UNLEASHED (at work & home) with Colleen Pelar

Choice can be empowering. We all want to be in control of our lives and feel like we have some say in what happens to us. But how often do we apply that to the animals in our life? How often do we–perhaps without even meaning to–limit the ability of our animal companions to exercise agency? How often do we limit our own agency? Today I'm joined by dog trainer Rachael Magee, who believes in a training approach that empowers both people and dogs to make choices and expand their world. Tune in as we discuss her circuitous path to dog training (including a stint working for Middle Eastern royalty!), helping blind dogs, and learning to trust that we are enough. https://colleenpelar.com/141

There's a huge world of dog training out there. Family dogs, competition dogs, working dogs, therapy dogs, search and rescue dogs, scent dogs…they all have unique training needs and Karen Deed has worked with almost all of them! Along the way, she installed computers, trained horses, and discovered positive reinforcement training before it was cool. She joined me today to share the story of the winding and varied road that brought her to where she is now. Tune in as we discuss knowing better and doing better, the importance of kindness (including to yourself), and how dog-training is really about people. Links worth clicking: Canine Connection SniffSpot Fenzi Dog Sports Academy Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/140

We often talk about dogs being “man's best friend,” but very seldom do we stop to ask, “Am I my dog's best friend?” Changing the way we think about our relationship can change the way we interact with our dogs, and has the potential to make our friendships with them even deeper and more meaningful. This is the philosophy that my guest today brings to her training. Sarah Rutten sees dog training as being less about training the dog and more about training the human to understand and interact with the dog better. She's even written a book, The Canine Perspective, to help humans understand where their canine companions are coming from a little bit better. She joined me today all the way from Australia to talk about burnout, special “heart dogs,” and doing hard things. Links worth clicking: The Canine Perspective @thecanineperspective on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok Sarah's book, The Canine Perspective: Using Force-Free Methods to Unleash Your Dog's Potential Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/139

With today's twenty-four hour news cycle, coupled with the rise of social media, we often feel as though we are constantly being bombarded with headlines, most of them negative. It can be hard to keep any kind of positive attitude at all as we are perpetually reminded of all the things that are wrong in the world. Before long, we find ourselves feeling stuck and hopeless. Vet tech and behavior specialist Tabitha Kucera knows those feelings of depression and hopelessness, but she also knows the immense power of having a PMA--positive mental attitude--especially when things are hard. That doesn't mean falling into toxic positivity, but instead finding the good where it is, recognizing what is in your power to do, and learning to be kind to yourself. Tune in as we discuss the value of finding and providing mentorship, learning to understand yourself, and the importance of knowing your own worth. Links worth clicking: Chirrups and Chatter @chirrupsandchatter on Facebook and Instagram @behaviorvettech on TikTok Tails  from a Vet Tech podcast Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/138

A lot of dog trainers have come on the show, but most of them didn't start out wanting to be dog trainers, or even realize that was an option until later in life. Today, however, the script is flipped as I'm joined for perhaps the first time by a dog trainer who actually grew up wanting to be a dog trainer! Of course, life still had plenty of surprises in store for trainer Kari Joly, and despite being the thing she wanted to be as a kid, it wasn't a straight path to get there, nor does it look exactly like she thought it would. Join us today as she shares how she went from wanting to train guide dogs to helping train family dogs, as well as a discussion about confidence, humility, and the importance of celebrating the small wins. Links worth clicking: Pawsitive Families Family Paws Parent Education Guide Dogs for the Blind Unleashed (at work & home) episodes with Eylsia Ostrander (Kari's business partner) and Jennifer Shryock (founder of Family Paws Parent Education) https://colleenpelar.com/137

The modern world is full of noise. We are constantly surrounded by sound, always hearing something. But there's a difference between hearing and listening. We may be doing the former, but are we doing the latter? What does it mean anyway, to really and truly listen to the people, the animals, the world around us? Dog trainer and end-of-life doula Kathy Wolff believes in the power of listening deeply to help us connect with the people and animals in our lives, strengthen our relationships with them, and be present with them when they need us most. She joined me today for a conversation about listening, bereavement, and how to spin with dog hair (yes, you read that right). Don't miss it! Links worth clicking: Mosaic Dog Training Mosaic Dog Training on Facebook Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/136

Grief, regret, and loss are not things any of us like to experience but they remain an inevitable part of life, particularly for pet professionals. Grief isn't just about death. It also shows up when we have desires that can't be fulfilled. Sometimes there are relationships that can't be healed, dreams that can't be realized, decisions that can't be changed, animals that cannot be saved, each of these situations (and many others) can evoke grief. Robynn Harris is a non-profit dog trainer, who understands the grief that is part of love, and she works to help support people through it by providing free end-of-life care for animals. Join us today for a discussion about the importance of community, the nature of grief, and how guilt can help us do better going forward. Links worth clicking: Assembly of the Wandering Shepherd Assembly of the Wandering Shepherd on Facebook Robynn's Facebook profile Recommended reading: The Power of Regret: How Looking Back Moves Us Forward, Daniel H. Pink, and No More Dead Dogs, a novel by Gordon Korman about a boy who is tired of being assigned to read books where the dog dies in the end. https://colleenpelar.com/135

When we talk about the “human-animal connection,” most of us tend to think of it in positive terms–therapy animals, childhood pets, and all the many ways that animals enrich our lives. What we don't often think about, however, is the darker side of that bond–how animal abuse and other forms of domestic and family violence are often interconnected and can even be warning signs of each other. But when we treat violence against animals as completely separate from violence against humans, we often miss the chance to help vulnerable individuals of all species. My guest today, Phil Arkow, has spent decades studying the link between humans and animals in both its best and worst forms. A pioneer of animal therapy as well as the founder of the National Link Coalition, which works to raise awareness of the link between animal abuse and other forms of violence, Phil has seen both the dark and light sides of the human-animal bond. He came on the show today to talk about his work and share some words to live by. Links worth clicking The National Link Coalition (sign up for their newsletter!) AnimalTherapy.net Animal-Assisted Therapy and Activities: A Study and Research Resource Guide for the Use of Companion Animals in Animal Assisted Interventions, 12th edition, 2021 An Unleashed (at work & home) conversation about Adverse Childhood Events (ACE) scores with Samantha Clarke, LCSW Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey https://colleenpelar.com/134

Pet professionals, by and large, are giving people. We pour ourselves out in service to animals and their owners, often to the point of forgetting to take care of ourselves (or only giving ourselves enough care that we can keep helping others). All too often, this leads to exhaustion and burnout. My guest today wants pet professionals to know that you are worthy of having a good life. Liz Ford has learned in her years of shelter work and dog training that sometimes it's all right to fill your cup just for yourself, and not simply so you can keep serving others. She joined me today for a thought-provoking conversation about learning more, doing better, and not allowing yourself to be blinded by negativity bias. Links worth clicking: Best Friends Dog Academy Liz's Facebook profile The breathwork episode of Unleashed (at work & home) Liz mentioned Breath, by James Nestor I found this book fascinating. For the first time, I understand why people have more breathing issues than most animals. Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/133

We often think of our human intelligence as being superior to that of animals. But what if we're wrong? What if the intelligence of animals is equal to ours, only different? How might that change our view of the world around us, and of the animals sharing our planet? My guest today is a pet professional who embraces the view of animals as distinct-but-equal travelers accompanying us on this journey through space and time. Doing both social work and shelter work means that MaryKaye Kendrick is no stranger to hard situations and the burnout that can result. But from this she's learned empathy for the vast array of experiences, both human and animal, in the world around her. Join us today as we discuss how small things can have great impacts, putting your focus on the things you can control, and how to hold on to hope without sliding into toxic positivity. Links worth clicking Pet Harmony Animal Behavior and Training website Enrichment for the Real World podcast Pet Harmony on Facebook, Instagram, and Tik Tok Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/132  

Bringing home a new dog is a major life change, bringing home a new baby even moreso. Yet resources designed to help families adjust to having both two and four-legged babies in the house seem to be few and far between and often focused more on dogs and kids as antagonists than anything else. That's where my guest today comes in. Dog trainer Elysia Ostrander specializes in helping families navigate the sometimes choppy waters of parenting both children and dogs. She joined me today from the far frozen north (Calgary, Canada to be precise) to talk about how training dogs helps her be a better mom (and vice versa), the importance of knowing your own capacity, and the necessity of keeping your cup full. Links worth clicking: Elysia's Pawsitive Families website, Facebook, and Instagram Jen Shryock's episode on Unleashed (at work & home) Family Paws Parent Education Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/131

A little kindness can make all the difference to someone- and a lot of kindness can make even more. Especially in a world that seems increasingly negative and toxic, kindness definitely seems to be the one thing you can't have too much of. My guest today takes that philosophy to heart, always striving to be as kind as possible and then some. Ashley Orcutt is a killer-whale-toy-designer-turned-dog-trainer (yes, you read that right) who believes in bringing as much kindness to the world as possible. Join us as we discuss the similarities between dog training and dolphin training, a wish for more patience, and how to get a job at Sea World. Links worth clicking: Canine Cohesion Ashley's Facebook and Instagram handles: @horizon.dogs, @thedogdoor, @feelingpawsitivevetbehavior Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to find your level of risk and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/130

Raised in Germany, educated in England, and currently training dogs in Alabama, my guest today has certainly had an interesting time! Like so many in the dog training world, Frances Dauster began as a force-based trainer, only to have her life changed by the magic of positive reinforcement training. Now she works to take those lessons into other areas of life, and help her clients enjoy their dogs. She joined me today to talk about the importance of flexibility, what an incident at boarding school taught her about integrity, and the humbling experience of training chickens. Links worth clicking Sunpaws Training & Boarding Connect on Facebook with Frances and Sunpaws On Being a Change Maker, article by Karen Pryor Feeling exhausted or stressed? Take the burnout assessment to see where you stand and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/129

“What do you want?” It's a simple question and it seems like it should have a simple answer. Yet so many of us, especially as we get older and lose ourselves in the business of our lives, seem to lose sight of what should be a very straightforward thing. What do we want? And even if we know (or somehow figure out) what we want, we're often too uncertain or timid to ask for it. Maggie Marshall is a dog trainer who spent years forgetting herself. Just recently, however, she's learned not only to ask herself what she wants, but to take the time to think about the answer and go for it. She joined me today to talk not just about knowing what we want, but about the importance of knowing our gifts, the surprising lessons we learn from children, and the secret dog training tool you already have in your kitchen. Links worth clicking: Maggie's training website  Feeling exhausted and stressed? Take the burnout assessment to see where you stand and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/128

Slow and steady…gets the toenails trimmed? While that may not be my guest's official motto, it's one she would probably agree with. Dr. Deb Jones wrote the book- literally- on cooperative care, an approach to animal care that requires patience but yields great rewards. Her years as a psychology professor, dog trainer, and writer have taught her a lot about the importance of hard work and how almost anything is achievable if you're willing to take it slow and be consistent. Tune in for a conversation about ripple effects, feeling successful, and doing what you need to do. Links worth clicking: Cooperative Care Facebook group Cooperative Care Certificate K9 in Focus, Deb's training site Some of Deb's most popular books:  Cooperative Care: Seven Steps to Stress-Free Husbandry Dog Sports Skills, Book 1: Developing Engagement & Relationship Dog Sports Skills, Book 2: Motivation Dog Sports Skills, Book 3: Play Dog Sports Skills, Book 4: Focused & Engage! In Focus: Developing a Working Relationship with Your Performance Dog The Focused Puppy When the Loss is Deep: A Companion Animal Grief Journal Feeling exhausted and stressed? Take the burnout assessment to see where you stand and start your recovery journey. https://colleenpelar.com/127   This post may contain affiliate links. When you click them, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only recommend products and services that my guests or I have used or have experience with.

Grief is a part of life for all of us, but--as too many pet professionals know all too well--there is a particularly deep strain of it that often runs through work with animals. That grief, and the toll it takes on on us--not just mentally and emotionally, but physically and even spiritually--is the reason so many of us become utterly burnt out. Although she isn't your typical pet professional, today's guest has a deep and abiding love for animals and is intimately acquainted with both the joy and the grief that a life spent alongside them can bring. As a chaplain, grief worker, and strengths coach, Dallas Rising spends her time helping others learn to process the emotional, spiritual, and physical ramifications of deep loss. Join us for a conversation about trauma, healing, finding the sacred, and experiencing and joy.   https://colleenpelar.com/126

We hear a lot about the importance of “staying positive,” but with depressing headlines bombarding us what seems like every waking minute and the inescapable “doomscrolling” so many of us get sucked into, staying positive can be hard. It can even seem pointless or naive. Isn't it better to confront reality, no matter how harsh, than be constantly trying to Pollyanna our way out of things? Humane educator Heddie Wittlin-Leger is no stranger to the harsher aspects of life. In particular, her work with incarcerated individuals has shown her plainly how dark things can get. But she still believes in the importance of finding that silver lining and focusing on the positive, not the negative aspects of any given situation. Tune in as she and I chat about thinking outside the box, the ability of people to change against all odds, and the joy of life with a disabled dog. https://colleenpelar.com/125

Burnout is an issue that affects almost everybody at some point, and pet professionals are no exception. Often it seems to hit us out of nowhere, but looking back the warning signs were almost always there- we just didn't see them at the time. Learning to recognise those signs in the moment and respond appropriately can save us from falling into burnout, bitterness, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Writer and dog trainer Teoti Anderson is no stranger to burnout, and she's learned from experience the best ways to guard against it. Join us today as we chat about setting boundaries, learning not to take things so personally, and the importance of recognizing when you need chocolate. https://colleenpelar.com/124

Debbie Martin isn't only a vet tech. She's also a subject matter expert, an author, a public speaker, and a “psychiatric nurse for dogs.” Connecting all these roles together is a love of the relationships formed in each one, with both people and their dogs. Debbie joined me today to talk about the many hats she wears and how each one brings something to her life. Listen in as we discuss the similarities between child and puppy development, learning to meditate, a near-death experience on the highway, and living in the moment. https://colleenpelar.com/123

We often hear that we need to “find our purpose” in life. But so often, that's easier said than done. What does it even mean to “have a purpose” and how on earth are we supposed to determine something simultaneously so vague and so weighty? How do we know if we're right or if what we've latched on to even is a “purpose” at all? Stephanie Frank has worked in computer technology, then as a business consultant, and finally as a dog trainer, but it was the poignant words of a friend's widow that ultimately helped her define not just was purpose meant, but what her particular one was. She joined me today to discuss not only finding one's purpose, but living without regret and learning to trust the universe. https://colleenpelar.com/122

Not everybody leaves a successful culinary career to take up dog training almost on a whim. But my guest today, Susan Marett, did just that. Along the way, she's learned a great deal about everything from self-acceptance to the care and keeping of parrots. Join us today for a conversation about encountering oneself, the best cure for sadness, taking up your rightful space, and even a sidetrack into falconry. Plus she gave us not one, but two sets of words that inspire her. Talk about overdelivering! https://colleenpelar.com/121

As anybody who has ever loved one knows, animals can help us be better people. Emotional regulation, compassion, and trust are all things that animals help us grow in, no matter our age or circumstances. In fact, it can even be its own form of therapy- literally. Today, licensed professional counselor and self-described “horse girl,” Kim Cardeccia joined me to talk about how she combines her love of horses with her practice of therapy to help people learn to bring their brightness to the world.

At first glance, there wouldn't seem to be much in common between interior decorating and dog training. But, like so many things in life, scratch the surface and you find more similarities than you might think. My guest today, Kym Iffert, left the world of interior design to pursue a career in dog training, and found that the skills she used as a decorator gave her a valuable perspective on dogs. Join us as we discuss her journey from beautifying spaces to training dogs, the difficult decision that led her there, and finding joy and purpose even in hard and draining work. https://colleenpelar.com/119

We talk a lot about the importance of “being yourself,” but what exactly does that mean? How are we supposed to do it? And how can we help other people do it as well? Although it may not be what we first think of, one of the most important things we need in order to be our authentic selves- and help others do the same- is safety. Only when we feel safe are we able to really explore ourselves, to be honest about our weaknesses, and lean in to our strengths. Dog trainer (and aspiring therapist) Kristina Bryte came on the show today to talk about creating a space where not only people but animals can feel safe to be their true selves. https://colleenpelar.com/118

The term “free spirit” is frequently used to describe all different kinds of people--hippies, artists, slightly crazy geniuses. Really, almost anyone who lives life a little off the beaten path. But what does that phrase actually mean? Just what, exactly, makes one a “free spirit?” And if you're not one, can you become one? If so, how? Today on the show, I talked to dog trainer Carol Sumbry about this very topic. Join us as we discuss her (rather circuitous) path into the world of animals, feeding your soul, and finding moments of gold in your everyday life. https://colleenpelar.com/117

Without meaning to- or sometimes even realizing it- it can be the easiest thing in the world to limit ourselves. All too often we allow outside expectations, other people's opinions, and our own fear to confine us to a life that is less than fulfilling.   It doesn't have to be this way, though. Dog trainer Lauren Van Duzer joined me today to talk about how a tragic event pushed her out of her comfort zone and gave her the courage to live a life reaching beyond the confines of “safety.” https://colleenpelar.com/116

Old age, death, and loss are topics most of us prefer to avoid. They're uncomfortable, sometimes even painful to discuss, and most people don't like to think about their own mortality. Death, however, is an inevitable part of life, and avoiding conversations about it can make it even harder for us to become comfortable with it. Helen St. Pierre- founder of No Monkey Business Dog Training and the non-profit Old Dogs Go To Helen- has spent the past several years helping senior and hospice dogs to live the best life they can before passing on. She joined me today to talk about becoming comfortable with the reality of death while finding meaning and beauty in caring for animals at the end of their life. https://colleenpelar.com/115

Everybody has a story that will break your heart. We all have our own traumas and dog trainers are no exception. Working with dogs and their owners is deeply rewarding, but it is also often a difficult and emotionally grueling task that leaves trainers feeling burnt out and emotionally and mentally exhausted. While this is a real problem, there are few resources out there designed to help trainers and behaviorists who are struggling in this regard. Annie Phenix knows firsthand the stress and pressure that leads many dog trainers to leave the field they loved, feeling exhausted and frustrated. She joined me today to talk about her own journey in and out of dog training, and her mission to provide support and advocacy for struggling trainers.

Whether we like it or not, fear is a powerful force in our lives- fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of losing the people and things that are important to us. Even as much of the animal world shifts to a “fear free” mindset when it comes to training and interacting with animals, many of us still struggle to let go of our own fears. Too often, that fear keeps us trapped in uncomfortable and painful situations, or prevents us from doing things we love or aspire to.   Mikkel Becker, the lead animal trainer at Fear Free Pets, came on the show today to talk about overcoming the fears that hold us back and keep us from living full and joyful lives. Join us as we discuss giving yourself grace, granting yourself permission to do things, and getting career advice from Diane Sawyer. https://colleenpelar.com/113

What we want to do is very often different from what we should do (or at least, what we think we should do). Obligations and responsibilities need to be met, but the temptation is always there to push them off until later and spend the current moment doing something more pleasurable. Malena DeMartini joined me today to talk about balancing doing what we ought vs. doing what we want and to take me through her roundabout path from corporate America to enthusiastic dog trainer. https://colleenpelar.com/112

None of us like to acknowledge that things might not turn out fine, yet we all know deep down that that's always a possibility. How do we deal with the chance that things might not be all right in the end? For Veronica Jarvinen, founder of EMMAvet Veterinary Urgent Care, it's important to acknowledge plainly that things might not be fine, make sure we've done everything we can to ensure the best possible outcome, and then go forward secure in the knowledge that we've done our best. She joined me today to talk about using this mindset in her own business to create an intentional workplace where her employees can thrive both personally and professionally.

We hear a lot about the importance of not judging, whether that's not judging ourselves or not judging others. Most of us probably try to live by that advice, but it's often harder than it sounds. So often we fall into attitudes of judgment without even meaning to, especially when it comes to ourselves, where our judgments are often the harshest of all. That attitude of judgment can cloud our perspective on things, making it hard for us to see the actual truth of the matter. Learning to recognize those moments of judgment and peel them away to see the truth underneath can lead to important insights about ourselves and give us clarity about our lives. Psychologist and dog trainer Amy Binder joined me today to talk about how her work with at-risk kids and at-risk dogs taught the importance of letting go of judgment to look at things honestly. 

We're used to the idea of work and play being not just separate things, but often polar opposites. Work is serious, play is frivolous. Work is necessary, play is more optional. Work is useful and productive, play is our less useful reward for putting in all that productive work. But while this is definitely the case sometimes, does it really have to be the case all the time? Professional pet sitter Collin Funkhouser came on the show to discuss this very thing. Join us as we discuss what the ideal form of work looks like, and finding joy and value in your job- even if it's one that people don't take seriously.

“I should do this, I should do that…” Our lives are full of “shoulds,” of tasks and errands that we feel obligated to do, and that gnaw away at us when we don't. Many of us go through our days carrying the guilt and anxiety that results from not having done or accomplished everything we “should.” Needless to say, this is hardly a recipe for a healthy or flourishing emotional life. What if it didn't have to be this way, though? What if we could free ourselves from the guilt of “should” and instead embrace a mentality where even necessary tasks become a conscious choice we make, instead of an obligation? Cat behavior consultant Misty Hampton joined me today to talk about the freeing power of getting rid of the “should”s in her life.

Communication is at the heart of any relationship. So much of a healthy relationship depends on being able to communicate our thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires to the people we love. This isn't always easy, of course- wires get crossed, words get misunderstood. And all of this gets even harder when one of us isn't human. We love our pets and we think (or at least hope) that they love us as well. But how can we be sure when we can't speak the same language? Is it even possible for us to have authentic communication with our animal friends? Pat Blocker joined me today to talk about this very issue. A lifelong animal lover, Pat has always had a desire to communicate with pets. Now, in her capacities as both a dog trainer and a certified animal communicator, she does just that. Join us as we discuss how we can communicate better with animals, and what we can learn simply by paying attention.

Each of us has visions of what we want in life- things we hope to do, achieve, and experience. Envisioning, planning, and daydreaming about these things can be useful and is certainly enjoyable, but when it comes time to take action to try and make them a reality…well, that can be intimidating, even frightening. It's often tempting--and always easier--to simply enjoy the daydream. So how do we inspire ourselves to act? To take that first step towards making our dreams a reality? For Laura Perkins, it means remembering the “beauty, magic, and power” of boldness, even in the seemingly small actions of sending that email or making that phone call. She joined me today to talk about her career, building a community, and being willing to be bold.

It makes sense to say that we can't do it all. After all, we're each just one person, and no one person can do everything, right? But then you meet someone like Dr. Meghan Herron who seems like she really has done it all- gone to veterinary school, raised two kids, and single-handedly started an entirely new program of study at OSU- and you can't help but wonder if maybe there is some way to do it all. But how? What's the secret? How can you possibly do everything you both need and want to without going stark raving mad? Dr. Herron joined me today to talk about her work as a behavioral vet and her philosophy to “doing it all” while protecting your own mental health and avoiding burnout.

Our lives very rarely take the paths we think they will. Even if we end up where we planned, we seldom take the route we thought we would. Looking back, it's sometimes easy to see how a combination of seemingly unconnected chances, events, and decisions led us to where we are (for good or ill), but in the moment we often feel as though we're flying blind. And then there are the times we're sure we've made the right decision only to look back later and see how wrong or misinformed we were, despite our best efforts. Professional pet sitter Maria Giaccio always thought she'd work with animals, but didn't get there the way she thought she would. Join us as we discuss her roundabout route to owning a doggy daycare, reflect on Maya Angelou's words about knowing and doing better, and remember the importance of having compassion for our past selves.

Whether it's relationships, jobs, finances, health, or a dozen other areas, everybody wants to feel as though they have control over their life. We crave the security that comes from knowing–or at least feeling like we know–where we're headed, and that things are going according to plan. But the truth is that we actually have control over far fewer things than we might like.  While facing the limits of our control can be frightening, it can also be liberating and allow us to achieve a certain amount of calm, even in the face of uncertainty. Today, dog trainer and vet tech Stephanie Kern joined me to talk about her experiences working with dogs and how she's learned to embrace the fact most things are outside of her control.   https://colleenpelar.com/103

Time, whether we like it or not, marches on. All our experiences, both good and bad, are only temporary. Reminding ourselves of this can be a double-edged sword. While it may make it easier for us to soldier on through the hard times, remembering that they won't last forever, it can also be disheartening to remember that all the good times will pass away as well. But maybe the well-known saying that “this too shall pass” doesn't have to be a source of sadness when we apply it to the things we love. Maybe instead, it can be an inspiration to dive headlong into whatever comes our way, making the most of it while it lasts. Dog trainer and anthrozoologist Marika Bell came on the show to discuss this with me, as well as share stories of her many and varied experiences with animals ranging from bears to dogs to deadly snakes. https://colleenpelar.com/102

We all know the old adage “practice makes perfect.” At first glance, it seems like good advice. Isn't perfection the goal, the thing we should all strive for? After all, if something is perfect it is, by definition, the best it can possibly be. Nothing can be better than that–or can it? Is there something out there that could be better than the ever-elusive “perfect?” Turns out there just might be! Join dog trainer Rebecca Johnson and me as we discuss the limits of perfectionism, as well as gardening, lemurs, and whether there is such a thing as better than perfect. https://colleenpelar.com/101

Stress. Burnout. Compassion fatigue. These are issues everybody faces, but are especially common among pet professionals. Awareness around these issues is growing, but it can still be hard to know what to do when we find ourselves in those tough times. As a dog trainer and a licensed clinical social worker, Sarah Pellizzari is an expert at taking care of both animals and people. The owner of Southern Colorado Animal Assisted Therapy and Training, Sarah taps the human-animal bond to help both dogs and people overcome trauma to lead healthy, flourishing lives. Join us as we discuss self-compassion, mental health awareness, creating a supportive community, and the power of hope to see us through difficult times and create a better tomorrow.   https://colleenpelar.com/100

Time. It's quite possibly our most precious resource, and one that many of us feel we never have enough of. With what can seem like a million things all clamoring for our attention at once, trying to figure out how to prioritize our time and use it wisely can feel overwhelming and well-nigh impossible. Perhaps the solution lies in changing how we look at time in the first place. Kathrine Christ, MIA, CTC, CDBC, the executive director of the International Association of Animal Behavior Consultants (IAABC), joined me to talk about how the words of a literal wizard help her use her time with greater deliberation and intentionality.

Support is essential to all of our endeavors. If we lack the support and encouragement of those around us, especially our nearest and dearest, our mental and emotional well-being suffers and success becomes harder to achieve. But what exactly does support look like? Where does it come from and how do we find it? What does it mean not just to receive support, but to give it as well? Debra Horwitz, DVM, DACVB, joined me to talk about what support has meant to her over the course of her decades-long career, as well as how she tries to give back by supporting the veterinary behaviorists of tomorrow.   https://colleenpelar.com/98

What you think about you matters most. External validation means you are measuring your self-worth based on what other people think of your behavior. Internal validation means you are clear about who you are and what you value, so you always have an easy way to measure your success. Listen in on this great conversation with Lisa Radosta, DVM, DACVB. She  shared her thoughts about the power of internal validation as well as her own simple metric for evaluating each day. Give it a try and let me know what you think! 

Imposter syndrome is extraordinarily common and incredibly debilitating. All around, you see capable, competent pet pros who are doing a terrific job. And I'm here to tell you that most of them can't see how amazing they are. Can you? Do you know how amazing you are?  If you struggle with imposter feelings, it's likely that at least one of the seven reasons in this episode has gotten in your way. 

A limiting belief is something you believe to be true that constrains your choices in some way. It's a belief that "that's just the way things are, and there's nothing I can do about it." Often you won't even recognize your limiting beliefs and so you'll never test them to see if they help or hinder you. Learning to recognize your limiting beliefs and make more active choices allows you to show up in support of yourself in more empowering ways. https://colleenpelar.com/95  

How much is "enough" and how much is an "abundance?" This varies by category and circumstance. We often think of money when we talk about abundance. How much money would you need to have to feel abundant? What about other categories? How many supportive relationships would feel like an abundance? How much time to dedicate to your own interests and needs? What amount of sleep would be abundant for you? Meredith Jones, DVM, joined me to talk about abundance in its many forms. Tell me, what's something that is either free or very inexpensive that makes you feel abundant?

There's magic in diving deep into a subject and learning as much as you possibly can about it. There's something so exciting and energizing about it. Hannah Branigan, CPDT-KA, KPA-CTP, is a self-described nerd. Her passion subjects include dog training, Applied Behavior Analysis, and neuroscience. That's quite a mix! She joined me for a fun conversation about the power of owning your interests and pursuing them with passion. https://colleenpelar.com/93

FOCUS ON WHAT MATTERS MOST Far too often, your attention is focused more on other people's priorities than your own. Focus gives you purpose to pursue work that's meaningful to you *and* the freedom to do what you choose, feeling present, calm, and content. Pet professionals often find their work isolating and draining. Maintaining a focus on what matters most to you re-energizes you and helps you build the habits, practices, and connections that fuel you. You deserve to enjoy your day-to-day life. There's no one better than Dog*Biz's president, Veronica Boutelle, to talk about focus with. For nearly two decades, Dog*Biz has been helping dog pros build their businesses with careful deliberation so they can do good work and also earn a good living. https://colleenpelar.com/92

Judgment requires comparison, but comparison does not require judgment. Learn to harness your brain's natural gift of comparison without letting it harm your self-image, productivity, or motivation. https://colleenpelar.com/91