Podcast appearances and mentions of sue shellenbarger

SHOULD we yell at our kids? No. Do we? Yes. Some of us perhaps a little too often. Kids are hardwired to push our buttons to get attention, and none of us are saints.But while verbal abuse is definitely horrible, hollering “you are about to miss the bus again” is perhaps a little more forgivable—and fixable, as it turns out. And it is definitely better to yell less, not just because you'll have a more peaceful home, but because the more yelling your household has in it, the more it is likely to have.In this episode Amy and Margaret discuss: Why yelling at your kids might not be as universally toxic as some headlines have claimed Why yelling is, in the end, ineffective Why finding workarounds for the sources of tension might be a more effective path to change than berating yourself for (once again) having raised your voice Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode: Our Fresh Take with Carla Naumburg Our Fresh Take with Emily Edlynn Lisa Belkin for NYT: Can Yelling at Your Kids Be Good? Sue Shellenbarger for WSJ: Talking to Your Kids After You Yell Ming-Te Wang and Sarah Kenny in the Journal of the Society for Research in Child Development: Longitudinal Links Between Fathers' and Mothers' Harsh Verbal Discipline and Adolescents' Conduct Problems and Depressive Symptoms Dr. Emily Edlynn for Psychology Today: The Truth About Parents Who Yell at Kids Stephen Marche for NYT: Why You Should Stop Yelling at Your Kids We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ Future Fans: helping little kids become BIG fans - https://www.futurefans.com What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson. mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, parental stress, kids stress, decluttering, meal prepping, time management,

David Allen is the author of the global best-seller “Getting Things Done” and multiple follow-up books, most recently “Team: Getting Things Done With Others.”“Getting Things Done” has sold over 4 million copies, has been translated into 28 languages, and is considered the single most influential Personal Effectiveness book of the 21st century. Allen's simple process has transformed how millions of people do business and life. His work has been praised by luminaries like Daniel Pink and the Wall Street Journal's former workplace culture guru, Sue Shellenbarger. 10 years ago, Allen and his wife Kathryn moved from Southern California to Amsterdam where they now reside.

Let’s talk about your work stress. How often do you find your work stress oozing into your home life, and even weekend? This stress spill over effect is a very real thing, so we’ve got some practical tips for minimising it, and get to the heart of the issue. LINKS ‘When Stress at Work Creates Drama at Home’ – Sue Shellenbarger for The Wall Street Journal. Follow The Space on Instagram @thespace_podcast. Follow Nova Podcasts on Instagram @novapodcastsofficial. CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88.Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy.Executive Producer: Elise Cooper.Editor: Adrian Walton.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The shifting pandemic and school closures are opening safety gaps for many families and children, including personal, financial, and emotional insecurities. This episode offers a few hacks, in the sense of scrappy efficient shortcuts, for governments, schools, and families who are working to close safety gaps.  Sometimes becoming resourceful in the face of adversity creates more strength and safety than before the adversity hit. What you will discover: * Why scoring high on the "Do You Know" scale correlates with psychological well-being * How to tell stories to children and adolescents in ways that improve their resiliency and sense of identity * It could be time for schools to organize Family Circles Featured on this show: * Sue Shellenbarger, The secret benefits of retelling family stories, Wall Street Journal * Emory University, Children benefit if they know their family history, study finds * David Brooks, The Nuclear Family Was a Mistake, Atlantic Magazine * Ancestry, www.ancestry.com * Family Search, www.familysearch.org      

In this episode you will hear: (04:53) In this week’s news, an article from Wall Street Journal, “Survive College Application Season with the Family in One Piece” by Sue Shellenbarger. Many parents take total control of their kid’s application process believing that it’s too important for it to be a learning experience for their kids. Shellenbarger argues that though there is a role for the parent to play, students are usually most satisfied when they own the outcome. She goes on to share 14 recommendations for parents when their kids are applying to college.   (17:54) We are in Chapter 84 of 171 Answers and we’re talking about honors colleges and how students can benefit from them. We also share the difference between an Honors program and an Honors College. We discuss the fact that all Honors Colleges and programs are not equal. We suggest some questions to ask to assess how strong the Honors College is. We rely heavily on the exceptional research completed by John Willingham and his excellent website: This website has already been one of our recommended resources in the past. Mark shares a couple questions that he really likes that John Willingham recommends in an article he wrote entitled:   (32:37) This week’s question is from Gus in Massachusetts and he asks, what there is to know about Canadian schools. Mark’s only brother and his only sister went to a Canadian university. Mark takes a real deep dive into the pros and cons of Canadian universities. He shares about ten cons of going to a Canadian school and ten pros of going to a Canadian university. (55:10) Mark’s interview is with Dave Wagner, Director of Admissions of St. Olaf, in Part III of “Understanding the 7 Sections of the Common Application”. In Part 3 of 4, Dave talks about his favorite section of the Common App, Section 6, the writing section Dave talks about the Institution specific questions that St. Olaf asks and he shares how they help the admission office We briefly talk about part 7, Courses and Grades, but most schools don’t use this section, including St. Olaf so Mark makes a comment and then we move on. Finally, Dave answers a tough question, if a student has choice between doing the Coalition or the Common App, how should they decide which application to complete. (01:01:15) Mark’s recommended resource of the week: http://www.ulifeline.org The motto of this website is, “your online resource for college mental health. Their self-evaluator tab screens for thirteen of the most common mental health conditions. The search bar lets you put in any college and it tells you where to go for mental health counseling on each campus. Three other tabs I love on this website are their “Help a friend” tab, their “The Facts” tab and their “Get Help Now” button. This completes our 10th and final (for 2019) recommended resource related to mental health that we have recommended in the last three months. (1:11:33) Our College Spotlight for the week is Elon University (NC)   At the very end of the podcast, Mark takes a look at Elon University. One thing that is a hallmark of an Elon education is Elon Experiences: Elon.edu/u/experimental-learning Anika was very impressed with Elon Experiences. Mark discusses exactly what this is but he also takes almost 10 minutes to help the listener better understand other key features about this excellent university. Don't forget to send your questions related to any and every facet of the college process to: questions@yourcollegeboundkid.com If you enjoy our podcast, would you please do us a favor and share our podcast both verbally and on social media? We would be most grateful! Anika and I are excited to give our listeners a chance to play a role in shaping what topics we discuss, as well as what guests we have on our podcast. You can let your voice be heard by completing this survey. Just put the following link in your browser and give us your honest feedback. Anika and I would like to thank you in advance Every episode of Your College-Bound Kid will align with a chapter from the book 171 Answers to the Most-Asked College Admission Questions. To get a copy go to Amazon and search for 171 Answers: To the Most Asked College Admissions Questions. If you want to place a bulk order, you will save money by purchasing this book at 171answer.com. Every penny goes to The Atlanta Mission, a Christian organization that helps over 1000 homeless residents every day.  If you want to see what future episodes will discuss in the book chapter section,  just  go to 171answers.com and then click the red button "See exactly what 171 Answers covers"

Sometimes we lose it. Really lose it. We’re not talking “How many times do I have to tell you to put your shoes on” in a slightly elevated tone. We’re talking… well, Dr. Stuart Shanker calls the emotional state in question “red brain,” and you get the picture. When we’re in red brain, yelling can actually feel pretty good. It’s also singularly ineffective. Here’s how Dr. Alan Kazdin of the Yale Parenting Center explains it: If the goal of the parent is catharsis— I want to get this out of my system and show you how mad I am— well, yelling is probably perfect. If the goal is to change something in the child, or develop a positive habit in the child, yelling is not the way to do that. But clamping down on our anger isn’t effective, either— in fact, studies prove that attempting to do so actually increases our sympathetic nervous system responses and makes us feel more angry. So this is all pretty tricky. But in this episode we discuss: techniques for recognizing red brain before we’re in it why we sometimes treat strangers better than our loved ones Margaret’s “self-doghouse” technique how to properly make it up to our kids after we blow up And after discussing what NOT to say, Amy discusses what TO say to our kids with with Heather Turgeon and Julie Wright, the authors of Now Say This: The Right Words To Solve Every Parenting Dilemma. Heather and Julie explain their extremely effective “ALP” technique for communicating with our kids— Attune, Limit-Set, Problem-Solve. They also explain the importance of “the repair set” and modeling emotional health for our kids, particularly after we have not been our best selves. Here’s links to some of the other research and studies discussed in this episode: Margaret’s surprisingly useful “family doghouse” plaque Stephen Marche for NYT: Why You Should Stop Yelling At Your Kids Kelly for Happy You, Happy Family: Why Every Parent Should Know the Magic 5:1 Ratio – And How to Do It Dr. Karen Leith et al for Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: Why Do Bad Moods Increase Self-Defeating Behavior? Dr. Ralph Erber et al: On being cool and collected: Mood regulation in anticipation of social interaction. Sue Shellenbarger for the Wall Street Journal: Talking to Your Kids After You Yell and our episode on yelling, which is kinda the same but kinda different.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Good Life Property Management podcast! I’m your host, Steve Welty. This is a show for property management entrepreneurs who want to build not only great business, but also great lives. I’m here to help you gain the freedom to live life on your own terms while creating a positive impact in the world. Also, please check out Steve Welty's Music! I’m excited to introduce today’s guest, Shannon Waller with Strategic Coach. She’s a big reason that Strategic Coach is where it is today, and she works very closely with Dan Sullivan since 1991. She’s overflowing with information about the program, as well as for entrepreneurs in general, and I can’t wait for her to share her wisdom with you in this episode! Shannon points out that she realized at one point that she was “excellent, but not unique” at sales. She went back to school, where she took a course in training and design. As a result, she came up with an idea for a program for the team members of their clients. This was the genesis for the Strategic Coach team programs. These days, she’s excited about all the great content that she’s creating either herself or along with Dan Sullivan. One of the foundations of Strategic Coach are the four freedoms. Shannon explains that these are freedom of time, freedom of money, freedom of relationship, and freedom of purpose. We’ll take a particularly deep dive into freedom of time. You’ll learn today why it’s so important that as an entrepreneur, you don’t work too much. (Shocking, right?) Instead, you should actually plan to take long periods of time off, which allows your team to learn how to handle things in your absence and give you more freedom and flexibility. We’ll also talk about the idea of Unique Ability, and why it’s so important in creating a dynamic, creative, powerful team. Shannon and I will talk about two powerful strategies for increased retention, what makes Kolbe so special and what you can learn from it, how to stay out of “the gap” rather than falling into it, how co-creation can create amazing results, and much more.   Today’s Guest: Shannon Waller at Strategic Coach Shannon Waller on LinkedIn Shannon Waller on Facebook Strategic Coach Your Team Success Shannon Waller’s podcasts   In This Episode: [00:36] - Today’s guest is Shannon Waller from Strategic Coach. [01:21] - Shannon gives some background into herself and her career, and shares a little bit of information on her personal life. [03:39] - We hear about what Shannon’s day looks like today. [05:20] - Shannon explains in detail what the first two of the four freedoms in Strategic Coach are. [07:25] - We hear more about what freedom of time means. [11:22] - Is freedom of time built on rejuvenation days making you more effective, or is there more to it? Shannon answers, then Steve points out another huge benefit of taking significant amounts of time off. [15:57] - Steve points out a misconception that a lot of people have, and that he himself had until a year or two ago. [21:38] - Shannon talks about organizing around personalities versus functions, and digs into the topic of Unique Ability. [26:29] - The two best things Shannon can think of for increased retention are helping people protect their free days and helping to identify and develop their Unique Ability. [30:40] - Dan Sullivan wants to fund Unique Ability teamwork, Shannon explains. [32:17] - What makes Kolbe special, what is it, and what has Shannon learned from it about herself or others? [37:40] - Shannon talks more about different skills, and offers a model to help listeners understand what she’s talking about. [39:39] - Steve and Shannon talk about how this could theoretically work in Steve’s case. [40:36] - Steve invites Shannon to talk about one (or more!) of three amazing cools in Coach. They start by talking about “falling into the gap.” [47:28] - We tend to focus on the “not done” list instead of the “done” list, Shannon points out. [49:22] - What is Dan’s secret, and how does co-creation play a part in that? [52:55] - Shannon talks about collective intelligence, and she and Steve discuss the 80% strategy. [57:36] - Where can people find out more about Strategic Coach or what Shannon is doing? [59:44] - Steve closes the episode with a song from his new album, which you can find at this link!   Links and Resources: Steve Welty's Music Shannon Waller at Strategic Coach Shannon Waller on LinkedIn Shannon Waller on Facebook Strategic Coach Your Team Success Shannon Waller’s podcasts Strategic Coach The Team Success Handbook by Shannon Waller Unique Ability The Best Bosses Are Humble Bosses by Sue Shellenbarger in the Wall Street Journal Kolbe Multiplication By Subtraction by Shannon Waller and Jayne Stymiest Sign Up for LeadSimple (don’t forget to use referral code STEVE)

The Green Apple Podcast is going to start doing weekly "Green Apple Slices", where John Garrett and Rachel Fisch discuss a recent business article related to the Green Apple Message. These shorter segments will be released each Monday, so don't miss an episode by subscribing on iTunes or Stitcher. This week, John and Rachel discuss a Wall Street Journal article, "How to Build Instant Rapport in an Interview: Small talk can have a big impact on the outcome; tips from bartenders and comedians" by Sue Shellenbarger.

http://www.meaningfulhq.com/pomodoro-technique.html TMS030: The Pomodoro Technique: Is It Right For You?  If you spend any time at all researching life hacks, you’ve probably heard of the famous Pomodoro Technique. Created in the 1980s by Francesco Cirillo, the Pomodoro Technique is one of the more popular time management life hacks used today. But this method isn’t for everyone, and for every person who is a passionate adherent of the system, there is another person who is critical of the results.   Is the Pomodoro Technique right for you? It’s a matter of personal preference. But if you are curious about the benefits of using the technique, this article will break down the basic information you will need to decide if this technique is worth trying out.   What is it?   The Pomodoro Technique is a time management philosophy that aims to provide the user with maximum focus and creative freshness, thereby allowing them to complete projects faster with less mental fatigue.   The process is simple. For every project throughout the day, you budget your time into short increments and take breaks periodically. You work for 25 minutes, then take break for five minutes.   Each 25-minute work period is called a “pomodoro”, named after the Italian word for tomato. Francesco Cirillo used a kitchen timer shaped like a tomato as his personal timer, and thus the method’s name.   After four “pomodoros” have passed, (100 minutes of work time with 15 minutes of break time) you then take a 15-20 minute break.   Every time you finish a pomodoro, you mark your progress with an “X”, and note the number of times you had the impulse to procrastinate or switch gears to work on another task for each 25-minute chunk of time.   How can it help you?   Frequent breaks keep your mind fresh and focused. According to the official Pomodoro website, the system is easy to use and you will see results very quickly: “You will probably begin to notice a difference in your work or study process within a day or two. True mastery of the technique takes from seven to twenty days of constant use.”   If you have a large and varied to-do list, using the Pomodoro Technique can help you crank through projects faster by forcing you to adhere to strict timing. Watching the timer wind down can spur you to wrap up your current task more quickly, and spreading a task over two or three pomodoros can keep you from getting frustrated. The constant timing of your activities makes you more accountable for your tasks, and minimizes the time you spend procrastinating. You’ll grow to “respect the tomato”, and that can help you to better handle your workload.   Who loves it?   Steven Sande of The Unofficial Apple Weblog is a fan of the system, and has compiled a great list of Apple-compatible Pomodoro tools. Before he started using the technique, he said, “Sometimes I couldn’t figure out how to organize a single day in my calendar, simply because I would jump around to all sorts of projects and never get even one of them accomplished.”   Another proponent of the Pomodoro Technique is Sue Shellenbarger of the Wall Street Journal. Shellenbarger tried out this system, along with several other similar methods for time management, and said that “It eased my anxiety over the passing of time and also made me more efficient; refreshed by breaks, for example, I halved the total time required to fact-check a column.”   Criticism   Despite the number of Pomodoro-heads out there, the system isn’t without its critics. Colin T. Miller, a Yahoo! employee and blogger, tried using the Pomodoro Technique and had some issues.   “Pomodoros are an all or nothing affair,” he says. “Either you work for 25 minutes straight to mark your X or you don’t complete a pomodoro. Since marking that X is the measurable sign of progress, you start to shy away from engaging in an activity if it won’t result in an X. For instance…meetings get in the way of pomodoros. Say I have a meeting set for 4:30pm. It is currently 4:10pm, meaning I only have 20 minutes between now and the meeting…In these instances I tend to not start a pomodoro because I won’t have enough time to complete it anyway.”   Another critic is Mario Fusco, who argues that the Pomodoro Technique is…well…sort of ridiculous. “Aren’t we really able to keep ourselves concentrated without a timer ticketing on our desk?…Have you ever seen a civil engineer using a timer to keep his concentration while working on his projects?…I think that, like any other serious professional, I can stay concentrated on what I am doing for hours…Bring back your timer to your kitchen and start working in a more professional and effective way.”   Conclusion   One of the best things about the Pomodoro Technique is that it’s free. Yeah, you can fork over some bills to get a tomato-shaped timer if you want…or you can use any timer program on your computer or phone. So even if you try it and hate it, you haven’t lost any cash. The process isn’t ideal for every person, or in any line of work. But if you need a systematic way to tackle your daily to-do list, the Pomodoro Technique may fit your needs.   www.meaningfulhq.com Sources: - lifehack.org - the pomodoro technique