Coming Up for Air

On this episode I am talking about losing your firsts your first house, your first engagement, your first big love… and how to heal when the dream you built with someone else falls apart.Maybe your ex left. Maybe you had to walk away even when your heart didn't want to. Maybe the life you thought you'd live just… evaporated. I go through how I felt losing the first time I got engaged and my first house with someone. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

 Seeing your ex move on can feel like a setback, even if the breakup is old. In this episode, we talk about why it hurts, how to cope, and what it really takes to move forward. From practical steps to mindset shifts, this is a straight-talking, compassionate guide to letting go and choosing yourself again. If you're stuck in the pain of watching someone else start over, this one's for you.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

In todays episode I am talking about one of the hardest lessons to learn but also one of the most liberating: Let people show you who they are — and stop making excuses when they do.I know this can feel harsh. When someone you love hurts you or disappoints you, your brain wants to make sense of it. Your heart wants to protect the connection. And your nervous system wants to avoid the truth. But what if the most loving thing you could do for yourself… was stop translating their behaviour into something it's not?Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

In this episode we're diving into something I know so many of us struggle with the fear of being single. Whether it's fresh after a breakup or something that's been lingering in the background for a while, that fear can feel all-consuming. But today, I want to help you reframe it, understand where it's coming from, and give you the tools and mindset shifts to move through it feeling stronger, clearer, and more grounded in yourself. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

I saw this quote on the back of a toilet door - details in the episode. It really resonated with me because for ages I have said I am starting from scratch and it is so normal to think so but in this episode I talk about why you arent, and why your experience will be like your blue print that you carry into a new relationship. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUw Support the show

Breakups are horrible but the first swipe post-split? That's a whole other level of weird. In this episode, I dive into the emotional rollercoaster of re-joining the world of dating apps after a breakup. Whether you're downloading Tinder for the fifth time or dipping a toe into Hinge, I talk about what it means to start over digitally. From ghosting fears to unexpected confidence boosts, I share personal stories, red flags to watch for, and tips on navigating modern dating when you're still healing. It's raw, real, and maybe even a little funny.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUwSupport the show

In this episode I talk about not giving up on yourself. It's so easy to think that one bad day or one difficult conversation is setting you back on your breakup healing. It's not. You have to allow these things to push you and move you forward. I felt like giving up on myself so many times. I am so glad that I learnt that there are lessons in mistakes and blessings in the breaking.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUwSupport the show

Most breakup advice out there focuses on surface-level things: "block them," "keep busy," "treat yourself." But true mental detachment is deeper. It's not just about erasing someone from your phone — it's about reclaiming the mental real estate they're still renting in your mind, often without paying.In this episode. I'm sharing mindset shifts you might not have heard before and daily practices that aren't just distractions — they're deep reprogramming tools to help you actually move on.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/move.with.lou/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/uf90Uc_owUwSupport the show

Breakups can feel like the end of everything — but what if they're actually the beginning of something entirely new? In this episode, I'm answering one of my most asked questions: How do you heal from a breakup? But instead of just focusing on moving on, we're talking about something deeper — how to clear the emotional clutter, release what no longer serves you, and make space for the next version of your life.My 'Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself' – A 4-Week Post-Breakup Healing & Empowerment Course is going LIVE on SUNDAY 30th of MARCH.You are not broken. You are becoming. If you're ready to move beyond heartbreak, reclaim your confidence, and step into your most empowered self, this 4-week transformational course is for you.This isn't just about getting over the past—it's about rising into the strongest, most authentic version of YOU.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

My 'Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself' – A 4-Week Post-Breakup Healing & Empowerment Course is going LIVE on SUNDAY 30th of MARCH.You are not broken. You are becoming. If you're ready to move beyond heartbreak, reclaim your confidence, and step into your most empowered self, this 4-week transformational course is for you.This isn't just about getting over the past—it's about rising into the strongest, most authentic version of YOU.IN THIS EPISODE - I talk through the reasons why your ex might go cold after a breakup. I try and reframe it in a positive light so you are able to put yourself first & make sure that you are not blaming yourself for the way your ex is acting. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

 My 'Becoming the Strongest Version of Yourself' – A 4-Week Post-Breakup Healing & Empowerment Course is going LIVE on SUNDAY 30th of MARCH.You are not broken. You are becoming. If you're ready to move beyond heartbreak, reclaim your confidence, and step into your most empowered self, this 4-week transformational course is for you.This isn't just about getting over the past—it's about rising into the strongest, most authentic version of YOU.In this episode I talk through how to find your feet in being single. I reassure you that it does not have to be as scary as it feels. I want you to feel confident and empowered in your new chapter of your life. Hopefully this episode does that. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9yg Support the show

Ever wake up wondering why your ex keeps showing up in your dreams, even when you're doing the work to move on? In this episode, we're diving into why your subconscious mind holds onto these connections, so you will come away with insights, practical tips, and a little peace of mind knowing you're not alone in this.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9yg Support the show

I know that everyone who listens & watches my podcast are all at different stages but for my 100th episode I wanted to do a positive episode that will hopefully make you feel confident. If you are in the early stages of your breakup this is an episode you can come back to should you need it. I love doing episodes on this, let me know if you want me to to do more.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

The most common question I get asked is how long did it take you to heal Lou? I wish I could say 2 months you will fine, but it didn't take me 2 months it took me 2 years BUT everyone is different and healing from different things. Its important to remember this to make sure you are not beating yourself up. I go through how healing is choice and how to make that choice in this episode. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

 I felt so alone whilst I was going through my breakup & the worst thing was because my ex had moved on I was comparing how I felt with how he felt and how he was dealing with the breakup. I thought what I was struggling with was so pathetic. I am here to tell you it isn't. In this episode I will hopefully talk through things you are also struggling with and validate these feeling. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

In this episode I talk generally about the DM's I get and the questions I get asked the most. One of the main questions I get asked is 'Will They Treat Their New Partner Better?' or 'How do I Stop Obsessing Over My Ex. I answer all these questions in this episode.Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram -  www.instagram.com/comingupforairpodJoin Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Youtube - https://youtu.be/DX3zQe6l9ygSupport the show

In this episode I explain how I would deal with getting stuck in a cycle of your ex coming in and out your life. It is such a hard cycle to break but hopefully this will strengthen your mindset and empower you to finally say enough is enough.Watch this episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/ppHxT8iFAK8 My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpodJoin Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Support the show

In this episode I explain how I would deal with getting stuck in a cycle of your ex coming in and out your life. It is such a hard cycle to break but hopefully this will strengthen your mindset and empower you to finally say enough is enough.Watch this episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/ppHxT8iFAK8 My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpodJoin Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ 

In this episode I talk about breaking free from your heartbreak. I have spoken about the chemicals in your brain and how they effect how you are feeling, however I put it into a process and give you a simple solution when getting caught in a 'thought loop about your ex.' My New Instagram - www.instagram.com/comingupforairpodJoin Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/25YMqNPg4vsvAYj9vOwFGW?si=7121d1e7dc2142e6&nd=1&dlsi=b2cd8b3679164d4aApple - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/coming-up-for-air/id1679358046

My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod/Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ YouTube - @comingupforair-podcast WELCOME TO MY FIRST VIDEO EPISODE. I can not tell you how excited I am but how much this has tested my patience. You have to love being self taught right?! I didn't want this to be too much of a intro ep for YouTube so I have also discussed the difference between being lonely and being alone and how I combatted that. Please head over to YouTube to like and subscribe, it would mean the WORLD. 

My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/comingupforairpod/ Join Us on Patreon - ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠ In this episode I talk about the frustrations of becoming single (sometimes not by choice) and then everyone asking why you haven't found someone new. I hopefully put your mind at ease about 'settling' just because of someone else's time line. I also talk about being released from your past relationship & switching your mindset from it being a loss. 

Join me for additional content on Patreon: ⁠⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠⁠I did an episode like this quick soon after I started my breakup. 3 years following my breakup - I have continued to grow and learn & these are the new lessons I have learnt. Along with a nice debrief, a nice chatty episode. Let me know if you enjoyed it. 

Join me for additional content on Patreon: ⁠patreon.com/ComingUpForAir⁠In this episode I talk about taking January slow if that is what you need. I also talk about how to set goals, my goals & how 2025 just feels different this year. 

GOALS GOALS GOALS. My favourite topic to talk on. I talk through how New Years doesn't have to be about leaving things in the past but growing into your future. I also talk through if I have achieved any of my goals and hopefully inspire you to set your own for 2025. 

In this episode I talk about tackling Christmas. Everywhere you look there is love, it can be so so hard. Hopefully I ease your mind and make you feel better about facing Christmas with some hints tips and reassurance that its okay to feel like you do. 

And you don't even want him? One of the worst feelings when going through a breakup is when you are coming to terms with not wanting your ex back but then you almost want him to want you. In this episode I discuss this topic to hopefully allow you to think clearer about the reasons why you are feeling this way. 

Lucky girl syndrome was a trend that took online by storm. I go through how to channel being a lucky person even if you think you are the 'unluckiest.' Most of the situations I have been through have made me realise that it is okay to be unlucky you just have to make your own luck. 

As always I think going through these things are totally normal when going through a breakup. I thought I would explore some things within the topic of getting into a relationship soon after you have split up with your ex. Sometimes they can be a good thing, but I address some questions you should maybe be asking yourself in this episode. 

YOU ARE NOT TAKING A STEP BACK. I hear this all the time and I just wanted to remind you that this is nothing to do with your progress. Its more to do with your brain trying to balance out your emotions. If you find yourself saying 'I feel like I take 1 step forward and 10 back' This episode is for you. 

I have documented both my birthdays that I have celebrated since my breakup so it only felt right to continue to do so. TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY & I cant believe how far I have come. I am super proud of my self & would love you to virtually celebrate everything single in your 30s with me. 

I am not going to lie, the first Christmas is tough, so I have decided to get in quick with this episode so you are prepared for this time of year and you don't have to worry. You might want to listen to this episode a few times around now and Christmas just so you know you are fully prepared. Just remember its allowed to feel strange your allowed to feel sad! Next year will be easier I promise.

Hindsight is a beautiful thing right? But also HOW annoying is that phrase. Of course it is, if you could see into the future we could prevent becoming hurt. BUT, stay with me, this episode will help you see that you can view hindsight as a positive way to start healing from your breakup. 

I found a quote last week and I have never resonated with a quote so much in my life. I split it into 3 parts and talk all about how it can relate to your breakup, your mindset & how you continue to find the strength continue. 

I promised a Bonas ep per month on running so this is Octobers Bonas Ep. A Nice Loula ramble on long running! 

A nice episode on the Leicester half marathon but also how it made me reflect on how far I have come in the past 2 years since my first ever race. A bit of a rambley episode but one that I hope inspires you to continue to fight on your healing journey and potentially put on your trainers and run.

When you learn how to value yourself you will find that you respect yourself so much more that you no longer tolerate what you used to tolerate in your previous relationship. This will also help you find further strength should your ex ever walk back into your life. The more you love yourself the more you protect yourself. 

Your ego will show up after your breakup in many different ways. I wasn't aware that half the time it was my ego that was making me say or do certain things. In this episode I explore how not being able to drop your ego will halt your healing. 

A different take on all the classic advice of, journaling and manifesting. I talk about thinking seriously about what you want your future to look like and how that will alter and strengthen the relationship you have with yourself. 

Listen to this episode when you need reassurance. I like doing these types of episodes because sometimes your mind can spiral and you think you are asking for too much & you absolutely are not. I had to go through a lot of horrible questions in therapy which made me realise how much I didn't have any boundaries in my previous relationship but that is okay. If you are the same this episode will help.  

But you can change the way you think about why you need to go through the hard parts. My therapist gave me the 'House Building' analogy and it helped me accept why I had to go through the pain and sadness that I went through after my breakup. 

One of my lovely followers asked me if I had chance to do two episodes this week could I as she was running the Great North Run this weekend. So I made some time to do another episode so she had something additional to listen to. If you are racing & listening to this episode please message me and let me know how you got on & massive Good Luck. 

We all know I love disagreeing with the advice online, that is one of the main reasons I started my podcast. This advice drives me mental because people don't explore what it actually would mean if you were half way through your healing journey and your ex came back. I give my opinion in this episode.

 A term that just rolls of the tongue AND infuriates me when people call people a 'Psycho' ex. In this episode I explore how to deal with it but also remind you that it is okay to lose your temper sometimes. You are only human, however this does not make you a psycho. 

It's one of the worse things you can hear when you are missing your ex so much. Something I found so so hard to deal with because I couldn't understand why he didn't. I go through how I felt & how I would have dealt with it knowing what I have learnt during my breakup. 

If this was an Olympic sport my god I would take gold. I am the worst person for doing this and did this a lot during my relationship & I did it even worse in my breakup. It is nothing to be ashamed of but this episode might just have a few reminders that you need to hear. 

 It is HARD, that's what it is. I only scratch the surface in this episode but there are books and so much information online. I found it so difficult to actually to this work because no one likes talking about the traits in themselves that they don't like. HOWEVER, It is beneficial and helped with my healing so I thought I would share it with you all.See less

I talk about how much I lost my routine when my ex left and my days all merged into one. These little habits made sure that I felt a little bit more in control of my day. They aren't big things & everyone can do them. Just 10 minutes out of your day will have a huge impact when everything is weighing so heavy on you. 

I think it is so easy to say I can't and believe you cant. This episode can relate to any aspects of your life, not just if you are going through a break up. I hopefully will change your mindset when you start hearing yourself tell yourself that you can't and realise that you can.  

Now I wouldn't say these were regrets however these are just a few things I wish I had done differently knowing what I know now. Hindsight is a beautiful thing and I will say that I don't have any regrets, however if I had a gun to my head and had to name a few, these would be them.

I did an episode like this last year however I fully believe you are continually learning and continually evolving from traumatic experiences so I re visit this question and raise some new lessons I have learnt. 

 Toxic online breakup advice is the reason why I started my podcast initially therefore in this episode I read out some of the toxic advice that is online and give you healthier advice to follow.