The Tantric Lounge Radio Show

Spice alone tastes terrible, add it to something fundamentally good and it takes it to new realms of experience... Broadening your sexual repertoire and opening up to the amazing life-enhancing potential of a fulfilled sexuality requires a strong basis. If we divide our sexuality into physical, mental, emotional and spiritual sexuality, it’s vital that our emotional sexuality and our spiritual sexuality are developed so that we have the safety and therefore the freedom to explore the physical and mental dimensions of our sexuality, to spice things up. Download Audio: Broadening Your Sexual Repertoire

Jacqueline calls it the Third Wave of Sexuality, today’s guest Sex Geek calls it the New Sexual Revolution. Alison Petrie is a Tantric Practitioner, Healer and Workshop Facilitator. Today we talk with her about this new revolution, what is it, why is Tantra such a big part of it, and what does women’s orgasmicness have to do with it? What is orgasmicness anyway? Find out here, on The Tantric Lounge! About Today’s Sex Geek: Alison Petrie Alison began her working life as an IT professional in a busy, corporate, male dominated environment. A need for more meaning, fulfillment and a curiosity for all things spiritual lead to a career change into psychology/counselling and energy healing. Having opened up on many levels through study, yoga, meditation, energy work and psychic development and having always had a healthy interest in sex, the next question emerged “Can sex be even better ?” which started a deep dive into the world of Tantra and Sacred Sexuality and a reclaiming and valuing of her feminine essence and the need for it in the world. Alison is now the Sydney based facilitator for Tantric Blossoming and the founder of I Am Woman Global. She runs regular events and private sessions for men and women who want to connect more deeply to themselves and others, enjoy more authentic, heart-centred connections and explore the depths of sexuality beyond the physical. Because of her own journey, she especially enjoys supporting women to own their beauty and feminine power, to enjoy more conscious relationships and intimacy, and to rediscover their amazing capacity for sexual pleasure. Visit Alison at: www.tantricblossoming.com www.iamwomanglobal.com Download Audio: Female Orgasmicness and the New Sexual Revolution

Shibari - the Art of Japanese Bondage has a long history. What is it exactly, what is its appeal to modern Westerners, why are we discussing it on the Tantric Lounge, why are there photos of Jacqueline being tied up and why is she having trouble speaking? Shibari is Tantric in essence - it’s about deep connection, sensuality, beauty and poetry. Today we talk to Hebari, head teacher at the Rope Dojo in Sydney’s inner suburbs and curator of the Sydney Rope Festival. Listen and look at photos as he ties Jacqueline up during this episode... Guest Info David (known as Hebari) has practiced Shibari for 16 years, travelling to Japan regularly to study with his mentors. He has performed and taught workshops all over the world. David began the Sydney Rope Dojo in 2011 where people can come and take classes weekly. The focus of the Dojo is to enable people connect with their partners with a heavy focus on teaching safe practices. www.sydneyropedojo.com.au www.sydneyropefestival.com.au Photos of Hebari tying up Jacqueline on the show: {module_photogallery,23013,4,,100,295,295} Download Audio: All Tied Up in the Japanese Art of Bondage

On today’s show we’re not interviewing a Sex Geek, we’re talking to Seven Sex Goddesses! Or at least, Jacqueline is introducing us to the concept of the Seven Goddesses of Sex and how accessing their energies can help modern women come into the fullness of their gorgeous sexuality, with stronger self-image, more desire and greater sexual response! I've been working on this concept for over six years and I've just released the book. Each Goddess is accompanied by a fictional, historical erotic story to convey the feeling of these energies in a way that is accessible for modern-day woman. Then through 24 illustrative erotic stories readers follow the experiences of three fictional modern women as they experience the energy of each Goddess in their lives. I call it educational erotica - written to educate and inspire! Available exclusively on my site - purchase Seven Sex Goddesses here. Download Audio: Meet the Seven Goddesses of Sex

Menopause affects 100% of women who live long enough to experience it. But what exactly is menopause and how does it affect a woman’s sex life and the sex lives of her partners? In this show we’ll be talking to Heather Cameron, Director and CEO of the Menopause Resource Centre, a not-for-profit humanitarian venture dedicated to increasing awareness about menopause and to empowering women about their choices during what can be a challenging time of life and sexual life. Guest info After having married, raised three daughters and run several successful businesses, at the age of 50 Heather Cameron’s life changed dramatically when her menopause started. Surprised, amazed and exhausted by menopause’s frequently debilitating symptoms, Heather embarked on a continuing journey to know more about what was happening her body, mind and spirit. Disappointed and frustrated by the difficulty of finding information about menopause that was easy to access or understand, in 2013 Heather decided to found The Menopause Resource Centre. It’s mission – to give all women an enduring resource where they can find answers, support and empowerment and to break the silence and taboos surrounding a life change that affects all women and the people they love. www.mrcw.com.au Download Audio: Sex in the Time of Menopause

Today Xavier and I are chatting with two guest Sex Geeks - Deej Juventin and Uma Furman, two of Australia’s top somatic sex educators and practitioners. They practice and teach Sexological Bodywork, supporting individuals, couples and groups to learn to direct their own erotic development, learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, or work through sexual issues or concerns. It’s a fabulous modality for healing which includes breath work, touch, Taoist Bodywork, mapping, scar tissue remediation, and Orgasmic Yoga coaching. This is yet another fascinating conversation down, on The Tantric Lounge! Guest Sex Geek info Deej and Uma are leading somatic sex educators. Focusing on empowering people of all genders, sexualities, and backgrounds to lead more embodied erotic lives, their work is highly experiential, and delivered with safety, heart, and integrity. Based in Brisbane, Australia, they run their programs internationally. They teach the Certificate in Sexological Bodywork Professional Training in Australia and Europe, and are founding members of the Institute of Somatic Sexology and the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia. www.issaustralia.com www.embodiedtherapy.com.au www.tantrawithuma.com.au Download Audio: Sexological Bodywork

A great and often under appreciated aspect of sexuality is that of harmony, and one of our most easily accessed paths to harmony is through sound. In this Tantric Lounge episode sound therapist Lia Smith talks to Xavier and I about how she uses sound to evoke both harmony within ourselves and with our partners. We also explore the issue of intimacy and how we align ourselves through sound and vibration. Guest Sex Geek Info Lia is an artist, bio-energetic medicine practitioner and birth Doula. Her interdisciplinary practice finds her weaving together skills and interests between the art and health worlds. In recent years she founded a wellness centre in the heart of Sydney's iconic Bondi Beach. Currently based in the Blue Mountains, she practices as a therapist and performance artist Australia-wide and abroad. She offers one-to-one wellness consultations, energetic body balances, bio energetic qi gong, sound healing and birth attendant services. She runs workshops in a range of areas, from authentic relating and movement, creative arts labs and sound intimacy experiences. Lia has been engaged in personal mind, body, spirit and soul practice for over 16 years. She has had the honour of assisting many others along the way. Her approach embraces both contemporary medical knowledge and ancient medicine traditions; drawing on the art and science of what is available and translating between the two for the best possible outcome. www.liasmith/ntpages.com.au Download Audio: Sound Intimacy

Our guest on The Tantric Lounge this week has a fascinating story. A good country Catholic wife, mother of seven, Trish Lehman left all that behind in her 50s to pursue her sexual awakening. Moving to the big city she became a, well, she’s not quite sure what to call herself, a sex worker, a surrogate, a bodyworker. Essentially she provides loving touch to those in need, often older men or disabled men, but she’s also amazed at the younger men who seek her services. She’s an amazing woman, come and meet her this week on The Tantric Lounge. Guest Sex Geek Info A good country Catholic wife, mother of seven, Trish Lehman left all that behind In her 50s to pursue her sexual awakening. Moving to the big city she became a, well, she’s not quite sure what to call herself, a sex worker, a surrogate, a bodyworker. Essentially she provides loving touch to those in need, often older men or disabled men, but she’s also amazed at the younger men who seek her services. Download Audio: A Mature Woman’s Sexual Mission

What is the future of sex? Join me and co-presenter Xavier as we talk with futurist, Ross Dawson. Teledildonics, Virtual Sex, Quasi-holographics, are just a few of the technological innovations that could transform our sex lives. Fascinating stuff, but where does love, connection, spirituality fit in with all this techno-sex. Tune in for what is bound to be a fascinating conversation with a Futurist Sex Geek! Guest Sex Geek Info Ross Dawson is globally recognised as a leading futurist, keynote speaker, entrepreneur and authority on business strategy. Strong demand sees Ross speak frequently at major conferences and internal business events around the world. He is the best-selling author of books including the prescient Living Networks, which foresaw the social networking revolution, as well as Trends in the Living Networks, ranked as one of the top business blogs in the world. Ross’s frequent media appearances include CNN, Bloomberg TV, ABC TV, SkyNews, Today and Sunrise, Washington Post and many others. Download Audio: The Future of Sex

The human body is an incredible pleasure machine, the sensations and experiences we can potentially experience are incredible. Until recently though, it wasn’t really an aspect of science that was studied particularly thoroughly. Even today there is a lot that is unknown or unconfirmed. There’s a lot that is though, and it’s a lot more than you would have learned in school sex ed classes (if you were even lucky enough to get sex ed.) That was more about reproduction than sex, more about how to have babies and not have babies, than about pleasure, intimacy and sexual delight. We’ll be joined in this episode with another of Australia’s great Sex Geeks, Cyndi Darnell, who is creating a fabulous project on sexual anatomy. Join us to find out more about your fabulous body and it’s awesome sexual potential! Guest Info Cyndi Darnell is one of Australia's leading sex therapists with over 20 years experience studying human sexuality from the clinical (M.HSc / Grad Dip C/HS) to the esoteric (Sexological Bodywork and Tantra). Her work and comment has been sought for media around the country. She was a co-creator of six educational podcasts with Catherine Deveny on popular topics in adult sex education. She was the founder and host of Pleasure Forum Australia which ran in Melbourne from 2010- 2013. Cyndi counsels individuals, couples & beyond, she runs comprehensive and entertaining educational seminars and workshops on adult sexuality, pleasure & relationships both in Australia and globally to demystify sex and emphasise pleasure. Cyndi is uniquely placed to be able to bridge the world of sexology from a variety of perspectives and approaches that embrace, understand and challenge the diversity of human sexuality. www.cyndidarnell.com Download Audio: The Anatomy of Sex

The urge to merge is a natural desire. We crave bliss and connection and fear isolation. Yet to merge requires letting go, and that requires trust and vulnerability. These qualities are often considered ‘weak’, but in fact they require great strength. Find that inner strength to be vulnerable and then you can actually fulfil your urge to merge... Download Audio: The Urge to Merge

Imagine letting go and simply allowing what will be to be, without fighting or striving, with a sense of ease and flow. Surrendering... There isn’t really a word in the English language that has a positive sense to letting go of control, just allowing. Which might be one of the reasons why so many people find it hard to do. We spend our lives trying hard, working at things, wanting to achieve goals and success. And then in the down-time doing the opposite, zombying out in front of the television, zoning out with drugs and alcohol. It’s like the switches are set to full on or full off. There’s another way, The Way of Surrender. Think of it as trusting that the Universe is safe, has your best interest at heart, and if you allow it, life will unfold and flow just beautifully... Download Audio: The Way of Surrender

What is the correct etiquette for sexual interactions? How do you approach an existing or prospective partner? How do you deal with response, positive or negative? How do you conduct the interaction? What do you do if it’s not going the way you’d like? Or if something horribly embarrassing happens?! Find out this week, down, on The Tantric Lounge.... Download Audio: Sexual Etiquette

Would you like to be a fly on the wall at one of my women’s retreats? In this episode I go through what happened at a recent retreat, sharing the activities and the insights of the participants. Get a taste of womanly lusciousness, down, on The Tantric Lounge... Would you like to be a fly on the wall at one of my women’s retreats? In this episode I go through what happened at a recent retreat, sharing the activities and the insights of the participants. Get a taste of womanly lusciousness, down, on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: Retreating With Luscious Women

We’re getting kinky down on the Lounge this week, talking about the Tantric approach to dominance and submission, pleasure and pain and all those delicious delights on the ‘darker’ side… Is this compatible with spirituality? Absolutely! Find out more on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: Tantric Dominance and Submission

Letting go through Tantra and opening up to sexual possibilities can take you to beautiful states of altered consciousness. It can also take you to wild states of primal consciousness - a place where the primitive is unleashed and the wild one enters. This is not civilization, it’s the wilderness - wild and ravishing, a beauty that is savage not tamed. Find out more this week on The Tantric Lounge…. Download Audio: Unleashing the Primitive

What’s your greatest erogenous zone? Your skin! So any part of your body can be an erogenous zone. We tend to limit sexual attention to only those parts of the body which we believe are ‘erogenous’, and limit is the word because there aren’t too many of them. When you explore ways to turn your whole body into an erogenous zone you open yourself up to a whole swathe of sensual pleasures…. Download Audio: Turn Your Whole Body Into An Erogenous Zone

What is a hobby? According to the dictionary it’s “an activity done regularly in one’s leisure time for pleasure.” That sounds like sex to me! We all know that it’s good for couples to have a mutual hobby - cooking, gardening, sport, travel, outdoor recreation, decorating, traveling, study. It gives them something to talk about together, to experiment with and to enjoy together. You’re having sex anyway, so why not give it the same focus and attention that you give any hobby? Join me and my co-host Xavier Waterkeyn to find out more about how to make sex and intimacy your hobby, down on the Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: Make Sex Your Hobby

So much of sex these days is blatant. There’s no mystery, no mystique. What happens when couples share too much? There’s no room for desire, there’s no wanting to move toward, to discover more. Instead it’s dullness or moving away. How do you maintain the interest, through mystique, in a relationship? How do you ensure there is always more to discover? Find out this week on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio: The Magic of Mystique

So much of my work is men is about how they can develop themselves sexually and spiritually. As one young man said to me recently, sex without the spiritually is empty. I love it when men come to me to grow in this way. There’s often a feeling that spirituality is somehow soft and unmanly - far from it! The young man just mentioned is a war vet who fought in Afghanistan, there’s nothing unmanly about him. Just as there is nothing unmanly about the tradesmen, truck-drivers, CEOs, doctors, lawyers, etc. who come to me for sexual and spiritual growth. Tantra is all about developing spiritually through the every-day, including through sexual connection. This means men need to grow in both their spiritual understanding and practice and in their sexual understanding and growth. Find out how this can occur in this week’s Tantric Lounge…. Download Audio: Tantric Development for Men

An element of Tantra is cathecting (or plugging into) the divine in yourself and your partner. In this episode of The Tantric Lounge we’re going to look at the divine feminine and the divine masculine and consider why it’s important for modern day people to tap into this aspect of themselves and of reality in general. It’s the Bhakti-yoga part of Tantra, the devotional, heart-centred part of spiritual growth - which all leads to more blissful states of being. Download Audio: Cathecting the Divine

Tantra is all about developing spiritually, moving towards transcendence, a state of bliss. As you advance in sexual Tantra love-making feels like a wave of bliss. It feels like you're surfing through the waves of bliss. It’s very different to the standard of bigger-harder-faster sex of the West. In this episode we’re going to be looking at what it takes to be able to do this. How do you discipline your body, mind and emotions to be able to become so unattached to outcome that you have such an outcome?! It’s a paradox - the doing of not doing, the feeling of not feeling. Yep, this week folks we’re getting down and deep into the spirituality of it all. Tune in to find out more, down on The Tantric Lounge… Download Audio:Riding the Tantric Wave

More than ever, children and adolescents need to be well educated about sex. If young people are well informed, if they know that their sexuality is a good and powerful thing, they will use it in a positive way to enhance their lives, however that may manifest for them as individuals with their own unique sexuality. Given the current ‘porn star VS prude’ approach to sex in our society - where you’re either supposed to be out there having crazy sex or you’re the prude who thinks sex is somehow ‘wrong’ - this is a big ask. It’s particularly big given that so many parents have issues around their own sexuality. So how do you raise your kids to have a positive healthy attitude sex? Tune in to The Tantric Lounge to find out… Download Audio: Bringing Kids Up Sex Positive

We Westerners love to put things in boxes, especially sex. Sex is something different from life, something ‘other’. So people tend to think that Tantric Sex is replacing the ‘sex’ box with the ‘Tantric sex’ box. If Tantra is more about life than just about sex, then what is a Tantric Life? How do you live La Vida Tantrica? In this episode Xavier and I look at how you live outside the ‘automaton’ life so many people lead these days and start ‘Tantracizing’ life so that you experience the profound in the everyday. To use one of Xavier’s lovely analogies “What’s the Tantra Dust recipe?” Tune in find out… Download Audio: Living La Vida Tantrika

The Tantric Lounge is back for its second season, sponsored by the fabulous folk at Lelo, the world’s leading designer brand for intimate products. The Tantric Lounge remains a sleaze-free zone, devoted to beauty and meaning in sex, love and intimacy - this is where sex is an art and sex is a science. But it’s not just about sex, at least, not just about what so many people think Tantric sex is about. So in this episode my co-host Xavier and I are doing some Tantric myth-busting! Is Tantra some weird hippie practice that involves hours of sex and orgies? Or is it an approach to living, a way of being in the world that encompasses sexuality rather than marginalising it or trying to ‘transcend’ it? Find out this week, down on The Tantric Lounge. Download Audio:Tantric Myth-Busting

Over the past few episodes we’ve been looking at women and looking at men, now we’re going to look at them both together and talk about couples and sex. But there’s no use talking about sex before we talk about getting to sex. It’s where modern couples fall down and in this show we’re going to look at why this happens and what to do about. When you get the ‘getting to sex’ part right, you get the sex right. I call it the Beforeplay… Download Audio: Beforeplay

In this program Xavier and I will be talking with Grant Soosalu about the Sex Brain. Grant and his colleague Marvin Oka have developed the concept of mbraining, based on our multiple brains. The head, heart and gut brains are well known in science, and reflect ancient tantric and Taoist knowledge. Based on this ancient wisdom, Grant and I suspect there is also a Sex Brain, based around the genitals. Each of the other brains has it’s primary function, so what could be the prime function of the sex brain, and how do you get them all aligned so that you living fully congruently? Download Audio: The Sex Brain

What does a Sex Therapist do, and how does Tantra fit into contemporary sex therapy? Find out in this program! Xavier quizzes me in depth on the kind of cases I have and how I deal with them. With lots of case studies of real life clients this is a fascinating peek into what goes on in my consulting rooms. You might even find quite a bit of yourself in there.... Download Audio: Therapy With A Twist of Tantra

Last week we talked about woman - stuff you need to know as a woman to feel good about your womanliness and your sexuality. This week we’re going to look at how you take that empowered sense of female sexuality into partnered sex, for fabulous results. I’lll be showing you how to release the goddess within! In fact, I'll talk about all seven sex goddesses within! So please join me and my co-host Xavier down on The Tantric Lounge to discover so much more about female sexuality than you might ever have imagined… Download Audio: Great Sex? Release the Goddess Within!

This week’s program is all about women! We’ll be talking about what every woman (and her partner!) needs to know about her biology, her psychology and her energy to be able to feel luscious and sexual. We won’t say too much more here, as this is secret women’s business. So join me and my co-host Xavier down on The Tantric Lounge to discover the secrets… Download Audio: Secret Women’s Business

I meet a lot of sensual explorers - people on a quest to find meaning in their sexuality, people who know that sexuality and spirituality are linked, that the concept of conscious sexuality is important. I'm often asked by clients and workshop participants: "Where can I practice this and how can I meet people interested in Tantra, Spirituality and Conscious Sexuality?" The answer is: at The Tantric Lounge Live! Drawing on knowledge and experience from a range of traditions, combined with modern science and transpersonal coaching practice, every month I host the Tantric Lounge Live, where over three hours I lead practices and discussion around consciousness, sexuality and spirituality. In this week’s program I’m explaining why I run the Lounge live, what we do, and what participants get out of it. Along the way, you’ll get a lot of insight and practical advice! Download Audio: The Tantric Lounge Live

What does it take for a man to be a Black Belt in the bedroom? Not hot tips and tricks. It’s actually all about who he is being, not what he is doing. He needs to embody the five ‘C’s: calm, confident, connected, in control and creative. Learn more in this very educational show! Download Audio: Black Belt in the Bedroom

This program is all about men! I’ll share my insights from Tantric traditions and modern science and my own considerable experience working with countless men in therapy and coaching sessions and workshops. I’ll bust some more myths about men and sexuality, and replace them with positive, practical knowledge and ideas to help all men become great lovers! Download Audio: Secret Men’s Business

We’re on a roll busting myths and giving you real information about sex and sexuality. We’ve shown that a lot of our sexual beliefs are misconceptions, that men and women aren’t that different, and that what is different is good and complementary! So this week let’s look at how we came to be this way - why are humans so sexy? We’ll look at the evolution of human sexuality, and how understanding the yin and yang of sex makes so much sense - plus how you can use this information to create a wonderful empowered sex life for yourself! Download Audio: Why Humans Are So Sexy

In our fourth show down on The Tantric Lounge, my co-host Xavier and I are continuing to bust myths and ditch beliefs that limit us and hold us back from reaching our sexual potential! Last week it was that men and women are more similar than different. This week we’re celebrating the differences. Yes, there are differences and those differences are good - vive la difference! We are the complementary sexes, not the opposite sexes. In the practical part of the show we’re going to start moving sexual energy in our bodies. So join us on the Tantric Lounge and move closer to your sexual potential… Download Audio: Vive La Difference!

Show three is here and down on The Tantric Lounge my co-host Xavier Waterkeyn and I are well and truly off and running, taking listeners on their way to sexual empowerment! On the Tantric Lounge we’re busy busting myths and ditching beliefs that limit us and hold us back from reaching our sexual potential. Last week it was the myth that sex is a base, animalistic activity, not a higher human endeavour, and this week we’re looking at myths around men and women: that men are more sexual than women, or that we are ‘opposite’ rather than ‘complementary’ sexes. With conversations that are at times side-splittingly funny or deeply moving, we'll inform and inspire! This program’s practical activity will be developing your pelvic floor - it might sound dull, but oh boy, get your pelvic floor working and sex will start happening…! So come join us on The Tantric lounge. It’s the start of a whole new journey… Download Audio: Men Are From Earth, Women Are From Earth

In the second show of The Tantric Lounge I start busting myths! I start with the two biggest ones that get in the way of fulfilling our sexual potential: (1) That sex is a base activity, not part of high human endeavor; and (2) that men are more sexual than women. These myths have been around a long time and are still ingrained in our communal psyche. They’ve led to sexual ignorance, sexual suppression, sexual ignorance and a hell of a lot of unhappy people - men and women. I will correct this history of sexual misinformation and start to get you clear on why these myths get in the way of your personal empowerment. It might sound heavy, but with my clarity and lighthearted explanation you’ll find those myths busting without effort at all! And this week’s practical activity will be on learning to breathe from your belly, the key to getting present in your body. Download Audio:Myth Busting

In my very first show, I invite you to join me down on the lounge and get to know me up close and personally. My creative collaborator, Xavier Waterkeyn, will be interviewing me to get at the heart of who I am, what I know, and what I believe to be the keys to your personal empowerment by embracing your awesome untapped sexual potential. I’m a Sex Therapist and Coach so anything goes. We’re talking sex, we’re talking science and we’re talking spirituality. Most importantly, we’re talking about YOU and how you can reach your sexual potential. Each week I’ll present a practical activity that you can explore in the privacy and comfort of your own lounge. This week’s activity will be the most important element of all: Being Present. So come join us on The Tantric lounge. It’s the start of a whole new journey… Download Audio: Getting to Know Jacqueline