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Sex. Queers. Politics. What's on your dresser? Our conversations and stories on of sex, gender, culture, and politics are produced by sex workers, sex educators, and queer folks. We are a podcast born from an FM radio show. Now with 60% more free-speech and 33% more PhDs!

On the Dresser


    • May 27, 2019 LATEST EPISODE
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    402 - Roundtable: Reflections on the First Year of FOSTA/SESTA

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2019 26:03


    Hi Podcast Listeners On this episode, the On The Dresser team sits down for a discussion on what we've seen since the implementation of a new federal law known as FOSTA/SESTA. This was a joining of two congressional bills, the "Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act" and the "(Allow States to) Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act". Reality TV star turned federal worker Donald Trump signed it into law in April 2018. FOSTA/SESTA removed provisions under section 230 of the Communications Decency Act which shielded websites from liability for content that users post on their platforms. Since its passage, some websites have self-censored content or shut down entirely if the content posted could be construed as "promoting prostitution" or "facilitating sex trafficking." This has not only affected advertising platforms for sex workers, but also information on sexual education, sexuality, legal adult content and information that sex workers have used to stay safe online and in real life. SESTA/FOSTA is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to attacks on free speech and personal freedoms. Many more bills are being introduced that target sex workers, but can be expanded to include more citizens under the guise of "fighting human trafficking." After you listen to our roundtable, we'd like to hear your thoughts. What do you see since the passage of SESTA/FOSTA? Send us your notes or voice memos - Onthedresser@gmail.com. We'll share some of your responses in the coming weeks. Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com (or securely @protonmail.com). You can also find us on Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com. While you're there, please consider donating to this venture in queer sex worker media. To those who have made a financial contribution to this project, we'd like to say "Thank you for your support. Your generosity has helped us pay other sex workers for content contributions and transcription services which will help us reach wider audiences. We believe strongly in the mission of this independent media project and we're grateful to know that you feel the same. Co-Hosts/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. What's On Your Dresser?

    Extended Interview - Thotscholar

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2019 34:48


    Here is the complete interview with thotscholar from our episode: A Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers in which we discuss her new book, Libra Season, December 17, sex work, activism, and pro-heaux womanism. For more from thotscholar: twitter.com/thotscholar https://www.patreon.com/thotscholar Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com (or securely @protonmail.com or find us on Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com. And, if you're so moved, consider donating to this venture in queer sex worker media. Thank you for your support and for listening along. We're thrilled to be starting our Fourth Year of edutitillation. Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. What's On Your Dresser?

    401 - Asexuality Q&A with Taryn

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2019 55:08


    Welcome to our first ep of 2019! We're starting off by taking some time to educate ourselves on something that none of the On the Dresser hosts have lived experience with and that is asexuality. Enter Taryn. She's a blogger and educator. Her site www.AceInTheHole.com is a place where she reviews sex toys and chronicles her journey as an asexual person. She chats with Vanessa about representation and discovery and gives us helps us better understand our friends on the Asexual and Aromantic spectrum. Afterward, Danny Cruz and Lauren Kiley chat about how to best support a loved one who may trust you enough to "come out" to you. We chat in the context of asexuality, but it really applies across the TLBGQIA spectrum. Plus! Vanessa and Danny come to you from the American Bar Association (ABA) Mid Year meeting in Las Vegas! Our own Vanessa Carlisle co-wrote a guide with friend of the show Kori Cordero for writing legislation that bans gay conversion therapy for minors. Currently, only 15 states in the US ban the practice. The ABA's Commission on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity (SOGI) adopted a resolution urging all federal, state, local, territorial and tribal governments to enact laws that prohibit state-licensed professionals from using conversion therapy on minors. You can find the resolution, the guide and more information at: https://www.americanbar.org/groups/diversity/sexual_orientation/ While we enjoyed the scenery in Vegas, it was hard not to feel like we were being watched. That's because that we woke up to the news from journalist and author Melissa Gira Grant that Marriott Hotels were training their staff to “identify trafficking victims” by behavior like turning down housekeeping or traveling with too little luggage! All in the name of human trafficking (of course) THREAD: https://twitter.com/melissagira/status/1089170470895783938 Later that week, Elizabeth Nolan Brown who is an associate editor at Reason Magazine wrote a piece detailing Marriott's increased surveilling of women in their hotels and how it ties into the government's expansion of "see something, say something" targeting women and sex workers. Are You a Woman Traveling Alone? Marriott Might Be Watching You. https://reason.com/archives/2019/02/05/hotel-surveillance-state-sex-trafficking If that didn't feel like enough eyes on us, we heard from frequent business traveller Clementine Crawford who wrote an essay about her experience being a single woman at a New York City Restaurant. At one of her regular dining spots when she travels in from London, she was surprised to find that she was no longer allowed to sit at the bar! "Company policy." "The Night I Was Mistaken for a Call Girl" https://drugstoreculture.com/the-night-i-was-mistaken-for-a-call-girl/ Finally (and probably most grossly), we'll chat about a bill that was proposed in the Utah state legislature. HB 153 would amend provisions regarding the completion and amendment of a birth certificate in order to prohibit transgender citizens from being able to change the gender on their birth certificates. Luckily this bill was held and is effectively dead, but we'll talk about how these all these things fit the larger theme of policing sex, gender and bodies. All of it, On the Dresser! Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com (or securely @protonmail.com or find us on Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com. And, if you're so moved, consider donating to this venture in queer sex worker media. Thank you for your support and for listening along. We're thrilled to be starting our Fourth Year of edutitillation. Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. What's On Your Dresser?

    A Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2018 60:53


    We're ending the year with a look at December 17th. Since 2003, the date has been recognized in the sex worker community as International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. Started by Annie Sprinkle, Robin Few and organizers with the Sex Workers outreach project s a way to memorialize the victims of a serial killer who targeted sex workers in Seattle, it has grown as community call to action with observances in over 60 cities worldwide: Annie sent us one of her writings on concieving the action. https://rewire.news/article/2008/12/08/stopping-terror-a-day-to-end-violence-against-prostitutes/ Interviews with: Kate D'Adamo - twitter.com/KateDAdamo Savannah Sly - twitter.com/SavannahSly Suprihmbe - twitter.com/thotscholar, patreon.com/thotscholar To see a list of names of sex workers murdered around the world in 2018 and/or find an event near you, visit www.December17.org More show notes to follow! Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    Sex And The Law Pt 2 (Rebroadcast)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2018 50:36


    Hi listeners! We're taking a short break to figure out some life stuff and do a little planning for this podcast. In the meantime, we'll be sharing some bonus interviews as well as gems from the past two and a half years at On The Dresser. In this episode, A throwback to our time as "Sex, Please!" on live broadcast radio. We chat with Kristina Dolgin, co-founder of Red Light Legal (redlightlegal.org). Red Light Legal is an Oakland based non-profit organization that helps provide legal services and referrals to sex workers. Kristina chats with Danny Cruz and Vanessa Carlisle on some headlines of the day, discusses limited rights of sex workers and answers our some of our legal FAQs. Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    311 - Connecting Sex Worker Community with Kaytlin Bailey

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2018 18:44


    Hi listeners. We're taking a short break to figure out some life stuff and do a little planning for this podcast. In the meantime, we'll share some bonus interviews as well as gems from the past two and a half years at On The Dresser. In this episode, a bonus interview! Our Vanessa Carlisle recently met Kaytlin Bailey of the Oldest Profession Podcast at a workshop led by Tina Horn! The duo found a spot in Prospect Park in NYC to reflect on the workshop and chat about sex worker community and movement building. Find Kaytiln on Twitter at twitter.com/KaytlinBailey. You can listen to The Oldest Profession on Apple Podcasts (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-oldest-profession/id1296601569?mt=2) or wherever you get your podcasts. Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    310 - Velvet Collar, Unhappy Endings with Bryan Knight

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2018 63:18


    This week, Danny Cruz talks with Bryan Knight (twitter.com/BryanKnight66) about rentboys and comic books. Bryan is the author of a new 9-part graphic novel series called Velvet Collar. With bright colors illustrated by Dave Davenport and vivid stories, Velvet Collar tells the story of a group of male escorts after a raid on an advertisement listing site. Bryan shares his vision for the work and how readers can get involved. You can find Episode One: Unhappy Endings now at www.VelvetCollarComics.com. Plus! Lauren Kiley swaps some juicy HEADlines with Danny. There's good news and bad. Hear what's up with FOSTA/SESTA, DC Comics and Stormy Daniels. DC Comics story - https://t.co/7qzdMByXpX And! Danny and Lauren highlight some their favorite books, zines and comics by queer and sex worker voices. Why the summer reading list? We'll be taking a short break as we strategize some life stuff and our path forward with this project we love so much. In the meantime, we'll share some new standalone interviews as well as gems from the past two and a half years at On The Dresser. Reading List: Don't Hate Our Heels Zine - http://www.copyslutband.com/copy-shop.html Suprihmbe's graphic novels and writing- www.thotscholar.com or www.twitter.com/thotscholar Bingo Love by Tee Franklin - https://t.co/GhNIfUeghm Rent Girl by Michelle Tee - https://t.co/99o3bKvawI Splendor and Travail by Jolene Bandini - JoleneBandini.com Bonus Rabbit Hole reading on the Comics Code Authority - https://t.co/4oPblrEDiu Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    309 - Scarlet Road with Rachel Wotton

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2018 54:44


    In this episode, Vanessa Carlisle chats with sex worker and activist Rachel Wotton (rachelwotton.com) about the org Touching Base in New South Wales, Austrailia. Rachel's work was featured in the 2011 documentary film "Scarlet Road." (scarletroad.com.au/trailer) Rachel discusses working in a decriminalized state and what that means for her and her clients. Danny Cruz tells Vanessa about the protests that lead to the first International Whores Day in the 1970s. The two discuss recent Whores Day events. Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Visit our website at www.onthedresserpodcast.com Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    308 - Thriving in Sex Work with Lola Davina

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2018 48:54


    Vanessa catches up with Lola Davina (www.loladavina.com), author of Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry. Learn about methods for self care under FOSTA-SESTA, the power of sex worker communities, and the difference between shame and stigma. Lauren Kiley tells us about a new congressional bill called End Banking for Human Traffickers Act. She and Vanessa discuss what it might mean for people who take payments for sexy work online. Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy) Sex. Queers. Politics. You'll find all of it On the Dresser!

    307 - Grooving with Copyslut

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2018 34:34


    In this episode, OTD host Vanessa Carlisle sits down for an exclusive interview with members of Copyslut, a band based in the Bay Area. Embedding their most intimate experiences within dreamlike narratives, grinding rhythms, and surging spells, Copyslut performs to connect. To integrate. To transform. This country punk cabaret trio is here to bear their raw, tender hearts. Straddling the intergenerational process of healing trauma, Copyslut pays tribute to those who have made them possible. Wrap yourself around and slide into their sultry guitar licks, rock steady beats, and smooth-as-silk vocals as they seduce… savor…. And culminate into wholeness. To find more info including shows and music, visit http://Copyslutband.com or their Bandcamp page at http://Copyslut.bandcamp.com Want to get in touch with the On The Dresser team? Send us your questions, comments, suggestions or signal boosts to onthedresser@gmail.com or find us on Facebook/Twitter @Onthedresser! Co-Ho(st)s/Production team: Dr. Vanessa Carlisle (twitter.com/vcarlisle) Lauren Kiley (twitter.com/xoxolaurenkiley) Danny Cruz (twitter.com/adannyboy)

    306 - Know Your Status? Now What? Tips on STIs and Disclosure

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2018 50:08


    In this episode, Vanessa Carlisle, Lauren Kiley and Danny Cruz give a lesson in sexually transmitted infections and diseases (yes, there's a difference!) Then, we drop some edutitillation in the form of disclosure conversations and words you can use to discuss your status with your partner(s). In HEADlines, we discuss the passage of SESTA-FOSTA bill in Congress. The bill has yet to be signed, but its effects are already being felt. Hear what the response in the sex worker community has been. Also, more adult film stars are speaking up about their relationships with the president, but do we really need the whorephobia? We'll fill you in on all that and more On The Dresser.

    305 - Spanking Good Time with Cupcake SinClair

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2018 63:52


    This week, "Sinfully Sweet & Good Enough to Beat!" Cupcake SinClair, joins Lauren Kiley to talk about spanking. Cupcake is a professional submissive and Fetish Performer at Sanctuary LAX. Then, Danny has questions... Vanessa Carlisle joins Lauren in helping shed some light on the top and switch perspective. In HEADlines, Danny gives an update on SESTA and FOSTA, bills being voted on in Congress that negatively affect people in the sex trade.

    304 - PORN! Body to Job with Danny Wylde

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2018 58:17


    In this episode, co-ho(st)'s Vanessa Carlisle and Danny Cruz discuss new bills in several states declaring pornography a public health crisis as well as a bill in New Hampshire addressing prostitution. Dr. Carlisle interviews Chris Zeischegg (http://www.christopherzeischegg.com), aka Danny Wylde, about his new book Body to Job, a memoir of his porn career. Penis injections, homophobia in the pornography industry, falling in love on and off set, it's all here. Join us @OntheDresser!

    303 - Sex Behind The Walls

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2018 68:20


    In this episode, we bring you an interview with Marco Topete. He is currently on death row at San Quentin in Northern California. He spoke with our Vanessa Carlisle about sex behind the walls. Everything from how inmates stay safe, to how they manage their health, how they manage relationships with loved ones and with each other and much more. In HEADlines, Danny Cruz gives us updates about Celeste Guap and the last of the Oakland PD officers charged in her case. We'll also tell you about Operation Reclaim and Rebuild and how the numbers are not always what they seem. Vanessa tells us about stripper protests in New Orleans, where eight clubs were raided. After being mistreated by law enforcement, hear why the workers are shouting #LetUsDance. Also, a constitutional challenge to California's prostitution law gets its day in court and a quick wrap-up of the Super Bowl trafficking arrests because ain't much to it in the first place. Join us On the Dresser.

    302 - Period Piece: Puberty with Naama Bloom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2018 80:21


    Thank you for your support. In this episode, Vanessa Carlisle chats with Naama Bloom, author of "HelloFlo: The Guide, Period.: The Everything Puberty Book for the Modern Girl", about the way we teach young women about their bodies through puberty in a positive and empowering way. Lauren Kiley and Danny Cruz join in discussing the book as well as some of Namaa Bloom's HelloFlo viral videos like "First Moon Party". In HEADlines, the On the Dresser team discuss same-sex sex ed and we have a recap on last weekends Women's March and hear again from Cris Sardina, Director of the Desiree Alliance, who was a speaker at the National Women's March in Las Vegas.

    301 - SESTA from a Sex Worker Perspective

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2018 60:12


    Welcome to season 3 of On the Dresser. Thank you for your support. In this episode, Danny Cruz and Vanessa Carlisle discuss the Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act (SESTA), a bill that is going through congress that says it's fighting trafficking, but will affect anyone who uses the internet in the United States. Cris Sardina, Director of the Desiree Alliance gives her take on SESTA and the House of Representatives version of the bill, the Allow States to Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act (FOSTA). In a related HEADline, Amazon employees are compliant with online screening, but does that mean they're guilty of trafficking? We'll talk about it On the Dresser! (via Newsweek - http://www.newsweek.com/metoo-microsoft-amazon-trafficking-prostitution-sex-silicon-valley-755611)

    212 - Cannabis Lube and Hawaii Activism with Stacey Swimme

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2017 71:39


    In this ep, Vanessa Carlisle chats with long time sex worker rights activist Stacey Swimme about her time in the sex trade, her transition into a new industry as well as new legislation in Hawaii that would decriminalize prostitution there. Danny Cruz gives good headlines with news that California has decriminalized HIV. Vanessa reports back from Amber Rose's Slut Walk and more!

    211 - Laws of Sex Work and Trafficking With Tribal Justice Specialist Kori Cordero

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2017 73:55


    Kori Cordero joins us from the Tribal Law and Policy Institute to discuss the current legal models that exist to regulate sex work and the relationship to anti-trafficking efforts in developing legislation around the world, in different levels of US government, and American Indian/Alaska Native communities.

    210.1 - Feature Interview: Ela Darling

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2017 59:18


    Interview with porn performer, VR camgirl, and adult industry activist Ela Darling about her involvement with local and statewide politics, developing a virtual reality webcam platform, the value of libraries, and more! On the Dresser is a bi-weekly podcast about sex, gender, culture and politics, led by queers, sex workers, and sex educators.

    210 - Local Politics Are Sexy with Ela Darling

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2017 48:40


    This week's episode features an interview with Ela Darling, award winning adult performer and adult industry activist. Ela is a leader in virtual reality porn and webcamming, former librarian, and current president of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee who has been working to improve local and statewide policies about sex work. Dr. Vanessa Carlisle and Lauren Kiley discuss recent HEADlines: the updates in the investigation into Gemmel Moore's death in the house of a prominent Democratic donor and upcoming workshops on pleasure and resistance.

    Heterosexuality with Hanne Blank

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2016 56:22


    Sex, Please! with Vanessa Carlisle is part of Safe Harbor on KPFK 90.7 FM Los Angeles. In this ep, Vanessa talks to Hanne Blank, historian and author of "Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality". Featuring Danny Cruz and Chrisanne Eastwood. Listen LIVE Wed night/Thurs morning at midnight on KPFK or live streaming at kpfk.org

    Recreational and Group sex with Raul Queue

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2016 57:20


    A conversation of the prevalence of recreational sex in society. Raul Queue, from Prepare.LA joins us in studio, he is a PrEPducator and his safer sex education targets men who visit sex parties. With Chrisanne Eastwood and Danny Cruz!

    Between Gay and Straight: Bisexuals

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2016 55:04


    Are bisexuals being kept in the closet? We talk about the kind of stigma people face when they come out as bi to friends in both the straight and gay community.

    Transgender Representation in Media with Quei Tann

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2016 57:36


    A weekly discussion on sex, sexuality and gender politics. This week, hosts Vanessa Carlisle, Danny Cruz and Chrisanne Eastwood talk about the representations of transgender people in mainstream media. Actor and trans* activist Quei Tann discuss the recent strides made in mainstream media by transgender women. Featuring an interview with Jack Halberstam, Professor of English and Director of The Center for Feminist Research at the University of Southern California.

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