What's The Truth

Ever feel like you're doing all the right things - praying, trying to trust God, maybe even journaling or setting goals - but you're still stuck in the same place emotionally or spiritually? You're not alone. A lot of us assume if we're not moving forward, it must be a lack of faith. But sometimes, what's actually keeping us stuck isn't our faith at all - it's a quiet belief under the surface that's holding us back. Not something obvious, but something internal that needs a little more attention and a lot more grace. Rooting for you, Jessica Click here to get 50% off my Untangle Your Thoughts self-paced coaching program! Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever feel like life is one big “on edge” moment, where you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop? Whether it's because of trauma, stress, or even spiritual wounds, so many of us have lost our sense of safety - physically, mentally, and even spiritually. And when you're stuck in survival mode, it's hard to trust anyone - even God. But what if feeling safe again isn't about changing your circumstances, but about learning to ground yourself in God's presence right where you are? Let's talk about how to start that process. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever feel like saying no makes you a bad person? Or that being loving means being endlessly available? Well, you're not alone. But when you look at how Jesus actually lived, you see something surprising - He didn't say yes to everyone, and He wasn't afraid to set limits. If you've been wrestling with guilt over protecting your time or energy, today's episode is going to be a game-changer. Let's talk about what real, Christlike boundaries look like and why they're not just okay, they're necessary. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Today's episode gets personal—and maybe a little uncomfortable. I'm talking about the lies we believe about ourselves—and the truth that sets us free. These aren't just surface-level insecurities. They're the quiet, unspoken beliefs that sneak into your mind when no one's looking. Beliefs like “I'm too much,” “I'm not enough,” or “I'll never get it right.” They don't start as facts, but over time, they feel true—because they've been repeated in pain, shame, or silence. The way you see yourself isn't just shaping your confidence—it's shaping your choices, your relationships, and your faith. So today, let's peel back the layers and start getting honest about the lies—and the freedom on the other side. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Today's topic is one that hits deep for so many: “How trauma affects your view of God—and how to heal it.” In this episode, I'm talking about the connection between what you've lived through and what you believe about God. Because here's the hard truth: trauma doesn't just live in your past—it can live in your theology. But the beautiful truth is this: Your view of God may have been shaped by pain, but it can be reshaped by truth.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

“Take every thought captive.” Sounds powerful, right? But let's be real -what does that actually look like when you're in the carpool line, the inbox is overflowing, or your inner critic is running wild before you even had your coffee? If your mind ever feels like a battlefield, this episode is for you. Because taking every thought captive isn't about perfect mental control—it's about gently, intentionally aligning your thoughts with God's truth, one moment at a time. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever catch yourself thinking, “Why can't I just trust God already?” Like if you were more spiritual, more mature, or more faithful, this wouldn't be so hard? If that's you, you're not alone. And you're not failing. Here's the truth I want you to carry into this episode: Sometimes your struggle to trust God isn't a lack of faith - it's a sign of a deeper wound. In this episode, we're going to explore how your early relationships, past pain, and nervous system responses can impact your connection with God—and how healing trust is not only possible, it's something God wants to walk with you through. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever felt like you're doing all the right things—checking the boxes, showing up, pushing through—but deep down, you know you're running on empty? That's not laziness, weakness, or failure. That's survival mode. And God never meant for you to live stuck there. In this episode, I want to talk about what survival mode really is, how to recognize it in your everyday life, and—most importantly—how to step out of it with God. Because you weren't created to just get through life. You were made to live it—fully, freely, and with Him.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

If you grew up being told to “stop crying,” “toughen up,” or “just be grateful,” you're not alone. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to mistrust our emotions or even feel ashamed for having them. But I want to shift that narrative today—because your emotions are not a spiritual failure or a sign of weakness. They are signals, not sins. Emotions are how God wired us, not something He's asking us to overcome. Let's break this down together—biblically, clinically, and practically—so you can start seeing your emotions as tools for healing, not something to hide. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever felt like God was distant—like no matter how much you prayed, you couldn't hear Him? Maybe deep down, you're carrying unspoken disappointment or even resentment toward Him. It's not that you don't believe He's good, but a part of you wonders, "If He really loves me, why did He allow these things to happen?" Without realizing it, we can hold judgments against God, using our pain as evidence that He isn't trustworthy. But here's the thing—God isn't the one who hurt you. And rebuilding trust with Him isn't about pretending your wounds don't exist. It's about bringing them to Him, boldly and honestly, and allowing His truth to rewrite the story you've been telling yourself.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Do you ever feel like you're losing yourself while trying to keep everyone else happy? You're not alone. People-pleasing is exhausting—it tricks us into thinking that if we can keep everyone else content, we'll finally feel safe, accepted, or worthy. But the truth is, people-pleasing often comes at the cost of our own well-being. Whether it's the fear of rejection, a need for approval, or the belief that loving others means ignoring yourself, this pattern slowly steals your peace. But here's the good news: You don't have to keep living that way. Let's talk about what it really means to love others without losing yourself in the process. Rooting for you, Jessica Resources: What Is the Fawn Response? People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever wrestled with the idea of denying yourself, wondering if it means you don't matter? Many of us have been taught to put others before ourselves, but somewhere along the way, that message got distorted into believing our feelings, needs, and limits don't count. When we internalize this misunderstanding, setting boundaries can feel wrong—almost as if we're going against God. But what if denying ourselves doesn't mean becoming invisible or neglecting our well-being? What if it actually means surrendering our will to God while still honoring the way He created us? Let's explore what Jesus truly meant by self-denial and how it aligns with living a healthy, God-honoring life—one where boundaries and love coexist. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the weight of your responsibilities, struggling to say no even when you know you should? Many of us were never taught how to set boundaries, and as a result, we allow situations, people, and even our own expectations to push us beyond what is healthy. Setting boundaries isn't about controlling others—it's about taking responsibility for what we will and will not allow in our lives. It's about recognizing our limits and having the courage to say, “This is too far.” Whether it's with our time, our relationships, or ourselves, boundaries are a necessary part of living with wisdom and peace. But in order to set them well, we need to understand the key factors that shape them—what we value, our personal capacity, and the reality that sometimes, setting a boundary means letting go. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever hesitated to come to God because you were afraid of His punishment? Maybe you've wondered if your struggles are proof that He's angry with you. If so, you're not alone. From childhood, many of us have been conditioned to fear punishment—it's why we instinctively react with punishment rather than discipline when others fail. This fear leads us to hide our pain rather than confront it, convincing us that God responds to our failures the same way. But here's the truth: there's a difference between facing the consequences of sin and being punished for sinning. Understanding this difference changes how we see God—not as a harsh judge eager to condemn, but as a loving Father who corrects us for our good. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever find yourself snapping at someone out of nowhere, feeling the urge to run from a situation, shutting down completely, or agreeing to things just to keep the peace? These are all ways our bodies respond to stress—and you're not alone in experiencing them. In today's episode, we're diving into the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses. We'll explore how your nervous system reacts when it senses a threat (real or imagined) and, more importantly, how to reset when you feel stuck in survival mode. Whether you tend to lash out, shut down, run away, or people-please, there are practical tools to help you come back to a place of calm—and we'll explore how biblical truths can guide us there too.   Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Forgiveness—it's one of the hardest things to talk about, let alone work through. Most of the people I work with don't even touch the topic of forgiveness until several sessions in. And it's no wonder—our pain tells us that forgiving means letting someone off the hook. But what if that's not true? What if forgiveness isn't about excusing what happened but about freeing ourselves from the weight of it? In this episode, I'm unpacking the complexities of forgiveness—why we struggle with it, the difference between decisional and emotional forgiveness, and the subtle signs that we might still be holding on to hurt. If you've ever found yourself replaying the past, avoiding certain people, or waiting for an apology that may never come, this conversation is for you.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever wrestled with the question, “If God is good, then why did this painful thing happen to me?” When we're deep in hurt, the idea of a loving God can feel impossible to reconcile with our suffering. It's not about struggling with prayer or faith itself—it's about wrestling with who God is in the midst of pain. In this episode, I'm opening up this conversation, not to offer quick-fix answers, but to create space for the real questions so many of us carry. We'll explore what it means to hold both realities—a broken world and a loving God—without dismissing the weight of our experiences. Healing doesn't come from clichés or easy answers, but from being heard, understood, and reminded of who God truly is. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever felt like God is silent or distant during your most painful moments? If so, you're not alone. In today's episode, we're addressing the heartache of feeling abandoned by God and how these emotions shape our view of His presence. We'll take a closer look at why these feelings arise, how our circumstances can cloud our understanding of God, and what Scripture says about His unwavering love. If you've ever questioned where God is in your pain, I hope this episode offers a fresh perspective and encouragement to find hope in His promises, even in the silence. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever found yourself constantly trying to keep the peace, avoiding conflict, or prioritizing others' needs at the expense of your own? While these behaviors may seem like acts of kindness or love, they often stem from a deeper trauma response called the fawn response. In today's episode, we're exploring the fawn response from a nervous system perspective—what it is, why it happens, and how it impacts our emotional, relational, and spiritual health. Together, we'll uncover how this response, rooted in fear, can lead to patterns of people-pleasing that drain our energy and distort our sense of identity. Most importantly, we'll discuss how God's truth and grace can empower us to break free from this cycle and embrace the freedom He intends for us. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Hi friends! Today, we're diving into a topic close to my heart: Having emotions doesn't make you emotional. Yes, God intentionally created us as emotional beings, and that's not a weakness—it's a reflection of His design. If you've ever been told you're “too emotional” or felt like you had to hide how you truly feel, this episode is for you. Together, we'll explore why your emotions matter, how to honor God with them, and what it looks like to process feelings in a healthy, God-honoring way. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

In this episode, we dive into a struggle many of us face without even realizing it—comparing our pain to others. Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I shouldn't feel this way; others have it worse”? If so, you're not alone. In this conversation, we'll uncover how this mindset can invalidate our experiences, explore what God says about honoring our pain, and share practical, grace-filled ways to embrace healing.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

As we step into 2025, I've noticed a common thread that keeps so many of us from experiencing emotional and physical healing: a lack of self-awareness and ownership over what we can control. Here's the truth: we can't heal what we keep hidden.  In this episode, I'm unpacking how growing in self-awareness, taking responsibility, and allowing God's light to reveal the hidden places in our hearts can set us on the path to freedom and healing.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

I want to share my journey with you because I've learned some powerful truths about emotional regulation, stress, and how we handle pain. For almost a year, I stepped away from something I loved—strength training. Not because it wasn't good for me, but because God was asking me a hard question: “Is this good for your body right now?” That question was humbling. As a health coach for almost 14 years, I'd always focused on the external—workouts, meal plans, and supplements. And while those things are helpful, I've realized that true healing doesn't start there. The real question isn't about food, workouts, or your body. The real question is this: Are you handling your pain, offenses, and beliefs in a healthy way? In today's episode, we'll talk about the beliefs that might be holding you back, the ways unprocessed pain shows up in your life, and how surrendering to God can change everything. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Have you ever found yourself wanting to lose weight or make a positive change, but your actions just don't line up with your intentions? You know what you want—to feel better, to be healthier, to grow spiritually—but there's this frustrating disconnect between your mind, your heart, and what you actually do. Whether it's reaching for that snack you promised yourself you wouldn't eat, skipping the project you know would bring relief, or struggling to find time for prayer even when you long for a deeper connection with God, the question lingers: Why do I do the things I don't want to do instead of what I know I should? This isn't just about willpower—it's about what's happening in both our hearts and minds. Today, we're exploring this age-old struggle through both a biblical and psychological lens to uncover the root of resistance and find practical ways to overcome it. If you've ever felt stuck in this tension, you're not alone—and there's hope to move forward. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

For the past four months, nearly every morning, I've started my day with a quiet ritual: stepping outside, grounding myself by putting my feet in the grass (or snow) and soaking in 8 to 10 minutes of morning sunlight. In this episode, we're diving into the power of rest, silence, and intentionality. We'll explore how embracing stillness not only helps us reconnect with our bodies and minds but also with God. Together, we'll unpack the discomfort of silence, why we tend to avoid it, and how learning to sit with our feelings can lead to healing. Whether through prayer, biblical imagery, or simple mindfulness practices, we'll discuss ways to unhurry, process our emotions, and begin the journey toward renewal. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Today's episode is very personal for me. We often hold onto pain because it reassures us paradoxically, convincing us to guard our hearts and mistrust the world around us. Pain can trick us into believing that love and trust will only lead to more suffering, pushing us into isolation and away from peace. Reflecting on my journey, especially during the time I became my mother's medical power of attorney after 14 years of no contact, I've come to realize how pain can dominate our lives. My mother's passing brought to light the enduring impact of her pain, which kept her from embracing love and reconciliation. This experience taught me the importance of confronting and challenging our pain rather than letting it define us. In this episode, I share these insights to encourage you to reevaluate how pain might be influencing your life and to inspire you to open up to healing, love, and peace.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

You're going to notice something a little different today! This episode is extra special because I'm sharing an interview I had with K-LOVE, a nationally recognized Christian radio station. I was honored to be featured in their “Positive People” segment, which aired locally in Pittsburgh, PA.  In this conversation, we dive into the theme of walking through pain—what it means to face it, hold it, and ultimately grow through it. I share parts of my journey, my work as a Christian Mental Health Coach, and how I help women untangle the thoughts that hold them back.  We also discuss how our beliefs about God shape how we experience life, why it's essential to reconcile pain with faith and the power of addressing root issues without dwelling in the past.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Suffering is one of life's hardest realities, but it's important to know that God never chose suffering for us. His original design was perfect, free from pain and brokenness. Suffering entered the world through humanity's choice to sin, not because it was part of God's plan.  In this episode, we explore where suffering comes from, why God allows it, and how He uses it for His purposes. We discuss the role of free will, different views on God's sovereignty, and how suffering impacts our faith. While pain is a consequence of living in a broken world, God can use it to refine us, strengthen our character, and teach us to rely on Him.  Above all, we'll share the hope found in God's redemptive plan. He is close to us in our pain and promises to restore all things through His love.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Today I'm delving into a common yet often unspoken struggle: the need for approval. For many, this desire becomes so ingrained that it can feel impossible to escape, creating a sense of entrapment that often goes unnoticed. In this episode, I'll explore the root causes of approval-seeking behavior, why it's so challenging to break free, and the steps we can take to overcome it. I'll also give an overview of attachment styles and the impact they have on our relationships and self-worth. Let's unpack how we can start shifting from a need for others' approval to living with confidence in who we are in Christ.   Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Ever feel like God is trying to get your attention, but you're not sure how to listen? Today, we're exploring practical, down-to-earth ways to recognize His voice—even in subtle, everyday moments that we might easily overlook. While we often expect bold signs or clear words, God's communication can come as a gentle nudge, a persistent thought, or a sense of calm amid the chaos. We'll dive into both biblical insights and clinical strategies for quieting the mind, grounding ourselves in Scripture, and creating a heart that's open to listening.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Last month, I talked about the difference between a mental health coach and a counselor, and today, I want to take it a step further. We're diving into what it really looks like to work with a Christian mental health coach.  As a trauma-informed life coach, my goal is to help my clients grow emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Coaching is all about meeting you where you are, setting goals, and taking real steps toward the life you want. It's different from counseling—I don't diagnose or treat things like PTSD or bipolar disorder—but I do help you tackle everyday challenges, whether that's setting boundaries, managing stress, or navigating relationships.  Every client I work with gets a personalized action plan. We also talk through tough stuff—like those moments when you're frustrated with God—and create space where you can be real, without any judgment.  Sometimes, we touch on past pain, but the focus is always on moving forward. And if we come across areas where more specialized support is needed—like nutrition or therapy—I'll help you connect with the right professionals.  If this sounds like what you've been looking for, I'd love to chat! Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Today, we're diving into a topic that many believers experience - the dark night of the soul. If you've ever felt distant from God, like your prayers are bouncing off the ceiling, or that you're spiritually wandering through a desert, this episode is for you. In this episode, I'll define "the dark night of the soul," some reasons we go through it, and share some uncommon, yet powerful, ways to walk through this challenging season. Remember, this isn't the end of your story. God is with you, even in the silence, and He's doing a deeper work in you than you may realize. Embrace the stillness, care for your body, lament honestly, and let go of the need to ‘do' more. Trust that in time, the light will break through. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

In today's episode, I delve into the experiences of those who grew up as the ‘good child'—the one who followed the rules, stayed out of trouble, and asked for little, yet often felt neglected or overlooked. As adults, many of these individuals find themselves in a constant cycle of seeking approval and validation. We will explore the reasons behind this, its roots in past experiences, and, most importantly, how to heal from it with Christ. Other episodes that would be good to listen to: The Truth About People Pleasing Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Pain, whether physical or emotional, can lead us to question God's goodness and presence in our lives. We might wonder, "Has God abandoned me?" or "Why is this happening to me?" These doubts can leave us feeling isolated from Him.  In this episode, I explore the false beliefs that can arise from pain, such as thinking it's a form of punishment or that we're unworthy of God's love. These distorted thoughts often keep us stuck in a cycle of guilt, shame, and self-punishment, but there is hope! Listen as I explain how to replace these lies with biblical truth, using both scripture and practical tools like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to reframe our thoughts and reconnect with God. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

One of the most common questions I'm asked during consultations is, "What's the difference between mental health coaching and counseling?" So in this episode, I'm breaking down counseling vs. coaching. Whether you're curious about which path might suit you best or are currently navigating your own mental health journey, this episode will help clarify the unique roles and approaches of a coach versus a counselor. We'll also explore how both can work together to support your personal growth and healing. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

Negative thought cycles are something we all face, but as Christians, we have a unique opportunity to tackle them not only from a clinical perspective but by grounding ourselves in God's truth. In this episode, we'll dive into the psychology behind negative thinking and explore how aligning our minds with scripture can lead to lasting change. Whether you're struggling with anxious thoughts or feeling stuck in a pattern of negativity, I'll guide you through practical steps to renew your mind. Let's break free from harmful thinking together! Rooting for you,  Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching  Or book your free 20-minute consultation here! Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop  Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

In this episode, we're diving into three common Christian phrases that, while often spoken with good intentions, might be doing more harm than good. Have you ever heard or even said things like, "All things work together for good," "Everything happens for a reason," or "God allowed this to happen"? These phrases can be problematic when taken out of context or misused. Today, we'll explore why some of these statements aren't even biblical, how others depend on your view of God's sovereignty, and when it's crucial to share them with care. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Welcome back, friend! I'm so glad you're joining me for today's episode, which dives into a deeply personal topic I've had to walk through myself. This isn't something I talk about lightly—it's a question I hear often from my one-on-one coaching clients: "Why doesn't God heal me?" While I'm not addressing physical healing today, I want to talk about healing in terms of emotional pain and brokenness, and how it relates to our beliefs about God's love for us. If you've ever wondered why you still carry pain or questioned if God is withholding healing, this conversation is for you. We'll explore what it means to open our hearts and invite God into those difficult places, because healing starts with surrender.   Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

In today's episode, we're tackling a powerful and often misunderstood belief: the idea that God is punishing us for the challenges we face in life. Many of us feel guilty, thinking we deserve the hardships we're going through. But God's boundaries are set out of love, not punishment. Together we'll explore the difference between discipline, consequence, and punishment, and how to break free from the cycle of self-condemnation. If you've ever felt like you need to "fix" yourself before coming to God, this episode will offer clarity, encouragement, and a fresh perspective. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Have you ever set a boundary and then felt guilty afterward, wondering if you were now the "bad person" in someone else's story? In today's episode, we dive deep into that exact feeling—the guilt that comes with standing up for yourself. We explore why this happens, how pain and self-worth play a role, and what you can do to move past it. Setting boundaries is less about keeping people out and more about creating healthier, more respectful relationships—even if it sometimes feels uncomfortable.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

If you've ever found yourself saying, “I forgive them,” but still feel weighed down by lingering anger or hurt, this episode is for you. This week, I dive into the often-overlooked factor that keeps us stuck in the process of forgiveness: blame. As someone who struggled to forgive for years, I know this is a hard topic, but my story has offered me valuable insight into how we can move beyond blame and take responsibility for our healing journey. Forgiveness doesn't have to include carrying hurt with you forever. By releasing blame and taking responsibility for our healing, we can move forward with clarity and peace.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

If you've been dealing with mood swings, irritability, difficulty focusing, and/or chronic fatigue, there's a good chance that your nervous system is dysregulated. In this episode, I explore what it means to have a dysregulated nervous system, the signs to watch out for, and practical strategies for healing. I'll also share some personal experiences and bonus tips to help you regulate your emotions and maintain your overall well-being.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Are you tired of trying to keep everyone else happy while feeling like you're losing yourself in the process? In this episode, I dive deep into why so many of us feel consumed by the need to make others happy, often at the cost of ourselves. I also explore the complex dynamics of people-pleasing, from both a psychological and spiritual perspective and offer practical insights on how to break free from this exhausting cycle. Remember that your worth isn't tied to how much you do for others. You matter because you are made in God's image.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your feelings or unsure how to navigate them, this episode is for you. In this chat, I dive into the complex topic of processing emotions. We'll explore practical, faith-based approaches to understanding and managing your emotions, and provide actionable steps to help you gain clarity and peace. There is no one-size-fits-all approach, but if you write down your thoughts, name your feelings, and seek the truth of God's Word, you can begin to change your relationship with your emotions.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

 “I bet you thought life wasn't fair.” If you're a regular listener familiar with my family history, you can understand why someone would say this to me. And they're right - life isn't fair.  But here's a different perspective: life in a broken world isn't guaranteed fair or painless. However, God promises to be with you through it all.  This doesn't mean your pain isn't real or that life has been easy. It means you're not chasing fairness; you're pursuing righteousness. The world often tries to make us choose sides and see things in black and white, especially regarding pain and healing. But sometimes, healing can coexist with moments of pain, joy can mix with sorrow, and grief can accompany hope. You can transition from seeing yourself as a victim to recognizing yourself as a survivor. Your heart changes when you focus on pursuing righteousness and what God calls you to do, rather than trying to understand everything. Faith isn't about understanding; it's about standing with God. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

I want to talk about something that is tough, but super important - forgiveness, reconciliation, and repentance.  For years, I struggled with what others expected me to do versus what God told me. It was a constant battle because these opinions came from people I deeply respected. But every time, something inside me stopped. It took years and some recent experiences to realize that this hesitation was God protecting me. People often confuse forgiveness and reconciliation, thinking they're the same thing. But they're not. And repentance isn't just about saying sorry to excuse bad behavior—it's about truly changing. Forgiveness starts with God — it's not just about saying, “I forgive you.” It's about letting go of resentment while still acknowledging the pain. Reconciliation, on the other hand, is like two people with drawbridges. Both have to be willing to lower their bridges to rebuild the connection. Trust isn't instantly restored; it has to be earned and maintained. Repentance means turning back to God. It's a genuine response to godly sorrow, which is a profound recognition of our sins and shortcomings. This sorrow leads to repentance, changing our minds, hearts, and direction. It's redemptive and life-giving, making us more receptive to God's grace and compassionate towards others. No matter the relationship—whether it's with a friend, family member, partner, or spouse—these three elements will always be part of the process if both people are willing to work on it.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Are you dealing with pain, but you feel like no one acknowledges it? Maybe someone tells you that you're the problem, or someone you care about manipulates or gaslights you. It's easy to feel like you're the issue, thinking you're a burden or no one cares about you. When bad things happen, the last thing you want to do is face them head-on. It's much easier to shut down, isolate yourself, and distract yourself with food, movies, or endless scrolling. Escaping reality feels better than dealing with pain. I know this because I used to escape pain by holding onto anger and pretending everything was okay. I kept myself busy to avoid thinking about it, hoping time would make it go away. But time alone doesn't heal; healing comes when we actively work through our pain over time. In this episode, I share three key things I've learned about processing pain in a healthy way with God. Remember, there's a loving Father who cares deeply about your pain and is with you through every step of your healing journey. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

This episode is special because it's very personal—it's about me and my mom. For those of you who've been following me, you might know a bit of my story, but today I'm diving deeper. She and I had been estranged for 14 years, but that changed last month when I became her medical power of attorney. I hope my experience resonates with those facing similar struggles and offers insight into the importance of setting boundaries, managing expectations, and trusting God through the difficult process of forgiveness.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

The topic of today's episode is very personal because I've been learning lately through my relationship with God about letting go of offenses. It's about not letting myself think poorly of someone just because of how they react to my pain. It's tough, but our expectations of others often set us up for disappointment. Sure, it's healthy to have expectations in relationships, but when I start needing others to fulfill my needs before turning to Jesus, things get tricky. Often, when we have expectations, we want others to fill a void or a need. But some days, I don't even know what I need or feel, so how can I expect someone else to meet a need I haven't identified yet? In relationships, it's natural to expect to be seen, heard and loved. However, relationships can be messy because they involve two imperfect people with different experiences and beliefs. Remember, their response to your decision is not yours to carry. What matters is how you respond. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

If you're a Christian, or even if you've just considered it, you've likely wrestled with feeling like you need to get better before God will accept you. Why would you expect God to forgive you if you can't even forgive yourself? This mindset leads to isolation from God and others who might hurt us again. However, when we forgive ourselves, we heal through compassion—not self-centered compassion, but one led by the Holy Spirit. A healthy relationship with ourselves begins with a healthy relationship with God. If we judge ourselves based on our performance rather than His grace, we end up living under guilt and condemnation.  It's about finding the balance—being kind to ourselves without being self-indulgent, being proud without being prideful, and saying kind things about ourselves without being conceited. Practically speaking, as we practice receiving God's compassion and grace, we'll see His goodness in our daily efforts.  Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

Ever found yourself letting someone say or do whatever they wanted to you, even when it felt wrong? Or maybe you've kept someone or something in your life longer than you should have because confronting it felt too overwhelming. It's often easier to endure the pain of staying silent than to face the discomfort of speaking up. Setting boundaries requires understanding who we are in Christ, dealing with our pain, and communicating clearly. They are essential for true, genuine love in relationships, allowing us to connect while protecting our well-being. It's not about making rules but fostering healthy, respectful relationships. Rooting for you, Jessica Next steps: Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/ Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com