Relationships, Friendships and Family Dynamics

Send us Fan MailHere are the steps I followed after my divorce. I created a plan, which I carefully thought through—much of it was developed during the divorce process. My philosophy is to never wait for an ending to execute a new plan. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailSometimes, someone enters your life, and everything feels different. You may think they are finally the person you've been waiting for. But what if their purpose in your life is different from what you imagined? What if some relationships are not meant to last forever, but are instead meant to change you, heal something within you, and prepare you for what comes next? What if he stays? There may be a reason he showed up when he did. But the real question is: was he meant to stay?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailEveryone sees the couple who never seems to argue. They look happy, peaceful, and easygoing. But what if there's something happening behind the scenes that nobody knows about? What if the relationship only looks easy because someone has become very good at hiding what they feel?  Sometimes the biggest sacrifice in a relationship is the one nobody sees. Sometimes the calm you see on the outside is covering a much deeper story. And the question is...https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailYes, we all know before our friends break up. I know many of our friends think we don't notice, but we do. When a marriage ends, it's obvious to us, to everybody in the circle. We just choose to stay silent. Another thing: we also know which person will move on and do better. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailWe naturally look for the closest people in our circle to support us in everything we do. That isn't uncommon, but what if the person closest to you is your biggest rival? What if it's the person that you married? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailA relationship can end emotionally before it ends officially. Sometimes the ending doesn't happen with an argument, a breakup, or someone walking out the door. Instead, it happens quietly—when communication fades, affection disappears, trust is lost, and two people slowly stop showing up for each other. So now you find yourself in the most difficult relationship you've ever been in. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailIntimacy requires consideration. The bedroom should not be a place where one person's needs matter more than the other's. Consideration means paying attention to how your partner feels, making them feel wanted, and understanding what excites them. It means caring about their needs and making intimacy enjoyable for both of you. Also, when both people feel valued, heard, and cared for, intimacy can become a deeper expression of love. It's a win-win situation! https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailNever feel upset or let yourself get down when someone says something about you. Instead, look at the person who is saying it and consider who they are. What do they know about you? What is their intention? Not everything said about you deserves your attention, your energy, or your reaction. Sometimes, the best response is simply to consider the source, know who is talking, and keep moving forward. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI believe that 90 percent of the time, we should trust the universe to guide us toward our desires, our wants. We have a bad habit of trying to steer romance in the direction we want it to go, but most of the time, that leaves us broken-hearted and miserable. So, let's let go and see what happens. Honestly, what can we lose? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI believe that to have the life we want, the career and lover we desire, we must choose one or the other. But which one can give you all three? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailFall is fast approaching; we need a date. Plus, it's such a beautiful time of year. As the weather cools, routines shift, and people often become more social. This year, we don't want to be caught without a date. We promised last year we would do something different. So let's hold each other accountable. Support the show

Send us Fan MailTaking a chance on love means accepting that there are no guarantees. Every relationship involves vulnerability, trust, and the possibility of both joy and heartbreak. But it's better to have known that feeling than not. Life is a gamble sometimes; just live it.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailYou all are so special to me! Support the show

Send us Fan MailLadies, we will allow the men to retain that role. We are more skilled at it, I must admit. However, we will let him keep it. We can provide input, and that's all.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailMany women mistakenly believe that paying for affection will lead to earning love or commitment. This misconception needs to change. But what truly happens in these types of relationships? What happens when someone is attracted to what you provide rather than who you are? Do they even stick around? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailEveryone has someone from their past whom they wonder about—the person they almost chose, the one they never forgot, and the one they still ask, “What if?”What if you had made a different choice? What if one conversation, one decision, or one moment could have changed the entire direction of your life? Sometimes the people we lose are not forgotten; they become the unanswered questions we carry with us. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailThere seems to be a growing movement of men returning to more traditional ideas of manhood. For many, this does not mean going backward—it means placing a greater emphasis on values such as responsibility, integrity, discipline, leadership, protecting and providing for their ladies, families, and keeping their word. Rather than chasing trends or seeking validation, these men are focusing on building stable careers, becoming emotionally mature, strengthening their character, and creating meaningful relationships. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailThere is always room to improve yourself. Growth is a lifelong journey, not a destination. Each year brings new experiences, new lessons, and new opportunities to become a wiser, stronger, and more compassionate version of yourself.None of us has all the answers, and that's okay. Life has a way of teaching us through both our successes and our setbacks. Every challenge offers a lesson, every mistake provides an opportunity to grow, and every season of life helps shape who we are becoming.The goal is not to be perfect. The goal is to keep learning, keep evolving, and keep making choices that align with the person you want to be. Strive to communicate better, love more deeply, make wiser decisions, and treat both yourself and others with greater understanding.As long as you are willing to learn, there is always another level of growth waiting for you. Become a little better than you were yesterday, and let each year reflect the progress you've made—not because you never failed, but because you never stopped growing.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailYesterday's podcast resonated positively with everyone. This has become more common lately. We believe they want to connect, but ultimately it's about what we can provide, and then they move on. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailLet's remember to keep our plans discreet and work quietly. While it might be tempting to share, given the current climate of friendships—whether old or new—it's best to stay cautious. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailMarriage begins happily for some and lasts for years, but what causes the change? Several factors might be involved, yet there's another reason we seldom discuss. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailSometimes the greatest mystery isn't why someone changed. It's why we continue holding on after the friendship has already run its course. Is it loyalty? Guilt? Fear of starting over? Or are we simply attached to the memories of who they used to be? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI believe some friendships are meant to last a lifetime. They grow with you through different seasons of life and continue to provide mutual support, respect, and encouragement. But when disrespect becomes a pattern, it may be time to walk away. No friendship—no matter how long it has lasted—should require you to tolerate being disrespected, dismissed, or devalued. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailWe've all heard the phrase, "You're so full of yourself," as if it's one of the worst things someone can say. But what if we've been looking at it all wrong? What if being "full of yourself" isn't the problem at all? In this episode, we're challenging a phrase that's been misunderstood for years. By the end, hopefully you will want to try being full of yourself. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailIt's like there's a silent rival in your relationship. The problem is, you don't realize it's there until the damage has already been done. It's almost impossible to recognize because it doesn't announce itself. It hides behind small moments that seem insignificant on their own. A sarcastic comment when you receive a promotion. A lack of enthusiasm when you reach a goal. A forced smile when others compliment you. A dismissive response when you're excited to share good news. This rival isn't another woman. It isn't an ex. It isn't a coworker. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailA hunter is a man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to pursue it. He is intentional, focused, and willing to put in the effort when he sees something he values. However, there is one thing that can change everything—and many women don't realize it until it's too late. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI wish more people would look at endings like I do. I know some people are stuck on what could have been. But what could have been never would have happened. One major reason is that things weren't working out in that relationship. If a relationship is a struggle, how could it have a happy ending? So, there is no what could have been. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailSupport the Show—Buy Me a Coffee Using the Link Below! I think you tell yourself you'll be fine if it ends because you're trying to prepare for the possibility of getting hurt. It's a form of self-protection. You don't want to get too attached, invest too much emotionally, or allow yourself to imagine a future that may never happen.So you set expectations low. You tell yourself it's only been a few months. You remind yourself that people come and go. You convince yourself that if the relationship ends, you'll simply move on with your life. But we know that's not true. The real truth is that you're hurt, you have lowered your standards, and you're a willing participant in this mess, and you've sacrificed all the things that come with a relationship for six months just to say what?https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailRemember when we discussed the idea of re-entering the dating scene? It has begun, and so far, I've been on two dates. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI'm always feminine, even at my worst. Some suggest channeling that womanly power, and I do so when needed. I'm also quite independent in my relationships. However, when it comes to bringing me coffee or tea, or if a leg falls off the end table, I want him to handle it. I suppose I'm that girl who just enjoys being the honey that draws the bees.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Support the Show—Buy Me a Coffee Using the Link Below!  One of the most frustrating experiences in a relationship is when someone leaves without discussing the issues that led to their decision. Often, the person left behind feels blindsided and wonders what went wrong. They may not recognize the role they played in the situation. This raises an important question: Does the person who leaves owe an explanation to the person they left behind? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI don't think you realize how much power you're still giving to the person who broke your heart. I hear you say you've moved on, but have you really? One of the biggest signs that you haven't is that you're still allowing the breakup to define your life.Many people stop living, stop socializing, and stop pursuing new opportunities because they convince themselves that there's "nothing out there" for them. In reality, they're still emotionally tied to the past and giving their former partner more influence over their future than they deserve.Don't let a breakup become your identity. It was a chapter in your life, not the entire story. The longer you allow it to determine your choices, the more power you give to someone who is no longer part of your journey.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailLadies, you have to do a better job of socializing. I see some of you going years without a social life. Many of you have spent weekend after weekend at home—not going out to dinner, seeing a movie, meeting friends for coffee, or even enjoying a day of shopping.Then, years later, you wonder why you feel lonely, disconnected, or why finding a relationship seems so difficult. Relationships don't usually appear out of thin air. He doesn't know where you live. He hasn't met you yet.  They often begin through shared experiences, conversations, friendships, and simply being present in the world. You don't have to be the life of the party, but you do have to leave the house! https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailSometimes people choose to forgive—or at least say they have. However, over time, the person who was hurt may begin to use the betrayal as leverage in the relationship. They may expect you to tolerate behavior you once would have rejected, pressure you into situations that make you uncomfortable, or dismiss your concerns by bringing up your past mistake. Whether directly or indirectly, they may remind you that because of what happened, you no longer have the right to object, set boundaries, or hold them accountable. So, this is why it is so important, after a betrayal, to have an honest discussion about what the relationship will look like moving forward.      Support the show

Send us Fan MailOne of the biggest challenges of a one-night stand is the mismatch of expectations. Women often hope that the encounter will develop into something more meaningful, such as a relationship or even marriage. In contrast, the man may have intended for it to remain purely physical from the outset.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/Support the show

Send us Fan MailI was trying in this podcast to see it both ways. But boy oh boy, I was struggling. So, as for me, I can't see myself being the Breadwinner. So, What do you think? Can you see yourself? 

Send us Fan MailOkay, everyone is talking about the Klay and Megan breakup, but really, if a lot of people are honest with each other, they can say they all saw it coming at the very beginning of the relationship. But in this short clip podcast, I talked about a few things she should not have done in their relationship. 

Send us Fan Mail It's something to think about—can a relationship between opposites really last? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailI have heard some people say that they don't want to date a divorced person, believing they come with "baggage" and bitterness. However, I can assure you that this perception is far from the truth. By thinking this way, we're excluding a large group of individuals who might actually be a great match for us. These outdated sayings only hold us back from finding connections.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailIt's not about him leading; it's about him taking the initiative, and what that looks like. But also, you can share in the initiative, it's contributing in ways that you both feel supportive. Sometimes he starts; sometimes you do. It's about balance and mutual respect. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailEmpathy is often treated as something we should always have, but it has limits. Meaning, if a friend keeps repeating the same mistake, it becomes harder to have compassion or to see that they may be going through difficult times. A lot of the time, I believe it's just who they are, and we failed to see it at the beginning of the friendship. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan Mail We are dating in a time where everything is quick and fast. Relationships can become hot and heavy almost overnight, and before you know it, it's over. That's why it's crucial to pause and ask important questions before entering a relationship. Yes, he takes you out every weekend and calls you regularly, which are good signs. However, it's important to slow down and discuss whether he is willing to commit to certain boundaries if you decide to pursue a relationship together.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailYes, I did self-abandon myself. The grief was unbearable. Losing my mommy and my furbaby back-to-back was painful, and for a while, I didn't want to move forward. But in March, something in me began to change, something shifted. I believe it was my angels—my mom, my sister, and Lulu—guiding me. I made the decision to start living again, even with the pain still present. I understand that life will look different now, and it always will. But I am giving it my very best, taking it one step at a time.

Send us Fan MailSo, let's talk about something that many of us don't even realize we're experiencing… self-abandonment. I don't think we truly understand what self-abandonment really means. A lot of times, we believe that because we have a job, a place to live, and a car, that we're doing just fine… that everything must be okay. But I say “okay” carefully… because sometimes that feeling of being just okay can actually be a warning sign — a quiet signal that we may be abandoning ourselves without even realizing it in the moment.https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailThere is never just one side to a story. Every situation has layers and emotions behind it. I often say there are three stories — one person's side, the other person's side, and the truth somewhere in between. Yet even then, there is still another layer, another story waiting to be told. The more we listen and try to understand, the more we see that stories are complicated, and the truth isn't always just one thing. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailIt's all about our childhood experiences and what we see. We see our parents, friends, and teachers, and we see this fairytale in our minds, not the trials and tribulations. These early impressions shape our expectations and beliefs, sometimes setting us up for disappointment when reality doesn't match the storybook in our minds. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailWe are all working through something, but the key is to keep striving for your goals. I say goals, but most of us are doing what we are passionate about in our lives, and that's the fun part! 

Send us Fan MailSadly, it took my own grieving process to give me a clearer picture of who I should cut out of my friendship circle. I have to laugh at this because I had to distant myself from all of them. I think before my grieving process, I didn't care as much, if you call every day, speaking only of yourself. I would just say she needs so much attention, and put it on the lack of affection you weren't receiving from your significant other, or some childhood trauma. https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

Send us Fan MailIn this podcast, I talk about how some people stay in a marriage until they can't handle it anymore. I explore the idea that we all have multiple soul mates in this life. I even talk about having multiple husbands if it comes to that, and more. 

Send us Fan MailWatch out for the nontalker when you are beginning to put yourself out there to meet and date. It says a lot, and I'm not talking about his communication style. 

Send us Fan MailA little more in-depth on this topic, like why men secretly prefer to date the so-called 'difficult woman'. We all know by now she's a woman with high standards!