Build A Life After Loss Podcast

The holidays are upon us. Memories are heightened during the holidays therefore you tend to create more memories during the holidays than any other time of the year. The traditions, the music, and the celebrations all create memories. All those ... Read More The post Ep#178 Emotions During the Holidays appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

As human beings we are wired for progress. Whether you recognize it or not, you desire and crave progression. In fact, you crave it so much that you sometimes ignore our progress. “It's not enough”, you say. But what if ... Read More The post Ep #177 Claim Your Progress appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Hope is crucial in your healing process. Without hope it's hard to have a direction and it's difficult to move forward in any meaningful way. Hope is everything. But you may be confusing expectations with hope. Or you may lose ... Read More The post Ep #176 Wishes, Expectations and Hope appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Cindy's life was not what she planned for even from the young age of 5 living with abuse. Facing multiple losses throughout her life, including losing her home after a divorce and financially devastating medical bills following her son's brain ... Read More The post Ep #175 Facing Life with Hope and Courage with Cindy Benezra appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

One of the most challenging aspects of grief is its unpredictability. One day you may be feeling like things are improving and the next day you wonder if you've made any progress at all.  One week you begin to start ... Read More The post Ep #174 Riding the Waves of Grief appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

This week we welcome Krista Isaacson to the podcast. With tremendous faith and hope, she traveled the painful experience of losing her seemingly healthy 2 year old daughter overnight to cancer. She speaks to the overwhelming experience of losing a ... Read More The post Ep #173 Unbearable Burden with Krista Isaacson appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Loss and grief shoots you headlong into disruption. Your life feels shattered in pieces and unrecognizable. But it's not just your life that feels unrecognizable, it's you. You feel different. You feel unrecognizable. Loss by death, divorce, or a host ... Read More The post Ep #172 Rebirth and Transformation appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

We all have a tremendous desire to be understood.  Which is interesting because I wonder if we even truly understand ourselves! Creating understanding between people is such a challenge because of the limitations of language. Then you add body language ... Read More The post Ep #171 Feeling Misunderstood appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Well-known author C.S. Lewis wrote in his book A Grief Observed, “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”  He goes on to the feelings of grief that resemble fear.  Even in the experience of grief feeling ... Read More The post Ep #170 Grief and Fear appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

On January 18, 2003 at age 25, Vinney Tolman died in a public restroom. By the time his body was discovered, he was cold and stiff. Paramedics arrived on the scene and confirmed him dead. As they transported him by ... Read More The post Ep #169 Love and Light with Vincent Todd Tolman appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

In my book Miracles in the Darkness I said, “Happiness is as present and elusive as air. It's in the process of becoming who we were always meant to be that we discover it, but only if we are paying ... Read More The post Ep #168 Intentional Happiness appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Everyone is affected by divorce in one way or another, whether as a spouse, a friend, or the child or family member of divorce. Today on the podcast we welcome divorce coach, Andrea Hipps. Andrea is a wealth of knowledge ... Read More The post Ep #167 Reimagining Divorce with Andrea Hipps appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

What is emotional honesty? I've asked myself that many times. I wondered if it's spilling our guts all over everyone but that didn't feel right. I've wondered if emotional honesty is even a thing or if it's just an excuse ... Read More The post Ep # 166 Emotional Honesty appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Fear is a tricky emotion. Fear is vitally important and can keep you safe. But so frequently in our modern world we fear experiences and even emotions that feel scary but are relatively harmless.  Fear of the harmless or exaggerated ... Read More The post Ep #165 Calming Fear appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

I often find that looking at something less emotional is a great way of learning lessons to apply to something that is hugely impactful and emotional. It allows a different perspective without the super charge of emotions.  That different perception ... Read More The post Ep #164 A Simple Way to Look at Grief and Healing appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Wayne Dyer said, “The more you extend kindness to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others.” What does extending kindness to yourself look like in grief? And how can you create more kindness in yourself for ... Read More The post Ep #163 Be Kind appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Recently I was interviewed for a divorce summit that will air in August. One of the questions that I was asked had to do with the spiritual aspects of loss and grief. While I loved the interview, and it was ... Read More The post Ep #162 Spiritual Aspects of Loss appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

In this episode of the podcast, we welcome guest Julie Hawkes to talk about all things grief, anxiety and rebuilding. Julie has a remarkable story of overcoming anxiety after the death of her brother plunged her into a dark and ... Read More The post Ep #161 Getting Unstuck with Julie Hawkes appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

I had the wonderful privilege of interviewing my client, Angela Clement. She is an absolute delight. Despite devastation of losing her husband Blaine to cancer last year, she was determined to move through the pain and find happiness and light ... Read More The post Ep #160 Healing through Growth with Angela Clement appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Regularly when I post about the possibility of grief healing I'll have people comment ‘not if it's your child.' It's true that losing a child is particularly painful for so many reasons. – it's your child, who you put your ... Read More The post Ep #159 Child Loss appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

After the kids died and I was told to feel my feelings, I remember being so frustrated because I didn't know what that meant. How do we feel our feelings? And frankly, wasn't I already. I was feeling my feelings ... Read More The post Ep #158 All the Emotions appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Joy is not found at a destination. Joy is in the process of living. It's found in the day-to-day experiences – in the moments of life.  On this episode I share 3 fundamental principles that will help you to see, ... Read More The post Ep #157 Joy is in the Process appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

I believe in hope. I believe in angels and heavenly help. I believe in miracles. On Instagram and Facebook, the past few weeks I've been sharing words of encouragement from card decks of affirmations. I love inspired words!  Words are ... Read More The post Ep #156 Messages of Hope appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Let's talk all about triggers, expectations, and disappointment. I had a lot of hard emotions because of my expectations on Mother's Day this past weekend. I know how important it is to work through tough emotions rather than let them ... Read More The post Ep #155 Inspired Answers appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Today we're exploring the song translation for Kacey Musgraves song Rainbow. This song walks us through from despair to seeing the light that has always been there but we haven't been able to see because we're too focused on the ... Read More The post Ep #154 A Rainbow Above You appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

This episode is personal and very much for you, just like all the episodes. Today I explore the power of music to move us and give us messages of encouragement.  In the song from the musical Waitress, She Used to ... Read More The post Ep #153 You- Before and Now appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Forgiveness isn't easy but it is so worth the effort. Author Maya Angelou said, “it's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” Forgiving others who have wronged you intentionally or unintentionally allows you to ... Read More The post Ep #152 Forgiveness and Boundaries appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

It's common for relationships to suffer during grief. When we're in pain, that pain gets projected into a lot of areas of our life. Being aware of what's happening and why is crucial to restoring the hope in your relationships. ... Read More The post Ep #151 Hope in Relationships appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

As I coach people through grief there are 3 problems that show up over and over again. My coaching is here to help with grief and the problems of grief – the things that take a hit during grief – ... Read More The post Ep #150 Top 3 Problems in Grief appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

When you're grieving, you often feel that you only have two options: to just get over it or to grieve forever. But it doesn't take long for you to realize that neither of these options are ideal or helpful. So, ... Read More The post Ep #149 Grief is a Season appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

I have been reflecting recently on unexpected rewards from tough circumstances. I was reminded of a traumatic event in our life several years ago that resulted in a rather funny response from my daughter. In this episode, I share this ... Read More The post Ep #148 Unexpected Results appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Albert Einstein said, “There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Living as if everything is a miracle feels like a better and more magical ... Read More The post Ep #147 The Miracle is You appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Grief is messy!!! Wow! So messy and confusing, lonely and exhausting and all the things. In this episode, we talk about relaxing into all of it to work with our emotion instead of against it. Because it's crucial that we ... Read More The post Ep #146 Relaxing into Emotion appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Why do we sometimes feel motivated and other times we don't even when we want to be? This week I learned more about the Expectancy Theory of Motivation and I noticed how that was playing out in my life with ... Read More The post Ep #145 Motivation That Works appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

If you're like me and most people, there comes a time in your grief and healing that you start to recognize patterns that haven't been healthy. It's so normal to depend on unhealthy patterns to take the edge off of ... Read More The post Ep #144 Coping That's Healing appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

We experience natural limits every day. You can't pour more milk in the bowl than is in the jug of milk. You can't withdraw more from the bank than you have deposited in the bank. You can't work more than ... Read More The post Ep #143 Natural Limits appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Remember when emotional intelligence was all the rage? Emotional intelligence is defined as “the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage and handle emotions.” But what does that mean? In this episode I'll break down each step of emotional intelligence piece ... Read More The post Ep # 142 Emotional Intelligence appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Judgment is hard. It feels yucky and knocks you off balance. The grief you're feeling already causes you to feel vulnerable, exposed and raw. The last thing you need is judgment from those that you hope will love and support ... Read More The post Ep #141 The Pain of Judgment appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

The most important thing we can do to change our experience is to change the way we think. For years, I thought that my thoughts and feelings just were what they were and there was nothing I could do about ... Read More The post Ep #140 True Self Empowerment appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

We all know what it's like to be ill and recover. Everyone has had a flu or a bug of some kind in their life and gotten better. The process we go through in recovering from a physical illness is ... Read More The post Ep #139 Lessons Learned from Illness appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Balancing your own needs with the needs of others can be a tricky practice.  On this episode of the podcast, we explore that exact thing – how to balance your personal wants and needs with other people's wants and needs ... Read More The post Ep #138 Identity and Connection appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Meet Cytel Schults. She's a musical intuitive and on this episode of the podcast she's sharing her song translation of When You Believe from the Prince of Egypt animated musical.  You will love this message of hope and miracles. Hope ... Read More The post Ep# 137 When You Believe with Cytel Schults appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Perhaps you've heard the quote, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” But what does it mean? Aren't pain and suffering the same thing? Yes and no. When you have a loss the pain of grief is a normal and natural ... Read More The post Ep # 136 Secondary Pain appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

With Christmas, Hanakkuh, New Years Eve and all the winter celebrations upon us, you have a lot of questions about how to survive during this time of intense emotion. You are already dealing with a LOT! and then you're facing ... Read More The post Special Episode The Holidays and Grief Survival Guide appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Untruths literally cause weakness – physical and emotional weakness. That's why it's so important for you to seek truth and understanding. There are three persistent and dangerous lies about loss and grief. And it's interesting that two of these directly ... Read More The post Ep # 135 Lies About Grief appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Living an inspired life is exciting and fulfilling but how do you go from living in grief, frustration, and fear to living in inspiration. It's a path worth exploring. In today's episode I share my personal experiences with learning to ... Read More The post Ep #134 Living an Inspired Life appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

This week I sat down with my friends Annette and Mark Anderson. Ten years ago their 21 year old son Reid died after years of medical intervention due to a brain tumor. Through the highs and lows of life they have prioritized their relationship as a couple. Despite life's struggles and the devastating loss of […]

This week I sat down with my friends Annette and Mark Anderson. Ten years ago their 21 year old son Reid died after years of medical intervention due to a brain tumor. Through the highs and lows of life they ... Read More The post Ep #133 Thriving Together with Mark and Annette Anderson appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Jennifer shares her story of multiple sexual traumas and how she has found healing and recovery through redefining her relationship with God. This is a very special conversation that will crack up the societal explanations of God and challenge you ... Read More The post Ep #132 How to Find God After Trauma with Jennifer Dobberfuhl-Quinlan appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.

Jennifer shares her story of multiple sexual traumas and how she has found healing and recovery through redefining her relationship with God. This is a very special conversation that will crack up the societal explanations of God and challenge you to rethink your experience with God and spiritual growth after loss and trauma. Be sure […]

We live in a world of consumption. We consume books, goods, food, podcasts, tv, movies…there's no end to what we can consume or learn.  On the other hand, sometimes we spend a lot of time doing but not balancing our ... Read More The post Ep #131 Balancing Learning and Applying appeared first on Build A Life After Loss.