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Hi! We're Rich and Hilary, and we have a daughter with special needs named Jane. Loving someone with disabilities can be a rocky journey! We want listeners with special needs loved ones to know they're not alone.  We also want to help listeners outside of the special needs lifestyle not feel too awkward about it. Because let's be honest, special needs can get SUPER weird. So whether you're a caretaker or just want to learn more, remember - it's okay to laugh!

Rich and Hilary Harris


    • Jan 1, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
    • infrequent NEW EPISODES
    • 34m AVG DURATION
    • 20 EPISODES

    4.9 from 39 ratings Listeners of It's Okay To Laugh that love the show mention: special needs child, hilary, rich, raw, life, insight, real, listen.



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    Latest episodes from It's Okay To Laugh

    "I Feel Like Frodo In Lord Of The Rings"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2023 21:41


    SURPRISE!! We're still alive! And we're here to talk about how J.R.R. Tolkien's "The Lord of the Rings" and "The Hobbit" speak to us on a deep level as special needs parents. So if you're a special needs parent, a Tolkien lover, or just someone who might enjoy two nerds making the ridiculous comparison that one man's beloved WWI-inspired fantasy epic is even remotely like parenting a special needs child, THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU!! CONTACT US! IG: @hilaryharris_

    "A Real Doozy" (Lifelong Caregiving Plan??)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2021 14:47


    We're back! And we're answering a doozy of a question... have we ever thought about how Jane will be cared for when we're ELDERLY and INFIRM?? ...OR DEAD?! Join us in this episode to find out! CONTACT US! IG: @hilaryharris_

    "I Don't Want To Explain Sex To ANY Five-Year-Old" (Maintaining Consistent Intimacy)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2021 29:20


    In this episode, Rich and Hilary awkwardly attempt to answer a listener's question about maintaining intimacy as parents of small, needy and/or special needs-y children. Do we kiss in front of our kids? Do we schedule times to "be intimate"? Should intimacy feel like hard work? Listen to find out! Also BUY SOME ATTALUS COFFEE! attaluscoffee.com / IG: @attaluscoffee CONTACT US! IG: @hilaryharris_

    Interview! with Lauren Lowery (Life Coach For Special Needs Families)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2021 37:07


    In this episode, we interview Lauren Lowery, a life coach for special needs families. This is a very insightful conversation both for parents of special needs children and for anyone who knows and loves someone with special needs. We hope you enjoy it! Lauren's website: lowerylifecoaching.com Lauren's IG: @laurenlowery Contact us! IG: @hilaryharris_

    "The Hamster On The Wheel Inside Of My Brain" (Mental Health - Anxiety)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2021 42:01


    Are you sick of talking/hearing about mental health yet? NO?? Then this episode is for YOU!! Hilary shares her experiences about dealing with anxiety, and Rich shares a little of his side of trying to support her. Hilary also shares some practical "do's" and "don't's" when it comes to dealing with anxiety. Also, more "Special Needs In Media", kicking off a review-in-progress of a new (to Rich) show! Simon Sinek video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sL8AsaEJDdo Contact us: IG @hilaryharris_

    "You Kinda Just Sat Back And Watched Me Do All Of It" (Advocacy)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2021 30:31


    In this episode, we talk about advocacy! Hilary advocates for a special needs swing in our local park, and Rich advocates for himself when Hilary says he did nothing in the process! Love, laughter, and mutual respect abound. Plus! -"Special needs in the media"! -We talk about crying! ... a LOT! -Ignorance and injustice, and how YOU can help! But no pressure or anything! Contact us: IG - @hilaryharris_ Gmail - itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "It's Complicated" (Milestones)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2021 33:43


    Welcome back to SEASON 2 of It's Okay To Laugh! In this episode, we talk about the complicated nature of defining and celebrating milestones in the life of a special needs loved one. A.k.a., Jane had a birthday and we decided impromptu - in the middle of recording - to use this episode for our own cathartic experience BECAUSE WE CAN. Contact us: IG - @hilaryharris_ GMAIL - itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "It's Not Depressing When You Just Own It" (Handling the Holidays)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2020 32:29


    Ever wondered what the HOLLY JOLLY HOLIDAYS hold for a special needs family? In this episode, we talk about our least-favorite Christmas songs and share tips we've learned about having a special needs family during the holiday season. We also have our first LISTENER "Special Needs Moment of the Week"! Contact us: IG: hilaryharris_ Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com Merry Christmas, happy holidays, and have a wonderful New Year!

    "A Beautiful, Radiant, Strong Koala" (An Interview with Hilary)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2020 42:32


    Last episode Hilary interviewed Rich, and we had such a good time and got such a good response that we decided to turn the tables this time! In this episode, Rich interviews Hilary and they talk about the challenges of parenting a child who doesn't reciprocate affection, how to not let your child's diagnosis become your identity, and how to navigate when having children presses "pause" on the rest of your life! IG: hilaryharris_ Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "Eff You, Lennox-Gastaut" (An Interview with Rich)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 9, 2020 45:17


    This episode has something for everyone: -People who have contracted a mild strain of COVID -People who have cussed out a mental disorder -All other people See? Literally EVERYONE. In honor of Rich's 30th birthday, Hilary interviews him about the ups & downs of being the dad to a little girl with epilepsy. They talk about the struggles of parenting a non-verbal child, the painful reality of seizures, and the little unexpected moments of joy and beauty found in all of it. IG: @hilaryharris_

    Interview! with Christina Pann, C.N. (Part 2)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2020 30:08


    In part 2 of our interview with Christina Pann, C.N., she tells us about the importance of activating our parasympathetic nervous system (say that 10 times fast), gives her input on some current health trends, and reminds us to offer ourselves compassion for all the trauma (a.k.a. CRAPOLA) our bodies and minds have been through! Also, podcast listeners get ONE HUNDRED dollars off Christina's "Science and Soul Method" program if you use the promo code we mention in the episode! christinapann.com

    Interview! with Christina Pann, C.N. (Part 1)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2020 41:46


    This week, we recorded an episode that was so good, we turned it into TWO episodes! Continuing the topic of health and wellness, we decided to interview our first guest, functional nutritionist Christina Pann! Christina is a close friend of ours, and after receiving a cancer diagnosis (spoiler: she beat it!) she decided to become a freakin' PRO at health, and in this episode, she teaches us (and YOU!) some of her tricks! Also in this episode... we have MERCH now! Contact us: IG: @hilaryharris_

    "I Made A Noodle Sandwich Once" (Health, Fitness, Nutrition)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2020 34:48


    **THANK YOU to everyone who donated to help us keep putting out new content! We've got some fun new stuff coming your way soon!** Do you enjoy Taco Bell beefy crunch burritos, but also want to live a long and healthy life? Are you allergic to sweating and hard work? Have you ever made a noodle sandwich? In this episode, we share parts of our 11-year journey of fitness and nutrition. We also share some of our favorite healthy(ish) snacks! Contact us! IG: hilaryharris_  

    "Turns Out I've Got Baggage" (Things We Wish We Would Have Known)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2020 38:00


    Ever get yourself into a situation and think, "I wish someone would have warned me about this"? And by "situation", we mean "receiving an unexpected special needs diagnosis". And by "get yourself into", we mean, "blind-folded, pantsed, and sucker-punched by life". Metaphorically, of course. In this episode, we talk about the grief of special needs that no one talks about, the need for close friendships when carrying long-term trauma, and the benefits of counseling. Contact us: IG: hilaryharris_

    "Ussdetick. Esstethick? AESTHETIC." (Special Needs, But Make It Cute)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2020 32:38


    Did you know that most special needs equipment is clinically proven to be HECKA UGLY? And that's 100% unbiased fact, in our opinion.  So in this episode, we figure out how to pronounce the word "aesthetic", and give tips on how to get creative with making a special needs space look & feel nice. "Clean space, clean mind." (Or something like that.) Plus! Special needs media reviews! Shia LaBeouf impressions! "Little Tea Pot" references! AND MORE! IG: hilaryharris_ Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "That Says A Lot About Jessica Simpson" (Special Needs Siblings)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2020 46:27


    Why the heck would parents with a special needs kid have MORE kids?! The decision to grow your family can be intimidating and complex. In this episode, we talk about our process (having 3 kids) and listen to some valuable stories of grown siblings of special needs adults. Contact us! IG: hilaryharris_ Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "I like Being Taken To A Different World That's Not This One" (Coping)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2020 37:40


    In this episode, we give specific examples from our own lives of what can drive special needs families to cope on a regular basis. We also talk about how to take healthy steps in the coping process. Plus: -Guilty coping pleasures! -Caregiver fatigue! -"New Girl" parallels! -And more! Caregiver fatigue article: https://www.agingcare.com/articles/caregivers-veterans-share-emotional-enemy-154917.htm Contact us! IG: hilaryharris_ Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com

    "I Know What It's Like To Lose Your Mom; We Lost Our Dog" (How To Communicate With People Going Through Tragedy)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2020 38:36


    When tragedy strikes someone, it's natural to want to comfort them. Most people mean well, but oh boy can they say some stupid things! In this episode: How to not be that person who says stupid things! The healthy way to sit in trauma and not run from it! The smart way to connect with someone about their special needs loved one! How to not compare a pet with a suffering / deceased loved one! Contact us! Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com IG: hilaryharris_

    "We're Gonna Make Out In This Car Wash" (Marriage, Romance, and Sex)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2020 36:53


    Have you ever wondered how a couple with a special needs kid maintains the burning flame of sexual passion? Probably not! But in this episode, we're gonna talk about it anyway. We'll also talk about how our special needs daughter is NOT our first priority, and how we've worked through our different ways of processing life with her. Plus: A new segment! Your questions, answered! "BOING" sound effects! AND MORE! Contact us! Gmail: itsokaytolaughpod@gmail.com IG: @hilaryharris_ Intimate Issues by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/40977/intimate-issues-by-linda-dillow-and-lorraine-pintus/  

    It's Okay To Laugh

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2020 20:15


    Hi! We're Rich & Hilary, and we have a daughter with special needs named Jane. Loving someone with disabilities can be a rocky journey! We want listeners with special needs loved ones to know they're not alone.  We also want to help listeners outside of the special needs lifestyle not feel too awkward about it. Because let's be honest, special needs can get SUPER weird. So whether you're a caretaker or just want to learn more, remember - it's okay to laugh!

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