Becoming a Better You Podcast w/Herm Allen

When people treat you wrong, it's very easy to hold a grudge. You may not understand how it could be possible to forgive someone, especially if what they did or saidwas especially hurtful. I know this and understand it from a personal perspective. Maybe you think forgiveness is about the other person and somehow, they benefit from you forgiving them. NEWSFLASH! Forgiveness is not about the other person...it is about you. It is about releasing you – MENTALLY & EMOTIONALLY – from the act or behavior that hurt you! In today's episode, I will share with you why forgiveness is necessary for you as an important self-care “activity” in order to be released from past hurts. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

"Laughter is the best medicine" is a phrase that dates back to biblical times as an old Proverb and it's still widely used today all over the world. That's because it's true! At least I believe it is! There's nothing like a gut-busting, belly-hurting laugh where, afterwards, you have that light-headed “high.” There's a physiological reason that happens. In today's episode we will take a look at what happens inside your body, your mind and your spirit when you laugh. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Our bodies have many ways of informing us that something is not or may not be well. Our emotions are one of those ways. How we address what is not going well, as relating to those emotions, can have a serious impact on our physical and mental well-being. Continuing with the theme of “self-care,” today's episode will a bit deeper than Episode 003 – The Emotionally Intelligent You (my suggestion is to go back and listen if you have not) where I will unpack, specifically, how to develop healthier emotional responses. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

In the previous episode I shared with you ‘The Importance of Self-Care' but here I want to take it a step further and offer some specific ways to practice self-care. Even when times are tough,, you will walk away from this episode with six practical ways that you can practice self-care. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Today is of critical importance for self-care...in our personal lives, at work and in our relationships. Since it is so important, what are you doing to ensure that your own self-care is a top priority? In today's episode I will introduce what self-care is, in my opinion, and share with you a few activities of which you can begin now to put your own self-care at the forefront because without it nothing else matters. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Your ATTITUDE determines your ALTITUDE! I'm sure you've heard that before! Maybe a trusted advisor, friend or relative may have told you that or you may have even said it to someone. Regardless of where you have heard this, your attitude is a vital component to becoming a better you. Some people may wear their attitude as a badge of courage but hear me on this...if your attitude is negative, that's not a badge of courage! Instead, it is a stain on your character. In this episode, I will unpack the importance of changing your attitude. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

While we have all learned to talk, few have learned the art and skill of effective communication. I won't touch upon the skills of communication here – well, not directly. What I do share in this episode however, are four barriers to effective communication. Although there are many barriers to effective communication, here I will go over four based on the extensive research of John Gottman* pertaining to marriage. These four barriers are not limited to marriage and I hope that you will see the applicability to other areas of life. *The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman PhD Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Lead is an action word...meaning it is something that must be done. Leading goes (or at least should) beyond a title, salary or office size. The respectability of your role as a leader rests in the confidence of those to whom you are leading...and one of the best ways to do this is to ‘Lead By Example.' On today's episode I want to briefly touch upon how and why you must lead by example. Also, as you are listening keep in mind that leading is not limited to the office or to the workplace. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Inner peace, unfortunately, is not a natural state of being for many of us. With all that is happening around us it is understandable why this is so. However, inner peace is a necessary component we need even when things around us are running amok. Since inner peace is not a natural state, that should signal to you that you must find a way for it to become a part of your coping mechanism. I am hopeful that you will find something in this episode that will allow you to find the inner peace, if you are currently lacking, that you may need to protect your sanity. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Here is a bonus secret…Life is really simple! Before you disagree and put me on blast…neither is it easy! There, are you satisfied?! What I mean by my initial statement is that there are simple things we can implement in our lives to take the sting out of living in this world. In this episode I want to introduce to some and present to others, two of those simple, little things that can help you build relationships and increase your influence in every walk of life. If you don't believe me after listening then…you don't believe me! Hey, I'm here to share what has worked in my life. All I ask is to make the attempt to incorporate these into your life and watch the difference it can have on your life. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Often associated with high performing athletes, demonstrating mental toughness is key to being successful in their chosen fields. However, how does mental toughness translate outside of the realm of athletics and other physically enduring professions? In this 3-part series, I will unpack how YOU can improve your mental toughness in everyday living on the following topics: Mental Toughness and Your Habits. Where Does Mental Toughness Come From? How Mentally Tough Are You? Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Often associated with high performing athletes, demonstrating mental toughness is key to being successful in their chosen fields. However, how does mental toughness translate outside of the realm of athletics and other physically enduring professions? In this 3-part series, I will unpack how YOU can improve your mental toughness in everyday living on the following topics: Mental Toughness and Your Habits. Where Does Mental Toughness Come From? How Mentally Tough Are You? Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Often associated with high performing athletes, demonstrating mental toughness is key to being successful in their chosen fields. However, how does mental toughness translate outside of the realm of athletics and other physically enduring professions? In this 3-part series, I will unpack how YOU can improve your mental toughness in everyday living on the following topics: Mental Toughness and Your Habits. Where Does Mental Toughness Come From? How Mentally Tough Are You? Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Are you quick to “lose your temper?” Are you like a bull in a pottery shop when you get angry? Do you feel that your anger has control over you? If this describes you or you know of someone like this, then I strongly encourage you to listen to this episode…more than once if necessary! The first step to gaining mastery over your anger is to gain control (or management) over your emotions. Yes, your emotions as a whole! While anger is not inherently a bad thing however, unbridled anger is wherein the problem lies. In this episode, I will give you seven (7) ways to get a hold on your anger. As with anything that we need to change we have to want to change it. If your anger is out of control and not beneficial to your well-being, then I hope you would want to change. The choice, as always, is yours! Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

In Episode 025, I addressed ‘Why Do You Care About What Others Think About You?' and how to approach that. In this episode I want to flip that around and ask, “What Do You Think About Yourself?” In other words, ‘Checking Your Self-Talk.” It is one thing to concern yourself what others think bout you but what you think about yourself should be of greater concern. Today, let's take a look at why it is important to check your self-talk as well as ways to confront negative self-talk. If you have nothing positive to say about yourself, how can you expect others to speak positively about you? Take a listen and takeaway how to create a positive, personal narrative. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

As the old saying goes, “It's none of your business what others think about you!” While true, many people get so caught up in the opinion of what others think about them that their self-worth takes a tremendous hit. If that is you, hear this…If you have breath, you have value! Another favorite idiom of mine is, “Opinions are a dime a dozen but that doesn't mean you have to make a purchase!” The difference maker I will impart is be able to distinguish between an opinion about you and receiving constructive feedback. In this episode I will offer you my “opinion” (pun intended) on how to deal with this that will help you to make the above distinction. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

With all that is going on in the world, our country, at home or at work…is it possible to create a better mood for yourself? Can you do it for others? The answer is yes, but…and a big BUT…is that you have to make a conscious choice and effort to do so. You do know it is possible to improve your mood, right? It can be a simple as thinking you're in a good mood. However, we all know it takes more than just thinking it into existence. Listen to this episode where I will unpack a few ways how you can intentionally create a better mood for yourself and those around you. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Whether you are working from home or physically on the job, you will experience some form of stress. While stating the obvious, is it obvious to know how to deal with that stress? Furthermore, are you dealing with it well or at all? In this episode, I want to share with you five (5) techniques you can use to deal with workplace stress. Maybe you already use some of them and others you may not. Nonetheless, hopefully you can find a strategy that works BEST for you. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

In today's world there is a lot on which to disagree: politics, sports, child rearing, relationships, and the list goes on. We spend more time arguing about what we disagree about rather than seeing if there is something within that argument that we can agree upon. Developing your ability to deal effectively with disagreements is a very wise use of your time. You will be able to solve a lot of challenges and avoid many issues if you have the effective communication skills for dealing with disagreements. Today I will offer several strategies for turning disagreements into agreements. Just know that will require work and effort to incorporate and master these into your repertoire of skills. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Self-doubt is like putting a lasso around your waist to hold back yourself! Sounds crazy doesn't it? Nevertheless, I've encountered many people over the years who have zero or no confidence in their abilities or in themselves. This is disheartening because we are all good at something and it is just a matter of recognizing that we are. In defeating self-doubt, you must want to defeat it to begin with. I don't believe anyone wants to rest in self-doubt. Also, you must have a strategy in which to defeat it. In this episode, I will share three ways by which you can address and defeat self-doubt. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Your mind is powerful beyond belief. Whether you know it or believe it, everything that you do originates in your mind. And since everything originates in your mind, it should not surprise you your body follows. You do however, have a degree of control over your mind…at least I hope you do! Under your skull is three pounds of gray matter…called your brain that houses that which is in your mind. You might say your brain is likened to computer hardware; and with that being the case, it makes sense that your mind is the software operating inside your brain. Today's episode will focus on the “software” (i.e. mind) that directs what you do and I will discuss some of the elements that make up that software. So, “follow” me inside this episode for a closer look. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

You are different from everyone else. That is to be celebrated! You offer a unique perspective in this game called life and no one can offer what you can. Today's episode is a short but powerful look into why you (and others) should STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

We're living in some stressful times. You feel it at work. You feel it at home. You feel it in just about every aspect of life. If you're not careful, stress can lead to burnout of which takes a toll on you physically, emotionally and mentally. Burnout can seriously impact you to the point of giving up…on everything and everybody! In the simplest terms, burnout is absolute EXHAUSTION! In today's episode, I will discuss how to look out for signs of burnout but, more importantly, I will share with you four things you can do to lessen or even prevent burnout. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Unlike animals, there is a cognitive reason why we do (or don't do) what we do. The reason I say unlike animals is because 1) animals do not have cognitive reasoning and 2) they function solely on instinct. Yes, we have an instinctual/habitual way of doing things but we do not dependently function in that realm of being. Since we do not function on instinct alone there must be something working within us that determines what we do. That something is called MOTIVATION! In this episode, we will explore two main reasons that “motivate” us to do the things we do. Advertising and sales/marketing professionals operate on these two factors to motivate us to spend precious dollars. Listen closely to this episode and I will also tie in how your motivation can make you a better person. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

“The quality of our relationships has a big influence on the quality of our lives.” As social beings relationships not only have a big influence on the quality of our lives but relationships are also important components that help us to become better people. Think of relationships, in a broad sense, outside of (but including) romantic relationships such as friendships, with co-workers, as parents and their children just to mention a few. Relationships are like organisms. They require nurturing, attention and energy to thrive. When relationships are ignored, they will wither away and die. This episode will give you 10 ways how you can build and maintain meaningful relationships. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

“Your mental well-being is more important than getting consumed by a negative person monopolizing your time. Know when to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! If you believe this sentiment and you want to take back control of your emotional energy…then this episode will provide you with seven strategies for dealing with negative people. People come and go from our lives, some for a season and for different reasons. Nonetheless, those whose reason is to bring negativity into your life might be just to help you become a better person. Listen further for a few ways to deal with negative people and use them as tools to help you in your personal growth. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Maybe you are! Maybe you're not…a difficult person that is! In either case, it won't hurt to examine a few signs that point out you MIGHT be a difficult person. If you're not a difficult person, this episode will help you to identify those who just might be. After all, all of us have the tendency and the capacity to be a difficult person at any given moment within our personal and professional circles. Listen closely to today's episode to see if you might be such a person. Listen closely as I touch upon three (as there are many others) ways to detect your “difficutiness” which includes but not limited to: · You feel excluded · Your self-worth is low · You constantly feel negative If any of these strike a nerve, it doesn't mean you're a bad person however, it should raise a flag that there is work to be done to “become a better you.” Also, I will present you with three introspective questions to help you move beyond being a difficult person. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

There are no guarantees in life except…death & taxes! At least that's what I've always heard growing up. I'm sure you've heard that saying too. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that those are the only guarantees in life. Regardless of its truthfulness, that should not prevent you from living the life you were purposed to live. Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight roads. Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads. The most confusing road that you will ever come across is a crossroad. With four roads from which to choose and with limited knowledge on where they go, which road will you take? In this episode, you'll get an idea of why “no guarantees” is not an excuse NOT to become a better you! That is why you and I must take every advantage to live the life for which we are purposed. And I'll also add that on this journey, reaching your goals (or fulfilling your purpose) should leave evidence that you lived a life of significance. In other words…leave a trail to help others on their journey! Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Ever have one of those belly-busting laughs that takes your breath away and tears are rolling from your eyes? Makes you feel good afterwards, doesn't it? In the times we're living in, you must find the humor in order to discover the laughter. A good place to start is with yourself. In this episode, I want to briefly share with you my take on how finding self-deprecating humor can help you to become a better you. Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Today, when the term “leadership” is mentioned it conjures up more negative images and connotations than positive. That is unfortunate because effective leadership is not getting the attention and credit that it deserves. The proverbial wheel is soaking up all the grease. Why is that? My attempt here is, for those who wish to navigate away from what leadership is not, to grab hold of what I believe is vital to effective leadership…TRUST! This episode will provide you with three elements of trust that can propel you into being a more effective leader as well as identify whether or not you see them in the “leader” you follow. Our future needs and is depending on effective leadership to emerge to the forefront. Are you up for the challenge? Are you prepared to become a better you? Are you equipped to becoming a better, more effective leader? If so, then here is a great place to start. Order Book: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Houston (and every other city), we have a problem. Multiple problems to be exact! If we're being honest, we are experiencing one of the worse times in recent history for our country. And, unfortunately, this has brought out the worst in some people. Hopefully you're not one of them. I don't believe you are otherwise you wouldn't be here…maybe! Without going into the political baggage or the social activist response to what is happening, I want to bring it down to the personal or micro level…YOU! With people being at their worst, how are you responding (or reacting) to them? In this special episode, I want to offer you three things that you can do, beginning today, to be better when other people are at their worst. I will cover the following important areas: 1. Know Yourself and Your Reactionary Tendencies 2. Convert Frustration and Anger Into Righteous Anger and Productivity 3. Choose to Be Better Change begins with you, in spite of other people who are at their worst. You must be willing to do the inner work (on yourself) in order to accomplish the outer work (on society). Listen to each one and discover another perspective on how we can make a difference and changes in, both, our personal lives and the “world” around us. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

“Build Strong Character to Avoid a Weak Reputation!” That's a powerful statement! However, it is only as powerful as the character that you build for yourself. Your character can take you to the highest pinnacle and, unfortunately it can also take you to the lowest of lows. The good thing, on the other hand, is that YOU have control of where it takes you. On this episode we will explore three components that can take you to either of the places on the character spectrum mentioned above. We'll also touch upon how your reputation is directly impacted by your character of which is, but, one of the reasons to take building your character seriously. As with your name, your character can be a valuable asset. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Unless you live in a cave or deep in the forest, there is no way to avoid conflict with other people. Whether on the job…at a social gathering…at home or…at church (yep, there too), you're going to experience or encounter some form of conflict. This two-part podcast series will explore six (6) ways to approach conflict. Will every conflict be solved? Maybe. Maybe not. Are most conflicts avoidable? In some cases yes. In some cases no. Regardless of the answers to these, among other, questions there are ways in which to approach conflict that will, hopefully, resolve or minimize the impact of those conflicts. In part I, we will addressed the following: 1. Distinguishing Facts From Fiction 2. Distinguishing Motives & Emotions 3. Converting Complaints to Requests In part II, we will address the following: 4. Starting Where You Are 5. Taking Responsibility For Your Contribution, Role or Influence 6. Forgiving & Giving Yourself A Gift Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Unless you live in a cave or deep in the forest, there is no way to avoid conflict with other people. Whether on the job…at a social gathering…at home or…at church (yep, there too), you're going to experience or encounter some form of conflict. This two-part podcast series will explore six (6) ways to approach conflict. Will every conflict be solved? Maybe. Maybe not. Are most conflicts avoidable? In some cases yes. In some cases no. Regardless of the answers to these, among other, questions there are ways in which to approach conflict that will, hopefully, resolve or minimize the impact of those conflicts. In part I, we will address the following: 1. Distinguishing Facts From Fiction 2. Distinguishing Motives & Emotions 3. Converting Complaints to Requests Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Book: Purchase Here: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

One of the greatest and, often, most stressful transitions in life is moving from student to full-fledged employee or professional. No longer can you rest on the fact that you have “homework” to do or an upcoming major exam; nor can you ask for an extension or for “extra credit.” You. Are. Now. A. Professional. And with that comes a different set of expectations and responsibilities. This episode will offer three tips to assist new and young professionals' transition from the classroom to career. We will address these three keys: 1. Competence 2. Confidence 3. Commitment Get ready to becoming a better…PROFESSIONAL! Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Book: Purchase Here: http://bit.ly/FOCUSBOOK Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

“How your MIND reacts or responds to what it receives has the potential to manifest itself in the words of your MOUTH, which can MOTIVATE you into action that will lead you to a high level of personal MASTERY.” This is the philosophy behind The 4MPACT Way to Personal Growth. In this episode, we will explore each of the four (4) elements a bit closer to give you clarity on how you can apply this framework to managed and/or enhance your personal and professional development. The four elements defined are: Mind – Everything that makes up who you are is determined by how your mind reacts or responds to what it receives from external stimuli. Mouth – What and how you speak creates barriers or opportunities. Motivation – There is always a reason why you do and don't do what you do. Nothing you do happens by accident (unless it's an accident). Mastery – You cannot master what you have not, first, learned to control. Contact Info: Email – podcast@4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com Website – https://www.4mpactforpersonalgrowth.com/contact-us Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

People can be cruel. They say things out of anger and a variety of other reasons; and some of those words can be hurtful. In some cases, those same words can have very long lasting effects. However, this episode will take another perspective on those words that, in general, have been hurtful. We will address two key factors that determine WHY words should never hurt you. Those two key factors are: 1) the truthfulness or 2) falseness of those words. After listening to this episode you will have an alternative perspective of words, their meaning, and also how you have the power to resist being hurt by words. To never be hurt by words again will become as easy as knowing your ABCs. Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

All throughout school we have been tested on this subject and that subject, all to measure our competence…or more directly our level of intelligence (IQ). Howard Gardner took intelligence a step further and theorized that we have multiple intelligences – that is, humans have specific modalities by which they learn. So, some form of “intelligence” has been studied or theorized for decades. Emotional intelligence is no different. Popularized (though not developed) by Dan Goleman in the 1990s, he brought to light the notion that we can be intelligent in how we use and manage our emotions. The components of Emotional Intelligence include: Personal Competence: Self-Awareness, Self-Management Social Competence: Social Awareness, Relationship Management In this episode, I will unpack emotional intelligence or EQ, its competencies and how you can learn to become emotionally intelligent. The more emotionally intelligent you become, you become more aware of your own emotions, the emotions of others and the role your emotions play in building effective relationships. Unlike IQ, EQ is not static and can be learned. If you've never heard of emotional intelligence, today is your first lesson in beginning a new path to becoming a better you. Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

When you're communicating with someone, do you say what you mean? Do you mean what you say? Moreover, does the person you are communicating with understand what you're saying? In other words, do they know what you mean? Communication is more than talking. This episode will give you a basic Communication 101 lesson, so to speak – no pun intended. You will get a crash course on: 1. Three basic elements of communication 2. Communication problems that lead to miscommunication 3. Simple suggestions for better communication You will walk away from today's episode with foundational knowledge to begin identifying “noise” in your daily communication with others so that they will know exactly ‘what'chu talkin' ‘bout! and you will be better able to recognize when communicating is going awry. Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

On today's episode you will be introduced to 'Becoming A Better You' and given a few tips as foundational information. I will also share with you the following topics: - What it means to 'Become' - What it means to be 'Better' - What it means to 'Becoming A Better You' Make sure to Subscribe Today so that you can be in the know as to when new episodes are available! Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message

Learn more about the Becoming A Better You Podcast w/Herm Allen and how it will benefit you, personally and professionally. Music: https://audionautix.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/becoming-a-better-you/message