Podcasts about Avoidance

P&S ModCast 468 — Defensive Display Done RightWhat separates a justified defensive firearm display from brandishing, intimidation, or an unnecessary escalation? And what happens when displaying a firearm successfully stops an attack—but the defender shoots anyway?Host Matt Landfair joins firearms instructor Steve Moses, litigation consultant Shawn Vincent, and criminal defense attorney Don West for a discussion of defensive firearm displays, sound judgment, and the legal consequences that can follow a self-defense encounter.Drawing on their training and case experience, the panel examines how an armed defender's decisions look to investigators, prosecutors, witnesses, and juries. The conversation connects firearm handling and threat assessment with the broader responsibility to avoid unnecessary conflict and recognize when a threat has changed.Topics include:• Defensive display versus brandishing, and why circumstances and state law matter.• The distinction between displaying a firearm, pointing it at someone, and firing it.• Recognizing an imminent threat and reassessing when an aggressor stops or retreats.• Breaking contact, creating distance, and avoiding a return to the confrontation.• How ego, anger, and the desire to have the last word can undermine self-defense.• Safe gun handling, muzzle direction, trigger-finger discipline, and maintaining visibility of a potential attacker's hands.• Verbal boundaries, managing unknown contacts, and preparing a response before an emergency.• Training beyond shooting drills, including decisions about when to draw—and when to stop.• OC spray and other options between verbal commands and a firearm.• The tactical risks and legal consequences of warning shots.• Calling 911, video evidence, witness accounts, and the importance of context.• Jury selection, the presentation of a self-defense claim, and the financial and personal costs of prosecution.• How social-media advice, firearm slogans, and prior statements can influence decisions and complicate a defense.Real-World Cases:Michael Drejka — The panel examines the Florida parking-lot shooting and the critical distinction between drawing a firearm to stop an assault and firing after the aggressor begins backing away.Sheri McClatchy — A laundromat attendant breaks contact after an assault, calls 911, and displays a firearm when the attacker approaches again. The panel uses this encounter to discuss resolving a threat without firing.Alexander Weiss — A Minnesota traffic incident illustrates the risks of retrieving a firearm and returning to a confrontation, along with the difficulty of using a gun to control another person's behavior.Jeffrey Smith and Arthur Kohn III — A Michigan gas-station confrontation highlights how returning to an argument and introducing a firearm can compromise a subsequent self-defense claim.Dean Keller and Jeffrey Weigle — An Indiana neighbor dispute demonstrates how displaying a firearm can cause another armed person to perceive an immediate threat, with consequences for both physical safety and criminal liability.Mark and Patricia McCloskey — The panel discusses firearm handling, defensive positioning, and the consequences of pointing weapons during the confrontation outside their Missouri home.Kyle Carruth and Chad Read — The Lubbock, Texas, shooting provides another example for discussing disengagement, retrieving a firearm, and returning to a dispute.The central theme is continual judgment: circumstances change, and a defender must respond to the threat that exists at that moment. A firearm display that ends an attack does not automatically justify a shot afterward. Avoidance, restraint, competent handling, and the ability to explain reasonable decisions all matter.Recorded September 29, 2026.Host:Matt LandfairPanel:Steve MosesShawn VincentDon WestGuest Resources:CCW Safe — The Armed Defender's Dilemma, 36 Lessons for Armed Defenders, and the InSelf Defense podcast:https://ccwsafe.com/Episode Sponsors:High Desert Cartridge Companyhttps://highdesertcartridge.com/PHLster Educational Content — practical, brand-agnostic guidance on concealment and concealed carry. Explore their YouTube channel and the PHLster Concealment Workshop onFacebook: https://www.youtube.com/@PHLsterBlue Alpha — belts and supporting equipment for concealed carry, duty, and training:https://www.bluealphabelts.com/Support Primary & Secondary:https://www.patreon.com/PrimaryandSecondaryPrimary & Secondary:Website: https://primaryandsecondary.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/primaryandsecondary/Forum: https://primaryandsecondary.com/forum/Complete Audio Podcasts: https://www.spreaker.com/show/primary-secondary-podcastThis discussion provides general education. Self-defense laws vary by jurisdiction, and individual incidents require analysis of their specific facts.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/primary-secondary-podcast--2585240/support.

What if the man who pulls away from the love he wants isn't rejecting you, but protecting a scared little boy inside him??Josh Trent welcomes Ryan Moresby White, founder of Heal The Boy, to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 835, to explore why every man carries a wounded boy into his relationships, how the grief he never let himself feel turns into shutting down, avoiding intimacy, and self-sabotage, and why a man becomes truly safe to love only when he heals the boy within.In This Episode, Ryan Moresby-White Uncovers:(01:20) Women as God's Mirror for Men's Unresolved Pain(06:15) The Original Wound and the Empty Mirror(10:50) The Rose That Gets Trampled(15:10) Why Men Paradoxically Reject the Love They Desire(19:50) That Is How We Change the World(25:05) I'll Never Be Like My Father Is a Prayer(29:25) The Generational Library We Carry(32:55) Spread Activation Theory and Where It Lives in the Body(36:35) Breathwork and the Little Boy's Language(41:10) The Man Who Had Done All the Inner Work(47:30) Racing Dirt Bikes and Not Feeling Like He Had a Father(50:50) The Story Beneath the Pattern(01:00:00) How He Knew in His Body She Wasn't for Him(01:04:20) Love All Parts and Still Hold Standards(01:09:20) The Notebook, Hollywood, and the Wound Being Monetized(01:16:10) Embodiment Is the Only Test That Matters(01:19:20) Every Man Also Needs to Feel Safe(01:22:00) The Man on the Couch(01:30:30) It Happens Only in Community(01:37:25) Build the Ship Before Sailing the Waters of Soul(01:40:30) Rite of Passage

Brooke Olsen and Eric Sjoberg look at how conflict shows up in every relationship, healthy or not, and how the way we handle it is shaped by the family we grew up in. The conversation centers on three things: conflict avoidance, aggression, and boundary setting.

Last week I talked about how successful people are relentless. This week I want to add something: you can be relentless and still stay completely stuck if you're relentless about the wrong things. In this episode I'm talking about the difference between busy and moving, what's really underneath the avoidance, and why the season where nothing looks like it's happening might be the most important one. KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Busy isn't the same as moving. You can take action for years without moving forward — buying the courses, making the plans, staying productive — while avoiding the one uncomfortable thing that would actually change something. 2. Avoidance isn't laziness, it's a belief. Underneath it is usually something like "I'm not worthy of this," "what if they judge me," or even "what if I succeed and everything changes." Until you deal with what's underneath, you'll keep circling the same cycle. 3. You're not behind — you might be underground. Before a skyscraper goes up, they spend months digging. The depth of the foundation decides the height of the building, and you can't add a foundation to a finished one. Whatever you skip now becomes your ceiling later.   HOST BIO I'm Summer, Since the age of eleven, I have been captivated by the question of what it truly means to live well. That curiosity led me deep into the worlds of self-development, spirituality, psychology, philosophy, and human potential, always searching for a deeper understanding of life and the human experience. Like everyone else, I am still learning. Still evolving. Still discovering. But along the way, I have encountered ideas, perspectives, and principles that have profoundly shaped the way I see the world and navigate my own journey. Inner Wealth was born from that exploration. It is a space where I share the most meaningful insights, lessons, and truths I have uncovered, with the intention of helping others think more deeply, live more consciously, and create a life of greater fulfilment, purpose, and prosperity. At the core of everything I do is a simple intention: to contribute something meaningful and leave people a little wiser. Ultimately, my purpose is to be of service to humanity.   CONTACT ME Follow me on Instagram for more insights and to stay up to date with the pod @thesummerkang This podcast was brought to you by Frankly Podcasting.

If all you want is less conflict, some of the things you're doing to keep the peace may actually be creating more of it.In this episode, I'm breaking down how dismissive avoidant attachment can show up in mental load fights and why conversations about household responsibilities, emotions, or unmet needs can feel so frustrating for both partners. If you've ever thought, "Just tell me what you need," wondered why nothing you do seems to be enough, or wanted the conversation to simply be over, this episode is for you.We'll look at the patterns that can keep these same arguments repeating and the shifts that can help you create more connection, less resentment, and the kind of peace you're actually looking for in your marriage.Tune in to discover:• How dismissive avoidance can fuel mental load fights• Why trying to avoid conflict can create even more of it• The mental load patterns you may not realize you're repeating• The surprising connection between mental load and intimacy• What can help the same arguments finally stop repeatingResource Mentioned in Episode• Dr. Morgan Cutlip's Care Load Report: https://bettershareapp.com/care-load-report (Use code MAK10 for $10 off!)Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System! Let's Connect!Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention CallCheck out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough CallFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! FREE Resources: • Marriage Shutdown Checklist• The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video• 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

In this episode, Craig Jeffery and Stephan Ireland of Open Fees examine why bank fee management is easy to avoid but costly to ignore. They discuss what account analysis statements can reveal about unnecessary services, internal behavior, and control gaps, and how automation can turn a tedious monthly review into actionable insight for managing banking relationships. Webinar: Managing Banking Relationships: A More Intentional Approach (Open Fees) Episode 402: The Hidden Risks in Your Bank Fee Analysis and How to Fix Them Open Fees Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 00:42 Why bank fee management gets avoided 05:00 Why normal invoice review breaks down 09:11 About Open Fees 11:19 What bank statements reveal 16:57 Bank fees, risk, and fraud controls 22:20 Automating bank fee analysis 26:15 How to approach fee management 32:33 Overcoming inertia 34:27 Why "Open Fees" 37:22 Final thoughts 37:55 Outro ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT STRATEGIC TREASURER ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ Strategic Treasurer is recognized as a top tier consulting firm in the area of treasury and risk management. Corporate clients, banks, and technology vendors all rely on their industry leading advisory services that are backed by a deep awareness of current needs, practices, and budgeting priorities of treasury professionals through Strategic Treasurer's annual industry surveys and decades of treasury experience. Strategic Treasurer utilizes a senior consultant model where every project is managed by senior consultants with actual practitioner experience in corporate and/or banking roles. Download The Strategic Treasurer: A Partnership for Corporate Growth by Craig A. Jeffery in Kindle, or hardcover. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Visit us today at StrategicTreasurer.com. Or join in the discussion at one of our leading LinkedIn groups.

Love is rarely a straight line. Sometimes your partner stops initiating affection. Sometimes parenting disagreements swallow the relationship whole. Sometimes your daughter isn't progressing in swim lessons and you're wondering if it's you. Sometimes someone tells you they “push vulnerability away,” and you're left holding the emotional bill.Tonight we explore how affection shifts, how fear disguises itself, and how parents and partners can reconnect without losing themselves.https://latenightlove.us

Thabo Shole Mashao, standing in for Clement Manyathela, speaks to Shelly Lewin, a relationship architect, author, and relationship coach, who shares some insight into what relationship needers and avoiders are. They also touch on how to navigate love as either a needer or an avoider. You’re listening to The Clement Manyathela Show on 702. Clement Manyathela makes sense of the news of the day while sharing information to guide you through daily life. As your morning friend, he tackles both the serious and the light-hearted on your behalf. Thank you for listening. Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 9 am to 12 pm (South African time) on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show and catch-up podcasts, visit Primedia+ https://buff.ly/XijPLtJ Subscribe to the 702 daily and weekly newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Keep the conversation going online: 702 on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There's a growing number of allegations that Education Ministry managers have actively tried to avoid scrutiny via the Official Information Act. The Ombudsman will meet with Secretary of Education, Ellen MacGregor-Reid, this morning about the issue, and an internal review is underway. Secretary for Education Ellen MacGregor-Reid spoke to John Campbell.

Jonathan Eckert has spent more than three decades watching what happens to people, young and old, when comfort becomes the organizing principle of a life, and in this conversation he draws the line most of us have blurred: the line between happiness that is circumstantial, self-focused, and fleeting, and the joy the Lord actually offers, which is not the absence of struggle but the very fuel that allows us to struggle well. We talk about the frictionless world we have engineered for ourselves and what it is quietly costing our capacity to be human, about why Scripture rarely lets joy stand apart from trial, and about what it means to count it all joy when we meet trials of various kinds, not because the trial is good, but because of what the Lord forms in us when we refuse to run from it. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Running belts have taken a huge lap in performance over the last few years. Taylor and Alex give a rundown on which ones they like, the different offerings, and why you just might want to grab a belt over a pack. They also chat about a suprise race day shoe, the Kiprun Kipsummit Race.Guest: Tina Muir is an athlete and environtmental advocated in the running space. She wears a lot more hats than that, even! Tina and Taylor talk about their experience at UTMB that includes concerns, promising measures, and ideas for the future.SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS:Lagoon: Sleep is one of the most underrated training components. We've been fans of Lagoon for years and use their custom pillows nightly to support a great night of sleep and, of course, our running. Go to http://lagoonsleep.com/believe to take a quick quiz to find the best pillow for you. Get 15% off your purchase by using code BELIEVE

Sometimes choosing not to do something is exactly the right decision. Other times, the reasons we give ourselves for waiting, researching, or putting something off are helping us avoid something uncomfortable. The tricky part is that both can look exactly the same from the outside.   In this episode, I share a conversation that made me question whether some of my own decisions were truly strategic or if I was avoiding discomfort. We'll explore why having a legitimate reason doesn't always tell the full story, and why understanding what is driving a decision matters more than the decision itself.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://carriehollandmd.com/222       Follow me on Facebook and Instagram: https://www.facebook.com/carriehollandmd https://www.instagram.com/carriehollandmd/

You know something isn't working. Maybe you feel disconnected from your partner. Maybe you're unhappy with your sex life. Maybe you've stopped asking for what you want. Or maybe you've known for years that something needs your attention—but addressing it feels harder than simply continuing as you are. In Part 2 of the Relationship & Intimacy Assessment, Dr. Sonia explores what happens when we recognize a problem in our intimate lives but continue to avoid it. Because when we're deciding whether to address something difficult, we tend to focus on the cost of taking action: the uncomfortable conversation, vulnerability, uncertainty, or possibility of hurting someone's feelings. But there's another question worth asking: What might it cost you if nothing changes?

Nearly everyone has put off a task at some point, but task paralysis goes beyond simply procrastinating. It can leave people feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and unable to get started, even when they know something is important.In this episode of Health Matters, host Courtney Allison speaks with Dr. Alyssa Ames-Sikora, a psychologist at NewYork-Presbyterian and Columbia, about the psychology behind task paralysis and why so many people experience it.Dr. Ames-Sikora explains how competing brain systems influence motivation and decision-making, why anxiety and perfectionism can make tasks feel impossible to begin, and how too many choices can lead to decision paralysis. She also discusses research showing that procrastination is not a modern phenomenon and may even be observed in other species.The conversation offers practical tools for overcoming inertia, including breaking large projects into smaller goals, using the Pomodoro Technique, reducing distractions, and identifying the times of day when you're most productive. Dr. Ames-Sikora also shares guidance for parents who want to help children and teens develop stronger follow-through skills and healthier habits around completing tasks.Chapters00:00 – What Is Task Paralysis?How task paralysis differs from everyday procrastination and why humans have struggled with it throughout history04:45 – What Happens in the Brain When We Freeze?The roles of the limbic system, prefrontal cortex, anxiety, impulsivity, and decision overload07:15 – Perfectionism, Avoidance, and Getting UnstuckWhy important tasks can feel harder to start and how self-compassion and small wins can build momentum09:30 – Practical Strategies for Taking ActionThe Pomodoro Technique, reducing distractions, finding productive times to work, and helping kids develop follow-throughKey Topics CoveredTask paralysisProcrastinationAvoidanceExecutive dysfunctionDecision paralysisPerformance anxietyPerfectionismImpulsivityMotivationProductivityGoal settingBehavioral psychologySuccess spiralsPomodoro TechniqueTime managementFocus and attentionBrain developmentPrefrontal cortexLimbic systemDecision-makingAnxiety and productivitySelf-compassionParenting and motivationTeen developmentHealthy habitsKey TakeawayTask paralysis is often driven by anxiety, perfectionism, impulsivity, and feeling overwhelmed, not laziness. By breaking tasks into smaller, achievable steps, reducing distractions, practicing self-compassion, and focusing on progress instead of perfection, people can build momentum and move forward one step at a time.Doctor BioAlyssa Ames-Sikora, PhD, is a psychologist with NewYork-Presbyterian and Columbia and an assistant professor of medical psychology (in psychiatry) at the Columbia University Clinic for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CUCARD) - Westchester. She received her bachelor's degree in psychology from Rutgers University, received her master's and doctorate degrees in clinical psychology from Georgia State University, and completed her predoctoral internship at Children's National Medical Center. Following this, she completed her postdoctoral fellowship at CUCARD-Westchester. Dr. Ames-Sikora specializes in the assessment and treatment of internalizing disorders that affect youth and their families, as well as providing evidence-based assessment and interventions for other concerns, including adherence to medical regimens, coping with chronic illness, adjustment to new diagnoses, and behavioral challenges. Her research interests have centered on the effects of parental psychopathology, parent-child communication, emotion flexibility, emotion socialization, and the quality of interpersonal relationships. Dr. Ames-Sikora's dissertation investigated the effect of maternal depression on the flexibility of her emotionally expressive behaviors during interactions with her school-aged child.

(Throwback | Originally Aired 9/9/2019) Neely Fuller discusses the existence of racism with a nonwhite caller. Caller does not except or the acknowledge the existence of racism. Dr. Frances Cress Welsing speaks about a code of Black Self Respect.  Racism Avoidance Disorder(RAD) & The Industry Of Black American Confusion https://youtu.be/lF0gWadJBPs?si=sZEQcv9uz-C4cZxh #fba #producejustice #vgq #neelyfullerjr #thecodeistheleader #rad #racism #rws #par #peopleactivityradio #francescresswelsing #lgbtq

 Your relationship with pain probably goes one of the two ways…Most people take the conventional route and try to obliterate it with drugs and extreme treatments they may not need (that can hurt them even more than the pain itself). In many cases, their relationship with pain defines who they are.Paul and senior CHEK instructor Leigh Brandon, author of Beyond the Pain: A Whole-Person Approach to Understanding Pain and Participating in Recovery, explore a very different and holistic relationship with pain, one that doesn't treat it like an enemy but a vital source of information about your body this week on Spirit Gym.Learn more about Leigh and his work at his website. Find him on social media via Instagram, Twitter/X and TikTok. Check out Leigh's podcast, Beyond the Pain, on YouTube, Apple Podcasts and wherever you listen to them. Read the first chapter of Beyond the Pain at this link.For Spirit Gym listeners: Download Leigh's paper, The Load Capacity Hierarchy Model of Chronic Pain: A Systems Based Framework for Understanding Pain and Guiding Clinical Practice, today!Timestamps4:54 Why Leigh felt compelled to write a book about pain.6:46 More UK adults suffer from chronic pain than Americans, depending on the studies you read.14:43 The double-whammy of taking a painkiller and medication for depression.16:44 One of Leigh's worst experiences with pain that took him 22 months to diagnose, treat and heal.27:13 Do you have a pain identity?31:39 Miasms (trapped emotions).36:39 Why people treat pain as their enemy.44:12 Treating fear as different emotions.50:21 Proprioception.1:03:30 Pain is far more diverse and complex than most people realize.1:10:30 The four predominant causes of persistent pain that interact with each other, based on Leigh's experience (structural, metabolic, nervous system regulation and emotional load).1:15:08 People are so addicted to mobile phones, they use them in saunas!1:22:40 Leigh narrows down his knee inflammation to eating porridge every morning for breakfast.1:31:30 Viscerosomatic reflexes.1:41:02 When we can make meaning and understand our pain, it raises our threshold and we are better able to live our lives.1:54:23 Leigh's six principles of recovery.2:02:27 Pain exists as a vital path of communication and a safety valve that doesn't always guarantee painful problems.ResourcesAnatomy of Sports Injuries for Fitness and Rehabilitation by Leigh BrandonAnatomy for Strength and Fitness Training For Speed by Leigh Brandon Anatomy For Yoga For Posture and Health by Leigh BrandonEliminating Adult Acne for Good by Leigh BrandonThe Tennis Biomechanics Manual by Leigh Brandon and Paul ChekMRSA infectionsThe CHEK Totem PoleWall & Melzak's Textbook of Pain by Stephen B. McMahon, Martin Koltzdenburg, Irene Tracey and Dennis TurkNovak Djokovic: The Wolf in WinterThe work of Dr. John Sarno and Mariano RocabadoPaul's podcast conversations with Danny Way, Dr. Ibrahim Karim, Doreya Karim and Angie ChekThe Body Electric: Electromagnetism and the Foundation of Life by Robert Becker and Gary SeldenHow to Eat, Move and Be Healthy! 20th anniversary editionNonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them by Wayland MyersFind more resources for this episode on our website.Music Credit: Meet Your Heroes (444Hz), Composed, mixed, mastered and produced by Michael RB Schwartz of Brave Bear MusicThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20CHEK InstituteSpirit GymWe may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

In this episode of Regulated & Relational, Julie Beem and Ginger Healy explore anxiety through an attachment-focused and trauma-informed lens. Together, they discuss how worry, avoidance, emotional numbness, and perfectionism often develop as protective coping strategies, while also examining how these strategies can unintentionally keep us disconnected from ourselves and others.Julie and Ginger help us understand anxiety is often less about eliminating fear and more about understanding what lies beneath it and share compassionate insight into the healing power of authentic connection, vulnerability, and relationship repair.Resources Mentioned and QuotesThe Dance of Fear by Harriet LernerRelational-Cultural Theory (Judith Jordan)Attachment- and trauma-informed approaches to healing and connection"It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance." — Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Fear"You want to feel comfortable and so you avoid doing and saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid." — Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Fear"The need for connection in which growth is a priority is the core motivation in people's lives." — Judith Jordan

Send us Fan MailYour body can start bracing for conflict before a single word is spoken.A tight chest. A clenched jaw. The urge to disappear. The thoughts that say, “Don't go,” “Don't say it,” or “You're too much.”In this episode, I explore what that internal conflict can feel like and what happens when we begin creating space for those feelings instead of immediately letting them decide what we do.We also talk about silence and how quickly the mind can create a whole story when someone doesn't respond. I share a recent experience that reminded me how differently two nervous systems can interpret the same moment, and why sometimes something as simple as “I need some time right now” can protect connection.We get into avoidance, people pleasing, fear of being too sensitive, minimizing our needs, and the difference between discomfort and danger.Because your needs don't have to be convenient to be valid.And having a need doesn't mean somebody else has to meet it.This is also where self-regulation becomes relational. It's one thing to feel grounded by yourself. It's another to stay connected to yourself when another nervous system is in the room.Feelings are data. They're not direction.So what happens inside you when conflict appears?And what are you committed to when it does?If this conversation resonates, share it with someone who may need it, and remember to be kind to yourself.Support the show READY TO GO DEEPER?

Welcome To The Hey Nadz Show: UnF*ck Your MoneyWelcome to Episode 3 in the Money and Nervous System Series with Felina Danalis You know you need to look at the account, open the bill, deal with the debt or make the decision… but you just can't seem to do it.In this episode, we explore financial freeze: avoidance, shutdown, overwhelm, and the shame spiral that often follows.Instead of asking, “Why am I so irresponsible?” we ask a better question: what is the avoidance trying to protect you from?Tune in to learn more about this nervous system response, and what you can do about it. Connect with Felina:Felina Danalis, M.A., S.E.P. (she/her) helps individuals and mission-driven organizations master resilience to stress, anxiety and trauma in order to have a more meaningful impact in the world. After witnessing a traumatic car bombing while working as a diplomat in the Balkans, she had a breaking open moment which caused her to radically change direction and course. A bi-cultural and multi-lingual daughter of working class immigrants, for more than a decade she has stewarded a global coaching practice (www.felinadanalis.com) that helps individuals and organizations deal with the impacts of stress in a culturally-sensitive, trauma-informed, body-based way. She has worked with institutions ranging from the World Bank to Planned Parenthood, the Betty Ford Center to the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies, Google to The Golden Door. She holds degrees from Georgetown and Johns Hopkins University, is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and assistant teaching faculty and once upon a time co-wrote a book on socially responsible investing. www.felinadanalis.comhttps://www.instagram.com/fdanalis/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/felinadanalis/ ⭐️ Got a pattern you're sick of repeating?Bring me one pattern; overworking, overspending, people-pleasing, control, avoidance, not being able to rest, or whatever keeps showing up and stressing you out.BOOK IT HEREIn one focused 60-minute session, we'll crack it open: what keeps it going, what it may be doing for you, and what needs to shift so you can start doing things differently.The session is $222.And because I love a good bargain, occasionally, there will be a 20% off listener code hidden inside some episodes. So make sure you listen for them

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(Throwback | Originally Aired 9/9/2019) Neely Fuller discusses the existence of racism with a nonwhite caller. Caller does not except or the acknowledge the existence of racism in contemporary times. Racism Avoidance Disorder(RAD) & The Industry Of Black American Confusion https://youtu.be/lF0gWadJBPs?si=sZEQcv9uz-C4cZxh #fba #producejustice #vgq #neelyfullerjr #thecodeistheleader #rad #racism #rws #par #peopleactivityradio

Do you live in fear of being found out as a fraud? That despite your years of competency, achievement and high performance someone will uncover the truth? Well, you’re in the right place. Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is here to tell you that your imposter syndrome is nothing to be afraid of. In fact, it’s not even a syndrome.

Send us Fan MailWhat if you don't need more clarity, another strategy or one more bloody opinion? What if you already know exactly what to do?In this episode, I get called out on my own very convincing form of procrastination: productive avoidance. The courses, research, planning, tweaking and learning that all look incredibly bloody useful... whilst also conveniently keeping you away from the thing you actually need to do.From sending the pitch and raising your prices to holding the boundary, asking for help or finally making the change you've been thinking about for months, I explore the gap between knowing and doing and why understanding your patterns isn't the same as behaving differently when the actual moment arrives.I also share what hosting Be You Now taught me about confidence and identity: I didn't wait until I had enough evidence to believe I was an event host. Doing it became the evidence.Because sometimes you genuinely don't know what to do.But sometimes you know. And you know you know.And those are two very different problems.COME TO THE FREE MASTERCLASSYou Know What to Do. So Why Aren't You Doing It?Monday 21 September | 7pm UK | Live on Zoom + replayBring the ONE thing you already know you need to do. We'll work on the gap between knowing it and actually doing it and you'll leave with something practical to take straight back into your life or business.THE IDENTITY EDIT™Ready to go deeper into closing the gap between who you know you need to be and how you're actually operating?EXPLORE THE IDENTITY EDIT 

Episode Summary What makes a relationship truly toxic, and how do you know whether it can be repaired or whether it's time to walk away? In this episode, Eric is joined by licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, and Radiant Life Project founder Kate King, author of Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Together, they explore toxic dynamics in romantic relationships, families, friendships, and workplaces, including why ADHDers and other neurodivergent people may be especially vulnerable to people-pleasing, fawning, conflict avoidance, and staying too long in painful situations. Kate shares her framework for the seven traps that can keep us stuck, along with practical ways to recognize patterns, communicate needs, build tolerance for difficult conversations, and decide whether a relationship has the mutual willingness needed to mend. Show Notes In this episode, you'll learn: How to distinguish a truly toxic relationship from a relationship that is simply struggling Why your body may recognize a toxic dynamic before your brain fully accepts it How familiar dysfunction can feel safer than unfamiliar change The difference between healthy interdependence and codependency Why people-pleasing, fawning, and conflict avoidance are often rooted in nervous-system safety patterns How to begin practicing "easier hard things" to build tolerance for difficult conversations How to assess whether a relationship, family dynamic, or workplace can be repaired Why mutual willingness is essential if a relationship is going to mend Kate's seven traps of toxic relationships: Buy-in Comfort Powerlessness False ownership Unhealed trauma Avoidance Codependency Guest Kate King is a former licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, award-winning author, radiant life coach, and founder of The Radiant Life Project. She is the author of The Radiant Life Project and Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Learn more about Kate, her books, and her work at theradiantlifeproject.com. Resources Mentioned The Radiant Life Project: theradiantlifeproject.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com One-on-one ADHD coaching worldwide and therapy in Illinois: adhdrewired.com Adult Study Hall: adhdrewired.com Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired Patreon Update The monthly Patreon Coaching Call, available to Patreon supporters at the $25/month level and above, is held on the last Tuesday of each month. The call has moved from 4:00 p.m. Eastern to 2:00 p.m. Eastern. Chapters 6:01 — Introduction and Guest Bio 7:10 — Kate's ADHD Connection: Growing Up with an ADHD Parent 11:31 — Identifying a Toxic Workplace 15:44 — Mend or Move On: Where to Start 20:54 — Personal and Family Relationships 21:59 — Three Signs of a Truly Toxic Relationship 23:24 — The One Requirement to Mend a Relationship 30:46 — Building the Courage to Leave 33:26 — The Seven Traps of Toxic Relationships: Introduction and False Ownership 36:33 — Buy-in, Comfort, and Powerlessness 37:42 — Unhealed Trauma and Shadow Work 38:53 — Avoidance and Codependency 43:17 — Kate's Relationship and Healing Journey 45:48 — Spotting Gaslighting in a Partnership 48:53 — You Don't Owe Anyone Anything 51:42 — Where to Find Kate's Work

Are you doing the thing because of what you'll get, or because of what you're afraid of? Both get the task done. Only one of them is sustainable.This week, Dr. Ari Tuckman returns to talk about approach and avoidance, and why so many of us have only ever learned to start the second engine. We get into why avoidance works just well enough to become a habit, why "not as bad" is a ceiling rather than a goal, and what actually changes in a life that runs more on what you're moving toward.Along the way: the difference between shame and embarrassment and why it matters more than it sounds, what to do at 8 a.m. on a Monday when everything on the list feels equally urgent, and the case for disappointing people early instead of late.Links & NotesGet the “3 Reasons” Prioritization Worksheet Right Here!ADHD & Marriage: Learn to thrive in your relationship with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA; Rachel Ban, LICSW; and Melissa Orlov!Support the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:56) - About the Show (02:25) - Introducing Ari Tuckman (14:38) - The question of shame (22:00) - Approach Motivation (29:04) - Approach versus Avoidance (37:28) - Find Ari ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The conversation you have been avoiding is the one that is costing your relationship the most. We tell ourselves that staying quiet is the kind thing — that silence protects the people and connections we care about. But research tells us something different. Avoidance is not kindness. It is distance. In this solo episode, Laura breaks down four types of difficult conversations that show up in our professional and personal lives — feedback conversations, boundary-setting conversations, repair conversations, and courageous truth-telling — and gives you a practical strategy for each one. She also names something that most general advice on this topic misses entirely: for Black women, speaking up carries a real and documented cost. And so does staying silent. The question is not whether there is a cost. The question is which cost you are choosing to pay, and which relationships and values you are honoring with that decision. Whether you are a formal leader or someone with influence over people, processes, or culture, this episode is your reminder that it is your job to go first. In this episode: Why we avoid difficult conversations and what the research actually says about the cost — especially for Black women The four types of difficult conversations and a practical strategy for each one How to prepare your nervous system before you lean in, and why regulation is the foundation that makes every strategy actually work Resource mentioned: S8E16: Setting Boundaries with Clarity and Confidence - https://blackwomanleading.com/s8e16-setting-boundaries-with-clarity-confidence/ Download the companion guide: Leaning In: My Difficult Conversations Planner - https://blackwomanleading.com/difficult-conversations-planner/ About Laura Laura Knights is the Creator of Black Woman Leading® and host of the podcast. She is an executive coach, speaker, facilitator, and licensed clinical social worker with 20+ years of experience creating personal and professional development programs that have touched leaders worldwide. Her expertise and background in business, human resources, adult education, and social work uniquely equip her to teach others how to deal with both the "head work" and "heart work" required to succeed at work and in life.  She is the Founder and CEO of Knights Consulting LLC,  a leadership development consultancy that provides customized training and coaching programs to create more confident leaders and high-performing teams. Black Woman Leading® is a research-backed initiative which offers leadership development programming, a podcast, and an annual conference for Black women professionals. Black Woman Leading® is an initiative of Knights Consulting LLC. Learn more at blackwomanleading.com. BWL Resources: Join Black Woman Leading, The Collective - a membership community.  Learn more at https://blackwomanleading.com/the-collective/ Join us at the 2027 Black Woman Leading LIVE! Conference & Retreat.  June 1-4, 2027, Clearwater Beach, FL.  Save your seat at www.BWLretreat.com   Full podcast episodes are now on Youtube.  Subscribe to the BWL channel today!   Check out the BWL theme song here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l68EqEJjXq0    Check out the BWL line dance tutorial here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eui89AmJwUg    Take the free Future-Ready Leader Assessment - https://futureready.blackwomanleading.com/   Credits: Learn about all Black Woman Leading® programs, resources, and events at www.blackwomanleading.com Learn more about our consulting work with organizations at https://knightsconsultinggroup.com/ Email Laura: info@knightsconsultinggroup.com  Connect with Laura on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauraeknights/  Follow BWL on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/showcase/blackwomanleading  Instagram: @blackwomanleading Facebook: @blackwomanleading Youtube: @blackwomanleading  Podcast Music & Production: Marshall Knights - https://marshallknights.com/  Graphics: Dara Adams Listen and follow the podcast on all major platforms: Apple Podcasts  Spotify Stitcher iHeartRadio Audible Podbay  

Chris Cantrill is a British comedian, writer, and actor from West Yorkshire whose work combines rapid-fire jokes with an off-kilter view of everyday life. He first came to prominence as one half of the acclaimed sketch duo The Delightful Sausage, alongside Amy Gledhill, earning Edinburgh Comedy Award nominations for Best Show in both 2019 and 2022. As a solo performer, he added another nomination in 2024, before returning to Edinburgh this summer and finally winning the Comedy Award for Best Show in 2026.Alongside stand-up, he has appeared in programmes including Alma's Not Normal, Daddy Issues, Don't Hug Me I'm Scared, and Avoidance, while his writing credits stretch across television and radio. Most recently, he joined the writing team of Saturday Night Live UK, which returns for its second season this week.LINKSChris CantrillWebsiteInstagramThe Delightful SausageSaturday Night Live UKSNL UK on SkySimon's Observer FeaturesHow Saturday Night Live Landed in the UKJack Shep on That Princess Di ImpressionChris's Perfect ConsoleDuke Nukem: Time to KillFinal Fantasy VIIBloodborneAnimal WellThe Case of the Golden IdolOther games discussedCastlevania: Symphony of the NightDark SoulsSekiro: Shadows Die TwiceResident Evil 2 RemakeThe Witcher 3Elden RingStar Wars Jedi: Fallen OrderBecome a My Perfect Console supporter and receive a range of benefits at www.patreon.com/myperfectconsole Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Discover your style archetype free: https://tally.so/r/kdvR6jIn this episode I get into the nice guy and girl archetype, and why many of us learn to hide who we are and what we need out of fear. I get into where this pattern comes from, why we feel so much shame around having needs, how it shows up as self blame instead of honest communication, and my top three tips for recovering from nice guy and girl behaviors.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Introduction03:00 — How Nice Guys and Gals Get Created04:00 — Avoidance of Self06:00 — Constant Self Blame and Overthinking07:30 — 3 Parts of the Nice Archetype's psyche10:30 — Covert Behavior13:00 — 3 Things to Practice14:00 — Number One15:00 — Number Two21:30 — Number Three23:00 — Storytime____________________ More Resources For You: FREE 50 Essential Books & Films - https://ancientintelligence.kit.com/t... Book a coaching consult: https://calendly.com/anyashakh/coaching

Being kind at work is easy when things are going well. Smiling, saying thank you, listening, remembering birthdays. The real test is what you do when there is a problem, a conflict, or a disagreement. This episode is a self-assessment. Twelve everyday workplace moments that look polite on the surface and cost someone else something real. Escalating to a manager before ever telling the colleague what the problem is. Staying silent in a meeting, then criticizing the decision privately afterward. Calling someone disrespectful instead of naming the behavior. Saying yes when you mean no. Redoing a team member's work instead of telling them what to change. The pattern underneath all twelve is the same. Avoiding an uncomfortable conversation feels like kindness to the person doing the avoiding, and transfers the cost to someone else in the form of lost information, lost time, lost reputation, or a lost opportunity. Here is the test: if your discomfort leaves someone else worse off on information, time, reputation, or opportunity, that is not kindness. Go through the twelve. For each one, decide honestly whether you are being kind or protecting your own comfort. Then pick one to change this week. Key takeaways Kindness measured in easy moments is worthless as a measure. What counts is how you behave when something is wrong. Avoidance is not neutral. It moves the cost off you and onto someone else. Directness is part of respect, not the opposite of it. Warmth plus avoidance is still a cost passed to somebody. Character labels like difficult, toxic, abrasive, and disrespectful attack identity and give the other person nothing to act on. Behavior plus impact plus a specific request does. People can only fix what they know about. Usable information delivered early is the actual kindness. Leaders set the standard here. How you handle a disagreement teaches your team what is allowed. The 12 checks  Escalating to a manager before telling the colleague what the behavior is Escalating without one conversation plus one reminder first Staying silent in a meeting, which reads as agreement Criticizing the decision privately after the meeting ends Using character labels instead of naming behavior and impact Being warm and polite as a way to avoid the real conversation Saying yes when you mean no, then delaying and under-delivering Passing someone over for an opportunity without naming the gap Ghosting an email because you do not know what to say yet Watching work go the wrong direction for weeks before correcting it Redoing someone's work instead of explaining what needs to change Concluding someone is not ready without ever telling them why

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Klimakrise, Wirtschaftskrise, AfD-Wahlsieg in Sachsen-Anhalt - und auch noch der Kaffee ist braun. Was tun, um das Gemüt aufzuhellen? Nachrichten-Vermeidung hilft nicht wirklich, sagen Becker & Jünemann. Von Jürgen & Jünemann Becker.

School refusal can leave parents feeling confused, frustrated and worried. But when a child says, “I don't want to go to school,” what are they really trying to communicate?In this episode, Dr. Ashwati Nair, practicing psychologist, life coach and founder of Vedas Mind Health, explores the difference between school anxiety and avoidance, the signs parents should look for, and why both can sometimes exist together.From physical symptoms and emotional distress to bullying, academic pressure and learned avoidance, this episode offers practical ways for parents to respond with empathy while maintaining healthy boundaries and routines.Because behind every behavior, there is always a feeling waiting to be understood.

What if the very things you're avoiding are the things that would make ou powerful?The more successful you become, the more expensive your avoidance gets. In this episode of the Be Unmessablewith podcast, Josselyne Herman-Saccio reveals how high achievers often disguise avoidance as busyness, delegation, research, planning, and productivity.If you've been ignoring your finances, postponing an uncomfortable conversation, avoiding your calendar, or telling yourself everything is fine when it clearly isn't, this episode will help you become powerfully related to what is actually happening.In this episode, you'll learn:How high achievers disguise avoidance as productivityThe three steps of reality-based planning: clarity, measurement, and actionHow to stop reacting to circumstances and start creating from realityWhether you've been avoiding the numbers, the feedback, or the conversation, this episode will help you stop spinning stories, face what's real, and take the actions that move your life and vision forward.Download the Free Guide of 5 Daily Practices To Be UnmessablewithConnect With JosselyneWebsite: beunmessablewith.comInstagram: @beunmessablewithFacebook: UnmessablewithnessLinkedIn: josselyneherman-saccioYouTube: @beunmessablewith

Description:Think about the last real fight you had with someone you love, then think about what you did with it. Most of us swallowed it and called it peace. Priya Parker has spent twenty years walking into rooms where groups are coming apart, churches mid-split, companies that lost their founder, families with one topic nobody will name at the table. She is back on the show with a new book, The Art of Fighting, and her argument is that the peace we keep by avoiding conflict costs us the very thing we say we want most.Jen and Priya open with a hot takes round on pineapple pizza and whether a hot dog is a sandwich, which turns out to be one of Priya's actual tools: low stakes arguing is practice for the high stakes kind. From there, what unhealthy peace looks like inside a family, a team, or a church. Priya tells the story of her grandfather's funeral, where the minister's highest praise for a fifty year marriage was that the couple never fought. Jen names the four years she let a business partnership die rather than have one hard conversation. They get into how to diagnose the fight you are actually in, why “we're not a ___” is the sentence to listen for, and what happened when Priya went looking for the best literature on group conflict and kept landing in the Christian tradition.Conflict is not sin. It is a skill, and every one of us can get better at it.Part of September's Sacred Work series.***Thought-provoking Quotes:Low stakes arguing helps us approach high stakes arguing. – Priya ParkerWhen the going gets tough, add warmth to heat. – Priya ParkerHuman connection is as threatened by unhealthy peace as it is by unhealthy conflict. – Priya ParkerI learned from an early age that there is loss in avoidance. – Priya ParkerI invite you to think about conflict as a skill. And you can get better at it. – Priya ParkerConflict is not sin. Conflict is actually highly functional. – Priya ParkerFighting is about power. Avoidance is also about power. – Priya ParkerWhose mess do you want to be in? – Priya ParkerResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict by Priya Parker (Riverhead, out 9/8) - https://www.amazon.com/Art-Fighting-Transformative-Power-Conflict/dp/0593420225The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker - https://www.amazon.com/Art-Gathering-How-Meet-Matters/dp/1594634920Creativity, Inc. by Ed Catmull - https://www.amazon.com/Creativity-Inc-Expanded-Overcoming-Inspiration/dp/0593594649If You Met My Family, You'd Understand: A Family Systems Primer by Jack Shitama - https://www.amazon.com/You-Met-Family-Youd-Understand/dp/1732009368

Every time you give in to an avoidance or a ritual, it seems reasonable. Skip one social event, spend a few extra minutes on a compulsion, take one "me day" instead of pushing through. In isolation, none of it feels like a big deal. What's the harm?That's the trap. Not the individual behaviors themselves, but what happens when you add them all up.In this episode I want to talk about what I call negotiated avoidance: the process by which each individual accommodation to anxiety or OCD feels justified, smart, even cautious in the moment, while the cumulative cost quietly hollows out your life. Life gets smaller. Restrictions mount. Anxiety and OCD keep moving the goalposts. And the reason you can never seem to satisfy them is that they're not reasonable. You can't negotiate with a terrorist, and that's what anxious and OCD-driven demands actually are.I talk through why each individual avoidance feels like no big deal, why that feeling is part of the trap, and what it looks like when you start asking a different question: not "what's the harm in this one thing?" but "what does all of this cost me in total?" The answer is usually more than people expect. I also talk through why change here doesn't happen overnight and what it actually looks like to chip away at this bit by bit without declaring yourself a failure when things don't click instantly.The Act Triflex Episodes:Get PresentOpen UpDo What MattersFor full show notes on this episode:https://theanxioustruth.com/352Send in a question or comment via text.Support The Anxious Truth: If you find the podcast helpful and want to support my work, you can buy me a coffee.   Other ways to support my work like buying a book or signing up for a low cost workshop can be found on my website.  None of this is never required, but always appreciated! Interested in doing therapy with me? For more information on working with me directly to overcome your anxiety, follow this link.Disclaimer: The Anxious Truth  is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to The Anxious Truth does not create a therapeutic relationship between you and the host or guests of the podcast. Information here is provided for psychoeducational purposes. As always, when you have questions about your own well-being, please consult your mental health and/or medical care providers. If you are having a mental health crisis, always reach out immediately for in-person help.

Leafstar and her fellow SkyClan cats jump into an uncertain battle to determine an uncertain future. Hopefully, they will all emerge with some clarity (and their lives). Book: Super Edition: SkyClan's DestinySupport us on Ko-fi! WCWITCast Ko-fiFollow us on BlueSky! WCWITCastFollow us on Instagram! WCWITCastMusic:Happy Boy End Theme Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/This transformative podcast work constitutes a fair-use of any copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the US copyright law. Warrior Cats: What is That? is not endorsed or supported by Harper Collins and/or Working Partners. All views are our own.

Valuing people does not mean avoiding difficult conversations with them. In Episode 815 of Daily Influence, Brian Smith explores why one of the least responsible things a leader can do is allow discomfort today to become somebody else's problem tomorrow. Leaders often disguise avoidance as patience, empathy, grace, or simply waiting for the “right time.” But problems rarely disappear while we wait. A performance problem can become a consistency problem. A consistency problem can become an accountability problem. And eventually, an accountability problem can become a culture and credibility problem. Brian discusses the important difference between giving someone grace and withholding information they need in order to improve. He also explains how S.M.A.R.T. expectations—Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely—can help leaders replace vague criticism with clarity, accountability, and an opportunity for growth. Positive influence isn't simply about making people feel good. Sometimes responsible influence means caring enough to have the conversation neither person particularly wants to have. What conversation are you avoiding—and what might that avoidance cost tomorrow? Find your influence. Be the influence. Build your influence.

What does capacity really mean in life and leadership? Most people chase impact by adding more effort. A Definition Rooted in Real Experience Dr. Warner defines capacity simply. Why Effort Without Capacity Fails Many high achievers put in massive effort. The Four Layers of Capacity Capacity is not one single thing. Resilience Capacity Resilience capacity works like a gas tank. Pressure Capacity Pressure capacity acts like a greenhouse. Emotional Capacity Emotional capacity overlaps closely with emotional intelligence. Cognitive Capacity Cognitive capacity covers memory, focus, planning, and strategic thinking. Measuring Nervous System Capacity with The Capacity Code Blueprint Dr. Warner developed a tool called the Capacity Code Blueprint. Why Naming the Problem Matters Naming something gives it power. Dr. Warner sees this constantly with clients. Tracking Progress Over Time Clients often retake assessments after six months. No Standard Toolkit - Building Capacity is Personal There is no universal list of resilience tools. Nervous Systems Are as Unique as Fingerprints Every nervous system develops its own response pattern early in life. Faith, Rest, And Building Capacity: Designed for Work and Rest Dr. Warner connects her capacity work directly to her Catholic faith. Living Authentically Opens Doors Returning to her faith felt uncomfortable at first, especially at work. Closing the Gap Between Effort and Impact The core message is simple. Website for Dr. Lizette Warner Additional Resources People-Pleasing: Break Through Anxiety and Stop Sacrificing Yourself to Lead with Calm, Confidence, and Consistency Perfectionism and Anxiety: How striving for perfection is keeping you from being a calm, confident, and consistent leader Loosen the grip! Anxiety and the need to control aren't helping you. Comparison, Imposter Syndrome, and the Anxiety Response Loop that negatively influences the ability to lead Break through Anxiety, Avoidance, Defensiveness, and Overreacting to lead with calm, confidence, and consistency Two Loops Every Leader Experiences and How to Break Free Everyone needs rest to reduce anxiety, including you. Read the full notes and access all links. Book a discovery call with Robyn.

Setting boundaries and protecting your peace has become a popular topic in personal development.  Alecia and Jonathan break down the real difference between a healthy boundary and boundary language that's actually just avoidance in disguise, and why getting that distinction wrong is costing you the relationships and results you actually want.  Join Podcast Club: Get behind the scenes access to every episode before anyone else hears it. Meet other listeners of the show and connect live with guests, Alecia's cohosts, and Alecia herself.  Episodes are recorded in front of a live virtual studio audience, then a private, unrecorded conversation opens up where you can share your thoughts, ask questions, go deeper on the topic, and even shape what gets covered next.  Get access at consciousedge.com/club.  Get Full Show Notes: www.consciousedge.com/ep117 Let's Connect on Instagram: @aleciastg In this episode, Alecia St. Germain and her longtime co-host Jonathan Dugger dig into a phrase that's everywhere right now: "I'm setting a boundary and protecting my peace." They unpack what actually separates a boundary that's grounded in your values from language that's just avoidance wearing a boundary's clothes. Alecia gets honest about her own break from recording this podcast and whether that was a boundary or something else entirely. Jonathan brings the clinical lens, breaking down avoidance as a short-term, immediate reaction versus boundaries as long-term and value-driven. Together they get into ghosting, people-pleasing, the body's reaction the first time you set a real boundary, and a simple three-step process for knowing which one you're actually doing. 

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux talks with a caller about an older boy who violated him when he was 11, and how staying silent about it left him empty, undisciplined and sure he had no real value.JOIN ME IN NASHVILLE SEPTEMBER 12! https://wordwardebate.com/Use code STEFAN for 10% off!GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026

Most men don't think they have a porn problem. They think they just have a habit. Something they do late at night, alone, that nobody needs to know about.But according to today's guest, that habit isn't really about sex. It's about something much harder to face.In this episode I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, a former Buddhist monk, scientist and founder of Unhooked Academy, to talk about what's really driving compulsive porn use in men and why willpower alone will never fix it.We talk about why most men start using porn as young as eight or nine years old, how it rewires the brain to crave novelty over real intimacy, why the shame of the habit makes it worse not better, and what the Rat Park experiment reveals about what addiction is actually about.But underneath the porn, this conversation is about something much more universal. The emotions men avoid, the pain they won't sit with, and the coping mechanisms they build around that pain without ever realising it.Because the problem was never really the porn. The problem is what the porn is helping you not feel.Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk, certified mindfulness teacher and founder of Unhooked Academy, a global community helping men break free from compulsive behaviours and build a life of discipline, purpose and integrity.Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction: Porn as Avoidance(01:45) Early Exposure Origins(04:27) Porn Is Not Special(06:23) The Insatiable Cycle(08:51) Trance of Unworthiness(10:45) Success and Insecurity(14:16) Society Against Flourishing(15:35) Men Lost in 2026(20:07) Is Porn Ever Healthy(24:48) AI Porn Dystopia(27:15) Quit Completely vs Moderate(28:32) Community and Algorithms(29:44) Algorithmic Dopamine Traps(31:14) Dropping Shame Taking Ownership(33:12) Porn Rewires Objectification(37:18) Novelty Addiction Warning Signs(38:48) Coping Not Sex Drive(41:40) Rat Park And Fulfillment(45:39) Mindfulness Under The Urge(47:37) Talking With Partners Safely(49:40) Recovery Not Perfection(52:43) Anti Guru Real Talk(54:24) Where To Find More(55:10) Final Thanks And SupportJoin the Move Your Mind Community:go.nickbracks.com/mymcommunityConnect with Nick:Instagram: https://instagram.com/nickbracksWebsite: http://nickbracks.comEmail: contact@nickbracks.comConnect with Jeremy:https://unhookedacademy.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Register for my FREE debt class for entrepreneurs: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ginaknox.co/free-training⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Small Business Money School: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ginaknox.co/school⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Episode SynopsisIn this episode Gina Knox shares her personal experience with financial avoidance, emotional spending, and how she navigated her way back to financial health. This episode offers insights into human behavior, shame, and practical steps for overcoming avoidance cycles.Chapters:00:29 - Gina's personal vulnerability with financial avoidance01:27 - Recognizing avoidance through spending habits07:27 - Re-establishing awareness with tracking and journaling09:46 - The importance of honesty and responsibility14:00 - When to recognize readiness to return to work16:50 - Seasonal patterns and conditioning19:18 - Specificity reduces fear and shame20:16 - Closing thoughts and encouragement for self-kindnessKeywords: financial avoidance, emotional spending, money mindset, self-awareness, accountability, financial recovery, human behavior, shame, cyclical patterns, small business finance

The way out of avoidance is not more willpower - it's waking up to what you're really running from. Tim Holloway and Josh Price expose how sleep, sorrow, and spiritual numbness can look like discipline, devotion, or "being busy," while quietly keeping you stuck. Tim opens with the questions most men avoid answering: the hard conversation you're postponing, the work you're hiding in, the promises you've broken to yourself, and the grief you're numbing instead of facing. Josh takes it further with a sharp framework for spotting avoidance in real time, from aloof withdrawal to the interrogator mode that attacks ideas to protect beliefs. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The way out of avoidance is not more willpower - it's waking up to what you're really running from. Tim Holloway and Josh Price expose how sleep, sorrow, and spiritual numbness can look like discipline, devotion, or "being busy," while quietly keeping you stuck. Tim opens with the questions most men avoid answering: the hard conversation you're postponing, the work you're hiding in, the promises you've broken to yourself, and the grief you're numbing instead of facing. Josh takes it further with a sharp framework for spotting avoidance in real time, from aloof withdrawal to the interrogator mode that attacks ideas to protect beliefs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Gleb Tsipursky serves as the CEO of the future-of-work consultancy Disaster Avoidance Experts where he is an author who was dubbed the "Office Whisperer" by The New York Times and he helps tech-forward leaders stop overpaying for AI while boosting adoption and decreasing resistance. Mike Petrusky asks Dr. Gleb about his brand-new book, "The Psychology of AI Adoption at Work: From Resistance to Results", in which he explores how AI will fundamentally transform the workplace, applying his findings to facility managers and workplace strategists. He believes that FM leaders will need to evolve with increased integration of AI, IoT, and robotics, demanding new skills and adaptability as their role becomes that of "a managers of agents" overseeing both digital and physical assets. AI adoption faces unique psychological barriers beyond traditional change management challenges, specifically fear, identity threat, and shame. So, workplace professionals must start by addressing these emotions through supportive leadership, transparency, and the normalization of AI use. Leaders should focus on upskilling and preparing their teams for this transition, so Mike and Dr. Gleb offer the encouragement and inspiration you need to be a Workplace Innovator in your organization! Connect with Dr. Gleb on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-gleb-tsipursky/ Buy the book: https://disasteravoidanceexperts.com/aibook/ Learn more about Disaster Avoidance Experts: https://disasteravoidanceexperts.com/ Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSkmmkVFvM4H3pwnlU2AuqynuRDpvnh4J Discover free resources and explore past interviews at: https://eptura.com/discover-more/podcasts/workplace-innovator/ Learn more about Eptura™: https://eptura.com/ Connect with Mike on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikepetrusky/  

Get access to the EMPIRE Revenue Dashboard: https://empirepartners.net/revenue-dashboard In this episode, I sit down with my co-founder and co-host, Brook Bishop, to talk about something almost nobody wants to deal with: tracking your numbers.Brook and I walk through four different ways we see people avoid tracking their metrics, why clarity beats perfection, why your emotions should be tied to the numbers you can actually control, and exactly which metrics, from lead flow to sales activity to pipeline health, you should be paying attention to if you want to grow.By the end of this one, you will know exactly which of these four you have been, and what to track instead. Listen to the Path To Mastery Podcast for a conversation on avoidance and why you, as a business owner, should start tracking your business.Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review!Brook Bishop spent over two decades immersed in Personal Development and Business Consulting, driven by a passion for unlocking the potential of coaches and coaching organizations. As the co-founder of EMPIRE Partners, his journey is defined by transformative roles: leading sales at Buffini and Company, the world's largest real estate coaching company, and serving as Tony Robbins' Executive of Business Solutions for 15 impactful years.Connect with Brook Bishop!Website: https://brookbishop.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookthebishop1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brookbishop/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brookthebishop Grab a copy of Brook Bishop's book, Uncle Marc: Life Lessons from a Light Warrior, on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4guCrvs Get Instant Access to the WIP List Tracker: https://empirepartners.net/wip-download Ryan Lang is the CEO of EMPIRE Partners and a highly sought-after performance coach and consultant. He helps establish business owners, coaches, and thought leaders transform from elite practitioners to transformational leaders by building businesses on five critical pillars instead of one wobbly leg. Over 20 years, he has guided 1000+ professionals to predictable, profitable growth using his Whole Performance Coaching methodology—combining sales mastery, strategic marketing, and human optimization principles that create lasting stability.Connect with Ryan Lang!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realryanlang/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryan-lang-b46a545b/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ryan.lang.984 Join our growing community of service-based practitioners, coaches, and founders inside our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/buildyourempires Learn more about Empire Partners: Website: https://empirepartners.net/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/empire-partners/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100093312203714 Take the Path to Mastery Quiz to uncover the hidden roadblocks keeping you stuck: https://www.empirepartners.net/quiz?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=quiz-path-to-mastery #BusinessMetrics #TrackYourNumbers #EntrepreneurMindset

Dominic and I have known each other quite a few years. But until recently I did not know how much more he has added to his plate. Besides hunting, judging and breeding, Dom has expanded to guiding and avoidance training. All the way to keeping rattlesnakes on hand to three pet porcupines that eat right out of his hand!!!  

Send us Fan MailSometimes you solve the thing you were worried about and feel relieved for about five minutes. Then your brain finds something else that could go wrong.Matt and Steve talk about what uncertainty does to them, from travel and job changes to money, family responsibilities, and situations where you've prepared as well as you can but still can't control the outcome. They also look back at the role alcohol used to play as a reliable way to shut down that discomfort, at least temporarily.Matt isn't trying to become fearless or convince himself everything will work out. He's trying to notice when fear of an uncertain outcome is keeping him from taking the next reasonable action—and learning that sometimes doing what you can has to be enough.Support the show