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Sustainable ambition isn't about wanting less — it's about knowing whether your drive is coming from desire or from fear, because the two can produce the exact same to-do list and completely different lives. In this episode, Brett Ingram breaks down why genuine ambition can rest and compulsive striving can't, what your nervous system already knows about your goals before your mind admits it, and a simple four-signal framework for checking your own engine so you're not guessing anymore. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why hitting a goal and feeling almost nothing isn't a discipline problem — it's a signal worth reading The hidden difference between two people working identical sixty-hour weeks: one running on desire, one running on fear Five warning signs that ambition has quietly turned compulsive, including a moving finish line and rest that starts to feel illegal Why the body — not the calendar — is the most honest narrator of whether your ambition is sustainable The five types of rest almost no one gets all of, and why scrolling on the couch isn't one of them How career-identity fusion sets you up for an existential crisis the moment the job changes, and how to build a sturdier sense of self The Four Signals of Sustainable Ambition — a practical framework for checking any goal you're currently chasing Episode Timestamps [00:00] Introduction — the goal that felt like nothing when you hit it [01:30] The central idea: sustainable ambition as a different relationship with wanting [02:00] The Two Engines — desire vs. fear, and why they produce identical résumés [07:00] Five warning signs the engine has switched from ambition to compulsion [10:30] What the body already knows — stress cycles, cortisol, and the five types of rest [15:00] Purpose without losing yourself — career-identity fusion and the identity trap [18:30] Where a calling actually comes from — mastery and meaning follow competence [21:00] The Four Signals of Sustainable Ambition, explained and applied [24:30] Sisyphus, Icarus, and Groundhog Day — three stories about the same distinction [26:00] Reflection questions and an exercise for this week [27:30] Closing thoughts Episode Summary Most high-achievers have had this exact experience: you hit the goal — the promotion, the number, the recognition — and instead of the satisfaction you expected, you feel a flicker of relief that evaporates almost instantly, replaced by a new target on the horizon as if the last one never counted. Brett Ingram's central argument in this episode is that this feeling is never a discipline problem. It's information, and it's been trying to tell you something about the engine underneath your ambition all along. The episode opens with what Brett calls the two engines. Picture two people, both working sixty-hour weeks, both building something ambitious, both indistinguishable from the outside. One is running on desire. The other is running on fear. Genuine ambition is curiosity with a direction — it wants to build the thing, solve the problem, get better at the craft, because the effort is in service of something the person actually wants. Compulsive striving looks the same from a distance but is powered by the fear of being inadequate, the dread of stopping and finding nothing underneath the achieving. The cleanest diagnostic, Brett argues, isn't how hard you work or how big the goal is — it's whether you can actually rest without the achievement-shaped hole reopening the moment you stop moving. From there, Brett walks through five warning signs that the engine has switched: identity fusion, where one bad outcome quietly becomes "I am not enough"; a finish line that keeps relocating with no interval of satisfaction; rest that feels illegal, filled with guilt or secret work; feedback from people close to you that gets explained away instead of examined; and chasing an outcome you can describe in vivid detail but can't explain the "why" behind. He shares his own experience building a digital marketing business where something working well only ever produced the thought "what's next to get it to the next level" — and realizing, in hindsight, that he never actually enjoyed the process itself. The conversation then turns physiological. Brett makes the case that ambition isn't only a mindset issue — it's a nervous system issue, and the body has been keeping score the entire time. A healthy stress response mobilizes, handles the threat, and returns to baseline. Compulsive ambition keeps that system in chronic, low-grade activation until it stops feeling like stress and starts feeling like normal. He draws a sharp distinction between passive distraction — scrolling on the couch — and genuine physiological recovery, and names five types of rest worth knowing: physical, sensory, emotional, social, and creative. "You can't out-discipline a body that never gets to down-regulate," he says. "Recovery isn't the reward for ambition. It's the maintenance that makes the ambition sustainable at all." Perhaps the most personal section of the episode deals with identity fusion and career. Brett shares the story of shutting down his first business — a custom-computer company he built out of his basement and grew to seven employees — and describes the day he turned off the lights as closing down more than a business. It was closing down a part of himself, because for four or five years, the business had been his entire identity. This connects to one of the episode's most useful reframes about calling: contrary to the idea that passion is discovered fully formed, Brett argues that mastery and meaning tend to follow competence — you find something interesting, get better at it, and the calling builds itself through the doing, not before it. This is a core thread of the Purpose & Meaningful Work pillar — locating your sense of self somewhere sturdier than a job title, so that when a role ends, the loss is professional rather than existential. The episode closes with the Four Signals of Sustainable Ambition: the engine (want or fear?), the rest test (can you actually stop?), the craft line (are you attached to the work or only the win?), and the enough line (do you have an actual internal definition of "enough," written down and concrete?). Brett reinforces the point with three cultural touchstones — Camus's Sisyphus, happy in the pushing itself; Icarus, whose danger was never ambition but ambition with no ceiling; and Groundhog Day, where the way out was never external. The episode's closing line captures the whole argument: "You're allowed to want more and be complete right now. Those two things were never actually in conflict. Only the fear ever made it look that way." Resources Mentioned Albert Camus, The Myth of Sisyphus — referenced for the closing line "One must imagine Sisyphus happy," used to illustrate meaning living in the pursuit itself rather than a final arrival The myth of Icarus — used to illustrate that the danger isn't ambition itself but ambition with no ceiling or signal for "enough" Groundhog Day (film) — referenced as a modern picture of compulsive striving, where nothing external resolves the loop until the character's motivation itself changes Frequently Asked Questions What is sustainable ambition and how is it different from compulsive striving? Sustainable ambition is a relationship with wanting that doesn't require you to be in a permanent state of deficit in order to function. It's curiosity with a direction — you want to build the thing and enjoy the process, and the effort serves something you actually want. Compulsive striving looks identical from the outside but is powered by fear of inadequacy rather than desire, and it's chasing away from something rather than toward it. How can I tell if my ambition is driven by desire or fear? The clearest test is what happens the moment you hit the goal. If you feel satisfied, even briefly, before moving on to the next thing, that's genuine ambition. If the moment evaporates almost instantly and gets replaced by anxiety about the next benchmark, that's the compulsive engine. Naming the goal out loud and honestly asking "want or fear?" is a simple way to start — and the answer can be mixed. Why don't I feel satisfied after achieving something I worked hard for? That flat feeling usually means the goal was never really the point — it was a way of outrunning a fear of inadequacy rather than building toward something you wanted. Because compulsive striving is about escape rather than arrival, hitting the target doesn't resolve anything. It just reveals that another target was already waiting. What are the warning signs that ambition has become compulsive? Five to watch for: identity fusion, where one bad outcome becomes "I am not enough"; a finish line that keeps moving with no interval of satisfaction; rest that feels illegal or guilt-inducing; feedback from people close to you that you explain away instead of examining; and being able to describe the outcome you want in vivid detail while struggling to say why you actually want it. What are the Four Signals of Sustainable Ambition? The engine — is this goal driven by desire or fear? The rest test — can you actually stop without anxiety flooding back in? The craft line — are you attached to the work itself or only to the win? And the enough line — do you have a real, concrete definition of "enough" that doesn't keep relocating itself past wherever you currently stand? Is it a problem if my identity is tied to my career? Caring deeply about your work is different from being fused with it. Fusion means you no longer exist independently of how the work is going, which is fragile because careers change, companies restructure, and roles end. The goal isn't to care less about your work — it's to locate your sense of self somewhere sturdier than a job title, so a career setback stays professional instead of becoming existential. Does building sustainable ambition mean I have to want less? No. Brett is explicit that none of this is an argument for lowering the bar or wanting less. Sustainable ambition is a healthier relationship with wanting, one where the pursuit doesn't require you to be broken in order to keep going. You're allowed to want more and still feel complete right now — those two things were never actually in conflict. Keep Exploring If this episode resonated, these are worth your time: Purpose & Meaningful Work Pillar — The full framework on career, calling, and building work that actually fits your life → Purpose & Meaningful Work Guide The Growth Trap — A closer look at when self-improvement itself becomes a way of avoiding the life you're supposedly improving → optyoumize.com/podcast/the-growth-trap-self-improvement-avoidance How Much Money Is Enough — The financial version of the "enough line" — what happens when a number keeps relocating itself → optyoumize.com/podcast/how-much-money-is-enough Enjoyed This Episode? The best way to support optYOUmize is to subscribe and leave a review — it takes about two minutes and makes a real difference in helping more people find the show. Apple Podcasts · Spotify · Amazon Music · YouTube Leave a Review →

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Parts Work, Self Energy & Healing in Difficult Environments: Q&A with Mike, Part TwoMe and Mike are back, and this one goes deep.We received so many beautiful, brave questions from listeners after our first conversation about parts work and Internal Family Systems. So we sat down together and worked through four of them in real time, the way we always do, naturally, honestly and without a script. This is one of those conversations that kept surprising me as it unfolded.This episode is for you if:You understand parts work intellectually but struggle to actually access self energy when you need itYou find it easy to feel compassion for others but the moment you turn it inward, a critical or shaming part takes overYou are trying to heal while still living in the environment where the wounds happenedYou experience compulsive movement and feel stuck between knowing what you need and being unable to act on itYou want to understand how to use your own anger, determination and drive as fuel for healing, not just obstacles to overcomeIn this episode, we cover:✨ How to access the compassionate parent part when a critical protector keeps taking over✨ Why the part that reminds you of your dad showing up in self-work makes complete and understandable sense✨ The difference between being caught up in a part and being in self, and why it is often far more subtle than we expect✨ Why the one asking the questions and noticing what is happening is already self✨ Healing while living with emotionally unavailable parents: is it possible, and what does it actually look like✨ Grief and acceptance as the real foundation of healing in a triggering environment✨ How to use triggers as invitations to turn towards the parts that need you, rather than evidence that you are failing✨ The question to ask every single part that wants to do something harmful: what are you afraid would happen if you didn't?✨ Compulsive movement, the biological migration response and the parts work layer underneath✨ Why self never tells a part what it should or should not do, and why the voice saying "stop this behaviour" is probably another part✨ Using anger, resentment and the overachiever energy to fuel recovery, and why that is not anti-parts work at all✨ Why parts never really want to do the harmful things they do, they just do not yet know there is another way✨ What it looks like when a part finally trusts self enough to stop the behaviour it has been using to stay safePowerful quotes from the episode:

We are more self-aware than ever, and yet many people feel more stuck, anxious, and exhausted than before. Therapy culture has helped us name pain, but it often leaves us circling it. Insight increases, language expands, but healing stalls. What if the very frameworks meant to help us are quietly blocking our ability to change? This week on Win Today, Dr. Lee Warren joins me for a conversation that bridges neuroscience, faith, and lived experience. As a practicing neurosurgeon and trauma survivor, Dr. Warren explains why the brain resists healing, how survival mode hijacks our thinking, and why compulsive rumination feels productive while actually reinforcing pain. We explore the science behind neuroplasticity and the spiritual responsibility we carry to participate in our own renewal. This episode doesn't dismiss therapy, but it challenges passivity. Healing requires more than awareness. It requires agency, discipline, and the courage to rewire patterns that no longer serve life. Guest Bio Dr. W. Lee Warren is a practicing neurosurgeon, author, and speaker known for integrating neuroscience, faith, and personal experience to help people heal from trauma and transform their lives. A survivor of profound personal loss, he has spent decades studying how thoughts shape the brain and how intentional mental practices can lead to lasting emotional and spiritual renewal. He is the author of multiple books, including The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery. Show Partners SafeSleeve designs a phone case that blocks up to 99% of harmful EMF radiation—so I'm not carrying that kind of exposure next to my body all day. It's sleek, durable, and most importantly, lab-tested by third parties. The results aren't hidden—they're published right on their site. And that matters because many so-called EMF blockers on the market either don't work or can't prove they do. We protect our hearts and minds—why wouldn't we protect our bodies too? Head to safesleevecases.com and use the code WINTODAY10 for 10% off your order. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

REDIFF - Les soldes commencent, et avec elles, une avalanche de tentations. Charlotte a été accro au shopping pendant près de 20 ans. Achats compulsifs en passant devant une vitrine, commandes démesurées en ligne : tout son salaire y passait, au point qu'il lui arrivait d'emprunter de l'argent pour satisfaire ses envies immédiates. Sollicitée en permanence par les SMS promotionnels, les boîtes mail saturées d'offres et les publicités ciblées sur Internet, résister était devenu presque impossible. En décembre 2024, elle a pourtant le déclic et se lance alors un défi : un mois sans shopping ! En partageant son expérience sur les réseaux sociaux, elle réalise qu'elle n'est pas seule à vivre cette addiction. Depuis, Charlotte continue de transmettre ses astuces pour consommer autrement, jusqu'à construire une véritable méthode pour s'en sortir. + Au téléphone, une autre acheteuse compulsive, encore prise dans l'engrenage, témoignera de la difficulté de résister aux tentations, particulièrement en période de soldes. Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

How to Pursue Personal Growth Without Letting It Become Another Source of Stress   In this episode of the Resilience Across Borders podcast, host Rachid Zahidi explores an often-overlooked paradox of personal development: when the pursuit of becoming better begins to undermine our well-being. While growth, learning, and self-improvement can enrich our lives, they can also become driven by comparison, perfectionism, and the constant pressure to optimize every aspect of ourselves. Rachid challenges the belief that we must always be improving to be worthy. Instead, he offers a healthier perspective—one rooted in curiosity, self-awareness, and self-acceptance. Through practical strategies and relatable examples, he explains how to shift from endlessly fixing yourself to understanding yourself, embrace progress without sacrificing peace, and create a sustainable approach to growth that supports your life rather than replacing it.    

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During a medical episode, deputies searched Kouri Richins' jail cell and recovered a six-page letter concealed inside an LSAT preparation book. The letter scripted testimony for her brother. When confronted, the defendant did not deny authorship. She characterized the document as part of a fictional novel set in a Mexican prison.The psychological pattern documented across the pre-trial and trial periods is consistent: each new threat to the defendant's position generated an automatic narrative response. Her first defense attorney withdrew citing ethical concerns. From jail, she communicated her intention to "expose this county, the prosecution, the judge, the Richins, the investigation." She recharacterized the victim's family as jealous competitors rather than bereaved relatives. The pattern is not strategic calculation — it is reflexive narrative production, a coping mechanism that activates under threat regardless of whether the resulting narrative serves the defendant's legal interests.The trial itself forced that mechanism into its most extreme configuration. Defense counsel presented zero witnesses. No defense case was offered. For approximately three weeks, the defendant sat in silence while prosecution witnesses systematically dismantled her constructed narrative. The housekeeper described the fentanyl procurement. The defendant's boyfriend provided emotional testimony. A forensic accountant demonstrated that the image of financial success concealed approximately $4.5 million in debt.The psychological analysis of the defendant's courtroom presentation identifies the stillness not as composure but as system overload — a narrative-production mechanism confronted with information it cannot reframe, counter, or redirect, forced into inactivity by defense counsel's strategic decision. The resulting presentation mimicked calm but reflected a fundamentally different internal state: a processing architecture with no available output channel.The jury returned guilty verdicts on all counts following deliberations of less than three hours — a timeline that itself constitutes psychological data. For a defendant whose entire coping structure depends on the belief that her narratives are persuasive, the speed of the verdict communicated something no prior consequence in her life had: she was not even a difficult question.Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#KouriRichins #EricRichins #FentanylPoisoning #ForensicPsychology #NarrativeProduction #WitnessIntimidation #HiddenKillers #TrueCrime #ParkCityUtah #JusticeForEric

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Bongani Bingwa speaks to Dr Khosi Jiyane about the psychology behind compulsive lying and why some people fabricate stories even when there is little or nothing to gain. The discussion explores whether chronic dishonesty is linked to insecurity, attention-seeking, trauma or deeper psychological issues, and how exaggerated “fantasy identities” can affect relationships, trust and self-perception in everyday life. 702 Breakfast with Bongani Bingwa is broadcast on 702, a Johannesburg based talk radio station. Bongani makes sense of the news, interviews the key newsmakers of the day, and holds those in power to account on your behalf. The team bring you all you need to know to start your day Thank you for listening to a podcast from 702 Breakfast with Bongani Bingwa Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 06:00 and 09:00 (SA Time) to Breakfast with Bongani Bingwa broadcast on 702: https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/36edSLV or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/zEcM35T Subscribe to the 702 Daily and Weekly Newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Follow us on social media: 702 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio7See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, my guest is Dr. Casey Halpern, MD, a professor of neurosurgery at the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania. We discuss how deep brain stimulation and other neuromodulation approaches are being used to treat Parkinson's disease, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), binge eating disorder and depression-related symptoms. We also explore the brain circuits that drive compulsions, cravings and impulsivity, as well as emerging non-invasive tools for predicting and treating harmful behaviors. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Rorra: https://rorra.com.huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Casey Halpern (00:00:20) Neurosurgery, Deep Brain Stimulation (00:04:19) Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) & Treatments (00:10:11) Sponsor: Function (00:11:49) OCD Brain Areas, Addiction (00:14:12) Nucleus Accumbens, Risk & Rewards; Binge Eating Disorder (00:18:28) Sponsor: AG1 (00:19:46) Non-Invasive Brain Stimulation, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (00:27:31) Sponsor: Rorra (00:28:46) Awareness of Cravings, Severe Binge Eating Disorder (00:32:51) Artificial Intelligence/Machine Learning & Predicting Impulsive Behavior (00:36:57) Acknowledgements Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

- Contact -"Evil destroys even itself."  Aristotle. " Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you."Aldous HuxleyThe word evil is live, and devil is lived spelled backward.  Lies are backward forms of thought imagining false is true or truth is false.  Whenever we choose to think this way inner conflict, emotional turmoil, and mental anguish indicate we know something is wrong and is an admission we know better.  Obsessive thoughts are highly reactive and manufacture an insane split personality we call ego to assign blame. Splitting atoms causes a chain reaction by splitting adjacent atoms just as reactive behaviors trigger reactivity in our nuclear family of humankind. When nuclear reactors lose control of the release of atomic energy meltdowns occur.  When our struggle to maintain our seeming self as a split personality is literaly out of control emotional and nervous breakdowns, called meltdowns, oftenresult from the pent-up pressure of anxiety and stress stored in our bodies. Wrong thoughts are not a problem until they are believed in as right.  Belief, like any lie, is an opinion imagined to be true. Reality and Truth do not require, ask for, or demand belief or to be thought of at all to Be exactly as They Are. That which does not change is not changed by thinking.  All forms of social ills, anti-social behaviors, and defective actions follow this broken line of irrational thinking.  Self-righteous indignation is never right as its basis is an impossible fight to turn thinking into reality, while it is imagined. This insanity has led to suppressing, oppressing, and killing people who think differently than their aggressor.  This form of justified fighting is happening today - simply because the root of this thinking has not been talked about openly and accurately to dissolve the reactive impulsive rather than justify resolutions that lead to what can seem like different problems while this fractured state of defective thinking is the same. Fantasy as reality is insanity.  We are not afraid of dying we are afraid to have Life's light shine on our dark shadows and reveal the self we think we are is smoke and mirrors, since it is a lie, not our reality. We Know We Know. We Are Aware We Are Aware. We Are as We Are. Reality is unlimited and never changes. The idea that how and what we think creates reality suggests otherwise. Acting on backward thoughts leads to behaviors that are out of order reflecting a reversal of our natural fortune that are accurately called disorders. Anxious, nervous and systemic disorders reflect this impossible attempt to reverse Nature's Law and Order and our Universe's Essence. Dis-ease is the lack of ease created and maintained by such twisted mental acrobatics. Stress and Anxiety inhibit healing and compound and degrade health.  Mentality is a bodily function.  Mental disease is a physcial ailment. For as long as it is misdiagnosed - any cure or treatment will perpetuate its contagion.  Principles affirm Our Indivisible nature. Sharing Principles confirms our natural indivisibility. Inspiration is natural while desperation, depression, degradation and acting oblivious to what is obvious is an unnatural choice to oppose reality which is impossible to accomplish though we are free to try.   Ignoring what is happening, acting as though it shouldn't be or isn't happening, produces the unintelligible gibberish of ignorance - not reality. 

- Contact -MOD concepts have no shelf-life or expiration date.  Since our focus is principled and always happening now - each episode will always reflect the moving fluid nature of current events. Sobriety provides a level of existing clarity previously denied. Looking honestly at mental problems is difficult while obsessed with acting out of order, against any favorable interests, by opposing instinct's nature that naturally guides us to survive and thrive.Emotional sobriety is sane living. Compulsive behaviors never favor our interests. A good example is imagining addiction is an escape into safety by denying actual Reality.  Sick thoughts imagine stellar results while fertilizing the degradation and reckless abandon of pitiful consequences.  We Know We Know. We Are Aware We Are Aware. We Are as We Are. Reality is unlimited and never changes. The idea that how and what we think creates reality suggests otherwise. Acting on backward thoughts leads to behaviors that are out of order reflecting a reversal of our natural fortune that are accurately called disorders. Anxious, nervous and systemic disorders reflect this impossible attempt to reverse Nature's Law and Order and our Universe's Essence. Dis-ease is the lack of ease created and maintained by such twisted mental acrobatics. Stress and Anxiety inhibit healing and compound and degrade health.  Mentality is a bodily function.  Mental disease is a physcial ailment. For as long as it is misdiagnosed - any cure or treatment will perpetuate its contagion.  Principles affirm Our Indivisible nature. Sharing Principles confirms our natural indivisibility. Inspiration is natural while desperation, depression, degradation and acting oblivious to what is obvious is an unnatural choice to oppose reality which is impossible to accomplish though we are free to try.   Ignoring what is happening, acting as though it shouldn't be or isn't happening, produces the unintelligible gibberish of ignorance - not reality. 

Have you found the freedom to explore the rich landscape of your erotic self? Or did your childhood leave you feeling restricted and repressed by a sex negative mindset?  In this week's episode Andrew talks to Silva Neves, a psychosexual psychotherapist, about: Why people DON'T fully explore their sexual selves Why labelling people “sex addicts” is unhelpful, and The liberating mindset of sex positivity.  Silva Neves works with couples experiencing a wide range of sex and relationship issues, including sexual trauma, infidelity, and compulsive sexual behaviours. He regularly appears in the British media and was featured on the BBC Three's television series, Sex On The Couch.  Silva is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. His private practice is based in Central London and online.  If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: ⭐️Three things Sarah Swenson knows to be true. ⭐️AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Attend Andrew's men's retreat near Berlin in June 2026: details here Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things  Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools   Read Andrew's new Substack newsletter The Meaningful Life, and join the community there.  Visit Silva Neves' website Visit Silva Neves' site on sex positivity Get advice from Silva Neves via his Psychology Today blog  Read Silva Neves' book Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians Learn about the course Silva Neves teaches at CICS - an Online Diploma in in Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Follow Silva Neves on social media: Twitter @SilvaNeves3; and Instagram and Facebook @silvanevespsychotherapy Read The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel Read The Men On My Couch: True Stories of Sex, Love and Psychotherapy by David Rensin and Brandy Engler Read Andrew's book Have the Sex You Want: A Couple's Guide to Getting Back the Spark Read Andrew's blog How To Have the Sex You Want Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50. Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

Why do people keep repeating behaviors they know are harmful? In this episode, Dr. Raymond Zakhari explores process addiction and compulsive behaviors through a deeper, patient-centered lens. From gambling, pornography, and shopping to workaholism, chaotic relationships, and digital overuse, these patterns are often less about pleasure and more about emotional regulation, shame, familiarity, and nervous system conditioning. This episode explains why “just stop” rarely works, how compulsive behaviors can serve a hidden function, and why understanding that function is essential for real change.Mentioned in this episode:The classic Bob Newhart “Stop It” therapy sketch, a humorous reminder that compulsive and self-defeating behaviors rarely respond to simple commands or willpower alone: https://youtu.be/aAhA7KfbJgg?si=YJ4z2i9JPs2XtPij

Obsessive thoughts. Compulsive behaviors. Anxiety that won't switch off. What if your thyroid could be playing a bigger role than you think? In this episode, we explore the surprising connection between OCD and conditions like Hashimoto's and hypothyroidism—and why mental health symptoms are sometimes rooted deeper in the body than most people realize.Emerging research shows that people with autoimmune thyroid disorders may have higher rates of OCD, with thyroid hormone imbalances potentially affecting key brain chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and glutamate. When these systems are disrupted, it can fuel anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and compulsive patterns—making thyroid health an often-overlooked piece of the puzzle.If you've ever felt like your symptoms don't fully make sense—or aren't being taken seriously—this episode connects the dots. 

Are you shopping with intention — or shopping to feel better? Image consultant, stylist, and visual merchandiser Mikara Reid of MIIEN Consultancy defines compulsive shopping, what drives it, and why the temporary relief it provides keeps so many people stuck in a cycle of debt, guilt, and overconsumption.#miien #CompulsiveShopping #ShoppingAddiction #WhatIsCompulsiveShopping #IntentionalShopping #MindfulShopping #ShopWithIntention #OverspendingHabits #ConsciousShopping #SlowFashion #WardrobeManagement #PersonalStylist #ImageConsultant #FashionIdentity #StopOverspending #shoppinghabits #mikarareid #miienconsultancy

In this episode, I'm joined by Mel Nelson, a qualified counsellor, Senior Counsellor at an eating disorder charity (SWEDA), and autism-informed practitioner, to discuss the intersection of undiagnosed neurodiversity, compulsive exercise, and eating disorder behaviours.Mel spent over 25 years working in the dance and fitness industry before retraining as a counsellor, and she brings together a really rare combination of lived experience and professional expertise. We got into some really honest territory in this one, and I think so many of you are going to hear yourselves in this conversation.In this episode, we cover:Why bulimia stays hidden for so long (and the shame that keeps it that way)The "fitting in" feeling and why it can make an eating disorder so hard to spotHow neurodivergence and eating disorders can look so similar from the outsideWhy routine isn't always just a neurodivergent thing (and how to tell the difference)What compulsive exercise and purging have more in common than people realiseThe late diagnosis that changed everything, and why it's never too lateWhy recovery sometimes has to start with the smallest of changesConnect with Us:Subscribe to the Full of Beans PodcastFollow Full of Beans on InstagramCheck out our websiteListen on YouTubeConnect with Mel via her website (newday-counselling.co.uk) or Instagram (@newday_counselling)⚠️ Content Note: This episode includes discussion of eating disorders, compulsive exercise, bulimia, depression, and neurodivergence. Please look after yourself as you listen.If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and share to help us spread awareness.Sending positive beans your way, Han

This week on RHOBH, Dorit confronts Sutton about being investigatory, Boz makes a joke that Kyle forces Amanda to confront, Natalie gets accused of lying and more!Follow me on social media, find links to merch, Patreon and more here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feedback? Comments? Questions? Send us a text message now! Do you have the exhausting habit of measuring your life against everyone else's? From social media pressure to career anxiety and relationships, comparison quietly shapes how we see ourselves.We explore:Why our brains are wired to compareHow comparison steals confidence and joyThe hidden cost of constantly measuring your life against othersPractical ways to break the comparison loopSophie is the author of 'Compared to her' which we highly recommend you to read if you've enjoyed this episode. Compared To Her...: How to experience true contentment (Live Different): Amazon.co.uk: de Witt, Sophie: 9781908762429: BooksGet in touch with us on instagram - @table.talk.podcast or email us - tabletalkfeedback@gmail.comFIND OUT MORE

For the past few years I've been trying to understand my own patterns, especially my struggles with compulsive behavior and how it connects with dopamine highs, crashes, and even depression.In this episode, I talk about:- What dopamine actually is- The cycle of chasing a high and crashing after- My personal struggle with compulsive habits- Things I've learned from experts like Andrew Huberman- Why learning to be okay with boredom might be more important than we thinkThis episode isn't about having everything figured out. It's just me sharing what I've been learning and going through. If you're dealing with something similar, maybe this conversation helps.

Compulsive traits are often judged as rigid or unhealthy, but they originate in qualities that once helped humans survive. This essay reframes compulsiveness as an adaptive style—rooted in conscientiousness, focus, and persistence—and explores how these traits can become strengths when consciously directed. Through research, evolutionary psychology, and a clinical vignette, it shows how finding the right “calling” transforms compulsion from a burden into a gift.

Most people think sex therapy means Masters and Johnson-style homework or uncomfortable demonstrations. Dr. Shannon Chavez explains what it actually is—and why sexual concerns are rarely about sex at all. They're about intimacy, attachment, and learning to feel safe in your own body.Dr. Chavez has spent her career helping individuals and couples navigate sexual shame, intimacy disorders, and compulsive behaviors through a trauma informed, non-pathologizing framework. We discuss how shame is learned, not inherent, and why the opposite of shame is acceptance. We talk about how she approaches vaginismus and pelvic pain patients in therapy, why pain can live in the body even after the physical issue is resolved, and how mental rehearsal and visualization help people reclaim pleasure.We also discuss compulsive sexual behaviors not as addiction in the traditional sense, but as intimacy disorders rooted in early trauma and attachment. Dr. Chavez explains why the sex negative addiction model has done more harm than good, how porn is designed to overconsume just like doom scrolling, and why education around healthy sexuality is more effective than abstinence only approaches. We cover pleasure literacy, the difference between healthy desire and compulsive use, and why sex should feel like play, not another item on your to-do list.HighlightsThe body keeps score even after physical pain is resolved, which is why sex therapy is essential for sexual dysfunction issues.Compulsive sexual behaviors are often rooted in early trauma, attachment issues, and lack of self-soothing skills rather than traditional addiction.The sex-negative addiction model has created more stigma and hasn't been effective healing intimacy disorders is more successful.Pleasure literacy means understanding what pleasure means to you personally, not fitting into a prescribed definition.AI companions and technology are creating more isolation, which amplifies sexual and intimacy issues.If you've been struggling with sexual shame, pain, or compulsive behaviors, know that you're not broken. These are things many people navigate at different points in our lives, and reaching out for help doesn't mean years of therapy sometimes it's just getting permission or validation from someone who understands.Get in Touch with Dr. Chavez:WebsiteInstagramTikTokYoutubeGet in Touch with Me: WebsiteInstagramYoutubeSubstack

An internal research study at Meta found that parental supervision may not help teens regulate their social media, and teens with trauma are more inclined to overuse social media. Also, as the AI hardware space heats up, the iPhone maker has multiple smart products in development. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

An internal research study at Meta dubbed “Project MYST” created in partnership with the University of Chicago, found that parental supervision and controls — such as time limits and restricted access — had little impact on kids' compulsive use of social media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A Husky narrates a compassionate, humorous, and perceptive account of living with a human who has obsessive‑compulsive personality disorder traits. Through keen canine observation, the Husky contrasts natural dog instincts—flexibility, presence, connection—with the rigid routines, perfectionism, rationalization, and emotional struggles of the human world. The story explores themes of routine, control, relationships, emotional expression, and the possibility of change. Ultimately, the dog encourages humans to keep perspective, let go more easily, and remember what truly matters: connection, simplicity, and a few good belly scratches.

Join the Guildwww.imnotquitting.com Overcoming Emotional Eating: A Journey of Self-Love and AcceptanceIn this episode of the Becoming Thin Podcast, host Chris Terrell opens up about his personal weight loss journey, sharing his struggle with yo-yo dieting and emotional eating. Chris provides valuable insights into the importance of self-love, acceptance, and forgiveness, emphasizing that real, lasting change requires overhauling one's lifestyle, habits, environment, community, and belief systems. He answers a poignant email from a listener named Ursula, offering her practical advice on how to start addressing emotional eating by fostering gratitude for her body, seeking therapy, and surrounding herself with supportive people. Chris also recommends the book 'Eight Keys to End Emotional Eating' by Dr. Howard Farkas and highlights the significance of understanding one's emotions and developing healthy ways to express them.00:00 Introduction and Host's Weight Loss Journey01:31 The Importance of Self-Love and Acceptance04:38 A Listener's Struggle with Compulsive Eating07:08 Chris Terrell's Personal Background10:31 Foundations for Overcoming Emotional Eating16:36 Practical Steps and Tools for Managing Emotional Eating24:08 Building a Supportive Community26:10 Conclusion and Encouragement

We are more self-aware than ever, and yet many people feel more stuck, anxious, and exhausted than before. Therapy culture has helped us name pain, but it often leaves us circling it. Insight increases, language expands, but healing stalls. What if the very frameworks meant to help us are quietly blocking our ability to change? This week on Win Today, Dr. Lee Warren joins me for a conversation that bridges neuroscience, faith, and lived experience. As a practicing neurosurgeon and trauma survivor, Dr. Warren explains why the brain resists healing, how survival mode hijacks our thinking, and why compulsive rumination feels productive while actually reinforcing pain. We explore the science behind neuroplasticity and the spiritual responsibility we carry to participate in our own renewal. This episode doesn't dismiss therapy, but it challenges passivity. Healing requires more than awareness. It requires agency, discipline, and the courage to rewire patterns that no longer serve life. Guest Bio Dr. W. Lee Warren is a practicing neurosurgeon, author, and speaker known for integrating neuroscience, faith, and personal experience to help people heal from trauma and transform their lives. A survivor of profound personal loss, he has spent decades studying how thoughts shape the brain and how intentional mental practices can lead to lasting emotional and spiritual renewal. He is the author of multiple books, including The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery. Show Partners SafeSleeve designs a phone case that blocks up to 99% of harmful EMF radiation—so I'm not carrying that kind of exposure next to my body all day. It's sleek, durable, and most importantly, lab-tested by third parties. The results aren't hidden—they're published right on their site. And that matters because many so-called EMF blockers on the market either don't work or can't prove they do. We protect our hearts and minds—why wouldn't we protect our bodies too? Head to safesleevecases.com and use the code WINTODAY10 for 10% off your order. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my book "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Bulimia can feel confusing, shame-filled, and deeply misunderstood — especially when the binge–purge cycle starts to feel automatic, secretive, or bigger than willpower.In this episode of Fly To Freedom, I'm joined by Dr Rachel Evans (psychologist, hypnotherapist, and host of the Just Eat Normally podcast). Rachel brings both lived experience and specialist knowledge of bulimia, and she helps me unpack what bulimia actually is, why the behaviours happen, and how recovery can become possible — even when things have felt stuck for a long time.We talk about the psychology and biology behind bingeing and purging, the role of fear and compulsion, and the myths that keep people trapped — including myths around calories, laxatives, and exercise. I also share openly that my lived experience is with anorexia, not bulimia, and I invite Rachel to guide the conversation with accuracy and compassion.How Rachel describes bulimia (and why diagnosis labels can feel vague or limiting)What makes a binge feel like a binge (including secrecy, speed, dissociation, and “I can't stop” urgency)The different types of compensatory behaviours, including vomiting, laxatives, fasting, and compulsive exerciseWhy it's often the intention and fear underneath a behaviour that shows whether it's becoming a problemThe myths people get taught about laxatives and purging, and why they're never the “solution” the eating disorder promisesHow exercise can become a form of purging — even when it looks “healthy” from the outsideWhy bingeing and purging can create a “high” or sense of relief (and how that reinforces the cycle)Why understanding what the behaviour is doing for you matters more than shameWhy eating disorders often morph and change over time, especially around big life eventsWhy punishment never creates healing — and why compassion and understanding actually change thingsA practical next step: gently noticing patterns (feelings, triggers, restriction, urges) without judgementRecovery is possible. You can live without the constant shadow of food thoughts, urges, shame, and compensation. You deserve support that helps you understand what's driving the cycle — and what to do instead.Rachel is a psychologist and hypnotherapist, and the host of the Just Eat Normally podcast. She has lived experience of bulimia recovery and supports people who want to step out of the binge–purge cycle for good.Website: eatingdisordertherapist.co.ukInstagram: rachel.evans.phdPodcast: Just Eat NormallyI also share where you can find ongoing support inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/You can find more recovery tips and 1:1 coaching at Juliatrehane.com And you can always find me over on Instagram @juliatrehane

Village Tales. Compulsive Liars. Railway Time Clocks. There's a lot to chat about in this episode. I hope you enjoy it! 

Secrets to self-preservation in an age of burnout.   Tim Ferris is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers, including The 4-Hour Workweek and Tools of Titans. He's also the host of The Tim Ferriss Show podcast. Most recently, he has collaborated with Exploding Kittens to create COYOTE, a fast and hilarious card game.  In this episode we talk about: Tim's Antidotes to isolation Past-year reviews The perils of self-optimization His meditation practice Escaping rumitive loops  The role of Accelerated Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) The ketogenic diet  Talking to chatbots about your health And much more Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  The New Frontiers of Mental Health — Brain Stimulation, Rapid-Acting Tools for Depression, and More All Things Ketones, How to Boost Cognition, Sardine Fasting, Diet Rules, & More — Dr. Dom D'Agostino TED: Why you should define your fears instead of your goals Tim Ferriss, Host of 'The Tim Ferriss Show,' Author   To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris       Thanks to our sponsors:  LinkedIn:  Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to linkedin.com/happier. HexClad:  Get 10% off your order with our exclusive link. Just head to hexclad.com/happier. Square:  Right now, you can get up to $200 off Square hardware at square.com/go/happier.

Viviane souffre d'une addiction compulsive qui la pousse à accumuler des objets, principalement des vêtements et des livres, au point de ne plus pouvoir recevoir chez elle. Elle est suivie par une psychologue et des infirmiers pour l'aider à désencombrer son espace de vie et envisage de déménager dans un logement thérapeutique. Viviane exprime sa souffrance face à cette situation et souligne l'importance de l'aide qu'elle reçoit. Chaque soir, en direct, Caroline Dublanche accueille les auditeurs pour 2h30 d'échanges et de confidences. Pour participer, contactez l'émission au 09 69 39 10 11 (prix d'un appel local) ou sur parlonsnous@rtl.fr Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Compulsive behavior is the product of ones need to establish a sense of control amidst all their anxious thoughts. Obsessive compulsion is fairly common — the National Institute of Mental Health say 2.3% of adults struggle with OCD in their lifetime. Many people get stuck in cycles of excessive and irrational performance BUT what if I told you that oftentimes spirituality and religion can exacerbate these tendencies?Scrupulosity—often called religious OCD—is a quiet struggle in many churches, where sincere Christians feel stuck in constant guilt and fear. They worry they're never doing enough for God, replaying thoughts and prayers over and over just to feel “safe.” Instead of resting in Christ, they live exhausted and unsure. It looks like devotion on the outside, but inside it's a trap of fear that steals joy and confidence. On today's show we hope to shine a light on this often-misunderstood battle to better understand how the gospel frees people from the weight of compulsive religion and leads them back into real peace with Christ.To guide us through this important conversation, we're joined by Jonathan Kindler, biblical counselor, faculty professor at LFBI and host of the Sound Mind podcast.Visit https://www.soundmind.live/podcastVisit https://www.lfbi.org/learnmore

In this episode: Compulsive behaviors surrounding the use of tech devices Words beget words What types of experiences are people striving to have in this lifetime and why? Associations with suffering What does healing actually mean? What we come to earth to experience based on our astrological natal chart Being curious about suffering and confronting it head on Admiration of physical endurance vs judgment of emotional endurance  How spiritual connection presents itself as sensations in the body AJ's life update surrounding starting a new research focused job Find Alex here: AlexandraThomsen.com @alexandrathomsen.oracle Intuition Course

What does it really take to break free from food addiction, binge eating, and emotional eating? In this powerful episode of the Food Freedom Podcast, Coach Mary explores the simple but life-changing truth behind recovery: Choice. Chance. Change.If you've been stuck in the cycle of dieting, overeating, guilt, and starting over, this episode will help you understand why nothing changes until you decide to do something different even when it feels scary. Mary shares how making a clear choice, taking a chance on food sobriety, and staying committed through discomfort is how real freedom from food obsession begins.You'll learn why willpower isn't the problem, how emotional eating and food addiction are fueled by avoidance and self-betrayal, and what it actually takes to create lasting change in your relationship with food.This episode is for anyone struggling with:• Food addiction• Binge eating• Emotional eating• Compulsive overeating• Yo-yo dieting• Cravings and food noise• Weight loss resistanceIf you're ready to stop numbing with food and start building self-trust, clarity, and control, this episode will give you the mindset shift you need to begin.Listen now and take the first step toward Food Freedom.Grab your copy of my FREE 9 page Beginner's Guide to Food Sobriety https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/foodsobrietyguideFood Freedom Online Course: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/foodfreedomcourseFood Sobriety Mini Course -https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/foodsobrietymcWant to learn more about me and my coaching programs? Do you need private coaching and intensive daily contact with a coach? Fill out my application so we can chat about whether or not my program is for you and which option is best for you. Payment plans available. Don't see a payment option that works for your pay schedule? Let's chat about a custom pay plan.www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/chooseyourpath Join my online community The Food Freedom Tribe! An online community of support, eduction, inspiration, accountability….. Learn more here: https://www.foodfreedomwithmary.com/tribemembership Application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1upnWHYK0RXfmyRTqlsF_R06z3NA8LZYHIMWFykq7-X4/viewformInstagram: www.instagram.com/coachmaryroberts Facebook: www.Facebook.com/ketomary71 Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/4915319108493196/?ref=share_group_linkWebsite: www.foodfreedomwithmary.com Join the email list.Email: mary@foodfreedomwithmary.

We've got perfectionism all wrong. The real problem isn't high standards—it's the illusion of perfectibility and harsh judgment that have been grafted onto it. Perfectionism began as a guide toward purpose, but centuries of distortion turned it into an enforcer of impossible ideals. Instead of banishing perfectionism, we can reclaim its adaptive side—commitment, persistence, and pursuit of excellence—while stripping away conceit and control. By befriending perfectionism, acknowledging its shadow, and clarifying our purpose, we transform it from a tyrant into a trusted partner. This episode brings together science and Jungian psychology for an unconventional approach to dealing with perfectionism. 

What if you could turn regret into wisdom and self-attack into self-love? This week on Love University, we explore how to finally break the grip of regret and live with full freedom and joy. The Regret Weakness is a subtle but persistent thought pattern—the belief that your past defines your future, and that you're somehow unworthy of success, love, or happiness because of previous mistakes and failures.  Regret, unfortunately, can lead to paralysis, low self-worth, and a repeated cycle of poor choices. But when reframed into wisdom and self-acceptance, it can be one of your greatest sources of strength and clarity. Here are three essential takeaways from the episode: Separate mistakes from your identity Regret becomes destructive when it turns into self-definition. It's one thing to acknowledge a mistake—it's another to believe that an error or failure means you're fundamentally flawed. The Regret Weakness thrives on that confusion. Because of what happened in the past, you begin to believe you're “bad at relationships,” “not cut out for success,” or “too damaged to change.” But the truth is, the version of you who made those past decisions no longer exists. Healing begins when you stop dragging your old identity into your present and realize that the new you doesn't need to repeat the cycles of the past. Allow progress without perfection A common regret trap is expecting overnight transformation—then feeling like a failure when old habits resurface. But growth isn't linear. You will have setbacks—what matters is how you interpret them. If you shame yourself for every backward step, you reinforce the very patterns you're trying to break. But when you allow yourself to return, recommit, and realign—without judgment—you build emotional strength. The Regret Weakness loses its power when you understand that healing includes imperfection, and growth encompasses wisdom from lessons learned. Convert regret into learning and hope When regret lingers, it's usually because you haven't yet mined the wisdom from the experience. You're stuck in “If only…” instead of “Next time I will…” That shift—looking forward instead of backward—changes everything. Every painful memory contains valuable knowledge: what mattered to you, what you ignored, what boundary you didn't set. When you uncover that meaning, you create a new imprint—a Loving Memory—where wisdom replaces shame, and acceptance surpasses imperfection. Now regret stops being a chain and becomes a compass to the discovery of your most loving and true self.   The bottom line: Learn how to erase regret and look forward to a glorious and wonderful future.

Why gay men struggle with compulsive phone use -- and how anxiety, comparison, and validation loops fuel it. Learn tools to heal and reconnect with real life.  

In this episode, Sathiya breaks down the difference between porn addiction and compulsive or problematic porn use—and explains why the label doesn't actually matter as much as people think. Since pornography addiction isn't officially recognized in the DSM-5, many men convince themselves they're “not addicted,” even while experiencing all the signs of compulsive behavior. Learn how to evaluate whether your porn use is problematic, why minimizing your struggle keeps you stuck, and how anyone with ongoing porn-related issues can start real recovery. This episode is perfect for listeners seeking help with porn addiction recovery, compulsive porn habits, or understanding the signs of problematic porn use (PPU).   Know more about Sathiya's work: Join Deep Clean Inner Circle - The Brotherhood You Neeed (+ get coached by Sathiya) For Less Than $2/day Submit Your Questions (Anonymously) To Be Answered On The Podcast Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, Your Blueprint For Recovery Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This   Chapters:  (00:00) Are You Addicted or Just Compulsive? (01:10) Why Many People Resist the Word “Addict” (02:20) Minimizing the Problem: Common Justifications (03:40) Why Porn Addiction Isn't in the DSM-5 (04:50) The Better Question: Is Your Porn Use Problematic? (06:40) What Counts as “Problematic” Porn Use? (08:20) Improvement Isn't the Same as Freedom (09:10) Why Labels Don't Matter—Solutions Do (10:40 Final Thoughts & Call to Action