Thru Colored Lenses

Yaz, Rebekah & Jon discuss how much the world and our own lives have changed since our backyard chat in 2020 that inspired the Thru Colored Lenses podcast. This is the last episode of the Thru Colored Lenses podcast...as you know it. Stay tuned for what comes next! *Note: the Netflix special Rebekah repeatedly struggled to remember the name of: The Social DilemmaThis documentary-drama hybrid explores the dangerous human impact of social networking, with tech experts sounding the alarm on their own creations.Book Recommendations:YazThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizFinding Me by Viola DavisAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsey C. Gibson JonBoundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud & John TownsendThe Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody BeattyRebekahBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily & Amelia NagoskiThink Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day by Jay ShettyAtomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones by James Clear **This may not seem like a "mental health" book but it is one of the best books I've read on creating better habits and that is absolutely something that helps with mental health.

Yaz and I (Rebekah) live in different states now and with some recent computer issues, recording the podcast has been challenging, as of late. So today we bring you the second of our “Phone Session” podcasts. These are similar to our regular podcast but they are recorded on our phone when we are catching up with each other. We will be back to our normal studio recorded podcasts soon but we hated not being able to post anything and we keep having awesome phone conversations so we thought, why not invite our listeners into those conversations?  In this convo we get caught up on current events, talk about all the craziness that is the US as well as Holiday stress and when to get to the party. Also great news...Yaz's computer is finally on its way so regular podcasts will be back soon!! Let us know if you like this adjusted format and if you love the content of our podcast, please share, like and review!! 

They say necessity is the mother of invention. Yaz and I (Rebekah) live in different states now and with some recent computer issues, recording the podcast has been challenging, as of late. So today we bring you the first of many “Phone Session” podcasts. These are just like the regular podcast but they are recorded on our phone when we are catching up with each other. We will be back to our normal studio recorded podcasts soon but we hated not being able to post anything and we keep having awesome phone conversations so we thought, why not invite our listeners into those conversations?  In this convo we get caught up on current events, talk about all the craziness that is the US these days and we even get a visit from the podcast pup, Zeus! Let us know if you like this adjusted format and if you love the content of our podcast, please share, like and review!! 

Relationship series: an Interview with Rebekah This week Yaz interviews Rebekah in a continuation of the relationship series. Much like Yaz in our last episode, Rebekah has gone through a lot of personal changes in the past year. And Yaz pulls no punches when asking about those changes. Tune in to hear (as Yaz would say) all the juicy details. 

Relationship Series Pt. 2- Self Joe Rogan said recently on the Breaking Points with Krystal and Saagar podcast, “The more you take care of your own bullshit, the less you're going to worry about other people's bullshit. And the more you can enjoy things that you're actually interested in. As opposed to spending time cultivating negativity which is so intoxicating. It's so easy for people to get caught up in this artificial drama, ya know?” Taking care of our own “stuff” can be hard when we are so focused on what everyone around us is doing. It takes a lot of focus and intentionality to let the noise of the world quiet down long enough to hear what we are actually thinking. But it's essential. Because think about it, how much of the world would be in a better place if everyone put their energy into being the best version of themselves instead of being so focused on what everyone else is doing wrong. Despite it being difficult, our own Yaz has been through a year of massive personal growth. Join us today as Rebekah interviews Yaz on her personal journey this past year. Vulnerability is scary but it's also powerful. This is a powerful talk. We hope you are inspired to do some inner work, yourself.  Stay tuned for our next episode where we turn the tables and Yaz interviews Rebekah. And don't forget to subscribe, share, rate and review!  Find our website https://www.yazandrebekah.com/ (here.)

Relationship series - Part 1 - Yourself Aristotle said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” As we start this series on relationships, we thought the first place to start would be our relationship with ourself. How do you embark on the journey to know yourself better? Some will look to faith, some will look to personality profiles, some will look to psychology and some will start with the philosophers of old. But any way about it, learning more about who you really are and what makes you tick will only bring clarity to the other relationships in your life.  In today's episode, we talk about some of the most popular personality typing systems as well as a dive into what may be more fringe sources of information like horoscopes and physics.  So how do you begin the journey of knowing yourself better? Reach out on our socials and let us know if you have a great story!  Resources: Rebekah's website has a section on personality typing systems. You can find that here.  https://www.rebruth.com/brains (https://www.rebruth.com/brains) We discussed energy readings and chakras. For more info on that, click here.  https://www.chakras.info/ (https://www.chakras.info/) For more info on Natal Charts, click here.  https://www.astrology.com.tr/birth-chart.asp (https://www.astrology.com.tr/birth-chart.asp)

This week, Yaz and Rebekah are talking about the claims that voter laws being enacted are voter suppression. But that’s just the jumping off point. Their discussion certainly isn’t one where they agree much of the time. But in the end, they agree on what success looks like and bounce some ideas off each other on how to get there.  The Success Sequence, originally from a study done by Brookings Scholars, Ron Haskins and Isabel Sawhill, is discussed in this episode. Yaz and Rebekah aren’t saying that it is a foolproof method for everyone but that it has a lot of merit and should be considered. Below you’ll find some articles that discuss this idea as well as the updated Success Sequence for Millennials: https://www.wsj.com/articles/the-sequence-is-the-secret-to-success-1522189894 (Success Sequence Opinion Piece, WSJ ) IFS (Institute for Family Studies): What Does the Success Sequence Mean? https://firstthings.org/the-millennial-success-sequence/ (Millennial Success Sequence) Rebekah quotes from an Eli Steele article. That is linked below as well as a Q&A with Eli, for your reading pleasure: Eli Steele-Re: Georgia Voter Laws Q & A | Black, Deaf, and Jewish Filmmaker Eli Steele is Challenging How We View Race

On this week’s episode, Yaz and Rebekah discuss the George Floyd/Derek Chauvin case and challenge each other on pre-conceived notions about race, police, and other similar topics. The Hidden Brain podcast episode mentioned in today’s podcast is no longer available. Here is a short article by the same people as the original podcast: https://www.npr.org/2019/04/17/714212984/hidden-brain-americas-changing-attitudes-toward-gay-people (America's Changing Attitudes toward Gay People) On Thru Colored Lenses we often quote Brené Brown who says, “People are hard to hate up close. Move in.” We mentioned the Heineken ad from a few years back that illustrated that concept beautifully. It’s absolutely worth a few minutes of your time to watch.  1. People Are Hard to Hate Close Up. Move In. 2. Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be Civil. 3. Hold Hands. With Strangers. 4. Strong Back. Soft Front. Wild Heart.” ― Brené Brown, https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/55699050 (Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone)

Welcome to Season 2! We are so glad you’re back with us. This season (2021) we will be doing a few new things: First, we are not going to be aiming for a specific length with each episode. One of the unique benefits of podcasts is that it’s long format...you don’t just get sound bites but instead, you get to hear hosts and/or guests really delve into a topic. With that in mind, we are just letting each episode go for the amount of time that the conversation takes. Feel free to break it up over several days. Second, we will be working toward adding a YouTube channel to allow you to watch the podcast if you prefer that to just listening. We won’t have that up and running for a bit but it’s coming! Third, We will be adding guests to the line up in the second half of our 2021 season. If you have any suggestions for a guest you’d like to hear us interview, please contact us at yazandrebekah@gmail.com! Now on to today’s episode. This episode was filmed while we were being interviewed for a news story so we focused on current events such as the George Floyd/Derek Chauvin case currently being tried. In addition we talk about why Rebekah is angry and willing to show it and what gets Yaz angry as well. Often times we can find what we’re passionate about by taking a look at what makes us angry.  After a four month break for holidays and Yaz’s move to NC, we are so thrilled to be back on our microphones talking about all the things. Thanks for joining us and please Subscribe, Rate & Share!  ~Yaz & Rebekah

Search "Nailed it" in your favorite search engine and you'll be greeted with thousands of comparison pictures...what the project looked like on Pinterest next to what it looked like when the average person tried it. It's a perfect visual of Expectation vs Reality. When it applies to relationships, it's important to define your expectations so you can determine if they are even realistic and if so, you can communicate them. Yaz and Rebekah talk about getting down to the heart of what our expectations are, where they come from, and how to manage them. Resources mentioned: VeryWellMind Article on Expectations https://amzn.to/38xJ6SF (Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, And Time Reserves To Overloaded Lives by Richard A Swenson, M.D.) https://www.liveabout.com/funny-memes-to-sum-up-expectations-vs-reality-4119790 (Nailed It, before and after memes) Amazon Affiliate Link disclosure  (*Thru Colored Lenses Is A Participant In The Amazon Services Llc Associates Program, An Affiliate Advertising Program Designed To Provide A Means For Sites To Earn Advertising Fees By Advertising And Linking To Amazon.Com. In Other Words, Some Links May Be Affiliate Links Which Means We May Earn Money If You Buy Something Or Take Action After Clicking Our Links.)

By the end of 2020 we are hearing the words "Conspiracy Theory" daily on social media and on the news. Why does it seem like there are more conspiracy theories than ever? There is a reason and Yaz and Rebekah talk about why these theories develop and how to parse out what's true and what's not.

In Part two of the Mindset Episode, Yaz and Rebekah discuss the uninvited guests in our minds that can cause a negative mindset. *Resources Mentioned in the Mindset Episodes Books: https://amzn.to/37uny90 (A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald Miller) https://amzn.to/36EB8aL (Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA) https://amzn.to/3quCCvV (Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski, PhD) Articles: https://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleystahl/2016/11/29/5-ways-to-boost-your-mindset-for-success/?sh=1fdcc6606647 (Five Ways to Boost Your Mindset for Success) https://medium.com/datadriveninvestor/8-ways-you-can-improve-the-quality-of-your-mindset-13b8a2c7cd31 (Eight Ways You Can Improve the Quality of Your Mindset) https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/7-mindsets-that-will-radically-improve-your-life-right-now.html (Seven Mindsets That Will Radically Change Your Life Right Now) https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/how-to-master-your-mind-part-one-whos-running-your-thoughts.html (How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind)

What is Mindset? Is yours a fixed or growth mindset? Yaz and Rebekah talk about the difference between the two and what you can do to combat a negative mindset. This is part one of a two part episode on Mindset. *Resources Mentioned in this week’s episode: Books: https://amzn.to/36EB8aL (Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA) https://amzn.to/3quCCvV (Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life, by Emily Nagoski, PhD) Articles: https://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleystahl/2016/11/29/5-ways-to-boost-your-mindset-for-success/?sh=1fdcc6606647 (Five Ways to Boost Your Mindset for Success) https://medium.com/datadriveninvestor/8-ways-you-can-improve-the-quality-of-your-mindset-13b8a2c7cd31 (Eight Ways You Can Improve the Quality of Your Mindset) https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/7-mindsets-that-will-radically-improve-your-life-right-now.html (Seven Mindsets That Will Radically Change Your Life Right Now) (*Thru Colored Lenses is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com. In other words, some links may be affiliate links which means we may earn money if you buy something or take action after clicking our links.)

Is friendship important? Do we need it for survival? Yaz and Rebekah talk about the good kinds of friends, the bad, and the ugly by delving into questions like: How do you know it's time to end a friendship? How do you know if you're the toxic friend? What is an Emotional Vampire? Can you mix friendship and business? Can you be friends with someone you're attracted to?

Yaz and Rebekah talk about their experiences with Mental Health and Mental "unhealth." Book by Gretchen Rubin that we mentioned is The Four Tendencies. More resources will be available on our website www.yazandrebekah.com

Can we hold back our facts long enough to understand their feelings? Can we get past our feelings to hear their facts? In the perfect storm of 2020 between covid, racial tensions, and one of the most polarized elections in memory, it’s more important than ever that we learn to understand others’ perspectives. Yaz and Rebekah discuss how that has played out in their lives over the last few months.

Yaz & Rebekah discuss first impressions, biases and how active listening can help us have better conversations.

Politics, Racial Tensions, Cancel Culture; Yaz and Rebekah talk about how these things are seen through different perspectives and prove we can talk about these things and still be friends at the end of the conversation.

Join Yaz and Rebekah for their brand new podcast; a place for real talk about real issues. No filters here. Just honest discussion from two women with very different life experiences. Think there's a topic they won't talk about? Think again. Yaz and Rebekah want to prove that we (that means you too) can have conversation about today's most controversial subjects without being hateful. In a time when conversations turn into cancelations, Thru Colored Lenses shows us a different way to communicate. We aren't just black and white and neither is our convo! Just a bit of a teaser here...full episodes will drop Thurs 10/22/2020.