The Calmcast - Antidote to Self Development

In this video I share a personal story that brought the Three Principles to life in a whole new way. I explore how stress moves through us when we let it, what happens when we pause, and why calm is always just a thought away. If you've been caught in busy thinking or emotional overwhelm, this might offer a moment of deep relief and perspective.Watch to reconnect with what's always been steady underneath it all.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Most of us think stress comes from the deadlines, delays, or demands around us but it doesn't.In this video, I share a personal moment that reminded me: stress isn't in the event, it's in our thinking about it.This insight changed everything for me and it might for you too.Let me know what it brings up for you.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Feeling pressured to decide something right now? In this video, I share what I've discovered, through experience, reflection, and the Three Principles, about how clarity really works. From the fear of making the “wrong” choice to the duality trap of A vs. B thinking, this conversation explores how decisions often unfold naturally when we stop trying to force them. You'll learn why urgency isn't guidance, why uncertainty is okay, and how sometimes… the best decision is no decision, at least for now.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Caught in decision paralysis? In this video, I share a personal story of navigating a big business choice and the surprising realisation that feeling uncertain, pressured, or mentally chaotic is always a sign that it's not time to decide. If you've been stuck in overthinking or feeling urgency that doesn't match the moment, this gentle reflection might offer the clarity you didn't know you needed. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Ever find yourself wide awake in the middle of the night trying to solve problems you invented in your own head?That was me earlier this week. My mind was busy holding onto unhelpful, uncomfortable thoughts. I was caught in a familiar loop of trying to fix what wasn't even real.At some point, I started silently breathing in the word “let” and breathing out the word “go.” It helped me get back to sleep, but more than that, it reminded me how easy it is to turn letting go into another task on our to-do list.Especially for high-achievers with loud inner critics, letting go can start to look like battling the voice in your head, trying to silence or suppress it. But resistance only fuels the fire. Trying to fix our thoughts by thinking harder just deepens the exhaustion.Real letting go does not come from force. It comes from insight.What shifted everything for me was seeing how my thoughts were showing up in my body.Tightness.Tension.Restlessness.Noticing that helped me move from resistance to realisation. I didn't need to fight my thinking. I just needed to see that I was holding something that wasn't helping.Letting go is not a doing. It is what happens when you see clearly where your experience is coming from.Not the world.Not your circumstances.But your state of mind in the moment.From resistance to realisation. That is the power of insight.If this resonates and you're ready to move beyond overthinking and inner struggle, I invite you to book a Thriving Life Clarity Call. Let's explore what's possible when you stop trying to fix and start seeing differently.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Tired of being told to just let it go when you don't know how? This post breaks down why letting go isn't something you do but something that happens when you see clearly. Watch for a gentle shift in perspective. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

High-achievers often carry the heaviest expectations. But what happens when success doesn't bring peace? Let's explore how achievement can be driven by unexamined self-doubt.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Ever feel like you're falling short, even when you're doing everything "right"? In this video, we explore why self-expectation is never truth and why seeing through it offers real relief.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

If purpose has started to feel like a heavy question you need to answer before you can move forward, this carousel is for you. It offers a different way of seeing purpose, not as something to find, but something you are already living when you're present to what's here. If you've been stuck waiting for clarity, this might help you breathe a little easier and take your next step from a place of trust rather than pressure. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

We've been taught that purpose is something we have to find before we can fully live, work, or create. But what if that belief is actually the thing keeping us stuck?This session offers a different view.It explores how purpose isn't a fixed destination or identity. It's not something you earn or chase. It's something that reveals itself moment by moment, when you're present to what's real and honest right now.If you've felt pressure to figure it all out before moving forward, this is for you.You don't need to find your purpose to live it. You're already living it. One moment at a time. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Blame keeps us stuck. In this video, we explore how anger comes from our own thinking, not from other people. When we see that clearly, compassion naturally follows. This is a simple but powerful shift rooted in the Three Principles. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Anger can feel overwhelming and exhausting. This video explores how anger is a signal, not a flaw, and how self-compassion and curiosity can help you respond differently. Based on the Three Principles, this is a fresh way to understand what your anger is really pointing to. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Anger is not who you are. It is a passing emotion, not a personal failure. This carousel explores what really happens when we are triggered and how slowing down changes everything. You do not need to control your anger. You just need to pause long enough to hear what it is really telling you. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

In this video, I explore anger through the lens of the Three Principles, sharing how it's often a misunderstood signal rather than a flaw. You'll hear a personal story, a shift in perspective, and a gentler way to meet anger without judgment or control. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

This isn't about managing overwhelm. It's about letting it lead you back to yourself. When we learn to listen to our bodies and emotions instead of overriding them, we access wisdom, ease, and creativity. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

When we stop fighting overwhelm and start understanding it, something profound happens. We procrastinate less. We make decisions more easily. We reconnect with our voice. This is the shift from fear to clarity and it's available to all of us.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Most approaches to overwhelm focus on productivity hacks and mindset tricks. But what if that's what's keeping you trapped? I'll show you a gentler, more powerful way to respond that reconnects you to your natural clarity. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

We spend so much time trying to avoid or fix overwhelm. But what if it was never the problem, just a powerful signal pointing us home? In this video, I'll explore how overwhelm can become a source of clarity, rather than stress. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

There was a time when everything felt personal, every comment, every silence, every mistake. I felt like I had to be “on” all the time. But when I started to see that I didn't need to take every thought or feeling so seriously, everything softened. In this talk, I'll share how seriousness arises from self-focus, and how we can return to presence, lightness, and a more honest way of being with ourselves. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

I spent years trying to think my way to peace. I was constantly monitoring how I was doing, what others might think, and whether I was getting it “right.” But what I've come to see is that self-focus, even when it feels necessary, actually feeds stress and keeps us stuck. In this video, I'll explore how high-achievers fall into the trap of self-evaluation and what becomes available when we gently shift our attention away from ourselves and back into life. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

In this video, I explore how softening toward our emotions, rather than trying to silence them, reconnects us to our inner knowing.Overwhelm often disconnects us from ourselves, but our feelings are not obstacles. They are guidance.This is a gentle invitation to sit with what is here, trust your body's wisdom, and rebuild clarity, trust, and authentic self-expression from within. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

When we're overwhelmed, we don't just feel stressed — we disconnect from our true self.In this video, I explore how overwhelm silences our inner knowing and why pushing harder only takes us further from ourselves.You don't need to find your voice.You need to remember it was always yours.A gentle invitation to pause, feel, and reconnect.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

The inner critic says you're not coping. But what if the very fact that you feel overwhelmed means your system is working. It's speaking, asking for stillness? Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

You've been taught to meet overwhelm with urgency. To fix, to push, to override. But what if overwhelm is an invitation? A doorway back to yourself. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

You don't have to fix overwhelm.You don't have to fight it.You just have to stop believing the thought that says it shouldn't be there.What if your emotions are doing exactly what they're meant to do?Let me know what shifts when you hear that.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

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That feeling of falling behind… it's heavy, isn't it? Like you'll never catch up. But what if that urgency isn't coming from reality — it's coming from a thought?In this post, I explore how our inner critic fuels overwhelm with stories of not-enoughness, and how you can begin to question those stories with gentleness, not judgment. A breath of space in a world that keeps saying, “Go faster.” From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

We often blame the to-do list for our stress. But what if it's not the list that's overwhelming. It's the thoughts we're believing about it?In this post, I explore the hidden mental narratives that create urgency, drive perfectionism, and leave us feeling behind before the day has even begun. A gentle invitation to pause, breathe, and see overwhelm in a whole new way.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

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Whether in our business, health or relationships often times, it can feel like we are blocked from taking the action we know will be helpful.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Waking up feeling grumpy or generally feeling like that throughout the day. Here's a perspective shift which can bring some relief!From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

I speak to so many high achieving clients who are super hard on themselves. The inner critic keeps them stuck in self hatred and cruelly tells them they are never doing enough. There is something transformational in seeing how this is playing out and beginning to let it go. That's what I am exploring in this session.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

We often think success comes from following the right strategy or doing what others have done—but that's not it. The real secret? Doing the hard things that scare you.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Is that voice in your head going on and on about how you shouldn't be where you are doing what you are doing? Join me as I explore how to stop listening to that voice and stop seeing yourself as a fraud.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

The other day, I got lost on the way to my hair appointment—not because I didn't know the way, but because I listened to the wrong voice in my head. My inner critic told me to take the "longer" route, even though my inner knowing had already given me the right answer. The result? I was late.This is exactly what happens in life, too. Your inner critic is predictable—it always shows up just as your inner knowing does. It plants doubt, makes you second-guess yourself, and keeps you stuck in overthinking.In this session, I'll show you how to recognise the BS patterns of your inner critic so you can stop letting it derail your decisions. Where has this happened to you? Let's explore together.

Guilt can create an awful feeling and take us away from present moment wisdom. Straight off the back of a beautiful call with a client, I am sharing what I hope will be helpful about guilt and how to have it fall away from your life. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Do you ever feel stuck in your thoughts, believing they define you or control your reality? In this talk, we'll explore how thoughts are transient, like passing clouds, and how observing them without over-identifying can free you from unnecessary suffering. Discover the peace that comes from seeing your thoughts for what they truly are—just thoughts, not the truth of who you are.From Surviving to Thriving is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to From Surviving to Thriving at claredownham.substack.com/subscribe

Are you chasing calm, thinking peace is something to find outside yourself? Discover why this endless pursuit creates stress and suffering—and how true calm is already within you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

What if clarity and calm weren't things you needed to create, but were already part of who you are? In this episode, we'll explore how the inside-out understanding reveals effortless clarity by showing you that your experience is always coming from within. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

You don't need more tools or techniques to cultivate calm. Discover the power of seeing calm as your natural state.Thanks for listening to From Surviving to Thriving! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Most people misunderstand calm. In this episode, we'll explore what calm truly is—and isn't—so you can experience it effortlessly. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

A source of overwhelm for me is needing to feel in control. I need to do everything now or within a certain time frame because it's what I can control. It's a lot that I put on my own shoulders. I can't give up that control. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Chaos doesn't have to disrupt your peace. In this episode, learn how to stay grounded and centred, no matter what life throws your way. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Are you searching for calm like it's something to achieve? Discover why calm isn't something to chase but something already within you, waiting to be seen. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Learn how to experience calm without tools or techniques. This video reveals the truth about sustainable calm, offering a fresh perspective on managing stress and cultivating inner clarity. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Question: I'm supposed to observe my thoughts with curiosity. However, as soon as I try to do that, the thought just withers away. Is that normal? The moment I try to observe the thought, I become conscious that I'm trying to observe the thought. Then I can no longer observe the thought. Because it goes away. Are there ways to keep my thoughts around while I'm observing them and appreciating them? Thank you! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit claredownham.substack.com

Join me in this special episode as I share the exciting news of my transition from the Queen of Calm branding to a Success Mentor for Emerging and Established Female Entrepreneurs. In this episode, I'll discuss the reasons behind this change and how it aligns with my evolving philosophy of empowerment and self-discovery. Discover why I believe that true success comes from embracing our innate potential, following our intuition, and sharing our unique gifts with the world. Get ready to embark on this new chapter of empowerment and transformation with me! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/clare-downham/message

Are past resentments affecting your relationships? In this live session, we'll delve into the transformative power of forgiveness through the lens of the 3 Principles, liberating you from the burdens of the past and nurturing connections. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/calm/ https://insighttimer.com/queenofcalm --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/clare-downham/message

Is your mind often preoccupied, hindering your presence in relationships? Discover how the 3 Principles can guide you to cultivate mindful awareness, fostering deeper connections and more meaningful interactions. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/calm/ https://insighttimer.com/queenofcalm --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/clare-downham/message

Are you seeking more positivity and joy in your relationships? Join us to explore how the 3 Principles can open the door to gratitude and appreciation, nurturing a sense of fulfilment and harmony in your connections. Get a FREE GIFT: 5 Simple Truth to Take You Closer to Calm: https://claredownham.com/calm/ https://insighttimer.com/queenofcalm --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/clare-downham/message