Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

It has been five months since Hurricane Helene hit. The devastation is incomprehensible and there are many areas that still look like they did in October. This should not be reality in the USA, but it is. Honor Project Movement has been raising funds, sending supplies, networking, and partnering with boots on the ground since the first week. We have so many more projects we want to do there, even as we continue to serve domestic violence survivors. We need funds, supplies, and volunteers. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Four weeks ago, Hurricane Helene devastated our neighboring states with a ferocity that was unprecedented. We may never fully know the impact of this disaster that destroyed lives, pets, livelihoods, homes, vehicles, and ecosystems. I will not forget the ones who are suffering. The areas that can be rebuilt will take time and resources. Let's find ways to HELP, for the long haul. Check out Project Renew Adopt-a-Family at helenevolunteers.org/adopt-a-family. Honor Project Movement will continue to do what we can to support the ones we can. Go to https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to donate or send a check to HPM at PO Box 209 McGaheysville, VA 22840. Register for Dear Younger Me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/dear-younger-me or purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. (IF YOU ARE A SURVIVOR OF HURRICANE HELENE AND CANNOT AFFORD TO REGISTER, MESSAGE ME. I WILL GLADLY GIFT THESE TO YOU.) Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.

Four weeks ago, Hurricane Helene devastated our neighboring states with a ferocity that was unprecedented. We may never fully know the impact of this disaster that destroyed lives, pets, livelihoods, homes, vehicles, and ecosystems. I will not forget the ones who are suffering. The areas that can be rebuilt will take time and resources. Honor Project Movement will continue to do what we can to support the ones we can. Go to https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to donate or send a check to HPM at PO Box 209 McGaheysville, VA 22840. Register for Dear Younger Me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/dear-younger-me or purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. (IF YOU ARE A SURVIVOR OF HURRICANE HELENE AND CANNOT AFFORD TO REGISTER, MESSAGE ME. I WILL GLADLY GIFT THESE TO YOU.) Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.

In the aftermath of Hurricane Helene, and the onset of Hurricane Milton, there is unimaginable devastation and overwhelming need. In this episode, I share many ways that we can help. We can pray, give, network, and serve in a variety of ways. If we all DO SOMETHING, it will add up to a lot. Sorry, not sorry, I do cry several times. These are truly trying times. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. (Note: If you are a member of Held & Healed and a survivor of Hurricane Helene and do not have the means to purchase this content, please message me. I will gladly gift it to you.) Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. We are currently raising funds to offer hurricane survivors access to DV Crisis groups.

There are so many things I wish I knew as a child, teen, young wife, and young mama. My online event this fall is a collaboration with Sarah McDugal https://www.wildernesstowild.com. Megan Owen https://www.mountaincitychristiancounseling.com. and Lauren Smallcomb https://flourishtherapy.co. We will be addressing the younger parts of ourselves, sharing snippets of our stories, and offering you practical ways to reparent yourself. For details/registration: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/dear-younger-me Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In my 100th episode, I share dozens of my favorite healing resources. I hope that you find several that bless and encourage you. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Sometimes grief comes in waves. Sometimes it comes as a wall of water—a tsunami—and forces us to the ground. Gasping, we barely come up for air before the next wave hits. In this episode, I share an update of my current experiences and offer some of my favorite grief resources. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

From my heart to yours on Resurrection Sunday…

Eight and a half years ago, my life came to screeching halt. I contracted a dangerous and mysterious virus that “woke up” many other viruses and diseases that were dormant in my body. Since that time, I have fought with all my might to heal. In this episode, I share some of the things I wish others understood about chronic illness. https://themighty.com/topic/chronic-fatigue-syndrome/cell-phone-battery-spoon-theory-fatigue/? Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Many survivors of spiritual abuse may never feel safe attending traditional church again. I invite you to extend curiosity and compassion, not condemnation. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

A new year is here and my ONE WORD for 2024 is GENTLE. I'm learning to offer myself gentleness, kindness, and compassion. If I would not say something to a good, safe, and trusted friend, I should not say it to myself. I invite you to join me on this journey. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In Episode 6, Jimmy Hinton shared some of his story. In this episode, we unpack what forgiveness is and what it is not. Too often, the burden of forgiveness is placed on the shoulders of victims while abusers are not held to account. We hope that this conversation brings hope and healing to many. Find Jimmy Hinton Author on Facebook, or at his website: https://jimmyhinton.org/. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Tom Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and I discuss the true signs of a repentant abuser. I share this resource with survivors every week and it was meaningful to talk through the seven signs with Tom. From Psalm 82: A Letter on Showing Repentance https://psalm82initiative.wordpress.com/2019/07/06/a-letter-on-showing-repentance. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Regardless of the label, Parental Alienation/DV by Proxy/Child and Mother Sabotage is hell on earth. It only takes one abusive patner to destroy a relationship. The abuser often uses DARVO and turns their children against the victim parent. In this episode, I share this reality so that helpers can understand what survivors are going through. I will update these notes when I find additional resources. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Did you know that lonliness, isolation, fear, and trauma can weaken your immune system? In this episode, I share some ways to boost your immune system after trauma. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) and I invite you to DO SOMETHING to support DV survivors. Become informed. Support her in tangible ways. Give without strings attached. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode I share some more thoughts on how to determine if a helper is safe, including a post from Tom Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative. Be safe, dear ones! Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I share some concerns I have about those who call themselves pastors, leaders, counselors, therapists, coaches, advocates, etc. I share practical ways to vet these helpers and determine if they are truly trauma-informed. I refer to Wilderness to Wild's article, Trauma-Inforned: Are Your Helpers Actually Helpful https://www.wildernesstowild.com/community/public/posts/332570-trauma-informed-are-your-helpers-actually-helpful. The Four Tools Framework by Psalm 82 Initiative: https://www.psalm82initiative.org/4-tools-framework/. The Speaking Out On Sex Abuse Podcast (Episode 248), and Held & Healed Podcast (Episode 53). Register to receive the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, and Reset) Videos here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I share dozens of healing resources to help you on your healing journey. If you are a survivor and/or someone who wants to know better and do better, this list is a great place to begin. I share some of my favorite books, podcasts, and social media accounts. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I address three groups of people: survivors, church people, and spiritual leaders. Survivors, if you no longer feel safe in church, you can leave. Church people, if you attend a church that is harming others, you are endorsing abuse. Spiritual leaders, God sees all, hears all, and knows all. You may be getting away with abuse now, but you will give an account sooner or later. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. (Note: There is some overlap between part 2 and 3. I apologize for repeating myself. Also, I referenced Matthew 25, but I meant Matthew 18. I think I need a nap now.) I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I share about the first 24 years of my life inside spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

This episode comes straight from my heart to the hearts of stay-at-home mamas. I share a bit of my story and some things I wish I had known 25 years ago. I celebrate ALL good, loving, and safe mamas and want to offer SAHMs some things no one offered me. Check out the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, & Reset) here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Glimmers are the opposite of triggers and they can be cues of safety, beauty, healing, joy, and peace. In this episode I share about my journey of glimmer hunting, and invite you to join me. Intentionally seeking out gratitudes and goodness glimmers has been very regulating and healing for me. For more info about the 2023 Held & Healed (Online) Retreat (Rest, Regulate & Reset): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

I have experienced religious institutional abuse and trauma as a child, as a teen, and as an adult. My hope and prayer is that we can learn from past mistakes and know better and do better to keep our kids safe. Blog post: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35558/is-your-vbs-kids-camp-safe-?. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.

Father's Day is another special occasion that can be very painful for survivors. Instead of saying “Happy Father's Day,” I pray for a Gentle Father's Day for you and yours. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the previous one, I share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us for the third annual (online) Held & Healed Retreat. Our theme is Rest, Regulate & Reset and Sarah McDugal is our guest speaker. Register at https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the next one, I will share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

If you are battling chronic illness, you have limited amounts of energy to complete daily tasks. The Spoon Theory helps to explain how to plan your days so that you don't run out of energy (“spoons”) and take from tomorrow's reserve. This concept, along with the cell phone battery analogy, will help you and your loved ones understand your limitations. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Mother's Day can be difficult for survivors of domestic violence. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor mamas and offer practical ways for helpers to bless those sweet mamas. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I discuss the link between abuse, trauma, and chronic illness. Emotional abuse is physical abuse because it forces us to live in a constant state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Our bodies wear down over time and every system suffers. I invite you to join us for the third annual Held & Healed Retreat. This year we will meet online. Our guest speaker is Sarah McDugal and our theme is Rest, Regulate, and Reset. We will be offering practical tools for nervous system regulation. Register now, space is limited! https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse is an active Facebook group for women. In this episode I share the goals of the group as well as the resources we offer. Ladies, please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode I share the physical and emotional benefits of crying. So many have been taught that tears make us weak, manipulate, or unwell. In reality, there are many benefits to tears and they can help us to heal and regulate our nervous systems. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

Trigger Warning: This episode focuses on child sexual abuse. Two takeaways I hope every listener hears: Let's stop calling it child pornography and call it what it is: child sexual abuse material. And, convicted child sexual predators do not belong in churches. I share resources to help individuals and institutions know better and do better (from Jimmy Hinton, Clara Hinton, Sarah McDugal, Daron Pratt, Exodus Cry, Operation Underground Railroad, RAINN, Rachael Denhollander). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

As a follow up of last week's episode, I share practical ways to support DV survivors. This episode speaks to helpers who are walking with survivors. I pray that this will encourage many to step up and represent the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

When abuse is a factor, neutrality is always choosing the abuser. Fact. If your loved one has been abused (there are many forms of abuse) and you don't stand with her, you are siding with the abuser. In this episode, I unpack common responses that lack care, compassion, and empathy. In my next episode, I'll share practical ways to love and support survivors. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (with guest Sarah McDugal): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

March 21 was National Single Parent Day. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor single mamas who are doing the hard work of healing while pulling quadruple duty with you kids. I see you. Join our third annual online retreat where we will focus on Rest, Regulate, and Rebuild. Learn more here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

We need your help! Honor Project Movement is empowering women who are rebuilding after abuse. Through 1:1 resource coaching, Financial Freedom Coaching Groups , and DV Crisis Response Counseling Groups, we are helping women feel seen, heard, understood, and equipped. We match needs to resources (groceries, clothing, furniture). WE NEED YOUR HELP! Please share this podcast with anyone who may be interested in our mission. Please give if you are able. $5 or $5,000, every gift is appreciated. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. National DV Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/

Toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing are common responses to abuse and trauma. They add layers of trauma onto trauma and cause great harm. In this episode, I share definitions and examples of each and offer suggestions for words that heal. If we know better, we can do better. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

In this episode, I share twelve truths that I desperately needed to hear 25 years ago. If you are in an abusive marriage or are walking with someone who is, this episode is for you. Here is a list of books that are not abuse/trauma-informed, books that communicate unhealthy, or abuse-enabling messages and have been rated or reported to be very harmful to Christian women. https://www.amazon.com/shop/sarahmcdugal/list/1G6MN69AXZB6L. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.

You are one person. You have a limited amount of time, energy, and resources each day as you rebuild after abuse, trauna, and chronic illness. Taking care of yourself and your kids is a lot. It may be time to say no to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I pray that 2023 is gentle with you. I pray for peace, healing, and freedom. In this episode I share three books that offer gentleness, compassion, and care. All three are written by therapists who have survived trauma and/or abuse. They offer tools for regulating your nervous system. I have been blessed by these: It's OK That You're Not OK (Megan Devine), The Lord is My Courage (KJ Ramsey) and Try Softer (Aundi Kibler). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Holidays are not easy for survivors. I wrote “A Gentle Christmas Prayer” on Christmas morning to share with survivors. In this episode I also share some tips from the Held & Healed Holiday Help Workshop. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, I chat with a dear survivor/advocate/counselor/warrior sister. Megan founded Give Her Wings and Give Her Wings Academy which is where I received life-changing training and certification. She has since handed that torch over and founded Mountain City Christian Counseling where she provides care for survivors. We chat about domestic violence, spiritual abuse, deconstruction, and so much more. Honor Project Movement partners with MCCC to offer DV Crisis Response Groups. Learn more at https://www.mountaincitychristiancounseling.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In a recent conversation with my friend Indie, she said, “People being indifferent to your suffering is harm.” In this episode, I define indifference and apathy and offer ways to become curious and compassionate about others. The holidays should be a natural continuation of doing life together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, I give some updates on life, Held & Healed, and Honor Project Movement. I also share about the power of “and,” as we can simultaneously face and feel emotions that seem contradictory. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

What is spiritual abuse? After enduring this reality for over forty years, I finally learned it had a name. In this episode, I ask some hard questions and invite you to consider if your spiritual institution is abusive. These questions are also written in a blog: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35557/are-you-experiencing-spiritual-institutional-abuse-. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement. Please excuse the abrupt ending, my alarm went off and finished the episode prematurely. I may re-record later, but for today, please accept “done over perfect.” --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode, I share about the journey we've been on in Held & Healed. For two years, we've been learning, growing, and healing together. Survivors have felt seen, heard, understood, and validated. I invite you to purchase the Safer Spaces Summit here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2023. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this episode I share some basics about nervous system regulation, as well as some of my favorite resources. I have learned how to rest and restrict, but regulation was the missing link. Over the past year, I've been learning so much and I want to pass these gems on to you. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Rebuilding after abuse is exhausting. Give yourself grace, dear one. This episode is a message from my heart to yours. I invite those who are able to give generously at https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to help survivors with mental health resources. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app