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PREVIEW: Tariffs and Consumer Costs: Energy Offsets Masking Future Price Increases Guest: Chris Riegel Chris Riegel discusses tariffs and consumer costs, explaining that reduced energy costs for gasoline and diesel are currently offsetting some expenses for retailers and consumers. However, Riegel anticipates that the "tariff premium" is imminent, with movement toward higher tariffs predicted in 2026 following the Christmas season. This incoming "tariff bite" is reportedly a significant concern for the Federal Reserve as it grapples with inflation management and competing policy pressures.
Do you recognize that underlying feeling as if you're always tired? Being autistic can be difficult. Masking, socializing and trying to fit in drain our energy and lead to autistic fatigue. Here are some ideas for how to get some relief.Support the showSunsama free trial: https://try.sunsama.com/xi4blkokndgk RATED IN THE TOP 0.5% GLOBALLY with more than 1,000,000 downloads! If you are an autistic person who has written a book about autism or if you have a guest suggestion email me at info@theautisticwoman.com. InstagramKo-fi, PayPal, PatreonLinktreeEmail: info@theautisticwoman.comWebsite
IntroductionImagine trying to swim while holding a beach ball underwater – you might pull it off for a bit, but sooner or later that ball is bobbing to the surface. Masking ADHD can feel just like that. Many of us with ADHD learn early that our brains and behaviors can stand out, so we develop a “socially acceptable” persona to blend in. We smile, sit still, and force focus – all to hide our natural restlessness or distraction. This isn't about being fake; it's a survival strategy learned over years. But as the ADDA (Adult ADHD Organization) puts it, keeping that mask on “will take a lot of energy – and the same goes for hiding your ADHD symptoms” In this episode, we'll explore what masking looks like, why we do it, how it varies across individuals, and most importantly, how to gradually unmask without burning out.What Is Masking and Why We Do It“Masking” (also called camouflaging or impression management) means hiding ADHD-related behaviors to appear neurotypical, usually to avoid stigma or negative judgments. Psychologists trace the idea back to Russell Barkley, who noted roughly one-third of people with ADHD develop masking habit. In practice, this can mean sitting unnaturally still to hide hyperactivity, speaking slowly to avoid interrupting, or painstakingly rehearsing what to say in social situations. We do it for safety. Maybe a teacher, boss, or parent once told us our energy was “too much,” or we saw peers get punished for fidgeting. Over time, we absorb: if we let our ADHD out, we risk judgment, rejection, or even losing out on opportunities. In fact, research shows it's not paranoia: about 78% of adults with ADHD admit to concealing their symptoms at work for fear of discrimination In school, the disparity can be shocking – one study found students with overt ADHD behaviors are disciplined 3.5 times more often than their peers for the same actions. Add gender and cultural pressures, and masking can feel like the only path: for example, women with ADHD often face “double discrimination” (for having ADHD and for not fitting feminine organizational norms) and are 40% more likely than men to hide their diagnosis entirely. In short, from childhood on, many of us learn that showing our “whole” ADHD selves is risky or unwelcome. So we adapt. We smile when our mind is racing, offer practical reasons for missed details (“Sorry I'm late, traffic was a nightmare!”), and push down our impulsivity. This constant self-monitoring – judging every word, movement, or post you make – drains your brain like a marathon trainer. It literally spikes stress: one study found that simply drafting and editing an email to seem “normal” boosts cortisol by 45% – your body treats each message like a big performance reviewe. Over time, the nervous system can't tell the difference between a social slip-up and physical dange, so we end up trapped in a cycle of hyper-alertness, exhaustion, and anxiety.What Masking Looks LikeBecause masking is so ingrained, it can look subtle – almost invisible – to others. Here are some common signs:Forcing calmness: You feel restless or impulsive inside, but you keep your voice and movements unusually slow. Your leg might be itching to bounce, but you tuck it under the chair. (Essentially, you're acting tranquil on the outside to hide your inside.).Over-checking & perfectionism: You triple-check your work or double-back on a short text. It's not just organization; it's anxiety about making even a tiny mistake. You polish emails or assignments obsessively so no one will doubt you. This can buy you time socially, but it bleeds your time and energy.Mimicking behavior: You silently copy others. If classmates fidget with a pencil or crack jokes, you nod and do something similar, even if it feels unnatural. You rehearse social scripts or small talk lines so you don't stand out.Hyper-focusing to overcompensate: You push intense focus on tasks that are being observed. In a meeting, you might go above and beyond on one project to cover for the times your attention drifts away.Suppressing stims: You swallow small yelps when you're excited, hold in hand-flapping urges, or quietly tap your foot under the table so nobody notices your need to move.Masking emotions: Instead of expressing frustration or excitement, you “perform” a neutral or cheerfully appropriate response. You might bottle up anxiety during social events and then have a breakdown in private.Over time, these “adaptations” literally become a second job. You're constantly monitoring yourself: “Am I moving too much? Did I blurt out something weird? Should I rephrase that?” It can feel like juggling while walking a tightrope. Nothing about the self feels authentic anymore – you're playing roles, not being you. But it's understandable: many ADHDers grew up being rewarded for “good behavior” and punished for impulsivity. The very need to mask is born out of those early lessons.The Spectrum of Masking ExperiencesMasking isn't one-size-fits-all; it varies depending on who you are, your ADHD type, and even where you live. For example, many women with ADHD describe “quiet masking”: an exhausting act of looking calm and organized while feeling chaos inside. Research suggests women often mask more intensely – making extra lists, rehearsing conversations, or overstating competence – which partly explains why ADHD in girls is underdiagnosed. One online clinician notes that 82% of women with ADHD report taking excessive notes or lists as a main coping strategy, whereas men more often throw themselves into high-powered work or sports to cover their restlessness. Men, on the other hand, often face a different mask: society may expect them to “just power through” or hide vulnerability. They might channel their energy into accomplishments or humor while resisting showing any confusion or need for help. Non-binary folks often juggle multiple sets of expectations, effectively running two exhausting personas simultaneouslyHormones also play a role: many women report that masking feels easier at certain times of the month and nearly impossible at others. Studies find that in the week before a period (when estrogen drops), it may take two to three times the energy to hold the mask than usual. In real numbers, one analysis suggests neurodivergent women spend about 4.2 hours each day on masking behaviors (mental checklists, micro-adjustments, etc.) compared to 2.7 hours for men – almost two extra hours of invisible labor.Cultural and social context also shifts masking. If you live in a community that stigmatizes any difference, you may have learned to mask more completely. Queer or BIPOC individuals, for instance, often mask not just ADHD but intersectional identities – layering on extra caution. As a parent, you may have taught your child that only quiet, compliant behavior is “good,” so they never learned a louder style of coping. As an educator, you might see a child who seems well-behaved and think “no ADHD here,” while inside that child is using up all their energy to meet those external expectations. The takeaway: everybody's mask looks a bit different. What matters is the cost: all masking demands surplus energy, and when you're always paying that cost, the debt comes due.The Exhaustion CostSpeaking of cost – exhaustion is the hallmark of masking. It's not ordinary tiredness; it's an all-the-way-to-your-toes, bone-deep fatigue. Over time, masking takes an enormous toll on mental and physical health. Psychologists warn that chronic masking leads to “chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, and mental health struggles” like anxiety or depression. You might find yourself mentally blanking after social events, or breaking down over small setbacks. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) can worsen this: even a tiny hint of criticism triggers a panic that sends you scrambling to mask harder, which drains more energy.Imagine the analogy of a running car engine: for you, masking means the engine is revving constantly, even when parked. That steady drain pushes cortisol and adrenaline through your system day after day. In fact, one study found cortisol (the stress hormone) climbs nearly 50% higher when an ADHD brain is in “masking mode,” treating every text or conversation like a high-stakes. No wonder so many ADHDers talk about being “tapped out” by nightfall.The breakdown can look like burnout or even depression. Burnout may start targeted (you feel okay at home but depleted at work), whereas depression spreads gloom into all areas. The difference can blur when masking for years: you might not even recognize yourself under the layers of effort. Some call it an identity crisis – when the role you've played for so long crowds out who you actually are. Teachers and therapists note that people rapidly “unmasking” often feel lost at first, confused about what they truly feel versus what they've performed for so long.Chronic masking even shows up in our bodies. It turns out that intense mental effort – like keeping a fake version of you running all day – activates the same inflammation pathways as physical traum. In other words, the stress of constant performance can undermine your immune system and heart health just like chronic physical stress. People who have masked intensely for years sometimes develop exhaustion-related illnesses in mid-life (autoimmunity, chronic pain, etc.) at higher rates. The data is sobering: extreme mental strain is linked with roughly a 23% higher risk of heart disease and 50% higher risk of Type 2 diabetes.None of this means your experience is exaggerated or “all in your head” – it's very real. Masking might start as a child's coping trick, but it can become a hidden crisis of burnout and self-alienation. When we say “exhaustion in between,” we mean the haze between two states: who you pretend to be (masked) and who you hope to be (unmasked). That haze is filled with stress, self-doubt, and second-guessing everything you say and do.The Path to UnmaskingSo how do you step out of that haze? Psychologists and coaches emphasize that unmasking is a gradual process. It's not an all-or-nothing revelation; it's more like slowly lowering the mask corner by corner. First, you need safe spaces – people or places where you feel accepted even if you slip up. That might be a close friend who knows you have ADHD, a sympathetic coworker, or an ADHD support group. In these environments you can practice just being a little more you.Awareness is the first step. Start by recognizing the ways you've been masking. Make a list (mental or written) of behaviors you do to hide your symptoms. Maybe note times you felt especially drained. As one psychologist suggests, once you see your own patterns, “you can begin making small changes to live more authentically – without the exhaustion.”. Small changes might be as simple as choosing one meeting to not take perfect notes, or allowing yourself one moment of stimming where it feels safe. Each little crack in the facade eases the pressure.You do not have to do it alone. Working with an ADHD coach or therapist can provide support for this journey. They can help you build confidence in your unmasked self and develop coping techniques for tough moments. Support groups (online or in-person) are also powerful – hearing others' stories of unmasking can make you feel understood, and you'll pick up practical tips. Remember: there's no shame in needing a plan or support to shed layers you've held onto for years.Importantly, you have a right to yourself. Unmasking may feel scary at first – you might worry about disappointing people or losing opportunities. Indeed, relationships built on the masked you may strain when the real you emerges. But authenticity also invites real connections. Let people see why you needed that mask, and give them a chance to adjust. Most find that gradual honesty (e.g., letting someone know “I'm actually not great at meetings” or “I need a second to think, I have ADHD”) can lead to more empathy and support in the long run.Tips & StrategiesPractical Daily ToolsUse timers and structure: Make time visible. Set a Pomodoro timer (25 minutes focus, 5 minutes break) for tasks. Many ADHDers swear by visual timers or apps that count down work segments. This keeps your brain anchored and reminds it that it's okay to pause. Timers can also break hyperfocus and prompt you to check in with yourself.Practice mindfulness (even briefly): Mindfulness isn't about chanting om; it's simply noticing what's happening now. Try a two-minute breathing exercise or a grounding check (e.g. count five things you see) when you feel off-balance. Training attention like a muscle can gradually make it easier to stay present, instead of slipping into panicked self-monitoring.Body doubling: Work or study next to someone else, even if they're doing their own thing. This can be a friend, coworker, or a virtual co-working session. The presence of another person gives your brain a subtle social cue to stay on task. It sounds funny, but many ADHDers find it helps them focus and not procrastinate as much.Externalize information: Use sticky notes, apps, whiteboards – anything that gets things out of your head and into the world. Write to-do lists, set multiple alarms, and put reminders in plain sight. Our brains with ADHD often work better with external structures. For example, if you always misplace your keys, have a dedicated hook or dish for them; if you forget errands, put notes on your phone's home screen. This isn't laziness – it's smart strategy.Transition rituals: Create small routines to “switch gears” at key times. For instance, light a candle or play a specific song when you start work, and then another cue (closing a planner, stretching) when you end. These rituals tell your brain “work is starting (or ending)” and can reduce the jarring overwhelm of sudden task changes.Therapeutic Strategies and SupportTalk to an ADHD-aware therapist or coach: A professional who gets ADHD can help you unpack why you feel the need to mask, and teach coping tools that don't involve hiding. For example, they may work on managing emotional overload (RSD), building self-esteem, or creating realistic plans for ADHD challenges. As one source notes, “seek out a therapist or coach who understands what you are going through”. They can guide you through practices like cognitive reframing or co-regulation exercises.Join support groups or communities: You aren't alone in this. Connecting with others who share ADHD (in support groups, forums, or social media) can be a game-change. Sharing stories helps you feel validated and less isolated. You'll learn “if they do it too, it's not just me,” which is huge for reducing shame. Some groups even offer body doubling sessions or accountability partners, blending practical help with empathy.Consider medication or coaching: If you haven't already, speak to a medical professional about ADHD medication or executive function coaching. While not for everyone, proper medication can reduce the intensity of symptoms, which in turn can lighten the masking load (for instance, less need to hyper-focus or suppress stims). An ADHD coach or organizer can help set up routines and accountability that make daily life smoother. Even simple tips like using noise-cancelling headphones in an overstimulating class or workspace can cut sensory overload and ease the urge to mask your discomfort.Practice self-regulation techniques: Techniques like co-regulation (doing relaxation exercises with a trusted person) can help you manage anxiety during unmasking. Breathing exercises, grounding, or gentle movement breaks (take a short walk, stretch) can also break cycles of panic when you feel exposed. The key is to have these strategies ready before you need them, so you don't default to the old mask under stress.Mindset Shifts and Self-CompassionReframe your self-talk: Change the narrative from “I'm being fake” to something kind like “I'm doing what I need to feel safe right now. This simple mental shift reduces self-blame. Remember: masking began for a reason. It was a way to protect yourself in situations that felt unsafe or unaccommodating. Treat masking as what it is – a survival strategy – not a character flaw.Set realistic expectations (“Good enough is enough”): One therapist advises: you don't have to be perfect. If you mentally prepare for an outing by saying “I will do okay, but I might feel tired and that's fine,” you're giving yourself permission to be human. Lower the stakes. If a conversation goes a bit off script, remind yourself it's not the end of the world. You're learning new habits, so expect some wobble at first.Take structured breaks: Masking is tiring; build in after-care. Plan downtime after social or high-mask situations. For instance, if you have a big meeting, schedule a 15-minute quiet break afterward to decompress (read, meditate, or just stare at the ceiling). These “mask rest” breaks are not indulgence but necessary refueling. Even during an event, sneak micro-breaks: a few deep breaths in the restroom or a moment outside can reset your system.Engage in self-care rituals: After masking sessions, do something comforting: perhaps rock on a chair, hug a pillow, doodle, or listen to your favorite music. Physical movement can help shake off tension. Journaling can also help: write down what parts of the interaction felt draining, what felt okay, and what small things helped you cope. Each insight is gold for next time.Offer yourself compassion: Recognize the courage it takes to gradually be yourself. Each time you unmask a little, you're practicing bravery. When you catch yourself slipping into shame or “shoulding” on yourself, gently pause and remind: You deserve care and acceptance, even while you're figuring this out. Affirmations like “I am learning to be me” or celebrating small wins (e.g. “I spoke up for my needs today”) reinforce a kinder inner voice.ConclusionMasking may have been part of our childhood toolkit for surviving a world that didn't seem built for us, but carrying that weight forever is optional. As research shows, chronic masking comes with costs – physical, emotional, relational – that we are not obligated to pay indefinitely. By understanding why we masked and how it wears us down, we gain the power to change course. Unmasking is a journey of self-discovery and patience. It means gradually replacing exhaustion with authenticity. It means finding and creating spaces where our real selves can breathe.Finally, remember: there is no single “right way” to do this. Some days you'll need the mask a little longer; other days you'll fling it off completely. Each step toward honesty is progress. Embrace the support around you, use the tools that work, and give yourself credit. Over time, you'll find that as the masks slowly lift, life feels lighter – and so do you.This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe
Many people discover they are autistic only after years of struggling with eating disorders. This episode explores how a late autism diagnosis can reshape recovery by offering new understanding, compassion, and practical tools that fit the neurodivergent brain. Understanding a Late Autism Diagnosis Receiving an autism diagnosis in adulthood can bring both clarity and grief. It helps explain lifelong struggles with sensory overload, food textures, or social expectations, while revealing how years of misdiagnosis delayed meaningful support. In recovery, recognizing autism can change everything by connecting eating patterns to sensory differences and masking rather than willpower or motivation. Masking, Sensory Needs, and Food Autistic masking often overlaps with eating disorder behaviors. Restricting food, eating “normally” in social settings, or following rigid meal plans can become ways to hide difference and avoid judgment. This chronic effort to appear typical creates exhaustion and disconnection from true needs. At the same time, sensory experiences around food are often intense. Taste, smell, temperature, and texture can feel overwhelming or unpredictable. Foods that others find pleasant may feel unsafe or even painful. Sustainable recovery begins when we make space for sensory preferences and allow eating to feel safe rather than forced. ARFID and Autism Overlap Avoidant or Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) frequently occurs alongside autism. This overlap reflects sensory sensitivities, fear of choking or nausea, and low appetite rather than body image concerns. Recognizing this link shifts the goal of recovery away from compliance and toward creating safety, autonomy, and predictability in eating. Intersectionality in Diagnosis and Recovery Autism and eating disorders cannot be separated from the realities of race, gender, body size, class, and sexuality. Marginalized people are less likely to be diagnosed early and more likely to experience bias in treatment. Fat, BIPOC, and queer autistic people are often labeled as resistant when their needs are simply misunderstood. A liberation-based approach to recovery asks how we can build care that honors the whole person. It challenges systems that pathologize difference and reframes healing as a process of reclaiming identity and dignity, not just changing eating behaviors. Case Example Dr. Marianne shares the story of a fat, queer woman of color who learned she was autistic in her late 30s after years of being told she was noncompliant in treatment. Providers dismissed her sensory distress and focused only on weight loss. She masked constantly, pretending to eat foods that overwhelmed her senses in order to appear cooperative. Her diagnosis transformed her recovery. She began to design meals that respected her sensory needs, sought affirming providers, and connected with other neurodivergent women of color. Once her care aligned with her full identity, shame gave way to self-trust, and recovery finally felt sustainable. Pathways Toward Neurodivergent-Affirming Recovery A late autism diagnosis does not make recovery harder, but it does require reframing what recovery means. Sensory-attuned approaches allow individuals to choose foods that feel safe rather than forcing exposure to distressing ones. Predictable meal routines and gentle flexibility can replace pressure to eat intuitively when interoception is limited. Executive functioning supports such as reminders, meal prep systems, and visual cues make daily nourishment possible. These tools are not crutches; they are accommodations. Recovery also involves boundary-setting and self-advocacy after years of masking needs. Finding autistic and intersectional community can turn isolation into belonging, making recovery not just about food but about identity and connection. Who This Episode Is For This episode is for autistic adults in recovery, clinicians learning to support neurodivergent clients, and anyone who has realized that standard eating disorder treatment does not fit. It also speaks to people exploring how autism, sensory processing, and identity intersect with food and body experiences. Related Episodes for Autistics With Eating Disorders Autism & Eating Disorders Explained: Signs, Struggles, & Support That Works on Apple & Spotify. Autism & Anorexia: When Masking Looks Like Restriction, & Recovery Feels Unsafe on Apple & Spotify More Autism Resources for Eating Issues If these experiences sound familiar, explore Dr. Marianne's ARFID & Selective Eating Course. This self-paced course teaches consent-based and sensory-attuned strategies for reducing eating distress and building a more supportive relationship with food at your own pace.
This October, we're going Behind the Mask — looking at what we hide, what we reveal, and how adopted people learn to show up as their full selves. April sits down with Melissa Guida-Richards — adopted person, author, and creator of the Adoption Changemakers Conference — to talk about authenticity, culture, and the importance of real connection in the adoption community. Together, they explore what it means to unmask, how to hold space for nuance, and where joy and healing live in this work. Follow Melissa Guida-Richards on social media @adoptee_thoughts and visit adoptee-thoughts.com for details about the Adoption Changemakers Conference. Follow April Dinwoodie on Instagram, Facebook, and X (Twitter) @JuneInApril, on YouTube @AprilDinwoodie, and visit JuneInApril.com to keep the conversation going.
Join Sue for an upcoming Live Virtual Workshop where you will learn from Sue practical tips & strategies to make a difference. In this episode, we will discuss: ✅ ADHD/Autism Overlap: Most ADHDers also have autism, about 75% overlap. ✅ Girls Masking: Girls camouflage symptoms better, leading to underdiagnosis. ✅ Autistic Burnout: Undiagnosed autistic teens face severe burnout and breakdowns. ✅ Universal Accommodations: Classroom accommodations should universally benefit all students. ✅ Diagnosis Importance: Diagnosis builds self-awareness for different brain functioning. ✅ Confidentiality Matters: Teenagers need clear confidentiality boundaries from teachers. ✅ Library Resources: Make neurodiversity books available in school libraries. Read more about this podcast in the show notes found via the link below suelarkey.com.au/camouflaging-asd-and-adhd-female-students Join the Facebook group specifically for this podcast www.facebook.com/groups/suelarkeypodcastcommunity/ Join my Neurodiversity Network suelarkey.com.au/neurodiversity-network/ Follow my Instagram account for regular tips www.instagram.com/sue.larkey/ To learn more about teaching or understanding ASD, please visit my website below. elearning.suelarkey.com.au
Ein Satz kann ein Leben prägen: “Ich bin böse.” Saskia war da!! und. gemeinsam nehmen wir dich mit in eine ehrliche, dichte Reise durch Autismus, ADHS und Hochbegabung – ganz ohne “Superkraft”-Glitzer, dafür mit klarer Sprache, handfesten Beispielen und einer Haltung, die Schule für alle leichter macht. Saskia erzählt, wie sich Masking anfühlt, warum Prüfungsangst existenziell werden kann und wieso ein Fidget-Tool keine pädagogische Revolution, sondern gesunder Menschenverstand ist. Wir schauen auf die Momente, in denen eine Diagnose nicht nur Antworten gibt, sondern Scham bricht und Kooperation überhaupt erst möglich macht.Gemeinsam legen wir die Reibungsflächen offen: der Übergang von Grundschule zur weiterführenden Schule, Pubertät und die selektive Logik mancher Systeme, besonders am Gymnasium. Wir sprechen über Lehrkräfte, die Türen öffnen, über Kollegien, die bremsen, und über den Unterschied zwischen Haltung und Hype. Statt Beweislast: Vorausdenken. Statt Einzelfall-Helden: kleine, wirksame Stellschrauben – klare Rituale, Reizreduktion, Wahlaufgaben, transparente Prüfungen, echte Pausen. Unsere Leitmetapher: Aufzüge an jeder Station. Barrierefreiheit ist Standard, nicht Sonderfall. Davon profitieren alle Kinder, nicht nur die neurodivergenten.Saskia findet ihr sowieso aber ich verlinke sie natürlich trotzdem mit ihrem Instargam Profil und ihrer Website - beides ist wirklich als wertvolle Unterstützung für alle frei zugänglich. Danke Saskia!!!Schick mir eine kleine Textnachricht ❤️Hol dir mein Dokument für neuroinklusiven Schulunterricht! Ich komme auch an deine Schule und bilde das gesamte Kollegium zu den Themen ADHS, Autismus & herausforderndem Verhalten in der Schule weiter! ➡️ Du findest mich auf Instagram unter @kapierfehler und auf meiner Website. Abonniere meinen Newsletter!Liebe Grüße,deine Corina
Inattentive ADHD often goes unnoticed. It's an easier type of ADHD to miss because it's more internal and less outwardly visible than its hyperactive, impulsive counterpart. But left unaddressed, inattentive ADHD can be just as disruptive.Boys with the inattentive type are especially overlooked — they don't match the stereotype of what an “ADHD boy” is supposed to look like.So when Brandon Saiz wrote to us about his experience getting diagnosed with ADHD later in life, we knew we had to talk to him. After meeting with Brandon, it was clear his story needed to be shared.Content warning: This episode includes discussion of suicide. Please skip it if that's not something you're up for right now.For more on this topic:The 3 types of ADHDListen: The “devastating” findings of a decades-long ADHD studyBrandon Saiz on SubstackDuck, Duck! It's a Goose: Brandon's video gameTimestamps(01:54) Brandon's background(09:23) How Brandon's inattentive-type ADHD was overlooked(14:00) On suicidal ideation and inattentive ADHD (19:57) Brandon's advice to othersFor a transcript and more resources, visit the Hyperfocus page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at hyperfocus@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
If you've ever wondered, “Is my teen just moody—or is something deeper going on?” this one's for you. In this candid conversation, we sit down with Dr. Melissa Wellner, double board–certified adult, child & adolescent psychiatrist and founder of Annapolis Psychiatry, to break down what's typical vs. concerning, how to start supportive (non-scary) conversations, when to loop in a pro, and why caring for your mental health is part of caring for your kids. In this episode: The gut-check for moms: when to trust your instincts and call the pediatrician School says they're fine…but your gut says otherwise (what to do next) Masking: why high achievers can still be struggling Age-by-age trends: anxiety in younger kids, depression in tweens/teens, and how conditions overlap (ADHD + anxiety) Therapy vs. medication: what's first-line, what's optional, and how to think about timing Scripts to start the talk without stigma (and without embarrassing your teen) The mom side: guilt, mental load, and setting boundaries without shame This episode is brought to you by Jukestir. Learn more here: https://jukestir.com/ Wellness: Rebranded is turning 3 years old! We are hosting a live birthday party on October 23rd in Annapolis and would love for you to join. Learn more about the party here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1579100093889?aff=oddtdtcreator Connect with Dr. Wellner: Website: https://annapolispsychiatry.com/ Listen to the Parenting Shrinkwrapped Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-shrink-wrapped/id1766578984 Connect with us! The Ultimate Self Care Planner: https://elizabethharrisnutrition.ck.page/9e817ab37e Elizabeth Harris, MS, RDN, LDN FB: Health and Healing with Intuitive Eating community https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthandhealingwithintuitiveeating Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ElizabethHarrisNutrition Free download to break up with diet culture: https://elizabethharrisnutrition.com/invisible-diet Tara De Leon, Master Personal Trainer Email: FitnessTrainer19@hotmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara_de_leon_fitness Join Tara's Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/5290e3f13e08/email-signup Maria Winters, LCPC, NCC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coaching_therapist/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/MWcoachingtherapy Website: www.thecoachingtherapist.com
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Welcome to another episode of ADHD-ish! In this thought-provoking conversation, host Diann Wingert is joined by neurodivergent leadership coach Ron Sosa for an in-depth conversation on neurodiversity, intersectionality, and authenticity. Together, they explore the complex ways our overlapping identities, including neurodivergence, sexuality, race, and disability, shape how we experience the world and present ourselves to others. Ron shares his personal journey navigating multiple identities, including being a white, gay, hard-of-hearing man with both ADHD and autism, and opens up about the nuanced decisions behind which identities he chooses to “lead with” in different settings.The episode delves into real-life challenges like masking, passing, and code-switching, examining how these adaptive behaviors can be both empowering and exhausting—depending on whether they're chosen or enforced out of necessity. Diann and Ron discuss the complicated layer of “family secrets”, the constant mental calculations neurodivergent and marginalized individuals make around safety and acceptance, and offer powerful insights about reclaiming agency in how we self-identify. What you'll hear in this episode:How Identities Stack and Interact: Ron walks us through how he thinks about and organizes his different identities—ADHD, autistic, white male, gay, and hard of hearing—and the personal and social factors that influence which aspects he shares in different situations.Navigating Safety and Disclosure: The conversation highlights the calculation involved in deciding which identity to disclose, considering factors like safety, context, and anticipated reactions from others.Invisible and Visible Disabilities: Ron shares honest experiences about masking, particularly with his hearing impairment, and the additional challenges posed by disabilities that are not immediately visible.Masking as Tool vs. Survival Mechanism: Diann and Ron discuss the difference between masking as a conscious, empowering choice and masking as a depleting necessity, including how the need to “pass” or “camouflage” can both protect and exhaust someone with multiple marginalized identities.Passing, Code-Switching, and Camouflage: The benefits and drawbacks of being able to “pass” in certain environments, including the emotional toll and moments of empowerment when one can choose how and when to reveal their authentic self.Guest Bio:Ron Sosa is a neurodivergent, gay, hard-of-hearing leader who has walked unconventional paths through veterinary medicine, coaching, and leadership development. From the client service desk to executive roles, his story isn't linear, and that's a testament to resilience, reinvention, and radical empathy.Too many leaders feel like they're wearing a mask and are exhausted from trying to fit into outdated expectations. They're stuck managing overwhelm, struggling with conflict, and questioning whether they belong in leadership at all. They are not broken; the system is. Ron helps leaders unlearn what leadership “should” look like and rebuild from a place of clarity, confidence, and alignment with their neurotype, values, and rhythm through Syn-APT Neuroinclusive Leadership.Find Ron Sosa online:Website - LinkedIn Mentioned during the episode:Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' Stages of Grief...
Welcome to another episode of ADHD-ish! In this thought-provoking conversation, host Diann Wingert is joined by neurodivergent leadership coach Ron Sosa for an in-depth conversation on neurodiversity, intersectionality, and authenticity. Together, they explore the complex ways our overlapping identities, including neurodivergence, sexuality, race, and disability, shape how we experience the world and present ourselves to others. Ron shares his personal journey navigating multiple identities, including being a white, gay, hard-of-hearing man with both ADHD and autism, and opens up about the nuanced decisions behind which identities he chooses to “lead with” in different settings.The episode delves into real-life challenges like masking, passing, and code-switching, examining how these adaptive behaviors can be both empowering and exhausting—depending on whether they're chosen or enforced out of necessity. Diann and Ron discuss the complicated layer of “family secrets”, the constant mental calculations neurodivergent and marginalized individuals make around safety and acceptance, and offer powerful insights about reclaiming agency in how we self-identify. What you'll hear in this episode:How Identities Stack and Interact: Ron walks us through how he thinks about and organizes his different identities—ADHD, autistic, white male, gay, and hard of hearing—and the personal and social factors that influence which aspects he shares in different situations.Navigating Safety and Disclosure: The conversation highlights the calculation involved in deciding which identity to disclose, considering factors like safety, context, and anticipated reactions from others.Invisible and Visible Disabilities: Ron shares honest experiences about masking, particularly with his hearing impairment, and the additional challenges posed by disabilities that are not immediately visible.Masking as Tool vs. Survival Mechanism: Diann and Ron discuss the difference between masking as a conscious, empowering choice and masking as a depleting necessity, including how the need to “pass” or “camouflage” can both protect and exhaust someone with multiple marginalized identities.Passing, Code-Switching, and Camouflage: The benefits and drawbacks of being able to “pass” in certain environments, including the emotional toll and moments of empowerment when one can choose how and when to reveal their authentic self.Guest Bio:Ron Sosa is a neurodivergent, gay, hard-of-hearing leader who has walked unconventional paths through veterinary medicine, coaching, and leadership development. From the client service desk to executive roles, his story isn't linear, and that's a testament to resilience, reinvention, and radical empathy.Too many leaders feel like they're wearing a mask and are exhausted from trying to fit into outdated expectations. They're stuck managing overwhelm, struggling with conflict, and questioning whether they belong in leadership at all. They are not broken; the system is. Ron helps leaders unlearn what leadership “should” look like and rebuild from a place of clarity, confidence, and alignment with their neurotype, values, and rhythm through Syn-APT Neuroinclusive Leadership.Find Ron Sosa online:Website - LinkedIn Mentioned during the episode:Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' Stages of Grief...
Ein Satz kann ein ganzes Leben drücken: „Du könntest, wenn du wolltest.“ Wir nehmen ihn auseinander – mit einer Familiengeschichte, in der Drillinge, ADHS, Hochbegabung, Masking und Mobbing aufeinandertreffen und trotzdem Platz für Nähe, Humor und kluge Entscheidungen bleibt. Anna erzählt, wie sie mit vier neurodivergenten Kindern zwischen Schulfrust, Elternsprechtagen und IQ-Tests immer wieder neu priorisiert: Wer braucht jetzt wirklich was? Welche Regeln regulieren – und welche strafen nur? Warum Waldorf an ihrem Ort funktioniert, aber nicht automatisch überall, und wieso ein mutiger Klassensprung zum Wendepunkt werden konnte. Wir sprechen über die unsichtbare Seite von Angst, die oft hinter Schlagfertigkeit und Style verschwindet, über Lehrkräfte, die Körpersprache lesen, und über die Macht einer Gemeinschaft, die Sicherheit ernst meint.Genauso ehrlich wird es persönlich: Annas späte ADHS-Diagnose entkoppelt Selbstzweifel von Charakter und macht Muster sichtbar – von exekutiver Dysfunktion über Underachievement bis zum Zickzack-Leistungsprofil. Sie beschreibt, was wirklich hilft: verlässliche Routinen (Spaziergänge, kaltes Wasser, Paarzeit), klare Grenzen gegen Perfektionismus, Reizmanagement im Alltag, und eine realistische Sicht auf Hormone. Pubertät der Kinder und Perimenopause der Mutter sind kein Albtraum, wenn man weiß, wo man Halt findet – in Beziehungen, die tragen, und in Systemen, die man notfalls wechselt.Wenn du neurodivergente Elternschaft lebst, Lehrkraft bist oder einfach besser verstehen willst, warum „können“ bei ADHS nicht konstant ist, findest du hier Orientierung, Sprache und Mut. Hör rein, teile die Folge mit Menschen, denen sie helfen könnte, und sag uns: Welche Entscheidung hat bei dir alles verändert?Du findest Anna auf Instagram unter @hey_mamaleben.Schick mir eine kleine Textnachricht ❤️Hol dir mein Dokument für neuroinklusiven Schulunterricht! Ich komme auch an deine Schule und bilde das gesamte Kollegium zu den Themen ADHS, Autismus & herausforderndem Verhalten in der Schule weiter! ➡️ Du findest mich auf Instagram unter @kapierfehler und auf meiner Website. Abonniere meinen Newsletter!Liebe Grüße,deine Corina
In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I address the prevalence of masking and overcompensating as survival mechanisms for first-gen and neurodivergent students. I also share persona reflections and explore why these behaviors develop, how they can lead to burnout, and what practical strategies you can test out today to resist them. You'll learn the importance of finding identity-affirming spaces, setting boundaries, advocating for accommodations, and more.Sign up for the free Latinas in Podcasting Summit here (this is my affiliate link).Learn more about my coaching services here and get on the waitlist for my group coaching pods here.Get your free copy of my Grad School Femtoring Resource Kit here.Support our free resources with a one-time or monthly donation.To download episode transcripts and access more resources, go to my website: https://gradschoolfemtoring.com/podcast/ This podcast is a proud member of the Atabey & Co. Network.*The Grad School Femtoring Podcast is for educational purposes only and not intended to be a substitute for therapy or other professional services.* Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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“I'm Fine”: What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, I've been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience — and his signature phrase: “I'm fine.” He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasn't fine at all. In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting — and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for himself, to the senior living community he resisted but came to love, my dad's story is a mirror for the ways we all struggle with change, masking, and accepting support. I also talk about my own journey: being diagnosed with ADHD at 19, and more recently, with autism — a diagnosis that really came into focus during a season of burnout. Like my dad, I've had to learn that determination isn't enough. Saying “I'm fine” isn't enough. What matters is adapting — and allowing ourselves to receive help when we need it. If you've ever caught yourself saying “I'm fine” when you're not, this one's for you. In This Episode The phrase my dad used that wasn't always true — “I'm fine.” How his resistance to adapting shaped my understanding of masking. The trike that gave him joy he wouldn't have chosen for himself. Why moving into a senior living community became one of the best decisions he never wanted to make. What his struggles taught me about ADHD, autism, burnout, and learning to adapt. Resources & Links Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: Join our virtual co-working community: Support the podcast on Patreon:
In today's story we explore what it's like to be on the autistic spectrum, and more specifically, how a later life diagnosis can totally change the way you view the world and yourself. Aurelie, our storyteller today, was an autism expert, a clinical psychologist who had trained with some of the premier autism experts in the country…yet she didn't discover her own autism until she was 40 years old. This episode explores why women on the spectrum are so often missed, how women on the autistic spectrum are so often masters of masking, which means imitating the mannerisms and behaviors of neurotypical people, thus allowing them to both fit in and also to be left hiding in plain sight. Support the show! https://www.buzzsprout.com/396871/supportDr. Aurelie Welterlinhttps://www.ncawag.net/our-team/dr-aurelie-welterlin"I Love You, I Hate You, Are You My Mom?" An intensive experiential workshop exploring transference with Dr. H and Dr. Hillary McBride, Feb 4th-6th 2026 in Joshua Tree, CA https://www.craigheacockmd.com/i-love-you-i-hate-you-are-you-my-mom/BFTA episode recommendations/Podcast pagehttps://www.craigheacockmd.com/podcast-page/Support the show
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When ADHD Wants Adventure and Autism Just Wants a Nap Patricia (she/her) explores what it means to show up authentically as a neurodivergent person—especially when navigating the tension between wanting novelty (hello ADHD/AuDHD brains!) and craving sameness (thank you autism). She shares candid stories about celebrating her anniversary, managing low energy, social interactions, and dealing with conflict. Patricia also opens up about balancing autistic traits, ADHD novelty-seeking, PDA (persistent drive for autonomy), and honoring her sensitivity. If you're autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, this episode offers relatable honesty, self-compassion, and a reminder that sensitivity is nothing to apologize for. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Why showing up authentically—even when low energy or struggling—creates safety and deeper connection. · The push-pull between ADHD's love of novelty and autism's need for sameness. · A vulnerable look at performance pressure, PDA (persistent drive for autonomy), and the tension of “supposed to” versus authentic presence. · Reflections on navigating conflict, rejection, and the looping thoughts that come with OCD and sensitivity. · Stories of how small moments of authenticity (complimenting a server, connecting with strangers, sharing vulnerability) can bring ease and humor. · The joys of volunteering with puppies, finding novelty in animals, and noticing the small things that bring comfort. · Honest sharing about energy struggles, self-judgment, and learning to honor your body's signals. KEY TAKEAWAYS · You don't have to perform or mask to be worthy of connection. · Novelty and sameness can co-exist—it's about experimenting and noticing what feels supportive. · Authenticity often comes in small, ordinary moments that bring relief and connection. · Conflict and rejection are painful, but self-trust and curiosity can soften the edges. · Sensitivity is not something to apologize for—it's a way of being in the world. SOUND BITES "Show up as you are." "I felt very inadequate." "I really resist it." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. TOPICS COVERED (please adjust for addition of introduction) 00:00 Embracing Authenticity 09:12 Navigating Social Expectations 17:54 Finding Balance in Emotions PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
In this episode, Charity Rochford of NeuroFam hosts an open and heartfelt conversation with her daughter, Corinne, about life as a teenage girl on the spectrum. From navigating friendships and social pressures to embracing strengths in theater and creativity, Corinne shares the challenges and gifts of her journey with autism. Their dialogue highlights how autism can present differently in girls, the impact of masking and people-pleasing, and what it means to find authenticity in relationships. This episode offers validation, hope, and practical insight for families, educators, and professionals seeking to better understand autistic girls' experiences.https://www.ourneurofam.com/www.springbrookbehavioral.comwww.convergeautism.comwww.allabilitiesnofilter.com
In this powerful episode of Mental Health News Radio, host Kristin Sunanta Walker sits down with Dr. Stephanie Holmes—counselor, author, and advocate—for an intimate look at the overlooked experiences of women on the autism spectrum. Stephanie shares her family's multi-layered journey with neurodivergence, from her daughter's diagnosis more than 20 years ago to her husband's and her own later discoveries. She and Kristin dive into:Why so many women go undiagnosed or misdiagnosed for decades.The unique pressures of masking, fawning, and being “too much” in a world that wasn't built for autistic women.How late diagnosis transforms identity, relationships, and self-acceptance.Stephanie's books, including Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope and Joy Navigating the Neurodiverse Family Journey and Uniquely Us: Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage.Her current work amplifying autistic voices in education and research.Connect with Dr. Stephanie Holmes:Website: https://www.holmesasr.comNeurodiverse Christian Marriage: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.
***Please subscribe to Matt's Substack at https://worthknowing.substack.com/*** Is the Backlash the Beginning? Matt Robison is joined by author Greg Olear to discuss how blatant corruption and abuses of power by Donald Trump might be opening the door to the rise of a more focused opposition. From manipulating law enforcement to target his enemies, attacking free speech, financial corruption tied to his cabinet, the collapse of economic policy, and the erosion of U.S. soft power, the public's increasing disapproval of Trump might also mean an opportunity, if the nearly 50% of Americans who strongly disapprove of him can mobilize and target their energy.00:00 Introduction and Overview05:46 Discussion on Trump's Actions and Consequences12:20 Economic Policies and Public Discontent27:47 Midterms and Gerrymandering Concerns33:18 Trump's UN Speech and Global Reactions40:19 Trump's Corruption and Financial Ties56:12 Closing Thoughts and Future Outlook
In this first of a two-part episode, Ben is joined by Cathy Wassell - CEO of Autistic Girls Network, founder of The Haven online school, and successful author.Neurodivergent herself and mum to two autistic children, Cathy is at the front line supporting autistic girls, women, and families, while campaigning for earlier diagnosis and a more up-to-date education system.With both lived experience and a Masters in Autism, Cathy brings honesty and expertise to a conversation that busts myths, challenges stigma, and shines a light on what's really going on for autistic girls and non-binary young people today.00:00 Introduction1:17 On the Frontline: Supporting Girls with Autism7:30 Autism: How It Presents in Boys VS Girls10:00 Why Situational Mutism VS Selective Mutism?13:03 Masking & Sensory Differences: The Danger of Gender Bias in Autism19:46 Neurodivergent Children: Navigating the Secondary School Transition23:07 ND Passionate Interests: Explained26:33 Why Are Autistic Girls Diagnosed Later than Boys?32:30 Parent Groups for ND Children35:00 Autistic Girls and Navigating Puberty38:57 If Cathy Had a Magic Wand: Her Vision for ND Change43:28 Spotting Autism in Girls: Cathy's Checklist45:24 Coming Up in Part Two_________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by ADHD & autistic entrepreneur Ben Branson. Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence. No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benCathy Wassell @autisticgirlsnetworkIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to episode 108. If you've ever felt like the 9–5 world just isn't for you, you're not alone. This episode shines a light on why traditional jobs can feel overwhelming for those who are neurodivergent - think unclear expectations, social pressures, and sensory overload - and the opportunities that present themselves in self-employment. Starting your own business can bring freedom, fulfilment and confidence to be authentically you. Listen in for practical tips on avoiding burnout, outsourcing, and finding the confidence to build a work environment in which you can thrive. Let's dive in! · Redefining the “rules” of work – Being your own boss and the freedom to design a work environment that supports your individual needs. · Finding your people - Why connecting with supportive communities builds understanding, encouragement, and a sense of belonging that traditional workplaces often lack. · Still an employee? There's good news - you don't need a formal diagnosis to ask for adjustments in the workplace. This episode is sponsored by Georgia Cambridge, Pet Loss Counsellor Connect with Georgia here on Facebook. SPECIAL LISTENER OFFER! Until 31st October 2025 join the Happier Life Hub for just £1. Easy to cancel after the first month, or £20pm thereafter if you'd like to continue. Get the offer HERE. Click here for all the details on the Happier Life Hub. If this podcast episode resonated with you and you'd like to support me to make more podcast content, please buy me a coffee here - https://ko-fi.com/happierlifecoach - your support is hugely appreciated. You can also connect with me over on Instagram @happierlifecoach Remember to hit subscribe or follow to be alerted when new episodes go live! Season 5 of this podcast is sponsored by Stephanie Ward of The Spicy Brain Collective. We thank Stephanie hugely for her ongoing support. https://www.thespicybraincollective.com https://www.instagram.com/thespicybraincollective https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-ward-sbc
Do you recognize that underlying feeling as if you're always tired? Being autistic can be difficult. Masking, socializing and trying to fit in—all drain our energy and lead to autistic fatigue. Here are some ideas for how to get some relief.Support the showSunsama free trial: https://try.sunsama.com/xi4blkokndgk RATED IN THE TOP 0.5% GLOBALLY with more than 1,000,000 downloads! If you are an autistic person who has written a book about autism or if you have a guest suggestion email me at info@theautisticwoman.com. InstagramKo-fi, PayPal, PatreonLinktreeEmail: info@theautisticwoman.comWebsite
In this heart-opening conversation, NeuroDuo's Lauren and Tom share how their late diagnoses of autism and ADHD transformed not only their individual lives but their relationship, creativity, and self-acceptance. They talk about battling stigma, navigating sensory overload, and learning to create content that mirrors their real experience—not performative or polished, but real, resonant, and healing. From clock ticks in an assessment room to the quiet validation of knowing you're not alone, this episode explores how authenticity becomes therapy—and how being understood can change everything.linktr.ee/neuroduoBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.
Dana Dzamic is an ADHD coach and consultant specialising in masking in women. Dana has helped thousands of ADHD women understand themselves and feel less isolated in their ADHD experience. The ADHD Chatter team have mistakenly referred to Dana as a doctor. This is incorrect and we wish to make that clear that Dana is not a doctor. Further, Dana has made us aware that she does not view herself as a 'world leading' ADHD expert, but rather an ADHD expert. Chapters: 00:00 Trailer 02:07 Dana's mission 03:32 Why so many women get diagnosed late 07:01 The hidden costs of masking 13:08 ADHD burnout explained 15:25 The solution to emotional burnout 19:32 RSD 23:06 Tiimo advert 24:17 Is people pleasing a learnt behaviour 25:46 Hidden costs of people pleasing 27:47 Social overwhelm explained 33:48 Overwhelm vs laziness 38:14 The solution to overwhelm 39:51 Is ADHD a lonely experience 43:38 The fear of unmasking 45:19 How our environment impacts our ADHD 48:51 A new ADHD coping strategy 51:23 The ADHD item section 52:45 The ADHD agony aunt 56:35 3 rules to live by Get 30% off an annual Tiimo subscription
In this episode of Converge Autism Radio, hosts Stephanie Holmes and Jeremy Rochford welcome internationally renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Tony Attwood. Together they discuss his groundbreaking new book, Relationship Counseling with Autistic Neurodiverse Couples: A Guide for Professionals (co-authored with Maxine Aston). Dr. Attwood shares insights from decades of work in autism, exploring unique challenges in mixed neurotype relationships, autistic women in partnerships, and practical strategies for communication. Stephanie and Jeremy also reflect on their personal and professional experiences, offering hope and resources for couples navigating neurodiverse relationships.Learn more and order the book: https://tonyattwood.com.au/ and https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Counselling-Autistic-Neurodiverse-Couples/dp/1805013025?utm_source=chatgpt.comwww.springbrookbehavioral.comwww.convergeautism.comwww.allabilitiesnofilter.com
Danielle und Katja sprechen mit Katrin Hansch – Mutter zweier neurodivergenter Kinder, systemische Beraterin und selbst autistisch. Mit viel Herz, Humor und Klarheit erzählt sie von ihrem Familienalltag jenseits gesellschaftlicher Erwartungen: strukturiert statt spontan, reizarm statt trubelig. Wir sprechen über erste Hinweise auf Autismus, den langen Weg zur Diagnose, das Leben als autistische Mutter, Masking, Stimming, Reizüberflutung, Meltdowns und alltägliche Herausforderungen – und darüber, warum es so wichtig ist, den eigenen Weg zu gehen. Katrin macht Mut und gibt praktische Einblicke, wie Familien im Autismus-Spektrum gestärkt werden können. Shownotes:Katrins Buch "Wenn wir alle zusammen lachen": https://amzn.to/4kOFSO4, Katrins Homepage: www.DifferentPlanet.de, Anlaufstellen (u. a. für die Diagnostik): www.differentplanet.de/2024/05/18/anlaufstellen, Autismus Deutschland: www.autismus.de, Links zu den PDA Verbänden: www.pda-Autismus-verein.org und www.pdasociety.org.uk+++ Alle Rabattcodes und Infos zu unseren Werbepartnern findet ihr hier: https://linktr.ee/Wunschkind_Podcast ++++++ Unsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://datenschutz.ad-alliance.de/podcast.html +++ Wir verarbeiten im Zusammenhang mit dem Angebot unserer Podcasts Daten. Wenn Sie der automatischen Übermittlung der Daten widersprechen wollen, klicken Sie hier: https://datenschutz.ad-alliance.de/podcast.htmlUnsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://art19.com/privacy. Die Datenschutzrichtlinien für Kalifornien sind unter https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info abrufbar.
Hey friends—today I'm getting personal. I share what it was like to tell my dad and mom about my autism diagnosis at 50, how internalized ableism whispered “you're not autistic enough,” and why believing kids is one of the most powerful ways to lower anxiety. We talk masking that looked like “success,” sensory differences that shaped my days, the “my regular” story (Hi, Dairy Queen), and the moment validation turned fear into relief. If you're a parent, therapist, educator—or navigating your own neurodivergent identity—this one's for you. What you'll learn How internalized ableism shows up as “you seem so normal” and why it harms kids and adults The difference between looking fine and being okay: masking vs. mental health Sensory realities (sound, clothing, routines) that get mislabeled Why believing kids is a clinical + parenting superpower for reducing anxiety Simple ways families and professionals can respond with support ⭐️ Get your FREE GET TO KNOW MY CHILD SNAPSHOT Set your child up for success by providing essential information at a glance! This one-page snapshot takes less than 5 minutes to complete and helps anyone supporting your child, including camp counselors, coaches, teachers, therapists, sitters, and more. Parents click here ⭐️ Click here for free resources, trainings, and continuing education- ⭐️ Hey Therapists! Come on over for NEURODIVERSITY-AFFIRMING CONTINUING EDUCATION Enhance your therapeutic approach with our affirming and engaging trainings while earning CE credits to fulfill your professional development requirements, as our courses are approved by the NBCC. Therapists click here ⭐️ Welcome to our PARENT MASTERCLASSES WITH Q&A Each live class is packed with supportive strategies on the topics parents want most. Can't make it live? No worries, because you'll get the replay. Sign up to be the first to know when the next masterclass is scheduled. Parents, click here for your masterclasses ❤️ You're invited to my FACEBOOK GROUPS. Can't wait to see you there:) Parents, come on over and join the Autism ADHD Facebook Group for Parents Therapists & educators, join the Facebook Group for professionals Subscribe, Support & Share
In this episode, host Kate Paradis, sound masking specialist at Soft dB, sits down with Francois Gariepy, a seasoned acoustic engineer with over two decades of experience, to unpack the world of sound masking in today's office environments. Together, they dive into why noise and lack of privacy remain top challenges in open offices, and how sound masking provides a proven solution that supports focus, wellness and productivity. You'll learn how these systems work, what sets them apart from noise cancellation and why proper installation and calibration are critical for success. Along the way, Kate and Francois also tackle common myths, health misconceptions and the real impact of sound on workplace experience.Sponsor:This episode is sponsored by ODP Business Solutions! Connect with Us:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ifmaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/InternationalFacilityManagementAssociation/Twitter: https://twitter.com/IFMAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifma_hq/YouTube: https://youtube.com/ifmaglobalVisit us at https://ifma.org
Reach out to Author, ADHD Coach and person in long termrecovery Serena Palmer:https://www.serena.consulting/ My Two Brains and Me by Serena Palmer: https://a.co/d/b7Y9qA5 More about box breathing: https://www.verywellhealth.com/box-breathing-8423967 Recovery Literature (quit-lit) recommendation: 24 Hours a Day - https://a.co/d/6Y9iXqe Best piece of Recovery advice: Stay in your own lane Song that symbolizes Recovery to Serena: When Doves Cry by Prince: https://youtu.be/UG3VcCAlUgE?si=zYBo7-63wDb6nDRO SummaryIn this episode of The Way Out Podcast, Serena Palmer sharesher journey through recovery and her experiences with ADHD. She discusses theconnection between ADHD and addiction, the importance of recovery communities,and the role of social media in raising awareness about ADHD. Serena alsohighlights the unique challenges faced by women with ADHD and the impact ofsocietal expectations on their experiences. Through personal anecdotes, sheillustrates the complexities of addiction and the journey to self-acceptanceand healing. In this conversation, Serena Palmer shares her profound journeythrough addiction and recovery, detailing the escalation of her drinking, thebreaking point that led to her seeking help, and the ongoing challenges shefaces in maintaining sobriety. She discusses the insanity of addiction, theturning point in her recovery, and the importance of embracing learning andpersonal growth. Serena emphasizes the power of daily recovery practices, thesignificance of forgiveness, and the role of music in her healing process. Herstory is one of resilience, self-discovery, and the continuous journey ofrecovery. TakeawaysRecovery is about freedom of choices and believing in magic.Many people with ADHD may not realize they are addicts.Social media can be a powerful tool for ADHD awareness.ADHD symptoms can be exacerbated by hormonal changes.Women often experience ADHD differently than men, leading tolate diagnoses.The journey of recovery is often intertwined withunderstanding one's ADHD.Emotional regulation is a significant challenge for thosewith ADHD.Masking behaviors can lead to exhaustion and addiction.Personal stories of addiction can help others feel lessalone.Recovery is a continuous journey that requires honesty andsupport. Binge drinking escalated to dangerous levels.Addiction leads to a cycle of self-loathing and harm.The breaking point often comes unexpectedly.Recovery requires facing painful truths.Daily practices are essential for maintaining sobriety.Forgiveness is a crucial part of healing.Emotional regulation is a learned skill.Music can be a powerful tool in recovery.Self-discovery is a continuous journey.Quality of sobriety matters more than duration. Don't forget to check out “The Way Out Playlist” available onlyon Spotify. Curated by all our wonderful guests on the podcast!https://open.spotify.com?episode/07lvzwUq1L6VQGnZuH6OLz?si=3eyd3PxVRWCKz4pTurLcmA (c) 2015 - 2025 The Way Out Podcast | All Rights Reserved. ThemeMusic: “all clear” (https://ketsa.uk/browse-music/)byKetsa (https://ketsa.uk) licensed underCCBY-NC-ND4.0(https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd)
In this episode, I share my personal journey as a late-diagnosed autistic ADHD counselor, psychotherapist, and alcohol coach. I open up about my struggles with busy brain, masking, and the coping mechanisms I used - including alcohol - to manage overwhelming thoughts and emotions. I discuss how societal expectations, trauma, and neurodivergence shaped my identity, and how self-compassion became the key to transforming my relationship with myself and with alcohol. Episode Takeaways: I learned that “busy brain” is not a personality flaw, but a symptom of deeper issues like trauma, neurodivergence, and societal pressure. Alcohol and other coping mechanisms are often solutions to discomfort, not the root problem themselves. Self-compassion, not willpower or harsh self-judgment, is the most effective path to healing and change. Masking and trying to fit in led me to lose touch with my authentic self; unmasking is a gradual, ongoing process. Our inner critic and need to control are often protective strategies developed in response to feeling unsafe or unacceptable. Burnout, stress, and self-sabotage are common among neurodivergent and sensitive people, especially when we ignore our needs. Sharing our stories and struggles helps break the cycle of shame and isolation. True transformation - alchemy - comes from understanding and repurposing our coping strategies, not just suppressing them. Episode links & Resources Join my 5-day Virtual Retreat from 15th - 19th September at hoperisingcoaching.com/5day-vr
Disempowered to Empowered: Meltdowns, Boundaries & Donuts In this heartfelt episode, Patricia (she/her) shares three powerful personal stories that highlight the challenges—and wins—that come with being a sensitive, creative, neurodivergent human. From navigating family dynamics around living arrangements, to reclaiming power after a disempowering volunteer experience, and even exploring the emotional depth behind a simple craving for an apple fritter, Patricia offers an intimate and validating glimpse into what it's like to be an AuDHDer who feels things deeply—and still chooses to show up. KEY TAKEAWAYS · You don't need to justify your needs. “They don't have to understand why I need two months. I just do.” · High masking + high empathy often = emotional invisibility. You're not alone if you feel overlooked or undervalued. · Internalizers often seem fine while falling apart inside—naming your pain out loud is a radical act of self-love. · Disempowerment doesn't mean you're weak. It often comes from past trauma, sensory overload, or lack of support. · Communication isn't always immediate. It's okay if clarity or assertiveness comes a day (or three) later. · There's no such thing as “too sensitive”—just systems that weren't built for your needs. HIGHLIGHTS · Patricia emphasizes the importance of asserting one's needs without feeling apologetic. · She shares her experience of feeling disempowered in family dynamics and how she navigated that. · The conversation highlights the challenges of communication in relationships, especially for neurodivergent individuals. · Patricia discusses the significance of volunteering and how it contributes to her sense of empowerment. · She reflects on the internal struggles (and unrealistic desire) of wanting others to understand her needs without explicit communication. · The importance of processing emotions and taking time to understand one's feelings is emphasized. · Patricia shares her journey of finding strength in her volunteering experience with horses. · She discusses the impact of trauma on her ability to communicate effectively. · The conversation touches on the theme of sensitivity being a unique aspect of one's identity, not something to apologize for. · Patricia encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity and understand its value. SOUND BITES "I need to have a meltdown." "It's my responsibility." "I felt seen and I felt heard." "I think we've learned to just detach from our feelings, to dissociate, and go along to get along—but it just doesn't work for us anymore." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. TOPICS COVERED · Autistic meltdowns & internal regulation: How Patricia recognized an impending meltdown and advocated for space and support. · Family boundaries & accommodation: The emotional toll of giving up a beloved workspace, and the grief that often goes unseen. · Losing & reclaiming joy: When creative hobbies fade and space feels scarce, how do you reconnect with yourself? · Assertiveness without apology: Speaking up about needs, even when it's hard, awkward, or overdue. · Feeling invisible in groups: Disempowerment during horse volunteer training and the journey to feeling confident and capable again. · Processing delays & trauma: Why it sometimes takes days to realize something didn't feel okay—and that's valid. · The donut story (yes, it matters): What a pastry can teach us about needs, unmet expectations, and healthy communication. · Relational repair & emotional safety: The delicate dance of vulnerability, misunderstanding, and being met with care. · The problem with people-pleasing: When masking and fawning keep you from honoring your own feelings. · What sensitivity really means: Reframing neurodivergent traits as strengths, not flaws. PODCAST HOST Patricia (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: twww.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Podcast UnapologeticallyAuDHD-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
From the outside, you look fine. Maybe you're the SLP who's always polished, always on time, always hitting deadlines. Or maybe you're the one quietly behind — reports late, notes piled up, emails unanswered — but still working hard to appear as if you've got it together.Either way? It's exhausting. And it's what we call masking.In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the hidden burnout so many SLPs are carrying — whether you're overachieving to keep up appearances or working overtime just to look like you're keeping up.Here's what we'll cover:Two of the most common faces of masking for SLPs (and why both are unsustainable)Why masking feels safer in the moment, but silently drains your energy and confidenceThe overlap between ADHD, executive dysfunction, and masking in professional lifeHow to recognize the gap between what people see and what you're actually experiencingPractical ways to loosen the mask and reclaim authenticity — without shame and without burning everything downIf you've ever thought things like, “They think I'm doing great… but if they only knew...” or "How is it that everyone else can keep up and I'm over here drowning..." this episode is for you. You are not alone, and you don't have to keep pushing through silently.
Hard truth: work wasn't built for all of us to thrive. Neurodivergent folks seem to deal with a lot of norms when they aren't the problem—the systems are. I'm joined by Tameka Allen, founder of ModCulture and all-around brilliance-unlocker, to talk about how workplace “norms” actually exclude, alienate, and erase so many people. From the myth of “professionalism” to the way orgs treat neurodivergence as a personal issue instead of a design flaw, we're pulling no punches. If you've ever side-eyed a workplace policy and thought, “who is this even for?” this one's for you! 0:01:55 - One Hard Truth About Work 0:02:57 - What Does Being Neurodivergent Mean? 0:05:43 - A Workplace Norm We've Accepted as Normal that Wasn't Built With Neurodivergent People in Mind 0:10:28 - Why Orgs Treat Neurodiversity Like a Personal Issue Instead of a Systems Issue 0:26:19 - How Does Professionalism Become a Code Word For Conformity and Masking? 0:35:02 - Workplace “Norms” to be Aware of That Alienate Employees 0:46:13 - Myths About Neurodivergence at Work That Need to End 0:50:23 - What Would an Ideal Workplace Look Like? Fortunately, you don't have to choose between investing in people programs and consolidating your tech stack. With Lattice, you can have both. Visit lattice.com to learn more. And if you love I Hate It Here, sign up to Hebba's newsletter! It's for jaded, overworked, and emotionally burnt-out HR/People Operations professionals needing a little inspiration. https://workweek.com/discover-newsletters/i-hate-it-here-newsletter/ And if you love the podcast, be sure to check out https://www.youtube.com/@ihateit-here for even more exclusive insider content! Follow Tameka: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamekanallen/ Follow Hebba: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ihateit-here/videos LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/hebba-youssef Twitter: https://twitter.com/hebbamyoussef
What's the difference between social masking vs social confidence? How do you shift your state? 0:00 Social Masking is Universal 2:03 How to be Sociable + Presentable 3:09 How to Master your Expressions 5:13 How to be Sharp/Soft Socially 6:09 How to 'Weave' in Groups 8:05 How to Shift Force/Fear 9:39 'Wanda-Vision' Social Mastery MORE: Get the Social Flow Blueprint - https://bit.ly/FlowBlueprintArielNiu Social Flow Blueprint (alternative link) - https://bit.ly/FlowBlueprintArielNiuViews Book 1:1 Coaching - https://bit.ly/EnergyCoachingArielNiu 1:1 Coaching (alternative link) - https://bit.ly/EnergyCoachingArielNiu Website - https://arielniuviews.bio Ariel's Lifestyle Offers - https://bit.ly/niuviewsoffersspreadsheet Sign up for Ariel's Emails - https://arielniuviews.bio/email Ariel's mediVibe playlist - https://spoti.fi/3Teaxtp Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/niu.views TikTok - https://www.www.tiktok.com/@niu.views Podcast - https://spoti.fi/3DhqyoB Partnerships/Media/Inquiries - contact@arielniuviews.com ABOUT: Ariel Niu, social dynamics thought leader, creator, and coach, explores how we influence each other from the inside out; from our thoughts and emotions, to our expressions and behaviours. #emotionalintelligence #charisma #lifehack #communicationskills #confidence #energy #magnetism #lifechanging #lifehacks #selfmastery #howto #socialanxiety #podcast #NiuViews #ArielNiu
In this episode, Dr. Sam Shea discusses his work with adults on the autism spectrum, focusing on burnout, resilience, and the importance of self-care for parents. He shares insights on the challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals, the significance of proper terminology, and the concept of masking. Dr. Shea emphasizes the need for resources and support for both parents and children, and highlights the role of comedy in advocating for understanding and connection. The conversation also touches on the importance of care in relationships and the impact of coaching on personal development. Main Takeaways: Dr. Sam Shea helps adults on the spectrum stop burnout. Masking is a common experience for those on the spectrum. Self-care is crucial for parents of neurodiverse children. The term 'high functioning' can be misleading and offensive. There are many resources available for families today. Comedy can be a powerful tool for advocacy and connection. Understanding social dynamics is essential for building relationships. Coaching can provide valuable support for personal growth. Parents should prioritize sleep and wellness for their families. Leading with care is key to connecting with those on the spectrum. 3 Main Topics with Timestamps, Citations, and Explanations: 1. Energy Management is Non-Negotiable (06:42) "You can't be present, creative, or purposeful if you're running on fumes every day." Explanation: Energy is the foundation for every action and decision. Without protecting and restoring it, creativity, focus, and emotional balance erode, making it harder to sustain meaningful work or relationships. 2. The Mind-Body Connection in Healing (14:18) "Your mindset directly determines how your body responds to stress, recovery, and even food." Explanation: Beliefs and thoughts influence physical health at a cellular level. Shifting mental patterns can reduce inflammation, accelerate healing, and create the physiological environment needed for optimal performance. 3. Aligning Life with Purpose (28:54) "When your daily life reflects your values and purpose, burnout becomes nearly impossible." Explanation: Living in alignment with personal values creates natural motivation and resilience. This alignment makes challenges feel meaningful instead of draining, reducing the risk of chronic stress and burnout. Connections: Dr. Sam Shey's FreebieVisit us: MarniBattista.Com Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With MeTake the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life 0
Welcome to Season 13 of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads, the award-winning podcast that normalizes mental health conversations with raw honesty, laughter, and connection. This episode kicks off a robust three-part conversation with Susan Snow, a courageous and heartfelt speaker whose story embodies resilience, forgiveness, and hope in the face of trauma. At just 17, Susan's world was forever changed when her father, LAPD Detective Thomas C. Williams, was ambushed and murdered. She faced PTSD, grief, and unimaginable loss, but ultimately chose to transform her pain into purpose. We're proud to be the 2024 People's Choice Podcast Award Winner for Health and the 2024 Women In Podcasting Award Winner for Best Mental Health Podcast, with over 2 million downloads worldwide. We'd love your feedback on this episode. Please visit https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a to share your thoughts or leave us a voice message. Mental Health Quote"I feel like that night I lost my dad, I lost my mom too—but in the end, I chose not to live as a victim. I chose to live with hope." – Susan Snow What This Episode is About In this first part of Susan's journey, we explore the lasting impact of sudden loss, the invisible weight of PTSD, and the survival instincts that shaped her teenage years. Susan's story highlights the importance of mental health awareness, resilience after trauma, and the lifelong pursuit of healing. This episode serves as a potent reminder that life can change in an instant, but recovery and hope are always attainable. Keywords for SEO: Susan Snow, mental health podcast, PTSD recovery, resilience after trauma, grief and healing, LAPD, forgiveness, empowerment, emotional resilience, mental health awareness, hope after loss Meet Susan Snow Susan Snow is a courageous and heartfelt speaker whose life story shines as a beacon of healing and hope. At 17, Susan's life was torn apart when her father, LAPD Detective Thomas C. Williams, was ambushed and murdered. In the years that followed, she faced PTSD, loss, and the long road of rebuilding her life. Rather than staying in the shadows, Susan found her strength in vulnerability and turned her pain into purpose. Today, Susan is the Author of a profoundly moving book and a nationally recognized speaker. Through her signature talks—“Other Side of the Gun: Hope Through the Journey of Grief, PTSD, and Empowerment” and “Forgiveness vs. Forgetting”—Susan shares her story to help others discover resilience, forgiveness, and the power of choosing hope. Website: https://susansnowspeaks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susan_snow1 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/SusanSnow TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@susansnow1lifecoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/susansnowspeaks2023 Key Takeaways Trauma can reshape our lives, but healing is always possible with the proper support. Vulnerability and honesty are powerful tools for recovery and connection. Choosing hope and resilience over victimhood creates space for forgiveness and growth. Actionable Items from This Episode Write down one way you can create a safe space for someone in your life who may be grieving or struggling. Consider seeking therapy or support if you've experienced trauma—healing begins with asking for help. Practice one act of forgiveness this week, whether toward yourself or someone else. Episode Chapters 00:00 – Welcome to Season 13: G-Rex and Dirty Skittles kick off with energy and purpose. 01:00 – Introducing Susan Snow: Susan shares her background and the tragic event that shaped her life. 05:00 – The Day Everything Changed: The night her father was ambushed and murdered. 12:00 – Navigating Trauma in Silence: Growing up with PTSD in a time when mental health wasn't discussed. 20:00 – Coping, Masking, and Survival: How Susan built an emotional mask to get through her teenage years. 30:00 – Breaking Cycles and Finding Purpose: Susan's determination to parent differently and rewrite her story. 40:00 – Closing Reflections: Lessons from pain, resilience, and the ongoing process of healing. References Susan Snow's Website: https://susansnowspeaks.com/ Book & Speaking Engagements: Available via her website Mental Health Resources: https://988lifeline.org Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Don't miss the rest of Susan's powerful story in this three-part series. 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Hey Team! My guest today is Dr. Jennifer Dall, a grief-informed neurodivergence specialist, ADHD coach, and educator with more than 25 years of experience. She's the founder of ADHD Holistically, and blends her expertise in education, yoga, and grief work to build a focus on the whole person to create personalized, sustainable approaches for neurodivergent brains. In our conversation today, we dig into how societal expectations and outdated research have kept so many women from being recognized as having ADHD. We explore the ways ADHD symptoms often present differently in women, the impact of masking, and the hidden toll of trying to “just keep up.” Dr. Dall also shares quick, real-world strategies for tackling the everyday hurdles that come with ADHD, from taming your to-do list to breaking free of shame around getting help. adhdholistically.com If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at HackingYourADHD.com/238 YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD This Episode's Top Tips 1. Low-interest tasks like laundry, dishes, or paying bills often aren't just one thing. They're a series of micro-steps that might require you to switch gears, remember where you were, and re-engage. Each step is a potential stall point for an ADHD brain, especially if the task is competing with something more engaging. 2. Watch out for overstimulation shutdowns; ADHD brains can have trouble filtering out sensory input and mental noise. If we can learn to recognize when we're starting to hit sensory or mental overload, it makes it easier for us to take care of ourselves without burning out. 3. Tasks like keeping track of everyone's schedules, making sure the pantry's stocked, or managing the emotional climate of a household often go unnoticed, but these tasks are still real work and they're important. If we can give this work the weight it deserves, it can help us start seeing ourselves (or someone else in our household) as productive even when the results aren't as visible or tangible as other tasks.
What if the reason someone has struggled at work for years isn't down to effort, ability, or attitude… …but because they've unknowingly been navigating the world with a neurodivergent brain? In this deeply honest and emotional conversation, I'm joined by Chris Hood from Neurobridge, who shares his personal experience of receiving an ADHD diagnosis in adulthood — and everything that came after. We talk openly about the emotional fallout: the initial relief of finally having an explanation, and the overwhelming grief, shame and identity confusion that followed. Chris shares what it feels like to realise you've been masking your true self for years and how difficult (and beautiful) the journey back to yourself can be. But this episode isn't just about the individual experience. It's also about what managers, leaders and organisations need to do differently to support neurodivergent colleagues, and why the typical “tick-box” approach to inclusion just doesn't cut it. Whether you're neurodivergent, a manager of people, or someone who simply wants to build a more human workplace, this conversation is full of insight, heart, and practical takeaways. ----more---- Key Takeaways Diagnosis doesn't bring instant clarity. It often opens the floodgates to grief, confusion, and decades of questions. Masking is survival. Many neurodivergent people spend years shaping themselves to fit in, often at the expense of their identity. Managers must lead with curiosity. Support isn't just legal compliance; it's about empathy, observation, and building trust. Workplaces thrive when inclusion is real. When people feel safe enough to be themselves, performance and wellbeing soar. ----more---- Key Moments The key moments in this episode are: 0:00:10 – What if ‘poor performance' is actually undiagnosed neurodivergence? 0:03:52 – Meet Chris Hood: From ADHD diagnosis to championing neuro-inclusion 0:07:21 – What ADHD really feels like, and how diagnosis lifts the fog 0:14:41 – The grief and shame of late diagnosis: “I didn't know who I was” 0:22:43 – Where shame begins: Abandoning yourself to fit in 0:27:49 – Unmasking isn't instant — it's a journey back to yourself 0:33:33 – What real support looks like (and why legal compliance isn't enough) 0:38:10 – “What support do you need?” is the wrong question — here's what to ask instead 0:42:21 – Chris's 3 tips for supporting late-diagnosed team members ----more---- Join The Conversation Find Andy Goram on LinkedIn here Listen to the Podcast on YouTube here Follow the Podcast on Instagram here Follow the Podcast on Twitter here Follow the Podcast on Facebook here Check out the Bizjuicer website here Get a free consultation with Andy here Check out the Bizjuicer blog here Download the podcast here ----more---- Useful Links Follow Chris Hood on LinkedIn here Find the Neurobridge website here ----more---- Full Episode Transcript Get the full transcript of the episode here
Have you ever wondered why recovery feels unsafe if you are autistic, or why masking can look like restriction? In this episode, Dr. Marianne examines the overlooked intersection of autism and anorexia. She explains how autistic masking, the survival strategy of hiding or suppressing traits to “fit in,” can overlap with food restriction and why recovery often feels unsafe in treatment spaces that center neurotypical experiences. Dr. Marianne explores how sensory sensitivities, alexithymia, executive functioning challenges, and monotropism can shape eating patterns for autistic individuals and how traditional recovery models fail to accommodate these realities. She also addresses intersectionality in recovery, highlighting that unmasking is riskier for BIPOC, disabled, fat, queer, and trans individuals whose overlapping identities increase the dangers of being fully visible in systems that marginalize them. She emphasizes why neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, and intersectional recovery spaces are essential. Recovery cannot be one-size-fits-all when it must account for layered oppression, systemic barriers, and the complex ways autistic traits interact with anorexia. Dr. Marianne also discusses the overlap between anorexia and ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder), particularly among autistic people, and explains why understanding this overlap is crucial for effective and sustainable healing. If recovery has felt unsafe, Dr. Marianne wants listeners to know it is not because they have failed. It is because treatment often fails to recognize autism, honor intersecting identities, and adapt care to meet those realities. She believes every person deserves support that not only accommodates differences but celebrates them as integral to the healing process.
Send Dr. Li a text here. Please leave your email address if you would like a reply, thanks.In this heartfelt episode of the Make Time for Success podcast, Dr. Christine Li welcomes back the vibrant Natasha Nurse, Managing Director at MRM Education, for a candid conversation on self-discovery, late-in-life neurodivergent diagnosis, and embracing authenticity. Natasha shares her personal journey with ADHD and autism, the transformative impact of understanding her neurodivergence, and how this has shaped her life as a leader, parent, and advocate. The episode also explores how workplaces and educational settings can better support neurodivergent individuals, and Natasha's work in creating equitable, impactful spaces for learning and growth. If you're interested in stories of resilience, embracing your true self, and challenging societal norms, this episode is not to be missed!Timestamps:[00:02:00] – [00:03:42]: Reunion and setup for Natasha's neurodivergence journey.[00:03:42] – [00:07:43]: Natasha's diagnosis story and early experiences.[00:07:43] – [00:09:51]: Discussing authenticity and the emotional side of autism.[00:09:51] – [00:12:02]: Finding community with other neurodivergent people.[00:12:02] – [00:15:46]: Workplace challenges and embracing neurodivergence at work.[00:15:46] – [00:20:44]: The Black woman's experience and the importance of supportive spaces.[00:20:44] – [00:24:16]: Self-esteem, reframing neurodivergence as a superpower.[00:24:16] – [00:27:14]: Overview of MRM Education and its mission.To sign up for the Waitlist for the Simply Productive Program, go to https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPFor more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comGain Access to Dr. Christine Li's Free Resource Library -- 12 downloadable tools and templates to help you bypass the impulse to procrastinate: https://procrastinationcoach.mykajabi.com/freelibraryTo work with Dr. Li on a weekly basis in her coaching and accountability program, register for The Success Lab here: https://www.procrastinationcoach.com/labConnect with Us!Dr. Christine LiWebsite: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoachThe Success Lab: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lab Simply Productive: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPNatasha Nurse, Esq.Learn more about MRM Education: https://www.mrmeducation.com/Podcast: https://www.swellcast.com/MRMInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrmeducationFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrmeducateLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/mrm-edu
Breaking Down Internalized Ableism Summary In this conversation, Patricia explores the concept of internalized ableism, particularly among neurodivergent individuals. She discusses how societal stigma and expectations can lead to negative self-perceptions and feelings of inadequacy. Patricia shares personal experiences and insights on how internalized ableism manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, self-acceptance, and the pressure to conform to neurotypical standards. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning these hurtful beliefs and embracing one's neurodivergent identity with compassion and understanding. HIGHLIGHTS · Internalized ableism is the unconscious adoption of negative beliefs about oneself due to societal stigma. · Neurodivergent individuals often feel pressure to conform to neurotypical standards, which can lead to trauma. · Resting is a valid need and should not be seen as a failure. · Asking for accommodations is essential for well-being and should not induce guilt. · The concept of 'high functioning' can be harmful and does not reflect true capabilities. · Time agnosia is a common experience for neurodivergent individuals. · Self-compassion is crucial in overcoming internalized ableism. · Relationships can be affected by the fear of being a burden. · Unlearning internalized ableism involves recognizing and challenging societal expectations. · Embracing neurodivergence includes acknowledging strengths and practicing self-acceptance. 115 SPECIFIC POINTS DISCUSSED 1. How internalized ableism shows up in everyday life o Masking, pushing through burnout, or feeling "lazy" when you're resting. 2. Messages we absorbed growing up o From school, parents, peers, or media about being "too much," "distracted," "weird," or "wrong." 3. Perfectionism and people-pleasing as survival o How needing to be “better” or “easy to manage” is often rooted in internalized shame. 4. The trap of “not disabled enough” or “faking it” o How we invalidate our own struggles because we don't “look” stereotypically disabled. 5. ADHD, autism, OCD & “high-functioning” narratives o The myth of being “high functioning” and how it reinforces ableist expectations. 6. Feeling guilt for needing accommodations or rest o That voice that says “you're being difficult” when you ask for what you actually need. 7. Shame around executive dysfunction o Struggling to start tasks, follow through, or manage time — and blaming yourself. 8. Rejecting your own needs to fit in o Forcing eye contact, avoiding stimming, hiding rituals, not using noise-canceling headphones in public, etc. 9. The pressure to be “independent” all the time o How internalized capitalism + ableism equates needing support with being a failure. 10. Comparing yourself to neurotypical peers · Especially in productivity, relationships, or emotional regulation. 11. “If I can do it sometimes, I should always be able to” myth · Inconsistent ability = inconsistent worth? Nope. Talk about spoon theory and fluctuating capacity. 12. How OCD-specific traits are misunderstood or mocked · And how that seeps into how you see yourself (e.g., feeling “crazy,” “irrational,” or “a burden”). 13. Internalized ableism in dating & relationships · Fear of being too much, too emotional, or too rigid — and minimizing yourself as a result. 14. How healing looks like reclaiming your needs unapologetically · Self-accommodation, boundaries, rest, and neurodivergent joy as rebellion. 15. Relearning self-compassion and identity pride · Ending with hope: unmasking, connecting with community, and defining success on your own terms. SOUND BITES · "Rest is resistance." · "You are not broken." · "You deserve rest, joy, and support." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. CHAPTERS (please add time for addition of introduction) 00:00 Understanding Internalized Ableism 02:40 The Impact of Societal Expectations 05:31 Navigating Personal Experiences with Internalized Ableism 08:18 The Struggle for Accommodations 10:55 Executive Dysfunction and Inconsistent Abilities 14:01 The Pressure of Productivity 16:53 Feeling 'Not Enough' in Neurodivergence 19:43 Unlearning Internalized Ableism 22:27 Building Self-Compassion and Acceptance PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS Rest Is Resistance: Free yourself from grind culture and reclaim your life by Tricia Hersey. 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E413 – "Inner Voice: A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan Zeine" | Featuring Dr. Kristen Williamson | ADHD & Autism in Adults In this powerful episode of Inner Voice, Dr. Foojan Zeine speaks with Dr. Kristen Williamson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of EmpowerMind Solutions LLC. With over a decade of experience, Dr. Williamson specializes in supporting neurodivergent adults, especially those diagnosed with ADHD and autism later in life. Her mission? To empower individuals to embrace their uniqueness, build resilience, and thrive without focusing on perceived deficits.
Hey team! Our guest today is Dr. Otito Iwuchukwu, who is here to talk about the emotional and psychological aspects of belonging and how it impacts our day-to-day lives. Dr. Iwuchukwu has a Master of Arts in Organizational Psychology from the College of Psychology and Counseling, a Ph.D. in Pharmaceutical Sciences, with a specialization in Drug Metabolism and Pharmacokinetics, from Temple University, and is currently an Associate Professor at Fairleigh Dickinson University. Her scholarly contributions appear in a range of peer-reviewed and indexed publications and have been presented at numerous research meetings and symposia across the world. Additionally, Dr. Iwuchukwu has recently written The Belonging Paradox, a book that presents a new way to understand belonging as an adaptive journey rather than a static destination. In this episode, we talk about why belonging is a dynamic, ongoing process, not a fixed state, and how we can create more inclusive environments for ourselves and others. We'll also discuss how masking impacts our sense of belonging, the role boundaries play in maintaining our authenticity, and the importance of giving ourselves and others grace. If you've ever struggled with finding your place, especially in social settings or work environments, you'll find practical tools in this conversation for navigating those tough moments. The Belonging Paradox - https://www.otitoiwuchukwu.com/new-book/ Dr. Otito Iwuchukwu on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/otitoiwuchukwu/ If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at https://HackingYourADHD.com/232 https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk - YouTube https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD - Patreon This Episode's Top Tips 1. Belonging isn't a fixed state, but an ongoing process that changes with both your internal state and the external environment. Recognizing this can help you manage expectations and frustrations when your sense of belonging fluctuates. 2. Recognize that you don't have to belong to every group, and not all groups are meant for a deep, personal connection. Don't force yourself to belong in every situation; if a group or environment doesn't feel right, it's okay to step back. 3. You don't have to be liked by everyone. Instead, it's important for us to focus on finding spaces where we can truly belong. It's about finding authentic connections, not chasing superficial acceptance.
The Trump administration has declared war on immigrants and poor people and is using immigration as a smokescreen to cover for Medicaid cuts in the so-called Big Beautiful Bill. Henchmen like Stephen Miller and Scott Bessent are promoting the false narrative that “illegal” immigrants are receiving Medicaid coverage and responsible for much of the fraud and abuse in the system. It’s a specious argument to distract from the fact that they’re cutting healthcare for millions of vulnerable Americans. Access the episode resources. Chapters Intro: 00:00:36 Chapter One: Cruelty. 00:01:55 Chapter Two: Smokescreen. 00:05:29 Chapter Three: Emergency. 00:10:35 Chapter Four: Theft. 00:14:47 Post Show Musings: 00:16:48 Outro: 00:20:21 Resources New York Times: A List of Nearly Everything in the G.O.P. Bill, and How Much It Would Cost or Save Rising: Stephen Miller “Torches ICE” New York Times: The Senate Wants Billions More in Medicaid Cuts, Pinching States and Infuriating Hospitals KFF: 5 Key Facts About Immigrants and Medicaid FactCheck.org: A False Claim About Illegal Immigration and Medicaid - FactCheck.org Healthinsurance.org: Can undocumented immigrants get Medicaid? KFF: Potential Impacts of 2025 Budget Reconciliation on Health Coverage Video: Trump's WAR on Immigrants and Poor People -- If you like #UNFTR, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify: unftr.com/rate and follow us on Facebook, Bluesky, TikTok and Instagram at @UNFTRpod. Visit us online at unftr.com. Join our Discord at unftr.com/discord. Become a member at unftr.com/memberships. Buy yourself some Unf*cking Coffee at shop.unftr.com. Visit our bookshop.org page at bookshop.org/shop/UNFTRpod to find the full UNFTR book list, and find book recommendations from our Unf*ckers at bookshop.org/lists/unf-cker-book-recommendations. Access the UNFTR Musicless feed by following the instructions at unftr.com/accessibility. Unf*cking the Republic is produced by 99 and engineered by Manny Faces Media (mannyfacesmedia.com). Original music is by Tom McGovern (tommcgovern.com). The show is hosted by Max and distributed by 99.Support the show: https://www.unftr.com/membershipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
On today's episode we are back with an "Ask The Neighbours" Part 1 with my co-host Neighbourhood Becci! You asked, and we answered! We give advice on your relationship dynamics, friendship troubles and clearing digital clutter without guilt! We cover questions about the Little Pink Cottage and what it's like opening an airbnb! Goodluck trying to figure out what animal Becci is describing in the end but we will see you for Part 2 next week! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
