The Fertile Mind: your thinking & your fertility

What do we need to create more of what we want in life? Confidence or courage? In this episode, we explore why we can't trust our feelings and when we do listen to our feelings, we can end up feeling stuck in life. 

Stress is so common in today's society. At the same time, I think there is often a misunderstanding of the cause. When you begin to see what's really creating your stress, you can stop looking in the wrong place for the answers and resolve it at the root cause. In this episode, we explore the real cause of stress. 

I used to have a very busy mind. I still do at times. Meditation used to be something I thought I needed to do to have a quieter mind, not that it made much difference in the rest of my day. It is now something I enjoy but don't feel I need. In this episode, we explore meditation as a state of mind instead of an act. 

I think most people wouldn't say no to more fun in their lives! Despite how challenging life circumstances can be, is it possible to still have moments of fun? How do you create a life with more fun? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind fun and how you can experience more fun and joy in your life. 

In this week's episode, we explore the freedom that comes from seeing how thoughts and feelings are pure imagination. 100% of the time. 

In this episode, I share a poem that I came across in the midst of our infertility journey when life felt hopeless, and I felt worthless. It sparked something in me. It evoked a deep desire to play full-out in life and not have any regrets. To stop getting in my own way. It is called The Invitation. It is an invitation for you to be fully you and create a life of passion and purpose. 

Criticism can cut deep. Particularly if it is unfair. It can trigger us unnecessarily. Being sensitive to it can keep us in a state of tension. In this episode, we explore why this is the case and how you can stay calm and in your power in the face of unfair criticism. 

We all need someone who's got our back. Who believes in us more than we believe in ourselves. Who picks us up when life feels tough. Who helps us get clear on our truths and have the confidence to create the life we want. My coaches do this for me. In this episode, we explore why this is important and what it can unlock within you to help you create the inspired life you deserve. 

I like to be right. I can find it hard to admit I am wrong, particularly to people I care about most. In this episode, we explore why this is often the case and why admitting we are wrong can take courage, but it is also a gift of love (to ourselves and others). 

Kids can start to think there is something wrong with them when they compare themselves and/or their lives to others. I know I did. This can play out in our lives as adults, even though we are not kids anymore. We start to gather evidence and life experiences that reinforce this unconscious belief. In this episode, we explore how we can let go of that belief, regardless of life experiences that try to reinforce it. 

What would happen if you could truly KNOW you are OK, and will be OK whatever happens in life? In my experience, my mind and body relax. It creates a sense of ease, relief and happiness in the moment. My mind opens to a sense of possibility more easily. I allow myself to dream dreams and turn those dreams into projects. In this episode, we explore the idea of innate wellbeing and how we can recognise it within ourselves more easily. 

I drifted through my corporate career. I may have drifted up the organisation chart, but I didn't have a conscious goal or idea of what I really wanted for my career or life  as a whole. When I started to explore what I really wanted, I realised I needed to change direction in a big way. In this episode, we explore what drifting is, why we do it and what we can do to consciously create the life we want. 

In my experience, people-pleasing leads to chasing a feeling of contentment and fulfilment and never achieving it. It's an exhausting treadmill that is fuelled by low-level fear and anxiety of being judged or rejected. In this episode, we explore how to free yourself from being a people-pleaser, bringing more ease and flow into your life and body whilst still being a kind and caring person! 

How come some days or times feel like you are in flow and at other times, life feels like hard work, or you feel 'out of sorts'? In this episode, we look at the different levels of our sense of self and what it means to be in alignment, which brings clarity, inspiration and impactful action. 

There is always more we can do in life. At the same time, we know being more present is good for our well-being. In this episode, we explore why slowing down doesn't mean you loose your edge, it means you can be more effective, productive and happier. So what stops us doing it? 

Are you an overthinker? I can be addicted to my thinking. We know it doesn't serve us, but we can find it hard to break the cycle. In this episode, we explore what is behind overthinking and how we can begin to break free from an addiction to thinking to have more ease, peace and presence in life. 

There are times I feel frustrated with life. Experiencing infertility felt unfair and I was angry with life. In this episode, we explore why we are creating our own frustration and what we can do to let it go as it holds us back in creating the things we want in life. 

I think many people can relate to a fear of failure. However, often, what we are scared of is not failure but success. This may sound strange, but in this episode, we explore why the fear of success may be holding you back from creating what you want in your life. 

I help clients create the family they crave, the work-life balance they want, and the success they want. Whether it is a CEO, Olympian, or wanna-be mum, one of the most common attributes of my clients is Imposter Syndrome to one degree or another. A lack of self-confidence and self-worth.  In this episode, I help you explore whether you may have Imposter Syndrome and how you can let it go! 

Are you all in? This may seem like a silly question when often personal development can become all-consuming. Whether it's the career, baby or learning to have less stress. But at the same time, we often are not all-in, we are not playing full out in committing to honouring our heart's desires, despite any fear. Can you be all in and for it not to be all-consuming? I believe you can. In this episode, we explore what being 'all in' really means.

Do you worry about not never being happy? Or not having enough money? Or always in a rush. We are in one of two mindsets: lack or abundance. A lack mindset can keep us from creating what we want in life, whether the baby or promotion. This episode explores the difference between lack and abundance and how you can be more in abundance to help you achieve your goals more easily. 

Do you ever wish you could change some aspects about your partner? What if I told you, could you change your partner and make them more of the person you want them to be?! In this episode, we explore how to do just that! 

Surely goals are useful? What if not having goals mean you drift through life without purpose? What if the goals you have are holding you back? In this episode, we explore how to make goals work for you and to ensure they don't hold you back, and whether even having goals serves you at all. 

Many of my clients have limiting beliefs about themselves that they have had for many years, even decades. How do we let go of these old patterns that seem so ingrained? Surely, it takes a long time to do that? In this episode, we explore why that is not the case and how true, organic, life-long change happens. It may be easier than you think! 

When we peel away the layers of thoughts and beliefs, one of the core beliefs that most of my clients have, and I had and still have from time to time, is not being enough. Not worthy enough, or good enough, or having enough. This manifests in many ways, whether in self-confidence, fear of not having enough money or time, or thinking you have to prove yourself. In this episode, we peek beyond the veil of this story to explore what it means to KNOW you are enough. 

There is so much about life we can learn from improv comedy. There may be no script, but there are a set of principles improv comedy actors need to follow to make it work. In my experience, these principles can help us have more contentment and freedom in life. In this episode, we explore these principles to bring more freedom and possibility to life. 

Many people don't do what they want to do or be who they want to be because they don't feel confident enough. They think confidence is a prerequisite to doing something when, in fact, confidence is a feeling you get after having done something. In this episode, we explore why confidence follows choice and the importance of making choices that honour your soul. 

This week is something different, and I think something special! I share one of my favourite meditations. In this mediation, you get to meet your future self, who has perspective and clarity on what's important in life. You receive guidance and advice from your future self to help you create a life of no regrets. Enjoy!

Do you consider yourself an addict? We are all addicted to something. You may or may not be addicted to sugar, your phones, vaping, or ther substances or behaviours but in my experience, most people are addicted to thinking! Over-thinking. Worry. In this episode, I share what I've seen as 3 keys to dealing with my own addictions and my clients, whether it's a substance, behaviour or worry.  

Orr's law states: What the thinker thinks, the prover proves. When we understand this and see it playing out in our and other people's lives it can be incredibly empowering. It can free is from habitual thought patterns that don't serve us. So this week, we do exactly that! 

We are often brought up not to be big-headed. I often get clients to 'boast' about how great they are. They can't do it! They list facts, but it feels like boasting. One thing I have had to learn is that claiming our gifts isn't about being better than someone else. "The more space we take up in the world, the more we give others permission to do the same." Jacob Collier.   My coach shared this poem with me. It really spoke to me. I want to share it with you so you can know you have gifts for the world. The more you share them, the more flow comes to you and the more you feel alive to life.  Cargo by Greg Kimura You enter life a ship laden with meaning, purpose and gifts sent to be delivered to a hungry world. And as much as the world needs your cargo, you need to give it away. Everything depends on this. But the world forgets its needs, and you forget your mission, and the ancestral maps used to guide you have become faded scrawls on the parchment of dead Pharaohs. The cargo weighs you heavy the longer it is held and spoilage becomes a risk. The ship sputters from port to port and at each you ask: "Is this the way?" But the way cannot be found without knowing the cargo, and the cargo cannot be known without recognizing there is a way, and it is simply this: You have gifts. The world needs your gifts. You must deliver them. The world may not know it is starving, but the hungry know, and they will find you when you discover your cargo and start to give it away.

This week we are diving into the archives from Oct '23. It's one of my favourite topics as it's had such a big impact on me personally. We have parts of us that we often resent and wish we didn't have them. Perhaps it's the worrier in us that worries unnecessarily. In this episode, we explore how we can utilise these parts of us so they become the key to our success. 

Connection is a wonderful feeling. Whether feeling connected to our partner, friends, or even ourselves. Connection is key to contentment, communication and feeling loved and understood. In this episode we explore how to create connection with others and our true selves, and what typically gets in the way.  

Purpose brings meaning. Purpose is the key to motivation. Positive psychology says a purposeful life is the highest level of happiness. So, how do you find your purpose? About 20 years ago I started by Googling 'how to find your purpose'. Google or even AI won't tell you your purpose. So how do you find it? In this episode, I'll let you know what I've learned over the last 20 years to point you in the right direction!  

What if you could feel loved unconditionally? In this episode, I talk about my personal experience with feeling loved and the one thing that made all the difference to me, but it's something I often avoid talking about. But here I bear all hoping it serves you in a similar way. 

Everyone experiences fear to one degree or another. Fear can hold us back from creating the life we want. Fear fuels anxiety. Fear creates tension in our life (and our bodies). We can't stop feeling feeling fear, as we can't control or choose any of our emotions. In this episode, we look at how we can change our relationship with fear in a way that gives us more peace and ease and empowers us to create more of the life we want. 

Many people are scared of the unknown. We like the familiar. It feels safe. I recently did a coaching programme with a coach. I called it Beyond The Edge. It was about me learning more about going beyond my comfort zone, beyond the edge of the known into the unknown, the world of possibility. That's where the magic of life lives. In this episode we explore how you can go beyond your edge to where the magic of your life lives. 

I have never believed in the power of manifestation, thinking your way to being rich or having a Ferarri! Now I know why. In this episode we explore the key ingredients to creating the things you want whether the promotion, the baby or the new business. 

This week we are diving into the archive from Jan 22. One of the most popular but contraversial episodes! Affirmations can be very popular in the world of personal development. Let's face it, they don't work! It ends up being a battle between old thougths and new thoughts. Trying to pursuade yourself of something you don't fully believe. In this episode we unpack why they don't work, why they can actually make things worse, and what to do instead! 

Can you be hard on yourself? We all know it doesn't really serve us and most people could benefit from more self love. In this episode we explore how we can move from self criticism to self love which brings more ease, peace and flow. 

Are you all in? This may seem like a silly question when often personal development  can become all consuming. Whether it's the career, baby or learning to have less stress. Project Baby definitely took over our lives. What if part of you is not all in?  Can you be all in and for it not to be all-consuming? I believe you can. In this episode we explore what does all in really means.

The Beeltes famously sang 'all you need is love'. I sign of my emails 'Loving You, Russell' regardless of who it is going to, whether a CEO or colleague. It recently lost me a client. So why do I do it? In his episode I explore that I believe to be the core to what you want create in your life, whether a baby, more happiness, less stress or the promotion. Love. 

Being present is where the magic happens. Where you feel peace, flow, love, connection. It's where you get insights, clarity and perspective. In this episode we explore how to be more present moment to moment. 

I don't teach my clients tools and technqiues, I don't believe they bring deep lasting change. I help my clients change their relationship with themselves and life from the inside-out. In this episode we explore what that means and how change really happens. 

In this weeks episode we dive into one of the popular episodes from the archive. Back with new episodes next week! We are creating all the time. We may not think we are creating what we want in life, but we may not realise we are also creating what we don't want. In this episode we explore how we are powerful creators, creating all the time whether we realise it or not. The more we see it, the more we can harness the power to create more of what we want. 

This week we look at an episode from the archive. Life can often feel unfair or a series of circumstances we have to endure. In this episode we look at how we can feel more empowered and like a creator despite our circumstances and limiting beliefs. 

I used to think I was a worrier and that it was my personality type. No-one is born a worrier. We learn it. Which is good news as it's not our innat self. In this episode we look at how we can stop worry and anxiety preventing us from being the person we want to be and creating the life we want. 

We all get the moments of realisation where we see a situation with clarity. In these moments we know whats right for us, particularly in challenging times when we struggle to see the wood from the trees. In this episode we explore how we can have more moments of insights and clarity. 

One from the archive (Sept 23) this week. We spend more time thinking than is useful. A lot of my clients agree they are ‘over-thinkers' and can benefit from a calmer mind. When we have a calmer mind we get clarity, perspective and our innate wisdom can kick in. This brings more ease and flow as we navigate life. In this episode we explore how you can do that by recognising the two types of thought and spending more time in the more useful one! 

Some time ago, I shared my favourite meditation, so I thought it was about time I shared it again. This is a meditation I recorded myself based on meditations I found powerful in helping me connect to a feeling of peace, well-being, and love—a feeling of being HOME. Enjoy coming home where you are safe, loved, and welcome, and not alone.

I have spoken in the past about why I am not a fan of affirmations. In this episode, I explore why that is the case and how you can go beyond affirmations and connect to your innate worth, confidence and well-being without trying to persuade yourself of anything.