Podcasts about Avoidance

We all avoid things we know would move us forward — the workout, the routine, the conversation, the next step.Avoidance isn't laziness — it's protection. Your brain is trying to keep you safe from failure, discomfort, or not being perfect.In this episode, we talk about:why avoidance actually happensthe fears hiding underneath itthe loop that keeps you stuckhow to take simple, doable steps forward — without shameBig takeaway:Avoidance isn't a flaw. Once you create safety + take tiny action, the pattern loses power.

Dr. David Tolin is the Founder & Director of the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Institute of Living, the author of over 200 scientific journal articles & even received the Award for Lifetime Contribution to Psychology from the CT Psychological Association, but you may recognize him from the reality TV series Hoarders, The OCD Project or My Shopping Addiction. In this episode he shares what diagnosing hoarding disorder looks like, what brain scans reveal & the myth of trauma. This episode originally aired November 27, 2023.If you liked this episode, you'll also like episode 208: TRIGGER WARNINGS: MAKING US FRAGILE OR HELPING US HEAL? Guest: https://drtolin.com/homehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/drdavidtolin/https://a.co/d/hDRDee8 Host:  https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/meredithforreal/ meredith@meredithforreal.comhttps://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal  https://www.facebook.com/meredithforrealthecuriousintrovert  Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  02:38 — How common hoarding really is04:05 — When clutter ≠ hoarding disorder05:00 — Why letting go feels painful06:02 — What actually causes hoarding08:00 — Attention, cognition, vulnerability10:00 — Why empathy changes everything11:05 — ADHD, brain scans, and myths14:10 — The “salience network” explained15:05 — Why clutter fades into the background16:00 — When every object feels urgent17:05 — Decision-making becomes unbearable18:10 — Avoidance as survival strategy20:00 — Why animal hoarding is different23:00 — What people actually hoard24:00 — When hoarding becomes extreme25:10 — Digital hoarding counts too26:05 — Emails, photos, and emotional pain27:00 — Objects as identity30:15 — The downward arrow technique31:20 — Why therapists and patients talk past each other32:15 — Anthropomorphizing our stuff33:20 — Why kids' toys still haunt us34:15 — Grief as an accelerant35:20 — Stuff as memory protection36:10 — Acquiring as mood regulation37:10 — When retail therapy backfires38:15 — Emotion regulation gone wrong39:10 — Compassion without enabling40:05 — Boundaries that don't abandon41:10 — Why insight takes repetition42:15 — Therapy isn't one magic moment43:10 — How to stay anchored in reality44:05 — Questions that interrupt impulse45:10 — Why self-questioning works better46:15 — What “success” actually looks like47:15 — Managing vs curing hoarding48:10 — Exposure therapy in real life49:10 — TJ Maxx as a trigger50:05 — Sitting with discomfort on purpose51:10 — Rewriting your relationship with stuff52:05 — How hoarding changed his own habits53:10 — Keeping what truly serves you54:05 — Buried in Treasures and next steps55:10 — Final reflections on stuff and selfRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 187 - "How conflict avoidance often causes more conflict" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideWhen we avoid conflict we are actually avoiding communication and resolution which is ironically what is needed to avoid further conflict. Avoiding something that is present because it feels uncomfortable in the moment, especially in our close relationships, can make things significantly more uncomfortable in the future. More often than not we chose to wait and avoid conflict, hoping for little things to blow over and we are actually be setting ourselves up for a hurricane. Tune in to find out the impacts that conflict avoidance can be having on you, your relationships and those around you and how to begin to shift our conflict avoidant conditioning.In this episode we cover:One of the primary causes of conflict in our societyThe effect time has on conflictWhen "not a big deal" turns into a REALLY big dealWhy do people avoid conflictWhat conflict avoidance actually isThe larger impact of conflict avoidanceWhen people show you who they really areWhere conflict avoidance lives in the Drama TriangleHow to avoid being conflict avoidantBringing your relationships closerWhen avoiding the conflict is no longer an optionWhat you can do if you're not given the choice to resolve a conflictEpisode References:The Drama Triangle episodes -Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulGuilt and Shame Series -Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityApology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyThe Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/ApologyPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Foundations of Amateur Radio One of the potentially trickier aspects of putting together your shack is connecting the radio to the antenna. On the face of it, the challenge is limited to making sure that you have mating connectors on both ends, but when you actually start implementing this you'll run into several other considerations. The very first one as I said is the connector. Every amateur I've ever spoken to goes through the same process. You pick a connector, typically the one that your radio comes with, then you adapt the connector on your coaxial cable to suit, then you'll get an SWR meter, a dummy load, some testing gear, a coax switch or two, perhaps another radio, or an amplifier and along the way you'll discover that you now have a growing collection of connectors to choose from, and that's just the connectors inside the shack. After considering connectors, you'll start to contemplate the coax itself. You'll likely weigh price against signal loss, but there are other aspects to the selection of the right coax for the job. For example, how do you get the coax actually into the shack? One of the main challenges associated with solving that problem is surprisingly something that rarely affects our hobby, other than any human factors associated with the phenomenon of "weather". Getting coax into a shack generally involves passing through a weather proof barrier of some sort. In doing so, you're likely to create a place where the weather can make its way into places it's not supposed to. Water can and will travel along your coax. Hopefully on the outside of it, but if you're unlucky, on the inside too, likely destroying it along the way. At first glance you'll think that water only travels down with gravity and in an ideal world you'd be right, but as it happens, water will happily do other things like get blown by the wind, or condensate in temperature gradients, like those found near a hole you just created in your lovely weather proof barrier. If your shack has existing openings, they're generally the easiest to appropriate, things like gaps in the eves, existing vent holes, between roof tiles or sheet iron, plenty of existing places where you can get from inside to outside a shack. Note that this is also the case if your shack is a trestle table tucked away in an office, like mine. Before I continue, I'm about to raise some potential safety issues, but I'm not an occupational health and safety professional, so, do your own due diligence. If you do need to go into your roof space, height aside, consider it a dangerous place. Make sure that there's someone to check on you and consider alternatives to climbing up there. Wearing a face mask and full body clothing is a very good idea. Often you'll find exposed wires, deteriorating or toxic insulation and other nasty things, conductivity of steel roof frames and pipes are also a hazard, so be extremely reluctant to venture there. Avoidance is preferable. Working at heights 101: Don't .. that said, there may be no alternative. You can lift corrugated iron sheets by undoing the roofing screws. If you do, make absolutely sure that you don't make a string of water inlet points when you put it all back together. In lifting a sheet, you can access the roof space and run your coax. Sometimes the gap between the corrugation and the rafters is sufficient to push the coax through, but if you live in a hot climate, make sure that it doesn't touch the sheeting, since coax is likely to distort, if not outright melt, if it's in direct contact with the iron sheet while the sun is belting down on it. Consider the temperature rating of your coax. Similarly, terracotta roof tiles tend to have enough space to allow coax to enter the roof space. Be very careful, since they're often fragile and potentially irreplaceable. Look for openings like existing roof fittings, things like chimneys, vent pipes, roof ridges, etc. for simpler points of entry. If you need to make a hole in your roof and seal it, there's special rubber grommets for this purpose. You cut a little opening in the grommet, too tight for the coax, then force it through. Seal to the roof with UV-stable silicone and you're good to go. Check them every so many years, they deteriorate. Speaking of silicone, if there's an existing hole that you're using, don't just seal it up, it might be there for a reason. Windows often have vent holes or gaps that will fit some types of coax and there's inserts you can use to open a sliding window that will accommodate coax, but consider the security of that window before you commit. There's also special flat coax for running through a window frame or under a door, but check before you buy that they're suitable for the job. Ladder line is also an option, it's much thinner, can travel longer distances, but its performance can be affected by corrugated iron and other conductors. Rarely if ever does the initial acquisition of coaxial cable involve details like "bending radius", the smallest turn you can make with the coax without destroying its characteristics, since bending causes the insulation, the core and the shield to distort to some degree and with it, affect the RF passing through. Whichever path your coax takes, consider that you can cut it short, but not long. If you really must know how long the coax is, use some string to run along the proposed path, but beware, the string has a bending radius that approaches zero, coax does not. Most coax will specify a bending radius for fixed and repeated bending. The fixed one is for a one time only bend and 65 mm is typical. Thinner coax tends to have a smaller bending radius, but that might affect the signal loss, or the budget, or both, so take that into account. Cutting and joining also introduces points of failure, places of moisture ingress, thick spots that cannot be pulled through existing holes, and plenty of other hidden fun and games, in other words, don't be stingy, get it right, it might cost a few bob extra, but you'll have a happier time of it. If you need to run your coax inside a wall, the tool you're looking for is called a "Cavity King", not of the embalming variety, though relevant if you happen to do something foolish like drill a hole through an existing power wire in your building, so don't start drilling holes where it suits without checking first. If you do, make sure that you drill on an angle facing upwards from the outside and find a place where the coax itself doesn't get wet on the way in. Speaking of holes. Terminate the coax after you installed it, not before. You can use electrical tape to attach a rope to pull the coax along its route without damaging the coax. Before you close up the roof and pack everything away attach the connectors to the coax and properly test it. If it fails your tests, it's easier to run it again with everything in place than it is to start from scratch, ask me how I know. In my shack, I have a run of RG-214 that goes to my VHF/UHF vertical, I also have a run of quad shield RG-6 that goes to my HF antenna. If you're familiar with coax indicators, you'll know that RG-6 is actually 75 Ohm, not 50 Ohm. Given that it's made from aluminium, not copper, it's also an absolute turd to solder. What it does have going for it is that it's absurdly cheap, since its used in satellite dish installations across the planet. It also very handily can be terminated with F-type compression connectors, which in the 25 years I've used them, I've yet to see fail. The F-type connector can accommodate a handy BNC adaptor, bringing us back into the realm of amateur radio. My coax goes under the corrugated iron of my roof through the plasterboard of my office wall, hidden away in a cupboard, snakes under the cupboard door, along the wall to the termination coax switch that is in turn connected to my radio, more on that another time. The two coax runs are tied together, to ensure that they don't coil weirdly, don't pose a trip hazard and it's connected to various fixed points along its path. None of it is permanent, other than the hole in the plasterboard, inside a cupboard, behind a faceplate. So, after removing the coax, a blanking plate brings everything back to invisible if that's ever required. What happens outside is a whole different story and what it attaches to, yet another. The point is that from the place of picking the right connector, you likely discovered that routing coax is potentially a bigger challenge than you might have considered at first. There are other options. What issues affect the ingress of coax at your shack? I'm Onno VK6FLAB

JOIN "THE REBUILT MAN" ON SKOOL - ▶️ www.skool.com/rebootyourlife   In this powerful episode of The Rebuilt Man, Coach Frank Rich dismantles the traditional recovery model and exposes a truth most men have never been told:   If quitting porn feels hard, you're not pursuing freedom, you're pursuing sobriety.   Frank explains why most recovery systems keep men trapped in cycles of willpower, fear, shame, and relapse by focusing on behavior management instead of identity transformation. He draws a clear line between white-knuckled sobriety and true freedom, the kind that comes from becoming a man who no longer wants, needs, or desires porn.   This episode breaks down 12 core reasons why freedom always beats sobriety, and why real change only happens when a man stops trying to "manage addiction" and starts rebuilding who he is at his core.   If you're tired of counting days, fighting urges, and living in fear of relapse, this episode will reframe everything you think you know about recovery.     What You'll Learn in This Episode Why sobriety keeps porn at the center of your life and freedom removes it entirely   How identity always outperforms willpower and behavior management   The hidden reason avoiding temptation actually makes men weaker   Why urges aren't enemies, but signals pointing to deeper issues   How labels like "addict" shape your future and how to reclaim your identity   The difference between surviving addiction and stepping into purpose   Why freedom isn't something you do, it's who you become Key Takeaways If quitting porn feels hard, you're aiming for sobriety, not freedom   Sobriety manages behavior; freedom transforms identity   Willpower creates fragile men, alignment creates strong ones   Sobriety lives in fear of relapse; freedom lives in certainty   Avoidance is not strength, self-leadership is   Recovery keeps you inward-focused; freedom gives you a mission   Urges are signals, not commands   The name you accept determines the life you live Freedom is not abstinence, it's transformation   About the Reboot Your Life Philosophy   Frank also breaks down the philosophy behind Reboot Your Life, the identity-based system inside The Rebuilt Man. Instead of teaching men how to resist porn, the program helps men rebuild: Identity Discipline Brotherhood Purpose Self-leadership   The result isn't sobriety, it's freedom. Ready to Stop Fighting and Start Becoming Free?   If you're ready to stop fighting alone and step into a container built for growth, support, and freedom:   ➡ Join The Rebuilt Man Skool Community — Free 7-Day Trial www.TheRebuiltMan.com/7dayreset   Inside you'll gain access to: Daily accountability Weekly coaching The 7-Day Reset The 12-Week "Reboot Your Life" Framework And a brotherhood of men who refuse to quit   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

This powerful clip is from episode 338.In this honest, soul-stretching microsode, I sit with Stefanos Sifandos — Renowned Relationship Coach — to explore what it really means to know, love + lead yourSELF.We talk about growing up in environments shaped by impatience, survival, + unspoken pain — and how those early imprints write the emotional codes we live by as adults. This conversation is for the ones who've struggled to feel safe in their own skin.The ones learning that self-intimacy — not perfection — is the foundation of authentic power.Stefanos + I dive into the sacred terrain of trust, trauma, + transformation, unpacking how addiction, avoidance, + hyper-vigilance are not flaws — they're invitations to return home to yourSELF.SOME WORDS ARE GIFTS:• You can't love what you don't know. Self-intimacy comes before self-love.• The roots of disconnection often look like survival — but healing begins with awareness.• Family systems teach us who to trust, until we remember to rebuild that trust within.• Avoidance is protection, until it becomes the prison that keeps you from your truth.• Leadership isn't about control — it's about conscious presence + radical honesty.Missed the Full Episode? Check it out here:LISTEN TO EP 338 ON APPLE PODCASTLISTEN TO EP 338 ON THE SPOTIFY PODCASTWATCH EP 338 ON YOUTUBE⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBETWITTERTHREADSFIND STEFANOS SIFANDOS ON:IGWEBCOURSEBOOK WAITLISTFREE RESOURCES:

Are you an overwhelmed mom struggling with mom guilt, anxiety, or the pressure to do it all? In this deeply personal episode, JoAnn Crohn, your trusted mom coach, shares the story behind her business downsizing — a journey that parallels the challenges many moms face when avoiding difficult truths. This episode explores the common pitfalls of avoidance that many moms experience: over-functioning, people-pleasing, and pushing through exhaustion without addressing what's really wrong.This isn't an episode about procrastination or denial. It's about the kind of avoidance many moms fall into—the kind that looks like over-functioning, people-pleasing, and trying harder instead of stopping to ask what's actually wrong.JoAnn shares the behind-the-scenes reality of running No Guilt Mom through changing times, declining revenue, and the intense pressure of wanting to protect her team at all costs—even when it meant sacrificing her own health.You'll hear:Why avoidance often looks like doing everything instead of doing nothingHow anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and exhaustion were her body's warning signalsThe leadership decision she was terrified to make—and why not making it nearly broke herWhat Internal Family Systems therapy revealed about her “people-pleaser” partWhy courage doesn't feel calm, confident, or steady—and that's normalHow facing painful truths can bring relief your nervous system has been begging forJoAnn also walks you through how avoidance shows up in everyday life—money, relationships, parenting, time management—and how naming what you're really feeling opens the door to better solutions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I talk about the idea of the avoidance list and why success is more about what you don't do than what you do. This comes from a story in the book The Third Door and a strategy often linked to Warren Buffett, even though he didn't actually create it. The idea is simple: pick your top five goals and avoid the other twenty, not because they're bad, but because they distract you. Focus is limited, and trying to do everything weakens your results. I will explain why a “not-to-do” list might be more powerful than any to-do list. Show Notes: [03:53]#1 Most people fail through too much addition, not through subtraction.  [10:25]#2 True power is in restraint, not commitment.  [15:19]#3 Discipline creates presence.  [18:04] Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1193: Focus: The Force Multiplier Next Steps: ⚡️ Power Presence Protocol  Command The Room Without Words → http://PowerPresenceProtocol.com 

Anders Sorensen is a Danish clinical psychologist with a PhD in psychiatry.  He's one of the world's leading authorities on psychiatric drug dependence and the complex science of safely discontinuing these medications. His  book "Crossing Zero: The Art and Science of Coming Off-and Staying off- Psychiatric drugs" is a seminal book on how to help people break psychiatric drug dependence and restore their inner compass and relationship to emotions. This conversation discusses emotion regulation in great depth and the lost art of how to respond to our inner world of thoughts, memories and emotions. Anders also discusses the future of mental health, his recent experience with psilocybin and how to restore sanity living in a culture in decline. Substack: https://crossingzero.substack.com/X: https://x.com/_AndersSorensenPurchase Crossing Zero on Amazon Visit Center for Integrated Behavioral HealthDr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

Note: This episodes contains discussion and language of a sexual nature and may not be appropriate for all audiences.In this episode of Marrow Masters, we sit down with Dr. Christian Nelson, a psychologist at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and an expert in psycho-oncology, to address a deeply personal yet often overlooked topic: male sexual dysfunction following cancer treatment. Together, we explore how treatments can impact not only physical function but emotional well-being, identity, and relationships.We start by acknowledging that sexual dysfunction is one of the most common side effects of cancer treatment, second only to fatigue. Yet, it's rarely discussed. Dr. Nelson emphasizes the importance of normalizing the conversation and encouraging patients to raise the issue with their treatment teams. He walks us through the emotional toll that erectile dysfunction can take on men, noting how it strikes at the core of masculinity and can lead to increased depression, frustration, and a general sense of brokenness. He stresses that it's not just about what happens in the bedroom—erectile issues can spill over into all aspects of a man's life, including his relationship with his partner.Dr. Nelson outlines a range of treatment options, from well-known medications like Viagra to lesser-known but effective methods like penile injections and implants. He breaks down the fear around these options, especially injections, and highlights how pain levels are often far lower than anticipated. Beyond physical treatments, we discuss the emotional and relational work that's often required. One key issue is avoidance—men avoiding sexual situations due to performance anxiety, which can snowball into long-term distance and silence between partners. Dr. Nelson makes it clear: the real risk isn't failure, it's not trying.We also dive into how couples can redefine intimacy. Many men associate sex solely with penetration, while their partners often value closeness and emotional connection more. Dr. Nelson advocates for expanding the sexual repertoire and restoring non-sexual forms of affection, which can be just as meaningful. We talk about the impact of testosterone—how its depletion can lower libido and cause men to unknowingly withdraw from their partners—and how testosterone replacement may be a viable option for some, depending on cancer type and treatment history.As roles shift from caregiver back to partner post-treatment, Dr. Nelson stresses the importance of open communication. He urges couples to work toward understanding each other's perspectives, not convincing each other. He shares an "aha" moment involving a couple who waited five years before seeking help, only to reconnect within three sessions after simply opening the lines of communication. The takeaway: don't wait.We close by pointing listeners toward additional resources, including certified sex therapists and specialized urologists, and Dr. Nelson highlights two key professional directories: SSTAR and AASECT. We're reminded that even the simplest questions—like whether it's okay to kiss your partner—deserve answers. It's on all of us, both patients and providers, to make room for these conversations.More:Episode with Dr. Flores: https://marrowmasters.simplecast.com/episodes/mens-sexual-health-gvhdEpisode with Dr. El Jawahri: https://marrowmasters.simplecast.com/episodes/dr-el-jawahriSSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research) – https://sstarnet.orgAASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) – https://www.aasect.orgThanks to our Season 19 sponsors, Incyte and Sanofi.https://incyte.com/https://www.sanofi.com/en00:00 - Introduction to Season 19 and Dr. Christian Nelson  01:16 - Normalizing Conversations on Sexual Dysfunction  04:50 - Emotional Toll of Erectile Dysfunction  07:06 - Treatments: Pills, Injections, and Implants  09:03 - Avoidance and Anxiety in Sexual Relationships  12:17 - Expanding the Definition of Intimacy  16:43 - Role of Testosterone in Sexual Health  20:05 - Shifting from Caregiver to Partner  22:17 - Resources and Where to Get Help  26:29 - A Patient Story: Five Years of Silence  28:07 - Closing Thoughts and Resources   National Bone Marrow Transplant Link - (800) LINK-BMT, or (800) 546-5268.nbmtLINK Website: https://www.nbmtlink.org/nbmtLINK Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/nbmtLINKFollow the nbmtLINK on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/nbmtlink/The nbmtLINK YouTube Page can be found by clicking here.To participate in the GVHD Mosaic, click here: https://amp.livemosaics.com/gvhd Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Fathers do not speak gently about what we like to call small sins. They expose them as seeds of death planted quietly in the heart. What appears minor in the mind becomes lethal in communion. A thought of irritation. A private judgment. A silent refusal to justify the other. These are not harmless interior movements. They are choices. They shape the heart long before they surface in words or actions. Abba Poimen cuts straight through our self deception. Hatred of evil does not begin with outrage at what is wrong in others. It begins with the hatred of my own sin and the justification of my brother. Until that happens everything else is theater. We think we hate evil when in fact we are protecting our ego. We think we are zealous for righteousness when we are only defending an image of ourselves that needs someone else to be wrong. The Fathers are relentless because they know how the mind works. A God loving soul begins to feel anger not because it is pure but because it is awakening. As the heart starts to turn toward God the soul becomes sensitive to injustice. But this sensitivity is dangerous. It can become poison if it is not purified by love. What begins as a reaction to evil quickly becomes hatred of the person. The Fathers insist that this is where knowledge of God dies. Hatred and the knowledge of God cannot coexist in the same heart. The moment I consent to hatred I lose sight of God even if I continue to speak His name and defend His truth. This is not theoretical. It is experiential. The soul darkens. Prayer dries up. The heart becomes rigid. The neighbor becomes an object. God who now dwells in that neighbor is no longer seen. Abba Isaac presses the knife deeper. Do not hate the sinner because you too are guilty. Hatred reveals that love has already departed. And where love is absent God is absent. This is not moralism. It is ontology. God is love. To lose love is to lose God. We imagine that our resentment is justified. We imagine that our anger is righteous. But the Fathers tell us to weep instead. Weep for the sinner. Pray for him. Not because his sin is small but because hatred destroys you faster than his sin destroys him. The devil mocks all of us. Why then do we join him in mocking our brother. Compassion is not weakness. It is participation in the way God bears the world. The story of Nicephoros is terrifying because it shows where unrepented interior sins lead. A friendship shattered by something never healed. A priest who offers the Bloodless Sacrifice while harboring rancor. A refusal to forgive that hardens over time. Nothing dramatic at first. No public scandal. Just silence. Avoidance. The turning away of the eyes. But this silent sin grows until it devours everything. At the moment of martyrdom when crowns are already prepared rancor proves stronger than torture. The priest who endured the rack cannot endure humility. He would rather deny Christ than forgive his brother. This is the end of so called minor sins. They hollow out the heart until there is nothing left to stand on when the final test comes. Nicephoros on the other hand does nothing extraordinary by worldly standards. He begs. He weeps. He humbles himself. He refuses to protect his pride. He places communion above justice as he understands it. And this love becomes his martyrdom. The Fathers make the conclusion unavoidable. It is not ascetic feats or heroic endurance that reconcile us to God but love of neighbor. Without it everything collapses. Prayer becomes noise. Zeal becomes violence. Faith becomes an empty confession. The Evergetinos does not allow us to hide behind abstractions. God has taken up residence in the other. Every thought against my brother is a wound in my own heart. Every refusal to forgive is a refusal of communion. The tragedy is not that we fall but that we excuse what hardens us. The minor sins we tolerate in the mind become the walls that separate us from God. And the only way back is the way Nicephoros walked. Downward. Exposed. Unarmed. Choosing love even when it costs everything. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:04:15 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:12:33 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:14:43 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:15:42 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:17:13 Bob Čihák, AZ: P. 326 section A 00:35:02 Bob Čihák, AZ: P. 328 section A 00:40:21 Wayne: Would you not see the hatred develop when two people get divorced. 00:43:07 Jessica McHale: So once we recognize we are annoyed by someone, do we right then pray for that person and ourselves so that it doesn't grow into resentment or hatred? 00:45:02 Joan Chakonas: Its so much better to be hated than  to hate 00:45:29 Joan Chakonas: Hatred like this is awful, unacceptable 00:48:37 Jerimy Spencer: Reacted to "So once we recognize…" with

In this episode of Business Brain, you're challenged to stop waiting for perfect conditions and start before you feel ready. You don't need every system built or every detail nailed down to make an offer and move forward. You learn why perfection slows momentum, how action creates clarity, and why progress beats polish every time. This mindset shift helps you build confidence, traction, and revenue faster—without getting stuck preparing forever instead of doing. You also explore demand avoidance and the subtle danger of the comfort zone. When things feel easy or familiar, it might actually be a warning sign that you're not stretching far enough. You're reminded that simple tools and clear tracking can keep you honest, focused, and growing. By leaning into a little discomfort and embracing structure, you give yourself the best chance at building a business—and a Charmed Life—on your terms. 00:00:00 Business Brain – The Entrepreneurs' Podcast #710 for Wednesday, December 17th, 2025 December 17th: National Maple Syrup Day 00:02:05 Start Before You're Ready I don't have an email list… but here's an offer and I'll eventually send you email. Perfect is the enemy of good Kit.com beehiiv Constant Contact Klaviyo Mailchimp 00:06:44 Beware the comfort zone 00:07:39 Spreadsheets are your friend Google Sheets Synology Office LibreOffice 00:12:06 SPONSOR: The New Rules of Business: The 10 Kimmandments is available exclusively on MasterClass. And they always have great holiday-season offers, sometimes up to 50% off. Visit MasterClass.com/BUSINESSBRAIN to find out more! 00:13:37 SPONSOR: Intuit QuickBooks Payroll – Take control with QuickBooks Payroll today at QuickBooks.com/payroll 00:14:53 Demand Avoidance Tips to help: Reframe demands as choices — “I could do this” works better than “I should do this.” Lower the activation energy — Define the task as 2 minutes or one tiny step. Externalize structure without authority — Timers, body doubling, or parallel work beat accountability pressure. Use novelty or constraint — Change location, tools, order, or rules. 00:22:23 Business Brain 710 Outtro Tell Your Friends! Review Business Brain Subscribe to the show feedback@businessbrain.show Call/Text: (567) 274-6977 X/Twitter: @ShannonJean & @DaveHamilton, & @BizBrainShow LinkedIn: Shannon Jean, Dave Hamilton, & Business Brain Facebook: Dave Hamilton, Shannon Jean, & Business Brain The post Start Before You’re Ready + Demand Avoidance – Business Brain 710 appeared first on Business Brain - The Entrepreneurs' Podcast.

E432 Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan and Josh Tomeoni In this powerful episode of Inner Voice, Dr. Foojan Zeine sits down with Josh Tomeoni, founder of Ex-Derelict and author of The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. Josh brings a rare blend of lived experience and professional insight as a 19-year fiduciary financial planner turned men's coach, working with high-performing men navigating divorce, identity loss, and major life transitions. The conversation opens with a deep exploration of how divorce and trauma place every person at a crossroads—a choice between the path of health or the path of destruction. Josh challenges common gender stereotypes, explaining that while men and women don't choose different paths, they often cope in different ways. Men tend to numb through work, sex, substances, or avoidance, while women may rely on relationships or even therapy in ways that can become ineffective if true growth stalls. As the episode unfolds, Dr. Foojan and Josh explore neuroscience-based differences in emotional processing, the role of culture and attachment, and how comfort zones—work for men, relationships for women—can either support healing or quietly sabotage it. They emphasize that healing requires active engagement, accountability, and results—not passive coping or endless talking without progress. Josh shares his personal story of divorce, spiritual awakening, and the moment he realized that avoiding pain only made it return stronger and more destructive. This realization shaped both of his books and his mission to help men rebuild wealth, masculinity, purpose, and legacy in their second act of life. In the second half of the episode, Josh introduces his latest book, The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild., a powerful blend of memoir and practical guidance designed to help men integrate mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial clarity. Rather than promoting surface-level fixes like money or physical appearance, Josh focuses on identity reconstruction, intentional masculinity, and purposeful living after loss. The conversation concludes with a profound reminder: the only way forward is through the pain. Avoiding discomfort only guarantees deeper suffering later. Growth, healing, and strength come from facing hard truths directly—and doing the work when it matters most. ⏱️ CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (CLICKABLE) 00:00 – Welcome to Inner Voice with Dr. Foojan 02:26 – Meet Josh Tomeoni: Ex-Derelict & Men's Coach 05:52 – Divorce from the Male Perspective 07:14 – Spiritual Awakening After Divorce 08:30 – Numbing Pain Through Sex, Substances & Avoidance 10:29 – Why Men Feel Alone After Divorce 12:02 – The Traps Men Fall Into During Divorce 13:04 – Do Women Heal Faster Than Men? A Real Debate 15:52 – Health Path vs. Destruction Path After Trauma 17:36 – When Therapy or Work Becomes a Crutch 20:27 – Workaholism, Relationships & Hidden Addictions 24:29 – Neuroscience: How Men & Women Process Trauma 27:17 – Culture, Custody & Financial Identity After Divorce 30:02 – Comfort Zones: Work for Men, Relationships for Women 32:03 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Connection & Problem-Solving 33:29 – Josh's First Book: Divorce Traps Men Must Avoid 35:15 – The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. 36:47 – Why Men Lose Identity After Divorce 38:11 – Reclaiming Masculinity, Purpose & Legacy 40:16 – Masculine & Feminine Balance in Relationships 42:08 – Why Polarity Matters in All Relationships 44:18 – Final Truth: Growth Only Comes Through Pain 45:22 – Where to Find Josh & Get the Free Divorce Book

1. Opening & Setup (Intro)· J.R. introduces the topic: a frustrating moment at home that sparked the conversation· Brief context:o Blended family dynamicso Three kids in the house: ages 13, 11, and almost 2· Set the tone: honest, relatable, and open to listener advice2. The Incident That Sparked It All· J.R. explains what happened the night before:o J.R. was sick and out of commissiono Dinner dishes left in the kitcheno Normally he does the dishes· Asking the older girls for help:o Simple task: wash dishes and load the dishwashero Reaction from the kids felt extreme and resistant· J.R.'s emotional reaction:o Frustrationo Feeling like something has to change3. The Bigger Question: Why No Chores?· Reflection on responsibilities in the household:o Mom does everything: cooking, cleaning, driving, shoppingo Kids are given what they want and taken everywhere· J.R. questions:o Is it unreasonable to expect kids this age to help?o Is this a parenting issue, a generational issue, or both?· Comparison to host's childhood:o Chores were non-negotiableo If someone cooked, someone else cleanedo Responsibility was just part of life4. Shared Experiences & Self-Reflection· Launa shares:o Their own kids don't do chores eithero Admits it's partly the parents' fault· Reasons chores don't happen:o Busy schedules (sports, homework, showers)o Parents wanting things done quickly and correctlyo Perfectionism and lack of trust in kids doing it “right”· Acknowledgment:o Teaching and training takes timeo Avoidance creates long-term problems5. The Core Parenting Dilemma· Kids enjoy all the benefits of the household without contributing· J.R. asks the audience:o How do you actually get kids to help?o What works beyond “just tell them to do it”?· Discussion of discipline:o Taking away iPadso Why traditional punishments don't feel as effective today· Question of consistency and follow-through6. Listener Call-In AdviceCaller 1: Allowance & Consequences· Chores tied to allowance· Miss a chore → lose money· Lesson: responsibility equals reward· Counterpoint:o Kids don't need money if parents buy everythingCaller 2: Chore Charts & Electronics· Whiteboard chore system· Clear expectations· Rewards for completion, electronics taken away if not doneCaller 3: Teaching Life Skills Early· Kids need to learn how to function in life· Chores taught early and consistently· Emphasis on follow-through:o Empty threats don't worko Parents must stand firm7. Key Takeaways & Reflections· Chores are about:o Responsibilityo Life skillso Respect for the household· Common themes from callers:o Allowances worko Consequences must be realo Parents must be consistent· Acknowledgment that blended families add complexitySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello my beautiful friends, Today we are going to be pondering the question: “when I am making decisions that lead to relief, how do I know they are coming from intuition/alignment vs. when they are coming from my nervous system retreating back to what feels familiar? If you desire deeper support on these topics, please email me and I will get back to you within 2 business days. You can find my email below in the show notes

Send us a textWe see it constantly: salon owners saying they're overwhelmed, stressed, exhausted, and unsure what to work on next. They're putting in the effort, working long hours, and still feeling behind, and it doesn't have to be that way.In this episode, we break down why overwhelm shows up so often for salon owners and why it's usually not a time or effort problem. We talk about bad advice, vague soundbites, echo chambers, and the pressure to do everything at once, and how all of that creates mental fatigue instead of progress.We also share practical ways to reduce overwhelm immediately: narrowing priorities, identifying what season your business is in, eliminating services and tasks that don't serve you, focusing on one problem at a time, and replacing multitasking with focused work that actually moves your business forward.Your business should serve you, so that you can serve others.If you're feeling overwhelmed, this episode will help you slow the noise, regain clarity, and take back control — one decision at a time.Key TakeawaysOverwhelm is usually a priority problem, not a workload problem.Vague advice and soundbites create confusion, not clarity.Multitasking increases stress and reduces meaningful progress.Focused work outperforms scattered effort.Small wins build momentum; something is always better than nothing.Simplifying services and tasks reduces mental load.Every business moves through seasons; you can't work on all of them at once.Money, people, demand, and systems are the most common constraints.Systems reduce chaos and decision fatigue over time.Overwhelm fades when clarity, focus, and ownership increase.Time Stamps00:00 — Why salon owners feel overwhelmed 01:00 — Jen's opening take: saying no, staying in your lane 04:00 — Todd's opening takes: technician vs owner + complacency 06:00 — Bad advice, soundbites, and industry echo chambers 09:00 — Why vague guidance creates paralysis 11:00 — Multitasking, task-switching, and mental fatigue 13:00 — Focused work blocks and the “accomplished list” 15:00 — Small wins > doing nothing 16:00 — Confirmation bias and online noise 18:00 — Eliminating services, simplifying menus, reducing friction 20:00 — Business seasons: growth, repair, stabilization, preparation 22:00 — Stop trying to do every season at once 23:00 — Common constraints: money, people, demand, systems 25:00 — Systems reduce chaos and decision fatigue 27:00 — Avoidance, uncomfortable tasks, and leadership growth 29:00 — Final thoughts: focus, clarity, one step forwardLinks and Stuff:Our Newsletter Mentoring InquiriesFind more of our things:InstagramHello Hair Pro Website

In this episode, I talk about the difference between the approach mindset and the avoidance mindset.

This episode is especially helpful if you're searching for:How to prepare for divorce without filingEmotional separation before divorceHow to survive the holidays before divorceWhat is a silent divorce?How to tell your spouse you want a divorce (but not yet)Divorce timing strategyHow to protect kids during separationIf you're quietly planning your next chapter, this one is for you.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport dive deep into the concept of the silent divorce: the unofficial, emotional separation that happens when one or both partners know the marriage is ending, but they're not ready to officially file yet.If you're feeling emotionally checked out, unsure of timing, scared of disrupting the holidays, or stuck in a “limbo marriage,” this episode helps you understand what a silent divorce is, the signs you're in one, and most importantly : what to DO about it.Andrea and Morgan break down two scenarios:1️⃣ When both spouses know divorce is coming but are waiting.2️⃣ When only one spouse knows, and the other has no idea.You'll hear practical guidance, emotional support, and legal strategy to help you prepare without panicking, protect your kids, and avoid major divorce mistakes.Plus, you'll hear hysterical QuickBooks chaos, psychic readings on Oak Street, and a glamorous side quest to the Waldorf Astoria. Classic HNTSAD energy.What You'll Learn in This Episode:✔ What a “silent divorce” actually isHow emotional withdrawal and parallel living become the early stage of divorce long before filing papers.✔ Signs you're in a silent divorce– Minimal communication– Loss of intimacy– Roommate vibes– Emotional loneliness– Avoidance of conflict– No partnership energy✔ If both partners know divorce is comingDo this:Keep things predictableSet temporary boundaries (separate bedrooms, shared spaces, routines)Treat this time as preparation, not limbo✔ If only you know divorce is comingDo this:Understand your secrecy is not deceit — it's strategyConfide in only ONE trusted personStart preparing emotionally, financially, and legally✔ Why timing matters (especially during the holidays)Morgan explains why the holiday season is almost never the right moment for a divorce announcement — legally, strategically, and emotionally.Andrea shares how to survive the “holiday performance pressure” without pretending everything is perfect.✔ How to handle parenting when you're silently divorcingSimple scripts, routines, and communication tips to help keep kids grounded and minimize emotional fallout.✔ The #1 thing that reduces divorce fear: preparationFear = confusionConfidence = clarityThis episode shows you how to take the first steps safely, smartly, and privately.“A silent divorce is not a selfish move — it is a strategic move.”“You don't have to file today to...

We've built entire industries around physical pain — gyms, trainers, Crossfit boxes, protocols, recovery routines. We understand the formula: rip → repair → strengthen. But emotional pain? We panic. We avoid. We rescue. We numb. We silence the truth to “protect” people from discomfort… …while pretending that's kindness. In this episode, Leah dismantles the biggest emotional lie we've been taught: that feelings are fragile and must be avoided. You'll learn: • why emotional pain is the REAL gym • the difference between kindness and comfort-seeking • why avoiding discomfort is actually selfish • how emotional resilience is built (and how it's destroyed) • the parent trap of protecting kids from necessary adversity • why teams need honest emotional reps • and how taking responsibility for your thoughts changes everything If you want to grow, lead, parent, love, and live with more honesty, strength, and confidence— this episode will give you the blueprint.

As the year ends, old patterns tend to resurface.Avoidance. Overthinking. Scrolling. Overworking. Self-judgment.This does not mean you are regressing. It means your body remembers the season.In this episode, we explore:• Why old patterns intensify in December• The science of micro-resets (22 to 90 seconds)• Three resets you can use to re-center in real time• How to stabilize your energy before the new year• How to stop carrying old loops into 2026If you want support breaking old cycles and creating clarity for your next chapter, start the 22-Day Reset.

Croissants as a starter? No issue whatsoever.  Jordan Stephens is a musician, actor, presenter, podcaster and writer, who arrives at Dish off the back of an incredible year, full of achievements and firsts. He chats to Angela and Nick about the paperback release of his thought-provoking memoir, Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak and Dogs, a personal story of self-acceptance. Alongside events and talks to promote the book, Jordan has had a busy 12 months, making his theatre debut in Entertaining Mr Sloane, joining the hit podcast Miss Me? as its new host and presenting his first documentary for Channel 4.  He also returned to where it all started with Rizzle Kicks, who released their first album in 12 years alongside a UK tour and a performance at Glastonbury.  Angela serves up a warming dish of saffron & cardamom chicken with cranberry salsa, paired with a glass of Domaine Du Vieux Vauvert Vouvray. That's preceded by a cup of Earl Grey tea and a croissant, which immediately showcases Jordan's passion for food and ranking systems. Jordan's girlfriend is friend-of-the-show Jade Thirlwall, so we get an even deeper understanding of her love of roasts and their plans for Christmas. We also hear how food brought Jordan one-step closer to his dream of making music, and there's a return to our discussion on pet names. Please let us know if your dog is called Susan.   You can watch full episodes of Dish on YouTube and, new for this season, on Spotify.  All recipes from this podcast can be found at waitrose.com/dishrecipes The recipe for saffron & cardamom chicken with cranberry salsa was created for Waitrose by Noor Murad. A transcript for this episode can be found at waitrose.com/dish If you want to get in touch with us about anything at all, contact dish@waitrose.co.uk  Dish from Waitrose is made by Cold Glass Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage. Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you. The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness. Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath all of it is fear. Fear of conflict, fear of being misunderstood, fear of what honesty might change. I walk you through simple, doable ways to re-engage: choose calmer moments, speak from your own experience, lead with empathy, take one issue at a time. I share scripts like “I miss us” and “Are you open to talking about this?” so you know exactly how to begin. Because you can't heal what you won't face. Reflection: What's one truth you've been avoiding—and what might open up if you spoke it? If you're serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward. Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We'll talk about what's happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.  Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you struggle to get things done, chances are you're working hard to avoid one of 3 primary business fears. Understanding these fears is key to becoming more productive and reducing your ‘time muddiness'. And, good news, Laksmi, Durga and Saraswati have powerful stories to help you do exactly that!If you value this show, please do consider supporting my work on Patreon. It's just $5 AUD a month and it makes a big difference to me. Here is the link: https://www.patreon.com/AmyMcDonaldREFERENCES:Pattanaik, Devdutt (2025) Escaping the Bakasura Trap: Let. Contentment Fuel YourGrowth, Juggernaut, New Delhi

This podcast shows you how to fully recover from OCD.Each episode breaks down the exact techniques and nuances that stop rumination, reduce compulsions, and help you retrain your brain out of the OCD cycle. We cover every major OCD theme, including:Pure-O OCDRelationship OCDHarm OCDReal Event OCDSO-OCD / Sexuality OCDReligious / Scrupulosity OCDCleaning & Contamination OCDPhysical CompulsionsAll other OCD subtypesMy goal is simple: clear guidance that actually works, explained in a way that is calm, direct, and easy to apply immediately.You can fully recover from OCD. Don't give up — you're not stuck, and your brain can change.

Orthodontists pour millions into technology, systems, and clinical training. Those investments matter. But zoom out and look at which practices actually grow year over year. The differentiator is not the scanner, the wire sequence, or the aligner system. The practices that grow treat patients like people, not procedures. In a world full of convenience, automation, and self-checkout everything, genuine human experience has become the rarest competitive advantage in orthodontics. At HIP, we have seen it across hundreds of practices: when your team becomes truly patient centric, your results follow. This is not a nice-to-have. It is the engine behind case acceptance, referrals, and retention. Here is what that actually means and how you build it. The Emotional Side of Orthodontics Orthodontic treatment is not just a mechanical process. Patients carry their smile into every room they walk into for the rest of their lives. Confidence. Insecurity. Pride. Avoidance. Whether someone feels free or guarded, their orthodontic journey shapes all of that. Forget the emotional stakes and you lose the patient. Every interaction with your practice either reinforces their confidence or feeds their fear. In today’s world, where everything is automated and transactional, that emotional experience matters more than ever. Patients expect clinical excellence. They remember how your team made them feel. That feeling brings them back and keeps them talking about you. Technology Does Not Differentiate You. Experience Does. A lot of practices believe their growth will come from their scanner, their bracket system, their aligner protocols, their dashboard, their workflow. Technology matters. It supports efficiency. It shortens treatment times. It allows for predictable outcomes. But patients cannot tell you the difference between wire systems. They have no idea what your software does. They can tell you if your front desk greeted them warmly. They can tell you if your space felt clean and inviting. They can tell you if they felt remembered or forgotten. The truth is simple: technology creates capability, patient experience creates loyalty. Free Growth Session First Impressions — The Moment That Sets the Tone For Everything Before a patient ever sees a TC, an assistant, or the doctor, they are already forming their opinion. They are evaluating whether they feel safe. They are reading whether your team is present or overwhelmed. They are noticing whether they are interrupting you or welcomed. A great first impression includes clear signage and easy navigation so patients know where to go, a clean and bright environment that signals professionalism without feeling sterile, a genuine greeting that acknowledges them immediately, and eye contact plus warmth so they feel seen instead of processed. If this first moment goes sideways, you have already lost ground. If it goes well, everything else becomes easier. The TC Room — Where Trust Is Formed Or Lost The treatment coordinator room is the most pivotal space in the practice. It is where excitement becomes commitment or where uncertainty grows into hesitation. Practices that win in this room keep the handoff tight, smooth, and confident. They remove the left-alone-in-silence moments that create anxiety. They treat the patient as the hero of the story, not the object of a procedure. They engage on a human level before diving into clinical detail. When patients feel known instead of managed, they say yes more often and they stay excited throughout treatment. Free Growth Session Mid-Treatment Visits — The Overlooked Opportunity This is where many practices unintentionally lose the patient experience altogether. Routine appointments easily slide into autopilot. The assistant has done this exact wire change ten times today. The patient knows the drill. Everyone falls into the rhythm. That is the danger. A patient who feels invisible mid-treatment becomes disengaged. They stop wearing rubber bands. They lose excitement. They feel like a number. The practices that maintain loyalty during routine visits do one thing consistently: they never stop seeing the patient. That means personalized notes that allow any assistant to pick up the conversation, asking about the football game or the prom or the test or the birthday or the struggle, staying energetic even in routine appointments, and celebrating small steps toward the end result. Efficiency does not cost empathy. Efficiency creates space for empathy. Retention — The Most Undervalued Stage Of The Entire Journey Many offices treat retention like the checkout lane. Here are your retainers, congrats, call us if something breaks. Retention is where practices lose referrals and where they could be gaining them. Retention works best when the team celebrates the finish line with real enthusiasm, when debond day is treated like a milestone worth cheering for, when the patient leaves feeling proud of what they accomplished, when the team makes the experience fun and memorable and personal, and when you reinforce why wearing retainers matters without guilt or shame. When the final memory is a great one, patients become raving fans. And when they inevitably need retreatment years down the road, they come back to the place that made them feel cared for, not the cheapest or closest option. Free Growth Session Why This Matters — The Human Challenge Your team is human. They get tired. They get overwhelmed. They deal with difficult patients. They have personal stress. When they are stretched thin, the first thing to disappear is the patient experience. That is why the culture has to carry the weight, not individual moods. A consistent patient experience comes from clear standards, strong systems, personal accountability, team cohesion, morning huddles that reinforce connection, and leadership that models presence and empathy. This is not about perfection. It is about direction. A one percent improvement every day builds a culture that becomes unstoppable. The Practices That Win Care The Most At HIP, we say it often: you do not build a great practice by focusing on teeth. You build it by focusing on people. Clinically excellent orthodontists are everywhere. Patient-centric teams are rare. The practices that become market leaders are not the ones with the newest tech or the flashiest marketing. They are the ones patients talk about long after the appointment is over because the experience made them feel something real. If you want to grow, improve your systems, and elevate your team, start with the one thing your competitors cannot copy: the way you make people feel when they walk through your door. Do that consistently and your practice becomes unforgettable. Free Growth Session The post Why Patient Experience TRUMPS Technology in Orthodontics appeared first on HIP Creative.

In this episode of Specifically for Seniors, Dr. Larry Barsh welcomes David Cravit and Larry Wolf, co-authors of Super Aging: Getting Older without Getting Old and the Super Aging Workbook. Together they explore how aging can be reframed as a stage of opportunity rather than decline. Drawing on decades of experience in advertising, branding, and consumer trends, they describe how the concept of “super aging” challenges stereotypes and offers a positive, purposeful approach to later life. Cravit explains that his earlier work focused on how baby boomers resisted aging the way their parents did, while Wolf emphasizes the importance of branding aging as something vibrant and fulfilling. They contrast “default aging,” which assumes passivity and decline, with “super aging,” which embraces growth, activity, and accomplishment well into one's eighties, nineties, and beyond.Central to their philosophy are the Seven A's of Super Aging: attitude, awareness, activity, accomplishment, attachment, autonomy, and avoidance. Attitude is the foundation, since optimism and resilience have been shown to reduce stress and inflammation, leading to longer, healthier lives. Awareness means staying informed about new developments in health, longevity, and technology. Activity involves both physical and mental exercise, from simple daily movement to challenging the brain with new skills. Accomplishment stresses the importance of purpose and “unretirement,” encouraging older adults to pursue new careers, volunteer work, or creative projects. Attachment highlights the value of relationships and community, while autonomy focuses on maintaining independence through health, technology, and financial planning. Avoidance reminds seniors to guard against scams and resist ageism, which remains pervasive in healthcare, consumer culture, and everyday interactions.Throughout the conversation, Cravit and Wolf illustrate how small lifestyle changes, such as “exercise snacks” or food swaps, can make a big difference. They share stories of individuals who set long-term goals well into their later years, including a woman who enrolled in college at ninety-seven and graduated at one hundred and one. They emphasize that super aging is not about denying the realities of health challenges, but about actively managing wellness, protecting brain health, and continuing to engage with life. The workbook they created provides quizzes, checklists, and exercises that help readers define goals, assess attitudes, and put these ideas into practice.The episode also addresses ageism in subtle forms, such as patronizing language or stereotypical holiday gift lists, and calls for seniors to claim dignity and individuality rather than being treated as passive or helpless. Technology is discussed as both a challenge and an opportunity, with podcasts, YouTube, and digital platforms offering new ways for older adults to connect and learn. Ultimately, Cravit and Wolf argue that aging should be branded not as decline but as super living, a time to thrive, grow, and contribute. Their message is clear: with the right attitude and awareness, seniors can embrace autonomy, purpose, and joy, proving that getting older does not mean getting old.ResourcesSuper Aging: Getting Older without Getting Old (https://www.amazon.com/SuperAging-Workbook-David-Cravit/dp/1964721210/)Super Aging Workbook (interactive guide with quizzes and exercises)SuperAgingNews.com – curated articles on longevity, health, and aging trends (https://www.superagingnews.com)

Daily Shift is a new 2-5  minute segment created to help you build a healthier, more intentional relationship with your thoughts. This series aligns with my larger mission and brand, Shifting the Way You Think, which is focused on helping people get unstuck through awareness, mindset work, and emotional wellness. Each day, you'll receive one simple message—one shift—to bring into your life. Episode Summary: In today's Daily Shift, we explore one of the most important truths in personal growth and emotional wellness: you can't heal what you won't acknowledge. Avoidance may feel safe in the moment, but it keeps us stuck in the same patterns, the same pain, and the same emotional cycles. Healing begins with honesty—honesty about what hurts, what's not working, and what needs to change. This short episode will help you pause, check in with yourself, and consider the places where avoidance might be holding you back. Connect with Celeste • Wellness resources + programs: Shifting the Way You Think • Instagram Podcast : @celestethetherapist • Instagram: Welleness Center Personal instagram  Website: celestethetherapist.com • Visit the Shifting the Way You Think Wellness Center (Stoughton)  If This Series Helps You… Share it with someone who may need a mental shift today, and leave a review to help more people find the show.

Is your inner voice warning you or are you just avoiding discomfort? In this episode, we talk about the difference between intuition and emotional avoidance so you can make aligned choices with confidence and clarity.

"Most of the problems in life are because of one two reasons - we act without thinking, or we just think (and think) without acting." ~ Unknown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

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Have you ever noticed how one small slip, one mistake, or even one word can send you spiralling into old patterns? In episode 229 of The Alcohol ReThink Podcast, Patrick talks about why so many men feel huge resistance around the idea of failing, and how that resistance then shapes and influences their attempts to rethink alcohol. Patrick shares how school, parenting and early experiences teach us that getting things 'wrong' is something to avoid. He also shares a personal moment from home where an innocent word triggered an old emotional reaction, and how that experience opened up a deeper conversation about identity, childhood wounds and the meaning we attach to failure. You'll hear insights from Gabor Maté and Amy Edmondson to show why our brains react the way they do, why avoidance can feel safer than trying, and why men often lean on willpower when what they really need is curiosity and compassion. Patrick explains how shifting the energy you bring to rethinking alcohol, from pressure to permission, completely changes your experience results. Get ready for a powerful question at the end of the show that will help you see what you're truly proving to yourself every time you try to change your drinking.Awesome topics you'll hear in this epsiode: Old experiences shape how you react to mistakes today.Avoidance isn't laziness, it's emotional protection.Willpower burns out quickly, curiosity keeps you moving.Feeling safe to get things wrong is essential for growth.Failure is feedback, not identity.Sobriety works best when treated as a skill you develop.Resisting failure keeps you stuck in the same loop.The win isn't avoiding the fall, it's getting better at getting up.Disrupt Your Life Register Interest here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patrickjfox.com/disrupt-your-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Patrick:Discover how coaching can support your goals in rethinking alcohol.

Avoidance is one of the most common reactions to emotional pain. It shows up as silence, staying busy, withdrawing, shutting down, or convincing yourself that “things will sort themselves out.” At first it feels protective. Over time, it becomes its own form of suffering and keeps couples stuck in the very patterns they're trying to escape.In this episode, Geoff and Jody explore how avoidance operates in both partners after betrayal and how safely facing difficult truths creates genuine movement in the relationship.What We Cover:For the Betrayed PartnerWhy avoidance often becomes a survival responseHow overwhelm, exhaustion, and cultural pressure to “keep the peace” silence your real needsThe difference between consciously pausing and unconsciously shutting downFor the Recovering PartnerHow shame and fear fuel hiding, minimizing, and delaying accountabilityWhy avoidance blocks repair and prolongs fearThe honest question every recovering partner must answerFor the CoupleHow both partners can slip into a shared pattern of avoidanceWhy comfort, silence, and homeostasis can feel safer than truthHow one partner naming avoidance begins to shift the entire dynamicRemember...avoidance feels safe in the moment, but it interrupts healing.______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn't just another course, it's a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you've ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner's need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.You'll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebook______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I've been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.

LOOK OUT! It's only Films To Be Buried With! A REWIND CLASSIC! Join your host Brett Goldstein as he talks life, death, love and the universe with the fabulous comic, actor and podcaster JESSICA KNAPPETT! Just a brief Rewind diversion while schedules align but rest assured, any and all Rewinds are certified gold so you will not be disappointed. Thank you folks - original writeup below (and bear in mind this in the tremors of the pandemic just after things were slowly opening up again: ––––––––––––––––––––––––– ...This is a live episode so you can expect all the real life atmosphere of people interacting and being next to each other in the same place, which is a lovely novelty for sure. A fantastic one though, with a really nice vibe throughout and all sorts of fun and games to be had including being pregnant, living in LA, signs of the end as hipsters start arming up, making and working on Drifters, the soon-to-be hit game 'I Don't Spy', human kindness and the worst week of cinema going ever. Lovely stuff! Enjoy - you shall! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Video and extra audio available on Brett's Patreon! IMDB INSTAGRAM ONLINE AVOIDANCE DRIFTERS PERFECT DAY podcast –––––––––– ⁠⁠BRETT • X⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BRETT • INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠THE SECOND BEST NIGHT OF YOUR LIFE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TED LASSO⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SHRINKING⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ALL OF YOU⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SOULMATES⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SUPERBOB (Brett's 2015 feature film) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You ever watch a couple and feel your gut whisper, “Something's not right here”… but you can't quite explain why? Homie, THIS is the episode that finally gives language to what your intuition already knows. Former CIA spy Andrew Bustamante is back, and together we break down the viral Lily Allen & David Harbour house-tour video — frame by frame — to reveal the micro-expressions, distancing behaviors, passive-aggression, and emotional patterns that almost no one catches on the first watch. This isn't gossip. This is about giving YOU the tools to spot manipulation, insecurity, emotional withdrawal, and mismatch long before it ruins your confidence, drains your energy, or makes you dim your damn light. Andrew exposes the real signals of discomfort, resentment, performative affection, sensory-driven conflict, and how small “jokes” can reveal massive cracks in a relationship. We go deep, from abandonment cues, to validation bids, to open-relationship dynamics, to the heartbreaking red carpet moments you absolutely must pay attention to. If you've ever ignored your gut… If you've ever questioned whether you're “overreacting”… If you've ever felt unseen or minimized by a partner… This episode is your permission slip to trust what you see. SHOWNOTES “Everything Looks Fine… But It Isn't” — The First Red Flags in the House Tour  Abandonment Jokes, Closed-Off Posture & the Cracks Beneath the Performance  Patterns vs. “It's Just a Joke”: When Behavior Stops Being Cute  No Touch, No Warmth: Andrew's Early Prediction About the Marriage  The “Couple Activities” Comment & the Micro-Expression That Says Everything  The Lyrics Reveal the Truth: Why She Never Wanted the House  The Red-Carpet Moment That Exposed Competition, Not Partnership  How Strong Women Get Broken Down: The Slow Burn of Manipulation Millie Bobby Brown's Interview: Eye Movements, Avoidance & What She Didn't Say Thank you to our sponsors:  Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Discounts at https://trueclassic.com/WOI Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Microperfumes: 60% Off at https://microperfumes.com/woi Follow Andrew Bustamante: Want to learn more from Andrew? Find your Spy Superpower: https://yt.everydayspy.com/4po5Mul  Read Andrew's CIA book ‘Shadow Cell': https://geni.us/ShadowCellBook    Follow Andy on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Andrew-Bustamante  Explore Spy School: https://everydayspy.com/   Support Andy's sponsor Axolt Brain: https://axoltbrain.com/andy  Listen to the podcast: https://youtube.com/@EverydaySpyPodcast  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're making $15–20K and want to scale to a million, this will hit you in the face in the best way. And if you've been blaming mentors for your bank account… buckle up.When you're ready to stop leaking capacity and start building actual income-producing skills... ➡️ https://linktr.ee/caseyshipp_ Support the showHosted by Casey Shipp — 3000+ transformations, Self-Made Millionaire, High Priestess, Writer, Fitness Cover Model, and Founder of the Hotbody App. ✨ Ready to stop spinning your wheels and finally step into the body, energy, and lifestyle you deserve? [CLICK THE LINK HERE]

We all bump into the blurry line between regulating and avoiding. In this episode, Amanda unpacks the difference between soothing your nervous system and emotionally bypassing—using a real client story to show how even “healthy” tools can become numbing when the intention and impact are off. Learn how to choose between regulation and resourcing, and try a simple check-in to turn coping back into connection.In this episode, you'll learn:The clear definitions of regulation (state-shifting) vs avoidance/numbing (state-escaping)Why the same behavior (TV, scrolling, exercise, breathwork) can heal or hide depending on intention & impactThe difference between regulating and resourcing—and when each is appropriateHow “pop healing” can unintentionally promote bypassing (and what to do instead)A quick two-question experiment to notice whether you're shifting away from or expanding capacity for what you feel3 Takeaways:The same behavior can heal or hide, intention & impact are the tells. Regulation restores presence and energy; avoidance suppresses and disconnects. Ask: Does this make me more present or less present?We need both regulating and resourcing tools. Use regulation when a state feels too big or inaccurate to the moment; use resourcing to expand your ability to be with what's here safely.Awareness is the work. Before you reach for a tool, pause: What am I feeling? What's my intention? That tiny check-in turns numbing into nourishment and coping into true regulation.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: amanda@regulatedliving.comInstagram: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, I'm diving into something every leader experiences at some point: avoidance. Specifically, the hidden cost of avoiding the conversations you know you need to have. As we head into performance and review season, clarity, transparency, and alignment matter more than ever—and yet this is also the time when avoiding tough conversations sneaks in the most. Avoidance is human. But as leaders, we're called to step toward the conversations our instincts want to step away from. I share why avoidance makes things worse, the impact it has on trust, performance, and team culture, and how you can approach these conversations with grounded clarity and confidence. This is leadership magic at work—human, honest, and deeply connected. Enjoy! Angie Robinson Links + Ways to Connect: Show Notes: Episode 203 Show Notes Learn about ELEVATE: Leadership Growth Experience [group coaching] Subscribe to my newsletter! Angie Robinson Coaching Website Schedule a free Discovery Call   Angie Robinson LinkedIn Angie Robinson Coaching Instagram Angie Robinson Coaching Facebook 

"Creating safe spaces for people to talk about money is one of the most powerful things we can do right now to make the world better for change." -Meg Wheeler Our hosts Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines sit down with Meg Wheeler, CPA and founder of the Equitable Money Project, who's on a mission to demolish the shame surrounding money conversations through accessible financial education. Her approach shows us that the path to financial confidence isn't about becoming an expert. It's about learning to simply talk about money without judgment. "Why should we know this when we've never been taught it in school?" Meg challenges the pervasive shame many people feel about their financial knowledge gaps. After all, we don't feel ashamed about not knowing brain surgery or environmental science because we were never taught those subjects either! The real problem isn't lack of knowledge, but the absence of safe spaces to discuss money openly. Meg's work centers on creating a community where people can share their financial stories without fear. She emphasizes that most people's situations aren't unique. Whether it's medical debt from our broken healthcare system or struggling with inconsistent business income, the factors contributing to financial challenges are systemic rather than personal failures. She suggests going for incremental progress rather than perfection. "Every quarter we want you to pick just one thing within one of those buckets to focus on," she explains, referring to her three-pillar framework: set up foundations, stabilize, and grow. This approach makes wealth-building feel achievable rather than overwhelming. Perhaps most powerfully, Meg advocates for teaching children about money early. Her eight-year-old has a debit card and checks his bank balance before purchases. Not because he's learning to become a financial professional, but because money should not be feared but normalized. Financial empowerment begins not with expertise, but with conversation, community, and compassion toward ourselves and others navigating the same challenges.   Key Topics ●      Meg's Path to Financial Education (02:26) ●      The Problem with "Financial Literacy" (04:28) ●      Why We Feel Shame About Money (05:21) ●      Information vs. Quality Education (05:56) ●      Creating Safe Spaces for Money Talk (14:07) ●      Teaching Kids About Money (16:13) ●      Learning the Language of Money (17:43) ●      The Three Pillars of Wealth Building (25:51) ●      Overcoming Emergency Fund Shame (26:54) ●      Business Owner Tips and Avoidance (33:00)   Resources: Equitable Money Project website   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

If you've ever signed up for a huge race, joined a new mastermind, or taken on a massive work project right when you said you were finally going all-in on your golf game or business… this episode is going to sting a little—in the best way. In this solo conversation, I pull back the curtain on how I caught myself red-handed sabotaging my own journey to scratch by committing to a 75-mile race. On the surface, it looked disciplined, inspiring, and productive. Underneath, it was something else entirely: a socially acceptable way to avoid the emotional discomfort of fully committing to the goal that matters most to me. I call this pattern noble avoidance—and if you're a high-achieving golfer or entrepreneur, there's a very good chance it's running the show in your life too. In this episode, you'll learn: What "noble avoidance" is and how it quietly sabotages your biggest goals Why hard, impressive challenges can actually feel safer than your true dream How fear of failure, fear of success, and fear of being seen trying feed noble avoidance The subtle ways noble avoidance shows up in golf, business, fitness, and relationships 10 real-world examples so you can spot it in your own calendar and commitments Five candid reflection questions to expose where you're hiding behind "good" excuses Why "less is more" and "be boring" are the real superpowers behind scratch-level success Get your pencils ready and start listening.  P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.  Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist  Key Takeaways: Noble avoidance is choosing a worthy, productive, or impressive pursuit to avoid the deeper emotional work required for the goal you truly want. A goal like running 75 miles is brutally hard physically, but it can be emotionally safer than going all-in on becoming a scratch golfer. Fear of failure, fear of success, and fear of being seen truly trying are core drivers behind noble avoidance. Your subconscious is addicted to safety, familiarity, and predictability—and will recreate old patterns, even painful ones, to stay "safe." Noble avoidance often looks like rebranding, building systems, learning more, or "helping everyone else" instead of doing the uncomfortable, needle-moving work. Looking at your calendar is one of the most honest ways to see what you're truly committed to versus what you just claim to care about. Long-term success comes from doing fewer things, better—embracing boring, consistent reps instead of chasing exciting side quests. Key Quotes: "Noble avoidance is the subconscious strategy of choosing a worthy pursuit to avoid the deeper emotional discomfort of your true goal." "Underneath noble avoidance is self-protection disguised as self-improvement." "It's ambition used as armor and momentum pointed in the wrong direction." "Running 75 miles isn't easier physically—it's easier emotionally." "If I give everything and still fall short, I'm out of excuses—and that's terrifying." "Noble avoidance is still avoidance. Until you name it, you continue to serve it." "Success is built on the same boring principles executed relentlessly over and over and over." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Journey to Scratch Golf 05:43: The Commitment Dilemma 11:15: Understanding Noble Avoidance 16:18: Confronting Fears and Identity 21:37: Taking Action and Moving Forward

In today's episode, Warren Ingram and Pieter de Villiers, discuss the complexities of estate duty and the financial strategies individuals can adopt to manage their wealth effectively. They speak to the importance of making informed financial decisions rather than resorting to costly products that may limit growth. The discussion highlights the value of investing wisely to ensure a prosperous retirement and the implications of estate duty on one's financial legacy.TakeawaysDon't do dumb things to avoid a state duty.Avoid expensive insurance products that limit growth.Investing wisely is better than avoiding estate duty.A prosperous retirement is more valuable than minimizing taxes.Estate duty should not dictate financial decisions.Focus on long-term investment growth.Wealth management is about making informed choices.Life quality matters more than tax savings.Consider the total value of assets at death.Financial freedom comes from smart investments.Learn more about Prescient Investment Management here.Send us a textHave a question for Warren? Don't forget to voice note your questions through our WhatsApp chat on (+27)79 807 8162 and you could be featured in one of our episodes. Follow us on Twitter, LinkedIn and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more Financial Freedom content: @HonestMoneyPod

The death of 18-year-old Anna Kepner is not just another tragic case — it's a collision of panic, secrecy, and a blended family imploding in real time. Found hidden under a bed on a cruise ship, wrapped and concealed, Anna's final moments are surrounded by unanswered questions and emotionally charged reactions from nearly every member of her family. Tonight on Hidden Killers, I sit down with retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke to cut through the noise and focus on the behavioral reality inside that small cabin. Because cases like this aren't just about evidence — they're about human choices under pressure. We look at the concealment: Why was Anna hidden? What does that typically signal in juvenile behavior? Where is the line between immaturity-driven panic and intentional wrongdoing? We examine the claim from the grandmother that the 16-year-old “doesn't remember what happened.” Is that trauma? Dissociation? Avoidance? Or something investigators hear when the truth is too overwhelming to say out loud? We explore what happens when adults make catastrophic decisions — like placing teenagers with known tension in the same sleeping quarters — and how that shapes what happens next. And then there's the public chaos: the stepmother pleading the Fifth, the biological mother spiraling on social media, relatives accusing each other, all while a teen girl is gone. Robin breaks down how investigators filter useful behavior from emotional theater and why public performance can sometimes be a clue in itself. This is the interview that strips away the speculation and digs into the actual human behavior behind the headlines. If you want clarity instead of noise, depth instead of rumor — you're in the right place. #HiddenKillers #AnnaKepnerCase #CruiseShipInvestigation #RobinDreeke #BehaviorAnalysis #TrueCrimeBreakdown #CrimePsychology #FBIExpert #JuvenileInvestigation #FamilyChaos Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

The death of 18-year-old Anna Kepner is not just another tragic case — it's a collision of panic, secrecy, and a blended family imploding in real time. Found hidden under a bed on a cruise ship, wrapped and concealed, Anna's final moments are surrounded by unanswered questions and emotionally charged reactions from nearly every member of her family. Tonight on Hidden Killers, I sit down with retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke to cut through the noise and focus on the behavioral reality inside that small cabin. Because cases like this aren't just about evidence — they're about human choices under pressure. We look at the concealment: Why was Anna hidden? What does that typically signal in juvenile behavior? Where is the line between immaturity-driven panic and intentional wrongdoing? We examine the claim from the grandmother that the 16-year-old “doesn't remember what happened.” Is that trauma? Dissociation? Avoidance? Or something investigators hear when the truth is too overwhelming to say out loud? We explore what happens when adults make catastrophic decisions — like placing teenagers with known tension in the same sleeping quarters — and how that shapes what happens next. And then there's the public chaos: the stepmother pleading the Fifth, the biological mother spiraling on social media, relatives accusing each other, all while a teen girl is gone. Robin breaks down how investigators filter useful behavior from emotional theater and why public performance can sometimes be a clue in itself. This is the interview that strips away the speculation and digs into the actual human behavior behind the headlines. If you want clarity instead of noise, depth instead of rumor — you're in the right place. #HiddenKillers #AnnaKepnerCase #CruiseShipInvestigation #RobinDreeke #BehaviorAnalysis #TrueCrimeBreakdown #CrimePsychology #FBIExpert #JuvenileInvestigation #FamilyChaos Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

In this Thanksgiving episode, we're settling in together—just like we would the night before a big holiday—to talk about the messy, heartfelt, complicated world of family dynamics. Even though both of us are having quieter Thanksgivings this year, we're deep in our own real-life family seasons, and this conversation comes straight from the thick of it. We explore why the holidays stir up so much, why cut-offs have become so common, and how we can show up for ourselves without losing connection to the people we care about.We also dive into emotional tolerance, boundaries that actually work in real life, and the surprising ways expectations shape our holiday experience. If you've ever found yourself caretaking, peace-keeping, bracing for a “difficult someone,” or wondering how to handle the big personalities at the table—this episode will meet you right where you are. Episode Highlights: [0:03] – Opening the Thanksgiving conversation and why this episode feels especially timely [1:16] – How our own holiday plans are shaping the way we're thinking about family this year [2:49] – The pressure to perform during the holidays and why “doing less” may feel better [3:31] – Colette's recent family gatherings and the emotional residue they stirred up [4:17] – Real stories from reunions and why so many adults are dealing with family cut-offs [5:34] – How cut-offs impact entire family systems and why they rarely bring relief [7:21] – Understanding emotional bandwidth and the “dial” approach to relationships [9:46] – Avoidance, repair, and why making the first move feels so vulnerable [11:46] – When someone can't meet you emotionally—and how to interpret that [14:51] – The painful power dynamics created by the least emotionally developed family member [16:29] – Caring for everyone but yourself: preparing meals, hosting, and old relational wounds [17:22] – The essential role of expectations and how they can make or break a holiday [18:46] – Triangulation, family cliques, and protecting your emotional space [20:00] – Setting boundaries without being pulled into old patterns [21:58] – Self-care strategies when staying with—or hosting—challenging family members [23:20] – The nuance of “don't abandon yourself” and holding two truths at once [25:56] – Choosing what's worth addressing—and what you can let go for your own peace [28:09] – Why cut-offs are increasing and the need for a deeper cultural conversation [29:45] – Setting limits, protecting yourself, and managing difficult personalities [30:55] – Releasing holiday perfectionism and letting the day be what it is [33:14] – The power of intention-setting and micro-gratitudes to shape your mindset [34:23] – How to sooPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, Cat shares the distinction between productive business actions and avoidance tactics -- when you are doing work to avoid the work needed to grow your business. We talk through how to know what to work on in your business and what not to work on.  Register to Middle Finger Marketing: Build an Unapologetic Personal Brand that actually Sells: https://catdelcarmen.com/middle-finger-marketing  

You're not avoiding the scale. You're not avoiding the bank statement. You're not avoiding the hard conversation or the overflowing inbox. You're avoiding how you think you'll feel when you see it. But here's the truth: You already feel that way. You already feel heavy. You already feel ashamed. You already feel anxious and behind and overwhelmed. Avoidance doesn't protect you — it prolongs your suffering. It doesn't delay the pain — it drains you slowly while convincing you that you're safe. In this episode, we're unpacking: Why avoidance feels like safety but functions like a trap What you're really running from (hint: it's not the number) Why facing it now is easier than carrying it another day And how to start moving forward — even if you're scared This is the wake-up call for anyone avoiding the thing they know they need to face. The number. The truth. The next step. If you're ready to stop circling the truth and start standing in it — this one's for you.

Sometimes “extending grace” may mean you're about to get into conflict with someone. Though you should never look for a fight, you should also not be looking for ways to avoid redemptive moments when it is within your competency and context to help someone who is struggling. Avoidance, masked as peacekeeping, is not peacemaking. Love speaks the truth—graciously, patiently, redemptively—but it speaks (Ephesians 4:15). Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/hiding-behind-grace-to-avoid-the-hard-things/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

What if your sugar cravings, need to clean, urge to call a friend, or desire to put on a movie while working aren't just procrastination—but your nervous system desperately trying to help you avoid drowning in emotions that feel too intense to face? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie gets vulnerable about discovering a new level of chronic functional freeze in herself—sharing the exact moment she found herself staring at chocolate muffins on a grocery app, salivating, recognizing her body was scrambling to decrease the intensity of overwhelm. This episode reveals something critical about stored trauma: what looks like busyness or distraction is actually your biology's attempt to create distance when stress feels bigger than your capacity. And recognizing these patterns is the first step to having choice instead of falling into them unconsciously. In this episode you'll hear more about: The capacity equation: Why overwhelm and freeze kick in when the stress you're experiencing feels so much bigger than your current capacity—it's not a choice, it's your body going into protection mode to keep you from drowning The chocolate muffin moment: Dr. Aimie's raw account of craving chocolate muffins while on a carnivore diet, recognizing her nervous system was reaching for sugar to numb panic—and the biology of why sugar and gluten bind opiate receptors just like Vicodin to decrease emotional pain The pattern of disconnection: How chronic functional freeze shows up as avoidance of emotions through creating distance—sugar cravings first, then calling friends to focus on them instead of you, then cleaning and organizing anything to avoid sitting still with the stress Why high performers miss their freeze: How being productive and getting stuff done can mask storage trauma in your body—you look fine to everyone else while struggling internally with focus, efficiency, and feeling stuck trying to push through The distraction cascade: What happens when your nervous system can't get the chocolate muffins—it moves through the list: call a friend (focus on their needs), clean something (create busy work), put on a movie (split your attention), go to bed early (escape it all) The biology of avoidance behaviors: Understanding that reaching for distractions isn't weakness or poor discipline—it's your nervous system literally scrambling for anything that will decrease intensity so you don't feel like you're drowning in your inner emotions Why it looks healthy but isn't: How going to bed early, cleaning, and helping friends can appear like self-care and productivity when they're actually signs of freeze response—trying to run away and create distance from what feels too big From no choice to real choice: How recognizing these patterns as messages from your body creates space for different decisions—before awareness, you were falling into chocolate muffins and distractions; after awareness, you can see what your body really needs (to know you're going to be okay) The growth edge opportunity: Why being at your edge in overwhelm isn't doom and gloom—it's actually your opportunity to expand capacity so you can hold more stress without going into freeze, transforming your relationship with the freeze response entirely The patterns of pain and protection: Where to find the full framework in Chapter 9 of The Biology of Trauma, including disconnection, perfectionism, push-through philosophy, chronic fatigue, and autoimmunity as predictable patterns of stored trauma Your busyness isn't always about being busy. Sometimes it's your nervous system trying to save you from drowning. But here's the truth: when you can recognize the chocolate muffin craving, the urge to clean, the need to focus on someone else, or the desire to split your attention with a movie as messages from your body—not failures or weaknesses—you gain choice. You can ask, "What do I really need right now? What is my body trying to tell me?" That recognition is powerful. That's what transforms freeze from something that controls you into something you move through, knowing you'll be okay and that this edge is actually your growth edge.

In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend James “Fish” Gill for a listener Q&A all about conflict, communication, and staying connected through hard moments.We explore some big questions, including:How to release resentment when a conflict is “resolved” but the emotional residue is still sitting in your bodyWhat real repair actually looks like, and why some apologies land while others don'tWhen a relationship swings from explosive conflict to total conflict avoidance — and how to find a healthier middle groundHow to navigate dating when kids are involved, especially when parenting differences trigger deeper fears, jealousy, or old woundsFish and I unpack the relational dynamics underneath these questions and offer compassionate, practical guidance for moving through it with more clarity, honesty, and connection.If you're wanting to deepen your communication, repair more effectively, and understand yourself and your partner in moments of tension, this conversation will be a supportive place to land.