Podcasts about Avoidance

Avoidance is one of the most common reactions to emotional pain. It shows up as silence, staying busy, withdrawing, shutting down, or convincing yourself that “things will sort themselves out.” At first it feels protective. Over time, it becomes its own form of suffering and keeps couples stuck in the very patterns they're trying to escape.In this episode, Geoff and Jody explore how avoidance operates in both partners after betrayal and how safely facing difficult truths creates genuine movement in the relationship.What We Cover:For the Betrayed PartnerWhy avoidance often becomes a survival responseHow overwhelm, exhaustion, and cultural pressure to “keep the peace” silence your real needsThe difference between consciously pausing and unconsciously shutting downFor the Recovering PartnerHow shame and fear fuel hiding, minimizing, and delaying accountabilityWhy avoidance blocks repair and prolongs fearThe honest question every recovering partner must answerFor the CoupleHow both partners can slip into a shared pattern of avoidanceWhy comfort, silence, and homeostasis can feel safer than truthHow one partner naming avoidance begins to shift the entire dynamicRemember...avoidance feels safe in the moment, but it interrupts healing.______________________________Download the Free Resource: You, Me, Us - A Way Forward After BetrayalWhen betrayal has shaken your relationship, it can feel impossible to know where to begin. This free 15-minute video and companion worksheet will help you steady yourself, support your partner, and begin caring for the relationship between you. Get your copy here.______________________________Join the Courageous Together™ ProgramCourageous Together™ isn't just another course, it's a trauma-informed roadmap that holds both of you in the healing process. If you've ever wondered “Where do we even start?” After betrayal, this program gives you the clarity and structure you need. It meets the betrayed partner's need for safety while guiding the recovering partner toward real accountability, creating a path forward that neither of you has to figure out on your own.You'll have access to:A structured healing framework with step-by-step guidanceVideo lessons and worksheets to build safety, accountability, and connectionThe option to join live group circles and support calls with meA private, secure community of others walking the same pathLearn more and join us inside Courageous Together: www.geoffsteurer.com/courageous-together______________________________Stay ConnectedWebsiteYouTubeInstagramFacebook______________________________Watch on YouTubePrefer video? You can watch full episodes of From Crisis to Connection on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/@FromCrisistoConnectionPocast.______________________________About Geoff SteurerI am a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS) with 25+ years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from the devastation of sexual betrayal and broken trust. I am the founder of the Courageous Together program, co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn. My work integrates trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and practical tools for creating lasting safety and connection. I've been married to my wife, Jody, since 1996 and we are the parents of four children.About Jody SteurerJody is the co-host of the From Crisis to Connection podcast, where she brings her thoughtful, common-sense perspective to conversations about healing, trust, and connection. She earned her bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA-certified coach. Jody has years of experience in corporate training, small business leadership, and family life, and raising four children (two of them neurodivergent). She loves watercolor painting, landscape design, spending time outdoors, and snow skiing.

LOOK OUT! It's only Films To Be Buried With! A REWIND CLASSIC! Join your host Brett Goldstein as he talks life, death, love and the universe with the fabulous comic, actor and podcaster JESSICA KNAPPETT! Just a brief Rewind diversion while schedules align but rest assured, any and all Rewinds are certified gold so you will not be disappointed. Thank you folks - original writeup below (and bear in mind this in the tremors of the pandemic just after things were slowly opening up again: ––––––––––––––––––––––––– ...This is a live episode so you can expect all the real life atmosphere of people interacting and being next to each other in the same place, which is a lovely novelty for sure. A fantastic one though, with a really nice vibe throughout and all sorts of fun and games to be had including being pregnant, living in LA, signs of the end as hipsters start arming up, making and working on Drifters, the soon-to-be hit game 'I Don't Spy', human kindness and the worst week of cinema going ever. Lovely stuff! Enjoy - you shall! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Video and extra audio available on Brett's Patreon! IMDB INSTAGRAM ONLINE AVOIDANCE DRIFTERS PERFECT DAY podcast –––––––––– ⁠⁠BRETT • X⁠⁠ ⁠⁠BRETT • INSTAGRAM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠THE SECOND BEST NIGHT OF YOUR LIFE⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TED LASSO⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SHRINKING⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ALL OF YOU⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SOULMATES⁠⁠ ⁠⁠SUPERBOB (Brett's 2015 feature film) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You ever watch a couple and feel your gut whisper, “Something's not right here”… but you can't quite explain why? Homie, THIS is the episode that finally gives language to what your intuition already knows. Former CIA spy Andrew Bustamante is back, and together we break down the viral Lily Allen & David Harbour house-tour video — frame by frame — to reveal the micro-expressions, distancing behaviors, passive-aggression, and emotional patterns that almost no one catches on the first watch. This isn't gossip. This is about giving YOU the tools to spot manipulation, insecurity, emotional withdrawal, and mismatch long before it ruins your confidence, drains your energy, or makes you dim your damn light. Andrew exposes the real signals of discomfort, resentment, performative affection, sensory-driven conflict, and how small “jokes” can reveal massive cracks in a relationship. We go deep, from abandonment cues, to validation bids, to open-relationship dynamics, to the heartbreaking red carpet moments you absolutely must pay attention to. If you've ever ignored your gut… If you've ever questioned whether you're “overreacting”… If you've ever felt unseen or minimized by a partner… This episode is your permission slip to trust what you see. SHOWNOTES “Everything Looks Fine… But It Isn't” — The First Red Flags in the House Tour  Abandonment Jokes, Closed-Off Posture & the Cracks Beneath the Performance  Patterns vs. “It's Just a Joke”: When Behavior Stops Being Cute  No Touch, No Warmth: Andrew's Early Prediction About the Marriage  The “Couple Activities” Comment & the Micro-Expression That Says Everything  The Lyrics Reveal the Truth: Why She Never Wanted the House  The Red-Carpet Moment That Exposed Competition, Not Partnership  How Strong Women Get Broken Down: The Slow Burn of Manipulation Millie Bobby Brown's Interview: Eye Movements, Avoidance & What She Didn't Say Thank you to our sponsors:  Macy's: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Discounts at https://trueclassic.com/WOI Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa   Microperfumes: 60% Off at https://microperfumes.com/woi Follow Andrew Bustamante: Want to learn more from Andrew? Find your Spy Superpower: https://yt.everydayspy.com/4po5Mul  Read Andrew's CIA book ‘Shadow Cell': https://geni.us/ShadowCellBook    Follow Andy on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Andrew-Bustamante  Explore Spy School: https://everydayspy.com/   Support Andy's sponsor Axolt Brain: https://axoltbrain.com/andy  Listen to the podcast: https://youtube.com/@EverydaySpyPodcast  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're making $15–20K and want to scale to a million, this will hit you in the face in the best way. And if you've been blaming mentors for your bank account… buckle up.When you're ready to stop leaking capacity and start building actual income-producing skills... ➡️ https://linktr.ee/caseyshipp_ Support the showHosted by Casey Shipp — 3000+ transformations, Self-Made Millionaire, High Priestess, Writer, Fitness Cover Model, and Founder of the Hotbody App. ✨ Ready to stop spinning your wheels and finally step into the body, energy, and lifestyle you deserve? [CLICK THE LINK HERE]

We all bump into the blurry line between regulating and avoiding. In this episode, Amanda unpacks the difference between soothing your nervous system and emotionally bypassing—using a real client story to show how even “healthy” tools can become numbing when the intention and impact are off. Learn how to choose between regulation and resourcing, and try a simple check-in to turn coping back into connection.In this episode, you'll learn:The clear definitions of regulation (state-shifting) vs avoidance/numbing (state-escaping)Why the same behavior (TV, scrolling, exercise, breathwork) can heal or hide depending on intention & impactThe difference between regulating and resourcing—and when each is appropriateHow “pop healing” can unintentionally promote bypassing (and what to do instead)A quick two-question experiment to notice whether you're shifting away from or expanding capacity for what you feel3 Takeaways:The same behavior can heal or hide, intention & impact are the tells. Regulation restores presence and energy; avoidance suppresses and disconnects. Ask: Does this make me more present or less present?We need both regulating and resourcing tools. Use regulation when a state feels too big or inaccurate to the moment; use resourcing to expand your ability to be with what's here safely.Awareness is the work. Before you reach for a tool, pause: What am I feeling? What's my intention? That tiny check-in turns numbing into nourishment and coping into true regulation.—Looking for more personalized support?Book a FREE discovery call for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)Join me inside Regulated Living, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available)Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcastEmail: amanda@regulatedliving.comInstagram: @amandaontheriseTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

In this episode, I'm diving into something every leader experiences at some point: avoidance. Specifically, the hidden cost of avoiding the conversations you know you need to have. As we head into performance and review season, clarity, transparency, and alignment matter more than ever—and yet this is also the time when avoiding tough conversations sneaks in the most. Avoidance is human. But as leaders, we're called to step toward the conversations our instincts want to step away from. I share why avoidance makes things worse, the impact it has on trust, performance, and team culture, and how you can approach these conversations with grounded clarity and confidence. This is leadership magic at work—human, honest, and deeply connected. Enjoy! Angie Robinson Links + Ways to Connect: Show Notes: Episode 203 Show Notes Learn about ELEVATE: Leadership Growth Experience [group coaching] Subscribe to my newsletter! Angie Robinson Coaching Website Schedule a free Discovery Call   Angie Robinson LinkedIn Angie Robinson Coaching Instagram Angie Robinson Coaching Facebook 

"Creating safe spaces for people to talk about money is one of the most powerful things we can do right now to make the world better for change." -Meg Wheeler Our hosts Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines sit down with Meg Wheeler, CPA and founder of the Equitable Money Project, who's on a mission to demolish the shame surrounding money conversations through accessible financial education. Her approach shows us that the path to financial confidence isn't about becoming an expert. It's about learning to simply talk about money without judgment. "Why should we know this when we've never been taught it in school?" Meg challenges the pervasive shame many people feel about their financial knowledge gaps. After all, we don't feel ashamed about not knowing brain surgery or environmental science because we were never taught those subjects either! The real problem isn't lack of knowledge, but the absence of safe spaces to discuss money openly. Meg's work centers on creating a community where people can share their financial stories without fear. She emphasizes that most people's situations aren't unique. Whether it's medical debt from our broken healthcare system or struggling with inconsistent business income, the factors contributing to financial challenges are systemic rather than personal failures. She suggests going for incremental progress rather than perfection. "Every quarter we want you to pick just one thing within one of those buckets to focus on," she explains, referring to her three-pillar framework: set up foundations, stabilize, and grow. This approach makes wealth-building feel achievable rather than overwhelming. Perhaps most powerfully, Meg advocates for teaching children about money early. Her eight-year-old has a debit card and checks his bank balance before purchases. Not because he's learning to become a financial professional, but because money should not be feared but normalized. Financial empowerment begins not with expertise, but with conversation, community, and compassion toward ourselves and others navigating the same challenges.   Key Topics ●      Meg's Path to Financial Education (02:26) ●      The Problem with "Financial Literacy" (04:28) ●      Why We Feel Shame About Money (05:21) ●      Information vs. Quality Education (05:56) ●      Creating Safe Spaces for Money Talk (14:07) ●      Teaching Kids About Money (16:13) ●      Learning the Language of Money (17:43) ●      The Three Pillars of Wealth Building (25:51) ●      Overcoming Emergency Fund Shame (26:54) ●      Business Owner Tips and Avoidance (33:00)   Resources: Equitable Money Project website   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

If you've ever signed up for a huge race, joined a new mastermind, or taken on a massive work project right when you said you were finally going all-in on your golf game or business… this episode is going to sting a little—in the best way. In this solo conversation, I pull back the curtain on how I caught myself red-handed sabotaging my own journey to scratch by committing to a 75-mile race. On the surface, it looked disciplined, inspiring, and productive. Underneath, it was something else entirely: a socially acceptable way to avoid the emotional discomfort of fully committing to the goal that matters most to me. I call this pattern noble avoidance—and if you're a high-achieving golfer or entrepreneur, there's a very good chance it's running the show in your life too. In this episode, you'll learn: What "noble avoidance" is and how it quietly sabotages your biggest goals Why hard, impressive challenges can actually feel safer than your true dream How fear of failure, fear of success, and fear of being seen trying feed noble avoidance The subtle ways noble avoidance shows up in golf, business, fitness, and relationships 10 real-world examples so you can spot it in your own calendar and commitments Five candid reflection questions to expose where you're hiding behind "good" excuses Why "less is more" and "be boring" are the real superpowers behind scratch-level success Get your pencils ready and start listening.  P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.  Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist  Key Takeaways: Noble avoidance is choosing a worthy, productive, or impressive pursuit to avoid the deeper emotional work required for the goal you truly want. A goal like running 75 miles is brutally hard physically, but it can be emotionally safer than going all-in on becoming a scratch golfer. Fear of failure, fear of success, and fear of being seen truly trying are core drivers behind noble avoidance. Your subconscious is addicted to safety, familiarity, and predictability—and will recreate old patterns, even painful ones, to stay "safe." Noble avoidance often looks like rebranding, building systems, learning more, or "helping everyone else" instead of doing the uncomfortable, needle-moving work. Looking at your calendar is one of the most honest ways to see what you're truly committed to versus what you just claim to care about. Long-term success comes from doing fewer things, better—embracing boring, consistent reps instead of chasing exciting side quests. Key Quotes: "Noble avoidance is the subconscious strategy of choosing a worthy pursuit to avoid the deeper emotional discomfort of your true goal." "Underneath noble avoidance is self-protection disguised as self-improvement." "It's ambition used as armor and momentum pointed in the wrong direction." "Running 75 miles isn't easier physically—it's easier emotionally." "If I give everything and still fall short, I'm out of excuses—and that's terrifying." "Noble avoidance is still avoidance. Until you name it, you continue to serve it." "Success is built on the same boring principles executed relentlessly over and over and over." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Journey to Scratch Golf 05:43: The Commitment Dilemma 11:15: Understanding Noble Avoidance 16:18: Confronting Fears and Identity 21:37: Taking Action and Moving Forward

In today's episode, Warren Ingram and Pieter de Villiers, discuss the complexities of estate duty and the financial strategies individuals can adopt to manage their wealth effectively. They speak to the importance of making informed financial decisions rather than resorting to costly products that may limit growth. The discussion highlights the value of investing wisely to ensure a prosperous retirement and the implications of estate duty on one's financial legacy.TakeawaysDon't do dumb things to avoid a state duty.Avoid expensive insurance products that limit growth.Investing wisely is better than avoiding estate duty.A prosperous retirement is more valuable than minimizing taxes.Estate duty should not dictate financial decisions.Focus on long-term investment growth.Wealth management is about making informed choices.Life quality matters more than tax savings.Consider the total value of assets at death.Financial freedom comes from smart investments.Learn more about Prescient Investment Management here.Send us a textHave a question for Warren? Don't forget to voice note your questions through our WhatsApp chat on (+27)79 807 8162 and you could be featured in one of our episodes. Follow us on Twitter, LinkedIn and subscribe to our YouTube channel for more Financial Freedom content: @HonestMoneyPod

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The death of 18-year-old Anna Kepner is not just another tragic case — it's a collision of panic, secrecy, and a blended family imploding in real time. Found hidden under a bed on a cruise ship, wrapped and concealed, Anna's final moments are surrounded by unanswered questions and emotionally charged reactions from nearly every member of her family. Tonight on Hidden Killers, I sit down with retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke to cut through the noise and focus on the behavioral reality inside that small cabin. Because cases like this aren't just about evidence — they're about human choices under pressure. We look at the concealment: Why was Anna hidden? What does that typically signal in juvenile behavior? Where is the line between immaturity-driven panic and intentional wrongdoing? We examine the claim from the grandmother that the 16-year-old “doesn't remember what happened.” Is that trauma? Dissociation? Avoidance? Or something investigators hear when the truth is too overwhelming to say out loud? We explore what happens when adults make catastrophic decisions — like placing teenagers with known tension in the same sleeping quarters — and how that shapes what happens next. And then there's the public chaos: the stepmother pleading the Fifth, the biological mother spiraling on social media, relatives accusing each other, all while a teen girl is gone. Robin breaks down how investigators filter useful behavior from emotional theater and why public performance can sometimes be a clue in itself. This is the interview that strips away the speculation and digs into the actual human behavior behind the headlines. If you want clarity instead of noise, depth instead of rumor — you're in the right place. #HiddenKillers #AnnaKepnerCase #CruiseShipInvestigation #RobinDreeke #BehaviorAnalysis #TrueCrimeBreakdown #CrimePsychology #FBIExpert #JuvenileInvestigation #FamilyChaos Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

The death of 18-year-old Anna Kepner is not just another tragic case — it's a collision of panic, secrecy, and a blended family imploding in real time. Found hidden under a bed on a cruise ship, wrapped and concealed, Anna's final moments are surrounded by unanswered questions and emotionally charged reactions from nearly every member of her family. Tonight on Hidden Killers, I sit down with retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke to cut through the noise and focus on the behavioral reality inside that small cabin. Because cases like this aren't just about evidence — they're about human choices under pressure. We look at the concealment: Why was Anna hidden? What does that typically signal in juvenile behavior? Where is the line between immaturity-driven panic and intentional wrongdoing? We examine the claim from the grandmother that the 16-year-old “doesn't remember what happened.” Is that trauma? Dissociation? Avoidance? Or something investigators hear when the truth is too overwhelming to say out loud? We explore what happens when adults make catastrophic decisions — like placing teenagers with known tension in the same sleeping quarters — and how that shapes what happens next. And then there's the public chaos: the stepmother pleading the Fifth, the biological mother spiraling on social media, relatives accusing each other, all while a teen girl is gone. Robin breaks down how investigators filter useful behavior from emotional theater and why public performance can sometimes be a clue in itself. This is the interview that strips away the speculation and digs into the actual human behavior behind the headlines. If you want clarity instead of noise, depth instead of rumor — you're in the right place. #HiddenKillers #AnnaKepnerCase #CruiseShipInvestigation #RobinDreeke #BehaviorAnalysis #TrueCrimeBreakdown #CrimePsychology #FBIExpert #JuvenileInvestigation #FamilyChaos Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

In this Thanksgiving episode, we're settling in together—just like we would the night before a big holiday—to talk about the messy, heartfelt, complicated world of family dynamics. Even though both of us are having quieter Thanksgivings this year, we're deep in our own real-life family seasons, and this conversation comes straight from the thick of it. We explore why the holidays stir up so much, why cut-offs have become so common, and how we can show up for ourselves without losing connection to the people we care about.We also dive into emotional tolerance, boundaries that actually work in real life, and the surprising ways expectations shape our holiday experience. If you've ever found yourself caretaking, peace-keeping, bracing for a “difficult someone,” or wondering how to handle the big personalities at the table—this episode will meet you right where you are. Episode Highlights: [0:03] – Opening the Thanksgiving conversation and why this episode feels especially timely [1:16] – How our own holiday plans are shaping the way we're thinking about family this year [2:49] – The pressure to perform during the holidays and why “doing less” may feel better [3:31] – Colette's recent family gatherings and the emotional residue they stirred up [4:17] – Real stories from reunions and why so many adults are dealing with family cut-offs [5:34] – How cut-offs impact entire family systems and why they rarely bring relief [7:21] – Understanding emotional bandwidth and the “dial” approach to relationships [9:46] – Avoidance, repair, and why making the first move feels so vulnerable [11:46] – When someone can't meet you emotionally—and how to interpret that [14:51] – The painful power dynamics created by the least emotionally developed family member [16:29] – Caring for everyone but yourself: preparing meals, hosting, and old relational wounds [17:22] – The essential role of expectations and how they can make or break a holiday [18:46] – Triangulation, family cliques, and protecting your emotional space [20:00] – Setting boundaries without being pulled into old patterns [21:58] – Self-care strategies when staying with—or hosting—challenging family members [23:20] – The nuance of “don't abandon yourself” and holding two truths at once [25:56] – Choosing what's worth addressing—and what you can let go for your own peace [28:09] – Why cut-offs are increasing and the need for a deeper cultural conversation [29:45] – Setting limits, protecting yourself, and managing difficult personalities [30:55] – Releasing holiday perfectionism and letting the day be what it is [33:14] – The power of intention-setting and micro-gratitudes to shape your mindset [34:23] – How to sooPre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

The death of 18-year-old Anna Kepner is not just another tragic case — it's a collision of panic, secrecy, and a blended family imploding in real time. Found hidden under a bed on a cruise ship, wrapped and concealed, Anna's final moments are surrounded by unanswered questions and emotionally charged reactions from nearly every member of her family. Tonight on Hidden Killers, I sit down with retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke to cut through the noise and focus on the behavioral reality inside that small cabin. Because cases like this aren't just about evidence — they're about human choices under pressure. We look at the concealment: Why was Anna hidden? What does that typically signal in juvenile behavior? Where is the line between immaturity-driven panic and intentional wrongdoing? We examine the claim from the grandmother that the 16-year-old “doesn't remember what happened.” Is that trauma? Dissociation? Avoidance? Or something investigators hear when the truth is too overwhelming to say out loud? We explore what happens when adults make catastrophic decisions — like placing teenagers with known tension in the same sleeping quarters — and how that shapes what happens next. And then there's the public chaos: the stepmother pleading the Fifth, the biological mother spiraling on social media, relatives accusing each other, all while a teen girl is gone. Robin breaks down how investigators filter useful behavior from emotional theater and why public performance can sometimes be a clue in itself. This is the interview that strips away the speculation and digs into the actual human behavior behind the headlines. If you want clarity instead of noise, depth instead of rumor — you're in the right place. #HiddenKillers #AnnaKepnerCase #CruiseShipInvestigation #RobinDreeke #BehaviorAnalysis #TrueCrimeBreakdown #CrimePsychology #FBIExpert #JuvenileInvestigation #FamilyChaos Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

In this episode, Cat shares the distinction between productive business actions and avoidance tactics -- when you are doing work to avoid the work needed to grow your business. We talk through how to know what to work on in your business and what not to work on.  Register to Middle Finger Marketing: Build an Unapologetic Personal Brand that actually Sells: https://catdelcarmen.com/middle-finger-marketing  

What if you've been avoiding more than just difficult emotions? In this episode, I share my own journey of expanding my emotional range, from numbing anxiety and flatlining through life to truly feeling the full spectrum of joy, grief, love, and connection. We explore how our relationship with feelings affects our relationships with others and our connection to our true self and innate resources, keeping us stuck in life. Learn how to embrace your emotions without fear or judgment, reconnect with your soul, deepen your wellbeing, and allow life to flow more freely.

This essay explores how perfectionist and obsessive-compulsive personalities construct “fortresses” to avoid humiliation, embarrassment, and shame. Through vivid stories and cultural examples—from Steve Jobs to Michael Jackson—it identifies four compulsive types (Boss, Workaholic, People-Pleaser, and Obsessor) and shows how their strategies both protect and imprison them.

What if the real reason you reach for a drink has nothing to do with wine at all. What if it is your brain trying to dodge a tiny moment of discomfort. The mental buzz. The restlessness. The feeling of wanting out. Discomfort avoidance is clever and quiet and it can shape your whole evening without you noticing.Tune in to discover why the real freedom comes from doing the opposite. When you learn how to feel the discomfort you usually escape, everything shifts. Urges lose their power and you feel more capable and more in control. This is the kind of accomplishment that builds confidence and turns drinking into a choice rather than a need.Book a free discovery call and let's explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consultLink to the Holiday Freedom Bundle: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/hfb-buy

You're not avoiding the scale. You're not avoiding the bank statement. You're not avoiding the hard conversation or the overflowing inbox. You're avoiding how you think you'll feel when you see it. But here's the truth: You already feel that way. You already feel heavy. You already feel ashamed. You already feel anxious and behind and overwhelmed. Avoidance doesn't protect you — it prolongs your suffering. It doesn't delay the pain — it drains you slowly while convincing you that you're safe. In this episode, we're unpacking: Why avoidance feels like safety but functions like a trap What you're really running from (hint: it's not the number) Why facing it now is easier than carrying it another day And how to start moving forward — even if you're scared This is the wake-up call for anyone avoiding the thing they know they need to face. The number. The truth. The next step. If you're ready to stop circling the truth and start standing in it — this one's for you.

Sometimes “extending grace” may mean you're about to get into conflict with someone. Though you should never look for a fight, you should also not be looking for ways to avoid redemptive moments when it is within your competency and context to help someone who is struggling. Avoidance, masked as peacekeeping, is not peacemaking. Love speaks the truth—graciously, patiently, redemptively—but it speaks (Ephesians 4:15). Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/hiding-behind-grace-to-avoid-the-hard-things/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

If you've been grinding on the range, stacking lessons, upgrading systems, hiring coaches, and still feel painfully stuck below your potential, this episode is your wake-up call. You cannot out-practice, out-hustle, or out-strategize the destructive patterns running your life beneath the surface. As long as you keep outsourcing your growth to new swing tips, training aids, business tactics, or mindset hacks, you'll keep slamming into the same ceilings in golf, business, and at home. In this episode, you'll learn: Why your "I'm doing all the right things" approach still isn't moving the needle The real meaning of "doing the work" (and how it's different from staying busy) How destructive mindset programs quietly sabotage your golf, income, and relationships Why your deepest fear isn't failure, but how powerful you actually are How avoidance, numbing, and distraction keep you stuck on the hamster wheel Simple but confronting reflection questions to expose your destructive patterns Why deep subconscious work and hypnosis are the fastest path to lasting change Get your pencils ready and start listening.  P.S. Read the article I referenced here (Your Triggers Are Your Teachers). P.P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.  Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist  Key Takeaways: You can't out-practice or out-hustle destructive subconscious patterns. "Doing the work" means radical honesty, ownership, and looking inward—not more tips and tools. Your deepest fear isn't inadequacy; it's realizing you're powerful beyond measure. Surface-level fixes feel productive, but they do nothing to change your identity. Avoidance, numbing, and overthinking are predictable patterns that keep you on the hamster wheel. Real transformation happens when you uncover and upgrade the beliefs driving your behaviors. Deep subconscious work—especially hypnosis—is the lever that rewires identity and unlocks your potential. Key Quotes: "You can't out-practice, out-hustle, or out-strategize the destructive patterns running your life beneath the surface." "No external shortcut or band-aid will ever fix an internal problem you're unwilling to own." "Your deepest fear is not that you are inadequate. Your deepest fear is that you are powerful beyond measure." "Surface-level work produces dopamine, but it does nothing to change your identity." "Your results are not a mystery—they're a mirror of the patterns you're running inside." "You don't need more discipline; you need belief-level upgrades and better emotional regulation." "Logic doesn't heal wounds. Willpower doesn't undo bad behaviors. Subconscious work does." Time Stamps: 00:00: Why your hard work still isn't translating into results 03:59: What "doing the work" actually requires 10:11: The real fear: realizing how powerful you are 17:43: How avoidance and numbing keep you stuck 26:32: Why surface fixes fail and beliefs must change

For this week's Kids Health Check, Ciara Doherty is joined by Aoife Lee, Parenting Coach at ParentSupport.ie, to discuss how you can deal with school avoidance, and your kids wanting a day off…

What if your sugar cravings, need to clean, urge to call a friend, or desire to put on a movie while working aren't just procrastination—but your nervous system desperately trying to help you avoid drowning in emotions that feel too intense to face? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie gets vulnerable about discovering a new level of chronic functional freeze in herself—sharing the exact moment she found herself staring at chocolate muffins on a grocery app, salivating, recognizing her body was scrambling to decrease the intensity of overwhelm. This episode reveals something critical about stored trauma: what looks like busyness or distraction is actually your biology's attempt to create distance when stress feels bigger than your capacity. And recognizing these patterns is the first step to having choice instead of falling into them unconsciously. In this episode you'll hear more about: The capacity equation: Why overwhelm and freeze kick in when the stress you're experiencing feels so much bigger than your current capacity—it's not a choice, it's your body going into protection mode to keep you from drowning The chocolate muffin moment: Dr. Aimie's raw account of craving chocolate muffins while on a carnivore diet, recognizing her nervous system was reaching for sugar to numb panic—and the biology of why sugar and gluten bind opiate receptors just like Vicodin to decrease emotional pain The pattern of disconnection: How chronic functional freeze shows up as avoidance of emotions through creating distance—sugar cravings first, then calling friends to focus on them instead of you, then cleaning and organizing anything to avoid sitting still with the stress Why high performers miss their freeze: How being productive and getting stuff done can mask storage trauma in your body—you look fine to everyone else while struggling internally with focus, efficiency, and feeling stuck trying to push through The distraction cascade: What happens when your nervous system can't get the chocolate muffins—it moves through the list: call a friend (focus on their needs), clean something (create busy work), put on a movie (split your attention), go to bed early (escape it all) The biology of avoidance behaviors: Understanding that reaching for distractions isn't weakness or poor discipline—it's your nervous system literally scrambling for anything that will decrease intensity so you don't feel like you're drowning in your inner emotions Why it looks healthy but isn't: How going to bed early, cleaning, and helping friends can appear like self-care and productivity when they're actually signs of freeze response—trying to run away and create distance from what feels too big From no choice to real choice: How recognizing these patterns as messages from your body creates space for different decisions—before awareness, you were falling into chocolate muffins and distractions; after awareness, you can see what your body really needs (to know you're going to be okay) The growth edge opportunity: Why being at your edge in overwhelm isn't doom and gloom—it's actually your opportunity to expand capacity so you can hold more stress without going into freeze, transforming your relationship with the freeze response entirely The patterns of pain and protection: Where to find the full framework in Chapter 9 of The Biology of Trauma, including disconnection, perfectionism, push-through philosophy, chronic fatigue, and autoimmunity as predictable patterns of stored trauma Your busyness isn't always about being busy. Sometimes it's your nervous system trying to save you from drowning. But here's the truth: when you can recognize the chocolate muffin craving, the urge to clean, the need to focus on someone else, or the desire to split your attention with a movie as messages from your body—not failures or weaknesses—you gain choice. You can ask, "What do I really need right now? What is my body trying to tell me?" That recognition is powerful. That's what transforms freeze from something that controls you into something you move through, knowing you'll be okay and that this edge is actually your growth edge.

Book a Discovery Call for Relationship Renovation CoachingOr email us directly at coaching@relationshiprenovation.com with the subject line “Couples Coaching Application.” Order Relationship Renovation at Home Manual from AmazonJoin Our Patreon CommunityTake the Emotional Safety Assessment QuizHosts EJ Kerwin and Tarah Kerwin sit down for one of their most raw and honest conversations yet. Facing a significant financial crisis, they pull back the curtain on the uncomfortable truths, emotional triggers, and deep lessons that emerged from their recent struggles. Listeners are invited to witness how avoidance and lack of transparency can spiral into conflict, resentment, and feelings of abandonment—but also how healing and growth become possible when partners take accountability and dare to face even the hardest truths together.Whether you're navigating your own relationship challenges or simply craving an authentic look at how couples survive and thrive through tough times, this episode offers invaluable insights. EJ Kerwin and Tarah Kerwin share personal stories, model real-time communication with practical tools, and demonstrate that hope and connection can emerge from crisis. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, avoided a conversation, or worried if your partnership could withstand hardship—this episode will motivate you to lean in, dig deeper, and learn that the path to resilience is paved with courage and honesty. Listen now and renovate your relationship from the inside out!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

The cost of avoiding confrontation is about to become greater than the cost of having it.

In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend James “Fish” Gill for a listener Q&A all about conflict, communication, and staying connected through hard moments.We explore some big questions, including:How to release resentment when a conflict is “resolved” but the emotional residue is still sitting in your bodyWhat real repair actually looks like, and why some apologies land while others don'tWhen a relationship swings from explosive conflict to total conflict avoidance — and how to find a healthier middle groundHow to navigate dating when kids are involved, especially when parenting differences trigger deeper fears, jealousy, or old woundsFish and I unpack the relational dynamics underneath these questions and offer compassionate, practical guidance for moving through it with more clarity, honesty, and connection.If you're wanting to deepen your communication, repair more effectively, and understand yourself and your partner in moments of tension, this conversation will be a supportive place to land.

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What if the parts of you you've been quieting are actually the keys to your next chapter? In today's episode of The Healing + Human Potential Podcast, we're exploring what happens when your soul starts nudging you toward a truer, more authentic version of yourself – even when the world expects you to stay the same. If you've ever felt the tension between who you used to be and who you're becoming, this conversation will give you the tools and the courage to take your next step. We dive into the subconscious blocks that keep you repeating old patterns, how to recognize when a cycle has expired, and what it really takes to break generational conditioning so you can live a life that feels aligned, creative, and true. You'll learn how to reparent the parts of you that were never modeled self-trust, how to turn rock bottom moments into initiations, and how to actually listen to the wisdom inside your body so you can move toward the life you're meant to create. Joining us is Olivia Amitrano – whose work bridges music, wellness, and storytelling – and whose journey will remind you that you're allowed to evolve, to shift paths, to let go of old identities, and to become someone both old and brand new. Episode Chapters:  0:00 · Trailer + Intro 1:20 · Feeling the Call to Evolve 2:00 · Olivia's Butterfly Effect Story 3:22 · From Music to Chronic Illness 4:10 · When Western Medicine Isn't Enough 5:00 · Discovering Chinese Medicine 5:40 · Building an Herbal Wellness Brand 6:20 · The Soul Nudge Back to Music 7:20 · Honoring Creative Identity Shifts 8:15 · Inner Child Work & Parts Integration 9:43 · Procrastination as Inner Wisdom 11:21 · Turning Rock Bottom Into Initiation 12:39 · How Meaning-Making Creates Momentum 14:44 · Radical Acceptance (vs. Avoidance) 16:58 · Sponsor: Institute for Coaching Mastery 19:13 · Breaking Family + Generational Cycles 21:32 · Seeing Our Parents Through New Eyes 23:45 · The Moment Forgiveness Landed 25:46 · Why Anger Is Part of Healing 26:36 · Tracking Patterns in Your Lineage 28:45 · The Power of Knowing Their Stories 30:05 · Reparenting Yourself in Practice 31:55 · Dopamine, Discipline & Hard Things 34:03 · Small Promises & Self-Trust 35:32 · Reparenting Through Food & Pleasure 37:30 · Alyssa's Emotional Eating Process 38:46 · How Inner Work Heals the Body 40:33 · Hearing Your True Inner Voice 42:18 · Regulating the Nervous System 44:11 · Creativity, Expression & Being in Your Body 46:10 · Where to Begin With Self-Connection 48:14 · Breakfast & Self-Respect (The First Shift) 49:19 · Shedding Old Identities 52:17 · Outgrowing Who You Were 53:02 · Loving the Performer Part 55:06 · Accepting All Parts of You 56:40 · Inner Child + Manager Dialogue 59:08 · Letting Your Parts Collaborate 59:50 · Following the Call (Even When Scared) 1:01:35 · Choices Our Ancestors Never Had 1:02:49 · Closing & Staying Connected === Have you watched our episode with Dr. Martha Beck on How To Use Your Pain To Awaken? Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gjK95rzGY60 ====   

Avoiding hard things doesn't make life easier… it actually makes it 4x harder.In this episode of the One Second of Strength Podcast, Tanner breaks down the hidden cost of avoidance and how it quietly steals confidence, creates negative story loops, and shapes your identity in ways you don't even notice.There is hope though and it starts with five simple questions that help you face the thing you've been running from. These questions will help you get honest, take control, and use your One Second of Strength to rewrite the negative thoughts in your mind.Whether you're a teen, a parent, or anyone who's stuck avoiding something hard… this episode will give you the mindset shift you need to take action today.Invite Tanner to Speak: WWW.OneSecondofSAvoiding hard things doesn't make life easier… it actually makes it 4x harder.In this episode of the One Second of Strength Podcast, Tanner breaks down the hidden cost of avoidance and how it quietly steals confidence, creates negative story loops, and shapes your identity in ways you don't even notice.There is hope though and it starts with five simple questions that help you face the thing you've been running from. These questions will help you get honest, take control, and use your One Second of Strength to rewrite the negative thoughts in your mind.Whether you're a teen, a parent, or anyone who's stuck avoiding something hard… this episode will give you the mindset shift you need to take action today.Book Wait list: https://tannerclark.kartra.com/page/onesecondbookInvite Tanner to Speak: WWW.OneSecondofStrength.com/SpeakingSUBSCRIBE: Follow the show so you never miss an episodeRATE: Give the show a 5 Star rating!SHARE: Who do you know that needs this episode?

A kiwi avoidance programme for dogs now has more trainers than ever, as demand rises ahead of summer. 

Dealing with outsiders - ACIM text Intro SummaryThe text frames forgiveness as the essential condition that allows prayer to rise. Prayer is timeless; forgiveness is temporary because it exists only as long as judgment exists. Judgment is the act of assigning meaning, dividing people into categories, and assuming one knows what things “mean.” Forgiveness is the release of these interpretations. When interpretations fall away, perception changes, and the present moment becomes workable. If one dislikes a person, situation, or oneself, the “problem” is usually the judgment attached to it, not the thing itself.Forgiveness ends when the belief in being a separate self ends—when identity is no longer the body or the stream of personal thoughts. In that state, everything is experienced as connected, already fulfilled, and harmless. Life becomes more like watching a play with Jesus rather than being trapped in it.Examples illustrate this.• Leila misinterpreted her child's social situation and built elaborate stories about rejection; once she asked directly, the situation dissolved and the judgment was revealed as fiction.• Jevon described feeling rejected at a conference, noticing how his own conflicting desires—wanting inclusion and wanting to escape—created inner turmoil.The text warns that forgiveness is often misunderstood. Many use it as a weapon, implying superiority or reinforcing guilt (“I forgive you, but you were wrong”). This is “forgiveness to destroy,” which keeps sin alive, enlarges error, and treats love as dangerous. Real forgiveness does the opposite: it sees sameness, not hierarchy.Guilt is discussed as the root of suffering. The primary guilt is the belief in separation from God, which generates the special, separate self. That guilt is projected outward, causing constant searching for fault. The ego promises fulfillment in separateness but delivers contradiction: wanting acceptance while wanting uniqueness; wanting children strong but wanting them shielded from hardship; wanting love but withholding openness. The ego's motto is “seek but do not find.”To undo guilt, one releases seriousness. Seriousness presumes that death is real, danger is real, and enemies exist. When seriousness dissolves, the need for an enemy dissolves. Attack—toward strangers, loved ones, or oneself—comes from believing danger is real and separation is real. If there is no “other,” there is no one to defend against.One discussion showed this dynamic:• kristen projected financial fear onto China and reacted with anger. Jevon pointed out the underlying fear—being asked for money and feeling trapped between giving and resenting or refusing and feeling guilty. The shift comes from reframing the ask as trust rather than burden.• Soo asked about “other” versus “enemy.” Jevon noted that an enemy begins as an “other,” and the world expands or contracts based on who is included in one's sense of oneness.• Conversations about belonging versus uniqueness showed that the conflict is not solved by choosing one side but by recognizing that both desires arise from the mistaken identity as a separate self.Several interpersonal examples explored how to respond to overwhelming or difficult people.• Leila struggled with a talkative acquaintance. Jevon suggested either the gentle advisory approach (“In my life I've found…”) or the direct but open-hearted approach (“Have you noticed that…?”). The point is authenticity, not accusation. Avoidance appears kind but is usually self-protection dressed as politeness. Real kindness is truthful, curious, and anchored in goodwill.• Healthy communication requires noticing one's own judgments and speaking from clarity rather than irritation. Accusatory statements trigger defense; open statements invite reflection. Space in conversation corresponds to space in the person's inner life; when someone barrels ahead without pause, they are often afraid of what others might say.Leila later reported success using direct honesty with another friend, which deepened connection. This reinforced the idea that oneness appears when false stories and hidden resentments are cleared.The closing idea: forgiveness is always self-forgiveness. One never truly forgives “another,” because what is seen in others is one's own projected guilt. Prayer is a vibrational state—gratitude without judgment. Forgiveness restores this state by releasing the belief in separation and the need for an enemy. When that belief drops, the world becomes harmless, unified, and safe, and one realizes that one has never been alone.#acim #forgiveness

In this solo episode, Hannah talks through strategies for becoming courageous in your sex life and working through common fears that come up related to intimacy. Click here to learn more about The Intimacy Accelerator: https://hannah-deindorfer.mykajabi.com/90-day-intimacy-accelerator

Send us a textOn this episode of The Get Ready Money Podcast, I spoke with Katherine Pomerantz, Rhianna Basore, and Joe Saul-Sehy about how the principles of improv can help us become better listeners, more engaged communicators, and more confident decision-makers—especially in uncertain or emotionally charged financial situations.

We're revisiting a classic — and for longtime listeners, a foundational topic: the Tolerations List. These are the small, nagging things we put up with every day — the crooked picture, the squeaky door, the wrong clock time — that quietly drain our focus and energy. Pete and Nikki first talked about tolerations all the way back in episode 106, and a decade later, they're still finding new lessons in this deceptively simple coaching exercise.In this episode, they explore how tolerations evolve over time and how ADHD brains are especially vulnerable to letting them pile up. Nikki brings fresh perspective from her early coaching school days, where the idea originated as a way to identify and release mental clutter. They dive into how tolerations become invisible over time — from broken stove knobs and unpainted bathrooms to window coverings that never got ordered. Together they unpack the emotional undercurrent of these seemingly minor annoyances: why we live with them, how we rationalize them, and what it means to decide which ones are worth fixing versus simply accepting.They also revisit one of their most endearing long-running debates: is it a toleration or a project? From broken dishwashers to cluttered garages, they draw the line between avoidance, acceptance, and intentional deferral. And, in true ADHD fashion, they discuss how everything feels urgent — until you realize that not everything is.By the end, Pete and Nikki offer a practical guide to managing tolerations using the GPS Planning color system: identifying red (urgent), green (important), and blue (non-urgent) tasks, and intentionally tackling the ones that genuinely lighten your cognitive load. You'll learn how to make the invisible visible, how to reclaim small pockets of energy, and how to let go — compassionately — of the things that no longer deserve your bandwidth.Links & NotesSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:23) - Support the Show on Patreon! (02:50) - Tolerations (21:53) - Tracking and Prioritizing Tolerations ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

What if the reason you keep saying "I'm fine" isn't about denial or stubbornness—but about your nervous system being programmed to avoid looking at problems because looking feels too dangerous? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie Apigian explores the powerful story Dr. Tom O'Bryan shared about Ray—a beloved janitor who said "I'm fine" for three years until the day he finally agreed to testing, pulled over on his way home, and died. This tragic story reveals something critical about trauma: avoidance isn't just psychological, it's a biological survival response. And it's creating a dangerous feedback loop where the very act of avoiding health problems generates more cellular damage through oxidative stress. This episode unpacks why trauma makes us afraid to look at our health, how this avoidance creates the exact biology that makes our problems worse, and most importantly—how to break free from the "I'm fine syndrome" through baby steps and biology repair. In this episode you'll hear more about: The "I'm fine syndrome": How Ray's story illustrates the deadly cost of health avoidance, and why so many people refuse testing even when symptoms are clear—it's not about money or time, it's about fear The first step of trauma: Understanding that avoidance is actually Step 1 of the body's instinctual trauma response (the startle), where blocking our threat assessment tells our body danger is real and escalates the survival response The oxidative damage cascade: Dr. Tom's powerful mousetrap analogy—976,000 mousetraps on a football field, one ping pong ball creating a cascade reaction of "pop, pop, pop"—exactly what's happening inside your cells when you avoid addressing health problems The avoidance-damage feedback loop: How saying "I'm fine" while avoiding health assessments creates more oxidative stress, which damages cells and DNA, which creates more danger signals, which makes you want to avoid even more—a vicious cycle driving disease development Why glyphosate matters for your future family: The shocking research showing 74% of men at fertility centers have glyphosate in their blood, with 300% higher levels in their semen, causing oxidative damage to sperm DNA that leads to 40% increased miscarriage rates and contributes to the autism epidemic (1 in 12 boys in California) The trauma-toxin connection: How stored trauma and toxic chemicals create the same biology—both generate oxidative stress that damages your mitochondria, immune system, and DNA, which is why trauma and toxins always go together as "sisters" or "best friends" Base hits win the ball game: Dr. Tom's strategy for men (and everyone) who feel overwhelmed—allocate one hour per week to learn about ONE health topic, make ONE change, and watch how baby steps transform your health in six months without trying to hit home runs The essential supplements for oxidative stress: What Dr. Tom takes when flying (GS packs with 22 nutrients) and what Dr. Aimie uses (vitamin C, NAC, and injectable NAD) to combat radiation exposure and cellular damage from travel and daily life The Total Tox Burden and Oxidative Stress Profile: The two tests everyone should know about to assess their cellular damage and toxic load before trying to start a family—and why being proactive prevents a lifetime of grief Why "I'm fine" is actually "I'm frozen": Understanding that health avoidance is your nervous system's way of protecting you from feeling powerless, but recognizing this pattern is the first step to building the courage to look and take action The three phases of safe detoxification: Why you must resource your body first, open drainage pathways second, and only then use active binders—jumping straight to celery juice or fasting can actually retraumatize your system The antioxidant repair toolkit: Starting with the fundamentals (vitamin C at 1,000mg, selenium at 200mcg, NAC at 2,000mg daily) plus lifestyle tools like red-light therapy, outdoor morning walks, colorful fruits and vegetables, and optimizing sleep in complete darkness The energy to leave toxic relationships: Why people can't leave toxic environments until they have the biological energy to do so—supporting the body's detoxification and energy production creates the capacity to clear out emotional toxins too 77% and 1 in 12: The devastating statistics that should wake us up—77% of military-age Americans are ineligible to serve due to obesity or cognitive decline, and 1 in 12 boys in California are diagnosed on the autism spectrum by age four, both driven by our toxic environment and the biology of trauma Your body isn't broken—it's trying to protect you from the pain of looking at what feels dangerous. But here's the truth: every moment you avoid looking at your health while saying "I'm fine," you're accumulating more oxidative damage. You're literally rusting from the inside. The good news? You don't have to take the whole mountain in one step. Baby steps—or as Dr. Tom says, base hits—win the ball game. Start with one hour a week. Start with basic antioxidant support. Start with getting curious instead of afraid. Your body has been waiting for you to look with compassion instead of fear.

Avoidance has long been the standard for managing food allergies. But new options, such as oral immunotherapy (OIT) and biologic medications like Xolair (omalizumab), are changing the landscape. With more choices available, many patients and parents are wondering how to start the conversation with their allergist and what questions to ask. Kortney and Dr. Payel Gupta talk with Dr. Shahzad Mustafa, a board-certified allergist and immunologist, about how patients can navigate today's food allergy treatments with confidence. Together, they explore what to consider before starting OIT or Xolair, how to set realistic expectations, and why strict avoidance is still the right choice for many families. What we cover about food allergy treatment options: Food Allergy Avoidance: Why it remains an effective and valid approach for many, and how to make it work in daily life, including the nuances that make every case unique. Oral Immunotherapy (OIT): What it involves, who it's best suited for, and what families should know about time, cost, and safety. Xolair (omalizumab): How this injection therapy works to reduce reactions from accidental exposures and what it doesn't do. Setting expectations: How to talk with your allergist about your goals, quality of life, and what “success” really looks like. More episodes about food allergies Ep. 129: Omalizumab for Multiple Food Allergies – The OUtMATCH Trial Ep. 98: Food Allergy Treatment and Management More resources about food allergies Food Allergy Treatment & Management ___ Made in partnership with The Allergy & Asthma Network. Thanks to Genentech for sponsoring today's episode.  This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider for any medical concerns.  

The modern cult of “holding space” has become a sanctuary for avoidance. We glorify tolerance while privately hemorrhaging self-respect. The phrase once meant presence; now it often means paralysis. Hold Dis L detonates the myth that unconditional compassion justifies self-erasure. Krishnamurti warned that conformity masquerades as kindness; Hawkins proved that guilt vibrates lower than anger. Together they whisper: love without discernment isn't love—it's spiritual codependency with better vocabulary.

Recently, a new version of the Sequential Organ Failure Assessment (SOFA) score was introduced.Known as SOFA-2, this new definition aligns with organ dysfunction measurement in critically ill adults with current clinical practices, especially those diagnosed with sepsis.Published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) on Oct. 29 and available at  https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2840822, this revised tool updates the original 1996 SOFA score, which had remained unchanged despite evolving treatment modalities and technologies. During the next live edition of Monitor Mondays, Dr. James S. Kennedy will discuss this SOFA-2 revision and its expected impact on clinical validation for sepsis – defined by Sepsis-3 as a life-threatening organ dysfunction caused by a dysregulated host response to infection – and how facility clinical workflows can negotiate denial avoidance with payers with this challenging diagnosis.The weekly broadcast will also include these instantly recognizable features:Monday Rounds: Ronald Hirsch, MD, vice president of R1 RCM, will be making his Monday Rounds.The RAC Report: Healthcare attorney Knicole Emanuel, partner at the law firm of Nelson Mullins, will report the latest news about auditors.Risky Business: Healthcare attorney David Glaser, shareholder in the law offices of Fredrikson & Byron, will join the broadcast with his trademark segment.Legislative Update: Cate Brantley, senior healthcare legislative affairs analyst for Zelis, will report on the news happening at the intersection of healthcare and congressional action.

Why we seek approval and follow rules - even when they don't serve us. Dominic and Ash explore Approval, Conventional, Dependent and Avoidance styles, their payoffs and costs, and the Constructive alternatives that work better.

Are you procrastinating more than you think you are? In this episode, I'm talking about virtuous procrastination – the act of avoiding discomfort, uncertainty, or purposeful risk by busying yourself with work that appears responsible, generous, and good. Volunteering. Overcommitting. Over-preparing. It looks admirable, but sometimes it's just a sneaky distraction from what's most important to you. Read the article.***I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel, a communication and mindset coach. My work is about helping people like you share your voice, strengthen your relationships, and have more fun.As an American expat living in the U.K., I value curiosity, courage, and joy. A few things I love: wandering European streets in search of the best vegetarian meal, practicing Italian, and helping my clients design lives that feel rich and meaningful.If you're ready to stop procrastinating so you can live the life you truly want – let's talk.We can also chat on Insta :)Do you ever go blank or start rambling when someone puts you on the spot? I created a free Conversation Cheat Sheet with simple formulas you can use so you can respond with clarity, whether you're in a meeting or just talking with friends.Download it at sarahmikutel.com/blanknomore and start feeling more confident in your conversations today.

Cowardice is killing men—not with bullets or blades, but with daily compromises. Every time we choose comfort over courage, we surrender part of our soul. In this episode of Manlihood, Josh Hatcher challenges men to stop avoiding responsibility and to live with boldness, truth, and conviction.

Life hits hard—but growth hits harder. The Elevated Podcast is where real talk meets real growth. We unpack how to face fear, overcome adversity, and rise stronger in your purpose every week.

Michelle and Chase continue their series on The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni, this time diving into the fourth dysfunction: avoidance of accountability. They explore how accountability shows up (or doesn't) on teams, why peer-to-peer accountability matters, and how leaders can foster a culture where commitments are upheld and performance is elevated. Got a question? Ask us! Do you have a question you'd like to hear answered on Career Dreams? You can submit an audio recording of your question to be featured on an upcoming episode!  Like it? Share it! If you're finding value in exploring your Career Dreams through this podcast, please share it with your friends, followers and colleagues! Also, your ratings and reviews help others find the show...so please, let us know what you think! You can share your Career Dreams with us anytime via email: careerdreams@forumcu.com. To learn more about making your Career Dreams come true at FORUM Credit Union, visit our website:  https://www.forumcu.com/careers Dream on!

Send us a textWe challenge the “I'll start Monday” loop and show how delay feels good while keeping us stuck. Practical micro-steps replace excuses so we can build momentum with tiny, honest actions today.• the Monday reset trap and weekend guilt• how delaying creates false comfort• repeating patterns with fitness, food and reading• why micro-commitments build self-trust• simple fallback plans for busy days• friction and ease design for habits• measuring success by kept promisesThank you for joining me on this week's Mindful Moment. I look forward to seeing you right here next week on Mindful Momentshttps://aarondegler.com/

In this episode, Kelly Wilson explains how to move from avoidance to acceptance: a new way to live with anxiety. He delves into how our vulnerabilities show us what matters to us, and that the goal isn't to win a war inside. It's to keep coming back to the next honest action that moves you towards what matters. That is at the core of acceptance and commitment therapy. Not chasing perfect feelings, but choosing the next right move towards your values, again and again.Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!Key Takeaways:Exploration of psychological struggles, particularly anxiety, and their impact on life.Introduction to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and its core principles.Discussion of the six core processes of ACT: present moment awareness, cognitive defusion, acceptance, values, committed action, and self as context.Examination of the relationship between vulnerability and personal growth.Critique of traditional diagnostic labels and their limitations in understanding psychological experiences.Emphasis on the importance of values in guiding meaningful actions and decisions.Insights into the nature of human suffering and the commonality of psychological pain.The concept of redemption and its role in personal development and therapy.Reframing commitment as a moment-to-moment process rather than a rigid promise.Encouragement of compassion and understanding in the face of psychological challenges.d understanding.For full show notes, click here!Connect with the show:Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPodSubscribe on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyFollow us on InstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with Kelly Wilson, check out these other episodes:Steven C. HayesRuss Harris (Part 1)Russ Harris (Part 2)By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!This episode is sponsored by:Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain's new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books.AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you'd find in your fridge… and it's delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat's cravings.LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Kelly Wilson explains how to move from avoidance to acceptance: a new way to live with anxiety. He delves into how our vulnerabilities show us what matters to us, and that the goal isn't to win a war inside. It's to keep coming back to the next honest action that moves you towards what matters. That is at the core of acceptance and commitment therapy. Not chasing perfect feelings, but choosing the next right move towards your values, again and again. Exciting News!!!Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Exploration of psychological struggles, particularly anxiety, and their impact on life. Introduction to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and its core principles. Discussion of the six core processes of ACT: present moment awareness, cognitive defusion, acceptance, values, committed action, and self as context. Examination of the relationship between vulnerability and personal growth. Critique of traditional diagnostic labels and their limitations in understanding psychological experiences. Emphasis on the importance of values in guiding meaningful actions and decisions. Insights into the nature of human suffering and the commonality of psychological pain. The concept of redemption and its role in personal development and therapy. Reframing commitment as a moment-to-moment process rather than a rigid promise. Encouragement of compassion and understanding in the face of psychological challenges. If you enjoyed this conversation with Kelly Wilson, check out these other episodes: Steven C. Hayes Russ Harris (Part 1) Russ Harris (Part 2) For full show notes,⁠ click here⁠! Connect with the show: ⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠ Subscribe on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ or ⁠Spotify⁠ Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠ By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠has something for everyone – you'll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won't find anywhere else, and you'll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply. ⁠Persona Nutrition ⁠delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to ⁠PersonaNutrition.com/FEED⁠ today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order. ⁠Grow Therapy ⁠– Whatever challenges you're facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit ⁠growtherapy.com/feed ⁠today! ⁠AGZ⁠ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to ⁠drinkag1.com/feed⁠ to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, explores the double-edged sword of emotional armor (Amazon Affiliate) in the world of first responders. On duty, emotional detachment is a survival skill. It allows officers, firefighters, and medics to function under extreme pressure and make quick, tactical decisions without being consumed by emotion. But when that same emotional armor comes home, it can create distance, confusion, and pain for the people who love you most. We'll unpack what emotional armor looks like, why it develops, and how to shed just enough of it to stay connected without losing the edge you need in the field.

Today we welcome on Fisheries Research Scientist at the Wisconsin Department of Natural Resources, Colin Dassow! We chat with Colin about three separate research projects he's been apart of recently, that take a critical look at the common characteristics of lakes with trophy bass potential, a shocking hook avoidance study, and the tendencies and co-mingling of pike and musky. Brought to you by: American Legacy Fishing & Outdoors www.americanlegacyfishing.com