Not So Sexy™

This week we interview Angela, a sex therapist.  She talks to us about how to have the best sex, what it means to be in an abusive relationship, and shares with us details about her divorce. Even an expert in relationships can sometimes get it wrong. It's always good to remember that.  As always if you have questions, comments, etc - email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com  Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross  Check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast  

How many of you think sex workers are "Ladies of the Night" or have only experienced them through movies and TV? If you're like "Yup, that pretty much sums it up for me" then you and I are on the same page. This week we talked to Rose Love who is a sex worker. She tells us about her dating life, how she interacts with clients, she gives us insight into the profession (and it is a profession) and she reminds us to love ourselves.    As always if you have questions, comments, etc - email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com  Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross  Check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast  

What would a sexually liberated, zero shame, totally sexy group of people look like? Think leather, tons of leather. This week Not So Sexy goes on location to a premier erotic art show - Naughti Gras. We touched soap that looked like a dick, got spanked, and talked to people about all things sex.   As always email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com  Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross and check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

How much hair is too much hair? How often should you shave or is going full Brazilian too far? This week on Not So Sexy we explore these questions and more. Also, our host Alex now has to go get a Brazilian wax which he may or may not live stream ;).   As always email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com  Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross and check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast

Power - that is a big word in our lives. On this episode of Not So Sexy we explore what power means in relation to sex. How it affects how we couple, how it affects our interactions with other people, how it even affects our bodies. What does power mean for you? Do you feel powerful in your life, relationship, during sex? As always you can reach out to us on NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com  Tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross or message us on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast. We'd love to hear from you.  

Do you ever struggle asking for what you want? What about when you’re in front of the person you’re about to have sex with? Asking for what you want during sex can be really tough. It can be uncomfortable

Herpes can be a scary thing but it's surprisingly common. Yet, it's not talked about except in hushed whispers and angry texts like "DID I GET THIS FROM YOU". But herpes shouldn't be so scary. You can get it without an outbreak or from having penetrative sex. Instead of making fun of it and not talking about it our guest, Emily, decided to dive deep and discuss her life after she found out she had herpes. Our guest explains how they got herpes, what happened when they found out, and how they're trying to bring it out into the open.  Check out Not So Sexy on Instagram/Facebook - Not So Sexy Podcast Twitter @WeKnowItsGross And email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com with your questions.  

Dave Nadelberg, the creator of the Mortified show and podcast, talked to us about current projects, his past masterbation techniques, and his loves - past, present, and future.   

This week we bring on the zen master Andy to talk about when to say that huge four letter word L.O.V.E. It's, like most things, layered and complex.  We struggle to find an analogy, we show how much Alex really needs to calm down, and we talk about spears.  Also check out LELO our sponsor. They make incredible and beautiful sex toys. For weeks we've been trying them out. https://www.lelo.com/  

Guys, this week for Not So Sexy we brought on the most wonderful human being (and dating novice), Megan. Kit, Megan and I talk about putting yourself out there, and the pain of flirty first impressions.

How much do you know about BDSM? Do you think it's the dark world of sex that only the brave and masochistic dare to go? Well this week on Not So Sexy™ our guests give us the break down of BDSM. We find that it's a community of people that deeply care about consent and communication.         

Breakups are hard, Katie makes them easier.   

Do blue balls exist? Can HIV get through condoms, are married couples having less sex? All these questions and more we answer this week on our Sex Myths episode.    Thanks to everyone who send us their myths.    Check us out via these social media feeds  Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NotSoSexyPodcast/ Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy  

This week Not So Sexy brings on Joyce to talk about her experience being pregnant and being into porn.    Check us out via these social media feeds  Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NotSoSexyPodcast/ Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy  

There are SO  many ways to stay safe before, during, and after sex and we talk about all of it! This week we bring on the lovely Kate Rose to talk about her experiences using the pill and contraceptives.    Email -  NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com Twitter - @WeKnowItsGross Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NotSoSexyPodcast/ Make a donation to Not So Sexy - PayPal.me/notsosexy    

WE. ARE. BACK! Season two mofos! We brought Charles into the studio to talk about Red Flags. These are the things we should take notice of from the people we're dating, like being SUPER IN LOVE WITH Vin Diesel.    Check us out on Twitter @Weknowitsgross Check us out on Instagram at NotSoSexyPodcast You can make a donation to the show at Paypal.me/NotSoSexy  

Have you been caught? This is our final episode of season one of Not So Sexy. We talked about that very human activity, masturbation, with Bernard. He's a really great human and has touched himself, a lot.  Get in touch Facebook - We love when you message us your stories.  Twitter - Tweet at us @weknowitsgross Gmail - notsosexypodcast@gmail.com    

Have you ever done something gross during sex? So gross that it shut it down? Well you're not alone. We brought Sid into the studio to tell us his gross and poignant story about love, acceptance, and vomit. Warning: This episode is kinda gross and heartwarming all at the same time.    Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes. 

Did you ever walk in on your parents having sex? So did we!  This week we bring in Carlo to talk about being a parent and the struggles of finding time to get nasty when you have children running around opening doors all willy nilly.  As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org   Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat!  Music We used Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes Other Music used - MTBRD - Fanfare feat. Flamingosis

Oh man. Sex Ed, what a time to be in school. Seeing the inside of your parts, seeing the inside of other people's parts. Learning about how your body changes and why it's going to be even grosser.  We brought on Daria, Duria, Dilza? And Rob to talk about their sex experiences. We also recorded this the week before the election so our political commentary might be a little dated.  As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.    Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat!  Music We used Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes Other Music used - Susie Cues 

Shame, hoohah, what is it good for? Absolutely nothing. Get it! Like the song... Whatever, you get it. This week we bring on Jodi and Brandon and talk about the shame and embarrassment we felt around sex, our bodies (of course), and everything else.  As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. Period Coloring book - Check out our friends period coloring book. Our friend Andrea Yip made it and Christmas is coming! But seriously it's so thoughtful, humorous, and wonderful.  Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat!  Music We used Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes

Who is the winner when it comes to a breakup? (Hint, not us). This is a special episode. Kit and I sat down with each other and talked about some significant breakups in our lives and how they've affected us. We also talk about that classic idea that there are winners and losers at breakups.    As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org   Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat!  Music We used Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes Other Music used - MTBRD - Fanfare feat. Flamingosis

What did you wish you had known before you had sex?  We bring in Logan and Darian this week and probably like you, were totally unequipped with before we started having sex. So many emotions, so many fluids. Who knew! We didn’t...   As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org   Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat!  Music We used Intro Song - "You’d have to be crazy to not play these blues" by The Claudettes Other Music used - “Good Times Roll" Griz + Big Gigantic

This week we brought on Ainslie and Ken to discuss when they feel sexy. Ainslie has some experience in that arena as she was a former stripper and Ken, well he's a fuck machine (his words, not ours...ok ours).  Feeling sexy is how we look at ourselves and how we're treated by others. Shocker? Probably not.  As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

Have you ever been cheated on, or had someone cheat on you? This week’s episode we explored a topic that affects so many relationships, cheating. We brought Jada and Lisa into the studio and asked them do they do it? Cheating that is. Turns they're cheater cheater pumpkin eaters.  Look, if cheating is one of those deal breaker things for you this would be a great episode to listen to. We discover why people cheat, how it makes us feel, and (like with every episode) why most of this stuff lives in a gray area.    As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Did you know it was national breast cancer awareness month? We did, stay up to date on that shit. Not really a tip, we just care about your breasts. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org   Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

This week we brought in Justin and Lisa to talk about friend fucking or as we politely refer to it "Shitting where you eat". We also challenge that notion that friend fucking is bad thing. We learn that having boundaries is important, that treating each other like humans is important, and that indeed sex can be dangerous.  This episode was particularly insightful because one of us is learning to navigate through those waters and another had a revelation about how they're approaching that sexy danger.    As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Don't forget to rate us on itunes! We need those sweet sweet likes.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Go and have a conversation with that person you've been staring at for 20 minutes. They're human and you're human. They have anxiety like you have anxiety. The worst thing that could happen is they're just not that interested in you but if you never try you'll never know.    Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out. Juicebox - They're not even paying us to say this but we think their app is pretty cool. You can ask anonymous sex questions and get answers from experts. Pretty neat! 

We really do want to know. And so we went and got some answers.  We sat down with DJ Godiva and Sid this week asking them a pretty basic question - what makes them cum... and we learned a lot about BDSM, sloppy blowies, and ourselves. It was super fun to work on this episode because who doesn't want to know more about he messy and sloppy things that "get us there".  As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross.  Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Get after that D or V. When your partner knows that you're in it and having as much fun as they are it makes it, literally, so much better.  Resources - Cuz' you need to be wrapping it up.  Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share.  Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

Sex, what is it? Does it know things?   This is our 10th episode! What!   Seeing as this is a special occasion we brought Beth and Bryan into the studio and they helped us define what sex is. Turns out sex is a lot of different things. It's a skill, a paradigm, a societal construct created by the patriarchy to keep women down.  Sex is a lot of things. We also talk about some best practices around sex, and guys, you’ve got a big tool bet. Start using more than your hammer (if you know what I mean). As always you can connect with us on Facebook, email us at NotSoSexyPodcast@gmail.com, or tweet at us @WeKnowItsGross. Finally, here is our safe sex tip of the week - Talk about your boundaries before you start having sex. We guarantee that will make it so much more enjoyable. Resources Condomns- https://www.amazon.com/Condoms-Variety-Durex-Lifestyles-Trustex/dp/B00RPCJ8MM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1472936900&sr=8-1&keywords=condoms+bulk+1000+trojan It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!). Let us know if you have your own safe sex tips that you’d like to share. Here are some other resources to check out. The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

This week we had some technical issues and our episode 9 was completely wiped. We at Not So Sexy™ are sorry to our amazing guests who gave us their time.    We are also sorry to anyone who listens to this podcast regularly. You'll have to wait until next week.     

We learn that you can shave your butthole and that when you live with someone you have to be yourself all the time. Your SO (Significant Other) will, at some point, walk in on you pooping - get over it.  We learn that you deserve to be happy with people you’re with.  And finally we learn that boys get to be boys and girls get to wait for boys to figure themselves out - except for the notebook that’s a super progressive love story. 

We've been thinking a lot about dating here at not so sexy. As one of us is single, I know, we mention that a lot. But it’s something that’s on our minds. We've been thinking a lot about the perceptions we have before we go on a date with someone. How we look at them and how they look at us. So we decided to explore this topic. Over three episodes we are going to get the voices of men, women, and a mix respectively. This episode features Davey, Justin, and Jack. Davey is a comedian and all around hilarious person in STL. He also isn’t looking for a relationship right now. He also is working on showing up more like himself on dates.

We all have a moment where we realize we're sexual creatures. Sometimes we realize we like girls, sometimes boys, sometimes butt stuff.  Often our sexual awakening's show us a whole new perspective about ourselves and the world.  This episode we learn that our awakening's have changed who we are, that we deserve good partners, and that our buttholes are no longer off limits. 

Look. Porn is weird and terrible and wonderful. It also has many uses. Sometimes I like to get off on my own and sometimes I like to get off with a partner with it on in the background. It's there when I need it.  Thanks porn! 

Asking for sex can be hard. It can be weird and there isn't really a road map for it. This week we bring on Nicole and Rafe to talk about asking for sex. It turns out that it's not as easy as we thought. Also communication. Shocker!  

How many times have you worried about what you like? Ever asked to be dominated? Want someone just to say "I love you?" This week's episode we bring on Kit, FOR THE FIRST TIME, and Jodi to talk about their perspectives on getting weird, which hey IT'S NOT THAT WEIRD.  We also talk about being over weight and finding love. Turns out we just need to love our bodies.   

Today's episode is about Body Shame. We brought Frank, Seth, and Analicia into the studio to talk about how we feel about our bodies.  Look, we only get one body we might as well love it. Additionally, it can be funny standing in our underwear in front of people. As always we want you to have that sweet, nasty, and safe sex. So here are some helpful resources to help you do that.  So our first sex tip is - Buy Condoms Online. It’s like a rainbow (for fucking!).   The STD Project - So many useful resources about disease prevention and proper use of condoms. Bedsider Comprehensive guide to safer sex - This series is awesome. It’s an in depth series that we encourage anyone who is wanting to know more about safe sex should check out.

We bring in Logan, Melissa, and Katie into the studio to talk about consent. It's such a massive topic. We find out that consent is like a layer cake. A sexy layer cake? No, a regular ol get permission before you stick your finger into the cake cake. Also magic.