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Dr. Trevor Kashey can teach any intelligent person how to apply the scientific method so that they can be rational and constructive with themselves, other people, and the lives they lead. For over 15 years now, Dr. Trevor Kashey helps people just like y

Dr. Trevor Kashey


    • Jul 14, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
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    Ep# 136: Overfeed 2000 People

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2023 14:32


    In this lively and informative show, Dr. Kashey explores the role of sugar in metabolism and the importance of maintaining an active lifestyle. By delving into the connections between sugar, food, body weight, and activity, Dr. Kashey reveals the complementary nature of these factors and challenges the notion of sugar toxicity. He discusses the benefits of being active daily, emphasizing how it can lead to better metabolic health and body shape compared to intense workouts. 

    Ep# 135: Healthy Body Weight

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2023 20:40


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses the interdependent and complementary relationships between food intake, activity, and body weight. He talks about how acting like a potted plant interrupts the physiological and psychological checks and balances between these three factors, particularly with sugar. He explains the three scenarios of what happens if there are changes in food and activity, exercise only, or the combination of food and activity. He also talks about the true underpinnings of getting a body that looks as good as it works and works and looks and the importance of achieving metabolic resilience to maintain positive endocrine status and keep metabolic health. 

    Ep# 134: Get Diabetes in 9 Simple Steps

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2023 21:34


    Dr. Kashey talks about the importance of muscle and insulin in sugar disposal and the role of the liver in regulating blood sugar levels. Dr. Kashey discusses the mechanisms behind diabetes, insulin resistance, and glucose intolerance, explaining that high insulin levels can cause organs to build up a tolerance, leading to insulin resistance and, eventually, glucose intolerance. He argues that this can result in malnourishment and diabetes, which can cause nerve damage and organ failure. He also emphasizes the importance of local nutrient cycling in maintaining metabolic health, highlighting the complementary roles of exercise and diet in promoting fat loss and metabolic health. 

    Ep# 133: Overdosing on Caffeine

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2023 16:50


    Dr. Kashey takes a break from discussing physiology, sugar conspiracy, and exercise to read an article about overdosing on caffeine.

    Ep# 132: Sitting Makes You Fat

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2023 17:18


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey explains the biochemistry and pathophysiology of obesity-related diseases and discusses how activity significantly impacts appetite and eating patterns. He emphasizes that this effect is conserved across animal species, including humans. He explains a graph showing the relationship between activity, body weight, and sugar intake, which has three major categories: potted plant status, using your body on purpose with purpose, and overkill status. He describes each category in detail and explains what happens when activity levels become too low. Dr. Kashey explains the concept of insulin resistance using the analogy of a house and movers, where the body keeps producing insulin to bring down blood sugar levels, even though the underlying issue causing high blood sugar remains unaddressed. 

    Ep# 131: The Only Love Triangle That Works

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2023 18:26


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the relationship between body mass, activity, and eating and how they complement each other instead of being adversaries. He emphasizes the importance of empirical substantiation and biological conservation of metabolic phenotypes.  He also discusses the physiological, logistical, and psychological effects of being active, which regulate energy intake and output. Dr. Kashey talks about the curvy linear relationship between regular activity, regulated body weight, and regulated consumption of metabolic fuel across animal species. He explains the concept of inflection points and how they can be useful in modeling and determining local extremes. Finally, he introduces his upcoming Dr. Kashey transformation challenge, which focuses on having a body that looks as good as it works and works as good as it looks.

    Ep# 130: Toxic Sugar

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2023 11:47


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey summarizes his previous lessons about sugar's toxic effects on health. He emphasizes the importance of understanding how sugar affects obesity and non-communicable diseases and discusses the keys to maintaining metabolic health. Dr. Kashey also talks about the behavioral and physiological aspects of food and eating and the impact of exercise on metabolic health. He explains how consuming sugar affects the liver, which can lead to high blood sugar levels, and discusses the importance of fasting before blood work. He then talks about the confusion that can arise when clinicians use blood sugar levels to measure health and advises against the misconception that being healthy means having low numbers in blood work. 

    Ep# 129: Sacrifice to the Diet Gods

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2023 16:02


    Dr. Kashey discusses the biological factors involved in burning calories and the type of metabolic fuel used during different activities.

    Ep# 128: Food Guilt and Shame

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2023 16:08


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the root causes of guilt and shame around food and eating. He explains that although knowing the origin of a problem may not play a role in its resolution, it can help to generalize the skills one has learned in resolving similar problems in the past. Self-esteem, coupled with demandingness, leads to guilt and shame. He argues that self-esteem is the valuation of one's entire being based on the perceived acceptance from others, perceived superiority over others, and the pressures one puts on oneself. It practically always leads to destroying human worth, although it has practical utility. Dr. Kashey emphasizes the importance of self-respect over self-esteem and urges listeners to stubbornly refuse to make themselves miserable around food and eating in order to foster positive and constructive outcomes with their bodies.

    Ep# 127: A Spoon Full of Sugar

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2023 14:04


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the practical nature of the ongoing discussion of how sugar is toxic to the body. He reviews some of the ideas from the previous lesson and highlights some areas for improvement. He explains that metabolic health, often confused with body weight, is separate from it. He emphasizes the importance of being active to maintain metabolic health and how modifying sugar intake is not the only solution. He argues that becoming harsher and stricter with one's diet is not the answer to maintaining good health. Instead, he stresses the importance of being more active, the most significant modifiable metabolic health factor. Dr. Kashey also discusses how feeling overly restricted with food and eating can lead to fear, anxiety, guilt, hostility, and frustration.

    Ep# 126: Sugar and Your Metabolic Health

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2023 16:16


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores metabolic health and how it relates to our physical activity and sugar intake. He starts by defining metabolic health and explains the seven stages of post-absorptive physiology that play a crucial role in metabolic health: nutrient transport, sorting, uptake, mobilization, transformation, combination, and oxidation. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining metabolic health and how various factors, such as our diet, lifestyle, and environment, can impact it. He explains the major causes of disturbance in metabolic health and emphasizes the importance of physical activity in maintaining metabolic health. He describes how moving around can be a modifiable factor in improving our metabolic health and how our sedentary lifestyles can negatively impact our health. He also mentions his upcoming challenge for those interested in improving their metabolic health and sharpening their minds.

    Ep# 125: Erase Your Food-Guilt

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2023 17:35


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the psychobiology of sugar and provides insights into how to resolve your relationship with food and eating. He challenges the axiomatic drivel that sugar is bad and you are what you eat, stating that these rules and slogans harm more than help. He explains how the human body is a complex combination of overlapping and communicating biological systems, and therefore, a one-size-fits-all diet recommendation is not justifiable. Dr. Kashey discusses how chronic diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, cancer, and other metabolic derangements associated with excess body fat are not caused by eating fat, sugar, and salt, as policymakers and diet centrists have wrongfully deduced. Instead, he argues that what matters more is what your body does to your food. He talks about how we can influence how our bodie does things and ultimately get better rather than just feeling better for a short time. He finally explains how people tend to sabotage themselves by saying stuff and trying to mean it and how they could succeed by meaning something and then saying it.

    Ep# 124: Sugar Rots Your Insides

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2023 14:40


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the nuances and semantics of the sugars psycho-bio-socio physiological conspiracy. He starts by discussing diet centrism and how people who are enthusiastic about health tend to over-represent or exclusively represent nutrition's role in health. He explains how these tendencies foster rigid, dogmatic, and absolute diet recommendations, which can be damaging as they wrongly connect adherence to these recommendations as a resolution and deviation from these recommendations as the cause of a wide variety of harmful conditions. He also talks about the need for personalized nutrition and introduces Dr. Kashey's challenge to help people get on track with food and eating to make it a positive aspect of their lives. He also talks about the importance of eating clean and offers complimentary glycemic index wipes to ensure that food is cleaned before eating.

    Ep# 123: Sugar is Medicine

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2023 17:16


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey tackles the topic of sugar and its impact on health. He starts by questioning whether sugar is about prescriptions or proscriptions. He discusses the importance of getting children to bed on time and how it is linked to the repetitive stupidity of public policies and public shaming. Dr. Kashey then talks about the concept of healthy food. He highlights how malnutrition is the underlying cause of about half of the deaths of children five and under. Interestingly, he argues that the World Health Organization recommends sugar to treat those conditions and shares a simple recipe for saving lives. Dr. Kashey further talks about how policymakers are trying to scare people into compliance, and argues that the perceived toxicity of sugar is really proportional to how metabolically frail people make themselves.

    Ep# 122: The Eternally Frustrated Perfectionist

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2023 14:15


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey delves into whether it is possible for people to care too much. He explores the findings of 120-year-old neuroscience experiments on the nervous system stimulation, performance, and learning. Dr. Kashey provides guidance on what to do when we find ourselves chronically frustrated about our results and what happens when we take things way too seriously. He explains what causes or determines the rate of habit formation and elaborates on how caring and taking things seriously affect us using the Care Curve. He also discusses what happens when we care too little and how getting super-worked up makes us more frustrated and dumber. Don't miss this informative and actionable episode as Dr. Kashey provides 3-step solutions to meet goals without taking things too seriously.

    Ep# 121: Sugar Changes Your Body

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2023 11:45


    Are you curious about the impact of sugar on human physiology? Join Dr. Kashey as he talks about sugar and its impact on human physiology. He explores the various sources of sugar stored in our bodies and how diet centrism is causing hostility and mass confusion. Dr. Kashey explains what determines the effect that sugar and sugar polymers have on human psychiatry and the importance of self-correcting psychiatry. He explains why sugars and sugar polymers are the most important biochemicals on earth and why diabetes has become a major problem. Lastly, Dr. Kashey connects the oxygen and sugar biochemistry problems and why the air we breathe is so important.

    Ep# 120: Sugar: You Are What You Eat

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2023 14:35


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores the issue of sugar and its impact on our health. He examines the controversial claim that sugar is toxic and breaks down the eight major points of conflict surrounding this belief. He also poses seven key questions to help listeners form their conclusions about the issue. Dr. Kashey explores whether or not diet sugar is a "devil" or a "diety," and how we can take back control of our health and cultivate self-respect. He also addresses his problem with the "sugar is bad" rhetoric and how the analogy of "what you eat is who you are" can lead to hostility, self-damning, and damning others. Dr. Kashey concludes with a recipe for overcoming self-defeating and impulsive behaviors related to our relationship with sugar.

    Ep# 119: Tabatha Was Sick of Working Hard

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2023 16:33


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about effort-reward mismatch and how it can negatively impact our mental and emotional well-being. He explores the root causes of this phenomenon, how it can perpetuate itself, and strategies for resolving it. He shares a real-life example of a client named Tabitha, who felt that her workload was overwhelming and needed help to make it more manageable. Through his guidance, Tabitha understood the source of her frustration and developed a plan to alleviate it. He also discusses the cultural expectation of hard work in America and how it often leads to frustration and misery. Dr. Kashey emphasizes the importance of differentiating between the needs essential for survival and those not to avoid setting unrealistic and harmful standards for ourselves. To help individuals sort the issue and overcome the destructive beliefs and behaviors that lead to effort-reward mismatch, Dr. Kashey introduces a 5-point belief system guide. 

    Ep# 118: Sugar Changes Your Thoughts

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2023 14:39


    Join Dr. Kashey on this episode as he explores diet centrism and gets dipper into its origin. He discusses how to resolve diet centrism and what factors determine someone's best diet. He addresses how personalizing and magnifying prompts diet centrists to label us or any of our ideas globally and negatively and how this leads to the issue of self-esteem. He explores the concept of diet-centric disease-mongering and how people tend to focus on conclusions rather than facts, which can lead to distorted thinking. He also provides insights by comparing the issue of labeling sugar as bad to someone walking on a broken leg who argues that walking hurts and, in turn, labels walking as bad. Dr. Kashey also talks about why it is best when logic hinges on verifiable arguments. He emphasizes the importance of logic and verifiable arguments when understanding the complexities of diet and nutrition.

    Ep# 117: Sugar Changes Your Brain

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2023 18:02


    In this episode, Dr. Trevor Kashey unravels the conspiracy theories surrounding sugar and its supposed toxicity. With an increasing number of people assuming that sugar leads to obesity and chronic diseases, Dr. Kashey separates facts from fiction and provides a scientific perspective. He explains why sugar is a polar molecule and how the polarization of sugar creates few winners and many losers. Dr. Kashey also introduces TKN, a solution that addresses this issue in a practical, rational, and constructive manner. He sheds light on what sugars are, how they help our bodies function, and why polarizing them is a serious problem. Additionally, he discusses how axiomatic terminology can distort thinking and lead to specific behavior patterns. He also touches on how orchestrators and potential leaders manipulate people and push an agenda, often without them even being aware. Tune in for a fascinating and informative discussion on sugar's complexities and impact on our lives.

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    Ep# 116: Sugar. Buckle Up.

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 13:32


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses the centuries-long war on sugar, alcohol, and tobacco. He discusses the overwhelming evidence of these substances' adverse effects on human health and contrasts this with the lack of evidence supporting any benefits. Dr. Kashey also explores the often absurd and distorted beliefs surrounding dietary sugar and how this has led to misguided public opinions and policies. Additionally, Dr. Kashey discusses his year-long curriculum focused on the vital role of sugar in metabolism and provides a sneak peek into some of the topics covered in the lessons. He also addresses the idea that he is "brainwashed" and explains why learning about the integration of sugar in human metabolism is so important.

    Ep# 115: 15 Symptoms of the Self-esteem Disease

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2023 16:04


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores the negative effects of a rigid, egotistical, and impulsive approach to problem-solving. He discusses how this approach can lead to the development of a "self-esteem disease" with various adverse side effects, including an obsession with status and approval that can overshadow the pursuit of a satisfying and joyful life. Dr. Kashey explains how this pursuit of self-esteem can lead to believing that one is superior to others and can foster impulses and, even worse, compulsions. He also explores the link between self-grading and self-esteem and how it can block people from focusing on the problems they could be solving. In addition, Dr. Kashey touches on the root of all forms of prejudice and how it is connected to this rigid, egotistical approach to problem-solving. Tune in to this thought-provoking episode to learn more about transitioning to a more rational and flexible problem-solving approach and improving your overall well-being.

    Ep# 114: What Type of Trip Taker Are You?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2023 18:23


    Dr. Kashey shares one big thing that people have in common that can help them progress while still having a good time while traveling.

    Ep# 113: Trade Your Self-Worth For Cool Stuff

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2023 16:04


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about self-worth and how it can be used to obtain cool stuff. He guides listeners through a step-by-step process for becoming an expert at trading in their self-worth to get what they want. Along the way, he shares insights on how to depend on self-esteem to determine one's worth and offers tips on increasing self-esteem to become more confident and self-assured. Dr. Kashey also discusses the importance of evaluating oneself and others to ensure proper functioning, and he shares strategies for inflating one's self-esteem when necessary. Additionally, he explores the different ways people may mask or mainline their self-esteem and provides insights on how to manage self-esteem to maintain a healthy balance. Finally, he offers suggestions for distracting activities that can help individuals build self-esteem riches while avoiding the pitfalls of an idealized world.

    Ep# 112: Make Yourself Miserable to Make Your Life Better

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2023 13:07


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey delves into self-esteem and global rating, examining how these concepts exist practically everywhere. He talks about three examples of the practical utility of self-esteem and global rating, specifically in technology, entertainment, and skill development. However, he also touches on the darker side of self-esteem and global rating, explaining how they can often benefit others at the cost of our well-being and lead to distorted thinking and learned victimization. Dr. Kashey argues that self-esteem and global rating can also have practical benefits despite these negative consequences. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation on the importance of self-esteem and how it shapes our approach to life. Tune in to "Coffee with Dr. Kashey" and take the first step towards understanding and improving your self-esteem.

    Ep# 111: When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2023 12:30


    In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the two fundamental desires that drive human behavior: the desire to survive and the desire to have a fulfilling and enjoyable life. He delves into the concept of ego distortions and distorted self and how these can lead to self-defeat. Dr. Kashey also explores the origins of self-defeat and how it can manifest in our lives. Dr. Kashey also discusses the distorted counterparts to the 15 traits of self and how these distortions can hinder our ability to live a happy and fulfilling life. Throughout the episode, Dr. Kashey offers practical tips and strategies for overcoming ego distortions and maintaining a healthy sense of self. Whether you're struggling with self-doubt or looking for ways to improve your overall well-being, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a happy and fulfilling life.

    Ep# 110: 15 Things That Make You YOU

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2023 18:43


    For many reasons, it can be difficult for people to know who they really are. In this episode, Dr. Kashey argues that trying to find the ego or self is a legitimate way to help cure self-esteem, allowing self-respect to take place philosophically. To expound on these, he talks about leveraging 15 things that make self. Among these, we have the dangers of self-identifying, the innate uniqueness of human beings, intellectual awareness, changing personality to some degree on purpose, self-control, the power to have self-confidence and how to increase it, and the rational and flexible preferences associated with value. We also learn about the two innate desires of self-assumed by the SRO model and how SRO cycles interact interpersonally. 

    Ep# 109: Self-Esteem is a Learning Disability

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2023 16:41


    Self-esteem is one of the most dangerous pandemics ever hitting the human race. In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about self-esteem and why understanding self is a requirement to know your self-esteem. He clearly shows how self-esteem affects your personality randomly, intensely, and negatively. He proves self-esteem is a learning disability and elaborates how self-respect is the cure. He also shows us how to deal with self-esteem properly and what personality and humanity are made of. We learn the dangers of self-esteem and a clear explanation of the difference between self-esteem and self-respect, not leaving behind how the SRO model shows what affects how we respond to frustrations. Tune in now!

    Ep# 108: Maybe She’s Born With It – “Genetic Predispositions”

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2022 16:46


    Are you a staunch advocate of free will and rationality, or do you believe we're all predisposed to make decisions based on genetics, neurology, biochemistry, and culture? Here we discuss the practicalities of genetics and predispositions to overeating and fatness. These biological urges are not a law of nature, but if you don't use your free will to override the instincts that make you flawed, those instincts will take over. In today's show, Dr. Kashey talks about why people find it so easy to ignore justifiable reasons for eating rationally. Dr. Kashey notes that the power of choice under the most extreme circumstances is still more substantial than a biological urge and concludes by letting us know how to increase the impulsivity of smarter decisions effectively. Tune in to learn these and many more.  

    Ep# 107: Genetics of Overeating- Dr. Kashey’s Practical Implications

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2022 16:03


    We've all heard the wacky belly fat myths that your genetics mean you can't lose weight. But what does genetics have to do with overeating? When we talk about genetics, people usually think of genes and how they affect our species. But many other things significantly affect how we function and determine our health. In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the genetics of overeating, how to know that you are genetically handicapped, and what it implies. Dr. Kashey talks about a primer on the legitimate implications of genetic predispositions to fatness and overeating, separate from genetic predispositions to diseases associated with obesity. He shares some fundamental causes of the neurological bugginess, causing what appears to be legitimate automatic overeating.  We also learn the two implications of genetic predispositions and the disturbances that make the SRO cycle roll. Sit back and enjoy!

    Ep# 106: Planning Your “Perfect” Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2022 11:37


    Have you ever wondered how to plan your food in the best possible way to get the most nutrients possible? It is no doubt that finding the perfect balance of food every time can be challenging, but if you take your time and plan things out, it gets easier. In this episode, Dr. Kashey gives a helpful order on how to put together a daily meal plan with an outstanding balance. He breaks down what each item means and how much of each one you should have. He tells all the nutrients one can find in these food sources. Dr. Kashey also lets us know what determines the amount of roughage one needs to have in their plan.  

    Ep# 105: When They Have a Lot of Trouble With Your Change

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2022 20:28


    Everybody has been in a situation where they feel frustrated with others or have frustrated someone. In this episode, Dr.Kashey gives insights into the principles of resolving frustrations. This plays an essential role in discerning a person's realities, but often, it is forgotten that people come out of their ways of living without knowing why they are doing so. However, it would be worthwhile to know how we can change these things so that they will help us in our future situation better than at present. To tackle this, Dr. Kashey talks about the ultra-quick view of the SRO mode plus the MY-WHY-TRY model. He also looks to establish whether taking it turns to sugging it out and how to use science to change rigid absolute minds into flexible and rational preferences in a relationship. He shares details on why simple frustrations seem complex and gives the five internal transformations as to why one would act in a particular manner. To know what causes frustrations, Dr. Kashey notes that rigid absoluteness is the basis of all chronic frustrations. 

    Ep# 104: When They Have Trouble With Your Change

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 16:00


    Undoubtedly, as we interact with people, we experience some serious or minor friction, especially when making ourselves better. In today's episode, we're talking about handling friction in any form of relationship as a result of making yourself better. While the topic may not be new for the most part, what Dr. Kashey does is bring a fresh approach. Among the issues explained, we have the application of the SRO method so that everybody wins in this situation. The good doctor shares the stimulus, response, and outcome model, which forms the belief system. There are times when people get frustrated by our actions, and in this episode, we get to know what it is that we can do when one is frustrated by our actions in a relationship. Sometimes we expect much from people, or others expect much from us; thereby, we end up freaking out when our offers are declined. This issue is clearly explained in this episode, citing the reasons for such responses. He also shares that the frustration zone comes in place when what you do frustrates others or when what they do frustrates you.

    Ep# 103: When You Feel Like You’re Just a “Consumable”

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2022 12:37


    In today's podcast, Dr. Kashey talks about taking yourself from an exhausted and consumable resource to a rational and constructive renewable resource. The key is the aspect of the absoluteness of the rules. Rules you follow probably consume you, but rules you follow with reason and compassion tend to renew you. They make it easier for you to become a renewable resource. You can only do the work of one person if you're following every rule in place. Your benefit to others is not as important as these rules are for yourself. It is no doubt that serious things allow you to rationally prioritize what you want so that you may be fulfilled instead of impulsively pressuring yourself. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself. You don't have to be a victim of circumstances, but you can choose how much stress is in your life. Tune in and learn why it is good to focus on yourself!

    Ep# 102: Babies SUCK at sports!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2022 15:12


    In today's lesson, Dr. Kashey talks about genetics, fatness, overeating, and other triggering things like that in the context of genetics.

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    Ep# 101: Recover From Punishing Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2022 13:41


    The previous lesson about Tabitha's story on controlling the outcome when a mistake has already happened. In this lesson, Dr. Kashey talks about how she beat herself badly and went from whipping herself to getting reasonably irritated at herself. One can do some dumb things because they are overloaded with frustration tolerance or is more demanding to themselves since frustration tolerance went down. Dr. Kashey says this happens because more self-aware people punish themselves when they do dumb things and take responsibility. On the other hand, oblivious people tend to punish others when they do dumb things and take less responsibility because others must be able to fix it; therefore, they demand that they fix it. In the lesson, Dr. Kashey shares what smart people do when they experience problems. He also talks about the solutions to these problems and how perfectionism and procrastination tend to criple one from doing anything except waiting until the urge to do something is very high due to pressure. We also learn why intelligent people are exhausted, especially with themselves, and the solutions that TKN presents to such issues. In this episode, we learn that although our upbringing makes us believe that it was a requirement as a child to survive, and we often carry it as an adult, with the help of TKN, we learn how to use our brain to construct a rational and constructive priority instead of impulsive and destructive punishments.

    Ep# 100: Yawning Less Gets You More Sleep

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2022 14:35


    In this lesson, Dr. Kashe talks about training symptoms that help you address the cause of a problem, and concerning this, he talks about a coach who complains that one of the clients in the gym keeps on yawning during exercise. Dr. Kashey also presumes that the cause of this trait maybe be attributed to the person's hectic work schedule. He argues that if it is the issue of crazy work schedules, it is easy for her to fix that, and yawning during training fixes itself. Dr.Kashey, in this lesson, explains that getting to the root of a problem is sometimes important, but it is often overrated, and with a tiny bit of critical thinking, thinking critically can be a solution to an underlying problem and how TKN's SRO model solves this. Listen to discover how such problems can be resolved!

    Ep# 99: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2022 21:37


    Today on Coffee With Kashey is a review for all the new people of the SRO model, which explains a lot of our bad cycles. The model starts with the Stimulus (what upsets you) and Response (what you do about the Stimulus) before arriving at the Outcome (what happens after you Respond to the Stimulus) all of which are influenced by our underlying beliefs. Dr. Kashey's solution is twofold. First, coach yourself or get coached through good experiences! Run experiments and collect true data so you can think and act in direct conflict with your problems in rational and constructive ways, actively changing what you believe by disputing your rigid beliefs, thinking backward and questioning your self-sabotaging thoughts. Second, a positive outlook changes how you view the results and what you do next! You'll gain resilience after negative results, find gratitude from positive results, decrease frustration in your life and stop bad cycles.

    Ep# 98: How to Become Resilient

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2022 20:54


    In this podcast, Dr. Kashey talks about stimulus and response, stating that in the space between stimulus and response lies a circular interaction between thoughts, feelings, and urges that trigger you to respond. The distance between the stimulus and response can be reduced if the thinking problems and rigid beliefs are replaced with rational beliefs. To show how humans respond to provocation, he shares four categorical outcomes of the Pesky Space model: gratefulness, demand, resilience, and dissatisfaction, all based on results and outlooks with rational and irrational thinking. He further states that if you want to eliminate all that self-sabotaging garbage, you must think and act purposefully and aggressively in conflict with those things, literally think and act against them over and over and over aggressively, violently, stubbornly persistently.

    Ep# 97: Urgency Vs. Emergency

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2022 19:18


    Dr. Kashey describes how the space between Stimulus and Response consists of what you Think, Feel and Decide to do, which all connect in a circular way. A Stimulus bigger than your tolerance for frustration means your Thoughts about the Stimulus will become distorted, and you will Feel negative and make impulsive Decisions, all leading to self-sabotaging Responses. This system is fed by things blocking you from what you want and your own beliefs. Behavioral scientists have shown the best way to change a rigidly reinforced belief is by forcing yourself to repeatedly act otherwise. The client used a full day of fasting to test whether any actual dire consequences occurred if she felt the urge to eat and purposefully did nothing, and so her distorted belief hypothesis was found to be untrue!

    Ep #96: How Tabitha Beat Her Binge-Eating Demon

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2022 16:05


    It's time to change your beliefs around food and eating with another episode of Coffee with Kashey! Do you have problems that existed in your past that creep into your adulthood? You owe it to yourself to smash the ugliness that stemmed from those problems of decades ago. In this episode, Dr. Kashey shows us how to leave that ugly part of our life behind so we can focus on our present. We're focusing on practical solutions in the present and more, in today's episode.

    Ep #95: What Got You Here?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2022 16:26


    In previous episodes Dr. Kashey talked about the 3 different external interaction systems: the environment, the social system and the human system. Today, Dr Kashey focuses on the 3 internal systems: your beliefs, your decisions, and your urges. Dr. Kashey explains how these internal systems interact with one another, and how they contribute to influencing what you do. This is important because what you do ultimately affects whether, and how, you either solve your problems, or make them worse when you are feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, or discouraged. Most people and programs tend to focus on understanding where problems originated from. Dr. Kashey believes that a better solution is to gain an understanding of what makes the same problems arise again and again, because gaining an understanding of the central mechanism that maintains the problems is the first step to taking concrete actionable steps to resolve them so that you can achieve your goals.

    Ep# 94: Does Food Cause Frustration?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2022 15:18


    Can you get it all by changing your thinking? TKN proposes precisely that - and works to get around your #BIGBRAIN interfering with disrupting your mission to get it all done. With TKN's SRO model, you can sharpen your mind and chisel your body at the same time. How? Listen to discover how the SRO model helps with your thinking, solves those practical problems, and gets you to the action to get your desired outcome simultaneously.

    Ep# 93: TKN’s Adapt Framework

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2022 20:48


    In today's Coffee With Kashey episode, Dr. Trevor Kashey has a real-life client case study that shows how the ADAPT framework works. The client was pre-diabetic and had issues with her blood pressure and blood sugar. But because biology operates on a continuum of self-correcting feedback loops, within 3 months of starting to ADAPT her bloodwork was back in healthy ranges and she lost 23 pounds! Dr. Kashey reviews the ADAPT framework, noting that clients are fine to combine steps because the system is written like so for learning purposes but does flow together. 

    Ep# 92: Bloated, Tired, and Emotional

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2022 16:52


    You've explored thinking problems in the previous two episodes and now you're ready to tackle a practical problem hindering progress towards your goal. In this episode, Dr. Kashey explains how the ADAPT problem-solving framework, developed by famed cognitive scientist Dr. Nezu, will give you a “plug and play” solution to most of your practical problems or goal-blockers. It's one more tool in the box to remove roadblocks and continue progressing towards your goals even when the road gets a little wonky (and we know it will get a little wonky). So put on your thinking caps and nerd glasses and take a closer look at solving your practical problems.

    Ep# 91: Is Your Environment a Product of You!?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2022 12:52


    When life is stressful, we think we need to wait until things calm down, causing us to do nothing and procrastinate forever until life is “perfect” again. This mental roadblock becomes our pass to do nothing about all those problems causing the stress. People who feel overwhelmed and stressed tell themselves they've lost control, so they even give up control over everything causing them stress. In many cases, we even give up on doing things that lower stress! In today's Coffee With Kashey episode, Dr. Trevor Kashey encourages us to look back at previous times of stress. Think about how you used your mental and physical energy, or how you wasted it. Were the things you did to feel better effective? When stress reaches a certain point, you need to pause and bring back logic and reason into your responses for a positive and constructive outcome!

    Ep# 90: “Answers” Are Useless

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2022 13:52


    It's time to change your beliefs around food and eating with another episode of Coffee with Kashey! What matters more to you, having the answer to a problem or knowing how to solve the problem? Sometimes you can have the answer to a problem but still fall short. Sometimes you can have all the information you need, and have a plan that seems to make sense, but you still find yourself struggling. You know the answer to the problem ... but you need solutions that work for YOU. Well, TKN gets you the custom solution you need. And we're going to get into all of that and more in today's episode.

    Ep# 89: A Problem For Every Solution

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2022 14:11


    Dr. Kashey discusses how to break the vicious cycle of creating a problem for every solution. There are two types of problems: practical and thinking. They can reinforce each other and lead us down the slippery slope of self-sabotage. For example: a person thinking they are a failure (thinking problem) because they messed up on their diet (practical problem). We should put aside the rigid demands we have for ourselves, and instead adopt flexible preferences. This will help us create constructive, rational solutions to both types of problems, and stop the vicious cycle of creating a problem for every solution.

    Ep# 88: No Pain No Gain?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2022 13:50


    Dr. Kashey addresses the popular saying “No pain, no gain!” While it's commonly used as a motivating phrase, Dr. Kashey argues that it is a conflicting philosophy that confuses correlation and causation. It assumes that in order for there to be success, pain must be involved, which is a distorted belief. Although progress may require some sacrifice, we should not be conditioned to expect misery every time we take a step forward in life. Instead of pain, we should aim for rational, constructive, flexible, and scientific thinking. Only then will we be able to make the permanent behavior changes needed to be fit, happy, and successful.

    Ep# 87: Still Struggling With Being Out-of-Shape

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2022 17:37


    Dr. Kashey relieves us of our perfectionist demands that only create frustration and ultimately end in self-sabotage. People tend to act based on what they believe rather than what they actually want. If a belief system is crooked, then actions aligned with those crooked beliefs will lead to undesirable outcomes. Then, in an effort to make sense of the conflict between what someone does and the results they're getting, irrational thought processes can arise. Upon closer investigation, it might be found that unrealistic perfectionist demands are disguised as valued beliefs. This is why reasonable preferences are more helpful than perfectionist demands.

    Ep# 86: Is the Past Really the Past?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2022 10:41


    Dr. Kashey shows us why experiences of the past have a minority influence on what we choose to think and do now. Learning from the past is one thing, but repeatedly bringing up the past and using it as an excuse for poor choices in the present is detrimental to reaching our goals. Although it can feel like the past is a problem in the present, this is only because we sometimes use the past as a tool to create problems in the present. This can be avoided if we stop allowing events of the past to have an inflated influence on how we think and act in the present. We have the power to choose the right influences as well as refuse the wrong influences.

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