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Send us a textFriendships can resemble a beehive—there's always a queen bee at the center, her trusted henchmen nearby, and the rest of us forming the outer ring, guarding the hive and politely pretending we're on board with everything.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textLadies, we need to take a real look at what it means to be in a long-term relationship with no wedding proposal in sight. With the holidays approaching, I know many of you are wondering the same thing — will this finally be the year? I'm going to share a list of honest reasons that may help you understand whether a proposal is actually coming or not. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI believe this is worth contemplating. Who is the real winner in this scenario? What really happens to him when you're not there anymore?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textIt was a listener's question. I don't think they were being mean-spirited; I think they were just concerned because my mom and Lulu aren't here anymore.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textHoliday magic has a way of clouding our judgment. The twinkling lights, cozy nights, and festive excitement can make every connection feel deeper than it really is. But just because the season feels magical doesn't mean the person you're with is truly right for you. The real question is: how can you tell if he's genuinely a good match, or if you're just caught up in the holiday charm? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textSome men don't stop taking until you stop giving. As long as you keep showing up, he'll keep using you. He'll drain your last bit of dignity if you let him. He'll drag your name you up and down the street if you let him. So don't just say you're done — show it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textLadies, here's what happens when you start to be the provider in your relationship. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textThe dating scene may appear to be declining, but this often happens when you lower your standards. Many men today expect women to be the providers while they benefit from the women's efforts and finances. Ladies, maintain your standards and stop entertaining men who offer nothing but excuses. Remember, you are not their safety net. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textLadies, stop trying to do everything on your own. If you really want to achieve your dreams and go farther in life, you need the right mate — someone loyal, who shares your goals and supports your journey. Life is always better when you have a partner by your side. Two is always better than one
Send us a textWe've all fallen into this trap — opening up to the wrong people. But not everyone in your friend group is meant to hear your breakup story. Some friends carry their own hidden pain and will judge you through the lens of their secrets. I know you're just looking for comfort and a soft place to land, but remember — not everyone's heart has walked the same path as yours.
Send us a textWe do this to ourselves because we focus on the good. He's throwing red flags, but we choose to look past them. And that's how the cycle begins — dating the same man over and over, just with a different name Sometimes, we fall in love with potential instead of reality — and that potential can lead us straight down the rabbit hole.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textA quick life update. Sorry for going missing, but I've been on the road, headed to a new destination called home. I did it scared and overwhelmed, but I made it. The key is to just do it. We we will not know what life has in store for us unless we move, unless we take a chance on us. So, for that reason, I left on Monday at 4 p.m. to travel to my new home. Of couree, I had to stop. I can't drive 15 hours straight. But I really stop to go down memory lane, to visit the places my mom and I used to visit before she passed on August 1. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
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Send us a textThere could be several reasons for this feeling, and we will explore them further in the next episode. But here are some factors that might contribute to a wife feeling this way. In the next episode, I will speak with some married friends to get their opinions and report back to you all.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI never knew about this, and wanted to share it! https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI have talked about this on the podcast before, and I think we need a refresher. One of the biggest decisions in life is choosing a partner. It sets the trajectory for our lives. But we have a habit of saying yes because he proposes. But really, are you ready to say yes? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textHow many times have we all seen this behavior? He starts to act indifferent, he's not calling as much, the date nights slow down, he finds things to argue about, etc. This is the biggest telltale sign he has someone else on the brain. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI had a call with a listener which brought us to the discussion of that period in life when we are having the most difficult times. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textWe all follow the couples that look like the perfect match with the matching outfits, exotic vacations or just simply poses like the movie Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Send us a textI think most men feel very confident without a job because they have a woman providing for them, but ladies, this is where you need to pay attention. Supporting a partner through a rough season is one thing, but enabling him to stay stuck and depend on you is another. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI was scrolling on Instagram when I came across this conversation. I know this, but it was very exciting to hear, too. So I wanted to share it with you all.
Send us a textOf course, he might want you to believe that what he's saying is true—but we're not buying it. When a guy says something like, “You're not enough,” it's rarely about you. More often than not, it's about his own insecurities. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a text I'll be honest, I've been guilty of this, and I'm sure you have too—overthinking the negative. You know, those moments where your mind starts spinning out of control, replaying conversations, analyzing every little detail in your relationship, and before you know it, you've stressed yourself out over something that might not even be true. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textSomeone ask why am I smiling. How could I smile? Well, I know what grief can do. I've been down that road before when my sister passed. So, I'm choosing to heal differently. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI knew she was leaving months ago. I knew I would be alone in this world. So I started 9 months ago to build a new life to help the grieving process. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textYou all know how I feel about this topic. I've discussed the 50/50 approach in romantic relationships before, and I'm sure many of you have your own opinions. I know this because every time I cover this subject, I receive a lot of emails.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textLadies, if you see this happening, please nip it in the bud, as the elders would say. Don't ignore the early signs of role reversal that leave you carrying the weight while he gets comfortable watching you lead, provide, protect, and fix everything. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI have talked about this in previous episodes, but I like to do a refresher to remind you that even though you're in a relationship, I want you to continue the way you were before you met him. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textSome men admire women who stand up for themselves; others don't. A confident man respects her standards and sees her strength as a good thing. But an insecure man feels challenged by her. Deep down, he knows he can't control her, and that frustrates him. He realizes that she won't allow him to treat her poorly—there will be no games, no lies, and no half-hearted efforts—because she refuses to tolerate his nonsense.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/I
Send us a textWe all know people who say, “This is just how I am,” and refuse to correct their behavior. But their actions — and even their facial expressions — clearly call for a change. They refuse to grow, insisting it's just their personality. Eventually, they get dumped and are left wondering what went wrong. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/I
Send us a textI have more male friends than female friends, and that's an advantage, particularly for us. I hear them saying things like, "Is she worth the effort?" or I hear them curse, "like, oh shit," when they find out she's in debt, or what I like to call "Paying Bills." https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/I
Send us a textIt starts small, as I mentioned in the previous podcast. But sometimes, it can get out of hand, and that's when things get complicated. The more you try to be her, the more you lose your own sense of who you are—and that's when resentment toward her begins to build. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/I
Send us a textIt seems like harmless chatter. We are just talking about our husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, and partners. Plus, we are speaking with people we know, whom we consider family, friends, and colleagues. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textIt's so easy to compare yourself to your friends — especially that one friend who you view as having it all together. Without even realizing it, you might start to become more like her, little by little, until you begin to lose sight of yourself. It just happens. But sometimes, if you're lucky, you catch yourself. And when you do, it's important to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. Yes, it may have been your similarities — the things you shared and had in common — but more than that, I believe it was your unique qualities that made the friendship. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
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Send us a textWe all experience loss at some point, but it's our responses to these outcomes that truly define us. It's what we choose to do afterward. We can choose to wallow in self-pity and blame ourselves, but that won't help us at all. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textWe come across them every day. Some of us even marry them, which makes us feel like fools! I wouldn't want either, but I often wonder what the difference is. Is one better than the other? I doubt that's possible. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textIn this review, I share my thoughts about why I left Houston. I will discuss my friendships, work experiences, issues of racism, and the feeling of being trapped in a city that I don't particularly like.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI'm having a little chat fest on this episode, and I hope you enjoy it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textA listener asked about my techniques. I'm happy to share, and I hope you all share your healing experiences with me. It's all about learning from one another.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI'm going to add a few more points here that I didn't mention in the podcast. While I only discussed the most powerful reason, which is also the most important, here are some additional benefits: It helps you regain your power, makes you stronger, and it affects your future.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textIt's still the beginning of a new year, and I'm evolving—growing in ways I didn't fully expect. Lately, I've been discovering new things about my dating standards that I want to share. I have a feeling you might be going through something similar, maybe sensing a shift but not quite sure what it means, just like I was. At first, I didn't fully understand what was happening either, but eventually, I realized the change and what was causing it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textSometimes, ladies find themselves in sticky situations, such as being the lead in the relationship by becoming the main source of funds. Some say it happened so fast that they didn't realize it. I'm not judging, but let's discuss this mess or the reasons behind this mess. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textIn 2019, I decided to prioritize myself. It felt as though a switch had been flipped. I started putting myself first without hesitation. I changed my relationships with family, friends, and romantic relationships. It was the greatest gift I could have given to myself. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI'm tired of hearing that the dating scene has changed or it's hard to date when you are older. Ladies, it only changes if you allow it to change in your world. Remember, anything in life only changes if you allow it to change for the negative or positive; it's up to you. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI received a question about my previous podcast. The person wanted me to clarify what I meant by "I would have stayed in my marriage if I had known Lulu was going to pass."
Send us a textLately, I have been asking the question that I have heard so many people ask, “How did I get here.” https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI often hear women say, "I can change him. He will like me; I'm the one who can change him." But does he really need to be changed?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textSo, I believe most of you think the pain comes from him being with another person. He stepped out of the relationship. But I beg the differ. It's about how the betrayal came about and how he did it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textI feel this is a conversation many people in relationships don't discuss or avoid. Maybe it's because some can't pinpoint the exact problem. But it's a big problem and needs to be addressed for many reasons. One reason is that this problem can determine whether or not you can reach your dreams and what you want out of your relationship. The other big reason is who wants to waste time to end up years later in a divorce? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
Send us a textThe question is all over social media, being asked by some broke-looking guys. First of all, real men do not ask this question. But we have these little immature boys who we females don't give a second look at running with this question. The only thing I can think of is these busted guys never had attention, and somehow, they believe they have attention now. But really, not anyone is paying attention because I must admit the question didn't last long on social media before it was put to rest. So, let's give three minutes of talk time to explain what this question actually means. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/
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