The Kink Perspective

On today's show, I discuss the reality behind love bombing: what it is, why it works, and how it shows up in both vanilla and kink dynamics. We'll look at the psychology behind the behavior, the emotional impact on the person receiving it, and the signs you might already be in it without realizing. From rushed intimacy to coercive affection, I break down how love bombing can distort consent, erode pacing, and blur the line between connection and control. Whether you're a Dom, sub, or just someone trying to understand where intensity ends and manipulation begins.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #LoveBombing

On today's show, I discuss what happens when the relationship you built no longer fits the life you're living now. I explore the need for renegotiation, not because something is broken, but because people change. From emotional contracts and outdated roles to attachment patterns and the psychology of growth, I break down why honest check-ins matter and how to approach them without fear. Whether you're in a vanilla marriage, a long-term D/s dynamic, or somewhere in between, this episode offers insight into how relationships evolve and how to meet each other again with clarity, presence, and intention.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Renegotiation #Evolution

On today's show, I discuss what happens when love and erotic identity don't align. Can a relationship survive when one partner is kinky and the other isn't? I explore the emotional split, the impact of performative dynamics, the hope that love can “convert” desire, and the quiet cost of suppressing who you are to stay connected. This is an honest look at erotic mismatch, self-abandonment, and what it really means to compromise.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Relationships #Erotic #Desires #Alignment

On today's show, I discuss the growing misuse of trauma language in kink education and why it's more than just a trend. From burnout worksheets shared without context to influencers offering therapy-adjacent advice without credentials, we're exploring where personal experience stops and clinical responsibility begins. I break down the differences between trauma-informed and trauma-specific work, the risks of therapeutic mimicry, and how unqualified voices are reshaping safety in BDSM communities. Whether you're a teacher, leader, or participant, this episode is about discernment, accountability, and protecting the integrity of healing.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Trauma #Education #Responsibility

In this episode, I return to a topic I covered early on: rejection resilience. This time, I'm taking a direct look at ghosting. We explore the difference between hurt and harm, why not every disappearance is an act of betrayal, and how emotional entitlement shows up in the aftermath. For those in the BDSM community, where intensity and vulnerability run deep, ghosting can feel like a violation. But is it always? I break down why autonomy includes the right to walk away, how we confuse discomfort with danger, and what it really takes to move on without closure. It won't be easy listening, but it's a conversation that needs to happen.ReferencesCampbell, W. K., Bonacci, A. M., Shelton, J.,Exline, J. J., & Bushman, B. J. (2004). Psychological entitlement:Interpersonal consequences and validation of a self-report measure. Journalof Personality Assessment, 83(1), 29–45. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327752jpa8301_04Kruglanski, A. W., Webster, D. M., & Klem,A. (1993). Motivated resistance and openness to persuasion in the presence orabsence of prior information. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,65(5), 861–876. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.67.6.1063Romero-Canyas, R., Downey, G., Berenson, K.,Ayduk, O., & Kang, N. J. (2010). Rejection sensitivity and therejection-hostility link in romantic relationships. Journal of Personality,78(1), 119–148. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2009.00611.xSchaan, V. K., & Vögele, C. (2016).Resilience and rejection sensitivity mediate long-term outcomes of parentaldivorce. European Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 25(11), 1267–1269. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00787-016-0893-7Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Rejection #Ghosting #Resilience

On today's episode, I discuss how resentment takes root in power exchange relationships and why it often goes unnoticed until real damage is done. I explore the emotional cost of silence, how forgiveness gets misused, and why avoiding conflict can slowly erode trust and connection. This is a conversation about clarity over comfort, and what it really takes to keep a dynamic emotionally honest and sustainable.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Resentment #Silence

On today's show, I discuss the eroticism of punishment, and why, for many, it's not about pain but about being seen. I explore how early attachment wounds, shame, and emotional neglect can shape our adult desires, especially in kink and power exchange dynamics. This episode dives into the psychology of arousal, trauma reenactment, and the thin line between healing and compulsion. Whether you're a Dominant, submissive, or just curious about where your cravings come from, this is an invitation to unpack the emotional roots beneath the erotic charge and to explore what conscious, emotionally safe kink can really look like.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Punishment #Attachment #Shame

On today's show, I discuss the growing trend of drinking and substance use at dungeons and BDSM events. As different lifestyles like polyamory and swinging increasingly overlap with kink spaces, the standards around consent, autonomy, and responsibility are starting to shift, and not in ways that protect the community. I break down why sobriety matters in play spaces, the risks that come with impaired consent, and how easily lines can blur when alcohol enters environments built on trust. This is not about blame. It is about stewardship. It is about protecting the spaces that allow real vulnerability and real power exchange to happen safely. If we care about the future of our community, it is time we start having the harder conversations.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Drinking #AlcoholUse #Substances

Sovereignty On today's episode, I discuss personal power and sovereignty, not as abstract ideas but as lived experiences that shape how we navigate identity, roles, and relationships. I explore the difference between positional power and personal power, how trauma impacts our ability to trust ourselves, and what it means to reclaim our sense of self in the context of kink dynamics and beyond. Whether you're Dominant, submissive, Switch, or something else entirely, this conversation is about learning to live in alignment with who you are, without apology, without performance, and without giving that power away.ReferencesFreyd, J. J. (1996). Betrayal trauma: The logic of forgetting childhood abuse. Harvard University Press.Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence—from domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.Siegel, D. J. (2010). The mindful therapist: A clinician's guide to mindsight and neural integration. W. W. Norton & Company.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #PersonalPower #Sovereignty

Does trauma cause BDSM desires? Is kink just a reenactment of old wounds? Or can it be something more, a form of healing, reclamation, or simply joy? I break down the difference between influence and origin, explore what it means when kink feels familiar, and offer a path forward grounded in choice, consent, and self-understanding. This is not about shame. It's about clarity. Whether you're a survivor, a practitioner, or simply curious, this episode invites you to explore where your desires come from and what they mean to you now.

On this episode, I discuss a topic that continues to challenge kink communities everywhere: should individuals on the Sex Offender Registry be allowed into public events or dungeons? I explore the emotional and psychological impact these decisions have, not just on survivors but on entire communities. From leadership accountability to the erosion of trust, I take a hard look at what happens when safety, consent, and transparency are sidelined. This isn't about personal attacks. It's about the behaviors, policies, and silences that shape the spaces we claim to keep safe. It's a hard conversation, but it's one we need to have.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Consent #Safety

On this episode, I discuss coercion, boundaries, and consent, not as buzzwords, but as lived realities inside power exchange relationships. We break down what these terms actually mean, how they get confused or manipulated in kink spaces, and why that confusion causes real harm.I speak to the ways coercion can be disguised as Dominance or devotion, how internalized guilt keeps people silent, and why accountability is not a threat to the lifestyle. It is essential to it.This episode is a call back to clarity, to personal agency, and to the kind of kink that builds people up, not breaks them down. Whether you are questioning something in your own dynamic or supporting someone else through theirs, this one is for you.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Coercion #Consent #Boundaries

On this episode, I discuss people-pleasing behavior and how it shows up in the lifestyle. I break down what it really is, where it comes from, and why it's often mistaken for consent. I talk about the difference between saying yes from a place of choice versus saying yes out of fear, and why that difference matters so much in kink. If you've ever found yourself agreeing to something just to keep the peace or avoid conflict, this one's for you.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - ⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #PeoplePleasing #Behavior #Fawning

On today's show, I discuss how military personnel and veterans navigate power exchange in BDSM. The structure, discipline, and leadership developed in service shape both Dominance and submission, influencing how they engage in D/s relationships. Some embrace the authority and control of a Dominant role, while others find submission as a way to release responsibility in a structured and intentional way. I explore how military training aligns with high-protocol dynamics, the challenges of balancing strength with vulnerability, and the unique ways service members adapt to BDSM.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comFind me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | SubstackIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at https://enhanced-mind.com/I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Military #Strength

On today's show, I discuss the difference between loneliness and solitude, and why understanding both is essential for personal growth and deeper connections. I dive into how loneliness can show up even in the kink and BDSM community, and how it affects our relationships with ourselves and others. I also explore how embracing solitude can be a powerful tool for reflection, healing, and understanding our desires and boundaries. It's a conversation about how these feelings shape our lives and how we can use them to better connect with ourselves and the people around us.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.comI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Solitude #Loneliness

On today's episode, I discuss the fine line between validation and dependence in D/s relationships. While praise and approval are natural parts of power exchange, they shouldn't become the foundation of self-worth. When one partner relies too much on the other for validation, it can create emotional instability and strain the dynamic. I explore how this happens, the impact on both submissives and Dominants, and what each can do to foster a healthier, more secure connection.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.comI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Validation #PowerExchange

For over a decade, John Baku's name has been tied to a community that never sleeps. But what does that do to a person? In this conversation, it's not about the platform, it's about him. The weight, the expectations, the moments no one sees. No scripted answers, no filters, just an honest look at the man behind it all. This is John Baku, like you've never heard him before.His profile on Fetlife: @JohnBakuSpecial appearance by @R4monContinue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.comI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Raw #Real #BehindtheScenes

On today's episode, I discuss emotional vampires, those people who drain your energy, manipulate situations, and thrive on drama. In the BDSM lifestyle, where trust and deep connections matter, they can be especially damaging. We'll break down how they operate, the tactics they use, and most importantly, how to protect yourself. And stick around until the end, I'll be revealing my special, upcoming guest interview that you won't want to miss.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.comI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #EmotionalVampires

On this episode, I discuss the growing trend of BDSM education becoming a business first and a learning tool second. With more self-proclaimed educators, coaches, and researchers flooding the space, it's becoming harder to separate real knowledge from clever marketing.I break down the red flags to watch for, titles that sound official but lack regulation, coaching that blurs the line with therapy, and courses designed to keep people paying rather than truly learning. When education stops empowering and starts exploiting, who really benefits?Tune in as I unpack how misinformation spreads, why critical thinking is crucial, and how to spot the difference between genuine educators and opportunists.Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.comIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.comI have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now!#BDSM #Psychology #Education #Ethics

On this episode, I discuss the weight of shame and guilt surrounding kinks and fetishes—where these feelings come from, how they impact us, and why they don't belong to us in the first place. I break down the difference between shame and guilt, explore how they affect self-perception and relationships, and, most importantly, share practical steps to let go of them. Desire isn't a choice—it's a discovery. And it's time to stop apologizing for what turns us on. Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Shame #Guilt

On today's show, I discuss the distinction between sexual satisfaction and sexual fulfillment within the BDSM lifestyle. While physical release can be satisfying in the moment, true fulfillment often comes from emotional connection, trust, and vulnerability. I explore how mindfulness, intentional play, and addressing feelings like guilt or shame can help deepen intimacy and create richer, more meaningful experiences. Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Sexual #Satisfaction #FulFillment

On this episode, I sat down with -Jupit3r- and Cheetahme for a fun and insightful conversation about their 24/7 dynamic. We laughed along the way as we explored how they navigate their relationship in the scene, approach each other, and balance their personal lives with community engagement. They share the joys, challenges, and surprises that come with a 24/7 dynamic, offering some great laughs and thoughtful moments, and so much more... Find their profiles on Fetlife: @-Jupit3r- and @Cheetahme Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #24/7 #Dynamics #Relationships

Content Warning: This episode discusses consent violations, abuse, and systemic failures in the BDSM community. Listener discretion is advised. On this episode, I discuss the recent events surrounding the issues of theWoodShed in Florida, examining allegations of consent violations, leadership failures, and systemic harm within the community. I highlight survivor stories, analyze the misuse of power dynamics in kink spaces, and unpack the psychological toll these events have had on individuals and the broader community. We'll also dive into the “apologies” issued by those in positions of power, exploring why many fell short of true accountability. I address the importance of speaking out, holding space for survivors, and taking meaningful action to foster safer, more inclusive spaces. Finally, I provide actionable steps for listeners to reflect on their roles in their communities and share resources for anyone impacted by these issues. Resources for Support Central Florida Resources Victim Service Center of Central FloridaPhone: 407-500-HEAL (4325)Website: www.victimservicecenter.org Peaceful Paths Domestic Abuse NetworkPhone: 800-500-1119 (Statewide Hotline)Website: www.peacefulpaths.org Zebra CoalitionPhone: 407-228-1446Website: www.zebrayouth.org National Resources RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)Phone: 800-656-HOPE (4673)Website: www.rainn.org National Domestic Violence HotlinePhone: 800-799-SAFE (7233)Website: www.thehotline.org National Suicide Prevention LifelinePhone: 988Website: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Florida #ConsentViolations

In this special Year-End Wrap-Up episode, I'm taking a moment to reflect on the incredible journey we've had in 2024. From reaching listeners in 105 countries to breaking into the top 10% of global podcasts, it's been a year of growth and meaningful connection. I'm so grateful for the community we've built together. Your support and engagement have made all the difference. We've explored intimate topics like BDSM and mindfulness, celebrated powerful conversations about kink and activism, and dug deep into the emotional layers of our lives. Join me as I look back on the highlights, share some behind-the-scenes stories (including a hilarious run-in with a squawking bird!), and set the stage for what's to come in 2025. This episode is a heartfelt thank you to each of you for being part of The Kink Perspective, I couldn't have done it without you! Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Kink #EndofYear #2024

On today's show, I discuss the importance of eroticism in self-care and connection. I explore how embracing our erotic selves can deepen our relationships, enhance intimacy, and promote psychological healing. From understanding the power of touch to addressing barriers like body shame and trauma, I dive into how erotic energy can be a tool for self-discovery and growth. Whether you're new to the BDSM lifestyle or a seasoned practitioner, today's episode offers insights into how we can cultivate vulnerability, trust, and erotic self-awareness in both solo and partnered experiences. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Eroticism #Self-Care

On today's show, I discuss role reversal in BDSM—why someone who's in control all day might crave letting go during a scene, or why a naturally nurturing person might enjoy stepping into a Dominant role. We dive into how role reversal can be a powerful way to explore different sides of ourselves, find balance, and deepen our connections with partners. I'll share some of the psychological benefits, bust a few myths, and talk about how to incorporate role reversal into your play safely and intentionally. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Role #Reversal

In this episode, I sit down with DrSpankologist, a passionate member of the Spanko community, to explore the emotional, psychological, and relational aspects of spanking. We dive into how spanking influences emotional well-being, the role of trust and vulnerability, and the unique connection it creates between partners. DrSpankologist shares personal stories, insights on common misconceptions, and advice for those curious about exploring this kink. You can find his profile on Fetlife @DrSpankologist Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Spanko #Spanking #SpankingCommunity

On today's show, I discuss the powerful role of praise in kink dynamics, exploring how it can deepen emotional connections while also addressing the potential pressures it creates. I dive into the fine balance between using praise as a tool for empowerment versus a means of control, offering practical tips for both Dominants and submissives on how to keep praise uplifting rather than limiting. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Praise #Kink

On today's show, I discuss BDSM in the Middle East, where cultural, religious, and social factors shape how kink is explored. From leading a “dual life” to navigating privacy and trust in hidden communities, I dive into the unique challenges faced by practitioners in countries like Saudi Arabia, UAE, Egypt, and Israel. Despite significant risks, individuals are finding ways to connect, express themselves, and explore their desires. Special thanks to those who contributed their insights from these regions. Your input was invaluable in bringing this episode to life. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #MiddleEast

On today's show, I discuss the often-overlooked struggle for emotional intimacy in BDSM relationships. Join me as I explore the concept of emotional neglect and its impact on our ability to feel wanted and connected. We'll dive into the triggers that can stir up feelings of inadequacy, the weight of past experiences that shape our emotional responses, and the essential practices of self-advocacy and open communication. Whether you're new to BDSM or have been navigating these dynamics for a while, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies to help you reclaim your space, assert your worth, and foster deeper emotional connections. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Emotions #Neglect

On today's show, I'm diving into what happens when outside voices—sometimes even from within the BDSM community—start influencing our personal choices in kink. This episode unpacks how pressures and opinions can quietly shift our boundaries or make us doubt our preferences. I'll talk about reclaiming agency, staying true to what genuinely fulfills us, and how to shut out the noise while prioritizing respect and consent. It's all about finding freedom and authenticity in your own kink experience. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Kink #KinkShaming

On this episode, I discuss the complexities of supporting couples through divorce and the importance of establishing rules for disengagement across different relationship dynamics. We'll explore the emotional roller coaster that comes with transitions, how to offer meaningful support to those navigating change, and practical tips for setting healthy boundaries. Whether you're in the BDSM community or simply interested in relationship dynamics, this episode offers insights that can help us all embrace the process of letting go and moving forward. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Relationships #Ending #Divorce #Disengagement

On this episode, I discuss burnout in the BDSM lifestyle—how to recognize the signs, why it happens, and practical steps to handle it. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your scenes or just overwhelmed, I've got insights to help you navigate these challenges and rekindle your passion. Join me as we explore how to take care of yourself and maintain a healthy relationship with your kink. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Burnout

In this episode, I dive into the connection between emotional processing and power exchange in BDSM. I'll break down how understanding our emotions can help strengthen trust, communication, and connection in kink. Plus, I share some practical tips for building emotional awareness so both partners can better navigate their desires and boundaries. Whether you're new to BDSM or have been in the lifestyle for a while, this episode offers insights to deepen your dynamic. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Emotional #Processing

On this episode, I discuss the complex interplay between BDSM and sexual shame. We explore how societal norms can create barriers to embracing one's sexuality, the impact of guilt and stigma, and the importance of open dialogue in the BDSM community. Through insights and observations, I highlight strategies to navigate these challenges and encourage listeners to foster a more accepting perspective towards their desires and identities. Join the conversation as we work to dismantle misconceptions and promote a healthier understanding of kink. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Shame #Sexuality-

On this episode I chat with the one and only Honeybeeeee. We cover everything from her life and family to her personal pursuits and her unique take on BDSM. With plenty of laughter, insight, and real talk, Honeybeeeee opens up about her experiences and what the lifestyle means to her. It's a laid-back, genuine conversation that touches on the highs and lows of her journey. Relax, tune in, and enjoy the ride! Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Life #BDSM #MidLife

On today's show, I am discussing the complexities for a new couple entering polyamory, from the initial excitement to the real-life challenges that come with navigating multiple relationships. I'll explore the importance of communication, setting boundaries, managing emotions, and offer tips for those considering or currently exploring polyamorous dynamics. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Polyamory #Couples #Relationships

On today's show, I dive into the complex issue of emotional unavailability, a challenge that can affect both vanilla and lifestyle relationships. Discover how to recognize the signs of emotional unavailability, whether in yourself or a partner, and explore practical steps for improving emotional connection. From self-awareness and open communication to personal growth and resilience, this episode offers valuable insights for fostering deeper, more meaningful relationships. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Emotional #Unavailability

On this episode I discuss into the complex dynamics of controlling relationships and the isolating tactics used by partners to undermine your autonomy. I explore how seemingly caring behaviors can mask deeper issues of control rooted in insecurity and past experiences. Learn to recognize the signs of coercive control and isolation, and understand the profound impact these behaviors can have on your mental and emotional well-being. I also discuss practical steps for addressing control, including setting boundaries, developing safety plans, and reaching out for support. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Isolation

On this episode, I discuss the critical role of personal responsibility within kink dynamics. I explore why it's essential to take ownership of our actions and how failing to do so can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and hindered personal growth. Drawing from psychological insights, I examine the tendency to blame others and the impact this has on our relationships and self-awareness. Join me as I break down the importance of personal responsibility in creating healthier, more fulfilling kink experiences. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #PersonalResponsibility

On this episode I'm joined by Stormy and Raven, two incredible women from the Fetlife community who bring a refreshing dose of honesty and humor to our conversation. We dive into how their political views shape their experiences within the BDSM lifestyle and tackle misconceptions about women in kink. Stormy and Raven keep it real, blending wit with straightforwardness in a way that makes this conversation both eye-opening and fun. They offer a unique take on the intersection of gender, politics, and BDSM, with plenty of laughs and real talk along the way. It's a chat you won't want to miss. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. #BDSM #Psychology #Women #BDSM #Politics

On this episode, I discuss how to introduce vanilla partners to the world of kink. Navigating this conversation can be both exciting and delicate, as it involves bridging different perspectives on intimacy and pleasure. I delve into understanding what it means to be "vanilla," address common concerns and misconceptions, and explore practical strategies for starting these discussions with empathy and care. We'll also cover how to manage reactions, set boundaries, and ensure that both partners feel comfortable and respected throughout this journey. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Vanilla #Introduction

On this episode, I discuss the complex emotion of jealousy within BDSM dynamics. Explore how jealousy impacts both Dominants and submissives, and discover strategies for managing these feelings effectively. From fostering open communication and setting boundaries to reinforcing trust, learn how to turn jealousy into an opportunity for deeper connection and growth. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Relationships #Jealousy

On this episode, I discuss disposable relationships and their profound impact on individuals and the BDSM community. I talk about what makes a relationship feel disposable, explore the traits and motivations of those who treat others as expendable, and examine the emotional and psychological damage caused by such dynamics. We'll also cover strategies for healing and moving forward, offering insights into how to reclaim your self-worth and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Relationships #Disposable

On this episode, I explore the balance between our BDSM roles and our true self. We'll discuss how getting too absorbed in our BDSM identities can impact our mental and emotional well-being, and provide practical tips for maintaining harmony. Whether you're a Dominant, submissive, or switch, this episode offers insights to help you stay connected to your core self while enjoying your BDSM experiences. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Self #Identity

On this episode, I discuss the complexities of "Bridging the Distance: Navigating Long-Distance Kink Relationships." Delve into how partners maintain emotional intimacy and explore desires across physical separations, exploring innovative communication tools and the psychological nuances of trust and vulnerability. Discover insights and strategies that redefine intimacy in the digital age, offering a roadmap for fostering fulfilling connections despite geographical boundaries. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #LongDistance #Relationships

On this episode, I explore Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) within the BDSM community. I discuss the nuanced definitions, psychological motivations, and therapeutic dimensions of CNC play. Discover how participants negotiate intense scenarios of power dynamics and role-play, exploring taboo desires within a framework of trust and consent and more... Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #CNC

On this episode, I discuss the complex and crucial role of punishments in Dominance and submission (D/s) relationships. I explore the psychological significance of punishments, their impact on both Dominants and submissives, and the importance of clear communication and consent. I'll discuss common mistakes such as inconsistent enforcement and overly harsh punishments, and their potential to erode trust and create negative emotional impacts. I talk about Dominant's educational responsibilities, the natural learning curve in D/s dynamics, and how to ensure punishments are fair and supportive of growth and so much more... Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Punishment

On this episode, I discuss the psychological effects of engaging with explicit content on social media platforms. I examine the processes of desensitization and normalization, the emotional impacts, unconscious influences, and the effects on self-esteem and body image. I also discuss the importance of contextual understanding, fostering resilience, and maintaining healthy boundaries within our community. and more... Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! Check out my new podcast on true crime: BDSM - Blood, Death, Sex, Murder at https://open.spotify.com/show/6rl7jrjkMKo9ZkEnr92tzx #BDSM #Psychology #Explicit #Content

On this episode, I dive into the significant impact of BDSM power dynamics on men's mental health in honor of Men's Mental Health Month. I explore how roles like Dominant, Submissive, and Switch can profoundly benefit psychological well-being. Understanding power dynamics, the psychological benefits of Dominance, and the emotional release found in submission are discussed in depth, alongside the flexibility of switching roles. Real-life examples illustrate these points, highlighting how BDSM can enhance emotional resilience, self-awareness, and relational intimacy. The importance of healthy practices, including communication, consent, and aftercare, and more! Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Men #Mental Health

On this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of intermittent reinforcement in relationships, uncovering its profound influence on emotional well-being and connection. From dissecting its psychological underpinnings to offering practical strategies for navigating its effects, we journey through real-life examples to illuminate the complexities of human behavior. Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at www.enhanced-mind.com I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #BDSM #Psychology #Intermittent Reinforcement #Relationships