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One of my fave topics! This comes up so frequently in my coaching and mentoring sessions: “I feel like I am made of more but I am paralyzed by fear.” Cool. Welcome to being human. In today's episode I dive into how to shift your brain from fear to focus so you can start taking action in the direction of your dreams. This is a topic I am so passionate about it, because I am living proof of how much things can change when you manage your mind and focus on the best case outcome. I can't WAIT to see what you do when you finally do the dang thang. Of course, I'd love to work with you… so if you need a little more direction and clarity come find me! I'd love to help. See you inside

This episode is one of my faves ever, because I got to have a convo with one of my besties, and also one of my fave humans before we were ever even friends… Raina Odell. She wrote a book about her life and story and it blew me away. The lives she has lived, the things she has gone through, and then the lemonade she made out of lemons is beyond inspiring. We had such a great conversation that I split it into two parts. So, here is part one. All about her story and struggles, and how she was able to stay true to herself, while allowing herself to grow and evolve. I hope you enjoy! And if you do, share it! You can find Raina on IG at @Raina.Odell You can find her book on Amazon or wherever you get your books! See you inside

I just got back from a weekend away with some girlfriends, and I came home so much more filled up than when I left. More filled than I've been in a long time.  We had some beautiful discussions and got me thinking about what I want for my future. I've always had massive, big, scary goals… and I still do. But I also have had some time to reflect, and took this weekend to dig into what I want my life to look like. And I was surprised by what I found.  If you're an achiever like me, or have trouble granting yourself rest or giving yourself permission to play: this episode is for you!  I hope it encourages to prioritize joy and pursue what makes you feel most alive, and grateful to be here.  See you inside

In todays episode we go back to the mail bag and I get to dive into a topic I feel SO passionate about: how to *decide* and work to believe that you are worthy of love and belonging. This is a theme that comes up with almost all of my clients. And it is a theme that has come up in my life time and time again. I know what hating yourself feels like, because I did it for years. BUT, I also now know how to pull myself out of it. So join me as I share the steps I take, along with some thoughts I think, to overcome the internal bully and release your inner hype girl. I hope this resonates with you so much, and that you're able to start treating yourself the way those who love you immensely do. You deserve that. Can't wait to hear what you think! See you inside

In this weeks episode we dive into the mail bag. I explore three different scenarios in three listeners marriages and try to give insight and guidance to help them make a decision that feels good and empowering to them. First up we chat about feeling disconnected from your spouse when you've got little kids at home. The second scenario is about supporting a spouse with mental illness, and how to drop resentment and judgement so you can get back to loving. The third is about wanting to end a marriage and how to know when it is time. I love doing these mailbag episodes, so if you've got any situations you need my advice on, you can always email me at Ashlie.molstad@gmai.com See you inside

Sometimes I coach you to have your back when someone is upset with you over something you've done. And sometimes, like today, I coach you on how to apologize and truly mean it when you've treated someone you care about in a way you're not proud of. But we dive deeper than just the apology, we go into the act of repairing any damage caused. In todays episode I share several examples recently where I had to repair relationships with people I love because of how I acted. Yes, its important to look at if we need to have our own back and hold space for others to be upset with us when we don't feel we've done anything wrong. BUT, it is equally as important to know how to deeply apologize and repair, so that the people we love, value and care about feel seen, heard and loved by us. I can't wait to hear how this helps you turn the page with some relationships in your life, so that they and you, can move forward. See you inside

In todays episode, I dive into the little micro ways we reject ourselves, and how you can start identifying + correcting it, so you can find more peace. People are gonna label you. They're going to project things onto you. You are going to label you and project onto yourself… But, this chips away at our confidence. It calls insecurity into our lives. It teaches people how to treat us. Join me to hear how you can catch yourself doing this, and how to stop it. See you inside

“By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world.”   Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book Book 1)   Nothing in this world has anything to do with us. Nothing we do has anything to do with anyone else. It all has to do with the way we were raised, and what we were taught to believe.   I started reading The Four Agreements, and one of the agreements really stood out to me, Don't Take Anything Personally.   As I heard this and then went out into the world looking for evidence that it is true, I have been blown away by how often this truth reveals itself.   In todays episode I dive into how this shows up for me, and for some of my clients. In hopes that you can find places in your life where you're taking things personally that have nothing to do with you… or, where you might be hurting someone who is taking your actions personally, even though it has nothing to do with them.   Tune in and then let me know where you are able to find this truth in your own life.   See you inside

You know by now that our thoughts create our feelings, which cause us to take action, and those actions produce our results. So the life you're living right now is a result of the thoughts you were thinking 3 months ago. If you want to create a different life, you have to think like your future self now. Like you've already achieved that thing you want. Because when you think like her, you feel like her, then you act like her. You don't need to wait until: Life slows down The kids get older You have more followers You've lost the weight The timing is perfect   Because it doesn't have to do with any of those things. Think the thoughts that your future self will think NOW, and that is how you become her.   Join me as I share exactly what this looks like, so you too can create the life your future self will thank you for!   See you inside

Making friends as an adult can be hard… but doesn't have to be. Losing weight with joy and ease can be hard… but doesn't have to be. Finding a life partner can be hard…. but doesn't have to be.   What if, the things that you really want but are telling yourself is too hard, aren't hard at all?   In today's episode, I share how my perspective on what is hard has changed, and how to have fun doing the things I previously believed wee difficult and exhausting.   Join me and uncover what is actually stopping you from achieving that thing you want, and how to get out of your own way to finally get that thing.   See you inside

Sometimes its a relationship we want to leave. Sometimes its a job. Sometimes its a friend group.   We think that if we leave, we'll be happier. But, happiness isn't created from jobs, relationships or people… its created from our thoughts.   In this weeks episode I dive into how to know when it is time to go, and how to do it so that it serves you best. And of course, its probably not what you think.   Make sure you listen in so that you can lean into your power, increase your resilience, and take control of your life.   See you inside

Its a fact of life that some people are not going to like what you have to say or what you do. We're all driven by different things, we were taught how to behave by different parents with different value systems.   It is also a fact of life that your brain is wired to look for the threats and pay more attention to the boos. But, just because there will always be people who don't like that way you're doing it, doesn't men you shouldn't.   In todays episode I talk about how to let the doubters and haters be there, but train your brain to focus on those cheering for you to win. Nothing has gone wrong when your brain focuses on the negative, that is what our brains were designed to do. Its kept us alive for all these years. But, most of these “threats” aren't actually a matter of life and death. So, can we re-direct our brains to focus on the fans you've got?   You can stay in your cozy cave where nothing can hurt you, but you miss out on the big beautiful world awaiting you when you step outside your cave and risk being disliked, made fun of, or boo'd. Its up to you to decide what is worth it to you.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside

Todays episode is a listener write in. She wrote about an issue she was having when it came to confidence around intimacy, and how it was impacting her life and relationship.   This might not be an issue you have, but even if it isn't, I think you'll find something for you in this episode.  Because every one of us has a deep fear or insecurity around something, and it is always caused by our thoughts.   I walk you through where these thoughts come from, the results they are creating in your life, and how you can pick a thought that feels better and gets you closer to experiencing the result you want.   If you want my advice on your situation, please email me at ashliemolstad@gmail.com If you want to work with my 1:1, you can find my packages at ashliemolstad.com/lifecoaching   And if nothing else, please listen in, leave a review, share this episode with a friend or tag me on social. It means so much that you keep coming back!   Love you, mean it!   See you inside

When you think about your life, what you want to be remembered for, what contributes to it being a good one, who you love, how you spend your time, what your legacy is… those are the things that truly matter to you.   But, what is it you're thinking about? The catty co-worker? The number on the scale? How you said that dumb thing at the party two weeks ago? That the guy never called you back?   We spend so much time thinking about things that don't matter, that we're wasting our life away focused on the wrong things. At least that has been the case for me.   Yes, I have been in a tough season lately, but I am making it tougher because of the stories around what has gone on. I've been indulging in self loathing about things that don't. fucking. matter.   So, tune in to todays show as I share how we can reconcile this and get back on track with our thinking, so that we can live a life we're excited to wake up for.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside

Its no secret I've been weathering a brutal storm lately. And it got me thinking about how every storm I've ever experienced before has been in my favor. Always.   There is always a lesson that is there in the pain. We can't always see it, especially when we are deep in the suffering… and this is hen we need to rely on the KNOWING that this too, is happening FOR us.   In today's episode I walk you through some of my past tough seasons and what I learned from them, in hopes to inspire you to dig into your own tough seasons and see how you came out the other side better. And, if you haven't come out the other side yet, my hope is that this episode will open up some space for you to look for the lesson, to find the growth that comes with the growing pains.   Hang in there, and keep growing, keep evolving, keep raising your own bar. Thats what all this is for after all.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside

Well, we made it through the holiday season. Some of us loved every second, and some of us were barely holding on through the chaos… all of us are on the other side of it now. And perhaps, if you're like me, you picked up a habit or two that aren't serving you right now.   Maybe you're drinking more than you'd like, maybe you're eating more sugar than you'd like, maybe you aren't moving your body the way you'd like… so, in today's episode I walk you through how to hit the reset button and regain control. And I like to call it 24 HOURS OF INTENTION.   Focus on your goal/habit for 24 hours. You can do anything for a day. And then, anticipate a temper tantrum in your brain, feel the pain associated with standing up to your primal brain and honoring your highest self… and then, do it again.   No more going through the motions, or walking through life with our brain turned off. Bring intention back, and cultivate a you that you like and love.   If you're looking for accountability or something a little more structured, I am running a group with my functional nutritionist. It will be a 30 day group, with a 14 day detox in the middle. We'll cover the art and science of internal wellness (aka, the mind and the body), as well as do live coaching to help you through and get out of it what you want! You can find details for the group/detox here: https://oohwownutrition.practicebetter.io/#/5ef686352a9c2410c45a3958/bookings?c=65943a218958940133970260&step=course   See you inside

I love rituals. And I love believing in magic and something higher than me. I love trusting that I am not alone, and that everything I go through I asked for.    I heard about this ritual that puts a bow on this year we just lived, and brings anticipation for the year to come. The idea is writing down 13 wishes you want for yourself in 2024, but they all need to be something that you would feel comfortable making come true.   I dive deeper into the details of this episode (along with some other sideline stories, because you know me…) and I can't wait to see how this pans out for you!   If you resonate with this episode, or any, please consider leaving a review and/or sharing this podcast on social. It truly means the world.    Thank you for being such a bright spot in my 2023. I can't wait to see how we evolve and expand together in 2024! See you inside

Its been a minute since I've shared a live coaching call with you. I've been having a lot of deeply personal conversation with my clients that have felt best kept private. But, this is a portion of a group coaching call I had in my membership.   This brave woman has been battling a bit with who she is, and thinking perhaps she is too difficult, too emotional, too much for people. I've been going through several of these same thoughts lately, so getting to coach her was also a bit of the coaching I needed to give myself.   Join us as we chat through what her brain actually believes and wants, and some through strategies you can employ the next time your brain decides you're not too special or great either.   I hope you're taking care of yourself this holiday season and loving you as best you can. It means so much that you're here with me, doing this work, and trusting in me to help guide any part of it.   See you inside

Its the most wonderful time of the year, right? So why have I been feeling so low?   A couple weeks ago my depression came on, and it came on strong. There were a few things that seemed to be the catalyst for it, but regardless of why its here, in todays episode I want to share with you what I am doing to manage through it.   I have 8 tips that I have been deploying during this season that help me make sure I am taking care of me and not adding to the list of reasons my brain has for not being good enough.   I do want to make it clear, I am not a medical professional and this isn't medial advice. If you are experiencing depression (or any other mental illness) I encourage you to reach out to your doctor, or a therapist, and get help. You don't have to white knuckle it through alone. Asking for help doesn't make you weak, it makes you STRONGER THAN MOST.   Also, if your emotions and mental health are not in a space where it can handle a discussion about depression, please protect your peace and table this episode for a time when your brain is feeing more open to this.   Lastly, you are loved. You are good. You are absolutely here on purpose. You will get through this.  And I love you so much.   See you inside

As we grow, comfort zones and requests grow and change with us. Change is hard. Our brains don't like it, and the people who are effected by us changing can often struggle with how it impacts them.   As we begin to prioritize ourselves and insource our lives, we might need to pull out of commitments we once were all in on, or set a boundary that had never been enforced before, or create discomfort for people we care about as a result of prioritizing you.   And this feels HARD. But, hard doesn't mean we're doing it wrong. As we journey inwards, hard often means we're finally doing it right… we're dealing with the right kind of hard.   In todays episode I share what holding space looks like, and why it is such an important piece of growth. Space for you, and space for those around you.   We can't all think the exact same, nor would we want to. But if we're not careful, these differences can lead to frustration and resentment… which is never something I'm going to sign up for.   Join me as we walk through the mind a bit on what it means to hold space for change, for other people's experiences of our change, and for ourselves as we learn and unlearn who we want to be.   See you inside

On the surface our fears sound reasonable… I am afraid of confrontation, I am afraid of public speaking, I am afraid of what they'll say or what they'll think. You talk to your friends about your fear and mot can relate.   BUT, what if what you're afraid of isn't actually what you're afraid of at all?   In todays episode I offer a different way to look at your fears, to dig deeper, to peel back the layers and see what is hiding underneath that surface fear. And, spoiler alert, its your THOUGHTS.   We're not *truly* afraid of what's going on outside of us, as much as we're afraid of what could go on inside of us. And when we can see and recognize that, it takes some of the power from that fear.   Because with the work we're doing here on this podcast, and in the world, we know that we are the only masters of our mind. And if our fear is of ourselves, then we have control over it. And man, there is so much power in that!   Join me as we take a look at what your subconscious might be offering, that your conscious mind is actually totally cool with.   See you inside

Most of us have gone our whole lives spending all of our attention on being whole the world has told us to be, filtering ourselves through the lease of “what are they thinking of me.”   We have a fear that we're not good enough, that we don't bring enough value, that we're too much, that we're annoying, that they won't like us, etc… but like, SO WHAT? Maybe they don't like you. Maybe you are too much for them, or not smart enough, or speak too confidently.   When you stop to think about it, its not a problem that you're not everyone's cup of tea. There's not a soul on the planet who has everyone in their pocket. What matters is whether or not YOU LIKE YOU.   In todays episode we chat about how to continue to show up as a version yourself that you like, regardless of what “they” think. I dive into some thought work around accepting the possible rejection from the outside, as you double down on the acceptance from the inside.   I can't wait for you to step into your power, own who you are, and let their opinions fall where they will.    See you inside

Staying where you are often feels like the safe choice. But, I'm guessing that since you're here with me, safe isn't what you're after. You, like me, want growth, evolution, expansion. Which means, for people like us, we're bound to be confused sometimes as our conscious self wants more, but our subconscious brains says, “nah, we good.” In todays episode I talk about how to lean into the growth seasons, how to recognize the signs that growth is coming, and how to mentally overcome doubt that your brain is throwing your way. We want a big life, a full one… and that doesn't happen from the confines of our comfort zone. So tune in to this episode to grab the courage needed to zoom out and elevate your vibe! And don't forget, I'm still running the beta test for my membership that is launching in the new year, and I would LOVE to have you join us! You will get access to the Intentional Living course that I just wrapped up, as well as weekly live coaching calls. Details are in the episode, or found here: ashliemolstad.com/intentional-you   See you inside

The number one way to build self confidence, is to follow through on the commitments you make to yourself. The thing is, we generally make BIG commitments, like: I'm going to start this workout program and not miss a day, its 60 minutes a day for 60 days. I'm doing my diet for real this time. No more sugar, carbs, junk food, alcohol, etc. I am going to build this side hustle into something great so that I can leave my full time job Etc. Etc. But, then, when things get hard, because it is too much pressure or too much of a departure from your normal life, you give up. And, when you give up consistently over time, you hemorrhage trust with yourself. You learn that you can't count on you. You learn that you are ok with disappointing yourself, as long as you're not disappointing others. In todays episode I walk you through how to start building that trust back… with micro goals. Things that don't require a TON from you, but require just enough to build that mind management and stay committed to your goal. Things that, as you do them, you learn you actually CAN do hard things, just not all at once. Join me as I share how you can set micro goals to build your self confidence, and set yourself up for that massive goal you have on your vision board. And don't forget, I'm still running the beta test for my membership that is launching in the new year, and I would LOVE to have you join us! You will get access to the Intentional Living course that I just wrapped up, as well as weekly live coaching calls. Details are in the episode, or found here: ashliemolstad.com/intentional-you   See you inside

Through my years as a life coach, and in doing my own self coaching, I've learned that we all have, what I like to call, Default Operating Systems. Meaning thought patterns that our brains tend to think after years of practicing those beliefs.   What we're doing here is trying to uncover what those thought patterns are, and then, create new programming for our brains. Thoughts that ultimately will feel better and be more efficient for us, but initially feel really hard and challenging to use.   Join me in today's episode as I break down how to spot what your default operating system is, and then some tactics on how to grant yourself grace as your brain learns the new programming you're giving it.   I also want to invite you to become a Beta Test Participant in my membership that will be officially launching in the New Year. You will get access to the Intentional Living course that I just wrapped up, as well as weekly live coaching calls. Details are in the episode, or found here: ashliemolstad.com/intentional-you   See you inside

A lot of what we do here and what I teach is to focus on our thinking, because our thoughts truly create our reality. It is crucial that we understand this- because right now we're blaming our life on the facts and circumstances and people around us.   But, today I want to teach you an evolved concept. One where we take your painful thought and instead of trying to thought swap to get to a better feeling, we make your painful thought a fact, and then decide how we want to feel about that.   This is especially helpful when you're dealing with a diagnosis, a tragedy, a schedule that is out of your control, mental health issues, etc.   In today's episode, I walk you through what this process looks like and how you can use it in your life to grant yourself peace even in the midst of pain.   Nothing has gone wrong. This too shall pass. And it doesn't have to be the best time for it to still be worth your time. Sometimes life is hard and we can do hard things!   See you inside

Episode 49: A Pause for Jane My husband's mom died on Saturday, and nothing has felt right since. I will do another episode on managing though and processing grief at some point, but today I just want to share with you something that has helped me in past times of grief, and I hope that it also brings you some amount of comfort, even if tiny, as you wade through the wreckage of saying a final goodbye to a loved one. Thank you for tuning in. This week, my ask of you is to call your parents, or book the trip, or plan the dinner. I know it's cliche, but these people are so precious, and tomorrow isn't guaranteed.  Love you, now go love your people (and yourselves) well.  Xo

We pay attention to our blood pressure, our temperature, our heart rate, our oxygen… its time we pay attention to our fifth vital sign: our cycle. As women, we're not taught or encouraged to support our bodies incredible hormone cycles… but thats where Jacqueline from The Menstrual Mogul comes in. She joins us on this episode of INsource to share what the four stages of our cycle are, and how we can support our bodies best during each of them. She shares when we should push hard, and when we need to pull back. We dive into when you're going to feel the most confident and can schedule big launches around that, as well as when we might be more sensitive physiologically and need to protect ourselves and preserve our energy more. You guys know I've been obsessed with learning about my body, how it works, and how I can make sure I am supporting it best. This is another piece to the puzzle. You can listen to the podcast we did with Jacqueline on You Can Sip With Us here If you want to dive deeper with her, you can find her on IG at @menstrualmogul, or at her website    See you inside

I lost a soulmate of mine over a few misunderstandings and miscommunications… I have a friend who is currently in the midst of dealing with some misunderstandings in a very important relationship in her life, and I have clients who we are actively working on healing their thoughts about significant relationships in their lives that are happening as a result of misunderstandings.   In todays episode, I share how these misunderstandings manifested in my life and my relationships, which led to that friendship ending… and how I have shifted my thinking so that I can feel better, love harder, and give the benefit of the doubt to those I care about.   I hope that you're able to apply some of these principles to a relationship in your life that has you acting in a way you're not proud of. And I hope that as you apply these strategies and thought principles, you can repair that story and relationship before we cause more pain, for us or them.   Can't wait to hear what you think!   See you inside

The Body Positive Community was a saving grace for me for several years. It helped me find peace and freedom and hope in moving away from being diet addicted and body obsessed. But, it also became another space where there were rules to follow and right and wrong ways to be body positive.   Following the body positive “rules” blindly felt good, until they didn't. I had to do some work around what being body positive meant to me. And how could I be body positive and *still* want to lose weight. This exact discussion came up in one of my 1:1 sessions this week, so this week I'm bringing it to you.   Inside this episode I teach you how to shift things around in your brains so the even if you're someone who wants to lose weight, you can still do it from a place of gratitude and respect, even if the body positive police disagree.   This message, like all of my messages, come down to: decide what makes YOU feel good and what feels good for YOU to think. And then, let the others think whatever. As long as you're doing what feels right to do, you can't mess it up.   I've also launched my latest offering, Intuitive You. A four week course where we'll dive into how to onboard and insource more of your thoughts, feelings and actions, so that you can live your life with intention and purpose. Registration is only open until October 1st, with the group kicking off October 2nd.. Join us at ashliemolstad.com/intentional-you   See you inside

I am just coming off one of the most transformative weekends of my life. It was a highlight that I will never forget. As I was thinking about what made it so magical and unforgettable, I came up with a list of things I learned, or that were reaffirmed for me about life in general. And in todays episode I share them with you. They are: Getting uncomfortable is almost always worth it. The Universe is always at work. Everyone has a story. Compassion matters. You don't have to feel like shit. You are still YOU in there. Prioritize her. Being who you are is exactly who you're supposed to be.   Join me as I expand on these, and break down how they can apply to you and your life, right where you're at.   I am so grateful for you for continuing to show up here. I hope you know how much it means to me that you spend some of your life with me. And I hope more than that, that I make it worth it for you. I can't wait to hear how you implement these lessons into your mindset, and continue setting yourself free.   See you inside

In life, pain is inevitable. But suffering is always optional. Of course it doesn't always feel that way. When we're in pain and suffering it can often feel like we have no choice. But we do. We always do.   Sometimes pain is appropriate. Grief is appropriate. Sadness is appropriate. But suffering truly has no upside.   In todays episode, I bring you part of a live coaching call I did with one of my clients who was diagnosed with a chronic illness. She feels as though so much of her life is out of her hands, and that much of the future she had planned for herself is no longer an option. And while those things may be true, it is the resistance of them, the “things shouldn't be this way” thinking, the “this isn't fair” thinking that is added to her pain.   Join us as I help her move from suffering, back into pain, and ultimately into peace- with the pain and without. I hope you can see part of yourself in her story and find a way to grant yourself more peace in the face of pain.   See you inside

You do things your way, he does things his way. The problem is, your way is the right way and when he does it differently, you get angry.   I hear you. I've been you. But, in todays episode, I share how you can overcome those differences to get on the same page again. I specifically share how this has come up in my own life in regards to the way we parent. But, the message applies to anyone, in any relationship, who doesn't like the way someone else is choosing to do things. And yet, you want peace. You want gratitude. You want to feel love towards this person you love who is doing it “wrong.”   It just takes a shift in thinking, and a decision to believe that there is more than one way to get things done… and the world (or your kids) need to see that variety.   This is something I am actively working on, so come with me on the journey.   See you inside

I made a huge parenting mistake recently that sent me into a tailspin of guilt and regret. I felt like I had let my daughter down in a significant and irreversible way… but showing up from a place of regret and guilt over a mistake doesn't have me showing up as my best self. I knew I deserved forgiveness, and my child deserved a mom who showed up from strength and love.   In today's episode I walk you through what happened, and how I was able to overcome the shame spiral by choosing a better thought.   BUT, this episode isn't just for parents. Its for anyone who has ever made a mistake, or done something they regret, or finds themselves arguing with reality and wishing they could change the past… because while I am talking specifically about how I let my daughter down, I'm also talking about how you can offer yourself forgiveness and love WHEN mistakes happen.   I'd love to hear something you're going to work to forgive yourself for, so you can set yourself free.   See you inside

I found the enneagram several years ago and was fascinated by how accurate, and informative, it was at explaining how I work, what I'm motivated by, and what can be my Achilles heel if I don't watch it.   More than that, it helped me to better understand those around me. It helped me to not take things so personally when I saw clear as day how different we're all wired and motivated.   On today's episode, I talk to Enneagram expert Enneagram Ashton, who gives us a high level overview of the 9 types so you can see where you fit into it. There was so much we couldn't cover in our short chat, but I hope it gives you enough of a taste to spark your interest to learn more!   You can find her on IG @enneagramashton Or on her website at https://enneagramashton.com/   See you inside

You've done it so many times that you've started to believe that you're actually not capable of following through a plan to take care of you. You commit, you continue for a while, and then, maybe a week later, maybe a month, but always eventually, you quit. WHY?   In todays LIVE COACHING call, I explore the brain of my client around why she has been giving up, and offer some different thoughts to go to that will help her stay focused on what she wants in the long run, what truly matters.   I hope you can see yourself in her story. Because I know I've been in her shoes more times than I can count.   Lets all collectively decide that we deserve to show up for ourselves, and call out any thoughts that tell us otherwise.   See you inside

Everything and everyone is totally neutral. Things and people don't become a positive or negative thing until we have a thought about it. And we are the only thinker of our thoughts… Sometimes things happen or people act in a way that makes us feel frustrated, angry, resentful, judgmental, etc and we say “they need to change so that *I* can feel better.” But, THEY can't make YOU feel anything. Its your own brain that does that. In today's episode, I share a listener question with you, and then dive into a different way to tell your story so that you can continue protecting your peace. You deserve to feel love and compassion, and you are the only one that can give that to yourself. See you inside

When was the last time you gut checked whether the decisions that you're making everyday are in alignment with your values overall? So often we're so zoomed in on that *one* meal, that *one* comment, that *one* bedtime routine, that *one* disagreement, that we forget it doesn't really matter to us in the big picture, the macro values of our lives.   I hope todays episode offers you some perspective, and an opportunity for you to zoom out and reach for more peace.   See you inside

The very first step in changing any thought is creating awareness around it. But, sometimes we have thoughts that feel so true, and so factual, that they don't feel like thoughts at all. They don't feel optional, they feel absolute. In todays episode, I walk you into the first step of discovering what those thoughts are that you have about yourself, where you likely learned them, and how its possible to let those thoughts go and create a new story about you that feels better. I can't wait to hear what beliefs about yourself you unearth from today's episode. And if you need help discovering them, or discovering new ways to think once you have created awareness around these core beliefs, you know where to find me! See you inside

So much of our suffering in life comes from people not behaving the way that we want them to. People do things and we get upset and blame them. But, you know by now that its never the thing that causes your pain, its your thoughts about them.   In todays episode we take some listener questions regarding expectations we have for others, and how we can manage them to give ourselves peace. We can't control others, but, if we work really hard, we can control how we react to them.   See you inside

I spent most of my life focusing solely on how I looked and what other people thought of me. I ate when and what the “experts” told me to, and it led me to being the most unhealthy version of myself possible.   Then I moved into rejecting the diet industry and embracing intuitive eating. For years I was motivated to heal my relationship with food and my body. After a couple years of doing this I was ready to learn how my body actually works and become an intentional eater- eating to feel good, which sometimes meant pizza and sometimes meant protein.   Today I am in the middle of a very strict Candida clean out protocol- and some of the rules are very similar to those I used to follow while in my serial dieting phase. But I feel WILDLY different.   In todays episode I share the various thought patterns I've let lead me, and in doing so, I hope that you can see where you are at in your journey, so you can decide where you WANT to be.   We have been focused on the facts or the actions for so long, but in this episode I break down why its the THOUGHTS that matter most (as they always do)!   See you inside

For the last couple years, I was dealing with debilitating brain fog and fatigue, I was exhausted all day, but not be able to fall asleep at night, I struggled with motivation and excitement, my libido had taken a nose dive, I felt short of breath a lot, restless legs were a regular thing, and I started wondering if this was just my new normal… If I'd lost the energized, excited, passionate Ashlie somewhere along the aging trail.   Until I met my functional nutritionist Stephanie Kuehne. She pulled extensive labs on me and then walked me through what she saw. Within weeks of following her protocol I felt like a brand new human. She has been one of the best things I have found, and in today's episode, I wanted to share her with you.   We had a deep discussion about what she does (vs. a dietician or a naturopathic doctor), how she got started, and why she is so passionate about this work of helping women feel good and like themselves again.   We chat about adrenal fatigue, what causes it and what can help it, where to start if you're just beginning, what to look for in our own provider… we even got her thoughts on fasting, ozempic, probiotics, and so much more!   I can't wait for you to listen and pick up some ‘ah-ha's that will have you feeling empowered to feel better! Because you absolutely can. You're not too old, and it isn't too late.   See you inside

When I'm chatting with my clients in my 1:1 sessions, we always start with a bit go a download about who they are, what their life  looks like currently, and what their obstacles are as they see them. They always respond with *thoughts* about themselves as if they are facts. They'll say things like: Nothing I do really matters. I'm just a stay at home mom. I'm a lot to handle. I take things way too personally. My weight is holding me back. Etc etc etc But these aren't facts. These are thoughts. Which means they are optional. Now, when you've been practicing believing them for years, and your brain has collected a ton of evidence to show you how “true” they are, they don't feel optional. But, its possible that you are wrong about you. Once you become aware of some of your thoughts about you, you realize how optional they are. And once they become optional, you open your brain to the idea that there is another way to think about yourself, one that likely serves you better. Now, your brain may still find evidence to support your previous belief, because that is what its been doing for years… and it may take other peoples actions or words as evidence to support a belief that no longer feels good. What I introduce in todays episode is the idea of letting them be wrong about you. Its powerful and life changing, which means its also incredible difficult. But we can do hard things. See you inside