Narcissists in divorce – the lure, the loss and the law.

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some strategies to help you to rebuild your life after a relationship with a narcissist. This podcast was brought to you in association with Stowe Family Law, the largest family law firm in the UK,  as part of our Stowe talks series. The Stowe talks podcast and video series are designed to help people go through a relationship breakdown and all the challenges this brings, covering topics including narcissism, domestic abuse, supporting children, finances and navigating the family court. Follow the link for our podcast series on Spotify or watch our video series on YouTube More resources for you: You can check out our Amazon number one bestseller, 'Divorcing a narcissist - the Lure, the Loss and the Law' here. It's available in paperback, and, for discretion, as an audiobook and Kindle Edition too. Click here if you'd like to read Chapter One for free. If you want to be sure that your partner is a narcissist the 'Is your partner a narcissist? Knowing for sure' online course is out now, as is the 'Demystifying the Narcissist' online course - and, due to popular demand, the 'Divorcing a Narcissist' online course is on its way. Please head over to doctorsupriya.com for online course information and updates. For more free information and blogs, and to contact Dr Supriya for 1:1 coaching, visit thelifedoctor.org. You can also follow Dr Supriya on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin for more narcissism related insights.

In this episode personality disorder psychologist and psychotherapist,  Dr Elinor Greenberg, chats with narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna about easy ways to spot a toxic date. Dr Greenberg's tips are particularly useful for anyone worried about being back in the dating arena after a narcissistic relationship. She describes a simple method involving counting the negative things said in the first hour of a first date, and another where you simply closely examine your date's behaviour in the very first 10 minutes of the date. She also explains how the different types of narcissist (the exhibitionist, devaluing and closet narcissists)  might give themselves away in these interactions.  More resources for you: You can check out our Amazon number one bestseller, 'Divorcing a narcissist - the Lure, the Loss and the Law' here. It's available in paperback, and, for discretion, as an audiobook and Kindle Edition too. Click here if you'd like to read Chapter One for free. If you want to be sure that your partner is a narcissist the 'Is your partner a narcissist? Knowing for sure' online course is out now, as is the 'Demystifying the Narcissist' online course - and, due to popular demand, the 'Divorcing a Narcissist' online course is on its way. Please head over to doctorsupriya.com for online course information and updates. For more free information and blogs, and to contact Dr Supriya for 1:1 coaching, visit thelifedoctor.org. You can also follow Dr Supriya on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin for more narcissism related insights.

In this episode internationally renowned clinical psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg talks with  Dr Supriya McKenna about the various ways that Narcissists can convincingly present as being genuine when dating.  She gives the tip offs for each of her archetypes - the Detective, the Hunter, the Narcissistic Love Script, The Romantic, The Casanova and the Recycler. They talk about the idea of 'I-Thou' versus 'I-It' relationships - and how in all their relationships the narcissist views the other person merely as an object.  More resources for you: You can check out our Amazon number one bestseller, 'Divorcing a narcissist - the Lure, the Loss and the Law' here. It's available in paperback, and, for discretion, as an audiobook and Kindle Edition too. Click here if you'd like to read Chapter One for free. If you want to be sure that your partner is a narcissist the 'Is your partner a narcissist? Knowing for sure' online course is out now, as is the 'Demystifying the Narcissist' online course - and, due to popular demand, the 'Divorcing a Narcissist' online course is on its way. Please head over to doctorsupriya.com for online course information and updates. For more free information and blogs, and to contact Dr Supriya for 1:1 coaching, visit thelifedoctor.org. You can also follow Dr Supriya on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin for more narcissism related insights.

In this episode Dr Craig Malkin discusses his role in the NY times bestselling book "The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump", in which he broke down the behaviours  of pathological narcissism as exhibited by Mr Trump. We discuss how it is actually simpler for the spouse of a narcissist to recognise narcissism in their partner than for a clinician (who has very limited information). We also talk about mutual abuse and reactive abuse, about whether narcissists are conscious that they are narcissists, and about the dark tetrad of psychopathy, sadism, narcissism and machiavellianism. We also talk about the category of the Communal (altruistic) Narcissist, and how narcissists can move between the different categories as they become more and more driven to special and unique.

In this episode Harvard psychologist and narcissism expert and author Dr Craig Malkin talks with Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker about how one can protect their children from becoming narcissistic, even when they have a narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties encountered in dating when one has had a previous narcissistic relationship, to do with attraction, chemistry, trust and relating in new ways. 

In this episode Dr Craig Malkin, psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert and psychologist explains the concept of the 'spectrum of narcissism', which he describes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism. He talks about 'healthy narcissism', and about those people who do not have enough of it (the 'Echoists'). We talk about the overlaps of this type with co-dependents, highly sensitive people, and empaths. Dr Malkin explains the importance of feeling one's anger when one is a victim of narcissistic abuse. We also talk about social media, and how this can have a part to play in some narcissistic individuals. 

In this episode, Dr Craig Malkin, Psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert, discusses with Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker how ageing can affect narcissists. We talk about narcissistic collapses, and how  in older narcissists whose relationships have broken down they use projection (blaming others of what they themselves are thinking, feeling or doing) as a defence. Dr Malkin talks about the concept of the psychotic spiral, and how during a narcissistic collapse narcissists may even become delusional in their thinking. We also discuss therapy for narcissists, and what Dr Malkin's experience of this has been. 

In the final episode of this mini series with Dr Elinor Greenburg, Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker ask Elinor whether it is possible to 'cure' a narcissist. Elinor explains how previously therapy would take 5-10 years to have an effect on a minority of narcissists, but how she has recently been working on a new therapy, which has much faster effects. She explains which specific type of narcissist is able to respond to this type of therapy, and the strict boundaries and rules she enforces when working with them.  They discuss the concept of neuroplasticity and how treating narcissist involves breaking old autopilots and creating new ones. Elinor explains what drew to her working in this field, and they discuss depression in narcissists, and how the "Nobel Prize narcissists' rarely fall into depressions ('or narcissistic collapses'). 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker continue their conversation with  world renowned psychotherapist and educator Dr Elinor Greenberg.  Elinor explains how to manage a narcissist using her 'narcissistic sandwich' technique. Karin describes how she uses this technique herself in her role as a family lawyer and a mediator, and highlights why it is so important for family law practitioners to understand that they are dealing with a narcissist, so that they can facilitate negotiations effectively.  They discuss the concept of  'hoovering' and give tips for preparing to leave the narcissist, and how to prepare for narcissistic rage. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker talk to internationally renowned Narcissism expert and psychotherapist Dr Elinor Greenberg. They delve into what 'healthy narcissism' is, how people become narcissists, and what determines whether a child will become a narcissist. Elinor differentiates narcissists from psychopaths and gives her view on the idea that narcissists are 'evil' - and she recommends her psychology.com article "Narcissistic Judo" for those who wish to try to keep things smooth with a narcissist. 

In this fascinating episode , the first of a small series, Dr Supriya and Karin are joined by internationally recognised NPD expert and psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg, who is famed for her work in explaining NPD to the general public and working directly with narcissists and those who have been affected by them. Elinor discusses the essential concept of 'whole object relations' to explain why the narcissist sees people as only 'all good' or 'all bad'. She describes the 3 types of narcissist - as first identified by James F Masterson, with whom she studied,  and explains her concept of the 'GOD defense' as demonstrated by exhibitionist narcissists. 

In this episode Narcissism Expert Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK lawyer Karin Walker speak to barrister Nicholas Wilkinson from leading London chambers One Hare Court. Nick has a wealth of experience in dealing with cases involving narcissists, and has been the instructed barrister in a number of high profile cases. He recently successfully represented Princess Haya of Jordan in the High Court during her divorce from the Ruler of Dubai. In this episode Nick runs through the specific considerations that are necessary when  cross examining a narcissist on the witness stand, and gives his tips for how to do so. They also discuss the use of terms such as 'gaslighting' in court and why a narcissist's bad behaviour will not usually be relevant in determining a financial settlement. Karin explains the misconception that many people have that the family court is able to financially punish people for bad behaviour and deliver retribution. 

In this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and top family lawyer Karin Walker speak with acclaimed barrister Nicholas Wilkinson, from One Hare Court Chambers. Nick has a deep understanding of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and has been involved in many high conflict cases. He even successfully represented Princess Haya of Jordan in her recent high profile divorce from the Ruler of Dubai. They discuss how common it is, in Nick's experience, for solicitors to be unaware that narcissism is at play in their cases. They also talk about how difficult it is to spot a covert (closet) narcissist in court proceedings and why it is so dangerous to miss this type. Supriya and Karin give their tips for lawyers on how to recognise the covert narcissist, including the giveaways in correspondence between solicitors. They discuss how the true narcissist has an overriding sense of entitlement in the divorce, which they cannot be talked out of and which doesn't subside at all over time. Nick makes the point that it is particularly hard to spot covert narcissists on the 'other side' because what might look like a sense of entitlement could actually be an aggressive stance taken by their lawyers, rather than by the client themselves.

In this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK family lawyer Karin Walker talk to highly acclaimed barrister Nicholas Wilkinson, who is most recently known for successfully representing Princess Haya of Jordan (the former wife of the ruler of Dubai)  in the High Court. Nick, who has an exceptionally deep understanding  of NPD, explains the specifics of why it is so important for family law barristers to understand narcissism, and the potential pitfalls of not recognising it in their clients or in the client 'on the other side'. 

In this episode, narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains the many difficulties faced by anyone who is trying to extricate themselves from a narcissistic relationship.  She deconstructs the psychological issues that have resulted from narcissistic abuse and explains how it is these very things themselves that make leaving so hard - and she busts the myth that the abuse can't have been real or serious, because if it had been then the victim would have left sooner. She also explains why it is so common for victims to return to the narcissist after many repeated attempts at leaving, and talks about addiction to the narcissist, gaslighting, isolation, hoovering, guilt, complex PTSD , anxiety and fear - and how all of these have a part to play in making leaving so very difficult. 

In this episode, Dr Caroline Logan and Dr Supriya McKenna discuss violence in narcissistic relationships, and the part played by gender. They also discuss the realities of getting a personality disorder diagnosis for the purposes of Court, what the purpose of doing so could be, and what you need to consider when looking for a suitably qualified diagnostic professional to act as an expert witness.   

In this episode, for the people who are supporting the victims of a narcissistic relationship or divorce, narcissism expert Dr Supriya  McKenna explains the basics of narcissistic personality disorder. This episode should be useful for family members, friends and even legal professionals who are trying to get a basic grasp of narcissism. Dr McKenna also makes suggestions of some key things to avoid saying to the victim of narcissistic abuse, and addresses common misinformation about narcissism in order to make the process of helping loved ones or clients, who are victims, easier. 

In the second part of this interview, Dr Supriya McKenna and top family lawyer Karin Walker chat with Dr Caroline Logan. Dr Logan is a  Consultant Clinical Forensic Psychologist in the NHS and she trains psychiatrists and psychologists in exactly how to make accurate and robust personality disorder diagnoses. In this episode they discuss being 'duped' by pathological narcissists, and what narcissistic parenting means for the children. 

In the first part of this interview, Dr Supriya McKenna and top family lawyer Karin Walker discuss the differences between healthy narcissism, pathological narcissism and psychopathy with Dr Caroline Logan. Dr Logan is a  Consultant Clinical Forensic Psychologist in the NHS and she trains psychiatrists and psychologists in exactly how to make accurate and robust personality disorder diagnoses. 

In this episode cybersecurity expert Rory Innes explains to narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and lawyer Karin Walker why it is that blocking a cyberstalker can lead to an escalation of stalking behaviour, potentially to dangerous levels. Rory explains the different categories of stalker, and outlines the difference between stalking and harassment, and why more training needs to given to the police to help them recognise and manage these criminal offenses. 

In this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK family lawyer Karin Walker talk with cybersecurity expert Rory Innes about cyberstalking - a common tactic employed by narcissists in the separation/divorce period. Rory is founder and CEO of The Cyber Helpline, which provides free help to those experiencing suspected cybercrime. They discuss the commonest types of cyberstalking, and what to be aware of. 

In this episode top UK Lawyer Karin Walker and Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna talk with Hybrid Mediators Rachael Oakes (who also sits as a Deputy District Judge) and Claire Colbert about the need to educate solicitors and clients about hybrid mediation. They discuss why court should be  last resort, and why so called 'alternative' dispute resolution should be renamed 'First Line Dispute Resolution'. They discuss the traumas of the court system, the fact that one can drop out of the court system into mediation at any time and how hybrid mediation can even be run alongside a court application, with court as a backstop. They also discuss the realities of the power of the court, and the issues of obtaining truthful, complete financial disclosure from a narcissist. 

In this episode top UK divorce lawyer Karin Walker and Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna talk with Deputy District Judge Rachael Oakes and her colleague mediator, Claire Colbert, about why classic, traditional mediation and shuttle mediation do not work with narcissists. They discuss the benefits of using 'Hybrid Mediation' instead, where a narcissist is involved. They explain why Hybrid Mediation is best used for parties that have legal representation for the duration of the process, and how it is significantly quicker, cheaper and less traumatic than court, which they all agree should be avoided where a narcissist is involved. 

In this episode, London family law barrister Nicholas Anderson, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker and Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna  discuss the issue of parental alienation - and how it is used by narcissistic parents as a means to punish their former spouse. Nick explains why the court is not the best place to deal with cases such as these, and Karin explains why arbitration is a much safer method to use where a narcissist is involved, where an adjudicative decision has to made regarding the children because the parents cannot agree. They discuss the important issue of how family solicitors representing a narcissist find themselves perpetuating the narcissist's abuse of their spouse, and the simple way to prevent this from happening - and how shortsighted they will find an approach like this to be when they themselves become the victim of the narcissist's abuse. They also delve into the difficult arena of relocation cases, where the non narcissistic parent wishes to move area with the children, but the narcissist blocks it. Finally, they reiterate the importance of education for judges and family lawyers, who first need to understand that NPD is a real diagnosable disorder, before becoming able to recognise the behaviours and the serious implications that it has for families in separation and divorce. 

In this episode, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker and Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna discuss how to approach child inclusive mediation with lawyer mediators Rachel Oakes and Claire Colbert when a narcissist is involved. They discuss balancing the benefits of hearing the voice of the child with the possible repercussions for the child from the narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties lawyers face when dealing with narcissistic clients, and how this can affect their own wellbeing,  and the challenge of balancing pressure from law firms to reach financial targets with caving into unnecessary correspondence where a narcissist is involved - and how this runs up costs for the client. 

In this episode Nicholas Anderson, an experienced London barrister,  Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK lawyer Karin Walker discuss why it is still unwise to use the term 'Narcissism' in the family court. They talk about the discrepancies in recognition of NPD between the medical profession in the UK and the USA, and the issues that arise when a narcissist triangulates their barrister with their solicitor. They also discuss the importance of the legal team drafting watertight consent orders to prevent the narcissist from exploiting any loopholes in the order further down the line, and how essential it is that orders are overdetailed in order to prevent this from happening. Karin explains why methods for reviewing the order at certain times, in particular for child arrangement orders, should be built-in to the order, to prevent the need for further court litigation at the hands of the narcissist. The impact of COVID,  and how narcissistic parents have used it to prevent children from seeing their non-narcissistic parent is also highlighted. 

In this episode, Top UK lawyer Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk with Nicholas Anderson, a highly experienced barrister from 1KBW Chambers in London. They discuss the misunderstandings surrounding Narcissism among many barristers and judges, and how this can lead to judgements which fail to be in the children's best interests. They talk about the dangers of the charming and plausible presentation of the narcissist and the believable victim-playing of the closet narcissist - and how this can play out in court. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna explains 'gaslighting' - one the most used narcissistic tactics of psychological abuse. She explains how it leaves the victim feeling unable to trust themselves or their perceptions, and how the resulting confusion keeps them 'in play' as a source of narcissistic supply for the narcissist. 

In this podcast episode, Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK lawyer Karin Walker talk to the UK and USA branches of the parenting app 'OurFamilyWizard.' They find out why exactly it is that this communication tool is so effective with narcissists, and James and Racheal address  concerns regarding whether it can be used as a further tool of abuse by a narcissistic co-parent. They delve into the specific features available, and explain in detail how they work to limit instant back and forth exchanges, ultimately limiting the provision of narcissistic supply to the narcissist - and exactly how the features of the app help to hold the narcissist accountable. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna, Top UK lawyer Karin Walker and Clinical psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani discuss how common Narcissistic Personality Disorder is in the population, and why it might be on the increase. They talk about whether Narcissism is more prevalent in certain cultures and whether Narcissists can be 'cured' of their NPD. Dr Hirani cautions how some narcissists use therapy as a means to learn how to change their behaviour in order to escape detection. Finally, they discuss the tricky concept of whether narcissists are able to experience love. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Dr Daksha Hirani discuss the ins and outs of  'complex PTSD' - a consequence of narcissistic abuse. Dr Hirani explains what treatments are available, including EMDR (eye movement desensitisation and reprogramming) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. They talk about how Mindfulness Meditation is a excellent way for the victims of narcissistic abuse to rewire their brains, and how it is scientifically validated. Dr Hirani also explains why it is that seeking therapy with a therapist who does not fully understand NPD may make things worse, and how it is that the narcissist has the potential to be your greatest teacher when it comes to healing your wounds to lead you towards personal growth and happiness. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK lawyer Karin Walker discuss with Clinical Psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani why it is that NPD is not well recognised in the UK and why mental health professional and lawyers are not being trained in NPD. They talk about the  issue of the family members of narcissists 'diagnosing' the narcissists and why getting a formal diagnosis of narcissism is unlikely to be helpful. Dr Hirani explains why victims of narcissistic abuse should never 'name and shame' the narcissist in their lives, and why it is that a narcissist will attempt to annihilate their spouse in divorce. They also discuss the narcissist's need to collect objects or continually have new fads in order to gain narcissistic supply from others. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker talk to UK Clinical Psychologist Dr Daksha Hirani, who explains why it's so important to be able to recognise (as a victim of a narcissistic relationship) your own telltale gut feelings and responses. We discuss how the narcissist is able to show you your own wounds, and how it is that narcissistic abuse is so infrequently recognised, even within the area of domestic abuse - and why that matters. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna explains why couples therapy, or marriage guidance counselling, won't work if one of the couple is a narcissist. She explains how (even when the narcissistic individual seems keen to have therapy) this is a toxic dynamic of triangulation, playing the victim and blameshifting, and why a  narcissist won't seek to evolve or learn from couples therapy - but instead will see it as an opportunity to punish their spouse, and 'win' at it.

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and top family lawyer Karin Walker discuss the difficulties in spotting the so-called 'closet narcissist' - both for the partner of the narcissist and for the divorce lawyer when the closet narcissist is their client. They describe type of narcissist in detail, and explain why they so often fly under the radar.

In this episode, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK lawyer Karin Walker discuss why people become narcissists. They outline the main types of parenting that can cause a child to develop narcissistic defences, and, when a parent is narcissistic themselves, they highlight the role of the other parent (who might otherwise be an enabler of the abuse) in limiting the damage to the children. 

In this, the first episode of Season 2, Dr Supriya McKenna and  top UK lawyer Karin Walker discuss the concept of 'Shared Care',  in particular with regards to a narcissistic parent. 

In this episode, top UK lawyer Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk about the financial issues one needs to consider when cohabiting, whether you are currently cohabiting with a narcissist or whether you have left a narcissistic relationship and are looking to live with a new partner. They discuss the concept of 'common law', and how one might protect themselves when it comes to buying property with a cohabitee. 

In this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK divorce lawyer Karin Walker discuss the communication issues that occur in narcissistic divorces as a result of the narcissist's narcissistic injury and rage. They talk about the highly effective Grey Rock Technique, and how hard it can be at first. At the end of the podcast, Karin explains the importance for the lawyer of maintaining good boundaries with narcissistic clients, and how support staff may bear the brunt of the narcissist's poor communication style. 

In this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK family lawyer Karin Walker explain why it is that narcissists move so quickly from one partner to the next, without needing to grieve from the loss of the relationship. They also discuss why the former partner of a narcissist should refrain from trying to save the narcissist's new partner from the narcissist. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna asks Karin Walker how she expects the new UK 'no fault divorce' to impact upon divorces where one of the spouses is a narcissist. Karin also clarifies why it is that in the eyes of the law it does not matter what ground is cited as a ground for divorce, as this will not affect the outcome of the financial or child arrangements. They discuss why it is not necessary to cite all narcissistic behaviours in full detail in an 'unreasonable behaviour' divorce petition as this will not affect any outcomes, because the financial proceedings, the child arrangements process and the divorce petition are all completely separate from each other. 

Dr Supriya McKenna and UK family lawyer Karin Walker discuss one of the hallmarks of a narcissistic relationship - the addictive cycle of idealise and devalue, and how that can present. They explain that this is one of the key things to look out for for anyone trying to determine whether their partner is a narcissist. 

In this episode, family lawyer Karin Walker shares her insights into how to best navigate the Family Court process where a narcissist will be manipulating the system. Useful not just for the spouse of the narcissist, but also for lawyers and mediators, she explains the realities and pitfalls of the court system, and how exactly a narcissist will exploit it. She delves into the issue of how narcissists will weaponise the children by withholding contact from the other parent, by making false allegations against them, and how the courts will deal with this. She advises caution, and explains how to stay out of court, as well as how to fund yourself through your divorce. If you want to know more about narcissism, you may be interested in bestselling author, Dr Supriya McKenna's new book, 'The Narcissist Trap - The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders'. More resources for you: If you want to be sure that your partner is a narcissist the 'Is your partner a narcissist? Knowing for sure' online course is out now, as is the 'Demystifying the Narcissist' online course - and, due to popular demand, the 'Divorcing a Narcissist' online course is on its way. Please head over to doctorsupriya.com for online course information and updates. For more free information and blogs, and to contact Dr Supriya for 1:1 coaching, visit thelifedoctor.org. You can also follow Dr Supriya on Twitter, Instagram and Linkedin for more narcissism related insights.

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker discuss the delays in the family court and how best to get out of the system. They talk about how moving over to the private system will yield a faster, fairer and cheaper resolution, if the narcissist can be persuaded to agree. They explain how to do this, and why it is that your lawyer might not yet be aware of these better options for your case. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna explains the complicated relationship that a narcissist has with their children. She delves into the concept of how the narcissist sees their children as extensions of themselves and how this manifests. She also discusses the idea of parental love from a narcissistic parent, the effect that a narcissistic parent can have on a child and the recommended method of 'parallel parenting'. 

In this episode, originally broadcast by BBC Radio, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker discusses the difficulties faced when one is divorcing a narcissist. She explains why it is so important to raise awareness of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and how a narcissist will not be different with their new partner, regardless of how things may seem. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna talks about 'narcissistic supply', what it is and how it lies behind all narcissistic behaviours in a person suffering from NPD. She explains why it is so important to understand, and how empowering this understanding is for the victims of narcissistic relationships - something which really has the capacity to reverse the power dynamic. 

In this podcast, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk about the personality traits of people who narcissists find attractive, and why it is that those types of people can find themselves lured into long term narcissistic relationships. Karin and Supriya are the authors of "Divorcing a narcissist: the Lure, the Loss and the Law" aimed at helping the partner of a narcissist work out whether they are in a narcissistic relationship and, if they choose to leave, helping them to navigate their way through the rocky divorce that will follow. They have also written an acclaimed book for lawyers - "Narcissism and family Law - a Practitioner's Guide" to educate family law professionals about the specific behaviour patterns that narcissists will demonstrate in divorce, so that they can protect their clients, and themselves from these damaging behaviours. 

In this episode top UK family lawyer, Karin Walker,  and Dr Supriya McKenna discuss strategies for coping if you have to co-occupy the same house during your separation and divorce when your ex is a narcissist. In this detailed and informative podcast amongst other things they explain why it can be difficult to have your abusive ex removed from the house, how a narcissist will increase their boundary violations, and how to limit communication with the narcissist to protect oneself emotionally and legally. 

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK family lawyer,  Karin Walker, discuss the phenomenon of ‘hoovering' (the predictable ways in which  a narcissist will try to suck their spouse, who is on the verge of leaving, back into the relationship). They also draw parallels between how the lawyer and spouse are treated by the narcissist, and how a lawyer who wishes to terminate their professional relationship with a narcissist will be subjected to the same hoovering tactics as the spouse. 

In this radio interview top UK lawyer Karin Walker outlines narcissistic personality disorder from the lawyer's perspective. Dr Supriya McKenna explains the difficulties with trying to get a narcissistic individual diagnosed and they both give their top tips for those separating from a narcissistic spouse.