Podcasts about Hanne Blank

"So my sexuality was like, 'here's how you're supposed to be: you're supposed to be heterosexual, you're supposed to be submissive, you're supposed to be excited any time he is excited. You're not really allowed to say no, or if you say no...say yes next time.'" In this episode of Called to be Bad I talk with Jo Lloyd Johnson, a woman who grew up in a fundamentalist Christian commune in California. She shares her story of how her understanding of sex changed from one of shame to one of healing in her memoir, "Silenced in Eden". We talk about how to define sex/virginity, how much sex is wrapped up in shame within Christianity, and how having premarital sex with her now husband helped Jo heal her relationship with her body.  Resources: Books: Come As You Are: The Surprising New  Science that will Transform Your Sex Life https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314Virgin: The Untouched History by Hanne Blank https://goodreads.com/en/book/show/225909The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-rescue/Love Wins by Rob Bell https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40721873-love-winsThe organization Jo mentioned that funds EMDR for SA Survivors:  Louder Than Silence https://www.louderthansilence.org/Support the showFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebad Website: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/ Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebad Have a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook ...

Sexuality is a funny thing. It's a social construct just as much as, say, virginity is.We use words like heterosexuality and homosexuality because they are convenient, more than because they're wholly accurate.What roots do these words have in 19th century Germany? How did the word 'straight' come from the gay community? And what is the future of sexuality and its terms?Joining Kate today is the fantastic Hanne Blank, author of Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality.This episode was edited by Teän Stewart-Murray. The producer was Stuart Beckwith. The senior producer was Charlotte Long.Don't miss out on the best offer in history! Enjoy unlimited access to award-winning original documentaries that are released weekly and AD-FREE podcasts.Get a subscription for £1 for 3 months with code BETWIXTTHESHEETS1 sign up now for your 14-day free trial https://historyhit/subscription/

Heterosexuality isn't what you think it is. In this episode, historian Hanne Blank Boyd flips the script on how we view sexual orientation, showing how the concept of "heterosexuality" has only existed for around 150 years. Hanne traces how modern capitalism led "heterosexual" to emerge as a term for normal, moral sexuality, allowing the middle class to prove their respectability. Even now, assuming heterosexuality as the default norm skews scientific research on sexuality. Being straight isn't as simple as being attracted to the opposite sex — it's all encompassing and ever changing. Tune in to find out why. Pick up Hanne's book "Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality" here: https://amzn.to/3PUKciBSee citations and a transcript here: https://www.tabooscience.show/s3e7-heterosexuality/Need music for a project? Use my Epidemic Sound referral link: https://share.epidemicsound.com/kbva2hConnect with the show: Newsletter: https://www.tabooscience.show/newsletter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tabooscience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@tabooscience Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/tabooscience Threads: https://www.threads.net/@tabooscienceTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smashley.hamerWebsite: https://www.tabooscience.show/ Listen on PoduramaLoved this episode? Leave a review and rating here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/taboo-science/id1533606473

It's a tale as old as time, and it's true for almost every person on the planet: there are times when we're just not feeling good about our bodies. But hopefully there are even more times when we are feeling great about them! This week, Hannah Hart talks with Dr. Hanne Blank about healing our relationships to our bodies and better understanding what forces shape our body image. Here's to having a better time in our bodies and inventing a world where that's easier for everyone to do. Thanks so much to Dr. Blank for joining us for this episode! For more, follow her @hanneblank on Twitter and find her many excellent books at bookshop.org, in your local bookstore, or anywhere books are sold. Enjoy bonus content and more by supporting us on Patreon! Join your fellow Earbud Patrons in BTS splendor for as little as $5 a month. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/hannahlyze-this/support

Heteroseksualiteit bestaat niet. Er is geen enkel wetenschappelijk bewijs voor. Toch hebben we onze hele wereld ingericht op suffe seks in saaie standjes met steeds dezelfde persoon. Ook de hetero's zelf lijken doodongelukkig, gevangen in relaties gebouwd op achterhaalde, verstikkende ideeën over gender en seksualiteit. Annelot rest maar één taak: breken met heteroseksualiteit. Het is tijd om te stoppen met hokjesdenken. Wees vrij om lief te hebben wie je wilt liefhebben. BLOW GOATS Annelot is razend om de trend van kerstfoto's met geknevelde vrouwen (https://twitter.com/mattxiv/status/1473340981131026439?s=20&t=0j-tzwK8VpE1zWWFPhmfSw); Voor meer heterocultuur kun je terecht op deze instagrampagina (https://www.instagram.com/hets_explain_yourselves/); De pagina was een initiatief van Jane Ward die het boek The Tragedy of Heterosexuality schreef (https://nyupress.org/9781479851553/the-tragedy-of-heterosexuality/); Hanne Blank schreef het boek Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality (https://nashvillefeministart.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/2012_hanne-blank-straight.pdf) waarin het lijstje met historische gevaren voor heteroseksualiteit voorkomt; When Harry met Sally (https://youtu.be/aJz1f8hPRGc) miskent elke andere verhouding tussen man en vrouw dan een heteroseksuele; In Kevin Can Fuck Himself (https://youtu.be/oubiQsc9Hw8) bevrijdt Annie Murphy zich van de verstikkende vrouwenhaat en heteroseksualiteit van de sitcom; Rocher Koendjbiharie schreef deze week ook een stuk over de discriminerende politiek van de liefde in OneWorld. (https://www.oneworld.nl/lezen/discriminatie/racisme/ik-val-niet-op-zwarte-mannen-persoonlijke-voorkeur-of-racisme/)

“What am I reading here? Is God Safe?”Content Warning: We discuss honor based and sexual violence against women, particularly in the cultural context of Deuteronomy 22:13-29. References: “Virgin: The Untouched History” by Hanne Blank--https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/225909.Virgin“Come as you Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski--https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=qlZIR25DjZ&rank=1Posts about this passage on Christine's blog, Light in Grey Places: Five things I'd explain to a teenager about Deuteronomy 22:13-21: https://www.workthegreymatter.com/five-things-explain-teenage-girl-deuteronomy-22-13-21/ How I used to interpret Deuteronomy 22:13-21, and how I explain it now (in fewer than 500 words): https://www.workthegreymatter.com/deuteronomy-22-13-21-explained-fewer-than-500-words/ Five things worth knowing about the woman in the city who ‘did not cry out'. On Deuteronomy 22:23-24 (and 25-27): https://www.workthegreymatter.com/five-things-woman-city-deuteronomy-22-23-24/ Let's talk about that Deuteronomy 22 law where a girl marries her rapist. Because it's not about marriage or sex. https://www.workthegreymatter.com/deuteronomy-22-law-girl-marries-rapist-not-about-marriage-or-sex/ Posts about this passage that Christine wrote for CBE International: Proving my virginity: Deuteronomy, Pap Smears, and the Hymen Myth: https://www.cbeinternational.org/resource/article/mutuality-blog-magazine/proving-my-virginity-deuteronomy-pap-smears-and-hymen-myth The Apostle Paul's Prodigal Daughter: https://www.cbeinternational.org/resource/article/mutuality-blog-magazine/apostle-pauls-prodigal-daughter You can find Christine at:Website: Light in Grey Places  www.workthegreymatter.comTwitter: @hope4greyplaces  https://twitter.com/hope4greyplacesFacebook: Light in Grey Places  https://www.facebook.com/workthegreymatterInstagram: @hope4greyplaces  https://www.instagram.com/hope4greyplaces/ She also writes devotional and creative content at Faith in Grey Places:Website: Faith in Grey Places https://faith.workthegreymatter.comTwitter: @faithgreyplaces  https://twitter.com/FaithGreyPlacesFollow us for more ✨bad✨ content: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtobebad_podcast/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/calledtobebadWebsite: https://calledtobebad.buzzsprout.com/Sponsor of this episode: https://www.arthumorsoul.com/Want to become part of the ✨baddie✨ community? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/calledtobebadHave a ✨bad✨ topic you want to talk about on the show? Get in touch with host, Mariah Martin at: calledtobebad@gmail.com #ctbb #podcast #podcastersoffacebook #progressivechristianity #progressiveclergy #pastor #church #badisbeautiful #deconstruction #exvangelical #christian #christianpodcast #spirituality #feminism #christianfeministSupport the show

On today's show I share my conversation with Therese Shechter, award-winning filmmaker and writer, and the founder of the feminist production company Trixie Films.  Her work fuses humor, activism, and personal storytelling to disrupt what's considered most sacred about womanhood. She is a Canada Council for the Arts grantee for her documentary My So-Called Selfish Life which is having its World Premier this week at the Woodstock Film Festival. The film examines what it means to say no to motherhood in a society that assumes all women want children, and exposes what's at stake when women are denied the right to control their own reproductive lives. It is the third part of a trilogy which includes her films “How To Lose Your Virginity” (2013) and “I Was A Teenage Feminist” (2005). These documentaries have screened from Rio de Janeiro to Istanbul to Seoul, and her work is in the collections of over 300 universities, non-profits, and libraries. I had the opportunity of a sneak peak at her film and it's fascinating, thought provoking, informative and entertaining… and this is coming from someone who has struggled to have children yet is STILL trying!Woodstock Film Festival Showtimes and Locations:World Premiere: Thursday, September 30 4:45 PM at Bearsville Theater, Woodstock, NYEncore Screening: Friday, October 1 11:00 AM at Orpheum Theatre, Saugerties NYVirtual Screenings: September 29-Oct 10 streaming onlineTickets: https://bit.ly/SelfishLifeWoodstockTrailer: https://myselfishlife.com/I played songs by Miss Eaves, and Fanny, but I don't have the rights to them so you only get a sample here. BUT you can listen on my playlist instead! Check out the film, Fanny, the Right to Rock which you can stream via the Woodstock Film Festival.And links to some of the work that Therese references in our conversation: Scarleteen and Hanne Blank's Virgin, The Untouched History.AND info about the "Bans Off Our Bodies: Rally in Defense of Abortion Rights" can be found here.Today's show was engineered by Ian Seda of Radio Kingston.Our show music is from Shana Falana !!!Feel free to email me, say hello: she@iwantwhatshehas.org** Please: SUBSCRIBE to the pod and leave a REVIEW wherever you are listening, it helps other users FIND IThttp://iwantwhatshehas.org/podcastITUNES | SPOTIFY | STITCHERITUNES: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/i-want-what-she-has/id1451648361?mt=2SPOTIFY:https://open.spotify.com/show/77pmJwS2q9vTywz7Uhiyff?si=G2eYCjLjT3KltgdfA6XXCASTITCHER: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/she-wants/i-want-what-she-has?refid=stpr'Follow:INSTAGRAM * https://www.instagram.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcast/FACEBOOK * https://www.facebook.com/iwantwhatshehaspodcastTWITTER * https://twitter.com/wantwhatshehas

Allison's fat liberation journeyAllison's last experience with Weight WatchersThe divergence Allison's art has taken over this last yearThe beauty of community when talking sex and bodiesThe scope of Big, Big Love by Hanne BlankMyth: fat people are lazy and bad at sexBoundaries.  How Allison recognizes and enforces themHow your body type plays into your privilege and/or oppressionWhat is a fat admirer and why is it problematic?Allison's fat liberation journeyAllison's last experience with Weight WatchersThe divergence Allison's art has taken over this last yearThe beauty of community when talking sex and bodiesThe scope of Big, Big Love by Hanne BlankMyth: fat people are lazy and bad at sexBoundaries.  How Allison recognizes and enforces themHow your body type plays into your privilege and/or oppressionWhat is a fat admirer and why is it problematic?LinksAllison Tunis WebsiteAllison Tunis InstagramAllison Tunis TwitterBody Love: A Fat Activism Colouring BookThe Quilt BagThe Traveling Tickle TrunkThis is Thin Privilege blogI Wish I Were Me WebsiteAllison's Book PicsHealth at Every Size by Lindo BaconBody Respect by Lindo Bacon and Lucy AphramorThe Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee TaylorFearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings 

In sharp contrast to abstinence-only education or “Just Say No,” America has been moving toward a public health approach that doesn’t hinge on moral absolutes. It’s called harm reduction, an approach that prioritizes safety, care, and meeting people where they are. The resulting policies can be controversial — from supervised injection sites to needle exchanges, or safe sex education for teenagers — but they can also save lives. On this episode of The Pulse, we trace the growth of harm reduction, from its scrappy roots into its blossoming present. We hear stories about bringing practicality to the fight against COVID-19, lessons learned from Canada’s safe injection sites, and one woman’s mission to get naloxone into the hands of everybody — even those selling drugs. Also heard on this week’s episode: We talk to Dr. David Katz, founding director of the Yale-Griffin Prevention Research Center, about his “targeted” proposal for fighting COVID-19 — and why it ruffled so many feathers. Epidemiologist Ellie Murray explains how the pandemic is helping to illustrate harm reduction in real time. Imagine needing surgery, and having your doctor turn you down — because of your belly fat. That’s what happened to Lenée Voss. She talks to reporter Alan Yu about her experience, and how it continues to affect her relationship with doctors. We also hear from sociologist Sabrina Strings, historian Hanne Blank, and physician Fatima Stanford. Reporter Travis Lupick covers the opioid epidemic in Vancouver, where, for the last five years, he’s lived across the street from a supervised injection site. As the U.S. considers its own injection sites, Lupick offers some of the lessons he’s learned — including the importance of community input. Lupick’s book is called “Fighting For Space.”

Welcome to Fat Girl Finds Love Meet Your Hostess Briana Cavanaugh This is an interview by Dalia Kinsey of School Nutrition, Dietician podcast of Briana Cavanaugh, hostess of Fat Girl Finds Love. Dalia will be a frequent guest and occasional co-host! She’s awesome! We do an interview of Dalia a bit later in the series, but her bio and links are included here so you can find her if you need her! In this episode we talk about: Dalia lives in Georgia and Briana lives in California -My vital stats -Age, race, identities -Why do we use the word fat? -Finding my fat identity -Going to NOLOSE for the first time and what it felt like to spend time with fat people -How sex positive spaces are not fat positive and what does that actually mean? -being able to get more voices heard and get my work around relationships, love sex, and relationships - Do they want fat people there? - The Racist origins of dieting - “Fearing the black body, the racial origins of fatphobia" by Sabrina Strings on The Nod: https://gimletmedia.com/shows/the-nod/o2hwbb -“if you're going to do something that's not the patriarchy, what are you going to do. - Hanne Blank’s “Big, Big Love” book - You get to have choice about your relationship. -“ it's time that we have the lives that we want to live now.” - How are we having pleasure in our lives now? Pleasure is a game changer. As soon as you have enough pleasure everything changes. Join us at fatgirlfindslove.com

Holiday Survival Guide: Food, fat shaming and the holidays!   Fat shaming refers to the idea that people are prejudiced against fat people. They medicalize and pathologize us and assume all sorts of bs and have all sorts of demeaning qualities including thinking fat people are lazy, sloppy, eat badly and don’t exercise and use that as reasons to deny us services, health care and blaming us for anything and everything that happens to us from lack of health care to not being able to size is certain chairs. It’s even in the definition… however this definition is ironic (listen to find out why) What fat shaming is… from wikipedia Anti-fat bias refers to the prejudicial assumption of personality characteristics based on an assessment of a person as being overweight or obese. It is also known as "fat shaming". Fat activists allege anti-fat bias can be found in many facets of society, and blame the media for the pervasiveness of this phenomenon. You shouldn’t have to deal with fatphobia. So I’m here to pass on some resources for you this holiday season. All these links are in the show notes! If you have questions or want to talk more about this join the Exxxxtraorindary FB group! It’s a fat only space! To start off with Ragen Chastain did a whole bunch of holiday songs to help you laugh at fatphobia. The whole series of fat positive, anti diet songs: Including: My Body Rocks! Don’t give me judgement for Christmas No one cares (about your Diet) Link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8F_9VQgIzkY&list=PLDca9ev11s5QxpnVYP0BylaL6IIj30XSv&fbclid=IwAR3PBNm8G_s250q3g3_1AGoFiNFjt4eCDARRWC5fczza1SiDQten6JDfLvg   Going into the holidays if you’re going to go “home” or other places that might not be awesome for your mental health or that are fat phobic, here are some tips I’ve come up with to help!   Have friends on stand by – before you head home, set up a text thread or have folks that you can call if something happens. Having back up can help a lot Prepare your remarks – come up with a practice a couple of snappy (or not to snappy) retorts that you can say if something says something Set the stage – if you know that certain people say things, let them or people around you know that it’s not ok. A well placed, “that’s not ok” or “I’m not available to talk about my body with you” or “Keep your opinions about my body to yourself” can do wonders. Or send them this happy gift guide By Ragen Chaistain, and other articles I’ve linked to here by Laurel Dickman and Robin Raven.   Here’s how to not ruin the holidays for Fat people https://danceswithfat.org/2017/12/18/heres-how-to-not-ruin-the-holidays-for-fat-people/   Don’t give a weight loss or “health” gift   Don’t be the food police Don’t monitor, comment on, or concern yourself in any way with fat people’s (or any sized people’s) food choices at parties, holiday dinners or, hey, ever.  If we need the food police, we’ll call Pie-1-1.   Don’t give a fat shaming card Don’t put your fat family and friends in the position to cut you off   Don’t engage in diet talk or negative body talk This suggestion isn’t just to help fat guests, but also for guests of any size who may be dealing with eating disorders, or guests who are interested in conversations that aren’t boring as hell. Find something else to talk about than why you are or are not eating what you are or are not eating.  Skip the 5 minutes soliloquy on what you feel you have to do to punish yourself for eating pie, and ask somebody at the party to tell you about themselves instead, or go watch TV, or play on your phone, whatever.   Dealing with Family, Friends and the Food Police https://danceswithfat.org/2014/11/24/dealing-with-family-and-friends-food-police/   By Robin Raven 6 ways to deal with fat-shaming during the holidays, from someone who knows what it's like https://hellogiggles.com/lifestyle/health-fitness/6-ways-to-deal-fat-shaming-during-holidays/ The basic message of which is: No matter how—or why—anyone’s body looks the way it does, we deserve to be respected and treated with care.  Tip 5: Make a list of things to remember this holiday season such as: “I deserve to be treated with care” and “There’s no wrong way to have a body” (by Hanne Blank) and other fat positive quotes and carry them with you.   Tip 6: And the last tip is: Come hang out with us in the exxxxtraordinary community on Fb: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ExxxxtraordinaryPodcast/   I wish you the best possible holidays full of amazing people, delicious food and ease! Thank you for listening!

I'm back! And I'm sending love to everyone facing the horrible election results in the UK, in the form of a rerun of the episode I ran right after Trump was elected. It's about why pleasure isn't optional, even in these worst of times - it's a key ingredient in both our humanity and our political resistance. Let historian Hanne Blank explain as she talks with Jaclyn about what she learned during the 80s AIDS crisis, the importance of marshmallows when the world is on fire, and why an old slogan from a 1960s French Art movement should be our mantra right now. (Rewind) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, Neil, Niki, and Natalia discuss virginity tests, international achievement tests, and the end of the 2010s. Support Past Present on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/pastpresentpodcast Here are some links and references mentioned during this week’s show:  The rapper T.I. caused controversy when he said he subjects his daughter to a virginity test every year. Natalia referred to historian Hanne Blank’s book Virgin: The Untouched History. Niki cited our discussion of the evangelical purity movement on Episode 190. Children around the world took the PISA exam, and Americans had a mediocre showing. Natalia recommended the documentary A Place at the Table and journalist Dana Goldstein’s book The Teacher Wars. In a few weeks, the decade of the 2010s will be behind us. Niki recommended this article at Esquire on how the cultural gatekeepers lost their job in the decade.   In our regular closing feature, What’s Making History: Natalia discussed Clarissa Jan-Lim’s Buzzfeed article, “Pinterest and The Knot Will Stop Promoting Wedding Content that Romanticizes Former Slave Plantations.” Neil commented on Chris Stedman’s Vox article, “Too Many Atheists Are Veering Dangerously Toward the Alt-Right.” Niki recommended the HBO show “The Watchmen.”

Hey, gang! Let's talk about vaginas! This week we're educating ourselves on hymens and the myth of virginity. If you, like us, had a sex education experience that was a little lacking in the education part, this episode is here to set the facts straight. What's a hymen, what do they look like, why do we have them, and what can they tell us about a person's sexual history (spoiler alert: not much)? Tune in to find out!A lot of the info for this episode comes from this exquisite book by Hanne Blank:https://books.google.com/books/about/Virgin.html?id=V6IPvgFKGFUCAnother cool read by Jessica Valenti if you want to learn more about virginity constructs:https://www.sealpress.com/titles/jessica-valenti/the-purity-myth/9780786744664/And this documentary film adaptation as well!https://www.kanopy.com/product/purity-mythIf you're looking for more podcast inspo, check out our pals Juls and Avery who have just launched their own podcast, Jushing With Juls! They are talented, funny, and a delight to listen to.We'd love to hear from you! Email us your stories, questions, ideas, and absurd ramblings, or solicit our (probably rather questionable) advice at: arewepodcast@gmail.comIf you haven't yet, follow us on Instagram to keep updated with our posting schedule and future episodes: https://www.instagram.com/arewepodcast/

SEASON 1 FINALE: The episode is all about VIRGINITY! Specifically, I'm using the recent controversy over T.I's interview and comments about his daughter's hymen as my opportunity to bring in the socio-historic context we need to really understand where virginity comes from and the consequences of messages about virginity for women and their bodies. I discuss the 6 P's of Virginity, the neck test, Purity Balls (real thing), and reveal which industrial nation is the only one that still provides funding for Abstinence Only Education programs (it's the U.S.). Be sure to show some love to your local Planned Parenthood, SIECUS, and the TORCH Program and pick up a copy of Virgin: the Untouched History by Hanne Blank or Purity Myth by Jessica Valenti!

It's time for our annual reminder that pleasure isn't optional - it's a key ingredient in both our humanity and our political resistance. Let historian Hanne Blank explain as she talks with Jaclyn about what she learned during the 80s AIDS crisis, the importance of marshmallows when the world is on fire, and why an old slogan from a 1960s French Art movement should be our mantra right now. (Rewind) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Through the 1800s, babies in the U.S. were dressed in gender neutral clothing — you couldn’t tell the girls from the boys based on their outfits. So why did parents start color-coding their kids in pink and blue? Plus, ELT’s long quest to get a sports team to have a flamingo as their mascot is finally over… or is it?  Guests: textiles and clothing historian Jo Paoletti; cultural historian of medicine, gender, and the body Hanne Blank; and Kuba Krzyzostaniak, Director of Fan Engagement for Forward Madison FC. Thanks to caller Elle Ve and Paige — and to scholars Elizabeth Sweet, Katherine Parkin, and Valerie Steele.

Pleasure isn't optional - it's a key ingredient in both our humanity and our political resistance. Let historian Hanne Blank explain as she talks with Jaclyn about what she learned during the 80s AIDS crisis, the importance of marshmallows when the world is on fire, and why an old slogan from a 1960s French Art movement should be our mantra right now. (Rewind) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On episode #680 of Theology in the Raw Preston talks about some books he is currently reading. Below you will find a list of the books talked about on the podcast.Why Gender Matters (2nd Edition) by Leonard SaxLove Thy Body: Answering Hard Questions about Life and Sexuality by Nancy PearceyThe Bible and the Transgender Experience: How Scripture Supports Gender Variance by Linda HerzerI Promised Not to Tell: Raising a Transgender Child by Cheryl B EvansBeyond a Binary God: A Theology for Trans* Allies by Tara SoughersTransforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians by Austen HartkeStraight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality by Hanne BlankCheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy by Mark RegnerusEnlightenment Now by Steven PinkerFrom Shame to Sin by Kyle HarperListening to Sexual Minorities: A Study of Faith and Sexual Identity on Christian College Campuses by Mark YarhouseUnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality by Colby MartinThe Bible's Yes to Same-Sex Marriage: An Evangelical's Change of Heart by Mark AchtemeierOutside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith by Mihee Kim-Kort

  Show notes: Hanne Blank’s Big Big Love: https://hanneblank.com/books/  Charlotte Cooper “Headless Fatties”: http://charlottecooper.net/fat/fat-writing/headless-fatties-01-07/ FaT GiRL: A Zine for Dykes […]

My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Here's that funny article I was giggling over called, "20 Things Guys Have Actually Said to Me In Bed." Now, on to your questions. Brittany wrote in seeking sexy kink events near her. The best place to go for kink events is Fetlife.com. You'll want to keep an eye out for munches and conferences. Because Brittany is in Massachusetts, she might also want to check out The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island for workshops. Plus, Joellen Notte lists Oh My! Sensuality Shop and Good Vibrations in Massachusetts on her superhero sex shop map. Basically, any feminist sex shop will have classes and workshops that could be a fun way to meet folks. A listener wrote back with an update. They found a friend to watch them have sex and it's turned into a fun threesome situation. Yay! Jen wrote in because apparently there was a shit-show on another sex podcast where the guest did some major body shaming and had some sexist ideas about getting desire back. I love knowing people can turn to Sex Gets Real and Explore More Summit for more inclusive conversations. Ha. As sex educators and therapists, we have a responsibility to examine our advice and our stories to ensure we aren't hurting people further. Fatphobia is one of those things we must confront and rewrite as experts. Nugget wrote in with some words of love. Nandi is fat and confused and needs help with her changing body. She's getting bariatric surgery and wonders if there's a way to find ease in her body without surgery. I have so many thoughts, including the importance of checking out all the talks at exploremoresummit.com because they're all about this VERY topic. You never have to love your body. You are allowed to do whatever you need to do to survive. If you want to start diving into resources about fat stigma, self acceptance, fatphobia, and fighting diet culture, the resource page I created (which is growing) is a great place to start. Your body is NOT the problem. The problem is our culture, our fatphobic doctors, our media consumption. I highly recommend Hanne Blank's, "Big, Big Love", Elle Chase's, "Curvy Girl Sex", "The Intuitive Eating Workbook, "The Fat Studies Reader", and all the other books on the resource page mentioned above. We have to prioritize our needs. We have to prioritize our body. We will always disappoint someone and people will always feel like they have a right to comment on our body or threaten us with "health" concerns. Finding people who can help support us as we exist in our body, as it is, is crucial. Mastadon is a horny hubby. He and his wife opened their relationship temporarily a few years ago, and even though she doesn't want to do that again, he can't stop thinking about it. He wants adventure and new lovers and he feels like she just isn't adventurous or open to that sort of thing. He doesn't want to be a cheating piece of shit (his words), but he really wants to have new sexual experiences. So often these questions are about avoiding discomfort and awkwardness. But that's just not possible. You have to evaluate what you most value, what you're most curious about, and then make some tough decisions. You are either committed to your relationship, which means uncomfortable conversations and finding ways to feel expressive and creative inside of it. Or, if your pleasure is more important, then transitioning out of the marriage might be the discomfort you need to move into. Our partners may be open to changing things, but we cannot force them or manipulate them into it. Getting a sex coach or a sex therapist can be a good place to start, just to help the conversations to be more open and vulnerable. Honesty and integrity are not about comfort. They take practice and moving into uncomfortable spaces. But the payoff can be tremendous when we do that. Miss Lou is a BBW who has been asked to sit on a partner's face. What should they do? How should they do? How do you get on someone's face without it be awkward? Let's talk about fat face sitting! Sometimes we just have to climb on and wiggle around, try pillows in a variety of positions, and find what works in the moment. Awkward can be fun when you're both excited and open about the fact that it's awkward. It's sex! So, get on, bounce around, and see what works. Then, do more of that. Hoodie sex? Nick wants to know if it's weird that he wants to have sex with his girlfriend while she wears his hoodies. Is that weird?  Nope. Because if it's consensual and you're both having fun, then who cares? Sex itself is weird. Enjoy it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Mel interviews Sarah Harris about the Marathon walk she did with Project Athena. They also discuss Sarah’s life in general and her work as president of the California Council of the Blind, Fresno. In this BookIt segment, Lisa reviews a book she almost didn’t read. It is called The Unapologetic Fat Girl's Guide to Exercise and Other Incendiary Acts by Hanne Blank. It is available through Bookshare and other retail booksellers. You can comment on our Facebook page, follow us on Twitter, or subscribe to our informative chat list.

Welcome to Episode 3, where I discuss the science and politics ofsexual identity with LISA DIAMOND of the University of Utah. We’ll also hear about Lisa’s personal story—how she came to identify as a feminist, as a lesbian, and as a scientist, and how all of those identities have converged on a profound body of work. If you’re interested in a deeper dive into this research, you should check out her award-winning 2009 book entitled, SEXUAL FLUIDITY: UNDERSTANDING WOMEN'S LOVE AND DESIRE, about which Hanne Blank of Ms. had this to say: "Captivating, nuanced, and rigorous… Diamond’s work is vital precisely because sexual fluidity is not a new concept—Freud called his version ‘polymorphous perversity’—but merely one that is typically dismissed. Nor is it news to women, particularly not to a generation for whom a nonspecific ‘queer’ affiliation, or no affiliation at all, is increasingly common. What is so important is not that this fluidity exists, but that someone has finally paid it systematic attention and found that it is in fact not the exception, but may well be the rule."       And while you're at it, check out this truly seminal paper Lisa wrote for Psychological Review on the differences between romantic love and sexual attraction in the determination of sexual orientation. It’s an amazing piece of work, and pretty accessible even for non-specialists. Here it is: WHAT DOES SEXUAL ORIENTATION ORIENT? A BIOBEHAVIORAL MODEL DISTINGUISHING ROMANTIC LOVE AND SEXUAL DESIRE *     *     * As always, remember that this podcast is brought to you by VQR and the Center for Media and Citizenship. Plus, we're a member of the TEEJ.FM podcast network. AND... The music of CIRCLE OF WILLIS was composed and performed by Tom Stauffer, Gene Ruley and their band THE NEW DRAKES. You can purchase this music at their Amazon page. 

Pleasure isn't optional - it's a key ingredient in both our humanity and our political resistance. Let historian Hanne Blank explain as she talks with Jaclyn about what she learned during the 80s AIDS crisis, the importance of marshmallows when the world is on fire, and why an old slogan from a 1960s French Art movement should be our mantra right now. (Encore) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Pleasure isn't optional - it's a key ingredient in both our humanity and our political resistance. Let historian Hanne Blank explain as she talks with Jaclyn about what she learned during the 80s AIDS crisis, the importance of marshmallows when the world is on fire, and why an old slogan from a 1960s French Art movement should be our mantra right now. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sex, Please! with Vanessa Carlisle is part of Safe Harbor on KPFK 90.7 FM Los Angeles. In this ep, Vanessa talks to Hanne Blank, historian and author of "Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality". Featuring Danny Cruz and Chrisanne Eastwood. Listen LIVE Wed night/Thurs morning at midnight on KPFK or live streaming at kpfk.org

Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men (New York University Press) A straight white girl can kiss a girl, like it, and still call herself straight—her boyfriend may even encourage her. But can straight white guys experience the same easy sexual fluidity, or would kissing a guy just mean that they are really gay? Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: there’s fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each other’s penises and stick fingers up their fellow members’ anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men. For Jane Ward, these sexual practices reveal a unique social space where straight white men can—and do—have sex with other straight white men; in fact, she argues, to do so reaffirms rather than challenges their gender and racial identity.Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Ward’s analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexuality—not as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. Daring, insightful, and brimming with wit, Not Gay is a fascinating new take on the complexities of heterosexuality in the modern era.Praise for Not Gay“Clear-eyed and unsqueamish, Not Gay defiantly insists that sex between contemporary American straight white men is in fact meaningful sex that can't—and shouldn't—just be hand-waved away. Jane Ward provides a timely and convincing corrective.” —Hanne Blank, author of Virgin: The Untouched History“Not Gay is nothing less than a breath of fresh air. This book is certain to change the way that we think about heterosexuality’s relations with the homoerotic.”—Roderick Ferguson, author of Aberrations in Black: Toward a Queer of Color CritiqueJane Ward is associate professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies at University of California Riverside, where she teaches courses in feminist, queer, and heterosexuality studies. Her published essays have focused on a broad range of topics including feminist pornography, queer parenting, gay pride festivals, HIV/AIDS organizing, same-sex marriage, and the social construction of heterosexuality. Her first book, Respectably Queer: Diversity Culture in LGBT Activist Organizations, was named by The Progressive magazine as a best book of 2008.  Her second book, Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men, will be released by New York University Press in July 2015.Ward is founder of the feminist blog FeministPigs.com and cofounder, along with CJ Pascoe and Tey Meadow, of SocialInqueery.com. She cofounded the queer burlesque troupe “The Miracle Whips” in 2004 and founded the parenting collective “L.A. Genderqueer Parenting” in 2009, both based in Los Angeles.  She is also a baker, an urban gardener, and a parent to one human child, four cats, and eight chickens.

Tune in to our latest episode of the podcast where Anna interviews Hanne Blank.

Guest: author Hanne Blank; Program hosted by Rachel Rubin.

Guest: historian and author Hanne Blank. Program hosted by Rachel Rubin. Note: strong subject matter.

In this episode, Hanne Blank discusses her new book, "Straight: A Surprisingly Brief History of Heterosexuality." The term "heterosexual" was coined in 1868. Tune in to learn more about heterosexuality and the development of the American middle class. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

FAT POSITIVITY! WEIGHTY MYTHS! PORK CHOP EYES! Author and historian Hanne Blank talks pleasure at any size. Then Sandra interviews a big n tall straight bear with self-confidence to match. Topics: Panda Three-Way, Porn, Public vs Private Desires, Topology, Fat Jokes, Limp Starfish, Helen Mirren, Medical Issues, Sex Positions, Reclaiming "Fat," Sandra's Shame Moment and Expanding Attraction.