of thousands of dollars." "Life gets much better when you stop trying to impress others and just live according to your own values." "You can have a rich life, or you can have a rich-looking life. Pick one." Episode references: Your Money or Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Money-Life-Transforming-Relationship/dp/0143115766 The Millionaire Next Door: https://www.amazon.com/Millionaire-Next-Door-Thomas-Stanley/dp/1589795474 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2619: Elana Miller shares powerful strategies for setting healthy boundaries by emphasizing that actions, not words, teach others how to treat us. She explains how being direct, saying “no” without guilt, and allowing others to experience natural consequences can protect our well-being and foster emotional growth. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenpsychiatry.com/setting-limits/ Quotes to ponder: "They don't hear what you say, they hear what you do!" "Get used to the sound of 'no' coming out of your mouth, because if you want to stay sane, you're going to be saying it a lot." "You may feel you're helping, but trust me, you're not doing that person any favors." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2618: Elana Miller shares how her mindfulness experiment of saying "yes" to everything revealed the hidden cost of constant agreement. She explains why setting boundaries is essential for protecting your time, energy, and personal values, and how learning to say "no" can actually strengthen your relationships and mental well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenpsychiatry.com/setting-limits/ Quotes to ponder: "People don't hear what you say, they hear what you do." "Even just a few days of trying this 'say yes' experiment made me realize that saying yes all the time may work for Buddhist monks in Burma, but it doesn't really work for the rest of us." "It actually can help improve your relationships because you won't be resentful of people for 'making' you do things you don't want to do." Episode references: The 4-Hour Workweek: https://www.amazon.com/4-Hour-Workweek-Escape-Live-Anywhere/dp/0307465357 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2617: Dr. Allison Niebes-Davis reveals how a single word can instantly undermine even the sincerest apology, offering a better approach to taking ownership and preserving trust in relationships. She also highlights how overcommitting drains our finite time and energy, urging us to set boundaries and prioritize what truly matters. These insights empower listeners to foster healthier connections and live with greater intention. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drallisonanswers.com/relationships/saying-im-sorry-the-word-to-avoid/ & https://drallisonanswers.com/relationships/the-wake-up-call-to-help-you-stop-overcommitting/ Quotes to ponder: "I'm sorry I lost my temper, but" "The word 'but' negates what you said prior to it." "Every time you say 'yes' to something, you're saying 'no' to something else." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2616: Andy Hill shares how he and his wife transformed their financial lives by using a simple five-step budgeting method, helping them eliminate debt, grow their net worth by $800,000, and live mortgage-free. Hill emphasizes the importance of identifying a motivating "why," aligning with your partner, choosing the right budgeting tool, creating a fun routine around finances, and celebrating milestones to maintain momentum toward financial freedom. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com/budget-your-way-to-financial-freedom-in-5-steps-2 Quotes to ponder: "Without this ‘why', I don't think I would have ever changed my path." "In order for you to succeed with the budgeting process and stick to it, your partner needs to be on the same page." "It can be very motivating to put a reward out there for yourself when you achieve your personal finance dreams." Episode references: EveryDollar: https://www.everydollar.com You Need a Budget (YNAB): https://www.ynab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2615: Orna and Matthew Walters offer vital insights on navigating the complexities of dating while separated, emphasizing emotional readiness, personal accountability, and legal precautions. Their guidance helps you avoid common pitfalls and ensures you approach new relationships with greater self-awareness and clarity. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.loveonpurpose.com/what-you-must-know-dating-while-separated/ Quotes to ponder: "You won't be ready to date if you haven't gone through the stages of healing your heart after a breakup." "Take an inventory of the choices you made and the actions you took (include the actions you didn't take) that lead to the separation." "Dating can be a wonderful way to gain insights into your strategies for love and to practice new communication skills." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2614: Adina Soclof shares practical strategies to get kids outside and engaged this summer, offering simple ideas like backyard picnics, rock painting, and sprinkler fun. She also highlights free, enriching activities from parks to museums, helping families foster creativity, connection, and mindfulness without relying on screens or spending a fortune. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://parentingsimply.com/5-simple-ways-to-get-your-kids-outside-this-summer/ & https://parentingsimply.com/free-summer-activities-for-kids/ Quotes to ponder: "Children are typically fascinated with nature. They love animals, and enjoy doing anything outdoors, like inspecting insects, digging for worms, camping, fishing, and playing sports." "There is no child who does not love blowing bubbles." "Sometimes it's the simplest things that are the most fun!" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2613: Rachel Jones shares how embracing minimalism in children's birthday celebrations can create more meaningful and joyful experiences. By setting boundaries on party attendance, simplifying festivities, and focusing on traditions over extravagance, parents can reduce stress and make birthdays truly special for their kids. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nourishingminimalism.com/simple-childrens-birthday-parties/ Quotes to ponder: "Limiting the attendance of parties freed up our schedule." "Minimalism helps us keep balance in our celebrations as well." "In the end, it's the time you took that makes the memories special." Episode references: Dave Ramsey: https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2612: Dr. Jana Rosewarne delves into the complex interplay between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, using Frozen's Anna and Elsa as a vivid metaphor. She unpacks how mismatched attachment dynamics can escalate relational stress and even impact physical health, offering practical strategies to foster security and resilience in partnerships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.luvze.com/anxious-avoidant-duos-walking-on-thin-ice-in-relationships-a/ Quotes to ponder: "Anxious individuals fear rejection and abandonment, yet their cravings for closeness may inadvertently drive others away." "People high in avoidance also tend to underestimate others' care and support for them." "Simply knowing your own attachment orientation can help you to understand your strengths and vulnerabilities in relationships." Episode references: Meta-analysis on marital support and health outcomes (Robles et al., 2014): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4268209/ Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2611: Laura Heck explores how pivotal decisions in marriage hinge on three foundational practices: knowing your partner deeply, meeting them in the moment rather than the middle, and aligning on shared dreams. Through a deeply personal story, she shows how mastering the art of compromise can transform life-altering decisions into powerful bonding experiences that move a couple closer together, not apart. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-factors-will-make-break-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "Compromise goes really well when you remember three key things." "Even if your shared dream is just to 'stay married,' that can help reframe your 'non-negotiables.'" "I needed to wake up each day, driven and full of purpose to accomplish 'our dream.'" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2610: Shana Olmstead explores the subtle but crucial difference between offering support from love versus fear, urging us to reflect on whether we're truly encouraging others, or trying to control them. Her compassionate insights help us understand how fear-driven advice can undermine the very people we're trying to uplift, and how shifting from coach to cheerleader can create more empowering, trusting relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://shanaolmstead.com/2019/09/23/are-you-a-coach-or-a-cheerleader/ Quotes to ponder: "You can't fix someone's life, and if you try, you're just controlling it from your own fear." "Cheerleaders do not actually give advice. They cheer on the sidelines, offering support, encouragement, and praise no matter how the player is doing." "If you project your fear and worry onto them by trying to help too much, you are actually handicapping their growth and evolution." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2609: Keith Wilson offers a powerful metaphor for understanding relationships by comparing them to tenants in an apartment building, your life. He challenges listeners to bring clarity, fairness, and intentionality into their partnerships by establishing clear terms and expectations, much like signing a lease, to prevent future confusion and resentment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://keithwilsoncounseling.com/2015/02/20/relationships-part-69-a-new-lease-on-your-relationship/ Quotes to ponder: "You own an apartment building with an almost infinite number of apartments, but, once someone moves in, you can never evict them, and they can never leave." "Far too many people drift into relationships without ever making the momentous decision to be together." "That's a little like signing a lease without reading it first, or like a landlord downloading a template of a lease without considering what's in it." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices