Podcasts about Avoidance

Let's unpack a truth most people don't want to admit: the thing you're avoiding is action. When you leave inaction untouched, it does not sit quietly. It grows. It drains you. And it quietly reshapes your life through mental drag, stress, and procrastination. Unaddressed conversations don't sit still. Ignored decisions don't pause. Delayed action doesn't disappear. It compounds. It leaks energy, creates anxiety, and slowly trains your nervous system to stay stuck. In this episode, Troy introduces the Bison Theory, a counterintuitive truth rooted in real behavior: while most animals run away from storms and stay trapped in them longer, bison run straight into the storm, shortening how long they suffer. This episode isn't about hype or grit for grit's sake. It's about why facing the thing you're avoiding is the fastest path to transformation, and how movement, not certainty, is what breaks the loop. If you've felt the weight of indecision, the drag of unfinished business, or the mental exhaustion of too many open loops, this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar in the best way.This Episode Covers:Why avoidance is active, not neutral, and how it quietly compounds stressHow “direction determines duration” when it comes to pain and changeWhy facing the storm creates momentum even before clarity shows upHow anticipation of pain often hurts longer than the pain itselfThe real reason action restores energy faster than motivation ever willHow to stop negotiating with reality and start reclaiming agencyWhy transformation begins the moment you turn toward what you've been running fromBeyond The Episode Gems:Subscribe To My New Weekly LinkedIn Newsletter: Strategize. Market. Grow.Buy My Book, Strategize Up: The Blueprint To Scale Your Business: StrategizeUpBook.comDiscover All Podcasts On The HubSpot Podcast NetworkGet Free HubSpot Marketing Tools To Help You Grow Your BusinessGrow Your Business Faster Using HubSpot's CRM PlatformSupport The Podcast & Connect With Troy: Rate & Review iDigress: iDigress.fm/ReviewsFollow Troy's Socials @FindTroy: LinkedIn, Instagram, Threads, TikTokSubscribe to Troy's YouTube Channel For Strategy Videos & See Masterclass EpisodesNeed Growth Strategy, A Keynote Speaker, Or Want To Sponsor The Podcast? Go To FindTroy.com

In this episode, Heather explores why you might be hesitating to take action in your business—and it's probably not for the reason you think. Using a real coaching conversation as an example, Heather explains how fear of success, self-trust, and identity often create invisible resistance. If you've been avoiding tasks you know matter, this episode will help you understand what's really going on and how to move forward with clarity and confidence. Key takeaways from this episode: Hesitation is rarely about the task itself. Avoidance often points to fear of what comes after success, not fear of failure. You can't out-strategy your identity. If success doesn't match your current self-concept, your brain will unconsciously resist it. Fear of disappointing others creates self-sabotage. Worrying about delivery, performance, or making mistakes can stop action before it starts. Success intolerance is real—and common. When success feels unsafe to your nervous system, it will steer you back to your comfort zone. The worst-case scenario is usually just a feeling. If you trust yourself to manage embarrassment, disappointment, or discomfort, you unlock action. Self-trust expands capacity. Taking action builds evidence that you can figure things out, which becomes your new identity.  This episode came directly from a one-on-one coaching call with a photographer who had already done the work—her email was written, her list was started—but she couldn't bring herself to hit send. How to Support the Podcast: Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts. Please like, share, and leave a review. If you like the content, please share with your friends by posting on social media so that we can reach and impact more people. Join our next free coaching workshop: www.getcoachedbyheather.com Connect: Heather Lahtinen: Website, Facebook, Instagram

For the last two years, Lauryn has publicly said she plans to retire from healthcare at 47—and people have feelings about it. Is it realistic? Is it irresponsible? Is it even possible for clinic owners who genuinely care about their patients? In this episode, Lauryn and her husband Kirby sit down to unpack where this goal actually came from and why it's sparked so much reaction.Together, they answer real listener questions about early retirement, boredom for high achievers, guilt around leaving patient care, financial planning myths, spousal alignment, and what “retirement” really means in practice. This is an honest, nuanced conversation about freedom, cash flow, values, and designing a life that still feels meaningful long after the clinic isn't the center of it.Key TakeawaysRetiring early isn't about quitting work—it's about removing obligation. True retirement planning focuses on cash flow, flexibility, and choice, not just hitting a traditional age or number.High achievers often fear boredom, but the deeper issue is identity. Removing money as the motivator forces clarity around purpose, validation, and how you want your days to feel.Traditional retirement advice is built around age 65. If you want freedom earlier, your strategy must include accessible investments, lifestyle planning, and spousal alignment—not just tax deferral.You cannot plan early retirement alone. Avoidance, fear, and mismatched visions will surface unless both partners define what freedom looks like on a day-to-day level.Resources:Join the waitlist for The Uncharted CEO: An 8-week immersive experience for clinic owners designed to increase revenue, maximize profits, and build cash flow systems that create freedom NOW, not at 65.Follow Dr. Lauryn: Instagram | X | LinkedIn | FacebookFollow She Slays on YouTubeSign up for the Weekly Slay newsletter!Mentioned in this episode:To learn more about CLA and the INSiGHT scanner go to the link below and enter code SHESLAYS when prompted.CLALearn more about Sunlighten Saunas and get your She Slays discount by clicking the link below!She Slays Associates Job BoardHolistic Marketing HubHolistic Marketing HubGo from surviving to thriving with Genesis Chiropractic Software. Learn more and get your special discount using the link below!

Rooting into care, building safety, creating positive emotional experiences, leaning into transition time, and getting curious about the wisdom of our resistance. All so we can pull away from the cycles of avoidance, to adrenaline-and-deadline-fueled push, to crash and burnout, only for that cycle to repeat. Avoidance is asking to be met with support and care, and not to push ourselves harder until we feel like breaking.

In this video, we explore what really happens when your voice shuts down under pressure—and why it's not a flaw, a curse, or something you're born with. This conversation breaks down real-world case studies from professionals who struggled with speech anxiety, stuttering, rushed communication, and freezing in high-stakes moments, and shows how communication confidence is built through habits, identity, and intentional practice. You'll learn why speech is a trainable motor skill, how mindset and self-image shape the way you speak, and how tools like modeling, immersion, breath control, and focused awareness help replace fear with calm, controlled communication. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction & high-stakes speaking moments 01:04 Speech anxiety vs. traditional therapy 01:50 Identity and executive presence 02:17 How speech habits create career limitations 03:23 Avoidance, fear, and lost opportunities 04:32 Rushed speech and sounding less confident 05:49 Why people finally decide to change 06:15 Modeling confidence instead of fixing flaws 07:19 Self-study vs. coaching and accountability 08:28 Speech as a habit, not a curse 08:56 Modeling, mirror neurons, and identity shifts 10:43 Word anticipation and staying present 11:17 Consistency, immersion, and habit rewiring 12:07 Career, income, and confidence breakthroughs 13:22 Personal wins beyond performance 14:50 Neuroplasticity and rewriting your identity If you've ever struggled with anxiety before speaking, freezing in meetings, rushing your words, or feeling held back by how you communicate, this video offers a clear and grounded path forward. The goal isn't perfection—it's progress, presence, and learning how to speak with confidence on purpose.

Would you like access to our advanced agency training for FREE? https://www.agencymastery360.com/training Have you ever questioned whether you're actually built for the hard seasons of agency life? When things get messy, unpredictable, or overwhelming, do you wonder if you have what it takes to keep going or if everyone else somehow got a playbook you missed? Most agency owners don't wake up one day and decide, "I'm going to build an agency." They trip into it. One project turns into two, side work turns into real revenue, and suddenly you're invoicing clients without knowing what an invoice number is supposed to look like. Today's featured guest unpacks what it really looks like to build an agency without a roadmap. Through failed partnerships, stalled careers, and moments where quitting felt easier than continuing, he developed the resilience and mindset required to keep moving. Cliff Skelliter is a serial entrepreneur and owner of Launchpad Creative, a design-thinking agency, working across brand identity, video production, and strategy. They blend artistry, functionality, and brand communication to create captivating digital and physical spaces that not only engage and inspire but also reflect the essence and values of the organizations they work with. In this episode, we'll discuss: The Easiest Choice: Leaving his Career and Going All-In on the Agency What He Learned from His Partnership Experiences Self-Belief as the Most Important Lesson for Agency Owners Subscribe Apple | Spotify | iHeart Radio Sponsors and Resources E2M Solutions: Today's episode of the Smart Agency Masterclass is sponsored by E2M Solutions, a web design, and development agency that has provided white-label services for the past 10 years to agencies all over the world. Check out e2msolutions.com/smartagency and get 10% off for the first three months of service. When Going All-In on the Side Hustle is as Easy Yes Cliff didn't grow up in a family of entrepreneurs, and never set out to "start a business." His entry into agency life wasn't strategic, it was reactive. While working an internship at Canadian news station CTV, he saw the ceiling in broadcast media and realized that no matter how talented or ambitious he was, there was a limit to how far that career could go. Meanwhile, he was already getting requests to work on some projects outside of the station. Eventually, the projects kept getting bigger and the people at the station complained Cliff was creating a conflict of interests with his side hustle, as clients chose him, instead of the station, to produce their commercials. It was an ultimatum, and the choice was clear. By then, that "side hustle" was more lucrative and offered more creative control. Plus, it was just more fun. What's important here isn't just how Cliff started—it's what he didn't have. No business background. No sales training. No master plan. Like many agency owners, he learned by doing, Googling, guessing, and occasionally getting it wrong, which is mostly the default path. The danger is assuming everyone else has it figured out, while you're making it up as you go. Agency Partnerships: When They Work and When They Break You Cliff's first business partnership was both formative and brutal. His partner helped get the business off the ground but was dishonest, reckless, and ultimately destructive. While Cliff focused on creative work, his partner handled sales and accounts… and quietly created financial chaos. When the partner disappeared, Cliff was left holding the debt and the consequences. Many agency owners bring on partners not because it's strategic, but because it feels safer. Someone else handles sales. Someone else deals with money. Someone else shares the weight. But if values, ethics, and accountability aren't aligned, the cost can be enormous. Thankfully, Cliff was able to recover from the blows to both the agency's finances and its reputation. He also gave partnerships another chance. The second partnership was different and far more successful. Cliff partnered with someone who combined complementary skills to build a business that lasted nine years. It worked because each person did what they were good at and didn't want to do the rest. Even then, the partnership eventually ended, not because of business failure, but personal life complications. Partnerships aren't good or bad by default; they amplify whatever already exists. Clear roles, boundaries, and shared values make them powerful. Avoidance, people-pleasing, and lack of communication make them fragile. Resilience, Self-Belief, and the Placebo Effect of Entrepreneurship Cliff got important lessons from both experiences, mainly that he's much more capable than he thought. He could handle sales, which is something he doubted for years. Like many agency owners, he assumed you had to be a certain "type" of salesperson or personality to run a business. In reality, you just need to ask better questions and not be afraid of uncomfortable conversations. He also learned he's far more resilient than he gave himself credit for. Most agency owners would testify to the fact that the universe constantly gives you outs. Jobs. Acquisitions. Easier paths. And yet, something in your gut says, "I'm not done." That resilience isn't logical. It's identity-level. Entrepreneurship stops being something you do and becomes something you are. He now understands the importance of believing in himself, even when it seems absurd. Your mind alone can trigger real physical outcomes. When doubt creeps in, remind yourself that belief itself is a lever. Not hype and not manifesting nonsense; just the willingness to keep going when the story in your head tells you to quit. Do You Want to Transform Your Agency from a Liability to an Asset? Looking to dig deeper into your agency's potential? Check out our Agency Blueprint. Designed for agency owners like you, our Agency Blueprint helps you uncover growth opportunities, tackle obstacles, and craft a customized blueprint for your agency's success.

Money avoidance is something most of us do at some point — especially when life feels overwhelming. And it doesn't mean you're irresponsible or bad with money. It means you're human. In this episode, I'm talking honestly about what money avoidance actually looks like, why it feels comforting in the moment, and the quiet ways it can end up costing us more over time — emotionally, relationally, and financially. We'll explore the shame, overwhelm, and fear that often sit underneath avoidance, and I'll share gentle, realistic ways to start reconnecting with your money without pressure or judgment. If you've ever felt stressed just thinking about checking your accounts, avoided money conversations, or told yourself you'd “deal with it later,” this episode is for you. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Cozy Earth has been part of my routine lately, especially this time of year. You can use my link below for 20% off at cozyearth.com with the code MONEYISNTSCARY. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ If you loved this episode, please take a moment to follow, rate, or review Money Isn't Scary — it helps more women find these much-needed conversations. You can also find me here:

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik sits down with Jessica Baum to discuss the transformative power of healing attachment wounds and emotional trauma. Together, they explore why deep healing happens in relationships, the role of protectors like workaholism, and how patterns from childhood shape our adult lives—including sexual health and intimacy. Listeners will learn about practical approaches to personal growth and the importance of finding the right support for lasting change. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Psychedelics and Healing00:19 Revisiting Past Wounds01:30 Necessity of Re-experiencing Trauma02:22 Avoidance and Repetition of Patterns04:03 Personal Healing Journeys05:38 Science Behind “Doing the Work”07:34 Coping Mechanisms and Protectors08:43 Impact of Trauma on Sex10:01 Wheel of Attachment Explanation12:19 Finding the Right Professional Check out my free e-book Better Sex, Better Life https://www.renamalikmd.com/morepleasure Get Jessica Baum's book Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships: https://amzn.to/4pM1duZ Jessica's Freebies for You! https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview Stay connected with Jessica on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow her now and check out these links! INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/ FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/consciousrelationshipgroup LINKEDIN - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-baum-lmhc-cap-038a1538/ Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It sounds reasonable. It sounds like: • “This makes sense.” • “This is normal.” • “I already know why I do this.” In this episode, I explore how rationalization and minimization quietly protect comfort, certainty, and the need to feel right — especially for smart, thoughtful people.

Get ready to question everything you thought you knew, literally! In Episode 187 of the DYL Podcast, Adam pulls back the curtain on one of life's biggest myths: “There are no stupid questions.” Think again! Discover why some questions hold us back, stir up confusion, and secretly protect our egos.Join Adam Gragg as he boldly explores the difference between questions that open doors and questions that slam them shut. Learn how the right question can spark courageous conversations, ignite action, and change not just your interactions, but your whole life. Packed with practical tips and real-life examples, this episode will leave you eager to toss out your old script and start asking questions that actually matter.Want to get unstuck, grow your confidence, and connect on a deeper level? Listen now and find out how asking better questions is the key to a more powerful legacy. Don't just play it safe. Be brave, be curious, and never settle for half-hearted answers again!►► GET MY FREE VIDEO & WORKSHEET - SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF LITE! 7 SMALL STEPS TO A GIANT LEAP IN YOUR CONFIDENCE Referenced BLOG POST:►► Yes, There Are Stupid Questions (Let's Talk About Why)CHAPTERS:00:00 "Ask Better Questions"03:39 "Impactful Conversations Through Questions"09:22 Effective Questioning for Leadership Growth11:44 "Leaders, Questions, and Ego"15:39 "Be a Giver, Not a Taker"19:15 "Ask Better Questions, Change Lives"21:23 "Building Confidence, Defining Legacy"Make your mission today to live the life you want to be remembered for, because your legacy depends on it. Subscribe for more actionable leadership and coaching insights from the DYL Podcast! Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

It's Just information Hoodie now available: https://www.isaiahfrizzelle.com/first-runWe've been taught that expecting less from people is emotional maturity.But what if that narrative is actually protecting avoidance?In this episode, I unpack the growing cultural tendency to label expectations as “too much” while normalizing emotional absence, low effort, and unspoken withdrawal. We talk about how “low-maintenance” has become a shield for neglect, how “capacity” is often confused with accountability, and why so many people want the benefits of connection without participating in the labor of it.This isn't about forcing people to give what they don't have.It's about being honest about what relationships require—and who pays the cost when others opt out.Because expectations don't destroy relationships.Avoidance does.

In this conversation, Creighton Bertrand shares his journey into manhood — navigating confusion, responsibility, faith, and identity in a culture that often leaves men without clear direction. We talk about why so many men feel stuck or lost, the cost of avoiding responsibility, and how true masculinity is formed through commitment, discipline, and purpose. This episode is a call for men to grow up, take ownership of their lives, and step fully into the kind of man they were created to be.   Know more about Sathiya's work: Join DEEP CLEAN SIGNATURE PROGRAM Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Want to know more about Creighton? Follow Creighton On Instagram   Chapters: (00:00) Introduction & Creighton's Story (02:14) Why So Many Men Feel Lost Today (05:01) The Absence of Clear Masculine Direction (07:32) Comfort, Avoidance, and Delayed Manhood (10:18) The Role of Responsibility in Maturity (13:06) Faith, Conviction, and Identity Formation (16:02) What Culture Gets Wrong About Masculinity (18:49) The Crossroad Every Man Eventually Faces (21:35) Choosing Growth Over Ease (24:10) What Stepping Up Actually Looks Like

This conversation isn't really about rules.It's about the moments we don't look… because looking would require us to choose.In Part 2 of this opening 2026 conversation, I'm back with my best friend, Keira Brinton, and we talk about what happens when awareness replaces avoidance — in love, money, faith, intimacy, and self-trust.This episode is raw. It's quiet in places. It's honest in ways that feel slightly uncomfortable — and deeply freeing.We talk about grief that lives in the body, the loneliness that success doesn't protect you from, the fantasies we fall in love with, and the power we unknowingly give away when we don't trust ourselves enough to see clearly.Nothing here is polished.Everything here is real.In this episode, we talk about:The subtle ways we give our power to outside authority — and why it feels safer than trusting ourselvesAvoidance as self-protection… and how it quietly costs us intimacy and truth“Anything measured improves” — and what happens when we stop measuring because we're afraid of what we'll seeTouch, grief, and the kind of healing the body does without asking permissionThe loneliness that can exist inside successFantasy vs. reality in love — and why both can keep us stuckPower, worthiness, and the stories we tell ourselves about being chosenJudgment, compassion, and what changes when we let people be humanFaith without dogma — truth, love, and integrity as lived experiencesWhat reclaiming your power actually feels like (hint: it's not loud)Gentle content note:This episode includes discussion of intimacy, grief, sexually transmitted infections, and emotional vulnerability.What to do after listening:Notice one place you've been avoiding — not to fix it, just to see it.Ask yourself: Where have I been giving my power to something outside of me?Let one truth you already know guide a single decision this week.Remember: softness and strength are not opposites.Here are the key moments from the episode:00:00 This Isn't About Rules — It's About Power04:10 Awareness vs. Avoidance (and Why Not Looking Feels Easier)08:55 “Anything Measured Improves”… Until We Stop Measuring14:20 Exhaustion, Success, and Losing Touch with Yourself19:40 Touch, Grief, and the Body's Memory26:10 Loneliness Isn't Fixed by Achievement31:45 Fantasy vs. Reality in Love37:30 When Not Knowing Becomes a Choice43:05 Power, Worthiness, and Being Chosen49:50 Judgment, Compassion, and Letting People Be Human56:35 God as Truth. God as Love.1:02:10 Calling Your Power Back Without Hardening1:08:40 Choosing Reality — Even When It's Harder1:13:30 Closing Reflections: What Changes When You Trust YourselfConnect with Heidi:Website: https://heidipowell.net/Email: podcast@heidipowell.netInstagram: @realheidipowellFacebook: Heidi PowellYouTube: @RealHeidiPowellTrain with Heidi on her Show Up App: https://www.showupfit.app/Connect with Keira Brinton:Website: https://www.keirabrinton.com/Instagram: @keirabrintonAbout Keira Brinton:Keira Brinton is the CEO & Founder of JOA Publishing, host of the Sacred Wandering podcast, 7x author, and creator of the Book Activator method. She helps visionaries bring their truth into form — blending strategy and spirit, devotion and discipline — and is known for making the impossible feel inevitable.

EDUCATION REFORM AND THE AVOIDANCE OF A FEDERAL AI DEPARTMENT Colleague Kevin Frazier. Frazier argues for updating education, starting with teacher training in elementary schools and vocational partnerships in high schools, to prepare students for an AI future. He advises against creating a federal Department of AI, suggesting society should adapt to it as advanced computing rather than a unique threat. NUMBER 121921 FRANCE

In this episode of Mining Stock Education, host Bill Powers interviews Joe Mazumdar from Exploration Insights. They dive into discussions about potential mega mergers in the mining industry, specifically between Rio Tinto and Glencore, and what these mergers indicate about market cycles and strategic advantages. Joe offers his insights on the challenges and benefits of such mergers, along with commentary on the global smelter capacity and the permitting landscape. They also discuss various projects like Kinross in Nevada and Washington, and Codelco's copper expansion. Furthermore, they touch upon the influence of government policies, such as tariffs and price floors, on the mining sector. Joe provides valuable advice for junior mining stock investors, emphasizing the importance of deep technical analysis and understanding geopolitics, operational risks, and market dynamics. Joe also reveals a valuation mistake many new mining investors make. 00:00 Introduction 00:33 Expert Insights with Joe Mazumdar 00:47 Mega Merger: Rio Tinto and Glencore 04:01 Market Implications of Mergers 05:33 Smelting Capacity and Environmental Concerns 07:29 Capital Expenditure and Market Trends 10:44 Copper Prices and Incentive Challenges 13:22 Government Policies and Market Risks 23:07 Market Trends 23:20 Stock Picking in a Bull Market 23:37 Benchmarking Your Portfolio 25:24 Silver vs. Gold Performance 26:56 Exploration Stocks and Alpha 27:44 Retail Interest in Development 29:49 Investment Strategies and Risks 32:36 Jurisdictional and Geopolitical Factors 34:26 Evaluating Junior Mining Stocks Joe Mazumdar's website: https://www.explorationinsights.com/ Follow Joe on Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoeMazumdar Sign up for our free newsletter and receive interview transcripts, stock profiles and investment ideas: http://eepurl.com/cHxJ39 Mining Stock Education (MSE) offers informational content based on available data but it does not constitute investment, tax, or legal advice. It may not be appropriate for all situations or objectives. Readers and listeners should seek professional advice, make independent investigations and assessments before investing. MSE does not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of its content and should not be solely relied upon for investment decisions. MSE and its owner may hold financial interests in the companies discussed and can trade such securities without notice. MSE is biased towards its advertising sponsors which make this platform possible. MSE is not liable for representations, warranties, or omissions in its content. By accessing MSE content, users agree that MSE and its affiliates bear no liability related to the information provided or the investment decisions you make. Full disclaimer: https://www.miningstockeducation.com/disclaimer/

You might call it ambition. Work ethic. Faithfulness. Discipline. But sometimes "busy" is just pain avoidance with better branding. In this episode, Spencer and Sammi unpack what they call hustloin—the cycle where hustle and busyness become a way to outrun what you don't know how to feel. From the tension of motherhood and autonomy, to entrepreneurship, provision pressure, and the subtle addiction to significance… we get honest about what's really driving you when you can't slow down. We talk about: The difference between purposeful work and pain-driven hustle How "I have to do it all" creates chronic overwhelm Why you can't problem-solve well while you're triggered (and what to do first) The motherhood tension: impact and autonomy vs presence and slow living The "10x version of you" high—and how it can become a form of self-medication Integrity, impostor syndrome, and why connection has to come first If you've been calling it productivity but it feels like pressure… this conversation will put language to what's happening inside you—and give you a path back to peace without quitting your life. If this hit home, share it with a friend who's "always busy." And if you want to go deeper into emotional health, wholeness, and building a life from connection, stay close—we're bringing you into the real conversation.     See all of our resources at www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com    

Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support Podcast - A Podcast for Neurodivergent Creatives. ADHD Goal Avoidance - How to Overcome the Aversion to Goal Setting. This podcast is an audio companion to the book "The Drummer and the Great Mountain - A Guidebook to Transforming Adult ADD / ADHD." For many of us, the word “goal” has all kinds of negative associations. It can remind us of past failures, our short-comings, and our challenge with short and long-term planning. Because of how our hyper-creative brain works, our dopamine receptors, and challenges with executive functioning, we often have an initial burst of inspiration... But that initial energy tends to wane and we're left with a list of flat and possibly overwhelming goals that we never look at again. However, knowing how to work with goals is essential to making forward progress in your life. In this episode we explore a very simple trick that will completely change how you think about goals and we'll leave you with a clear exercise to make goal setting far more ADHD-friendly.  Links Mentioned in this Episode: (WORKSHOP) Annual Life Visioning Workshop - Jan 24 & 31 (WEBSITE) Mike Starkey - ADHD & Addiction (SOCIAL MEDIA) @adultadhdtips one Instagram (SOCIAL MEDIA) @adhdneurodivergent on BlueSky (PDF) Our Free ADHD Toolkit - All Worksheets from Previous Podcast Episodes Don't see a player? Click this link to download the MP3 file. If you have an Apple device (iPhone/iPad), you can download the podcast (and subscribe) for free at this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/adult-adhd-add-tips-support/id988935339 Visit the podcast web page to listen to all 122 episodes: http://www.drummerandthegreatmountain.com/adult-adhd-add-podcast >> Take the ADHD Hunter-type Quiz Outro voice over by Lauren Regan.  Outro music by Bahman Sarram For more info, visit: http://www.DrummerAndTheGreatMountain.com

In Episode 10, Kim opens Season Two by breaking down procrastination in a way most people have never heard it explained before. This episode isn't about productivity, discipline, or time management. It's about emotional risk, fragile self-esteem, and the identities we built in childhood to survive. Kim explains why procrastination shows up around the things that matter most. Big conversations. Creative work. Boundaries. Healing. Growth. And why avoidance isn't laziness. It's protection. Drawing from attachment theory, trauma, neurobiology, and her own lived experience, Kim connects procrastination to emotional attunement, identity, shutdown, people-pleasing, catastrophizing, and the fear of inner collapse. She also explains why insight alone doesn't change behavior, and what actually has to shift for real movement to happen. –––––––––––––––––– Time Stamps & Topics 00:00 – Rage, triggers, and decades of stored emotional memory 00:25 – Why feeling misunderstood cuts so deeply 00:52 – Procrastination isn't about time management 01:22 – Emotional risk vs practical difficulty 01:50 – Personal example: writing a first book 02:29 – Procrastination around hard conversations 03:01 – Mistakes, shame, and fragile self-esteem 03:59 – Inner collapse and identity threat 05:04 – Why systems learn to avoid emotional danger 05:28 – What self-esteem actually is (and isn't) 05:51 – Self-esteem as emotional resilience 06:25 – Emotional attunement explained 06:44 – Empathy vs shared experience 07:37 – Why "they'll never understand me" isn't true 08:10 – Childhood emotional neglect and minimization 09:14 – Avoidant coping and jumping to solutions 09:57 – Why being sat with matters 10:27 – Religion, conflict avoidance, and emotional bypassing 11:30 – Biology of trauma and implicit memory 12:33 – Adoption, abandonment, and cognitive bias 13:46 – Anger as a lifelong trigger 14:52 – Suppression vs expression of emotion 15:41 – Coping mechanisms and shutdown 16:24 – Anxious vs avoidant responses in conflict 17:09 – Self-esteem and "what happens when something goes wrong" 18:28 – Catastrophizing and control 19:13 – Why anxiety feels protective 20:00 – Avoidance as nervous system safety 21:25 – Silence, minimization, and relational procrastination 23:14 – Childhood roles: good child, peacemaker, achiever 24:38 – Survival strategies vs self-esteem 25:27 – Relational procrastination and suppressed anger 26:25 – Waiting until you're angry to speak 27:08 – Walking on eggshells and staying silent 28:02 – Triggers as accumulated implicit memory 29:12 – Why your partner isn't the whole cause 30:07 – Shutdown as self-protection, not punishment 31:05 – Why insight doesn't change behavior 31:56 – Awareness without emotional capacity 32:23 – Cognitive vs behavioral change 33:11 – Reframing hard conversations 33:56 – Procrastination in personal growth and healing 35:02 – Childhood identities and family roles 36:16 – How family freezes you in old identities 37:35 – Why growth feels threatening 38:05 – Holding competing emotions about parents 39:22 – Letting go of old identities 40:05 – Why growth feels risky, not empowering 41:18 – What actually reduces procrastination 41:46 – Emotional regulation and self-trust 42:09 – Questions to ask yourself about avoidance 43:16 – Tasks that carry emotional weight 43:44 – Identity disruption and behavior change 44:31 – Alcohol, belonging, and identity shifts 44:58 – Pay attention to what you avoid 45:26 – What avoidance is protecting –––––––––––––––––– This episode is especially relevant if you feel stuck despite insight, avoid hard conversations, or keep postponing the things that matter most to you. Kim's website: https://www.kimpolinder.com/ Kim's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kp_counseling/ Kim's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@engineeringlovepodcast

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Mohini Kissoon: When Politeness Becomes the Enemy of Team Growth—Escaping the Conflict Avoidance Trap Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes.   "Conflict isn't the enemy. It's when we're avoiding conflict that it becomes an issue for teams." - Mohini Kissoon   Mohini shares a story about the worst self-destructive pattern she has witnessed: teams that are overly polite to avoid addressing conflicts. She worked with a team that prided themselves on being collaborative and drama-free, but beneath that politeness was a hesitancy to have difficult conversations. It started small—in sprint planning, the Product Owner would propose unrealistic scope, and people would just nod and accept. Someone might say "that's quite ambitious," but no one would actually push back. In retrospectives, feedback was always wrapped in layers of positive framing. When a developer consistently delivered work that didn't meet the Definition of Done, no one called it out directly—they just quietly fixed it or worked around it. After three months, side conversations started emerging where people would pull Mohini aside to share concerns they would never voice in the room. The team was skipping the storming phase of the Tuckman model, and this avoidance eventually led to missed deadlines and frustrated stakeholders. The key learning: healthy conflict brings the energy teams need to innovate and grow.   In this segment, we talk about the Tuckman model and why the storming phase is essential for team development.   Self-reflection Question: Is your team's harmony genuine collaboration, or is it a facade hiding unspoken frustrations that will eventually surface at the worst possible moment? Featured Book of the Week: Turn the Ship Around by David Marquet Mohini discovered Turn the Ship Around by David Marquet at a time when she was working with multiple teams and feeling exhausted from being the person everyone looked to for answers. She thought that's what servant leadership meant, but she was actually creating dependency rather than capability. The book tells the story of how Marquet took command of the worst-performing submarine in the US Navy and transformed it into the best by fundamentally changing how leadership worked. "Instead of the traditional leader-follower model, he built a leader-to-leader structure where everyone was expected to think, decide, and own their work," Mohini explains.  The key insight was that we don't just empower teams—we need to build an environment where they can grow and don't need permission to excel. This shifted Mohini's approach: instead of saying "here's what I think we should do," she started asking "what have you tried so far? What do you intend to do next?" The book also emphasizes that pushing decision-making down requires providing the knowledge and context teams need to make good decisions.   [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

Are you running toward something or away from something? In this episode, Michelle and Chase share the science behind why successful people set approach goals instead of avoidance goals. Approach goals focus on growth and opportunity, while avoidance goals can lead to stress, burnout, and anxiety. Michelle and Chase share practical ways to reframe your goals so they inspire progress rather than fear, and explore how this mindset shift can boost your career development, continuous learning, and even your relationships - your ultimate career currency. Plus, Michelle and Chase share personal stories about how they used approach goals during big career transitions. Mindset matters, and this episode will help you harness a proactive, positive approach to achieving what's next. Inc. Article: Science Says Super-Achievers Don't Set Avoidance Goals. Here's Why Successful People Set Approach Goals Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: careerdreams@forumcu.com. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Why do so many women avoid money conversations—especially during divorce—and how is that costing them both now and in the future? In this episode, attorney and co-founder of Flourish Law Group, Lauren Klein, shares the emotional roots behind financial fear, especially for women navigating divorce. Whether you're unsure how to protect your assets, feel behind on estate planning, or are dealing with mindset blocks around money, this conversation is for you.Learn the real reasons behind couples avoiding financial discussions—and how to overcome themDiscover how women can shift disempowering money beliefs to build confidence and financial clarityGet expert insights on what steps to take immediately to protect yourself financially before, during, and after divorceHit play to uncover the mindset shifts, legal strategies, and confidence tools every woman needs to protect her future and thrive post-divorce.Join us on our podcast as we navigate the complexities of marriage, divorce, separation, and all related legal and emotional aspects, including adultery, alimony, child support, spousal support, timesharing, custody battles, and the financial impact of dissolution of marriage.Interested in working with us? Fill out this form here to get started.Not quite ready? Interact with us on socials!Linktree- https://linktr.ee/FloridaWomensLawGroupFlorida Women's Law Group Website- https://women-winning-divorce.captivate.fm/fwlgLauren Klein's LinksOfficial website: https://flourishlawgroup.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lawyerlaurenklein/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawyerlaurenklein LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-a-klein-esq-ll-m-a39a5a35/ Women Winning Divorce is supported by Florida Women's Law Group.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not an advertisement for legal services. The information provided on this podcast is not intended to be legal advice. You should not rely on what you hear on this podcast as legal advice. If you have a legal issue, please contact a lawyer. The views and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely those of the individuals and do not represent the views or opinions of the firms or organizations with which they are affiliated or the views or opinions of this podcast's advertisers. This podcast is available for private, non-commercial use only. Any editing, reproduction, or redistribution of this podcast for commercial use or monetary gain without the expressed, written consent of the podcast's creator is prohibited.

Awareness isn't comfort. It's responsibility.Most people avoid it because it asks more of you… it demands honesty, ownership, and growth. But if you're ready to stop sleepwalking through life and start living with intention, this episode will challenge the way you see yourself, your business, and your leadership.In this soul-level conversation, George sits down with Taylor Cavanaugh for a raw, real, and revealing look at what it truly takes to lead yourself. They explore how honest reflection unlocks transformation, why most people leave impact on the table, and how to reclaim power in the smallest moments.Taylor brings deep insight into the courage it takes to see your blind spots, the patterns we unconsciously repeat, and the healing that happens when you own your story, without shame or sugarcoating.Whether you're an entrepreneur, parent, or just someone ready to stop numbing and start choosing, this episode is an invitation back to presence, truth, and aligned leadership.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why self-awareness is the starting line, not the destinationThe real cost of unconscious reactions in your business and lifeHow to shift from survival mode into aligned leadershipTools and stories that help rewire your perspective and emotional regulationWhy vulnerability is the birthplace of sustainable growth Key Takeaways:✔️Self-awareness isn't about perfection, it's about responsibility✔️Most people aren't stuck from lack of ability, but from refusal to look inward✔️You don't need a new plan… you need new choices in how you respond✔️Emotional honesty is the foundation of leadership, not a weakness✔️Ownership of your patterns creates the freedom to choose differently✔️The moments you want to avoid are often the exact ones that hold your breakthrough Timestamps & Highlights:[00:00] – Opening quote: Awareness isn't comfort, it's responsibility[03:00] – Taylor joins: why true change starts with brutal honesty[10:30] – The “mirror moments” that shifted everything for Taylor[18:15] – Avoidance vs. awareness: the crossroads every leader hits[24:40] – How unconscious trauma shows up in business and relationships[30:55] – From bypassing to bravery: sitting in the discomfort[37:20] – The impact of parenting, identity, and generational patterns[45:00] – Nervous system regulation and responding instead of reacting[52:15] – Choosing alignment when everything feels heavy[59:05] – Final reflections: reclaiming your power starts with seeing yourself[1:04:30] – Closing wisdom: your future is shaped by your honesty todayConnect with Taylor:Website: taylorcavanaugh.comInstagram: @tcavofficialYoutube: @tcavofficialYour Challenge This Week:Comment “HONESTY” on our latest Instagram post @itsgeorgebryant and we'll DM you Taylor's top 3 journal prompts for powerful self-reflection.Share this episode with someone who's ready to lead from the inside out.Want to master aligned leadership, regulate your nervous system, and stop repeating the same old patterns in life and business?Join our next live event: The Lighthouse Workshop, March 2026: mindofgeorge.com/eventYou'll walk away with clarity, tools, and community that will change your trajectory, for real this time.

Let's talk about something uncomfortable.Not dramatic. Not viral.But real.Women don't usually lose attraction overnight.It doesn't disappear after one fight, one mistake, or one bad day.Attraction fades quietly.Slowly.Through patterns.The first crack usually comes from emotional safety.When a woman feels unheard… dismissed… or emotionally alone—even while in a relationship—something inside her starts to shut down.She may still care.She may still stay.But desire begins to leave.Then there's inconsistency.Strong words, weak actions.Present one day, distant the next.Attraction doesn't grow from intensity—it grows from reliability.Another major shift happens when self-respect erodes.When someone tolerates disrespect, over-pleases, or abandons their boundaries, it quietly changes how they're perceived.Confidence isn't loud.It's stable.Emotional immaturity also plays a role.Avoiding hard conversations.Deflecting accountability.Shutting down instead of showing up.Maturity feels safe.Avoidance feels exhausting.Then comes stagnation.No growth.No ambition.No forward movement.Attraction struggles when one person feels like they're evolving and the other is standing still.Sometimes love turns into neediness disguised as care.Constant reassurance.Fear of being left.Making one person your entire identity.Love should feel like choice—not pressure.Conflict reveals a lot.Anyone can be calm when life is easy.But attraction is tested in stress, disagreement, and uncertainty.How you communicate then matters more than any romantic moment.Another quiet killer is being taken for granted.Effort fades.Curiosity disappears.Appreciation becomes rare.Familiarity without care feels invisible.There's also misalignment.You can have chemistry and still grow apart when values, priorities, or future visions don't match.Love needs direction—not just emotion.And finally, there's the loss of polarity.When individuality disappears and the connection becomes emotional dependence, desire often flattens.Attraction thrives on grounded confidence—not emotional merging.Here's the truth most people don't want to hear:Women don't usually leave because they stopped loving.They leave because they felt unseen, unsafe, or emotionally alone for too long.Attraction doesn't ask for perfection.It asks for presence.Consistency.Growth.And responsibility.That's the real conversation no one likes to have.

In this episode, Ben sits down with bestselling author, psychologist and behaviour change expert Shahroo Izadi for a deep, honest conversation about ADHD, addiction and how habits really form.Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Shahroo reflects on how years spent working in addiction services helped her make sense of her own impulsivity, shame cycles and coping strategies - long before she had the language for neurodivergence. Together, Ben and Shahroo unpack why addiction is often misunderstood, how neurodivergent brains are especially vulnerable in a frictionless modern world, and why behaviour change isn't about willpower or fixing yourself.This is a compassionate, practical conversation about trust, self-belief and designing habits that work with your brain - not against it.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:26 Shahroo Izadi's ADHD Diagnosis & Personal Journey08:12 ADHD, Neurodivergence & Addiction: What's the Link?11:44 Is Addiction a Disease — or a Coping Strategy?13:04 Why Willpower Fails: Understanding Habit Formation16:50 ADHD vs Autism: Impulsivity, Dopamine & Delayed Reward19:08 ADHD & Addiction: Shahroo's Framework for Sustainable Change29:18 Trusting an ADHD Brain After Years of Self-Criticism33:33 Applying Behavioural Psychology to Living With ADHD36:15 The ADHD Tax: Shame, Avoidance & Hidden Costs39:25 External Dependence, Coping Mechanisms & Control42:03 Shahroo's 3 Practical Tips for Lasting Behaviour Change52:13 Ben on Addiction & Recovery: Choice Without Deprivation58:47 What We Still Get Wrong About Addiction & Neurodivergence1:02:02 Healthy Habits vs Addiction: Where's the Line?1:07:21 Addiction, ADHD & Autism: What Needs to Change Systemically1:15:20 Shahroo's Green Dot BadgeThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benShahroo Izadi @shahroo_izadi www.shahrooizadi.co.ukIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary After a multi-year pause, Eric returns to the Man of Class podcast with a grounded and timely conversation about peace—why so many men want it, yet struggle to feel it. Inspired by a message heard at church, this episode explores why peace is achieved through reconciliation rather than compromise. Eric breaks down what reconciliation truly means, how it differs from compromise, and why unresolved issues continue to resurface in our lives. This episode sets the tone for a new season of Man of Class focused on clarity, alignment, and building an exceptional life. 00:00 – Welcome back & why Man of Class is returningWhy Eric is restarting the podcast, what's changed, and the deeper clarity behind this new season. 03:30 – The insight that sparked this episode“Peace is achieved through reconciliation, not compromise” — and why that phrase mattered. 06:30 – Why men want peace but rarely feel itBusyness, success without fulfillment, hustle culture, and unresolved tension. 09:45 – Avoidance, conflict, and false peaceWhy avoiding conflict only pushes tension underground. 12:30 – What reconciliation actually meansA clear definition of reconciliation and why alignment matters more than comfort. 15:30 – Root cause vs surface-level fixesUsing an engineering mindset to explain reconciliation as solving the real problem. 18:45 – Compromise vs reconciliation explainedWhy compromise treats effects instead of causes—and why it fails long-term. 22:00 – Why unresolved issues keep coming backDormant conflict, recurring arguments, and temporary calm without peace. 24:30 – Applying reconciliation to real lifeMarriage, work, faith, habits, and internal alignment. 27:00 – Listener-style Q&A: real questions men ask How do I reconcile without it turning into a fight? What if the other person won't reconcile? How do I know if I'm compromising or reconciling? What if reconciliation means things have to change? 31:30 – Live Mondays at 8pm EST & what's coming nextIntroducing the live format and community-driven direction. 33:00 – Builder's Mastermind & closing reflectionWhere are you compromising instead of reconciling? Peace is built, not found.

Show LinksSelf-Paced Resources.Subscribe To The Interview Podcast: https://yourlevelfitness.com/podcastNew To The YLF Philosophy? Start Here: ylf30.comDaily Accountability And Structure For Your Self-Paced Inside/Out Process: https://yourlevelfitness.com/daily-emailQ&A Response YouTube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjSupgaY5KA66MD2IdmCwFhLFbDe-pk1lIndividualized Guidance From Daryl.Join The YLF Experience: https://app.moonclerk.com/pay/5t93iox9udm3Compare All Service Levels: https://yourlevelfitness.com/coachingGet Your Merch, Mugs & Wall Quotes.Shop The Current Collections: https://yourlevelfitness.shop/collectionsIn this episode, I ask a simple but uncomfortable question. What are you avoiding? The thing you keep pushing aside, ignoring, or telling yourself you will deal with later is not neutral. It is quietly controlling your thoughts, your energy, and your decisions.I talk about how avoidance lives in the background and why being connected to yourself makes it harder to ignore. When you can clearly see what you are avoiding, you get to choose how to handle it. You might decide to acknowledge it and leave it alone for now, or you might decide it is time to take action. Either way, awareness is the first real step.This episode is not about forcing change or fixing everything at once. It is about naming what is already there so it stops living rent free in your head. Anything you choose to do after that is a bonus, because working through things takes time, and that is okay.Please share this episode with anyone you think would be interested in listening to it.Visit darylperrypodcast.com for links to the show page on each of the major podcast directories. From there, you can subscribe and share this pod.For comments, questions, topic ideas, possible collaborations please email daryl@yourlevelfitness.com

Toddlers Don't Lie — They're Communicating  (Here's What to Do) "If you're struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It's called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In this episode, we talk about why toddlers and preschoolers say 'I don't wanna go' and how they communicate distress through behavior, stories, and resistance. We'll explore how different rules and environments can create nervous system distress in children and how parents can respond effectively. This episode is useful for co-parents, married parents or partners with different parenting styles, grandparents, daycare transitions, and more. We will also cover five common ways toddlers communicate nervous system distress and discuss how to respond without shutting them down. Join us to learn how to better understand and support your child's behavior and meltdowns.00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast00:03 Understanding Toddler Communication00:16 Why Kids Say 'I Don't Wanna Go'00:22 Nervous System Distress in Toddlers00:48 Toddlers Don't Lie: A Deeper Look02:04 Behavior as Communication03:39 Five Common Ways Toddlers Communicate Distress04:23 Avoidance as a Coping Strategy05:19 Symbolic Communication: Making Up Stories10:57 Fear of Being Alone: Sleep and Separation13:05 Dysregulation at Pickup and Drop Off14:21 Clinging to One Parent15:20 How Not to Shut Down Your Child's Distress17:55 Clarifying the Truth Without Teaching Fear21:27 In Closing: Supporting Your Toddler's Communication22:50 Resources and Next Steps------------------------------------------------------"If you're struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It's called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course.  You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the  The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog

Anxiety Isn't the Problem — It's the Habit Loop Behind It I recently had a conversation with psychiatrist and neuroscientist Jud Brewer that stopped me in my tracks — not because it was abstract or inspirational, but because it finally explained something I've lived with for decades. Even in long-term sobriety. Even with years of self-work, therapy, meetings, journaling, and personal development. That thing is anxiety — and more specifically, how anxiety quietly turns into habits like worrying, overthinking, scrolling, information hoarding, procrastinating, and self-judgment. What Dr. Brewer helped me see is this: Anxiety isn't a personal flaw. It's a learned habit loop. And once I saw that clearly, everything changed.     Worry Is a Behavior — Not a Personality Trait One of the most powerful reframes from our conversation was this: Worry isn't just a feeling — it's something we do. Anxiety shows up as a sensation in the body. Worry is the mental behavior we use to try to control that sensation. And here's the trap: Worry feels productive. It feels like we're doing something. That tiny sense of relief is enough to reward the brain — which means the loop gets reinforced. Anxiety → Worry → Temporary relief → Repeat Over time, this becomes automatic. So automatic we don't even realize we're doing it. That's the definition of a habit.     Why "Why Am I Like This?" Keeps Us Stuck As someone in recovery, I'm very familiar with the idea of "getting to the root cause." Childhood trauma, identity, shame, conditioning — all of that matters. But here's what surprised me: Dr. Brewer says the "why" is often the least important part when it comes to changing anxiety. Not because the past doesn't matter — but because focusing on why often keeps us stuck in our heads instead of helping us change what we're doing right now. When anxiety hits, the more helpful question isn't: "Why am I like this?" It's: "What am I getting from this behavior?" That question shifts us from self-blame to curiosity — and curiosity is where real change begins.     The Default Mode Network (AKA: The Overthinking Machine) We also talked about the brain's default mode network — the system that activates when we're not focused on a task. This network lights up when we: Worry about the future Replay the past Judge ourselves Compare ourselves to others Crave, resist, or ruminate In other words: it's the "me, me, me" network. When fear (an urge to act now) gets crossed with planning (thinking about the future), we get anxiety. Anxiety doesn't help us act. It freezes us. That's why so many high-achievers know exactly what to do — and still don't do it.     The Three Gears of Change (This Is the Part That Actually Helps) Dr. Brewer's work focuses on a simple but profound process he calls the three gears: ⚙️ Gear 1: Awareness Notice the behavior. Worrying. Scrolling. Self-judging. Avoiding. No fixing. No shaming. Just noticing. If it's automatic, it's a habit — and habits can be changed.     ⚙️ Gear 2: Ask "What Am I Getting From This?" This is the most overlooked step. Not: "What should I be doing?" "What's wrong with me?" "Why can't I just stop?" But: What is this giving me right now? Safety? Distraction? Avoidance of shame? Temporary relief? When we see clearly that the reward is small — and the cost is high — the habit starts to lose its power.     ⚙️ Gear 3: Find the Bigger, Better Offer This is where things shift. Instead of numbing, distracting, or fighting anxiety, we learn to meet it differently — and that feels better than the habit itself. That's where the RAIN practice comes in.     RAIN: A Way to Be With Anxiety Without Escaping It RAIN stands for: R – Recognize what's happening A – Allow it to be there I – Investigate with curiosity (What does this feel like in my body?) N – Note what's happening moment to moment Here's the surprising part: When we stop trying to get rid of anxiety and simply observe it, it often passes on its own. Cravings peak and fall. Sensations rise and fade. Even when they feel like they'll last forever — they don't.     Action Steps (Try This This Week) If anxiety, overthinking, or procrastination are showing up in your life, try this: Catch the Habit Notice when anxiety turns into worrying, scrolling, or self-judgment. Ask One Question What am I getting from this right now? Practice RAIN Don't fix. Don't flee. Just observe. Change the Language Instead of "I am anxious," try: "I'm noticing anxiety in my body." Let the Wave Pass You don't have to do anything for it to end.     Resources Mentioned Unwinding Anxiety by Jud Brewer Trigger–Habit–Outcome Mapping (free worksheet referenced by Dr. Brewer) RAIN mindfulness practice Going Beyond Anxiety program (Dr. Brewer's advanced work)     Final Thought You're not broken. You're not failing. You're not missing some secret piece of information. Your brain learned a habit — and habits can be unlearned. With awareness, curiosity, and kindness, anxiety doesn't have to run your life. It can become a signal — not a sentence.

STRANGER THINGS & EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCEWhat if Stranger Things isn't just about monsters, portals, and the Upside Down — but about belonging, vulnerability, and the emotional cost of avoidance?In this episode of The Shadows Podcast, we break down Stranger Things through the lens of Emotional Intelligence and pull out three Life Cheat Codes that apply just as much to real life as they do to Hawkins, Indiana. From friendships that save lives to emotions we try to outrun, this episode explores how our inner world shapes our survival.

A candid dive into accountability, purpose, and why chasing “happiness” keeps failing us. Michael breaks down the lost art of civil conversation—especially around politics, religion, and race—and challenges listeners to find real meaning in their day beyond the noise.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Step into the arena of tough talks with Episode 184 of the DYL Podcast! Join host Adam Gragg and special guest Troy Trussell as they crack the code on "Hard Conversations." Are you tired of walking on eggshells, dodging confrontations, or letting fear keep you silent? Discover the game-changing power of courage over comfort!In this episode, you'll learn the three decisive moves you need to finally stop avoiding those difficult discussions—at work, at home, and everywhere in between. Uncover why we procrastinate, how planning to listen (not just to talk!) can transform your relationships, and why commitment is the secret sauce to real change. Packed with practical examples, personal stories, and actionable strategies, this episode is your blueprint for turning anxiety into productive action.Most of us know there's a hard conversation we should have, but we keep putting it off. This video addresses the common tendency of conflict avoidance in relationships, whether with coworkers, family, or friends. Learn valuable strategies for navigating difficult conversations, fostering better communication, and enhancing your emotional intelligence for stronger connections.Ready to punch fear in the face and create meaningful change? Listen now and let the DYL Podcast help you tackle the conversations you've been putting off. Your legacy starts with one brave step, don't miss out!►► GET MY FREE VIDEO & WORKSHEET - SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF LITE!7 SMALL STEPS TO A GIANT LEAP IN YOUR CONFIDENCE CHAPTERS:00:00 "Keys to Successful Hard Conversations"05:34 "Dreaming of Family Legacy"08:04 Avoiding Difficult Conversations09:44 Avoiding Discomfort and Its Costs14:22 "Facing Difficult Conversations"17:12 "Listening Over Agenda"22:02 "Parenting and Tough Conversations"24:55 "Commit to Hard Conversations"29:10 "Leveraging Growth for Success"31:28 "Schedule, Commit, and Act"35:55 "Overcoming Avoidance Through Action"36:56 "Decide, Act, and Grow" Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

If you're someone who keeps waiting for reassurance before you move or make a decision, this Mindset Debrief episode is for you. It addresses the pattern and shows how it turns capable people into hesitant decision-makers.You'll see what it's costing you in momentum and self-trust, and you'll leave with a practical way to act while uncertainty's still present.A lot of people assume they're delaying because they're being careful. The research points to a more uncomfortable driver. Avoidance often shows up as emotion regulation, not bad time management. When a task or decision stirs up tension, the brain looks for quick relief, and delay becomes a short-term mood fix. Reassurance works the same way. It can lower anxiety for a moment, but it teaches you to treat discomfort as a problem that needs to be removed before you're “allowed” to act. In clinical research, excessive reassurance-seeking is tied to worsening depressive symptoms and strained relationships, partly because it can pull other people into a loop that never really resolves the fear underneath. This gets louder when you've got a low tolerance for uncertainty. Intolerance of uncertainty reliably predicts higher anxiety, and it pushes people toward behaviors that feel safe in the moment, like checking, overplanning, and seeking repeated confirmation. In decision-making research, that “safety behavior” can backfire by keeping you dependent on certainty you can't actually secure. SpringerSo this episode draws a hard line between two things that get confused: information and permission. Information helps you make a better call. Permission is emotional outsourcing. If you can't tell the difference, you'll keep collecting opinions long after you've already got enough to decide.We talk through what reassurance-seeking looks like in real life at work and at home, why it feels responsible, and how it quietly trains you to distrust your own judgment. Then we shift the standard you're using. You're not waiting for confidence. You're waiting for discomfort to go away. It won't. The move is learning to decide with it still there, and to treat self-trust as something you practice, not something you earn from other people.Share this episode with someone who could benefit from the information.CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST:IG: https://www.instagram.com/paulpantani/WEBSITE: https://www.transitiondrillpodcast.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulpantani/SIGN-UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER:https://transitiondrillpodcast.com/home#aboutQUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:paul@transitiondrillpodcast.comSPONSORS:Blue Line RoastingGet 10% off your purchaseLink: https://bluelineroasting.comPromocode: Transition10

Happy New Year! As many of us think about fresh starts, healing strained relationships might be part of that journey. Today, host Julie Rose revisits a powerful conversation with Justin Jones-Fosu, meaningful work researcher and author of “I Respectfully Disagree: How to Have Difficult Conversations in a Divided World.” Justin shares the deeply personal story of reconciling with his father after years of distance and hurt — not by seeking an apology, but by choosing curiosity over assumptions and conversation over confrontation. His insights remind us that reconciliation doesn't always require agreement. Sometimes it simply asks us to stay on the road with people instead of “taking the exit.” Learn more about Justin Jones-Fosu's work - https://workmeaningful.com/ CHAPTERS (0:00) Introduction (1:46) Justin Jones-Fosu on Avoidance and Curiosity (2:35) A Personal Story of Reconciliation (5:00) The Concept of 'Taking the Exit' (12:47) The Circles of Grace Challenge (16:27) Conclusion

We all avoid things we know would move us forward — the workout, the routine, the conversation, the next step.Avoidance isn't laziness — it's protection. Your brain is trying to keep you safe from failure, discomfort, or not being perfect.In this episode, we talk about:why avoidance actually happensthe fears hiding underneath itthe loop that keeps you stuckhow to take simple, doable steps forward — without shameBig takeaway:Avoidance isn't a flaw. Once you create safety + take tiny action, the pattern loses power.

Take a breath. Let the pace slow. As we close out a year that has quietly changed many of us, this final episode of 2025 invites you into a different kind of conversation. It one not rooted in resolutions or reinvention for performance, but in presence and purpose. Have you ever found yourself busy but unfulfilled? Productive but misaligned? You're not alone. This isn't just another year-end reflection. It's a reorientation. We explore the deeper truth behind the ever-popular "comeback" narrative and ask the question: Are you running from something… or toward something? From the psychology of sustainable change to the tender process of identity evolution, this episode offers grounding insight, soul-deep reflection, and a mirror to help you name what's quietly been shifting inside you. Whether you're standing at a threshold or simply tired of resolutions that never stick, this episode will help you come back—not to who you were, but to who you're becoming. Key Takeaways: True comebacks aren't about returning. They're about reconstructing. Avoidance creates motion. Approach creates meaning. Lasting change begins with identity, not behavior. The nervous system responds better to direction than to resistance. You don't need to fix everything. You just need to choose your direction. Let go of the pressure to "figure it all out." Focus on where your soul is pointing. Direction is not a one-time decision—it's a daily return CONNECT WITH LISA Beyond the Transaction Mastermind -  Apply to join the group: https://beyondthetransactionmm.com/register Sign up for Lisa's "so much more" newsletter: https://www.thediyframework.com/so-much-more-subscribe  Freedom Reset: Your Next Steps to Realignment  Register: https://go.lisamcguire.com/freedom-reset  Human Design Masterclass Waitlist: https://go.lisamcguire.com/human-design-masterclass-waitlist  Ideal Client Workshop Waitlist: https://go.lisamcguire.com/ideal-client-workshop-waitlist-icww785155  Get your free Human Design Bodygraph: https://lisamcguire.com/get-your-free-chart/   

Avoidance of accountability does not blow your business up overnight. It quietly lowers the bar, one unchecked behavior at a time. Peterman's Andrew Hasty walks through why avoiding accountability is one of the most dangerous dysfunctions on a team and how it slowly creates a culture of mediocrity in HVAC, plumbing, and home service businesses. Using real stories from the field and everyday life, this episode shows how "little" things like late arrivals, missing equipment data, sloppy paperwork, and skipped debriefs are not one-off issues. They are signals that standards are slipping and that leaders are choosing personal comfort over team success. If there is a tech coasting, a teammate with endless excuses, or a high performer who ignores process because "they produce," this episode will help frame and initiate the conversations that have been avoided for too long. Join The ARENA - a CSTG Community (powered by our media partner, PeopleForward Network) Subscribe to CSTG on YouTube! Connect with Chad on LinkedIn Chad Peterman | CEO | Author Learn more about the Peterman Brothers Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network Key Takeaways: Avoiding accountability slowly destroys team standards. Small misses today become the new normal tomorrow. Accountability is shared ownership, not top-down punishment. Leaders hurt culture when they choose comfort over honesty. Clear expectations and KPIs make accountability feel fair. Peer accountability is the strongest sign of a healthy team. Consistent feedback keeps growth and high performance normal.

Dr. David Tolin is the Founder & Director of the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Institute of Living, the author of over 200 scientific journal articles & even received the Award for Lifetime Contribution to Psychology from the CT Psychological Association, but you may recognize him from the reality TV series Hoarders, The OCD Project or My Shopping Addiction. In this episode he shares what diagnosing hoarding disorder looks like, what brain scans reveal & the myth of trauma. This episode originally aired November 27, 2023.If you liked this episode, you'll also like episode 208: TRIGGER WARNINGS: MAKING US FRAGILE OR HELPING US HEAL? Guest: https://drtolin.com/homehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/drdavidtolin/https://a.co/d/hDRDee8 Host:  https://www.meredithforreal.com/  https://www.instagram.com/meredithforreal/ meredith@meredithforreal.comhttps://www.youtube.com/meredithforreal  https://www.facebook.com/meredithforrealthecuriousintrovert  Sponsors: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/starterpacks/ https://www.historicpensacola.org/about-us/  02:38 — How common hoarding really is04:05 — When clutter ≠ hoarding disorder05:00 — Why letting go feels painful06:02 — What actually causes hoarding08:00 — Attention, cognition, vulnerability10:00 — Why empathy changes everything11:05 — ADHD, brain scans, and myths14:10 — The “salience network” explained15:05 — Why clutter fades into the background16:00 — When every object feels urgent17:05 — Decision-making becomes unbearable18:10 — Avoidance as survival strategy20:00 — Why animal hoarding is different23:00 — What people actually hoard24:00 — When hoarding becomes extreme25:10 — Digital hoarding counts too26:05 — Emails, photos, and emotional pain27:00 — Objects as identity30:15 — The downward arrow technique31:20 — Why therapists and patients talk past each other32:15 — Anthropomorphizing our stuff33:20 — Why kids' toys still haunt us34:15 — Grief as an accelerant35:20 — Stuff as memory protection36:10 — Acquiring as mood regulation37:10 — When retail therapy backfires38:15 — Emotion regulation gone wrong39:10 — Compassion without enabling40:05 — Boundaries that don't abandon41:10 — Why insight takes repetition42:15 — Therapy isn't one magic moment43:10 — How to stay anchored in reality44:05 — Questions that interrupt impulse45:10 — Why self-questioning works better46:15 — What “success” actually looks like47:15 — Managing vs curing hoarding48:10 — Exposure therapy in real life49:10 — TJ Maxx as a trigger50:05 — Sitting with discomfort on purpose51:10 — Rewriting your relationship with stuff52:05 — How hoarding changed his own habits53:10 — Keeping what truly serves you54:05 — Buried in Treasures and next steps55:10 — Final reflections on stuff and selfRequest to join my private Facebook Group, MFR Curious Insiders https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BAt3bpwJC/

Foundations of Amateur Radio One of the potentially trickier aspects of putting together your shack is connecting the radio to the antenna. On the face of it, the challenge is limited to making sure that you have mating connectors on both ends, but when you actually start implementing this you'll run into several other considerations. The very first one as I said is the connector. Every amateur I've ever spoken to goes through the same process. You pick a connector, typically the one that your radio comes with, then you adapt the connector on your coaxial cable to suit, then you'll get an SWR meter, a dummy load, some testing gear, a coax switch or two, perhaps another radio, or an amplifier and along the way you'll discover that you now have a growing collection of connectors to choose from, and that's just the connectors inside the shack. After considering connectors, you'll start to contemplate the coax itself. You'll likely weigh price against signal loss, but there are other aspects to the selection of the right coax for the job. For example, how do you get the coax actually into the shack? One of the main challenges associated with solving that problem is surprisingly something that rarely affects our hobby, other than any human factors associated with the phenomenon of "weather". Getting coax into a shack generally involves passing through a weather proof barrier of some sort. In doing so, you're likely to create a place where the weather can make its way into places it's not supposed to. Water can and will travel along your coax. Hopefully on the outside of it, but if you're unlucky, on the inside too, likely destroying it along the way. At first glance you'll think that water only travels down with gravity and in an ideal world you'd be right, but as it happens, water will happily do other things like get blown by the wind, or condensate in temperature gradients, like those found near a hole you just created in your lovely weather proof barrier. If your shack has existing openings, they're generally the easiest to appropriate, things like gaps in the eves, existing vent holes, between roof tiles or sheet iron, plenty of existing places where you can get from inside to outside a shack. Note that this is also the case if your shack is a trestle table tucked away in an office, like mine. Before I continue, I'm about to raise some potential safety issues, but I'm not an occupational health and safety professional, so, do your own due diligence. If you do need to go into your roof space, height aside, consider it a dangerous place. Make sure that there's someone to check on you and consider alternatives to climbing up there. Wearing a face mask and full body clothing is a very good idea. Often you'll find exposed wires, deteriorating or toxic insulation and other nasty things, conductivity of steel roof frames and pipes are also a hazard, so be extremely reluctant to venture there. Avoidance is preferable. Working at heights 101: Don't .. that said, there may be no alternative. You can lift corrugated iron sheets by undoing the roofing screws. If you do, make absolutely sure that you don't make a string of water inlet points when you put it all back together. In lifting a sheet, you can access the roof space and run your coax. Sometimes the gap between the corrugation and the rafters is sufficient to push the coax through, but if you live in a hot climate, make sure that it doesn't touch the sheeting, since coax is likely to distort, if not outright melt, if it's in direct contact with the iron sheet while the sun is belting down on it. Consider the temperature rating of your coax. Similarly, terracotta roof tiles tend to have enough space to allow coax to enter the roof space. Be very careful, since they're often fragile and potentially irreplaceable. Look for openings like existing roof fittings, things like chimneys, vent pipes, roof ridges, etc. for simpler points of entry. If you need to make a hole in your roof and seal it, there's special rubber grommets for this purpose. You cut a little opening in the grommet, too tight for the coax, then force it through. Seal to the roof with UV-stable silicone and you're good to go. Check them every so many years, they deteriorate. Speaking of silicone, if there's an existing hole that you're using, don't just seal it up, it might be there for a reason. Windows often have vent holes or gaps that will fit some types of coax and there's inserts you can use to open a sliding window that will accommodate coax, but consider the security of that window before you commit. There's also special flat coax for running through a window frame or under a door, but check before you buy that they're suitable for the job. Ladder line is also an option, it's much thinner, can travel longer distances, but its performance can be affected by corrugated iron and other conductors. Rarely if ever does the initial acquisition of coaxial cable involve details like "bending radius", the smallest turn you can make with the coax without destroying its characteristics, since bending causes the insulation, the core and the shield to distort to some degree and with it, affect the RF passing through. Whichever path your coax takes, consider that you can cut it short, but not long. If you really must know how long the coax is, use some string to run along the proposed path, but beware, the string has a bending radius that approaches zero, coax does not. Most coax will specify a bending radius for fixed and repeated bending. The fixed one is for a one time only bend and 65 mm is typical. Thinner coax tends to have a smaller bending radius, but that might affect the signal loss, or the budget, or both, so take that into account. Cutting and joining also introduces points of failure, places of moisture ingress, thick spots that cannot be pulled through existing holes, and plenty of other hidden fun and games, in other words, don't be stingy, get it right, it might cost a few bob extra, but you'll have a happier time of it. If you need to run your coax inside a wall, the tool you're looking for is called a "Cavity King", not of the embalming variety, though relevant if you happen to do something foolish like drill a hole through an existing power wire in your building, so don't start drilling holes where it suits without checking first. If you do, make sure that you drill on an angle facing upwards from the outside and find a place where the coax itself doesn't get wet on the way in. Speaking of holes. Terminate the coax after you installed it, not before. You can use electrical tape to attach a rope to pull the coax along its route without damaging the coax. Before you close up the roof and pack everything away attach the connectors to the coax and properly test it. If it fails your tests, it's easier to run it again with everything in place than it is to start from scratch, ask me how I know. In my shack, I have a run of RG-214 that goes to my VHF/UHF vertical, I also have a run of quad shield RG-6 that goes to my HF antenna. If you're familiar with coax indicators, you'll know that RG-6 is actually 75 Ohm, not 50 Ohm. Given that it's made from aluminium, not copper, it's also an absolute turd to solder. What it does have going for it is that it's absurdly cheap, since its used in satellite dish installations across the planet. It also very handily can be terminated with F-type compression connectors, which in the 25 years I've used them, I've yet to see fail. The F-type connector can accommodate a handy BNC adaptor, bringing us back into the realm of amateur radio. My coax goes under the corrugated iron of my roof through the plasterboard of my office wall, hidden away in a cupboard, snakes under the cupboard door, along the wall to the termination coax switch that is in turn connected to my radio, more on that another time. The two coax runs are tied together, to ensure that they don't coil weirdly, don't pose a trip hazard and it's connected to various fixed points along its path. None of it is permanent, other than the hole in the plasterboard, inside a cupboard, behind a faceplate. So, after removing the coax, a blanking plate brings everything back to invisible if that's ever required. What happens outside is a whole different story and what it attaches to, yet another. The point is that from the place of picking the right connector, you likely discovered that routing coax is potentially a bigger challenge than you might have considered at first. There are other options. What issues affect the ingress of coax at your shack? I'm Onno VK6FLAB

JOIN "THE REBUILT MAN" ON SKOOL - ▶️ www.skool.com/rebootyourlife   In this powerful episode of The Rebuilt Man, Coach Frank Rich dismantles the traditional recovery model and exposes a truth most men have never been told:   If quitting porn feels hard, you're not pursuing freedom, you're pursuing sobriety.   Frank explains why most recovery systems keep men trapped in cycles of willpower, fear, shame, and relapse by focusing on behavior management instead of identity transformation. He draws a clear line between white-knuckled sobriety and true freedom, the kind that comes from becoming a man who no longer wants, needs, or desires porn.   This episode breaks down 12 core reasons why freedom always beats sobriety, and why real change only happens when a man stops trying to "manage addiction" and starts rebuilding who he is at his core.   If you're tired of counting days, fighting urges, and living in fear of relapse, this episode will reframe everything you think you know about recovery.     What You'll Learn in This Episode Why sobriety keeps porn at the center of your life and freedom removes it entirely   How identity always outperforms willpower and behavior management   The hidden reason avoiding temptation actually makes men weaker   Why urges aren't enemies, but signals pointing to deeper issues   How labels like "addict" shape your future and how to reclaim your identity   The difference between surviving addiction and stepping into purpose   Why freedom isn't something you do, it's who you become Key Takeaways If quitting porn feels hard, you're aiming for sobriety, not freedom   Sobriety manages behavior; freedom transforms identity   Willpower creates fragile men, alignment creates strong ones   Sobriety lives in fear of relapse; freedom lives in certainty   Avoidance is not strength, self-leadership is   Recovery keeps you inward-focused; freedom gives you a mission   Urges are signals, not commands   The name you accept determines the life you live Freedom is not abstinence, it's transformation   About the Reboot Your Life Philosophy   Frank also breaks down the philosophy behind Reboot Your Life, the identity-based system inside The Rebuilt Man. Instead of teaching men how to resist porn, the program helps men rebuild: Identity Discipline Brotherhood Purpose Self-leadership   The result isn't sobriety, it's freedom. Ready to Stop Fighting and Start Becoming Free?   If you're ready to stop fighting alone and step into a container built for growth, support, and freedom:   ➡ Join The Rebuilt Man Skool Community — Free 7-Day Trial www.TheRebuiltMan.com/7dayreset   Inside you'll gain access to: Daily accountability Weekly coaching The 7-Day Reset The 12-Week "Reboot Your Life" Framework And a brotherhood of men who refuse to quit   – Follow Coach Frank: IG - https://www.instagram.com/coachfrankrich   YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich   Website - https://www.rebuiltrecovery.com/homepage

This powerful clip is from episode 338.In this honest, soul-stretching microsode, I sit with Stefanos Sifandos — Renowned Relationship Coach — to explore what it really means to know, love + lead yourSELF.We talk about growing up in environments shaped by impatience, survival, + unspoken pain — and how those early imprints write the emotional codes we live by as adults. This conversation is for the ones who've struggled to feel safe in their own skin.The ones learning that self-intimacy — not perfection — is the foundation of authentic power.Stefanos + I dive into the sacred terrain of trust, trauma, + transformation, unpacking how addiction, avoidance, + hyper-vigilance are not flaws — they're invitations to return home to yourSELF.SOME WORDS ARE GIFTS:• You can't love what you don't know. Self-intimacy comes before self-love.• The roots of disconnection often look like survival — but healing begins with awareness.• Family systems teach us who to trust, until we remember to rebuild that trust within.• Avoidance is protection, until it becomes the prison that keeps you from your truth.• Leadership isn't about control — it's about conscious presence + radical honesty.Missed the Full Episode? Check it out here:LISTEN TO EP 338 ON APPLE PODCASTLISTEN TO EP 338 ON THE SPOTIFY PODCASTWATCH EP 338 ON YOUTUBE⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBETWITTERTHREADSFIND STEFANOS SIFANDOS ON:IGWEBCOURSEBOOK WAITLISTFREE RESOURCES:

Are you an overwhelmed mom struggling with mom guilt, anxiety, or the pressure to do it all? In this deeply personal episode, JoAnn Crohn, your trusted mom coach, shares the story behind her business downsizing — a journey that parallels the challenges many moms face when avoiding difficult truths. This episode explores the common pitfalls of avoidance that many moms experience: over-functioning, people-pleasing, and pushing through exhaustion without addressing what's really wrong.This isn't an episode about procrastination or denial. It's about the kind of avoidance many moms fall into—the kind that looks like over-functioning, people-pleasing, and trying harder instead of stopping to ask what's actually wrong.JoAnn shares the behind-the-scenes reality of running No Guilt Mom through changing times, declining revenue, and the intense pressure of wanting to protect her team at all costs—even when it meant sacrificing her own health.You'll hear:Why avoidance often looks like doing everything instead of doing nothingHow anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and exhaustion were her body's warning signalsThe leadership decision she was terrified to make—and why not making it nearly broke herWhat Internal Family Systems therapy revealed about her “people-pleaser” partWhy courage doesn't feel calm, confident, or steady—and that's normalHow facing painful truths can bring relief your nervous system has been begging forJoAnn also walks you through how avoidance shows up in everyday life—money, relationships, parenting, time management—and how naming what you're really feeling opens the door to better solutions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, I talk about the idea of the avoidance list and why success is more about what you don't do than what you do. This comes from a story in the book The Third Door and a strategy often linked to Warren Buffett, even though he didn't actually create it. The idea is simple: pick your top five goals and avoid the other twenty, not because they're bad, but because they distract you. Focus is limited, and trying to do everything weakens your results. I will explain why a “not-to-do” list might be more powerful than any to-do list. Show Notes: [03:53]#1 Most people fail through too much addition, not through subtraction.  [10:25]#2 True power is in restraint, not commitment.  [15:19]#3 Discipline creates presence.  [18:04] Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1193: Focus: The Force Multiplier Next Steps: ⚡️ Power Presence Protocol  Command The Room Without Words → http://PowerPresenceProtocol.com 

The Fathers do not speak gently about what we like to call small sins. They expose them as seeds of death planted quietly in the heart. What appears minor in the mind becomes lethal in communion. A thought of irritation. A private judgment. A silent refusal to justify the other. These are not harmless interior movements. They are choices. They shape the heart long before they surface in words or actions. Abba Poimen cuts straight through our self deception. Hatred of evil does not begin with outrage at what is wrong in others. It begins with the hatred of my own sin and the justification of my brother. Until that happens everything else is theater. We think we hate evil when in fact we are protecting our ego. We think we are zealous for righteousness when we are only defending an image of ourselves that needs someone else to be wrong. The Fathers are relentless because they know how the mind works. A God loving soul begins to feel anger not because it is pure but because it is awakening. As the heart starts to turn toward God the soul becomes sensitive to injustice. But this sensitivity is dangerous. It can become poison if it is not purified by love. What begins as a reaction to evil quickly becomes hatred of the person. The Fathers insist that this is where knowledge of God dies. Hatred and the knowledge of God cannot coexist in the same heart. The moment I consent to hatred I lose sight of God even if I continue to speak His name and defend His truth. This is not theoretical. It is experiential. The soul darkens. Prayer dries up. The heart becomes rigid. The neighbor becomes an object. God who now dwells in that neighbor is no longer seen. Abba Isaac presses the knife deeper. Do not hate the sinner because you too are guilty. Hatred reveals that love has already departed. And where love is absent God is absent. This is not moralism. It is ontology. God is love. To lose love is to lose God. We imagine that our resentment is justified. We imagine that our anger is righteous. But the Fathers tell us to weep instead. Weep for the sinner. Pray for him. Not because his sin is small but because hatred destroys you faster than his sin destroys him. The devil mocks all of us. Why then do we join him in mocking our brother. Compassion is not weakness. It is participation in the way God bears the world. The story of Nicephoros is terrifying because it shows where unrepented interior sins lead. A friendship shattered by something never healed. A priest who offers the Bloodless Sacrifice while harboring rancor. A refusal to forgive that hardens over time. Nothing dramatic at first. No public scandal. Just silence. Avoidance. The turning away of the eyes. But this silent sin grows until it devours everything. At the moment of martyrdom when crowns are already prepared rancor proves stronger than torture. The priest who endured the rack cannot endure humility. He would rather deny Christ than forgive his brother. This is the end of so called minor sins. They hollow out the heart until there is nothing left to stand on when the final test comes. Nicephoros on the other hand does nothing extraordinary by worldly standards. He begs. He weeps. He humbles himself. He refuses to protect his pride. He places communion above justice as he understands it. And this love becomes his martyrdom. The Fathers make the conclusion unavoidable. It is not ascetic feats or heroic endurance that reconcile us to God but love of neighbor. Without it everything collapses. Prayer becomes noise. Zeal becomes violence. Faith becomes an empty confession. The Evergetinos does not allow us to hide behind abstractions. God has taken up residence in the other. Every thought against my brother is a wound in my own heart. Every refusal to forgive is a refusal of communion. The tragedy is not that we fall but that we excuse what hardens us. The minor sins we tolerate in the mind become the walls that separate us from God. And the only way back is the way Nicephoros walked. Downward. Exposed. Unarmed. Choosing love even when it costs everything. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:04:15 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:12:33 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:14:43 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:15:42 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 326 Hypothesis XLI Volume II 00:17:13 Bob Čihák, AZ: P. 326 section A 00:35:02 Bob Čihák, AZ: P. 328 section A 00:40:21 Wayne: Would you not see the hatred develop when two people get divorced. 00:43:07 Jessica McHale: So once we recognize we are annoyed by someone, do we right then pray for that person and ourselves so that it doesn't grow into resentment or hatred? 00:45:02 Joan Chakonas: Its so much better to be hated than  to hate 00:45:29 Joan Chakonas: Hatred like this is awful, unacceptable 00:48:37 Jerimy Spencer: Reacted to "So once we recognize…" with

In this episode of Business Brain, you're challenged to stop waiting for perfect conditions and start before you feel ready. You don't need every system built or every detail nailed down to make an offer and move forward. You learn why perfection slows momentum, how action creates clarity, and why progress beats polish every time. This mindset shift helps you build confidence, traction, and revenue faster—without getting stuck preparing forever instead of doing. You also explore demand avoidance and the subtle danger of the comfort zone. When things feel easy or familiar, it might actually be a warning sign that you're not stretching far enough. You're reminded that simple tools and clear tracking can keep you honest, focused, and growing. By leaning into a little discomfort and embracing structure, you give yourself the best chance at building a business—and a Charmed Life—on your terms. 00:00:00 Business Brain – The Entrepreneurs' Podcast #710 for Wednesday, December 17th, 2025 December 17th: National Maple Syrup Day 00:02:05 Start Before You're Ready I don't have an email list… but here's an offer and I'll eventually send you email. Perfect is the enemy of good Kit.com beehiiv Constant Contact Klaviyo Mailchimp 00:06:44 Beware the comfort zone 00:07:39 Spreadsheets are your friend Google Sheets Synology Office LibreOffice 00:12:06 SPONSOR: The New Rules of Business: The 10 Kimmandments is available exclusively on MasterClass. And they always have great holiday-season offers, sometimes up to 50% off. Visit MasterClass.com/BUSINESSBRAIN to find out more! 00:13:37 SPONSOR: Intuit QuickBooks Payroll – Take control with QuickBooks Payroll today at QuickBooks.com/payroll 00:14:53 Demand Avoidance Tips to help: Reframe demands as choices — “I could do this” works better than “I should do this.” Lower the activation energy — Define the task as 2 minutes or one tiny step. Externalize structure without authority — Timers, body doubling, or parallel work beat accountability pressure. Use novelty or constraint — Change location, tools, order, or rules. 00:22:23 Business Brain 710 Outtro Tell Your Friends! Review Business Brain Subscribe to the show feedback@businessbrain.show Call/Text: (567) 274-6977 X/Twitter: @ShannonJean & @DaveHamilton, & @BizBrainShow LinkedIn: Shannon Jean, Dave Hamilton, & Business Brain Facebook: Dave Hamilton, Shannon Jean, & Business Brain The post Start Before You’re Ready + Demand Avoidance – Business Brain 710 appeared first on Business Brain - The Entrepreneurs' Podcast.

E432 Inner Voice – A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan and Josh Tomeoni In this powerful episode of Inner Voice, Dr. Foojan Zeine sits down with Josh Tomeoni, founder of Ex-Derelict and author of The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. Josh brings a rare blend of lived experience and professional insight as a 19-year fiduciary financial planner turned men's coach, working with high-performing men navigating divorce, identity loss, and major life transitions. The conversation opens with a deep exploration of how divorce and trauma place every person at a crossroads—a choice between the path of health or the path of destruction. Josh challenges common gender stereotypes, explaining that while men and women don't choose different paths, they often cope in different ways. Men tend to numb through work, sex, substances, or avoidance, while women may rely on relationships or even therapy in ways that can become ineffective if true growth stalls. As the episode unfolds, Dr. Foojan and Josh explore neuroscience-based differences in emotional processing, the role of culture and attachment, and how comfort zones—work for men, relationships for women—can either support healing or quietly sabotage it. They emphasize that healing requires active engagement, accountability, and results—not passive coping or endless talking without progress. Josh shares his personal story of divorce, spiritual awakening, and the moment he realized that avoiding pain only made it return stronger and more destructive. This realization shaped both of his books and his mission to help men rebuild wealth, masculinity, purpose, and legacy in their second act of life. In the second half of the episode, Josh introduces his latest book, The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild., a powerful blend of memoir and practical guidance designed to help men integrate mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial clarity. Rather than promoting surface-level fixes like money or physical appearance, Josh focuses on identity reconstruction, intentional masculinity, and purposeful living after loss. The conversation concludes with a profound reminder: the only way forward is through the pain. Avoiding discomfort only guarantees deeper suffering later. Growth, healing, and strength come from facing hard truths directly—and doing the work when it matters most. ⏱️ CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS (CLICKABLE) 00:00 – Welcome to Inner Voice with Dr. Foojan 02:26 – Meet Josh Tomeoni: Ex-Derelict & Men's Coach 05:52 – Divorce from the Male Perspective 07:14 – Spiritual Awakening After Divorce 08:30 – Numbing Pain Through Sex, Substances & Avoidance 10:29 – Why Men Feel Alone After Divorce 12:02 – The Traps Men Fall Into During Divorce 13:04 – Do Women Heal Faster Than Men? A Real Debate 15:52 – Health Path vs. Destruction Path After Trauma 17:36 – When Therapy or Work Becomes a Crutch 20:27 – Workaholism, Relationships & Hidden Addictions 24:29 – Neuroscience: How Men & Women Process Trauma 27:17 – Culture, Custody & Financial Identity After Divorce 30:02 – Comfort Zones: Work for Men, Relationships for Women 32:03 – Healthy vs. Unhealthy Connection & Problem-Solving 33:29 – Josh's First Book: Divorce Traps Men Must Avoid 35:15 – The Gospel of an Ex-Derelict: Fight. Fail. Rebuild. 36:47 – Why Men Lose Identity After Divorce 38:11 – Reclaiming Masculinity, Purpose & Legacy 40:16 – Masculine & Feminine Balance in Relationships 42:08 – Why Polarity Matters in All Relationships 44:18 – Final Truth: Growth Only Comes Through Pain 45:22 – Where to Find Josh & Get the Free Divorce Book

This episode is especially helpful if you're searching for:How to prepare for divorce without filingEmotional separation before divorceHow to survive the holidays before divorceWhat is a silent divorce?How to tell your spouse you want a divorce (but not yet)Divorce timing strategyHow to protect kids during separationIf you're quietly planning your next chapter, this one is for you.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport dive deep into the concept of the silent divorce: the unofficial, emotional separation that happens when one or both partners know the marriage is ending, but they're not ready to officially file yet.If you're feeling emotionally checked out, unsure of timing, scared of disrupting the holidays, or stuck in a “limbo marriage,” this episode helps you understand what a silent divorce is, the signs you're in one, and most importantly : what to DO about it.Andrea and Morgan break down two scenarios:1️⃣ When both spouses know divorce is coming but are waiting.2️⃣ When only one spouse knows, and the other has no idea.You'll hear practical guidance, emotional support, and legal strategy to help you prepare without panicking, protect your kids, and avoid major divorce mistakes.Plus, you'll hear hysterical QuickBooks chaos, psychic readings on Oak Street, and a glamorous side quest to the Waldorf Astoria. Classic HNTSAD energy.What You'll Learn in This Episode:✔ What a “silent divorce” actually isHow emotional withdrawal and parallel living become the early stage of divorce long before filing papers.✔ Signs you're in a silent divorce– Minimal communication– Loss of intimacy– Roommate vibes– Emotional loneliness– Avoidance of conflict– No partnership energy✔ If both partners know divorce is comingDo this:Keep things predictableSet temporary boundaries (separate bedrooms, shared spaces, routines)Treat this time as preparation, not limbo✔ If only you know divorce is comingDo this:Understand your secrecy is not deceit — it's strategyConfide in only ONE trusted personStart preparing emotionally, financially, and legally✔ Why timing matters (especially during the holidays)Morgan explains why the holiday season is almost never the right moment for a divorce announcement — legally, strategically, and emotionally.Andrea shares how to survive the “holiday performance pressure” without pretending everything is perfect.✔ How to handle parenting when you're silently divorcingSimple scripts, routines, and communication tips to help keep kids grounded and minimize emotional fallout.✔ The #1 thing that reduces divorce fear: preparationFear = confusionConfidence = clarityThis episode shows you how to take the first steps safely, smartly, and privately.“A silent divorce is not a selfish move — it is a strategic move.”“You don't have to file today to...

LOOK OUT! It's only Films To Be Buried With! A REWIND CLASSIC! Join your host Brett Goldstein as he talks life, death, love and the universe with the fabulous comic, actor and podcaster JESSICA KNAPPETT! Just a brief Rewind diversion while schedules align but rest assured, any and all Rewinds are certified gold so you will not be disappointed. Thank you folks - original writeup below (and bear in mind this in the tremors of the pandemic just after things were slowly opening up again: ––––––––––––––––––––––––– ...This is a live episode so you can expect all the real life atmosphere of people interacting and being next to each other in the same place, which is a lovely novelty for sure. A fantastic one though, with a really nice vibe throughout and all sorts of fun and games to be had including being pregnant, living in LA, signs of the end as hipsters start arming up, making and working on Drifters, the soon-to-be hit game 'I Don't Spy', human kindness and the worst week of cinema going ever. Lovely stuff! Enjoy - you shall! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Video and extra audio available on Brett's Patreon! IMDB INSTAGRAM ONLINE AVOIDANCE DRIFTERS PERFECT DAY podcast –––––––––– ⁠⁠BRETT • X⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BRETT • INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠THE SECOND BEST NIGHT OF YOUR LIFE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TED LASSO⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SHRINKING⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ALL OF YOU⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SOULMATES⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SUPERBOB (Brett's 2015 feature film) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices