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Book recommendation - Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life: Cloud, Henry, Townsend, John: 9780310351801: Amazon.com: BooksWe hope this episode was an encouragement to you. If it was, share this episode with someone else. If you have any topic suggestions, please let us know by emailing them to thewellwornpathpodcast@gmail.com

Do you often feel angry, sad, frustrated, annoyed, drained, confused, or just…some kind of way when you interact with a certain friend or friends? Maybe you need to check your boundaries. Boundaries are the physical, mental, emotional, and other limits that protect our personal space and define how we interact with others. They help us feel safe as individuals in all areas of our lives. They help us protect the people and things that are important to us, including our finances, our time with family, our self care - the list goes on and on.    How do you know you need a boundary? I'll give you a hint. Pay attention to that icky or uncomfortable feeling you have after you interact with someone. Take note of the confusion you feel when you're together, then do something about it.    Join Ashley Cook, Associate Marriage Family Therapist (AMFT133670), and me for a talk about boundaries - what they are, why we need them, and how we establish them. Why? Because healthy boundaries are a huge part of maintaining healthy friendships and protecting personal peace.   Additional Resource: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Stay Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend   Other Episodes Referenced in This Episode: 1. Episode 7: "We Were on a Break! How Two Friends Grew Apart...and Back Together, Part 1 - featuring Wendy Alleyne" 2. "We Were on a Break! How Two Friends Grew Apart...and Back Together, Part 2 - featuring Wendy Alleyne"

Boundaries are invisible lines that define what behaviors are acceptable between people. They can be physical, emotional, or based on time or space. Boundaries are important because they can help prevent feelings of resentment or being taken advantage of. They can also help people feel comfortable opening themselves up to close relationships and intimacy.
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Recommended Resources: •Is Self Love Selfish? - https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmgDRjiukfrXmCz68ZRR6•Unconditional Love - https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmgDRjiukfrXmCz68ZRR6​​Watch "A beginners guide to setting boundaries" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/tUOvY6Lfm1A?si=3Crl8a8hiOLYbFUQ​​Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://a.co/d/hpQx7Eq
​•Watch "Do you have boundaries In your friendships, or resentment?" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/tEhnO4nd2Mw?si=S3vfQ2umJQ7dDE_m​Watch "Personal Boundaries vs. Oneness (How to Develop Healthy Boundaries) - Teal Swan" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/hnKU-hL2Uag?si=1I6Mxdfjv5O6cdra​
​Watch "Why You Should Set Boundaries With The Universe" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/YNEaAfQwbDE?si=RrB9UAvHyOW1l2ne​

 •Watch "Boundaries: Why You Need Them & How to Set Them" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/dXvlwXMNbXI?si=JJmJq-PYx4HhKSX6

Watch "HOW TO SET AND HOLD A BOUNDARY" on YouTube - https://youtube.com/shorts/NAJ5RU-V8NA?si=ffCXZeOMvmeTHgUZ 
Watch "How to set boundaries at work" on YouTube - https://youtube.com/shorts/j9TGEn8HPvA?si=TCuJGy8OoV_fiYKS
Watch "Why You Can't Leave The Relationship (Intermittent Reinforcement) - Teal Swan -" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/M_lakRMIA7Q?si=zEayrCt3zowYZWcF 

Watch "Signs you were raised by emotionally immature parents: how to recognize and heal" on YouTube - https://youtube.com/shorts/KNXHXRmAUj4?si=tb1pnJmo1tAxxenX 

​Watch "How To Set A Boundary" with emotionally immature parent on YouTube - https://youtu.be/EzZ0nZtiYkI?si=1MmYMwzU3IjdVVty


Watch "How To Set A Boundary" dysfunctional family edition on YouTube - https://youtube.com/shorts/4XBAhuzdw_w?si=qIzTBKLXhYrLlJvs 
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Watch "How to deal with a guilt trip and set a boundary" on YouTube - https://youtube.com/shorts/5nUVW6w4IgE?si=fsRCQYYC0Japzegq 
Watch ""Remember Who You Are"- Podcast 14" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/Tf_iL2IIM7A?si=K2gBzrVu-Bg5E5aD​
Watch "The Lion Attitude (HEART OF A LION) Motivational Video" on YouTube - https://youtu.be/tiMY7-h3xnE?si=5ezmAZnxDdu67n8X 

Watch "Lion's Gate" Playlist on YouTube - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHM3N6LOY-LqMvZvRY9fpuypKUaU_h6d_&si=gLVPHMC_KY2CZlSU





On today's episode Sheilah is discussing  common energy drainers that affect moms.    Links to books recommended in episode…   Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself   Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life     Follow Keep Your Cool Mama on…   ·         Instagram @KeepYourCoolMama ·         Facebook @KeepYourCoolMama   Have questions about balancing motherhood and personal growth? Want to share your thoughts on the topics discussed?   You are personally invited to email Sheilah at Keepyourcoolmama@gmail.com. Would love to hear from you!

In This Episode: As homeschoolers and parents, we often find ourselves juggling the demands of educating our children, managing our professional lives, and maintaining personal well-being. It's a balancing act that calls for solid boundaries. In the latest RLL episode, Colleen dives into the art of setting and adapting these vital limits. Take a listen to insights stemming from her own recent hiatus and the deeper exploration of boundaries in homeschooling environments:   Key takeaways from this episode include: Setting Boundaries: Learn the significance of establishing boundaries to maintain a healthy balance between homeschooling, work, and family life. Managing Time: Get inspired by Colleen's personal journey towards better time management and organization, which is especially crucial for parents with neurodivergent children. Modeling Healthy Behavior: Discover the importance of teaching our children to set their own boundaries and prioritize, a skill essential for lifelong success.   Our sponsors for today's episode are CTC Math and Night Zookeeper   Links and Resources from Today's Show: Pre-Order - The Homeschool Advantage: A Child-Focused Approach to Raising Lifelong Learners Raising Lifelong Learners Membership Community - The Learners Lab Raising Resilient Sons by Colleen Kessler, M.Ed. Finding Homeschool Balance  Masterclass | Prioritizing Self-Care  Dear Mom With Quirky Kids: You Cannot Do it All  Self-Compassion for a Healthier Mindset | A Conversation with Michelle Brownell  Finding Energy to Balance it All  Thriving Together | Creating Supportive Environments in Homeschooling  My Neurodivergent Kiddo Needs So Much Help…  Self-Care and Co-Regulation | Balancing Parenting and Sensory Needs Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - NEEDS AFFILIATE LINK Masterclass | Building Family Connections  Finding Peace in a Life Filled with Intensity  Prioritizing Self-Care is Important for You and Your Kids   Connect with ColleenWebsite: Raising Lifelong LearnersYou can also find Colleen on Instagram or on Facebook How does your child learn best? Take the Quiz - https://raisinglifelonglearners.com/quiz/  

To conclude this series on communication, Dennis and Lisa describe five competencies that equip leaders to hold their teams accountable and inspire them to take action. Leaders can approach important conversations with confidence by providing advice, structure, development opportunities, and more. Ensure you're on the right track by downloading the free Communication Competencies Quiz™.  The Leadership Development Group is a consulting firm led by Dennis and Lisa McIntee that exists to help you create a better work culture through drama free strategies, leadership coaching, and training. Since 2005, they have helped over 2,000 companies become drama free and significantly increase their productivity as a result. Discover the freedom of a better work culture today at leadershipdevgroup.com. Resources Mentioned in the Episode:  Enroll in Emotionally Intelligent: Becoming Less Reactive and More Interactive Communication Competencies Quiz™ People Fuel: Fill Your Tank for Life, Love, and Leadership by John Townsend  Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend This post may contain paid links. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Today's episode of GrievingVoices takes a deep dive into the complex emotion of anger, especially for us Human Design Manifestor-types navigating loss and trauma. I open up about my battle with anger following life's curveballs and how it can be misunderstood or mishandled.As someone who has walked through the fire of personal loss and trauma, I've learned firsthand how anger can be both destructive and transformative. It's not just an outburst; it's a signal calling us to introspection. Why does this affect me so deeply? What boundaries have been crossed?Many turn to short-term fixes or STERBs (short-term energy-relieving behaviors) like anger to cope with grief. But these are merely band-aids on deeper emotional wounds. The key lies in processing anger constructively. This isn't about suppressing emotions but rather understanding them—identifying what needs protection or restoration within ourselves before we react impulsively.Key Takeaways:-Anger should prompt introspection rather than projection onto others.-Short-term coping mechanisms like STERBs provide temporary relief but do not address underlying emotional pain.- Constructive processing of anger involves self-protection and restoration efforts.- Emotional intelligence grows through understanding our reactions and setting healthy boundaries.Establishing clear boundaries emerged as another critical theme. The absence of boundary-setting skills during childhood can lead to adult challenges such as unchecked anger. To navigate this complex terrain, the book "Boundaries" is recommended for those seeking guidance on creating and implementing boundaries.Engagement with our emotions in real-time fosters balance and wellness. Tools like visualization and mindful breathing are practical strategies for dissipating anger without confrontation. We pave the way toward transformative life changes by embracing self-awareness and actively managing our emotions.Join me in embracing self-awareness and mastering emotional management as pathways toward transforming our lives after loss.RESOURCES:Human DesignBook | Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeYouMapGrief RecoveryEpisode Sponsor: Magic Mind | Use the code "GRIEVINGVOICES" to receive one month free with a 3-month subscription. This special promotion is only for January!_______NEED HELP?National Suicide PSupport the showThis episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief. Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a supporter of the show HERE.

Today's guest is Josh Straub. We go deep today talking about:How to become Famous At HomeEmotional safety and how to build it for deeper relationships and connection with your wife and kidsThe importance of meta-communication for leadership and limiting conflictHow to connect with your family on an emotional level without being overwhelmed by your own emotionsNavigating explosive emotions in kidsRekindling trust and connection after your wife has seemingly checked outJoshua Straub, Ph.D. is a husband, dad, speaker, author, and family and leadership coach. A champion of human empathy, Josh leads Famous at Home, a company equipping leaders, organizations, military families, and churches in emotional intelligence and family wellness. Josh also is a Fellow of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling. As a marriage and family coach and consultant, Josh coaches leaders to be famous at home so they can thrive on their stage. He also speaks regularly for Joint Special Operations Command and serves military families across the country. Josh is author/ coauthor of seven books including Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well and coauthor, along with his wife Christi, of two children's book, What Am I Feeling? and What Do I Do With Worry? He and Christi also host the weekly Famous at Home podcast. Find Josh online at:Website: famousathome.com   Instagram: @famousathomePodcast: Famous at Home Email:  josh@famousathome.comResources mentioned: Safe House: How Emotional Safety Is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead WellWhat Am I Feeling?Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life---Welcome to the Dad.Work Podcast, where men are forged into elite husbands and fathers by learning what it takes to become harder to kill, easier to love, and equipped to lead.Get ready to start building the only legacy that truly matters - your family.[Free Resource] Family Leadership Blueprinthttps://dad.work/blueprint/Resources, Links, Show Notes:https://dad.work/podcast/Follow Dad.Work:https://instagram.com/dadwork.curt/https://youtube.com/@dadwork/

In December, we spend every Monday morning in a series where we process and pray through the year. Each week, the focus will be different, but the theme of processing and praying will remain the same. We started this series by looking at the goodness of God by reflecting on our victories. In this episode, we are pausing to process our personal boundaries this year. Pray: “Jesus, what boundaries do you want to encourage me to set in my life?” Process: What boundaries did I establish that went well this year? What unspoken boundaries did I find myself frustrated with when people broke them? Sometimes, a boundary is not a boundary unless it is spoken.  What areas of my life might need new boundaries this coming year? Boundaries can change with seasons. Resource: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud

If you've developed a pattern of people-pleasing, it can feel impossible to break free of it, especially in our core relationships. It often begins when someone in our childhood in authority communicates that their needs trump our needs. We become driven by the need to avoid conflict or deflect from the shame we feel about ourselves. But when we don't look for other ways of relating, we can stunt our growth and deprive other people of the chance to grow.  I'll share how God exposed the people-pleasing habits in my life and why learning practical ways to set boundaries transformed how I felt about myself and related to others. I'll unpack the roles of the “drama triangle” and how you can identify which roles you play in this dynamic as well as what you can do to get unstuck here.    In this episode you'll learn: Why it's so tricky to distinguish between a need and a desire Why it's unhealthy to believe it's our job to stop anyone from experiencing negative emotions How people pleasing can feel so rewarding at times Evidence for why tolerating abuse is not an expression of love Why we can feel stuck believing we have no choices   Grab your copy of Lifted From Shame Order your eBook or print book on Amazon here. Print and eBook are available now through the publisher here.   Links Mentioned:  Episode #11:  Our Valid Need for Love and Respect  National Domestic Violence Hotline:  1-800-799-7233 Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of your Life  by Henry Cloud and John Townsend   

Get notes on this podcast here:  https://churchleaders.com/podcast/458619-henry-cloud-trust-complex-realize.html Dr. Henry Cloud joins “The Stetzer ChurchLeaders Podcast” to explain why it is impossible to live without trust and what church leaders need to know about betrayal, forgiveness and reconciliation. Do you believe the American church is unified the way Jesus would want us to be? Francis Chan joined us last week to talk about what God has taught him about unity and to share his concern that believers prioritize love and humility in their pursuit of holiness. Check out our conversation with him here: https://churchleaders.com/podcast/458230-francis-chan-church-leaders-unity-fear-god.html    ► Listen on Apple: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-churchleaders-podcast/id988990685   Visit ChurchLeaders website: https://churchleaders.com Find ChurchLeaders on Facebook: https://facebook.com/churchleaders Follow ChurchLeaders on X(Twitter): https://twitter.com/ChurchLead Follow ChurchLeaders on Instagram: https://instagram.com/churchlead/ Follow ChurchLeaders on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/churchleaders/   Mentioned in the Show: "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend "Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward" by Dr. Henry Cloud   Check out Henry's website   Follow Henry on Facebook,  Instagram,  X(Twitter) and YouTube

Tune in to this empowering episode of "Ask a House Cleaner" on fears of setting boundaries, in which boundaries expert Amy Worthy joins host Angela Brown to uncover where our fears around boundary setting originate. Angela and Amy discuss common boundary struggles business owners face with clients, team members, and partners so you can reflect on where you may need to establish clearer limits. You'll walk away with proven strategies to set healthy boundaries that allow you to operate with more freedom, joy, and success as a business owner. Do you struggle with setting clear boundaries in your business and personal relationships? Do you often feel drained and resentful because people take advantage of your time and energy? If so, join us for this insightful episode to gain clarity on where your boundary fears come from and start rewriting your self-limiting narratives! Where Do Fears of Setting Boundaries Come From Chapters: 00:00 Assisting Families with Boundary Issues  00:16 Fear as a Barrier to Setting Boundaries  00:50 The Importance of Clear Consequences for Boundaries  01:32 Devastating Consequences and the Importance of Self-Worth  02:08 Balancing Difficult Consequences with Self-Respect  02:46 Setting Boundaries Based on Self-Worth  RESOURCES ------------------ Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are - https://amzn.to/3sELiW6 When Your Mind Screams: Finding Peace and Confidence in the Midst of Anxiety - https://amzn.to/463sz53 Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3sOd1Uv Balanced Accountability: Create a Culture of Ownership - https://amzn.to/3RepsD9 Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3PhRPyW (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH AMY ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.worthy.1 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/amyworthy URL: https://nextlevelwealthcoach.com/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editors: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

Learn how to create clarity in your business on this episode of "Ask a House Cleaner" where we discuss the business owner's guide to boundaries and accountability. Host and cleanfluencer Angela Brown interviews boundaries expert Amy Worthy about such essential topics as how to set limits, foster responsibility, and enable growth through strategic boundaries. If you're a business owner looking to enhance your leadership skills and foster a more accountable team, this episode is a must-listen. Amy provides tactical tips for establishing guardrails in your business to support productivity and progress. Whether you need help creating business/client boundaries, or holding your team accountable, this episode will provide you with an actionable guide to implementing boundaries for success. The Business Owner's Guide to Boundaries and Accountability Chapters: 00:00 Setting boundaries in business and personal life  01:21 Accountability and holding boundaries in relationships  02:22 Importance of accountability partners and team support RESOURCES ------------------ Winning with Accountability: The Secret Language of High-Performing Organizations - https://amzn.to/3PsGnk8 Balanced Accountability: Create a Culture of Ownership - https://amzn.to/3RepsD9 Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3PhRPyW Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free - https://amzn.to/3PhBo4H Supervisor, Manager, Leader; The Basics of Being a Boss - https://amzn.to/464tGBH (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH AMY ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.worthy.1 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/amyworthy URL: https://nextlevelwealthcoach.com/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editors: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

Get ready for this informative episode of "Ask a House Cleaner" on the useful boundary setting tips for creeping client needs where you'll learn pro tips for establishing strong work-life boundaries, avoiding scope creep from demanding customers, and preventing unpaid work and burnout. Join host Angela Brown and boundaries expert Amy Worthy for a conversation on how to set clear professional limits without sacrificing your business. Amy provides actionable advice tailored for house cleaners and domestic workers on setting limits that protect your peace of mind without being confrontational. If you're a professional cleaner looking to master the concept of enforcing boundaries, this episode is a must-listen. Don't miss out on the useful tips Amy and Angela have to offer. Subscribe, share, and stay ahead in your cleaning business game! Useful Boundary Setting Tips for Creeping Client Demands Chapters: 00:00 Struggling with Setting Boundaries  00:34 Negotiating Boundaries with Clients  01:02 Techniques for Maintaining Boundaries  02:26 The Broken Record Technique for Pushy Clients  03:09 Letting Go of Clients Who Push Boundaries  03:47 Recognizing When Boundaries Are Being Crossed  RESOURCES ------------------ How to Start Your Own House Cleaning Company - https://amzn.to/3PnW1Nw How to Talk to Anyone About Anything: Improve Your Social Skills - https://amzn.to/45PZEBC Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3PhRPyW Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free - https://amzn.to/3PhBo4H How to Stop Overthinking: The 7-Step Plan to Control and Eliminate Negative Thoughts - https://amzn.to/3OUfmVe (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH AMY ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.worthy.1 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/amyworthy URL: https://nextlevelwealthcoach.com/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editors: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

Welcome to Episode 142 of the Being Human Podcast: How to Start Healing an Unhealthy Relationship (A Relationship Series, Part Five) This week, Dr. Greg follows up on last week's episode about the warning signs of emotional abuse to answer the question “What can I do if my relationship is unhealthy?” In this episode, he breaks open three practical steps you can take to help you navigate through the challenges of a difficult relationship.   Highlights from the episode:  The subtlety and invisibility of emotional and psychological abuse;  How the parts of us that believe “if only the other person would change, my life would be better” can overshadow other more helpful parts;  Free will and self-determination as integral parts of our humanity that cannot be taken away;  The importance of identifying where we still have freedom to make a choice; The fruitlessness of attempting to change another person's behavior;  Understanding boundaries as necessary when making decisions in and about a relationship;  How there can be parts of us that put up roadblocks to our growth and development due to fear; The way we react, respond, and participate in relational dynamics as a result of our personality formed in childhood;  Growth in self-awareness as essential in the process of healing;  How courage and greater strength come from support and community.    Resources mentioned or relevant: Last week's episode: Seven Signs of Emotional Abuse (A Relationship Series, Part Four);  Need help? Schedule a free consultation call with someone on our team to discuss how we can support you; Past episodes on Internal Family Systems and parts work:  Ep. #34: A New Theory! with a Catholic Lens  Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Parts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski;  More about the Catholic Mindfulness Virtual Retreat; Books:  Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; Stop Walking on Eggshells; Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning; Become a member of the Integrated Life Community to get access to every course Dr. Greg has created, plus the opportunity to participate in Integrated LIVE's - weekly, Mentor hosted Q&As covering topics like boundaries, communication, trauma, forgiveness, and more! Download The Integrated App for access to free audio exercises, courses, prayer resources, and more; Learn about IDDM (Mentorship), our new model of accompaniment; Sign up for Being Human, our weekly newsletter, to stay up to date on the exciting developments at CatholicPsych; Visit our website to read the CatholicPsych blog, shop in the CatholicPsych bookshop, or discover other resources we have available; Join the waitlist to be notified about our next Open House to learn more about the new CPMAP certification!   Contact us! Have a topic or a question you would like Dr. Greg to address on the podcast? Want to give some feedback about this episode? Email us at beinghuman@catholicpsych.com - we would love to hear from you!   Rate, review, and subscribe Please help us in our mission to integrate the Faith with Psychology by hitting subscribe and also sharing this podcast with your friends. Please consider rating or leaving a review of our show. It helps us reach other Catholics just like you who want to become more integrated, whole, and happy human beings. For Apple podcasts, click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate 5 stars, and choose “write a review.” Then type your sincere thoughts about the show! If you haven't already, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss out on any episodes. Subscribe to the podcast now!  

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 567 Why does your body store unprocessed emotions and create a disease? Leland Stillman MD, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast, episode 567, to discuss the emotional connection to physical pain, how stress affects the body, how your home is making you sick, why your lifestyle habits matter when it comes to your mental and physical health, and what to do about mold. Eustress and distress are two categories of stress. Eustress makes you stronger because your body has the resources it needs to respond to it. Distress is stress that degrades your ability to perform and long-term is bad for you. - Leland Stillman MD Live Life Well from Sunrise to Sunset Save 20% with code "WELLNESSFORCE" on everyone's favorite Superfoods brand, ORGANIFI, including their Sunrise to Sunset Bundle and their Women's Power Stack that includes HARMONY + GLOW for true hormonal balance and great health radiating through your beautiful skin. 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Get exact recommendations of where to start with your health. Take your health to the next level and learn tried and true methods to reach optimal health. Whether you're struggling with a chronic illness or seeking the next level of performance in your work, relationships, or vocations, Dr. Leland Stillman and Jim Laird can help you achieve the excellent health that you desire and deserve. The Fundamentals of Wellness - Get up to 50% off! The 5 Biggest Health Mistakes Unlock access to Dr. Leland's free video about the top mistakes he sees people making when it comes to health and what you can actually do about it. WATCH HERE! In This Episode, Leland Stillman MD Uncovers: [01:30] The Journey to Medicine + Health Leland Stillman MD The Fundamentals of Wellness - Get up to 50% off with code "JOSH"! His issues with sinus infections, ADHD, and breathing. What led him to study medicine and become a doctor. Why he's investing in a voice coach. [07:10] Is Your Home Making You Sick? The health issues Josh had as a child and now. 489 Dr. John Lieurance | It's All In Your Head: How To Relax The Default Mode Network, Endonasal Cranial Therapy + Why Psychosomatics: Transformation (LIVE at RUNGA) How Josh found out his sinus issues are related to mold. Why Leland can see your health issues just from looking at you. How respiratory problems can be related to the patterns we're stuck in. Jim Laird Sick building syndrome: how your household makes you sick. How mold and smart meters affect your health. [13:30] Mold: Your Immune System + Lifestyle Habits Matter Fosmon Programmable Digital Timer Outlet How difficult it is to find mold in your house. Why you need to be willing to dedicate time and do many tests in order to heal the disease. How past exposures and current lifestyle habits impact mold disease. Everyone has mold in their body. What role your immune system and immune response play in your health. [23:00] Your Health + Allostatic Load How to Eat, Move and Be Healthy! by Paul Chek Chemical Exposures: Low Levels and High Stakes by Claudia Miller and Nicholas Ashford Why chemical sensitivities are becoming more common due to allostatic load. Theron Randolph Toxins and stress reduce your body's response to life. [27:00] Stress Factors That Make Us Sick Stress means to "pull apart." Eustress and distress. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk Gabor Maté Why the mind-body medicine doesn't look at other lifestyle factors. How heavy metals start releasing when you begin to heal. [31:05] The Power of Positive Mindset Why a positive mindset is crucial at the beginning of your healing journey. Safe People: How to Find Relationships that Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend How unhealthy relationships can be driven by a toxic environment. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink Why we need to own our mistakes and decisions and stay positive. [35:20] How People Store Emotions in The Body Why engineers are highly stressed. Understanding what your body is telling you through stress. Lewis Mehl-Madrona The body is where our emotions get stored. How professional fighters express their anger through fighting. [40:05] How Thoughts Become Things The Psychic Roots of Disease: A New Medicine by Björn Eybl Josh's journey to self-love. Why Leland used to find emotions confusing. Explaining why emotions can't be turned into a treatment plan. What it means to be full of life. Why there's no data to analyze for emotions or trauma. [47:15] How to Avoid Narcissists' Traps Why many people lack boundaries. The problems with narcissists and psychopats. "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility by Dr. Ramani S. Durvasula How educating yourself can help you avoid being manipulated. The crazy-making behavior generated by narcissists. 550 Caspar Szulc | NAD+ Conscious Medicine: How Do We Change The Sick-Care System? [52:00] The Fundamentals of Wellness Why gluten allergy can cause gluten psychosis. The importance of drinking high-quality spring water. Why accountability is key in coaching people. What you can get from the Fundamentals of Wellness program with Dr. Leland. Leave Wellness + Wisdom a Review on Apple Podcasts Power Quotes From The Show Strategy About Life "Your strategy for your respiration comes down to your strategy about life. Are you running around always trying to put the fire out? Or are you somebody who know how to switch off and relax and lets somebody let's say take care of you." - Leland Stillman MD Fighters + Their Negative Emotions "One of the reasons why contact and violent sports don't embrace things like EMDR and neurofeedback is that once those guys get their demonsr, rage, and anger under control, and they release some of the negative emotions, they don't do their job of hitting and damaging other people as well." - Leland Stillman MD The Immune System "A healthy and well functioning immune system isn't not doing anything. It's just catching the problem early so you don't even notice it. The presence of symptoms is not necessarily a presence of bad microorganism." - Leland Stillman MD Links From Today's Show  Leland Stillman MD The Fundamentals of Wellness - Get up to 50% off with code "JOSH"! 489 Dr. John Lieurance | It's All In Your Head: How To Relax The Default Mode Network, Endonasal Cranial Therapy + Why Psychosomatics: Transformation (LIVE at RUNGA) Jim Laird Fosmon Programmable Digital Timer Outlet How to Eat, Move and Be Healthy! by Paul Chek Chemical Exposures: Low Levels and High Stakes by Claudia Miller and Nicholas Ashford Theron Randolph The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk Gabor Maté Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win by Jocko Willink Lewis Mehl-Madrona The Psychic Roots of Disease: A New Medicine by Björn Eybl "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility by Dr. Ramani S. 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He graduated from Connecticut College with a degree in Environmental Health and a minor in Chemistry. He received his medical doctorate from the University of Virginia School of Medicine and completed his residency training at Maine Medical Center. He now resides in St. Petersburg, Florida, where he focuses on nutrition and hormonal health in his practice. In his spare time, he likes free diving and paddleboarding. Website Instagram Facebook Twitter YouTube

In this insightful episode of "Ask a House Cleaner" we are exploring the art of choosing the right moment to define boundaries. Host and cleanfluencer Angela Brown sits down with renowned boundaries expert Amy Worthy to share useful strategies for choosing the essential moment to establish boundaries and foster your success in business. Learn how effective communication can prevent misunderstandings and conflicts down the line. Tune in to gain valuable insights from this discussion and enhance your business journey through the power of well-defined boundaries. Don't forget to share your stories in the comment section below! Choosing the Right Moment to Define Boundaries Chapters: 00:00 Setting boundaries with customers in the Cleaning industry  01:04 Adjusting boundaries as situations arise  02:08 Importance of employees reinforcing boundaries with clients RESOURCES ------------------ Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free - https://amzn.to/3PhBo4H Are You a People-Pleaser?: How to Build Assertiveness, Gain Respect and Stop People-Pleasing - https://amzn.to/3qUYS7u Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3PhRPyW The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free - https://amzn.to/3qRLHEg Healthy Boundaries: How to Set Strong Boundaries, Say No Without Guilt - https://amzn.to/44wJP1w (When available, we use affiliate links and as Amazon Associates we earn a commission on qualifying purchases.) *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- *** CONNECT WITH AMY ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amy.worthy.1 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/amyworthy URL: https://nextlevelwealthcoach.com/ *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA ***  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askangelabrown Store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown URL: https://AngelaBrown.com NEED MORE CLEANING HELP? ------------- *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Please email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** SAVVY CLEANER BRANDS ***  SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com/join VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank-you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  HOARDING WORLD - Helping you change your relationship with stuff https://HoardingWorld.com REALTY SUCCESS HUB - Helping you sell your home fast https://realtysuccesshub.com CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editors: Anna Nikitchuk Show Producer: Anna Nikitchuk

In this installment of The Way Out, our tremendous Recovery Podcast Co-host Jason has an outstanding interview with author and humanitarian Sandra Lee, who shares her journey to and through recovery to this point with us. Sandra is the author of the book Rockstar Resilience and also started a speaking team called Rockstar Testimonies which travels around the country speaking to schools about addiction and recovery. In addition, Sandra is the founder of the #LightItUpProject which is an awareness campaign that aims to reduce the stigma around mental health, and she's is doing so much more, soon to come. In the interview that's about to unfold before your very years, you'll quickly hear how well Jason and Sandra hit it off right away and ended up having a lot of laughs! We bet You'll love Sandra and her passion for helping others, so listen up.   Sandra Lee's Contact Info: www.sandraleespeaks.com Love and Light to the World non-profit: www.loveandlighttotheworld.org Book recommendation: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud - https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated Expanded-When-Control-ebook/dp/B06XFKNB2Y Best piece of Recovery advice: " If you lead with your heart, and you stay authentic in every single thing you do, you'll be successful." Song: Fight Song by Rachel Platten: https://youtu.be/xo1VInw-SKc Don't forget to check out “The Way Out Playlist” available only on Spotify. Curated by all our wonderful guests on the podcast! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6HNQyyjlFBrDbOUADgw1Sz (c) 2015 - 2023 The Way Out Podcast | All Rights Reserved Theme Music: “all clear” (https://ketsa.uk/browse-music/) by Ketsa (https://ketsa.uk) licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 4.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-way-out-podcast/message

Do you struggle with building trust without being taken advantage of in your relationships? Are you having a tough time setting boundaries and saying no to requests that don't align with your values? If so, then you're not alone. In fact, many people that have hoarding issues grapple with these same concerns. But the good news is that there is a way to build trust without sacrificing your own well-being. In this video, I'll explore practical tips for setting boundaries that can help you create healthy and fulfilling relationships without feeling like you're being taken advantage of. I'll discuss the importance of communication and how to have difficult conversations with loved ones about your needs and boundaries. You'll learn how to recognize when someone is crossing a line and how to respond in a way that is assertive but respectful. And perhaps most importantly, I'll explore why it's okay to say no sometimes and how doing so can actually strengthen your relationships in the long run. Whether you're dealing with a cluttered home or a cluttered mind, this video is for you. *** TRUST W/O BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF CHAPTERS *** 0:00 - Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt like you were on call 24/7? 0:12 - How do you set boundaries with friends or family who constantly call you for help? 0:44 - What can you do if you feel obligated to fix someone else's problems? 0:58 - How can setting boundaries improve relationships? 1:36 - Is it possible to rebuild trust in a relationship after setting boundaries? 1:47 - What can you do to avoid chaos and drama in your life? 2:05 - How can you become a more trustworthy person? *** HELPFUL RESOURCES *** The Art of Letting GO: How to Let Go of the Past, Look Forward to the Future, and Finally Enjoy the Emotional Freedom You Deserve! - https://amzn.to/3M0ts7T Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3TMXQ7j Couples Therapy Workbook: 30 Guided Conversations to Re-Connect Relationships - https://amzn.to/40qqpKe Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples - https://amzn.to/40UAgrT The Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships - https://amzn.to/3G6uNGr * When available, we use affiliate links, and as Amazon Associates, we earn on qualifying purchases. REPROGRAM YOUR MIND SLEEP TAPES The New Normal Sleep Tape - https://youtu.be/ebLJJA6rUHw The New Tape | Affirmations Of A Clean and Orderly Home | "I AM" - https://youtu.be/n13ZBvaCMjw SOCIAL MEDIA --------------- CONNECT WITH THE HOARDING WORLD ON SOCIAL MEDIA YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HoardingWorld Facebook: https://Facebook.com/HoardingWorld Twitter: https://twitter.com/HoardingWorld Instagram: https://Instagram.com/hoarding.world Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/HoardingWorld TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@HoardingWorld Hashtags: #ClutterCorner #HoardingWorld CONNECT WITH ANGELA BROWN ON SOCIAL MEDIA YT: https://www.youtube.com/@AskAngelaBrown Facebook: https://Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://Instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/AskAngelaBrown Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@AskAngelaBrown Store: https://amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown NEED MORE DECLUTTERING HELP? ------------- HOARDING WORLD SUPPORT GROUP Support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hoardingworld DISCLAIMER: This work is not intended to substitute for professional medical or counseling advice. If you suffer from a physical or mental illness, please always seek professional help.   SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ------------------- Today's #ClutterCornerLive sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training for house cleaners and maids. - https://savvycleaner.com/join And your host today is #AngelaBrown - https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review *** ADVERTISE WITH US ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the decluttering or hoarding space, here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals CREDITS -------------------------- Show Produced by: Savvy Cleaner: https://savvycleaner.com Show Host: Angela Brown Show Editors: Kristin Ochsner & PJ Barnes Show Producer: Jenifer V. Holland #askangelabrown  #housecleaningguru  #TrustWithoutBeingTakenAdvantageOf #Boundaries #RebuildingRelationships #SayingNo #Hoarders #ClutterBugs #Communication #DifficultConversations #Assertiveness #Respect #MutualUnderstanding #Fulfillment #ClutterFree #Wellbeing #Selfcare #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #Mindfulness #Empathy #Vulnerability #SelfAwareness #ConflictResolution

Yaz, Rebekah & Jon discuss how much the world and our own lives have changed since our backyard chat in 2020 that inspired the Thru Colored Lenses podcast. This is the last episode of the Thru Colored Lenses podcast...as you know it. Stay tuned for what comes next! *Note: the Netflix special Rebekah repeatedly struggled to remember the name of: The Social DilemmaThis documentary-drama hybrid explores the dangerous human impact of social networking, with tech experts sounding the alarm on their own creations.Book Recommendations:YazThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizFinding Me by Viola DavisAdult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsey C. Gibson JonBoundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud & John TownsendThe Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody BeattyRebekahBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily & Amelia NagoskiThink Like a Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day by Jay ShettyAtomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones by James Clear **This may not seem like a "mental health" book but it is one of the best books I've read on creating better habits and that is absolutely something that helps with mental health.

This week, Carla is back with Ariel Brown for part 2. Join them as they discuss single motherhood, healing, a shocking adoption story, and the laws surrounding child support. 8:18- Overcoming Imposture Syndrome 18:17- Toxic Co-parenting/ Child Support 34:28- Giving Yourself Grace While Raising kids 47:48: Bizarre Adoption Story 1:05:40: Ariel Finds Her Birth Mother 1:20:24: Bible Verse Romans 12:12 Vote For "Holding Court" 54th NAACP Image Awards Fan Choice Vote "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095‌   Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1675780982&sr=1-1   Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today  Carla Wilmaris Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram @carlawilmaris Twitter @carlawilmaris TikTok @carlawilmaris ‌ Watch Full Episode and Subscribe on YouTube Email the show to get advice and questions answered Ask@carlawilmaris.com

Do you hate Christmas, and you don't know quite the reason? Or do you obsess about the Christmas season going overboard, over budget and over-stressed? Or maybe you go with the flow to avoid the Christmas conflict? Today we're continuing our Christmas movie series, and we're talking about what the Grinch Who Stole Christmas can teach us about out relationships. So, I'm talking to you today if: If you're ready to discover the true joy of Christmas…and life. If you're ready to let go of the stress and strains of the Christmas seasons…and life. If you want to enjoy life for yourself. Today is all about relationships. So we're going to be pulling out the Grinch. Surprisingly Dr. Suess based the Grinch character on himself. It was the day after Christmas, and saw his grinch face in the mirror. You know, sour, cranky and unhappy. He'd lost the spirit of Christmas and decided to get it back, which inspired The Grinch Who Stole Christmas. I want to show you how four characters took a journey to discover the true meaning of Christmas and life. Christmas and life are all about relationships–our relationship with God, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc. Rich relationships make for a rich life. 1. Grinch Grinch hated Christmas because he'd been hurt as a young child. He lost connection with others and then hid himself to keep himself safe. How about you? Have you put up a wall to keep yourself safe? To have connections, you must first work through the hurt. Then you need to show yourself friendly. Be the first to reach out. 2. Who's The Who's liked Christmas a lot…busy with competitions, shopping, eating and the trappings of commercialism. But they lost the meaning of Christmas–relationships. True relationships get vulnerable and deep. When you're the first to be open and vulnerable, you create a safe space for others to do the same. Now you can go deep into relationships and really enjoy what matters. 3. Max the dog He's Grinch's loyal companion, ready and willing to help. But Max is a doormat. Are you, like me, afraid of conflict? Do you just go with the flow to keep the peace? That's no way to live…under someone's feet. We need to set boundaries to tell people how they are allowed to treat us. I know it's hard, so if you need help with that, * check out Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. https://amzn.to/3P4vEKK 4. Cindy Lou Who Cindy lost her love of Christmas and didn't know why. She was searching for her first love. When Cindy started searching, she discovered the potential in others, including the Grinch. She helped him see what he could be instead of what he currently was. And through all that, she literally saved Christmas and help each person develop deeper relationships with one another. So who are you, and what do you need to do to grow deeper in your relationship and discover the true meaning of Christmas and life? Rich relationships make for a rich life. If you need more help overcoming fear trying to hold you back from growing deeper in relationships, pick up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/. You've got this, and Father's got you! Thanks a Bunch for listening! Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!! * Affiliate link, I will receive a small commission if you purchase this book through this link.

I assumed that was included in the cleaning... you know what I'm talking about right? A customer trying to get you to do more than they are paying for? If you are selling cleaning services are your packages easy to understand? Are your cleaning agreements clear? Are your expectations realistic? Does the client know they pay more for add-on services? Are you being taken advantage of in your #cleaningbusiness? It may be time to set new boundaries and review your cleaning company rules. Today's Ask a House Cleaner sponsor is Savvy Cleaner Training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown (https://g.page/r/CbMI6YFuLU2GEBI/review) *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** Free Cleaning Worksheets - https://savvycleaner.com/worksheets Savvy Cleaner Membership - https://savvycleaner.com/join Savvy Cleaner Courses - https://savvycleaner.com/courses-a-la-carte How to Start Your Own House Cleaning Company - https://amzn.to/3zc3iqq Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3z9cBHU These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today's show. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs to bring you these free daily tips. THANK YOU. *** RATE THIS SHOW ***  https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner   *** RATE THIS PODCAST ***  https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner  *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown  ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com  *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/AngelaBrownCleaning Facebook: https://Facebook.com/AskAngelaBrown Twitter: https://Twitter.com/AskAngelaBrown Instagram: https://Instagram.com/AskAngelaBrown Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/AskAngelaBrown TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@savvycleaner? *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com  *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** https://amzn.to/3jHk4GL *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** SPONSOR A CLEANER - SAVVY CLEANER SCHOLARSHIP FUND ***  Each year Savvy Cleaner gives away scholarships to the Savvy Cleaner Network, which includes training for house cleaners and maids, group coaching, and 24/7 network support. This trains them in personal protective equipment, chemical safety, cleaning equipment between jobs, how to clean techniques, and more. If you find value from this show and you want to pay it forward, you can sponsor a cleaner here:  Give: https://savvycleaner.com/scholarship-fund Apply - https://savvycleaner.com/scholarship-application *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS ***  We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that makes sense for the cleaning industry, here's how to work with us -https://savvycleaner.com/brand-deals *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Pricing for Small Business Owners –  https://savvyperks.com  VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental  https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com  FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com  *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O  https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown  https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown  PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner

Sandra Stosz is the author of “Breaking Ice and Breaking Glass: Leading in Uncharted Waters.” Sandra is a retired U.S. Coast Guard Vice Admiral who served for over 40 years, including 12 years at sea. She often led all-male teams and was the first woman to lead a U.S. Armed Forces Service Academy. In this episode, Sandra shares with humility some of the leadership lessons she learned in the Coast Guard. She shares humorous stories, and reveals things she learned early that shaped her remarkable career, and why she baked cakes for her staff!   https://bit.ly/TLP-313   Key Takeaways [1:36] Jim introduces Vice Admiral Sandra Stosz, Retired, tells of her background, and welcomes her to The Leadership Podcast. [2:08] Sandra's nephew Hunter Stosz is a Lieutenant in the Coast Guard, serving as the Combat Systems Officer on the Coast Guard National Security Cutter JAMES out of Charleston, S.C. Hunter was a cadet at the Coast Guard Academy when Sandra was the Superintendent. That was his leadership crucible! [3:01] Sandra's hobby is baking cakes! She would bring them into the office and give people a break to stop what they were doing and gather in the conference room to talk and laugh. [4:35] Sandra talks about the Coast Guard Academy, where she was Superintendent from 2011 to '15, and the Loy Institute for Leadership. She retired from the Coast Guard in 2018 but she is a trustee of the Loy Institute for Leadership, which is the Academy's agent for leadership development. [6:16] The Coast Guard Academy, like all the service academies, is a 200-week program, meaning four full years of school. A lot of the Academy's leadership development happens during the summer. Training is given through a framework called LEAD: Learn from theory, Experience through practice, Analyze using reflection, and Deepen understanding from mentoring. [7:09] It's a virtuous cycle of leader development. It starts with cadets learning in a classroom from Posner and Kouzes's Leadership Challenge for leadership theory. Then they put the cadets on the water for experiential leadership development through seamanship in sailing programs, and small boat practice, all on the water. The more senior cadets use a practicum that tells them how to instruct. [8:19] After a day on the water, the cadets analyze through reflection. They sit down and “hotwash” what happened; what they want to repeat next time, what they want to avoid next time, and what they learned. Then the cadets deepen their understanding through mentoring. Everybody who learns continues to mentor somebody else, making it a virtuous cycle. [8:48] Sandra shares a story of leadership learning. The cadets sailing a ship tacked suddenly without warning the cook in the galley, the only female cadet on board. Hotdogs flew all over the deck and what seemed funny to the cadets on deck upset the cook who felt laughed at and disrespected. Leadership also means inclusion and respect. [11:18] You can learn to lead through practical experience. The Coast Guard Academy collects data from performance reviews to measure leadership development over the four-year program. It's hard to measure leadership development over four years but they are on a mission to do that and they are getting closer every month. [12:15] The Coast Guard Academy LEAD framework is built upon the Coast Guard framework of leading self, leading others, and leading the organization. Cadets learn to lead themselves and lead others. They do not advance to leading the organization at the Academy. Sandra tells a story of a cadet who carelessly filled the fuel tank with water. He will never do that again, having learned by experience. [15:12] Officers in the Coast Guard learn to lead the organization, which is strategic. Sandra has seen senior leaders fall short and fail when they did not mature from tactical thinking to strategic thinking. Strategy is looking over the horizon to anticipate threats that might come over that horizon, and then adjust, adapt, and be agile. [16:15] At the organizational level, you face crises where the easy decisions and actions have been made at the lower levels; if it ends up in your hands, it is a big decision. You've got to be strategic and decisive. A lot of people aren't strategic or are not decisive. They haven't learned how to move from leading others to making decisions that affect the organization and how the organization relates to others. [17:59] Jim highly recommends Sandra's book. It addresses the balance between power and control. Sandra speaks of the responsibility of the individual and the team to find ways to power through crisis and adversity. There is leadership at all levels. It's not just about the top boss. Sandra mentions Extreme Ownership. [19:50] It is popular now to blame others for everything wrong so you don't have to own up to it. Sandra was thinking about that when she wrote her book. She was grateful when someone gave her a Serenity Prayer plaque at a difficult point in her career. She was trying to control everything and having trouble letting go of things she couldn't control. She carried that prayer to every duty station. [20:50] The balance between control and power reminds Sandra of Aristotle's Golden Mean, which is the balance between extremes. The most powerful thing you can do is release your control and give your power away. Giving power away empowers others. You don't lose anything by giving power away. You gain the respect and trust of those you empower. [22:12] Control originates from humility and power originates from hubris. Sandra explains why humility is hard to maintain as you advance in rank. The more senior she became, she tried hard to build trust and earn respect and not use her position of power. [23:59] Sandra shares a story on the paradox of control about giving away power. Her Captain gave his power to her, a young lieutenant, to give an important brief to a Commandant of the Coast Guard. She had never given a speech before! For the rest of her career, she worked to give her power away to younger officers. [27:26] Jan cites an Arthur Brooks article, “Being special vs. happy: What success addiction looks like and how to recover,” that discusses motivation and happiness. What would Sandra's advice be to her 27-year-old self? She would tell her younger self that prevention comes before response and remember the importance of establishing boundaries. [31:41] The four types of exhaustion or wellness are physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Don't allow yourself to be exhausted in all four of these areas at the same time! You can manage your wellness with a structure of boundaries built on a foundation of values. If you can't manage your wellness, you can't manage your team's wellness. [36:15] One of the chapters of Sandra's book is “There's no secret ingredient.” — Kung Fu Panda. Sandra sees 10 leadership lessons in Kung Fu Panda and Kung Fu Panda 2.[37:26] Sandra shares a foundational story from serving on her first ship, an icebreaker sailing to Antarctica. She learned the Three Ps of Power: Personal, Professional, and Positional. Lean on the first two and go to the third only as a last resort. Your personal power is your EQ. Your professional power is your work ethic and values. Your positional power is your rank or leadership role. [39:44] Use your personal and professional power every day and you will build trust and earn respect. People will want to do their jobs because they feel like they're part of something bigger than themselves, they feel shared values, they know their purpose, they have pride and passion, and they want to end each day deeply content, satisfied, and feeling good about themselves, their work, and life. [41:12] Leadership is not all in a textbook. It's hard to learn it and hard to teach it. If you're trying to understand leadership and finding it not easy, your symptoms are normal. Jan shares a message with new listeners. Jan and Jim use the tagline, “We study leaders.” After interviewing 300 leaders, we're still learning. It will be our lifelong pursuit. [43:02] Sandra's advice for people in transition from one chapter of their life to the next: Watch out for becoming part of another “me” generation. The people who will be happiest, in the long run, will be are going to look at how they can contribute as part of a bigger purpose with values that they share. They're going to persevere. They're going to put in more than they take out. They're going to be contributors. [45:20] Sandra's last words are about life-long learning. She stayed for 40 years in the Coast Guard because it gave her opportunities to train, advance, and go to the Kellogg Business School, the National War College, and a Capstone program. She continues to read and develop herself. Life-long learning is key to your ability to succeed in a meaningful way. [47:06] Jan closes with a quote from Amelia Earhardt on the decision to act.   Quotable Quotes “Every once in a while, you need a reason to laugh when you're at work and you're in a really tough job. I think the cakes helped build that camaraderie and that's one thing I like about in-person workplaces.” “We expect the cadets to make a mistake when they're learning how to lead themselves. It's trial and error. And this is the time when we give them leeway to fail and pick themselves up, and make mistakes, admit them, and try not to repeat them.” “I've seen senior leaders fall short and even fail if they keep on with the behaviors that made them successful while leading self and leading others and they move into leading the organization but don't mature to strategic thinking.” “Be strategic and be decisive. A lot of times, people … haven't learned how to move from leading others to making decisions that affect an organization, ... the programs, and how that organization relates to others. … Move up into the strategic decision-making realm.” “Type “A”s out there, hear me! You want to control everything and it can drive you crazy. And if you don't let it go it will burn you out.” “The most powerful thing you can do is to release your control and release your power and give your power away.” “The best leaders cultivate their humility, which is really hard to do as you advance up in the ranks. Whether it's the military or if it's a private sector, or public non-profit, the more senior you get, people are treating you a little differently up in the ranks.” “What you should be seeking is deep contentment and satisfaction. That comes with a different way of looking at life. It comes from balancing and this becomes the response.” “People never make good choices; they always have to learn from experience, right?” “So many people are in the leadership space and trying to teach leadership and it's not easy. … If you are trying to understand leadership, how to be a better leader, and finding it not easy, your symptoms are normal.” “The people who are going to be happiest, in the long run, … look to find out how they can contribute as part of a bigger purpose with values that they share. … They're going to persevere. They're going to put in more than they take out. They're going to be contributors.” “Lifelong learning is key to your ability to succeed in a meaningful way where you're meeting all of your objectives and you're staying motivated. Otherwise, you lose the meaning of life if you don't continue to focus on life-long learning.”   Resources Mentioned Theleadershippodcast.com Sponsored by: Darley.com Vice Admiral Sandra L. Stosz Breaking Ice and Breaking Glass: Leading in Uncharted Waters U.S. Coast Guard U.S. Coast Guard Academy The U.S. Coast Guard National Security Cutter JAMES Loy Institute for Leadership Admiral James Loy The Leadership Challenge: How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations, by James M. Kouzes and Barry Z. Posner Congressman Dan Crenshaw Kellogg School of Management National War College Coast Guard Capstone program Amelia Earhart What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful, by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter James Mattis Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin Aristotle Arthur Brooks, “Being special vs. happy: What success addiction looks like and how to recover” Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 9/11 Bill Murray, “Army Training, Sir” Kung Fu Panda Kung Fu Panda 2 Senator Blutarsky Great Resignation

On Episode 6, we talk all about boundaries! Sharing stories and referencing resources, this is a note taking episode as we share 3 phrases you may hear from someone with poor boundaries and 3 phrases you may hear from someone with strong boundaries. We hope this is helpful to you! Check out our resources below once you finish listening! - - - Resources: Boundaries article Boundaries: When to Say Yes How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life  

*This episode speaks about sexual abuse. Discretion is Advised* Hello everyone! Today I interviewed Latarsha Haughton an Inspirational Author, Transparent and Authentic Speaker, and Transformational Coach. She is the founder of Breaking the Silence… Healing the Pain, who has endured decades of trauma – including sexual and emotional abuse. With the help of God, prayer, and trauma-informed therapy, after 30 years, she broke her silence. Now, Latarsha transforms that pain into purpose and creates community for other survivors. Latarsha came on to speak about how she was sexually abused by her father, got pregnant by him and had her son, and STILL forgave him! This was a powerful story and an episode you do not want to miss! Latarsha Haughton: Website: LatarshaHaughton.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haughtonslove/ Breaking the Silence Book: https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Silence-Latarsha-Haughton/dp/1953497292/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3OWCL09NDEJZO&keywords=breaking+the+silence+latarsha+haughton&qid=1655080011&sprefix=breaking+the+silence%2Caps%2C568&sr=8-1 Breaking the Silence... Healing the Pain Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/255456641502326/ Release the Baggage Event: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/its-your-time-to-shine-presents-release-the-baggage-tickets-336598494157?fbclid=IwAR2sECu8KOoZlHYSlcuZJBWPGUs6EWQwTKdVwTfojmjxFeUQs3D-yaZ020M My Social Media: My Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/dwaynestaten/ Show Notes: Unforgiveness Causes Cancer: https://guardian.ng/news/survey-links-untreatable-cancer-to-unforgiveness/ Parable of the Unmerciful Servant - Matthew 18:21-35 "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7  "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 "I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." Psalm 139:14 "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God." Romans 12:2 "Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath," Ephesians 4:26 Matthew 6:14-15 Matthew 7:2 "Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't" Book: https://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those/dp/0310345790/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LWI34JDW5C1K&keywords=safe+people+cloud+and+townsend&qid=1655082803&s=books&sprefix=safe+people%2Cstripbooks%2C1221&sr=1-1 "Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life" Book: https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=sxin_10_mbs_w_global_sims?content-id=amzn1.sym.167d0880-9da0-400b-938e-4382731a4102%3Aamzn1.sym.167d0880-9da0-400b-938e-4382731a4102&crid=3LWI34JDW5C1K&cv_ct_cx=safe+people+cloud+and+townsend&keywords=safe+people+cloud+and+townsend&pd_rd_i=0310351804&pd_rd_r=de5c9da1-0edd-4933-9381-88c7051c95a7&pd_rd_w=uIT95&pd_rd_wg=qUBnV&pf_rd_p=167d0880-9da0-400b-938e-4382731a4102&pf_rd_r=QKVJBS29TFFE0RQKCYPA&qid=1655082803&s=books&sprefix=safe+people%2Cstripbooks%2C1221&sr=1-2-9e7645f9-2d19-4bff-863e-f6cdbe50f990 Music: Moody by Jay Someday https://soundcloud.com/jaysomeday Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/_moody Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/WJHTZpx9d2o

In this episode, Alisia Young provides a commentary on the book The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller and Kathy Keller.The commentary will discuss:background of bookinterest in bookkey ideascritiques (if applicable)key takeawayswhat's nextMentioned in Episode:The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of GodEpisode #3 – Done By Noon® ft. Dave Ruel of EfficEpisode #4 – Happily Ever After Again ft. Sharilee SwaityBoundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeThe 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that LastsLocation references: 181-184, 188; 630-631; 753Page references: 37; 108-110; 112; 8-9; 4 (NOT 137), then 137, 140; 123Scripture references: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT) Connect & Contact Alisia:Congrats Superwoman: When You've Climbed the Mountain and Still Don't Feel Good Enough - https://amzn.to/3nJcATHEat 'N' Live Free Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfB...Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.comTeach Me Freedom Contact - teachmefreedom2020@gmail.comTeach Me Freedom Website - https://teachmefreedom.ca/Connect & Contact Alisia: hello@teachmefreedom.ca Teach Me Freedom Website - www.teachmefreedom.ca Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.com

As we continue with the topic of love and romance in February, today I'd like to share some of my favorite books for marriage and relationships. In previous episodes, I've talked about my favorite books for mompreneurs, but as y'all know, I am a big reader, so listen in for my top books to improve your relationship with your partner no matter what season you are in right now.   I'd love to know which of these have helped you the most, or if you have another book that really spoke to you and you'd like to share it with me. The best way is by sending me a DM on Instagram.   Books mentioned in this episode: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Boundaries in Marriage The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Toward A Growing Marriage: Building the Love Relationship of your Dreams The Bible The Power of a Praying Wife The Power of a Praying Husband The Power of Praying Together The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind Body Heart Spirit For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women   Connect with me on your favorite social media platform Instagram: www.instagram.com/martine31williams Facebook: facebook.com/martinenwilliams   Join the Mompreneur Life Remixed FB Community: HERE   Book your Burnout to Breakthrough call with Martine: HERE   Be sure to follow this podcast to automatically receive your episodes!!!   Hey!! Send me a DM on IG and tell me what you think about the show!   Believing in YOU always! Martine

Hey everyone! I'm baaack. I know it's been a while and I've missed you all so much! I'm so happy to be sharing 10 things that I want you to commit to doing this year. Nope, we're not going to be afraid anymore of committing to be a better you! You deserve it and the world deserves your unique, special and amazing self. You ready? Then listen up! Suggested Readings: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristen Neff Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive by Dr. Kristen Neff Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

In this episode we discuss Discovery Day, one of the most painful days in the life of a wife who discovers her husband has been viewing pornography or is compulsively acting out sexually. The day of discovery is typically called D-Day, because just like the Normandy Beach invasion during WWII, this day is full of death, wounding, and trauma. D-Day is not the end of the story, though! We will leave you with hope. Your hosts are: Pam Blizzard of Recovered Peace Lyschel Burket of Hope Redefined Bonny Burns of Strong Wives We will be discussing: What comes to mind for each of us personally as we think of Discovery Day? What patterns do we see in partners immediately after discovery? What is the best thing a wife can do for herself immediately after discovering her husband's problematic sexual behavior? What hope can we leave our listeners with? Resources: APSATS.org - The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists  Find a specially trained therapist or coach who understands betrayal, trauma and recovery. Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life A Door of Hope A Door of Hope Peer Facilitator Training Community Thank you for sitting in with us today. Our deepest desire is that you will find encouragement, insight, and maybe even a laugh or two in the many episodes to come. We will talk with you again in two weeks. We all offer 1 to 1 coaching, groups, and other resources on our individual websites. Check us out and get to know us better! Transcript Hope for Wives Episode 2

At this time of year – New Year's resolutions have worn off - they are sort of pushed to one side while we get on with the job of living.  We have got through nearly 2 years of Covid so we may almost resent the idea of New Year's Resolutions.  How can we do less but accomplish more? But we can be fearful – it is not to eliminate the things you care about from your life.  It's simply to get laser-focused on why they matter to you. We cannot do it all – that idea – we cannot do it all is a wonderful reminder or wake-up call for us women who often feel guilt-tripped into precisely doing it all – the perfect Mum, wife, or girl-friend, perfect career woman. We have a list of expectations as long as our arms and frankly, they are unfair and unjust and can lead to great frustration.  We wanted in this podcast to talk about some questions we can ask ourselves that could help our listeners to think about what they need to do less to accomplish more. That is different for everyone.Resources: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, Greg McKeownBoundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life, Henry CloudAtomic Habits, James Clear Why You Need Essentialism? No. 87 - Optimal WorkBeyond the Inbox: Rules for Reducing Email: Cal Newport

Whoa! Didn't see that coming did ya? House cleaner does a job for a customer - gives it their best and gets screwed big time. What you need to know to manage customer expectations and end up winning the business game. Some customers are sneaky - but this bad behavior can be prevented. Align your marketing strategy to meet and exceed your customer's expectations without getting ripped off. Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown FREE CLEANING WORKSHEETS - https://savvycleaner.com/worksheets *** HOUSE CLEANER GETS RIPPED OFF CHAPTERS *** 0:00 - Did you ever get ripped off by a customer? 0:10 - Meet Angela Brown the House Cleaning Guru 0:20 - A client wants to add on work but refuses to pay 1:28 - Who was authorized to approve the work? 2:25 - Be clear about the service you provide for the price paid 2:46 - How Customers take advantage of an hourly rate 3:20 - Offer packages that include popular upsell jobs 4:14 - Get pricing agreements from customers upfront 4:59 - Create new business rules now to manage client expectations 5:49 - Don't allow employees to change job agreements without approval *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3AD0CAO Buyer Personas: How to Gain Insight into your Customer's Expectations, Align your Marketing Strategies, and Win More Business - https://amzn.to/3mRuIvN Customer's Expectation: The Ultimate Guide For Business To Respond To Your Customer's Needs: Customer Relationship Management - https://amzn.to/3lzdpju How To Improve The Business Process: Tips On Improving Customer Expectations For Your Business - https://amzn.to/3AF5UvM Management: Meeting and Exceeding Customer Expectations - https://amzn.to/3FEsuIL These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today's show. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs to bring you these free daily tips. THANK YOU. *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR A WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.com

This is Episode 75 of The Jesus Society Podcast, and today I want to talk about dealing with difficult people. And the reason I want to talk about this today is that I've been dealing with some difficult people over the last few weeks. If you don't ever have any problems dealing with difficult people, then perhaps you can just skip this episode, but if, like many of us, you struggle to know how to deal with difficult people, then you might just find a few things in this episode that'll help. Join me today as we discuss: 1. Some of the types of difficult people we encounter. 2. Some biblical guardrails to help govern our interactions with difficult people and at least keep us from getting off into the ditches. 3. The tricky business of dealing with fools. 4. How the book of Nehemiah can really help us when it comes to difficult people. ______________________________ As always, we'd appreciate it if you'd tell others about the podcast. If you enjoy the show, please subscribe, rate and review us on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, AND now also on Amazon Music. Please visit us on our Facebook page for The Jesus Society Podcast (@JesusSocietyPodcast). And check out our NEW website — https://thejesussociety.com/. And, as we continue to try and grow our audience, we're currently loading all episodes of The Jesus Society podcast onto YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEy1ppP5RWd3jXPc6bI6WuQ/) and Odysee (https://odysee.com/@TheJesusSocietyPodcast:6). If you search for The Jesus Society Podcast on either YouTube or Odysee, you'll find us. And, if you'd like to support the show and our related ministry, click on the “Support TJS” link on the Jesus Society website to find out how (https://thejesussociety.com/). Thanks for listening! And remember, you are greatly loved. Music and audio production by Nathan Longwell Music  _______________________ Resources for Today's Show: 1. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback (2017)

There's no way around it, we are all IN transition of one form or another.  In today's episode, I share 4 tools to help you navigate these spaces, because they are unavoidable.  Intentional Optimism - Your Vehicle for Personal Growth:Optimistic = The hull, the vehicle that gets you from island A to island B.Present = The centerboard - keeps you upright, focused, centered.Energetic = The sail - captures & harnesses the wind, propelling you forward.Courageous = The rigging - holds everything together in proper tension, resilience. Wise = The rudder - keeps you on track, heading in the right direction.Intentional = Setting everything up to properly capture the wind.Topics discussed in this episode: Transition = Change = Liminal SpaceIn life, it's the space between “what was,” and “what's next.” It could be the journey, but many times, it's a season where we wait, not really knowing what's coming. Four Tools for Navigating Transition:Honest Self Awareness - DISC AssessmentHealthy Boundaries - Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeUnderstanding your Core Values - Mini Course: “Uncovering Your Core Values”  Embracing Community  - Intentional Optimists Facebook Group Collaborative Membership Community: Launch From The Beach Get involved!Newsletter:  Optimistic LivingCollaborative Membership Community: Launch From The BeachEmail me at andrea@theintentionaloptimist.comJoin me over in the Intentional Optimists Facebook Group  ●  Follow on Instagram @theintentionaloptimist  ●  Linked In Andrea JohnsonGrab your FREE:Andrea's Favorite Planning & Productivity tools“Ultimate DISC communication Cheat Sheet”Need some tools?Try New Things - 30 Day ChallengeSkillshareGet your own DISC Assessment, and don't forget the 10% discount (code "PODCAST") at check out!Noom: A Mindful Way to Eat Learn how to intentionally challenge your mindset in order to take control of your health.Skillshare: Spark your creativity. Get 40% Off Annual MembershipDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/AndreaJohnson)

In this episode Anne-Marie and Sary take on the B-Word - BOUNDARIES! Join in as we define their own personal “Garden” and explore what setting boundaries means, why it is so important to know what we care about, what we require to consciously create what we want and what to consider when setting boundaries in relationships.  Fact Check:1. Sary referenced the author Brianna Wiest book “The Minds Journal”.  The books that she is accredited for writing are 101 essays to change the way you think, The Truth About Everything and The Human Element. The Mind Journal is an online multi authored collaborative weblog discussing psychological relationships, mental health, parenting, abuse, self development and astrology. The owner is Mind's Journal OPC . Founder Sakahi Choidhary. Key people Linda Greyman. 2. Sary said boundaries means” having the courage to live a life you are proud of and start over if need be. Boundaries, according to Positive Psychology, is a limit or space between you and the other person - a clear place where you begin and the other person ends. The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is of course to protect and take good care of you. 3. Both Sary and Anne Marie reference the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend several times throughout the episode.  Full title with subtitle and both authors full names including their titles are: Boundaries, When to Say Yes How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.4. The Hoffman Quadrinity Process®, founded by Bob Hoffman in 1967 is a week-long residential and personal growth retreat that helps participants identify negative behaviors, moods, and ways of thinking that developed unconsciously and were conditioned in childhood.The Process will help you become conscious of and disconnected from negative patterns of thought and behaviors on an emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual level in order to make significant positive changes in your life. You will learn to remove habitual ways of thinking and behaving, align with your authentic self, and respond to situations in your life from a place of conscious choice.

Have you ever experienced conflict and didn't know how to resolve it? Have you ever made your own issues more insignificant than others?    So many of us attempt to avoid conflict by performing our way into acceptance or approval, yet when we actually come face to face with an issue, we realize that it's rooted in a much deeper internal struggle.   Conflict begins within. Before we can address conflict resolution, we must first resolve the issues within our own hearts and minds. Avoiding conflict can cause more pain, but understanding conflict can bring us true peace.    Today's guest is not only a Purpose To Platform and Command The Stage graduate, but she's also on a mission to spread the message that the root of peace is identity.   Patrice Grimes is known as The Peace Curator, a Transformational Speaker, and is the Founder and CEO of The Oasis Space, LLC. A seasoned award winning HR professional, Patrice utilized her relationship building, coaching, and leadership skills in the corporate world to transition into a broader holistic approach that starts outside of the workplace. She now coaches and serves as a place of refuge for high achieving, "go-getter" women, and helps them to identify HEALTHY conflict resolution strategies while embracing their authentic identity to become successful P.E.A.C.E. Pursuits.   Patrice believes one of the major keys of conflict resolution is to ditch performance based complexes in exchange for embodying peace. As the podcast host of The Oasis Space, Patrice provides personal insight and guest interview enlightenment to equip her community to solve their identity crisis and unleash the peace within.     Key discussion points from this episode include: Journey Through An Identity Crisis - 04:43 Conflict Starts Within - 13:06 Conflict Avoidance - 14:42 Conflict Aggression - 19:36 Normalizing Conflict - 27:00 Finding Peace & Fulfillment 31:36 From Purpose To Platform - 33:16   Connect With Patrice Grimes Instagram: @ thepeacecurator Website: https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/ This episode is brought to you by my 5-day challenge, Committed To The Call.    Are you a coach, consultant, author, speaker or a service based entrepreneur of any kind? Are you sick of being interested and ready to be committed to getting the answers you need to live the life you've been longing for? GET unstuck and join me for my FREE 5-day challenge, COMMITTED to the CALL, where I'll show you how to stop fighting for a seat at the table and teach you the mindset and tools you need to build your own table. We start August 9th, and you need to be there. To Register and learn more, visit http://PatriceWashington.com/challenge. Unleash the Peace Takeaways   “Peace in itself is rooted in identity.” - Patrice Grimes “Every conflict will typically start with you.” - Patrice Grimes  “By avoiding conflict with you, I'm creating massive conflict within me.” - Patrice Washington  “When there is a disagreement or there is misalignment between the mind and the heart, that's when you know there's conflict.” - Patrice Grimes  “You have to be okay with some people walking away when they don't serve you anymore for your life.” - Patrice Grimes “Stop romanticizing expired relationships.” - Patrice Washington “Never think that you're above other people's bad behavior.” - Patrice Washington “It's better to have nobody than a bad body.” - Patrice Washington “Anger is really misplaced fear.” - Patrice Grimes “People have normalized what conflict looks like in their lives to the point where they're not able to identify what the conflict is.” - Patrice Grimes    “Do you need a seat at the table because you think you need to prove yourself to be worthy or do you think you need to find another table that already knows you're worthy or create your own?” - Patrice Grimes “Stop making decisions rooted in fear, not faith.” - Patrice Washington “You can't be a public success and a private failure.” - Patrice Washington  “Peace is an intangible feeling that shows up as tangible results.” - Patrice Grimes  “You're not going to be fulfilled until you get to the main root of identity.” - Patrice Grimes “You can not transform what you're not willing to heal.” - Patrice Grimes    Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions   And with that, let's dig into Patrice's responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.   Define Success: “I define success by finding the freedom to show up as your best self without being attached to finances.”   Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less: "Peace. Health. Family"    One Book that Has Redefined How You See Wealth: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud & John Townsend    Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”: “My name is Patrice Grimes and to me the truth about wealth is that you will never experience true wealth until you experience true peace, which is being able to pivot even as chaos pursues.” LINKS:   Join Purpose To Platform: https://patricewashington.com/purpose2platform/   To advertise on the podcast: http://www.patricewashington.com/podcastads   Become an Official Purpose Chaser: https://www.facebook.com/groups/redefiningwealthcommunity/?ref=bookmarks   To check out ALL of our past guests + episodes: http://www.patricewashington.com/Listen   If you have questions about booking Patrice or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@seekwisdomfindwealth.com.   Find me in Social Media:   Our podcast hashtag is #RedefiningWealth   Instagram: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.instagram.com/seekwisdompcw/   Twitter: @SeekWisdomPCW https://twitter.com/SeekWisdomPCW   Facebook: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.facebook.com/SeekWisdomPCW/   YouTube: @SeekWisdomPCW https://www.youtube.com/user/SeekWisdomPCW

Shā Sparks is the CEO (Chief Excitement Officer) of Sparks of Fire International, a Certified Fearless Living Coach and Trainer, host of The Power of Investing in People Podcast, and Co-Founder of #FIRESTARTERS Book Project. Today, Shā shares how she spent much of her life without love and waiting to die, how she broke up with alcohol, and why she decided to pray for herself. Shā also tells us how God led her into her calling helping other as a coach. Her story reminds us that learning to receive love is an important part of the journey. Listen to Shā's story now! Stories Shā shared: Spending many years wanting to die Why she chose the title “Chief Excitement Officer” Growing up on a farm in Central Iowa Her dad's anger at home and how it started depression in her Having a kegger at 11 year old Dealing with suicidal ideation Feeling that the Lord was always with her even in her darkest time Sensing the devil speaking to her Giving her life to Christ after a DUI at 16 Realizing that she needed to leave her abusive relationship Deciding to pray for herself instead Getting counseling to discover herself for the first time Contemplating the love of God Getting into coaching to help women out of abusive relationships Great quotes from Shā: I was so giving that I forgot to give to myself. I thought if I had needs, I was a bad person. The reality is we all have needs. Love is what really surprised me. When you are working to heal, you are working on your purpose. Resources we mentioned: Shā's website FIRESTARTERS: How to Be a Spark of Hope in the Midst of Change by Sha Sparks Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by Robin Norwood Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Related episodes: Paul Sohn and Finding Your God-Given Purpose Idella Kercher and God's Abundant Provision Marc Schelske and the Wisdom of Your Heart The post Shā Sparks and Finding Purpose appeared first on Eric Nevins.

Is joy possible when going through betrayal trauma, a separation, or divorce? In this second interview with author Noelle McBride she shares with us how becoming a "ruthless editor of her life" helped her find joy going through divorce. Often as latter-day saint women, we struggle with wondering where we belong in the great plan of happiness if our lives are looking very different from how that plan is typically perscribed. Noelle shares with us what things she needed to remove from her life, and changes she made to find that joy and happiness. If you haven't listened to the first episode with Noelle make sure to go back and listen to Episode 58. Show Notes: To read more about Noelle's experience you can find a copy of Noelle's book here Follow Noelle on Social Media or check out what other services she offers on her website Boundaries by Henry Townsend: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life: Cloud, Henry, Townsend, John: Amazon.com: Books

In the eleventh episode of the M3 Bearcast, a conversation about dating multiple people spawns many other topics about what it means to date. Do you allow someone to try to buy your affection with material things?  If you are dating someone who is seeing other people does that make you feel like you're in competition with those other people? All of these questions come up as I try to explain my philosophy of dating. Jeffery Roman and Woodrow Thompson help me hash out these issues and a lot more in this episode. The issue of Boundaries comes up quite a bit and I would like you to read  Boundaries  When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life  https://amzn.to/3w4q7Jr also check out The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World  https://amzn.to/3vL0ldK

This week's Thursday Three has a special guest -- C.J. Wade. You can find C.J. Wade's musings and a link to all of her most important writings on her site thewritewade.com. You may also enjoy her podcast Queens be Like. C.J. Wade's Picks: I Am Restored: How I Lost My Religion but Found My Faith by Lecrae Rita Moreno: A Memoir by Rita Moreno Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend Rachel's Picks (actually three this week!): Dream First, Details Later: How to Quit Overthinking & Make It Happen! by Ellen Marie Bennett Growing Boldly: Dare to Build a Life You Love by Emily Ley Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption by Laura Hillenbrand

Here are 7 things I wish I knew in my 20's and I'm hoping now that I'm in my 50's this life advice will be an inspiration for young people. 7 things I wish I knew at 20 haunt me now, but we are not born with self development training. Self development for young people doesn't even start till our late teens. So, now that I have learned a few self development skills here's a few things I wish I knew back then. Today's #ThingsIWishIKnew sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown *** 7 THINGS I WISH I KNEW IN MY 20'S CHAPTERS *** 0:00 - Intro Meet Angela Brown the House Cleaning Guru 0:30 - Here are 7 things I wish I knew in my 20's 0:39 - 1) Embraced social media sooner 1:28 - 2) Started a YouTube Channel Sooner 1:58 - 3) Learned to be a better Facebook Group Admin 3:48 - 4) Don't negotiate with bullies 5:15 - 5) Protect your team first 6:53 - 6) Family First 7:49 - 7) Love and Let Go 9:14 - What lessons have you learned? *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** Life Lessons and Love Languages: What I've Learned on My Unexpected Journey - https://amzn.to/3xx9eYF Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3xslkCg Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself - https://amzn.to/3vCEpjR Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free - https://amzn.to/3xrpAlA What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20 - https://amzn.to/3zD2aMc These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today's show. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs to bring you these free daily tips. THANK YOU. *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean. How to start a cleaning business. Marketing and advertising tips for your cleaning service. How to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. And cleaning company expansion help. Our host, Angela Brown, a professional house cleaner for 25 years, ran and managed one of the largest independently owned cleaning companies in the Southeast United States. She is the CEO and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.com

The most powerful word in business can solve so many problems. You can manage client expectations with the right word and the promises you make. Your cleaning word is backed by your satisfaction guarantee, so choose your words carefully. Be clear about the strongest word you use on your walkthrough. Today's Ask a House Cleaner sponsor is Savvy Cleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown *** CONTENTS OF THIS SHOW *** 0:00 - Intro - Meet Angela Brown The House Cleaning Guru 0:19 - An overwhelmed house cleaner calls into the show 0:45 - The most powerful word in business and when to use it 1:30 - The best #customerservice is knowing the services you provide 2:14 - What is the opportunity cost for adding services to your offer? 3:47 - The best way to serve your customers and your #cleaningbusiness 4:54 - Wanting the best for the customer sometimes means using the most powerful word 7:00 - The problem with overpricing your services to get out of a job *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** Power Phone Scripts: 500 Word-for-Word Questions, Phrases, and Conversations to Open and Close More Sales - https://amzn.to/3wZS2e6 Master of the Arts: Excel at Saying No: Change The Habit Of Pleasing, Overcome The Fear To Refuse, Gain Your Time And Respect, Say No Without Feeling Guilty, Grow Your Wealth And Success - https://amzn.to/3w3opst When I Say No, I Feel Guilty - https://amzn.to/3w4kxY6 Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/34WYiY8 The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty) - https://amzn.to/3w4kWd4 * These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today's show. As an affiliate and Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs and helps raise awareness for cleaning in 191 languages. THANK YOU. *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean. How to start a cleaning business. Marketing and advertising tips for your cleaning service. How to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. And cleaning company expansion help. Our host, Angela Brown, a professional house cleaner for 25 years, ran and managed one of the largest independently owned cleaning companies in the Southeast United States. She is the CEO and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.com

Why is it so hard to find lyrically appropriate music for kids that has beats they actually like? How can I navigate a relationship with a suicidal friend? How can I help my kiddo struggle well through a huge disappointment? Help me through the intense energy shift (which is just a nice phrase for total meltdown) at certain times of day.  We solve these and so many more listener problems in this episode. We couldn’t get to all of them, but there were so many relatable ones! We decided we want to bring this segment back every month and start bringing on experts to help us solve them. If you have problems you want solved, email hello@momstrugglingwell.com and we may get to yours on the next Problem Solved!WHAT WE CHAT ABOUT: Insight Development Plan for kiddos to build character through journal prompts We created a collaborative playlist on Spotify: Beats for Young Girls! Advice for having a healthy relationship with a suicidal person in your life National suicide prevention lifeline: 800.273.8255 Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud Encouragement for a young Strugg who is disappointed with the part they got in a play Em is bringing back fake news segments per Strugg request  Possible solutions for nail biting Practical tip to Struggle Well through grief Embracing (not avoiding) the after school meltdown How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LePera KS: Rebecca is not moving as soon as she hoped, Emily has too much junk food in her face at work, Kate wants to burn Big Boy’s sweat pants GL: Rebecca’s depression & anxiety meds are kicking in, Em is using insight development plans as a consequence, Kate is loving the book How to do the Work *Disclaimer: As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.  CONNECT WITH REBECCA: website | instagram | patreon CONNECT WITH KATE: instagram | website | patreon CONNECT WITH EMILY: website | instagram | facebook | patreon BIG SISTER VOICEMAIL LINE:If you are a mom of older kids and have wisdom to share, call us! 203.871.1683 EPISODE SPONSORS: Trust & Will: get 10% plus FREE SHIPPING of your customized legal documentsCubo Ai: use code MSW for $10 off your purchaseSongfinch: use code MSW for a total of $70 off the perfect giftBrightbox: use code MSW to get a free add on in your box! SHARE THE STRUGGLE!If you've been encouraged, share this episode with a friend.  The struggle is real.  We might as well do this together! Do you love Mom Struggling Well? Please leave a review here! LINKS MENTIONED ON THE SHOW: Patreon | Amazon *Disclaimer: As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. 

This house cleaners amazing surprise could ruin her business, how is that possible? Sometimes in an effort to make clients happy, house cleaners can end up costing their business. Today we'll cover exactly why this happens and how to prevent it! Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown *** CONTENTS OF THIS SHOW *** 0:00 - Intro - Meet Angela Brown The House Cleaning Guru 0:08 - A House cleaners amazing surprise starts out like this 0:50 - The expectations for the job were set before the job started 1:43 - Was the surprise a gift or failure to listen to instructions? 2:09 - The homeowner is impressed and rewards the above and beyond cleaning 2:49 - Here's what really happened to the house cleaners amazing surprise 3:11 - The expectations are not scalable nor profitable 3:58 - Today's surprise sets future expectations up for failure 4:52 - Going the second mile should not cost the company time and money. 5:48 - The risk of not following instructions 6:28 - Business profits are based on earnings not giving stuff away. *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** The Empowered Empath: A Simple Guide on Setting Boundaries - https://amzn.to/3xSx2r3 Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3b8kCBu Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself - https://amzn.to/2RAEINK Manage Your Day-to-Day: Build Your Routine, Find Your Focus, and Sharpen Your Creative Mind - https://amzn.to/3uq03rS Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again - https://amzn.to/33o6WhI These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today’s show. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs to bring you these free daily tips. THANK YOU. *** MORE VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC *** Live With Katherine - Setting Client Expectations - Katherine Lawrence: https://youtu.be/T6wqAvVvUPs How Do You Go The Extra Mile For A Customer? - Slyvia Henderson: https://youtu.be/UcO3-wR-lxk Establish Healthy Boundaries With Your Clients | Life Coach Certification - Brave Thinking Institute: https://youtu.be/FchQ_D_DFh8 How to Handle Clients with Unrealistic Expectations - The Massimo Group: https://youtu.be/9G-CjDlOF_Y *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** WHO IS ANGELA BROWN THE HOUSE CLEANING GURU? *** Our host, Angela Brown, a professional house cleaner for 25 years, ran and managed one of the largest independently owned cleaning companies in the Southeast United States. She is the CEO and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.com

This episode is all about when life feels entirely out of control. Previous episodes have focused on learning to live life through the lens of "discovery." The problem is that when life feels upside down, "life as discovery" is meaningless. What first needs to happen is to stop drowning! This episode is all about how to patch the gaping holes of life so we can get our boat afloat again.Please consider supporting this podcast:Give monthly (as little as $5 a month) on our Patreon Page - https://www.patreon.com/ltrGive a one time gift through Venmo at @mattboettgerGive a one time gift through PayPal here - https://paypal.me/mattboettgerThings Discussed In Episode (some links may be affiliate links where I receive a small commission for the recommendation) :Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John TownsendDecisive: How to Make Better Decisions in Life and Work by Chip and Dan HeathThe Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry SchartzThe Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie KondoLiving the Real, Episode 9: Making Molehills out of MountainsFinancial Peace University by Dave RamseyThe ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary KellerSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/ltr)

When a Customer says they will have to find someone else to clean their home what do you do? How do you keep it from hurting your feelings? And how could you manage the customer expectations better? Learn to set boundaries from the start so everyone wins. Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is #SavvyCleaner training and certification for house cleaners and maids. (https://savvycleaner.com/join) And your host today is #AngelaBrown *** PROMISED LINKS AND GOOD KARMA RESOURCES *** 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life - https://amzn.to/3tsSArO Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/3uX3Mgj The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control - https://amzn.to/3v6OHcv Extra Mile: 500 Customer Service Tips for Success: Tools to Attract, Satisfy, & Retain Even the Most Difficult Customer - https://amzn.to/32fYjFl Customer Service Training 101: Quick and Easy Techniques that Get Great Results - https://amzn.to/3toKnVg Amaze Every Customer Every Time: 52 Tools for Delivering the Most Amazing Customer Service on the Planet - https://amzn.to/3sk07ru These good karma links connect you to affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today’s show. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Your support pays our production costs to bring you these free daily tips. THANK YOU. *** MORE VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC *** How to Manage Customer Expectations - 11 Excellent Tips - Marketing 360 - https://youtu.be/BPO6_HSdQec Setting Boundaries with Clients: Role Play, Demo, Foundations - https://youtu.be/pX9x_w8ME9s Foundations for Community Health Workers - https://youtu.be/pX9x_w8ME9s Good boundaries free you | Sarri Gilman | TEDxSnoIsleLibraries ​- TEDx Talks ​- https://youtu.be/rtsHUeKnkC8 Dr. Henry Cloud | How To Set Boundaries - Dr. Henry Cloud - https://youtu.be/zjcPkKHZRCg Boundaries: Why You Need Them & How to Set Them - The Holistic Psychologist - https://youtu.be/dXvlwXMNbXI A beginners guide to setting boundaries - The Holistic Psychologist - https://youtu.be/tUOvY6Lfm1A *** RATE THIS SHOW *** https://sotellus.com/r/savvy-cleaner *** RATE THIS PODCAST *** https://ratethispodcast.com/askahousecleaner *** TRAINING & CLEANING CERTIFICATION*** https://savvycleaner.com/join *** MOST REQUESTED LIST OF CLEANING STUFF I USE *** https://www.Amazon.com/shop/AngelaBrown ***FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – THANK YOU GIFTS FOR MAIDS*** Daily Giveaway - https://funnycleaningshirts.com *** CONNECT WITH ANGELA ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savvycleaner/ Facebook: https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner Twitter: https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner Instagram: https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner Pinterest: https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Low to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. And cleaning company expansion help. Our host, Angela Brown, a professional house cleaner for 25 years, ran and managed one of the largest independently owned cleaning companies in the Southeast United States. She is the CEO and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com FUNNY CLEANING SHIRTS – Incentive and thank you gifts for house cleaners and maids. https://FunnyCleaningShirts.com *** VIDEO CREDITS *** VIDEO/AUDIO EDITING: Kristin O https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/kristin-o HOST: Angela Brown https://savvycleaner.com/reviews/angela-brown PRODUCER: Savvy Cleaner https://savvycleaner.co

As a leader, are you taking on too many projects and responsibilities? If you tell someone you have too much on your plate, do you feel guilty for being transparent? In today’s episode featuring Ashley Duda, Sarah Johnson and Joshua Stamper tackle the topics of setting healthy boundaries, designating time for ourselves, and navigating through the F.O.G. In this episode, we discuss: Time as a currency Re-evaluating our mission and focus About Ashley Duda: Ashley is a School Counselor serving at the Kaukauna Area School District. She is a leader and Aspiring Administrator. Follow Ashley Duda: Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshleyDuda7 Resources from this Episode: “Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life”: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310351804/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0310351804&linkCode=as2&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=34707d597c2250c24ef5bce88df1b66a Lindsey Hale-Lifted: How to Ditch Fear, Obligation, and Guilt--And Live Your Best Life Interested in being a guest on Aspire to Rise? We would love to hear from you here. Follow the Hosts, Sarah Johnson: Sarah's Website Sarah on Twitter Sarah on IG Sarah on LinkedIn Sarah on Facebook Podcast Website Subscribe to the In AWE Podcast Join Sarah’s FREE Five Day Going Beyond Balance Challenge: Joshua Stamper Contact: https://joshstamper.com/contact/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/Joshua__Stamper Instagram: www.instagram.com/joshua__stamper Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-stamper Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AspirePodcast Subscribe: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspire-the-leadership-development-podcast/id1384210762?mt=2 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/inawepodcast/message

Recently at Emmanuel Church, Pastor Danny completed a weekend message series on marriage and relationships called Making It Work. During the series, he was joined by his wife of 21 years, Jackie Anderson, to share insights and principles on how to cultivate a healthy marriage. This series included a Q+A with questions submitted by Emmanuel Church attendees. In this episode of the Breakthrough Podcast, they answer more of your questions. Questions include: What do you do if the relationship is toxic? How do you know when it's time to move on? What are your thoughts about TV in the bedroom? What advice do you have for singles to use their time being single to prepare for marriage? And more! Additional Resources: Making It Work, Week 1: Go First (https://eclife.org/page/1244?Item=2231) with Danny Anderson Making It Work, Week 2: 5 Ways to Make It Work (https://eclife.org/page/1244?Item=2250) with Danny and Jackie Anderson Making It Work, Week 3: Danny and Jackie in the Hot Seat (https://eclife.org/page/1244?Item=2253) with Danny and Jackie Anderson Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life (https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804) by Dr. Henry Cloud + Dr. John Townsend Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: Real Help for Desperate Hearts in Difficult Marriages (https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Spouse-When-Walking/dp/0802418104) by Gary Chapman For more information about Emmanuel Church, including our weekend service times and locations, visit www.eclife.org. For more content from Pastor Danny, subscribe to his blog at www.dannyanderson.net. Follow Pastor Danny on social media: Instagram: @dannyanderson23 Twitter: @dannyanderson23 Facebook: @dannyanderson230 Have a question you'd like Danny and Rachel to discuss on the podcast? Email us at breakthrough@eclife.org.

Kayla and Cindy are back with another episode and this time they are discussing negativity at work, home, and with family/friends and how they handle it.Check out some books below we have used as well!:- How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey- Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud- Today I Affirm: A Journal that Nurtures Self-Care by Alexandra Elle- You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life  by Jen SinceroFollow us on Twitter, Facebook, and InstagramWe know things are rough right now due to the winter storms that have hit 70% of the US, and not only that, but impacting Texas. If you or someone you know needs help during this time please reach out to us at holdonweretalkingpodcast@gmail.com and let us know what you are needing so we can do our best to get you the right resources! We love our listeners and hope everyone will stay safe during this time!!Love Always, Kayla & Cindy 

Dusty and Tommy explore emotions around this week's presidential inauguration. Is a new president good, bad, or business as usual for individual American's? How does the first female vice-president impact our nation? Find Ourselves QoW: "What is one truth I've recently come to terms with?" Tommy's Recommendation: https://bookshop.org/a/20811/9780310351801 (Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life) Dusty's Recommendation: Love Life on HBO (HBO Max) Please rate and review the podcast, and share it with anyone you think might enjoy the journey. Follow either Dusty or Tommy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dustinriedesel/?hl=en (@dustinriedesel) & https://www.instagram.com/tommycooksey/?hl=en (@tommycooksey) Books mentioned in this podcast: https://bookshop.org/a/20811/9781250313577 (Hate Inc) by Matt Taibbi, https://bookshop.org/a/20811/9781250313577 (The Moment of Lift) by Melinda Gates

Most people from broken homes struggle with boundaries. Usually, we were never taught how to set and enforce proper boundaries within our families. We’ve seen this again and again. Why is that damaging? Because you can’t have healthy relationships without proper boundaries. Period.In this episode, we cover:What are boundaries?The four types of boundary problemsSix of the ten laws of boundariesBuy the Book: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life [affiliate link]Shownotes

Join Rob as he breaks down +50 books in +30 categories that he's read (or is reading) since the age of 40. This is a special show that is a combination of an audience feedback show and an episode that Rob has wanted to put together for quite some time...Many thanks to Andy for the show suggestion!I've got a list of 54 books here, 27 of which I've read in their entirety.1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeWake Up Happy: The Dream Big, Win Big Guide to Transforming Your LifeMore Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical PolyamoryMating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic IntelligenceFingerprints of the GodsSeven Skeletons: The Evolution of the World's Most Famous Human FossilsFood of the Gods: The Search for the Original Tree of Knowledge A Radical History of Plants, Drugs, and Human EvolutionGrain Brain: The Surprising Truth about Wheat, Carbs, and Sugar--Your Brain's Silent KillersThe Complete Book of Five Rings12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to ChaosSapiens: A Brief History of HumankindAnimal FarmBrain Maker: The Power of Gut Microbes to Heal and Protect Your Brain for LifeThe Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)Everything you need to know about E Collar TrainingHow to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and TranscendenceIshi in Two Worlds, 50th Anniversary Edition: A Biography of the Last Wild Indian in North AmericaJayber Crow::Novel21 Lessons for the 21st CenturyLesser Beasts: A Snout-to-Tail History of the Humble PigGaining Ground: A Story Of Farmers' Markets, Local Food, And Saving The Family FarmNonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your ValuesThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal ChangeThe Indifferent Stars Above: The Harrowing Saga of the Donner PartyAmusing Ourselves to DeathBuilding a Better World in Your Backyard: Instead of Being Angry at Bad GuysThe Unsettling of America: Culture & AgricultureHere's a list of books that I am "in the process of" reading (as of 12/30/2020):IMPACT: Get Rich! Be More Awesome! Change the World! Kindle EditionThe Ecological Landscape Professional...Gaia's Garden: A Guide to Home-Scale Permaculture299 Days: The 43 Colonels (Volume 10) Quick Keto Meals in 30 Minutes or Less:...Pursue the Cause of Liberty: A Farewell to Congress Quick & Easy Ketogenic Cooking: Meal Plans and Time Saving Paleo Recipes...Mere Christianity The Paleo Solution: The Original Human Diet Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern RelationshipsPrimal Power Method Change Your Body. Change Your Life. The Modern Caveman LifestyleFor a New Liberty: The Libertarian Manifesto The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures A Seeker's Guide to Inner Peace: Notes to Self Treating Epilepsy Naturally : A Guide to Alternative and Adjunct TherapiesEpilepsy: A Patient and Family Guide Pasture Basics: How to Keep the Grass Green and Your Chickens Happy (Permaculture Chicken Book 2) Japanese Pickles CookbookSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/allaroundgrowth)

Amy Englemark and I chat about the importance of recognizing and setting clear boundaries without feeling guilty. She shares helpful strategies to feel better about boundary setting and understanding the invisible boundaries that exist in our relationships. Amy is a master communicator, who listens carefully to what her clients are saying, and offers clear direction. She invites us to look at the true cost of not having clear boundaries in our business and in our relationships. Amy Englemark is a coach, speaker, upcoming author and authority on health, wealth and happiness. Her specialty is in developing healthy leaders who are equally happy and wealthy. Watch us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qTgI-ggIOdA - originally recorded in Feb 2020. You can connect with Amy: amyenglemark.com/ facebook.com/AmyEnglemarkCoaching/ instagram.com/amyenglemark/ The book Amy recommended is called Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud, John Townsend Take good care of your immune system this winter: https://bit.ly/healthypandemiclife Join our Gratitude Ambassadors Community on Facebook! facebook.com/groups/gratitudeambassadors/ All the social links: facebook.com/juliecmboyer/ facebook.com/wakeupwithgratitudephoto/ instagram.com/juliecmboyer/ instagram.com/wakeupwithgratitudephoto/ twitter.com/juliecmboyer linkedin.com/in/juliecmboyer/ twitch.tv/mrs__wolf

In today's episode we look at what it means to pursue WisdomIntentional Optimism - a refresher Optimistic - hopeful, positive, proactivePresent - having a sense of wonder, generous, kind/openCourageous - lead, adventure, resilientEnergetic - industrious, energetic and life-focusedWise - understanding, words, respectIntentional - sense of purpose, plan, growTopics discussed in this episode: How do you pursue wisdom?Understanding [2:58]SpiritualRealisticSee all the sidesWords [5:56]CarefulWorth Listening ToEncouragingRespect [9:10]Role model itBoundariesEarn itNow what?Do you want to pursue wisdom with me?What difficult lessons are you resisting or putting off?  Is it the Reality piece you need a better handle on?  Trust me, you're only delaying the inevitable. There's a saying in the personal growth world - “what we resist, persists.”  Maybe it's your Words… How well does your “thought bubble to speech bubble” filter work? Perhaps - like me - you need to start drafting emails or social media responses prior to “going live.”  The Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Philippians suggested these “true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, of moral excellence and praiseworthy” - how's THAT for a filter? It's pretty easy to demand others Respect us, but how easy is it to model out the kind of behavior that promotes respect both ways? What do your boundaries look like? Do you recognize the boundaries of others? I always recommend the book Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend, we'll put it in the show notes.Perhaps Understanding yourself is the place to start.  When you do, it's easier to begin to understand others.Resources mentioned in this episode:  (As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases)Blog Post: When I grow up I want to be… [1:52]Philippians 4:8  [12:31]Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Cloud and Townsend (#CommissionsEarned) [13:03]Get involved!Gab your FREE “Ultimate DISC communication Cheat Sheet”Get your own DISC Assessment, and don't forget the 10% discount (code "PODCAST") at check out!Email me at andrea@theintentionaloptimist.com  so I can be your professional encourager!Join the Intentional Optimists Facebook GroupFollow on Instagram @theintentionaloptimistLinked In Andrea JohnsonSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/AndreaJohnson)

The Dr. John Delony Show is a caller-driven show that gives you real talk on life, relationships and mental health challenges. Through humor, grace and grit, John gives you the tools you need to cut through the chaos of anxiety, depression and disconnection. You can own your present and change your future—and it starts now. So send us your questions at johndelony.com/show or leave a voicemail at 844-693-3291. We want to talk to YOU! Show Notes for this Episode 3:07: Teaching Segment: Family Boundaries During the Holidays 14:25: My husband has been drinking a lot since his parents died and I am having a hard time with it. 29:35: I was sexually abused by my father when I was young. He is trying to engage with my family and I'm not sure how to handle it Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - Henry Cloud   tags: boundaries, family, alcoholism, marriage, resentment, bitterness, counseling, sexual abuse, Henry Cloud These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.

In today’s episode, Tijana talks about four major points: 1. Organizing our day to day thoughts. 2. Deciding that we are going to do something about our emotions:          A. Write forgiveness letters.          B. Communicate our feelings to the people who are in our lives on               a day to day.          C. Find a therapist who can help us with our emotions as we                          reflect on our forgiveness letters. 3. Designating a specific time to focus on our day to day tasks. 4. Allowing ourselves to grieve by writing letters, talking about our loss, and finding ways to honor those we’ve lost. Remembering that we do not need to dismiss what is in our mind, but changing how we think about our thoughts is key. We also don’t need to do this alone.  Here are the links to the sites and books referenced in today’s episode: www.thethoughtsthatbind.com and www.amazingmovement.com Boundaries by Henry Cloud: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life 

In this episode of Broadening the Narrative, I talked with my best friend Kate Jaco. We discussed becoming boundaried and shared about our journeys toward developing boundaries alongside one another. Kate is an Enneagram 9, one of the most generous people I know, and a delightful human being. I hope that if you know and love me you can engage with the Broadening the Narrative blog, social media accounts, and podcast, as well as any recommended resources. Then, you can share with people who know and love you, and little by little, person by person, we can broaden the narrative. Speaking of Racism “Living into the Work with Myisha T from Check Your Privilege” Almost Heretical “Christena Cleveland - Getting Free” Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies by Alison Cook, PhD, Kimberly Miller, MTh, LMFT I want to thank Sequana Murray for the voice clip she sent to me for the episode intro. You can purchase her music on Bandcamp at bandy17.bandcamp.com. Her music is available on most streaming services under the name Bandy. I also want to thank Jordan Lukens for his help with editing and Danielle Bolin for creating the episode graphic. Please subscribe and review the show, but only if you're planning to leave a 5-star review. Otherwise, you can just skip this part. ;) Broadening the Narrative blog - broadeningthenarrative.blogspot.com Broadening the Narrative on IG @broadeningthenarrative Broadening the Narrative on Twitter @broadnarrative

In this episode of The Idealcast, Gene Kim sits down with Team of Team’s coauthor and CEO of Crosslead, David Silverman, and Director of Research and Development at CrossLead, Jessica Reif, for a two-part interview.  In Team of Teams, David and his coauthors explained how the Joint Special Forces Task Force in Iraq was struggling to achieve its mission, and how they turned it into a success. Their experience led to a deep and critical rethinking of almost everything in US military services and in the commercial industry. Now at CrossLead, David works with Jessica Reif to continue researching and codifying these practices into their management framework. In Part 1 of the interview, Gene and his guests discuss the structure and dynamics of the transformation described in Team of Teams and how these leadership characteristics are needed today in the new ways of working. This leadership framework reinforces the concepts of common purpose, shared consciousness, empowerment, and trust within organizations to help teams work together more effectively in complex environments, particularly when they have to continuously adapt to change. Stay tuned for Part 2.   BIO: David Silverman Entrepreneur, bestselling author, and former Navy SEAL, David Silverman is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of CrossLead, Inc. Founded in 2016, CrossLead is a technology company whose leadership and management framework is used by leaders and companies around the globe.   In 2015, David co-authored the New York Times bestselling leadership and management book Team of Teams: New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World. As a thought leader on culture change, high-performing teams, and leadership, he is a frequent guest speaker for business leaders and conferences around the globe. After his 13-year career as a Navy SEAL, David and a group of like-minded friends sought to reinvent the way the world does business in today’s dynamic environment. Based on their collective service in the world’s premier Special Operations Units, they devised a holistic leadership and management framework called CrossLead. Today, CrossLead is a leading framework for scaling agile practices across the enterprise. Implemented in some of the world’s most successful organizations, CrossLead drives faster time-to-market, dramatic increases in productivity, improvement in employee engagement, and more predictable business results.  Prior to CrossLead, David co-founded the McChrystal Group where he served as CEO for five years. A graduate of the United States Naval Academy, David served as a Navy SEAL from 1998-2011. He graduated Basic Underwater Demolition School (BUD/S) Class 221 in 1999 as the Honor Man. David deployed six times around the world, including combat deployments to Iraq, Afghanistan, and Southeast Asia where he received three Bronze Stars and numerous other commendations.  David serves on the advisory board of the Headstrong Project and is a member of the Young Presidents’ Organization. David lives in Washington, DC, with his wife, Hollis, and their two children. He maintains an active lifestyle as a waterman and runner.   Twitter: @dksilverman Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-silverman-648035a/ Website: https://www.crosslead.com/ Jess Reif                                                                                        Jessica Reif is the Director of Research & development for CrossLead Inc, where she leverages the latest management research to develop new approaches to increasing business agility for CrossLead’s clients. She leads CrossLead’s education efforts and has developed training programs that have been delivered to over 20,000 leaders. Previously, Jessica served as a Product Delivery Manager for applied machine learning and engineering teams at Oracle Data Cloud, where her role was to facilitate agile development among a team-of-teams. Jessica holds a B.S. in Industrial and Labor Relations from Cornell University. In her free time, she enjoys golfing, baking, and hiking.  Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jess_Reif Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-reif/ Website: https://www.crosslead.com/   YOU’LL LEARN ABOUT: The philosophy and thinking behind the book, Team of Teams The organization and management required to support the large group of personnel involved in the mission described in the book The dramatic changes in the transformations mentioned in the book and how and why it worked The structure and dynamics before and after the transformation What leadership characteristics are needed in this new way of working Ops Intelligence Update Call What was required to increase the temp of operations   RESOURCES What Google Learned From Its Quest to Build the Perfect Team by Charles Duhigg Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend Wharton’s Carton: CEOs Have Real Vision Problems by Howard R. Gold Team of Teams: New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World by General Stanley McChrystal, Tantum Collins, David Silverman and Chris Fussell DevOps culture: Westrum organizational culture Psychological safety Failure Is Not an Option: Mission Control From Mercury to Apollo 13 and Beyond by Gene Kranz How Can Leaders Overcome the Blurry Vision Bias? Identifying an Antidote to the Paradox of Vision Communication by Andrew M. Carton and Brian J. Lucas Sooner Safer Happier by Jonathan Smart The DevOps Handbook: How to Create World-Class Agility, Reliability, and Security in Technology Organizations by Gene Kim, Patrick Debois and John Willis   TIMESTAMPS   [00:08] Intro [03:26] Meet David Silverman [05:50] Meet Jessica Rief [06:59] Writing down his experiences to teach [12:58] Who are David’s students and what he was teaching [14:05] Applying these techniques to COVID-19 [17:54] Comparing David’s experience to General Stanley McChrystal’s experience [23:30] Remembering Defense Information Systems Agency CTO Dawn Meyerriecks’ org chart [25:30] Getting out of own way [28:31] Top differences in what David was trying to achieve [33:46] Compare and contrast the leadership characteristics [37:24] Jess reflecting on changes required at various levels of leaderships [39:58] A look at structural changes or lack thereof [47:50] The chessmaster vs the gardner [49:18] Changing the middle management [56:28] DevOps Enterprise Summit Las Vegas - Virtual [58:04] The frozen middle [1:00:06] Advice to define the work [1:06:10] Ops Intelligence Update Call [1:15:29] Create concrete manifestation of the vision [1:23:30] The dynamics of having the Ops Intelligence Update Call [1:26:03] The need for middle management to augment the process [1:30:55] Gene’s favorite part of Team of Teams [1:34:43] Creating these relationships in a large scale [1:39:55] Successful execution drives strategy [1:41:51] How to reach David and Jessica [1:43:06] Outro

BOUNDARIES!We all need them, but how do you enforce them?How do you know when you have them?Do you have boundaries or walls?Leslie talks about her struggle with implementing boundaries in her own life, but gives you helpful resources on how to tackle your own boundary struggles!Resources linked below!Amazon physical copy:Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Audiobook:Boundaries, Updated and Expanded EditionWhen to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your LifeAmazon physical copy:The Law of Happiness: How Spiritual Wisdom and Modern Science Can Change Your Life (The Secret Things of God) Audiobook:Law of HappinessHow Spiritual Wisdom and Modern Science Can Change Your Life

Do you cringe when you say "no"? In this 25 minute episode, we explore boundaries and how we can self-vilify or invalidate our best life experience by avoiding confrontation and challenges. Welcome to Beretta Fleur Du Jour! I'm Beretta Fleur, and I am a podcaster, author, and confidence coach. I help women build and develop self confidence, emotional skills and personalized plans to experience happier, healthier lives.Here, I offer 3 phrases to help you develop boundaries for healthier relationships and to manage your time, assets and energy. Listen now and ditch that cringe-y feeling, it's not serving you!___Episode Resources: Hosting With Style - Beretta Fleur's Guide to Parties and HomemakingBoundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life- Cloud & TownsendMusic: purple-planet.com___YOUR DREAM LIFE AND YOU Did this episode hit you in the heart? Do you have goals that stay on the back burner month after month? Are you feeling overwhelmed? I know how you feel, and I want to help you. MY LIFE DREAM is help you live YOUR DREAM LIFE in a more positive, satisfying and joyful way. I want the honor of teaching you how to break down your fears and embrace positive habits. I use one-on-one coaching to identify your goals and obstacles, to create a customized solution system that will put you on the path to deep joy and fulfillment. Curious? Take my FREE COACHING QUIZ and get a free custom evaluation and resource list. Website: www.berettafleur.com Join My Email List Instagram: @berettafleur YouTube: berettafleur Pinterest: @berettafleurWant to say thank you? Support the show here!Support the show (https://paypal.me/berettafleur?locale.x=en_US)

This summer, I decided I needed time on my own for a personal vacation to get away from the hustle and bustle of my busy life to write, focus on myself, and just RELAX. I drove six hours, two states away, to arrive at what was anything but a relaxing spot, just to turn around and come home the next day. What I learned was that this burnout I was feeling was because of boundaries I had neglected to set, time I wasn't stewarding well, and avoidance of self-care. Take a listen as I share how to take control of these areas as a way to avoid burnout and create moments for yourself right now, wherever you're at, with whatever you've got. Be sure to follow me @listensispodcast on Instagram and share this episode if you enjoy it! Here are some additional resources from this episode:Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Today's episode I talk about 5 ways to love yourself and share on some of my experiences. Enjoy 15% off Candid Soul Candle Co. Summer Collection 8oz Candles use code Wellness 15 at check out. visit www.candidsoulco.com offer expires August 26, 2020 at 11:59 PM Book Referenced: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/getcandid/support

Kimberley teaches us about the power of forgiveness and the process of forgiving others and ourselves. Then she walks us through the process of healing, of rewriting the stories we tell ourselves, and of creating and maintaining boundaries so that we can live our best lives possible. Resources form the Interview 1. Kimberley Milousis Life More Abundantly Website = http://www.kimm.me/lma 2. Kimberley Milousis Facebook Page = https://www.facebook.com/kimberleymilousis/ 3. Kimberley Milousis Life More Abundantly Course = https://myempoweredlivingacademy.teachable.com/p/life-more-abundantly 4. 20% Discount Code for Kimberley Milousis Life More Abundantly Course = use the code "COFFEE" 5. Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life = https://amzn.to/2XHakSa 6. 90-Day Reflection Journal = https://amzn.to/2PyGomQ 7. The Secret of Lasting Forgiveness: How To Find Peace By Forgiving Others... And Yourself = https://amzn.to/33HrMcX 8. The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything=Have Everything = https://amzn.to/2XH3b4a

This pandemic has us rethinking "normal" in terms of distance, time and routines; it feels like a healthy time to look at how we establish boundaries and expectations and our use one of the biggest words in our vocabulary; no. This conversation focuses on managing expectations and boundaries to help you trust yourself or your instinct more. Also, how to approach healthy use of the word "no" and the difference between hurt and harm when you do so.Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life bookInterview with Shonda Rhimes: Overcoming Her Fears and Journey to 'Year of Yes'Shonda Rhimes Year of Saying Yes TED TalkYear of Yes bookBest Yes book

What is the church? Have you ever thought about that? Really thought about it? Maybe you'd say it's the collection of saved people? And you'd be right. Maybe you'd say it's the bride of Christ (Eph. 5:25-27)? Right again. Or maybe you'd use Paul's language in 1 Tim. 3:15 and say the church is the pillar and support of the truth. Well who's gonna argue with Paul. Of course. All those things are true, but I'd like to suggest there's something even more basic. AND, I'm gonna suggest that if we don't get this right, the church is never gonna be any of those other things we read about. And if you've been listening to this podcast from about Episode 2 on, you might know where I'm going here. But to flesh this out, let's start on Day 1 of the church, which we read about Acts chapter 2. Join me today as we discuss: 1. Being adopted by God 2. Acts 2 and the first Christians. 3. The relational ways the New Testament describes coming to Christ. 4. What relationships are supposed to look like in the family of God. 5. The idea of fellowship in the New Testament - it means more than potlucks. 6. Independence vs. Interdependence. 7. The characteristics of Jesus Society Relationships 8. The virtue of being non-manipulative 9. Living love without agenda   Resources For Today's Show: I've just created a Facebook group for the Jesus Society Podcast, and I'd invite you to visit us there. Just search Jesus Society Podcast, and I'm sure you'll find it. It's a private group, so you'll have to ask to join, and there is a code of conduct you need to agree to. Feel free to ask questions or suggest topics for episodes of the podcast. Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend (2017) Music and audio production by Nathan Longwell Music

How to set healthy boundaries - Episode 20 The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden https://markmanson.net/boundaries Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Thinking Out Loud is a place to digest audibly the things we tend to think through silently. We'll look at a variety of complex issues from a variety of points of view, not necessarily to get to "right answers" but to build empathy and perspective. Jess and I discuss the progress made in breaking the stigmas surrounding mental health and what can still be done. Jess also shares much of her journey as it relates to her mental health. Both Jess and I have benefited greatly from therapy. If you have felt like you need to take that step, but haven't yet, may this be the final push you need. Here are some resources mentioned in the podcast: Conquering Codependency by Pat Springle Changes That Heal: 4 Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You by Henry Cloud Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World by John Mark Comer Follow Thinking Out Loud: Facebook / Twitter / Instagram Follow LOWERCASEPEOPLE: Facebook / Twitter / Instagram Follow MinistryCrate: Facebook / Twitter / Instagram

Creed and Crishelle talk with Karen Thurber, a young wife, mom, and entrepreneur with her own flower business. She is learning to support her husband, Alma (see episode 11) in his recovery from pornography use, and continually working on her own healing as well. Karen shares 3 important tools that have helped her. First is self-care, second is communication in their marriage, and third is reaching out for support. You’ll hear about the power of boundaries, honesty, 12-step groups, and daily scripture study. SHOW NOTES: Links mentioned: Spouse and Family Support Guide from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Addiction Recovery Program. Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life, and Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships, Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud and Townsend. Learn more about our nonprofit at Reach 10. Get in touch with us at hello@reach10.org. Submit anonymous questions, stories, or comments here. Support our podcast and help us reach more young people here. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram for more!

Have you forgotten how to dream? I asked that question of a client the other day as he was talking through all of his options. Should he take the job that was a minor promotion (my words - not his) or should he take the job in the other company which is also a minor promotion? (Again - my words not his.)  As he described both, I could tell his heart could care less? “What do you really want?” I asked. He then started comparing the options between the two jobs.  No - I mean “What do YOU really want?” Take all of this off the table. What do you want to do if you could step back and money was not the issue? He stared at me as if I had just morphed into speaking Chinese.  After a moment of awkward silence, I said - “Have you forgotten how to dream?" After another moment of awkward silence, he said - “I have even forgotten what it means to dream."  Have you forgotten how to dream? (podcast outline) We have let others do the dreaming for us. They set the agenda. What has happened to all of us? We used to be a nation of dreamers and innovators. Now we have mostly become the settlers. Settle for this job. We settle for this pay raise. We settle for watching other people do amazing things and work hard. We settle for having our mind numbed by the corporate grind - mostly made up of meaningless meetings and poor leadership. We settle for having our after-hours time consumed with the mission of others - coaches for our kids, school systems who demand us to show up after hours, job functions to go to, or just the grind of the TV and endless TV commercials.  Much of what we suffer is in the name of taking care of our kids and preparing them for college, and then a job, where they will live in the same monotony we have.  Or we suffer from being entertained to death. Videos, video games, etc 3.2 Billion hours of Youtube are watched every month.  The number of hours people spend watching videos (aka watch time) on YouTube is up 60% year-over-year Why have we done this?  Corporate Lobotomy - You become numb. Your mind becomes disconnected from your feelings about work and purpose. You might have been here too long.  We are being taught to follow. The average parent is teaching their kids to get into college. Why?  We are NOT being taught to dream.  How to recapture the spirit of dreaming! Find ways to be inspired.  Find new people who fascinate you to hang around them.  Be careful who you hang around! Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become. Find new ideas to try. Those things you always wanted to do but never had the time, money, etc.  Make time by quitting the activities that are adding no value to your life.  Does it truly provide you joy?  Do you look forward to doing it - or are you just in the habit of doing it?  All about people. Like it or not - people are the thing that inspires us. People who are doing amazing things. People who are passionate about what they do. People who we connect with on ideas or purposes.  Quit the relationships that are adding no value! "Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life" by Henry Cloud Then Dream Failure is not the right outlook - to try and grow is the point.  The journey is important - not the destination.  See more possibilities: We tend not to see possibilities beyond Our degree Our company Our work experience Our zip code For example, in a recent meeting with a CIO who was looking for what is next, he thought his only options were more CIO roles or tech roles. He discounted all he knew.   We tend to kill ideas when we see someone already doing this.  How dare we enter the market?  Who am I to do this?  Walmart, Facebook, Google, started this way. Others were doing it - they did. So did the corner laundry mat owner. So did the person holding the job you now want.

In this episode: I revisit and drop some tips on How to Check in w/ Yourself & Healthily Setting Boundaries as we embark on the new year!  IG: @Keepinitgwg.thepod Twitter: @KIGWGthepod   Please Refer back to Episodes #2 & #28. for more tips on Checking in w/ Yourself & Being Intentional.    Book Mentioned: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life. - By: Henry Cloud and John Townsend    Thanks for listening and Please do not forget to subscribe!

"I’m sorry I can't, I just don't want to." I've long known that "NO" is a complete sentence, but it doesn't mean I've practiced it. Largely because people can be very impolite. And pushy! Not long ago I told somebody I would not be present at an event. Pressed I truthfully said I had some things that required my attention before heading out of town. The pressing and ridicule began. A common tactic of people. I dug in and exclaimed with greater force, "I will not be there and you won't shame me into attending." No is indeed a complete sentence. Dr. Henry Cloud is likely known as the father of boundaries. Read his books including Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life. Each of us has to determine and establish the boundaries that serve us. That doesn't mean we give each other the Heisman pose. It does mean we display enough grace to each other that we stop thinking only of ourselves and quit pressuring people to do what WE want them to do. I posted this over at Facebook just recently. Social media is N-O-T-O-R-I-U-S for poor behavior. Even by decent or good people. The whole "IBK" (idiot behind keyboard) mindset sometimes captivates any of us. We get stupid. Some more quickly than others. Not long ago a buddy of mine posted something that any reasonable person would have realized was very innocuous. In Messenger, a person took issue exclaiming she was "offended" because he had used the phrase "stinky people." ;) No grace. No consideration. No thoughtfulness. No mindfulness. Just an exclamation that she was offended. It was a joke about a king who has been dead for 400 years and an anonymous man. It wasn't directed at her or any particular group of people. Hello Thin Skin, meet offense! He was quite measured in his response. Not sure I would've been. Mostly because I often feel like the ninnies need a battle. Else, they'll always win. And we're severely outnumbered by them as it is. They're growing by leaps and bounds. Purveyors of wisdom appear to be shrinking, in spite of our collective efforts here at LTW. Reminder: SurroundedByNinnies.com is a domain I own. Click on it and check it out.  "NO" isn't a hateful response. Why do people who hear it think so? Because they're selfish ninnies. They're giving no consideration to the person who says, "No." They're brassy enough to think they DESERVE an explanation. You owe them. Or so they think. No, you don't. Intentions play a role. So do expectations. So let's think about those two notions, but let's do it reverse order. Expectations The reality of expectations is our perceptions. We perceive things the way we perceive them. Is that ingrained in us? Is it unchangeable? It's a debate, but this much appears true. Humans appear to be made of love (those of us who believe in God and the Word of God already believe this truth). Love is the number one addiction of all people. Cardiovascular disease is the number killer. But lack of love - and the stress created by it - likely kill many, many more. God designed us this way. To crave and seek love. To express that love toward others. Increasingly, brain scientists believe we're built to see the glass half full. Neuroscientists tell us we're born with a perfect core genetic code. We make choices and those choices impact our DNA. So our perfection can have negative genes piled on top of them, but those imperfect genes resulting from previous generations are closed or dormant. Those imperfect or negative perceptions are learned. The environment wakes up those negative genes. Two children can grow up in an identical environment but result in completely different ways of life. Because all of us, every minute of every day engage in thinking, feeling and choosing. Choosing to think negatively launches negative perceptions which will drive negative behavior. People can be saved from themselves,

SummaryBrian Mayer discusses the concept of boundaries in relationships or how to set limits without feeling guilty.  Boundaries are easy to talk about but more difficult to implement.  It takes practice and lots of encouraging support.  You will learn how to set appropriate boundaries so you can live a life of freedom.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Today's episode is all the concept of Boundaries in Relationships in regard to a subsequent marriage that affects more people like biological and step children.          What is a Boundary?  A boundary is simply a property line to keep what is yours in and what is not yours out.  Think of houses and the property lines that are drawn around each home.  The history around Boundaries started several decades ago when research around how to help people with addictions took off.  This research began to take a look at the family system and found enabling behaviors by other family members.  This can also be called Co-Dependency.  Out of this co-dependency movement specifically related to addictions, came the term Boundaries and began to be applied to all relationship issues not just addiction issue.       A very helpful book about this topic is simply called Boundaries:  How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.  They have also written one specific to marriages called Boundaries in Marriage.  When healthy boundaries are not in place it can cause issues like depression, anxiety, resentment, and anger.   By not implementing an appropriate boundary, you are replacing a temporary discomfort with a more permanent pain.  Boundaries sound easy in theory, but are hard to implement.  When we first try to install a boundary on someone that is encroaching we can feel guilty or like we are a bad person.   Sometimes we also have this mentality that we must be all things to all people and that is how the Golden Rule works – Do Unto Others as You Would have done to You.  However, if you are not healthy first then you are no good to someone else.  You will ultimately burn-out if you do not install good boundaries.  Myths of Boundaries According to Cloud and Townsend: I am selfish if I install a boundary. I am being disobedient if I say No. If I set limits, I will be hurt I will hurt others I'm angry I should feel guilty or bad Boundaries are Permanent Learning to not feel responsible for others thoughts, feelings, and actions.  For example, the kids being bored is not your responsibility.  Now of course day after day, if you never do anything with them then yes that is a problem.  But the fact is that they are responsible for how they feel.  If we do not allow them to learn to pull themselves out a funk, then they will be stunted in their growth as adults.      Can Love and Boundaries Exist Together:  Yes they can.  In fact, boundaries actually signal that love exists.  Implementing Boundaries shows the other person under what parameters that love can flourish.  Inside the boundaries amazing things will happen, outside the boundaries is where individuals can work on themselves.  How Do Implement a Boundary Successfully? You are One Step Closer because you are listening to this podcast Get Support.  Either find a group or ask a close friend.  Role play setting boundaries by being both the boundary setter and the one for whom the boundary is being set.  Do not beat yourself up when you try to set boundaries initially.  You may fail and you probably will fail.  Boundary setting is a process.  You will receive much resistance at first because people will not be used to this.  Final Thoughts: Practice, practice, practice Know that boundaries will help keep you healthy and in turn will help others recognize how to keep themselves healthy.  Think about the Expect failure and grow from it. Resources Mentioned Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The above resources are affiliate links, which means that The Remarried Life Podcast receives a percentage of the sale.  Your cost does not change.  By purchasing these items you are helping cover the cost of expenses to produce this podcast.  Thanks in advance for your continued support of the podcast! Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. 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In this episode I touch on the fears we have regarding hurting others and how it can impact us setting boundaries.  Resource shared on show Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life (Amazon Affiliate Link)

You can’t live fully unless there is space.-Today on the podcast, Steve and Tommy sit down to talk about adding margin, and how this helps create more meaning in our lives. This is the first episode in a mini-series where we’ll learn how to put this method into practice. -Feeling overwhelmed, or overburdened? Tired of societies constant pressures of “more, more, more”? This podcast series is for you! Stay tuned for part two in two weeks.//Links mentioned on the show:Tommy’s blogMargin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives by Richard SwensonBook recommendation: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend//Overwhelmed with everything on your plate? Need help with administrative tasks? Free yourself up to operate in your sweet spot by partnering with a BELAY virtual assistant and get $200 off your starting costs: Schedule a conversation to learn more!BELAY website

This week Rick and Sean discuss how weird relationships are absolutely essential to our lives. God's way of relating to each other removes the fear that leads to pretension or protection. We discuss God's answers to the big four causes of toxicity (taking criticism personally, fear of rejection, difficulty in expressing true feelings, inability to give a healthy "no"), give a nod to Dr. Henry Cloud's book, "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life", and Rick challenges our church to healthier relationships in every scope of our lives.

October’s guest is Martha Ban, the Director of Technology and Support for the Office of Education at the North American Division of Seventh-day Adventists. We sat down to talk about her experiences as an educator, as well as her thoughts on where Adventist education is headed in the future. Martha's Book Recommendation: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life NAD Education Facebook Page Follow Teacher Bulletin on Social Media @TeacherBulletin! Facebook Instagram Twitter 2019 Atlantic Union Conference of SDA - www.teacherbulletin.me Episode music thanks to Joseph McDade.

In this episode: I reflect on the fact that we only have a few months left in 2019! - It’s SEPTEMBER!!! Where did the year go?    Be grateful for how far you’ve come and look forward with faith towards whatever it is that you have set on your heart to accomplish, write it down and work towards that goal!    Take your time, Don’t rush, Be realistic, Be patient, You’re human!    Read Mentioned: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life. - By: Henry Cloud and John Townsend  IG: Keepinitgwg.thepod Twitter: KIGWGthepod Email: Keepitgwg@gmail.com Don't forget to subscribe and follow the podcast pages for the socials! Thank you for listening!

Last week we spoke with Ryan Weaver about the importance of boundaries. This week we're sharing more of that conversation. In this episode, we discuss four key areas of our lives in which good boundaries could lead to greater health. IN THIS EPISODE Intro (0:00) The Boundary of Time (0:27) The Boundary of Activity (2:52) The Boundary of Relationships (6:07) The Boundary of Speech (7:52) RESOURCES Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Work and Family Collide Visit us online Like us on Facebook This podcast is powered by ZenCast.fm

In Episode 21, “You Gotta Speak Up” Kim shares the story of Caleb from Joshua 14 & 15, as he reminded Joshua of the land he had been promised 45 years earlier. Caleb had the courage to speak up for what was promised. His daughter followed his example and asked for what she wanted.   Kim challenges listeners to Speak Up for what they need, on behalf of others, sharing with others God's Word, and sharing the Good News of Jesus Christ.   She also referred to a couple of books on boundaries, and here are the Amazon links for those.   Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life (Henry Cloud and John Townsend) — https://amzn.to/2OF3vPb   Instead of the Boundaries: Face to Face she mentioned, you might want to purchase this similar title: How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication (Henry Cloud & John Townsend) - https://amzn.to/2GMC2ER     For a deeper dive into the book of Joshua, join Kim as she teaches “Finding Courage for Life's Battles: Life Lessons from the Book of Joshua.”   To take her FREE 3-Day Online Bible Study entitled “Let  God Transform U through His Word: Why Is Personal Bible Study So Important to Your Christian Life?”.   Check out Kim's website at https://gettinghealthyall4hisglory.com for blog posts and her PDF Printable collection.   Remember, “It's Always a Trust & Obey Kinda Day!”  

016 Hope for Healing from Physical and Domestic Abuse Episode Summary: If you have ever been the victim of physical or sexual abuse, been the target of domestic violence, or survived a traumatic event, then today is the perfect show for you. Today we’re talking about finding hope and healing after trauma, particularly domestic violence. On this episode, I had a very frank discussion with my friend, Melanie Pickett, who experienced a 15-year marriage that entailed domestic violence and sexual assault but shares how she found hope to go on. Melanie not only shared her story, but also the “red flags” that she missed that others need to be aware of. Melanie offers practical suggestions for what to do if you are in an abusive relationship, and how to hold on to hope. Quotables from the episode:  We will all go through hard times, but we have to remember that the trials are just a chapter not the entire story. Life will go on. After experiencing a traumatic event, trauma counseling can be so helpful and so healing. Even in the darkest nights, God still provided. One of the red flags Melanie missed was her husband’s extreme possessiveness which in the extreme isn’t about wanting to be with you but wanting to control and manipulate. Look at your relationships and ask yourself if they really line up with the love chapter in the Bible (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Is your relationship patient and kind? Not jealous or boastful or proud or rude? Does it not demand its own way? Is it not irritable and keep no record of being wrong? Does it rejoice over truth and not injustice? That is a good guideline for what a healthy relationship is like. Things to consider in your relationship: Are you afraid? Do you feel unsupported or that you can’t share your true feelings? You’re never more alive than when you are in pain, because that’s when you’re on your knees and God is really working. [click to tweet] Melanie never blamed God for what happened to her. She did, however, blame her ex-husband, but over time she came to a place where she could have compassion for how tormented he must have been. If you are in an abusive relationship, it’s not your fault. It’s not okay that it is happening, and you don’t deserve it. Financial concerns is not a reason to stay in an abusive relationship. God will work everything out. There is help, there is hope. You are not damaged goods. Even though the healing process is painful, there are better days ahead. Good Biblical therapy is key for moving on. Don’t stay in an abusive relationship because you think you can change a person. You can’t. Change has to come from God. Do not minimize your situation by thinking “Well, at least he’s not hitting me” because abuse is abuse and you don’t know when things will escalate, and it might cost you your life The most dangerous time for an abuse victim, is when they are trying to leave. Talk with a counselor, a pastor, a friend, or someone you trust. Make a plan, and then get out to safety. Scripture References: Psalm 9:9 “The Lord is a shelter for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” Psalm 63:8 “I cling to you; your strong right hand holds me securely.” Psalm 18:2 “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.”  Recommended Resources: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Cloud and Townsend https://amzn.to/2SorqAi “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker https://amzn.to/31cHOXM “Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption” by Laura Hillenbrand https://amzn.to/2YD0bn9 “One Call Away” by Brenda Warner https://amzn.to/2MElzGa “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2zB0e7J “Hope Prevails Bible Study” by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award https://amzn.to/2yMdN46 Social Media Links for Host and Guest: To connect with Melanie Spickett: Blog: https://melaniespickett.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MelanieSPickett Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniespickett/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melaniespickett/ For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: To order Hope Prevails:https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website:https://www.DrMichelleBengtson.com Blog:https://drmichellebengtson.com/category/blog/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter:https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/DrMichelleBengtson/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/Drbhopeprevails/ YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host:http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/ Air Date: July 29, 2018 Guest: Melanie Pickett Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson  

When we first start out in ministry we want to save the world - every person, everywhere. But that desire, while good intentioned, can quickly lead to burnout or erode the health of the leader. That's why setting boundaries is so important. In this episode we explore the benefits of boundaries for healthy ministry leaders. IN THIS EPISODE Intro (0:00) Recognizing the need for boundaries (1:30) Boundaries can even benefit those we serve (4:32) 4 key areas of life in which to set boundaries (we explore each of these deeper in the next episode) (7:25) RESOURCES Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Choosing to Cheat: Who Wins When Work and Family Collide Visit us online Like us on Facebook This podcast is powered by ZenCast.fm

A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd, LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in California. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse dynamics and healing from relationship trauma. Brandi Lewis, LPC owner and director of Reach Counseling Solutions LLC in Charlotte, NC joins us in a candid discussion about her work with survivors of abuse. Joy and personal energy can be completely depleted from us when we are caught in relationships that are abusive. Without realizing it, we carry negative energy with us from relationship to relationship - which perpetuates a pattern Brandi enlightens us on why we do this, and what steps we can take to have a happy and joyous energy after weathering stormy relationships. Connect with Brandi Lewis, LPC at: http://www.reachcounselingsolutions.com Resources: Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath's Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself Email questions/comments to Dr. Jones at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation going via social media: Instagram: A Date With Darkness Twitter: @Adatewdarkness Facebook: A Date With Darkness To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group

Episode Summary:   Today we’re going to be talking about the pain of the friendship relationships that steal your joy. Specifically, toxic friends. Have you ever struggled with a friendship that has gone array? Perhaps you invested yourself fully into a friendship only to find out that the relationship was a bit one-sided, or perhaps even a toxic friendship? If so, then today is the perfect show for you.   There's something wrong with your friendship, but you can't figure out what. Is everything in your head? Unfortunately, most of us have a few toxic friends over the course of our life. Toxic friendships happen to everyone, but we seldom identify the underlying issues while we battle confusion or the friendship breaks up. Friendships can be hard but breaking up is even harder. Maybe you're left bewildered in the friendship's wake, paralyzed to move forward. On today’s show we are going to be talking to Mary DeMuth. After wading through several difficult relationships with toxic friends, Mary reveals the seven different types of toxic friendships and empowers you to identify the messiest relationships causing you the greatest anguish.   I had the pleasure of reading an early copy of her book, The Seven Deadly Friendships and offered my written endorsement: "In 30 years as a mental health practitioner, I've had the privilege of working with patients who have struggled with and suffered because of toxic friends, akin to those detailed in The Seven Deadly Friendships. Mary helps us identify those toxic relationships and then points us to seven life-giving practices to help us receive and extend healthy friendships."   Quotables from the episode:   Have you ever had toxic friends? If so, you’ll want to listen to this episode of Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson. The toxic friendships are based on the seven deadly sins listed in Proverbs 6: haughty eyes, lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, and a person who sows discord in a family. Almost all sins are relational in some sort of way, whether they are relational toward God or toward others. The difficult relationships we face that coordinate with the seven deadly sins are: Narcissist Nolan, Unreliable Uma, Predator Paige, Conman Connor, Temptor Trevor, Faker Fiona, and Dramatic Drake. For each of these types of relationships, we need to know what the scriptures say about them, but we also need to ask ourselves the question, “Am I like this?” Relationships are built on two or more individuals, and we each play a role in their success or their failure. We need to examine our hearts and become better friends, because the stuff of life is built on friendships. There are a lot of divorce recovery books available, but until now there wasn’t a friendship divorce recovery book to guide us through such relationship breakups. Friendship breakups can be even more painful than a romantic breakup. Part of the reason for that is because we don’t expect it. When you are dating someone to find a mate, you anticipate kissing a few frogs before finding the prince to spend your life with. But especially as women, we tend to look at friendships and expect them to be lifelong and not just for a season. When they break up, we are left wondering “what’s wrong with me?” The deadly friendship that seemed like it would be the least common was actually one of the most common: Conman Connor. When you have equated a relationship with finances or money, which can be as simple as someone friending you on facebook only to turn around and ask you to buy their awesome product, that is quite common. Just about everyone has experienced that kind of a relationship. That is a transactional view of relationship and we need to be super cautious about that. When that happens we are left feeling dirty because we were used, and our relationship is undervalued because they only want you for the dollar sign. In today’s world, Faker Fiona is common. That’s someone with cameleon-like tendencies because we present one way online but often different in person. Narcissistic personalities are often difficult to identify because they present as charming and engaging, rather than controlling and manipulative. It can be hard after a friendship breakup because we blame ourselves even when people with predatory or narcissistic tendencies are skilled at preying on others. It helps to ask, “Why was I attracted to people who are so self-absorbed, or who were preying on me?” It often goes back to childhood, thinking that if we could just get those personality types to love us, then they would complete our incomplete story from childhood. The Lord has to be the completer of our story. He is perfect, He is loving, He loves me no matter what. He can complete that love need that we have. This is not meant to just point the finger, but to help us grow and change and become better friends to others. Relationship is a good thing. God said it was not good for Adam to be alone so He created a companion for Adam in the Garden of Eden. But sin has come into the world, so now it’s a matter of learning how to grow AND how to guard our heart. Jesus had very close relationships with twelve, not with thousands. He modeled for us how to choose good relationships and invest in relationships that want reciprocity. If we imagine the freedom to walk away, and think about how God may heal us, or heal the other person, that can truly be healing to know that things will be okay even if we walk away. It also helps to consult an unbiased party who is not involved in the relationship to get their perspective; either a trusted friend or a counselor. Whether you rely on a couple of close friends who have your back but will speak the truth in love, or a therapist who is unbiased and can offer an unbiased perspective, a neutral third party can reflect the truth back to you so that this doesn’t have to continue as a lifelong cycle. Therapy helps you determine why you continue to choose the same behavior repeatedly. If you feel like you are the one contributing to a relationship, we always have the opportunity to apologize, and repentance does amazing things. But it takes two for reconciliation. If God removes someone from your life, don’t go chasing after them. There is a reason He removed them. It’s not up to us to change other people, we are responsible for our own behavior. Don’t let past pain embitter you to future relationships. If you never open your heart again to safe community, you will spiral down in bitterness. Our prayer for you is that you might identify relationships that are truly not healthy friends, so you can do something about them and remain in community.   Scripture References:   “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20) “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)   Recommended Resources:   7 Deadly Friendships: How to Heal When Painful Relationships Eat Away at Your Joy by Mary DeMuth https://amzn.to/2xI5bL Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Cloud and Townsend https://amzn.to/2SorqAi https://drmichellebengtson.com/10-traits-grace-based-friends/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/ask-dr-b-surviving-a-friends-betrayal/ https://drmichellebengtson.com/who-is-your-best-friend/   Social Media Links for Host and Guest:   To contact Mary: Website: MaryDeMuth.comPrayEveryDay.show: https://www.marydemuth.com/category/pray-every-day-podcast/ Book: 7deadlyfriendships.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorMaryDeMuth Twitter: https://twitter.com/marydemuth Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marydemuth/    For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: To order Hope Prevails: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/ Website: https://drmichellebengtson.com/ Blog: https://drmichellebengtson.com/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmichellebengtson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmichellebengtson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drbhopeprevails/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MichelleBengtson Radio Show Host: http://graceandtruthradio.world/shows/your-hope-filled-perspective/    Air Date: July 15, 2019   Guest: Mary DeMuth Mary DeMuth is a writer and speaker who loves to help people live re-storied lives. Author of more than 30 books, including parenting books, Southern fiction, and a memoir entitled Thin Places, Mary speaks around the country and the world. Today, Mary is giving of her time to share with us in order that we might enjoy the fruit of healthy friendships.   Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson

What do you do if you feel unsafe while cleaning? You find drugs, sharps or other paraphernalia. Should you call the cops if you feel unsafe while cleaning? Should you talk to the homeowner or should you tell your boss? Angela Brown, The House Cleaning Guru says maids should maintain client confidentiality. The exception is if you feel unsafe while cleaning. Your safety comes first and the client’s privacy second. A Savvy Cleaner will get training on uncomfortable situations while cleaning and then use common sense. Today's #AskaHouseCleaner sponsor is My Cleaning Connection. A resource hub for all things #Cleaning *** COMPLETE SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE *** https://askahousecleaner.com/show *** MORE VIDEOS ON THIS TOPIC *** Things You Overhear and Oversee While House Cleaning - What Should You Do? - Angela Brown - https://youtu.be/WQdooHBzb7E What is CLIENT CONFIDENTIALITY? What does CLIENT CONFIDENTIALITY mean? - The Audiopedia - https://youtu.be/uvVuJD3lbgg Don't Feel Safe - Should House Cleaners and Maids Follow Their Gut? - Angela Brown - https://youtu.be/PUu6AJq2m9o Prejudice and Bias Towards House Cleaners - Angela Brown - https://youtu.be/1vaa2iH-kM0   *** GOOD KARMA RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE *** These good karma links connect you to Amazon.com and affiliated sites that offer products or services that relate to today’s show. When you click on the links and buy the items you pay the exact same prices or less than if you found the links on your own elsewhere. The difference is that we make a small commission here at the show for sharing these links with you. So, you create good karma by supporting 5 families who work on this show. THANK YOU Client Confidentiality and Privileged Communications (General Counsel Law Notes) - https://amzn.to/2XCFwUK The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Set Boundaries. Say No. Take Back Control. Get What You Want - https://amzn.to/30ycpPA Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeBoundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://amzn.to/30sPZyX Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior - https://amzn.to/2XUagA1 *** OTHER WAYS TO ENJOY THIS SHOW *** ITUNES - http://apple.co/2xhxnoj STITCHER - http://bit.ly/2fcm5JM SOUNDCLOUD - http://bit.ly/2xpRgLH GOOGLE PLAY - http://bit.ly/2fdkQd7 YOUTUBE - https://goo.gl/UCs92v *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com *** HOUSE CLEANING TIPS VAULT *** (DELIVERED VIA EMAIL) - https://savvycleaner.com/tips *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/ *** VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/VRBO.Airbnb.Cleaning/ *** LOOKING FOR WAY TO GET MORE CLEANING LEADS *** https://housecleaning360.com *** FOLLOW ANGELA BROWN ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner https://Linkedin.com/in/SavvyCleaner *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. Learn how to clean. How to start a cleaning business. Marketing and Advertising tips for your cleaning service. How to find top quality house cleaners, housekeepers, and maids. Employee motivation tactics. Strategies to boost your cleaning clientele. Cleaning company expansion help. Time-saving Hacks for DIY cleaners and more. Hosted by Angela Brown, 25-year house cleaning expert and founder of Savvy Cleaner Training for House Cleaners and Maids. *** SPONSORSHIPS & BRANDS *** We do work with sponsors and brands. If you are interested in working with us and you have a product or service that is cohesive to the cleaning industry read this: https://savvycleaner.com/product-review *** THIS SHOW WAS SPONSORED BY *** SAVVY CLEANER - House Cleaner Training and Certification – https://savvycleaner.com MY CLEANING CONNECTION – Your hub for all things cleaning – https://mycleaningconnection.com HOUSECLEANING360.COM – Connecting House Cleaners with Homeowners – https://housecleaning360.com SAVVY PERKS – Employee Benefits for Small Business Owners – https://savvyperks.com VRBO AIRBNB CLEANING – Cleaning tips and strategies for your short-term rental https://TurnoverCleaningTips.com

As moms, we are like a life support system for our kids. To keep our families healthy, we need to be healthy. A key part of our overall well being is setting healthy boundaries. But boundaries are hard. They require uncomfortable, direct conversations. We may need to put a limit on really good things or draw a line in the sand with our in-laws or parents. My guest, Dr. John Townsend literally wrote the book on boundaries and he shares some deep wisdom on how to set healthy boundaries while honoring our family members and others. You've got to take care of your energy, your heart and your emotions. You've got to take care of yourself and your health. If you don't guard that heart, then the wellsprings of life won't come out from it. Boundaries are basically about how to set healthy, loving limits in our life. So we have something to offer to our children. Townsend answers your tough questions about set limits with in-laws, making healthy boundaries for the holidays and even models having a tough conversation with a parent about a boundary. This is an episode packed with great information and Townsend has several books and resources available if you want to go deeper. Let’s make setting healthy boundaries a priority and guard our hearts and our time to bring life to our family! What we chat about: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 Setting boundaries is guarding our wellspring of life so we can love our kids His book, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Is setting boundaries biblical? YES! The difference between hurting and harming someone when it comes to setting boundaries Honoring vs obeying your parents as an adult What it looks like to have a boundary setting conversation Conveying love in hard conversations and not getting hijacked with emotions or blame Giving three chances when you set new boundaries and how to have consequences when they aren’t respected Turning to spiritual family when biological family isn’t what your kids need Keeping the lines of communication open with grandparents and communicating boundaries in love Looking for mild, moderate and severe reactions to suggestions and boundary setting Suggestions for setting healthy boundaries for the holidays The idea of people fuel and relational nutrients that help us fuel up

Episode Twenty-Six: Your Mental Health Matters: May is Mental Health Awareness Month and I wanted to share some helpful tips. Ten Effective Things You Can Do For Your Mental Health: http://www.itsarkeedah.com/2019/05/ten-effective-things-you-can-do-for.html ✨ Books Mentioned: The Alkaline Diet for Beginners: Understand pH, Eat Well, and Reclaim Your Health - https://tinyurl.com/y6cblbft and Boundaries When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - https://tinyurl.com/y5qaxx9n

In today’s episode, we share a big announcement then replay Ian’s interview with renowned Enneagram teacher, author, consultant, and Enneagram Two, Dr. Beatrice Chestnut Ph.D.  A student of the Enneagram system of personality since 1990, she is the author of Ian’s all-time favorite Enneagram book, The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge. Enneagram Twos are far more complicated than they appear at first glance. Who better to describe what it’s like to be a Helper than a Black-belt Enneagram expert and teacher. Beatrice was so good we decided to record two shows with her! Whether you’re a Two or not, this show contains so much insight into the Enneagram it will blow your mind! Beatrice has taught at Northwestern University and was trained in group facilitation at Stanford University’s Graduate School of Business. She served as President of the International Enneagram Association from 2006-2007 and teaches workshops on the Enneagram internationally, focusing on using it as a tool for leadership development and personal transformation. Books and Resources for Enneagram Twos: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life, Dr. Henry Cloud How to Love (Mindful Essentials), Thich Nhat Hanh

Rise to Thrive Episode 10: Boundaries, Don't Cross the Line Boundaries are the difference between happy neighbors and finding someone pooping on your emotional lawn.  Have you struggled with saying yes when you really wanted to say no?  Or said no, and been plagued by anxiety and guilt?  Do you find yourself drained, exhausted, and overwhelmed by obligations and commitments?  Or do you find yourself automatically saying no, guarding yourself and being on the defense? You, my friend, might have some emotional fences that need mending.  In episode 10, we dive into an exploration of how to create and communicate healthy boundaries - we talk about people pleasing, taking and allowing, and how to create healthy picket fences around your personal physical and emotional space.  Rise to Thrive Book Club Selection Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Dig it? Subscribe! And let's stay connected on social. STAY CONNECTED Rise to Thrive IG: instagram.com/risetothrivepodcast Amelia’s IG: instagram.com/stoked_yogi Linda’s IG: instagram.com/lilalife.co

HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS…“Stress and busyness are often mistakenly treated as badges of honor.” - Courtney Elmer“Balance is a myth. It’s about integrating our work and our life in a way that’s sustainable and fulfilling.” - Courtney Elmer“Every time we say yes to something, we are inherently saying no to something else.” - Courtney Elmer“We can live the lives we want to live right now.” - Courtney ElmerWHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE…What procrasti-working looks like and how it gets in our wayThe difference between action mode and busy modeHow to turn “have to” into “want to”Why today -- and every day -- is a special occasionThe phenomenon of “opportunity obstacles” and how they block our progressLINKSDanielle LaPorte / The Desire MapBoundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life book by Henry Cloud and John TownsendPreservation HallGW FinsCafe AtchafalayaCourtney ElmerCourtney Elmer on InstagramCourtney Elmer’s StresLESS Tribe on FacebookShare the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser!And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.And follow us on Instagram @effperfect!

In this episode, we discuss how those in relationships with a narcissist can respond appropriate while taking care of themselves. We explain narcissism from a biblical perspective and discuss practical ways that those in abusive relationships can move on and heal.  Resources Mentioned Narcissism from a Biblical Perspective (Blog and Podcast Episode) Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend The Christian's Guide to No Contact: How to End Your Relationships With Narcissistic, Psychopathic, and Abusive Family and Friends, and Still be a Good Christian by Sister Renee Pittelli When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse by David Hawkins Support for our show comes from Faithful Counseling where you can talk to a Christian licensed therapist online today. Take 10% off your first month.

Summary Brian Mayer discusses the concept of boundaries in relationships or how to set limits without feeling guilty.  Boundaries are easy to talk about but more difficult to implement.  It takes practice and lots of encouraging support.  You will learn how to set appropriate boundaries so you can live a life of freedom.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Today's episode is all the concept of Boundaries in Relationships in regard to a subsequent marriage that affects more people like biological and step children.          What is a Boundary?  A boundary is simply a property line to keep what is yours in and what is not yours out.  Think of houses and the property lines that are drawn around each home.  The history around Boundaries started several decades ago when research around how to help people with addictions took off.  This research began to take a look at the family system and found enabling behaviors by other family members.  This can also be called Co-Dependency.  Out of this co-dependency movement specifically related to addictions, came the term Boundaries and began to be applied to all relationship issues not just addiction issue.       A very helpful book about this topic is simply called Boundaries:  How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.  They have also written one specific to marriages called Boundaries in Marriage.  When healthy boundaries are not in place it can cause issues like depression, anxiety, resentment, and anger.   By not implementing an appropriate boundary, you are replacing a temporary discomfort with a more permanent pain.  Boundaries sound easy in theory, but are hard to implement.  When we first try to install a boundary on someone that is encroaching we can feel guilty or like we are a bad person.   Sometimes we also have this mentality that we must be all things to all people and that is how the Golden Rule works – Do Unto Others as You Would have done to You.  However, if you are not healthy first then you are no good to someone else.  You will ultimately burn-out if you do not install good boundaries.  Myths of Boundaries According to Cloud and Townsend: I am selfish if I install a boundary. I am being disobedient if I say No. If I set limits, I will be hurt I will hurt others I'm angry I should feel guilty or bad Boundaries are Permanent Learning to not feel responsible for others thoughts, feelings, and actions.  For example, the kids being bored is not your responsibility.  Now of course day after day, if you never do anything with them then yes that is a problem.  But the fact is that they are responsible for how they feel.  If we do not allow them to learn to pull themselves out a funk, then they will be stunted in their growth as adults.      Can Love and Boundaries Exist Together:  Yes they can.  In fact, boundaries actually signal that love exists.  Implementing Boundaries shows the other person under what parameters that love can flourish.  Inside the boundaries amazing things will happen, outside the boundaries is where individuals can work on themselves.  How Do Implement a Boundary Successfully? You are One Step Closer because you are listening to this podcast Get Support.  Either find a group or ask a close friend.  Role play setting boundaries by being both the boundary setter and the one for whom the boundary is being set.  Do not beat yourself up when you try to set boundaries initially.  You may fail and you probably will fail.  Boundary setting is a process.  You will receive much resistance at first because people will not be used to this.  Final Thoughts Practice, practice, practice Know that boundaries will help keep you healthy and in turn will help others recognize how to keep themselves healthy.  Think about the Expect failure and grow from it.                  Resources Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The above resources are affiliate links, which means that The Remarried Life Podcast receives a percentage of the sale.  Your cost does not change.  By purchasing these items you are helping cover the cost of expenses to produce this podcast.  Thanks in advance for your continued support of the podcast! Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. It would be extremely helpful, it you would consider leaving a rating and review on Apple devices at iTunes  or on Android devices at Google Play as it will help the podcast reach others who need help in rebuilding life and relationships. The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!

Maureen Singer's childhood days were spent in Minnesota. The oldest of three girls, she was in a leadership role right out of the crib. Her mother loved to dress all three of them alike. One particular Sunday she said, “I just cannot go to church looking like the rest of you.” That comment took her and her mother to the fabric store where her passion for sewing was ignited. Uniqueness and perfecting the task at hand were always the underlying thread to all her mother taught her—along with basic sewing skills.   Maureen is the mother of 7 beautiful children; five daughters and two sons. They are the reason a “home-based” business was a perfect fit for her. She was able to stay home with her children and still attend the field trips and school functions.  In 1993, she launched “Singer Sewing Room”.She attended some of Cheryl Strickland’s classes and was eager for education. She has taught sewing classes to young girls and has also taught Home Dec classes at a local fabric store in St. Louis. She enjoys teaching to a room full of students who want to learn about roman shades and pillows and ways to decorate their personal spaces. Maureen is a member of the St. Louis WCAA local chapter, and is a past President of the WCAA chapter, and has attended the CWC Conferences. Maureen is in a great position and loves what she does. Connecting with new people and helping them to create beautiful rooms in their home—one room at a time is something she enjoys. She is thankful for the talent and favor of God in her life. You can find Maureen on Facebook.   Maureen mentioned these books; Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss Soul Proprietor: 101 Lessons from a Lifestyle Entrepreneur And also this website; GriefShare

  A brat child or spoiled brat can wreak chaos on a house cleaners job. If your clients are the parents of a brat child you need to have a talk about the troubled teen.  We Ask a House Cleaner cleaning advice for dealing with a destructive, violent and volatile brat child. If they are yelling expletives and you see a white flash you may be in danger. Remember they are just words.  Angela Brown, The House Cleaning Guru says a maid reacting without a plan will lose control.  The priority for house cleaning training and maid service training is to educate your staff.  Today's sponsor is https://HouseCleaning360.com #HouseCleaning360 is a referral database of the finest in-home service providers.     *** COMPLETE SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE *** http://askahousecleaner.com/brat-child/     *** MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS *** Safety Data Sheets (SDS) for House Cleaning Supplies - https://youtu.be/koILrMkmdJI Maid Stole a Vacuum Attachment from A Client - https://youtu.be/fujAgklvF34 Employee Birthday - How Should We Celebrate? - https://youtu.be/Vj19tCj8SqE Customer's Trash - Can I Keep it? - https://youtu.be/ArycI1Om57k Cleaning Tests from a Rental Property Manager - https://youtu.be/YQYdtjmhTxw Driving Rules for House Cleaners and Maids - https://youtu.be/ElxlAhM3H8o Burnout - Best Tips for House Cleaners to Recover and Reboot - https://youtu.be/SV4PdnITG-Y Killing Time – House Cleaning Employees Waste Time (Pt 1) - https://youtu.be/-t8Qx2QRRag Waste Time - House Cleaning Employees Waste Time (Pt 2) - https://youtu.be/kdSmPlwc1Wc Wasting Time - House Cleaning Employees Waste Time (Pt 3) - https://youtu.be/tkfirwVOv1o     *** RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE *** You're Not the Boss of Me: Brat-proofing Your Four- to Twelve-Year-Old Child - http://amzn.to/2zYubRO What Your Explosive Child Is Trying to Tell You: Discovering the Pathway from Symptoms to Solutions  - http://amzn.to/2hTzr2o 11 Easy Steps to Raise a Brat: Paying Attention to Your Parenting Decisions Even When Life Is Too Busy to Pay Attention-It Matters. - http://amzn.to/2jNoaRL Bulletproof Confidence: The Art of Not Caring What People Think and Living Fearlessly - http://amzn.to/2BbBPX8 Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life - http://amzn.to/2BdkdKL Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, How to Say No - http://amzn.to/2A1tO6Z Permissive Parenting - 7 Signs Your Kid is a Brat - http://bit.ly/2zr09qV Your Kid is a Brat and it's Your Fault - http://bit.ly/2B1IP84 What to Do if Your Child is a Brat - http://bit.ly/2AlAaRE     *** OTHER WAYS TO ENJOY THIS SHOW *** ITUNES - http://apple.co/2xhxnoj STITCHER - http://bit.ly/2fcm5JM SOUNDCLOUD - http://bit.ly/2xpRgLH GOOGLE PLAY - http://bit.ly/2fdkQd7 YOUTUBE - https://goo.gl/UCs92v     *** GOT A QUESTION FOR A SHOW? *** Email it to Angela[at]AskaHouseCleaner.com Voice Mail: Click on the blue button at https://askahousecleaner.com     *** HOUSE CLEANING TIPS VAULT *** (DELIVERED VIA EMAIL) - https://savvycleaner.com/tips     *** FREE EBOOK – HOW TO START YOUR OWN HOUSE CLEANING COMPANY *** http://amzn.to/2xUAF3Z     *** PROFESSIONAL HOUSE CLEANERS PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP *** https://www.facebook.com/groups/ProfessionalHouseCleaners/     *** LOOKING FOR A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Find the best and the brightest at - https://HouseCleaning360.com     *** FOLLOW ANGELA BROWN ON SOCIAL MEDIA *** https://Facebook.com/SavvyCleaner https://Twitter.com/SavvyCleaner https://Instagram.com/SavvyCleaner https://Pinterest.com/SavvyCleaner https://Linkedin.com/in/SavvyCleaner     *** WHAT IS ASK A HOUSE CLEANER? *** Ask a House Cleaner is a daily show where you get to ask your house cleaning questions and we provide answers. 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Dr. Vanessa Abernathy, a licensed clinical psychologist explains what emotional abuse is, and how we can reset and reboot our lives after enduring the rollercoaster of emotions associated with emotional abuse. Resources Mentioned: Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, by Randi Krieger and Bill Eddy Boundaries When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life; By Henry Cloud  Women's Resource Center    Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Randi Krieger To connect with Dr. Abernathy, please visit website www.vabernathypsyd.org Instagram: Vabernathypsyd Twitter: Vabernathypsyd If you have questions for Dr. Jones, or if you are interested in sponsoring the podcast please email: adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Be sure to stay connected with Dr. Jones and A Date With Darkness Podcast. Visit the website: A Date With Darkness. Let's keep in touch via social media! Facebook: @adatewithdarkness Instagram: @adatewithdarkness Twitter: @adatewdarkness To connect with likeminded individuals seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships in a safe space, please join the private FB group: A Date With Darkness Group.

Enneagram Twos are some of the most caring, kind, supportive, upbeat, and tenderhearted people on God's good green earth. Three of my closest friends are Twos, and together they radiate enough love and generosity of spirit to heat a metroplex. In Enneagram-speak they're called The Helpers. On today's episode, I'm joined by renowned Enneagram teacher, author, consultant, and Enneagram Two, Dr. Beatrice Chestnut Ph.D.  A student of the Enneagram system of personality since 1990, she is the author of my all-time favorite Enneagram book, The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge. Enneagram Twos are far more complicated than they appear at first glance. Who better to describe what it's like to be a Helper than a Black-belt Enneagram expert and teacher. Beatrice was so good we decided to record two shows with her! Whether you're a Two or not, this show contains so much insight into the Enneagram it will blow your mind! Beatrice has taught at Northwestern University and was trained in group facilitation at Stanford University's Graduate School of Business. She served as President of the International Enneagram Association from 2006-2007 and teaches workshops on the Enneagram internationally, focusing on using it as a tool for leadership development and personal transformation. Books and Resources for Enneagram Twos Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life, Dr. Henry Cloud How to Love (Mindful Essentials), Thich Nhat Hanh

Successful relationships are built on mutual respect of another person's boundaries and limitations. When someone encroaches another person's boundaries, it means no less than trouble.  One of the most simple way of creating boundaries for yourself is by practicing a graceful way of saying no when you feel that it's against your principle, your health, or your well being. Unfortunately, many fall into becoming men pleasers which simply means giving up on someone's boundaries.  Today's episode, we'll dig deeper into this topic and we'll have Dr. John Townsend, New York Times bestselling author, business consultant, leadership coach, psychologist, and author of Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life.  

Does it seem strange to you that it is healthy to have boundaries in marriage? This comes as a surprise to many. Why would I want to have boundaries? Shouldn't we share everything? Couples without boundaries run the risk of becoming enmeshed, chaotic, and not knowing who is responsible for what. I could not be more excited to share this interview with you. I have been a huge fan of Dr. John Townsend for a long time. Often times, the issues I see in the counseling office come down to boundaries- or a lack of. I have recommended his books to more people than I can count. I have seen so many, including me, go on to find freedom and increased connectedness in relationships from learning how to have healthy boundaries. If you were not able to attend the Military Spouse Wellness Summit put on by InDependent.org and sponsored by Armed Forces Insurance, never fear. I am pleased to offer you 5 of the most outstanding interviews from the Summit, uncut, and including additional questions just for the Lifegiver audience. As I take a brief sabbatical, I hope you will enjoy these interviews with fantastic guests like Taya Kyle, Dr. Leslie Parrott and more. Sit back, grab a cup of coffee, and join me with Dr. John Townsend. Books recommended from today's interview: Boundaries Series: Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No-To Take Control of Your Life Boundaries in Marriage Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Help Your Children Gain Control of Their Lives The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way