On Relating with Ryan Ginn

In this episode I talk with veteran business coach and entrepeneur Jed Bickford about his experience working with couples who are engaged in various types of business ventures and how he helps them maintain their connection in the midst of the various threats a business venture can impose on them. He's done the work himself as well! He and his partner Madison have launched a successful used clothing store in Boulder, CO while deepening their relationship. Here's a bit about Jed: Jed McCabe Bickford is an entrepreneur, angel investor, and mentor to couples who are in business together. Jed is an interesting blend of business owner, advisor, and coach. After selling his first business, he went on to be part of the leadership team at EMyth, a business coaching company founded by the author of *The E-Myth Revisited*, Michael Gerber. After spending years managing marketing, product development, and IT — and getting a deep training in business coaching — he left to focus on mentoring business owners. He's worked with hundreds of founders, small business owners, and startup teams to support holistic growth and healthy team dynamics. Jed co-owns and serves as CFO at Apocalypse, a secondhand clothing store in Boulder, Colorado, with his partner, Madison Moorhead.

In this episode I talk with veteran couples therapist Jeff Pincus about the dangers of going into full blown threat response in the couple system and how to repair things when things get ugly. Jeff lays out the "AIR+P" repair process: Acknowledge the behavior Impact (name the impact your behavior has had on the other) Regret expressed about the behavior Plan: come up with a plan to insure this kind of behavior doesn't happen again Jeff also explains how we are wired to do the less than loving thing in our interactions with our significant other. Here's a little about Jeff Jeff Pincus is an internationally recognized couple therapist, relationship coach and educator whose mission is to help couples to Love Well. He has helped thousands of couples transform their relationships in the three-day intensives and workshops he leads. He views the complex, challenging and even painful moments of intimate relationship as a potent mandate to heal, grow and do the loving thing. His work is informed by neuroscience, somatic psychotherapy, systems thinking and Tibetan Buddhism. He walks his talk, sometimes imperfectly, with his wife Rachel. Learn more about Jeff's work at: jeffpincus.com Follow him on social media: Twitter: @jeffpincus Instagram: jeffpincus108 Facebook: Jeff Pincus

In this episode Victor Warring returns to share a clear step by step outline of how to have your first talk about sex with someone your dating as well as how to have a deeper, clearer talk about sex with someone you've been with for awhile. Victor is a Somatic (body-centered) Sexuality Educator, Mentor, Coach and also an Erotic Activist. He works one on one, with people in relationships and with communities and groups to re-wild and reclaim their connection to sexual and erotic aliveness. Using a range of supports from counseling to experiential movement practices, Victor offers permission and support to his clients to normalize the normal human desire of erotic wholeness. To see more of Victor's work and writing visit him on: Facebook: Ab Ovo: Somatic Sexuality and Relationship Coaching Instagram: @bonobo_man The "STARS" talk link: https://www.evelindacker.com/post/stars-safer-sex-talk-for-everyone

In this episode of On Relating, Connor Beaton shares his mission in founding Man Talk, an organization that teaches men to step into their authenticity and become better individuals, partners, fathers, friends and bosses. After hitting rock bottom in 2014, Beaton realized that it was time to become radically honest. He began having conversations about everything that was holding him back: Doubt, shame, unfaithfulness, anger, pride and ego. Driven by a desire to understand masculinity, he embarked on a quest of mentorship and self-discovery. Now, he leads men across the globe in search of a better future for their masculine selves. Connor Beaton founded ManTalks in 2014 as a grassroots movement to further the cause: giving men the tools and training to create a truly self-led life. Connor's Website: mantalks.com

In this episode my dear mentor Stan Tatkin shares his current understanding regarding what it takes for long term relationship to endure and thrive over time. He also describes the psychological impacts of betrayal on the "discovery partner" and the "secret keeping" partner. We share are thoughts on the role of shame in the betrayal healing process as well. Enjoy! Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship RX, Wired for Dating, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships.

In this episode veteran couple's therapist Dr. Hans brings his neurobiological lens and lays out how we can: 1. Stop letting old patterns rule our current relationship 2. Thread the needle between stability/care and Adventure 3. Bring more play and less "processing" into our relationships Dr. Hans Stahlschmidt holds a German psychology degree from the Freie Universität Berlin and practiced in Berlin as a licensed psychologist. He received his PhD from Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, CA. While drawing upon a range of psychological approaches, he has made the PACT (the psychobiological approach to couples therapy) model his theoretical and practice-related home.

In this short podcast I share my humbling experience of being in couples therapy and what I'm learning being on the other side of things.

In this podcast I interview veteran IFS (Internal Family Systems) trainer and therapist Nancy Sowell. She gives a succinct introduction to the therapeutic benefits of thinking about humans as composed of many facets or parts and she does a demo with moi! There's no better way to understand something as powerful and complex as IFS than through witnessing a demonstration. Enjoy! Nancy Sowell, LICSW, is an Internal Family Systems (IFS) trainer, consultant, and therapist. She is a teaching associate at Harvard Medical School in the Department of Psychiatry at the Cambridge Health Alliance, where she has been a clinical supervisor for many years. Nancy has been a psychotherapist since 1992, working with individuals, couples, and groups. www.nancysowell.com

In this episode Dr. Angelique Millette breaks down her top three takeaways from the coaching hundreds of parents through the most difficult of time over the last year. Here they are: 1. Excessive screen time creates significant behavioral issues (if there was any doubt) and there is a way for parents to shift their families screen culture! 2. You need not worry about your children they are crazy resilient! 3. It's of great benefit for parents to be with their kids through their emotional cycles (rather than outsourcing it to other professionals like teachers). She offers some valuable specifics on all of the above that will be of great support to all of you moving forward. Here's a little background on Angelique: Dr. Angelique Millette is a parent coach, pediatric sleep consultant, family sleep researcher with offices in Austin, TX and San Francisco, CA. Twenty years of working with families, Dr. Millette has developed The Millette Method™ a multi-disciplinary approach to family sleep and child behavior. The Millette Method™ does not follow one specific sleep or behavioral method, but rather uses a “tool-box” of different methods and approaches and takes into account family schedule, child development, challenging behavior, temperament, and parenting philosophy, all while keeping an eye on parental overwhelm, and emotional health. Dr. Millette's research addresses the relationship between infant sleep locations, maternal mood disorders, and attachment.

In this episode of On Relating, Kendra Cunov helps us understand the boxes we find ourselves in. Kendra explains how she helps her clients radically flip the scripts that they subconsciously write for their lives...leading to deeper and more meaningful connections as a result. She helps individuals and couples explore the invisible frameworks around our relationships and how we have the power within each of us to set ourselves free! About: Kendra Cunov has been studying and facilitating Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for over fifteen years. She works with individuals, couples, and even businesses and organizations. Attend a workshop, work intimately with Kendra or read more about her background on her website: https://www.kendracunov.com/about/

In this episode of On Relating, Ryan invites astrologer Marga Laube onto the podcast to discuss what astrology can do for our relationships to ourselves and others. Diving beyond science into an exploration of rich storytelling, Marga and Ryan discuss the lenses through which we perceive our own reality, our way of relating to our significant others and ultimately how we exist in the world. About: Marga Lauba resides in the mountains of Oregon where she pursues and shares her passions for storytelling, film, publishing and astrological movements with her community. You can learn more about Marga and her work or book a session with her on her website at https://www.trans-astro.com/

In this episode Ryan invites Dr. Adam Dorsay to help envision a new future for masculinity and the imminent rise of bold, openhearted men in the workplace. Dr. Dorsay and Ryan pose the questions: What is masculinity? What isn’t working, and why not? How can vulnerability become part of manhood? Dr. Dorsay challenges traditional stoicism by flipping the script and suggesting that it is truly courageous, groundbreaking and masculine to be openhearted. He boldly challenges us to find places for vulnerability, joy and awe in our lives. About: Dr. Adam Dorsay is a psychologist working in San Jose, California. When he is not joyously experiencing life with his family, he inspires other to leave safety and predictability behind and use their support system to jump into the unknown. Dr. Dorsay has a corporate background that he uses to expand the capacity for men to be vulnerable leaders in the workplace. Check out his podcast SuperPsyched here (link) https://dradamdorsay.com/

In this episode of On Relating, Ryan welcomes Jeff Pincus to the show to discuss some of the struggles facing couples in quarantine. Jeff is a therapist residing in Boulder Colorado, offering intensives to empower couples to unite in the same goals, recognize one another’s strengths and ultimately work as a team. He specifically shares how important it is to acknowledge one another as we are stuck together in a small environment, using these difficult circumstances to improve the quality of our relationships. About: Jeff Pincus MSW, LCSW lives in Boulder with his wife where he hosts intensives, ongoing therapy and weekend workshops to bring partners closer together. A licensed psychotherapist, Jeff has more than 25 years of experience in the therapeutic fields. https://couplestherapyboulder.com/

Padma Gordon has been studying the essential habits of long-term thriving couples for decades. She has found a way to communicate them in a way we can all get. In this episode we dive into what these habits look like on the ground in day to day life so that the mystery is dispelled and you can feel more empowered to do what it takes to co-craft a thriving relationship. Some themes explored are: The Muscle of Self-Restraint. Learning to Stop Making a Mess of your Relationship Learn the importance of wise timing when you are sharing something that is going to piss off or trigger your partner. The importance of having the correct ratio of appreciation vs. corrective or critical feedback The importance of helping each other stay relaxed and how to create a relationship that is a true refuge. Padma is a spiritual and relationship counselor who lives with her partner in N. California. She can be found at www.padmagordon.com

Victor Warring is a therapist and sex educator with more than twenty years of experience working in the field of Somatic Psychology. He's also a wonderful dancer, performer, race educator, and a dear friend. In this episode we explore questions like: What does it mean to develop a sense of Sovereignty in relationship? How does one develop a self pleasure practice? Why do we tend to resist pleasure and deny our erotic nature? How do we stay in close proximity to another without giving ourself away? I loved hearing Victor's heart sourced wisdom and I think you will too. Enjoy! Victor can be found on Facebook at Ab Ovo: Somatic Sexuality & Relationship Coaching

Raven Wells is a veteran therapist and Relationship Coach. Raven shares about his history of how he got into working with Trauma first as a therapist for at-Risk youth and families and how he evolved into his current passion working with Couples. We explore: The effects of sexual and childhood trauma on a relationship What happens when the couple can't change the "story of the relationship" The importance of community in relationship The 3 essential skills that couples need to develop to be viable: Communication, Regulation, and problem solving. And so much more! -Raven Wells can be found at www.inherentwisdom.com

Dr. Ajana Miki is a Naturopathic Doctor and Acupuncturist with more than 20 years experience in the field of integral health. In the episode we explore: What makes it difficult for women to find their No and how that that undermines their true Yes in intimate relationships The importance of breathwork as a means of developing a satisfying relationship. Some of you men may feel like skipping this episode but I encourage to listen to this profound human being describe what women are working with as they navigate intimacy and partnership.