Relationships, Friendships and Family Dynamics

Send us a textIt starts small, as I mentioned in the previous podcast. But sometimes, it can get out of hand, and that's when things get complicated. The more you try to be her, the more you lose your own sense of who you are—and that's when resentment toward her begins to build. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/I

Send us a textIt seems like harmless chatter. We are just talking about our husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, and partners. Plus, we are speaking with people we know, whom we consider family, friends, and colleagues. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIt's so easy to compare yourself to your friends — especially that one friend who you view as having it all together. Without even realizing it, you might start to become more like her, little by little, until you begin to lose sight of yourself. It just happens. But sometimes, if you're lucky, you catch yourself. And when you do, it's important to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. Yes, it may have been your similarities — the things you shared and had in common — but more than that, I believe it was your unique qualities that made the friendship. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

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Send us a textWe all experience loss at some point, but it's our responses to these outcomes that truly define us. It's what we choose to do afterward. We can choose to wallow in self-pity and blame ourselves, but that won't help us at all. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textWe come across them every day. Some of us even marry them, which makes us feel like fools! I wouldn't want either, but I often wonder what the difference is. Is one better than the other? I doubt that's possible. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIn this review, I share my thoughts about why I left Houston. I will discuss my friendships, work experiences, issues of racism, and the feeling of being trapped in a city that I don't particularly like.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI'm having a little chat fest on this episode, and I hope you enjoy it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textA listener asked about my techniques. I'm happy to share, and I hope you all share your healing experiences with me. It's all about learning from one another.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI'm going to add a few more points here that I didn't mention in the podcast. While I only discussed the most powerful reason, which is also the most important, here are some additional benefits: It helps you regain your power, makes you stronger, and it affects your future.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIt's still the beginning of a new year, and I'm evolving—growing in ways I didn't fully expect. Lately, I've been discovering new things about my dating standards that I want to share. I have a feeling you might be going through something similar, maybe sensing a shift but not quite sure what it means, just like I was. At first, I didn't fully understand what was happening either, but eventually, I realized the change and what was causing it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textSometimes, ladies find themselves in sticky situations, such as being the lead in the relationship by becoming the main source of funds. Some say it happened so fast that they didn't realize it. I'm not judging, but let's discuss this mess or the reasons behind this mess. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIn 2019, I decided to prioritize myself. It felt as though a switch had been flipped. I started putting myself first without hesitation. I changed my relationships with family, friends, and romantic relationships. It was the greatest gift I could have given to myself. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI'm tired of hearing that the dating scene has changed or it's hard to date when you are older. Ladies, it only changes if you allow it to change in your world. Remember, anything in life only changes if you allow it to change for the negative or positive; it's up to you. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI received a question about my previous podcast. The person wanted me to clarify what I meant by "I would have stayed in my marriage if I had known Lulu was going to pass." 

Send us a textLately, I have been asking the question that I have heard so many people ask, “How did I get here.” https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI often hear women say, "I can change him. He will like me; I'm the one who can change him." But does he really need to be changed?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textSo, I believe most of you think the pain comes from him being with another person. He stepped out of the relationship. But I beg the differ. It's about how the betrayal came about and how he did it. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI feel this is a conversation many people in relationships don't discuss or avoid. Maybe it's because some can't pinpoint the exact problem. But it's a big problem and needs to be addressed for many reasons. One reason is that this problem can determine whether or not you can reach your dreams and what you want out of your relationship. The other big reason is who wants to waste time to end up years later in a divorce? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThe question is all over social media, being asked by some broke-looking guys. First of all, real men do not ask this question. But we have these little immature boys who we females don't give a second look at running with this question. The only thing I can think of is these busted guys never had attention, and somehow, they believe they have attention now. But really, not anyone is paying attention because I must admit the question didn't last long on social media before it was put to rest. So, let's give three minutes of talk time to explain what this question actually means. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI do believe it requires a commitment on both ends to move forward, but like with any other relationship, someone always lacks the ability to hold up their end. Or, it could be they don't want to. Maybe the injured party doesn't want to continue but feels they are being forced to because of the longevity of the friendship. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textTalking to yourself isn't a sign of craziness; I do it regularly, even in the dressing room. Verbalizing my thoughts helps me work through them and make sense of my decisions before discussing them with a friend or family member. Ultimately, I will be the final decision-maker. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThis was the roadmap I created for myself. I wasn't sure if it would work, but surprisingly, it did. Divorce is scary because your life changes completely. I decided that I wanted my financial situation to remain the same, so I developed a path to success. I also knew I wanted to date—not just casually, but to truly embrace dating, just as I did before marriage. I can say it has worked out better than I thought! https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textSometimes, ladies feel like they are comprising, but really, you are taking a backseat. The problem is that it's in our nature to be givers, and it's such a bad trait. Then we become upset, our health goes down the drain, and we don't know why. The problem is right there in front of us, but we start to blame our husbands. Yeah, he might have a little part in it, but we are the biggest problem. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThis is a repeat episode from July 2nd. I've received many questions about an important topic: Should a woman share living expenses equally with her partner, or should she contribute more if she earns a higher income?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textLadies, you have to stop using excuses for why he ignores you or doesn't acknowledge you on this important day. Please stop with that old saying, "He shows me 365 days out of the year," because you know that isn't true. It might be time for you to move on. Why stay if you aren't shown love on the biggest lover day of the year? 

Send us a textMy personal journey over the last eight months of grief and heartbreak. It has been hard, and I haven't done what I could or thought I would do last year. But I'm not beating myself up over it. I did what I could, so that makes me not a failure but a success. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThe last two years of a broken relationship are the most important. This is where the work begins. Yes, there is heartbreak, but it also leads to personal discovery.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI see women whining about their recent breakups all the time, but I question if they truly understand what they're feeling and crying about. I don't think they know. It seems to me that women feel pressured to show some kind of emotion after a breakup. I know I can't be the only one who finds it somewhat laughable when a breakup occurs.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textDating should be new and exciting, yet somehow, we tend to fall into the same old patterns. We often discuss the same topics in every relationship, the only difference being that it's with a different person. Honestly, this approach isn't working; we either end up breaking up or getting bored to death. So, let's switch up, do some things differently, try new questions, and see where things go. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textWhat is a Gossipp Buddy? I bet you all have one. Let's stop putting a bad name on gossip; It's not all bad. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI believe the downfall of any relationship, whether romantic or platonic, occurs when one person becomes a carbon copy of the other. I think relying on someone else to make you happy and fill all the voids in your life can create too much pressure for anyone. Additionally, dating just one person can be a waste of time.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThe wedding season is here, and your friends who got engaged over the holidays are diving into wedding planning. She invites you to the wedding party, a gesture of trust and celebration. However, as her excitement grows, so does the list of expenses she's counting on you to cover, blurring the lines between shared joy and whose wedding is this. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textMany friendships end because you weren't being your true self; instead, you were trying to be what your friend wanted you to be. You were being her and doing the things she liked. When you attempted to express your own preferences or assert your individuality, conflicts arose. As a result, there was no space for your personal growth, yet despite all of this, you still find yourself missing her. But why is that?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIt's fun and exciting to walk into a room and have all the men's eyes on you. It reflects that you are exciting, mysterious, and intriguing. However, when it doesn't happen, we start to wonder why. So, what could be the reason?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI wanted to talk about the fires because I saw a few single women or more gathering their belongings in a rush, trying to escape harm's way alone. 

Send us a textI don't know who came up with the saying about taking the easy way out; there is no such thing. Anytime an ending is presented in a relationship, there will be pain. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI want you to consider yourself your first and only priority. It should have always been that way. A lot of the problems we endure are because we put ourselves last. If you change that by embracing self-love—I mean really embracing self-love—we can be not only our best selves but also attract the people who align with us. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textLet's explore the main reason why some men place their significant others on hold. It's never a time that the main reason isn't involved. It would be nice or better if the case were depression or working hard at work, but oftentimes, it is because of the main reason and nothing else. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textHi Ladies, we need to return to how we used to date. Some of you are creating a whole life with him in your mind before the first date. It's time to relax and look at this as a date, and nothing more. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textA viewer responded to my previous podcast. She wanted to know why I say leave a friendship if it's not fulfilling. I explained to her that we should all leave friendships that do not reciprocate.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textIt's time to build meaningful friendships in 2025 and surround ourselves with friends who uplift and inspire us to grow positively. By holding ourselves and others accountable, we can develop relationships that truly enhance our lives. Let's eliminate fair-weather friendships that are only present because they seek what we can provide or are simply around because they are uninteresting and no one else wants to engage with them.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textThere are so many faces and forms of love that it's impossible to have just one soulmate. Believing in only one soulmate limits you and suggests that fulfillment comes from one source, one person, when in reality, love is all around us.  https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

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Send us a textSometimes, when someone gives us a pass, we don't learn from it. We continue until the day they break our hearts. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI have discussed my experience in detail in another podcast. Please go listen to that podcast because it was shocking, weird, and funny. I think it was in last season's podcast. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textI have never been someone who easily forgives or forgets. So, I guess I had to make a choice, and I chose not to forgive or forget. But I will tell you in the episode why I feel this way. I think it's a valid reason. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textHey ladies! Many of you may be investing too quickly in your relationships. Let's take a step back and allow the guy to take the lead in investing and trying to impress you. So what I'm saying is to close your pocketbooks—yes, your pocketbooks.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us a textWe can go back and forth with ourselves whether we should say something or not. I could say it's up to the individual. But I'm pretty sure the answer would be universal. 

Send us a textThe greatest gift you can give a friend is to be there for them during their time of need, especially if it's a breakup during the holidays.  

Send us a textBut we will bring solo traveling with us in the New Year. This approach allows for true freedom; we can fully embrace our desires without the need to compromise on daily activities with a friend. Plus, think about it: How many times have you had to forget what you wanted to do because your friend took up most of the day with her mess?  https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/