Dating & Marriage (DAM) Perspectives Podcast

Once married, did you learn things about your spouse you didn't know before the “I dos”? Maybe they cook less after “I dos.” Maybe they care for their bodies less after “I dos.” Maybe they open the door for you less after “I dos.” Whatever it is, you're not feeling it.  Find us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

We're talking about it again. Money! Money, for the most part, is a challenge for any relationship. Think about it. It brings out power, uncertainty, trust, and security. For women and love, it's about security and safety. So, should a man believe a woman who says it's ok he makes less than her? Find us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives  

Have you ever kicked it with someone, maybe during a flight home, who you thought was available because, after all they're not wearing a wedding ring, only to find out, after chatting awhile, they are married? WTF. Wear your ring!! Listen to learn more. Find and follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives Share your thoughts with us

Men deserve love, too. Ladies, when was the last time you fed your man's soul? In this episode, we share the importance and ways of uplifting your man's spirit. Find and follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives Share your thoughts with us

Your co-hosts of @damperspectives are talking about dating younger potentials than we/you typically have or do. Is it better? As always, we talk from our experiences to provide context. As always, we have stories, funny stories. In this episode, we share a few benefits and pitfalls of dating younger or older potentials. In reality, it's really up to you what is “better.”  Find and follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives Share your thoughts with us

We're back! Did you miss us? Cuz we missed you! After a few months of self-care, your cohosts of @damperspectives are talking about not doing things in order when it comes to having babies. So, why do you, any of you, have to be married or married at all to have a baby? You don't. While this is not new news, it still deserves air time to normalize the unnormalize. We talk about the benefits of and the challenges, not impossible, sides of doing it on your own. Find and follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives Share your thoughts with us

Divorced and back in the dating game. What is that like? After 21 years of marriage, our guest Byron shares his experience with online dating. He shares what he looks for and what he sees, how people actually act, and concludes “dating is frightening.” We enjoyed talking with him and learned alot about online dating after divorce. Send your questions and comments to damperspectives@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

Are you in a long distance relationship? Maybe you're online dating and you need to expand beyond your city for more options?  @damperspectives is teaming up with @mynakedmindset to talk about things to consider if you're exploring a long distance relationship with your new or “old” partner. But, the first major question to ask yourself: How do you know this person is worth the work that comes with making a long distance relationship work? Send your questions and comments to damperspectives@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

The stakes are too high in the dating game to fuck it up with ridiculousness. Just met someone or rather new in a relationship?  @damperspectives list 5 things you should not do or say in texting when you're just starting out with someone. Take notes!! Send your questions and comments to damperspectives@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

In a relationship, bread crumbs of things going wrong show up, and, if not addressed, become red flags. Most times, we tend to dust them off away, pretend they don't exist until they are too big to ignore; thus, the red flags. So, why do we ignore clues that make us feel icky inside?  We're back with @iamnicolesimmnons of @takeactionpodcastshow talking about it. Send your questions and comments to damperspectives@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

Cheers to our 50th Episode!! @damperspectives is excited to kick it with @iamnicolesimmons of @takeactionpodcastshow to talk about getting self-confidence after a breakup. It sucks to be broken up with. It might suck even more to deal with the emotions of being broken up with, and all of the questions and self-talk that come with that. It's normal! And, you gotta get your self-confidence back.  And, be among the first to order Karina's book, Fired Up, on Amazon, launching May 9. Send your questions and comments to damperspectives@gmail.com. Follow us on Instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

In pursuit of love or in dating in general, have you been “slanged”? That is, have you been benched, stashed, cushioned, and/or turkey dropped? The truth is, you have at some point in your dating journey. The other truth is, you don't want to be. Listen to what these dating slangs mean. One tip, when you know what you want out of a relationship, you won't get benched, stashed, cushioned or turkey dropped. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

Dating is like picking the petals of a flower. She loves me, she loves me not. Sometimes it's harder than it really needs to be. Most times, the signs tell you if dating her will go far or will be short lived. Skip the guessing game and read the signs she's just not into you. @damperspectives talks about the signs we give off that we're not into a guy. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

There are so many ways to filter your ideal partner: height, salary, age, and political view. We filter by race, too. Doing so, are we completely closed off to other races or is it literally a preference with fluid boundaries or… Listen to this Black man who shares his experience with interracial dating. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

It's not that he's not into you…he's not dating at all. So, the next time you find yourself at the gym and you see that guy you've had your eyes on or you're at the grocery store and you see a cute guy walking the opposite way in the ice cream aisle, and he's not looking at you, don't take it personally. What are the signs he gives off that he's not dating? Watch this so you're not left wondering the next time you see him at the gym.   Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Ever TEXTING with him either for a short period of time or over a long period time, and then you are kind of done, but you do not know how to tell him you are done. Do you tell him, "I am done TEXTING"? Do You come up with an excuse, like "Just got to this place."? Or do you just NOT TEXT HIM back? When is TEXTING OVER? When is it appropriate to NOT TEXT A GUY back? Your co-hosts of @damperspectives spill the tea on how we communicate WOMEN ARE DONE TEXTING. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

Has your cohosts of @damperspectives ever been SPRUNG off the D? Yes, we have, and we think it's a great place to be. Being SPRUNG or DICKMATIZED or DICKDUMB takes you to a feel good place. Life is stressful, so if someone can make you feel so good you can't recall your name, enjoy!! Listen in signs of being DICKDUMB. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

@damperspectives talks about a not-so-fun topic - cheating and cheated on. As always we reminisce on our own experience on cheating and being cheated on that bring up major gut-asking, self-examination, and self-worth questions. Come on now…don't you think that taking someone back who cheated on you questions your self-worth? There's no shame in that. We've all been there, and… Listen in. We share that one question you should ask yourself if you're considering taking a partner who cheated on you.   Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

OK - here it comes! A fan responded to one of our show, Do Size and Shape Really Matter? Her perspective was one @damperspectives at not explored before. Love it! For her, size and shape matter when a guy makes it matter. Oh boy! We read what she said about an unsolicated

The male perspective of an earlier show @dampsperectives on do 50/50 relationships exist. What do these 2 Black men say? They have a lot to say, including how they want to be heard and what they need for a more balanced relationship. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

It's Valentine's Day! Your cohosts of @damperspectives share Valentine's Day memories and what women want (the cohosts, that is). One cohost doesn't really get into it, and the other does. We also share gift ideas for our Valentine of past and current. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Inflation is the word of the year, and it's only 2023. Everything is more expensive, and so is dating. Going out to a movie and dinner is DAMn pricey, and your cohosts are talking about if going on a first date is worth a pricey date. How do we date differently so that you (men, sorry but it's true) don't go broke? We share a few ideas to date on a budget, yet without the loss of creativity and meaning. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Some dude spilled the tea on why men ghost women. Yours truly, @damperspectives, tell you what said on why men ghost, and share how you can respond to the “hey stranger, how you been?!” text. Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

What's a 50-50 relationship? And, do they exist? @damperspectives is talking about when a relationship might be 50-50, and when it's not. This ain't no Cinderalla story. How is your relationship split?

We can't believe we waited until now to have a show on, Do Size and Shape Matter? It's a question we all have asked ourselves and we all have had experiences with this question. No need to be shy. Let's get into it. No pun intended, lol. Does size and shape matter to you? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Ever thought about how you feel after a first date might or might not get you to a second date? We talk about 8 post-first date things to look for to say "ye" or "ne" to a second date from Hinge behavioral scientist researcher @loganury Check out her article at https://www.insider.com/behavior-scientist-shares-8-questions-to-ask-after-a-date-2022-12 Which of the 8 post-first date tips resonate with you most or least? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

As in every year, we set goals for ourselves. This is true for our @damperspectives co-hosts. Amber and Karina get right into it with 2023 relationship goals. One of us needs prayers. LOL…Find out who and for what. What are your relationship goals for 2023? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Is dating over once you're married? Is dating required especially when you're married? Our guest @Funny Girl_Productions spills the tea on dating her husband. With the holidays here and goals for the new year, this episode could be just what you need to restart or keep the fire burning in your marriage. Tell us how you date your spouse?   Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

Oh how time flies yet some things remain the same in the dating world. We're excited to talk with Tinah Ogalo @inyourtwentys about dating now and then. What three words would you use to describe your dating experience? Hear what Tinah @inyourtwentys has to say. Amber and Karina were unsurprisingly in agreement.  Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

We're back with more holiday dating and marriage topics. This time, we're talking about breaking up during the holidays or waiting for the holidays to pass to break up. Which end of the “break up” stick have you been on? Doing the break up during the holidays? Being dumped during the holidays? Tell us about it! Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

It's the holidays and you're wondering if you should bring your partner to a friend and family holiday event. Where do you need to be in your relationship to bring them by? Does "timing" in the relationship matter to bring them around? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

You and your partner are off to a vacation, which might come with a few preferences. Who pays for the trip? When do you start your day? Do the kids decide how far and where you go? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

While visiting a friend in Lugano, Switzerland, Karina shares moments apart from her friend as opportunities to date herself. On YouTube, see footages of Lugano and Ascona and what she enjoyed most in those places. What suggestions would you like to share on what to do when traveling alone? Find us on Podbean, Spotify, Apple Itunes, Amazon podcasts and on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives 

No matter where you're at, single or in a relationship, date yourself and do the things you enjoy. Haven't done it? Don't know how to start? Or maybe your boo, ain't with it? Listen in and we just might answer your questions in this video. Follow us on instagram @damperspectives | https://linktr.ee/damperspectives

Context and actions matter! He Said, She Said is about two people - Marcus and Karina - in separate relationships who experienced the same thing. Here's a tip from the show, and in the words of Marcus, "Don't act like a boyfriend if you're expectations are not to be in a relationship."

Just friends and nothing more. Or, is there? Would you cross the line if you have the chance. Amber's got a story.

n some relationships, one person stops doing the thing that is at the core of their theirself or starts doing something that is not part of them for their partner. Have you dimmed your light for someone? And, why?

 Ding, a text from your ex. "What's up?!" You're in a new relationship. Do you care to know what they want? Do you want to know what went wrong in your relationship with you ex. Does it matter?

A short guy. A tall guy. A whatever height guy, Does the aesthetic of height matter?

A hell of a social media post about dating as a Black man. Loads of "WTF dude," moments What are you most frustrated about with dating and relationships overall?

United we stand as we talk about our hair and relationship. Black women hair, Black beauty. Pulling, stroking allowed. But know it's gonna get wrapped before bed. Does hair and hair texture matter to you in relationship?

Team "Is timing everything?" or Team "Is timing important? Our guests are split.

We're sure you've heard, "this is not the right time" when you meet someone or about to get into a relationship with someone. What does that mean exactly? Is timing everything?

Don't be surrised, but sex is used as a reward or a punshishment. Do you or have you used sex in the same way? Find out here.

Human sexuality is the way people experience and express themselves. This involves biological, psychological, physical, erotic, emotional, social, or spiritual feelings and behaviors. In the words of Madonna, "Express yourself." Or better yet, Lizzo, "I get my hair toss, check my nails..."looking good as hell." How do you best express your sexuality?

As much as we would like to, we don't have sex all the time. Could be based on what's happening for you at the time or you've purposely decided to be sexually inactive. What was a dry spell moment for you? What might be the benefit of going without sex for a while?

90 day rule?! The male perspective on when to have sex. It's simple, category 1, category 2, category 3. Find out what he means.

What is the 90 day rule? Giving up the cookie and other benefits when she's seen what the guy brings to the table (i.e., act right, fellas). How long do you wait to have sex with a new partner?

Being intimate and close without intercourse. Can you have a relationship without intimacy? Do you believe in foreplay?

So your partner is asking about Your number? Tell the truth or tell a lie?!

Sex is a natural part of a relationship, and, for some, really important. So let's talk about sex.