Podcasts about gospel refutes them

Today's solo podcast episode is a re-release of an episode from my podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about what success in motherhood looks like, what it is, and what it isn't.  I hope you walk away from today's conversation feeling encouraged. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 2 lies covered in my book: 21.  My success as a mom is directly tied to how my children turn out. 22. I don't know what it means to be a mom if I only have one child. ~Why your success as a mom is not tied to how your children turn out ~What your responsibility is as a mom and what is in God's hands to do with as He will ~Where your responsibility ends and God's begins ~God granting the increase ~The harmful effect of the quiverfull movement on our view of moms who have only one child ~Viewing children as blessings ~Embracing our own unique life stories and circumstances ~And more!   For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast 

As we continue our "Pursuit of Less" series, Britt chats with Rebecca Hargraves about fostering spiritual connection through calm, quiet, and practicing intentionality, especially as women of faith. While discussing her own journey to living a quieter life, Rebekah shares the struggles that we experience as women, mothers, and general members of society as we chase the idea of what we think living an abundant life should look like. Rebekah sheds light on what her own journey to pursue less has looked like and in what ways she's redefining what she's been called to do.Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, homeschooling mama of two, blogger, podcaster, speaker, and author whose passion is to edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood, particularly with an emphasis on the gospel and its implications for everyday life. Rebekah's first book, "Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)" released the fall of 2017, and the "Lies Moms Believe" Companion Bible Study came out March 30, 2018. You can find Rebekah on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, on Instagram, or on iTunes via The Home and Hearth podcast.In this episode, Britt talks with Rebekah about:Generational busynessHow to cultivate quiet in spite of the world's distraction and noiseFinding the balance between overwhelm & responsibilityHow to meet God in the marginsHow our faith informs our view of intentional living Quotable:“We have to be okay with the life that we're in right now and the life we've been given if we're ever really going to be able to pursue intentionality.” -Britt Smith“I had to clear out those voices in order to hear the One, the only One, ultimately, that won't lead me astray, that is perfect, that knows what's best for me.”  -Rebekah Hargraves“Jesus doesn't beat Martha up for her hospitality, but he does say that Mary, who is sitting at his feet listening, has chosen the better portion.” -Rebekah Hargraves“If we can break free from the voices that are coming at us, defining abundant life in a way that's not actually accurate, we can find so much freedom.” -Rebekah Hargraves"I want to be the one that walks with God in every moment, whether it's miraculous or mundane." -Britt SmithResources:Elijah Bible Study by Priscilla ShirerBreathe – Rest & Sabbath focused by Priscilla ShirerIg Examen explainedRebekah's WebsiteRebekah's InstagramSupport the showIf you've resonated with the She is Kindred podcast, would you take a moment to rate and review us on Spotify, or iTunes? Thanks so much, sisters! We're so grateful you're in this with us! Keep cultivating common ground and common grace!

Let me tell you, moms are on God's heart! Last week's episode about Crushing Mom guilt was put together by the Lord after a little prayer, and the same happened with this episode which I share in the intro. Momma, you're front and center in God's thoughts. And in today's episode, we tackle just six of the thirty-two lies my guest Rebekah Hargraves tackles in her book "Lies Moms Believe (and How the Gospel Refutes them)". This episode is rich and so encouraging, and you're going to want to go out and buy her book and Bible study once you've listened! OH but good news if you do! Watch for next week's 100th episode giveaway b/c she DONATED a copy of her book and devotional in partnership with my $100 of Java with Jen Merch & Coffee GIVEAWAY which I'll be running on Instagram... make sure you're following me so you don't miss it!! Read about her below, also, today's Sponsor is Ivey, if you're moving homes this summer and are looking for a new home loan, Ivey, Your Texas Homegirl, is your girl. *Contact info for Ivey Brown: ivey@houstonhomeloan.com, or call at: +1 (409) 225-2698 Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama of two, blogger, podcaster, speaker, and author whose passion is to edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood, particularly with an emphasis on the gospel and its implications for everyday life. Rebekah's first book, "Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)" released the fall of 2017, and the "Lies Moms Believe" Companion Bible Study came out March 30, 2018. You can find Rebekah on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, on Instagram, or on iTunes via The Home and Hearth podcast. Thank you for rating, reviewing and sharing the show on social media, this makes such an enormous difference on the reach of this show! ————————————— Come follow me on Instagram at @JavawithJen Grab you some merch: www.javawithjenmerch.com ) Follow me on: Instagram.com/javawithjen or on Facebook.com/javawithjenpodcast , and share when you're listening to a show! To support Jen so she can keep recording new episodes, visit: www.Patreon.com/javawithjen . ————————————— --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/javawithjen/support

The full title of this episode should be: Lies Moms Believe and How the Gospel Refutes Them, but that felt a little long. If you're a mom of any age or stage, this one is for you. Motherhood is a beautiful and hard job, and we have a huge responsibility as mothers. So Satan would love nothing more than for us to believe the lies he puts on us to question ourselves, our capabilities, and even our God. But the Truth - the Word of God - helps us refute those lies so we can walk boldly and freely in our motherhood. Listen in as Rebekah Hargraves shares how allowing the Gospel to impact her motherhood transformed her and allows us to refute the lies we so often believe. Then be sure to follow Rebekah on Instagram, Facebook, and at her website, and grab a copy of her book! Resources: Lies Moms Believe: And How the Gospel Refutes Them Podcast Episode on Renewing Our Minds Podcast Episode on knowing truth and spotting the counterfeits I would love to hear from you! You can always find me in my DM's on Instagram @laurendelyn. Or you can shoot me an email at rootedandestablishedpodcast@gmail.com. To help spread the word about the R+E Podcast, please leave a positive star rating and review and tag me in your stories on the Gram! I'd be so grateful!

On today's solo podcast episode, I am finishing out the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the final 3 lies covered in the book, "The most important thing is my child's education", "Good moms do 'xyz'", and "You have to 'do' motherhood the way the culture tells you". I hope you come away from this episode with your mind transformed and your heart encouraged by the truths of the gospel! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The final 3 lies covered in my book: 30.  "The most important thing is my child's education." 31.  "Good moms do 'xyz'" 32. "You have to 'do' motherhood the way the culture tells you" ~The overemphasis (and sometimes excessive time) given to athletics and academics; why both are important, but neither is the most important aspect of childhood; what we should ultimately be giving our focus and attention to ~What Paul says about the benefits of athletics vs. the benefits of growing in godliness ~How Paul viewed his own high education ~The impact an overemphasis on athletics and academics is having on our churches specifically and on the nation at large ~The problem with looking to "experts" rather than to the Word of God ~The problem of the mommy wars ~What "good moms" actually do ~How damaging the expectations of others can be and how freeing God's Word is ~Living the life God has called us to, not the life He has called our sisters-in-Christ to ~Letting go of the "shoulds" and embracing what God has for you ~And more! For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the lies "My focus should be on rules and regulations" and "The 'experts' know better how to raise and educate my child than I do". I hope you come away from this episode with your mind transformed and your heart encouraged by the truths of the gospel! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next lies covered in my book: 28. "My focus should be on rules and regulations." 29. "The 'experts' know better how to raise and educate my child than I do." ~The sad reality that legalistic, authoritarian, rules-focused parenting often leads to children who rebel and run away from God ~Why our goal as parents should be reaching the hearts of our children, not merely enforcing a bunch of rules ~The importance of heart transformation rather than behavior modification ~The importance of cultivating a warm, intimate, close, safe, comforting relationship with our children; how this as a foundation leads to our children being more receptive to our instructions and household rules ~The difference between sheltering your children and preparing them; why different seasons of your child's life requires different approaches - first sheltering, and then preparing ~Why our goal should not be to merely enforce a long list of rules, but to instead form our child's worldview around Scripture and its truth; helping our children grow in discernment for themselves as they get older ~How merely enforcing a long list of rules can lead to our raising whitewashed tombs ~Why merely listening to the "experts" is a mistake in your parenting ~The Ultimate Expert on your children, and how He knows them even better than we do, because He created them with the unique personality, learning style, and needs they have ~Why James 1:5 has to be our first step in acquiring the answers we need for any parenting question we could ever have ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the lies "Children are Really Expensive" and "Children Ruin a Marriage". I hope you come away from this episode with your mind transformed and your heart encouraged by the truths of the gospel! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next lies covered in my book: 26. "Children are Really Expensive" 27. "Children Ruin a Marriage" ~The reality that children *can* be really expensive, but are not inherently so ~The freedom we have to make choices about how our children impact our finances; being good stewards of the money entrusted to us by God ~Viewing children as a blessing and reward as opposed to a drain on our resources ~The negative message we hear from culture about the adverse impact children have on marriages ~The freedom we have to choose to prioritize our marriages even in the midst of busy seasons of parenting ~The fact that it isn't just that children don't inherently ruin marriages, but that they can, in fact, make our marriages even better ~4 specific ways in which having children can actually improve your marriage ~The way Psalm 127 and 128 present marriage and family life as a joyful, blessed, happy institution ~And more! For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

Pregnancy can be a rough time on our body image. Rebekah Hargraves helps me dig into the challenges of body changes during and after pregnancy. Rebekah had her first baby in her early 20s, while I had my first in her early thirties. We compare stories and experiences and talk about the pressures we put on ourselves to come out of pregnancy like a celebrity. There's more to this episode than just pregnancy talk though, here are some other topics Rebekah and I dig into: Why she felt relief of having the 6 week after baby required break from intimacy. How she learned to believe and accept her husband's compliments about her body (even after baby). The lies moms believe around their bodies, their worth, and their calling as a mom. How we respond to what God says about our bodies. How Romans 7 & 8 set Rebekah free from some of the lies she had held on to regarding the need to be a "perfect" mom. How Rebekah found freedom from the "Mommy Wars" And more... Struggling with Pregnancy and Body Image? Here are some more resources: Check out these blog posts about pregnancy and body image Life is Worth the Weight Coveting My Neighbor's Belly: Pregnancy and Body Image Series Pregnancy & Body Image: When You Don't Think Belly Shots are Cute Pregnancy and Body Image: When Pregnancy Ain't No Picnic Connect with Compared to Who? Start reading the Burden of Better or order your copy here: Burden of Better Join the Compared to Who? insiders email list and take the body image quiz and download the free "Walk to Lose the Weight of Comparison" walking workout. https://www.comparedtowho.me Join the Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/comparedtowho Leave a review of the show or leave a speak pipe comment: https://www.comparedtowho.me/podcast About Rebekah: Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama, blogger, podcaster, and author whose passion is to edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood, particularly with an emphasis on the gospel and its implications for everyday life. Rebekah's first book, "Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)" released in 2017, and the "Lies Moms Believe" Companion Bible Study came out in 2018. You can find Rebekah on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, on Instagram, or on iTunes via her podcast.  

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the lies "My Postpartum Body has to be a Certain Way" and "Children are a Nuisance and an Interruption". I hope you come away from this episode with your mind transformed and your heart encouraged by the truths of the gospel! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next lies covered in my book: 24. "My Postpartum Body has to be a Certain Way" 25. "Children are a Nuisance and an Interruption" ~My own struggle with postpartum body image and how that resolved ~Why it's folly to think our bodies have been ruined by children  ~How the gospel can reframe our viewpoint of our bodies and our pregnancy-related scars  ~How our pregnancy-related scars can serve as a daily reminder of the scars of Christ ~Jesus' example of how to view and treat children in the midst of the busyness of life and ministry; His willingness to be "interrupted" and what this means for us and how we view our children ~Reframing our view of our time and what it is for ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the lie "I don't have time" and how it leads to our common views of friendship, creativity, marriage, and time alone with God. I hope you'll walk away from this episode encouraged and inspired by just how much time you truly do have to pursue the priorities God has in mind for you in this season. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next lie covered in my book: 23. I don't have time. ~The implications of this lie on our view of marriage, creativity, friendship, and time with God ~Understanding what Biblical priorities are and what they are not ~The blessing it is to only have 24 hours in each day - the sovereignty and goodness of God on display here ~Practical tips for how to make time for God when you're feeling too busy for Him (and why it's important that you do!) ~Practical tips for how to make time for your husband when you're feeling too busy for him (and why it's important that you do!) ~Practical tips for how to make time for friendship when you're feeling too busy for it (and why it's important that you do!) ~Practical tips for how to make time for creativity when you're feeling too busy for it (and why it's important that you do!) ~And more! Head to www.hargraveshomeandherath.com/podcast for the full show notes.

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about what success in motherhood looks like, what it is, and what it isn't.  I hope you walk away from today's conversation feeling encouraged. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 2 lies covered in my book: 21.  My success as a mom is directly tied to how my children turn out. 22. I don't know what it means to be a mom if I only have one child. ~Why your success as a mom is not tied to how your children turn out ~What your responsibility is as a mom and what is in God's hands to do with as He will ~Where your responsibility ends and God's begins ~God granting the increase ~The harmful effect of the quiverfull movement on our view of moms who have only one child ~Viewing children as blessings ~Embracing our own unique life stories and circumstances ~And more! For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about what we are and are not responsible for as moms, the happiness of our children, what to do when we feel like life is passing us by, and help for our mothering journey.  I hope you walk away from today's conversation feeling encouraged. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 3 lies covered in my book: 18.  My Life is Passing Me By 19.  I am Responsible for My Child's Happiness 20.  I can't do This Whole "Mothering Thing" ~Biblical truth and encouragement for when you feel like your life is passing you by ~The hard transition we go through when we become moms ~When you want more out of life beyond motherhood ~The reality that "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world" ~Living out God's purpose for our lives; the abundance this brings ~What our God-given responsibilities are and are not as mothers ~Hope and help for when you feel like you just can't mother another day ~And more!   For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about bad days, sin struggles, messy houses...and the gospel! I hope you walk away from today's conversation feeling encouraged. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 3 lies covered in my book: 15. Motherhood has to be Hard (And Hard is Bad!) 16. I have to "Keep my Act Together" 17. I can't have a Clean House While Raising Children ~A robustly, thoroughly, Biblical and gospel-focused understanding of "hard"; how God uses the hard moments for our good ~Reframing our view of "hard" times in light of the good God can bring from them ~Gaining a decisive victory over the lies Satan uses to discourage us and bring us down ~The reality that motherhood is hard....but it's also good ~Why Satan tries to make us think we "have to keep our act together"; the pitfalls this leads to in the areas of friendship and community ~How "keeping our act together" leads to a weakening of our witness and a stunting of our growth ~How comparison, perfectionism, and a lack of vulnerability lead us to think we have to "keep our act together" ~How the gospel pertains to cleaning your house ~Having a balanced perspective of homemaking, understanding that we are called to steward our homes well, while also understanding that our homes will look lived in....and that's ok ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about the concept of "me-time" from a biblical perspective. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 2 lies covered in my book: 13. I'm Selfish if I have any "me-time". 14. I need a lot of "me-time". ~How Jesus' own example refutes both of these lies ~The reality that Jesus did not meet every need, answer every question, or heal every infirmity; in several instances He sent away the multitudes in order to spend time alone with the Father; the implications of this example for us as busy moms ~Practical ways to make me-time a reality in your life ~The importance of looking to the Lord and the living water He offers for true, lasting refreshment, as opposed to always looking to the non-lasting refreshment other pursuits bring ~Balance in all things; enjoying the good gifts the Father gives (gifts of alone time, good coffee, a favorite show, etc.) while all the while keeping first things first and ultimately finding our strength in and allegiance to Christ ~How God, throughout Scripture, prioritizes and points to the importance of rest ~Reframing our view of our children, God, and our everyday circumstances in order to keep from thinking we need as much "me-time" as we can possibly get ~God's Word specifically, and our relationship with the Lord in general, being what equips us for the long days of mothering ~And more! For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about what the good news of the gospel has to say for us when we feel like bad moms whose children would be better off with someone else. I hope you walk away from today's show feeling encouraged! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 2 lies covered in my book: 11. My children would be better off having a different mom. 12. I am a bad mom. ~How the gospel refutes these lies ~My own personal experience with these lies ~What lie #11 reveals about our view of God and His soverignty ~Understanding that you are the best mom for your kids ~The reminder that there is none righteous and therefore aren't "perfect" moms floating around somewhere ~The reality that God is still in the redemption business and so can bring good out of any parenting mishap ~Understanding our identity in Christ; what it is and what it is not ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

Rebekah Hargraves joins Blake to talk about what is often the hardest part of motherhood, combating lies, guilt, & shame thrown at us by the enemy. Listen in as they tell their personal stories of struggling with believing lies as well as the redemptive power of the Father’s truth in the face of doubt and fear. Rebekah is a podcaster, speaker, and the author of Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them), available everywhere! This week’s podcast sponsors: Charlotte’s Web CBD is the world’s most trusted hemp extract that supports a sense of calm for focus as well as management of normal, everyday stresses. Visit charlottesweb.com & use the code BLAKE15 for 15% off your order of any of their products. Faithful Counseling offers professional mental health counseling from a Biblical perspective through online meetings & calls. Visit getfaithful.com/crappychristian for 10% off your first month and to connect with a licensed counselor today.

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about perfectionism, being enough, doing it all - and what the Gospel has to say about all that! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 3 lies covered in my book: 8. I have to be a perfect mom. 9. I have to do it all. 10. I am enough. ~How perfectionism as a goal flies in the face of the gospel ~The reality that the Lord never called us to be perfect moms, but instead called us to point our children to a perfect Savior; how this is done so well and so clearly in our worst of moments ~How our goal of being perfect distorts our children's understanding of the gospel ~The family line of Christ and what it reveals about the Lord working through imperfect people ~The reminder that Christ is still in the redemption business ~Why believing that we have to "do it all" is leading to our having a Savior complex and putting ourselves in the place of God - the only One who is truly omnipotent and omnipresent ~The enemy's clever ploy to get us to misplace our priorities ~The Proverbs 31 woman and the reality that even she didn't "do it all" ~Jesus and His example of not "doing it all" ~The story of Mary and Martha and what their example has to say to busy mamas ~Why I will never tell a fellow mom that she "is enough" ~How "I am enough" deprives us as moms of what can be our true source of supernatural strength ~The reality that "I am enough" is a mantra that flies in the face of the gospel ~The way that Christians believing that they are "enough" ends up telling the watching world that we have nothing special to offer ~Why our realizing that we are not enough on our own can actually be one of the most helpful and thoroughly encouraging things for us to remember ~Christ's strength being made perfect in our weakness ~And more! For full shownotes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

On today's solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat all about the importance of theology in the life of a mother, mommy guilt and how the gospel does away with it, and more! What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The next 3 lies covered in my book: 5. Mommy guilt is just something I have to deal with. 6. It's wrong for me to go to God again and again after I fail. 7. Theology isn't for moms. ~The reality that there is no place for guilt in the life of the Christian; all guilt having been nailed to the cross once and forever ~The truth that the Lord knows we are but dust and therefore is not surprised or disappointed when we fall again and again ~The Lord's desire for us to come to Him when we do fall ~The difference between conviction (which comes from the Holy Spirit) and condemnation, shame, and guilt (which come from the enemy) ~Conviction and how it drives us to repent and draw near to God in freedom, while condemnation drives us away from God and causes us to hide in guilt, shame, and condemnation ~God's desire for us to have a heart of repentance, while at the same time knowing that we have already been forgiven for all time and already perfected in His eyes ~The existence of the mommy wars and how, often, the mommy guilt we face isn't even a result of us not measuring up to an actual standard of God, but rather to an arbitrary standard of man; the needlessness of this guilt ~The important and crucial part theology plays in the life of the mom ~The Bible as our instruction manual for parenting; how we are ill-equipped for the good work of mothering if we are not in the Word on a regular basis ~Resources, tips, and ideas for the busy mama who wants to grow in her understanding of God's Word and increase her time in it ~Romans 7-8 and the encouragement Paul's testimony brings us when we struggle with sin ~The order of events in Deuteronomy 6:6-7, and their implications for moms ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

 On today's solo podcast episode, I am kicking off a series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a foundational chat on motherhood, what a woman's highest calling is, and finding our identity in Christ. What I Chat about in Today's Episode: ~The first 4 lies covered in my book: Motherhood is a woman's highest calling. Mothering is unimportant work. I'm to find my identity in motherhood. I'm to find my ultimate fulfillment in motherhood. ~What God's Word shows is a woman's true ultimate highest calling ~The importance of motherhood ~What makes motherhood so impactful: its being an outworking of our call to be Great Commission workers ~The actual definition of the word "mundane" and why no aspect of the daily work we do as moms can accurately be deemed "mundane" ~Where we are and are not to find and base our identity ~Making motherhood into an idol ~Why motherhood was never meant to be where we find our ultimate fulfillment ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast

In today's show, podcaster and author Rebekah Hargraves joins us! Her birth stories could not be more different, but Oh! they are so deep and impactful. We talk homebirth, NICU, high-risk pregnancy, induction, and more. Rebekah's heart for helping moms to see the faults in fighting the mommy wars. We talk about pride in parenting, and how the Gospel offers us grace and the opportunity for repentance. Make sure you visit us on Instagram @bornagainbirth for a giveaway of Rebekah's book 'Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)'. 

In this episode I’m exposing the lie that children are really expensive with author of the book Lies Moms Believe: And How the Gospel Refutes Them (https://www.amazon.com/Lies-Moms-Believe-Gospel-Refutes-ebook/dp/B076CNMZNH) , Rebekah Hardgraves. In the book, Rebekah discusses 32 common lies that moms believe and while we don’t get to all of them in this chat, she does break down the lies that we need to be Pinterest perfect, that mom guilt is something we have to live with, and that are children are nuisances.  Be sure to check out Rebekah’s book Lies Moms Believe: And How the Gospel Refutes Them (https://www.amazon.com/Lies-Moms-Believe-Gospel-Refutes-ebook/dp/B076CNMZNH) along with the accompanying Bible study companion (https://www.amazon.com/Lies-Mom-Believe-Companion-Bible/dp/1732081816/ref=pd_sbs_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1732081816&pd_rd_r=Z0XTMWN4SS1N88PVY9FC&pd_rd_w=Y1JmK&pd_rd_wg=0rsYy&psc=1&refRID=Z0XTMWN4SS1N88PVY9FC) ! Full show notes for this episode can be found at jessicahottle.com (https://www.jessicahottle.com/podcast/) ! Follow Rebekah: website (https://www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/) | instagram (https://www.instagram.com/rebekahhargraves/) | facebook (https://www.facebook.com/hargraveshomeandhearth/) Follow Jessica: website (https://www.jessicahottle.com/) | instagram (http://www.instagram.com/jessicahottle) | freebies (https://www.jessicahottle.com/freebies/)

This week I sit down with my friend and host of the Home and Hearth podcast, Rebekah Hargraves to talk about the lies moms believe and how the gospel refutes them. Rebekah shares about how the Word is what equips us for the work God has called us to, how the enemy always uses extremes, and why we must always turn to The Lord before answers from the world. Rebekah is also the author of 4 books. Lies Moms Believe, Lies Moms Believe companion Bible Study, Advent Devotional, and co-authored Walking by The Spirit.  1) Tell us about you!!My name is Rebekah Hargraves, and I have been married to my husband, Owen, for 6 years. We live just outside Chattanooga, TN and have two kiddos, Anna (5) and James (3). As for church, we attend Concord Baptist here in town, which describes itself as a "gospel-centered, gospel-shaped congregation", which I love. I'm a work-at-home mom, so I stay at home with my kids but also blog, do freelance writing, podcast, homeschool, and am the author of 4 books and coauthor of 1, soon to be 2, books. My first book was Lies Moms Believe (and how the Gospel Refutes Them), and the second was Lies Moms Believe: The Companion Bible Study. I then wrote an Advent devotional study for women in 2018, co-authored a book on walking by the Spirit that released this January, a Lent devotional study for women that released this spring, and I'm currently working on co-authoring a book on friendship that will release this fall.2) I’ve been looking so forward to this conversation because I am a momma who has definitely believed lies spoken to me from others or straight from the enemy himself. Can you share why and how this message became so important to you to share with other women?Absolutely! The funny thing is that this was not my original book idea. The original idea (which is one that I have in the works to go the traditional publishing route with, up to this point I have done all self-publishing) was on the topic of the mommy wars. But one day I had this "random" idea (that, looking back, was clearly God!) to write a little blog post addressing a few lies moms commonly believe and the gospel truth which refutes them. I had every intention of just writing about a handful of the lies I myself have dealt with, imagining that if I have battled them, surely other moms have, too. Well, instead, I had another "random" thought right before I sat down to work on that blog post - I had the idea of instead of just relying on my own thoughts and experiences, to instead take to IG and FB to ask fellow mamas what some of the most common lies were that they found themselves believing. That way the blog post could be as relevant and applicable as possible. I was only expecting maybe a handful of answers, but what ended up happening was that within the first 10 minutes of making that post, tons of responses came flooding in. At that moment I knew this area of lies we're believing as moms was a huge issue that did need to be addressed. At that point I thought I would then create a short little freebie ebook instead of a blog post, as the list of lies had now grown beyond what a blog post could handle. By the time all was said and done, however, and I had received all the input from various women on social media, I ended up with 32 lies to address and a full-length paperback book that is over 250 pages long! I never set out on my own to write this book and it was never my initial project or idea - it was all God! But I'm so grateful His plans were different and bigger than my own, because, honestly, the Lord has used this book and the process of writing it to change my own heart and life and to free me from lies I didn't even know I had been believing!3) 1 John 4:18 tells us - His perfect love drives out fear. For me, fear is a huge lie I’ve taken the bait from in motherhood. Fearful of the world my son will grow up in, fearful of something happening to him, or just little fears throughout the day that seem normal. How would you lovingly challenge someone like me, with God’s word to move past the fear and cling to God’s truth that He has everything under control. I can totally understand that! Especially after the insane year we have all been experiencing. From the moment my first child was born, I had fears set in about whether or not I was doing the best job possible, making the best choices, what life would hold for her, how I would protect her from the darkness in the world, etc. While sometimes those fears do again try to rise to the surface, there is something I have found to be incredibly helpful, and that is to know the character of God. That is so, so key for me. I have to know that not only is God in control and sovereign, but that He is also wise, kind, loving, tender, gracious, caring, concerned for our wellbeing, and compassionate. If I can remember all that, then I can remember that He allow absolutely nothing to touch me or my children that He will not ultimately use for our good and His glory. Furthermore, I do not believe it is a coincidence that it has been said that there are 365 verses in the Bible addressing the topic of fear - one for each day of the year! The Lord knew we would battle fear (fear comes from the enemy and is one of the biggest ways he tries to get at us and our faith), so He provided truth and encouragement in His Word for how we can battle it. Studying, meditating on, and memorizing the Word is so key. And, finally, one particular story in the Bible that always helps me battle fear is the story of Joseph, found in Genesis.4) What are some of the most common lies moms believe and why do you think they’ve become such a stumbling block in our lives?There are so many, but one interesting thing I have found is that many of them come in pairs of opposites - the enemy lies to us with extremes on both sides. For example, the lie that motherhood is a woman's highest calling is common, but so is the lie that motherhood is unimportant or worthless work. That lie can also be accompanied on the other side with the lies that we are to find our ultimate fulfillment and identity in being moms.But, beyond those, I would say that some of the most common are that mommy guilt is just something we have to live with, that we are bad moms, that our success as moms is tied to how our children turn out, and that theology isn't important for the daily work of mothering. All of these are tied directly to wrong understandings as to the truth and implications of the gospel. The enemy wants us to doubt Christ, so he will do anything he can to keep us from understanding and living out the gospel. And we have just fallen for it because we do not take the command to "take every thought captive" seriously.5) What have been the lies you’ve struggled with the most?One of the big ones I have struggled with the most is the lie that my children would be better off with a different mom (and close behind that being the lies that I'm a bad mom, mommy guilt will always be something I just have to deal with, and that I have to be a perfect mom).6) What has been the greatest blessing/teachable moment from being a mom and stepping out in faith to trust God and put the lies behind you?Two things instantly come to mind for me here. One is just the sheer freedom, joy, and lightness I feel now that I have intentionally chosen to take God at His Word and truly and fully believe - for me!- that I was never called to be a perfect mom, but rather to point my kids to the perfect Savior. That takes such a load off! I don't walk in guilt anymore. Sure, I am convicted, sure I apologize to my children and grieve that I have sinned in anger or what have you, but I am no longer buried under all that self-inflicted guilt and condemnation anymore, because I know the full truth of Romans 7 and 8. Which brings me to the second thing - a sweet story with my 3 year old at the time, my daughter, Anna.7) Is there a way you would steward someone to see what lies they are believing?One key thing here is to be a student of the Word. You won't know the lie, the counterfeit, until you know the truth, the real thing. Likewise, you can't take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ unless you know what the obedience of Christ is. I've done a Bible study 101 episode on my podcast for anyone interested in diving into that. But, beyond studying the Word in order to know truth for yourself, I would also say to pay attention to what your thought patterns are. Journal through that. Assess what it is that is filling your mind most often. When you are feeling down, anxious, depressed, stressed, or discouraged, take an assessment of your thoughts and intentionally stop to see what it is you really are thinking. Chances are, the thoughts leading to those negative feelings are lies you have been believing. Then take what you find to the Word and search for the truth that will combat those lies. Talk to your pastor if need be, use a concordance to find all the passages that speak to that topic, etc. 8) John 3:30, says  “He must increase and I must decrease.  If someone were to ask you what they needed to begin living with less of in regards to what gets in the way of The Lord in their life, what would you tell them and why?I would say live with less of the thoughts and opinions of man. Every human being is fallible, so every teacher, pastor, blogger, podcaster, social media influencer, commentary writer, parenting "expert", online guru, etc. is going to get it wrong at some point. You need to stop having google be your guide and start turning to the Word of God first and foremost as your ultimate guide. Sure, we can and should learn from our pastors, mentors, and others, but we have to know the Word of God first and foremost and follow it more than we do some self-proclaimed expert. 

Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama of two littles, blogger, podcaster, and author whose passion is to edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood, particularly with an emphasis on the gospel and its implications for everyday life. Rebekah's first book, "Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)" released the fall of 2017, and the "Lies Moms Believe" Companion Bible Study came out March 30, 2018. You can find Rebekah on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, on Instagram, or on iTunes via The Home and Hearth podcast.  

In this episode, we do some real talk with Rebekah Hargraves on lies moms believe and overcoming mom guilt.  Rebekah is the author of "Lies Moms Believe and How the Gospel Refutes them". A few things we chat about in our short 30 minutes: Real talk on "what is motherhood"? Common lies moms believe How to be real with each other about motherhood The truth about identity and how it relates to motherhood How to take our thoughts captive in motherhood What God taught her as she wrote a book on motherhood How I (Rachael) really felt when called to motherhood & how I wrestled with resentment Mommy guilt & how to combat it You can follow Rebekah at: www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com www.instagram.com/rebekahhargraves To enter to WIN a copy of "Lies Moms Believe and How the Gospel Refutes Them" head over to: www.rachaelgilbert.com/lies-moms-believe 

On this week's episode of Theology Gals, Coleen talks Rebekah Hargraves. They discuss friendships in the Church and some of the barriers to those relationships, including the Mommy WA, along with other topics involving women's friendships in the Church. Episode Resources: Rebekah’s blog Lies Moms Believe: (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) book by Rebekah The 5 Biggest Barriers to Christian Mama Friendship Seeing Other Moms as Image Bearers of God (And Thereby Ending the Mommy Wars!) Mama, You are too Busy NOT to Have Friends! When the Mommy Wars Enter the Church More info on her book and other articles Women can join our Facebook Group Theology Gals-Ladies Theology Discussion and Encouragement Follow us: On Facebook On Twitter @TheologyGals On Instagram theologygals Email us at theologygals@gmail.com If you'd like to ask Theology Gals a question which may be answered on a future episode, you can text or leave a voicemail at (951) 407-0234. You may also send an email. Consider supporting Theology Gals with just a few dollars a month

Being a mom is HARD. We have a lot to deal with day in and day out. And there are a lot of lies about motherhood that we buy into and believe.  Lies like "You are enough", "Mommy guilt is just something I have to live with" and "I'm selfish if I need me time". There are of course a lot of other lies that we believe about motherhood and ourselves. We buy into these lies and cling to them so much that we forgot Christ, the Gospel, and how these radically influence and impact our motherhood.  Today on the podcast I have Rebekah Hargraves chatting with me, author of the book Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them). We had a great conversation and I can't wait for you to listen in:  Listen to the Podcast: We also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. If you want to listen in instead of reading, click play below or do a combination of both  And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes.  Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer.   Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode:  My interview with Rebekah for her podcast! Rebekah's Blog Rebekah's Podcast  Rebekah's Book Join Rebekah's launch team here!! Rebekah's book is coming out in print soon! So Rebekah wanted to invite my readers to join her launch team of the book and the new Bible study book companion that is coming out. If you join the launch team, you will get FREE PDF versions of both books in thanks for being part of the launch team! You can find out more about that by joining her Facebook group. 

Being a mom is HARD. We have a lot to deal with day in and day out. And there are a lot of lies about motherhood that we buy into and believe.  Lies like "You are enough", "Mommy guilt is just something I have to live with" and "I'm selfish if I need me time". There are of course a lot of other lies that we believe about motherhood and ourselves. We buy into these lies and cling to them so much that we forgot Christ, the Gospel, and how these radically influence and impact our motherhood.  Today on the podcast I have Rebekah Hargraves chatting with me, author of the book Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them). We had a great conversation and I can't wait for you to listen in:  Listen to the Podcast: We also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. If you want to listen in instead of reading, click play below or do a combination of both  And don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes.  Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer.   Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode:  My interview with Rebekah for her podcast! Rebekah's Blog Rebekah's Podcast  Rebekah's Book Join Rebekah's launch team here!! Rebekah's book is coming out in print soon! So Rebekah wanted to invite my readers to join her launch team of the book and the new Bible study book companion that is coming out. If you join the launch team, you will get FREE PDF versions of both books in thanks for being part of the launch team! You can find out more about that by joining her Facebook group.