The Reset by Sam Delaney

Paul Harrington has lived a life that is familiar to many Reset listeners: getting into trouble as a kid, raving hard in his teens and twenties, devoting his life to work in his thirties….then hitting a brick wall and developing dangerous drug habits in his forties. Now, Paul is in his late fifties, sober and fitter than ever. He joined me on the pod to tell me about a life of beautiful chaos. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sean McNicholas overcame a traumatic childhood to become a successful club entrepreneur. But the high life burnt him out and, eventually, he decided to get sober and help other men with similar problems. Now he is a qualified therapist and ADHD expert who joined me to discuss his extraordinary story - and his mission to help men turn their lives around.Find out more about Sean's work here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Andy Manston has spent a lifetime raving. With partner Danny Gould he built Clockwork Orange into the definitive Ibiza club brand. But all the partying came at a price. A year ago, Andy finally decided it was time to pack in the drink and drugs. Now, for the first time, he tells his inspirational sobriety story. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a young police officer, Leon MacFayden experienced extreme trauma that forced him out of his job and tormented him for the next twenty years. After years of failed treatment, he finally found a way to heal himself. He shares his inspirational story via his excellent newsletter From Trauma To Strength. I was very pleased to chat with him on this week's pod. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dee C. Lee is a soul singer, pop icon, and trailblazer. In the 1980s, she first found fame as part of Wham! Then, she jumped ship to take a starring role in The Style Council before scoring her own solo hits. In this honest and frank chat, she talks about her incredible career, the emotional toll of fame, and music's role in her mental health. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ruby Wax has been raising awareness of mental health issues and fighting stigma for decades now. She shares her own experiences to help others. I was honoured to speak to her about her excellent charity Frazzled and her latest book ‘I'm Not As Well As I Thought I Was.'Funny, clever, compassionate and insightful: Ruby was everything I hoped and expected her to be. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ruth Whippman is a writer and author of ‘Boy Mum - Raising Boys In An Age Of Toxic Masculinity.' It's a great read by a mum of young lads who wants to understand the constant pressures and often dodgy influences surrounding young men growing up. How can we stop our sons from falling under the spell of people like Andrew Tate and Donald Trump? I really enjoyed discussing this and more with Ruth. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After recovering from alcoholism, Lucy Da Silva gained a masters in psychotherapy and now specialises in the use of ketamine and psychedelics in the treatment of mental health disorders. She joined me to discuss this fascinating new area of therapy and her own powerful story of childhood trauma, addiction and recovery.Find out more about Lucy's work here https://silvawellness.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Steve Mann is the UK's top dog trainer, a great broadcaster and a prolific author. His new book, ‘Another Day, Another Collar - Confessions Of A Dog Trainer' is a memoir of dogs he has known and the impact they have had on his life. I'm a big beleiver in the power of dogs to help with people's mental health (I know my dog, Cookie, manages to put a smile on my face every day). Steve is a top bloke with loads to say about dogs, happiness and life. I really enjoyed talking with him for this week's pod. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlie Hyman started Bloomsbury Football in London to provide top level coaching and facilities to everyone, whatever their background, resources or ability. Now, there are hundreds of kids across the capital whose lives have been changed by Bloomsbury. Charlie joined me to explain the positive impact football and helping others can have on anyone's mental health. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

OCD, addiction, toxic relationships…Dr Natalie Cawley encountered patients with all of these issues and more during her first year working as a psychotherapist. Simultaneously, she was trying to cope with her own emotional pressures, as she adapted to a new job in a new city after the breakdown of a long term relationship. Now, she has written a moving and funny memoir about that time: ‘Just About Coping - A Real-Life Drama From The Psychotherapists Chair.' She joined me to discuss the fascinating and challenging work of a mental health professional. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Daniel Reisinger is an Australian born, award-winning filmmaker. His new movie ‘& Mrs' is a romantic comedy-drama starring Aisling Bea and Tom Hanks. It's about a bride-to-be coping with the sudden death of her fiancé just weeks before their planned wedding. For Daniel, the film had a special resonance as he lost his mother shortly before going into production. He talks about processing his grief while trying to make his first movie, what he learned about bereavement and why he thinks we should all get more comfortable talking about death.If you are dealing with a bereavement, find support at The Good Grief Trust (as mentioned in this episode) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Richard Tyler is a former west end star turned therapist. A few years back, he received a shock cancer diagnosis and was given just three months to live. But he defied his diagnosis and still fights on today. Now he has written a memoir - As A Kite Falls - in which he details what he has learned about living in the face of adversity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tom Kerridge grew up on a council estate in Gloucestershire before working his way up through the restaurant business and opening the Hand And Flowers in Bray - the only double Michelin starred pub in the world.When he turned 40, he decided to quit alcohol and has never looked back. In this entertaining chat he tells me about the stress of working in a kitchen, sobriety, fatherhood and how he manages to keep his edge as he gets older.His new book, Tom Kerridge Cooks Britain, is out now Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A revealing and honest chat with one of my broadcasting heroes. Adrian talks about a life in football, the pressures of life on the road, the family secret that plagued him for years and his decision to quit drinking alcohol. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Allie Bailey thought that running would save her from her demons. She started running to stop drinking but found herself addicted to both things simultaneously. While running - and often winning - ultra-marathons all over the globe, Allie was often drunk and almost always hungover. Soon she realised she couldn't outrun her bad habits. Following lockdown, a breakdown and an attempt to take her own life, she finally found a way of getting and staying sober . Allie tells me her story with honesty, humour and tons of swearing.Buy her book - There Is No Wall Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Janey Lee Grace is best known as a broadcaster on BBC Radio 2 - especially as the long-time co-host of the legendary Steve Wright In The Afternoon show. After a lifetime of fun-filled adventures in pop music, Janey quit alcohol in 2018 after realising she was stuck in ‘the grey zone.' Now she helps others quit booze and live happier lives through the brilliant Sober Club communityYou can listen to Janey's podcast, Alcohol Free Life, here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Johann Hari started taking Ozempic, the new weight loss drug, in early 2023. But he was torn: he loved being slimmer but was concerned about the long term side-effects. He spent the last year travelling the world, speaking to experts and writing his fascinating new book Magic Pill - The Extraordinary Benefits and Disturbing Risks Of The New Weight Loss Drugs. He joined me on this week's pod to discuss the drugs, his lifelong weight issues and the mental impact of our obsession with the way we look. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Mike, Tim and Andy lost their young daughters to suicide they felt lost, alone and engulfed by grief. Then they found each other, became firm friends and decided to walk across the UK raising suicide awareness. Inspirational, strong and funny, these are the three of the most incredible blokes I've ever interviewed. I hope you enjoy listening to their important and powerful story.Buy their book Three Dads Walking - 300 Miles Of Hope hereFind out more about their forthcoming walk hereFind out more about Papyrus, the suicide awareness charity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After finding fame as a child actor in the sixties, David Charkham fell foul of showbiz temptations and sank into addiction. After seeking treatment and getting sober in the eighties, he put his efforts into helping others on their own recovery journeys. As well as working for years in the NHS, he has helped some of the biggest stars of entertainment get, and stay, sober, including Ozzy Osbourne. He joined me this week to share his incredible life story, his experiences of working on the road as a sober coach with global rock tours - and all of the wisdom he has picked up along the way.David now works with The Cabin, a luxury rehab centre in Chiang Mai, Thailand.He is also a patron of the Outside Edge Theatre Company, helping people get sober through creativity and performance Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Andy Cope has a Phd in positive psychology meaning he gets to actually call himself a doctor of happiness. A prolific author, in-demand speaker and founder of training company the Art Of Brilliance, Andy has spent years helping people get happy. Energetic, funny and bullshit free, he's the perfect Reset guest.Click her to find out more about Andy's work Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Josh Fletcher is a therapist - but not the weird type. Down to earth, funny and plain-speaking, he is on a mission to show people that therapy isn't all about sitting on a chaise long and talking about fancying your mum. His new book ‘And How Does That Make You Feel?' is a frank and entertaining guide to what a therapist actually does - and involves some brilliant anecdotes about his own adventures in therapy.To buy the book click hereAnd if you're interested in finding a therapist then check out these directories:Counselling Directory UKPsychology Today directory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gary Stevenson left his trading career behind - after if almost sent him mad. He became the youngest trader in the city of London and soon he was the most successful too. But the fast living, long hours, high pressure and iffy ethics soon took its toll. On this week's episode, he tells me his breathtaking life story.Buy Gary's incredible memoir The Trading game. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dave was polishing off a bottle of vodka a night in his late forties. His career and his relationship were on the verge of collapse. But he thought he couldn't live without booze. Then a call from a friend changed his life forever.Listen to Dave's podcast One for the Road and read his bestselling book of the same name. Follow Dave on Instagram @SoberDave. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Louis Weinstock is a psychotherapist who specialises in working with young people. He joined me to talk about his new book, in which he outlines the myriad pressures and strains that our kids are under in the modern world. Parenting is tough - especially when your kids are teens. Louis offers some beautiful insights and tips on how to support your kids mental health without sending yourself mad.SharePrevious Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Luke Turner is co-founder of the excellent music and culture site The Quietus and a contributor to the Guardian, NME, Vice and many more.As a child, Luke was obsessed with the Second World War. His new book, Men At War, examines how the war stories he loved shaped his ideas of masculinity.He joined me to discuss what it means to be a modern man.Buy Men At War here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They call him Paul 'Dangerous' Danan for good reason. Compulsive, obsessive and adventurous, Paul often finds himself in exciting but life-threatening situations. In this episode, he reveals a fall from a building that damaged both his mental and physical health in 2023. Paul's charity Paul's directorial debut on video for 'Follow' by Phil Mac Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you really get to know someone? How do you show them that you see and understand who they really are? This is what David Brooks, best-selling author and New York Time columnist, sets out to discover in his new book How To Know A Person. It contains some life changing lessons in empathy, friendship and communication. David joined me on this episode to talk about all that stuff and his own personal growth from cold fish to warm-hearted empath. Something for us all to aspire to!Buy his excellent book here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are we all riddled with animalistic sexual urges that only society's manners stop us from acting upon? Or is sex a bit more complicated and nuanced than that? These are the sort of questions Darian Leader tries to answer in his new book, Is It Ever Just Sex?It's not often we've had the chance to discuss hanky-panky on The Reset but Darian has some brilliantly smart ideas on the subject that he explains with real clarity and humour. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jules Evans is a writer, historian and practical philosopher. His first book, ‘Philosophy For Life - And Other Dangerous Situations' was a Times book of the year and was translated into numerous languages. It broke down some of the big ideas of ancient philosophy, in particular stoicisim, and showed how they could apply to everyday, modern life. It was extremely readable and very helpful to people all over the world. He's a fascinating bloke and his personal story is incredible too. I was really pleased to welcome him onto the podcast and especially enjoyed this chat.Find out more about Jules and his work here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jordan Patterson is an addiction counsellor grew up with an alcoholic dad who collected him from school drunk. He knows about the pain and insecurity felt by the people who surround addicts. Now he helps them via the family therapy programme he runs at rehab centre, The Cabin in Thailand.His story is raw, honest and painful but his insights are really helpful to anyone who is living with an addict in their life.For free support visithttps://al-anonuk.org.uk/For more about Jordan's work visit The Cabin's website here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Peter Wharmby was 34 when he got diagnosed as autistic. Suddenly, big aspects of his life finally started making sense: including his struggles with mental health.While autism isn't an illness, it presents challenges that often damage your mental health. In his bestselling book, Untypical, Peter paints a vivid picture of how being neurodivergent impacts his life.Peter was a great guest and really challenged so many of the common stereotypes about autism. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When doctors tested award winning novelist Daan Heerman Van Voss for stress hormones, they found a record breaking level in his bloodstream. This effectively made him the most anxious man in the world. He'd had enough of living with constant worry and decided to deep dive the problem. The result is his first non fiction book, The Anxiety Project, in which he investigates the roots of his condition, the social and economic factors that contribute and the possible ways out.It's a brilliant book and I was delighted to discuss it with him on this week's pod. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Barrie ‘Baz' Rice was a veteran of New Zealand's SAS before joining the world of the private security contracter. In 2004, his firm - Blackwater - became famous around the world when two of its operatives were hijacked and murdered in Iraq. What followed was a brutal and bloody conflict in post-war Iraq between security firms and insurgents. Barrie was caught in the middle of a fight that nearly cost him his life and his sanity.Buy his book - We Were Blackwater - here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Katy Georgiou is a practising psychotherapist and host of the excellent music and mental health podcast Sound Affects. How does music impact our moods and our minds? Is there really a connection between hedonism and creativity? And how can music help us in our darkest hours? I loved discussing all of this and more with Katy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Congressman Adam Smith seemed to have everything sorted: a high-flying political career plus a loving wife and kids. Then, in his forties - seemingly without any warning - his body and mind broke. Chronic pain and crippling anxiety almost incapiciated him completely. He joined me to explain how this crisis led him to seek help, open his mind to therapy and become a stronger, happier man in his fifties.Buy Adam's book - Lost And Broken - My Journey Back From Chronic Pain And Crippling Anxiety - here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Noel McDermott has been a mental health professional for over 25 years. You may have heard me as a recent guest on his excellent Wellbeing Show. A regular commentator in the media on mental health matters, Noel has his own experiences of dealing with PTSD and addiction as a younger man. He was kind enough to share his inspiring life story with me for this week's episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Best-selling author, much-loved columnist and ubiquitous presenter: Danny Wallace is the epitome of the freewheeling Renaissance man. But on this week's pod, he opened up about some of the mental challenges he has faced: from the sense of awkwardness he writes about so entertainingly, to the anxiety of parenthood to the pain of losing his dad two years ago.This is a rare insight to the mind of one of the nation's favourite funny blokes.Buy Danny's books hereListen to the Manatomy podcast here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this special centenary episode I am joined by one of my all time heroes: hip-hop pioneer and voice of a generation, Chuck D. We spoke about the relationship between art and mental health, his activism, his music career and the reasons behind his lifelong sobriety.Plus, his secret life painting nudes.Buy Chuck's new book of illustrations Livin' Loud here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Susanna Hoffs scored a series of hits in the 1980's with her all-girl band, The Bangles. She has since become a solo artists and recently published her first novel, This Bird Has Flown - a romantic comedy about a one hit wonder.She joined me on the show to discuss how quitting drink changed her life for the better, why she took a therapist on the road with her and her life-changing relationship with Prince. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Simon Waterson trains some of the biggest stars in Hollywood, from Daniel Craig to Tom Hiddlestone to Chris ‘Captain America' Evans. He joined me to talk about his military background, the relationship between mental and physical health and what it's like working with James Bond.This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Olympic Studios in Barnes.Buy Simon's new book “The Ten Week Intelligence Fitness Challenge” here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Glen Oliver was leading a pretty conventional life until a weekend in Ibiza changed his worldview forever. He quit his job in the police force and start using drugs - but things eventually got out of hand. Glen had to get sober, rebuild his life and start focussing on helping others. He talked to me about booze, trauma and his use of psychedelics. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rob Owen is an extraordinary bloke. In his late thirties he quit a well paid career as an investment banker in order to run St Giles Trust - a charity that helps rehabilitate inner city gang members. He spends his spare time undertaking extreme physical challenges - from climbing Everest to trekking the Antarctic. I spoke to him about why he decided to sacrifice riches for charity work and what drives his passion for adventure. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Thomas Curran is a social psychologist at LSE and author of brilliant new book ‘The Perfection Trap.' In it, he examines our increased obsession with perfection, where it comes from, the damage it does to our mental health and how we can try to stop it. Essential listening for anyone who ever struggles with feelings of failure or a sense of not being good enough.Buy the book here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jonathan Harding is the author of the critically acclaimed book ‘Soul' - a fascinating look at how elite athletes are often forced to sacrifice their human side for success.His research has led him to be highly sceptical about the ‘high performance' culture that is currently so pervasive in society at large. Do we really need to be getting up as 4am and smashing our goals every day to lead happy, fulfilled lives? Jonathan suspects not.You can buy Soul - Beyond The Athlete here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tyler Slade was stuck in a well paid job that he hated. It's a story that so many blokes can relate to. After the stress got too much for him, he managed to get his head straight and turn his life around. Now, he's finding simple but extraordinary ways of helping other men look after themselves, including a Friday night alternative to the boozer: saunas on the seafront. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Alex Messenger was 17 years old he was attacked in the Canadian wilderness by a 600 pound grizzly bear. It was an incident that changed his life forever. He joined me to talk about his dramatic fight, how he survived and the impact it had on his mental health.Buy Alex's book The Twenty Ninth Day here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa Day is a psychotherapist specialising in mens' mental health and ‘inner child therapy.' In this fascinating and useful chat, she offers invaluable advice to anyone who has a friend or loved one who they suspect might be struggling with their mental health.Trigger warning: suicide is discussed in this episode.For more info on Melissa's work visit https://niroshini-acupuncture.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last month I appeared on the Proper Mental podcast and was really impressed by host Tom Davies. Like many of us, he went through some tough times, especially when he first became a father and encountered all the stress and pressure that goes with that. He's got a great way of talking about tough subjects and so I was really pleased he agreed to come on The Reset. Hope you enjoy listening. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Marvin Sordell was one of England's brightest young stars: a first-teamer at Watford, he was selected for England Under 21's and Team GB at the 2012 Olympics. Then came a big money move to Premier League Bolton. But behind all the success, Marvin was buckling under the pressure. He was drinking every day and, eventually, tried to take his own life. In a candid interview, he spoke to me about how he came back from rock bottom and why he eventually decided to quit the game at just 28 years old.Marvin Sordell is an ambassador for CALM. To find out more about their campaign against suicide, visithttps://www.thecalmzone.net/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

George Pointon became a Twitter sensation (@georgepointon_) when he started documenting the weird and wonderful outpourings of his primary school pupils. His insights to teaching, education and children are thoughtful, sometimes troubling but ultimately inspiring. He told me about the mental health crisis engulfing both teachers and pupils in the UK today. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.