Podcast appearances and mentions of cyndi darnell

This week's episode is a really juicy one so buckle up! Can we have a fulfilling, safe and healthy sex life when we're unpartnered? Is sex an essential part of the human experience or are there other ways to find intimacy? Our guest this week is Cyndi Darnell, a certified clinical sexologist, psychotherapist and couple's counsellor based in New York. She works with singles, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She walks us through what sex can look like if we're not partnered, how our sexual appetites change through different seasons of our life, and the less conventional, but no less fulfilling, relationship structures available to us. In an extremely candid episode, Jill shares experiences from own sex life, as Cyndi helps navigate a path through a topic that is often shrouded in shame and secrecy. And Cyndi speaks about her rich and full child-free, single life and how she's rejected social expectations and embraced ‘relationship anarchy'. You can follow Cyndi on Instagram: @cyndi_darnell or visit her website here. To stay in touch with Well Enough Alone, you can follow us on Instagram @wellenoughalonepod or @jillstark__ or support the show and get subscriber-only, early and ad-free episodes on Patreon. Well Enough Alone is a Spare Room production. Our producers are Kieran Simpson and Trent Bartlett. Get early access to new episodes by subscribing on Patreon. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Get early access to new episodes by subscribing on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Encore: M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi Darnell and Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Do you and your partner have mismatched libidos?  In this fascinating interview that turns many long-held ideas on their head, sexologist and author Cyndi Darnell talks about her book that helps people connect to their authentic desires and build connection. [Rebroadcast] In Chicago on Saturday May 4? Get tix to our live show and podcast recording!Get tix for our live May 4 show and podcast recording in Chicago--the Jealousy show! Lineup and ticket link here.Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the Show.Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

[If you have a question of your own, or would like me to give a Second Opinion of someone else's advice, get in touch via the link tree here https://linktr.ee/culturesexrel ] “My question is about (changing) feelings of disgust in sexual contexts. My sense of disgust can change rapidly depending on context. For example, most of the time I really don't like kissing, even the idea is repelling to me.” It's okay. We shouldn't have to find any kind of sexuality to be normal, or okay, or expected. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship we're in. Some things we are told are ‘normal' part of sexuality are deeply weird when we think about it! Polymorphous perversity. (Here's that episode https://soundcloud.com/podcast-co-coopercherry/three-essays-on-the-theory-of-sexuality ) Navigating discrepancy is the normal (there are tips about this in our book A Practical Guide to Sex). https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/sex-discrepancies/ https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/enjoy-penis-vagina-sex-want/ https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/enjoy-non-genital-sex/ Perhaps think about the different ways of doing them. Maybe you need more mutual sex where you are both doing something with each other at the same time, or you might need to go one at a time. There's some really great stuff about this in Cyndi Darnell's book https://cyndidarnell.com/book/ (we did a podcast earlier this year, check it out) (Though I still think we are actively having sex with each other even if one person is receiving pleasure and the other ‘giving' it. If pleasure was only about this giving and receiving mode, the giver gives and the taker takes, then how come I enjoy touching other people's bodies?) Disgust and consciousness. How things become conscious and how we might pay attention to other affects. The exceptions. Kissing is great. Enhances sexual pleasure. What's the difference? What do you notice? Things change rapidly, this is really useful. Can things change in the other direction? I didn't talk about Epicurus, Lucretius and The Swerve, but I probably should have because that would have been fun. Here's a good podcast about it https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-was-lucretius-with-thomas-nail/id1512615438?i=1000575225008

Here we are with Season 5 of the Why Doesn't My Partner podcast! This episode is about mismatch, but don't let the title fool you - it's not just about sex. It's about the discomfort of experiencing mismatch in your partnership, and the shame of wanting something that maybe somewhere in your life, you've learned is not okay. Starting with this You-turn, we cover topics like discovering your psychological floor, and how to notice the subtle cues that tell you you're nearing it. How do we open up about our ingrained beliefs around what's okay when it comes to sex? What does it mean to move from a culture of shame to a culture of pleasure?Today's invitation is to start building a map of your relationship to sex, sexuality, and pleasure. What are all the things you've learned from your family, culture, society, and your past? Next, what do you know about your own desire? About what does or doesn't feel good to you? And how has that changed over time? Because it probably has! Once you've done that, take a listen to the episode for an exercise you can do with your partner to get the conversation started.Resources mentioned today are Sex When You Don't Feel Like It by Cyndi Darnell, Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski, and Magnificent Sex by Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana MénardQuotes:“Especially in places where we're all the same, we stop taking risks. We stop trying to figure things out. We're not in a place of, 'I wonder if I did it differently, what would that feel like?'”"Your psychological floor is as unique as a fingerprint.""It's really hard to talk about what we don't know."Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider attending our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/events

Welcome to another 'Integration Conversation!'  A  series where we discuss previously released episodes with guests, and answer any questions you guys might have.  Sometimes we get out of these interviews and sit and chat about how mind blowing it was, or what we learned.  And we decided to include you all in on the conversation!In this weeks episode we chat about previously released Episode 45.  Sex When You Don't Feel Like it with Cyndi Darnell. We dive a little further into our personal experiences with sex, from Leah's religious trauma and body shame to Christine's more open approach to discussing sex and learning to embrace vulnerability.We also tackle the controversial topic of MDMA and its impact on healing, specifically with relationships and sex. MDMA can be a powerful tool in couples therapy and breaking down barriers around intimacy when used intentionally. We share our experiences with the drug, debunk misconceptions, and discuss the potential dangers associated with recreational use. Lastly, we touch upon the importance of self-love, humor, and embracing diversity in relationships. Healing from religious trauma and sexual shame is an ongoing process that requires curiosity and compassion. Join us as we navigate this complex world and reveal how embracing our unique journeys leads to deeper connections and more fulfilling relationships. Support the showOur Website:https://linktr.ee/seeyouontheothersidepodcast

Let's talk about sex!  With Cyndi Darnell.  A clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire.  Originally from Australia, she is now based in New York City where where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide.  A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice.  She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification Program.Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships.  Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others.  Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide.This is definitely one of those episodes where Christine and Leah get a little uncomfy in a conversation that should be more normalized and comfortable, especially when talking to your partner!Check out Cyndi's website for her services : https://cyndidarnell.comCyndi's Instagram : https://instagram.com/cyndi_darnellCyndi's Book, Sex When You Don't Feel Like It : https://www.amazon.com/dp/1538161702/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_FV1YZ0BCCDQ7PCF7GDXZ?linkCode=ml1&tag=christinealfr-20 Support the showOur Website:https://linktr.ee/seeyouontheothersidepodcast

Welcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Today's question leads us into exploring what we each understand sexual intimacy to mean, and what we can do if that understanding doesn't seem to line up with our partner's. We're encouraging you, dear listeners, to start to learn about and understand your own sexual templates: what are your likes and dislikes, what are some of the beliefs you have about what those preferences mean, and what in your history has led you there? When you and your partner each engage in that personal work, then there's an opportunity to talk to each other, confront the projections that might be going on, and come to a place of greater intimacy and understanding.Quotes:"There's a huge range of how we express ourselves and how we embody ourselves sexually.""Foreplay begins 48 hours before you're intimate with each other.""We're sold this lie, through Hollywood and everything else, that there's something about sex that's supposed to be natural, and we're all supposed to get it.""We're basically looking at two things when we talk about sex. We're looking at, where's the arousal, where's the gas? And where's the brakes?"A great resource for working through discovering your own sexual template is Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell. You can also listen to Cyndi's interview with Rebecca on our sister podcast here: Connectfulness S3E42: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Desire with Cyndi Darnell.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider attending our upcoming workshops. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/eventsThis podcast is not a substitute for therapy with a licensed provider.

Renowned sex therapist and educator Cyndi Darnell joined me to talk about her amazing book ‘Sex When You Don't Feel Like It'. We critiqued the idea of libido itself, the importance of curiosity, the new three word model you should be using instead of GGG on Feeld, the importance of allowing the body to speak, why talking about problems is often not helpful, the possibilities for the body to show the path to freedom and connectedness, and the difficulties of being saturated in discourse and how to become resourced. Here's a link to the book (I earn a small commission if you buy it from this link but it is widely available) https://uk.bookshop.org/books/sex-when-you-don-t-feel-like-it-the-truth-about-mismatched-libido-and-rediscovering-desire/9781538161708?aid=10660 The paper that Cyndi mentioned is here https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2021.1882672 And her website is https://cyndidarnell.com/ Please support the podcast if you can via Patreon and unlock bonus episodes and some other extras (Patrons have had this episode for a week ahead). Just £1 a month for a bit would be great and would pay me to make these shows patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

Today's guest is Kate Loree, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. She cohosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. In this episode Kate and I dig into the work of intimate relationships and she offers insight into how we can show up better in our relationships. We look at how to manage triggers during communication, what to do when a situation feels dire and hopeless and how attachment injuries impact non-monogamy. Enjoy today's interview with Kate Loree on all  podcast platforms and watch the interview on You Tube Follow @theeroticphilos on IG & Twitter. Follow Cyndi @cyndi_darnell or website www.cyndidarnell.com  Kate's website is www.kateLoree.com Instagram @opendeeplywithkateloree TikTok: @opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook  @kateloreelmft Twitter @kateloreelmft

Get ready to revamp your sexual desire! This week Dr. Tara is determined to uncover the truth about confronting issues of mismatched libido with clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. Cyndi Darnell! A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples, and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties. In this episode, Cyndi explains the three best ways to rediscover your sexual desire. Either within yourself or with your partner. Cyndi breaks down the causes and effects of mismatched libido and why people would rather eat soup and hang out than have sex with their partner. Cyndi discusses the failings of the patriarchy and why our social conditioning has made us feel like we don't deserve better sex. Learn how to rediscover your sexual desire through having better sex, taking responsibility for your sexual pleasure, and going on the journey to uncover your sexual confidence with the help of Dr. Tara and Cyndi Darnell. We ended with a rapid round of "10 quickies with Dr. Tara." Listen and learn my luvs…oh, and have an orgasmic day! For more sex and relationship realness, follow me on social media @luvbites.co and subscribe to my JUICY newsletter at www.Luvbites.coIn this episode:Reviving Desire in Long-Term RelationshipsUnderstanding Mismatched LibidoRediscovering Sexual DesireThe Failings of the Patriarchy Becoming a Professional DomGang BangsLosing Interest in Your PartnerWhisky DickReviving Your Sexless RelationshipHaving Better SexOwning Your Sexual DesireLinks:Follow Cyndi Darnellhttps://cyndidarnell.comhttps://cyndidarnell.com/book/Cyndi Darnell InstagramSteady Freddy - Sexual Health Solutions for Menhttps://steadyfreddy.com Use Code: Luvbites for 15% offPulse-Luxury Lube Dispenser and Lubricantshttps://lovemypulse.com/Use Code: TARA10 for $10 off*All Rights Reserved Dr. Tara International Inc.

Even in today's modern age, not many people openly talk about sex with their partner or their family members and friends. Discussions around sex require vulnerability which people are not always willing to do. Sex and pleasure are nuanced and personal. It's magical, and it's different for all of us. In this episode, Cyndi Darnell sheds light on the topic of sex that very few have done before, and that's by providing an unlearning of the messages and conditioning we've been fed, no matter our sexual preference or gender. She offers a new way of expanding our vision around desire and eroticism. Cyndi is a relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, and leading authority on desire and libido. She is the author of the new book, Sex When you Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. To learn more, visit cyndidarnell.com. Join Stacey and Cyndi as they engage in a raw, deep, freeing conversation about sex that will make you think, what if everything we've been taught about sex is untrue?“Sex is not the center of the universe, but it's a pretty big piece of the universe, and while we pretend that sex doesn't matter, we gloss over some of the most important opportunities for reflective connection that a human has.” - Cyndi Darnell In This Episode:- 00:00 Introduction from today's host, Stacey Lindsay- 02:06 What drove Cyndi to write the book, “Sex When you Don't Feel Like It?”- 05:25 What's the disconnect with feeling obliged to have sex with your partner even when you don't feel like it?- 11:35 What is it about sex that Cyndi wants readers to explore and unveil?- 20:13 What does “genderized sex” mean, and what's the problem with that?- 26:57 What is eroticism, and how do we discover our “erotic templates” for ourselves?Resources:- Sex When you Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire by Cyndi Darnell Connect with Cyndi Darnell:- Website- Instagram- FacebookConnect with Jade & Scarlet Society:- Instagram- Website- Facebook

This week we talked to Cyndi Darnell, author and sex therapist from Australia, all about her new book "Sex When You Don't Feel Like It." She tells us about how her clients inspired her to research pleasure and desire, offers sage advice on how to talk to intimate partners, and basically gives us both a free therapy session on the pod! If you like this episode of the podcast, definitely go purchase and read a copy of Cyndi's book, "Sex When You Don't Feel Like It." For a chance to win a free copy, check out our Instagram for a giveaway during the month of December (2022)!

Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle In this episode, Cyndi Darnell talks about how we need to change the way we talk about sex, gender, pleasure, and power. We also discuss some of the mistakes that therapists make when talking about sex with their clients.  To find out more about Cyndi Darnell visit cyndidarnell.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Find out more about the Couples Therapist Inner Circle This episode is sponsored by Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed.  Clearly Clinical is the nation's premier podcast Continuing Ed provider, and features industry experts from across the world.  Clearly Clinical is an approved CE provider with the APA, ASWB, NBCC, NAADAC, CCAPP, and CAMFT, and is women-owned, founded by Elizabeth Irias, LMFT.  Clearly Clinical supports minority and women presenters, and donates to  Feeding America.  And the best part?  Clearly Clinical is literally the most affordable continuing ed provider in the country, bringing you unlimited CE courses for just $60 a year.  As a promo for my listeners, you can use the code COUCH to get an additional 10% off.  They have a number of free podcast CE courses, too, including a CE interview with Dr. Julie Gottman.  Check those out at their website, ClearlyClinical.com. 

Karen interviews sexologist Cyndi Darnell about her new book that helps you connect to your authentic desires and work with mismatched libidos within partnership.In this episode:Cyndi Darnell - Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologistBuy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire on Bookshop – support independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime when you buy through our link! Plus many more sex & relationship book recs. Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Looking for episodes on a specific topic? There's a list! Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Support the show

Did you know that horniness is one of hundreds of reasons folks feel motivated to have sex? It's not even the most common. Understanding your own desire and creating what sex and relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell calls your erotic template can help you cultivate an erotically charged sex life, whether you're single or partnered.    Learn about common libido myths, the difference between responsive and spontaneous desire, the role somatics can play in desire challenges and more.   Save 30% on your copy of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire at cyndidarnell.com/books.   Visit magicspoon.com/GIRLBONER  to grab a variety pack of Magic Spoon, and use the promo code GIRLBONER at checkout to save $5.   Explore the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest: thepleasurechest.com   More Girl Boner fun: augustmclaughlin.com/girlboner   IG: @GirlBonerMedia  FB: @MyGirlBoner  TikTok: @GirlBonerRadio   Support the show + get  fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner     Explore podcast advertising: zen.ai/girlbonerradio0  

Have you and your partner experienced conflict over mismatched sexual desire or frequency? Have you ever asked yourself: why sex matters to you? Cyndi Darnell joins me to talk about the healthy questions to ask yourself for better sexual self-understanding - which can lead to better sex! Learn the truth about mismatched sexual desire, the problems that result when couples equate frequency with quality, and ideas for creating a more satisfying sex life. Cyndi Darnell is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire.Learn more about Cyndi's workhttps://cyndidarnell.com/Learn more about these topics:Understanding Your Desire Style For Better SexPartner Sexual Desire DiscrepanciesSexual ScriptsJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Dr. Campbell and Dr. Hohn talk with clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It, Cyndi Darnell. She covers many topics in the episode like mismatched libidos, the differences between arousal, libido, and desire. We also get into myths around sex, stigmas surrounding pleasure, romance culture and much more.    TOPICS: Meet Cyndi (00:10) Misconceptions relating to libido & relationships (03:14) What is libido? (13:40) Sex as a quest to be seized (18:45) Somatics (21:06) Why pleasure is overlooked (26:41) Going deeper with intimate relationships (28:27) Misunderstandings about fantasy (34:58)   MORE FROM THE HEALTH BABES  Find more from Cyndi Darnell at cyndidarnell.com Follow Cyndi on Instagram @cyndi_darnell Subscribe to her Erotic Philosopher Podcast  Check out her classes at the Online Pleasure School Purchase a copy of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It   Did you know? You have a chance to win 1 of 2 prizes, with a giveaway in every episode! Leave a review to win, and don't forget to subscribe for future episodes!   Find more from Dr. Becky Campbell and Dr. Krystal Hohn at DrBeckyCampbell.com Consult with us one on one HERE   Follow Dr. Becky and Dr. Krystal on Instagram @drbeckycampbell and @drkrystalhohn, follow the Health Babes Podcast @healthbabespodcast Find us on Facebook, on Pinterest, and on YouTube   Get resources on how best to support your thyroid HERE Wondering if you have histamine intolerance? Take THIS QUIZ and receive a free histamine guide Get answers to your health questions HERE   Wondering if you have histamine intolerance? Take THIS QUIZ and receive a free histamine guide Get answers to your health questions HERE

There are a ton of sources for sex advice out there, which is great. But too many of them suffer from the same problem: they take a one-size-fits-all approach when, in reality, different things are going to work for different people. We each have a unique sexual self, which means that if you don't have a certain level of self-understanding, it can be difficult to know which advice to take--and which advice to leave. So that's what we're going to be talking about today: how to uncover your core erotic themes and increase sexual self-understanding. My guest is sex and relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell, author of the new book, Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. Some of the topics we explore in this episode include: Why generic sex advice often doesn't work. How to pinpoint your own motivations for having sex. How your sexual fantasies can help you to uncover your core erotic themes. How to share sexual fantasies with a partner. Why it's important to step outside of our sexual comfort zone sometimes. How to deal with mismatched libido in a relationship. To learn more about Cyndi, visit her website at cyndidarnell.com, follow her on the socials @cyndi_darnell and be sure to get a copy of her new book Sex When You Don't Feel Like It Thanks to FirmTech (myfirmtech.com) for sponsoring this episode! FirmTech's Performance Ring is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

When it comes to sex, are we asking the right questions? Vikki and Brian speak with sexologist and author of Sex, When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire, Cyndi Darnell, about how myths about sex misguide us and what we can do to get on the right track.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

M is for Mismatched Desire/Libido with Cyndi Darnell and Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we're not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.' Some of the things we touch on: Mismatched Libido  Responsive vs spontaneous desire Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction How gender & orientation factor in Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine! Cyndi Darnell Bio Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don't Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she's now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program. Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide. 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NYC-based sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell is debuting her new book, "Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire." Jeremie and Bryde chat with Cyndi about desire, erotic risks, and what brought Cyndi to where she is today. cyndidarnell.com @cyndi_darnellThank you endlessly to all the Patrons of the podcast at patreon.com/turnmeonpodcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What our culture teaches us about sex isn't very useful. Many of us have absorbed the message that sex is a means to some kind of end–orgasm, connection, a baby.  We've learned that there's a right and a wrong way to do it.  We've even learned that sex is natural.  It's no wonder then that when our libido doesn't match our partner's or our desires don't match our politics, we assume there must be something wrong with us.  Here's the real truth:  There is nothing wrong with you.  Or your partner.  So many of us have just been trying to conform to someone else's narrow version of sexuality (often without even realizing it).  If we slow down and take the time, we can instead get to know the sexuality that is uniquely ours and the fulfillment we all deserve. This week's guest, Cyndi Darnell, says in her forthcoming book,  "The body has always belonged to either God or science. There has never been a time in Western history that the body truly belonged to the person who inhabits it."  She says we can begin to reclaim our bodies for ourselves by unlearning the things we've been taught about sex that aren't serving us.  By rediscovering our libidos and desires.  By learning how to show ourselves to ourselves.  By being in our bodies.  Cyndi, clinical sexologist & sex & relationship therapist who works with clients all over the globe, is here to tell us how. Learn more about Cyndi Darnell and her work at https://cyndidarnell.com/ (CyndiDarnell.com) You can preorder her book, Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire at https://cyndidarnell.com/book/ (cyndidarnell.com/book) If you want to dive in deeper, consider joining ourhttps://whydoesmypartner.com/events/p/bootcamp-feb2022 ( Relationship Bootcamp) or exploring Rebecca's offerings to deepen your relational skills and expand your self-care.  Learn more athttps://my.captivate.fm/connectfulness.com/offerings ( connectfulness.com) Also, please check out our sister podcast,https://whydoesmypartner.com/ ( Why Does My Partner)

This episode feautures clinical sexologist, sex coach, and author Cyndi Darnell. We talk all about how to have more pleasure through erotic embodiment.   Ads: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands   Cyndi: https://cyndidarnell.com/   Cyndi's Journal Articles: https://cyndidarnell.com/published-works/ FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.

In our month of firsts, we are finally back to everyone's favorite topic: butt stuff! Our fav sex therapist Cyndi Darnell guest hosts this week to talk about all the things you need to think about and talk about and TOUCH about to get ready to do anything anal with a partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary therapist on Luke Warm Sex (ABC) and is a regular media commentator whose opinion is frequently sought for TV, radio and print including The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, Refinery 29, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Netflix, ABC Radio, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan and much more. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named in MindBodyGreen's list of Top 100 Women to Watch. Cyndi is presently an affiliate on the advisory board of the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program and faculty on Pink Therapy's (UK) Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy. She has also received the honor to be recognized as a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK. Key Points: Cyndi introduces herself Somatic elements of sex therapy The sexuality profession Talk therapy vs bodywork Masculinity and pleasure-negativity Escaping the cycle of anxiety Sex therapy with older men Helping men talk about sex Relevant links: Cyndi's website: https://cyndidarnell.com/ Cyndi's Instagram: @cyndi_darnell

I'm delighted to share this conversation with Cyndi Darnell, a clinical sexologist & sex & relationship therapist and author of Sex (When You Don't Feel Like It): The Truth About Mismatched Libido and How To Find Desire, which will be available in June 2022.   We covered so much in this conversation, including the common myths about sex and desire and what is really true, why you might not feel desire for sex, a different perspective on mismatched desire and how to create a sex life you desire.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.  Cyndi shares: The common myths about sex and desire and what is true Why you might not feel desire for sex  Why good sex is something anyone can learn  How to create a sex life you desire  Why it can be a challenge to ‘let go'  Myths around mismatched desire and now to navigate this in relationships  The 3 keys to creating great sex  Cyndi Darnell is a clinical sexologist & sex & relationship therapist with over 20 years  experience in Australia, the USA & UK. She offers online courses about sex and pleasure, and consults to individuals, couples and polycouples globally. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program. Her first book - Sex (When You Don't Feel Like It): The Truth About Mismatched Libido and How To Find Desire [Rowman & Littlefield] will be out April 2022. Her academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy, Journal of Sex Education and multiple popular media outlets worldwide. http://www.cyndidarnell.com/ (www.cyndidarnell.com) RESOURCES FROM CYNDI  Cyndi's website with many wonderful online courses http://www.cyndidarnell.com/ (www.cyndidarnell.com) Instagram @cyndi_darnell Cyndi's book ‘Sex (When You Don't Feel Like It): The Truth About Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire' will be out in June 2022 (August 2022 in the UK) and you can preorder on Amazon.  RESOURCES FROM SARAH Sign up to Sarah's newsletter for pleasure mapping, a free guided practice https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping/ (https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/guided-pleasure-mapping/) Book a free consultation with Sarah  https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright (https://calendly.com/sarahrosebright) Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self study course for women  https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/ (https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/) Find Sarah online   Website http://www.sarahrosebright.com/ (www.sarahrosebright.com) Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosebright/ (https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosebright/) Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sarahrosebrightsexcoach (https://www.facebook.com/sarahrosebrightsexcoach) Youtube  http://youtube.com/c/sarahrosebright (http://youtube.com/c/sarahrosebright) Spotify for some playlists https://open.spotify.com/user/dog9xui4wwpjatvbnpb2t7l3y?si=jnc_V6wxSCqaqr3UhNgD6Q (https://open.spotify.com/user/dog9xui4wwpjatvbnpb2t7l3y?si=jnc_V6wxSCqaqr3UhNgD6Q) ABOUT YOUR HOST Your podcast host, Sarah Rose Bright is a Sex & Intimacy coach and the creator of Intimate Sexuality. Sarah is on a mission to help women and couples to love and celebrate their sexuality, create healthy and happy intimate relationships and find their pleasure, playfulness and passion for life.

Welcome back! Kicking off season 3, Cyndi is the guest on her own podcast, being interviewed by Elle Chase about her forthcoming book Sex, When You Dont Feel Like It: The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire. In this discussion Cyndi & Elle discuss  the nuances of desire, what it is how it works and so much more. Perfect listening for partners experiencing mismatches in the bedroom and singles longing to feel passion again. Order Your Copy Here

Ever thought about the role of voice in your sex life? According to sex therapist Cyndi Darnell it says a lot about how you're feeling - the voice can lead the way for how the body feels. Tune in for a great technique to improve your vocal tone - and in turn your experience in the bedroom. Join the wait list for Speak from your Soul - https://www.sallyprosser.online/speak-from-your-soul Join the wait list for My Six Week Voice Makeover - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/my-six-week-voice-makeover Access the Masterclass Vault - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/members-only

Ever thought about the role of voice in your sex life? According to sex therapist Cyndi Darnell it says a lot about how you're feeling - the voice can lead the way for how the body feels. Tune in for a great technique to improve your vocal tone - and in turn your experience in the bedroom.Join the wait list for Speak from your Soul - https://www.sallyprosser.online/speak-from-your-soulJoin the wait list for My Six Week Voice Makeover - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/my-six-week-voice-makeoverAccess the Masterclass Vault - https://sallyprosser.mykajabi.com/members-only

A lot of us don't realize that we even have bodies, we don't pay attention to feeling them and being aware of them. Practice being in your body by consciously making a mental connection to one random and particular part of your body, then moving to another part, and another. This same notion of awareness is also important to our sexual experiences.   Somatics is a different way of addressing the client's needs. We're not necessarily looking for what's “wrong”, as in some traditional forms of therapy, but just assessing what's “present”.   Perhaps, we need to rethink our culture around viewing bodies with a lens of shame and incorporate somatics into clinical practice alongside intellectual/ cognitive methods.

Dear Listeners:   This week we offer you a quick episode as we wrap up this season of the podcast. And what a season it's been! Rosara and Jane recall their conversations with Dr. David Whitehead, Dr. Peter Kanaris, Kelly Gordon, Dr. Lee Phillips, Dr. Imani Woody, Joan Price and Jessica Drake, Cyndi Darnell, and give thanks to their new co-hosts, Dr. Jayleen Galarza and Dr. Sabitha Pillai-Friedman. If you haven't heard these episodes yet, feel free to take a listen as we take a much-needed hiatus. And we can't forget our generous sponsors: Gazebo, Modern Sex Therapy Institute, Sex Coach U, and Uberlube. We love them all! We'll be back in the fall with a brand new season. Lots of exciting guests and conversations. And lots to learn. See you in September!   Enjoy the rest of your summer, The Our Better Half Team   And if you'd like to find more shows, visit our website and please subscribe! We love our listeners and welcome your feedback. You can find us on Facebook and Twitter and  Instagram. Or you can write to us at this address. We can't wait to hear your thoughts. As always, thanks for listening!

Cyndi Darnell is a brilliant sex therapist who brings a massive amount of deep wisdom (and humor) in our conversation about sex, erections, horniness, and how to negotiate an open relationship. Cyndi is an internationally recognized sex and relationships therapist and clinician. Her work on desire, libido, pleasure, and somatics has been published in academic literature and popular media globally.And her first book on lost desire and relationships will be out in 2022 with Roman and Littlefield. And beyond that, Cyndi is someone whose work and genius are hard to match.To find out more about Cyndi and how you can work with her, please visit https://cyndidarnell.com/.

There's no getting around it: relationships take work. In this episode, sex and relationships therapist Cyndi Darnell shares her insights on how the pandemic is impacting our sex lives, the power of being vulnerable and relationship myths. “One of the biggest myths we believe is that the skills necessary to navigate relationships and sex are ‘soft skills.' Frankly, there's nothing soft about these skills because they're some of the hardest you're going to learn” — Cyndi Darnell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn how working with body can reduce tension and help you have better sex. Many of us feel uncomfortable about sex. After all we liv in a culture that doesn't respect it and doesn't teach us much, but instead tells us it's natural - we get tricked into thinking there's nothing to learn. But If this were true, nobody would struggle with sex. But millions of people do. The vagus nerve and developing good vagal tone ( like muscle tone, but reps of activating the vagus nerve) can help reduce sexual anxiety caused by trauma, stress and shame. Learn a series of simple practices to help you take control of your pleasure, especially useful for people struggling with erection problems, orgasm problems and so much more.

You can “come of age” sex and relationship-wise at any stage of life. Take it from sex therapist Cyndi Darnell, disability advocate Andrew Gurza and industrial designer Ti Chang.    A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   What erotic embodiment entails Benefits of erotic embodiment Common myths about hiring sex workers Benefits of hiring a sex worker, whether you’re disabled or not Andrew and Dr. Megan’s advice for meeting accepting partners   Learn more:   http://cyndidarnell.com http://www.andrewgurza.com https://www.lovecrave.com/about/   E-Book: The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability: https://thatshandi.co/collections/pre-order/products/e-book-the-handi-book-of-love-lust-disability   Shop at The Pleasure Chest! https://thepleasurechest.com   Get FREE engraving on a Crave Vesper vibrator necklace with the code girlboner!  https://www.lovecrave.com/products/vesper/   Girl Boner: https://augustmclaughlin.com/    Dr. Megan: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure/

We are thrilled to welcome Cyndi Darnell, an internationally renowned sex and relationship therapist and clinical sexologist originally from Australia. Her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. She maintains a global consulting practice in NYC and online and offers insight into the quandaries of the erotic to transform fear and reclaim shame into freedom. You can learn more about her work here. If you like our show or if you have questions, contact us. And if you’d like to find some of our earlier shows, visit our website. Please subscribe! We love our listeners and welcome your feedback. You can find us on Facebook and Twitter. Or you can write to us at this address.We can’t wait to bring you more great episodes very soon. As always, thanks for listening!  

Welcome to episode 196 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Cyndi Darnell to the podcast. In this episode Cyndi talks to me about dating in the time of coronavirus, exploring your sexuality during a pandemic and improving intimacy during this challenging time.    Cyndi Darnell is a NY based, internationally renowned sex & relationships therapist & clinical sexologist. Originally from Australia, her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. Her academic work is published in the Journal of Sex Education (UK) & Sexual & Relationship Therapy (UK).     She holds a board affiliate position for the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program. She’s a clinical associate with Pink Therapy UK and faculty on Pink Therapy's Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy and at New York’s Omega Institute.     Her online courses  and podcast The Erotic Philosopher meet today’s adult sex education needs by bridging the gaps in peoples’ knowledge regarding pleasure, relationships, passion and desire. As a trusted media source, her wisdom has been published in media outlets globally including The Washington Post, O -The Oprah Magazine, New York Magazine, Huffington Post, Bustle, Vice, Cosmo, Sydney Morning Herald, The Guardian and Aussie TV series LukeWarmSex for ABC. She’s spearheading progressive sex & relationships seminars and workshops for adults that deeply change people’s lives. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named on MindBodyGreen’s Top 100 Women to Watch.     She maintains a global consulting practice in NYC and online and offers insight into the quandaries of the erotic to transform fear into freedom.    In this episode, you will hear:     Should we be dating during a pandemic?  Looking at the different types of dating currently available to us   Recommendations for improving communication skills   Exploring your sexuality during a pandemic  Is it safe to have hook up sex?  Can we pursue longer term relationships through Covid?  How we can improve intimacy during this challenging time  Will our dating lives change forever?  What a new normal might look like for dating   Finding ways to not get overwhelmed by the restrictive nature dating during a pandemic  Using the time we have to reflect on what we really want from our sexuality and relationships     Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/    Find Cyndi Online  http://www.cyndidarnell.com     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  

In this episode of The Erotic Philosopher, Cyndi sits down and goes deep with Dr Dulcinea (Alex) Pitagora. Where else to start except heteronormativity, anal sex, sexual shame, pride and anally receptive straight cis men! Yes, they go right there. How does privilege protect us from sexual shame and what effect does our identity have on our shame and practices? Alex tells us about their PhD research into anally receptive straight men and how pressure reduces pleasure! Speaking of pleasure, how do you talk about unsatisfying sex in a relationship? What are the benefits of feeling awkward? How do we get better at talking about pleasure? What happens if we go to feeling bad to feel good in controlled yet kinky consensual contexts? Alex shares and insight they received in a client session on how to navigate shame that really impressed them. Then Dr Alex & Cyndi address an erotic quandary from a listener about sexual highs, sobriety, fantasy sex, feeling how we want to feel during sex and creating hotter sex through life changes, preparation & communication. How do we manage fear and awkwardness when we want to take an erotic risk...where do we even start? Are you ready… strap in (or on) Let's go.   Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora (they/them) —who also goes by Alex has a psychotherapy and sex therapy private practice at the Manhattan Alternative Wellness Collective in support of all sexualities, genders, and lifestyles. They are proudly out as a member of the kink, poly, queer, and TGNC (trans & gender non-conforming) communities, and also as a former sex worker. They created ManhattanAlternative.com, a referral site for sex positive therapists and wellness professionals, and they co-organize the AltSex NYC Conference, a forum for expansive sexuality education. They have recently come out as Cyndi Darnell's biggest fan.  You can find Alex at  dulcneapitagora (dot) com

Do you prefer the direct approach when it comes to sex? Famed Australian sexologist Cyndi Darnell was in a casual relationship with New York City for nearly a decade, but she couldn’t commit. Till a wintry all-nighter in Harlem featuring Idris Elba, Wolverine & some high quality clown porn changed her mind. Plus: Dixie plans to up the ante on the next Bawdy Livestream because it’s her Birthday - so she’s created the Buttplug Club #YoureWelcome #BPC #SheCallsTheShots #RedNose #BigFloppyShoes   Learn more about Cyndi Darnell’s Atlas of Erotic Anatomy & Arousal at https://cyndidarnell.com/atlas-of-erotic-anatomy-arousal/   Song: ‘Sex in New York City’ (Aphroditee)   Wanna donate to Dixie’s birthday iPad fund? Venmo: Venmo.com/BawdyStorytelling.com Paypal: BawdyStorytelling@gmail.com Zelle: BawdyStorytelling@gmail.com (& Thank You!)   Episode 3 of the Bawdy Storytelling LIVESTREAM is happening on Saturday, May 16th at 7 PM PDT and this one is gonna be a Birthday Celebration for Dixie, featuring Shirley Gnome & custom Bawdy Storytelling Buttplugs. 7 PM PDT, what time is that for YOU? Use this: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html  Tickets are now available at    Remember: Our Livestream shows have a limited capacity, so don’t wait! & Make sure you’re notified of all upcoming Livestreams by signing up at https://bawdystorytelling.com/subscribe     BRAND NEW: Our $10/month Patreon supporters now receive - in addition to ad-free episodes of the podcast - Rewards like free tickets to our Livestream shows, access to the livestream recordings, our behind-the-scenes story coaching series, story videos from the live show & more. Thanks so much for your support during this catastrophic loss of show revenue, friends! www.Patreon.com/Bawdy   Episode Links Uberlube:  May is International Masturbation month, and that’s the perfect time to try Uberlube; it lets you feel what you want to feel. And Uberlube is offering Bawdy Storytelling listeners a special offer: 10% off and FREE shipping when you use my code “DIXIE” at UberLube.com. Whoa, 10% off and free shipping! Just use code “Dixie” at uberlube.com   Patreon: The live shows kept Bawdy Storytelling going..and now they’re gone. Wanna make sure the podcast continues, so that I don’t end up living under a bridge because #Pandemic? Bawdy would not exist right now without Patreon. Bawdy’s future is dependent on Patreon. Bawdy Storytelling has always been listener supported, but right now, it’s our everything - and backing us on Patreon ensures our podcast can continue during this difficult time. Who knows, maybe we can even do an online Bawdy for you and your friends, wherever you are! For our Patreon supporters, we’ve recently added: Behind-the-scenes on the Bawdy story coaching process, start to finish, Post-story interviews with the storytellers, Ad-free podcast episodes, Patron-only conversation streams, private or soon, group storycoaching sessions with Dixie - hell, even your own personal Bawdy Storytelling livestream, just for you and your friends! And now, if you support Bawdy at the $10/month & up level, you get free Livestream tickets AND the Livestream recordings! Want to ensure that Bawdy make it through the Apocalypse?  Join us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/Bawdy Purchasing Bawdy Merchandise is another way to Help: Bawdy Storytelling offers a new line of fragrance & lube for your favorite podcast fan: #BawdyGotMeLaid perfume, Bawdy Butter, hair & bawdy oil, #BawdyGotMeLube & more. It’s at BawdyStorytelling.com/Merchandise #BestGiftEver Want a Bawdy Buttplug? Email me, let’s make that happen!   Check out our Bawdy Storytelling Fiends and Fans group on Facebook - it’s a place to discuss the podcast’s stories with the storytellers, and share thoughts with your fellow listeners - and help Dixie make the podcast even better. It’s at https://www.facebook.com/groups/360169851578316/ Upcoming Bawdy Storytelling LIVE Events:   Announcing Episode 3 of the Brand New Bawdy Storytelling Livestream! Show date: Saturday 5/16/20 Now you can be part of Bawdy no matter where in the world you are. Start time and conversions for your time zone  • 7 PM PDT •  8 PM MT 9 PM CT 10 PM EST Midnight GMT-3 3 AM GMT 4 AM GMT+1 5 AM GMT+2 6:30 AM GMT+3:30 What time is that for YOU? Use this: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html   Capacity is limited (and we Sold Out our first Livestream) so get your tickets before they’re gone at https://bit.ly/BawdyLivestream2   Subscribe to our email list & find out about upcoming Livestreams and more, before anyone else: https://bawdystorytelling.com/subscribe   Thank you to the Team that makes this podcast possible! Team Bawdy is: Podcast Producer: Marty Garcia Sound Engineer: David Grosof Archivist / Video: Joe Moore & Bawdy Creator & Podcast Host Dixie De La Tour & Thank you to Pleasure Podcasts - we’re proud to be part of this sex-positive podcast collective! 

What kind of voice do you find attractive? What happens to your voice in the bedroom? What is the role of voice in sex? Join a world renowned sex therapist for this open, free, absolutely fascinating discussion about voice and sex.

What kind of voice do you find attractive? What happens to your voice in the bedroom? What is the role of voice in sex? Join a world renowned sex therapist for this open, free, absolutely fascinating discussion about voice and sex.

The world has issues around sex.  The issues are more common than you would think. Erika talks with Cyndi Darnell, international sex and relationship therapist.  Cyndi has moved from Australia to the United States and explored the commonalities and differences between the countries and issues with sex and relationships.   How to find Cyndi:  https://cyndidarnell.com  https://cyndidarnell.com/online-sex-courses/       Find me on all the socials!   Instagram @erikamileytherapy  + @sextalkwitherikamileyTwitter @MrsErikaMileyFacebook.com/sextalkwitherikamiley https://www.youtube.com/user/MrsErikaMiley erikamiley.com erika@erikamiley.com  

In our continued pursuit of all conversations sex & kink, this weeks' guest Cyndi Darnell, a leading sex therapist and educator, brings us back to our human core: INTIMACY. We have an in depth convo about fostering intimacy within our various types of relationships. Cyndi also illuminates how her clientele has changed over time, and addresses some of the most common issues that bring clients into her office (we're looking at you sexual dysfunction stress!). PLUS Lola and Stephen cover some butt stuff with a listener email. With so many great nuggets from this weeks episode perhaps the most poignant is: Ask not only what do you want, but what can you offer. You can find Cyndi's work, digital courses, or contact her for sessions at: https://cyndidarnell.com/ And follow her instagram: @cyndi_darnell ------~ Follow us on social media ~------- The show: @isourlove_____ Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom Classes & Instruction: lolajean.com Stephen Penta: @thereluctantsexpert This weeks' end of episode song is Qveen Herby "Sade In The 90s" Our official theme songs are composed & recorded by our good friends at hyperballadmusic.com

One of our favorite guests is back!  Cyndi Darnell, the best sex therapist you know, is here to answer questions about who needs sex therapy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you truly fear when it comes to expressing your sexuality? What’s stopping you from experiencing the sex life you want and deserve? What is adult sex education lacking that can be improved to help people live confident, pleasurable lives? Join Lexi Sylver for a double dose of female empowerment with guests Veronique Verrault, the founder and innovator of the sex toy and mobile app Miss VV’s Mystery, and Cyndi Darnell, internationally renowned sex and relationship therapist, clinical sexologist, adult sex educator and author. They are going to talk about the importance of confidence in having a healthy self-image, sexual identity and sex life in general. They’ll be covering the advances women are making in sex tech and how those can help improve the framework and understanding of sexuality. And they’ll going to explore the ways in which female leaders have risen within the domain of sexuality to help, support and educate others to live healthier and more sex-positive lives.

Cyndi Darnell is an internationally renowned sex and relationship therapist. Her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. She’s spearheading progressive sex & relationships seminars and workshops for adults and clinicians that deeply change people’s lives. Cyndi’s on a mission to eliminate stigma from discussions around sex, erotisim and pleasure and changing our fears and transform it into freedom.   In this episode: How the sexual revolution missed the boat to discuss pleasure (especially womxn’s pleasure) that center on what each individual’s motivation is.  Permission to own your motivation. Understanding the story that you’re holding onto that’s holding you back and causing you pain.  Cyndi shares her distinct definitions of love and sex (much like chocolate and red wine). Sex changes over time and so we continue to learn about ourselves.  The more we experience ourselves the more we understand our motivations.  Internal motivation is vital, know why you want things to change. Sex can be an opportunity to live a more visceral and colorful life. Erotic pleasure relates back to early childhood before we had stigmas, values and judgements placed upon us and receive the smiling gaze of another.  Societal misconceptions: the body is inherently dangerous and the intellect is superior.  How we participate in keeping myths alive by cutting ourselves off from our own bodies. How to reconnect the body through a daily practice of tuning into the body. Mastrubation as a way of intergrating erotic pleasure into your life,  “Erotic Self Care” Consent Culture and Sex Ed that goes beyond Abstinence, Reproduction and even Consent and includes Pleasure. Tea and Consent video made an assumption that everyone likes tea: oversimplification of consent being yes vs no The real question is ‘what kind of sex do you like?’ Cyndi says this is where the wheels come off for most people. Making a practice of talking about sex and erotism. Cyndi’s erotic awakening story. Coming back to the body, that’s where the wisdom is.    RESOURCES: Find Cyndi Darnell online at www.cyndidarnell.com Purchase Cyndi’s video series: The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal If you long to know more about erotic desire, passion, what your turn-ons are and how to communicate them with your partner/s – then join Cyndi for The Desire Series. While these discussions will guide you into the Connectfulness Practice, the podcast is not meant to be a substitute for counseling from a licensed provider. Reach out. Initiate the ripple. Learn more about my connectfulness counseling practice and our collective for therapists in private practice here.

On today’s show, Emily is joined by sex & relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell and they’re talking about all the ways to tap back into desire & arousal for a better sex life. Emily also discusses the importance of keeping your sex life top of mind and keeping your horny light turned on, gaining your sexual power, and tips on starting your own plan for the bedroom. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Hot Octopuss, PlusOne, Woo More Play, Gainswave, and SiriusXM. Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily. For even more sex advice, tips & tricks, visit: sexwithemily.com

Today, we’re having another listen to a conversation with two of the world’s best sex educators and prioneers, about how to introduce more interesting sex into a relationship. My first guest is Cyndi Darnell, who is an educator and counsellor based in New York.  She’s available for sessions via video conferencing. My second guest is […]

Anal sex is the question today.  We talk to expert sex therapist Cyndi Darnell about tips on how to get started and how to not get too anal about anal sex.  Cyndi also offers y'all a discount code on her website for the "buyall" option: 10% off The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal online copy.  Use code "thesexwrap" at the Vimeo checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexologist Cyndi Darnell dives in deep discussing #MeToo, the Aziz Ansari story, and how it relates to all of us. We know that #TimesUp and things have to change but how do we go about that? What steps do we take? What’s our personal responsibility? We discuss effective sexual communication, the role sex ed plays in all of this, plus Cyndi gives tips for sex-positive parenting. Before the interview, Sunny & Ken talk about hangovers and drinking Downy, plus Sunny has an embarrassing recording mishap. Cyndi also tells us a hilarious story about a date gone very wrong.  It's separate from the episode and you can hear it here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/cyndi-darnell-ep-16539959 Guest Bio Cyndi Darnell is Australia’s most in demand sex and relationship therapist, spearheading progressive sex & relationships seminars for adults that deeply change people’s lives and in 2015 she was the only sexologist named on MindBodyGreen’s Top 100 Women to Watch. Her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric, and is a reviewer and contributor to the academic Journals  Sex Education ( UK) Porn Studies ( UK) & Sex & Relationship Therapy ( UK). In 2015 she released The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal a pioneering educational video series designed to give upfront adult information about sex, the body and most importantly, pleasure!  She’s currently working on her first book exploring the fusion of the mind, body and heart in enhancing and exploring libido and desire. Her 5 degrees range from a bachelor in adult education to two masters degrees in sexology and psychotherapy. A regular in the Australian media she has appeared on TV, radio and print as well as being principal consultant and advisor on Northern Pictures “Luke Warm Sex” (on Netflix) She counsels individuals & couples, offers training to professionals on sex and the human condition, and offers insight into the quandaries of the erotic to transform fear into freedom. Currently based in Australia and soon to be in New York City in 2018. Episode 25 Topics Forgetting to press record, misplaced anger, University of Tennessee Sex Week, modeling vulnerability, opening angels, #MeToo backlash, early childhood memories, emotional literacy, religious play, sexual communication, bad dates, the flavors of sex, tide pods, conspiracy theories, community sex ed, anal sex, tinder dates, defining sexual assault, comprehensive sex ed, erotic expression, why women don’t speak up, testosterone and sexuality, scratching your ass in public, gender socialization, victim blaming,  sex positive parenting, overrepresentation of sex & violence narratives, sex ed in math class, drinking fabric softener, cultural trauma, Margaret Atwood, emotional labor Episode 25 Links Cyndi Darnell website: http://cyndidarnell.com/ Cyndi Darnell newsletter: http://cyndidarnell.us3.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=7ab248cc10bd53654c0f6b44a&id=2160a23dff Cyndi Darnell Twitter: https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage/ @cyndi_darnell Twitter: https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell Scarleteen.com http://www.scarleteen.com/ Bish.com http://www.bishuk.com/ Buzzfeed Best 2018 podcast: https://www.buzzfeed.com/scottybryan/podcasts-2018  ← please leave a comment and give us a mention! Episode 25 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Crave Vesper 24k Gold Vibrating Necklace Giveaway at sunnymegatron.com: Provided by Castle Megastore. Entrants must be over 18, US resident, no purchase necessary. Visit the giveaway page for details and to enter: http://sunnymegatron.com/vesper/Giveaway entry ends 1/31/2017 20% off your order at http://castlemegastore.com when you use code SUNNY at checkout (limited restrictions apply) 20% off at Lelo.com with code SUNNY

On today’s show, Emily’s compiled some highlights of her favorite interviews with expert guests who all share the same goal – helping people have the best sex and relationships they can. She’s joined by physician and radio/television host Dr. Drew, sex and relationship coach John Wineland, author and dating expert Zara Barrie, and sex therapist Cyndi Darnell who give their insights and expertise on an array of topics. From maintaining “lust” in long-term relationships to the different ways men and women think about pleasure to the realities of lesbian sex – there’s so much that can be learned from this show. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Beachbody On Demand, Adam & Eve, Magic Wand

Sex is a richly complex part of being human and there’s no one way to experience it.  It can be a catalyst for spiritual connection or a source of deep trauma.  It thrives on play.  It emphasizes pleasure for pleasure’s sake.  It enacts politics and power plays.  It insists on respect and permission.  And, in our culture, it is tightly bound to shame.      This week’s guest is Cyndi Darnell, one of Australia’s leading sex and relationship therapists, and she asks us to consider what would change if we acknowledged that we do in fact have bodies, without which we cannot experience the world.  She wants us to know that it is safe to talk about our bodies, our experiences, our desires.  In fact, she invites us to consider how radically different our world could be if we were more comfortable talking about sex.  How would this change your relationship with yourself or your partner?  How would it change how we raise our children?  How would it change the status quo?   The beginnings of sex therapy as a field, sensate focus and mindfulness with a “small m”. Sexuality as a complex intersection of the many facets of the human experience, but with emphasis on radical acceptance of our bodies. Creativity and limitations as opportunity for sexual and pleasure expansion. The reductive and detrimental effects of typical sexual education, how it affects us even many years later, and how we can do differently in educating our kids. The benefits and limitations to applying mindfulness principles to somatic exploration, and ways that tantra can pick up where mindfulness leaves off. Prioritizing touch as both the giver and receiver, and the transformational power in realizing we have agency in both contexts. Three simple ways to activate the parasympathetic nervous system to clear the pathway to pleasure. The differences between surrender and submission, and the role of permission in both. The sexual politics and power dynamics that exist in every relationship, whether we choose to see it or not--and how power plays out when we refuse to see it. What therapists can do and shouldn’t do if they are uncomfortable with dealing with sex issues in the clinical space.   Referenced in this episode: Cyndi’s sex education video series for adults, The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal The Omega Institute in New York, where Cyndi occasionally leads workshops.   You can connect with Cyndi Darnell at CyndiDarnell.com, and follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.   Are you loving listening to the Practice of Being Seen podcast?  You can tell us what you want more of on our Feedback page, leave us a review on your favorite podcast app, or just buy us a cup of coffee so we can continue shining more light on topics that matter.   Oh, and note your calendars, Rebecca will be co-leading a fabulous 5 day retreat at Menla for couples this Valentine’s week, details available here.  

Sex and relationships go great together-- there’s no doubt about it. But the two are not interchangeable. In today’s show, Emily’s joined by one of Australia’s leading sex and relationship therapists Cyndi Darnell to talk about how to get both back on track! How do you prep for “Mr. Right” when you enjoy your playful lifestyle? Think you’ve tried it all and you STILL can’t orgasm? You’re brimming from cheater’s regret-- should you come clean? Emily and Cyndi answer these difficult dilemmas, plus the pair discuss the highly dreaded mismatched libido with tips on how to fix it! Thank you for supporting our our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: Magic Wand, JO, Womanizer, Sportsheets

Sex positions, vibrators and mindfulness! Elle Chase and Cyndi Darnell join August for a chat on body acceptance, maximizing pleasure, ways to be more present during sex and navigating libido differences. Also, can intentionally slowing arousal down while using sex toys bring Girl Boner perks? Both experts weigh in!

It's a very special episode this week because you are getting to hear exclusive, never before heard clips from nine of the Explore More Summit talks. You'll hear from Tristan Taormino, Allison Moon, Virgie Tovar, Melissa Toler, Dirty Lola of Sex Ed a Go Go, Cyndi Darnell, Betty Martin, Aida Manduley, and Orpheus Black. I also field listener questions on pussy slapping, pegging problems when your guy is 14 inches taller than you, foursomes where erections never happened, and ethical porn. It's a packed week of goodies and advice. Be sure to sign-up for the Explore More Summit. It starts March 8th and it's FREE.  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra Sex is a social skill. I speak it. I write it. I teach it. I help you learn how to develop it. I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I'm not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it's not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

On today’s show we have a fabulous guest, NYC sex therapist Cyndi Darnell. Cyndi is one of Australia’s leading sex educators and the creator of an online video training called  *The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal*. Cyndi Darnell recently relocated to practice sex therapy in New York City after growing her practice as one […] The post Playfulness and Pleasure with Cyndi Darnell appeared first on Pleasure Mechanics.

GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Effect Your Sex Life!

The human body is an incredible pleasure machine, the sensations and experiences we can potentially experience are incredible. Until recently though, it wasn’t really an aspect of science that was studied particularly thoroughly. Even today there is a lot that is unknown or unconfirmed. There’s a lot that is though, and it’s a lot more than you would have learned in school sex ed classes (if you were even lucky enough to get sex ed.) That was more about reproduction than sex, more about how to have babies and not have babies, than about pleasure, intimacy and sexual delight. We’ll be joined in this episode with another of Australia’s great Sex Geeks, Cyndi Darnell, who is creating a fabulous project on sexual anatomy. Join us to find out more about your fabulous body and it’s awesome sexual potential! Guest Info Cyndi Darnell is one of Australia's leading sex therapists with over 20 years experience studying human sexuality from the clinical (M.HSc / Grad Dip C/HS) to the esoteric (Sexological Bodywork and Tantra). Her work and comment has been sought for media around the country. She was a co-creator of six educational podcasts with Catherine Deveny on popular topics in adult sex education. She was the founder and host of Pleasure Forum Australia which ran in Melbourne from 2010- 2013. Cyndi counsels individuals, couples & beyond, she runs comprehensive and entertaining educational seminars and workshops on adult sexuality, pleasure & relationships both in Australia and globally to demystify sex and emphasise pleasure. Cyndi is uniquely placed to be able to bridge the world of sexology from a variety of perspectives and approaches that embrace, understand and challenge the diversity of human sexuality. www.cyndidarnell.com Download Audio: The Anatomy of Sex

Talking Poofy (Scott Brennan, Adam Richard, Toby Sullivan) present The Poofcast 80 (Season 5 Episode 6) guest starring Cyndi Darnell and Wes Snelling as The Gimp. Adam has his own Dear Talking Poofy, which involves his straight friends bumping uglies and the role of the 'gay best friend.' Also, because we've had so many Dear Talking Poofy letters about impending "first gay experiences," we've enlisted sex therapist Cyndi Darnell (Minus 18) to talk us through the first time. WARNING The Poofcast contains sexually explicit discussion, coarse language, adult themes and Wes Snelling. The Poofcast 80 (S5E6) The Poofcast 80 (S5E6) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.