Podcasts about Avoidance

Have Compassion on Your Husband's Desire This is a tender topic. And for some of you, even reading this headline might make your chest tighten. Because desire can feel complicated. Painful. Loaded. Or honestly… just exhausting. And yet, this conversation matters—not to shame you, not to pressure you, but to invite you into compassion. Not obligation. Not fear. Not duty-driven compliance. Compassion rooted in God's design for marriage. The Enemy Thrives on Distraction One of the enemy's most effective strategies in marriage is not always obvious sin. It's distraction. Distance. Avoidance. Silence. When sexual intimacy is broken in a marriage—when it's infrequent, half-hearted, or consistently avoided—it quietly becomes a distraction for both spouses. Especially your husband. Not because he's weak. Not because he's demanding. But because sexual intimacy is not a small issue in his life—it is deeply connected to how God designed him. When that connection is missing, it costs him far more than you may realize. Your Husband's Desire Is Not Separate From Who He Is Your husband's sexual desire is not something he can simply turn off. It is woven into his physical design, his emotional wiring, and his sense of being wanted and chosen. When that desire is consistently rejected, it creates real pain—often silent pain. Pain that takes up mental space, affects focus, and drains confidence and steadiness. Just as hunger dominates attention when the body is not nourished, deprivation in intimacy dominates attention when a husband does not know if—or when—connection will happen again. God Did Not Design Sex to Be Optional in Marriage Scripture is clear. "Do not deprive each other." (1 Corinthians 7:5) This is not a suggestion. It is not conditional on feelings. It is not shaped by cultural norms. God designed sexual intimacy to be part of the covenant of marriage—for unity, protection, and connection. This does not mean ignoring trauma. This does not mean tolerating coercion or manipulation. This does not mean silencing wisdom or boundaries. But it does mean that long-term deprivation is outside God's design—and He does not give commands without also offering grace and a path toward healing. If Intimacy Feels Difficult, There Is a Reason If moving toward intimacy feels heavy, forced, or emotionally overwhelming, there is almost always something beneath the surface. Shame about your body. Fear of being used. Past sexual pain or trauma. Resentment that has not healed. Pressure that replaced joy. Messages that taught you sex was dangerous, dirty, or merely a duty. These blocks are real and they deserve attention. But they do not get the final word. God is not asking you to ignore your story—He is inviting you to bring it into the light where healing is possible. Intimacy Was Designed to Be Good God designed marital intimacy to be: Naked and unashamed Enjoyed, not endured Protective, not destructive A celebration of union Scripture celebrates this openly, without embarrassment. Your husband was designed to enjoy the female form, and God gave him exactly one holy place to do that: within marriage. When that place becomes closed off, the cost is deeper than most couples realize. Start Before You Feel Ready Waiting until everything feels healed often means waiting indefinitely. Freedom usually follows obedience—not the other way around. Consistency matters more than perfection. Even choosing regular, predictable intimacy—without everything feeling "fixed"—can begin to rebuild safety, quiet anxiety, and soften resistance. When intimacy is rare, it becomes a mountain. When it is steady, it becomes normal. When it is generous, it becomes life-giving. Your Marriage Was Meant to Be Missional Marriage was never designed to exist only for comfort. It was designed to strengthen both spouses for the work God has called them to do. Healthy intimacy does not distract from God's purposes—it supports them. But when intimacy is withheld, it often becomes the very distraction Scripture warns against. Your compassion has power. It can steady your husband. It can protect your marriage. It can remove a burden he may be carrying quietly. Final Encouragement If this stirred something in you—conviction, grief, resistance, or even hope—don't rush past it. That stirring matters. God does not expose something in your heart to shame you. He does it to heal you. You are not being asked to become someone else overnight. You are being invited to take one faithful step—today—toward compassion, obedience, and freedom. There is grace for the journey. There is wisdom for the next step. And there is hope—more than you may be able to see right now. You are not alone. And God is not finished here.   Blessings, The Delight Your Marriage Team PS - If you want help walking through this with wisdom and care, we would love to come alongside you. Book a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc. PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "I was irritable and depressed all the time.  I kept thinking something was wrong with me because I couldn't stop wanting sex.  I knew my wife hated it and thought if I was a better man I could stop wanting it and live without it...[I learned] that God designed me to want sex and I was not made wrong.  I also learned I am not alone.  Many men have struggled like I have and have wives like mine. The biggest celebrations I can remember are her coming to me!  To cuddle, to sit with me, to want to be with me, to take me out. She told our daughters to move because she wanted to sit by me during movie night.  She has taken steps towards intimacy with me on her own without me pressuring her."

Let's unpack a truth most people don't want to admit: the thing you're avoiding is action. When you leave inaction untouched, it does not sit quietly. It grows. It drains you. And it quietly reshapes your life through mental drag, stress, and procrastination. Unaddressed conversations don't sit still. Ignored decisions don't pause. Delayed action doesn't disappear. It compounds. It leaks energy, creates anxiety, and slowly trains your nervous system to stay stuck. In this episode, Troy introduces the Bison Theory, a counterintuitive truth rooted in real behavior: while most animals run away from storms and stay trapped in them longer, bison run straight into the storm, shortening how long they suffer. This episode isn't about hype or grit for grit's sake. It's about why facing the thing you're avoiding is the fastest path to transformation, and how movement, not certainty, is what breaks the loop. If you've felt the weight of indecision, the drag of unfinished business, or the mental exhaustion of too many open loops, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar in the best way.This Episode Covers:Why avoidance is active, not neutral, and how it quietly compounds stressHow “direction determines duration” when it comes to pain and changeWhy facing the storm creates momentum even before clarity shows upHow anticipation of pain often hurts longer than the pain itselfThe real reason action restores energy faster than motivation ever willHow to stop negotiating with reality and start reclaiming agencyWhy transformation begins the moment you turn toward what you've been running fromBeyond The Episode Gems:Subscribe To My New Weekly LinkedIn Newsletter: Strategize. Market. Grow.Buy My Book, Strategize Up: The Blueprint To Scale Your Business: StrategizeUpBook.comDiscover All Podcasts On The HubSpot Podcast NetworkGet Free HubSpot Marketing Tools To Help You Grow Your BusinessGrow Your Business Faster Using HubSpot's CRM PlatformSupport The Podcast & Connect With Troy: Rate & Review iDigress: iDigress.fm/ReviewsFollow Troy's Socials @FindTroy: LinkedIn, Instagram, Threads, TikTokSubscribe to Troy's YouTube Channel For Strategy Videos & See Masterclass EpisodesNeed Growth Strategy, A Keynote Speaker, Or Want To Sponsor The Podcast? Go To FindTroy.com

Midlife doesn't ruin men.Avoidance does.In this episode of the ALLSMITH Podcast, Bryce Smith sits down with Greg Scheinman for a raw, grounded, and unapologetic conversation about ownership, responsibility, and what really happens when the stories you have been telling yourself stop working.This is not a conversation about blaming systems, circumstances, or childhood forever.It is about the moment in life where the mirror gets honest.Greg and Bryce explore why midlife is not a crisis but a reckoning.Why comfort has quietly replaced courage for so many modern men.And why taking radical ownership of your health, your energy, your relationships, and your direction may be the most important decision of your life.They talk masculinity without cosplay.Discipline without shame.Strength without ego.And growth without burning your life to the ground.If you feel successful on paper but restless in your body.If you sense you are drifting instead of choosing.If you know deep down that excuses are costing you more than effort ever will.This episode is for you.The forge is hot.And ownership is the entry point.⸻WHAT WE EXPLORE IN THIS EPISODE• Why midlife exposes the truth about how you have been living• The difference between accountability and self punishment• How comfort slowly erodes strength, presence, and leadership• Why most men are exhausted but not actually empty• Health as a responsibility, not an aesthetic• Masculinity beyond anger, dominance, or collapse• Brotherhood, isolation, and the cost of doing life alone• Why waiting for motivation keeps men stuck• Redefining success beyond money and optics• How ownership unlocks energy, clarity, and freedom⸻STANDOUT QUOTES“You do not wake up lost. You drift there quietly.”“Midlife does not demand perfection. It demands honesty.”“Comfort is not neutral. It is either serving you or slowly stealing from you.”“Most men do not need a new life. They need to stop avoiding the one they are in.”“Ownership is not about blame. It is about power.”“You cannot build a strong future while protecting weak stories.”“Discipline is not punishment. It is self respect in motion.”“Your body tells the truth long before your words do.”“The middle of life is not the end. It is the forge.”⸻KEY TAKEAWAYSOwnership is freedomBlame keeps you stuck. Ownership gives you options, energy, and direction.Midlife is feedbackYour health, relationships, and fulfillment are reporting back on how you have lived.Comfort is costlyShort term ease often trades away long term vitality and presence.Strength is a responsibilityNot for ego. Not for image. For leadership, longevity, and service.You cannot outsource meaningNo amount of success compensates for disconnection from self.Brotherhood mattersIsolation accelerates decline. Honest connection builds resilience.⸻WHO THIS EPISODE IS FORMen who feel restless but cannot name whyMen who are successful but disconnectedMen ready to stop negotiating with excusesMen who want strength without toxicityMen who want ownership without shame⸻Greg Scheinman on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/gregscheinmanForged Not found.Thank you for Listening! Learn more below.ALLSMITH IG ALLSMITH YouTubeBryce Smith IG

The Theology of Avoidance. How “waiting on God” functions as a socially acceptable way to avoid learning how to choose, risk rejection, and tolerate aloneness. 

Most leaders avoid conflict. Not because they are weak, but because they want to be liked, respected and seen as reasonable.In this episode of The Professional Speaking Show, John Ball and leadership expert Julie Holunga unpack how conflict aversion quietly erodes authority, credibility and influence — especially for leaders and professional speakers who rely on trust and presence to lead.Julie introduces the idea of “lazy leadership” and explains why avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but costs leaders status, clarity and effectiveness over time. The conversation explores how language, tone and timing shape authority, and how leaders can address tension without becoming aggressive, performative or fake.This episode is for leaders and professional speakers who want to lead with clarity, credibility and confidence — not just keep the peace.Find out more about Julie's work at JulieHolunga.com or connect with her on LinkedInCHAPTERS00:00 Lazy Leadership: A New Perspective02:24 Empowering Women in Conflict Resolution05:28 The Importance of Language and Tone08:02 Navigating Male-Dominated Environments10:48 Constructive Conflict: A Path Forward13:43 The Spectrum of Conflict Engagement16:19 Authenticity in Communication19:07 The Three C's of Conflict Competence21:54 Building Trust Through Effective Communication24:48 Practical Applications in Everyday Life42:11 Closing ThoughtsKey TakeawaysCredibility in leadership is crucial for effective communication.Lazy leadership occurs when leaders avoid difficult conversations.Effort and preparation are necessary for addressing conflict.Language and tone significantly impact conflict resolution.Women often face challenges in asserting themselves in male-dominated environments.Constructive conflict can lead to better outcomes and relationships.Clarity, choice, and communication are key components of conflict competence.The Titanium Rule emphasises speaking to others as they need to be spoken to.Authenticity in communication fosters trust and collaboration.Being deliberate in our interactions can lead to more positive outcomes.Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedInYou can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluenceThanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Insight can feel like growth—until you realize nothing has changed.In this episode, Denise G. Lee explores how awareness becomes a socially acceptable form of avoidance, especially for capable, dependable leaders who learned early to carry more than their share.This is not an episode about confrontation or “speaking up better.”It's about recognizing the cost of negotiating with avoidance—and the quiet self-abandonment that follows.Referenced article:https://deniseglee.com/awareness-as-avoidance/If this conversation resonated with you, here's how you can support the show and stay connected:✅ Subscribe so you never miss an update.✅ Share this episode with someone who might benefit.✅ Leave a review—your feedback helps others find the show and grow on their journey.⸻Stay Connected with Me!Want to dive deeper? Visit DeniseGLee.com to:

In this episode, Heather explores why you might be hesitating to take action in your business—and it's probably not for the reason you think. Using a real coaching conversation as an example, Heather explains how fear of success, self-trust, and identity often create invisible resistance. If you've been avoiding tasks you know matter, this episode will help you understand what's really going on and how to move forward with clarity and confidence. Key takeaways from this episode: Hesitation is rarely about the task itself. Avoidance often points to fear of what comes after success, not fear of failure. You can't out-strategy your identity. If success doesn't match your current self-concept, your brain will unconsciously resist it. Fear of disappointing others creates self-sabotage. Worrying about delivery, performance, or making mistakes can stop action before it starts. Success intolerance is real—and common. When success feels unsafe to your nervous system, it will steer you back to your comfort zone. The worst-case scenario is usually just a feeling. If you trust yourself to manage embarrassment, disappointment, or discomfort, you unlock action. Self-trust expands capacity. Taking action builds evidence that you can figure things out, which becomes your new identity.  This episode came directly from a one-on-one coaching call with a photographer who had already done the work—her email was written, her list was started—but she couldn't bring herself to hit send. How to Support the Podcast: Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts. Please like, share, and leave a review. If you like the content, please share with your friends by posting on social media so that we can reach and impact more people. Join our next free coaching workshop: www.getcoachedbyheather.com Connect: Heather Lahtinen: Website, Facebook, Instagram

In Part 8 of the Real Work series, Hannah breaks down why "lack of motivation" isn't the real problem — and never has been. Avoidance is. This episode walks you through the three places women disconnect from themselves — breath, stillness, and the body — and how that disconnection shows up as burnout, inconsistency, and feeling stuck. You'll learn: Why avoidance is protection, not laziness How shallow breathing mirrors how we restrict life Why meditation isn't boring — it's revealing How movement becomes healing when it's relationship, not punishment This episode will change how you see motivation, discipline, and yourself. The only way out is in.

For the last two years, Lauryn has publicly said she plans to retire from healthcare at 47—and people have feelings about it. Is it realistic? Is it irresponsible? Is it even possible for clinic owners who genuinely care about their patients? In this episode, Lauryn and her husband Kirby sit down to unpack where this goal actually came from and why it's sparked so much reaction.Together, they answer real listener questions about early retirement, boredom for high achievers, guilt around leaving patient care, financial planning myths, spousal alignment, and what “retirement” really means in practice. This is an honest, nuanced conversation about freedom, cash flow, values, and designing a life that still feels meaningful long after the clinic isn't the center of it.Key TakeawaysRetiring early isn't about quitting work—it's about removing obligation. True retirement planning focuses on cash flow, flexibility, and choice, not just hitting a traditional age or number.High achievers often fear boredom, but the deeper issue is identity. Removing money as the motivator forces clarity around purpose, validation, and how you want your days to feel.Traditional retirement advice is built around age 65. If you want freedom earlier, your strategy must include accessible investments, lifestyle planning, and spousal alignment—not just tax deferral.You cannot plan early retirement alone. Avoidance, fear, and mismatched visions will surface unless both partners define what freedom looks like on a day-to-day level.Resources:Join the waitlist for The Uncharted CEO: An 8-week immersive experience for clinic owners designed to increase revenue, maximize profits, and build cash flow systems that create freedom NOW, not at 65.Follow Dr. Lauryn: Instagram | X | LinkedIn | FacebookFollow She Slays on YouTubeSign up for the Weekly Slay newsletter!Mentioned in this episode:To learn more about CLA and the INSiGHT scanner go to the link below and enter code SHESLAYS when prompted.CLALearn more about Sunlighten Saunas and get your She Slays discount by clicking the link below!She Slays Associates Job BoardHolistic Marketing HubHolistic Marketing HubGo from surviving to thriving with Genesis Chiropractic Software. Learn more and get your special discount using the link below!

Food Elimination Diets for Kids: When They Help and When They Make Eczema WorseWhen your child's eczema or allergies flare, it's natural to start scanning the plate. Dairy goes first. Then gluten. Then eggs. Then anything that feels even remotely suspicious. And yet… the flare-ups keep coming.This week on the Natural Super Kids Podcast, we're continuing our Eczema and Allergies Series by taking a closer look at food elimination — not from a place of blame, but from a place of understanding. We explore why cutting more and more foods can sometimes leave families feeling stuck, stressed, and confused, and why food isn't always the real issue driving ongoing reactions.In this episode, we unpack:• Why food elimination feels like the most logical first step when eczema or allergies show up and why it often becomes unsustainable. • How repeated restriction can quietly impact gut health, nutrient intake, and immune balance over time. • The difference between avoiding a true allergy and navigating food sensitivities with a longer-term plan. • What to focus on instead when your goal is calmer skin, fewer reactions, and a more resilient immune system.

Rooting into care, building safety, creating positive emotional experiences, leaning into transition time, and getting curious about the wisdom of our resistance. All so we can pull away from the cycles of avoidance, to adrenaline-and-deadline-fueled push, to crash and burnout, only for that cycle to repeat. Avoidance is asking to be met with support and care, and not to push ourselves harder until we feel like breaking.

In this video, we explore what really happens when your voice shuts down under pressure—and why it's not a flaw, a curse, or something you're born with. This conversation breaks down real-world case studies from professionals who struggled with speech anxiety, stuttering, rushed communication, and freezing in high-stakes moments, and shows how communication confidence is built through habits, identity, and intentional practice. You'll learn why speech is a trainable motor skill, how mindset and self-image shape the way you speak, and how tools like modeling, immersion, breath control, and focused awareness help replace fear with calm, controlled communication. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction & high-stakes speaking moments 01:04 Speech anxiety vs. traditional therapy 01:50 Identity and executive presence 02:17 How speech habits create career limitations 03:23 Avoidance, fear, and lost opportunities 04:32 Rushed speech and sounding less confident 05:49 Why people finally decide to change 06:15 Modeling confidence instead of fixing flaws 07:19 Self-study vs. coaching and accountability 08:28 Speech as a habit, not a curse 08:56 Modeling, mirror neurons, and identity shifts 10:43 Word anticipation and staying present 11:17 Consistency, immersion, and habit rewiring 12:07 Career, income, and confidence breakthroughs 13:22 Personal wins beyond performance 14:50 Neuroplasticity and rewriting your identity If you've ever struggled with anxiety before speaking, freezing in meetings, rushing your words, or feeling held back by how you communicate, this video offers a clear and grounded path forward. The goal isn't perfection—it's progress, presence, and learning how to speak with confidence on purpose.

Would you like access to our advanced agency training for FREE? https://www.agencymastery360.com/training Have you ever questioned whether you're actually built for the hard seasons of agency life? When things get messy, unpredictable, or overwhelming, do you wonder if you have what it takes to keep going or if everyone else somehow got a playbook you missed? Most agency owners don't wake up one day and decide, "I'm going to build an agency." They trip into it. One project turns into two, side work turns into real revenue, and suddenly you're invoicing clients without knowing what an invoice number is supposed to look like. Today's featured guest unpacks what it really looks like to build an agency without a roadmap. Through failed partnerships, stalled careers, and moments where quitting felt easier than continuing, he developed the resilience and mindset required to keep moving. Cliff Skelliter is a serial entrepreneur and owner of Launchpad Creative, a design-thinking agency, working across brand identity, video production, and strategy. They blend artistry, functionality, and brand communication to create captivating digital and physical spaces that not only engage and inspire but also reflect the essence and values of the organizations they work with. In this episode, we'll discuss: The Easiest Choice: Leaving his Career and Going All-In on the Agency What He Learned from His Partnership Experiences Self-Belief as the Most Important Lesson for Agency Owners Subscribe Apple | Spotify | iHeart Radio Sponsors and Resources E2M Solutions: Today's episode of the Smart Agency Masterclass is sponsored by E2M Solutions, a web design, and development agency that has provided white-label services for the past 10 years to agencies all over the world. Check out e2msolutions.com/smartagency and get 10% off for the first three months of service. When Going All-In on the Side Hustle is as Easy Yes Cliff didn't grow up in a family of entrepreneurs, and never set out to "start a business." His entry into agency life wasn't strategic, it was reactive. While working an internship at Canadian news station CTV, he saw the ceiling in broadcast media and realized that no matter how talented or ambitious he was, there was a limit to how far that career could go. Meanwhile, he was already getting requests to work on some projects outside of the station. Eventually, the projects kept getting bigger and the people at the station complained Cliff was creating a conflict of interests with his side hustle, as clients chose him, instead of the station, to produce their commercials. It was an ultimatum, and the choice was clear. By then, that "side hustle" was more lucrative and offered more creative control. Plus, it was just more fun. What's important here isn't just how Cliff started—it's what he didn't have. No business background. No sales training. No master plan. Like many agency owners, he learned by doing, Googling, guessing, and occasionally getting it wrong, which is mostly the default path. The danger is assuming everyone else has it figured out, while you're making it up as you go. Agency Partnerships: When They Work and When They Break You Cliff's first business partnership was both formative and brutal. His partner helped get the business off the ground but was dishonest, reckless, and ultimately destructive. While Cliff focused on creative work, his partner handled sales and accounts… and quietly created financial chaos. When the partner disappeared, Cliff was left holding the debt and the consequences. Many agency owners bring on partners not because it's strategic, but because it feels safer. Someone else handles sales. Someone else deals with money. Someone else shares the weight. But if values, ethics, and accountability aren't aligned, the cost can be enormous. Thankfully, Cliff was able to recover from the blows to both the agency's finances and its reputation. He also gave partnerships another chance. The second partnership was different and far more successful. Cliff partnered with someone who combined complementary skills to build a business that lasted nine years. It worked because each person did what they were good at and didn't want to do the rest. Even then, the partnership eventually ended, not because of business failure, but personal life complications. Partnerships aren't good or bad by default; they amplify whatever already exists. Clear roles, boundaries, and shared values make them powerful. Avoidance, people-pleasing, and lack of communication make them fragile. Resilience, Self-Belief, and the Placebo Effect of Entrepreneurship Cliff got important lessons from both experiences, mainly that he's much more capable than he thought. He could handle sales, which is something he doubted for years. Like many agency owners, he assumed you had to be a certain "type" of salesperson or personality to run a business. In reality, you just need to ask better questions and not be afraid of uncomfortable conversations. He also learned he's far more resilient than he gave himself credit for. Most agency owners would testify to the fact that the universe constantly gives you outs. Jobs. Acquisitions. Easier paths. And yet, something in your gut says, "I'm not done." That resilience isn't logical. It's identity-level. Entrepreneurship stops being something you do and becomes something you are. He now understands the importance of believing in himself, even when it seems absurd. Your mind alone can trigger real physical outcomes. When doubt creeps in, remind yourself that belief itself is a lever. Not hype and not manifesting nonsense; just the willingness to keep going when the story in your head tells you to quit. Do You Want to Transform Your Agency from a Liability to an Asset? 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Money avoidance is something most of us do at some point — especially when life feels overwhelming. And it doesn't mean you're irresponsible or bad with money. It means you're human. In this episode, I'm talking honestly about what money avoidance actually looks like, why it feels comforting in the moment, and the quiet ways it can end up costing us more over time — emotionally, relationally, and financially. We'll explore the shame, overwhelm, and fear that often sit underneath avoidance, and I'll share gentle, realistic ways to start reconnecting with your money without pressure or judgment. If you've ever felt stressed just thinking about checking your accounts, avoided money conversations, or told yourself you'd “deal with it later,” this episode is for you. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Cozy Earth has been part of my routine lately, especially this time of year. You can use my link below for 20% off at cozyearth.com with the code MONEYISNTSCARY. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ If you loved this episode, please take a moment to follow, rate, or review Money Isn't Scary — it helps more women find these much-needed conversations. You can also find me here:

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik sits down with Jessica Baum to discuss the transformative power of healing attachment wounds and emotional trauma. Together, they explore why deep healing happens in relationships, the role of protectors like workaholism, and how patterns from childhood shape our adult lives—including sexual health and intimacy. Listeners will learn about practical approaches to personal growth and the importance of finding the right support for lasting change. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Psychedelics and Healing00:19 Revisiting Past Wounds01:30 Necessity of Re-experiencing Trauma02:22 Avoidance and Repetition of Patterns04:03 Personal Healing Journeys05:38 Science Behind “Doing the Work”07:34 Coping Mechanisms and Protectors08:43 Impact of Trauma on Sex10:01 Wheel of Attachment Explanation12:19 Finding the Right Professional Check out my free e-book Better Sex, Better Life https://www.renamalikmd.com/morepleasure Get Jessica Baum's book Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships: https://amzn.to/4pM1duZ Jessica's Freebies for You! https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview Stay connected with Jessica on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow her now and check out these links! INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/ FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/consciousrelationshipgroup LINKEDIN - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-baum-lmhc-cap-038a1538/ Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It sounds reasonable. It sounds like: • “This makes sense.” • “This is normal.” • “I already know why I do this.” In this episode, I explore how rationalization and minimization quietly protect comfort, certainty, and the need to feel right — especially for smart, thoughtful people.

Get ready to question everything you thought you knew, literally! In Episode 187 of the DYL Podcast, Adam pulls back the curtain on one of life's biggest myths: “There are no stupid questions.” Think again! Discover why some questions hold us back, stir up confusion, and secretly protect our egos.Join Adam Gragg as he boldly explores the difference between questions that open doors and questions that slam them shut. Learn how the right question can spark courageous conversations, ignite action, and change not just your interactions, but your whole life. Packed with practical tips and real-life examples, this episode will leave you eager to toss out your old script and start asking questions that actually matter.Want to get unstuck, grow your confidence, and connect on a deeper level? Listen now and find out how asking better questions is the key to a more powerful legacy. Don't just play it safe. Be brave, be curious, and never settle for half-hearted answers again!►► GET MY FREE VIDEO & WORKSHEET - SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF LITE! 7 SMALL STEPS TO A GIANT LEAP IN YOUR CONFIDENCE Referenced BLOG POST:►► Yes, There Are Stupid Questions (Let's Talk About Why)CHAPTERS:00:00 "Ask Better Questions"03:39 "Impactful Conversations Through Questions"09:22 Effective Questioning for Leadership Growth11:44 "Leaders, Questions, and Ego"15:39 "Be a Giver, Not a Taker"19:15 "Ask Better Questions, Change Lives"21:23 "Building Confidence, Defining Legacy"Make your mission today to live the life you want to be remembered for, because your legacy depends on it. Subscribe for more actionable leadership and coaching insights from the DYL Podcast! Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

It's Just information Hoodie now available: https://www.isaiahfrizzelle.com/first-runWe've been taught that expecting less from people is emotional maturity.But what if that narrative is actually protecting avoidance?In this episode, I unpack the growing cultural tendency to label expectations as “too much” while normalizing emotional absence, low effort, and unspoken withdrawal. We talk about how “low-maintenance” has become a shield for neglect, how “capacity” is often confused with accountability, and why so many people want the benefits of connection without participating in the labor of it.This isn't about forcing people to give what they don't have.It's about being honest about what relationships require—and who pays the cost when others opt out.Because expectations don't destroy relationships.Avoidance does.

In this conversation, Creighton Bertrand shares his journey into manhood — navigating confusion, responsibility, faith, and identity in a culture that often leaves men without clear direction. We talk about why so many men feel stuck or lost, the cost of avoiding responsibility, and how true masculinity is formed through commitment, discipline, and purpose. This episode is a call for men to grow up, take ownership of their lives, and step fully into the kind of man they were created to be.   Know more about Sathiya's work: Join DEEP CLEAN SIGNATURE PROGRAM Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Want to know more about Creighton? Follow Creighton On Instagram   Chapters: (00:00) Introduction & Creighton's Story (02:14) Why So Many Men Feel Lost Today (05:01) The Absence of Clear Masculine Direction (07:32) Comfort, Avoidance, and Delayed Manhood (10:18) The Role of Responsibility in Maturity (13:06) Faith, Conviction, and Identity Formation (16:02) What Culture Gets Wrong About Masculinity (18:49) The Crossroad Every Man Eventually Faces (21:35) Choosing Growth Over Ease (24:10) What Stepping Up Actually Looks Like

This conversation isn't really about rules.It's about the moments we don't look… because looking would require us to choose.In Part 2 of this opening 2026 conversation, I'm back with my best friend, Keira Brinton, and we talk about what happens when awareness replaces avoidance — in love, money, faith, intimacy, and self-trust.This episode is raw. It's quiet in places. It's honest in ways that feel slightly uncomfortable — and deeply freeing.We talk about grief that lives in the body, the loneliness that success doesn't protect you from, the fantasies we fall in love with, and the power we unknowingly give away when we don't trust ourselves enough to see clearly.Nothing here is polished.Everything here is real.In this episode, we talk about:The subtle ways we give our power to outside authority — and why it feels safer than trusting ourselvesAvoidance as self-protection… and how it quietly costs us intimacy and truth“Anything measured improves” — and what happens when we stop measuring because we're afraid of what we'll seeTouch, grief, and the kind of healing the body does without asking permissionThe loneliness that can exist inside successFantasy vs. reality in love — and why both can keep us stuckPower, worthiness, and the stories we tell ourselves about being chosenJudgment, compassion, and what changes when we let people be humanFaith without dogma — truth, love, and integrity as lived experiencesWhat reclaiming your power actually feels like (hint: it's not loud)Gentle content note:This episode includes discussion of intimacy, grief, sexually transmitted infections, and emotional vulnerability.What to do after listening:Notice one place you've been avoiding — not to fix it, just to see it.Ask yourself: Where have I been giving my power to something outside of me?Let one truth you already know guide a single decision this week.Remember: softness and strength are not opposites.Here are the key moments from the episode:00:00 This Isn't About Rules — It's About Power04:10 Awareness vs. Avoidance (and Why Not Looking Feels Easier)08:55 “Anything Measured Improves”… Until We Stop Measuring14:20 Exhaustion, Success, and Losing Touch with Yourself19:40 Touch, Grief, and the Body's Memory26:10 Loneliness Isn't Fixed by Achievement31:45 Fantasy vs. Reality in Love37:30 When Not Knowing Becomes a Choice43:05 Power, Worthiness, and Being Chosen49:50 Judgment, Compassion, and Letting People Be Human56:35 God as Truth. God as Love.1:02:10 Calling Your Power Back Without Hardening1:08:40 Choosing Reality — Even When It's Harder1:13:30 Closing Reflections: What Changes When You Trust YourselfConnect with Heidi:Website: https://heidipowell.net/Email: podcast@heidipowell.netInstagram: @realheidipowellFacebook: Heidi PowellYouTube: @RealHeidiPowellTrain with Heidi on her Show Up App: https://www.showupfit.app/Connect with Keira Brinton:Website: https://www.keirabrinton.com/Instagram: @keirabrintonAbout Keira Brinton:Keira Brinton is the CEO & Founder of JOA Publishing, host of the Sacred Wandering podcast, 7x author, and creator of the Book Activator method. She helps visionaries bring their truth into form — blending strategy and spirit, devotion and discipline — and is known for making the impossible feel inevitable.

If you've been calling yourself lazy because you keep putting things off, this episode is for you. We're breaking down the real reason procrastination shows up, what you're actually avoiding, and why your brain responds this way. I share relatable real-life examples, biblical insight, and simple mindset shifts to help you move forward without shame. This conversation will change how you see procrastination and yourself.

EDUCATION REFORM AND THE AVOIDANCE OF A FEDERAL AI DEPARTMENT Colleague Kevin Frazier. Frazier argues for updating education, starting with teacher training in elementary schools and vocational partnerships in high schools, to prepare students for an AI future. He advises against creating a federal Department of AI, suggesting society should adapt to it as advanced computing rather than a unique threat. NUMBER 121921 FRANCE

In this episode of Mining Stock Education, host Bill Powers interviews Joe Mazumdar from Exploration Insights. They dive into discussions about potential mega mergers in the mining industry, specifically between Rio Tinto and Glencore, and what these mergers indicate about market cycles and strategic advantages. Joe offers his insights on the challenges and benefits of such mergers, along with commentary on the global smelter capacity and the permitting landscape. They also discuss various projects like Kinross in Nevada and Washington, and Codelco's copper expansion. Furthermore, they touch upon the influence of government policies, such as tariffs and price floors, on the mining sector. Joe provides valuable advice for junior mining stock investors, emphasizing the importance of deep technical analysis and understanding geopolitics, operational risks, and market dynamics. Joe also reveals a valuation mistake many new mining investors make. 00:00 Introduction 00:33 Expert Insights with Joe Mazumdar 00:47 Mega Merger: Rio Tinto and Glencore 04:01 Market Implications of Mergers 05:33 Smelting Capacity and Environmental Concerns 07:29 Capital Expenditure and Market Trends 10:44 Copper Prices and Incentive Challenges 13:22 Government Policies and Market Risks 23:07 Market Trends 23:20 Stock Picking in a Bull Market 23:37 Benchmarking Your Portfolio 25:24 Silver vs. Gold Performance 26:56 Exploration Stocks and Alpha 27:44 Retail Interest in Development 29:49 Investment Strategies and Risks 32:36 Jurisdictional and Geopolitical Factors 34:26 Evaluating Junior Mining Stocks Joe Mazumdar's website: https://www.explorationinsights.com/ Follow Joe on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoeMazumdar Sign up for our free newsletter and receive interview transcripts, stock profiles and investment ideas: http://eepurl.com/cHxJ39 Mining Stock Education (MSE) offers informational content based on available data but it does not constitute investment, tax, or legal advice. It may not be appropriate for all situations or objectives. Readers and listeners should seek professional advice, make independent investigations and assessments before investing. MSE does not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of its content and should not be solely relied upon for investment decisions. MSE and its owner may hold financial interests in the companies discussed and can trade such securities without notice. MSE is biased towards its advertising sponsors which make this platform possible. MSE is not liable for representations, warranties, or omissions in its content. By accessing MSE content, users agree that MSE and its affiliates bear no liability related to the information provided or the investment decisions you make. Full disclaimer: https://www.miningstockeducation.com/disclaimer/

You might call it ambition. Work ethic. Faithfulness. Discipline. But sometimes "busy" is just pain avoidance with better branding. In this episode, Spencer and Sammi unpack what they call hustloin—the cycle where hustle and busyness become a way to outrun what you don't know how to feel. From the tension of motherhood and autonomy, to entrepreneurship, provision pressure, and the subtle addiction to significance… we get honest about what's really driving you when you can't slow down. We talk about: The difference between purposeful work and pain-driven hustle How "I have to do it all" creates chronic overwhelm Why you can't problem-solve well while you're triggered (and what to do first) The motherhood tension: impact and autonomy vs presence and slow living The "10x version of you" high—and how it can become a form of self-medication Integrity, impostor syndrome, and why connection has to come first If you've been calling it productivity but it feels like pressure… this conversation will put language to what's happening inside you—and give you a path back to peace without quitting your life. If this hit home, share it with a friend who's "always busy." And if you want to go deeper into emotional health, wholeness, and building a life from connection, stay close—we're bringing you into the real conversation.     See all of our resources at www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com    

Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support Podcast - A Podcast for Neurodivergent Creatives. ADHD Goal Avoidance - How to Overcome the Aversion to Goal Setting. This podcast is an audio companion to the book "The Drummer and the Great Mountain - A Guidebook to Transforming Adult ADD / ADHD." For many of us, the word “goal” has all kinds of negative associations. It can remind us of past failures, our short-comings, and our challenge with short and long-term planning. Because of how our hyper-creative brain works, our dopamine receptors, and challenges with executive functioning, we often have an initial burst of inspiration... But that initial energy tends to wane and we're left with a list of flat and possibly overwhelming goals that we never look at again. However, knowing how to work with goals is essential to making forward progress in your life. In this episode we explore a very simple trick that will completely change how you think about goals and we'll leave you with a clear exercise to make goal setting far more ADHD-friendly.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: (WORKSHOP) Annual Life Visioning Workshop - Jan 24 & 31 (WEBSITE) Mike Starkey - ADHD & Addiction (SOCIAL MEDIA) @adultadhdtips one Instagram (SOCIAL MEDIA) @adhdneurodivergent on BlueSky (PDF) Our Free ADHD Toolkit - All Worksheets from Previous Podcast Episodes Don't see a player? Click this link to download the MP3 file. If you have an Apple device (iPhone/iPad), you can download the podcast (and subscribe) for free at this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/adult-adhd-add-tips-support/id988935339 Visit the podcast web page to listen to all 122 episodes: http://www.drummerandthegreatmountain.com/adult-adhd-add-podcast >> Take the ADHD Hunter-type Quiz Outro voice over by Lauren Regan.  Outro music by Bahman Sarram For more info, visit: http://www.DrummerAndTheGreatMountain.com

In Episode 10, Kim opens Season Two by breaking down procrastination in a way most people have never heard it explained before. This episode isn't about productivity, discipline, or time management. It's about emotional risk, fragile self-esteem, and the identities we built in childhood to survive. Kim explains why procrastination shows up around the things that matter most. Big conversations. Creative work. Boundaries. Healing. Growth. And why avoidance isn't laziness. It's protection. Drawing from attachment theory, trauma, neurobiology, and her own lived experience, Kim connects procrastination to emotional attunement, identity, shutdown, people-pleasing, catastrophizing, and the fear of inner collapse. She also explains why insight alone doesn't change behavior, and what actually has to shift for real movement to happen. –––––––––––––––––– Time Stamps & Topics 00:00 – Rage, triggers, and decades of stored emotional memory 00:25 – Why feeling misunderstood cuts so deeply 00:52 – Procrastination isn't about time management 01:22 – Emotional risk vs practical difficulty 01:50 – Personal example: writing a first book 02:29 – Procrastination around hard conversations 03:01 – Mistakes, shame, and fragile self-esteem 03:59 – Inner collapse and identity threat 05:04 – Why systems learn to avoid emotional danger 05:28 – What self-esteem actually is (and isn't) 05:51 – Self-esteem as emotional resilience 06:25 – Emotional attunement explained 06:44 – Empathy vs shared experience 07:37 – Why "they'll never understand me" isn't true 08:10 – Childhood emotional neglect and minimization 09:14 – Avoidant coping and jumping to solutions 09:57 – Why being sat with matters 10:27 – Religion, conflict avoidance, and emotional bypassing 11:30 – Biology of trauma and implicit memory 12:33 – Adoption, abandonment, and cognitive bias 13:46 – Anger as a lifelong trigger 14:52 – Suppression vs expression of emotion 15:41 – Coping mechanisms and shutdown 16:24 – Anxious vs avoidant responses in conflict 17:09 – Self-esteem and "what happens when something goes wrong" 18:28 – Catastrophizing and control 19:13 – Why anxiety feels protective 20:00 – Avoidance as nervous system safety 21:25 – Silence, minimization, and relational procrastination 23:14 – Childhood roles: good child, peacemaker, achiever 24:38 – Survival strategies vs self-esteem 25:27 – Relational procrastination and suppressed anger 26:25 – Waiting until you're angry to speak 27:08 – Walking on eggshells and staying silent 28:02 – Triggers as accumulated implicit memory 29:12 – Why your partner isn't the whole cause 30:07 – Shutdown as self-protection, not punishment 31:05 – Why insight doesn't change behavior 31:56 – Awareness without emotional capacity 32:23 – Cognitive vs behavioral change 33:11 – Reframing hard conversations 33:56 – Procrastination in personal growth and healing 35:02 – Childhood identities and family roles 36:16 – How family freezes you in old identities 37:35 – Why growth feels threatening 38:05 – Holding competing emotions about parents 39:22 – Letting go of old identities 40:05 – Why growth feels risky, not empowering 41:18 – What actually reduces procrastination 41:46 – Emotional regulation and self-trust 42:09 – Questions to ask yourself about avoidance 43:16 – Tasks that carry emotional weight 43:44 – Identity disruption and behavior change 44:31 – Alcohol, belonging, and identity shifts 44:58 – Pay attention to what you avoid 45:26 – What avoidance is protecting –––––––––––––––––– This episode is especially relevant if you feel stuck despite insight, avoid hard conversations, or keep postponing the things that matter most to you. Kim's website: https://www.kimpolinder.com/ Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/ Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@engineeringlovepodcast

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Mohini Kissoon: When Politeness Becomes the Enemy of Team Growth—Escaping the Conflict Avoidance Trap Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes.   "Conflict isn't the enemy. It's when we're avoiding conflict that it becomes an issue for teams." - Mohini Kissoon   Mohini shares a story about the worst self-destructive pattern she has witnessed: teams that are overly polite to avoid addressing conflicts. She worked with a team that prided themselves on being collaborative and drama-free, but beneath that politeness was a hesitancy to have difficult conversations. It started small—in sprint planning, the Product Owner would propose unrealistic scope, and people would just nod and accept. Someone might say "that's quite ambitious," but no one would actually push back. In retrospectives, feedback was always wrapped in layers of positive framing. When a developer consistently delivered work that didn't meet the Definition of Done, no one called it out directly—they just quietly fixed it or worked around it. After three months, side conversations started emerging where people would pull Mohini aside to share concerns they would never voice in the room. The team was skipping the storming phase of the Tuckman model, and this avoidance eventually led to missed deadlines and frustrated stakeholders. The key learning: healthy conflict brings the energy teams need to innovate and grow.   In this segment, we talk about the Tuckman model and why the storming phase is essential for team development.   Self-reflection Question: Is your team's harmony genuine collaboration, or is it a facade hiding unspoken frustrations that will eventually surface at the worst possible moment? Featured Book of the Week: Turn the Ship Around by David Marquet Mohini discovered Turn the Ship Around by David Marquet at a time when she was working with multiple teams and feeling exhausted from being the person everyone looked to for answers. She thought that's what servant leadership meant, but she was actually creating dependency rather than capability. The book tells the story of how Marquet took command of the worst-performing submarine in the US Navy and transformed it into the best by fundamentally changing how leadership worked. "Instead of the traditional leader-follower model, he built a leader-to-leader structure where everyone was expected to think, decide, and own their work," Mohini explains.  The key insight was that we don't just empower teams—we need to build an environment where they can grow and don't need permission to excel. This shifted Mohini's approach: instead of saying "here's what I think we should do," she started asking "what have you tried so far? What do you intend to do next?" The book also emphasizes that pushing decision-making down requires providing the knowledge and context teams need to make good decisions.   [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

Are you running toward something or away from something? In this episode, Michelle and Chase share the science behind why successful people set approach goals instead of avoidance goals. Approach goals focus on growth and opportunity, while avoidance goals can lead to stress, burnout, and anxiety. Michelle and Chase share practical ways to reframe your goals so they inspire progress rather than fear, and explore how this mindset shift can boost your career development, continuous learning, and even your relationships - your ultimate career currency. Plus, Michelle and Chase share personal stories about how they used approach goals during big career transitions. Mindset matters, and this episode will help you harness a proactive, positive approach to achieving what's next. Inc. Article: Science Says Super-Achievers Don't Set Avoidance Goals. Here's Why Successful People Set Approach Goals Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: careerdreams@forumcu.com. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Why do so many women avoid money conversations—especially during divorce—and how is that costing them both now and in the future? In this episode, attorney and co-founder of Flourish Law Group, Lauren Klein, shares the emotional roots behind financial fear, especially for women navigating divorce. Whether you're unsure how to protect your assets, feel behind on estate planning, or are dealing with mindset blocks around money, this conversation is for you.Learn the real reasons behind couples avoiding financial discussions—and how to overcome themDiscover how women can shift disempowering money beliefs to build confidence and financial clarityGet expert insights on what steps to take immediately to protect yourself financially before, during, and after divorceHit play to uncover the mindset shifts, legal strategies, and confidence tools every woman needs to protect her future and thrive post-divorce.Join us on our podcast as we navigate the complexities of marriage, divorce, separation, and all related legal and emotional aspects, including adultery, alimony, child support, spousal support, timesharing, custody battles, and the financial impact of dissolution of marriage.Interested in working with us? Fill out this form here to get started.Not quite ready? Interact with us on socials!Linktree- https://linktr.ee/FloridaWomensLawGroupFlorida Women's Law Group Website- https://women-winning-divorce.captivate.fm/fwlgLauren Klein's LinksOfficial website: https://flourishlawgroup.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lawyerlaurenklein/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawyerlaurenklein LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-a-klein-esq-ll-m-a39a5a35/ Women Winning Divorce is supported by Florida Women's Law Group.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not an advertisement for legal services. The information provided on this podcast is not intended to be legal advice. You should not rely on what you hear on this podcast as legal advice. If you have a legal issue, please contact a lawyer. The views and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely those of the individuals and do not represent the views or opinions of the firms or organizations with which they are affiliated or the views or opinions of this podcast's advertisers. This podcast is available for private, non-commercial use only. Any editing, reproduction, or redistribution of this podcast for commercial use or monetary gain without the expressed, written consent of the podcast's creator is prohibited.

Awareness isn't comfort. It's responsibility.Most people avoid it because it asks more of you… it demands honesty, ownership, and growth. But if you're ready to stop sleepwalking through life and start living with intention, this episode will challenge the way you see yourself, your business, and your leadership.In this soul-level conversation, George sits down with Taylor Cavanaugh for a raw, real, and revealing look at what it truly takes to lead yourself. They explore how honest reflection unlocks transformation, why most people leave impact on the table, and how to reclaim power in the smallest moments.Taylor brings deep insight into the courage it takes to see your blind spots, the patterns we unconsciously repeat, and the healing that happens when you own your story, without shame or sugarcoating.Whether you're an entrepreneur, parent, or just someone ready to stop numbing and start choosing, this episode is an invitation back to presence, truth, and aligned leadership.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why self-awareness is the starting line, not the destinationThe real cost of unconscious reactions in your business and lifeHow to shift from survival mode into aligned leadershipTools and stories that help rewire your perspective and emotional regulationWhy vulnerability is the birthplace of sustainable growth Key Takeaways:✔️Self-awareness isn't about perfection, it's about responsibility✔️Most people aren't stuck from lack of ability, but from refusal to look inward✔️You don't need a new plan… you need new choices in how you respond✔️Emotional honesty is the foundation of leadership, not a weakness✔️Ownership of your patterns creates the freedom to choose differently✔️The moments you want to avoid are often the exact ones that hold your breakthrough Timestamps & Highlights:[00:00] – Opening quote: Awareness isn't comfort, it's responsibility[03:00] – Taylor joins: why true change starts with brutal honesty[10:30] – The “mirror moments” that shifted everything for Taylor[18:15] – Avoidance vs. awareness: the crossroads every leader hits[24:40] – How unconscious trauma shows up in business and relationships[30:55] – From bypassing to bravery: sitting in the discomfort[37:20] – The impact of parenting, identity, and generational patterns[45:00] – Nervous system regulation and responding instead of reacting[52:15] – Choosing alignment when everything feels heavy[59:05] – Final reflections: reclaiming your power starts with seeing yourself[1:04:30] – Closing wisdom: your future is shaped by your honesty todayConnect with Taylor:Website: taylorcavanaugh.comInstagram: @tcavofficialYoutube: @tcavofficialYour Challenge This Week:Comment “HONESTY” on our latest Instagram post @itsgeorgebryant and we'll DM you Taylor's top 3 journal prompts for powerful self-reflection.Share this episode with someone who's ready to lead from the inside out.Want to master aligned leadership, regulate your nervous system, and stop repeating the same old patterns in life and business?Join our next live event: The Lighthouse Workshop, March 2026: mindofgeorge.com/eventYou'll walk away with clarity, tools, and community that will change your trajectory, for real this time.

Let's talk about something uncomfortable.Not dramatic. Not viral.But real.Women don't usually lose attraction overnight.It doesn't disappear after one fight, one mistake, or one bad day.Attraction fades quietly.Slowly.Through patterns.The first crack usually comes from emotional safety.When a woman feels unheard… dismissed… or emotionally alone—even while in a relationship—something inside her starts to shut down.She may still care.She may still stay.But desire begins to leave.Then there's inconsistency.Strong words, weak actions.Present one day, distant the next.Attraction doesn't grow from intensity—it grows from reliability.Another major shift happens when self-respect erodes.When someone tolerates disrespect, over-pleases, or abandons their boundaries, it quietly changes how they're perceived.Confidence isn't loud.It's stable.Emotional immaturity also plays a role.Avoiding hard conversations.Deflecting accountability.Shutting down instead of showing up.Maturity feels safe.Avoidance feels exhausting.Then comes stagnation.No growth.No ambition.No forward movement.Attraction struggles when one person feels like they're evolving and the other is standing still.Sometimes love turns into neediness disguised as care.Constant reassurance.Fear of being left.Making one person your entire identity.Love should feel like choice—not pressure.Conflict reveals a lot.Anyone can be calm when life is easy.But attraction is tested in stress, disagreement, and uncertainty.How you communicate then matters more than any romantic moment.Another quiet killer is being taken for granted.Effort fades.Curiosity disappears.Appreciation becomes rare.Familiarity without care feels invisible.There's also misalignment.You can have chemistry and still grow apart when values, priorities, or future visions don't match.Love needs direction—not just emotion.And finally, there's the loss of polarity.When individuality disappears and the connection becomes emotional dependence, desire often flattens.Attraction thrives on grounded confidence—not emotional merging.Here's the truth most people don't want to hear:Women don't usually leave because they stopped loving.They leave because they felt unseen, unsafe, or emotionally alone for too long.Attraction doesn't ask for perfection.It asks for presence.Consistency.Growth.And responsibility.That's the real conversation no one likes to have.

In this episode, Ben sits down with bestselling author, psychologist and behaviour change expert Shahroo Izadi for a deep, honest conversation about ADHD, addiction and how habits really form.Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Shahroo reflects on how years spent working in addiction services helped her make sense of her own impulsivity, shame cycles and coping strategies - long before she had the language for neurodivergence. Together, Ben and Shahroo unpack why addiction is often misunderstood, how neurodivergent brains are especially vulnerable in a frictionless modern world, and why behaviour change isn't about willpower or fixing yourself.This is a compassionate, practical conversation about trust, self-belief and designing habits that work with your brain - not against it.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:26 Shahroo Izadi's ADHD Diagnosis & Personal Journey08:12 ADHD, Neurodivergence & Addiction: What's the Link?11:44 Is Addiction a Disease — or a Coping Strategy?13:04 Why Willpower Fails: Understanding Habit Formation16:50 ADHD vs Autism: Impulsivity, Dopamine & Delayed Reward19:08 ADHD & Addiction: Shahroo's Framework for Sustainable Change29:18 Trusting an ADHD Brain After Years of Self-Criticism33:33 Applying Behavioural Psychology to Living With ADHD36:15 The ADHD Tax: Shame, Avoidance & Hidden Costs39:25 External Dependence, Coping Mechanisms & Control42:03 Shahroo's 3 Practical Tips for Lasting Behaviour Change52:13 Ben on Addiction & Recovery: Choice Without Deprivation58:47 What We Still Get Wrong About Addiction & Neurodivergence1:02:02 Healthy Habits vs Addiction: Where's the Line?1:07:21 Addiction, ADHD & Autism: What Needs to Change Systemically1:15:20 Shahroo's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benShahroo Izadi @shahroo_izadi www.shahrooizadi.co.ukIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary After a multi-year pause, Eric returns to the Man of Class podcast with a grounded and timely conversation about peace—why so many men want it, yet struggle to feel it. Inspired by a message heard at church, this episode explores why peace is achieved through reconciliation rather than compromise. Eric breaks down what reconciliation truly means, how it differs from compromise, and why unresolved issues continue to resurface in our lives. This episode sets the tone for a new season of Man of Class focused on clarity, alignment, and building an exceptional life. 00:00 – Welcome back & why Man of Class is returningWhy Eric is restarting the podcast, what's changed, and the deeper clarity behind this new season. 03:30 – The insight that sparked this episode“Peace is achieved through reconciliation, not compromise” — and why that phrase mattered. 06:30 – Why men want peace but rarely feel itBusyness, success without fulfillment, hustle culture, and unresolved tension. 09:45 – Avoidance, conflict, and false peaceWhy avoiding conflict only pushes tension underground. 12:30 – What reconciliation actually meansA clear definition of reconciliation and why alignment matters more than comfort. 15:30 – Root cause vs surface-level fixesUsing an engineering mindset to explain reconciliation as solving the real problem. 18:45 – Compromise vs reconciliation explainedWhy compromise treats effects instead of causes—and why it fails long-term. 22:00 – Why unresolved issues keep coming backDormant conflict, recurring arguments, and temporary calm without peace. 24:30 – Applying reconciliation to real lifeMarriage, work, faith, habits, and internal alignment. 27:00 – Listener-style Q&A: real questions men ask How do I reconcile without it turning into a fight? What if the other person won't reconcile? How do I know if I'm compromising or reconciling? What if reconciliation means things have to change? 31:30 – Live Mondays at 8pm EST & what's coming nextIntroducing the live format and community-driven direction. 33:00 – Builder's Mastermind & closing reflectionWhere are you compromising instead of reconciling? Peace is built, not found.

Show LinksSelf-Paced Resources.Subscribe To The Interview Podcast: https://yourlevelfitness.com/podcastNew To The YLF Philosophy? Start Here: ylf30.comDaily Accountability And Structure For Your Self-Paced Inside/Out Process: https://yourlevelfitness.com/daily-emailQ&A Response YouTube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjSupgaY5KA66MD2IdmCwFhLFbDe-pk1lIndividualized Guidance From Daryl.Join The YLF Experience: https://app.moonclerk.com/pay/5t93iox9udm3Compare All Service Levels: https://yourlevelfitness.com/coachingGet Your Merch, Mugs & Wall Quotes.Shop The Current Collections: https://yourlevelfitness.shop/collectionsIn this episode, I ask a simple but uncomfortable question. What are you avoiding? The thing you keep pushing aside, ignoring, or telling yourself you will deal with later is not neutral. It is quietly controlling your thoughts, your energy, and your decisions.I talk about how avoidance lives in the background and why being connected to yourself makes it harder to ignore. When you can clearly see what you are avoiding, you get to choose how to handle it. You might decide to acknowledge it and leave it alone for now, or you might decide it is time to take action. Either way, awareness is the first real step.This episode is not about forcing change or fixing everything at once. It is about naming what is already there so it stops living rent free in your head. Anything you choose to do after that is a bonus, because working through things takes time, and that is okay.Please share this episode with anyone you think would be interested in listening to it.Visit darylperrypodcast.com for links to the show page on each of the major podcast directories. From there, you can subscribe and share this pod.For comments, questions, topic ideas, possible collaborations please email daryl@yourlevelfitness.com

Toddlers Don't Lie — They're Communicating  (Here's What to Do) "If you're struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It's called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In this episode, we talk about why toddlers and preschoolers say 'I don't wanna go' and how they communicate distress through behavior, stories, and resistance. We'll explore how different rules and environments can create nervous system distress in children and how parents can respond effectively. This episode is useful for co-parents, married parents or partners with different parenting styles, grandparents, daycare transitions, and more. We will also cover five common ways toddlers communicate nervous system distress and discuss how to respond without shutting them down. Join us to learn how to better understand and support your child's behavior and meltdowns.00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast00:03 Understanding Toddler Communication00:16 Why Kids Say 'I Don't Wanna Go'00:22 Nervous System Distress in Toddlers00:48 Toddlers Don't Lie: A Deeper Look02:04 Behavior as Communication03:39 Five Common Ways Toddlers Communicate Distress04:23 Avoidance as a Coping Strategy05:19 Symbolic Communication: Making Up Stories10:57 Fear of Being Alone: Sleep and Separation13:05 Dysregulation at Pickup and Drop Off14:21 Clinging to One Parent15:20 How Not to Shut Down Your Child's Distress17:55 Clarifying the Truth Without Teaching Fear21:27 In Closing: Supporting Your Toddler's Communication22:50 Resources and Next Steps------------------------------------------------------"If you're struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It's called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course.  You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the  The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog

Anxiety Isn't the Problem — It's the Habit Loop Behind It I recently had a conversation with psychiatrist and neuroscientist Jud Brewer that stopped me in my tracks — not because it was abstract or inspirational, but because it finally explained something I've lived with for decades. Even in long-term sobriety. Even with years of self-work, therapy, meetings, journaling, and personal development. That thing is anxiety — and more specifically, how anxiety quietly turns into habits like worrying, overthinking, scrolling, information hoarding, procrastinating, and self-judgment. What Dr. Brewer helped me see is this: Anxiety isn't a personal flaw. It's a learned habit loop. And once I saw that clearly, everything changed.     Worry Is a Behavior — Not a Personality Trait One of the most powerful reframes from our conversation was this: Worry isn't just a feeling — it's something we do. Anxiety shows up as a sensation in the body. Worry is the mental behavior we use to try to control that sensation. And here's the trap: Worry feels productive. It feels like we're doing something. That tiny sense of relief is enough to reward the brain — which means the loop gets reinforced. Anxiety → Worry → Temporary relief → Repeat Over time, this becomes automatic. So automatic we don't even realize we're doing it. That's the definition of a habit.     Why "Why Am I Like This?" Keeps Us Stuck As someone in recovery, I'm very familiar with the idea of "getting to the root cause." Childhood trauma, identity, shame, conditioning — all of that matters. But here's what surprised me: Dr. Brewer says the "why" is often the least important part when it comes to changing anxiety. Not because the past doesn't matter — but because focusing on why often keeps us stuck in our heads instead of helping us change what we're doing right now. When anxiety hits, the more helpful question isn't: "Why am I like this?" It's: "What am I getting from this behavior?" That question shifts us from self-blame to curiosity — and curiosity is where real change begins.     The Default Mode Network (AKA: The Overthinking Machine) We also talked about the brain's default mode network — the system that activates when we're not focused on a task. This network lights up when we: Worry about the future Replay the past Judge ourselves Compare ourselves to others Crave, resist, or ruminate In other words: it's the "me, me, me" network. When fear (an urge to act now) gets crossed with planning (thinking about the future), we get anxiety. Anxiety doesn't help us act. It freezes us. That's why so many high-achievers know exactly what to do — and still don't do it.     The Three Gears of Change (This Is the Part That Actually Helps) Dr. Brewer's work focuses on a simple but profound process he calls the three gears: ⚙️ Gear 1: Awareness Notice the behavior. Worrying. Scrolling. Self-judging. Avoiding. No fixing. No shaming. Just noticing. If it's automatic, it's a habit — and habits can be changed.     ⚙️ Gear 2: Ask "What Am I Getting From This?" This is the most overlooked step. Not: "What should I be doing?" "What's wrong with me?" "Why can't I just stop?" But: What is this giving me right now? Safety? Distraction? Avoidance of shame? Temporary relief? When we see clearly that the reward is small — and the cost is high — the habit starts to lose its power.     ⚙️ Gear 3: Find the Bigger, Better Offer This is where things shift. Instead of numbing, distracting, or fighting anxiety, we learn to meet it differently — and that feels better than the habit itself. That's where the RAIN practice comes in.     RAIN: A Way to Be With Anxiety Without Escaping It RAIN stands for: R – Recognize what's happening A – Allow it to be there I – Investigate with curiosity (What does this feel like in my body?) N – Note what's happening moment to moment Here's the surprising part: When we stop trying to get rid of anxiety and simply observe it, it often passes on its own. Cravings peak and fall. Sensations rise and fade. Even when they feel like they'll last forever — they don't.     Action Steps (Try This This Week) If anxiety, overthinking, or procrastination are showing up in your life, try this: Catch the Habit Notice when anxiety turns into worrying, scrolling, or self-judgment. Ask One Question What am I getting from this right now? Practice RAIN Don't fix. Don't flee. Just observe. Change the Language Instead of "I am anxious," try: "I'm noticing anxiety in my body." Let the Wave Pass You don't have to do anything for it to end.     Resources Mentioned Unwinding Anxiety by Jud Brewer Trigger–Habit–Outcome Mapping (free worksheet referenced by Dr. Brewer) RAIN mindfulness practice Going Beyond Anxiety program (Dr. Brewer's advanced work)     Final Thought You're not broken. You're not failing. You're not missing some secret piece of information. Your brain learned a habit — and habits can be unlearned. With awareness, curiosity, and kindness, anxiety doesn't have to run your life. It can become a signal — not a sentence.

STRANGER THINGS & EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCEWhat if Stranger Things isn't just about monsters, portals, and the Upside Down — but about belonging, vulnerability, and the emotional cost of avoidance?In this episode of The Shadows Podcast, we break down Stranger Things through the lens of Emotional Intelligence and pull out three Life Cheat Codes that apply just as much to real life as they do to Hawkins, Indiana. From friendships that save lives to emotions we try to outrun, this episode explores how our inner world shapes our survival.

A candid dive into accountability, purpose, and why chasing “happiness” keeps failing us. Michael breaks down the lost art of civil conversation—especially around politics, religion, and race—and challenges listeners to find real meaning in their day beyond the noise.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Step into the arena of tough talks with Episode 184 of the DYL Podcast! Join host Adam Gragg and special guest Troy Trussell as they crack the code on "Hard Conversations." Are you tired of walking on eggshells, dodging confrontations, or letting fear keep you silent? Discover the game-changing power of courage over comfort!In this episode, you'll learn the three decisive moves you need to finally stop avoiding those difficult discussions—at work, at home, and everywhere in between. Uncover why we procrastinate, how planning to listen (not just to talk!) can transform your relationships, and why commitment is the secret sauce to real change. Packed with practical examples, personal stories, and actionable strategies, this episode is your blueprint for turning anxiety into productive action.Most of us know there's a hard conversation we should have, but we keep putting it off. This video addresses the common tendency of conflict avoidance in relationships, whether with coworkers, family, or friends. Learn valuable strategies for navigating difficult conversations, fostering better communication, and enhancing your emotional intelligence for stronger connections.Ready to punch fear in the face and create meaningful change? Listen now and let the DYL Podcast help you tackle the conversations you've been putting off. Your legacy starts with one brave step, don't miss out!►► GET MY FREE VIDEO & WORKSHEET - SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF LITE!7 SMALL STEPS TO A GIANT LEAP IN YOUR CONFIDENCE CHAPTERS:00:00 "Keys to Successful Hard Conversations"05:34 "Dreaming of Family Legacy"08:04 Avoiding Difficult Conversations09:44 Avoiding Discomfort and Its Costs14:22 "Facing Difficult Conversations"17:12 "Listening Over Agenda"22:02 "Parenting and Tough Conversations"24:55 "Commit to Hard Conversations"29:10 "Leveraging Growth for Success"31:28 "Schedule, Commit, and Act"35:55 "Overcoming Avoidance Through Action"36:56 "Decide, Act, and Grow" Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

If you're someone who keeps waiting for reassurance before you move or make a decision, this Mindset Debrief episode is for you. It addresses the pattern and shows how it turns capable people into hesitant decision-makers.You'll see what it's costing you in momentum and self-trust, and you'll leave with a practical way to act while uncertainty's still present.A lot of people assume they're delaying because they're being careful. The research points to a more uncomfortable driver. Avoidance often shows up as emotion regulation, not bad time management. When a task or decision stirs up tension, the brain looks for quick relief, and delay becomes a short-term mood fix. Reassurance works the same way. It can lower anxiety for a moment, but it teaches you to treat discomfort as a problem that needs to be removed before you're “allowed” to act. In clinical research, excessive reassurance-seeking is tied to worsening depressive symptoms and strained relationships, partly because it can pull other people into a loop that never really resolves the fear underneath. This gets louder when you've got a low tolerance for uncertainty. Intolerance of uncertainty reliably predicts higher anxiety, and it pushes people toward behaviors that feel safe in the moment, like checking, overplanning, and seeking repeated confirmation. In decision-making research, that “safety behavior” can backfire by keeping you dependent on certainty you can't actually secure. SpringerSo this episode draws a hard line between two things that get confused: information and permission. Information helps you make a better call. Permission is emotional outsourcing. If you can't tell the difference, you'll keep collecting opinions long after you've already got enough to decide.We talk through what reassurance-seeking looks like in real life at work and at home, why it feels responsible, and how it quietly trains you to distrust your own judgment. Then we shift the standard you're using. You're not waiting for confidence. You're waiting for discomfort to go away. It won't. The move is learning to decide with it still there, and to treat self-trust as something you practice, not something you earn from other people.Share this episode with someone who could benefit from the information.CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST:IG: https://www.instagram.com/paulpantani/WEBSITE: https://www.transitiondrillpodcast.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulpantani/SIGN-UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER:https://transitiondrillpodcast.com/home#aboutQUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:paul@transitiondrillpodcast.comSPONSORS:Blue Line RoastingGet 10% off your purchaseLink: https://bluelineroasting.comPromocode: Transition10

Happy New Year! As many of us think about fresh starts, healing strained relationships might be part of that journey. Today, host Julie Rose revisits a powerful conversation with Justin Jones-Fosu, meaningful work researcher and author of “I Respectfully Disagree: How to Have Difficult Conversations in a Divided World.” Justin shares the deeply personal story of reconciling with his father after years of distance and hurt — not by seeking an apology, but by choosing curiosity over assumptions and conversation over confrontation. His insights remind us that reconciliation doesn't always require agreement. Sometimes it simply asks us to stay on the road with people instead of “taking the exit.” Learn more about Justin Jones-Fosu's work - https://workmeaningful.com/ CHAPTERS (0:00) Introduction (1:46) Justin Jones-Fosu on Avoidance and Curiosity (2:35) A Personal Story of Reconciliation (5:00) The Concept of 'Taking the Exit' (12:47) The Circles of Grace Challenge (16:27) Conclusion

We all avoid things we know would move us forward — the workout, the routine, the conversation, the next step.Avoidance isn't laziness — it's protection. Your brain is trying to keep you safe from failure, discomfort, or not being perfect.In this episode, we talk about:why avoidance actually happensthe fears hiding underneath itthe loop that keeps you stuckhow to take simple, doable steps forward — without shameBig takeaway:Avoidance isn't a flaw. Once you create safety + take tiny action, the pattern loses power.

Take a breath. Let the pace slow. As we close out a year that has quietly changed many of us, this final episode of 2025 invites you into a different kind of conversation. It one not rooted in resolutions or reinvention for performance, but in presence and purpose. Have you ever found yourself busy but unfulfilled? Productive but misaligned? You're not alone. This isn't just another year-end reflection. It's a reorientation. We explore the deeper truth behind the ever-popular "comeback" narrative and ask the question: Are you running from something… or toward something? From the psychology of sustainable change to the tender process of identity evolution, this episode offers grounding insight, soul-deep reflection, and a mirror to help you name what's quietly been shifting inside you. Whether you're standing at a threshold or simply tired of resolutions that never stick, this episode will help you come back—not to who you were, but to who you're becoming. Key Takeaways: True comebacks aren't about returning. They're about reconstructing. Avoidance creates motion. Approach creates meaning. Lasting change begins with identity, not behavior. The nervous system responds better to direction than to resistance. You don't need to fix everything. You just need to choose your direction. Let go of the pressure to "figure it all out." Focus on where your soul is pointing. Direction is not a one-time decision—it's a daily return CONNECT WITH LISA Beyond the Transaction Mastermind -  Apply to join the group: https://beyondthetransactionmm.com/register Sign up for Lisa's "so much more" newsletter: https://www.thediyframework.com/so-much-more-subscribe  Freedom Reset: Your Next Steps to Realignment  Register: https://go.lisamcguire.com/freedom-reset  Human Design Masterclass Waitlist: https://go.lisamcguire.com/human-design-masterclass-waitlist  Ideal Client Workshop Waitlist: https://go.lisamcguire.com/ideal-client-workshop-waitlist-icww785155  Get your free Human Design Bodygraph: https://lisamcguire.com/get-your-free-chart/   

Avoidance of accountability does not blow your business up overnight. It quietly lowers the bar, one unchecked behavior at a time. Peterman's Andrew Hasty walks through why avoiding accountability is one of the most dangerous dysfunctions on a team and how it slowly creates a culture of mediocrity in HVAC, plumbing, and home service businesses. Using real stories from the field and everyday life, this episode shows how "little" things like late arrivals, missing equipment data, sloppy paperwork, and skipped debriefs are not one-off issues. They are signals that standards are slipping and that leaders are choosing personal comfort over team success. If there is a tech coasting, a teammate with endless excuses, or a high performer who ignores process because "they produce," this episode will help frame and initiate the conversations that have been avoided for too long. Join The ARENA - a CSTG Community (powered by our media partner, PeopleForward Network) Subscribe to CSTG on YouTube! Connect with Chad on LinkedIn Chad Peterman | CEO | Author Learn more about the Peterman Brothers Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network Key Takeaways: Avoiding accountability slowly destroys team standards. Small misses today become the new normal tomorrow. Accountability is shared ownership, not top-down punishment. Leaders hurt culture when they choose comfort over honesty. Clear expectations and KPIs make accountability feel fair. Peer accountability is the strongest sign of a healthy team. Consistent feedback keeps growth and high performance normal.

Dr. David Tolin is the Founder & Director of the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Institute of Living, the author of over 200 scientific journal articles & even received the Award for Lifetime Contribution to Psychology from the CT Psychological Association, but you may recognize him from the reality TV series Hoarders, The OCD Project or My Shopping Addiction. In this episode he shares what diagnosing hoarding disorder looks like, what brain scans reveal & the myth of trauma. This episode originally aired November 27, 2023.If you liked this episode, you'll also like episode 208: TRIGGER WARNINGS: MAKING US FRAGILE OR HELPING US HEAL? Guest: https://drtolin.com/homehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/drdavidtolin/https://a.co/d/hDRDee8 Host:  https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/meredithforreal/ meredith@meredithforreal.comhttps://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal  https://www.facebook.com/meredithforrealthecuriousintrovert  Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  02:38 — How common hoarding really is04:05 — When clutter ≠ hoarding disorder05:00 — Why letting go feels painful06:02 — What actually causes hoarding08:00 — Attention, cognition, vulnerability10:00 — Why empathy changes everything11:05 — ADHD, brain scans, and myths14:10 — The “salience network” explained15:05 — Why clutter fades into the background16:00 — When every object feels urgent17:05 — Decision-making becomes unbearable18:10 — Avoidance as survival strategy20:00 — Why animal hoarding is different23:00 — What people actually hoard24:00 — When hoarding becomes extreme25:10 — Digital hoarding counts too26:05 — Emails, photos, and emotional pain27:00 — Objects as identity30:15 — The downward arrow technique31:20 — Why therapists and patients talk past each other32:15 — Anthropomorphizing our stuff33:20 — Why kids' toys still haunt us34:15 — Grief as an accelerant35:20 — Stuff as memory protection36:10 — Acquiring as mood regulation37:10 — When retail therapy backfires38:15 — Emotion regulation gone wrong39:10 — Compassion without enabling40:05 — Boundaries that don't abandon41:10 — Why insight takes repetition42:15 — Therapy isn't one magic moment43:10 — How to stay anchored in reality44:05 — Questions that interrupt impulse45:10 — Why self-questioning works better46:15 — What “success” actually looks like47:15 — Managing vs curing hoarding48:10 — Exposure therapy in real life49:10 — TJ Maxx as a trigger50:05 — Sitting with discomfort on purpose51:10 — Rewriting your relationship with stuff52:05 — How hoarding changed his own habits53:10 — Keeping what truly serves you54:05 — Buried in Treasures and next steps55:10 — Final reflections on stuff and selfRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/

This powerful clip is from episode 338.In this honest, soul-stretching microsode, I sit with Stefanos Sifandos — Renowned Relationship Coach — to explore what it really means to know, love + lead yourSELF.We talk about growing up in environments shaped by impatience, survival, + unspoken pain — and how those early imprints write the emotional codes we live by as adults. This conversation is for the ones who've struggled to feel safe in their own skin.The ones learning that self-intimacy — not perfection — is the foundation of authentic power.Stefanos + I dive into the sacred terrain of trust, trauma, + transformation, unpacking how addiction, avoidance, + hyper-vigilance are not flaws — they're invitations to return home to yourSELF.SOME WORDS ARE GIFTS:• You can't love what you don't know. Self-intimacy comes before self-love.• The roots of disconnection often look like survival — but healing begins with awareness.• Family systems teach us who to trust, until we remember to rebuild that trust within.• Avoidance is protection, until it becomes the prison that keeps you from your truth.• Leadership isn't about control — it's about conscious presence + radical honesty.Missed the Full Episode? Check it out here:LISTEN TO EP 338 ON APPLE PODCASTLISTEN TO EP 338 ON THE SPOTIFY PODCASTWATCH EP 338 ON YOUTUBE⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBETWITTERTHREADSFIND STEFANOS SIFANDOS ON:IGWEBCOURSEBOOK WAITLISTFREE RESOURCES:

Are you an overwhelmed mom struggling with mom guilt, anxiety, or the pressure to do it all? In this deeply personal episode, JoAnn Crohn, your trusted mom coach, shares the story behind her business downsizing — a journey that parallels the challenges many moms face when avoiding difficult truths. This episode explores the common pitfalls of avoidance that many moms experience: over-functioning, people-pleasing, and pushing through exhaustion without addressing what's really wrong.This isn't an episode about procrastination or denial. It's about the kind of avoidance many moms fall into—the kind that looks like over-functioning, people-pleasing, and trying harder instead of stopping to ask what's actually wrong.JoAnn shares the behind-the-scenes reality of running No Guilt Mom through changing times, declining revenue, and the intense pressure of wanting to protect her team at all costs—even when it meant sacrificing her own health.You'll hear:Why avoidance often looks like doing everything instead of doing nothingHow anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and exhaustion were her body's warning signalsThe leadership decision she was terrified to make—and why not making it nearly broke herWhat Internal Family Systems therapy revealed about her “people-pleaser” partWhy courage doesn't feel calm, confident, or steady—and that's normalHow facing painful truths can bring relief your nervous system has been begging forJoAnn also walks you through how avoidance shows up in everyday life—money, relationships, parenting, time management—and how naming what you're really feeling opens the door to better solutions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I talk about the idea of the avoidance list and why success is more about what you don't do than what you do. This comes from a story in the book The Third Door and a strategy often linked to Warren Buffett, even though he didn't actually create it. The idea is simple: pick your top five goals and avoid the other twenty, not because they're bad, but because they distract you. Focus is limited, and trying to do everything weakens your results. I will explain why a “not-to-do” list might be more powerful than any to-do list. Show Notes: [03:53]#1 Most people fail through too much addition, not through subtraction.  [10:25]#2 True power is in restraint, not commitment.  [15:19]#3 Discipline creates presence.  [18:04] Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1193: Focus: The Force Multiplier Next Steps: ⚡️ Power Presence Protocol  Command The Room Without Words → http://PowerPresenceProtocol.com