Buddha and the Body Coach

Travel poses a unique challenge in that we are out of structure, routines and comfort zones often making it difficult to maintain all of those great habits that got us to health, fitness and a body composition we feel happy with. In the midst of chaos, meals out, jet lag and unknown environments how can we maintain our results? Alex and T explore this conundrum in this episode sharing insights and guidance from experience of moving around the world as digital nomads and travel enthusiasts. Download your FREE copy of Alex's digital ebook 'Staying Fit and Healthy on the Road.' Recommended Resistance bands Work with T Work with Alex Discount codes Prolon FMD USA - use code Alex81 Nuethix Formulations - use code WBC1 Booty Kicker Barre $44.99 off

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Optimization can be playful, fun and life affirming, but what happens when it goes too far? In this shorter BuddhaByte we discuss the culture of optimization, when it's healthy and its dark side. We discuss Huberman husbands, Goop's vagina candle, almond mum's, bio hacking, male vs female wellness and other gems. Article mentioned: Huberman husbands and their long suffering wives Article mentioned: Emma Brockes writes for the Guardian Peter Attia Outlive Conspirituality podcast

Shame! What gives? Why do we put up with such a crappy way of being related to and relating to ourselves? Alex and T talk about the animal roots and physiology of shame, the effects of it on our personality, and the different "flavors" of shame. Shame contributes to bullying as well as victim-hood, and can show up in all areas of our lives from body image to social, familial, and even spiritual. The discussion turns to learning to identify shame and the difference between shame, guilt, and remorse. Next it turns to "Shame-proofing" our lives, living in a more free and joyous way . . . moving beyond the effects of "crippling shame". A couple more links coming soon! Oscar Wilde quote

“It's just a story”Anyone who has entered into new age and Buddhist spiritual traditions has heard this, and while it certainly holds pieces of the truth, this stance can often result in us feeling disenfranchised and dismissed, as opposed to truly disidentified and self actualized.  “You have to be somebody before you can be nobody” -  Jack Engler, Buddhist psychotherapist PHD In this podcast we set the record straight on when and how our stories matter and conversely,  when we need to lighten up around our stories and even let them go.  As well as deep and meaningful transformative conversations, expect to hear about Alex's 5th birthday and getting a Teddy Ruxpin toy, how she lied to her teacher that she had been born in Disneyland and how to T wanted to be Evel Knievel. Please subscribe to get our updates, review us and share with your friends. Some juicy things we mentioned for your further research... Schema Therapy: The 18 Schemas Witness the power of story. 44% of Americans believe they can become billionaires, no really! We mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van de Kolk Find T  Beingrealnow.org  FB: T at Being Real Find Alex  Free high protein meal prep plan from Alex IG @womansbodycoach Threads Get $20 off the fabulous Booty Kicker Barre with Alex's discount code: ALEXBOOTYKICKER

“It's just a story” Anyone who has entered into new age and Buddhist spiritual traditions has heard this, and while it certainly holds pieces of the truth, this stance can often result in us feeling disenfranchised and dismissed, as opposed to truly disidentified and self actualized.  “You have to be somebody before you can be nobody” -  Jack Engler, Buddhist psychotherapist PHD In this podcast we set the record straight on when and how our stories matter and conversely,  when we need to lighten up around our stories and even let them go.  As well as deep and meaningful transformative conversations, expect to hear about Alex's 5th birthday and getting a Teddy Ruxpin toy, how she lied to her teacher that she had been born in Disneyland and how to T wanted to be Evel Knievel. Please subscribe to get our updates, review us and share with your friends. Some juicy things we mentioned for your further research... Schema Therapy: The 18 Schemas Witness the power of story. 44% of Americans believe they can become billionaires, no really! We mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van de Kolk Find T  Beingrealnow.org  FB: T at Being Real Find Alex  Free high protein meal prep plan from Alex IG @womansbodycoach Threads Get $20 off the fabulous Booty Kicker Barre with Alex's discount code: ALEXBOOTYKICKER

Therapy speak has entered into popular culture in a big way, accompanied with complex psychological narratives people are using to express themselves and to make sense of the world around them. As with most complex ideas once they enter the mainstream the original context is often lost and the meaning diminished. Whilst learning this language and these narratives have been helpful to many there is now a darker side, and we are seeing these terms misused to attack others and to shutdown connection. In this podcast ep we discuss how this is taking shape in popular culture, and how to best use this new information to create connection and to grow instead of its opposite.  Article about therapy-speak by Rebecca Fishbein Jonah Hill texts debate Work with us! Find Alex  www.thewomansbodycoach.com IG @womansbodycoach Find T  Beingrealnow.org  FB: T at Being Real

Introducing 'Buddha Bites' where we do a shorter 20/25 minute podcast on a subject of interest. When he hear about safe spaces in culture it's often with derision by the right wing media about how soft the younger generations are, but this doesn't really tell us much about safe spaces and why they are suddenly relevant. In this shorter podcast, we explore the concept of safety in our culture and safe spaces and how they can both help and hinder us as human beings. This was an alive discussion that took us on a journey and we hope it does that for you too. Please rate us 5*, subscribe and share with your loved ones. We mentioned Dr Andy Galpin We mentioned The Mayflower audiobook You can work with T at Being Real T's Facebook You can get a FREE high protein meal prep plan from Alex at The Woman's Body Coach Alex's IG @womansbodycoach Follow IG @Buddhaandthebodycoach

Resilence quiz 83% of Americans reported that they felt they were resilient but research showed that only 57% were resilient. T's article on the cynic You can't kill the Rooster!  https://youtube.com/watch?v=qLqHfpJrfLA&feature=share Cyclical Sighing Breath Technique made popular By Andrew Huberman Rumi mention ACEs study questions Work with us! Find Alex www.thewomansbodycoach.com IG @womansbodycoach Find T Beingrealnow.org FB: T at Being Real

⁠Resilence quiz⁠ ⁠83% of Americans reported that they felt they were resilient but research showed that only 57% were resilient. ⁠ ⁠T's article on the cynic ⁠ You can't kill the Rooster! https://youtube.com/watch?v=qLqHfpJrfLA&feature=share⁠ ⁠Cyclical Sighing Breath Technique made popular By Andrew Huberman ⁠ ⁠Rumi⁠ mention ⁠ACEs study questions⁠ Work with us! Find Alex ⁠www.thewomansbodycoach.com⁠ IG @⁠womansbodycoach⁠  Find T  Beingrealnow.org  FB: ⁠T at Being Real 

T and Alex discuss this controversial and cutting edge topic to explore why females tend more towards disguised competitive strategies as opposed to males who are direct and overt when competing with one another. We discover why this particular evolutionary strategy developed (there are very good reasons), what purpose it served and ideas about moving forward in a world with shifting rules. This is a mostly unexplored topic which we haven't heard discussed much outside of academia. We are excited to bring it forward in the hopes of inspiring debate and the development of new ideas, so that one day, in the not too distant future, females can move out in the world and finally say openly and without reprisal "I want to win." This podcast comes with a trigger warning since we discuss sensitive topics such as social exclusion. Alex has a new self guided VIP area! at The Woman's Body Coach DIY your way to good health with this integrated approach to health and fitness. It's just $30 a month until March when the price increases so don't miss this opportunity! SIGN UP T is a counselor, and currently has a couple of openings for new clients. Find out about T and book at Being Real Alex mentioned Gabby Reece's podcast The Gabby Reece Show We mentioned Title 9 which you can read about HERE T mentioned Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher We referenced this brilliant study throughout: The development of human female competition: allies and adversaries https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3826208/ We mentioned this sassy kid: Lemme tell you something Linda

TOXIC: it's one of those 'buzz' words that has made it into popular culture to describe everything we feel has maladaptive qualities. When considering the title for this podcast we had a conversation about whether we ought to use the term, since the very use of it indicates a resistance to what is a common cultural coping strategy. By labelling something toxic we banish it to shameful places in ourselves which in turn shuts down curiosity and open exploration, something very much needed if we are going to understand this phenomenon better. We decided to to run with the term since it provides a useful heuristic people immediately connect with, but this conversation is not about tearing down the mantle, we have fun exploring the cultural drive towards positivity and why we find it so hard to experience the full range of our own emotions and that of others. We offer workable solutions to allowing experiences we might find difficult to process, we discuss how capitalism plays a role in reinforcing positivity, gaslighting ourselves and how to reclaim our 'realness' in a culture that is constantly suggesting we self-abandon either overtly or covertly. Fun conversation with many twists and turns. It's good to be back. Show Notes: We mentioned the work of Barbara Ehrenreich Bright Sided. We referenced a study 'Positive Psychology: Kindness Changes the Chromosomes We used the R.A.I.N technique created by Michele McDonald and popularized by Tara Brach. Alex mentioned the podcast No Stupid Questions ep 120 Why Are Rich Countries So Unhappy, as of 2022 Finland is still rated as the happiest country in the world, whereas the US is now 19. Work with Alex: IG @womansbodycoach www.thewomansbodycoach.com Work with T Beingrealnow.org Follow the podcast on IG @buddhaandthebodycoach

Our 8th and final episode of this series covers a topic we all unfortunately know too well - emotional reactivity. We explore: What is Emotional REACTIVITY!? How does it show up for us? Why do we get reactive and how do we get better at being non-reactive, without sacrificing our own integrity and boundaries? Ultimately we want to understand just why we would let go of this (ego) self protection strategy. What's the pay off? Is it worth it? We think so. Join us in this conversation which has been a deep subject uncovering many layers of the self. Topics covered What is emotional reactivity? How does it show up in the nervous system? Why do we get so triggered? What does it mean for our self image? Reactivity in relationships and the body Tools to work with reactivity Mentions: Diamond Approach, Adyashanti, Wilhelm Reich, Alexander Lowen, Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk Jean Paul Sartre: It is the source of Sartre's especially famous phrase "L'enfer, c'est les autres" or "Hell is other people", a reference to Sartre's ideas about the look and the perpetual ontological struggle of being caused to see oneself as an object from the view of another consciousness. Links: Window of tolerance (Dr. Daniel Siegel) Psychopathy and Victim Selection: The Use of Gait as a Cue to Vulnerability Work with T: http://beingrealnow.org/ Work with Alex: thewomansbodycoach.com Follow us on Instagram @Buddhaandthebodycoach

Alex and T take a deep dive into boundaries. . .but hopefully not into each others. What are boundaries and where do they happen? We discuss different types of boundaries like physical, mental, and emotional as well as boundary qualities from porous to rigid. Work, families, social culture . . .we get into it. Find out about enmeshment, rigidity and control, negative merging, and what's up with the cookie. Monty Python comes up as do a few other great resources below. Mentions and Resources: Bessel Van Der Kolk: The body keeps the score Gemma Hartley: Women aren't nags-we're just fed up ACES Study in-depth video with ACES originator Dr. Vincent Felitti Monty Python: Catholics Monty Python: Protestants A little bit culty podcast

What are values and why do they matter? Where did they come from and are they ours or someone else's (family, culture, tribe)? How do we get clear about our values, what gets in the way of living our values? We'll look at values and meaning, the platonic ideas (truth, beauty and goodness), as well as living our values without shame, blame, and criticism. How do the more superficial reflect our deeper internal values? And much more . . .even a cameo Coast Guard helicopter fly over. The Hidden Life of Trees Documentary Diamond Approach: deep take on value

In Amazing Attachment Theory Part 2 T and Alex discuss the fourth attachment style, disorganized attachment. What kind of environment contributes to this attachment style? What are the characteristics of disorganized attachment style and how does it show up? We'll be talking about the consequences of disorganized attachment and why it's really important to seek support. We discuss how to begin the work of repair for all of the insecure attachment styles so we can move forward in the world with an earned secure attachment. Show notes: Dan Siegel The Developing Mind Dr. Edward Tronick Still face experiment Sue Marriott and Dr Anne Kelly Therapist Uncensored This is a great episode on a podcast that is loaded with good ones. There is a specific treatment to work with attachment. Many PDF's and info about the book Attachment disturbances in Adults by Brown and Elliott. The Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology absolute treasure trove! Alex's Website: Thewomansbodycoach.com T's Website: Beingrealnow.org

Alex and T share a powerful tool they have found in their years of self-exploration and working with others. Attachment theory is one of the most researched and developed ideas in the field of psychology and relationships. Here is a little history both personal and about this amazing field of study. Covered here: the brilliant researchers, many of them women . . . Mary Ainsworth, Margaret Mahler, Mary Main, Patricia Crittenden, Carol George, as well as John Bowlby, and Dr. Daniel Siegel Books: Attached Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Becoming Attached Robert Karen The Developing Mind Dr. Daniel Siegel Strange Situation Bethany Saltman Links: Diane Poole Heller Attachment test Dan Siegel Video on Avoidant Attachment Alex's website: The Woman's Body Coach T's Website: BeingRealNow

A deep dive into the workings of the inner critic also known as the judge and the super-ego. What is the inner critic? How does it function in the mind/psyche both personally and collectively? What can we do to begin working with the inner critic and lessen its power? Learn a clarifying technique to "RIDD" ourselves of judgement. This particular form of inner work can be so impactful and really shift the the way we relate to ourselves. We are very passionate about sharing these understandings, experiences and tools which can facilitate such big changes so quickly. Resources Alex at thewomansbodycoach.com T at Beingrealnow.org Soul without shame Byron Brown: Nonviolent Communication Self guide: Taming your gremlin Rick Carson: Embracing your inner critic: The unfolding now A.H. Almaas:

Is the universe a friendly place? Is there a way to connect to an inner sense of "goodness" that we can carry with us even in stressful times? Join Alex and T as they discuss the path of self-regulation. They will discuss the impacts of self-regulation in their own lives and how those have endured over time. The "what's", "why's, and the "how's" of portable goodness are explored in depth. A well regulated nervous system is the ground for a passionate and joyful life. Join us for the conversation, learn something and have some laughs along the way. Show notes: About the FW Myers quote (Footnote 1). The work of Dr. Dan Siegal The work of Dr. Stephen Porges 40 mins in we talked about a neuroscientist who talked about the narrow view vs wide, it was Steven Kotler T mentioned the book Buddha's Brain and the author was Rick Hanson Find Alex thewomansbodycoach.com Find T beingrealnow.org

What are the differences between coaching, therapy, and spiritual guidance? What are the overlaps? In this episode we will attempt to answer these questions as well as illuminate each of the fields, their strengths, benefits, and limitations. Rather than draw hard lines we offer guidance in terms of what type of work best fits for individual needs. We cover: What to know about choosing an individual practitioner. How do we show up in an authentic and vulnerable way without giving away our power. The value of a good "bullshit detector" and how to use it. The money, sex, and power guideline. Keeping the integrity of our boundaries. Choosing the appropriate modality along with a skillful, qualified practitioner not only facilitates growth and development it also inspires trust in the process of asking for and receiving help. We hope this episode will help guide you towards the greatest benefit.

Buddha and the Body Coach is a new podcast by Alex Stone and T Proctor talking about the things that matter, and what makes your life more meaningful and fulfilled. Our first podcasts are released on 14 June 2022 on the Super Moon and we would LOVE you to join us. Let's give this some wings! Please like, rate and subscribe to our podcast, and tell your friends. If you would like to get in touch with us you can email us : buddhaandthebodycoach@gmail.com Visit our webpage Buddha&theBodyCoach Intro music by Reid Anderson.