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Straight Up Dog Talk Podcast
Why I Started This Podcast A Story About Reactivity, Regret & Doing It Differently

Straight Up Dog Talk Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2025 10:42


This one's personal.In 2019, I made a decision I thought would help my dog Fitz—something I believed would make his reactivity better. But instead, it changed both of our lives in ways I never saw coming.This episode isn't about chaos. It's about what came after—the guilt, the overwhelm, and the quiet belief that I had somehow failed my dog.That's where this podcast was born.Because I couldn't find a judgment-free space when I needed one—so I created it.You'll hear:The decision I made for Fitz that didn't go the way I hopedHow the storm shaped the mission behind Straight Up Dog TalkWhy solo episodes like this exist—and who they're here forA reminder that you're not alone, no matter where you are in the processIf you're feeling discouraged, tired, or unsure of what's next… this space is for you.You're not failing. You're learning. And I'm so glad you're here.

The Estranged Heart
EP189: Why Does “Disrespect” Cut So Deep?

The Estranged Heart

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2025 33:12


In this episode, Kreed delves into the feelings of disrespect that parents often experience when their adult children assert their independence, linking these feelings to unresolved childhood traumas. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own emotional triggers and the need for healing to foster healthier relationships. Kreed  encourages parents to reflect on their past experiences and to seek support in their journey towards emotional safety and connection with their children.TakeawaysThe feeling of disrespect often stems from unresolved childhood issues.Parents may interpret their adult child's independence as disrespect due to past experiences.Dysregulation in adult children can be misinterpreted as disrespect by parents.Control in parenting often arises from a desire for emotional safety.Respect demanded through control is actually fear-based, not love-based.Reactivity in parents can signal deeper emotional issues from their past.Self-regulation is a skill that can be learned and practiced.Estrangement can reveal underlying childhood wounds that need attention.Support and healing are crucial for both parents and children in estranged relationships.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)THE HEART COLLECTIVEEstranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-momsReconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-membersTo support the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

Highly Sensitive, Happily Married
Caretaking Your Sensitive System for More Love 2.0

Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2025 38:14


189  (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 190) Being a highly sensitive person obviously means we are more sensitive than others. This has real ramifications in our love lives— both wonderful and challenging.  Listen in to this VERY revised (almost totally new) version of an older topic, where you will learn that, luckily, you can support your sensitive self in ways that amplify the best parts of your sensitivity, and make the challenges of it so much easier.   . . .and how this will involve caretaking your sensitive Mind Body Heart System, (starting with your nervous system) MORE deeply and consistently than non-HSPs (like it or not!).In other words, even if you resist the idea, the truth is, in order to have an intimate relationship (and life) that feels deeply satisfying, nourishing, and fulfilling as an HSP, you need to attend more to your emotional well-being and nervous system regulation than non-HSPs.  In this episode you will hear my own story around this, and how, as I've accepted this, and learned how to caretake my sensitive nervous system (and sensitive mind, body, heart, and emotions), I've fallen in love with doing it. AND how doing so changed EVERYTHING for the better forever in my love life.This can be true for you, too. You'll also learn:why love and marriage can be so hard as HSP without truly caretaking your sensitive system in the right wayswhy accepting your higher need for emotional caretaking can be difficult, and why it's more than worth it to do sothe 4 simple but essential foundational steps to get started with right away to be able to truly caretake your sensitive systemAnd the best way to truly regulate the most foundational aspect of your emotional well-being (your nervous system) so you can always be able to guide yourself back to that calm, steady, connected-to-your-heart-and-wisdom place from which you'll best relate to your significant other in ways that lead to the deepest connection, love, and collaboration, and the most fulfilling intimacy. Without this emotional tending, the kind of relationship you most want – full of love, lightheartedness, attraction, effective and connecting communication, and mutual supportiveness – is likely to remain elusive.But with it? You set the stage for what can feel like magic to  happen in your relationship. Dive in to begin.SHOW NOTES:Take the Dysregulation quiz in the next episode (190) via podcast (it's live!), or here in written format.Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship  here. Doors close June 22nd, 2025 .ENJOYING THE SHOW?Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

Think Like a Dog
Q&A: Crate Training, Puppy Training, Addressing Crate Anxiety & More

Think Like a Dog

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2025 54:53


Send us a textIn this episode of the Think Like a Dog podcast, Millie and Andreia answer listener questions and share thoughtful guidance on common training challenges. They cover crate training, potty routines, communication with other dog owners, and ways to help dogs with fear or anxiety.Throughout the conversation, they focus on what it means to truly understand your dog's perspective, why structure matters, how to build trust, and the power of consistency. You'll also hear tips on managing reactivity, creating safe spaces, and setting boundaries that help both dogs and humans feel more confident.To wrap things up, Millie and Andreia announce an upcoming in-person workshop designed to bring the community together for hands-on learning and support.Support the showFollow Us On Instagram: @thinklikeadogpodcast @Mirrorimagek9 @OzzieAlbiesFoundation Work with Mirror Image K9 here: https://www.mirrorimagek9.com/contactusBe Our Guest: https://www.thinklikeadogpodcast.com Learn More About The Best Chance Program: https://www.ozziealbiesfoundation.org/

Pacey Performance Podcast
Reintroducing linear speed and change of direction post-injury with Loren Landow

Pacey Performance Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2025 49:07


In this episode of the Pacey Performance Podcast, Loren Landow discusses his extensive experience in the performance field, including his transition from business ownership to his current role at Notre Dame. He emphasizes the importance of a team approach in rehabilitation, the integration of various disciplines, and the balance between art and science in the rehabilitation process. Loren shares insights on the industry's evolution regarding return to play protocols, the significance of maintaining engagement during rehabilitation, and the criteria for progression in recovery. In this conversation, Loren Landow discusses the intricacies of rehabilitation, focusing on movement patterns, the significance of the foot and ankle, and the mechanics of deceleration. He emphasizes the importance of investigating movement, restoring ankle dorsiflexion, and building intensity in training. The dialogue also covers the integration of reactivity in rehabilitation, the assessment of asymmetry, and the collaboration required for effective return to play processes. Landow highlights the need for ongoing communication and involvement even after athletes reintegrate into practice. Main talking points: There is an art to rehabilitation that goes beyond numerical models. Good collaborative teams yield the best outcomes in return to play. Experienced coaches should lead return to play situations. Restoring rhythm and stability is crucial in the initial stages of rehab. Deceleration mechanics are essential for injury prevention and rehabilitation. Intensity in training should be based on the athlete's needs, not just external loads. Reactivity should be introduced early in the rehabilitation process.

Malthaus Games
Ep.193 Yokohama, Reactivity, Summer Film

Malthaus Games

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 36:51


Ep.193 is live! Come listen as we tell you all about Yokohama and the interesting playstyle it brings. We then tell you about reactivity in games and how we feel about games that need reactions during play. We end the episode telling you about the summer movie releases that we are most excited for. Be sure to like, share, and subscribe! Game: 7:12 Topic: 20:22 Question: 34:02 Game Mentions: Gugong, Magic: The Gathering, Netrunner, Support: If you would like to help us improve our product, here's where you can do that! www.patreon.com/MalthausGames podpledge.com?p=3D8L1M1V4S7F8... ko-fi.com/malthausgames Sound Attributions: Something Elated by Broke For Free, Downloaded from freemusicarchive.org/music/Bro... Edits: Cut to length and Faded in. Heavy Happy With Drums by Ryan Cullinane, Downloaded from freemusicarchive.org/music/Ryan Cullinane/Heavy Happy With Drums – Beat Driven Productions – Heavy Happy With Drums Edits: Cut to length and faded out. Crowd in a bar (LCR recording) by Leandros.Ntounis, downloaded from freesound.org/people/Leandros... Edits: Cut to length, added vocals and own recorded drink making sounds. Vinyl_record_needle_static_01.wav by joedeshon, downloaded from freesound.org/people/joedesho... Edits: Cut to length, added to music and raised volume level. Hidden Wall Opening by ertfelda, downloaded from freesound.org/people/ertfelda... Edits: Adjust volume and cut to length added jungle sound and voice. Yucatan jungle.mp3 by folkart films, downloaded from freesound.org/people/folkart%... Edits: Adjust volume, cut to length, added door sound and voice. Footsteps, Concretem A.wav by InspectorJ, downloaded from freesound.org/people/Inspecto... Edits: Cut to length, adjusted volume, added jungle sounds and voice. Fantasy Sounds Effects Library, Ambience_Cave_00.wav by LittleRobotSoundFactory, downloaded from freesound.org/people/LittleRo... Edits: Cut to length, faded in, adjusted volume and added footsteps, jungle sounds, stone door, and voice. Game Show Theme Tune by FoolBoyMedia, downloaded from freesound.org/people/FoolBoyM... Edits: Cut to length, added vocals, adjusted volume. Audience, Theatre Applause.wav by makosan, downloaded from freesound.org/people/makosan/... Edits: Added music, added voice, cut to length and adjusted volume

The Everyday Trainer Podcast
Navigating Next Steps: A Follow-Up on Separation Anxiety and Reactivity

The Everyday Trainer Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 82:51 Transcription Available


The journey from reactive, anxious dog to confident companion isn't always straightforward. In this follow-up session, we check in with a client who's been implementing changes to address her dog's separation anxiety, reactivity issues, and their overly-structured relationship.What happens when we stop micromanaging our dogs and instead give them opportunities to make good choices? The transformation can be remarkable. We explore how to balance freedom with boundaries by allowing dogs space to explore while maintaining clear expectations. This delicate balance creates confident dogs who understand their world rather than anxious ones constantly looking for direction.E-collar training serves as a perfect example of this approach. Rather than using it strictly as a correction tool, we discuss how it becomes part of a communication system that creates clarity and consistency. You'll learn how to match stimulation levels to your dog's state of mind, how to transition from leash guidance to e-collar communication, and when body language speaks louder than verbal commands. The goal isn't constant control but creating a dog who makes better choices without your intervention.We also tackle the challenges of multiple-dog households, addressing controlling behaviors at doorways, and managing reactivity from different angles. Sometimes the most valuable training moments aren't about teaching new commands but about teaching dogs how to navigate their world with confidence.Whether you're struggling with reactivity or just looking to give your dog more freedom while maintaining reliability, this conversation offers practical insights into creating the right balance for your unique dog. Ready to stop micromanaging and start enjoying a more natural relationship with your dog? This episode shows you how.Visit us at theeverydaytrainer.com

Emotionally Healthy Legacy- Stress management, mindset shifts, emotional wellness, boundaries, self care for moms
274. Q&A: I feel so frustrated and angry when things don't go my way. How can I become adaptive and flexible?

Emotionally Healthy Legacy- Stress management, mindset shifts, emotional wellness, boundaries, self care for moms

Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 21:30


Do you feel frustrated, angry, or even explosive when life throws a wrench in your plans?Whether it's a canceled outing, a toddler meltdown, a shift in your husband's schedule, or something as simple as the store being out of what you need—those little moments can add up and leave you feeling defeated and reactive.In today's episode, I'm talking about how your thoughts in those moments are what make the situation better—or worse.You'll learn:How to spot the mindset that's triggering your angerA practical new thought to shift your perspective and calm your reactionA personal example from my own life (hello, rainy anniversary and restless toddler at church!)Why adaptability is one of the most powerful skills you can model for your kidsWhat to do if you struggle with yelling, slamming doors, criticism, or spiraling when things don't go your wayIf you want to stop letting external circumstances control your emotions and start responding with calm and clarity, this episode is for you.

Cog-Dog Radio
Reactivity Mythbusting

Cog-Dog Radio

Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 7:20


Opinions abound in both professional and guardian spaces regarding the suite of behaviors we label “reactivity.” Barky, lunge-y, screamy, shouty behaviors, usually directed at social triggers, are some of the biggest reasons guardians seek help for their dogs. Because of this, protocols and programs are not hard to find, but real help sometimes is. Sign up for courses and join the membership here: sarahstremming.com Join us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cogdogradio Music by AlexGrohl from Pixabay

All About Scent Work Podcast
Honest Advocacy and Trialing

All About Scent Work Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 37:51


Choosing to trial with our dogs requires that we ask some questions. Would trialing be the best thing for us, our dogs and our team, right now, at this point in time? The answers will differ from team-to-team, but the act of the purposefully practicing honest advocacy is something everyone participating in Scent Work should do. This approach allows us to better determine which paths or decisions will work best for ourselves as handlers and our team as a whole. This is a necessary process, regardless how we may describe our dog or ourselves. In this episode, we discuss the importance of honest advocacy, how this includes being honest about who our dogs are, what they need and how this may differ greatly from the realities we will encounter at trial. RECOMMENDED RESOURCES Be Brave: Using Scent Work to Build Confidence Webinar Canine Body Behavior and Scent Work for Handlers Webinar Control Unleashed and Scent Work: Crazy Calm Start Lines Webinar Conquering Competition Stress Webinar Influence of Dog's Reactivity on their Scent Work Training and Trialing Webinar Intro to Control Unleashed Webinar Primary, Paired and Odor Hides: Choosing the Hide for the Training Challenge Webinar Scent Work for Reactive Dogs Webinar Scent Work for Sensitive Dogs Webinar Stranger Danger Webinar Trial Prep for Reactive Dogs Webinar Trial Prep for Sensitive Dogs Webinar When Dog Odor Trumps Target Odors: Dogs are Scary Webinar ALTERNATIVES TO TRADITIONAL TRIALING Cyber Scent Work Fenzi TEAM SPEAKER Dianna L. Santos TRANSCRIPT Click here to read the full transcript. Scent Work University is an online dog training platform focused on all things Scent Work. Our online courses, seminars, webinars and eBooks are not only for those who are interested in competition, but also for those dog owners who are simply looking for something fun and engaging to do with their dogs. Check out Scent Work University today! Interested in other dog sports, helping a new dog or puppy learn the ropes to be more successful at home and when out and about? Check out the Pet Dog U program, where we offer a variety of online dog training services and resources you and your dog will love. #allaboutscentworkpodcast #honestadvocacy #sensitivedog #reactivedog #aggressivedog #trialing #scentworktrainer #noseworkinstructor #noseworktrainer #learningaboutscentwork #learningaboutnosework #scentwork #nosework #scentworkpodcast #noseworkpodcast #scentworktraining #noseworktraining #trainscentwork #trainnosework #scentworkofficial #noseworkofficial #scentworktrialhost #noseworktrialhost #scentworkcompetitionorganization #noseworkcompetitionorganization #onlinescentwork #onlinenosework #virtualscentwork #virtualnosework #scentworku #scentworkuniversity

Own Your Choices Own Your Life
860 | How to Shift from Lack to Abundance

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 16:53


In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on the difference between reacting and responding and how this is connected to a lack or abundance mindset. As we navigate through life's challenges, especially when we feel overwhelmed, it's easy to slip into a reactive mode. Our reactions, which often stem from a place of lack and frustration, continues to reinforce the reality we are living in, and how, by reacting, we may inadvertently be fighting for our limitations. Whatever limitations we fight for, we get to keep.  HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:04 - Reacting vs. Responding 00:02:07 - The Impact of Reactions 00:03:42 - Navigating Life's Demands 00:04:24 - Reinforcing Limitations 00:05:17 - Interrupting the Reaction Pattern 00:06:31 - The Metaphor of a Parasite 00:07:57 - Catching the Reaction 00:09:14 - Building Capacity Through Awareness 00:10:01 - Choosing Safety Without Evidence 00:10:54 - Anchoring into Your Highest Self 00:12:01 - Feeling Wealthy Amidst Lack 00:13:13 - Shifting from Reactivity to Empowerment 00:14:07 - Starving the Reaction Patterns 00:14:40 - Reclaiming Personal Power Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE  Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG click HERESubscribe on YouTube click HERE

Letters From Your Dog
Supporting Sensitive Dogs Series: Episode 2

Letters From Your Dog

Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2025 21:27


In Episode Two of this series I'm answering a listener question, focusing on how to manage fearing judgement from dog professionals. This can show up in lots of different ways so do have a listen for some tips to help!Important Links from this episode:1. Register for the "Reactivity" Workshop here: https://www.pawsupdogs.com/triggered/If you'd like my support on your journey with your dog, please visit www.pawsupdogs.comI offer:- Self-paced online courses and a membership for dog guardians and trainers-  Digital 1:1 Trauma informed dog assessments for dog guardians and business assessments for dog trainers- Higher level mentorship for dog guardians and trainers3. To Join Canine Connection (my training and support membership for BOTH ends of the lead, please click here4. I love answering your listener questions so if you have a question for me, please click here to submit it and I might just answer it on the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------------------Here are some other resources available for you and your dog:1. To register for one of our behavioural workshops (for in depth support on everything from reactivity, recall, separation anxiety, leash walking, car travel, vet visits, puppies and more) please click here2. To join our free facebook group click here3. Are you a dog professional? Check out our podcast for pet pros here** Come and see us at www.pawsupdogs.com** Join our private facebook group. Click here** Follow us on instagram @pawsupdogstraining

POD to the Rescue
Understanding Dog Reactivity with Renée Erdman

POD to the Rescue

Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 55:27


Dog reactivity is one of the most challenging behavior issues we face in dog rescue, but there is hope for reactive dogs! We've helped lots of reactive foster and rescue dogs over the years, and so has Renée Erdman of Bravo Dog Behavioral Health. In this episode, we sit down to talk about reactivity: what it is, what it isn't, and how to help your dog.

The Mighty Mommy's Quick and Dirty Tips for Practical Parenting
Breaking the cycle of parental anger and emotional reactivity (Encore)

The Mighty Mommy's Quick and Dirty Tips for Practical Parenting

Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 10:14


No matter how chill you or your child is, at some point you're going to get very angry about something your child has said or done. Nanika explains how to manage everyday anger as a parent and how to know if your anger has become problematic.Have a parenting question? Email us at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthood

Health Bite
227. Mastering Uncertainty: How to Transform Reactivity into Resilience Using the F.U.E.L Method

Health Bite

Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 31:01 Transcription Available


Leave Health Bite a Feedback.Click This Link.Feeling overwhelmed by constant change? You're not alone.How do we navigate change and uncertainty with resilience and adaptability? And how do we navigate our natural tendency to become reactive, especially in times of uncertainty, especially when the worst thing we can do is to be reactive? In a world where uncertainty seems to be the only certainty, our knee-jerk reactions can sabotage our success and wellbeing. Whether it's that angry email you wish you could unsend or that late-night pantry raid after a stressful day, reactivity costs us.In this episode, Dr. Adrienne Youdim reveals why your brain goes into "emergency mode" during uncertainty and shares her revolutionary FUEL Method—a science-backed protocol that's transforming how high achievers respond to pressure.Share this episode with someone who needs more calm in their life right now!What You'll Discover:F - Food strategies: Discover how the right balance of proteins and complex carbs prevents the blood sugar crashes that trigger reactivity (and the simple meal formula that promotes calm decision-making)U - Unwinding practices: Learn why strategic rest and play are non-negotiable for resilience (not just nice-to-haves)E - Energizing Movement: How Dr. Youdim's client completely transformed her email reactivity with this 5-minute physical practiceL - Leaning into Mindfulness: Master the 3-breath technique that creates instant mental space between triggers and reactionsEmotion-Mapping Technique: How to decode what your emotions are actually telling you instead of being hijacked by them"When we act from a place of reactivity, we are not acting from a place of clarity, from purpose or intention."— Dr. Adrienne YoudimWays that Dr. Adrienne Youdim Can Support You Join the Monthly Free Mind-Body Workshops: Participate in engaging mind-body practices designed to help manage your stress response. Register here. Sign Up for the Newsletter: Stay updated with valuable insights and resources by subscribing to the newsletter. Sign up here. Freebie alert. Register for our monthly free MindBody Workshop and receive a downloadable guide on emotional labeling to help you manage your emotions effectively. Connect with Dr. Adrienne Youdim Website :https://www.dradriennespeaks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradrienneyoudim/

Letters From Your Dog
Supporting Sensitive Dogs Series: Episode 1

Letters From Your Dog

Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2025 22:25


I'm excited for Episode 1 of our Sensitivity Series, where I'll be answering specific nuanced questions from students who are activity working through a trauma recovery plan with their dogsImportant Links from this episode:1. Register for the "Reactivity" Workshop here: https://www.pawsupdogs.com/triggered/2. You can still get a ticket for the KIENO Conference here: https://pawsupdogs.samcart.com/products/kieno25-all-access-pass-hollyIf you'd like my support on your journey with your dog, please visit www.pawsupdogs.comI offer:- Self-paced online courses and a membership for dog guardians and trainers-  Digital 1:1 Trauma informed dog assessments for dog guardians and business assessments for dog trainers- Higher level mentorship for dog guardians and trainers3. To Join Canine Connection (my training and support membership for BOTH ends of the lead, please click here4. I love answering your listener questions so if you have a question for me, please click here to submit it and I might just answer it on the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------------------Here are some other resources available for you and your dog:1. To register for one of our behavioural workshops (for in depth support on everything from reactivity, recall, separation anxiety, leash walking, car travel, vet visits, puppies and more) please click here2. To join our free facebook group click here3. Are you a dog professional? Check out our podcast for pet pros here** Come and see us at www.pawsupdogs.com** Join our private facebook group. Click here** Follow us on instagram @pawsupdogstraining

Mental Obsession Discussion

Contact Welcomed Here“It's not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change.”Charles Darwin Responsiveness is the ability to respond - Responsibly. Reactiveness is an automated fight for what is right while wrong. Reactivity precedes impulsivity and immediately triggers compulsive behaviors.  Obsessive thoughts are reactive, defensive, defiant denial, and so delusional.  None of this activity can be kept secret since all obsessive, sick thoughts compel compulsive behaviors.  Subtle or obvious compulsive behaviors are admissions of knowing something is wrong."The horizon of many people is a circle with a radius of zero. They call this their point of view." Albert Einstein. It is not a loss of memory but the lack of human perspective we suffer by imagining all that we are is the subject of subjective thought. A dimension of zero has no perspective in space and time - so any imagined self has no value, awareness, or place since it has no life being wholly imagined.  Feeling like you don't belong is caused by thoughts that have no basis, and so no place in Reality. To think imagination is reality is to think reality is fantasy and turns the extraordinary benefit of imagination into a dire liability.    Thinking is not the source of existence while it is the primary source of human experience. Thinking naturally offers the potential to exist humanely and the freedom to mis-think and act inhumane. Nature is natural and so it is our nature. Insanity is a byproduct of unnatural, unhealthy, abnormal obsessive thinking.  Social ills are the collective nature of sick thoughts: mental illness.  We Know We Know. We Are Aware We Are Aware. We Are as We Are. Reality is unlimited and never changes. The idea that how and what we think creates reality suggests otherwise. Acting on backward thoughts leads to behaviors that are out of order. Anxious and systemic disorders reflect this impossible attempt to reverse the Laws of the universe that govern nature's order. Disease is the lack of ease created and maintained by such twisted mental acrobatics. Principles affirm our indivisible nature. Sharing principles affirms and confirms our indivisibility. We can choose desperation or Inspiration. Absolute Intelligence is our Knowing nature. Ignoring what is happening produces unintelligible ignorance - not reality.contact@mentalobsession.com

Gaia House: dharma talks and meditation instruction
Nathan Glyde: Talk - Imbued with Non-Reactivity

Gaia House: dharma talks and meditation instruction

Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2025 53:51


Dog Training Is My Passion
Dogs Living in Cities. Reactivity Issues

Dog Training Is My Passion

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 15:19


One of the most common dog issues in cities are reactivity and in this episode I explain why.

HR BESTIES
HR Besties: Start Ups 101

HR BESTIES

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 42:06


Today's agenda:  The manual of me Cringe corporate speak: take it offline Hot topic: all things start-ups: how to be successful, key traits and how to survive in an evolving organization What is it like working as an HR professional in a start-up? Reactivity vs. proactivity Working in an unpredictable and evolving environment can be an effective way to grow in your career Opportunities to build departments from the ground up RSUs and equity Informing and influencing on the job - it's not for everybody How do HR and all other business professionals, employees and leaders help shape a healthy startup culture? Questions/Comments  Your To-Do List: Grab merch, submit Questions & Comments, and make sure that you're the first to know about our In-Person Meetings (events!) at ⁠https://www.hrbesties.com⁠. Follow your Besties across the socials and check out our resumes here: ⁠https://www.hrbesties.com/about⁠.  Subscribe to the HR Besties Newsletter - ⁠https://hr-besties.beehiiv.com/subscribe⁠ We look forward to seeing you in our next meeting - don't worry, we'll have a hard stop! Yours in Business + Bullsh*t,  Leigh, Jamie & Ashley Follow Bestie Leigh! ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@hrmanifesto⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/hrmanifesto⁠ ⁠https://www.hrmanifesto.com⁠ Follow Bestie Ashley! ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@managermethod⁠  ⁠https://www.instagram.com/managermethod⁠ ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyherd/⁠ ⁠https://managermethod.com⁠ Follow Bestie Jamie! ⁠https://www.millennialmisery.com/⁠ Humorous Resources: ⁠Instagram⁠ • ⁠YouTube⁠ • ⁠Threads⁠ • ⁠Facebook⁠ • ⁠X⁠ Millennial Misery: ⁠Instagram⁠ • ⁠Threads⁠ • ⁠Facebook⁠ • ⁠X⁠ Horrendous HR: ⁠Instagram⁠ • ⁠Threads⁠ • ⁠Facebook⁠ Tune in to “HR Besties,” a business, work and management podcast hosted by Leigh Elena Henderson (HRManifesto), Ashley Herd (ManagerMethod) and Jamie Jackson (Humorous_Resources), where we navigate the labyrinth of corporate culture, from cringe corporate speak to toxic leadership. Whether you're in Human Resources or not, corporate or small business, we offer sneak peeks into surviving work, hiring strategies, and making the employee experience better for all. Tune in for real talk on employee engagement, green flags in the workplace, and how to turn red flags into real change. Don't miss our chats about leadership, career coaching, and takes from work travel and watercooler gossip. Get new episodes every Wednesday, follow us on socials for the latest updates, and join us at our virtual happy hours to share your HR stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meditate With Raph
How to Transcend Daily Stress, Ego, and Reactivity: 6 Practices for Inner Freedom

Meditate With Raph

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 6:37


Discover how to stay grounded and peaceful in everyday challenges. Learn 6 powerful practices to rise above stress, ego, and reactivity—and reclaim your calm, clarity, and power.Enjoy my writing? Want to support my work? Please consider sending me a tip :) ⁠My writing is deliberately 100% ad-free. I write out of passion and love; for life, for our humanity, for you who reads me. My goal is to create small moments of peace and self-reflection. ⁠If you enjoy my work, please consider visiting my tipping jar. Your donations are what make my work possible. ⁠Thank youQuestions? Feedback? Have a topic you would like me to address? send me a DM on⁠ Instagram⁠Subscribe to my youtube channel for videos and guided meditations:https://www.youtube.com/raphaelreiter

Sexier Than A Squirrel: Dog Training That Gets Real Life Results
Big Dog Reactivity & How Playing Games Save Lives

Sexier Than A Squirrel: Dog Training That Gets Real Life Results

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 19:25 Transcription Available


Send us a textWhat makes the difference between a failed rescue adoption and a success story? Alice joins us to share her journey with Bonnie, a 40-kilo German Shepherd-Cane Corso-Mastiff mix with a troubled past involving another dog's death. This powerful conversation reveals how games-based training transformed their relationship and could save countless rescue dogs from becoming part of the heartbreaking 50% failure statistic.When Alice first brought Bonnie home, she faced what many rescue adopters experience – the gradual emergence of serious behavioral issues including reactivity and separation anxiety that made daily life challenging. Rather than giving up, Alice discovered a different approach through Absolute Dogs that focused on building relationship rather than using traditional correction-based methods often recommended for large, powerful breeds.The transformation in Bonnie didn't happen overnight, but through consistent games that built calmness, trust, and communication, this once-concerning dog became a trusted companion. As Alice explains, "I'm five foot three, under 50 kilos, and I have this sleeping, snoring giant breed dog that I can walk safely on my own – not through force, but because she wants to move with me." Her story demonstrates that even dogs with serious incidents in their past can become treasured family members with the right approach.Are you considering adopting a rescue dog or struggling with one already? We're offering completely free resources to rescue centers, volunteers, and adopters worldwide to help more dogs find and keep their forever homes. Reach out through absolute-dogs.com to access these materials and join our supportive community of rescue dog owners who understand your journey.Support the showIf you're loving the podcast, you'll love our NEW Sexier than a Squirrel Dog Training Challenge even more! Get transformational dog training today for only £27!Want even more epic dog training fun and games and solutions to all your dog training struggles? Join us in the AbsoluteDogs Games Club!https://absolutedogs.me/gamesclub Want to take your learning to the next level? Jump into the games-based training membership for passionate dog owners and aspiring trainers that know they want more for themselves and their dog - Pro Dog Trainer Club! https://absolutedogs.me/prodogtrainerclub And while you're here, please leave a review for us and don't forget to hit share and post your biggest lightbulb moment! Remember, no matter what struggles you might be facing with your dog, there is always a game for that!

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training
Understanding Your Dog's L.E.G.S.

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 26:21


Nikki breaks down the individual components of LEGS for your dog. When looking at behavior, we must take in consideration every dog's individual LEGS. This allows for appropriate management, meeting your dog where he is, and finding the right solution. If you are unsure of the genetic aspect of your dog, check out The Dog Key to narrow it down through physical traits. To learn more about LEGS for pros, click here. To learn more about LEGS for pet owners, click here for The Dog's Truth. DogSpeak Geek Community and Online CoursesDogSpeak websiteMentioned in this episode:Decoding Aggression and Reactivity and Kieno ConferenceDecoding Aggression and Reactivity https://tinyurl.com/decodingyourcanine KIENO Conference https://tinyurl.com/dogspeak101

We Are Women
S1 Ep177: Empowered Parenting: How to Turn Emotional Chaos into Connection

We Are Women

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 51:30


Yolanda Alvares is not just a parenting expert—she's a pioneer in empowered parenting. As the founder of Empowered Parenting and a mum to two daughters, Yanika and Jonelle, Yolanda has transformed the way families navigate emotions. From the corporate world to single parenting, her personal journey through burnout, guilt, and overwhelm led her to develop powerful strategies for emotional resilience. She's a speaker, mentor, and author of Abundant Motherhood: Empowering Mums to Empower Their Kids, co-written with her daughters. With certifications in Emotional Intelligence, Anxiety Coaching, and Mindset Mentoring, Yolanda's 12-Week Emotional Resilience for Parents program has helped hundreds of families create a calmer, more connected home. Main Topics Discussed:

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training
Finding Your Path of Least Resistance in Building Your Relationship with Your Dog

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 48:55


Gray joins Nikki to explore how to build a strong relationship with your dog by finding the path of least resistance. That path can be rough and full of obstacles—or it can be smooth and natural, like butter. But remember, the path that works for one person might not work for another. Tune in to discover how to find your unique path forward.dogspeak101.comdogspeakgeek.thinkific.comtinyurl.com/decodingyourcaninetinyurl.com/dogspeakMentioned in this episode:Decoding Aggression and Reactivity and Kieno ConferenceDecoding Aggression and Reactivity https://tinyurl.com/decodingyourcanine KIENO Conference https://tinyurl.com/dogspeak101

What It's Like To Be You
#47: Sarah Fair (SP/SO 6w7 693) – Disarming Others, Reigning in Unchecked Reactivity, and Overcoming Victim Mentality

What It's Like To Be You

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 80:57


Sarah's Type 6 mind moves fast—so fast it can create instant connection and obscure deeper intimacy. In this episode, she unpacks the whirlwind: the pull between independence and support, the trap of victimhood, and how unchecked reactivity nearly derailed a past relationship. With raw honesty, she explores self-sabotage, emotional spirals, and the slow work of learning self-trust. This is a conversation about growing beyond fear into real, grounded connection. LINKS Sarah's Music https://open.spotify.com/artist/6VAheMN9FSGheExTVAlBXD?si=rbz8XlbPQqaQx3mEr9De0A The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/ Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/ Sinsomnia Podcast (Dreams) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sinsomnia/id1684154994 House of Enneagram https://www.youtube.com/@houseofenneagram TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Intro 03:08 - Reviewing the “bullet points” 07:39 - Therapy, working on self-needs rather than attachment structure reflecting needs of others 10:07 - What's hard about ‘touching ground' 25:11 - Victim mentality, self-sabotage, and type 6 ‘underdog' 32:43 - Reactive attachment 39:41 - Seeking a dimension of parental qualities in partners 47:20 - 6 dividing from one extreme pole to the other, finding balance in the center 52:28 - 6s entitlement of collective ‘markers' 1:02:42 - The horror of “it's all 6, it always has been” 1:17:50 - Outro CREDITS Interview by Josh Lavine Edited by Kristen Oberly Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram6

Mental Obsession Discussion

Contact Welcomed Here“It's not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change.”Charles Darwin Responsiveness is the ability to respond - Responsibility.  Reactiveness is an automated fight for what is right while it is wholly wrong. Reactivity precedes impulsivity and immediately triggers compulsive behaviors.  Obsessive thoughts are reactive, defensive, defiant denial, and so delusional.  None of this activity can be kept secret since all obsessive, sick thoughts compel compulsive behaviors.  Subtle or obvious compulsive behaviors are admissions of knowing something is wrong."The horizon of many people is a circle with a radius of zero. They call this their point of view." Albert Einstein. It is not a loss of memory but the lack of human perspective we suffer by imagining all that we are is the subject of subjective thought. A dimension of zero has no perspective in space and time - so any imagined self has no value, awareness, or place since it has no life being wholly imagined.  Feeling like you don't belong is caused by thoughts that have no basis, and so no place in Reality. To think imagination is reality is to think reality is fantasy and turns the extraordinary benefit of imagination into a dire liability.    Thinking is not the source of existence while it is the primary source of human experience. Thinking naturally offers the potential to exist humanely and the freedom to mis-think and act inhumane. Nature is natural and so it is our nature. Insanity is a byproduct of unnatural, unhealthy, abnormal obsessive thinking.  Social ills are the collective nature of sick thoughts: mental illness.  We Know We Know. We Are Aware We Are Aware. We Are as We Are. Reality is unlimited and never changes. The idea that how and what we think creates reality suggests otherwise. Acting on backward thoughts leads to behaviors that are out of order. Anxious and systemic disorders reflect this impossible attempt to reverse the Laws of the universe that govern nature's order. Disease is the lack of ease created and maintained by such twisted mental acrobatics. Principles affirm our indivisible nature. Sharing principles affirms and confirms our indivisibility. We can choose desperation or Inspiration. Absolute Intelligence is our Knowing nature. Ignoring what is happening produces unintelligible ignorance - not reality.contact@mentalobsession.com

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training
Your Dog's Brain as an Interstate

DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 26:00


In this episode, Nikki discusses your dog's brain and how the pathways are similar to an interstate. Interstates have off-ramps, or they would get gridlocked. Does your dog's interstate brain have off-ramps or rest and renewal or is he constantly fighting the enormous amount of traffic flowing nowhere? dogspeak101.comdogspeakgeek.thinkific.comDecoding Aggression and Reactivity SummitSign up for our newsletter. Mentioned in this episode:Decoding Aggression and Reactivity and Kieno ConferenceDecoding Aggression and Reactivity https://tinyurl.com/decodingyourcanine KIENO Conference https://tinyurl.com/dogspeak101

Sexier Than A Squirrel: Dog Training That Gets Real Life Results
A Reactivity Transformation: A Naughty but Nice Zero To Hero Success Story!

Sexier Than A Squirrel: Dog Training That Gets Real Life Results

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 15:05 Transcription Available


Send us a textEver been told your dog is a lost cause? Meet Alice and Bonnie—a story that proves second chances can lead to extraordinary transformations.When Alice adopted Bonnie, a powerful brindle mastiff mix with a history of aggression that had resulted in another dog's death, she had no idea what she was getting into. That first walk when Bonnie dragged Alice across a field in a reactive frenzy made one thing clear: this would be no ordinary rehabilitation journey."We definitely wondered if this was beyond our capabilities," Alice confesses in this raw, honest conversation about the reality of living with a severely reactive dog. After one trainer declared Bonnie would "never like other dogs," Alice refused to accept that verdict. Instead, she found an approach that would completely transform their lives. Through a methodical progression of games that built crucial skills like disengagement and optimism, Bonnie gradually evolved from a "grizzly bear" on leash to a dog who could calmly navigate the world.The journey wasn't linear—there were tears, setbacks, and moments of doubt. But Alice shares the practical strategies that made progress possible: ditching traditional walks temporarily, homeschooling essential skills, introducing challenges at Bonnie's pace, and perhaps most importantly, maintaining balance through self-care practices completely separate from dog training.Whether you're struggling with your own reactive dog or simply interested in understanding behavior transformation, this conversation offers both practical guidance and genuine hope. As Alice says to anyone feeling overwhelmed by their dog's behavior: "There is a manageable route up that mountain. You just need someone to guide you the right way."Support the showIf you're loving the podcast, you'll love our NEW Sexier than a Squirrel Dog Training Challenge even more! Get transformational dog training today for only £27!Want even more epic dog training fun and games and solutions to all your dog training struggles? Join us in the AbsoluteDogs Games Club!https://absolutedogs.me/gamesclub Want to take your learning to the next level? Jump into the games-based training membership for passionate dog owners and aspiring trainers that know they want more for themselves and their dog - Pro Dog Trainer Club! https://absolutedogs.me/prodogtrainerclub And while you're here, please leave a review for us and don't forget to hit share and post your biggest lightbulb moment! Remember, no matter what struggles you might be facing with your dog, there is always a game for that!

PET TALK TODAY with Will Bangura: Dog Trainer, Dog Training, Cat Training, Pet Health, and Wellbeing.
Calm Your Reactive or Aggressive Dog with "Look at That" Training

PET TALK TODAY with Will Bangura: Dog Trainer, Dog Training, Cat Training, Pet Health, and Wellbeing.

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 31:19 Transcription Available


Text Me Your QuestionsCertified canine behaviorist Will Bangura shares a powerful force-free approach to help dogs with reactivity or aggression without using corrections or punishment.• Understanding that reactive behavior stems from anxiety, stress, and fear• Why corrections and punishment only suppress behavior without changing emotional states• The "Look at That" (LAT) training protocol developed by Leslie McDevitt• How to properly condition a marker for precise timing and communication• Working at the right distance where your dog notices triggers but remains calm• The critical importance of working "below threshold" where your dog isn't stressed• How counter-conditioning changes your dog's emotional response to triggers• Why progress requires patience, consistency and temporarily managing your dog's environment• Setting realistic expectations for a process that may take weeks or months• Gradually decreasing distance to triggers as your dog builds positive associationsVisit my website for the detailed Training Guide on How to Train out Reactivity and Aggression with (LAT) Look at That Dog Training  If you love what we do, please give us a five-star review, share this episode with friends who have reactive dogs, and subscribe so you never miss an episode of Dog Training Today.Support the showIf you need professional help please visit my Dog Behaviorist website.Go here for Free Dog Training Articles

The House of Her Podcast
The Cost of Reactivity: Finding Freedom in Presence

The House of Her Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 20:41


Welcome back to the House of Her Podcast. In today's conversation, I am diving deep into the transformative topic of reactivity, exploring how it might just be at the root of our suffering. Inspired by my partner's current experience at a 10-day Vipassana retreat, we'll discuss the practice of non-reactivity and self-purification in the face of discomfort. It's about freeing ourselves from the automatic patterns that limit our potential and learning to respond to life from a place of regulation.We'll delve into how these reactivity patterns shape our lives, relationships, and careers, and most importantly, how we can choose liberation by embracing every emotion as a part of the human experience. Whether it's avoiding discomfort or sabotaging pleasure, understanding these patterns is the first step to change. I'll share practical ways to catch ourselves in moments of reactivity, creating space to respond thoughtfully rather than react automatically. Join me as we journey toward personal freedom and a more compassionate way of being.Key Takeaways:Liberation through accepting emotions without judgment or reactivity.The potential for changes in personal life and relationships when reacting to life thoughtfully, rather than automatically.Reminder that the journey to liberation is a practice, not about perfection.Time Stamps:06:26 - Reactivity: Avoidance and Self-Protection09:09 - "Breaking Free from Reactivity Spiral"11:32 - Embracing Emotions Equally Liberates Life14:01 - Aligning Life with Heart's Desires16:20 - Living Mindfully: A Compassionate ApproachEpisode Quotes“I like to reframe the word self sabotage as self protection because that's really what's happening. We're trying to protect ourselves even if the way we're doing it doesn't actually serve us." - Andrea JohnsonConnect With Me:Instagram: @theandreajohnson

Ancient Dragon Zen Gate Dharma Talks
Joko Beck's Compassion arising and melting reactivity

Ancient Dragon Zen Gate Dharma Talks

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2025 45:32


ADZG 1232 ADZG Sunday Morning Dharma Talk by Hōgetsu Laurie Belzer The post Joko Beck's Compassion arising and melting reactivity first appeared on Ancient Dragon Zen Gate.

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The Michael Yardney Podcast | Property Investment, Success & Money
I would have been a better investor if I knew these 12 things earlier in life

The Michael Yardney Podcast | Property Investment, Success & Money

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 32:30


In this episode of the Michael Yardney Podcast, Brett Warren and I discuss twelve key insights that could have accelerated our success in property investment. We explore the importance of mindset, personal control, goal setting, and the role of attitude in shaping investment outcomes. The conversation emphasises the need for proactivity, learning from mistakes, understanding market cycles, and the value of giving back to the community. We also highlight the significance of compounding wealth and preparing for unexpected challenges in the investment landscape. Takeaways Setting clear goals helps in achieving desired outcomes. Don't compare your journey to others; focus on your own path. Prepare for unexpected challenges in investment. Your attitude can significantly change your reality. Being proactive in your life leads to better opportunities. Understanding market cycles helps in making informed decisions. Mistakes can be valuable learning opportunities. Time, leverage, and compounding wealth is crucial for long-term success. It's important to give back to the community as you become wealthy. Chapters 04:11 Setting Goals and the Reticular Activating System 06:52 The Power of Attitude and Mindset 09:49 Proactivity vs. Reactivity in Investing 12:35 Learning from Mistakes and Mentorship 15:32 Understanding Property Cycles and Market Dynamics 18:09 The Importance of Compounding and Long-Term Thinking 21:14 Preparing for the Unexpected: The X Factor 23:55 Conclusion: Enjoying the Journey and Future Outlook Links and Resources:  Michael Yardney  Get the team at Metropole to help build your personal Strategic Property Plan Click here and have a chat with us  Brett Warren - National Director of Property at Metropole  Join us at Wealth Retreat - Australia's Premier Wealth Retreat for Elite Investors and Business People www.WealthRetreat.com.au   Get a bundle of eBooks and Reports at www.PodcastBonus.com.au     Also, please subscribe to my other podcast Demographics Decoded with Simon Kuestenmacher – just look for Demographics Decoded wherever you are listening to this podcast and subscribe so each week we can unveil the trends shaping your future.  Shownotes plus more here: I would have been a better investor if I knew these 12 things earlier in life

Gaia House: dharma talks and meditation instruction
Zohar Lavie: Talk - Dukkha, Reactivity & Skilful Response

Gaia House: dharma talks and meditation instruction

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 22, 2025 45:14


Wiggle Room
HSP Sensitivity vs. Reactivity: How to Stay Balanced Under Stress

Wiggle Room

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 20:13


Are you mistaking reactivity for sensitivity? Discover why this distinction is critical for managing stress as a highly sensitive person. As an HSP, do you feel constantly overwhelmed, exhausted, or overstimulated? The key to regaining balance isn't suppressing your sensitivity—it's learning how to separate it from reactivity. In this episode, we explore how to prevent stress from taking over so you can embrace your sensitivity without feeling drained. Learn the critical difference between sensitivity and reactivity and why it matters. Discover the two main causes of overwhelm in HSPs—and how to manage each effectively. Find out how to reduce reactivity while still honoring your natural sensitivity. Press play now to take control of your stress, embrace your sensitivity, and find more peace in your daily life! Todd Dreaming of a stress-free, balanced life? Visit trueinnerfreedom.com and complete the HSP Stress Survey. Gain clarity on your stress triggers and enjoy a free 15-minute Inner Freedom Call designed to guide you toward lasting inner peace and fulfillment. Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) or someone who identifies as hypersensitive or neurodivergent? This podcast is dedicated to helping highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigate overwhelm and stress by using The Work of Byron Katie—a powerful method for questioning stressful thoughts and finding true inner freedom. We dive deep into stress management strategies, coping with stress, and stress relief methods specifically tailored for HSPs. Learn how to manage emotions, especially negative ones, and explore effective stress reduction techniques that go beyond the surface to address the root causes of anxiety and pressure. Whether you're interested in learning how to lower stress, handle stress and pressure, or reduce stress through practical techniques, we provide insights and support based on The Work of Byron Katie. Discover how this transformative approach can help you decrease stress, find inner peace, and create balance in your life. Join us to learn about various coping strategies for stress, all designed to support HSPs in their journey toward emotional well-being.

Good Faith
Steve Cuss: Navigating Anxiety in Political Storms

Good Faith

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 49:15


How can we stay grounded in an anxious political climate?   Leadership anxiety expert Steve Cuss joins the Good Faith Podcast to help us navigate Trump's turbulent second term without becoming overwhelmed. We explore how chronic anxiety spreads through reactivity, why political leaders and their followers often amplify fear through straw man arguments, and how we can break free from the cycle. Drawing from his experience as a trauma chaplain and beyond, Steve shares practical tools for maintaining spiritual and emotional balance. If political division is making your mind race, heart pound, or body tense, Steve offers wisdom and encouragement to help you find calm and clarity in the chaos.   Send written questions or voice memos for “Ask Curtis” episodes to: askcurtis@redeemingbabel.org   Send Campfire Stories to: info@redeemingbabel.org   Resources or references mentioned in this episode: Frederick Buechner's Whistling in the Dark The Evangelical vote in 2024 The Los Angeles Times: Is Donald Trump a new King David? “Remember the Lord” from Proverbs 3:6-16 GNT Jacob's assurance from Genesis 28 NLT  Jesus' trial before Pilate John 18:28-40 NLT Paul's trials before Festus and Felix Acts 24-26 NLT Jesus calls Herod a “fox” Luke 13:31-32 NLT Freedom to love others Galatians 5:13 More about Gregory Boyle More From Steve Cuss: Steve's podcast Being Human Steve's book Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs Steve's book The Expectation Gap: The Tiny, Vast Space between Our Beliefs and Experience of God Steve's website (free access to the Life Giving List and Conscious List of Relationships) Register for the Illuminate Arts & Faith Conference   Follow Us: Good Faith on Instagram Good Faith on X (formerly Twitter) Good Faith on Facebook   Sign up: Redeeming Babel Newsletter

The Biology of Traumaâ„¢ With Dr. Aimie
Hidden Triggers: How Mold and Lyme Create A Sensitive and Reactive Personality with Dr. Neil Nathan

The Biology of Traumaâ„¢ With Dr. Aimie

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 28:10


“If you have a new onset of anxiety or depression that doesn't even make sense to you, think of a more physical cause.” - Dr. Neil Nathan   Do you have issues with focus, concentration, or even finding the word you want to use? If so, you might be dealing with the hidden effects of mold toxicity and Lyme disease.  In this episode, Dr. Aimie sits down with Dr. Neil Nathan to discuss how mold toxicity and Lyme disease can create a "biology of threat" in the body that can trigger and maintain a state of hypervigilance and reactivity. This is not the only issue  mold toxins and Lyme infections can cause. They can create unique inflammatory responses that affect the brain, nervous system, and immune function, often manifesting as unexplained anxiety, depression, cognitive issues, and physical symptoms that are often misdiagnosed as mental health disorders. Dr. Nathan also introduces "the big three" factors keeping the body stuck in threat mode: limbic activation, vagal dysregulation, and mast cell activation. He'll share how these become dysregulated when faced with mold toxicity and Lyme disease, causing the body to shut down as a protective mechanism. This explains why you may experience seemingly inexplicable sensitivities and reactions despite doing all the "right" emotional and psychological work for trauma recovery. Join them as they break down the science behind the body's response to mold toxicity and Lyme disease, if it's possible to reverse it, and actionable steps you can take to start the healing journey. You'll learn more about: [05:05] How “out of the blue” anxiety, depression, or other symptoms might actually be caused by mold or Lyme [10:00] What makes the inflammation associated with these internal stressors unique [16:46]  Why the “big three” need to be addressed together in sensitive patients [17:38] How mold toxicity and Lyme can lead to chronic neurological and autoimmune conditions [20:33] The internal trauma response that can be created by mold toxicity and Lyme And more!   Dr. Neil Nathan is a Board Certified Family Physician who has been practicing medicine for over 50 years. As he studied and learned a wide variety of alternative concepts, his practice gravitated into primarily helping to diagnose and treat those patients who have not been helped by conventional medicine. He's worked with thousands of patients with complex medical illnesses such as fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, mold toxicity, chronic Lyme disease, autism, and chronic pain.    Related Podcasts: Episode 105: How Anxiety, Depression & Trauma Reactions May Be From Mold and Heavy Metals Episode 106: How Mast Cell Activation, Histamines & Mold Toxicity Place You in a High-Risk Trauma Category   Guides, Tools & Resources: The Essential Sequence - free guide that shows you the difference between stress and trauma states of our nervous system. In just 3 steps, it walks you through what your body needs when it has stored trauma or is in a freeze response. Foundational Journey - a guided 6 week journey into your inner world with a structured sequence of somatic and parts interventions with live online classes. One of the things that happens in just the first 21 days of the Foundational Journey is that people experience a 26% decrease in daily physical pain, speaking to what Dr Schubiner was just talking about, these neural secret pains, can turn off and on, and it's not actually necessarily due to the the injury the body itself. It is a neural circuit and we're managing the pain just by working with the nervous system, looking at the habitual component of it and continuing with essential parts work.   Connect with Dr. Neil Nathan: Website   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others. Consult your own physician for any medical issues that you may be having. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use of the podcast. Comment Etiquette: I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Please share your constructive feedback by using personal name or initials so that we can keep this space spam-free, and let's keep the discussion positive!  

Shrinks Rap
My Tea with Andre: Couples Work and the Nexus Between Reactivity and Victimization

Shrinks Rap

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 43:40


Andre DeCary returns for his third episode—just two more, and he earns the coveted ShrinkRap jacket, SNL-style!In this conversation, Andre shares his distinctive approach to couples therapy, highlighting the key differences between working with individuals and couples. He also reflects on personal insights from his own life in this domain.Together, we explore the profound impact of reactivity on victimization—how staying out of a victim mindset can empower both you and your partner. Andre offers thoughtful perspectives on breaking free from disempowering narratives to create healthier, more connected relationships.This episode is a treat, so grab your tea and soak it all in!WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here

What It's Like To Be You
#43: Anna Palumbo (SO/SP 9w8 973) — The Type 9 Mother & Type 6 Daughter Dynamic, Positive Outlook vs. Reactivity, the Challenges of Un-Enmeshing

What It's Like To Be You

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 73:50


Anna Palumbo (SO/SP 9w8 973) is a Type 9 mother who has been undergoing a profound transformation—untangling herself from patterns of enmeshment and reconnecting with her own life-force. In this episode, we focus on Anna's relationship with her Type 6 daughter and how her Type 9 tendency to merge initially obscured her ability to be present with her daughter's reactivity. We also explore the Positive Outlook reflex of Type 9 and its dynamic tension with the "point-out-the-problem" and "raise-the-alarm" tendency of Type 6. Anna brings remarkable clarity, grace, and self-awareness to this discussion, offering a rare, high-resolution look at the inner experience of a 9 navigating parenthood and the individuation journey. Enjoy this powerful conversation. Learn at The Enneagram School https://theenneagramschool.com/ Intro Course https://www.theenneagramschool.com/intro-enneagram-course Browse More Interviews by Type https://www.theenneagramschool.com/enneagram-interviews-and-panels Get Typed https://www.enneagrammer.com/ Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 04:53 - Anna's attachment journey as a mom 08:21 - 9 mom absorbing 6 daughter's reactive processing 12:02 - Slowing down & attuning to self 13:40 - Holding boundaries as a gut type, anchoring to self 16:36 - "An incredible return of energy" 18:36 - The porousness of 9's nervous system, fogginess & infusion 20:56 - Positive type reframe (2, 7, 9) amputates emotional experiences 21:48 - Attachment type fusion (3, 6, 9) 27:28 - Going on autopilot, 9 dissociation 28:26 - 9w8 rejection, shutting down of external stimuli 30:16 - Self-locating via music and art 33:04 - Why it's hard for 9s to be with someone else's pain 36:07 - Josh's mom is a 9w8 40:56 - Positive reframe to keep hope alive, not get "lost" in pain 43:36 - Resensitizing means being more aware of misses 45:19 - Can my relationships bear the new me? -- Hurdles of attachment types returning to themselves 47:40 - 9w8 bluntness shuts down communications 52:48 - Relationship dynamics changing, not needing to be on the same page 55:12 - Saying yes & no without over-explaining 55:46 - Loyalty to self a valuable thing 1:03:11 - 9s integration line to types 3 and 6, valuing oneself & being awake 1:06:45 - New level of relaxation, not trying so hard to keep inner and outer world separate 1:10:47 - Outro --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram9

Believe in Dog
How to Turn Your Dog's Reactivity into Resiliency with Grisha Stewart's BAT Training

Believe in Dog

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 54:41


Have you ever struggled with your dog's reactivity?  Whether your dog is reactive to other dogs, people or something in the environment, Grisha Stewart's Behavior Adjustment Training (BAT) may be what you've been looking for to help your dog lead a more comfortable life. Grisha developed BAT training while dealing with her own dog, Peanut's, reactivity.  Despite doing everything “right” – according to the dog training advice available at the time – she was she still struggling. Grisha shares with us the principles of BAT and how BAT is based on positive reinforcement, but without the use of food.  Focusing on resiliency and empowering your dog, BAT builds your dog's confidence, communication and trust. What about those times when we face a setback and our dog does get reactive?  We'll learn about the choices we can make to best support our dog from the human end of the leash, as well.   Find links, photos and show notes at: https://believeindogpodcast.com/episodes-1/episode117   Get your free checklist: Join Erin the Dog Mom's email list to receive the 12 Changes in Your Dog to Never Ignore checklist. Teef: The easiest way to improve your dog's dental health is with a spoonful of Teef powder in their water.  Save 20% on your Teef orders when you use the code: ADM. Support this podcast, subscribe on your favorite app and leave a rating or review.

Noclip
Monster Hunter Wilds, Pikmin, More Next Fest

Noclip

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2025 144:30


We kick(flip) off this week's episode with news of more Tony Hawk's Pro Skater Remakes, Frank goes feral in Monster Hunter Wilds, Jeremy goes digging in Pikmin's miniature garden, and Danny loses his mind in Rise of the Golden Idol - PLUS, more Steam Next Fest goodness! Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3 + 4 - Official Reveal Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7rY0760GPq8 Monster Hunter Wilds: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2246340/Monster_Hunter_Wilds/ He Is Coming: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2824490/He_is_Coming/ Skin Deep: https://store.steampowered.com/app/301280/Skin_Deep/ Esoteric Ebb: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2057760/Esoteric_Ebb/ Secret Agent Wizard Boy and the International Crime Syndicate: https://store.steampowered.com/app/3111080/Secret_Agent_Wizard_Boy_and_the_International_Crime_Syndicate/ Hot Wax: https://store.steampowered.com/app/3041750/Hot_Wax/ Moves of the Diamond Hand: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2778210/Moves_Of_The_Diamond_Hand/ despelote: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2367820/despelote/ The Rise of the Golden Idol: https://store.steampowered.com/app/2716400/The_Rise_of_the_Golden_Idol/ Pikmin 1+2 Launch Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVuVaMkgBEg&t=27s iTunes Page: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/noclip/id1385062988 RSS Feed: http://noclippodcast.libsyn.com/rss Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5XYk92ubrXpvPVk1lin4VB?si=JRAcPnlvQ0-YJWU9XiW9pg Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/noclippodcast Watch our docs: https://youtube.com/noclipvideo Crewcast channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/noclippodcast Learn About Noclip: https://www.noclip.video Become a Patron and get early access to new episodes: https://www.patreon.com/noclip Follow @noclipvideo on Twitter Chapters: 0:00:00 - Intro 0:01:00 - Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3 + 4 0:04:07 - Vibe Check on THPS 4 0:11:44 - Monster Hunter Wilds 0:35:54 - Danny's Next Fest Round Up 0:39:17 - Secret Agent Wizard Boy and the International Crime Syndicate 0:46:42 - Hot Wax 0:48:30 - Moves of the Diamond Hand 0:50:46 - Despelote 0:55:14 - The Social Impact of Sport 0:59:22 - The Rise of the Golden Idol 1:10:34 - Pikmin 1:19:31 - Genres Lost to Time 1:25:04 - Reactivity and Systems-Driven Games 1:33:49 - Q: What can AAA studios learn from KC:D 1 + 2? 1:40:22 - We Want Stories with Smaller Stakes! 1:44:01 - Q: Will there be more Noclip Blu-rays? 1:49:44 - Q: Is “variety gaming” just for us old men? 2:01:14 - The Children Yearn for Tactility 2:17:50 - Game Consoles Need to be Cooler 2:21:34 - Noclip Updates 2:23:31 - Sign Off

GRC Dog Talk
Mills For Reactivity & Adjusting Play As We Age

GRC Dog Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 77:59


Audio Dharma
Mindfulness of Stimulus, Response, Reactivity

Audio Dharma

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2025 49:11


This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.03.02 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

Audio Dharma: Gil Fronsdal's most recent Dharma talks
Mindfulness of Stimulus, Response, Reactivity

Audio Dharma: Gil Fronsdal's most recent Dharma talks

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2025 49:11


This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.03.02 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://www.youtube.com/live/3YV5WU-XR18?si=4oZ5eiBT-y9fs7at. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

Confessions of a Dog Trainer
Noelle's Journey: Overcoming Reactivity with the E-Collar

Confessions of a Dog Trainer

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2025 37:38


Is your dog's reactivity keeping you from enjoying walks? In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how I worked with Noelle, a highly reactive Australian Shepherd mix, and the game-changing approach that made all the difference using the e-collar.I'll walk you through:✅ The most common mistake owners make when correcting reactivity✅ How I determine the right e-collar level for each dog✅ Why addressing the big reactive moment first is key✅ The connection between anxiety, crate time, and the place command✅ How one owner finally got it - and why her dog's “calm muscle” is stronger than everIf you've been hesitant about dialing up the e-collar or wondering if you're doing it right, this episode is for you. Plus, I answer a fantastic listener question about whining vs. barking during reactivity - how do you know what to correct?Let's get into it!

Shaped by Dog with Susan Garrett
Reactive Dogs! Why Dog Owners Need To Know About Green, Yellow And Red Zones And Social Sensitivity #296

Shaped by Dog with Susan Garrett

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2025 23:55


Visit us at shapedbydog.com    Socially sensitive dogs can react to other dogs in many ways. Some shrink away, others get invigorated and overexcited, and some dogs are proactively reactive. When you know if your dog is in the green, yellow or red zone and the three phases to action, you can build their resilience and set them up for success so they can thrive in any environment. Understanding a dog's response to other dogs and having a Code Yellow Protocol is key to helping them feel safe and confident.   In this episode, you'll hear:   • Why some dogs are socially sensitive and what that looks like. • The three phases to help your dog gain confidence. • How to grow confidence passively and actively. • Fun games to help your dog grow confidence in a safe way. • About the importance of the Relaxation Protocol. • The importance of a "Home Zone" for socially sensitive dogs. • Why dogs in a highly aroused state can't learn. • About a dog's Green, Yellow and Red Zones • How to use the Code Yellow Protocol to help your dog. • The role of reflection and recharging in your dog's progress. • How to recognize when your dog is ready for the next step. • About turning everyday moments into confidence-building opportunities. • How Home School the Dog can give you the tools to support your dog's progress.   Home School the Dog: Write to us at wag@dogsthat.com with the subject line “Socially Sensitive” for a very special opportunity to join us in Home School The Dog. Learn How To Play ItsYerChoice: ItsYerChoice Summit - https://recallers.com/iycsummit-join/   Resources:   1. Podcast Episode 236: Understanding Dog Fear (Part 1): Genetics, Trauma, And Your Dog's Well-being - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/236/ 2. Shaped by Dog Podcast - http://shapedbydog.com/ 3. Podcast Episode Search for ‘Reactivity' - https://dogsthat.com/?s=reactivity 4. YouTube Playlist: Reactive or Aggressive Dogs: Key Insights with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy0Tbd6ZybIXgJk3mtpBLLk7&si=l3sqeZ-ZdglQrbzf 5. Podcast Episode 81: Sudden Aggression and Your Dog's Thyroid - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/81/ 6. Podcast Episode 204: Dog Behavior And Diet: Recovery For This! Beyond Dog Training Part 2 - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/204/ 7. Podcast Episode 191: Get Your Dog To Calm Down With This Common Sense Protocol For Relaxation - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/191/ 8. YouTube Video: Susan Garrett's Hand Target: Dog Training Games Within Games - https://youtu.be/_WH3nm9FR4A?si=1W4dY-qutc1KhoOx 9. Podcast Episode 18: 4 Puppy and Dog Training Games for Acquired Bite Inhibition - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/18/ 10. YouTube Video: Susan Garrett's Perch Work Dog Tricks (Pivots and Spins) - https://youtu.be/O6sj6fTJnFc?si=XqtLyRfoHpEBzF18 11. YouTube Video: Understanding You Dog's Reinforcement Zone (RZ) with Susan Garrett - https://youtu.be/OaUAScgaFAg 12. YouTube Playlist: Target Training for Dogs with Susan Garrett - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy3ylCyQ2bJQSCwo_ERiVHj3&si=mHzTcBxTZ0AqY-gA 13. Podcast Episode 278: Food Puzzles: Key Mistakes To Avoid And Strategies To Help Your Dog Best Deal With Frustration - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/278/ 14. Podcast Episode 227: My Foolproof Strategy To Overcoming Dog Training Challenges - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/227/ 15. Watch this Episode of Shaped by Dog on YouTube - https://youtu.be/DgMZRuNm_q8

The Everyday Trainer Podcast
Virtual session and we're talking separation anxiety, reactivity, and confidence building

The Everyday Trainer Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2025 113:57 Transcription Available


This episode highlights the challenges of managing dog training while addressing separation anxiety and the unrealistic expectations often placed on both pets and their owners. The conversation emphasizes the importance of play, clear communication, and tailored training methods to cultivate a healthy bond and successful training experience. • Discussion on separation anxiety and common behavioral issues• Importance of setting realistic training expectations • The value of engaging playtime for dogs • Insights on incorporating structured routines in daily activities • Recommendations for successful communication techniques• Encouragement to explore fun activities, including tracking and scent workCheck out everything we've got going on at https://www.theeverydaytrainer.com/

The Physician Growth Accelerator
ENCORE: Breaking Free from Medical Practice Struggles - A Proactive Mindset

The Physician Growth Accelerator

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 14:19


Still tired of the constant struggles in your medical practice? Can't escape feeling like something else is “out of your control” and needs attention? Remember, running and leading a private medical practice does not have to be this way. Back by popular demand, join Zed Williamson in this encore episode of the Physician Growth Accelerator podcast as he shares insights on regaining control of your medical practice by embracing a proactive mindset. Gain valuable strategies to take control of your practice and overcome common challenges. It's time to move from reacting to situations to owning the outcomes. Listen to uncover... - How you have more control over your practice than you realize - Reactivity vs proactivity, and why understanding this can transform your practice - The danger of being caught in a “victim mindset” Sponsored by TrackableMed

Dharmaseed.org: dharma talks and meditation instruction
Donald Rothberg: Guided Meditation: Exploring Feeling-Tone and Reactivity

Dharmaseed.org: dharma talks and meditation instruction

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025


(Spirit Rock Meditation Center) After guidance in developing concentration and mindfulness, we practice in silence. Then there is guidance related to mindfulness of the feeling-tone (the Second Foundation of Mindfulness), particularly the pleasant or the unpleasant (and whether there is reactivity, grasping after the pleasant and pushing away in some way the unpleasant), related to the theme of the talk given after the meditation.

Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast
304 Stop Reacting, Start Responding: Tips to Overcome Reactivity and Build a Healthy Marriage

Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 36:57


Episode Summary:  When you marry, your heart overflows with enthusiasm, exhilaration, and optimism. You can't wait to start a new life with this one whose mere presence or voice causes an abundance of feel-good neurotransmitters to your brain. But soon after, differences in temperament, gender, family of origin, and marital expectations collide. You discover that the characteristics and behaviors you once found attractive in your mate, are now sources of irritation and frustration. Conflict erupts, causing reactivity in your temperament to surface more often. Before long, your dialogue degrades with frequent accusations and debates about perspective. The enemy in this fight isn't your spouse. Unmanaged reactivity, those involuntary and unregulated reactive messages you inadvertently send your spouse when you're triggered is the culprit. Today, Dr. Donald Welch joins me to talk about how to recognize reactivity, understand its origin and work together to eliminate it, learning to respond rather than react in our marriages. Quotables from the episode: The enemy is not your spouse. Our temperament is really the way God made us. And so understanding how we are made allows us to become more comfortable and really at peace with who we are and who we are not, because we're created in God's image. And as we embrace our natural temperament, we are then in a better position to also accept and embrace our spouses temperament rather than trying to change them into someone they aren't. Before marriage, there's a tendency to attract to the opposite and after marriage to attack that opposite when it's really one of our best friends in a healthy marriage. So, as we learn more about our temperament, we can focus on enhancing our strengths and minimizing our weaknesses. The way God made us is to be able to protect ourselves. So for example, if I were to touch or you were to touch something hot, your hand or my hand would react before the brain knows it's hot. It's a way to protect ourselves. So what happens with the limbic system is that we can have all sorts of reactions. Like for example, if I squint my eyes, the other person or we're having dialogue, you might involuntarily react to it. Or if somebody screams or you hear something sharp, you might have a reaction to be awakened to see, do I need to take care of something? So we have hundreds of these normal reactions, and I've seen it for 40 years in marriages, in the sense of working with couples, that they will tend to react to each other before they're aware and then they're off to the races, and it's difficult to decrease that. So I define reactivity as involuntary, unconscious thought, uncontrolled relationship, impeding behaviors that originate from the feeling part of our brain known as the limbic system. We can have these involuntary reactions in a marriage that actually set up the marriage for difficulty. So since these originate from the feeling part of the brain rather than the thinking part of the brain, they're largely outside of our conscious awareness, so it can make it insidious to the relationship. So we want awareness. Is it possible that we react to present conflict even based out of past wounds in other relationships? - Oh yes, that's very common. In fact, it's why unfortunately, second marriages move up to about 80 % of potentially divorce because they're bringing in those reactions. In my opinion, those reactions, and there's what I believe support this, is that those reactions are coming into the relationship. And so now that person reminds me of something from the past. That's why those first eight years of life for any child are incredibly important because we are, the way our brains design, we absorb emotion and then that emotion can stay with us and then we can practice it without even knowing and then it's a reaction into adulthood. You suggest that the greater a couple's differences, the more likely their marriage will be to succeed. And that's not what society typically says, so help us understand that a bit. Yes, that's a fascinating concept that really God created the opposite, man and woman. And may I just quickly tie into this idea of wounds and how it may impact your current question because many people believe that their past is the past and it does not affect them now. Others may believe that their past can affect them but they think they have dealt with it and it is now irrelevant. The truth is emotions never forget. There is nothing ambiguous about marriage in the Bible. It is far superior to any other permutation—offering stability for kids, security for spouses, and higher rates of happiness overall. Intimacy only exists in an environment filled with trust and loyalty. Intimacy can be defined as a close relationship that does not operate at the expense of the self, with a self that does not operate at the expense of the other, and in which each person is fully known and fully loved. The freedom to choose to respond rather than react is a gift of being human. Love only exists where choice is present. When choice is eliminated, so is intimacy. The path out of reactivity to a responsive marriage is a continuous journey to discover the fulfilling and deeply satisfying marriage you desire. Fewer adults are getting and staying married. Those who do tend to have unrealistic expectations or poor communication and conflict resolution skills. When one understands and embraces their natural temperament and learns to minimize negative reactivity in the expression of their temperament, their important relationships will flourish and grow. A relationship lacking nurture wipes out any trust one may have in the other person. Unmet expectations are relationship killers. Intimacy only exists in an environment filled with trust and loyalty. We can't simply change the definition of marriage and think you can solve relationship problems. No studies show any form of alternative family as better than what has been traditionally defined for millenia.   Scripture References: Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 5 Galatians 5 Romans 4:17 As it is written: "I have made you a father of many nations." He is our father in the sight of God, in whom he believed--the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not.   Recommended Resources:  The Responsive Marriage: Finding the Path Out of Reactivity by Dr. Donald W. Welch, Ph.D., LMFT Sacred Scars: Resting in God's Promise That Your Past Is Not Wasted by Dr. Michelle Bengtson  The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out to God When Pain Overwhelms by Dr. Michelle Bengtson YouVersion 5-Day Devotional Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms   Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the AWSA 2023 Inspirational Gift Book of the Year Award, the Christian Literary Awards Reader's Choice Award in four categories, and the Christian Literary Awards Henri Award for Devotionals YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be Another Good Day Breaking Anxiety's Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson Breaking Anxiety's Grip Free Study Guide Free 7-Day YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety's Grip Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor's Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader's Choice Award Trusting God Through Cancer 1 Trusting God Through Cancer 2 Revive & Thrive Women's Conference Subdue Stress and Anxiety: Fifteen Experts Offer Comprehensive Tools in Ten Minutes a Day. Use my link plus discount code BENG99 to save $90 on course (course will be $99.) Free Download: How To Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win   Social Media Links for Host and Guest: Connect with Dr. Donald Welch, Ph.D., LMFT: Enriching Relationships Website / Welch Therapy Institute Website / Instagram / Facebook   For more hope, stay connected with Dr. Bengtson at: Order Book Breaking Anxiety's Grip / Order Book Hope Prevails  /  Website  /  Blog  /  Facebook / Twitter (@DrMBengtson)  /  LinkedIn  /  Instagram / Pinterest / YouTube Guest: Dr. Donald Welch is a licensed marriage and family therapist, professor, and national speaker. He holds three master's degree and a Ph.D. from the University of Kansas. He's an ordained minister, and founder of the Center for Enriching Relationships, a professional counseling center with multiple sites in San Diego, California. He lives in Coronado, California with his wife, and together they have two grown children.   Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson